- ProducerThe Other End of HappinessGiven the tragic circumstances of the death of Dan Vickerman I thought to republish this Post from 2016. Last week I spoke at my Book Launch about my passion to help Men not pick up that rope like my Father did 15 years ago.............we have much...
Comments23/03/2017 #1 Paul Walters@Mark LeBusque Human Manager & Purposeful Provocateur What a heart wrenching and honest story and my sympathy goes out to and your family. The suicide 'victim' is all to often blamed for his or her selfish actions by not considering those 'left behind' . However when the pain becomes too much........
- Producer22/03/2017Oh, Kolkata! One Of India's Most Vibrant Cities.“From where I sit, I can see the old lighthouse in the High Court Campus. It’s a rather “telling structure, ”pleasant to look at, as if it almost belongs to the country. The GPO on the other hand strikes rather a false note, as it is too European...
Comments23/03/2017 #21 Paul Walters#20 @Asesh Datta Thanks for your feedback. The article was for a magazine and they only gave me 1200 words so hard to cover everything . You are right there are so many things that I didn't cover ...the bookseller street and the famous tea houses along it for one. I shall return there is no doubt. Once again, thanks for stopping by !23/03/2017 #20 Asesh Datta@Paul Walters It is always nice to read about our own city from a traveller and, that too, from another country. Like political capital, commercial capital, Kolkata is being labelled as cultural capital of India. Apart from historical significance and imperial construction, there are other facets which British have left as legacy. Some of them you may list in your next trip are Fort William, Eden Garden, Belur Math, Botanical Garden, Gun and Shell Factory (even before British Period), Clive House and New Town. Then the attraction of food, art and culture apart from language (Bengali). Thanks and regards.22/03/2017 #18 Bill Stankiewicz, 🐝 Brand AmbassadorThe British left India in 1947, but they left behind quite a bit of baggage — starchy clubs with antiquated jacket-and-tie dress codes completely unsuitable for Indian weather, a passion for cricket and English and Anglicized names.
Every city had streets and squares named after English viceroys and governor-generals: Clive, Hastings, Dalhousie. Soon the new government was busy renaming those roads and landmarks after Indian freedom fighters. Lala Lajpat Rai. Tilak, Gandhi. Nehru. A lot of Gandhis and Nehrus.22/03/2017 #17 🐝 Fatima WilliamsI love the way you describe calcutta or kolkata as it's called now. I had visited calcutta in 2009 and also instantly fell in love with the city. You have almost everything there. I didn't visit alot of places as it was just a stop over for the evening but I loved the Hoowrah bridge a true master piece and the trip to the Ganges was spectacular during the sunset. @Paul Walters Enjoyed the revisit through your buzz 🤗🤗🤗🤗 And Oh the cycle rickshaws are a must try there. Pretty amazing 🤗22/03/2017 #8 Randy KehoI, too, admire mature architecture. But, how can Kolkata be the most vibrant city if there's no mention of the nightlife? Surely, you must of mistakenly stumbled upon a pub from days gone by somewhere along the line.
By the way, I've traded the tall blonde for two shorter versions. May the best one win. The decision may be made final Saturday night -- if they don't find out about one another beforehand. They're old friends.
You don't have to ride in a blind taxi in India to live dangerously.
Thanks for the shoutout. I truly enjoy reading about your adventures.22/03/2017 #7 Ken BoddieStill finding it difficult to imagine Basil Fawlty with an Indian accent, Paul. And the half naked gentleman standing next to the STD sign had me worried, until I figured out the abbreviations are associated with telecommunications rather than a warning about the dangers of overfamiliarity. India is a country I have avoided colliding with on my travels, but perhaps one day, some day .....22/03/2017 #6 Netta VirtanenThis is so beautifully written, it took me straight back to Calcutta! =) I agree with you about Calcutta being ¨one of the more vibrant cities in India.¨ Calcutta is much more traditional and modest in comparison to Delhi and Mumbai. Calcutta has so much to offer, it is amazing. Hopefully next time you get your luggage on arrival. =)22/03/2017 #3 Lisa 🐝 GallagherA busy City indeed @Paul Walters! Kolkata is full of history. I enjoyed reading about this city. Your jaunt in the Taxi.......... OMG LOL! I would have been crapping myself (excuse me for saying that) LOL. I love train stations, tracks and trains too. That was a really cool station and busy as heck by the appearance of all the taxi's there?!! You did get your belongings, right? My husband flew to the Canary Islands out of Scotland about 10 years ago and on his way back 2 of his bags went missing. They said they would have the bags at Heathrow by the time he left to go back to the States, that never happened. After many calls when he returned, I finally got a hold of a man at the airport in Scotland and I could barely understand him (his brogue), you'd think I would have been able to since my grandparents had a very strong brogue. Anyhow, he said let me check, came back all excited saying he found my husband's stuff and gave me a telephone number with email address so we could get his stuff sent here. Uh, somehow it was never to be found again. He even told me what was in the bags. Sorry to remiss about that incident but your story made me think of it. Ok, enough about that, you are a wanderlust and I love it!
- Producer22/03/2017Do not try this on the streetEver been grabbed suddenly? Experienced a blind side attack? My only experience is in my self-defense class, where we learn to keep our head on a swivel so we can in fact drop the odds of that happening to us. However, I am a white male. At the very...
Comments22/03/2017 #2 Leckey Harrison#1 Hi Claire!
Thanks, and thanks for engaging.
Unfortunately, it says that for now our world is a dangerous place. My very short answer is this: the world does not yet heal it's trauma effectively, so the world has a lot of hurt people in it. From their childhoods. Hurt people, hurt people, and the cycle continues. I believe that the paradigm shift has begun though, and this sort of readiness is part of that. I could speculate, but that would get into a very long answer....22/03/2017 #1 Claire L 🐝 CardwellLeckey - great article. At school we had self defense training. We practiced and practiced until it felt natural. I had first cause to use it about 10 years later. Very effective and it has been ever since. Despite all of this, what does it say about our society when vulnerable people - especially women and girls have to walk down the street on the alert with keys bunched between their fingers?
- Producer22/03/2017Mastering our chaotic pendulum mindsDespite so many studies and writings dedicated to discovering how our mind works, it is amazing we still have no clear idea how it works internally. Together with the Universe, the brain is by far the most complex entity known by now....
Comments22/03/2017 #13 Anonymous#8 Thank you for stopping by Harvey, it is an honour having your opinion.
I agree that Luke speaks about motivation and the brain is the tool to execute it.
The reason to mention it is because is giving the key on how to work out our motivations, so the brain can take the decisions and make its work of making it possible.
We can actually influence our motivations by using our brain to feed ourselves with good contents.
The society is literally bombing us daily with negative and destroying issues. Our subconscious, where the motivations are forged, receives it almost with no filters or barriers, so it is our task to compensate it by virtually overwhelming it with the things of our choice, not what our environment chooses to put before our eyes.
It is the way I achieve "my motivation to be set inside the societal discourse"22/03/2017 #12 Anonymous#7 I would like to highlight your words "the how can not exist unless the why behind it makes sense"
Unconscious mind yells "the boss" what has to be done. Conscious mind then has the task to "justify" the decision taken.
In a purchase process, for example, it is said that less than the 1% of the time is needed to take the decision, and the rest is used to evaluate how to get it done.
Sometimes we take decisions it makes no sense to the conscious mind, but we take them anyway.
Then is the task of our conscious mind to find out "the how"
This is the reason I've put the example of the two pregnant women.
There is no valid why depending on your point of view.
I would then suggest saying "...unless the why behind it makes sense TO YOU"
Because this is what this post is all about.
We need to take decisions, and thus, mastering our mind with bravery and a little of madness knowing that our choices will not always be fully understood by others, and many times, not even by us.
Above all, thank you for taking the time to read and comment. Look forward to your further comments.22/03/2017 #11 Anonymous#7 It is my pleasure to have the privilege of enjoying your comments.
You are spot on with your words "When why is used to prevent action it is a waste"
There is a lot of people who gets lost looking for "the why", falling into desperation due to not finding the answer they are looking for. We as species have many things that make us unique, and the capability to ask why is just one of them, but in my opinion, it is only a "side effect" of another one.
Reptilian and limbic brains give us respectively ourselves and social reality.
Our cortex, the boss, makes the real difference among other species because it is capable of situating us on the concept of time, thus, it's more outstanding capability is to imagine the future comparing it with the past. Nevertheless, it lacks the capability to fully "understand" what happens in the other two brains, becoming fed by them with emotions, sense of living or purpose.
This is why I understand that our conscious mind is not able to find a why, due to the fact that only in our subconscious complex cognitive processes can take place, sometimes without the boss even being aware of it.
