- Producer13/12/2017Let's Believe In Second ChancesLet's start out by introducing a man who miraculously has come back, and beaten the odds so to speak. John has become living proof that we all can turn our lives around, and be touched by an angel. Even though we all have different ways of...
- Producer13/12/2017Piuttosto che comunisti, MelegattiPublished on December 13, 2017 on beBeeIntroduzioneLeggo questo articolo scritto da Frank Merenda che a dispetto del nome e lavorando per Mediaset afferma di aver poter insegnare il marketing meglio della BocconiMelegatti può essere salvata mentre...
- Producer12/12/2017Leadership oppure Omologazione?Published on December 12, 2017 on LinkedInIntroduzioneL'esperimento: un solo tic tac per 32 metronomi a cura di Eleonora Giovinazzo del 27 settembre 2012 su La Repubblica Questi 32 metronomi poggiano la loro base su una tavola sospesa e tenuta in...
- Producer10/12/2017The Conflict AnimalsXmas is approaching and it is about time to turn conflicts into peace. This is easier said than done. However; the cost of conflict may reach an explosion point and nobody benefits. Conflicts are of different types. How can we fuse the possible...
Comments12/12/2017 #39 Harvey Lloyd#30 #29 "If you’re shown a hotel room you’ve been told is the Honeymoon Suite, your expectations will be high. If there’s no plush carpet, spa and champagne, you’ll be disappointed. On the other hand, if you’ve been told before the door opens that it’s a jail cell, you’ll be delighted to find even modest comforts.” C.S. Lewis
The suggestive nature within conflict is demonstrated in CS Lewis little parable above. When we enter conflict we need to be assertive, but we also need to make sure we are targeting the right stuff. In conflict we have unmet expectations. We should target the expectations as opportunity may reside within one or more of the expectations presented.
In leadership we have to scrape away the outcomes of conflict to find the source. 99% of the time it's in expectations that are in conflict. Should we make it about the emotional outcomes/behaviour we will miss the opportunity to share human capacity and increase our risk over success.
What we emphasys in conflict is what is made important in future conflicts:)12/12/2017 #38 Harvey Lloyd#30 #29 @Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee the question, "Where do we draw the line as to what is conflict and what is merely being assertive I wonder?" is a striking question. The question is in itself conclusive. It concludes that conflict is an anomaly to the setting in which we would be assertive.
Conflict is the contention between two value sets within two individuals or more. When our values, whether good or bad, are threatened then we become anxious and want to stop the person, idea or ideal that is causing this contention within our value set.
Unfortunately we almost never consider the value sets within our assertive intervention. We see only the behaviours that were drawn out from the compromised values in each party. Values lead to expectations, unmet expectations lead to pensive engagements. This is a natural process of the human endeavour.
What is seemingly unnatural , but pervasive, is the belief that "you/me" are the only person that works this way. We ALL have this human characteristic and great leaders know how to merge values from the most far flung positions into a single expectation, through conflict.
Great question and discussion.11/12/2017 #35 Joanne Gardocki#21 "So if i could replace your word ego with vanity or megalomania then i agree wholeheartedly with your comment. I believe you were say the same thing. I thought the distinction was worth further comment." thank you for the clarification, @Harvey Lloyd View more#21 "So if i could replace your word ego with vanity or megalomania then i agree wholeheartedly with your comment. I believe you were say the same thing. I thought the distinction was worth further comment." thank you for the clarification, @Harvey Lloyd. I look at ego a bit differently but find common ground in what you are saying. For me, "ego" is anything that would block my highest positive abilities or highest connection with others in a given situation. Absolutely, ego could be seen as the pride/vanity/megalomania you mention at the extreem end. However, being too timid to speak your truth or simply failing to really listen/connect with another is also how I see ego blocking highest positive potential. Simon Sinek has a lot to say in YouTube and TED Talks about how we make decisions and the characteristics of Leadership. Our primitive brain is highly involved and often beneath our conscious awareness, your advice to clear the Pandora's Box in meditative conditions to avoid cleaning up a mess later is akin to clearing our emotional baggage. There is good reason Emotional Intelligence is a key skill in leaderhship. Thank you for your insights and the opportunity to explore more deeply. Close11/12/2017 #33 Tausif Mundrawala#32 You have always quenched my thirst of knowledge by bringing forth these wonderful buzz in form of live examples. Am glad that you have always provided a constructive feedback in order to go ahead in life. Am glad that you did, Sir @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee11/12/2017 #32 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#31 I am very grateful to your comment dear @Tausif Mundrawala. You bring to light two important points. First your reference to Salman's Rushdi quote "He has described those men with hunger of power with heads of different animals". This is a real extension to the discussion. Instead of wearing many hats we have people with different heads of animals. You stretch my imagination with this quote.
Second- you are the first to highlight the idea of repellent. I am thankful to you for this. Sometimes repelling a conflict rather than deal with it is an effective solution.
You are widser than your age my friend.11/12/2017 #31 Tausif MundrawalaWhen two people don't agree with a given statement, logic, concept , reality etc than the animal of conflict comes into existence. Each party tries to prove themselves superior and with this motive they try to ruin the person at the other end with full ferocity. Am currently reading 'Shalimar-The Clown'- Salman Rushdie where a character of an ambassador tells a story to his daughter about the levels of power one trudges through in order to reach the top. He has described those men with hunger of power with heads of different animals. He starts with jackal and ends with fox. Each tries to create a hurdle in their respective rooms. Life itself is a conflict of different ideas, views, opinions etc where it need not be the other person but our very own self.
As far as the topic of repellent goes than we can get rid of pests by spraying heena or mehandi, red chilly powder works for cats who have the habit to get out doorstep dirty, burning of a jute sack helps get rid of mosquitoes and the list goes on and on. Thanks for this wonderful buzz, Sir @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee11/12/2017 #30 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#29 great comment @Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee. Yes and we have internal conflicts all the time. How many time we experince conflict of choices, conflicts between what our minds tell us and what our hearts want us to do. In oeder to deal with external conflicts we need to tackle our internal ones. May be @Harvey Lloyd would share his wisdom on your comment Joyce11/12/2017 #29 Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBeeConflict--hmmmmm. I found myself thinking of conflict as someone else's problem. In thinking further, I know I am first submissive, and then rise to the occasion if it's something I cannot escape. I found myself musing about sitting on a country road--sitting quietly while a herd of cattle crossed. The cattle represented the conflict. Where do we draw the line as to what is conflict and what is merely being assertive I wonder?11/12/2017 #27 Yolanda Ávila - Kaizen ProyectosI remember that I mentioned this topic in another buzz. That time I recommended to see this TEDX that offers a positive approach to the conflict.
Jung thought that conflict is the essence of Life and that it is a necessary requirement for all personal and spiritual growth.
I agree with him.
Life can not be lived in the abstract.
Only through confrontation with any individual conflict, for its resolution or transcendence, do we reach the depths of ourselves.
Best Regards @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee11/12/2017 #25 Harvey Lloyd#24 I believe that "popularity" of word grows when folks use the word as a label. The label or need for one may exist, but all to often, like marketing, we want catchy quick words that will stick. Ego is one such word and matter of fact so is lust. Each of these words have natural existence within our lives. A lust for writing is appropriate where lust for the neighbors wife is not.
