- Producer21/10/2016Autumn LoveWhat could be more enjoyable than a crisp fall day The captivating colors of amber, magenta and gold Create a spellbinding sight as the trees dance and sway We have not yet met, and your story has not yet been told. What a beautiful sight to...
- Producer21/10/2016Confessions Of A Soon To Be Ex-TorontonianI came to Toronto, by way of Fort Erie and Ottawa, in the late 1960s. Almost immediately upon arriving and getting a part time job at a discount department store called Towers, I met the girl who would eventually become my wife.I owe Toronto more...
Comments21/10/2016 #16 David B. GrinbergJim, are you sure this has nothing to do with the Toronto Blue Jays not being in the World Series? (lol). Seriously though, while I've never been to Toronto I've heard wonderful things about it. Plus, I figured if you lived there it had to be(Bee) good. Nonetheless, as I like to say: change is the only constant in life. With that in mind, Jim, it's St. Catharines today and Mars tomorrow (or in 10-20+ years)! Good luck with the move. Also, make some room for us in the USA just in case "you know who" magically becomes President and Americans must flee for greener pastures.21/10/2016 #9 Paul KearleyWell, that's huge @JimMurray. Congratulations to you and your wife! I always thought Toronto was some dark hole in the middle of Ontario that people went to and never were able to climb out of. But, with the world revolving on a good WiFi connection, you can make it anywhere. And with your set of skills you can make it anywhere!21/10/2016 #8 Laura MikolaitisBest of luck to you and your wife in this next, exciting chapter @Jim Murray! Reading about Lake Ontario makes me home sick. I grew up in Northern NY about 30 minutes from the Canadian border and went to college in Oswego, NY on the shores of Lake Ontario. Have a great weekend!21/10/2016 #7 Phil FriedmanBig oversight, Jim, in this piece --- not warning those south of the 49th not to bring snow skis with them April through November. Other than that, a lot here that the Ontario Chamber of Tourism and Commerce will love... Not to mention refugees from the U.S. Presidential election if it turns out that we are even crazier than any sane person can imagine. Best wishes to you and your wife for a very long, healthy, and happy stay in the new house. And cheers!21/10/2016 #2 Susan RooksFunny how the road twists and turns throughout our lives, isn't it, @Jim Murray? It looked so straight when we were younger, and we couldn't know how and where it would take us on our journey! Right now I think I'll be in my little cottage for many years to come, but life could still hand me some surprises with that.
Good luck on your move; it sounds like you've chosen a terrific place for yourselves!21/10/2016 #1 Kevin PashukThe next Beezer gathering will be at your house Jim! In our back yard we have a hot tub, not a pool, and while I love you guys as friends, a hot tub is just a bit too personal for us old guys.
Congrats on the St. Catherines (although I'm tempted to insert the apostrophe) move.
- Producer20/10/2016Africa’s Wild Dogs, The Canine Soldiers Of The Bush.When one mentions an African wild dog to anybody there is usually a shiver of revulsion, brought on no doubt by all those wildlife documentaries depicting them as the thugs of the bush roaming the plains like a vicious gang. These canines are...
Comments21/10/2016 #16 Paul Walters#13 @Dean Owen Yup South Africa is in a bit of strife all round Dean which is all rather sad. I will be visiting in February so will have an up close look then and perhaps write a buzz. In between though I am off to Sulewesi in December to see the whale sharks...tempted ??21/10/2016 #14 Lisa GallagherFirst, I'd like to comment on how beautiful the Victoria Falls is. I've heard of these dogs and seen documentaries of them. They would scare the 'you know what out of me,' if even one came up on me. I've heard they have attacked and killed children, is this true? They look very grungy and mean. My heart started pounding as I read this. What an experience you had on that particular day @Paul Walters!21/10/2016 #13 Dean Owen#11 Yikes. South Africa falling? @Gert Scholtz. What would happen to the Springboks? I'd hate to see them fall off the World stage once again. Thanks for introducing me to &Beyond. I checked out their website. Might just entice me to change from an Aman Junkie to an &Beyond Junkie.21/10/2016 #11 Paul Walters#10 @Deb Helfrich I travel to Africa every 12 - 15 months or so and visit a couple of countries at a time. Zimbabwe I hate to say has been driven into the dust by a president who is senile and cruel! from being Africa's 'bread basket' it is now a country forced to import food for which it cannot pay for. Ditto the DDR, Congo, Niger, and a few other West African states. The next domino that could potentially fall is South Africa which is now mired in corruption perpetuated by self serving politicians . I was at university in that country during the 'struggle' which led to the rise to the highest office of one Nelson Mandela . Now all that hard and back breaking work is becoming undone and a sense of failure seems to permeate throughout the population. Thats a bit of a long winded answer to your question. I do see the cities but I have an overwhelming love for the African bush . More stories to come on places like Mozambique, Zambia and a few others . Thanks for stopping by !21/10/2016 #10 Deb HelfrichThis was a very visual read, @Paul Walters. I feel a lot in awe and a little unsettled at the proceedings, as you seemed to have a pretty rare safari sighting. Did you travel straight to the lodge or did you also get some time to check out the human goings-on in Zimbabwe? I suspect a different sort of militaristic carnage was going on. From what I understand from Peter Godwin's books it can be very hard to get accurate information outside the country.20/10/2016 #4 Vincent AndrewSuch an organised breed of animals the wild dogs! When at first they didn't succeed with the baboons, they sauntered off looking for their next victim. The failure merely emboldened their determination. They knew who to pick the next time - the most vulnerable antelope. It's really about strategy, a game plan and the survival of the fittest! Fascinating read Paul. Thanks for sharing!20/10/2016 #3 Don Kerr@Paul Walters "a bloat of giant Hippopotami wallow together grunting and groaning" For a moment I thought you were writing about my last experience in the corporate world! Great and evocative piece Paul. My family and I HAVE to get to Africa. My wife has wonderful memories of it. Ever since I read The Honey Badger by Robert Ruark (decades ago) to have been fascinated. Thanks for the enticement. @Gert Scholtz I'll be sure to warn you if I am about to unleash my yard apes on your beautiful country of SA before arriving.