This means to me that we are not consciously able to control directly our sense of living or emotions, which do not reside in our conscious unless we influence our subconscious with the things we want.22/03/2017 #8 Harvey LloydWe are kindred spirits @David Navarro López. Luke speaks to our motivation not our brain. Within our brain we choose our motivation based on sound teachings or society which is ever evolving/changing. Society can't make up its mind but my motivation can be set inside the societal discourse.
Our brain is but a tool to execute our motivation. We should know our motivation and the why, beyond that the brain will know the what, how, why, and what to do.
What an awesome, inspiring teaching. Thank you for your words this morning.22/03/2017 #7 Sara JacoboviciThank you for the tag @David Navarro López and the thought provoking buzz. Personally, I wish it was that simple....but it's not. It's interesting that you chose an example that reflects the complexity; each case of the pregnant woman starts off from a different perspective about a life event. I see it as a top down decision; the boss already "knows" what it wants and tells the department what to do. When why is used to prevent action it is a waste, but we are the only species created that has the capacity to ask why and so it should be asked. When the task, job, or responsibility is already identified, then the how has to be engaged. But the how can not exist unless the why behind it makes sense; purpose and meaning is crucial to us humans before action can take place. Much to think about David. Thank you for the opportunity to exchange ideas.22/03/2017 #6 Tausif MundrawalaI liked the point where you stated that instead of crying hoarse of our current state we should work hard to achieve what we want in life. The way we program our mind the consequences will follow in the form of an action. I agree with you that we should feed our brain with good contents rather than indulging in self pity and something evil.
What a better way to start one's day. This is the first buzz which I picked to begin my day with. Thanks for sharing this with us, @David Navarro López22/03/2017 #4 AnonymousThank you for your words, dear Ali. I remember clearly your mentioned presentation.
In fact, by those days we started to talk, and fruit of our conversations about pendulums, it came out this one
https://www.slideshare.net/hudali15/performance-complexity-revisited View moreThank you for your words, dear Ali. I remember clearly your mentioned presentation.
In fact, by those days we started to talk, and fruit of our conversations about pendulums, it came out this one
Glad to have you as a "tennis partner" on this game Close22/03/2017 #3 Ali AnaniThis is a great buzz dear @David Navarro López. I enjoyed immensely reading it. I loved your two pregnant women example and also the expressive images.
I wrote one of most favorable presentations on "Complexity Thoughts":
https://www.slideshare.net/hudali15/complexity-thoughts View moreThis is a great buzz dear @David Navarro López. I enjoyed immensely reading it. I loved your two pregnant women example and also the expressive images.
I wrote one of most favorable presentations on "Complexity Thoughts":
In this presentation I described each leave as a pendulum and how the pendulums synchronize with each other to generate music. The same thing and as your described in your buzz the pendulums in our bodies of the "three brains, Reptilian, Limbic and Cortex". We are what you said beautifully in your buzz "Otherwise, we could waste our entire life trying to find out why things are as they are, instead of using our time and energy to learn how to make things happen". They make things happen because of this synchronization. We need to be in harmony with ourselves. This leads to "What it matters is that you are fighting for becoming the best version of yourself".
I know one thing for sure- you are in harmony with yourself David. Close
- Producer22/03/2017Objective Truth & Social Media. Happily Married or Acrimoniously Divorced?Last night, after I put together my latest Anti-Trump meme, I was cruising around on Facebook and came across a video on Britain’s Channel 4.It was some politician who was trying to make the point that criticizing Trump was tantamount to criticizing...
Comments24/03/2017 #10 Donna-Luisa EversleyCan I borrow this @Jim Murray "Intellectually, I can deal with just about anything except people who talk out of their asses instead of their mouths."? Think I want that to be my status for social media! Really good post. What's not to like about the truth especially with your humor :-) #JMfanclub23/03/2017 #8 Lee CondeI'm not American, I'm British, we have similar issues over here with our government and Brexit, though nowhere near as bad as Trump! Loved the article, and agree with everything you said on Trump. The mainstream media have as much to do with polarization as the likes of Twitter does now in my opinion.22/03/2017 #1 Anonymous@Jim Murray Enjoyed this piece in early morning NZ. I've often been in political discussions where ears and minds are closed because of beliefs about position on a spectrum. I've more enjoyed the discussions where despite position on that spectrum participants have been willing to debate the ideas and the goal or objective and how we might get there. Often there is agreement on the objective and it just comes down to disagreement on the how. Discussion and preparedness to listen with acceptance of the possibility that we might change our minds is how to be a social being. Evidence of who we are is in our behaviour. Keep writing. Best yet.
- Producer22/03/2017A Thousand Holes - A Taste of MarrakechShimmering flecks of gold flickered off the waterways. We settled down at the pagoda teahouse where the bridges intersect. Yet another ancient water town checked off my list, each unique in style, each offering up a local Chinese flavour. Rays of...
Comments24/03/2017 #19 Dean OwenI like what he did to "Mad World". Not a fan of Adam Lambert, especially when he fronted Queen, but he did an incredible Mad World. I think we grew up with the same songs. I was 15 when I heard Seasons and the story behind it. Picked up a guitar wanting to learn how to play it. Toya Wilcox was big at the time.23/03/2017 #18 CityVP 🐝 ManjitThe amusing thing here for me is that I heard that song a few years under 50 years ago and I only get to find out about Marrakesh in this buzz !
For me music is milestones more than beats - for this is where it captures our individuality and so what we happen to like is different to what it happens to mean. A great example is the song that stamped my psyche after 9/11 - which was Gary Jules https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4N3N1MlvVc4
When Pink Floyd sang Another Brick in the Wall that is a memory ticker that coincides with Alice Cooper "Schools Out Forever" - you can guess I was at a school which all of us did not want to be at. I can enjoy masses amount of commercial pap because I keep liking separate from meaning. For sure when we talk about song composition and beat this fits in the middle space between like and meaning - but music for me is what flows through my imagination, so much so it is individuality and music becomes DNA.
Perhaps the song I don't like to hear but which carries the most haunting meaning for me is Terry Jacks "Seasons in the Sun"
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YG9otasNmxI23/03/2017 #16 CityVP 🐝 Manjit#13 In this 2000 Farm Aid Live performance it is the four-some version since Neil Young had joined the band much later when they became Crosby, Stills, Nash and Young [CSNY]- so here is Marrekech Express https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8fE06X25fDU View more#13 In this 2000 Farm Aid Live performance it is the four-some version since Neil Young had joined the band much later when they became Crosby, Stills, Nash and Young [CSNY]- so here is Marrekech Express https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8fE06X25fDU
#14 CSNY's most poignant track was Four Dead in Ohio , an anthem to the Kent State shootings when the Ohio National Guard killed four students protesting the Vietnam War and the incursion into Cambodia
Four Dead in Ohio - Crosby, Stills, Nash & Young
These shootings led to mass Student strikes, and it was H.R. Haldeman, Nixon's Chief of Staff involved in Watergate who marked the Kent State shootings as the moment that created the deep scrutiny on Nixon's administration, that eventually uncovered Watergate and led to the impeachment of President Richard Nixon.
The Marrekech Express is Crosby, Still, Nash's most joyful song, Four Dead in Ohio their most significant. Close23/03/2017 #12 Dean Owen#10 Oddly I sometimes have the same issue with pictures in articles not downloading. It usually lasts about a week. Much appreciate a comment from the master debonair himself, Mr. Smooth, Suave and Sophisticated, @Paul Walters View more#10 Oddly I sometimes have the same issue with pictures in articles not downloading. It usually lasts about a week. Much appreciate a comment from the master debonair himself, Mr. Smooth, Suave and Sophisticated, @Paul Walters. No doubt you'd make a better Bond! Close23/03/2017 #11 CityVP 🐝 ManjitHaving been nearly 50 years since Crosby Stills and Nash recorded the song "Marakech Express" it is about time I actually saw something of the real Marrakech and now I have, it was a great way to catch a glimpse of it in this sublime buzz. I don't remember a buzz of yours before which broke into a novelist dialogue but the effect of the 2nd section added some personal "being there" and it worked. Great photographs as always and I concur with @Paul Walters about the debonaire bit.23/03/2017 #10 Paul Walters@Dean Owen Ah Dean San hankering after places visited and recalling fond memories !!! Unfortunately your pics on this post are not loading but I am noticing that on a number of posts I read. Still I was able to conjure up the images in my head from one of my all time favourite cities. Sounds like you did the 5 star version complete with beautiful woman in fluffy bathrobe ...you debonaire bugger you
- Producer23/03/2017I, You, We and MeI went to physical therapy yesterday. I met Shira, a very competent professional. As we were working on my hands, I began to recount my experiences as a child, and she said, “I don’t want to hear it.” I told her five children die every day from...
