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  1. ProducerCyndi wilkins

    Cyndi wilkins

    03/01/2017
    Frozen In Time
    Frozen In Time"Cut the shit Bill...Wake up! It's Christmas and all your kids are here!"That's my dads favorite nurse Kathy. She knows just how to get a response out of him...however small. I can almost see him smiling and thinking, "Who the hell invited you!"ย The...
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    Sara Jacobovici
    24/01/2017 #9 Sara Jacobovici
    #4 Tag away @Cyndi wilkins. Appreciate the connection and honoured to have you reach out. Gratitude most welcomed. Take good care.
    Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    24/01/2017 #8 Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    I had to stop crying before I could write @Cyndi wilkins. This story of your dad is very powerful. I love the quotes you included, your relationship! "Dumb water," ok, that gave me a chuckle. I can relate to this with the exception that your dad suffered longer in front of all of you than my mom. Mom became blue and her breathing changed the day she died. I worried we would have to possibly watch her in that state for longer than a day or two. I understood what you meant when you wrote of death with dignity. It's still a ruse in the US. After reading of the convo you had with your dad after he passed, I think he'd be proud of his girl!! I love the photos Cyndi. My heart goes out to you, I was still in shock the first month or so after mom died last year. As much as we don't want to lose them, we sure do not want to watch them suffer and that's what makes the loss a bit of relief when it comes. If you ever need to talk, I'm here. Your dad sounds like he was a wonderful man!! Keep those memories close to your heart and keep sharing the stories when you are up to it.
    Cyndi wilkins
    24/01/2017 #7 Cyndi wilkins
    #5 Amen to that last line in your comment Todd...My dad was described by his peers as the salt of the Earth...And that he was...A man's man yes, but a gentleman...In all my life I can only recall seeing him loose his temper once...ONCE, in a lifetime...can you imagine that? Geez, I loose my temper at least once a day! Apparently, I did not inherit his patience gene;-)
    Max๐Ÿ J. Carter
    24/01/2017 #6 Max๐Ÿ J. Carter
    #4 You're welcome Cyndi
    Todd Jones
    24/01/2017 #5 Todd Jones
    @Cyndi wilkins, this is an absolutely superb tribute to your father. That picture of him on his boat is splendid. In it I see the lifeblood of a man's man. Someone comfortable in his own skin, and untroubled by superficial trivialities or unnecessary drama. He just looks like a great guy.

    This is how we should remember those close to us. Not bearing witness to endless days of pointless suffering. Not deflecting tearful requests to fetch a gun because, even with morphine, the pain is intolerable.

    Five states currently have laws that support Death with Dignity. It's time for the other 45 to reverse the vile rules that demand a departure from this world that is often nothing short of Draconian misery.
    Cyndi wilkins
    24/01/2017 #4 Cyndi wilkins
    Thank you @debasish majumder, @Pascal Derrien, @Max๐Ÿ J. Carter, @Sara Jacobovici, @Todd Jones and @Maria Luquero Vila...I appreciate your finding this article relevant. I know there has been some buzzing going around about "tags" and their relevance...But the past two articles I have posted have such enormous significance to my well-being right now that I am feeling a very strong urge to reach out in gratitude to those have been moved by it...My apologies if anyone finds "tagging" cumbersome;-) @Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher...thought you might like this one too;-)
    debasish majumder
    04/01/2017 #3 debasish majumder
    lovely share @Cyndi wilkins! enjoyed read. thank you for the share.
    Sara Jacobovici
    04/01/2017 #2 Sara Jacobovici
    You will value the time it takes to read @Cyndi wilkins' story.
    Sara Jacobovici
    04/01/2017 #1 Sara Jacobovici
    Dear @Cyndi wilkins, I am reaching out across cyberspace to give you a hug. I am blown away by you...your ability to write and communicate the difficult "stuff", your feelings, insights and smarts! From one daughter to another, from heart to heart, I will add my voice to those who have already written you that you have honoured your father through the telling of this story. Time is always mentioned at times like this and so it is. From your title and throughout your story, you weave time through. The one that is staying with me right now is, ....these "moments" are all lived simultaneously in the libraries of our minds. Time itself is all "ONE" moment."

    Wishing you a time to grieve, Cyndi. I don't doubt that you have the strength.
  2. Lada ๐Ÿก Prkic
    Help others and doors shall open for you without even expecting them to ever open.

    A gem from the pen of @Ali Anani
    Lada ๐Ÿก Prkic
    The Death of My Brother, but not his great lesson
    www.linkedin.com My brother Eng. Azzam passed away fifteen years ago at the age of 47 suffering from brain cancer. I still remember him walking in my office shortly before his death walking in my office with a...
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    Ali Anani
    19/08/2016 #11 Ali Anani
    #9 You shall remain one of my closest brain and heart friends dear @Milos Djukic
    Ali Anani
    19/08/2016 #10 Ali Anani
    #7 A warm heart that doesn't break even if we throw chilled water on it. Yoi are very human @Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    Milos Djukic
    18/08/2016 #9 Anonymous
    One of my all time favorite posts @Lada ๐Ÿก Prkic. Once again thank you very much dear Ali @Ali Anani for this gem..
    Donald Grandy
    18/08/2016 #8 Donald Grandy
    Great post @Lada ๐Ÿก Prkic. Thank you for sharing this heart felt story, Helping others is the key to many doors..
    Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    18/08/2016 #7 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    "Help others and doors shall open for you without even expecting them to ever open." ~ This true story truly needs no prose, font, or 'Bold' to make it ring alive. It sinks and sails to the words my father taught us, as he told of giving his jacket off his own back to a homeless man at the railroad track. He just couldn't walk away, or look past. He had to act. "Act." Your brother "Acted" and showed true "Love." And there is nothing that conquers All better than true love. Thank you for sharing such a personal and profound accounting, one that I will share with you every July 5th, as I remember Love that Still lives. For you, your brother, my father, and the anonymous man with big, big eyes.
    Ali Anani
    15/08/2016 #6 Ali Anani
    That is the key wisdom- doors open when most needed and to the point you are @Lada ๐Ÿก Prkic
    Ali Anani
    15/08/2016 #5 Ali Anani
    Thanks dears @Sara Jacobovici and @Deb ๐Ÿ Helfrich. And you are spot on, Deb
    Lada ๐Ÿก Prkic
    15/08/2016 #4 Lada ๐Ÿก Prkic
    #1 I had to share this, @Ali Anani! As Milos Djukic commented, any further words are superfluous.

    I have only to add that my husband did similar thing as your late brother, and the door opened when it was most needed.
    Deb ๐Ÿ Helfrich
    15/08/2016 #3 Deb ๐Ÿ Helfrich
    A very touching story about giving and letting the receiving occur when it will, @Ali Anani
    Sara Jacobovici
    15/08/2016 #2 Sara Jacobovici
    Great share @Lada ๐Ÿก Prkic. Thank you.
    Ali Anani
    15/08/2016 #1 Ali Anani
    I am deeply grateful for your sharing this particular post dear @Lada ๐Ÿก Prkic. Thank you isn't enough