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  1. Danish Charles

    Danish Charles

    Get More From Your Facebook Marketing in 2017

    Facebook marketing is an integral part of social media marketing for brands. Facebook help the brands to reach out to the millions of users at any given time across the world. It is so popular that Facebook marketing is synonymously used for social media marketing by many businesses. Read full article here :- https://www.allianzebpo.com/blog/get-facebook-marketing-2017/
    Danish Charles
  2. ProducerJim Murray

    Jim Murray

    A Tale Of Two Countries And Their Hateful Politics.
    A Tale Of Two Countries And Their Hateful Politics.I’m pretty sure that a few people will not hesitate to jump down my throat here. But I no longer give a shit. I’m a big boy. I can defend myself.As many of you know I have been writing, in not too flattering terms, about the right wing movement in...


    Jim Murray
    21/07/2017 #9 Jim Murray
    #7 You're absolutely right, @Jerry Fletcher. But we really have to keep hammering, even is it's only good for the soul.
    Cyndi wilkins
    21/07/2017 #8 Cyndi wilkins
    All kidding aside...never underestimate the power of stupid people in large groups;-) The election was fixed...by power the hungry...Trump's a pawn. Stay tuned...it gets better!
    Jerry Fletcher
    21/07/2017 #7 Jerry Fletcher
    Jim, The time has come to Stand and Deliver. The problem is the people that the elected leaders care about is themselves, only themselves and they do everything possible to perpetuate their reigns. Regardless of their posturing and prattling most of them don't give a damn about the little guy. There are exceptions in the US--Elizabeth Warren and Bernie Sanders both speak their minds even when they know they can't win. Thing is, you have to watch the lot of them constantly for other little entrapments like the sneaky attack on net neutrality by the FCC.
    Phil Friedman
    20/07/2017 #6 Phil Friedman
    If the "writers" of the world don't speak out, how will anyone else find their tongues?
    Jim Murray
    20/07/2017 #5 Jim Murray
    #4 I agree @Don 🐝 Kerr, but as Dylan would say....Sometimes it gets so hard to care...it can't bee this way everywhere....
    Don 🐝 Kerr
    20/07/2017 #4 Don 🐝 Kerr
    @Jim Murray @Jan 🐝 Barbosa Not gonna get all heavy on this but from my perspective neutrality is part of the problem. When confronted with such a baboon's ass as the Liar in Residence on Pennsylvania Avenue the aspiring occupant of 24 Sussex Drive it is incumbent on us to speak up and to keep speaking up. You may call it flogging a dead horse but until that horse is well and truly dead the floggings must continue. So there! That's my story and I'm stickin' to it.
    Mohammed A. Jawad
    19/07/2017 #3 Mohammed A. Jawad
    Truly, after all, a country is a collection of people, and possessing that great, countable citizenship every person wishes to lead a healthy, harmonious and hassles-free life. Good, thought-provoking article!
    Jim Murray
    19/07/2017 #2 Jim Murray
    #1 Thank you sir. I do admire anyone who can stay neutral. I try myself but that Trump is just such a big fat target.
    Jan 🐝 Barbosa
    19/07/2017 #1 Jan 🐝 Barbosa
    I want (trying HARD) to remain neutral (Agnostic / Apathetic ) about politics... Yet I will say... Brilliant Piece @Jim Murray .
  3. Jim 🐝 Cody
    Jim 🐝 Cody
  4. Larry Boyer, 🐝 Brand Ambassador
    Some interesting lessons in building a business. Maybe you can do it too?
    Larry Boyer, 🐝 Brand Ambassador
    How the World's Youngest Self-Made Woman Billionaire Started With Just $3,000
    www.inc.com The most successful woman you've never heard...
  5. ProducerMeera 🐝 Nair
    Why Should You Hire a Document Management Provider?
    Why Should You Hire a Document Management Provider?In today’s competitive business environment, the concept of outsourcing has gained a wide prominence. In short, outsourcing enables a business to concentrate on their core business activities and also help the firms to save their time and cost. ...
  6. Jim 🐝 Cody
    Jim 🐝 Cody
  7. Jim 🐝 Cody
    Jim 🐝 Cody


    Jim 🐝 Cody
    18/07/2017 #3 Jim 🐝 Cody
    #1 Thanks for the share.
    Jim 🐝 Cody
    18/07/2017 #2 Jim 🐝 Cody
    #1 ThNks got the share.
  8. ProducerLisa 🐝 Gallagher
    Meeting a Fellow bee Thanks to beBee!
    Meeting a Fellow bee Thanks to beBee!Some of you may have already heard that I will be meeting a fellow 'bee' in Nags Head, North Carolina to enjoy an oceanfront get away together. It will be the first time we meet. We've known each other since the Linkedin days but really got to know...