Comments24/03/2017 #31 Donna-Luisa Eversley@Joyce 🐝 Bowen thank you for your bravery in bringing up this topic. It is one many will have difficulty understanding because they may not have experiences such as yours. Your contribution is overwhelmingly good in creating awareness. We live in a world where bad things happen to good people. Bad things happen to bad people. Good things happen to bad people. Awareness may not mean understanding or acceptance, but it sure takes courage to be bold enough to write. #3024/03/2017 #30 Joyce 🐝 Bowen#29 @Lisa Vanderburg I hear you back. Both my parents were psychopaths. People don't understand what psychopath means unless you say, "Jeffrey Dahmer," or "Ted Bundy." People don't understand that psychopaths have children and they are often their littlest victims. I feel for you, and understand that need for connection that is so lost when seeking it from such a parent. I followed through to my degree in psychology before I understood. I think psychopaths should be sterilized, but that's just me.24/03/2017 #29 Lisa VanderburgI hear you @Joyce 🐝 Bowen. I hear that awful loneliness that comes from this festering wound for so long. I know it well, and I have pretty much given up trying to 'explain' things so others may understand - they won't. That's the trouble with childhood abuse and its after-math, everyone's is different to them (at least), because they were CHILDREN when it happened and adults when they've had to learn to live with it - or not. I've realized two things:
1. My abuser was a charming, highly intelligent psychopath. That's why when I left home at age 16, I told a couple of childhood friends, they didn't believe me. All my siblings experienced the same thing. It was stunning and made me question myself.
2. The trouble with secrets is that the listener either feels they have to 'do' something about it, or they chose not to believe you.
For me, I know I'm broken. Some of the ladies here know me - good wimmin! But for the life of me (and because my eldest sister killed herself AFTER she seemed so much better (with her shrink), so I can't trust that anyone can 'fix' me. But I live with it....
You're one brave woman - more courage than I!24/03/2017 #28 Cyndi wilkins#23 I'm very sorry to hear that...especially for a therapist that is supposed to understand such a debilitating condition as MS...but I will leave it to you to decide who best suits your needs;-)
I'd love to meet for whatever is convenient for you...Give me a shout when it works for you and I will make it work for me;-) I will PM you with my email;-)24/03/2017 #27 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#25 I do want to be clear, I don't think there are any faults, Joyce. I feel everything you said intensely. What you wrote affected me powerfully, and sent me asking NOW WHAT?
Nobody is for child abuse. It continues. Our species does have a very long legacy of wanting to dominate and/or eradicate those not like us - for all sorts of random superficial reasons. Including that someone does something heinous. Anger hasn't been an effective long-term strategy so far.
So I found myself pondering what is the fundamental disconnect that we feel this must stop, but perhaps, in such an intense, confused, and overwhelming way that it seems to almost preclude acting. This state goes along with the stories of how hard it is to change human nature.
The ways we mis-anthropromorphize animal behavior is something I think about a lot. We have labelled an entire breed as demonically vicious because a few people trained their dogs to be nothing but fighters.
How do we define cruelty? And how do we, as a species, instill it in our young and our pets? It does not arise in a vacuum.
It comes down to faulty training, faulty thinking, and poorly designed systems that are unable to stop the cycles right now.
Each aspect is entirely about the stories humans tell themselves and each other.23/03/2017 #24 Joyce 🐝 Bowen#18 Actually, I only let myself be mad for a split second. I put her in a small cage only to allow me to move Sarah, at which point she had only killed 2; but she was so smart, she got out and killed a third pup. I immediately chalked her actions up to Nature, and vowed not to hold her accountable. And I didn't.23/03/2017 #22 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#21 Well then, we have much in common, @Helena Jansen van Vuuren, It takes a lot of effort and time for me to get these 'knowings' swirling around my bodymind out into language. I try to catch my run-on sentences, but it all is smushed together in my head in even more complexity than how it comes out on the page. I get frustrated all the time at hitting the 2000 character limit.
Anyway, this is a topic I care about. So I try to re-orient the discussion, pivot it just slightly to change how we talk it through.
Based on how I was raised, I lead with being mired in the horror of it all, too. I get viscerally upset, nauseated. So I listen to these feelings and realize we cannot fix anything when we are sick. (And this might have been what Shiva very ineloquently reacted to. What she meant to convewy was not lets ignore the problem, but let's focus right this minute on healing you, so your hands can do the work they need to.)
If I can help in any little way to get the conversation set back to flowing, back to love-storming, back to how very many things like Berlin walls and apartheid simply ceased quite quickly and painlessly; with none of the obviously bound to happen worst case scenarios unfolding, then we can start to increase our energy toward fixing horrific situations because we have been primed to remember that tipping points exist all around us, and we can choose to create a narrative that ignores oft-repeated 'common sense' and starts to say 'let's do this instead"
Given that it is #NationalPuppyDay - really re-thinking how contemporary humans raise our families is a fruitful place to focus our attention, as we know each newborn is a relatively blank slate waiting to be taught.23/03/2017 #20 Cyndi wilkinsYou were shut down by a 'professional.' That indicates fear...and as Deb mentioned, fear is paralyzing. Please find another therapist..
BTW...I know you live in my neck of the woods here...Were you perhaps at the Salem Diner? I love that tin can! Maybe we could meet for breakfast or lunch sometime;-).23/03/2017 #19 🐝 Fatima Williams"Let’s evolve beyond being pack animals and strive for the betterment of all rather than the chosen few. Let’s learn to think for ourselves instead of acting like cows being driven to the trough. "
We ,You and I. Its you and me who think like that. I am not sure about the We.
If I advice a few poeple to Becareful of their children being abused. They are like " No way he's always around safe people. But once the media started showing reports on child abuse where parents of millennials had reported the same to the police. They get the awareness.
So pretty much Either you fall or I'll fall only then They'll learn. This is the mentality of some people.
Recently a girl punched a boy at school for unstrapping her bra and the management was against the girl for violence. The professor had watched this and did not intervene which means he enjoyed it and perhaps had some evil intentions. So she suggested at the meeting that he ( Professor) do the same the principal sitting at the desk and they we bewildered.
Then the mom said to the boy "Come over here and let me touch the front of your trousers.”
Everyone was like “What?! No!”
Full story below :
https://stuffhappens.us/boy-at-school-snapped-her-14307/23/03/2017 #18 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#14 Thanks for sharing this story, Joyce. #12 I wonder if you can take the same pieces of data and generate a new narrative based on the few sentences that Pam and I shared.
The goal of this re-telling is to remove judgement and evil intent from the dog's actions. The point is to learn more about human nature and how we overlay our own beliefs about self-survival and self-sacrifice and the way we let our own "I" - our personality - shape what we believe to be the rationale for not only our behavior, but our kid's behavior and our pet's behavior.
Given the deep thoughts you gleaned from the boardroom, there is a really big shift available in understanding that how we tell stories is downloaded between ages 1-6 from the stories and actions of our parents. This is the crucial age for growing a child with all the necessary nutrients to become a loving adult - this is an intertwined physical and mental process.
Right now, so much of the 'truth' is based on the fact that the only species doing the talking, writing the stories, documenting the history happens to be humans. Everything is skewed based on how we experience life, via how we were trained to talk about, judge, and understand before we had the cognitive power to make up our own minds.
My belief is that you can advance your very important advocacy work more efficiently by focusing on what to do, versus what not to do. This is because I feel the fear and anger in the narrative and I think these emotions paralyze most people and send us into overwhelm.
I agree with everything you said about always - it was the narrative I downloaded, as well.
Yet, I am willing to dwell in the awe of a new wave of humans raised on different stories and actions. Massive change is simply a new generation away, if we start to focus on how to raise these new humans with love.23/03/2017 #17 CityVP 🐝 Manjit#16 Child abuse is an awful pandora's box and if we are too overwhelmed in opening it, it ironically keeps it that much more closed - but remember where much of this abuse originates is systemic and we are not free of that industrial cage - and we are not free from the selling of a pap and docile existence, and when I see the children in the documentary "Cries from Syria" - this pandora's box begins to open - and all of this overwhelms, and I have not even touched on the data and facts that people never see or worse, at least marginally think about. At least we hearing voices like yours and your fighting spirit to make a difference in this hidden pit of sorrows and hurt.23/03/2017 #16 Joyce 🐝 Bowen#15 I'm an old dog, and every year I torture myself with Child Maltreatment reports, sometimes trying to lay out data in a shorter form. 2015's is here. https://www.acf.hhs.gov/sites/default/files/cb/cm2015.pdf View more#15 I'm an old dog, and every year I torture myself with Child Maltreatment reports, sometimes trying to lay out data in a shorter form. 2015's is here. https://www.acf.hhs.gov/sites/default/files/cb/cm2015.pdf. It takes a long time to load. Note that it took them 2 years to produce it. The stats are frightening, and states can choose to not submit data. Close23/03/2017 #15 CityVP 🐝 ManjitYou would think that in this image conscious and brand paranoid world young students would focus on public image, but a lot of them do not - instead of hearing stories that we think shapes personal brand, in a club meetings a lot of them talk about abuse they endured in their formative years, and in part they come to our club find confidence and move ahead, not at a brand level but at a life level.