- Producer20/10/2016Trolls: Just Like Cockroaches But Much Easier To Control This is the second part of what very much appears to be becoming a series of op/ed blogging. “For bloggers, especially those who actually have an opinion about things, trolls are kind of like notches on the handle of your gun.”MeI have had a couple...
Comments20/10/2016 #17 Renée CormierI think have a way of being able to neutralize them, but I know that isn't something everyone can easily do. Ignoring is also a good option. I figure it doesn't take much for anyone else to realize they are (a) not that bright (b) envious (c) intimidated. beBee is a platform that is most suited to intelligent people. Those who can't play in this sandbox will eventually find themselves without a voice.20/10/2016 #13 Phil FriedmanI agree, @Jim Murray, that trolls are best ignored. Not because they are like tar babies (which they are), but because they are invariably dull and boring to engage with. Moreover, I have found that when you give them a good shot or two, they begin to whimper and whine about being treated badly, as though they didn't start it, and don't deserve the rough treatment. I once had a troll who followed me around for years, and crept my profile almost daily. One time I suggested in print that he might have an unnatural relationship with a pot belly pig. It was a remark I later regretted mightily, and for which I was moved to apologize. Which I did publicly... to the pig. :-)20/10/2016 #9 Jim Murray#7 @David B. Grinberg.., You know there are all kinds of points of view on how to deal with these people. What you outlines is certainly one of them. Kinda depends on the troll. But at the end of the day it's whatever you think will make them go away. This post is just my opinion, which is all it can ever be.
Thanks for the contsructive comment.20/10/2016 #7 David B. GrinbergJim, nice analysis. You make many excellent points. Trolls are usually jealous haters. They try to goad authors into an online argument and then report the author for being offensive. That's their mojo, as you astutely articulate. Thus, I agree with your wise approach of treating them and deleting them like spam.
I would just add the caveat about "killing them with kindness." By this I mean, one reply to a troll to the effect of: "Thank you for taking the time to read and comment. Your feedback is appreciated. Have a nice day."
The troll will usually provide and even harsher response which will further display their insignificance and shallow-mindedness. But at least the author will be on record offering a constructive and positive response to the troll -- which may further buttress the author's image while simultaneously further discrediting the troll. Thus, my usual strategy = one and done. One high road comment to the troll and then ignore, delete, report, etc. I think it's just a matter of personal preference regarding which approach to take. I believe both are effective. Thank you for considering this.20/10/2016 #5 Jared WieseTo quote someone famous, "I don't do long comments on pieces I really like. So I'm done."
AND then I had to say something about troll comments...
Not sure you've found a troll? Sometimes you assess by the number/positive ratings on their comments. Sure, there may be other trolls lurking and liking, but in general this helps.
- Producer20/10/2016Look Mom, I’m Darth Vader!Last week I met with two wonderful, intelligent gentlemen I met through beBee, Don Kerr and Kevin Pashuk. Don is an extravert like me and Kevin is a rather gentle and quiet soul. We got to talking about our personality types. Like Don, I could...
Comments21/10/2016 #24 Paul Kearley@Renée Cormier ...love this piece! Especially your last line: "We all need someone who believes in us, who is a cheerleader for our goals and dreams; someone who will tell us that we are going to be okay. We also need someone to give us a kick in the ass now and then."21/10/2016 #22 Harvey LloydYour opening line that you met @Kevin Pashuk and his professed strong I (Introverts Unite! (Separately) and your E @Renée Cormier had to produce a story of some sort. I have enjoyed the Myers Briggs concept as a communication understanding tool.
I took administrative staff and handed each objects you would find in wal mart and asked them to come up with a marketing scheme and advertisement. They had to present the advertising to the team. We were able to use this exercise to show folks how their personality guided their understanding of how to communicate to others. Mostly we had fun in understanding how our Myers-Briggs affects our communications. A lens that we see the world through.
One of my favorite pass times is to watch I's and E's coexist in environments. The E is getting charged up in the social gathering and you can watch the low battery signal draw closer in the I. Airports are the best to watch. Most I's have lost it before they get through security. Funny stuff Darth Vader:) I am INTJ, may the force be with you. I share this designation with Stalin, Marx and Martin Luther. I'm figuring therapy will be a constant.21/10/2016 #21 Renée Cormier#8 #4 #17 #16 #20 #15 #13 #11 Here's something funny. I went to a different website to do the free test. This one was longer and I thought for sure I would have a different result because I am not too thrilled with the notion of being considered a ball buster, but geeze, I got the same result! ESTJ! What a riot! Here's the other site: https://www.16personalities.com/20/10/2016 #18 Renée Cormier#13 Thanks for the comment, David. Yes, I've always been a fan of encouraging people to be the best they can be. On another note, it is widely believed that Thomas Edison invented the light bulb, but that's not quite true. It is actually a Canadian invention. Edison was a brilliant business man (no pun intended). He actually perfected and marketed the original design that changed the way we live. http://www.mysteriesofcanada.com/ontario/first-electric-light-bulb/20/10/2016 #17 Randy KehoI refuse to allow myself to be defined by any test that is designed to screw with my head. It's screwed up enough. I don't care to know the particulars. @Renée Cormier By the way, I'm LMAO. For your next presentation, why don't you wear a Darth Vader mask and try to get your message across without pissing anybody off (a reference to your previous post). I'd make a poor shrink, too, wouldn't I?20/10/2016 #13 David B. GrinbergThanks for the interesting and insightful analysis @Renée Cormier. I likewise took that test about a decade ago as part of a leadership development course. Moreover, I likewise don't remember my type.
Anyhow, I commend you on the approach of positive reinforcement, being positively expectant, while at the same time giving a "kick in the ass" to those who might need it to move forward and reach their full potential.
I'm reminded of that saying: those of never fall, never climb. Failing is an inevitable aspect of life. However, when you hit a big accomplishment or major success, that's often what people remember most. For example, most people don't dwell on the hundreds of times Thomas Edison failed before the one time he got it right with the light bulb. I think our successes are usually considered more than our failures.
But, to paraphrase another saying: those who never try will never know what might have been. And no one wants to look back at their life in hindsight wondering what might have been if only they tried and persisted. Thanks again for the good buzz!20/10/2016 #11 Kevin PashukThanks for tagging me Renée. I'm an ISTJ. According to the website http://mentalfloss.com/article/65218/10-myers-briggs-type-charts-pop-culture-characters I share this personality type with Spock from Star Trek.