    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    20/07/2017 #47 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #45 @Shelley Brown one day we will have to meet. You aren't too far from me!
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    20/07/2017 #46 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #44 Thanks @David B. Grinberg, I'm excited to be near the ocean again!
    Shelley Brown
    20/07/2017 #45 Shelley Brown
    Thrilled for you @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher and @Pamela 🐝 Williams Every time I hear about people popping out of these pages into real life together it literally makes my heart burst!!! Have the best time ever!!!!! Can't wait to read about it.
    David B. Grinberg
    20/07/2017 #44 David B. Grinberg
    Wow, this sounds like a super awesome trip, Lisa. Beautiful beach per the pic. I hope you and @Pamela 🐝 Williams have a wonderful time! Can't wait to see pics from the trip. Enjoy!
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    19/07/2017 #43 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #41 Hi Turatsinze, If there are others from Rwanda or near by- even the Capitol city on beBee, it's always possible to have a meet up if you have transportation? Do you use a computer or a cell phone for your internet? Do you know of anyone else near you that is using beBee? My friend and I live about 9 hours from each other. Do you have transportation to get around in Rwanda, such as motorbikes?
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    19/07/2017 #42 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #40 Thank you @Paul Walters, where are you now and how's that leg healing?
    Turatsinze Ivan
    19/07/2017 #41 Turatsinze Ivan
    good idea but some of us we're very far in Africa (Rwanda) wish u all the best on that day
    Paul Walters
    19/07/2017 #40 Paul Walters
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    19/07/2017 #39 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #38 Thank you @Puneet Srivastava :))
    Puneet Srivastava
    19/07/2017 #38 Puneet Srivastava
    Beautiful... :) All the best... :)
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    19/07/2017 #37 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #35 #36 oh this could be fun, the list is growing. "Dirty girl Martini and Men-OutaPause" What is in a dirty girl martini @Cyndi wilkins, I have heard of them but never had one. I've had sex on the beach and it was OK. I love just typing that LMBO. No worries @Pamela 🐝 Williams, they call them secrets for a reason! ;-) I will probably drive Pam nuts w/my planning by the time we meet. Ok, I will try to keep the planning to a minimum.
    Cyndi wilkins
    19/07/2017 #36 Cyndi wilkins
    #35 Make sure you tag me on 'Men-oughta-Pause!'
    Pamela 🐝 Williams
    19/07/2017 #35 Pamela 🐝 Williams
    Phew! I thought she was going to give away all my secrets there for a second! @Cyndi wilkins, we already have the cocktails all planned out! Lisa is definitely the planner to have on a vacation. I sit back and she sends me all this wonderful information. I'm more than happy to let her go at it! I'm trying not to wish my life away but definitely excited to meet up with my buddy! The head of my department laughed when I gave him 4 months notice that I would be taking a week off in October...
    We will definitely have to come up with something outrageous to share with the Bees! Start planning Lisa! :-) Oh, and don't worry too much about making a little noise, I sleep like the dead! A hurricane could come through and I'd never know it. A couple of months ago a huge, and I mean HUGE, oak tree came down in our yard during a storm and I never heard a thing, the tree nor the storm. It took out a 6 ft chain link fence and crushed a brand new outbuilding in my neighbors yard...still I slept on! So no need to tiptoe!
    I love Justin, he's like Michael, he makes you want to dance dance dance dance!
    Oh, and we still need to write our blog: Men-oughta-Pause...LOL! I'll let you explain that one.
    Cyndi wilkins
    19/07/2017 #34 Cyndi wilkins
    #31 I'd much prefer a 'dirty girl' martini;-) Ooops! Did I say that out loud?!?! You know what they say about what happens in Vegas;-)
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    19/07/2017 #33 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    Thanks for sharing @Javier 🐝 beBee and to everyone else I missed, appreciated!
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    19/07/2017 #32 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    I forgot to ask @Pamela 🐝 Williams if she's ever had "sex on the beach?" The drink! LOL
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    19/07/2017 #31 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #25 LOL, @Cyndi wilkins, I would hear you giggling and then hand you a drink too LOL! I have met a handful of people from Social Media in person over the past 10 years, never been disappointed. That human connection really does make a difference! Now, how about a white chocolate martini? ;-)
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    19/07/2017 #30 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #24 I read you can have bonfires on the beach in Nags Head @Aaron 🐝 Skogen, we have to check if it's only during certain months, because that would be a blast for sure! I agree, it's wonderful to have friends who accept for who you are but who wants friends that don't, right? LOL. Actually, it took me until my 30's to understand that I did have friends who had major expectations and they would get mad if you didn't meet those expectations. So, I made a pact w/myself to choose wisely and let go of those I had nothing in common with. Never had regrets. I see my daughter struggling with that now that she's a mom and closing in on the age of 30. I think she is figuring it out too. Quality over quantity! Thanks Aaron.
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    19/07/2017 #28 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #22 I need a beach towel that says just that @Gert Scholtz, thanks :))
  9. ProducerKevin Henneborn