Grant it that the environment they present to is a trusted space but this is the chief difference between when I was at high school nearly 40 years ago and our time today. That gives me encouragement because the people who get away with being abusive, some of whom who live behind well crafted personal brands will find that this conversation is finding its voice among today's millennials and that is going to be the change - because a kid who is closed off is a kid those young people want to know about. It is still small scale action but it is becoming relevant.
These kids are not broadcasting this is not groupthink, these kids are using transparency of technology to create private conversations, and they are engaging in conversations that matter. Of course the state of play today is still appalling but there is an emerging shift in these conversations - though of course it is not at a significant level or achieved anything close to a tipping point.
When stats are shared https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse-statistics/ it is not groupthink but fact check for the brighter kids, which incredibly people twice their age still do not do. Of course I am talking about smart kids here, but I see hope in the way they are engaging in personal conversations in groups less than 10 people. These kids are learning this social reality through network effects.
The problem of group-think is that it is media that leads it and marketers that thrive on it - until this systemic special interest is seen, progress is stifled.23/03/2017 #14 Joyce 🐝 Bowen#10 I extrapolated information I gleaned from my experience with my own dogs on to wolves and wrongly assumed their behavior would be the same. I bred Lhasa Apsos and loved all them dearly. I had 2 bitches give birth at once and one, who I assumed was dominent., worked insanely hard to destroy the more submissive girl's litter. She was successful in killing 3 pups, because Sarah would not defend her litter. Ironically, the remaining pups had to be hand-reared because Mom's milk was bad. One did die from her milk. Thumper's (the killer) pups all thrived.23/03/2017 #13 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#11 You had the underlying cause and tendency absolutely correct and it shows how easily we can come to believe a well-told story - especially if it pushes our fear buttons.
The cycle of abuse is the story of fear - and it takes clarity of thought and feeling to root out the fear that causes anyone to react against innocent bystanders, especially children, because they themselves were not given the appropriate love and support as they were growing.23/03/2017 #12 Pamela 🐝 Williams#10 BRAVO Deb. It is believed by science that humans learned to hunt from the wolf. Too bad we haven't learned to care for ou young and work as a community from the wolf. And then there is this bit; wolves kill only what they need and will store (bury) extra for later. We keep 'killing' to gain more than we will ever need. Ever wonder where the phrase; "I made a killing on the market" came from? In the animal world it's not about getting more, it's about taking care of the pack.
Wolves are territorial and there is a hierarchy but it's about strength and ability to lead and protect the pack. Not who possesses the most. Animals have more sense than humans ever will!!!
- Producer23/03/2017Hive🐝Talk Featuring-beBee e-ambassy project / Stephan Metralhttps://www.bebee.com/group/55161 Guia beBee (in Spanish) Encuentra montones de tutoriales sobre beBee para sacarle el máximo partido a tu experiencia de usuario. Itziar Ruiz Lopez https://www.bebee.com/group/the-naked-architect...
- Producer23/03/2017Thoughts become aliveThoughts become alive. Some believe that we are who we are today because of our thoughts. Our minds are always working, consciously or subconsciously, we are always thinking. For many, the problem is that our minds are full of negative thoughts...
- Producer23/03/2017How early electric cars made American women independentElectric car makers of a century ago faced the problem of positioning. They arrived late to the party — around the year 1895 — and severely handicapped by power and range anxieties at that. The first electric cars were slow, didn’t travel far, nor...
Comments23/03/2017 #3 Chas ✌️ WyattWhile the electric engine is more efficient than the internal combustion engine, the efficiency of battery storage and life is the crux that needs to be improved upon and one which Tesla is working on. That pic of a Chevy CustomCab is hardly appropriate for the story, however, as it was definitely a 'gas-guzzler'; albeit, a work horse at that.
- Producer23/03/2017The Smoke that ThundersThere is one place in Africa I would visit again and again. The Victoria Falls. More than once I have been there. Each time I experience the scenery and adventure of the environment anew. It is a symphony of nature. The Falls As I stand on...
Comments24/03/2017 #34 Ken Boddie#32 My Dear Livingstone, your messenger arrived today, having taken a short cut (and hence saving several months) by sailing down the Nile in a following wind, assisted by the presence of several very large crocodiles nipping at his rudder. He then risked life and limb on shore, travelling on one of those modern land yacht contraptions, aided by a prolonged three day sand storm. The poor fellow arrived looking extremely haggard but is recovering well, and was last seen being fed dates by a passing group of belly dancers. Tempting though your sincere invitation may be, to journey to shady and cooler climes and partake in an abundant of fresh water, particularly as I am currently camped between oases, I am temporarily without means of transportation, since we are becalmed, my camel somewhat has the hump with me, and I am the guest speaker at a succession of local bedouin feasts. I swear that if I see another sheep's eye winking at me from a bowl of desert stew, I shall not be responsible for my actions. I trust that the old lion wound in your arm is no longer troubling you and hope that our paths will cross soon. I remain, sir, your most obedient servant. TE Lawrence.24/03/2017 #32 Gert 🐝 Scholtz@Ken Boddie Dear Sir Lawrence of Arabia. If you were to mount your camel and travel 7500 kilometers south, you will find the coolest of mists, the shadiest trees and the most water you have ever seen. You can also live on the edge, but I guess that is what you are already doing in the sands and dunes. I am sending you this letter by foot messenger. I hope it reaches you before your kinsmen start moving to the far away continent in the south eastern seas. Yours most sincerely. Sir David Livingstone.24/03/2017 #29 Gert 🐝 Scholtz@Ian Weinberg @VDS Brink Thank you to my fellow South Africans. We are privileged to live in what I think must be one of the most beautiful spots in the world. / Dankie aan my mede Suid Afrikaners. Ons is bevoorreg om in sekerlik een van die pragtigste streke in die wereld te woon.24/03/2017 #27 Netta VirtanenLovely buzz! Looks and sounds like an amazing place to visit. I can't wait to visit the Victoria Falls after reading this! Beautiful pictures too, the second picture by the Devils Pool makes my heart stop as it looks dangerous! =) It looks like such great adventure with so much beauty.24/03/2017 #21 Gert 🐝 Scholtz@Dean Owen I have never seen or heard of anyone riding a giraffe. They are essentially wild and skittish and difficult to get close to. What may surprise you is that I have ridden an Ostrich. Quite a bumpy ride and surprisingly fast. (No animals or Bees were hurt in the process) Thanks for stopping by Dean.24/03/2017 #17 Gert 🐝 Scholtz@Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman @Ali Anani @Devesh Bhatt Thank you for sharing the post and enjoying this part of the world with me. Certainly on a bucket list Devesh – just don’t put the list in a bucket :) . Dear Ali – through your posts I learn to look anew at the natural world around me. Franci – good to see you “enjoy a fall”.24/03/2017 #16 Yogesh SukalAs someone mentioned bucket list by seeing your post, My one thought is exactly for you.
Inspired travel writer is a dream seeder.
As they have amazing stories to tell,
Experienced in each travel breathe inhale.
and yes bucket list for me as well
Thank you @Gert 🐝 Scholtz for seeding dreams24/03/2017 #14 Praveen Raj GullepalliCan almost hear the thunder Gert (and I don't mean down under Ken ;) I lived close to the Nagarjunasagar Dam in Andhra Pradesh India (1983-85) and that roar, that spray, that rainbow and that dizzy feeling as you look down the falls...all too thrillingly familiar!
- Producer22/03/2017EPITAPH, I CRAVE!I am ailing I will not be surviving for long Life will inevitably take its toll Silently I have to relinquish this planet without any hyperbole! Against nature, against tide I am swimming Ideas are haunting me in brimming...
