- Producer19/10/2017Back2Y - Disturbingly Good...Back2y is an annual conference organised by Paul Armson, with a focus on best practice in the financial planning space.The mighty Jeremy Squibb at Serenity asked me a great thing a few days ago -"What is the best thing you got out of going to Back2y...
- Producer19/10/2017Dear Spain, let's talkAll over Spain today there are people in the streets carrying flags and wearing T shirts bearing the word “Hablamos”, let’s talk.Ok Spain, let’s talk.The thing is, I have always loved you.I love your passion, your both feet on the accelerator, crash...
Comments19/10/2017 #1 Javier 🐝 beBee@Julian Danobeitia thank you. I love my country. I do love Spain. I am proud of being spaniard.
Visit and Enjoy Spain!
Spanish have highest healthy life expectancy in Europe
Gazpacho - a spanish potion :)
Spain & Tourism
- Producer18/10/2017Keep Your Eye On The DonutCover your eyes with donuts simple but cute. Picture: Elena Rodríguez. Model: Elen BassKeep Your Eye On The DonutThere is the donut and there is the hole. And you should keep your eye on the donut. And all the things that go on they don't...
Comments19/10/2017 #17 David B. GrinbergThanks for more great advice, Javier, which is always a welcome breath of fresh air in a world of information overload and daily distractions. I would add these nuggets of wisdom to reiterate the main points above:
1) While you can't control the actions of others, you can and should control your reactions. In short, don't react to every idiot in the world or you'll be wasting time and losing focus all day long.
2) Per the best selling book of the same name: "Don't sweat the small stuff" -- and it's all small stuff! http://dontsweat.com/
3) Remember the righteous refrain of the successful U.S. civil rights movement which resulted in more equal opportunity and equal justice for every American: "Keep your eyes on the prize!" https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Keep_Your_Eyes_on_the_Prize18/10/2017 #14 stephan metral 🐝 Innovative Brand Ambassador@Javier 🐝 beBee u need to be in the innovative Pastry industry to understand what David is talking about....jajajaja....i love this GIG!
But if i may...I prefer to keep my eyes on the "chuuuuuuros"! As good a Donut, but zero chance to get lost in the Hole...hahaha!
- Producer17/10/2017Look Homeward, Angel (Could Save Your Pet, Or Yourself)OK, it's not the greatest picture. Lesson: Have good pictures of your pets on hand in case of emergencies.A few days ago when I talked to my Mom, she told me that their cat, Lady, (named after Lady Gaga), had disappeared. They’d had some work done...
- Producer14/10/2017My Own Sexual Harassment Storyhttp://www.jillhendrickson.com/uncategorized/my-own-sexual-harassment-story/The smarmy Harvey Weinstein story only underscores my point about how women tend to water down their message and why. Many of the women that movie producer Weinstein...
Comments17/10/2017 #6 Jill Hendrickson#1 Hi Paul: Thank you for this. I think a lot of woman are afraid of going to a man with this type of problem -- or really of speaking about it to anyone inside the company, just because they're not sure what might happen. Anyway, glad that you understood the problem and are one of the enlightened ones!14/10/2017 #3 Lyon Bravei often think maybe i should of just played the role of her girlfriend a few months to get ahead but it is very hard for mw to be with someone that is not my real love. sex is the greatest currency i guess as women we have a choice to uae it or not. sleeping with the best to get ahead is common and aometimes it might be the only way in the door. it ia just the world we live in talent and brains still doea not seem to matter as much as breasts14/10/2017 #2 Lyon BraveThis is a wonderful piece. I like how you blended recent events with your past. What a fascinating woman you are. I am glad i can learn aome about you here on bee bee. i think dangling goods to get a date or sex is a common power move not exclusive to men. Actually i just had a female journalist try to power play my panties off by promises of concert tickets and writing for aagazine. when i said i was not attracted to her the job offer and concert tickets were revoked...oh well14/10/2017 #1 Paul Walters@Jill Hendrickson Thank you for writing this. I do so feel for you. When I had ad. agency I had 68 staff 54 of them women ( my most competent and loyal employees! ) I had a strict policy regarding sexism and intimidation. On two occasions I had cause to fire two art directors for flouting those rules. What upset me was the fact that the women who were harassed didn't come forward thinking that I would take the side of her more senior colleagues. I found out by being told of those slimy bastards behaviour. Articles like yours should prolificate and more women should speak out. Thank you for sharing what is a critical issue in today's workplace.
- Producer11/10/2017Winning Against the Killer Chorus in Your MindWhen you were a kid, did you ever have that experience when you were swimming in a pool or in a lake on vacation, where you thought to yourself, “I wonder if I can hold my breath and swim from one end of the pool to the other?”There was just you,...
- Producer11/10/2017Mentoring; A "Keystone" in the life of a Cook(Kitchen @ "Viaduct Central", Auckland, New Zealand, 1999) The “philosophy” of Mentoring can be applied to any profession, and to life in general; we all have Mentors and by the same token we are all...
