- Producer14/10/2016Toxic and destructive people and why I am "missing"The last and next few days are so busy that I cannot spend as much time as I would love to and honor your valuable and often thought-provoking honey. I am doing my best. The last days, I also felt a bit sad and troubled. It happens to the most...
Comments16/10/2016 #58 CityVP ManjitWhen I look at cults I often see the empath attracted by the narcissist because the narcissist has learned to use emotional intelligence findings about human beings as a manipulation of highly empathetic human beings. Later in such groupings where sexual abuse is discovered within the group, a state of denial may exist except in those empaths whose eyes have been opened by pain - that who they trusted and placed their face in was an incarnate of evil, a monster of a human being.
This is where "real life" is about awakening to truths, while facing those truths must not make us lose faith in the idea of humanity. The cold blooded human being will treat emotion as a manipulation rather than a divine gift and those that are most human have emotional energy flowing in abundance - and when that energy is betrayed, when it has been debased and corrupted, they suffer a further emotional wounding - a wounding of trust and faith in people that was most natural to them.
For those who advocate simply forgiveness for emotional scars that will never heal, they are advocates who do not possess high emotional resonance and sensitivity to life that is a felt experience and more importantly they have not experienced even a fraction of 1% of the pain felt by those whose emotions are remain human skin rather than a suit of armor.
This narcissism is just one example of the toxic. David Foster Wallace faced a cynical and self-interest filled world that he never came to terms with, http://pangeaprogress.blogspot.ca/2015/10/david-foster-wallace-on-toxic.html In facing the real, our memories repeat many times, while the offender only needed to cut us once and often not even realize the wound so inflicted.15/10/2016 #51 Mamen Delgado#50 Yes Aurorasa, to admit our potential to grow and the willing to change is the first and essential step to a new life. I have travelled that road, I'm not the one I used to be, so I do know that change is possible as you say at the beginning of your email. It's a bit easier if we find a reason, a powerful reason, to go through that journey.
I found that reason in my oldest daughter. Powerful enough to swim down to darkness and deal with my inner little girl.
I was lucky, still I am, because Life gave that beautiful opportunity to live another life in this one. But not everybody has the chance, or finds his/her POWERFUL reason. And no one can do it for them.15/10/2016 #50 Aurorasa Sima#49 I bet you´d be a great coach with your love for people and live. That was not a coaching client, he offered to do some other work for me. You´re right once more: the people who would need you most will not come.
It´s positive people that admit their potential to grow and are willing to change.15/10/2016 #49 Mamen DelgadoI really admire your job @Aurorasa Sima, some friends tell me I should have studied Coaching or something related to Emotional Therapy but I always think I couldn't deal with negativity and with people I see clearly they don't want to change, it's easier for them to keep in the dark side or in the "poor of me" way of being.
By the way... The best cheese for pizza is clearly grana padano!!! LOL!! 😂15/10/2016 #47 Aurorasa Sima#46 Yes, there is. I told a negative person, respectful and polite, that I do not want to work with them. They then flipped out and started actions that come close to criminal offenses. You´d pity them if they were not targeting you.
It´s just not nice to see crazy up-close or to be forced to deal with negativity. These people are obviously not well. But they overstrain my patience when it comes to my willingness to help.15/10/2016 #46 Robert CormackWe all deal with destructive people, Aurorasa, even when we think we've made "friends." A few years back, I took a serious look at my friendships over the last 40 years. Some have remained around that long. What surprised me was how many had taken our relationship for granted all that time. So I took a lesson from someone who said, "Sometimes even the best of friendships need to be laid to rest." The ones I decided to "lay to rest" probably don't even know. If you don't call them, nothing happens. But I also discovered I don't miss them. I made room for other people, some good, some bad. I've actually made some friendships that are far more rewarding. My novel would never have gotten done without the help of what I'll call "new friends." They've shown themselves to be smart, loyal and incredibly insightful. There's always hope, in other words.
- 23/09/2016Have been re-reading that one, brutally honest from @John White, MBA
Not sure what would I do what would you do?Daddy, Did You Get Fired From Your Job?www.inc.com It's in moments like these that we get the gut checks we need to be able to solve our greatest challenges in...
Comments24/09/2016 #7 CityVP ManjitExperiencing job loss does not end or begin with a termination, the fear of job loss is a pervasive one that manifests itself in all organizations. This article is an important contribution in a much wider cameo that covers before, during and after. All of this can be debilitating, thankfully human beings are natural storytellers - this faculty of our psychology is what enlightens us. John White does also happen to be a very good storyteller and thus there is much to identify in this particular story, as a part of an even bigger picture that now we can all intelligently share, even without John's well crafted skills as a writer.24/09/2016 #6 David B. GrinbergThank you, again, @John White, MBA for sharing your incredibly inspirational story. I think you nailed it with this line: "With hard work and perseverance truly anything is possible." I would add "faith" into the mix, but perhaps that's just a given. Your story reminds me of that saying: When one door closes, a new door opens." You deserve many accolades, John, for walking through those new doors and truly triumphing in the wake of uncertainty. You are a role model and inspiration for us all, sir!
- 11/09/2016On September 11th, my business partner was already on the way to Vancouver for a trip in Seattle, while I was awoken after a late night at 10am with my family saying that I have to come down and watch what was happening in New York. It was a very surreal day, with no one knowing for sure what was happening or why it was happening, but my first instinct was to go to my Fast Company discussion board and simply do what I always do, which is write out my thoughts, and this is the buzz I share, those words as I watched the horror begin to unfold on television and the only thing I near for sure that was a day of terrible infamy. I named the post "Terrorism's Worst Hour".
- Producer04/09/2016Distraction isn't curiosity"Squirrel" Many of us are familiar and have quoted this line from the movie Up, which Dug was predisposed to say. We call it distraction. Is it really dissociation?Let me share a story with you. A few years ago when I was still a carpenter, we had a...
Comments05/09/2016 #5 CityVP Manjit#4 Excellent. Reading this buzz has given me a greater appreciation for "little T Trauma's", as you say we remember the big trauma's but I have become mindful here of all the small moments that our body registers but which we think we have moved on from - and as you say unless the body releases it, it accumulates - and that accumulation is what struck me most as insightful. Thank you.05/09/2016 #4 Leckey Harrison#2 Any time you have questions, since trauma healing is my field, I'm happy to answer. There are Big "T" traumas: everyone remembers where they were on 9/11. Being mugged. Car accidents. Deaths. Then there are little "t" traumas. The stuff of life like being fired, having to move, and so on. I look at the middle two letters of PTSD equally as meaning "traumatizing chronic stress" as well as Big "T" traumatic stress. Yes, unless the body releases it (which is what I tech people how to do) it accumulates. It creates illness and disease, and, trauma does not get better with time. Hope that helps!05/09/2016 #2 CityVP ManjitI have been wondering about this meme of the "Squirrel" that I have seen over the last few weeks at beBee and this is the first time I found that it is from the movie UP. First thing is I will need to watch that movie, but more importantly this buzz was very insightful, especially the line
QUOTE: ["Instead he got distracted by his own emotional state and a need to gain approval, and dug his hole even deeper.]END QUOTE
What was particularly insightful about this is it help me re-evaluate what trauma is, that in addition to the deep trauma, there must subtle trauma's that accumulate into getting distracted by one's emotional state. By subtle trauma I am wondering whether a bunch of tiny effects can accumulate over many years leaving us that much insecure about life and leading to a need to gain approval?
- Producer24/08/2016STEVEN WAS IN MY REAL WORLDMy brother Steven sadly passed away on the 12th of August. In my last two blog posts I opened my heart to you as a community, relating to the sad news I received about my brother being diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. The past month hands down has...
Comments31/08/2016 #7 Ali AnaniI know exactly how you feel dear @CityVP Manjit because I suffered from the loss of a young brother. In these difficult times we need to swallow bitterness and I am sure you have so many great memories that shall keep your brother vivid in your memory. I share your difficult times and i hope our sympathy with you will help you to endure these difficult times.24/08/2016 #4 Andrew Porter@Nicholas Fester my sincerest condolences to you and your family, and I reiterate what Pamela says this is one heck of a tribute to a loved one, this bought back memories of When My Dad was diagnosed with cancer less than a month later he had passed away, the road of life has some very cruel twists and turns along the way, but we grow from our inner strength and endevour to forge forward, but never a day goes by When we do not remember our loved ones and all the good we times had with Them, take heart That you are not alone in your time of grief.24/08/2016 #3 CityVP ManjitYou follow a life approach that I have great affinity with, to me work and the external things of life are secondary to family and the bonds of home. I look at the photo of your brother and see kindness and great humanity writ large into his eyes and his face.
In reading your words and I see that you were there for him and in an equally solemn way I see the grace that is etched all over Steven's picture. I am humbled to read this account because as you said your brothers heart remained pure and this account is also pure, for that alone shows me great brotherly love.
Your work may involve being a pastor, but this time is yours to be Nicholas, and so my condolences to your family and to you Nicholas for also being a truly great brother to Steve.24/08/2016 #1 Pamela L. Williams@Nicholas Fester this has to be one of the best tributes to a lost loved one that I have ever read. I could feel the love you had for your brother and the sadness. It just not enough to say; I'm sorry for your loss. 1996 was the year I lost my only 'big' brother (I have 2 younger) but there's something about a big brother. Just know that we the Bees are here for you whenever you want to be on social media. Sometimes you can share here what you can't to those around you. We're here! My deepest heartfelt condolences to you and your family.
- 09/08/2016Do you want to know how to play guitar ? Just see thisJimi Hendrix Experience - Purple Haze Live (1967) Purple...
Comments10/08/2016 #4 Tony BrandstetterIn 1968 I was 8 years old, one day we went to visit my cousin who played in a band. As we got out of the car I heard this music coming from the house, it was loud, very loud. We discovered Danny was playing Fire by Jimi, my first taste of rock and roll and I have never looked back. Move over Rover and let Jimi take over....
- Producer13/08/2016BeautifulThe plan was to shame her, to destroy her life, to create disgust and fear, and spend her life as an outcast. The acid on her face would consume her, as the rage consumed her attacker. When we made a decision spend some time with acid burn victims,...
Comments13/08/2016 #10 CityVP ManjitThe key paragraph for me was
"They are heroes because they have refused to be silent. Through right action they have made it difficult for acid to be sold on the streets, they have successfully lobbied for tougher laws, and got laws enacted where none existed. They have put their attackers behind bars"
Like Rosenberg I see a hero here who refuses to be a victim and is getting laws changed, and is making sure that people who do this are duly held to account and the guilty sent to jail. The WSJ report details a news story about SIngapore and here the focus is psychological violence http://blogs.wsj.com/indonesiarealtime/2013/05/28/study-most-singaporeans-wouldnt-help-domestic-violence-victims/ - this story has the same foundation - a photo with victim crossed out and and replaced by victor. We do not need to live heroic lives, the heroes who become victors are heroes because this involves change that is both compassionate but also courageous.