Comments22/03/2017 #12 Cyndi wilkinsAnd when your eulogy is being read...with your life's actions to re-hash;
Will you be proud of the things they say...about how you spent your dash? -Linda Ellis
I read the Dash at my dad's funeral...Not a dry eye in the place...I think we forever need to be reminded that this "dash" might only last a little while...So never hesitate to tell your loved ones how much you love and appreciate them for all the lessons they have presented for you to learn...Mend fences wherever you can and understand that, in the end, it's all water under the bridge;-)
Thank you for this beautiful reminder @debasish majumder...22/03/2017 #9 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.beautiful @debasish majumder thank you for another wonderful creation.22/03/2017 #3 Ali AnaniWhat actually triggering them to make such hasty blow
Why promises are made for broken
Why pretention become a treacherous intention
Without any qualm we feel to reclaim!
To tell you that I don't feel sad is dishonesty @debasish majumder View moreWhat actually triggering them to make such hasty blow
Why promises are made for broken
Why pretention become a treacherous intention
Without any qualm we feel to reclaim!
To tell you that I don't feel sad is dishonesty @debasish majumder. Sadly, what you say is correct. However; it is our choice to connect with happy hearts and graceful minds. In the darkness we know the value of the moon. In these dark times we need a moon- don't we? Close
- Producer20/03/2017"I 'became' that naughty boy" “You little sh*ts. I send my son to school expecting him to be safe and he has to put up with you two.” I could feel the shame rise in my gut, then through my chest. I could hardly raise my head, though I did, just for...
Comments20/03/2017 #13 Harvey Lloyd#12 The environment must be offset by the strength of parenting. I grew up in a rural environment and had strong parents that prepared me for the world. I sense in our world today the environment has eclipsed the strength in parenting. Core values are assumed and suggested that education enhances them. I see parents everyday that struggle with this notion of core values in their children were inherited. Part of our generational issues are the fact that we are not handing down these core values.
Where these core values exist i would suggest that the RJ system would work quite well. Where they don't i would assume core values would need to be instilled first. But that is a debate that will rage for eternity.20/03/2017 #12 Steve Brady#11 Hi Harvey, I appreciate your interest in Restorative Justice (RJ) and my foray into the world of blogging or "buzzing". RJ is still emergent and developing, and your comments regarding environment are critical to understanding why people do the things they do. On occasions I have thought that if I was born in a city suburb where gangs and violence were an issue, instead of being born in a coastal city to middle class parents, I may have had a very different life. I could be typing my reply to you while sitting in my jail cell. Thank you for being willing to be tagged in future buzzes. I certainly appreciate your perspectives.20/03/2017 #11 Harvey LloydThanks for the tag @Steve Brady. This sounds like a worthy effort and the first i have heard of such a project. I do believe that many actions happen and folks don't realize the ripple effect they cause through their community or to others.
Most of my studies inside the cognitive behavior of others and myself have lead me to believe that the environment is the root cause of such incidents whereby others are hurt. Clearly we are all born with specific bents towards life and others. But the environment has such a great influence on our behavior.
I do believe that RJ has its place in our judiciary system. But there is a ground swell of environmentally lead personas that giving people the "right" to harm others because of different views, appearances and professions. This is one of the group think spin off symptoms.
I look forward to reading about RJ in your upcoming posts. Please continue to tag me. I find any new approaches to deterring social anxiety welcome.20/03/2017 #10 Steve Brady#1 Hi Deb. Thanks for your reply....and your your last sentence was music for my eyes! To raise awareness of Restorative Justice, or any form of justice that brings healing accountability, hears and cares for those harmed, and ultimately helps us all to build a more humane society, is my primary goal. I also want to share the passion I have for this type of reform. My personal view, and that of RJ4ALL is that we don't seek to be abolitionist regarding conventional justice administration. There will always be those that for whatever reason need to be incarcerated for the safety of the community. However, I also believe that even the most damaged of us can be healed, at least to some degree. The evidence is stacked against the efficacy of retributive, or punitive justice, but reform in schools, organisations, and our courts still has a journey ahead of it.20/03/2017 #9 Steve Brady#2 Thanks for your encouragement, Deb. I'm enjoying my initial forays into the art and science of producing buzzes/blogs. I agree wholeheartedly with your comments regarding reconnecting with our senses. I'm a classic case of my childhood and teenage years somehow turning me into a head being carried around on a body! I'm under "reconstruction" now..20/03/2017 #7 Steve Brady#5 Thanks so much for your encouragement Sara. Thank you for sharing your experience with therapy and psychodrama. I'd appreciate any feedback you ever have for me (both positive and helpfully critical!!).
I guess that like me you have found role plays and psychodramas to be such a powerful way of engaging people with "inner and outer" truths they weren't possibly even aware of..20/03/2017 #5 Sara JacoboviciGreat piece @Steve Brady, great work. I was around when Restorative Justice was first being discussed and workshops were being offered. I attended a workshop and was once asked to act as "witness" when a person trained in RJ came to my work place for an employee. As a therapist, I have also done some training and have co-led psychodrama groups. And the same with the exercise, which van der Kolk calls a “structure” but which is also known as psychomotor therapy, developed by Albert Pesso. The reason I am mentioning all this Steve, is to acknowledge the great work you are doing as someone familiar with the topic. I find your first post on the subject well written and communicated. I look forward to your future posts.20/03/2017 #3 Deb🐝 LangeWell done @Steve Brady yes the body can sense what is going on when we start to notice through our senses. Role plays, improvisation, many doing, being activities enable this kind of sensory awareness to surface. It is far more effective than "just" talking about the behaviour, or having a lecture. Being, sensing, doing, feeling, noticing, voicing, smelling, touching, intuiting are all visceral, hence change our sense of being.20/03/2017 #1 Deb 🐝 HelfrichThese sort of role-playing scenarios are fantastic teachers. Thank you, @Steve Brady, for a great example that might allow someone to step out of their shoes as social media harmer into the emotions of someone shamed via excessively personal critiques for simply writing about a topic important to them or their business.
The concept of sitting in a circle, allowing everyone affected to voice how they felt is tremendously powerful. I've never been convinced that punishment did much, especially as far removed as it is from the 'crime' based on the setup of our current legal system. But I know that restaging can allow people on both sides of the action to have a better feeling for how the events that unfolded resonated within everyone, even bystanders.
I'll be watching out for a lot more information on how to bring more restorative justice to the world.
- Producer20/03/2017DisabilityI’ve been disabled in one way or other all my life. For the decades my Multiple Sclerosis went undiagnosed, they said the periods of time my MS drove to my bed were disabling bouts of depression--that the progressive numbing of my body was nothing....
Comments23/03/2017 #55 Donna-Luisa EversleyThanks for this discussion. There should be no discrimination on persons who have any form of disability. However, yes, worldwide there is discrimination. Think the persons who condemn , laugh, chastise, or seek to belittle persons differently abled are themselves soulfully disabled of compassion and kindness.
Thanks @Joyce 🐝 Bowen keep up the good fight. Power of the pen!22/03/2017 #54 David B. GrinbergAll people should be judged by their ability, merits and God given talents, including people with disabilities. Any myths, fears and stereotypes about people with disabilities is reprehensible. This stigma must end, including on issues of mental health. Regardless of whether a person has a physical or mental disability, again, it's their ability that should be the main focus, as well as their character and moral fiber. Anything else is simply superficial and shortsighted thinking.21/03/2017 #53 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher@Joyce 🐝 Bowen, you are darn right you have worth! I'm sorry it took so long to get a diagnosis and you were mis-diagnosed with depression for so long. Dr's tend to do that to women who present with a subset of symptoms. That is something the Medical Profession really needs to work on and change. As for work, I think you might find with your knowledge and determination you could possibly do online work, become an advocate online, or whatever it is you think you are not only capable of doing but have the desire to do! I admire you.21/03/2017 #40 Deb🐝 LangeDear @Joyce 🐝 Bowen we have so far to go towards being more human, more accepting of one another, more caring, I sense your pain I sense your persistence I sense your bravery I sense your humility / sending you love across the oceans - I hear you I see you I sense you xxx20/03/2017 #39 Helena Jansen van VuurenI have not really commented before because someone very very very close to me - my one and only child has problems of some magnitude to him. Fluid filled cavity/cysts on the brain and spinal cord and all its attendant problems. Diagnosed at the age 16 just when he had been made captain of his rugby team. Neurosurgery and then at 18 metal work to support his spine, since then a lot of hospital time. As a mum you want to wrap him up and hit anyone who touches him. He went to uni and worked as barman to pay for that - I know what price he pays for every little achievement and when he is home this is evident from the empty packet after empty packet of pain killers that comes out of his luggage. He then did a Masters and got distinction - apparently this is fairly unusual....he is now writing up his research for his Doctorate. I am constantly astounded at the drive he has to do what he wants and the fight in him humbles me daily. When I read your posts I detect the same spirit in you and find that I want to hug you and make it better/easier for you but I can't - but I can tell you that I am in awe of your strength and the world is a better because of you!20/03/2017 #38 Dorothy CooperYou know that I get this! I find myself at hanging off a branch since Trump's budget was announced. I raised my children with the help of social supports as opposed to family supports. I am very scared of losing my Medicaid for attendant care and therefore a nursing facility is my next option. I believe there are so many misconceptions of what being disabled means, especially for women. I am sickened that I worked and raised a family while getting a doctorate and now my resources have dwindled because I placed my kids first and now it's time to be thrown away. I resist writing about because there are so many myths about positivity. Yes, I think that is essential but I found being realistic and focused on a solution based mentality works best for me. I am glad you are here and I have a very good friend who has severe MS and she hold's doctorate in nursing. We need to find each other. I recommend you go to #PushLiving they have some great articles and always are looking for great bloggers. I appreciate your post and I can only wish for some more exposure. I find the time to write takes so much time these days. Thanks, for your courage. Happy Spring💐🌿♿20/03/2017 #36 debasish majumderExquisite share indeed @Joyce Bowen! it is a common adage in our country that, whether Allopathy, Homeopathy or any other form of diagnosis, without sympathy none can be cured. unfortunately, modern method of medical science largely dominated by corporate, where profit is their only motto, devoid of any values and empathy, resulting patients to be subjected to erroneous and inhuman treatment. however, your case is extremely disheartening. too disheartened. thank you very much for the share.