    Kevin Henneborn

    Working Remotely at an Orlando Theme park: Part Two (First post was this morning)
    Working Remotely at an Orlando Theme park: Part Two (First post was this morning)Hello again. After I had decided to go 'caveman mobile' for my business, Vigorintel.com, at a local theme park here in Orlando this morning, I determined that it wasn't such a great idea after all. But I also learned quite a bit about the experience...
  10. ProducerAaron 🐝 Skogen
    A Slice of History
    A Slice of HistoryLast week my bride and daughter made a trip to New York City. On their fourth day there, they boarded a ferry to Ellis Island. Inside, they found the picture featured above. That picture is my family’s farm, as it appeared shortly after...


    Aaron 🐝 Skogen
    19/07/2017 #19 Aaron 🐝 Skogen
    #18 Thank you, @🐝 Fatima G. Williams! Oh, fresh mango. I had mango with every breakfast while I was in Haiti, it was wonderful (and so much better than the mango in the markets here). What a great memory Fatima, thanks for that, and your kind comment!
    🐝 Fatima G. Williams
    18/07/2017 #18 🐝 Fatima G. Williams
    An awesome flashback into the beautiful history of Minnesto! When you talk about the fun times with your cousins on the farm. I'm reminded of the delicious mango groves and Jack fruit trees my Dad's sister had in their farm in Goa and the fun I had along many such sweet memories. Thanks for sharing this with us.
    Aaron 🐝 Skogen
    18/07/2017 #17 Aaron 🐝 Skogen
    #11 Thanks so much @Debasish Majumder! I am happy you enjoyed it.
    Aaron 🐝 Skogen
    18/07/2017 #16 Aaron 🐝 Skogen
    #10 That is a great little slice of history too @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher! I have never been on the Mather, but I have heard of it. Next time I'm rolling through Ohio, I'll have to stop and tour her. I toured the SS William A. Irvin at Canal Park in Duluth, MN. They are pretty cool ships. The Irvin is 611 feet long, so by today's standards, it's really small :-).
    Aaron 🐝 Skogen
    18/07/2017 #13 Aaron 🐝 Skogen
    #7 Thanks so much @Jim 🐝 Cody!
    Aaron 🐝 Skogen
    18/07/2017 #12 Aaron 🐝 Skogen
    #6 Thank you for the kind words @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee and for sharing!
    Debasish Majumder
    18/07/2017 #11 Debasish Majumder
    lovely share @Aaron 🐝 Skogen! enjoyed read and shared. thank you for such historic buzz!
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    18/07/2017 #10 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    That is so cool @Aaron 🐝 Skogen, what are the chances of that being there and found?! My grandparents arrived at Ellis Island on the Queen Mary 1 in the late 20's. They traveled from Scotland and my grandfather took a job as a Captain on the USS Mather on the Great Lakes which is now docked across from the Cleveland Rock and Roll hall of fame. The Mather is now a museum. I loved seeing where my dad slept in the Captain's quarters on the rare trips my grandfather was allowed to bring my dad. The ship was 770 ft. long which we were told is considered small by today's standards. We sure are a melting pot and so neat your bride saw it, recognized it and sent a photo to you. Great story, thanks for sharing!
    Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador
    18/07/2017 #9 Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador
    What a wonderful slice of history, @Aaron 🐝 Skogen. Thank you for sharing.
    Sarah Elkins
    18/07/2017 #8 Sarah Elkins
    Terrific story, @Aaron 🐝 Skogen!
    Jim 🐝 Cody
    17/07/2017 #7 Jim 🐝 Cody
    Nice buzz! Nostalgic reminder of our forefathers past.
    Aaron 🐝 Skogen
    17/07/2017 #5 Aaron 🐝 Skogen
    #2 Oh, and thanks for sharing @Kevin Pashuk!
    Aaron 🐝 Skogen
    17/07/2017 #4 Aaron 🐝 Skogen
    #2 So I am curious @Kevin Pashuk, was Minnesota the butt of Ontario vs. Minnesota jokes when you were growing up, like Iowa was to Minnesota for me? I love Garrison, he can weave a yarn that makes you feel like you were right there. He is a cousin of a friend of mine, so I have seen him at a few very small gatherings. He is just a cool guy in addition to being a phenomenal storyteller!