All of that shows me that this is not just a shelter for victims, this is a movement towards change.13/08/2016 #8 Savvy RajThank you for sharing this Paul Rosenberg My deepest respects for these brave hearts. Have reshared this post on Life and Living as I think it truly projects their inner strength in living life in this now, braving and rising beyond these unexpected circumstances and not just existing.13/08/2016 #7 Aurorasa Sima#4 I had to leave my home country after 8 years of violence and abuse by a sick "man". My biggest struggle was not spoiling my soul by wishing it dead. There were times I woke up with the thought it should die, I thought it throughout the day and it was my last thought before I went to sleep. Even as a victim I would never condone death penalties. I´d put them all away, far away from society, where they cannot harm anyone. The real problem is the society, though. It´s like killing the flies swarming a rotten apple without removing the apple.13/08/2016 #2 Dean OwenAbsolutely horrific. I'd heard there were a few cafes and even a hair salon that only employed acid burn victims. Something needs to be done asap. I would condone the death penalty for this despicably evil act. Thanks for sharing this superb buzz. You are clearly someone we need to follow (and I don't mean just on beBee!).
- Producer13/08/2016ON TODAY'S BATON ROUGE WEATHERHurricane Gustav "The barrier islands of Louisiana are eroding at an extreme rate. In places up to 100 feet of shoreline are disappearing every year. Though it has long been assumed that this erosion was due to the area's rapid rate of relative sea...
Comments25/08/2016 #51 Gerald Hecht#48 @Lisa Gallagher The first time I experienced those conditions (after Hurricane Katrina), it was pretty much a state of panic. The second time (after Hurricane Gustav), our house literally blew apart; that was a pretty much a state of numb shock, followed fairly quickly by getting down to the necessary logistics, lots of learning, and a subsequent marital thingie. This time --its personal; this was not a natural disaster. This was an unnatural disaster, and not one that happened "somewhere else", where depending upon the media outlet providing the information, it's fairly easy to stick with the "spin" which best fits one's political, environmental, and philosophical perspective. This time I could see how the delta plain was turned into Swiss cheese, or put through a paper shredder; the bizarre, erratic, and extreme magnitude of "backwater flooding" laid the truth bare; the damage to the wetlands, the overkill (in the number of man made canals) for shipping purposes by known industrial interests no longer lives in the realm of political debate, or debating the merits of generating revenue versus concern for the environment; all of that is transformed by a mystical alchemy when you are swimming in it, and seeing water rising up through the holes in the Swiss cheese.24/08/2016 #46 Gerald Hecht#44 @Mamen Delgado at least I got that piece posted about what the backwater flooding was going to do (because of how much of the delta has disintegrated) two days before it actually happened. That's the best I could do;the flood had already "happened", but I knew what was coming in a few days because of the "Louisiana Boot"; and then it came24/08/2016 #45 Gerald Hecht#43 @Lisa Gallagher it's so frustrating because despite all of the myriad ways of communicating we have at our disposal; I was trapped inside without power or food for a couple of days which makes me so fortunate, like a 1%er compared to so many thousands around here and it feels like "the world still isn't fully aware of what is going on24/08/2016 #43 Lisa Gallagher@Gerald Hecht, this is very disturbing to read about. I wish the media would focus more on disasters like this (even if it's not coined one) because it's much more relevant than who's running for Prez and their ratings. We are talking about many humans living in conditions that are unlivable, without food, mold growing which causes illnesses and no solutions in sight because we all know more hurricanes will hit once again. I'm sorry that you, your neighbors and everyone affected is suffering in one way or another. I think people would pay more attention to humanity as a whole if we talked about it more and focused on solutions rather than the media neglecting people who really need help. Getting the word out and keeping the news alive about the good, bad and ugly taking place helps (I think?) to motivate many to find ways to help their brothers and sisters.17/08/2016 #42 Gerald Hecht#39 @Franci Eugenia Hoffman That's good; I think that is the argument I was making; I wrote that comment after 48 hours without sleep; (after which) I fell asleep immediately after writing it. I just woke up and reread it, and in all honesty I didn't understand it; I didn't really remember writing it... I think that your summary is exactly the sentiment I was trying to express. Thank you so much; more importantly, thank you for for your empathic and kind thoughts, feelings and support.17/08/2016 #41 Gerald Hecht#40 @Wayne Yoshida Thank you so much for your kind support, and the HAM Radio volunteers; it is greatly appreciated! Information has (again) become a bit spotty; a curfew has been put in place in Baton Rouge starting tonight (Tuesday, August 16, 2016); because of various looting and armed robberies last night.17/08/2016 #40 Wayne Yoshida@Gerald Hecht - Hard to find the proper words since we are so far away. But I am praying for you and your family and all the people out there in Lousiana.
There are some organizations reaching out, but weather may be too heavy for the responders. Here is a story about ham radio volunteers gearing up for possible deployment. But - the article reminds people - they must not "self-deploy" - sometimes good-hearted volunteers get in the way of the professionals. And, they should be taking care of their own families first.
http://www.arrl.org/news/amateur-radio-volunteers-responding-to-louisiana-flooding-catastrophe16/08/2016 #39 Franci Eugenia Hoffman#38 Okay, O brilliant one. I pulled this portion out of your comment " The existential question facing each of is: Do we surrender into despair, into a futile search for a wise one who will redeem us" Nope, IMO
"or do we integrate it into its rightful perspective:" escape and continue on our journey, in the company of those we hold most dear through the blizzard (in the snow globe) to our warm, candle lit camaraderie in the warm glow of loving friendship" Yes, IMO16/08/2016 #38 Gerald Hecht#37 @Franci Eugenia Hoffman I understand what it was you were referring to...in Kafka's time, it would have been surrealistic fiction (ala, "The Castle"...now --it really is the "snow globe" in which our entire existence Is contained. This isn't "a negative spin on "the news"; it's simply --the news. The existential question facing each of is: Do we surrender into despair, into a futile search for a wise one who will redeem us...or do we integrate it into its rightful perspective: "Here We are, enjoying seeing ourselves on the Jumbotron on Times Square", then, freeing ourselves from that whimsical moment of capture --escape and continue on our journey, in the company of those we hold most dear through the blizzard (in the snow globe) to our warm, candle lit comraderie in the warm glow of loving friendship...16/08/2016 #35 Gerald Hecht#34 @Franci Eugenia Hoffman they keep getting us out of here...but there's no place to go for very long; if you can find the buzz with me and @CityVP Manjit --this is the real story: https://medium.com/matter/louisiana-loses-its-boot-b55b3bd52d1e#.xdqiuzp4k
The "boot of Louisiana" is "Swiss cheese"15/08/2016 #33 Gerald Hecht#32 @Franci Eugenia Hoffman so horrible; my downstairs neighbors had to leave; the floors were getting wet; helicopters everywhere; I can't drive out cause the thoroughfares are under, the governor is speaking; I'm trying to find out if I need to leave...these things just run a person down, Katrina, Rita, Gustav... I can't even keep track now this --he just said the water is still rising. Gustav blew our house apart and Baton Rouge wasn't supposed to evacuate; that's why I wrote this; it happened because Southern Louisiana is disintegrating ; I updated it; the text in green shows what's happening; people around the country probably think this is over...it's actually getting worse. I hope you all take care.
- Producer26/07/2016OSMOSIS OF CHANGE!Once a Project leader made a promise to his associates, that if you all sincerely serve me to assist in my aspiration and after I may succeed, I am promising you, I will give you the share of profits as reward to you all. Accordingly, his...
Comments23/08/2016 #10 DILMA BALBI -Contratos e Gestãothanks for sharing such inspirated ideas @debasish majumder.
I do also wonder if humility is not the "power".. the "tool" of perseverance.When I am not superior to the others I am able to really see then and I can open door" to sake of humanity only, not just for profit, lucre and wealth".. .. Those thoughts came to my mind after reading your beatifull buzz.27/07/2016 #6 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD#1 #2 #3 #4 "By the name of disgraceful ideology and fanatic religious beliefs, or expansion of market with unrestrained greed and hankering for profits and opulence, untoward incidents are in rise." This is perfectly exemplified by a Share from @Chas Wyatt View more#1 #2 #3 #4 "By the name of disgraceful ideology and fanatic religious beliefs, or expansion of market with unrestrained greed and hankering for profits and opulence, untoward incidents are in rise." This is perfectly exemplified by a Share from @Chas Wyatt, which inspired me to go produce more honey for more flavor. To this end, and philosophically (Dr. Anani shall be proud), I confabulated the word "Dysreality" in this piece, a living plant of this planted, deep piece. It is here for you and your kids, to keep them under their lids: https://www.bebee.com/producer/@margaret-aranda/dysreality-the-dysfunction-of-reality . Let me also show our same mindset, @debasish majumder by showing serendipity. A "Perseverance" Quote,attributed to me via Google and Goodreads (and not through me), uses this same picture to say: “Persevere. There is one dandelion that grows from the crack in the cement. Let that one dandelion be YOU.” Close27/07/2016 #3 Franci Eugenia HoffmanThis is a brilliant piece @debasish majumder. I always narrow down what I read into my own simple thoughts, perhaps because during my position as an underwriter that was a requirement - simple and factual. So please don't be offended by my summation. From reading your post more than once, I feel there are people are very much into "what's in it for me" rather than "what can I do for you". And you last sentence "So, change for the sake of humanity only, not just for profit, lucre and wealth." Bravo!27/07/2016 #1 Ali AnaniGreat thoughts and condensed ones too. One very important issue that you bring here is the past experiences. The story is illuminating in the sense even though we can't change the past still it has it residues in us and these residues trigger our action. Can we change without dealing with past residues such as removing them? Understanding them and dealing with them accordingly? Convert them so that they may trigger new behaviors? Use them to widen our choices? So many questions pop up in my mind at this late hour of the night. Thank you dear @debasish majumder for sharing this great post
- Producer05/07/2016BIZARRE PHILOSOPHY OF CRIME!Crimes are myriad, big and small Like high tide and low tide Attracts few to cause mayhem Annihilate many without any reason to blame A trajectory, should condemned vehemently, no acclaim Stringent should be action against all...