- Producer21/03/2017IN COMMEMORATION OF POETS!Poets are of weird faculty They are obsessed to create verses with enlightening audacity Out of their imagination to pave the way for engendering new realm A prodigy, which is a rare asset, paving us to emerge the only creature in...
Comments22/03/2017 #9 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.This is very beautiful and a tribute to all poets worldwide that ever lived, loved and will live, and love. Beautiful @debasish majumder21/03/2017 #7 Tausif MundrawalaThis is perfectly meant for all us poets. A poet knew no boundaries and can explore unexplored territories. You have covered all the parameters required to become a poet and none of the attributes were left. What an excellent way to celebrate the art of poetry and a praising piece for all the poets.
Excellently penned. My words seem ineffable to describe the standard of this poem. Thanks for sharing my friend, @debasish majumder
- Producer23/03/2017Why beBee?This post began as a buzz writtten in reply to an invitation by 🐝 Fatima Williams, who asked 'Why beBee?' As usual, my writ took off on a life of its own, and before I knew it, here I was on beBee Producer.Why beBee? ...Because I've been a writer...
Comments24/03/2017 #53 Tausif MundrawalaI think the content of our buzzes matter more than anything else. Another factor would be the engagement of our fellow bees in the discussion which takes place with every buzz. Our presence here on this platform speaks volumes about us a person and how we respond. I agree with @Harvey Lloyd that people are genuine here. I really enjoy reading different buzzes on different topics to the extent that I have not completed my well thought buzzes.
I enjoy reading your buzzes but this one was special because the very first line resonates well with me. Thanks for sharing,@Aleta Curry. Congratulations for being a beBee brand ambassador.24/03/2017 #50 Gerald Hecht#46 @Aleta Curry yeah; I usually pretend to care after a "snort-while-laughing-thing"...unless It happens in front of someone that I don't really know yet (and they don't really know me yet) --in that case --I am genuinely embarrassed and ...umm...usually run away! lol24/03/2017 #45 Gerald HechtMysterious --yet who can deny it's tangibility?
There is no yardstick --no altimeter to inform/quantify the distance twixt engagement's eternal meaning ....resonating, quivering subjective sensations
... the sea level atmospheric pressure at some blindfolded choice...
...of Cartesian abscissa/ordinate intersection...
...what Euclidean plane can explain...
...the shrinking distance between the crow's nest of the mast...
...and the sea (as she sails away) from one's heart...
...or the inverse --quite inseparable from her shivering return?24/03/2017 #44 Laura MikolaitisInteresting stats @Aleta Curry. I tend to use a few different platforms but I'm not an avid watcher of my 'stats'. I do love when people engage in conversation in the comments because to me it only enhances my writing and user experience. I've met many great people in the comments and have participated in some great discussions. And it's always exciting when something in the comments may be the catalyst for someone to write their first post. It's been a rewarding experience for me - both here and on the other platforms I use. Like @Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman said "it's the camaraderie that's appealing." I couldn't agree more. Thanks for tagging me by the way!23/03/2017 #43 Harvey LloydI believe we all use social media for different reasons. From marketing to just plain ole writing. The one thing i have noticed with BeBee is that the writers in their own way take an interest in writing so that you can grow. Difficult to explain as it all comes in many forms, but you know it when it is missing.
I have experienced on other platforms the screaming like Madison Square Gardens on New year's Eve., to intellectual speak that is really of no consequence.
Bebee and the folks worldwide seem to be genuine in most cases. As to counts or relevants i sense they don't tell enough of the story.
Thanks for the tag23/03/2017 #40 Gerald HechtI find the numbers "mind blowing" sometimes...though I must admit that I have not a clue what they are trying to say... I'm not trying to be cryptic. I am genuinely in a state of "severe confusion/mild dementia" --(of the "maybe-I-understand-a-fascination-with-Putin-type" https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Selank)...
----23/03/2017 #39 Aleta Curry#38 That's wonderful, @Jacqueline Randall
I'm guessing growth is good, but I'm not sure it'll be anything like the way it was in Spain per capita, but I'd love it if we saw that kind of astronomical growth in the USA. Well, I wouldn''t *totally* love it, because items flow by in my stream quite quickly enough now, but it would be thrilling.
Still, I saw in an article somewhere where beBee was predicted to be the next unicorn startup, so either somebody knows something, or somebody's being terribly optimistic.
How about it, @Matt 🐝 Sweetwood? Can we have some stats on how beBee is doing in the USA?23/03/2017 #35 🐝 Fatima Williams@Aleta Curry This is awesome Love the buzz and yes it's very important that everyone understands why I am on beBee and Why I love beBee.
At this point my main focus is learning and beBee has helped me so much and I cannot wait to exercise everything I've learnt I am flying as beautiful beBee join me and flap your wings together. Cause you need to buzz around to be noticed for your personal and professional. Remember engagement is the Key to our success and we need to keep the ball rolling :)
- Producer09/12/2016WHAT MAKES AN APOLOGY EFFECTIVE & HEALINGThe context of apologies are relationships, be they between friends, lovers, families or nations. The goal of an apology is reconciliation and restoration of bonds of love, trust, respect, and humanity.There are some people who are able to apologize...
Comments11/12/2016 #19 Emilia M. Ludovino#10 Hi @Aleta Cury! First off, thank you for comment. Though I hear you and understand what you mean, it is my understanding that we should take into consideration the personality type of the offended. For instance, some Extroverts can cope and tackle very well with public critiques and public apologies but for an Introvert this could be a tremendous nightmare. I have a series of articles on how to manage Introverts and Extroverts at work, that maybe you find them interesting and useful.
https://www.bebee.com/producer/@emilia-ludovino/emotional-intelligence-resilience-to-stress11/12/2016 #17 Emilia M. Ludovino#13 Thank you, Preston Vander Ver for your comment. I agree with Ronald Reagan's quote, "Peace is not absence of conflict, it is the ability to handle conflict by peaceful means.". Though, I disagree with your quotes from the Bible on this subject. An effective and healing apology from the offender must come from a place of Respect, Responsibility, Compassion, Empathy and Remedy, not from a "Holy" Book or belief system. Please don't take my reply to your comment as offensive, because I don't mean to be offensive. Have a blessed day!09/12/2016 #13 Preston 🐝 Vander Ven#10 Matthew 18: 15 - 17, shares with us clearly how to settle matters with those sin against us. We never want to approach a matter publicly at first. The first step is always privately. 15 "If your brother sins against you, go and confront him privately. If he listens to you, you have won your brother over." 16 "But if he will not listen, take one or two others along, so that ‘every matter may be established by the testimony of two or three witnesses." The last step Jesus said was to bring it before the crowd. 17 "If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church. And if he refuses to listen even to the church, regard him as you would a pagan or a tax collector."
Today I feel society has this pattern backwards which even leads to wars. I love a quote by Ronald Reagan, "Peace is not absence of conflict, it is the ability to handle conflict by peaceful means."09/12/2016 #10 Aleta CurryCan I just add another point that's particularly pertinent to business? The apology must take place in the same context as it was given, i.e. if the offence was perpetrated in public, the apology must be made in public. Too many business people try to apologise in a way that will save their face. For instance, they may speak to the wronged party at her desk, or catch her at the coffee machine, or some other private arena. If a manager berates a subordinate in front of other employees, s/he must apologise in front of the employees. If a mother unjustly scolds or accuses a child in front of a sibling, she must admit she was wrong in front of the same sibling,.09/12/2016 #5 Deb 🐝 HelfrichThis is very definitely a post worth bookmarking, @Emilia M. Ludovino. There is no prevaricating in actual remorse.