Being confident and secure in your leadership is ego but browbeating someone who upstaged you is not ego it's pride/vanity. It may also be considered egotistical behaviour, but is still sourced in pride and vanity. We all have ego.11/12/2017 #24 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#21 @Harvey Lloyd- you remind me of my recent buzz on lust. It has negative meaning mostly. I have lust for writing. There is nothing wrong with this. Now you add another example- being egoist. Sometimes the meaning is only possible within the framework of contest.11/12/2017 #23 Harvey Lloyd#11 "It is all too easy to be mowed over by the "shoulds" and "demands" of the season. In a stressed state, we all come one step closer to giving our internal "animal" free rein."
In our day of drama laden communication it is so easy to pick up the "hot-Potato". Showing my age here.
In construction the hot-potato was always someone who was in trouble on a project and they needed to hand off the hot-potato. This cleared them of responsibility and set you up for the fall. Simple yet effective "negotiating tactic"
In those days i had to learn how to assist without taking the potato. In some cases i just walked away.
Today they i sense that folks want us to emotion match as their is strength in numbers. This is the same thing as the yesteryear hot-potato.
I don't accept being mowed over from the start. When i sense the hot-potato being served up i know instinctively to listen, reflect and redirect or walk away. On rare occasions i will accept the potato with all the risk, but i am choosing and not being set up blindly.
Ps. my animal brain operates more like a pandora's box, once opened all of it has to exit before the lid can be placed back,. I would imagine its like this for more than would admit. Best to empty the box in meditative conditions than have to clean up the aftermath. Beware the hot-potato:)11/12/2017 #22 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#20 brilliant thoughts my dear @Lisa Vanderburg. Your reference to the internal beast is consistent with a previous comment. What I really find novel in your gorgeous comment is our tendency to "but we tend to turn away from others when our space gets to crowded and the sense of unsolvable global NEED becomes overwhelming". This is an expanded example of going against the crowd effect. You touched upon a hugely-interesting idea. I believe you should consider expanding it to a buzz. This is novelty thinking my friend.11/12/2017 #21 Harvey Lloyd#11 The word ego has always been a challenge. It seems to have taken on a very negative connotation. But i believe it is natural not only within males, strongly but also females.
Ego, or at least my definition, is the acting out of what we believe with great passion and motivation. The dictionary discusses this as "self esteem and or self importance".
I want my doctor, firefighter or policeman to have ego. I believe we have cross defined ego with "megalomania" and "vanity"
If you have collected all the information, data and resources and challenged your team with the concept of the success you propose, you should have ego, self esteem and self importance.
When the poo-poo hits the fan it is rather interesting that we all want the one with "ego" to lead us to safety. The one who shows confidence, believes in the plan or is willing to bet their own safety to include others.
So if i could replace your word ego with vanity or megalomania then i agree wholeheartedly with your comment. I believe you were say the same thing. I thought the distinction was worth further comment.11/12/2017 #20 Lisa VanderburgAs always, a buzz to make me think, dear @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee!! And with the highest quality of comments you always attract so well addresses, it behooves me to be the devil's advocate :)
When is conflict a good thing?
I sometimes wonder, for example; we seem to stand on the precipice of annihilation or a momentous leap to a higher being (in which case at least half of humanity won't make it...me included!). It's almost as if we need war to quell our internal beast. Clearly, it's out of the question on so many levels, but we tend to turn away from others when our space gets to crowded and the sense of unsolvable global NEED becomes overwhelming. Just thoughts......
- Producer10/12/2017La povertà e la sua evoluzione in ItaliaPublished on Dicember 10, 2017 on LinkedInLa povertà in ItaliaSecondo l'ISTAT in Italia ci sono 4.7 milioni di residenti registrati che vivono in povertà assoluta e altri 8.5 milioni di residenti registrati che vivono in povertà relativa. A questi...
Comments13/12/2017 #2 Roberto A. FogliettaL’ITALIA È IL PAESE CON PIÙ POVERI IN EUROPA
Sono loro quelli ad avere maggiori difficoltà a far fronte a spese impreviste, a garantire che la propria casa sia sempre adeguatamente riscaldata, a far sì di avere almeno due paia di scarpe (estive e invernali), o ancora evitare di finire in arretrato con l’affitto o sostituire abiti lisi con capi più nuovi. Tutti indici di quelle che vengono definite «privazioni sociali e materiali», ma che al netto di espressioni politicamente corrette rilevano il grado di povertà delle famiglie. A livello europeo e nazionale il fenomeno si sta riducendo [...]
https://www-lastampa-it.cdn.ampproject.org/c/www.lastampa.it/2017/12/12/economia/gli-italiani-sono-i-pi-poveri-deuropa-3K9L0AftfBbVYVUZqoW5RI/amphtml/pagina.amp.html13/12/2017 #1 Roberto A. FogliettaI MILLENNIALS NON SONO STRANI, SONO POVERI
Oggetto sconosciuto per l'opinione pubblica, i millennial, sono molto meno misteriosi di quello che sembra. Basta guardare al conto in banca
I millennial sono per molti versi l'oggetto misterioso della cultura contemporanea, ma, al netto di titoli, articoli e prese di posizione sul loro status e la loro fisionomia bisognerà mettere in chiaro almeno alcuni punti che li riguardano. Un punto chiaro è che i millennial sono poveri. Stando al Census Bureau Americano, guadagnano 2000 dollari in meno rispetto ai loro genitori quando avevano la stessa età, e infatti sono più propensi dei genitori a vivere poveri e a casa.
Pare proprio che alla base dell'incapacità che le vecchie generazioni (i baby boomers e la generazione X) hanno nel capire i millennial ci siano questi precisi, e poco consolanti, dati statistici.
E sì, bisognerà dire una buona volta che buona parte dei i comportamenti caratteristici dei millenials in verità sono facilmente spiegabili con una logica da rasoio di Occam.
[...e senza speranza di emanciparsi da questo stato se non quella di emigrare all'estero.]
- Producer10/12/2017Il panorama politico italiano, in parole sempliciPublished on Dicember 9th, 2017 on LinkedInIntroduzioneSi legge con interesse un articolo di Paolo Mastrolilli inviato a Washington per La Stampa ad intervistare Michael Carpenter, già vice assistente segretario alla Difesa per Russia, Ucraina,...
- Producer08/12/2017Is Digital Marketing A Radical Mutation Or Just The Same Wolf In Different Clothes?Well, here we are 33 columns later and three years older and fending off senility. One of the things that Phil and I have always tried to do was to be as honest as we can without, you know, blowing up the edifice. On the He Said He Said Richter...
Comments10/12/2017 #17 Phil Friedman#16 Ignoring emails and phone calls does not "send a message", although it does provide a basis for inferring something about the company or individual involved. We could, of course, argue this back and forth all day to no avail. So perhaps my following comment will send a "message" as you understand it ...10/12/2017 #15 Phil Friedman#14 Actually, your perception of disagreement is mistaken. Both Jim and I have said (in this series and independently) dozens of times that true brands are not created but grow organically from presence, activities, and actions in business and the marketplace.
I simply take issue with your statement that conveying no message is itself a message. Conveying no message, even in a marketing context, might indicate something about someone or something, but that is *not* a message. Just as being without a brand (created or organic) is not itself a brand, although it may enable us to infer something. For brands by definition actively engender expectations and raise images. Thank you for reading and commenting.10/12/2017 #14 Martina Baxter#12 I think we'll have to disagree, since our starting points are different. I see both messages (and meaning) and brands as being constructed by others, rather than dictated by what one writes or creates. A brand represents how others perceive you, while the message is created/extracted by others receiving what you "send" (or don't send).