Comments01/08/2016 #12 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD#9 #1 #3 #4 #7 Do let us leave 'religion' aside for a moment, and ponder the quandery of this scenario: I had just thrown my graduation cap up in the air, USC alumni now, no excitement to spare! And POOF! My first patient was in the Jail Ward and the hard, 'real' world upset all my heart. My first patient held his girlfriend hostage at the butt of a gun, placed to her head for hours after dreaded hours. Finally, the LAPD gunned him down. At 19 years old, I walked in on this human that I was bound, by the Hippocratic Oath, to 'heal.' He was now a quadraplegic, no movement but could feel every needle stick every morning I had to draw from his atrophied right arm. He shed real tears, begging me, "No! Not again! Please, no, I beg" whenever my white coat walked in filled instead with blood. He expressed great sorrow, for now his todays were the same as all his tomorrows. My struggle inside went from rage, < outrage, < outrageous in the extreme for what he had done, and I never lost sight of the girlfriend he had once won. "I am forced to take care of him." That was my first thought.....until day 30 of the rotation, when I was sorry that I had to leave him. To someone else who may not care. I still think of him every day. / ...and now I'll bring my religion in to say, that also, I pray.25/07/2016 #9 Charles David Upchurch#1 @Jeet Sarkar you wrote that "[what] hurts the most is that brutal activity of the criminals. Truly, criminals have no religion. Humanity is a term which those criminals hate, i think so. They are inhuman."
While I understand the pain of other victims of crime (having repeatedly suffered both property and violent crimes), I believe that you, and @debasish majumder and at least a billion other human beings have all lost your way in dehumanizing abnormal, aberrant, and anti-social behavior.
We are ALL people, human beings. NONE of us is always without fault. Part of our growth from the innocence of babies is that we make mistakes while learning how we should and should not treat one another in our families, our communities, and the greater world. Some learn from fewer mistakes how and why to be kind to one another. Others, because their most basic needs have not been met, or because they missed some important lessons along the way about the value of EVERY person (including themselves) make more mistakes which harm others. A VERY small percentage (perhaps 1/10 of one percent) are genuinely social psychopaths, meaning that they lack the emotional intelligence to recognize the humanity of others (no matter how many mistakes they could otherwise have learned from) and to simply CARE about others more than just themselves. Yet no matter how inhumanely a person thinks and feels, even the most abhorrent actions must honestly be acknowledged as a [small and very dark] part of what it means to be a human being. As @Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD was suggesting, below, the answer relies on us accepting everyone's humanity while also rejecting inhumane behaviors.25/07/2016 #8 Charles David Upchurch#7 @Ray Looker, I am not an expert, but that doesn't sound right. It also doesn't sound to me like respectful and civil discourse. If you are to make such a vociferous assertion, I would kindly ask you to state your historical (not simply religious) references for that claim. Thank you, sir.24/07/2016 #6 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD#3 #4 We should not be looking to outside people or forces to change the tide. We need to look within ourselves, and live true to our God even at the mercy of a terrorist. We love minute-by-minute, 100% pure. "All it takes for evil to reign is for one good man to do nothing." ~ Albert Einstein06/07/2016 #4 Jean L. Serio, CPC, CMCAnother thought-provoking post, @debasish majumder which dives deep into todays unfortunate - and often unspeakable - issues. With so many questions to ponder, answers to consider, I wonder if they will be answered in my lifetime. I ask the same question as @Anees Zaidi - will the Millennials take up the gauntlet and make the changes necessary in the world?06/07/2016 #2 INDU RANI SINGHHi devashish sir,I enjoyed ur post.I really appriciate ur examine to responsibility our society.so nice for it but I want say something about ur post image...teachers always learnt how to grow myself?
without love any nouns &adjective r not safe.....but actually they
alive.& daily face to living movement.this is realty so we couldn't give them same answer .06/07/2016 #1 Jeet SarkarWith the development of the society, i think we are actually moving backward instead of moving forward. Racism and discrimination based on religion has nowadays become very common, which is very unfair. But which hurts the most is that brutal activity of the criminals. Truly, criminals have no religion. Humanity is a term which those criminals hate, i think so. They are inhuman. However, thank you for the post sir. enjoyed reading.
- Producer23/06/2016Otto Dix: When Ambivalence Has No EquivalenceI have the option to work from home or from the office when it suits me, when I am in the company building one of my habits at lunch time is to grab a paper and read a couple of articles over my salad and favourite granola yoghurt. Last month that I...
Comments25/07/2016 #27 Don KerrI too just came upon this post and am so glad to have found it. Like @Dean Owen I have been missing your missives here. Perhaps it is the lack of Irish lilt I find lacking with other writers;) @Pascal Derrien Regardless, the Otto Dix story was clearly waiting there for you to be picked up and although his images are grim they are visceral and truthful unlike some wartime art which was used to glorify battle. Thanks for illuminating this aspect of history. Will share.25/07/2016 #26 CityVP ManjitHaving finished reading this I simply needed to know more and as I found a Guardian article that satisfied this curiosity https://www.theguardian.com/artanddesign/2014/may/14/first-world-war-german-art-otto-dix more is what I got. This helped me understand the role of Dada, the connection to German War Artists and the difference between English War Poets.
I got a sense of a highly patriotic man who was curious about war and on realizing the reality and brutality of it, shared his psyche of that which drove other war artists mad - I am sure a part of this is self-preservation of Dix's mental state, otherwise to keep such horror in one's head is a recipe for madness or suicide. That he also survived the Nazi's who were very much aware of his "degenerate" art only makes Dix even more fascinating to me.
The guardian article provided me with intro's to the world of George Grosz and I quickly understood from reading that Otto Dix was living his art, whereas another painter Max Beckermann is more representative of art movements. In this regard I identify with Otto Dix as I have already identified with Henri Matisse - in the case of Matisse I enjoyed his originality and humility, which is quite a contrast to the ego and extrovertly admired and loved Picasso.
Even though I only have this and the Guardian article to go by, I can see in Otto Dix an extraordinarily honest being, maybe initially naive enough to be seduced by patriotic callings to fight a war that took war into an even uglier mechanized dimension. That it took only 21 years for the world to make the same mistake twice tells me that very few paid attention to Otto Dix's hellish warning. I am not sure that global leaders still identify with this for global leaders won't risk their own children where there is hell.24/06/2016 #19 Ken BoddieNot often, @Pascal Derrien, that we stumble by chance across something that tugs at our emotions. This picture paints a thousand words, telling of the woeful reality of war - blood, guts and all. Thanks for sharing, and for reminding us that when we ignore history it has a nasty habit of repeating itself.24/06/2016 #15 Joanna HofmanAwesome post, Pascal. I understand your point, yes, our path to knowledge is more about our personal journey than university education. I graduated two universities but a real journey to the knowladge has started after graduation. Thank you for this wonderful piece of share...23/06/2016 #13 Deb HelfrichVery Hieronymous Bosch, as well as the comparison to Goya. Thanks for sharing what you learned, @Pascal Derrien, because this is an interesting case study in how the art - the images - stand the test of time, while the words that were said back then about him seem old of place and wrong based on our future perspectives.
- Producer20/07/2016They say time is medicine ; I now believe it's a mythIf time were medicine it would heal our wounds but no amount of time could ever make us not miss you dada.You are missed so badly ; my heart can't explain how much, each day I wake up I wish you were still there.To tell us where we're lacking and...
Comments23/07/2016 #9 CityVP Manjit#8 Dear @Fatima Williams, you and @Sara Jacobovici honour your respective fathers immensely by being beautiful souls, for no parent wants to see their children in a state of hurt but in a state of blessing. That is the reality of love, we all know love when the magnitude of love quakes within our own heart - and my intention here is not to awaken that hurt but to show how awaken that love is within you both - for it is this awakened state that showers strength into the life we have and hence become the substance of winged blessings. For sure our time provides us more gifts than simply the photograph but our hearts contain the gifts that a greater relationship gave us. Now as I absorb the meaning of the love you express, this is what enriches me in my own life - and this the grounded reality of how we choose to interact in this virtual space - that the gifts we find in that are more precious than success. Did you lose a father or did you win love? If winning is society's chief credo this is the only kind of winning I want to seek.23/07/2016 #8 Fatima Williams#7 Thank you @Sara Jacobovici . I'm guessing the scar can never heal, I'm going to look at this as a tatoo that remains with me till the end. And I admire what @CityVP Manjit has graciously mentioned in the comments below, on how we can create an online virtual space where loved one's can come and visit and pay respects online. Where my unborn children or family in the near future can reminisce the memories of our loved ones. This is absolutely, a brilliant thing and I wish my parents had done the same, it would have helped connect with my grand parents whom I hardly remember as they had partrd when I was very young.23/07/2016 #7 Sara JacoboviciI felt and heard your words coming straight from the heart @Fatima Williams. It's been 20 years for me since my father passed away. I miss him today as much as the day he passed but the wound is a separate experience. I find that each year a layer of scar tissue covers the wound. It just makes breathing easier when I do miss him. Wishing you all the best Fatima.22/07/2016 #4 CityVP ManjitThe online space has opened up for creating memories of loved one's that have passed https://www.everplans.com/articles/the-top-10-online-memorial-websites View moreThe online space has opened up for creating memories of loved one's that have passed https://www.everplans.com/articles/the-top-10-online-memorial-websites and here memory capsules as a hive serves to do the same thing. My view is that personal space is not just about our work life, it is the expression of life. As time passes and the virtual world merges with the physical one, spaces where loved one's can come and visit and pay respects online will become far greater in form than it is now.
The stories of Philip Clinton Williams live within you and this is where I differentiate between sharing as publishing and a life shared. This is also a very delicate line because it involves highly emotional aspects of our life - and in a world driven largely by marketers and professionals one cannot assume that people who have used advantage as a strategy, have the same motivation as those who genuinely read obituaries.
I do read obituaries because the best one's give me a sense of life. Since often I do not know these families or people, I am free respect human life as a human being. I also read these obituaries because I want to be intelligent about grief, and there are myths about grief that we are not cognoscente of and if a part of life is increasing our intelligence about mortality. There is great reverence in the one thing that we all have a commonality with. At the same time I also note that the spiritual also contains ego.
We continue to treat social and business networks from the view of connection - but affinity is far greater than that. I want to understand my relationship with grief, just as writing this buzz provides comfort for you and can be highly cathartic in that regard. Affinity needs to be as close to authenticity and the heart as possible, and that in it self inspires in us greater intelligence. Close22/07/2016 #3 Anees ZaidiThank you dear @Fatima Williams for remembering me on such an emotional moment. Neither I met you nor I met your father. But I see your dad in you. I know he was kind like you, he was loving and caring like you. The change is inevitable - sooner or later this has to happen. The best we can do is to put our steps in the shoes of our loving parents and continue their journey. May God bless you with all His bounties and give your dad a place in the Heaven.
- 17/07/2016Andrew Gold died in 2011 from heart failure at the age of 59. In 1976 he attained a hit with Lonely Boy. He denied it was about his own life even though the dates in the song match facts known about him. Later on he said it may be about him but not in the way anyone would think. Whatever the story behind the song, when I was 15, this was one of the saddest songs I had heard other than Terry Jacks Season in the Sun which I found way more haunting especially when that release came the year I became a teenager. Both songs are unique and highly memorable, especially anyone who was around when it was released.Andrew Gold - Lonely Boy From his 1976 album "What's Wrong With This Picture?" (There are actually 32 things wrong with the picture. http://www.classroomtools.com/wronglst.htm...