"Central to a true apology is that the blame belongs to the person apologizing. Apologizing by telling the wounded party, “ I’m sorry but you got me so angry” is not an apology. It is an excuse.
- Producer22/03/2017Meeting AngelAnnetta felt as if she had been walking for miles yet still hadn't found her way. It must have been at least an hour since she had left the house and her thoughts were jumbled. She hoped that the fresh air would help. A cleansing perhaps. A jolt of...
Comments24/03/2017 #11 Todd JonesGreat post, Laura. I have been lucky to enjoy the company of dogs my entire life.
"If you pick up a starving dog and make him prosperous, he will not bite you. This is the principle difference between a dog and man" - Mark Twain.
My Golden Retriever Finnegan is only living creature that is reliably happy to see me :)24/03/2017 #6 Laura Mikolaitis#3 @Julia 🐝 Rutherford, thank you! I appreciate you taking the time to read my story and letting me know that you like it. I am a dog lover (and a mom to a Golden Retriever) so I drew some inspiration from real life and just let the words unfold. So nice to meet you!24/03/2017 #5 Laura Mikolaitis#2 @Pascal Derrien, thank you so much. What a nice comment! I'm glad that even though you are a Kat person you gave it a chance. I hope to write more short stories in the future. When the creative bug strikes, I try to roll with it as much as possible. It's a good outlet for me and something that I really love to do. Thanks for your support and for not passing by because of the picture :)24/03/2017 #4 Laura Mikolaitis#1Thank you @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher. I enjoyed the process that came with writing this one. It was explorative and creative and I worked on it for a couple of weeks. Writing some, then stepping away. Coming back, editing and getting stuck. And then when I came back to it the other day it just all came together. It felt right and so I ran with it. So glad that you liked it! Thanks so much reading, commenting and for sharing. I really appreciate your support.
- Producer19/03/2017More o' me rhymes, and other word crimes - Vol IIBack by popular reprimand - another 'collection of my comments' in appreciation of a select few of your many buzzes which attracted my attention, whether by subtle means, by barbed hook, or by chance. Some might say a 'travesty of comments', others...
Comments23/03/2017 #51 Donna-Luisa EversleyWhat more can I add,
To a guy who makes me glad
A man who makes me smile
A fella, from another isle.
You make us feel at ease
With words you always tease
We're never having a bad day
Cause you are sunshine all the way.
I'm not ever going to sink
with @Ken Boddie as my link
To the shores,
To the seas,
To all the places I want to be
Every day you make us smile
Walking the @Ken Boddie mile.
Never a moment is lost
When I'm sitting at the streets called lost
Inspiring me to be
Bebee and happy Me!
*** Think I water up every-time I read this post @Ken Boddie. You never know when someone needs the words , so keep sharing!21/03/2017 #47 Franci🐝Eugenia HoffmanOh, my, my
This is better than pie
You're so clever
with your endeavor
You're a grand poet
and we all know it
Your ways to express
are simply the best
Wowsa! Standing ovation, @Ken Boddie View moreOh, my, my
This is better than pie
You're so clever
with your endeavor
You're a grand poet
and we all know it
Your ways to express
are simply the best
Wowsa! Standing ovation, @Ken Boddie! Close20/03/2017 #44 Ken Boddie#43 Ah the funny farm "where life is beautiful all day long". Always happy to add some complementary giggles, Aleta, to your eminently enjoyable posts, particularly the ones where you reveal the 'realities' of country life. I have quite a few of yours stashed away for Vol III, which I hope the dogs will also enjoy.20/03/2017 #43 Aleta CurryFortunately for me, @Ken Boddie, my dogs a) cannot talk and b) have gotten used to me sitting at my desk, staring at that bright light thingy, and cackling, (especially when reading your comments), else they might phone the funny farm and inform them that Mummy has finally lost it!
- Producer18/03/2017A Little Story About BeBee & Me. And Maybe You Too.One of the personal qualities I have always prided myself on is the ability to figure things out that puzzled me. For example I have a La-Zee-Boy recliner that for some reason started squeaking. We had the La-Zee-Boy people come in and replace the...
Comments20/03/2017 #22 Anonymous#21 @Jim Murray , each of those would qualify as the coarser basic ingredients to the sophisticated and genteel man smell that emanates from a man shed. Some creosote, together with Totara, Matai, and Kauri wood shavings contribute the equivalent of what French Oak does for red wine or the finer distillates.19/03/2017 #19 Jim Murray#18 I'm sitting in my man shed right now. It's called my office. There's actually enough room in here to tune up my bike and I have a little wooden box with the thinkings that you use to get the tube out of your tire when you have a flat. I am living in Canada, and for most of the year the indoor man shed is the preferred option.19/03/2017 #18 Anonymous#15 @Jim Murray A man shed is a very special place. Gardening stuff - yes. Parts of bikes - yes. Chain oil - yes. Bikes that you can ride - no. Bikes you can ride belong in a bike shed, or the in the garage. These fine distinctions are very important. Anyone can have a bike shed. A man has a man shed. You're a Canadian. I thought Canadians understood these sorts of fine distinctions. Farley McGill Mowat would know what I mean. "The Dog Who Wouldn't Be" makes me laugh just thinking about it.19/03/2017 #15 Jim Murray#12 Actually we have 2 sheds. One if for gardening stuff and bikes. The other is for the the pool heater and pump. I'm seriously contemplating getting a can of oil for each shed. Right now it's sitting on a shelf in my office where I can keep an eye on it. @Michael O'Neil19/03/2017 #14 Charlie AccettaI have come to the conclusion that I am too lazy to commit to anything. Being true to any cause is fatiguing, I find. But I do keep coming back here. It's like the strange bar on the other side of town. I don't know anybody there. People I know don't go there. But, I'll still stop in for a drink, just to prove that it really is a free country. That's what beBee is for me ... a chronic fling, an escape, a dare.18/03/2017 #11 Anne Thornley-Brown#8 @Martin Wright I am spending time between the 2 platforms as I have a commitment to manage a large community of groups until the end of March. That was the arrangement I made long before I actively checked out this platform. I am a person of my word. I will do one more short Publisher post just so that what shows up on my profile is related to my core business and not tips for overcoming the challenges of the platform.
Instead of managing 22 groups ( I own 3), I will manage and own 6. I have already set up hives for 2 of them and I am trying to encourage the members to come here. I may hand off the Alumni group I own to the Group Manager as there hasn't been much engagement and it hasn't generated 1 cent for me. I'll have a lot more time to focus on writing, off-line marketing, and building the hives I have here.18/03/2017 #6 Anne Thornley-BrownI agree 100%. I have been active here less than 2 weeks and I have already seen more organic reach, views of my content, and engagement here than I have in the last 6 months on LinkedIn, Twitter, and Facebook COMBINED.
I am going to share this in the B2B Bloggers hive that I am migrating here from LinkedIn. It is an attempt to get bloggers to discover new content and share what we find relevant and valuable across all platforms so we can all get some readers again.
Thank you for sharing.
- 17/03/2017A living example of goal setting and visualization from @Donna-Luisa EversleyFrom Flab to Fab!journal.thriveglobal.com Feeling great from the inside out. Countdown to the future...
- Producer17/03/2017Happy St. Patrick's Day!Today, March 17th of 2017, It's St. Patrick's Day, patron saint of Ireland. Do you know where this yearly tradition comes from? In the year 387, Patrick was born in Dumbarton, Scotland. His father was an officer of the Roman army. At the age of 16,...
- Producer15/03/2017I MUST FLOW -by Devesh BhattIn the depths of my knowing,I see my true self flowing.Where the knowing keeps on growing,And the growing nurtures knowing,Confusions are no more annoying,But a thoughtful way of going.So i flow,with the currents of senses,Armed with logical...
Comments20/03/2017 #25 Anonymous#19 I suppose what I meant by that statement is that I've become aware that 90% of my unconscious mind rules the 10% that thinks it's thinking, and therefore my Life. And that 90% comes form everything I've ever read, seen, experienced, etc... and so it is with each of us for the most, but not all because biology can differ, part. It is therefore good to excavate all the strange things up in that shady space, and embrace change. But then again, that's just my purpose as contemplated in my own current flow, the dynamics of differing keys may strike an entirely new chord! :-)17/03/2017 #16 Devesh Bhatt#15 i will also share the feeling with thw pebbles on the street, something i enjoyed in a poem by someone else, i cant seem to remember which one.Maybe @Donna-Luisa Eversley but i dont recall which one . It wasnt about the pebble but that line really hit me.