Comments13/10/2017 #18 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee"Mentoring is a lifelong process, particularly in the kitchen, never-ending". Absolutely and zI may add that creativity in the kitchen is endless and has led to many great discoveries. Now the metaphor is extended beautifully to mentoring with great examples. A must read buzz12/10/2017 #12 Gert Scholtz@Randall Burns A super article Randall with an inside look into operations of a restaurant kitchen, I never knew about. I think you summarised it perfectly with: "Mentoring is the "art" of training someone to achieve higher levels of performance, the ability to train them to deal/cope with more responsibility and expectations while teaching a wide range of knowledge."12/10/2017 #10 Randall Burns#6 HaHa! Thanks for that @Harvey Lloyd I'm just glad I didn't offend you. :-) I'm very familiar with the industrial shutdowns you are referring to as I'm presently working at a Lodge in the Alberta Oilsands where the major producers here have shutdowns regularly and yes it is BIG money. That is high stress and adrenaline in it's own right.12/10/2017 #9 Puneet SrivastavaVery nice sharing @Randall Burns. So many experiences. Amazing. I am sure you have helped a lot of people. Good wishes. Look to read more of your write-ups. I love cooking. Do it daily for self and kid plus family. Also try teach 3 things. Grow food. Cook food, Serve food. If you want to be a better human being. Best wishes once again.12/10/2017 #6 Harvey LloydI dont work well with others in those environments is probably better stated. @Randall Burns
Mine was not kitchens but large industrial shutdowns where you had 72 hours to complete two weeks worth of work.
Coordinating, setting up and keeping shifts moving smoothly was my game.
I was not well liked but we got lots of work because we met schedule. Which each hour shutdown is worth hundreds of thousands.
In my youth i enjoyed myopic focus on schedule, people and equipment but glad that stage of life is over.
Doing it every night would be crazy. My hat is off to you and those that make a kitchen work.
Thanks for the opportunity to participate at the guinea pig level and the mention and link.12/10/2017 #5 Irene 🐝 Rodriguez EscolarHigh energy? High stress? Adrenaline rush? Yes indeed! It is the same for every station in the kitchen, including the dishwasher, (An integral and very important part of the team); every station must be “on top of their game” and work together with every other station.
I always say that the work in a restaurant is the best school of customer service. If you can overcome that stress.
It is a team work always, kitchen is nothing more than waiter or that cleaning, waiter is nothing more than cleaning or cooking, the worst thing is to see how they fight and you as cleaning is not appreciated. I have always liked the kitchen, the waitress work too, I like customer service, although I have almost always been dedicated to cleanliness.
There is no one else, we work to serve the clientele and the three areas should be as one (I continue reading ...)11/10/2017 #2 Paul "Pablo" CroubalianThe Foodservice Industry embraces mentorship like no one else. It's equally satisfying for the mentor as the mentee (Is that a word? We just use "chef" and "stagaire"). A stage is French for internship. There's a strong competition for internships with grads of my alma mater (who shall never be mentioned).
I've had many, but one really stands out. She was an at-risk youth who cleaned up after serious drug abuse. She was 19 but only half-way through high school at a special-needs school near my restaurant. Her counselor approached me for an internship. I had 49 applications for the three internships I had available, but I agreed to meet her anyway. It was more out of politeness to the counselor (a regular at the restaurant).
To this day, I don't know what possessed me to accept her. I'm so glad I did. She claimed she loved to cook, but cooking and professional cooking are distant relatives at best. She took to it like a duckling to water. Within a few short weeks, she prepped as fast as I did. She also scaled dough much, much faster than I did.
She kept a level head. Once, a supplier goofed. We had no chocolate for croissant au chocolat (an all-butter croissant stuffed with 60g of couverture semi-sweet chocolate.) I went to a friend's shop to borrow some. On my return, I found her baking croissants that she stuffed with a butterscotchy thing of her own invention. Croissant au Caramel were born and proved very popular.
I got her a scholarship at my school. She graduated second in her class last Spring.
She started as a sous straight out of school. She took over the kitchen in September. If I still had the restaurant, I'd consider passing her the reins
Maybe she'll be the next Escoffier. I can say with pride that the student surpassed the teacher.
- Producer11/10/2017Intelligence Rocks - Trust Your MindIntelligence rocks. It really does. It rocks my world. I get so much satisfaction through my exploratory mind and how driven it is to know more, understand more, connect more. It took me a while to own my intelligence and I am still working on it....
Comments11/10/2017 #1 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee@Dunja Rado-Quite interesting buzz. You wrote "I recently started using my intelligence more, for discernment of what I like and dislike, what I agree and disagree with, what I feel is helpful and what I feel is detrimental". So, emotional intelligence is part of using the mind. I would add also imagination as you show the photo of `Einstein and he is the one who called for imagination. The mind feeds from imagination and feelings. Do you agree?