- 24/06/2016NOTE: You may get PTSD if you are disabled with an Invisible Illness that took a long time to diagnose. You may find this to be quite healing.
How do these Youth know how we really feel inside when we suffer trauma, are disabled, or have an Invisible Illness?
How do they just KNOW?Paralyzed (NF) lyrics lyric video for Paralyzed by NF. I don't make many of these but I decided to since you guys love it when I share music that I know you can relate to. this...
Comments22/07/2016 #27 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD"#23 #22 Yes, it is an Invisible World, and there are Invisible Children, Invisible Youth, Invisible Professionals like me who are reduced to being bedridden; Invisible Vets, Invisible Homeless, Invisible Home-Bound with no family or friends to bring them milk or bread. Not even for their own nieces. We all need to be fed. So increasing awareness is #1, and thank you for keeping us inspired by knowing that we have touched one: you.22/07/2016 #25 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD#21 Yes, it is a journey but isn't it so nice when someone else understands it exactly perfectly? I'm still struggling with how these kids could think of this song, these words.. this Passion....as they are all young and healthy. It is a gift, indeed, and comforting to know that No One is Alone.14/07/2016 #22 CityVP Manjit#21 Dear Kirstie I am reading honest accounts from honest people and you are teaching me much about a part of life I had never been exposed to. Your voice is important because when I now Google I begin to see articles that never caught my attention such as this one by NPR http://www.npr.org/2015/03/08/391517412/people-with-invisible-disabilities-fight-for-understanding You and Margaret are making us see.14/07/2016 #21 Kirstie-Sweetie Louise Summers@Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD yes this is absolutely right! It took a long time for my diagnosis and with the stress of going in and out of many GP surgery's! Finally getting a diagnosis feels great until it sinks in then you're left feeling low sometimes! You feel the PTSD with every Invisible Illness because it is not visible to anyone! It also comes in if people don't know what Invisible Illnesses are and say you are faking it! Which will also make you feel low!14/07/2016 #16 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD#10 You offer me and all of us much comfort and gratitude. Thank you for giving us hope and understanding, and believing in what we are trying to do. Because we can't do it alone. Sick people can't help sick people with everything they need. And just like Doctors without Boarders (I did Lifeflight while at Stanford up in a helicopter where no stethoscope can hear a heart beat above the shattering fan of the copter blades). It's another world, but one that we hope to impart so that the empathy and plight is shared with those who are better equipped to actually help. Thank you. Your comments go a very, very long way.14/07/2016 #15 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD#9 I'm so sorry, it is hard to know what to say either as a patient sufferer myself, or as a physician in Critical Care and such. Words are just not enough. I am working on bringing in some Pain doctors, and other professionals to help with some of these issues.14/07/2016 #13 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD#7 Yes, I suffered the pain, too. I was relatively obsessed with this song for weeks; I still turn back to it with that 'gut' you mention. And for all the tears I shed, it was still bittersweet but good that I wasn't the only one....and I like the tribute at the end, where they say, "You are Not Alone."14/07/2016 #12 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD#6...and this is just the version with only lyrics and no images. A more compelling video was made by several others, focusing on Troops and Veterans in war. It definitely applies, and should help families and loved ones to understand those with PTSD after war. It's all good that this young Christian group could grasp what the old eyes of our young men walk away from, after battle. I just don't know how the group knows how to write such things....a gift from God.14/07/2016 #11 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD#5 We totally understand one another, especially given the past traumas. I'm one of "those people" who actually visited the door of Heaven in a Near-Death Experience, and it's all in Chapter One of my first book, a Memoir: No More Tears: A Physician Turned Patient Inspires Recovery. I came back with several gifts that I did not have before, worthy of future Buzzes in themselves. I will say that I have the gift of Prophecy, and it's not just because I 'think' I do.....just for reassurance, I have walked up to total strangers and told them that God did not want them to commit suicide today. Every one of them broke down and crumbled, asking me how I knew...and then telling Me that I must talk to God.14/07/2016 #10 CityVP Manjit#8 This is why I think of Doctors Without Borders are doctors who relate http://www.doctorswithoutborders.org/ because here we see doctors who have transcended looking at their practice as a business and who have gone out into the world to make a difference - whereas I think most of us who are not trained in healthcare, live in fear of pandora's box - i.e. that we keep a tight lid on what we personally find uncomfortable - but when open that lid, we see the world as it is, not the world as we would like it to be or the world we feared seeing. Then the challenge for me is to recognize that is the world, not the nice comfortable one we may live in - and it is a world that Doctors Without Borders also lives in. Pandora's Box is our fear of being overwhelmed by what we do not understand, but to understand anything is to be mindfully exposed. When you addressed the turmoils of Venezuela, that exposed me to the issues in that area, here the invisible is being made visible - in appreciating invisible illness.13/07/2016 #9 mohammed khalafthat matter of paralyzed is feeling me to sad because my daughter to be exposed to accident during the battles between USA army and miltia in 2006 ,now she she is suffering from abasia of two limbs and that final report from her private doctor: 12 years old female, she is aknown case of transverse Myelitis.At time of diagnosis the physician (Neurologist) gave her acourse of ACHT (synacthen) & Baciofen. After that the physician repeat the course of treatment (Baclofen alone). Then the physician increases the dose of Baclofen , but without improvement . The patient still complaining from lower limb weakness (spastic paraparesis)&urine incontinence . lastly the physician said that (Baclofen pump) is an indication for her. Baclofen test (intrathecal Baclofen)was given ,but unfortunately ther was no responce.12/07/2016 #4 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD#3 I totally get it. I listened to this over and over again on the day I first heard it by chance, just scrolling through Christian videos on YouTube. I was pretty shattered and @Leckey Harrison View more#3 I totally get it. I listened to this over and over again on the day I first heard it by chance, just scrolling through Christian videos on YouTube. I was pretty shattered and @Leckey Harrison would appreciate my shaking, trembling sobs. I was hooked on it. Someone understood. How could they know? Honestly, how could these kids possibly jUsT .... kNoW? I don't get it. I was stuck there, in that trance of incomprehension until I realized that it was a gift. We just can't explain all that happens to and around us, but I've learned to take away the positive. For every lemon, a little lemonade is truly possible. So I force myself to believe that later on, someday, I'll know why 'this' happened. I trust in that. And over and over again, it all works together for good. Perhaps...I know what to say to help another, or I give a hug without any words being spoken. I classify that as a gift that I never would have received if I hadn't been through everything that I've been through. It all made me who I am. I wouldn't want to be anyone else, and I'm grateful for lots of things ~ the best of which is meeting someone like you, whom I otherwise never would have been here to meet. And knowing you? That's a bigger gift that is worth the price of all of the past put together. I wouldn't trade you in for anything. So, Believe. Close12/07/2016 #3 Randy Keho#2 You're right, it sparked a good deal of emotion and a few tears squeaked out. I recall that lack of feeling and perpetual questioning without answers. The dark thoughts seem to never stop.. Sleep becomes the only sanctuary, and sleep only comes from the mental exhaustion. I don't think I'll ever feel the level of joy and happiness I did before the arrival of depression more than 20 years ago. Those feelings seem foreign to me now, nothing more than a memory. At this point, it's not so much a lack of feeling as it is a feeling of trepidation. "The price I'll eventually have to pay for today's joy and happiness will be more costly than its worth when it comes due tomorrow," It's a horrible way to live. A self-fulfilling prophecy.@Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD12/07/2016 #2 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhDOn Invisible Illnesses: Asking my friends to react to this and let me know your emotions. Being a patient with multiple Invisible Illnesses, this resonated with me to the core. Warning: May trigger PTSD; may lead to crying. And crying can be a great release, as well as knowing that "Together, We Are Strong." You are not alone! @Selim Yeniçeri, @Randy Keho, @Leckey Harrison, @Gary Sharpe, @Deb Helfrich, @Lisa Gallagher, @Sara Jacobovici, @Gerald Hecht, @Elizabeth Harris, @Irene Hackett, @Mohammed A. Jawad, @Kirstie-Sweetie Louise Summers, @Pamela L. Williams, @Louise Smith, @Max Carter, @Michele Williams, @CityVP Manjit, @Neal Rauhauser, @Nick Mlatchkov, @Paul "Pablo" Croubalian, @William Rakow, @Robert Bacal, @Randy Smith, @Sujan Sivagurunathan, @Catalina Serrano, @Flavia Toro Rodriguez, @NO one, @Paul Walters, @John White, MBA, @Anees Zaidi, @Franci Eugenia Hoffman, @Ali Anani.
- Producer11/07/2016An Armed Robbery, Psychological Trauma, and My Daughter: Part IIThe apparently uncontrollable rise in the seemingly senseless violence in the United States is directly related to economics. It's not guns. It's not race.They're a hideous manifestation of the problem, but they are not the cause.There, I've...
Comments19/07/2016 #26 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD#25 WoW. Sad state of affairs on the general level in the community, and it makes me feel safer for you that the community is behind you. For certainly, you deserve it and people still have to have compassion amidst it all. I believe your Path is laid out before you, and you will continue to serve others and do a damn good job at it.15/07/2016 #25 Randy Keho#24 I'm extremely thankful for the support I've received in response to both of these buzzes. It's been a trying time, not just for my family, but for all the residents of my community. There's been no slowdown in the crime and violence. There's been a bank robbery everyday this week -- everyday! Add two murders, numerous drive-bys, and no suspects apprehended. The security videos clearly show their faces. My best friend is a retired Illinois State Police Commander, with 30 years service. He never had to draw his weapon -- not once.. Now, he's thinking of carrying a gun, again. @Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD14/07/2016 #23 Deb Helfrich@Randy Keho. I am so tremendously sorry that your daughter had to go through this horrific experience. I applaud you for sharing how this has affected her and brought you to the point of needed to write out the injustice of it all.
You are right. This is all about economics. We have plenty of money coursing through the productivity of this country. Why are we not taking a stand to see it properly allotted to each and every citizen? Every person should have the right to a living wage in exchange for a day's work.
But the crux of all the current inequity lies in this question - Why have we allowed our country to be ruled by corporations? All of the investment that should be in social programs, infrastructure, and civic governance is now tied up in a cycle of increasing shareholder value every three damn months. Let's start challenging why so very few of us are worthy of employment to begin with & so expendable when as expenses that can be jettisoned.