Hmnnn... I don't know how I feel about that. Wait! I don't (feel).20/10/2016 #9 Don Kerr#7 Once I get on the plane to AZ tomorrow I think this will improve;) "If today's PQ score (63) is an accurate reflection, it indicates a moderate and average level of Positive Intelligence. The bad news is that you are clearly in the net-negative PQ vortex, meaning you are wasting a good deal of your vital energy and resources just to fight your Saboteurs, rather than creating the life that you want. The good news is that you can begin to see a dramatic shift in how you feel about your life and work, and what you get accomplished, in as little as 21 days of focusing on raising your PQ."
- 20/10/2016Struggle with heartburn? Before you grab those aluminum filled antacids, try these 6 home remedies.6 Home Remedies For Heartburn - Road to Living Wholewww.roadtolivingwhole.com Heartburn is a problem up to 50% of Americans suffer from at any given time. Many people think they need to take acid blockers because they have too much acid in their stomach. However, the opposite is usually true. Heartburn is not a disease but a...
- Producer20/10/2016My First TimeThis is a blog post of firsts. Firstly, it’s my first ever blog post. Yes, at age 36, and being a social media enthusiast it’s taken me until 2016 to get my blogging career off to a start. Secondly, it was the first time I’d met Alan Martin of Chat...
Comments20/10/2016 #8 Gary Farmer#6 Hi @Jim (Can I use the @ sign to hook people in here)? Anyway, yes, great points. My close networking friend Jan Barbosa has been singing the praises of BeBee since launch and I am keen to use it as much as possible. There are obviously a lot of social media platforms out there and we all have a limited amount of time to invest in them so the more beneficial and targeted they are (or allow you to be) - the better!20/10/2016 #6 Jim MurrayNice work Gary, an auspicious and informative debut. I hear what you are saying about the glut of content. This is why I blog out of beBee. Because here, you direct your content (as you have done) to 'hives' where there is already an affinity with what you are writing about. This is very ingenious and focused as a platform function, whereas places like LinkedIn & Twitter tend to be much more scattered. The other thing that has to be considered has less to do with the kind of content, but the loyalty you can build with a user base. Again, beBee is great for that. Will follow you and look forward to seeing more.20/10/2016 #3 Don KerrAnd a fine start too @Gary Farmer. Welcome aboard and I look forward to reading more about your experiences. BTW: On the topic of algorithms, a great interview on CBC Radio the other day with Cathy O'Neil.
She's a mathematician, she writes about quantitative issues on her blog mathbabe.org, and is the author of a new book, Weapons of Math Destruction: How Big Data Increases Inequality and Threatens Democracy. Fascinating stuff. http://www.cbc.ca/radio/spark/331-it-s-overcomplicated-simpsons-by-the-data-and-more-1.3794248/weapons-of-math-destruction-1.3800536
- Producer19/10/2016The Cheapest and Most Valuable Gift You'll Ever GiveWhen a friend is in trouble, don't annoy him by asking if there is anything you can do. Think up something appropriate and do it anyway. ~Edgar Watson HoweStanding about five foot even, with a small voice and a big heart, Mama Alice Mokeona...
Comments20/10/2016 #7 Sarah ElkinsSo right, @Paul Kearley, we underestimate the smallest kind gestures every single day. People are so desperate for real connection, but seem to miss out on the opportunities that are right in front of them! Hold the door for the person coming in behind you, smile at the checker at the grocery store, wave in another car to merge into traffic and smile while you wave. Those small gestures create great ripples. And then there are the bigger gestures - when you feel compelled, don't hesitate, just do it.20/10/2016 #5 Praveen Raj GullepalliDear Paul...thank you...you sound so right with a voice that sounds like Conscience speaking! ...When your level of passion is greater than your level of procrastination, and when your degree of concern for others is greater than your complacency towards them, then you will have discovered the true nature of being human...
- Producer19/10/2016I was an Idiot. But Never Again!!I've been an idiot often enough, although I didn't know it at the time. In 1980, I had the chance to invest $1,000 in a board game. I barely knew the guys. They weren't friends or anything. They were a couple of guys who knew a guy who met me...
Comments21/10/2016 #24 Javier beBeeThanks @Paul "Pablo" Croubalian. I fully agree "People do not do business with Companies. People do business with People. " ....and yes , of course, we learn every day. I LISTEN EVERY DAY. And I gather the best ideas to create the best strategy. I tell you: The next beBee will be impressive. First months of next year are going to be unique. A unique collaborative tool is coming to be unique. beBee is buzzing but this story only has began. Get ready to enjoy our bes platform we are creating by far...only few months to enjoy it.... thanks every bee for your support. Thanks for all your opinions. Thanks for all your comments. Thanks thanks thanks.20/10/2016 #18 David B. GrinbergKudos on your "sweet honey" Paul. I really admire your retrospective and straight talk. Personally, I think whether one is beBee ambassador or not doesn't really matter because every bee is a so-called "influencer" on this promising platform. That's one of many factors which helps create the feel of a real community with thoughtful buzz and honest/open feedback.
Regardless of what one call us, we are all worker bees in the sense that we share the common goal and purpose of making beBee the best it can be. Worker bees don't care about who gets the credit, rather it's all about teamwork. And teamwork is what makes winners. Perhaps that's why LI continues to stagnate while the buzz about beBee continues to grow louder. Can you hear it? Buzz on, my friend!19/10/2016 #17 Pascal DerrienPascal Derrien
Oct 19, 2016 9:11:54 PM
''its not their first rodeo'' I am very unsure people understand what it takes to run an international company, running meetings with VC's and still genuinely dedicate airtime in a sufficient amount that it is clear the entire team is not paying lip service to its users........ Ne Cassez Pas La Poule Aux Oeufs D'or :-)19/10/2016 #14 Jared WiesePaul, I loved your post. Felt like a roller-coaster. A thrilling ride!
As such, in funny parallel get-to-know-you-more-personally, now reminds me of the brilliant almost-regret I had slipping a surprise tennis bracelet on my wife as we were going up a real roller coaster. Could I have lost it? You bet. Do I regret it? No way - great memory.