    As kids we always joked that we knew a "level headed Norwegian" (like my grandfather) when you saw him. . . "cause he had Copenhagen dripping out both sides of his mouth". ;-)
    Aaron 🐝 Skogen
    17/07/2017 #3 Aaron 🐝 Skogen
    #1 Actually @Dominique 🐝 Petersen, we knew it was there, as a friend of ours noticed it when visiting a few years ago. I asked my bride to go see for them selves and take a photo. Pretty cool, nonetheless!
    Kevin Pashuk
    17/07/2017 #2 Kevin Pashuk
    Great buzz Aaron! Minnesota always used to be the land to. The south when I was growing up. I do appreciate how Garrison Kiellor of Prairie Home Companion described your state... "The land of blonde hair and blue ears."
    Dominique 🐝 Petersen
    17/07/2017 #1 Dominique 🐝 Petersen
    I'd bet they were surprised when they came across that photo!
  11. Mohammed A. Jawad
    Mohammed A. Jawad
    Migration for Livelihoods
    www.bebee.com Ah, what if the whole globe becomes a nation and every person becomes a world citizen. But, every country has its own borders, set of protocols,...
  12. Jim 🐝 Cody
    Jim 🐝 Cody


    Rick Delmonico
    17/07/2017 #1 Rick Delmonico
    The 40% Rule: A Navy SEAL’s Secret to Mental Toughness
    Use this (scientifically) proven mental framework to push yourself beyond your limits. It sounds cheesy, but it works.
  13. ProducerJo Saunders

    Jo Saunders

    LinkedIn Rolls Out Native Video
    LinkedIn Rolls Out Native VideoFrom sharing video with updates, to attaching video as rich media, smart professionals and marketers have been using video for years, understanding the growing value proposition it offers. Now LinkedIn are giving us native video to finally catch up...


    stephan metral 🐝 Innovative Brand Ambassador
    17/07/2017 #5 stephan metral 🐝 Innovative Brand Ambassador
    LoL LinkedIn tries everything to keep his users..hahaha. that will never change its fate.
    Lyon Brave
    17/07/2017 #4 Lyon Brave
    I think a live video is a disaster, especially when users don't have an option to delete. That really pisses me off that I can't remove my own content. Just a little friendly feedback.
    Dean Owen
    17/07/2017 #3 Dean Owen
    Great news. I hated having to upload to YouTube and link, especially as YouTube is blocked where I live and LinkedIn isn't.
    Javier 🐝 beBee
    17/07/2017 #2 Javier 🐝 beBee
    It was high time that this happened ! thanks !
    David B. Grinberg
    17/07/2017 #1 David B. Grinberg
    Thanks for this astute analysis, Jo. It's unfortunate for LinkedIn users that the site appears to be too little, too late -- as online video first emerged over 20 years ago, with YouTube coming on the scene in 2005. So what the heck took them so long? Also, why doesn't LI offer a live streaming mobile app, like beBee?
    You might be interested in a blog post I penned on Producer regarding why live streaming is the top social media trend https://www.bebee.com/producer/@dbgrinberg/why-live-video-leading-social-media-trend
  14. ProducerDayne Yarbrough