I have no answers, but I think a lot more questions need to be leveled at the powerful niche corporations have granted themselves.14/07/2016 #21 Randy KehoThank you for your support, Franci and Margret. That's quite the motivational speech, Margret. In regard to our leaders, France, I believe we got hoodwinked into putting too much trust into those in authority, both in business and government, and allowed them to play politics in the backroom with our futures. They don't represent us, anymore. And we can't say, "Wait a minute, that's not what we want." We just can't stop them.14/07/2016 #20 Franci Eugenia HoffmanIt's difficult for me to see and hear what is happening in this country. In addition to lack of good and honest leadership in the US, I believe you nailed it this statement: "If much greater number of people had a decent-paying job, there would be less need to rob, steal, and kill to survive and our daughters would be able to sleep well at night." Thank you for tackling a difficult topic with a superb post Randy Keho.14/07/2016 #19 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD#10 Perhaps one good place to start is self-empowerment and positive thinking, a 'cheerleading' of sorts that allows one to set their sites for the prize...even if it is not well defined. You go at it, @Randy Keho View more#10 Perhaps one good place to start is self-empowerment and positive thinking, a 'cheerleading' of sorts that allows one to set their sites for the prize...even if it is not well defined. You go at it, @Randy Keho, and keep going! You do it! What a fine example you are, and an outstanding citizen to boot! And you know what? This is my gift for you today, in hopes that it restores you and all souls who feel weathered at what life has brought them. For now. ;-). I'm giving this all that I've got: https://youtu.be/AFGWnqNf6t0 Close13/07/2016 #18 Randy KehoThank you, @Don Kerr , for your kind words. As I'm writing this, local police are searching for three bank robbers in a wooded area behind the bank. It just doesn't stop. A local man is handing out blue light bulbs for residents to use in their porch lights to show support for the police. What a great idea. @Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD @Selim Yeniçeri and Franci Eugenia Hoffman.12/07/2016 #16 Don Kerr"Let's hope that our business and governmental leaders can somehow get past their "Darwinian" views and return us to the forms of economics that led to the greatness -- before we have another civil war." AMEN @Randy Keho View more"Let's hope that our business and governmental leaders can somehow get past their "Darwinian" views and return us to the forms of economics that led to the greatness -- before we have another civil war." AMEN @Randy Keho Given the rawness of your daughter's experience and the understandable passion you must have felt, you are remarkable in your restraint and rationality. I applaud you for that and for making the time to let your voice be heard. I just watched the film The Big Short. It provided what you would hope was a fictionalized, dramatized view of the 2008 housing crisis. It was neither fiction nor drama. It was a sad statement of reality that drove people all around the world into an incessant cycle of poverty simply to create obscene wealth for a few. It appears that similar financial vehicles are reappearing to line the coffers of the already stupidly rich. It does not augur well for an outcome other than the 'Darwinian'. Close12/07/2016 #15 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD@Randy Keho: Just stopping by to let you know that many of us care. It may not seem like it, but for every one person that expresses compassion, there are 100 or 1000 more that are too embarrassed or uncomfortable to speak. So, just know that you and your family are in our prayers and you are very beloved to us here on beBee. I'm working on building a stronger internal structure of people who can speak to provide the needed human touch....and I light a candle to keep you warm and let your light continue to shine. That is my prayer for you. Amen.12/07/2016 #12 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD#3 Another unspoken yet glaring question: Where is God in all of this? Millions and billions of people are calling this scenario a Sign of The End Times ~ evil reigns despite God's Commands. This glares out: 2 Timothy 3 ~New King James Version:
Perilous Times and Perilous Men
3 But know this, that in the last days perilous times will come:
2 For men will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy,
3 unloving, unforgiving, slanderers, without self-control, brutal, despisers of good,
4 traitors, headstrong, haughty, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God,
5 having a form of godliness but denying its power.
- Producer21/06/2016A little information with a pinch of awarenessNote: By no means I am trying to offend someone or put the blame in a country, group, society or person. This article was written with information I gathered from some of my research for my thesis on the Master in Political Communication. If there's...
Comments11/07/2016 #34 NO one#25 #32 There are various NGOs but sometimes I don't know if I can trust not them but the gob blocking them. I leave here a link to one that is based in UK but Venezuelans run it and I think it could be a good one; it is for children in need: http://www.chamos.org.uk/ View more#25 #32 There are various NGOs but sometimes I don't know if I can trust not them but the gob blocking them. I leave here a link to one that is based in UK but Venezuelans run it and I think it could be a good one; it is for children in need: http://www.chamos.org.uk/ If I encounter in my research another one I'll put it here in the comments. Close11/07/2016 #33 NO one#22 Dear Mags, yes it is outrageous how people in Venezuela are being treated inhumanely not only for clothes or dental higiene but they are being deprived of food and water. I feel so mad about this!! #24 @William VanDorin View more#22 Dear Mags, yes it is outrageous how people in Venezuela are being treated inhumanely not only for clothes or dental higiene but they are being deprived of food and water. I feel so mad about this!! #24 @William VanDorin I totally agree with you, transparency is one of the solutions and steps needed to change this madness but it is all an ongoing circle that only the "leaders" can stop. It is also super concerning how the wealth (not only economic) and the resources are so unjustly shared between the members of the society. Thank you for your comment. Close10/07/2016 #32 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD#31 So what is the plan, @NO one? What organization is working to help the masses? Because one person at a time, today and now, each one of us can make a difference in one life. And isn't that what we would want for ourselves? I want a Solution. Or tell me that there is nothing out there to help some of the people, and I can take it from there. This is staying on my desk. 👍🏽10/07/2016 #30 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD#26 Nice historical point, @Nick Mlatchkov; don't know how you'd know such historical fact....must have been personal to you at the time. But now we are free, and the rats that raced from one country to the next...where will they be when they are 45 years old? We need to keep helping one another. I wish for a magic formula.!10/07/2016 #28 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD#24 @William VanDorin, yes, the leaders look into their pockets more than into the eyes of their own people...and just like a stranded Felix the Cat on an island, he begins to look at his friend as his food, when his money/sustenance runs out. But pity the person that simply throws hands up in the air, for nothing is ever lost completely to despair. Not when helping hands are willing to go and do all the things without fear of the foe.09/07/2016 #24 William VanDorinThe desire to affect a positive change by compassionate people is all to often corrupted by the power of the positions they are elected, or appointed to. It is unfortunate for us all that the established leadership does not support solutions equitable to the population, and is often driven by a completely different agenda. Though some countries are conspicuous in their excesses and abuse of power, this is a human ailment of self imposed ignorance Too many people stand in peril and countries on the edge of collapse through the manipulation of economies and resources. The diversion of resources and attitude away from warfare to humanitarian relief efforts would prove less costly and far more productive in fostering human and national relations. There is an understandable animosity towards countries of affluent decadence by impoverished populations fostered by our leadership. The walls of division are obvious, it's architects are not. There is no obvious solution and violence simply compounds the problem. There obviously is a dire need for transparency in our leadership, and severe penalties for political corruption imposed. Unfortunately for the population, our leadership is already profoundly corrupt, and the tragic irony is only they could implement such policies.09/07/2016 #22 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD@NO one, without reading others' comments first, I can tell you the one thing that screams from this page more than anything else: the picture of the woman screaming from the page. She represents all that is lost: clothing, hairstyle, lipstick, the dentist, a toothbrush, and eventually, human dignity. In this new world of such inhumanity, only darkness can thrive together with the other shadows. What she needs is not further condemnation for a plight that is not of her own doing, nor platitudes for poets to dream of describing. She needs damn help. And she needs it from everyone around the world. Period. The message is so clear that I can't comprehend any other words without simple, basic compassion. If it was a dog or a dolphin instead of a human, perhaps she would be heard more humanely. Is every individual everyone "else's" problem? God forbid, NO! She is our problem. She is MY problem. Tell me what to do to help. Give me a Solution. Because I don't mind listening to the Problems in life. But I'm all about Solutions. And in 3 sec flat, I went from a complete stop to 100 mph. And I'm here. Tell me how to Help! And if there isn't a "Way," let's MAKE ONE! Today! It Can Be Done. Nothing is Impossible.21/06/2016 #17 Leckey HarrisonIt appears that some time revolution is the only answer. Our own Declaration is evidence of that, and we are at a tipping point soon here in the US. I find comments along the line that "they brought this upon themselves" incredibly insensitive and narrow minded. No one chooses corruption. No one chooses oppression for themselves. That is the choice of oppressors, and the powerful who have no moral compass.21/06/2016 #15 Catalina SerranoGreat post tocaya! There's an extremely sad situation in Venezuela since long time ago and I don't know how the hell are they going to change all this mess. Sad, very sad without any doubt. Anyway, good research, thanks for the info, keep doing like this and your thesis will have a very good mark! :)
- Producer08/07/2016Focus on Lecky Harrison: Turning Tradegy into Triumphby Dr Margaret Aranda / Dedicated to Leckey Harrison / Lots of us have suffered psychological or bodily stress for months, years, or decades. Physical trauma and pain can lead to emotional, petrifying suffering that leaves one literally despondent...
Comments25/07/2016 #35 Leckey Harrison#33 To be a certified trainer requires Module 1 and 2 workshops, requirements beyond that determined m=by minimums and whatever the trainer decides you need. I am a Provider, not a trainer, which means I can teach individuals and groups for their own use, I have not yet been invited to become a trainer. @Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD, since you live in LA, you live ostensibly near one of TRE's finest, Nkem Ndefo, who owns and operates TRELosAngeles, and has some of the highest, if not the highest, standards of all the trainers I have known.
Those workshops are only available live. As to TRE treating Parkinson's, I have heard that it helps decrease the severity of tremors, it reduces stress which makes Parkinsons worse, as well as some of the difficulties clients have initially allowing TRE tremors due to their cognitive and emotional associations with Parkinsons.25/07/2016 #34 Deb Helfrich#33 We absolutely know that there is something here. We watched an introductory video and he said this is uncanny - I make some of these moves and find release in others. We also have some info from an Eastern perspective that makes tremendous sense about it being a problem with the parasympathetic/sympathetic axis and an injury along the stomach/small intestine meridian channels. And of course, digestion stops when our lives are in danger or we perceive so - it just can't be a proper priority. So, yep - @Leckey Harrison we'd love to work together. I am ready to hit the island - whenever you might have some time!24/07/2016 #33 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD#25 Sweet! So glad I understand! #26 #27 #30 We're building a mountain! Leckey, are your Classes online? Does TRE(R) apply to treat Parkinsons? Can you tell us briefly about the types/levels of training you offer? I also wonder what @Gary Sharpe View more#25 Sweet! So glad I understand! #26 #27 #30 We're building a mountain! Leckey, are your Classes online? Does TRE(R) apply to treat Parkinsons? Can you tell us briefly about the types/levels of training you offer? I also wonder what @Gary Sharpe and @Deb Helfrich assess here, specifically due to muscle tremors. Lovin' the Buzz! Close24/07/2016 #28 Leckey Harrison#26 Such an intentional community would be a great idea. Our community re-purposed an apartment complex that was for sale in the heart of our town. There are myriads variables, but I have thought the same thing in terms of a smattering of communities across the US where wounded people can live, and then the services are brought to them, like in aging in place. There are also the advantages of community gardens, and I now know I could ramble for an hour....24/07/2016 #26 Dale Masters#3 I, too, dream of such a center...except it's a community, where the wounded can find apartments and houses to live in, and the entire town takes care of one another. It's an extended family in the truest sense, in that it recognises on a soul level that the problems of one are (concretely) the problems of all.
