Be a model, not a critic. Look at the weakness of others with compassion, not accusation. It's not what they are doing or should be doing that's the issue. The issue is your own chosen response to the situation and what you should be doing.
Habit 1: Be Proactive
This ties nicely with a classic:
"What things in your Circle of Influence are being crowded out of your attention and energy by things that are really in your Circle of Concern?"