- Producer13/06/2016Bon Appetite. Of Course, That’s If You Know What You’re Eating!Last week I was invited to lunch by a former client to one the city's more 'fashionable' restaurants. The experience convinced me that these eateries compete with each other in crafting their menus, to the point where the...
Comments13/06/2016 #3 Dean Owen#2 I do not crave nouvelle cuisine or molecular gastronomy, but I do crave a cassoulet served in a large clay dish, or a huge pot of bouillabaisse, or a nice confit de canard, or a risotto con Parmigiano-Reggiano served in the wheel. Give me a dollop over a delicately hand plated meal any day.13/06/2016 #2 Daniel AndersonFun article @Paul Walters. I myself have scowled at the introduction of 'foam' and 'deconstructed' meals. However, that all said the fact that chefs take pride in the visual element of your meal shouldn't really come as a shock. Unbeknown to most consumers the eating experience really is gauged as much smell and visual as it is taste. Presentation is a huge part of our food and drink culture and I see little harm in it regardless of the size of the meal... Well unless it's foam....13/06/2016 #1 Dean Owen"The titillation turned out to be a minuscule scallop diligently performing backstroke in a shallow puddle of colourful jus, topped with a 'crafted' sprig of something green." - "A brace of Bolivian humming birds, flash seared and arranged playfully on a bed of wilted Laotian high mountain grass, drizzled with a hint of larks vomit," Classic Walters!
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- Producer29/11/2016Kyrzbekistan: Part 20Mama Lamchik was waiting by the front door of the arcade. She had changed as well and left the shorty short skirt to trade up for a sarong, silk shirt that let you know she was wearing a bikini and a pair of low strappy sandals. She was beach bunny...
Comments02/12/2016 #4 Jim MurrayYou're nuts. But I love it. I'd share it but I don't know if I'd get drummed out the ambassador corps for doing that here. Just kidding, I'll share it on Linkedin. I don't give a shit what happens to me there. TYou are a wild and crazy guys for sure. Why doesn't Trump put you in his cabinet, a new post: Director of Kink.02/12/2016 #3 Brian McKenzie@Dean Owen Thanks for reading and sharing. The girls here are a mix of wild crazy techno party insta-grammers to staunch traditionalists that want to get married, have kids and always be the wife. And not much in between. And they do indeed bring the A game to husband hunting. Surf City was all the rave for 2 to 1 .... here it is more closely to 6 to 1 in the city, and at the Universities it is nearly 11 to 1. I have not had a date free day in months. It will be sad to leave for the next country - but I will, because that is the life I know is for me. Never settle, never stay, never marry, never breed. #MGTOW02/12/2016 #1 Dean OwenFun read @Brian McKenzie. Certainly has a unique style of writing that is uniquely you! I am dangerously beginning to stereotype the ladies of your region into a "desperate for a better life" category when I am sure many young ladies are perfectly happy in the country and would be perfectly happy to marry natives.
- 01/12/2016I can't quite figure out this house in my old neighbourhood in London. Is it a facade? Is it for a thin family?
- 28/11/2016Tea anyone? We spent the day in the tea paddies high above Sanjiang. I can't tell you how spectacular this place is - well I can, and I will in a later article. I have a lot of catching up to do in terms of reading articles but off to London for a quickie, then I'll catch up....
- 26/11/2016I am currently in the deep South of China in Sanjiang, home to the Dong ethnic minority. Here is a taste of what I am seeing. Full buzz coming soon.
- Producer26/11/2016After EightDark. Clouded. His hotel room felt lonely. Outside footsteps in the corridor. French music. The sheets covered his skinny body. Soft touch. His hand reached for his partner. She was downstairs, having breakfast. She wrote him a little love note. He...
- Producer25/11/2016Share With MeOur ability to share with one another is amazing in the modern era . We can communicate instantaneously, anywhere and any time. Yet we are more isolated than ever. We don't share in person, face to face, with eye contact, body language and an...
Comments26/11/2016 #1 Lisa GallagherLove the quote above @Michael D. Davis. This is an important message! Social media and use of our PC's is part of life now but we do need to remember that real life is waiting. It's important to take a step back and focus on what is right there in front of us, those who need us and yes, even pamper ourselves. If we don't do these necessary things, we burn out and are of no good to anyone!
- Producer25/11/2016Gobble-Gobble-Diddle-IpCaught this fella doing the 'turkey trot' in Boondall Wetlands recently. The Australian brushturkey is normally found in rainforest and wetland areas, but has also been driven into the suburbs by man's destruction of his natural habitat. We have a...