Professionally, I can relate in that fellow Business Analysts number 121,071 members in an active LinkedIn group. I've had many deep conversations with many of them. Today I posed to them the challenge:
"Hey BAs, there's a hive for us: https://www.bebee.com/group/business-analysis
The engagement is there, just need more BAs. I can especially see the intellectual types loving it there!"
Here's to some great moments and memories, bees... CHEERS!19/10/2016 #11 Paul "Pablo" CroubalianThanks for all your comments. Life is like skiing. If you don't fall you aren't trying hard enough.
These were my greatest regrets business-wise. At the time, they didn't seem so. They actually felt like prudent, logical moves. Frankly, they were. It's only the looking back that makes them regrets. No one has a crystal ball.
Logic is all well and good. Intuition should also have a say.19/10/2016 #10 Renée CormierI've met wonderful people on beBee and I love the platform. To me, it is what social media is supposed to be; social and interactive. When I have something good, I want everyone else to have the same. That is why I advocate for beBee and it's bees. Glad to know you, Paul!19/10/2016 #9 Don Kerr"They insist on using algorithms to make subjective judgments. That's just silly. No server will ever figure out what we want. Heck, more often than not, we don't even know what we want." This to me is the key @Paul "Pablo" Croubalian View more"They insist on using algorithms to make subjective judgments. That's just silly. No server will ever figure out what we want. Heck, more often than not, we don't even know what we want." This to me is the key @Paul "Pablo" Croubalian and as you point out, as one of the little fellas I want to make my own choices. Will share this immediately. Close19/10/2016 #6 Dean OwenThanks for articulating so well what many of us were thinking on this Groundhog Day of many. It's kind of sad that this article needed to be written, but I'm glad it was you who did, as you have what appears to be a rare trait these days - common sense. Brilliant article! Ambassadors share a common trait - genuine enthusiasm and gratitude to the beBee team for creating a platform that puts users first. It may not be perfect, but for a team of 70 employees, it is pretty darn cool and getting better fast. Most of all, the users have a voice. Thanks Paul-sensei, and thanks beBee!19/10/2016 #5 Aurorasa SimaGreat post, @Paul "Pablo" Croubalian. I agree with everything you said (besides that you were an idiot even though I understand why leaving and not going to the interview might have bugged you).
It´s the first time that I have the chance to start with a (pretty) new site. My guess is, influencer status or not, that everyone who started with LI early and kept networking, is doing pretty good on there right now.19/10/2016 #3 Jared WieseStill digesting this one, but thought I'd share:
http://www.quoteland.com/topic/Regret-Remorse-Quotes/123/ View moreStill digesting this one, but thought I'd share:
And offer a relevant one:
“It's better to regret what you have done than what you haven't.”
― Paul Arden, Whatever You Think, Think the Opposite Close
- Producer19/10/2016Work“Opportunity is missed by most people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work.” Thomas A. Edison I have always worked it seems. When I was a little boy we moved to a farm outside of Gainesville, Texas. It was a four room house,...
- Producer19/10/2016How to Speak Your Mind and Not Piss People OffMuch of my work as a public relations and communications professional involves creating concise messages and teaching business leaders how to convey the best messages to various audiences. My friend, Graham Edwards recently posted a buzz about...
Comments20/10/2016 #38 Lisa Gallagher@Renée Cormier, this buzz should go viral. You spoke to many who are non-confrontational and would prefer to find solutions through means which do not cause discourse. You made so many valid points that I believe many would agree with. Thank you for taking the time to write such a well thought out buzz.20/10/2016 #28 CityVP ManjitIn a social media world everything is opinion and social media extends the megaphone of broadcast to the smallest voice in the remotest part of the planet. We are not simply receiving a tsunami of opinion but we are active agents in creating that tsunami - and then we begin to define expectations, taboos, conditions and rules around the flow of that opinion.
So here I come along writing my opinion and people as their want or way will be, will give an opinion of that opinion. When I entered the world wide web, no one talked about "social media", they talked about Tim Berners-Lee giving away for free that protocol that has enabled this freedom and flow of opinion to be exercised on the world-wide web.
Social media that has arisen since is one part marketing, one part opinion and one part tribalism. It is a lot of things to lots of people but I don't really want to focus on social media. I am interested in pursuing the world wide web as an individual learning lab and still continue to see learning media to be a distinctly different way or mindset than social media.
Learning media is not me selling everyone on my learning, it is an examination of my own opinion and it is individual. That I often get dragged into social media is how socially engineered it has become in our lives and extends us into all sorts of media circus. Will I watch the US debate? No, tonight I would rather learn about logical fallacies https://yourlogicalfallacyis.com/ for I know nothing about that - but so much about Clinton and Trump. Social media has become an extension of poor traditional media.
- Producer19/10/2016Ivan Kupala - A Mid-Summer's Night Dream* Cover Image Credit Source: Simon KozhinA Mid Summer's Night Dream, Ukrainian Style. In the rest of the world, mid summer is celebrated June 23 at the official change of seasons as followed by the lunar cycle, but because of the Orthodox Calender...
- Producer18/10/2016The Op/Ed Blogger's Survival Guide To beBeeI’m a writer. I write all kinds of stuff. I write advertising and marketing stuff and get paid for it in money. I write lyrics and sometime composers turn them into songs. I write screenplays and sometimes producers turn them into (low budget)...
- Producer18/10/2016Cynicism As PositivityOFTEN SEEN AS NEGATIVE, TRUE CYNICISM IS VERY OFTEN THE MULCH OF IDEALISM...Preface: I first published a version of this article on LinkedIn and beBee not very long after the Producer platform was launched. Since then, I've had some additional...
Comments20/10/2016 #51 John Vaughan#45 "... perhaps you should do something like what I've done ...." sez @Phil Friedman.
Thanks for sharing some examples of your past work, Phil. Very nice.