    Dayne Yarbrough

    King Koopa
    King KoopaIt’s when it comes to Microsoft to set the price so everything will be done in and around that manor being they provide mainly superior products. If there were no such thing as living backwards and raised around pop90 I would have a bicycle and...
  15. Jim 🐝 Cody
    Jim 🐝 Cody


    Lynne Black
    16/07/2017 #1 Lynne Black
    Thanks for sharing as a lot of great habits to get into for a life of happiness):
  16. Jim 🐝 Cody
    Life is too short!!! Jim 🐝 Cody


    Sandra Smith
    16/07/2017 #3 Sandra Smith
    Hell yes
    Louise Smith
    16/07/2017 #2 Louise Smith
    YES !
  17. Jim 🐝 Cody
    Jim 🐝 Cody
  18. Yedu 🐝 Panicker
    Yedu 🐝 Panicker
    The 8 Best Video & Photo Editing Apps for Mobile - Allianze Technologies
    www.allianzetechnologies.com Here are the best 8 video and photo editing apps that you can use on your mobile to create amazing multimedia on the...
  19. ProducerJohn White, MBA

    John White, MBA

    My Pocket Spanish Dictionary Was My Security Blanket
    My Pocket Spanish Dictionary Was My Security BlanketI will never forget the moment I arrived in Spain as a teenager. I got off the plane and met my Spanish host family for the first time and they began to greet me speaking in Spanish. It was at that exact moment that I realized that my two years of...


    John White, MBA
    19/07/2017 #14 John White, MBA
    #13 That's a great coping mechanism, @Cyndi wilkins. Thanks for chiming in!
    Cyndi wilkins
    19/07/2017 #13 Cyndi wilkins
    The thing I try to take everywhere to cope with the world around me is a sense of humor...If I didn't laugh, I'd cry...Nice buzz @John White, MBA;-)
    Jared 🐝 Wiese
    17/07/2017 #12 Jared 🐝 Wiese
    J'ai fait de mΓͺme avec mon dictionnaire, en franΓ§ais, bien sΓ»r. Aussi maintenant, c'est surtout mon tΓ©lΓ©phone portable, mais jamais Γ  la table!
    Harley King
    15/07/2017 #11 Harley King
    Sorry, John, I still do not own my own cell phone. If I need one, I use my wife's. I carry my Kindle everywhere so if I have downtime I pull it out and read. It helped me read over 70 books last year. As for Spanish, I am not very good with languages. I studied Latin in high school, German in college and my wife's native language is Spanish. Still, I know only a few words of Spanish. When I traveled to Mexico, I did pick up some words but I quickly lost them when I returned to the U.S. I have learned that just as English is spoken and written differently in different countries so is Spanish. Cuban Spanish, Venezuelan Spanish and Mexican Spanish are different. Venezuelans speak at a much faster rate than Mexicans. Excellent article, John.
    Jerry Fletcher
    15/07/2017 #10 Jerry Fletcher
    When you get to a certain age you don't go anywhere without your glasses. At least they make them now without that line through the middle!
    Brian McKenzie
    15/07/2017 #9 Brian McKenzie
    State side - Ruger SP101 - 5 shot .38, .38, .38, .38, .& .357
    Overseas - whatever Makarov, Tokarev or Kalashnikov I can get my hands on.
    Irene 🐝 Rodriguez Escolar
    15/07/2017 #8 Irene 🐝 Rodriguez Escolar
    el movil y beBee πŸ˜‰.
    Lisa Vanderburg
    15/07/2017 #7 Lisa Vanderburg
    haha...I SO understand and empathize; could've sworn I spoke Spanish!
    My security blanket would most likely be my head. i try not to leave home without it (it has been known....). Great fun!
    Carlton Williams
    15/07/2017 #6 Carlton Williams
    Very funny! Lol
    Javier 🐝 beBee
    15/07/2017 #5 Javier 🐝 beBee
    #4 @John White, MBA. "en pelotas" πŸ€£πŸ€£πŸ€£πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚
    John White, MBA
    15/07/2017 #4 John White, MBA
    #1 Sin el movil me siento desnudo. 🀣🀣
    Joyce 🐝 Bowen   Brand Ambassador @ beBee
    15/07/2017 #3 Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee
    Funny--when I read that you had two years of Spanish I immediately transformed my two into four. Must of have just felt like that long. I often say I learned more about English than Spanish during those years.
    David B. Grinberg
    15/07/2017 #2 David B. Grinberg
    Muy bueno, Juan! βœŒοΈοΈπŸ€“πŸŒ πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ
    Javier 🐝 beBee
    15/07/2017 #1 Javier 🐝 beBee
    LOL me too ! I can't leave home without my phone.
  20. Larry Boyer, 🐝 Brand Ambassador
    Free bot that appeals parking tickets in the UK is saving citizens millions. Now available in the US.
    Larry Boyer, 🐝 Brand Ambassador
    The free robot lawyer that appealed $3 million in parking tickets is now available in the US
    www.businessinsider.com Joshua Browder, a 20-year-old student in the UK, made a free chatbot that produces appeals for parking tickets. It's now available in all 50...
  21. Jim 🐝 Cody
    Jim 🐝 Cody
  22. ProducerDeb 🐝 Helfrich
    The Struggle to Respond Accurately
    The Struggle to Respond AccuratelyThe precious Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador and I had an impactful DM conversation, yesterday. It started prosaically enough when I let her know about a new hive: Service Professionals Network...