Since both are perceptions one can try to control them by managing what one sends, but doing nothing, even saying nothing still can create fodder for others' perceptions.09/12/2017 #13 Jim MurrayI have this discussion about communication with old friends three or four times a week. If you started in communications before the Internet, you get what Phil and I are talking about. If you started in communications after Social Media came along, there is IMHO, and 80% chance that you don't get it. The 20% are those who were smart enough to go back to the basics and apply the fundamental logic to their digital efforts. These rest are too wrapped up in thinking that they are creating some sort of better mousetrap. The quest to become successful (outside of retail) in the digital world is time consuming in the extreme. At a certain point it can easily diminish any ROI factor to zero. This is a marketplace where supply vastly exceeds demand. Most people ahave a better chance at long term success at a blackjack table in Vegas. IMHO again.09/12/2017 #9 Phil Friedman#7 @Don Philpott☘️, even granting the facts you cite, I still have to point out that a medium without a message is like an empty envelope that arrives in the post. Many firms elect to pay for the gathering of an audience, believing that gives them the best chance for conversions. And many digital marketers seek to play on that by measuring ROI in terms of click-throughs and subscribers. But the only truly meaningful metric for ROI is conversion to sales. And conversion still requires a message. Someone may pay heavily to be exposed on a YouTube channel that has 10,000,000 subscribers, but if they have nothing to say and convert no watchers to customers or even prospects, that expenditure has earned them zero return. Thanks, Don, for reading and bringing perspective to the conversation. Cheers!09/12/2017 #7 Don Philpott☘️I'm not jumping into the main discussion topic, the pro/con element...agreed on many of the points of digital deviancy and deceit. But there is a core point - marketing follows the audience. The audience no longer reads "news" = ad revenue v cost for paper ads has scaled out of reach for most businesses, 1000 channels dilutes your TV marketing dollar considerably. Digital empowers the user (also the idiot and my friends in the fear factory). As @Phil Friedman says - "the medium"(is the message). I think Exhibit A is a relevant addition - (came from @John White, MBA 's feed) https://www.careermetis.com/podcast-a-day-in-the-life-of-chief-marketing-officer-barry-rabkin/ Barry gives a list of skills (30:15 - 32:30) Adwords, Social Media, SEO, writing, design, promotions, research, forecasting, collaborative skills ...so aside from key technical skills the domain is not different - it is still persuasive communication ...but now global, digital (meaning DTP) and visual - My daughter watches this https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCD9PZYV5heAevh9vrsYmt1g 10 million "subscribers" rem. not viewers - the ad revenue/royalties alone is 200000 USD. I told the boss of Alison.com yesterday that this is his competition - not the message, the medium.08/12/2017 #2 Jim Murray#1 Hey @Paul "Pablo" Croubalian...They are both the same except for the intros and extros. The one I posted has several typos corrected versus Phil's version, so it's probably cleaner to use if you are going to use it. Thgere's no need to combine them. If you're just cutting and pasting the main body of the post, use mine. I also added a mention of you in that version as a bribe.
- Producer08/12/2017The First Symptoms Of The Death Of DemocracyFor the past several years I have been watching as democracy, as we used to know it back in the day, is slowly eroding into a strange form of lawlessness.And a lot of this erosion has precisely to do with the medium on which you are reading this.The...
Comments10/12/2017 #19 Harvey LloydI will have to agree to a point, the damning news of individuals showing up with these accusations, does give one pause as leaders are falling from key junctures.
I don't believe that ""Power" knows gender, democrat, republican or any other label. Power is an absolute that one can find themselves within, and determine the fate of others. Men and their egos seem to take bad turns more frequently than women, but power is alluring to both/all.
I can remember my dad at a young age hollered at the tv and my mom would let him know he was hollering at inanimate objects. Today this is known as the offline rant. The flash of emotion gone the next day. Now we don't have to holler at the devices in our life, we can holler at everyone that will listen or not.
I am not sure we are ready to hold this "Power" of unlimited opinions and posting. A single rant is somewhat powerless, yet when we couple huge swaths of rants into a group we can develop momentum power. I don't believe we as a species understand the full scope of our ranting when they are join together.
Zuckerberg will either go down as the most brilliant social triumph or as the beginning of the end.10/12/2017 #18 Pamela 🐝 Williams#17 Take it form someone who went to HR, their jobs are not about taking care of the workers but to protect the company. That is the unrealistic view employees have of HR that they will stand up to CEOs, VPs, Managers that act unprofessionally. In was written up for insubordination and my life was made pure hell. I eventually left the company. I have no use for HR other than to discuss benefits.09/12/2017 #17 Erroll -EL- WarnerMy question is, where were all those CEOs when sexual harassment was taking place in their company? The American Media thinks it is the voice of all American, yet could detect sexual harassment in their own rank. Where were those Human Resources managers? Why haven't we heard from any CEO as yet which would some assurance to associates in the workplace? Just the -OLD BOYS CLUB- in operation.09/12/2017 #15 Pamela 🐝 WilliamsSTART PART 2
Money, "The root of all evil" is all the trumpions cared about, not humanity, not their stupid fears of anyone who is different from their privileged white-skinned homophobic self-serving idiot selves. Women should have a voice but I've got news for all of them; you are playing right into the GOP's hands, or haven't you noticed it's mainly the liberals who are being outed? Do you really think that this a coincidence? Congratulations, you're still being manipulated, just like you were during the election. Many of the women who came out against the imbecile during the election had their very lives threatened by the extreme right, do you think that stopped? IDIOTS I don't blame the DEM leaders for leaving; who wants to protect and fight for people who treat them like this?
When they tax you into bankruptcy, when you're all bowing to the 1%, when you're no more than servants to the corporations with no benefits, no healthcare, and no one who will stand up for you, I'll be laughing my ass off. I've been poor before, I know how to do it.09/12/2017 #14 Pamela 🐝 WilliamsThis week during lunch a very conservative co-worker laughingly reported that Franken was resigning. He was gleefully happy. I felt my blood pressure rising and I couldn't help it, I said it; "Yes now lets replace him with a GOP pedophile". What Franken did was wrong, but you're right, no due process. Yet, that piece of garbage in Alabama is seeing support from every corner. Everyone has told me I'm being too pessimistic, that the US is such a great country, that we'll come out of this, but we're not. With each passing day those monsters in DC are turning this country into a Fascist nation. Radio hosts are allowed to threaten Civil War if we get rid of the demented Tyrant sitting in the white house, they continue to support a fascist congress. I have no forgiveness left for those who caused this with their vote. It was obvious what was going to happen and they still want to blame a man who had more integrity in the tip of his little finger than all these ignorant backwards voters have in their combined bodies. Let's face it; they could not stand having a Black Man leading this country. He brought us out of the collapse that the GOP caused, he rallied a country living in fear for their livelihood. He fought for the entire country, stood up to Putin, and he did it with no support from Congress. Everyone fell for the propaganda, hook, line, and sinker. Well, I'll scream it from the housetops: I loved and miss the Obama's!!!!! END PART 109/12/2017 #12 Lisa 🐝 GallagherWhen the #MeToo movement first began, I thought... wow, women can finally find their voices and let go of pain they endured hence, moving on. As much as I am all for women speaking out, it's been my fear in recent days that this has become more a play on politics using people as sacrificial lambs instead of allowing them due process. Franken IS a prime example of the sacrificial lamb. He asked for his own ethics committee investigation and yet that wasn't enough, the Democrats went full throttle on him without giving him the chance to prove that the allegations were all true or not. I'm not going to sugar coat this, I am angry as hell that playing politics with people's lives, should that surprise me in today's environment, NO. But, It disgusts me. He is a sitting Senator, unlike Moore whose running for a Senate seat. Personally, if they are going to go this far with demanding resignations within the bodies of Congress and the Senate without due process well, I think a person or person(s) who run for office and have accusations of sexual misconduct, abuse or pedophiles, I think they should be disqualified and run after they are able to prove their innocence if that IS the case.