- Producer10/10/2017Let Your Hair DownIf you’re like me, you get some of your best insights when you step away from your deskAnd some of your best surprises.A couple days ago while taking a walk, I crossed paths with a stranger who smiled and said, “I’m going to call you Rapunzel!”His...
- Producer10/10/2017Opinions the study of God and life and deathFact verses fiction, truth verses lies, and then there is theology. Theology is the study of God, the nature of God and religious beliefs. It can also be described as the knowledge and belief we have about God. Those of us who have taken more...
Comments11/10/2017 #1 Harvey LloydWhen we seek justification it will be hard to find Grace. Theology is a fascinating journey to knowledge but can also side track our personal walk with Jesus.
The Bible was written for me and my walk. I must understand and unfold its Grace within my life. Its personal. I enjoy theology but needless to say will never have the personal knowledge the theist has obtained. This is his or her personal walk.
I can not judge nor compare the walk but sharing a short journey with their studies is fascinating.
Grace is a very challenging concept within a world of personal brands. Grace is what humanity requires but also requires the courage to experience those who operate outside of Grace. In a material world it is easy to fall prey to the scorekeeper where Grace is all but abandoned.
These are Biblical times we share as we look at history. Grace has fallen prey to the modern concepts of humanity.
Your post displays this challenge we face as a society.
- Producer08/02/2017How Negative Thinking Trumps Positive ThinkingYou’ve experienced it many times. You’re having a great day. The sun is out, you’re with those you love, the food is phenomenal and then it happens. Something negative. Nothing earth-shattering, but enough to make it feel like the whole day...
Comments20/09/2017 #6 Ian WeinbergI would contend that the balance between 'negative' mind states (amygdala based) and 'positive' mind states (nucleus accumbens based and dopamine mediated) is determined by nurture influences. These centers function intrinsically in opposition to each other and it is the balance of fear versus reward in the nurture period that determines the final dynamic: our unique fear - reward/gratification profile. The potential for change through cognitive intervention in turn, depends on the receptivity within our subjectivity. These concepts have been quantified in our research over several years and continue to be studied through our online diagnostic.20/09/2017 #3 Jean L. Serio CPC, CeMAFear is not a topic easily covered, yet you covered it admirably Edward Lewellen. And thank you for the Viktor Frankl quote "Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of human freedoms – to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.” When life makes those unique turns, laden with difficulties we may not feel we'll emotionally survive, we should remember Frankl's inspiring words; gather ourselves up and make every effort to move forward.20/09/2017 #2 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBeeFear is spontaneous. Courage needs you to change your thinking and beliefs. Why do we respond to fear with spontaneity and how to change this habit? @Edward Lewellen explains masterfully the why, how and what to do. This buzz is truly a must read.
- Producer20/09/2017How to Stop Hiding From Your StoryAfter living a life of hardship and adversity, we start to forget the light within us and hide in the shadows. Dwelling in darkness is the worse thing you can do to yourself, society and your friends. After experiencing something dramatic, it’s...
Comments22/09/2017 #9 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher"It takes a war to create a warrior," great line @Lyon Brave. So many people try to hard to be PC and it is through stories of adversity, because we all experience adversity (some more than others) that we learn, we are not alone. We can learn from each other. We can grow together. I won't hide who I am, I've worked to hard to get here and I will continue working towards a better me as long as I am alive and able. But, I will also continue to share stories that can affect many and some of those stories aren't always rainbows and butterflies. I think it's easier to relate to others when they share their human side as well. I love hearing uplifting stories too but strife is real.22/09/2017 #8 Mac Gives"Sometimes it’s not until you have experienced suffering, that you can sense it in others. "
That is so beautifully written, I love it. Having gone through suffering, as everyone does, strengthens the empathy within!
And that, goes a long way.
Thanks for writing this, Lyon!21/09/2017 #4 Nicole ChardenetLove the message of empowerment and personal responsibility here. You're right, we are ALL damaged, and that includes all the people we think have it much easier than us. You know who I think is the most miserable person in North America? Donald Trump. The man who supposedly Has It All..money, a smoking-hot wife, fame, and now he's one of the most powerful woman in the world. Yet he is so abjectly, pathetically miserable. He feels so weak and helpless and vulnerable inside. He knows inside he's a total loser (one of the few things I agree with him on). You can see this is how he really feels about himself every time he has to attack other people, particularly people 'weaker' than he (for being female, or even worse, a "fat" female, for having a disability, for being a Muslim, for being a Muslim with a dead son who was more of a patriot than Trump will ever be, etc.)
We are all damaged, every last one of us, and some are just better at covering it up than others. But no matter how good someone looks on social media, somewhere in their life they're feeling scared, inadequate and probably like a total loser (much media attention now for the Imposter Syndrome). I loved especially what you said about *really looking people*, knowing that there's a whole person in there that you can't see. It's so easy for us to objectify each other and just slap a label on them (asshole/bitch/racist/nazi/SJW etc.)