Have an awesome creative, enjoyable and a memorable time .
Thanks a lot for the rhyme.
Feels like those poetry sessions or qawaali, perhaps the freestyle hiphop duels , only that the meaning keeps expanding not punched down.17/03/2017 #14 Devesh Bhatt#13 whatever the state of mind, it is the evergrowing kind, it may give a vision, it may turn me blind.
But it rather be organic, than the one assigned, cause i will know where i came from, and where i am at, perhaps enjoy the feeling
I am not a labrat. Even if i were
I would fail to concur :)
Your comment has made my morning and my day worth the wake :)17/03/2017 #13 AnonymousFlow is a state of mind, of the most sublime kind. Harness it for business, say some current languages, pyschology of psyche, for cortex higher productivity and profitability. Be here Now sing Spiritual masters, lets overcome Humanities disasters. The poet though, the musicians and the Artists, they've always set Sails in flow; there's no Sale needed to grow.
And, I Love this. I flowed a response, because I felt like it! Terrific Thursday wishes to YOU! Flow on!
- Producer15/03/2017NAIL THE STARS!Nails and stars Have close proximity, apparently ludicrous But, so many things we amazingly stare In the dark sky we resort and admire Celestial bodies always draw our attention Since time immemorial, our fancy, our obsession The mystic glow Though...
Comments16/03/2017 #14 Ali AnaniInitiate phenomena of continuous process of change, what we experience on Earth
Universe, you are our eternal enigma, where knowledge is always in dearth!
And scientific poets like you are dear @debasish majumder View moreInitiate phenomena of continuous process of change, what we experience on Earth
Universe, you are our eternal enigma, where knowledge is always in dearth!
And scientific poets like you are dear @debasish majumder are dearth. This is one of your hot spots glowing like the sun. Keep the glow. Close16/03/2017 #13 Mohammed A. JawadAha...this inspiring post tells us how shimmering stars are like lanthorns in the expanse of skies. In the business of living, we oftentimes get so engrossed and absent-minded that we rarely look up at the vast canopy that's bedecked with beauty and celestial bodies.15/03/2017 #6 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.the moon and the stars, sweet ones ... your article is a bright light in the beBee heaven, well done! @debasish majumder
- Producer16/03/2017Yes, Doctors Do Make Mistakes- He Missed The Nodule!I've been hesitating about writing this story because I've written so much about my mom over the past year and a half. I decided it's OK to write again because she was a major force in my life for over 50 years. We don't forget a loved one that...
Comments19/03/2017 #26 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#25 Hi Skip, many Doctors are not assholes. We are all going to run across a few, it's up to the 'consumer' to do their homework, speak up (have an advocate) present etc... I'm sorry you had such a bad experience and I'm glad to hear you are healthy now. My sister is a 10 year survivor of breast cancer and the heavy duty medications saved her life.
To each their own with alternative stuff. You must sell Shaklee? It's been around for a long time. Thanks for your comment!18/03/2017 #25 Skip SteinSO sorry to hear about your Mom. My Dad died of Prostate cancer about 10 years ago. Doctors are basically assholes! First they are like robots and most don't give a damn about anything but a paid invoice. When I was diagnosed with prostate cancer (like father, like son...) it was a horrendous experience and NOT just because they said I was dying! The assholes tried and tried to get me accept diabolical/barbaric 'treatments' that were often worse than my cancer. They said I was too fat for surgery (boy was I then!) so radiation and a bunch of other crap was forced on me; but I told them ALL to go to hell. They said I only had 3 years if I refused their 'treatments' and maybe 5 if I accepted the crap they offered.
Well it's no EIGHT years and I'm a healthy, mostly fit, 70+ year old fart; alive and kicking an healthier NOW than I was at 40 (or younger). I was fortunate to have discovered, while researching my Fathers cancer, that there were ALTERNATIVES to the traditional crap most doctors force upon patients; basically Treating them to DEATH.
Don't let the bastards in the medical industry get to you. Most are quacks, drug pushers and profit from pain and suffering. Learn to LIVE and Survive. You may not CURE yourself but it's a damned site better than the side effects of chemo and radiation/surgery. Everyone need to CHOOSE what they will do and sometimes go against the flow. I did and it worked. I hope it would work for others too. My full story is on my web site: http://prostatecancerfight.com/.
If YOU or a loved one has cancer (or any other lifestyle disease) I am available to talk/listen and maybe help.
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Orlando, Florida17/03/2017 #24 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#21 Thanks @Ian Weinberg. Yes, I realize Doctors are only human and imperfect like the rest of us. I must say I worked with many Doctors and although this particular Doctor was nice, I think he was a bit lazy and didn't follow up with his own notes. It wasn't the first time he let her down but she liked his demeanor and kept going back. We would have never sued him even if she hadn't changed her mind. That was a mistake that was maybe missed by the Office staff and finding that type of cancer earlier would not have saved my mom. She had small cell lung cancer.
I have a lot of respect for Doctors, they have a tough job and I believe most of them go above and beyond the call of duty. My husband has a few Doctors in Pittsburgh who even give their cell phone numbers to him and have emailed as well when there has been a problem. So, I don't want others to think I feel all doctors are irresponsible (I can't even say if her doctor was, maybe he was just very liberal with her)?? Thanks for commenting, I appreciate it!17/03/2017 #23 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#20 Hi @Glenn Melcher, I'm sorry your mom went through something similar. Yes, my mom had a compassionate heart and she did give others the benefit of doubt. Even when she brought up suing the Doctor, we all knew she was very upset with her diagnosis. Sadly, even if her cancer had been detected back in January, there was still nothing they could have done to save her because it was a terminal cancer w/out a cure. Maybe she was afforded more time because they didn't begin other treatments earlier on that might have been tougher on her.
I see so many families that do fight and don't have good relationships and that is very sad. I'm forever thankful that somehow my mom made sure we all got along and forgive easily, that's a legacy within itself. She was different from me in other ways. She was very crafty, I am not LOL. Thanks so much for your comment!17/03/2017 #21 Ian WeinbergDoctors try to carry out the requirements of their vocation to the best of their abilities. But they are only human, working within imperfect systems that are invariably over-subscribed. Yes there are some 'bad eggs' among us, but for the most part, medical and para-medical staff are decent people who aspire to making people well. But then there is a greater reality beyond our control ... Condolences @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher on your loss.17/03/2017 #20 Glenn MelcherYour words resonate with so many Lisa : My Mother who is over 80 years old would have had the identical exchange with her Physician.. The words you share about Your Mother in that she always gave People the benefit of the doubt is a true testament to her "amazing Heart condition"..
If it is such that by sharing we can make one Life better even if for only the moment.
The World we be a better place.. Thank You for sharing as you do.. I am certain by have read many of Your insights You have the same "Amazing Heart condition" as Your Mother..17/03/2017 #15 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#11 Hi @Tausif Mundrawala, the memories of being there with her and for her are for the most, heart warming. I treasure that we did have that time. I wish I could have used a recorder to enunciate her voice (it was actually quite funny) after the fact. I never saw her so upset with me but it was fear, she really wasn't mad AT me. I'm glad you enjoyed this, that was my hope.. I didn't write it to depress anyone :))17/03/2017 #14 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#10 Hi @David B. Grinberg, that had to be hard being in ICU w/your dad. I'm glad you were there to over see medications etc... Nurses and Doctors get so busy, errors do happen easily and one error you don't want when you have a loved one dying is to have them suffer because someone forgot their pain medication. Thanks for your kind words! I'm sure you still miss your dad very much, he couldn't have been too old when he passed?16/03/2017 #11 Tausif MundrawalaI know how you might have felt while hearing that word. I agree with you that we should never leave our ill loved ones unattended. More than the diagnosis they need us more. That is the moment where they need special attention and care. If not words than our magical touch does wonders. How privileged you are that you got the opportunity to nurse and take care of your mom.
Our values and virtues speaks ton about us and I highly regard you in that aspect. I do respect you in all aspects but being a family person is something different. I liked your buzz in its entirety, @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher.16/03/2017 #10 David B. GrinbergLisa, your mother was a real saint and I'm very sorry again for your loss. Moreover, I'm sure all of her fine qualities are shining through you -- per your many wonderful attributes and character traits.
It's true that doctors are neither gods nor are they infallible, as you demonstrate. I recall being by my father's side in the ICU before he passed away. I always made sure the nurses were giving him the appropriate medication to ease his pain and suffering. Our parents were there for us as children and now it's time for us to be there for them as adults as they live through their "Golden Years." You are most certainly a role model in this respect and so many others, Lisa.
Thanks for all YOU do!
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