I will make one last comment, the Republican party not only funded Moore but they along with Trump are promoting him because you know, they don't want a liberal in office (with a decent record), they want someone at any cost to fill that seat because they will vote for the extreme Republican agenda. This just sickens me. Party over country. I find this to be a double standard and it's wrong on every level.09/12/2017 #10 Brian McKenzieThe backlash is in the works - #MGTOW has the helm. Do not give attention time, attention, assistence, consideration nor funding to them. Do not work for them, with them nor around them. Plus up on a bodycam - and quit talking to them - at all. The full nuclear option, scorched earth. Complete EMCON - if there is no contact, there can be no insinuation nor accusation of crime.
Anything less is hopscotching in a minefield while singing Disney show tunes.09/12/2017 #7 Jerry FletcherThe times they are a changin' and not for the better, he said. I'm not so sure of that. I almost believe this is a kinder world where someone being outed has it done very publicly. Before it was used for all kinds of surreptitious control on all sides of the equation. Now, the people that would control through intimidation are without a platform. More importantly, the individuals that had no sense of guilt about their behavior can't walk away. Society is damning them with the guilt they should already have acknowledged.08/12/2017 #6 Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand AmbassadorGreat post, Jim. When people get on the bandwagon, just for the sake of doing so or to selfishly prove their own point, the real issue becomes blurred. This has to be highly insulting to the real victims. I agree with @Paul "Pablo" Croubalian View moreGreat post, Jim. When people get on the bandwagon, just for the sake of doing so or to selfishly prove their own point, the real issue becomes blurred. This has to be highly insulting to the real victims. I agree with @Paul "Pablo" Croubalian, and @Charlene Norman - this stuff is seriously out of hand, and the fun factor in making friends is challenged. Close08/12/2017 #3 Paul "Pablo" CroubalianWell, Jimbo, you took the words right out of my mouth, or to be literal, my laptop screen. I deleted my similar post lest I be accused of plagiarism.
This stuff is getting seriously out of hand. Not a day goes by without a new accusation, but we rarely hear of anything real. Some of the accusations are really "out there."
Time magazine declared #MeToo to be its Man of The Year. . . I hope that's fake news. I wonder if all those hundreds of thousands realize that their #MeToo story belittles the real #MeToo stories.
People have really been harassed, attacked, and victimized. That's unacceptable. To equate someone discretely checking out a behind with those other real horrors is ludicrous and insulting to true victims.
That hashtag sums it up. . . me too about just about everything, especially innuendo (which is not "suppository" in Italian, but may as well be).08/12/2017 #2 Charlene NormanBrilliant post. From a selfish point of view, I hate what this world has become because it further strips away the fun factor from working and making friends. In the old days, before everything was so damned politically correct and policy-ed, people actually had fun. There was good-natured, innocent FUN. This awful "everything is always about sex and I am uncomfortable and you cannot make me feel otherwise cuz I am always right" fantasy we find ourselves living in today sucks the soul completely out of everything. There is not enough person to person interaction today thanks to the mistaken belief that technology is where we must be at and this death in democracy as you call it further widens the people to people divide. Keep beating your tom tom @Jim MurrayJim Murray@Jim Murray. I pray enough someones will listen and actually do something because of it.
- Producer07/12/2017225 Million and Counting''I am a foreigner in a foreign land and no matter how long I stay here I will always be a foreigner but not necessarily an outsider'' Paul Walters Their names could be Ahmed, Maria, Chang or Maciek they would all have an individual story and...
Comments10/12/2017 #38 Mohammed A. JawadIn the aegis of humanity, we all are human beings. Aren't we? And, we by man made rules, degrade each other and label people by this name or the other. We all belong to diverse nations, cultures and languages so that we may know each other and treat well, not to nickname and ridicule others by downgrading them. Great post @Pascal Derrien09/12/2017 #35 Pascal Derrien#34 thanks @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher for sharing everyday examples, I think we all have them around us, we need to give proper credit to those who have taken giant steps to better their lives or is it simpler to play it down because attacking is a reflection on one's self inability :-)09/12/2017 #34 Lisa 🐝 GallagherWhat a great piece @Pascal Derrien! We are all humans that inhabit planet earth and no one gave another the rights (with the exception of man) to make boundaries impossible to cross. I remember the Berlin wall and when it came down. I remember crying and that was the best thing that happened for many who were separated from their families, by class and more- They are a prime example of how East and West Berlin were able to come together and find common ground along with not being isolated anymore.
I admire others who move to foreign lands and learn the customs, the languages and build new friendships because you are right, that is something I would find very difficult and scary. But, the lessons each person learns from the other is invaluable, without walls- they build understanding for humanity; compassion!
I hope we do not 'build that wall,' between the US and Mexico. It takes a lot of courage and determination to come to the US with the hopes of becoming a citizen in order to make a better life for their families. I have 2 step sisters that are married to Mexican men and I can attest their husanbs work hard, put family first and even put their wives on a pedestal. They both are citizens now but it wasn't easy. My step brother in law's mother is allowed to visit X days per year and I fear she will lose that right. She has taught my step sister and her children so much as well.
Walls are ruses. I'm a big believer in inclusive societies. I hope to see more inclusion before I leave this earth. Right now, my hopes are dimmed a lot. If people really got to know others from many cultures/races they may let go of their xenophobia. Xenophobia is media and mass society produced.09/12/2017 #33 Brian McKenzie#23 I have been out of America for the last 5 years, I have no intention of going back. Prior to leaving the military sent me around the world and into the shit 9 times, none of the on ground events matched the lies they were spooling up about the 'actions' back home. DITTO for the "Migrant Crisis". It has been fully planned, engineered and prepetrated by high levels of gov't and banking. Studying livestock and ranching is instructive, they consider us nothing more than meat for the machine to be herded and slaughtered as they wish.08/12/2017 #32 Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador#31 Yep, I understand. People judge others by their accent yet know nothing about the person. I don't have a distinct accent from any part of the US which I prefer not to.
My mother had a heavy southern accent and took some sort of training to get rid of it. I'm guessing her training was sometime in the 1950s. She sang professionally and I am assuming that was the reason for her wanting to shed her accent.
I love to hear accents, especially from the UK.08/12/2017 #31 Pascal Derrien#30 thanks @Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador I lived in a caravan the first 3 years of my life and then did 3 schools per year on average because we were moving from/to border towns near the 4 or five countries around france I never had the right accent story of my life :-)08/12/2017 #30 Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand AmbassadorBravo, Pascal. One that lives in the U.S. and if born in NY and moves to Kansas, can feel like a foreigner. Definition of foreigner: a person in or from a country other than one's own. Well, duh - isn't this what makes life interesting?08/12/2017 #26 Harvey Lloyd#25 I'm OK with the bias in principal as we cant really not hear or see beyond what we are exposed to. My challenge is that we take this limited exposure and then form actionable opinions. The southern accent was always an ice breaker with the turnip truck jokes but it was in jest and i didn't take offense. I got learn their culture and they mine.
Today is different though. Fear based presentations of the 10% have now spread to define whole cultures. Naturally the natives extend this fear across all unknowns. The bias has now pushed back to the outsider to prove they are "safe".
Bias cant be helped, but with executive function we can examine that bias before we act in any setting. Unfortunately executive function seems to be devolving back to cave painting.