Comments26/11/2016 #7 Lisa Gallagher#6 haha, I'm not that young Ken. I think I've heard of the Turkey Trot but never actually heard 'it.' She never killed a bird when hunting and was trained well. But, for some reason she goes after other prey when running free in the yard. They live out in the country. I think she's been quelled 3 times... you'd think she'd learn. My son has a pointer too but never had time to teach her to hunt, she went after a rabbit once and had it in her mouth in front of my daughter in law and grandson (she broke off her leash). My daughter in law ran in the house crying. I'm glad we don't have a hunting dog, we have a boston terrier who's a bit high strung but fun!26/11/2016 #6 Ken Boddie#4 Never heard the Turkey Trot, Lisa? Just goes to prove how young you are. 😉 Just love pointers and setters and retrievers - all hunting dogs! But I'm surprised she goes in for the kill unprompted. Pointers were originally bred to 'point' to where the kill had fallen, after the shooter had done his dastardly deed, and not to turn the prey into doggy dinner. Perhaps nobody told her this? 😂26/11/2016 #4 Lisa GallagherGreat capture of the Turkey @Ken Boddie! I'm sure the fellow as happy to be living outside of the US. I can't imagine finding one in my garden! My daughter and her husband have a German Short Haired Pointer who's been a trained hunting dog since she was a pup. She would gobble gobble that turkey down in two or three bites, yikes. I actually get nervous when she goes out because if a rabbit is near or other critters (although, I don't call rabbits critters, they are cute).. but she will eat them and even my daughter gets emotional over it. I know, sounds horrid. That song was cute, never heard it before!25/11/2016 #3 Kevin PashukNot a bad shot for a Canon Ken... Sounds like the down under variety of Turkeys are a bit on the wild side. In a previous life we had a flock of wild turkeys (much different than the domestic variety that was consumed in vast quantities south of our border) who were like a biker gang, keeping my son from getting to the front door.
Thanks for the Thanksgiving wishes, but we Canadians do Thanksgiving in October. That way we can gorge on turkey, then will have completely forgotton about it by Christmas so we can do it all over again.25/11/2016 #1 Franci Eugenia HoffmanI published this poem on my blog today
Tom turkey dreaded this day but hoping all would go his way
You see, this time of year was Tom’s greatest fear
Yes, Thanksgiving Day would seal Toms fate
His gobbling days were over as he adorned a plate
Yes, he was one handsome fowl until things went afoul
- Producer23/11/2016A Birthday WishI wrote this for Little Dude's birthday a few weeks ago. . .“After all's said and done I was watching my son, Sleeping there with my bear by his side” Author Kenny Loggins "Return to Pooh Corner"There he lay. Asleep. Dreaming. Although his grip...
Comments23/11/2016 #2 Vincent AndrewMy son turned 18 last month. He's studying in a university 8000km away from home. I keep in touch everyday through whatsapp, sometimes by Skype. He's still my little boy, I long to see him again. What a touching message for your son. Thank you @Aaron Skogen View moreMy son turned 18 last month. He's studying in a university 8000km away from home. I keep in touch everyday through whatsapp, sometimes by Skype. He's still my little boy, I long to see him again. What a touching message for your son. Thank you @Aaron Skogen. Close
- Producer17/11/2016Music - The Strongest form of Magic!What is it about Music which attracts us towards it? Why do we listne to Music?What is Music? If one goes by definition Music is an art of sound in time that expresses ideas and emotions in...
Comments24/11/2016 #18 Sushmita Thakare Jain#17 @Dean Owen Thank you for stopping by and sharing your views appreciate it! I love lyric of the song too dear especially the one which are mentioned above yeah there are classics which have their own charm :) loved the post it's idea we all have the connection in some way or the other.23/11/2016 #17 Dean OwenMusic provides a soundtrack to our lives. For me, music is like a post it. Each memory has post its' attached. Some are photos, some are songs, some are words. Either of these can trigger the memory. But I used to love the lyric too. They had meaning. These days I don't even understand the lyric. "The words of the prophets are written on the subway walls"- Simon & Garfunkel20/11/2016 #16 Sushmita Thakare Jain#13 Yeah @Suzanne Music is the universal language we all know, this connection like you said does not undersatnd labels I never connect to a song or a piece because of the artist or brand or a band it's the Music they present and share with us helps us connect. Thank you for stopping by and sharing your views appreciate it!20/11/2016 #15 Sushmita Thakare Jain#12 It's my pleasure @Sara Jacobovici to write about Music...it's something which is so close to our hearts hence tried and summarised what I could say or share about it, I'm glad you liked the post dear it means a lot and feels nice when your words are appreciated. Thank you for sharing your views I express my gratitude 😊☺19/11/2016 #12 Sara JacoboviciThank you @Sushmita Thakare Jain for writing about a topic close to my heart. I grew up with music and knew that music would be part of my life always. So you can imagine how I felt when I discovered the field of Music Therapy back in 1981! I am happy to say that I have had the good fortune to practice as a therapist since. I'm glad you mentioned Daniel Levitin. Both his books, This Is Your Brain On Music and The World in Six Songs are must reads. As I went through the music you posted, it reminded me of how I ask some of the individuals I work with to create their autobiography through music; to identify the music that was significant from as far back as they can remember and to move chronologically through their life. The music time lines that the individuals have created have been tremendous. Thanks again for your post Sushmita.19/11/2016 #11 Chas Wyatt"There's music in the sighing of a reed;
There's music in the gushing of a rill;
There's music in all things, if men had ears:
Their earth is but an echo of the spheres."
