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- Producer10/12/2017عيد ميلاد سعيد يا صديقى العزيزHappy Birthday my Dear Friend Ali Anani فلسفة الحياة أيها ذا الشاكي وما بك داء كيف تغدو اذا غدوت عليلا ان شر الجناة في الارض نفس تتوخى قبل الرحيل الرحيلا وترى الشوك في الورود وتعمى ان ترى فوقها الندى اكليلا هو عبء على الحياة ثقيل من يظن الحياة عبئاً ثقيلاً والذي...
Comments11/12/2017 #30 Lisa VanderburgTo the man who enriches our lives with his gentle, joyful journey of juxtapositions; thank you dear, darling man @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee. عيد ميلاد سعيد رجل رائع! and I'm late.....woe is me :(
Such a perfect buzz to find out - thank you @Laurent Boscherini!
- Producer10/12/2017The Conflict AnimalsXmas is approaching and it is about time to turn conflicts into peace. This is easier said than done. However; the cost of conflict may reach an explosion point and nobody benefits. Conflicts are of different types. How can we fuse the possible...
Comments11/12/2017 #35 Joanne Gardocki#21 "So if i could replace your word ego with vanity or megalomania then i agree wholeheartedly with your comment. I believe you were say the same thing. I thought the distinction was worth further comment." thank you for the clarification, @Harvey Lloyd View more#21 "So if i could replace your word ego with vanity or megalomania then i agree wholeheartedly with your comment. I believe you were say the same thing. I thought the distinction was worth further comment." thank you for the clarification, @Harvey Lloyd. I look at ego a bit differently but find common ground in what you are saying. For me, "ego" is anything that would block my highest positive abilities or highest connection with others in a given situation. Absolutely, ego could be seen as the pride/vanity/megalomania you mention at the extreem end. However, being too timid to speak your truth or simply failing to really listen/connect with another is also how I see ego blocking highest positive potential. Simon Sinek has a lot to say in YouTube and TED Talks about how we make decisions and the characteristics of Leadership. Our primitive brain is highly involved and often beneath our conscious awareness, your advice to clear the Pandora's Box in meditative conditions to avoid cleaning up a mess later is akin to clearing our emotional baggage. There is good reason Emotional Intelligence is a key skill in leaderhship. Thank you for your insights and the opportunity to explore more deeply. Close11/12/2017 #33 Tausif Mundrawala#32 You have always quenched my thirst of knowledge by bringing forth these wonderful buzz in form of live examples. Am glad that you have always provided a constructive feedback in order to go ahead in life. Am glad that you did, Sir @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee11/12/2017 #32 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#31 I am very grateful to your comment dear @Tausif Mundrawala. You bring to light two important points. First your reference to Salman's Rushdi quote "He has described those men with hunger of power with heads of different animals". This is a real extension to the discussion. Instead of wearing many hats we have people with different heads of animals. You stretch my imagination with this quote.
Second- you are the first to highlight the idea of repellent. I am thankful to you for this. Sometimes repelling a conflict rather than deal with it is an effective solution.
You are widser than your age my friend.11/12/2017 #31 Tausif MundrawalaWhen two people don't agree with a given statement, logic, concept , reality etc than the animal of conflict comes into existence. Each party tries to prove themselves superior and with this motive they try to ruin the person at the other end with full ferocity. Am currently reading 'Shalimar-The Clown'- Salman Rushdie where a character of an ambassador tells a story to his daughter about the levels of power one trudges through in order to reach the top. He has described those men with hunger of power with heads of different animals. He starts with jackal and ends with fox. Each tries to create a hurdle in their respective rooms. Life itself is a conflict of different ideas, views, opinions etc where it need not be the other person but our very own self.