You would be welcome around here boss. If you do get around the US let me know i have two sleeping pills waiting. I need you take that nap and finish the hung up airplane story.08/12/2017 #24 Harvey LloydThis is a very challenging topic, but very interesting. Especially if you come from we are all human perspective. Why do natives tend to reject outsiders naturally? I have never lived abroad, pretty much a homeboy. Yet when traveling north in the US, my southern accent i was always treated as though the turnip truck must have broke down nearby.
My own theory, after experiencing this many times over twenty years, was that folks had a portrait of southerners that was born from nebulous conversations that were harmless, yet formed the opinion. I also recognized that i was an ambassador of the South:) Overtime i made some great Yankee friends and we all laughed at the differences. Yanks are pretty straight forward about their thoughts, southerners tend to flavor thoughts with mystery to keep you guessing.
Cultural differences i am sure were felt when we were more nomadic in life as tribes had to figure out who was safe and who was not. Different traditions, morals and values are difficult to understand if they have not been part of your narrative. I believe there is a onus upon each side to understand the dance steps of figuring each other out.
Media today though has really planted some ill seeds of cultures, keeping the dance from happening.
- Producer06/12/2017Socrate, il primo filosofoPublished on December 6, 2017 on LinkedInIntroduzioneUn diagramma che riassume nella sua semplicità Socrate come filosofo.Un piccolo erroreUnico neo in questo diagramma è costituito dall'approssimazione con cui è stata scritto il contenuto di una...
- Producer05/12/2017Do we have limitless borders in today’s world?Last week was particularly interesting and one could even go as far as to say disturbing, so much so I decided to write about these observations, which can only be described as ‘no limits’ and ‘no boundaries’ for others.It is amazing what an...
Comments08/12/2017 #13 Geoff Hudson-Searle#6 Thanks @Lisa Vanderburg for your wonderful thoughts and comments. Your words triggered some thoughts.... can all people aspire to be strong—to accomplish self-realisation? I am not convinced. But growing people have unrealised power if their self-concept, their self-expectation, their self-direction, and their constantly broadening perceptions allow them to find it. The difference between a strong person and a weak person may not be a difference in ability, for many have keen intelligence; or in drive, for many ambitious people get nowhere; or in opportunity, for somehow, strong people make opportunity. Maybe, the difference lies in self-concept. How much do I value my life? What do I want to do with it? What must I do to be myself? Strong people have emerged with clear-cut answers to such questions; weak ones equivocate and temporise and never dare.08/12/2017 #12 Geoff Hudson-Searle#5 So great to have your comments @Harvey Lloyd you always have that special way of provoking thoughts straight to the core of the subject matter. In an open and free society we would expect strong cultures to thrive and weak misguided cultures to shrivel or die. But for all cultures, the ability to survive, even to thrive, is dependent on creating strong families to socialise youth, to transmit values, and to create youth who are physically, emotionally, and socially strong. The problem is how many examples of a prosperous, thriving, free society can you identify in today's world?08/12/2017 #11 Geoff Hudson-Searle#4 Very interesting comments @Pascal Derrien I think one of the best exercises that I have done to help me live more fully was just allowing myself to acknowledge each precious moment. Then when you experience this same experience again, you consciously put yourself back into your new framework.08/12/2017 #8 Geoff Hudson-Searle#1 Thank you @Savvy Raj so lovely to hear from you and receive your responses, and so many truths! Data-driven technologies are increasingly being integrated into many different parts of society, staggering advances in technology, communications and sciences across the world is one of the defining aspects of the last few decades. From social media websites to free video calling services from anywhere in the world just being a phone’s click away it would appear that the millennial generation has it all. But if we move past all the smartphones and gadgets and websites and take a hard look at the lives of Gen Y, we will notice that dating has become harder than ever. The facts, do we actually have time for our most precious relationships, do we give the time to build lasting, loving relationships around trust and values or do we constantly feel we can always do better with the latest api or technology app? I agree across your comments on balance, what we should be doing is focusing more on how we spend our time and with others.06/12/2017 #7 Lisa Vanderburg#5 How true @Harvey Lloyd about the released genie! 'Religion has been tossed out, Darwinism has now led us to Face Book...'; another great truth.
Is this why we are driven to Mindfulness & Meditation and - worse; are these methods then merely self-serving? These ideals are touted as altruistic; heal thyself to heal others. If that's the case, is it our need to protect ourselves? Great thoughts dude!06/12/2017 #6 Lisa VanderburgOh, well done @Geoff Hudson-Searle for this stark and naked truth; we have found this shiny new toy and it is teetering on being our undoing. We are fully capable of running over any barrier at any time; much like a filled glass finally breaking the water tension by that one more drip.
For me, I sometimes think we've gone too far: if we could see ourselves and others as we really live and are, would we want to? Are we now better off not seeing all those 'friends' on social media...do we not feel safer that way? Lunatics may well run the asylum, just as long as they don't come out!
Excellent buzz!06/12/2017 #5 Harvey Lloyd..."He is born not for the development of the society alone, but for the development of his self.” The context of the word "development" is the answer to all the observations you pointed to and i believe this why B. R. Ambedkar did not exclude society completely. But can we really discuss development with out the larger humanity question of, what is a prosperous, thriving, free society?
I struggle with observation or as i word it discernment that falls short of solution. Unfortunately when we discuss solution we have enter the no mans land of absolutes. Within absolutes we have boundaries. Let the apathy begin. I do not refer to law or regulation or the correctional facilitation in breaking these, but rather the human moral code of absolutes. Even the Vikings had a moral code of absolutes.
We cant face society and develop ourselves at the same time, the reflections are too variable. So we must look at our own moral code, belief system or absolutes that we go to in decision making and behavior. Religion has been tossed out, Darwinism has now led us to Face Book and the no boundaries, except those established through the ever stretching materialism.
The rise of mindfulness and empathy are coping mechanisms without considering the core morality of the individual. I am truly not advocating anyone solution, but am wanting to re-frame the debate away from observation to solution, and not coping but self awareness first then social.
Great discussion and deserves a solution. It will be difficult to put the genie back in the bottle.06/12/2017 #3 Randall BurnsInteresting buzz @Geoff Hudson-Searle I do have to ask for some clarification with your comment of,
"In 1969, before cell phones, laptops, and smart watches, Americans were willing to believe that men walked on the moon."
Are you saying that you don't believe in the moon landings?06/12/2017 #1 Savvy Raj@Geoff Hudson-Searle An excellent buzz on the state of times we live in. Something that am sure all of are sensing already but at times are often clueless as to how to meander through these challenges successfully.
There are a lot of truths here in your writing which all of us need to come to terms with especially on how much we choose to spend time in the virtual world and what are its ramifications on our life and living . And especially are we able to disengage from the virtual to the real world or are we already lost our sense of self in cyberspace. And perhaps the answers are in moderation towards creating balance but then to each their own .
- Producer05/12/2017"I Hate to Read But I Love to Write."It seems we'd rather pee on an electric fence than read a book these days.“Never judge a book by its movie.” JW Eagan“There are three kinds of men,” Will Rogers once said, “The one that learns by reading. The few who learn by observation. The rest...