"Music, when soft voices die,
Vibrates in the memory —
~Percy Bysshe Shelley.
"Music—the rich mastery of the gloomier emotions of our nature; Music—that seems to use the ears as a conductor to the heart, and teaches us more distinctly than any abstract philosophy can do, how mysteriously intimate is the union between soul and body—has to a great extent shared that honour; for Music and Poetry have been, and still are, always to continue inseparably, indissolubly allied..." ~Frederick Hinde, "Poetry", a lecture delivered in London on the evening of April 8, 1858.19/11/2016 #9 Ken BoddieMusic definitely impacts our daily lives, Sushmita, and can instantly bring back forgotten memories. As you say, music can be fully enjoyed without necessarily paying a musical instrument, but, participation in its playing or in singing as a group with harmony, seems to increase the enjoyment greatly, at least for me. I find, however, that I have become more discriminating in my musical tastes with passage of time (i.e. being an old fuddy-duddy and more set in my ways) and less inclined to enjoy being bombarded on radio by the 'flavour of the month'. As I suspect @Randy Keho may have been, however, I was a Beatles fanatic in my earlier years and, in my case, not just "Twist and Shout", but almost anything by Lennon and McCartney, gets the 'crank up the volume' treatment. 🎼 🗣🎙 What say you Mr Guitar Man (@Kevin Pashuk)? 🎸18/11/2016 #5 Randy KehoMusic is food for the soul. I, too, can enjoy a sad song as much as a joyful song.
Sad songs don't get me down, but joyful songs can certainly lift my spirits, no matter what mood I'm in.
When I hear the Beatles' version of "Twist and Shout," the volume immediately jumps to 10 and the spirit is uplifted.
Thanks for a great buzz. @Sushmita Thakare Jain18/11/2016 #3 Allison ObrienExcellent post @Sushmita Thakare Jain! I love how music can sometimes bring back a memory so vividly and clearly that an unexpected rush of intense emotions can take one's breath away. It is a magnificent and powerful energy that can be beautifully delicate, soothing and comforting. It can also bring about or intensify feelings of; excitement, happiness, gratitude, sadness, pride, determination, panic, heartache, loneliness, patriotism and anger. Music can tell a story without words and express thoughts that sometimes can not be conveyed by words alone. Music can inspire hope when all was believed to be lost. It is one of life's most precious and awe-inspiring gifts. I have a deep respect and admiration for music and I could not begin to imagine life without it!
- Producer20/11/2016Riding The Trade Winds. The Delicate Art Of Flying A Kite In Bali.In early July in the tropics the trade winds arrive exactly on cue and blow steadily from east to west until the end of September. One day it is completely still and the next the breezes suddenly spring up; These winds are the prevailing...
Comments23/11/2016 #12 Kevin PashukWhat a great cultural story. In our times of globalization, these local festivals seem to keep the local culture alive. The kite festival sounds delightful. In my part of the world, an annual event is the 'polar bear dip', where intrepid bathers shed their parkas and plunge into the icy waters of the lake... While the lakes are so big they rarely freeze over, there is enough ice and snow to dodge ensure it's a memorable experience. http://www.polarbeardip.ca/index.php23/11/2016 #11 Pamela L. WilliamsI like the dragon with the long tail. El Nino was our kite flying winds on the west coast. My brothers were pretty good at air battles. Our community was surrounded by the desert so no trees (maybe a Joshua Tree cactus here or there) and no power lines. I liked just watching is soar, turning with each gust. Never failed though, one of my rotten brothers would send his kite straight at mine and take me down. Boys are mean! :-)21/11/2016 #6 Paul Walters#5 @Randy Keho I live on the islands of the Gods so perhaps my sadistic soul is in safe hands. Now heres a suggestion, why not ship that Mustang over to me during your winter, I can take it far and wide instead of it sitting in a shed sheltering from the snow.! he roads here are not fabulous but it is a Ford is it not?