    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    20/07/2017 #23 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    #22 What a very rich comment, @Sue Bryan. Of course, synchronistically, this is the quote that arrived in my heart, yesterday, by Martha Beck:

    "I’ve seen that what we’re most afraid to lose is never a thing, person, or situation, but our story about how that thing will make us happy, conform to our ego’s desires, and remain forever unchanging. This is true even when the thing is our own body.

    I’ve seen that when we relinquish our storiesβ€”when the truth of our soul kills the narrative we’re spinning out to impress ourselves and othersβ€”we reach acceptance and suffering ends."

    I somehow got the story that my body knows how to heal in those precious first years and sure enough, I live outside western medicine. Even though the media is hellbent on changing this belief, they can't touch it, because I have 48 years of solid evidence.

    My post 'No More Sweet Little Lies' was about facing up to these internal stories. I had no idea, until I started challenging myself to radical accuracy, just how thoroughly I'd let a story stand, rather than be bluntly curious about all the presuppositions and assumptions wrapped up in a pat answer.

    So while my health story is utterly beneficial, my work story has/is harming me. It is proving to be a difficult root to uncover, it is buried deep down.
    Sue Bryan
    20/07/2017 #22 Sue Bryan
    #21 @Deb 🐝 Helfrich :) I am pondering the stories we tell ourselves and how they limit us. There are personal stories like ones related to self-esteem, and cultural stories that run deep in our subconscious minds. One particular story that almost everyone tells some version of is the story that we weaken as we age. One might argue that this story comes from observing evidence in the world around us, but I am more and more convinced that we manufacture evidence to "prove" our stories and not the other way around. So, why have we so completely embraced this particular story? Even people who are determined to stay healthy joke about "senior moments" and failing vision or creaky joints.

    I wonder what others think about this...

    My theory is that stories like this arise from a misconception or over-reaching of the focus that creates physical life. We have to really believe that we are separate in order to experience a normal human life where we are separate and different from each other. When we are convinced of our separateness, story lines arise from that belief and the fear and longing that it instills in us. 'Decline with age' is one of these stories. Another is the story that our bodies have mysterious functions that we don't understand, and that they are vulnerable to sudden attacks from germs or insects or predators or mutations... And that we have to protect ourselves from all those terrifying things.
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    18/07/2017 #21 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    #20 So what long term question/issue/decision are you pondering, @Sue Bryan. Anything that might be enhanced by trying to frame it accurately for a stranger?
    Sue Bryan
    18/07/2017 #20 Sue Bryan
    #19 Let's do it @Deb 🐝 Helfrich.
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    17/07/2017 #19 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    #18 You've pretty much nailed the introvert-centric feeling of wanting, craving, needing 'deep-talk', @Sue Bryan.

    I recently read a post on LI by Max Noble who has pegged this as social mindfulness, which is quite a spot-on way to describe what goes missing when we live our lives at the speed of our technology.

    And the fact of the matter is, we need input from strangers in order to gain a new and different perspective.

    Cultivating this presence, to sense when just a little more needs said, to be able to invest a few more moments to share a couple of true sentences, would revolutionize our world.