This is one of the best pieces you've ever written, Lyon.21/09/2017 #3 Kevin BakerAbsolute home run , out of the park. Yay for you. All the abusers count on the victim believing it was their fault. Having the courage to be vulnerable they are not capable of. They live through others suffering. If you have no fear, no aggression, they have no power.21/09/2017 #1 Bernard PoulinYou, my dear Lyon Brave are an exceptional thinker. Wonderful article which speaks to the suffering of many who choose to not make suffering their goal in life. I appreciate you speaking to a topic which needs consideration : It is not what is done to us but what we do with what has been done to us. . . Again, bravo!
- 19/09/2017Do you feel you would still be valuable if you werent making any money? Meaning do you think you have intrinsic value outside of your market value? Think deeply, then answer.
- 17/09/2017At some point i suggest you walk away from looking or asking others for support and guidance about what you should do and just ask yourself: what should i do, and do that. So what if it turns out to be a mistake. You will grow and learn faster and more truthfully and in an empowering manner. And thats all we really want from life. To ground our experience in lived life.
This note is for all of us living in our heads and afraid of making more mistakes . Absurdly, to be happy, we need to make a lot more. Go with courage my friends!
- Producer04/09/2017What can we learn from Darwin in today's technological world?Charles Darwin was born on February 12, 1809. The world he was born into would be entirely unrecognisable to us today. Bicycles had yet to be invented, steam engines were just beginning to appear, and slavery was commonly practiced in both England...
Comments18/09/2017 #15 Harvey Lloyd#14 I agree with your assessment and comment here. I really want to stress choice in conjunction with education. If religion is to be taught in school it should taught as part of the social science, not a belief system. I see any other theories revolving around science. Teach the latest and greatest stuff. Just stop with the personal subjective conclusions.
I have my own personal subjective conclusions in which believe. They become subjective when i share them. In my own self they are true. Again my choice.
People should be given resources and education on available facts, theories both physical and spiritual. Then they can make up their mind.
Thanks for taking the time to discuss this topic, many can't get past their own bias to have a real discussion. I try to leave my bias outside of a public debate, not always successfully, but do try.18/09/2017 #14 Lada 🏡 Prkic#8 #9 Harvey, sorry for the late response. I've been busy last days and hadn't much time for social media.
I didn't expect my question would provoke such extensive comment. I read it twice to absorb all that you said.
My previous experiences on social media taught me that discussions about evolution lead nowhere. The last such experience was when I posted the link to an interesting read I found on the Quora Blog, http://www.jefflewis.net/blog/2016/03/answering_quora_-_why_there_we.html
I will only say that even Pope Francis acknowledged the evolution. :-)
About school curriculum, in Croatian elementary schools, religious instruction as a facultative subject is a part of the school education from the first grade. Evolution is taught only in the biology of the eighth grade under the theme 'The Origin of Man'.
I am a great opponent of religious education as a school subject. The school should, however, teach young people to think with their heads, and then evaluate what is rational and irrational, or as you nicely said teachers need to remove their belief bias in teaching any subject. BTW I'm one of the people who are curious and question everything, even authorities.
I often wonder can science be compatible with religion. These are two ways of understanding the world. The physical universe subjects to rational analysis. The spiritual universe not. There are things outside of the realm of science.
Look forward to further exchanging of comments.17/09/2017 #12 Antoinette Capasso-BackdahlThe best action would be MANUMISSION NOW! Otherwise stop funding evolution. Any country engaging in slavery now is causing a real problem for those who want to prove evolution exists. Thanks to some countries, we just wont be able to have evolution. Thanks for nothing.
Slavery was and still is a global dilemma. It is still practiced in India, Iran, Saudi Arabia, China, N. Korea, Africa, et al overtly, and the many covertly. It's time that people take responsibility for their ancestors cause in the matter. My ancestors were slaves and I don't take kindly to revisionist stories. Women are still slaves in and in many countries sold off by their own fathers. It's time to prove evolution exists and start by getting the story straight. Their are PEOPLE in cages TODAY being sold.17/09/2017 #10 Harvey LloydDarwin's theories do lend themselves to business. But like Darwin's theory it is purely observational. Whether we look from behind the lines at data or we observe from the front lines we will have to make a choice of what to do with that information. Given Darwin's theories of the strongest survive or the ones that adapt the fastest survive, this places the leader doing the observation in the position of deciding whom is strongest.
Then we don't need empathy, or at best we find ourselves in conflict between Darwin and humanity. In an organization a great employee can fall upon hard times for various reasons. Darwin states we should cut the dying branch from the vine, they will not adapt in time and will corrupt the system. The Bible states to build up your network so when you are down you will find support in your neighbor. This is the choice behind what we believe and the framework science is building.
How do we explain that in business (Simon Sinek) the empathetic leader builds the strongest of trust, and motivation within their organization? This flies in the face of Darwin's thoughts within natural selection.