As I said, c'mon down, bring the tall one as its always warm and the beer is cold!!!20/11/2016 #5 Randy Keho#1 You sadistic SOB. I wake up to read about kites flying in Bali in July as I prepare to store my Mustang convertible for the WINTER. Here in Chicago, It's deep into November, Paul. The leaves have fallen from the trees and the temperature is 23 degrees Fahrenheit.
Anyway, I'm off to church now. I'll say a prayer for your sadistic soul. lol20/11/2016 #2 Vincent AndrewIs that a flying chariot? Growing up we made kites to pass time and kids took kite flying seriously. Strings would be coated with glue and glass shards so that their kites could sever competing kites. The losing kite then becomes a trophy for anyone who was willing to run over a long distance to be the first to retrieve it. I don't see much kite flying now in Brunei but the Bali Kite Festival looks like a good place to enjoy the experience again.
- Producer20/11/2016Hummus de Lentejas // Lentil Hummus (Español & English)English version below.Ayer tuvimos celebración familiar en casa y, al igual que en otras ocasiones, los invitados me pidieron que preparara mi Hummus de Lentejas.El Hummus es una receta típica de la comida árabe, de hecho “hummus” en árabe significa...
Comments21/11/2016 #17 Wayne YoshidaExcellent! The sesame seeds may also come in the form of tahini - sesame seed paste. These days, it can be found in supermarkets. Here's how to make your own: http://www.inspiredtaste.net/26901/easy-tahini-recipe/
I like roasted garlic and green onions (chives) in mine. Also try roasted peppers.
- Producer20/11/2016The Great China RoadtripThe Plan A team of six people, three guys and three gals, will leave Shanghai on 31st March for a one month roadtrip covering around 10,000km. Lead Car: 2010 Mazda MX5 Support Car: A well worn Toyota Landcruiser ...
Comments23/11/2016 #43 Dean Owen#38 lol, had thought about breaking it up but kind of wanted to see how a looong form buzz would do, and was happy for readers just to scroll through the photos. Didn't expect people to read it all but am blown away that many have. India has to be done! Perhaps in 2018. With you and @Sushmita, we already have half the team!22/11/2016 #40 debasish majumderwhat an amazing post @Dean Owen! i vicariously enjoy the beauty and bounty being offered by the nature and the number of countries you so vividly depict, as if i am experiencing the vicinity of the concern land by myself. here lies your exquisite quality to render your post so eloquently, as if the readers are attached immensely by your renditions as if their own experience. kudos to your excellent expression. thank you very much for such wonderful share.22/11/2016 #38 Praveen Raj GullepalliWhoa there Dean! That's the Great Wall O China of blogs right there! And am on a crawl! A saga. An epic adventure by any means. A rolling travelogue in pics and words. There! Am outta words now. Gotta come back to it a couple more times though. (After thought: Couldn't you have broken it into a four part series mate ;) ?) So when's that Indian road trip happenin? Am with you on the Southern leg of it...Hyderabad and further South to the subcontinental tip...giddyip giddyip!22/11/2016 #34 Dean Owen#30 That is travel bee @Amour Setter, and I expect that was her R8 after she sold everything to travel the world. Not seen her on beBee recently. I think she is busy in her new job. Anyway, I know you have had the same issue and @Federico Álvarez San Martín is working on it.22/11/2016 #33 Dean Owen#29 It read just fine Lisa. I'm deep South of China right now exploring some more, this time using the incredible fast train network. Not as much fun, but fun is fun and a flower is a flower. Pretty bad internet where I am so won't be on much this week, but will report back with coverage in the coming weeks.22/11/2016 #31 Sushmita Thakare Jain@Dean Owen I opened your post and when encountered the post was such a long read thought of just scanning through it and reading later, but man this travel adventure couldn't let me go! I am so glad you shared this it's an amazing adventure which teleported me your images are lovely and thank you for not making the post short it would have lost its beauty. Sharing your adventure ahead dear 😊 . Keep exploring and buzzing ✌22/11/2016 #29 Lisa Gallagher#16 I deleted my second comment, it didn't read as I wanted. It was supposed to read, this is what's great about Social Media beBee in particular... we get to see the real world through the lens of others and their stories. We get to know people from around the globe thanks to all the interaction we have on beBee!22/11/2016 #28 Sarah ElkinsI loved the entire adventure, @Dean Owen; and my favorite quote was right near the beginning (maybe because I have a similar relationship with my sibs): "I am looking forward to seeing the culture shock and to testing his appetite for unusual gastronomic delights." Perfect.21/11/2016 #26 Dean Owen#25 Oh, one more thing Paul-sensei. I am having technical difficulties sharing your blogs to the Cafe beBee Facebook page. A picture from a different article appears on the post each time (that picture of Amour Setter and the Audi R8). The beBee team are working on it.