Actually, that's pretty much what I tried to do in Comment #41. It's is filled with links to my past work, including: a portfolio of clients, published articles, software, case studies, conference papers, explanatory articles, a gallery of creative artwork, "best practices" examples, explanations of process, university papers, (did I mention the masters in Ed Media - or the masters in Interactive Telecommunications?). It's all there at http://www.jcvtcs.com/. Well, actually, some more writings are at https://jcvtcsblog.wordpress.com/
Be my guest. Later, dude.20/10/2016 #50 Phil Friedman#48 #49 Thanks, Graham, for reading and commenting. And for the kind words --- which are especially gratifying coming as they do from a "contrarian". As an alleged cynic, I personally have great admiration and affection for contrarians, who likewise serve a valuable societal function, IMO. Keep the faith, and watch your six. Cheers!20/10/2016 #49 Graham Edwards#36 Thanks of the shout out @Phil Friedman... my working definition of contrarian is "You say black and I will say white" so we can have the discussion to ensure it's really black. Even if I know it's black, it's always good to pressure test it. lol
When it gets into the real world light you never know what it will look like.20/10/2016 #46 Phil Friedman#44 Yes, Praveen, that is very true. And the world needs all of them --- something I personally have never denied. What I do reject, however, is the notion that we should accept what we believe we cannot change. For as I've said, that is too often an excuse for not doing anything, not even speaking out about something that should not be. Cynics, in the true sense of the word, make people uncomfortable. And to my mind, that is their calling in life, and their function in the scheme of things. Thank you for reading and commenting, as you always do, with genuine insight and understanding. Cheers!20/10/2016 #45 Phil Friedman#41 Thank you for what, John? Pointing out I spelled a word wrong? Isn't that an OC action, for which no thanks are needed or appropriate. As to history, perhaps you should do something like what I've done to put an end to questions about my history, and for pissing matches. See below. :-)
"I'll Show You Mine, Then You Show Me Yours" ( https://www.bebee.com/producer/@friedman-phil/i-ll-show-you-mine-then-you-show-me-yours )
And ( https://www.linkedin.com/in/friedmanphil )20/10/2016 #44 Praveen Raj GullepalliSo, between how things ought to be (An Idealist's preoccupation) and how things are ( A Realist's paradise); we have the Cynics. Whose full time duty it is to compare and rant at this disparity:) And then, there are those, who quietly go about making the Ideal, Real! But it would be an incomplete world without even one of these different kinds! They all inspire each other, don't they dear Phil?20/10/2016 #43 Praveen Raj Gullepalli#26 Read my copy of it in my high school days Gerry...a quiet meditative read it felt...and spawned the love of one particular bike in my heart...The Royal Enfield. Used to see a couple of my uncles take that bike apart and putting all together again all by themselves over lazy weekends at home. They never heard of Pirsig. Lila was a poor follow up i felt when it hit the stands.I recommend Zen &The Art to my younger biker friends, hoping it would make them less hot headed and more contemplative on the journey ;)20/10/2016 #41 John Vaughan#40 The History Guy loves The Record. It is my Friend, @Phil Friedman. I had previous careers in older media (Graphics, Animation, Video, Writing http://www.jcvtcs.com/portfolio/index-newmedia.html) before Digital came along, so I kinda get it ... at least in my own mind. Also: Documentation Manager (http://www.jcvtcs.com/portfolio/dow-jones.html, http://www.jcvtcs.com/services/documentation.html), well-published and a conference "voice" during the Early Daze of Digital (http://www.jcvtcs.com/papers-tcs/index-papers-tcs.html). Have written literally hundreds of professional-grade documents for my 100+ employers & clients (http://www.jcvtcs.com/uxp-tasks/index-uxp-tasks.html). Blah blah blah...
In short: Yes, I "have a clue". I have a shitload of a clue, when it comes right down to it.
To your point: I'm well aware of "the correct editorial device". I'm also painfully aware that the technically-correct-but-stuffy "Elements of Style" are kind of dated - and occasionally inappropriate to this medium. Particularly an aggressively, self-righteously *casual* environment like beBee.
So I deliberately chose to forgo the 'proper' form and just skip ahead to the truth (It's spelled 'cojones') - without the pretense. A simple "thank you' would've sufficed.
Cheers!20/10/2016 #40 Phil Friedman#38 For the record, the correct editorial device to use when quoting a phrase that contains a misspelled word or other error is "[sic]" inserted in the quote immediately after the error. We print media dinosaurs know this... And a lot of other stuff about which digital natives haven't a clue.Cheers!20/10/2016 #37 Gerald HechtSomebody's hacked my account and is making my Profucer Pieces have different wordings--companies calling themselves "Russian banks" are screwing with my shares on google plus and stuff sorry Javier beBee and Juan Imaz but you've been compromised apparently and I've filed with Ft he FBI20/10/2016 #36 Phil Friedman#32 thank you, John, for reading and commenting. I think you agree that cynicism is often the necessary prerequisite to attaining clear vision, particularly on social media. Someone recently asked me if I didn't really mean "skepticism". I explained that a skeptic is actually a cynic without cajones.
@Graham Edwards describes himself as a "contrarian". I am not exactly sure what he means by that, but I do know that he calls 'em as he sees 'em. Which is what cynics do. Cheers!19/10/2016 #35 Phil Friedman#33 Great to hear from you, Linda. Have missed your sensible contributions to the conversation back from the days of Writers4Writers on LinkedIn. Although I am not a beBee brand wrangler, I nevertheless welcome you to this potentially great platform. With a big hug back. Sent to you all the way to Colorado. Cheers!19/10/2016 #33 Linda SkarrupLove how you explore the positive aspects of cynicism.... we often skate along the surface of what seems like a negative personality type or communication style only to find wisdom and truth. I resonant well with your reference to Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance, it was powerful when first published and remains to be an integral part of our culture....
- Producer18/10/2016What Does Your Booklist Say About You?Periodically posts pop up about what people are reading or have read, most recently fellow Bee Kevin Pashuk. We all see them. What’s on your nightstand/eReader? People, myself included, reply with a wide variety of answers. As I read through the...