Comments08/12/2017 #41 Robert CormackWe like fast information, @Preston Vander Ven. Unfortunately, fast information is usually instantaneous, meaning without a lot of thought. I'm an editor for The Wake Up Call, and it's amazing how many pieces are sent to me that were obviously dashed off. Gert and I have discussed what it takes to write a thoughtful post. I admitted I take between 8 and 10 hours. This sounds absolutely ridiculous to 90 percent of writers on these sites, but either you labor over something or you throw things out there, hoping something sticks to the wall. I call that "jabber writing."#3908/12/2017 #40 Lada 🏡 PrkicRobert, your excellent post finally explained what's behind emoji comments or one-word comments like "wow" - a desire for expressing oneself as cleanly as our grunting ancestors. :)
Sometimes I also ask myself what else I could do with all the time I spent in reading. I'm still searching for an answer. :)07/12/2017 #39 Preston 🐝 Vander VenI will admit, I do not enjoy reading emoji pictures. It is a foreign language to me. My reading of books was decreased over the last three years, yet my reading of blogs has increased probably 100 times. I am not sure what I enjoy more. I am still kind of old fashioned, liking my favorite authors.07/12/2017 #38 Randall Burns#34 I had an incredible epiphany this week @Susan 🐝 Rooks, the Grammar Goddess about how much I actually learn through writing,
https://www.bebee.com/producer/@randall-burns/why-i-write07/12/2017 #34 Susan 🐝 Rooks, the Grammar GoddessWell, @Robert Cormack, I read constantly. The library is my fvorite place in the world, except for my little house where I read voraciously. I can't imagine not reading; I have been doing so all my life, supposedly (according to my late mother) I was reading when I was two. Books have always been important to me.
And by reading, I learn! I don't learn from my own stuff; I learn from what others write.06/12/2017 #29 Robert CormackInterestingly, @Harley King, I think it's the Boomer parents, bragging about NOT reading books that rubbed off on their children. I think it's safe to say if you don't have books around the house, children aren't inspired to read. My grandfather, who lived with us until he was 99, had bookshelves full of Dickens, Shakespeare and others (he was a Shakespearean actor). Of course it rubbed off on me. How could all those books not rub off?#2706/12/2017 #27 Harley King#21 @Robert Cormack. I am speechless. Shocked. Sad. I would not go to a doctor who did not study his/her craft. I would not use a plumber who had no knowledge of plumbing. Yet, people think they can write without studying their craft through reading. People think they can paint without acknowledging the masters who have gone before. We all stand on the shoulders of those who have paved the way for our success.
I do not think reading is a generational change. I know Baby Boomers who are proud of the fact that they don't read. There are still many Millennials who love to read.
I also believe this lack of reading begins with the parents. My 40 year old daughter and my 9 year old daughters both love to read. The nine year old has read 15 books in the last 4 months. And I am not talking about picture books. These are 200 and 300 page novels. I read to my children from very young. I believe it starts with the parents. If the parents love to read and encourage it, most children will enjoy reading.
- Producer05/12/2017Comfortably Numb Is The Last Thing You Want To Be These Days.There is no pain, you are recedingA distant ship, smoke on the horizonYou are only coming through in wavesYour lips move but I can't hear what you're sayingWhen I was a child I caught a fleeting glimpseOut of the corner of my eyeI turned to look but...
Comments06/12/2017 #7 CityVP 🐝 ManjitNews is so pervasive these days that even if we lived in a wooden hut in Montana, one way or another it will find us. I can see how a rant can have therapeutic quality. I had heard of Tourettes but not aware at all about other tic syndrome and the effects of stress related to that , so that was insightful. As I searched more about this I came across your May 2016 post https://www.bebee.com/producer/@jim-murray/the-rant-it-s-literally-saved-me-years-of-psychotherapy which I had not seen before.06/12/2017 #6 Nicole ChardenetI have been avoiding CNN more.
I've found there's no point in getting het up about what's going on in Washington...which affects me, as an American, and also as a Canadian because as below, so above; but there's nothing I can do about it, and it was just making me insane so I only go one now for my daily "WTF?" moment. I used to not understand why my mother did that when she was my age, now I do...the older you get, the more you realize it's easier to just not give a shit. Even though sometimes I wonder if we may be living with the very real threat of nuclear war again, and whether I am close enough to a Ground Zero that I can just get torched and done with it or whether I'll be one of the unlucky bastards to survive, at least for a little bit.06/12/2017 #4 Pamela 🐝 WilliamsWhen I've had a bad day, or someone hurt my feelings, or I'm not sure how to handle a problem; I talk to the Moon. He's a good fellow, he let's me figure it out all by myself. He doesn't give me stupid advice or tell me I'm being ridiculous or tell me I'm imagining a slight. We have some great conversations my friend and I. My best confidant is the ocean; it takes all my anxieties or fears and washes them out to it's deepest depths and it's best when the surf is rough and crashing against the shore, it comforts me.
Okay, so now everyone knows I'm a bit loony.05/12/2017 #1 Wayne YoshidaExcellent @Jim Murray - Sticking one's head in the sand / trying to ignore the world / getting comfortably numb is dumb. At some point, one gets a big kick in the rear for doing that.
To combat the stress and negativity, I like to work with my hands - building something or destroying something. Primal screaming also works wonders, and makes the neighbors wonder what's going on.
- Producer05/12/2017Friends...!!Friends are like waves of the sea: sometimes they are far away because of circumstances, others are close and flood our soul with joy. No matter the distance that separates them from us, because in one way or another they always make us realize that...
- Producer05/12/2017Why I WriteWhy I Write I have been pondering this query/statement lately and truth be told I have to admit;I am NOT a writer!Having said that however I have to say that I’m NOT a lot of things;- I’m not a Sailor- I’m not a...
Comments09/12/2017 #56 Louise SmithBTW
As I am a communicator, I am a writer!
I love writing ! Having said that I have to say that I love a lot of things;
- I am a Sailor
- I am an amateur naturalist/biologist/environmentalist
- I am a philosopher/psychologist
- I am a photographer
- I am a player of board games involving logic not chance
- I am a constructor of gardens, clothes and craft work
- I am a teacher/mentor
- I am a leader
AND I am also a Cook!
Most of us have many skills and talents that flow into each other like the flavours of Tiramisu09/12/2017 #55 Louise Smith@Randall Burns Your buzz is quite extensive highlighting some of beeBee's best. There are quite a few metaphors as well which enhance the flavour.
I think if you are a good speaker and a good communicator you are a good writer - you just have to try it. I often tell my clients to use the voice recorder on their mobile to record their thoughts and revelations. It's faster than writing, more organic and less intimidating. They don't have to play it to anyone and there's that software that can turn it into text.
I like how you describe how while writing, you can have an epiphany with your ideas changing and developing in totally unexpected paths.
I am often inspired to write a post after reading other writers. I can talk about anything to anybody so I can also write about anything. So I struggle with knowing what I want to write about. So I just experiment !
The last post I wrote https://www.bebee.com/producer/@louise-smith-state-of-queensland/why-do-we-make-decisions-that-don-t-pan-out just came to me out of the blue which is unusual for me.09/12/2017 #54 Louise SmithHi @Randall Burns
I see you wrote this buzz 4 days ago while I wrote mine on April 11 2017
I thought it was underdone / read so
I sent it to people who follow @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee, who love eating, who often comment on my posts and whom I admire
Before becoming a psychologist 7 years ago, I was a high school teacher of Japanese and English for decades
So I have read literally 1000's of written works of all genres in both languages (and had to grade them !)
I guess this has made me a bit fatigued and it is difficult to maintain my attention (as I speed read and skim well too ) unless the content is engaging, thought provoking and like left overs - there's still something to think about the next day !06/12/2017 #45 Ken BoddieIt seems to me, Randy, your writing's a passion,
It flows from the soul and it follows no fashion,
You may think the kitchen's your real habitat,
But if you're not a writer, then I'll eat my hat.
Thanks for the mention, mate. From one 'non-writer' to another ..... keep non-writing!