- Producer11/10/2016Unlearning PrejudiceThere are a lot of videos out there that purport to demonstrate babies are not racist. If you had 10 babies, 8 of which are Caucasian, and 2 Asian, would the two Asian babies gravitate toward each other? Probably not. Studies conducted...
Comments18/10/2016 #54 Dean Owen#52 Oh yes, they could have been from anywhere. I have problems with Geordie and Northumbrian accents and brad Yorkshire accents, but am good with Cockney.
https://www.bebee.com/producer/@dean-owen/learn-a-new-language-in-one-day-but-this-one-ain-t-gonna-help-your-career18/10/2016 #53 Pamela L. Williams#51 Why do I find that funny! LOL! But that is amazing that gender influences the language that much. Can you give me an example of how it differs? See this is why I love international interactions! I leabrn so much! I have taken German and it also has the formal and informal. Tschüss / Auf Wiedersehen
bis später!18/10/2016 #52 Pamela L. WilliamsOh, I can hear they different British accents. Some are so thick I can't understand a word they are saying. Once while working as a waitress at a hotel in Florida I had 400 British soldiers come down for breakfast. There were some I had to have write down their own orders. I would have asked them where they were from but I wouldn't have understood them. We're they just messing with me? LOL17/10/2016 #50 Dean Owen#49 That's funny about American accents. There are so many different types, but I've never really noticed. To me they all sounded American except perhaps for the Southern dialect, and the cool Boston accent. This is probably because in Asia I rarely encounter lots of Americans together. But I noticed on our last call so many different accents when hearing them together. You might feel the same way about British accents, but the UK has a ton of accents that even I have a hard time understanding.16/10/2016 #49 Pamela L. Williams#42 Your accept isn't warped! It's unique. That's the best part of being of mixed ancestry and of living in different regions. My California/Southern accent mix and for some odd reason having picked up a northeastern manner of pronouncing certain words people have a hard time figuring out my origins. I was visiting in Pennsylvania and attended a party with a friend. Most of the people had lived in the area their entire lives. When one nice lady stepped up to me and said; "I don't know you do I?" I decided to have some fun. I immediately started using a northern accent and had her convinced we had gone to high school together and even sat next to each other in one class. My friend, knowing I had a mean teasing streak, sat in the corner trying to contain her laughter. Just when the nice lady started getting that embarrassed look on her face for not remembering me I let her off the hook and told her I had never set foot in that town until just a couple weeks prior. She got the joke and we had a good laugh and then my friend actually introduced us. Sometimes having a flexible accent can be fun, but you have to understand your audience! :-)15/10/2016 #48 Praveen Raj Gullepalli#46 Best we can do is to encourage folks to communicate better, by ourselves being good examples. By suggesting and sharing resources for developing communication skills and encouraging others to improve and exchange ideas and thoughts in good spirit. English is the best bet for now I feel. One we break the language barrier, ideas would flow from all across the world. A common language is not too far from common ideals to strive for dear Deb, in this brave new world some folks are trying to build on beBee.14/10/2016 #46 Deb Helfrich#41 #44 Which comes down to language and the ability to communicate. How can one break those invisible boundaries down if one cannot have a conversation? And while the technical hurdle of learning the language is a large one, it is far from the only problem. We see it here that some folks are clearly speaking english well but comprehending little of what anyone else says. So when we gravitate to those folks we can talk with, we end up reinforcing racial and cultural separation. I believe the internet is a major tool that has and will continue to help us interact as human beings first and foremost. It is why the folks who use the internet to express their negativity are so harmful - they are interfering with the new lingua franca that can change humanity's destiny.14/10/2016 #44 Dean Owen#41 I simply can't imagine how complex the situation is. That is a mind-blowing comment @Praveen Raj Gullepalli. I see groups of Africans, Indians, Pinoys etc stick together in China. In my mind it is not because they don't want to mingle, but because they very much feel like outsiders.14/10/2016 #43 Dean Owen#39 Her sister's reluctance to come to the States could be because over the last couple of decades there have been a number of high profile cases where US soldiers stationed in Okinawa raped Okinawan girls. It doesn't happen often, but when it does, it is all over the Japanese news. It could be totally unrelated, but who knows....14/10/2016 #42 Dean Owen#36 Totally forgot to come back to this post sorry. My accent is distinctly