Comments18/10/2016 #3 Phillip HubbellIn my life, I have tended to read authors in order of their works. So I read all of Vonnegut after the first one, all of Heinlein, a lot of Arthur C. Clark, all of Victor Hugo, all of Ayn Rand. Binge read Michener, Twain, Thoreau, Bach, Tom Wolfe, Hunter S Thompson, Tolkien, Nietzsche, Poe, Kafka, Hesse and Tolstoy. Then my father in law gave me a set of The Great Books of Western Civilization, containing Aristotle, Plato, Henry James, Swift, Virgil, etc., that I still read. I like and have read lots of science fiction and fantasy sets of novels. I do read some non-fiction, books on RFID, project management, Internet of Things and various technical stuff. But mostly I read fiction. I write non-fiction…sort of…as my books are set in a fictional universe of my own design. I am thinking about starting down the path of histories written by historical figures…Churchill, Napoleon, Caesar. Reading is what prompted me to write.
- Producer18/10/2016Frozen Lives & Broken SoulsThe Berlin Wall fell in 1989 and by 1990 I had already made the decision that I would travel to what was called the satellite countries, I would go accompanied or not but I would go no matter what.Travelling on a low budget I found myself heading to...
Comments19/10/2016 #34 Phil Friedman#32 The stories that most catch our notice are the tales of extraordinary heroism, But truth be told, the majority of truly heroic effort and behavior occurs within the context of day-to-day life, and is instantiated by those who consider themselves "ordinary", but who will not accept what is for what should be. If humanity is to be saved, it will be by the "regular guys" with grit, who will do the job.19/10/2016 #29 AnonymousWow, you @Pascal Derrien are what I call 'the REAL DEAL'. I praise you, you have put your heart and soul into compassionate action. This buzz has stirred me emotionally and made me know a deeper side of you which I admire greatly. And although this is an excellent story and written so well, it is what you replied in comment to Ken that speaks the loudest in this buzz: "I should help people broken down people getting back up again...... maybe a conversation or a smile means more than....." We need more of you in the world dear Pascal!19/10/2016 #26 Pascal Derrien#24 thanks @Lisa Gallagher yes a lot of mental illnesses in the street, people not diagnosed or medicalized in any shape or form but it seems nobody cares in the end since my time on the street the drugs plague which was marginal enough is now the biggest problem :-(19/10/2016 #24 Lisa GallagherA story well told @Pascal Derrien. It's so sad because many of the homeless people are mentally ill and from what I've heard, suffer from Schizophrenia. Yes, there are those who are homeless because they lost it all but those who choose to live in the streets through out each bitter winter, well it brings tears to my eyes. You saw it first hand and I'm glad you touched so many lives. I'm sure you touched more than you were ever aware of. Thank you for sharing, you have a kind and caring heart- it's very evident in your writing. Obviously I never knew Joey, but I echo your sentiments, RIP Joey and to all the "Joeys" who died homeless.
- 17/10/2016Do you take time away from social media? (beBee included). Turning off the devices can open opportunities for some great activities... like my grandson raking leaves in my father's yard (his great grandfather).
Time spent creating great memories is not wasted. Social Media is great to capture and share those memories, but it doesn't replace those meaningful moments of interaction.
Even beBee has created opportunities for 3D reaction (as @Don Kerr calls it). We've met 3 times now, and have expanded our pool to include the Beezers (Don, @Phil Friedman, @Jim Murray and myself), @Renée Cormier, and anyone else who may find themselves in or near Toronto.
Comments17/10/2016 #3 Andrew PorterWell the most important things to me are my Family then friends, social media doesn't come anywhere near these two very important factors, even though it's great to be apart of it, so yes Kevin you are right turn it off and spend time with Family and friends....and don't forget to turn off that mobile too!!
- ProducerCONTEMPLATIONSurrounding yourself with like- minded people can be awesome. The encouragement you receive and the focus you’re able to achieve can be incredible. Because of this, I believe that surrounding yourself with like-minded people does matter. But...
Comments18/10/2016 #102 Praveen Raj GullepalliLike-mindedness is the very definition of Affinity I feel, dear Karen! Like-mindedness can be exhilirating, inspiring, enlightening and fulfilling. When you know you have something in common with someone else, it then that sharing, learning and growing happens. You get to test each other's skill / worth and get to improve, but only if one does not allow the ego, jealousy or insecurity to get into the way. Like-minded folks need not agree with you on everything. They can be better than you or vice-versa. The two-way exchange would be good for both! It is also good to have a lot of likes. Interests. That way you would have a diverse set of connections good at different things...just like you! Lot more engagement and fun that way! Hey, any time-travellers around here? ;)17/10/2016 #96 Harvey LloydI prefer to refer to folks of "like-mindedness" as having a similar or shared value sets. When i see that someone has the same or similar values i use in everyday life then we can discuss situations, events and various outcomes. When i step off my values, most will let me know i have chased a rabbit into a hole. When values are not shared but rather just the experience is the basis of "like-mindedness" then i believe we can suffer from a very inbred feeling of success.
Great post @Karen Anne Kramer17/10/2016 #95 Karen Anne Kramer ~ CNN Women Leaders 2015I am not putting an @ sign on because I am addressing every one of you cool peeps who have commented. What a joy to get to know everyone and their amazing mindsets! This is such a relief from babbling about nothing and just maintaining the status quo.Like a chair or any inanimate object that just takes up space. I read with a deep appreciation that you "care enough to send the very best. "(I was offered a job with Hallmark and did not take it!) you remember that commercial ? I just checked my mail and bumped into my extremely unpleasant mailman who yelled at me because he thought I was dead. How ironic. How can you yell at a dead person? Then he explained that he was talking to my rabbit fuzzy slippers. I began explaining how rabbits have long ears and some have short ears. Mine have been genetically designed to hear voices. ....crickets. So annoying! Sending hugs.. KAK17/10/2016 #93 Jared WieseWhat if the people you hang around with (deemed like-minded) are already good at questioning things, at pushing the limits, or challenging you and others?
Jim Rohn said "You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with."
That would support your point, @Karen Anne Kramer ~ CNN Women Leaders 2015.
If you found a new group of five people - different from yourself - would dispel it?17/10/2016 #92 Jared WieseThis post has spurred some wonderful critical thinking. Love it - if that's OK to say ;)
#33 #44 Then there's the proverb, "Life is LIKE a box of chocolates. You never know what you're gonna get." -Forrest Gump and Haruki Murakami...