    I think of these people who have hit a point in their life of being able to commit a heinous act. I know that a genuine kindness may have rerouted them during that last day. I am certain that kindnesses have done this work and we have been spared in ways we won't ever be able to celebrate.

    I may challenge myself to start asking "What are you pondering about these days?" A novel question is very like to disrupt our habitual patterns.
    Sue Bryan
    17/07/2017 #18 Sue Bryan
    Thanks for this post @Deb 🐝 Helfrich. I have struggled with finding the appropriate response too. It seems to me that in the context of a larger conversation the question, "Are you OK?" is an invitation to check inwardly and share with the questioner any part of the journey that presents itself.

    The harder question for me is the greeting, "How are you?" As @Harvey Lloyd said below, the answer is always, "fine." I know that i am fine even if my world is a bit rocky for now. I would love us to replace this automatic way of greeting, which at its heart is often inauthentic (does the person really care how you are?) with something more real: I see you. Here we are together. What's happening in your life right now? Can I share what's happening in my life with you?

    Or some other formula that promotes connection.
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    17/07/2017 #17 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    #16 And you've made me smiling and happy as I get ready to power down for the night!
    Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador
    17/07/2017 #16 Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador
    Wow. @Deb 🐝 Helfrich, this put a smile on my face, a song in my heart and a tear in my eye. You are truly a lovely person with sincerity that shines through every word you write. I glad you're "peachy keen" and proud of you for taking on and meeting your goals for your publishing challenge. I'm looking forward to knowing the end of your sentence: "Great, because....". I feel certain it will be good news.
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    16/07/2017 #15 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    #14 This perspective is truly enlightening, @Harvey Lloyd. I am grateful that you shared it.
    Harvey Lloyd
    16/07/2017 #14 Harvey Lloyd
    #12 Everyone goes through the transition of youthful bliss to wisdom. Or as you have identified, the mid-life crisis. Mine was no different than most.

    My youthful energy to carry the issues of the day waning and moving from i can do anything to i want to do nothing. I had lost my purpose once i lost my youthful energy. Small business has been my battle ground of swinging the sword for thirty years, at twenty years i entered the perspective of cognitive dissonance. Everything i believed to be true up to that point was found to be false or non motivational.

    Like yourself a journey began. I usually seek the question before i even attempt to provide an answer to the issues of the day/life. During this journey i reduced it to purpose. What purpose do i serve? I discovered that my purpose was one that required youth to keep it in play. This was fading and i needed a common purpose that allowed wisdom to meet challenges and not youthful bliss.

    I "was" all things in all settings as my youth allowed me the energy and focus to push through most anything. My purpose was to be out in front leading through crisis.

    My new purpose is to serve where i stand and share journeys with others if only for a time. This removed the outcome from the equation and focused on the service only. It removed control questions and introduced influence.

    May your journey be wise and short.
    Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    15/07/2017 #13 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    #7 I am so glad you have the "publishing momentum" @Deb 🐝 Helfrich. Keep bussing. I like your thought on how to change habits and I agree
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    15/07/2017 #12 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    #6 Thanks for such a detailed answer, @Harvey Lloyd, we have this tendency in common.

    I feel like if something is worthy of my attention, it is worthy of my full focus.

    Your metaphor of providing a ladder completely explains what I knew was a potential if I could accurately respond. A bit of perspective, some encouragement, perhaps a concrete suggestion or two.

    And yet, because I am in turmoil, really do identify with being in a stage of mid-life crisis, I just spun out in formulating a response that was accurate, but not over-the-top.

    I will even confess to further struggling as I approached beginning to respond to comments. It took me a day, after all.

    But I know this is part of a life-transition. Being unsure. And I am fortunate enough to have built a community, where I can openly share. Both to reorient myself and to shine a light for others.
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    15/07/2017 #11 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    #5 Small talk, definitely has its place. As I said, the addition of a smile or a wink can add a great deal of value to anyone's day. I don't want to diminish the impact that the social niceties certainly offer.

    And I believe, @Aleta Curry View more
    #5 Small talk, definitely has its place. As I said, the addition of a smile or a wink can add a great deal of value to anyone's day. I don't want to diminish the impact that the social niceties certainly offer.

    And I believe, @Aleta Curry, that a good life has a steady stream of OKs!