Incidentally, are we talking 'loud but harmless' or 'silent but deadly'? 🤢06/12/2017 #44 Randall Burns#42 #43 Well Hello @Sara Jacobovici, great to hear from you and Thank You for the share. I had no idea you had that Hive and I've joined, LOL, more reading material for my "Bucket List", thankfully this is all "virtual" or I'd have to expand my library drastically. :-) I appreciate your thoughtful feedback.06/12/2017 #40 Lada 🏡 PrkicYour writing is delicious as the food and recipes you write about :)
I like your style and the joyous energy behind your words, and to me, you are a writer.
Yes, writing should be easy, but it's also hard when you write in a language that is not your mother tongue. I've chosen the harder way to start writing.
Wish you to keep this energy and the floodgates remain open. :-)
- Producer03/12/2017Issues on ClosenessHow close can two friends get to each other? Is it judged by our feelings to a friend? How does closeness figure out in our actions such as touching a friend’s hand rather than nodding a head to salute him? How close is it advisable to get to...
Comments05/12/2017 #23 Proma 🐝 NautiyalI couldn't agree more, @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee. For me, too much proximity is never a good idea. Everyone needs their own space. Otherwise without that space people will feel suffocted and might end of venting on the closest person. "Space" shouldn't be a luxury but a necessity to have healthy relationships, be it with one's spouse, friends, colleagues, or parents and siblings. Everybody should be allowed some breathing space.
Also, I believe, instead of arguments people should have discussions, with an open mind. That helps two people understand each other better, rather than going on the defensive. Every quarrel brings out some insight. It is up to us to ensure the insight is good rather than a disturbing one.
Thank you for writing about such a pertinent topic sir. I really enjoyed reading it.04/12/2017 #22 Harvey Lloyd#20 Things do change. We use our bed to sleep and our car to arrive somewhere. Relationships are the same. We walk large journies with some, small ones with others. Some we simply enjoy the company. All of these journeys leave a mark on us as we separate and form new adventures.
Because of our top 5 close relationships ( Marriage, family extended family)the rest would almost always be in a state of flux. Which i believe i carved out of @CityVP 🐝 Manjit next to last paragraph.04/12/2017 #21 Harvey Lloyd#15 I believe the word "Bound" is the word that i was describing. We bind for different purposes. Its when the binding effort takes on more than it should. I can't bind beyond what my family is willing to sacrifice. With each bound relationship we must consider that each member is already bound in others.
Respecting previous promises to others at various levels of binding together is my central point. I have watched relationships grow (close) but then someone places a load on the relationship that has you determining your higher level relationships willingness to give you up.
Within leadership we sometimes meet people who are over committed in serving to many relationships. They can't bind at the level we are needing. Not a judgement but rather a view of the person unable to respond at the level they need due to prior commitments. Can i really ask them to break those for my own? But equally each of us should be respectful when asked to commit to a relationship whether we can perform at the level expected.
Great points and my thoughts are mainly surrounding the choice of relationship. Based on someone's energy level and purpose i may only be able to maintain a acquaintance level relationship, however i may be able to jump all in if the journey could serve both towards different goals.04/12/2017 #20 Lisa VanderburgSo many great comments! Closeness requires some measure of loyalty, trust and fealty, that are too often misplaced or mismatched depending on the circumstances. I like @Harvey Lloyd's tier-system. I am too often torn on this issue because of basically what @CityVP 🐝 Manjit said: things change, move, are rent-apart.04/12/2017 #19 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#18 The dancing metaphor is superb @Savvy Raj. Like you wrote "Like different dances have different degrees of proximity between dancers so as to lead and follow well, different relationships in life". You remind me of flock of birds flying while keeping a distance so as not to collide. We need a "safety space" to enjoy our authenticity and to avoid collisions. Movement requires some space to be able to keep moving while also keeping proximity with others.04/12/2017 #18 Savvy RajI appreciate this buzz@Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee and the questions you have raised for it is something that is very relevant to one and all .And to be fair it is something I do address from the perspective of learners learning to dance with one another. For to me dancing teaches great lessons in living life fine .
Like different dances have different degrees of proximity between dancers so as to lead and follow well, different relationships in life, both personal and professional also demand different degrees of personal spaces so as to function its optimum best . And added to that is the cultural differences in the norms .As long as we are able to recognize and respect them and take care to not overstep, the relationship will be just fine.03/12/2017 #17 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#15 great thoughts @CityVP 🐝 Manjit7
Your comments need buzzes to respond to.
I shall focus for now on what you wrotr "If we are wise then we begin to see what is the meaning of closeness and value of knowing becoming close is not something forever". Towards the end of your comment you mentioned the few close relations that survive.
Yes and relations go through ebbs and flows. No matter what to sustain them we need to keep them energized. When we get cool towards a close relation we do the opposite and weaken the bond rather than strengthening it.
I believe that the possibility that a close friend may become the worst enemy is there. Keeping some safety distance so that we may get the warmth of a relationship without allowing the tiny spikes of hidden irritants to grow into thorny are repulsive spikes is a safer option03/12/2017 #16 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#13 yes and I agree with you @Erroll -EL- Warner. There are repulsive forces when two bodies get very close. Women and men who suffer from sexual harrassment is an example of negative or repulsive closeness. This is bound to happen. We have seen prominent policy makers fall in this trap. So i would add that the problem occurs at all levels. I wonder what you think!03/12/2017 #15 CityVP 🐝 ManjitWe are taught through customs and media to engage in a certain type of closeness and that is when the word "love" gets caught up in ideologies and this depends on how this conformity create ties that bind. We are bound at school but then untangled by work, we are bound at one workplace but then untangled by job loss, we are bound by family but then untangled by death. If we are wise then we begin to see what is the meaning of closeness and value of knowing becoming close is not something forever, something will untangle that closeness one way or another.
The surest center of our being for me is the home we create, but that depends on being lucky enough to have good people living with us, and our ability to recognize that goodness - for even here one momentary injection of evil can untangle the possibility of closeness, so can having our head turned by the illusions and branding, the kind beBee promote currently promote as professional closeness - but we can never hold a true relationship with image, but only image that as good as it gets. When this professional fantasy fades, we are left in the untangled mess that is modern retirement.
We then learn to be close for convenience, for personal profit and for survival of the fittest (where fittest is a political craft). Yet we hold a few people really close that do make a difference in our lives and no matter how life turns or what life untangles, that which we hold eternal in our hearts is the most closest thing that is true - yet there are people who learn to late that the most closest thing to them was the one they kept distance from.
Think of this from an education. Educators call "distance learning" something far from their institution, but distance learning is the closest proximity to the actual learner - so we as a learner do not see this as being close - and the same is true for relationships - except we do not see the distance we created.03/12/2017 #13 Erroll -EL- WarnerAli, good day and great article. I would interpret your article a different way. When speaking about closeness in the workplace, Human Resources should have set the standard. Why so much sexual harassment in the workplace went unchecked? In many organizations, the executive branch leaves many important decisions to lower level management. With this newly found empowerment micro-management occur. Many micro-managers behave in such a manner because of their level of education. When it comes to sexual harassment, Human Resources dropped the ball. In addition, I have seen associates touching customers during discussions and illustrations. That's a sign that Human Resources lacks the proper training to carry out their job effectively.03/12/2017 #6 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#2 Great insights @Harvey Lloyd. So many points to consider. I liked the ordering or layering of relationships. You suggest a new ladder for doing this.
I paused for sometime while reading this "Your pecking order may be different but if the order you have chosen becomes clouded and you have to choose, then you will crush one relationship over another". Relationships can become like entangled noodles if they are not sorted out. This is an interesting perspective and I hope commenters would add their perspectives.