'The book Norwegian Wood by Haruki Murakami, first published in Japanese in 1987, and in English in 1989, has the following: "Just remember, life is like a box of chocolates." ... "You know, they've got these chocolate assortments, and you like some but you don't like others? And you eat all the ones you like, and the only ones left are the ones you don't like as much? I always think about that when something painful comes up. "Now I just have to polish these off, and everything'll be OK.' Life is a box of chocolates." '
- https://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/life_is_like_a_box_of_chocolates17/10/2016 #91 Jared Wiese#39 'There are many reasons for us to "stop moving" and if the "pause" does not provide the shift we need, then we get stuck. This can happen within a diverse group. At the same time, as long as we are asking why and challenged to ask the hard questions, like-minded individuals can grow and thrive together.'
...So very well said!
One can be "rich" - with similar friends, material things, modern comforts. Yet, they might at times feel they have nothing at all. On the other hand, one might be "poor" and feel out of place, but have the potential to become rich in words, deeds and understanding - beyond the richest of "rich". We all have potential. We all can challenge the status quo.17/10/2016 #90 Jared Wiese#25 "uniqueness  conformity" #37 paradoxical states of human existence". Sounds like the Robbins'/Madanes' Six Human Needs. Spot on for this topic, I dare suggest.
Life is a paradox. Perhaps many fractal paradoxes, @Milos Djukic :)
- Producer17/10/2016The Method In My Insight Sharing Madness“It always amazes me how willing you are to spend your time helping others write better.”The Maestro, Phil FriedmanSince I arrived here at beBee several months ago now, one of the blogging streams I have created had to do with sharing insights on...
Comments21/10/2016 #7 Phil FriedmanWell, here you've done it again, Jim. Spent your time and shared some serious wisdom about writing and publishing on social media. And I will say it again, one of the things that impresses me about you is your willingness to help other writers. I've personally always believed that writers benefit from community. Yes, in some senses they are competitors, but in very many ways that are not. And you seem to understand that without going to the mind-dead extreme of thinking that the only way to relate to one another is through insipid mutual compliments. As to being "the Maestro", if I am that, you must be The Godfather. Cheers, my good friend.
- Producer16/10/2016Speak up... nothing gets solved unless you do.I was at a conference a little while back and had the opportunity to listen to a speaker named Talli Osborne. Without getting into her story, I think it is safe to say she was inspirational, motivational and will look back on a very rich life when...
Comments20/10/2016 #20 Phil Friedman@Graham Edwards, this is not only, to my mind, a great post, but it is an absolute breath of fresh air on social media, where we are constantly told not to speak up, lest we piss someone off. Well, I have to tell you that, in my experience, the only thing that shuts down most people is if you raise your voice and become obnoxious. But people will not know what you are thinking or suggesting or saying UNLESS YOU SPEAK UP. Confidently, as you point out. Firmly, as you imply. And never apologetically. Yea, there are a few, although I venture to say a very few, in the real worlds of business and academics who will get pissed off over any challenge to what they are thinking or saying... but they are hardly worthwhile to deal with anyway. In the real world. Perhaps, the problem on social media is that so many people are here to be stroked and patted and told that they are great, the perception of the slightest challenge or deviation from what is seen as "positive" is faced with abhorrence. I always tell my consulting clients right off the bat, if you don't want to hear my opinion, don't ask me, and certainly don't hire me. I have never yet had one back out. That is not to say I've never been ignored, for I have many times. But I have never been not hired, or fired for speaking my mind about an important issue. Kudos on this one. And cheers!20/10/2016 #18 Sara JacoboviciI want to thank @Renée Cormier for bringing my attention to your buzz @Graham Edwards. Well written and a great catalyst for an important discussion. This topic is not an easy, clear cut one. As discussed in your comments and those of your readers, so many factors are involved environmentally and intrapersonal and interpersonal issues. Along with the many insightful and practical suggestions already made, I would like to add a couple from my perspective. The first is to focus on what is being discussed, the issues, the project, the goals, the challenges, rather than on the people involved in the discussion. The second comes from a Helen Keller quote: “I am only one; but still I am one. I cannot do everything, but still I can do something. I will not refuse to do something I can do.” The important work is in the mindset you develop prior to entering a discussion. None of this is easy but definitely worth the effort.19/10/2016 #16 Sara Jacobovici#4 Well said (pun intended) @Harvey Lloyd. All your points are valid and your conclusion powerful: "The differences one hears in the speak out is not only audible, but clearly different in many other areas. I agree we do need to speak out more. I would offer though, we need to ensure that how we speak up is just as important as the act itself."17/10/2016 #15 Harvey Lloyd#13 Based on previous comments here and other places your principals have been very evident @Renée Cormier. This is why i enjoy your commentary. I would rephrase some of your comments concerning standing up for others. In the not to long ago past, we could stand up and hold folks accountable for poor treatment of others. (Another speaking out context) Today i find that many victims who require that voice of support are really victims of misunderstanding expectations.
I generally approach these situations with win-win. An old worn out strategy that has been given new names along the way, like EI. But asking the victim of such events, what they wanted and determining if it is achievable. To often i see folks speak out for or against something prior to understanding the real issues. They are usually plugged in tight with the emotional issues and tend to skip the facts, what can be achieved or demonstrate how to achieve a win for both. Of course this methodology will not get your video a million hits on youtube.
I triple agree with you on the speaking up consequences. If you are going to practice a win-win approach and the situation requires a strong voice , then stand. Once the sword is drawn though, it won't see its sheath before victory. It is wise to know the battle prior to drawing the sword.
..."those who speak to make noise...." Then you must be totally enjoying the American Presidential Debates.17/10/2016 #14 Renée CormierBy the way, I am anything but a confrontational person. I never look for a fight, and I actually hate conflict. It is only when the issue is highly important that I will engage in the battle. Most battles are not worth the effort for me. I'd make a terrible lawyer. :)17/10/2016 #13 Renée Cormier@Harvey Lloyd and @Graham Edwards, I am an intensely practical person and also a very principled person. I have stuck my neck out and spoken my mind, to my own detriment, on more than one occasion. The result is that on different occasions in my life, I have been fired, threatened with eviction and labelled a dissenter. That's okay. I am strong and I can take it. I will stand up for what is right because someone needs to. I will defend the weak, because someone needs to. I will voice concerns because someone needs to. The personal consequences matter less to me than making things right for others in the long term. The result is that even though I got kicked for it, I still managed to make a difference and that is really what matters. My thinking is that if you are going to speak up, then you should make it matter. My sentiment about those who just speak to make noise is much like Harvey's. Who needs them?17/10/2016 #12 Harvey Lloyd#6 I agree with speaking up @Renée Cormier. But you introduced some context to speaking up, two specifically, Professionally and Personally. If i don't know that something is irritating to you then i can't change, would be a personal call to speak up. If i am the leader of a project, group or problem then when you speak up please stay focused on the agenda. If you wish to add to the conclusions made prior to the resolution of the fix then see me after the meeting. But please speak up, i want to hear all insights.