warped. When I left Britain in 1988, I guess you would say it was very British, but years of working with Americans, Aussies, French, and Asians from many nations have mangled my London accent somewhat into something unrecognisable. On your two way street comment, nowhere has this been more evident than here in China. When I first came back in 2008, China was very welcoming of foreigners, the doors were opening and everyone was looking to the future of China joining the world stage. With all the anti-China rhetoric, especially coming from the US, that has changed somewhat. Foreigners are still welcome, but any sign of criticism can be met harshly by the community. Like you, I am proud to be of mixed blood (Japanese/English/Polish). Like your family I have encountered racism wherever I lived (albeit a mild form of racism). I guess most people associate racism with whites being racist to non-whites, but the opposite has always been evident too. I just feel that with Asian and African population growth outpacing Caucasian growth, eventually anti-white sentiment will noticeably grow stronger. On your question, I've always kind of felt like an outsider, and that is fine by me because I never try to impose Western ideals and that has given me a warm reception wherever I landed. I am British. I hold a British passport. It's a great passport to have for travelling the World. But I'd happily give it up for a World passport if there was one!13/10/2016 #41 Praveen Raj GullepalliBang on Dean! Conditioning of the youngsters and conditioned reflexes of the elders are together to blame; and the former is reinforced by the latter! But it could go way beyond that too you know! The perennial battle between the fair Deities and Demigods and the Dark Asuras and Rakshasa tribes kind of hints at a racial rivalry that formed the basis of the colour divide in our culture here in India. This rivalry probably is inherited legacy of ages of battles for supremacy spanning different Yugas (extending to millions of years in time before us)...the present being the last (Kali Yuga) that will end in destruction eventually before another cycle begins on the material plane. Today the darkness has come to dwell in our hearts and minds more than in the colour of our skin. In our perceptions and our prejudices. Fear and dislike of the strange or unusual (features, customs, appearance, colour) could be another acquired trait. Only when we do some serious soul-searching globally on things like racial and colour prejudice, on the greed for money, the lust for power, the need and purpose of industry and technology, reproduction vs industrial and agricultural production, man vs nature, etc etc will any true change occur in our lives. I have always made it a point to mingle and accept and befriend the odd and the new as opposed to staying communal, casteist, and parochially religious. So help me God! :)13/10/2016 #40 Harvey Lloyd#35 I believe the concept of racism and our discussions concerning "corporations" are one and the same @Deb Helfrich. We are social beings and prefer to do so within groups. But right here i have recognized that folks gravitate towards those with interests that are shared, a selection process if you will. This selection process is not made because one hates something, but rather you enjoy something/someone else more.
Media portrays events in such a way that we are left with choosing (or joining group think). The emotional bent of the media along with the folks with microphones then drive these points home with impunity. I neither agree or disagree with their findings of emotions. I just know that within a firestorm of emotions, answers are elusive and generally don't appear until great damage is done. I don't have a microphone nor am i a celebrated reporter. But each day i see folks who are misunderstood and folks who misunderstand events.
When possible i try and help folks step back from their social/automatic response and see the larger picture. In the end we may find that it was exactly how you stated in the beginning. But in most cases the events were just misunderstood, and we reached for some hot media topic as a way to let folks know i/you misunderstood.
I have enjoyed our dialogue here. I sense that society will need to move away from group think and each of us directly assist each other in better understanding events. The media poses a great hurdle to this end.13/10/2016 #39 Lisa Gallagher#33 @Dean Owen my granddaughter's Bachan is a sweetie but I can tell by things she says to me that she feels inferior to Americans. She loves me like a sister and is very open with me. She's not able to bond easily with people and it's not her fault. I wonder what's she's dealt with over the years that I'm not aware of. Her sister wont come to the States, she fears it. I'm seeing a larger picture now. :((
- Producer19/11/2016Bias is only practised by ignorant people, right?I am the least biased person I know! I am non-discriminatory, fair, pure of thought and heart, and well balanced in my judgements - BULLSH_T !!!!! My apparent puritanical misconception was last week, when I was much happier with myself, still...