Mixing relations can happen in a family business as you pointed out. The order of the family is on top as per your ladder and then this is mixed with business relationship at work. Changing places between morning and work hours with family members from top priority to way down in ranking at work is truly confusing. You add here a great dimension to studying family business.
For the above-mentioned reasons I am contented with your line "When we approach relationships we must know where the "right" place/pecking order position is". This line is worthy of a dedicated discussion.
- Producer03/12/2017Raising ChildrenEven as a psychologist, my logical side, and emotional side are often at odds with (or even at war with) each other. It’s probably a result of being forced into a state of extreme survivalism as a child. I used my logic to save my life and/or avoid...
Comments04/12/2017 #7 Pascal DerrienParenting is tricky I too want to pass on a different a experience to my twos and by doing so maybe we become so obsessed in achieving it that we produce the opposite , not by intent obviously as we see control as protection, they don't get it and maybe they don't need to understand from where it does come from, ignorance is bliss and not always a rewarding quality. I take it day by day at this stage :-)04/12/2017 #5 Harvey LloydMaybe a poor person to quote but, Bill Cosby stated that, Parenting is the only job that once you get it, you lose the job. Recent studies and understanding of our development process really does establish that children move from total dependance, and i mean total, to independence, which waxes and wanes to interdependence, hopefully.
The transition between dependence and interdependence or better know as the age of infinite wisdom, is that place where children stretch their existence and we need to be the practice dummy in helping them leave the nest (unconditional love.). If we can get them acclimated to the independance then we now have the task of showing them interdependence.
This final phase of success building in our children is the toughest. Yea independance has a lot of mouth but no substance. Interdependence is demonstrating in real time risk management with others. Without getting mad, apathetic or defensive. Realizing that merging into each paradigm many skills and needs exist. Finding your place within the paradigm instead of carving out your own existence within the group. We need to provide entrance and exit ramps of interdependence for others to use. This opens up the gateways of others for us to use theirs.
When the drivetrain of the car and the body get together, they go places.04/12/2017 #3 Harvey Lloyd#2 The "seven habits of highly effective families" was a great walk through parenting. I must say if it wasn't but one thing learned is, as parents we build our children. We love them too, but we build them from love.
This was a difficult understanding for my wife as the children were growing older. I was out of town a lot in those younger years so she had the whole shootin match to deal with.
Once i realized i needed to be home as the children got to the age of infinite wisdom it really hit home the love vs building paradox. From children we desperately want the reflection of love as we send out our signals. Amazingly what we don't see is that children wrestle with emotional development as they grow from dependant to independant (teenagers).
Once i saw that, children became a lot easier to handle, not necessarily like, but manageable. The graduation moment for being a parent is knowing i can die and they will be OK. It came a few years ago. They reached the age of interdependence. They don't like it much, relying on others and faith but they understand it.04/12/2017 #2 Lisa VanderburgOh I feel your pain @Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee, even if it's a more diluted version. But you have identified the 'why' which I could not. Only now can I see the reason many mothers & adult sons fall out. Without a male to take the role of discipline-r, you have to. Same for me as my husband did not want the role, so it fell to me.
We can love our boys and be just in our discipline, but male children take it differently; as 'control' which is the last thing on our minds! I'd love to hear from two guys about this: @CityVP 🐝 Manjit and @Harvey Lloyd
- ProducerGli Stati Uniti d'EuropaPublished on 2 December, 2017 on beBee IntroduzioneL'Europa é un sogno politico ma al momento soffre di elefantiasi burocratica e la ragione é presto detta: siamo ancora bloccati sui nazionalismi che nacquero come costruzione artificiale per...
- Producer02/12/2017I Laughed When They Fired Me: How to Survive and Thrive After Being Fired, Canned or TerminatedI was fired five times during my career. The first was when I was fifteen and desiring to work somewhere besides my father’s construction company. I took a job that summer detasseling corn. Now, for those who don’t know, seed companies hire...
Comments03/12/2017 #3 Erroll -EL- WarnerIn many instances, termination result from managers feeling intellectually challenged by subordinates. With the connection to Human Resources and up to the hierarchical structure of management termination is very easy. There seems to be this "nuptial" engagement between management, recruiters, and Human Resources that many executive branches seem to ignore.02/12/2017 #1 CityVP 🐝 ManjitAnother reality is that people whether employees, managers or executives fear being fired and that fear holds them in a life that then becomes less than optimal. Being realistic about job loss is a healthy perspective and learning how to cope with a job loss situation is what this buzz provides value for, and so I welcome your views about an area that is generally kept out of mind.
- ProducerUscire dall'euro, facile facilePubblished on 2 Dicember 2017, on LinkedInIntroduzioneMi capita di leggere una pagina di blog in cui si affermerebbe che Tremonti stia aiutando Sgarbi e il suo Rinascimento a portare avanti un programma politico che abbia come punto centrale...
- ProducerINDICE ARTICOLIIntroduzioneGrazie per aver visitato questa pagina che raccoglie i link agli articoli che ho pubblicato su LinkedIn e beBee. Per ogni articolo è anche indicata la data di pubblicazione e la lingua.Thank you for visiting this page that contains the...
- ProducerBisogna intendersi sulle parolePubblished on Dicember 2, 2017 on LinkedInIntroduzioneI giornali insistono sulla ripresa dell'Italia che però la gente non percepisce e parlano di una rabbia crescente. Sia chiaro, la percezione popolare non é mai un dato strumentale su cui fare...
- Producer01/12/2017When the manager snaps"Lazy" employeesThere's that feeling of inertia, often explained as "swimming trough the mud". Nothing comes easy, especially new things and practices. Once explained, it takes a lot of time to put in place. It might look like laziness, but it's a...
- Producer01/12/2017SPICE GIRLS: Jewellery Designer Duo Making Waves - The Banda Islands and BeyondWhen people ask me 'How did you start your jewellery business and why Bali?' I grab a bottle of wine and say 'you better stay the night!' When people say 'Oh, I see, you were in the right place, right time,' I reply, 'No, I put myself there.' There...
Comments01/12/2017 #2 CityVP 🐝 ManjitLoved the line "Bali would be my greatest teacher, my most difficult assignment, my longest catwalk" because that encapsulated the account of your life that you have written here. What I learned from reading this is that you do not fit into any box, but have weaved your life experiences with your inner resilience. I can see how your life path created that resilience but in your words how that resilience was also there in who you are. Great read !
- Producer01/12/2017Saying Good-byeThe woman in the photo above is an amazing soul. I don’t say that lightly and I don’t mean it in a religious sense. I mean it in a playful, let’s-go-kick-some-butt sense. I mean it as a fellow traveler who admired how she made a conscious decision...
Comments04/12/2017 #8 Jena Ball#1 Thank you Phil. She would have hated maudlin. One of my favorite memories was of her sharing her father's death. She related it quietly, factually, and with no expectation of sympathy - just as one friend to another. I hope I have conveyed her spirit with the same effect. Erin's life speaks for itself. Enough said.04/12/2017 #4 Joe GanciShe sounds like a wonderful person, @Jena. That's the trouble with getting to know wonderful people. Either we will suffer their loss when they pass away, or they will suffer ours if we go first. Yet, I wouldn't trade those kinds of friendships, no matter how hard saying goodbye usually is.01/12/2017 #1 Phil FriedmanI am sincerely sorry for your loss. KNow that what you've written here is a beautiful tribute that conveys your deep feelings for Erin and the reasons you loved her -- without being maudlin or self-pitying. I did not know Erin, but I am sure I would have liked her. R.I.P.
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