I guess i was coming from a perspective of being over loaded with folks speaking up, where @Graham Edwards was referring to the group of folks that have difficulty finding their voice in challenging situations (shy). I was discussing the other end where folks seem to share their thoughts openly inside meetings where free thinking was held last week. We are currently on to execution now.
Lively discussion. I do encourage folks to speak up, but also guide them through the process. My assumption is you would be speaking up for a reason. The reason represents an outcome you would like to see happen/added to the current dialogue. It's worth working through the best way to present the information so that all can hear. Also it helps if the forum is appropriate for the input. These and other techniques are typical in leadership settings where the leader is trying to insert their wisdom. It seems this is appropriate for all participants. These are fairly high level concepts if you are still working through courage issues of just speaking out.17/10/2016 #10 Graham Edwards#5 Thanks for speaking up @Kevin Pashuk. : ) Your insight is always appreciated and ... insightful. I'm an INTP in Myers-Briggs terms so when I wrote this I wrote it as a constant reminder for myself. And yes, it is always helpful that when you say something worth saying, or at least contrary to what currently being bantered around the table.17/10/2016 #8 Graham Edwards#3 Thanks of the comment @Lisa Gallagher. I did say "If you are shy, please get over it."... haha. To your point, it is something we have to work very hard at... as I have said, "I may not like it but it isn't a problem". I hate doing videos but at least I don't freak out anymore... and I will keep doing them (apologies to everyone). I think your advice to @Vincent Andrew is fantastic and I appreciate it for myself too.17/10/2016 #7 Graham Edwards#2 I noticed comments can only have up to 2000 characters so this is now shorter than my original....
Thanks for your comment and your question @Vincent Andrew. I will admit it is a big question so I invite others to weigh in but here are some of my initial thoughts to How would you encourage the most timid amongst us to speak up?
Up front I will say much of what I had mentioned in my post I have learned over the years as I am a natural introvert, reflector and observer. With the said this is what comes to mind.
Profile yourself... you can do a quick and dirty Myers - Briggs on line.
Develop some goals and objectives regarding not being timid and getting your voice and ideas out there.
Discover what modes of communication you are most comfortable with, is is verbal, written, video, small groups, large groups, etc and play to your strength to get your voice out there.
Participate in your small team meetings as these are (in theory) are safe places.
Participate on social media platforms to start practicing your "voice, ideas, and things you would like to say" You can play to your strengths.
Have a list of questions ready so if someone calls on you, the response is easy... "Yes Mr Leader, I would like you know your leadership style and what is the best way to communicate with you?"
I hope this has helped...17/10/2016 #6 Renée Cormier"Ultimately she got into the habit of telling people what she thought, even when they didn't ask, and she started to influence and change things. " When you don't tell people how you feel, you deny them the opportunity to change. How many times have you heard someone say, " It's a good thing you said something..." You are right to encourage people to speak up, @Graham Edwards. Even though it isn't always easy to do, it is important. Good companies and good leaders provide opportunities for their employees to both contribute to and question initiatives. I realize there are risks involved at times, but quite often shaking things up creates opportunity.
- Producer17/10/2016We smile and announce more and more ambassadors !Smiling and improved relationships.Smiling on a regular basis conveys a sense of warmth and a positive attitude to other individuals. Smiling people tend to have more friends and wider social interactions than those people who do not exhibit this...
Comments20/10/2016 #151 Gerald HechtSomebody's hacked my account and is making my Profucer Pieces have different wordings--companies calling themselves "Russian banks" are screwing with my shares on google plus and stuff sorry @Javier beBee View moreSomebody's hacked my account and is making my Profucer Pieces have different wordings--companies calling themselves "Russian banks" are screwing with my shares on google plus and stuff sorry @Javier beBee and @Juan Imaz but you've been compromised apparently and I've filed with Ft he FBI Close18/10/2016 #140 CityVP Manjit#129 Hi Fatima, I extend my best to all listed above and I especially appreciate your sentiment because you are a classy lady and one that I am really glad to share this online space with. May we all continue from strength to strength and grow wise and well in this emerging community of affinity and constant appreciation.18/10/2016 #139 CityVP Manjit#138 Hi Cristiane, I actually found out from an email sent by @Gert Scholtz which for me is the best way to find out because it came from a fellow bee. I have been away for 10 days or so, so I don't know if Sara Jacobovici has been listed by beBee, that is the first name I look for - I originally came to beBee because I was wondering why the exchanges between Ali Anani and Sara had lessened - only to discover that they had both moved onto the beBee plaform. I look for learning platforms and as a learning platform beBee is the best - if I am ambassador of anything - I am an ambassador of learning. I look forward to a life-time relationship with beBee as I continue my learning here - it will also help with the relationship I am trying to foster with students at my college, and this announcement will prove beneficial in that offline relationship building effort.
- Producer17/10/2016Our Land is Gert by Bee!As many of you may know, one of our favourite bees, Gert Scholtz, will be representing South Africa in the long jump at the World Masters Athletics Championships, to be held in a few days in Perth, Western Australia.Some of you may have missed the...
- 15/10/2016Bees: Let's Swarm by spreading the buzz on why beBee = more readership, engagement for bloggers...How Social Startup beBee Benefits Bloggerswww.bebee.com Today’s boisterous blogosphere continues to expand exponentially with competing content. In fact, your current social reach for blogging might be...
- Producer15/10/2016Who took the voice of then Church away?Christ should always be first in all that we do. As ministers of Gods word we have an obligation to uphold His Word with all we do. The churches have tied their own hands, and now the churches to follow think that is the rule. We must stand...