I would submit that the Bible offers great business acumen and the use of power in which places. If we are to choose between theories of how to be a great leader Darwin offers structure to our system, the Bible offers us humanity in execution.
Please accept my apologies in my comments. This debate is one that needs to come forward and i find it challenging when we cant debate the issues. Leadership is a process of gathering the best information you can and deciding within a time frame, a course of action. Data must be sorted and reviewed within the corporate interest, but also from a human perspective. I state only that we need to describe the human aspect of decision from a different theory.17/09/2017 #9 Harvey Lloyd@Lada 🏡 Prkic if i could now comment with the Christian bias. Sociologists, anthropologists and historians have gathered evidence to show the Bible's accuracy in plenty of areas. Considering the illiteracy of the people of the time where scribes existed i would state the mere fact the Bible made it through so many centuries of rewrites without morphing is amazing.
In the formation of our solar system some pretty amazing things came to be. Suffice it to say the search for exoplanets has been an exercise in understanding the unique condition of earth and its beginnings.
Darwin's theory requires a belief as we travel backwards. Pretty sound until we get back to the beginning. A rocky ball that is molten, cools, somehow collects water and the right chemistry happens that makes proteins and forms life. They have tried and failed to create the life under similar conditions. They can create the proteins but they cant make life emerge. So we had to offer an alternative, the life didn't emerge here, but on an asteroid and it landed here. Nebulous at best.
This is where we are today. I offer no future outlook. I do have to choose a belief system that guides me through life. I have made "my choice" based on the evidence "i" see today. The red herrings of the past and future do me no good today. When the aliens show up then i will reconsider my position, maybe.17/09/2017 #8 Harvey Lloyd@Lada 🏡 Prkic your question, i believe, gets to the heart of the matter. Let me express my Christian bias upfront. Your question is a daunting one from both sides of the isle. Parents should have the "right" to guide their children as they see fit. However that issue has become a hot topic since some scientists rebranded Darwinism from theory to absolute and then went further to express it as proof God doesn't exist.
Darwinism is a scientific viewpoint where all the known evidence is collected tested and viewed as the current opinion. Its not a religion. Religion is a belief system that may or may not include a creation story that helps us live our lives through proverbial social understanding. The two are oil and water. No matter how much science stirs or religion mixes the ideals don't blend or repel, except in the headlines.
As to the school debacle. Darwinism is a scientific theory like all the others, teach it as such. Religion is a belief system that many societies were built on, teach as such. I believe the rub is in the belief. I will choose what i feel is important for my children believe. My point of view was pretty open. When my children came home with the questions of creationism Vs Natural selection. I said at some point you will have to choose.
Choose was the operative word. Don't let others decide how you will live your life. Science needs to respect the boundaries of their theories and teachers need to remove their belief bias in teaching any subject.17/09/2017 #7 Lada 🏡 Prkic#6 Interesting comment Harvey. We can say, please don't tell me what to believe, but what do you think our children should be taught in schools. Currently, in most western countries only evolutionary biology is taught in public education.
Turkey removes Darwin’s theory of evolution from its national curriculum (which is not surprising at all given to the state policy). Serbia is also launching petition for expelling Darwin from school.
On the other side of the spectrum are the Czech Republic, Sweden, Estonia, Hungary, Germany ...16/09/2017 #6 Harvey LloydI struggle with observation that draws conclusions. I can only think that aliens looking at earth through a telescope would observe and conclude what? No i don't reside in Roswell. But in observational theory we can can conclude most anything. What we observed is fact and can be detailed but dovetailing multiple conclusions of why into a fact does not create truth.
The real answer to the question is, We don't know. I think it interesting that Darwinism is placed in direct conflict with religion. Why does Darwinism need to have a nemesis? Religion does not require a nemesis in the sense of creation but only the choice of what to believe.
I found Mr. Coyne to be not a scientist but a crusader against something that he doesn't believe. I am fine with his choices. Demeaning others and their beliefs based on his own beliefs, of a theory that we can not prove with anything other than anecdotal observation and circumstantial evidence, proves to me that in the end, its just a collection of theories, piled on top of opinions and someone believes it.
How is this different than religious beliefs? When we couple the theory of evolution with the big bang theory that has now evolved into string theory as we couldn't explain where the beginning truly is, we now have Walt Disney theater with his best animators working to prove something we cant.
String theory, multiple dimensions and other thoughts to make the big bang theory work is a matter of faith. I enjoy Darwinism theories, and also the theories of the big bang. But please don't tell me what to believe when each scientific discovery is always touted as the discovery that will prove scientifically the evolutionary theory or destroy religion.