Comments04/12/2016 #41 Ken Boddie#40 Surprise was the prevalent reaction with most of my peers also, Claire. Goes to show that we don't necessarily know ourselves as well as we think we might, and that our subconscious biases may be deeper ingrained into our behaviour than anticipated. You might say we need to know the symptoms before we can concoct a cure! 🤔20/11/2016 #39 Ken Boddie#38 Awareness of our subconscious biases is certainly essential, Kev, if we are to benefit from diversity in the workforce. The IAT is certainly an essential tool in this respect and is not by any means a Character assessment tool. But with this knowledge comes the challenge of constantly reminding ourselves and bringing on board the tools and aids to look at the world of diversity. The lenses we wear don't always have to be convergent.20/11/2016 #38 Kevin PashukThanks for the tag Ken... This is an area where I tend to have some opinions... but I'll spare you. In my work I've been subjected to almost any personality profiling tool that is/was out there. All of them basically certify me as nuts... oh, wait, that was the test where I asked my wife if she thought I was 'normal'.
On the subject of bias... we all look at life through lenses, but they don't have to control us (i.e. allow us to excuse our behaviour). Being aware of how we are wired is usually a good step toward doing something about the shoddy areas.20/11/2016 #37 Praveen Raj Gullepalli#20 That's a lot of TV to watch Dean ;) Parents, Peers, Protests broadcast on TV, Religious wars that are always on, Bad music messaging, Books we read, Advertising...all play their parts I guess. But the fact is Bias is integral to the way most perceive people and things around them. Until Education or Experience teaches them otherwise.20/11/2016 #35 CityVP Manjit#19 That is what learning is - a very long ladder in a snakes and ladder board of a life-time of experiences. Soul searching arises when reality throws up a dish we didn't think we would be served. I do think that it is the sheer weight of recent shifts of the populous that have shaken up people who had embraced 21st Century living, only to realize that evolution is operating from the century people are still living in, rather than the chronological century.
The value of soul searching is an essential transition in our own growth and it is absolutely healthy - so long as we keep our own focus on the health. Soul searching is best an opening up of our lives and not a withdrawal back. How that expresses itself in my own life is that I have to step out of what I think am in, rather than get deeper into the weeds of my own introspection that effect my inner biology.
It is the flow of our inner life - the cortisol, adrelanin, dopamine and serotonin reactions within us that are linked to our own mindfulness - never mind the inner psychological. What is happening to us is what is happening to the world - and that is why I welcome this conversation on bias, and later today will follow up on the link @Dean Owen provided on prejudice.
I am here to change the one thing that I know I can change in this world, which is me. I call this my learning journey but I also view the learning journey of others of people who I don't want to actually change, but simply appreciate. Our bodies are whole systems and bias is simply a small line item in the challenge of "know thyself". When I reframe meaning that way I begin to see wisdom.20/11/2016 #31 Ken Boddie#30 Yep, Lisa, most of us on the workshop got a bit stressed out with the first one, but familiarity breeds contempt as 'they' say. Try the age test and the gender one, and have a ball next time. Always an excuse to have a glass of wine first,🍷then you can claim to have been pissed if the results are too damning. 😁20/11/2016 #28 Ken Boddie#25 Not sure, Praveen, if all bias can be so easily 'shed', or else we would be able to apply a one-off cure, rather than having to instil practical programmes to address bias on an ongoing basis. Not unlike bad dad jokes, I suggest that our biases inevitably hang around like a bad smell, demanding regular application of perfume to neutralise the atmosphere. 👃🌸20/11/2016 #27 Ken Boddie#23 #12 Thanks for the reminder, Praveen, and sorry for my mis-interpretation, Manjit. It appears that I may have developed a prejudicial bias against receiving complements, due almost entirely, no doubt, to the less than subtle bombardment of dad jokes frequently directed my way by masters of wit and sarcasm such as yourself, Praveen, and @Kevin Pashuk. Although I must admit that these "slings and arrows" are usually received in retaliation for my initial sniper shots. 😂20/11/2016 #26 Lisa GallagherVery interesting @Ken Boddie. I bet we all have subconscious biases we aren't aware of. Some things are hidden deep within because of past experiences and as @Dean Owen mentioned, even TV. If I have biases I'm not aware of, I'd like to know! My ultimate goal (well one of my goals) is to get to know more people across the globe and vice versa.. I'd like them to get to know me, the human behind a label we all get, "White, black, American, Australian," and on the list goes.20/11/2016 #25 Praveen Raj GullepalliA Bias is an inevitable block we face at many points in our life dear Ken! Racial, gender, caste, culture, political, professional, economic...it is a divide in the mind! I guess one of the many struggles in life involves dealing with and demystifying these biases that crop up at key moments in life. A refinement of perspective is nothing but the shedding away of biases I feel.20/11/2016 #24 Ken Boddie#22 Thank you for sharing your student