It could be considered a "commune" in the truest sense of the word.
No ego...no "keeping up with the Joneses"...no competition. Just a deep, abiding love that includes rather than excludes. No "intrusion" into people's private affairs...just a sense of belonging that is nonexistent in the present world.
The truth of the matter is that there is far, far more that connects us than separates us. THIS is reality...not the unnatural greed, corruption, and fear/hatred that has infected humanity for far too long.
It's time to take the blue pill...& wake up.23/07/2016 #24 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD#22 Great synopsis. I'll re-word it and see if I am on target: The brain develops learned pathways for traumatic stresses in childhood. Children, however, do not usually have a "coping mechanism" to re-do the wiring, so to speak, hence (C-)PTSD occurs. Although, happily, as you stated, some have applied TRE(R) to infants and children to stop or inhibit the formation of 'traumatic brain tracts.' In adults, the flower is already bloomed, and the brain is what it is. But we can change it. Whether it is coping with either childhood trauma or new-onset trauma, an adult can re-wire and re-program the brain, due to something called neuroplasticity. The coping mechanisms that adults can learn with your expertise in TRE(R) assist in coping with mind, body, soul by first "undoing" the bodily instincts that arise under stress. Specifically, the stress-triggered muscle tremors, jaw tightening, muscle flenching, shaking, sobbing, can be 'unlearned' with exercises that first re-wire the body's natural reactions, then re-wire the brain through neuroplasticity. The patient can then be made whole. So there is much hope that poly-pharmacy, doping medications, counseling ad nauseum, and/or pillow-fighting are not necessarily the first treatment to stress and PTSD. Instead of 'fighting' the body's natural instincts to stress, you actually work with them, at the 'automatic' or autonomic nervous system level, to heal. It's so amazing to have a fresh, no-nonsense approach that is natural, self-realizing, and allows one to regain control of the mind:body responses. Awesome. If I am even close to the target and haven't shot my arrow into the trees instead, I'm happy to understand the tip of the iceberg here. Many, many thanks for your patience and unhesitating willingness to help. You ROCK! @Leckey Harrison20/07/2016 #22 Leckey Harrison#20 Here's how I break it down, since C-PTSD isn't a true classification yet. C(omplex)-PTSD is the result of long term trauma officially. I apply that to adverse childhood experiences, where others are trying to get that diagnosis to be Developmental Trauma Disorder. Either wy, what happens is that in childhood trauma, there is effect on the developing brain and psyche, whereas in adults, all things being equal, that's done. The treatment of C-PTSD requires not just releasing it, but also re=patterning to allow for the experiences of development (connection, attachment, trust, autonomy, love/sexuality) to create new neural networks while dismantling the old. It begins with connection, and primarily tot eh self first, as that is the first disconnect in developmental trauma. We work with the body, and while the client experiences re-connection to their body sensations via tremoring, the presence of the provider allows the beginning of the rebuilding of positive attachment and trust. I know that adult onset PTSD can become complex. Then the challenge may not necessarily be the developmental issues as much as it is the rebuilding of identity, beliefs, emotional regulation, cognitive capabilities, and embodiment which can be complex enough.20/07/2016 #21 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD#19 Oh, your reviews are always appreciated for their humane insight, @debasish majumder, and it is so nice to have you amongst us in this Hive. The only thing that I now wish is that you would join us on our Memoir Madness Project....your life has had interesting childhood tales and it is only befitting and helpful to share your experiences with us. You were so blessed in your childhood. Let us see more. Please?15/07/2016 #19 debasish majumderGreat post madam @Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD unique reflection of trauma which have nowadays a perennial impact on myriad owing to numerous untoward incidents, precisely in war torn areas, where ordinary civilians turn into refugees, their trauma is leading then almost into verge of extinction! nice insight with empathy. thank you very much for sharing the post.11/07/2016 #18 Leckey Harrison#17 @Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD: You are very, very welcome. I am determined to be the best I can be, and since I experienced misattunement and have clients with C-PTSD, David Berceli was my teacher, and a I had profoundly good trainer (Nkem Ndefo right there in LA - TRELosAngles), it became a par of me early on to allows be curious and learning. How does one apply TRE to C-PTSD as well as PTSD was a naturally arising question.10/07/2016 #17 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD#16 @Leckey Harrison: It makes total sense. Thank you for having your fingers dipped into so many different dimensions here...and this one, the pediatric nurturing of the 'diminished stress response' is noteworthy. Another topic to expound on...just buzzing all the way! Thank you, my friend.10/07/2016 #15 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD#2 @Leckey Harrison, yes, down-regulating the SNS is an awesome concept...can we teach our babies to do it from birth? Somewhere along the way, we 'internalized' instead of 'felt.' It just seems like we lost something that a confident, innocent child has.
- 11/07/2016@Gerald Hecht shared a book in one of his buzzes called Capture by David A. Kessler - I have this marked down as a future read. One of my earliest memories was the assassination of Robert Kennedy. I was 7 years old and my father was painting the front room of our house in London, England. A small black and white was on sitting on a draw that I was looking up towards, when I felt a great disturbance run through me. I could not understand the news report but I instinctively knew this was something terrible - about 10 years ago I got a chance to visit Robert Kennedy's grave in Washington and was surprised to find only a small wooden cross, among monuments and white gravestones of Arlington Cemetery.Capturebooks.google.ca Dr. David A. Kessler, the dynamic and controversial former FDA commissioner known for battling the tobacco industry, has spent the past two decades studying how certain addictive substances influence our behaviour. In his first two books, Dr....
- Producer24/06/2016Suffering From Anxiety Disease and Social ImplicationsWarning- This post will be bluntly honest. Many of you that follow me know that I suffer from Anxiety and Panic Disorder. My mom passed away in January and it seems my Anxiety has been full blown for the past 4-6 weeks. The only way I can describe...
Comments01/09/2016 #50 Lisa Gallagher#48 Hi @Paul Walters, I'm sorry you've been afflicted with Anxiety and depression too. There is oft times no predictability to its pattern which is extremely frustrating. It comes and goes without warning. I have breaks from it. It always lurks. I think many times we try to put on our happy and fake demeanor to accommodate those around us and that alone, can take a physical toll on the body. There are people who say they understand but I dont think its possible if they've never experienced it. I see a lot of people who write about "anxious " times in their lives and how they overcame them etc.. thats great and I admire those people but if they really had Anxiety disease, the illness, they'd find its different than dealing with issues that cause a person to become anxious. I dont read articles about self help, perspective etc.. when it comes to illnesses like heart disease, thyroid disease and on the list goes. Why, because they are medical illnesses just like Chronic Anxiety disease and other illnesses classified as MENTAL, there in lies the problem, the stigma associated with the damn label and lack of education on behalf of many. Sorry I ranted, it hasn't been a good week , it came back with a fervor last week. Hoping your week was better! :)01/09/2016 #48 Paul WaltersThanks @Lisa Gallagher When one digs a little one finds that often people you know well suffer from this terrible affliction, I bing one of them. I wrote a piece a few years ago on the subject of anxiety and depression and I was astonished at the amount of responses I received . Its an affliction that receives no sympathy but oftimes scorn as on the 'outside' you look fit and healthy. Its a battle that I have discovered is never really won, some days you have defeated the demon only for it to return with a few more heads !!!! However, from what I read, you are eloquent and focussed and I guess focussing on those two elements is the first steps to keeping the beast locked in its cage where it belongs .31/08/2016 #47 Robert CormackA study done at the University of Toronto found that CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy) is just as effective as drugs (based on heat source MRIs). The problem for MDs? People want a quick fix. They want a pill. As you say in your article, issues associated with anxiety are longstanding and deeply ingrained. A pill isn't going to change what you've continually ignored from your past. CBT takes a lot of commitment, but when you understand the "triggers" of anxiety, they become easier to deal with and tolerate. I'll post an article I did for The National Post called: In Hollywood, Anxiety is the New Alcoholism.29/08/2016 #46 Lisa Gallagher#45 So young! Ironically, I was diagnosed with nerve damage in my left ear too @Debbie O'Halloran, a virus destroyed the balance nerve in my left ear. I take medication for life which for the most part keeps the vertigo away but the brain also learned to compensate some what with exercises. OMG, running out of the house, well if rolling over something got you over the panic, that's awesome LOL!25/08/2016 #45 Anonymous#44 @Lisa Gallagher, I was diagnosed at age 8. When I was diagnosed, I was told that I was born with it. Of course that was the early 70's and that's what we were told. Now the doctor thinks it was a virus that I had as a toddler. Unfortunately, this same virus caused nerve damage in my left ear.
The panic started in 1997. The last attack I had in May, forced me out of the house, in pouring rain, and I ended up on a short drive. I ended up rolling over something with my husband's car and leery him with a flat. Got me over my panic attack. LOL!
Thanks for your kind words!23/08/2016 #44 Lisa Gallagher#43 Hi @Debbie O'Halloran, I'm so sorry I missed your comment. I'm also sorry you suffer from Panic Disorder, it's a tough battle at times. Were you diagnosed a child with Juvenile diabetes or as an adult? I have a brother in law who developed type 1 Diabetes at age 29, they think a virus affected his pancreas. Sending good thoughts to you!!23/07/2016 #39 Lisa Gallagher#38 Thanks for sharing your experience @Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD. I don't take issue with mental health. I do however, despise the term Mentally ill, or Mental Illness. It's vital to focus on the mind, body and spirit, they are all connected. Thanks for you comment!22/07/2016 #38 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD#34 #35 #36 : As a medical student, I was taught 'differently.' Apparently. Not only did we have a Nutrition class (the only mandatory one in the nation), but we focused on mind, body, and soul. So because the "Mind" is often "left out of the healing equation," I give credence to the word "Mental" only because it increases awareness and categorizes a huge need. And on that point, I do not use "Mental Illness" at all. Never. I use "Mental Health." For that is the point of healers: to focus on the positive, to give smiles and laughter, to do good, and to keep a laser-vision on 'health.' Period.07/07/2016 #35 Lisa Gallagher#34 @CityVP Manjit what a great response! I'm glad to hear someone else dislikes the term mental. The brain is one our vital organs yet when something goes wrong that can't be seen, people use terms that do cause stigmas and it also makes others afraid to seek help or possibly share what they are experiencing- it becomes a vicious cycle. My new granddaughter does give me renewed hope and I couldn't agree more, it's my HOPE too that the next generation will be much more enlightened, less judgmental and compassionate. Thanks so much for your wonderful comment!07/07/2016 #34 CityVP ManjitI love your courage Lisa Gallagher because the very nature of anxious suffering includes seeing it as a stigma which is even more challenging. I also respect your dislike of the word "mental" - and I can well understand why you do not like this word. Being that I responded on the night of 7th July - when you look at your newly arrived grand-daughter the great hope is that her generation will be far more enlightened than prior generations were, so that conscious awareness hopefully moves us all to an increasingly more thoughtful future, one which is an era of far greater personal understanding.02/07/2016 #29 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD#13 Great point @Dean Owen, straight from the heart. As time progresses, I can see two things evolving: the bonds are being made with one another, and the chains of despair and sadness and all that is negative? The chains are being broken. God Bless you and your family.02/07/2016 #28 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD#8 @Diane Schultz: "Lord God, we pray in the Power of Two that @Lisa Gallagher gets a touch from Your hand. Let her find the peace that passes all understanding, the No More Tears of heaven, where the lion plays with the lamb. We know this is found in You, Christ. Help her, guide her. Lead her, and let her follow as a good servant without fear. For you said 365 times in the Bible, 'Do not be afraid.' "Have no fear." And we agree that we shall all have this freedom from that deep fear that belongs nowhere near us. We pray this in Jesus' name, as he promises us that you shall give us that which we ask in His name. Amen."