I don't like religious people who threaten nor science. Should we show up to our tombstone with any belief we will meet Darwin. By becoming part of the cosmic footprint or through our belief in God. The choice is yours.04/09/2017 #3 Geoff Hudson-Searle#1 Interesting observations @xx xx I was having a discussion yesterday on what is right and what is wrong, like evolution, which was born in 1858 as a theory, what also became a fact, and a part of truth, a great explanation of this was a video by Jerry Coyne https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JqxCoibTtaI certainly worth a review.04/09/2017 #2 Joanne GardockiWell said, @Geoff Hudson-Searle. "How much time do you spend on the front-line observing your team or your customers rather than analysing second or third-hand data?" resonates. Real connection to and appreciation for team and customers will go along way in support of adaptation.04/09/2017 #1 xx xxMoving forward, we need to start looking at emergence, evolution is far too incomplete.
Everything is fields, it is all information. The lawful regularities of our physical reality are emergent.
There is an organizing principle involved, something like quantum random walks in state space. All we have are the relationship of measured things and incomplete descriptions. We are made of stuff but this stuff is something that cannot be regarded as real.
- Producer16/09/2017Respect, Simplicity and HumilityI read a fabulous buzz this afternoon by our very own Phil Johnson. I have to admit to you Phil, what drew me in to your buzz was the wonderful title..."Energy Vampire University"...I am a long time believer in the energy vampire and have gone to...
Comments22/09/2017 #21 Cyndi wilkins#20 Thank you Mac;-) What I've learned through my years as a bodywork specialist is the people we refer to as the 'energy vampires' tend to dump their own emotional short comings (or shit) onto others so as to lighten their load and make themselves feel better.
I always remind them, and myself for that matter, when you dump your trash in someone else's yard it will surely blow back into yours;-)18/09/2017 #18 CityVP 🐝 Manjit#16 Renaître which brings us back to the etymology of Renaissance. Cool stuff Cyndi !
http://www.etymonline.com/index.php?term=renaissance16/09/2017 #14 Lisa Vanderburg#7 Well, I'm buggered @Harvey Lloyd :)
You have identified the dilemma: Solomon is permitted to build the temple; his father David is not, yet he gathers all the material. That said, I agree with you; I am most certainly working in 'desperation mode'...to be on constant alert; to 'anticipate' is bleedin' knackering! :)16/09/2017 #10 Cyndi wilkins#7 Thank you for your wonderful thoughts @Harvey Lloyd...
"A little macabre but time and tombstones represents the great equalizer in the grand scheme of things."
This reminds me of the beautiful poem "The Dash" by Linda Ellis...The dash representing the time spent on Earth between the year of our death and that of our birth...I read it at my dad's funeral...He was a living example of the words...
"Be less quick to anger, and so appreciation more...and love the people in our lives like we've never loved before...Treat each other with respect and more often wear a smile...remembering that this special dash might only last a little while..."
Godspeed dad...You inspire me to be a better person...16/09/2017 #9 Cyndi wilkins#1 No apologies necessary Sir...Your mistake is to my benefit as it perhaps brings another set of eyes and voices to the discussions...Yours, mine and ours;-)
Also thank you @Lisa Vanderburg...for always being an inspiring voice to all the discussions you participate in...Steady as she goes you are;-)16/09/2017 #7 Harvey LloydYour energy in this area shines through as i read. The frustration of the world that we live within these day can be overwhelming and in some cases elevate us past our brothers and sisters. I sense that this frustration can place in desperation mode where we need to get what we need then we can be empathetic to others. This is a challenging position when many in our social professional lives are in this mode.
A little macabre but time and tombstones represents the great equalizer in the grand scheme of things. When i view life from here it shows only one option. Legacy. If we were to write our legacy would include our checkbook, assets or things that got named after us? Ecclesiastes expresses this from one of the wisest men we know in history. (And the richest.)
For me the legacy has become a process of joining my brothers and sisters in growing their beliefs, and most importantly their action oriented position on growing others. We have no right answers only a shared journey of understanding.
Thanks for your thoughts this morning, they have reinvigorated me in my own focus. Every person is worthy of our efforts in sharing a journey of understanding.
- 13/09/2017How to allow yourself to feel?
By becoming first aware how you are avoiding some feelings - both difficult ones and good ones. Here are the usual ways we all use:
- quickly moving to another thing from the one that's causing discomfort
- forcing yourself to think positively when you obviously dont feel like it
- forcing yourself to keep doing something or stick to a schedule that doesnt feel good
- trying too early to find the cause of the discomfort by analyzing or reasoning through
- turning on the TV
- having sex
- yelling at someone
- rejecting a compliment
- downplaying your accomplishments
- the moment you start feeling joy, telling yourself there is still much to do and accomplish
- not sharing your excitement about something
- not celebrating a breakthrough
- trying to put an idea into action before you thoroughly enjoyed daydreaming about it.
All of these are our unknown acts of self-agression and complete devaluation of self. Instead, try to catch yourself doing these and then slowly stop. Take a seat or lie down, breathe, send yourself some love and compassion directly with your thoughts and energy like you would towards a friend a need, create some loving space between you and whatever you were doing. In this calm moment, ask yourself how do I feel, whats the best thing for me to do now, whats something I can do that would disturb me the least, how can I conserve energy and support myself now. Listen and do what your inner self, your inner child, your soul, your intuition, your heart tell you.