marking experience, Vincent. We discussed some similar examples in our workshop, from which I have concluded that it is very difficult for most of us to detach ourselves from our prejudices without guidance. Incidentally, perhaps we are so enticed by television programmes such as The Voice (with its Blind Auditions) because prejudice and bias (certainly associated with age and race) are removed from the initial selection process.20/11/2016 #22 Vincent AndrewI did a small 'marking' experiment this year. I decided to ask my students to type out their essays using the same conventions in terms of font, size, alignment, and even the same colour of paper used BUT to leave out their names. When they handed their papers in, I asked that they submit not to me directly but to leave on the desk in the classroom while I stood a distance away. When I started reading their work, I had no idea (and I mean I had absolutely no idea) who wrote what. I tried to attribute a particular style of writing to a particular student but I thought I was just speculating and that would not be helpful. So I went for the content, the quality of the writing and with the help of a rubric went about the task. What I found surprised me. The top three students in the class in their term examinations were no where near the top in that particular assignment. The top in the assignment were students who achieved Cs in their exams. That got me thinking. Was I biased in my marking? Did the top three take the assignment seriously? Consistently in marking is so important these days and what the small experiment demonstrated to me was the importance of detaching myself from the student who wrote it and to focus on the merits of the writing. Not easy!
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- Producer16/11/2016Being human: A magnet for some peopleWhy do some people become more inclined to talk to a particular person than someone else? I don't know the science of it completely but I hope the reader can help me to understand this a bit better.You see, I have become a magnet for some people....
Comments17/11/2016 #8 Dean OwenCount your blessings! People have a perception that you are approachable. A friend of mine told me how he noticed that when his beard turned grey, all of a sudden he became such a magnet. I guess it is a perception of openness, wisdom, and the fatherly figure aspect. I can't wait to grey!16/11/2016 #4 Pascal Derrien 🐝This article turned out to be very different to what I was expecting (not sure what I was expecting either :-) ), you are probably a charismatic figure with a track record in being a sound guy and good human, people may drop your name when ask for a good counsel or maybe it is written all over you.
Now no matter what it is keep doing it :-) there is no harm in doing good16/11/2016 #3 Asesh DattaVincent Andrew your article gives a feeling of pride in your thoughts and justifying to be so. I may be wrong in understanding you through your words. However, who does not want to be popular among people for any consultation or mentoring or confession or listening your words as fortune teller. These are all professional expertise and a value can be attached to it. People want free advice at the cost of mutual time, but is that the service you are offering to bring relief of the burden. Then you are an angel easily available and you need to decide your priorities within the time available for such philanthropic activity. Next is are you really coaching him / her to get the answers themselves, under the circumstances, you are not available.
These conflicting tasks throwing back to them sometime make you less friendly but has long term effects and acknowledged at a later time. Ask yourself and listen the response. Experience the flip side of the coin also. Choose your attitude and evaluate.
Magnetism is a property that is acquired. Even polarity can be changed. Even people who gets attracted are also potential magnets or even a magnet with polarity reversed.
So the science is very complex. Thanks and regards.16/11/2016 #2 Lisa GallagherDoes it bother you @Vincent Andrew that you are like a magnet for these people? I ask because you may have outed yourself here, "Sometimes I allow them to, even when I didn't feel like listening to them. I ask if all is ok and that is usually the prompt for the floodgates to open. "Is it ok I talk to you for a while?" "Sure," I replied, knowing that a 'no' would sound most devastating in their hour of need." You can't say no. That's not a bad thing, depending on the circumstances. People know you honestly do care. I'm thinking there may be times you need someone to turn to and it may feel unbalanced. So many people are hard to approach, so pat yourself on the back that people trust you enough to approach you. If you are getting burned out by everyone else's issues, take a step back and possibly say, "I'd love to listen but I'm extremely busy right now, can we talk another time?" There are many ways to say no without hurting someone's feelings. It can be emotionally draining when you're always helping, listening etc... but not being heard yourself. Or just need some space :)))16/11/2016 #1 Anandhi KrishnanEach of us want to be heard, to unburden, to receive unbiased advise. We feel comfortable with opening up with a person probably whom we are meeting for the first time and with someone whom we have know for a long period of time.
The first because probably it is the only meet and you have a small opportunity to just unburden your thoughts. The second option because you then know whether that person is worthy of sharing your problems with.