- Producer06/07/2016Vidas corriqueiras de um cotidiano rotineiroOriginalmente publicada em: http://entrecabelosebarba.com.br/vidas-corriqueiras-de-um-cotidiano-rotineiro/ Despertador toca, já é hora. Torço para que ele tenha enlouquecido, torço para ganhar mais alguns minutos de sono. Mas é em vão. Já é hora…...
Comments06/07/2016 #2 CityVP ManjitIn the ideal world we have the Beatles singing "Eight Days a Week" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7tgCFopu30Q View moreIn the ideal world we have the Beatles singing "Eight Days a Week" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7tgCFopu30Q and hardly anybody lives in that world. McCartney and Lennon both wrote songs that do reflect this post. In McCartney's case he wrote "Another Day" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2eW1eEtAKpA which is how most of our lives spin, without talking about "them" or "they" - and this reality is common. This post by Joelson goes far more deeper and reflects the words of post-Beatles John Lennon when he wrote his first song after his band decided to "let it be" - which is "Working Class Hero" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GmKL20UHWHA and at 2.20 of this song Lennon sings "but your still f---king peasants as far as I can see". This song is as far removed from his song Imagine can be - but Lennon did sing Imagine https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ASWx4owQxyk - and that is what is important at the individual level, it is our imagination that keeps us from falling into the darkness. Lennon never promised us peace, he said that this world works on messages and adverts and selling things to us - so why not sell "peace" - to use the same instrument of media that we think is controlling us - and that is what leads me to break the cycle of despair - that becomes us vs them. The chief thing we control is our own imagination and if that imagination leads us to loving someone eight days a week, imagine the possible - but I also understand the "working class hero", because that is a reality also. Yet another way I express Eight Days a Week is "flow" and here 10 minutes of Mihaly changed my own perspective https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T8MD6zdnicg Close06/07/2016 #1 Tifany RodioAdorei suas crônicas. Sobre esta, o que temos mesmo é que romper com essa "programaçao mental" de que só podemos aproveitar as sextas-feiras e os fins de semana, e passar a realmente viver e aproveitar cada dia como se fosse único. Desde que eu comecei a aplicar isso, tenho sido muito mais realizada :)
- Producer05/07/2016Step Outsideby Dr Margaret ArandaStirred along and spurred to imagination, from the encouragement of @Ali Anani, Ph.D. This is in dedication to him as my very first poem. He told me I could write poetry, and that has never been on my 'map.' So here's to some...
Comments08/07/2016 #24 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD#20 I totally admire all that you do...and goodness knows that when a problem is so big that we can't wrap our arms around it, we do need to focus on the most 'invisible' to get the 'cure' going. For without the 'curers' we would all be nowhere. So, hat's off to you! I put it all here: https://www.bebee.com/producer/@margaret-aranda/focus-on-lecky-harrison-turning-tradegy-into-triumph06/07/2016 #20 Leckey Harrison#15 Burn patients were the hardest. You're correct, @Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD, that all staff need to be considered in any setting when it comes to trauma. Our nonprofit was designed to serve those that responded to a call, and it was a tough call to leave out the ER folk. Initially though it was designed to help volunteers only, as they have little to nothing in the way of support.06/07/2016 #17 CityVP Manjit#16 Exactly Margaret - see the whole. Chief problem of healthcare is how it is divided into parts and then we look at the human body as parts also, Whether it is nurses, firefighters, police, techs, physicians or EMT's - they are all contributors to emergence - which is how I look at emergency.- and that point we truly "step outside".06/07/2016 #16 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD#13 @CityVP Manjit: by the way, thank you for the article in the nursing journal. Emergency Room nurses and techs are often overlooked while the physicians and EMTs get 'all the attention' on this. We have to see the whole Emergency Room 🚒 , with our eyes. And everyone in it.06/07/2016 #15 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD#13 You are right in assessing that First Responders need introspective help on all the ghastly and traumatic human suffering that they witness, and are yet expected to "perform" nonetheless. Without making one mistake, or the current...or the next patient dies. @Leckey Harrison, with all his firefighting experience (and I can tell you that patients with 'burns' are some of the most difficult to manage as a physician...and most survivors of terrible, horrific burns want to commit suicide and wish they had never been resuscitated....we all need help, each one of us. And yes, I don't think that any First Responder gets used to it all. Each day brings the varieties of new flashbacks-in-the-making. But Leckey's expertise is on how we can deal with is thanatophobia & 'melt-down' syndrome...and that is the good news. People care.06/07/2016 #13 CityVP ManjitI welcome those in the field of emergency care work to have such outlets that allow themselves to express themselves, for not only do we all depend on every single emergency care worker when we need them most, but because the graphic is hidden from us, we don't get the full sense of the human being who must also face in practice what we will not stomach even as a verbal description. I read a piece just now on thanatophobia (which is death anxiety among emergency workers) http://journals.rcni.com/doi/pdfplus/10.7748/en.23.4.32.e1448 Right at this minute there are emergency care workers involved in life and death situations and unpleasant situations. To expand horizons and think in galactic ways, when human beings find conscious relief in poetry this is a means of touching the galactic ways. There are limits for certain people how they can absorb this reality but as a part of my own learning, for me this is about the emergency care worker and not whether I am personally resilient whenever I am subjected to an account of something I am not used to - as Margaret says well - none of us are.06/07/2016 #12 Randy Keho#11 Serving the less fortunate can be a trip. @Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD I taught English on a part-time basis for two years at a state correctional center (medium security prison) while attending graduate school. Inmates from STC (Special Treatment Center) and G-POP (General Population) were segregated everywhere, but in educational unit. If they faked taking their medication, they were a real treat to deal with in class.06/07/2016 #11 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD#9 @Randy Keho: Yup. I also did 2 grueling months at the LAC-USC Medical Center's Jail Ward...got the luck of the draw twice. That's where Rodney King was taken. We used to pull out tazer fish-hooks from body searches on handcuffed, arrested patients. We searched through their worn and tattered hair to unscrew them from the scalps...and all the while, the patient was telling us (s)he was HIV positive and wanted to give us AIDS. So we were darting to and fro, avoiding the spit, bites, and gnashing of teeth while making them well. So surreal. I had just thrown my hat up in the air with the rest of my graduating class in 1990, and here I was, wondering what the heck I was doing in a lock-down facility in a heat wave with primarily gang members. Oh, is that the 2nd Buzz now? Oh... the stories.....06/07/2016 #10 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD#8 @Ali Anani, PhD, I realize that I've seen so much more than others...even so much more than I could have ever imagined...but I just reflected on why I wrote the poem, and all the unsaid things that were behind it. So I hoped to bring much deeper depth to the original poem, too...and thank you for validating me, my teacher.05/07/2016 #9 Randy KehoYour poignant poem should be posted in all juvenile rehabilitation centers. @Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD My ex-wife was a health unit coordinator in the emergency room of a local hospital. A few of my friends were city cops and state troopers. They also dealt with the realities of "Stop Outside." At the time, gun violence was very rare. Today, my city ranks fifth in the nation for violent crime for cities with a population of 100,000+. One particular neighborhood ranks third. Youthful street gangs randomly shoot at each other, but more often hit innocent bystanders. The emergency room now resembles a M.A.S.H unit.05/07/2016 #8 Ali AnaniThank you @Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD for the new introduction and the dedication. As demanding (and even terrifying) reading your introduction is; yest it has two interesting elements that kept me reading. These are your storytelling style combined with poetic description in between. You captured my attention wonderfully.
- Producer06/07/2016I Can't Wait to Get Back Homeby Dr Margaret ArandaVideo 1. "Silkies Ruck." With 22 Veterans committing suicide per day, event planners of the 4th of July, 2016 "Silkies Ruck" march in military "silkies" boxers marched down the streets of Anchorage, Alaska to gain awareness...
Comments24/07/2016 #16 Franci Eugenia Hoffman#15 Margaret, you can go into your hive Health: Alcoholism and reclassify the post to another hive or remove the post. On the right hand side of the post you will see 3 dots. Click on the 3 dots and you will see the options. Your best option is to reclassify the post to where it is intended. Send me a message if you need help. 🌸23/07/2016 #15 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhDOopsies. Man. I shared this by accident to my Hive: "Health: Alcoholism" by mistake. Apologies throughout, as that was not my intent. I shall see if it can be changed, but I am assuming this is a rather monumental task.....will endeavor. No disrespect intended. The Title was close to the letter "A" and this is just part of my brain injury. So please be forgiving and accept my apologies. Thank you. @Franci Eugenia Hoffman, @Juan Imaz, @John White, MBA, @Javier beBee asking for help.06/07/2016 #12 Franci Eugenia HoffmanEvery vet should be treated with respect. I have never understood why they are treated cruelly. I had friends that never came back from the VietNam war and some of those that did had severe problems. Thank you for sharing your information @Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD View moreEvery vet should be treated with respect. I have never understood why they are treated cruelly. I had friends that never came back from the VietNam war and some of those that did had severe problems. Thank you for sharing your information @Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD. Close06/07/2016 #9 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD#6 🌾 🌺 🌻 Hey, we need you for the Cause! Don't run because you're in on it! We'll just look for more Beez and pollinate more trees and blossoms...🌾 🌺 🌻 ...and do what we can do, one person & one problem at a time. Remember our conversation on the song, "What if God was one of us?" We have to treat everyone as if they were the most special person for that instant in time. Let's make the world a better place, hon... we are doing it!06/07/2016 #8 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD#4 Well, my mind always goes from the Problems to the Solutions....guess I've just seen too much human suffering, too much pain, too many problems. That can be overwhelming in itself. So what we are doing here is a great thing, as we increase awareness ~ ! And thank you, special @Paul Walters for confirming that we have a good cause here, YES! We all need to know about this.....it will affect everyone in due time. I know it will. So, I'm LIVE On the Air in 1 hr. Gotta Bzzzz! 🌾 🌺 🌻06/07/2016 #6 Dale Masters@Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD I was surrounded by military personnel growing up...so much so that I thought it was mandatory that everyone serve in the military after completing High School. Imagine my surprise...and shock...when I found out the truth! I attempted to get into the military seven times. The first time, I would have gotten in...except for the fact that I needed my blood pressure taken 3 times a day for a week to show that my blood pressure was normal. My grandmother, who had custody of me, refused to sign the paperwork for me to get tested, otherwise I'd now be a Navy Vet. One day in the early '80's, I watched while the car in front of me threw rotten fruit at a man in uniform. I was so shocked, repulsed, and ashamed, that I stopped...and told him I'd take him to his ultimate destination, no matter where it was. He thanked me, but had me stop at a truck stop about two hours away. As Americans, we have a PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY AS CITIZENS to see that our vets get the treatment---and honour---they deserve. The above statistics just add to the disgrace the US has become. I'd considered moving to the UK...but I stay where I'm "stationed"...and THESE COLOURS DON'T RUN.06/07/2016 #3 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD#2 Hey, I was never in the military, but was the civilian ER doc at Ft. Irwin, the National Training Center (NTC) for the Army. I worked with these youth, seeing upwards of 100 patients on a 24-hour shift. I saw war wounds, and more. That's another Buzz. So I know this world from the perspective of someone who longs to heal, and this will be a home base for me always. Thanks for being here with me. It is good not to be alone. ☮06/07/2016 #2 Randy KehoThanks for your service @Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD It ticks me off to see the not-so-public service spots on television for abused animals and starving kids in foreign countries every day of the week. You don't see non-profit, volunteer veteran's assistance programs air until Memorial Day, Veteran's Day or the Fourth of July.06/07/2016 #1 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhDSpecial thanks to @Dr. Allen Brown for allowing me to Volunteer to help Our Homeless Veterans and abandoned FosterTeens locked 'out of the system' when they turn 18 years of age and the Foster "Parents" kick them out of 'their home' because they no longer get a government paycheck. Fully 1/3 of all Foster Children end up Homeless, and our hopes and dreams for all those without a voice? To find not only a voice, but to save their lives as well. @Franci Eugenia Hoffman, @Ali Anani, @Paul "Pablo" Croubalian, @CityVP Manjit, and more.