Much later when you have calmed down and are back to a normal state, spend some time reviewing what feeling arose in that moment you were triggered and went in over-reaction or over-compensation mode. Give yourself time to explore and write or speak about it.
- 13/09/2017How Gratitude Can Help You Build Resilienceadvice.shinetext.com Gratitude reminds us of the tools we have to...
- Producer08/09/2017What are Limiting Beliefs and What Causes Them?There is so much talk about Limiting Beliefs. What are, in fact, limiting beliefs and what causes them? Simply put, it’s a way we interpret life that happens to us. I will elaborate in a way so you gain a clear understanding to what’s key...
Comments08/09/2017 #2 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee@Dunja Rado- you radiate facts and this buzz is the proof. You are spot on as limiting beliefs are the chains that tie up our minds and imprison them within a very limited boundary of movement.
I agree with your conclusion that the source or root cause of limiting beliefs are overwhelming emotions. Emotions lead to thoughts and thoughts to action. You may find the images in my presentation on Visual Storytelling quite relevant to your buzz and you are welcome to use them should you decide to.
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- Producer29/08/2017Why I need Professional and Personal Mentors?Thinking back to my school and university years and later starting my corporate career, I fondly think about the cousins, teachers, professors, seniors, managers and colleagues that played some kind of mentoring role in my life. At that stage,...
Comments29/08/2017 #1 Mohammed A. JawadAha...@Anel Marx so well you have exposed the essence of mentorship and significance of mentors. It's under their tutelage that people become great, prosperous and successful. They are like luminous lanterns that enlighten pathways of those who loyally follow them.
- Producer28/08/2017Empower Your Intuition and Feminine Potency.If you've ever doubted your intuition or second guessed your decisions...or felt you can't trust your deepest yearnings or self expression...or felt enormous grief and not known why... These are the painful reminders of your wise woman wounds...As...
- Producer09/08/2016Social Media Success Secrets Posthumously from Dale CarnegieDuring the 1930s, the late and great human relations expert, Dale Carnegie, wrote the following in his groundbreaking self-help book, How to Win Friends and Influence People: “You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in...
Comments27/08/2017 #51 David B. GrinbergMany thanks to all for your valuable and insightful comments, in addition to your kind words -- for which I' flattered. I'm also very grateful for the tremendous outpouring of gracious support and pleased this blogging buzz struck a chord with so many bees. Carpe diem!27/08/2017 #50 Tricia Mitchell“When dealing with people, remember you are not dealing with creatures of logic, but with creatures bristling with prejudice and motivated by pride and vanity.”
Love it. Great post @David B. Grinberg View more“When dealing with people, remember you are not dealing with creatures of logic, but with creatures bristling with prejudice and motivated by pride and vanity.”
Love it. Great post @David B. Grinberg and a timeless classic. I don't know Grant Cardone's 10 X work, but as I was reading your buzz, I wondered how they compared?
Your buzz led me to seek out a book I bought for a friend who was in sales (it's still with me). On a random page I found this:
"You cannot bore people into buying your product. You can only interest them in buying it." Yet repetition & memorable product names helps them stick in prospects' minds.
"When copywriters argue with me about some esoteric word they want to use, I say to them, 'Get on a bus. Go to Iowa. Stay on a farm for a week and talk to the farmer. Come bacj to New York by traib and talk to your fellow passengers in day-coach. If you STILL want ri use the word, go ahead'."
Taken from Ogilvy On Advertising.
Thanks for the great buzz, reminders & prompt to dig out another classic! Close18/08/2017 #47 Renée 🐝 CormierGreat post, @David B. Grinberg. Dale Carnegie books changed my life, and when you take the course, the principles you learn in the classes become a part of you. The quote in the top picture reminds me of a negotiation tactic I used recently. I had to negotiate a deal with a bully who was rather obstinate in his position, so I asked him where he would like me to make concessions. He was stunned by the question and needed clarification, so I repeated that I wanted him to tell me what he wanted from me. His response was not to tell me what he wanted, but rather to offer me much more than he initially offered. He asked for nothing from me at all. He didn't want me to compromise in any way. He just wanted everything to be his idea. Needless to say, I am quite happy. :)21/02/2017 #42 CityVP 🐝 ManjitThere were two people who played off the name of Andrew Carnegie. One of them was Napoleon Hill who wrote "Think and Grow Rich" (what he claimed was a figament of his imagination but he did write a very imaginative book) and the other was Dale Carnagey - one of the best sales people the 20th Century produced - and to make his brand look good, he changed his last name to Carnegie - to provide a better personal branding.
Before the Dale Carnegie organization is formed, he pays a visit to an educator called Ralph C. Smedley, and taps his brains about public speaking and other educational matters before getting into that business. Who is Smedley? He was the unassuming and totally authentic man who was bonafide educator and who founded an organization called Toastmasters International.