    But there are crucial moments in life, where we could all get so much farther along, by stopping and answering accurately. In the context of a rather open exchange, with someone whose opinions we respect. That urge to not go deeper, further can really be a detriment to both people. We never know what will arise if we keep a conversation flowing. Close
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    15/07/2017 #10 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    #4 Brilliant point, @Tausif Mundrawala. The questioning habit can be off-putting to people who fall towards the 'small-talk' end of the spectrum. Those of us on the deep-talk side like to question and contextualize and generally come away from a conversation having learned and felt and connected with the person in a unique way.

    It is the case that we have a community of people on beBee who, even in tiny, virtual comment boxes, like to connect. Most of us type to communicate and learn. A rarity in the online world.
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    15/07/2017 #9 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    #3 There are certainly moments of quick exchange, were just the smile that accompanies a quick OK does the trick.

    The challenge presents itself with someone you've established 'conversational closeness' with. And you have something to say. But you aren't quite in a place of blurting it all out. And, yet, you know the person wants to sincerely help. But you don't know where that synergy is.

    We've experienced how this can happen in text and via webcam, but with the tone of voice and facial expressions added to the mix, we get there so much quicker and easier.
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    15/07/2017 #8 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    #2 Totally. I am very excited for the way I expect this hive to grow, shining the focus on worthy causes and the great people who are actively promoting them.
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    15/07/2017 #7 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    #1 I have to start by saying, I always wondered how you kept up your publishing pace, @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee. I am now starting to see how the practice itself frees one to show up each day. What seems in abstract hard to do, is easy once the momentum is in our favor. This is a factor in so many aspects of our lives. And I intend to apply it to the parts of creating a business that aren't exactly my strong skills.

    While habits can enslave us, a consciously built process can free us, in equal measure.

    How I am, at this precise moment, is thoroughly grateful for the overwhelmingly supportive appreciation that I am receiving.
    Harvey Lloyd
    15/07/2017 #6 Harvey Lloyd
    Purpose, Passion, Execution and Outcome. If someone asks if i am "okay" i would have to answer from one of these conditions.

    I have lost one, gained one or am frustrated with one. The question always appears in the context of "feelings" or core issues?

    More importantly when someone asks the question we sense we need to answer within the affirmative because if we dont....we may be judged. I submit that there is a different way to answer that invites a shared experience. I am always fine, but sometimes my journey is difficult in finding the right choices.

    I had to learn a hard lesson. Everyone has peaks and valleys. No one can reach down from their peak and help me out of my hole. Maybe a bit to pragmatic but true. What they can do is provide me with the ladder to climb out. I must give them the opportunity to share their ladder experience from one of their previous climbs.

    When i am not ok according to social standards of the day i single out the one of four areas and meditate on execution/guidance. If asked if i am OK i can now offer yes i am fine but my journey in a specific area has challenged my skill, knowledge or execution.

    Your journey of understanding is worthy @Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    Aleta Curry
    15/07/2017 #5 Aleta Curry
    In the cultures in which I have lived, it is correct social etiquette to respond to 'how are you?' with versions of 'okay'. Wonder why that is.
    Tausif Mundrawala
    14/07/2017 #4 Tausif Mundrawala
    My questioning habit have lead many people to judge my authenticity but they don't know that by asking questions to them I am enriching their experiences. My dad sometimes have put off the topic which he initiated because of my questioning habit. I like to be involved in the conversation after being a good listener. It would enrich my knowledge and would accordingly translate my wisdom. I am privileged to be a part of such a wonderful and intellectual community here on beBee. I am elated to participate in this great buzz of yours, my friend @Deb 🐝 Helfrich
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    Susan 🐝 Rooks
    14/07/2017 #4 Susan 🐝 Rooks
    This works with my KISS Principle: Keep It Short and Simple. Nice job, @Jim 🐝 Cody!
    Jim 🐝 Cody
    14/07/2017 #3 Jim 🐝 Cody
    #1 Thanks for sharing.
    Jim Murray
    13/07/2017 #1 Jim Murray
    Good advice...sharing @Jim 🐝 Cody
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    Preston 🐝 Vander Ven
    13/07/2017 #1 Preston 🐝 Vander Ven
    Great quote. This makes me think of another I love. "Never sacrifice your integrity for growth."
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