- 05/06/2016Trauma --- traumatic stress --- PTSD. The list is not extensive. It isn't expicit about adverse childhood experiences. June is PTSD Awareness month. There is a cure.
Comments04/07/2016 #18 Leckey Harrison#17 I think one thing we've seen over time is that those who were violent and are in prison, had "hurt" at the foundation of their lives. James Gilligan wrote a book about it several years ago. The obvious presence of developmental trauma is clear: hurt people, hurt people. It doesn't mean all hurt people will, but just as clearly, sane healthy people don't. I think also we might see that even in icons, like Dr. Martin Luther King, that there were behaviors one would consider less than optimal. President Bill Clinton comes to mind. What prompts a man to commit adultery (a relative moral label), and then, to lie about it? If he was healthy in his relationships, would he have done that? If he were responsible, would he have owned it instead? Nothing is absolute, including the idea that hurt people, hurt people. When we look closely though, in my experience, it either happens via psychological hurt, and at the very least, self-hurt.04/07/2016 #17 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD#11 I wonder who has studied the kids of abusive/alcoholic parents who haven't carried on the bad behavior. For another time, but aren't we all so glad to know that love can still conquer all? @Lisa Gallagher View more#11 I wonder who has studied the kids of abusive/alcoholic parents who haven't carried on the bad behavior. For another time, but aren't we all so glad to know that love can still conquer all? @Lisa Gallagher, @Rebel Brown, @Leckey Harrison, @Gerald Hecht @Dr. Allen Brown. Those who end up being loving, caring parents are definitely to be commended. ☺️ Close04/07/2016 #16 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD#11 Not to pound it in, but here's an interesting animal study over 33 years of observation in 5 large families. Regarding infant abuse recurring over the generations: "Conclusions: This study provides the first evidence of genealogical effects on infant abuse in nonhuman primates. Several characteristics of infant abuse in socially living macaques suggest that this phenomenon could represent a good animal model for studying the etiology of child abuse and neglect." Reference: http://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S014521349700006904/07/2016 #15 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD#11 I did it again. Reference on comment below, #14 on the right side: http://ije.oxfordjournals.org/content/31/3/560.short04/07/2016 #14 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD#11 Study results of almost 7,000 Indian men who, in childhood, had witnessed their father abusing their mother: "Conclusions These findings from northern India are congruent with those from other geographical/cultural settings in suggesting that witnessing violence between one's parents while growing up is an important risk factor for the perpetration of partner violence in adulthood." @Lisa Gallagher, @Rebel Brown, @Leckey Harrison, @Gerald Hecht, @Sara Jacobovici...04/07/2016 #13 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD#11 Oopsies. Reference on my #11 comment: http://www.jsad.com/doi/abs/10.15288/jsa.2003.64.47204/07/2016 #12 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD#11 Definitely worthy of a Buzz. Here's a 3-generational study of sons of alcoholics: "Results indicate continuity of aggression across three generations and also indicate that the child's pathway into risk for later Alcohol Use Disorder (AUD) is not simply mediated by parental alcoholism, but is carried by other comorbid aspects of family functioning, in particular aggression. /☝️ The patient population here may be most important in picking 'the right man." ☝️ i.e., 'don't have kids' with an alcoholic man, esp if his parents were alcoholics. And grandparents, especially. @Lisa Gallagher, @Rebel Brown , @Leckey Harrison, @Gerald Hecht, @Sara Jacobovici...hmm.30/06/2016 #11 Lisa Gallagher#6 @Rebel Brown, I have to agree with you that not all abused people grow up to be abusers. My mother was horribly abused yet she never abused us. She guided us with love. I honestly believe she got through life fantasizing about the life she would have once she got away from her parents. I believe she put her fantasies into action and we were very blessed to have had such a beautiful soul as a mother. I'm not sure what leads an abused person to abuse others but in many cases they don't repeat their own history. I have no stats so I don't discredit that this is a problem with abusers as well. I agree with not putting everyone into one category. This is a great topic and should be discussed. Thank you for tagging me too @Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD30/06/2016 #10 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD#4 @Sara Jacobovici: Absolutely agree that awareness is key. I have seen so many patients with this "generational" family abuse pattern...and the devastation inflicted on abandoned children as young as 15 yrs of age (have discussed with @Selim Yeniçeri, @Dr. Allen Brown, @Brian McKenzie, and more). I see the devastation, and have been both a battered wife and the wife of an alcoholic. So I've lived it, too. Please feel free to join my Hive: named "Invisible Illnesses: Child Abuse:" ( https://www.bebee.com/group/invisible-illnesses-child-abuse ). Also extending this Hive invite to @Rebel Brown, @Mamen Delgado, @Deb Helfrich, @NO one, @Ali Anani, @CityVP Manjit, @Leckey Harrison, and opened up to all. @Gerald Hecht, @Lisa Gallagher, @Kirstie-Sweetie Louise Summers, too.30/06/2016 #9 Rebel Brown@Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD Hey sistah. I havent been commenting here much because I have fundamentally different perspectives from most of the comments here, based on both my experience and my coaching clients, many of whom come to me to release the trauma of PTSD and move on with their lives, quickly and effectively.. They aren't abusers, I'm not an abuser and so assuming that the abused are the source of abuse is much too broad a generalization for me to comfortably accept. I know too many people who were never abused that are some of the nastiest abusers ever. Especially i today's world where the masses are being constantly programmed toward fear which then breeds anger and violence. But I wanted to thank you for tagging me.30/06/2016 #8 Rebel Brown#7 I believe that generalizations are dangerous in their intent and result @Leckey, and that insanity and rage are often undetectable. Its certainly not only abused people that hurt other people. So saying all abused people hurt people is unfair in my world. But thats the beauty of our lives - we all get to have our opinions. Blessings...27/06/2016 #6 Rebel BrownWell, as an horribly abused child (my therapists told me to call it what it was, torture), I'd like to point out that I've never abused anyone and have the opposite response to many of the assumptions here. I've worked with a number of abused women and men. None of them were abusers either. In fact, every one of them became exactly the opposite type of person. Loving, caring,going out of the way to be different than their abusers. As with all things, I suggest to clients that they not apply broad brush applications to people about anything. We are ALL unique in our mind programming, and we all deserve to be given the respect of a positive perception until proven otherwise. Negative generalized assumptions be gone.27/06/2016 #4 Sara Jacobovici#3 Thank you @Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD for bringing my attention to this update and its message as well as your comment. I will compact the complexity of the topic at hand into one word that is appropriate to the posting of: awareness. Imperative that we as a community are aware of the fact that traumatic events do take place and will impact on individuals as well as the community. That the impact can vary and to be aware of the signs and means to address those signs. Important that we use information and learning to treat each individual and individual situation with educated awareness and not preconceived ideas of what will happen, just what the potential of what may happen is and to ensure the support necessary for a positive outcome.27/06/2016 #3 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD@Sara Jacobovici, @Leckey Harrison, @Rebel Brown, @Randy Keho, @Mamen Delgado: In the continuum of the child who underwent child abuse, let us consider: (1) Phase I: The (abused) adult who underwent intervention(s) to mitigate their own precious salvation; (2) Phase 2: The newborn babies of the abused parent, who has no idea what is ahead of her/him after looking into their newborn's eyes with true Love; (3) Phase 3: The parent's potential capacity (and statistical likelihood) of inflicting mental, physical, and emotional harm onto their baby as (s)he grows; (4) Phase 4: Transformation to consider all human actions to be either (A) Love or (B) a call for Love. (5) Phase 5: Forgiveness. Please help me forward to other interested parties I miss here: @Ali Anani, @debasish majumder, @Mohammed A. Jawad, @Mohamed S, @Daniel, ..... thank you.20/06/2016 #1 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhDAlso note and wish that child abuse was specifically mentioned, but would you agree: child abuse leads to the next generation of child abuse, etc....and perhaps it is these abused children that grow up to be abusive husbands and wives, with the mental issues becoming more dominant if not addressed at the time, i.e., in childhood, youth, or teenage years. Increased awareness for Teens & Youth may be a good strategy working towards a solution? Would love your insight.
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Comments26/06/2016 #1 CityVP ManjitJacqueline Gold was interviewed by Business Voices regarding her life and business views. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r6WatnYwNp8 View moreJacqueline Gold was interviewed by Business Voices regarding her life and business views. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r6WatnYwNp8 She moved a $83,000 business and turned it into a $150 million business, making a mark on the high streets of England. On the sexologist side of the female orgasm, I will leave that to women to relate to mainly because men often either turn immature or prudish if this conversation is led by a woman. I do not know anything about the sexologist profession, and I was enlightened in finding a post in LinkedIn by Sarah Martin called "6 Sexology Credentials You Need to Know About" - she provided a comprehensive review of the profession, though centered a bit more on America https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/6-sexology-credentials-you-need-know-sarah-martin Close
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