The bottom line is if one is in the sales or persuasion game, Carnegie has a lot to offer. Now if the whole purpose of social media is selling then I am glad that this success is happening well outside my personal space - for if one is in the spin you are spun and won't recognize being spun or spinning others. The Earth spins at about 1040 miles per hour but on Earth we feel like we are not moving or just walking - and social media is the same except what is spinning isn't physical earth but virtual mind.
Carnegie is worth a read in the 24/7 world of spin and influence. My perspective here is only as wise as the Beatles "Fool on the Hill". In the world of knowledge, there are ways of making that spin manageable - Clay Shirky called information overload "filter failure:" Now we have opened the world influence and attention to everyone - I will get back on that hill the Beatles sang about.17/02/2017 #40 Yogesh SukalThank you @David B. Grinberg for contemplative post. In my opinion, everyone has rate of evolving as a brand, faster the rate leads to non conformity in the social life, hence the social media to connect equally evolved mind or I can say platform to stand for equally evolved brand.14/08/2016 #37 Sarah Elkins#36 More water pistols! More cow bell! Humor is definitely the way to get people to engage. I've found it can be more difficult lately because of the hyper-sensitivity around all things cultural. Still, making people laugh will go a long way toward genuine engagement.13/08/2016 #35 Phil Friedman@ @David B. Grinberg - A thought provoking post. And in your usual manner, very well written. I think, however, that my view differs from yours in that I don't see social media as a road to winning friends or to influencing people. It's always seemed to me that making friends (i.e., developing meaningful relationships) involves much more than getting people to like you because you make them feel as though it's all about them. I also tend to see intellectual engagement as a two way street, wherein influence flows both ways. In Dale Carnegie's view, which is really a sales primer, you "win" friends by certain actions, whether authentic or feigned; and you influence people because they like you... because you make them feel good, independent of whether you are actually doing anything that truly benefits them. IMHO. Cheers!13/08/2016 #34 🐝 Fatima G. WilliamsGreat buzz and introduction of Dale Carnegie. I should read this book sometime soon. I LOVE THE FACT "IT'S NOT ABOUT YOU , IT'S ABOUT EVERYONE ELSE." If everyone were to think like this, not only when it comes to social media, this world will be a much better place to live in. Thank you @David Grinberg for this classic buzz12/08/2016 #32 Charles David Upchurch@David B. Grinberg, I, too, read the classic "How to Make Friends and Influence People" when I was in college. It all seemed pretty superficial and obvious to me, at the time, and I thought it was some sort of hypnotic phrasing intended to unwillingly influence readers and program participants. Later, I participated in The Forum, which was similar. Now I realize, after all these years, that even though I rarely think in Dale Carnegie's terms, I just naturally follow his precepts, because they fit with my personality. I like how you updated his ideas for today's social media. They very much describe how I generally act, online. Thanks! ~ CDU12/08/2016 #31 Loribeth PiersonIt's NOT ABOUT YOU! It’s about everyone else! This is what I teach my clients, I love that! I really do miss The late Robin Fray Carey, I was shocked and heart -broken when I heard of her passing. She was one of my first wonderful connections on LinkedIn. She really did talk the talk and walk the walk. I learned a lot by her kind words. Now I know what audiobook I will be revisiting on my next car ride. Thank you for such a wonderful post-@David B. Grinberg,10/08/2016 #28 David B. GrinbergMany thanks fellow bees for your positive social engagement with this post. I'm most grateful, as always, for your exemplary feedback: @Mohammed A. Jawad @Gert Scholtz William (Bill) Defour Henri Galvão @Paul "Pablo" Croubalian @Zachary Ostin @Marietta Gentles Crawford @Paul Kearley🐝 Tahir Kashif @Donald 🐝 Grandy If I inadvertently miss any of your sweet honey, please tag or message me.
- Producer25/08/2017What's a Mentor Supposed to Do?I don't know about other mentors, but Bruce Chalnick strikes me as a pretty good role model for mentors-in-training.New to the practice of Human Resources, I had lots of ideas, but not a lot of knowledge. I was responsible for HR for a small...
Comments26/08/2017 #3 David B. GrinbergNice blogging buzz and storytelling, Lynda. I agree that mentors can have a critically important impact on one's career path, especially at a young age (in my experience). Moreover, I think those who are fortunate to have been mentored should likewise give back later in life by mentoring younger generations. Do you agree?
FYI (in case you missed it) here's some honey I recently produced about mentors... https://www.bebee.com/producer/@dbgrinberg/the-critical-importance-of-mentors-to-landing-your-dream-job25/08/2017 #2 Ian WeinbergThanks for sharing Lynda. I would suggest that mentoring is a form of instruction which incorporates teaching and coaching with the aim of enhancing ability, self-awareness, awareness of the environment and value contribution. Additionally, resilience and fortitude evolve. Mentoring is unique in that the mentor takes a personal interest in the development of the mentored individual such that the gratification of achievement experienced by the recipient is shared by the mentor.