As far as the topic of repellent goes than we can get rid of pests by spraying heena or mehandi, red chilly powder works for cats who have the habit to get out doorstep dirty, burning of a jute sack helps get rid of mosquitoes and the list goes on and on. Thanks for this wonderful buzz, Sir @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee11/12/2017 #30 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#29 great comment @Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee. Yes and we have internal conflicts all the time. How many time we experince conflict of choices, conflicts between what our minds tell us and what our hearts want us to do. In oeder to deal with external conflicts we need to tackle our internal ones. May be @Harvey Lloyd would share his wisdom on your comment Joyce11/12/2017 #29 Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBeeConflict--hmmmmm. I found myself thinking of conflict as someone else's problem. In thinking further, I know I am first submissive, and then rise to the occasion if it's something I cannot escape. I found myself musing about sitting on a country road--sitting quietly while a herd of cattle crossed. The cattle represented the conflict. Where do we draw the line as to what is conflict and what is merely being assertive I wonder?11/12/2017 #27 Yolanda Ávila - Kaizen ProyectosI remember that I mentioned this topic in another buzz. That time I recommended to see this TEDX that offers a positive approach to the conflict.
Jung thought that conflict is the essence of Life and that it is a necessary requirement for all personal and spiritual growth.
I agree with him.
Life can not be lived in the abstract.
Only through confrontation with any individual conflict, for its resolution or transcendence, do we reach the depths of ourselves.
Best Regards @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee11/12/2017 #25 Harvey Lloyd#24 I believe that "popularity" of word grows when folks use the word as a label. The label or need for one may exist, but all to often, like marketing, we want catchy quick words that will stick. Ego is one such word and matter of fact so is lust. Each of these words have natural existence within our lives. A lust for writing is appropriate where lust for the neighbors wife is not.
Being confident and secure in your leadership is ego but browbeating someone who upstaged you is not ego it's pride/vanity. It may also be considered egotistical behaviour, but is still sourced in pride and vanity. We all have ego.11/12/2017 #24 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#21 @Harvey Lloyd- you remind me of my recent buzz on lust. It has negative meaning mostly. I have lust for writing. There is nothing wrong with this. Now you add another example- being egoist. Sometimes the meaning is only possible within the framework of contest.11/12/2017 #23 Harvey Lloyd#11 "It is all too easy to be mowed over by the "shoulds" and "demands" of the season. In a stressed state, we all come one step closer to giving our internal "animal" free rein."
In our day of drama laden communication it is so easy to pick up the "hot-Potato". Showing my age here.
In construction the hot-potato was always someone who was in trouble on a project and they needed to hand off the hot-potato. This cleared them of responsibility and set you up for the fall. Simple yet effective "negotiating tactic"
In those days i had to learn how to assist without taking the potato. In some cases i just walked away.
Today they i sense that folks want us to emotion match as their is strength in numbers. This is the same thing as the yesteryear hot-potato.
I don't accept being mowed over from the start. When i sense the hot-potato being served up i know instinctively to listen, reflect and redirect or walk away. On rare occasions i will accept the potato with all the risk, but i am choosing and not being set up blindly.
Ps. my animal brain operates more like a pandora's box, once opened all of it has to exit before the lid can be placed back,. I would imagine its like this for more than would admit. Best to empty the box in meditative conditions than have to clean up the aftermath. Beware the hot-potato:)11/12/2017 #22 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#20 brilliant thoughts my dear @Lisa Vanderburg. Your reference to the internal beast is consistent with a previous comment. What I really find novel in your gorgeous comment is our tendency to "but we tend to turn away from others when our space gets to crowded and the sense of unsolvable global NEED becomes overwhelming". This is an expanded example of going against the crowd effect. You touched upon a hugely-interesting idea. I believe you should consider expanding it to a buzz. This is novelty thinking my friend.11/12/2017 #21 Harvey Lloyd#11 The word ego has always been a challenge. It seems to have taken on a very negative connotation. But i believe it is natural not only within males, strongly but also females.
Ego, or at least my definition, is the acting out of what we believe with great passion and motivation. The dictionary discusses this as "self esteem and or self importance".
I want my doctor, firefighter or policeman to have ego. I believe we have cross defined ego with "megalomania" and "vanity"
If you have collected all the information, data and resources and challenged your team with the concept of the success you propose, you should have ego, self esteem and self importance.
When the poo-poo hits the fan it is rather interesting that we all want the one with "ego" to lead us to safety. The one who shows confidence, believes in the plan or is willing to bet their own safety to include others.
So if i could replace your word ego with vanity or megalomania then i agree wholeheartedly with your comment. I believe you were say the same thing. I thought the distinction was worth further comment.11/12/2017 #20 Lisa VanderburgAs always, a buzz to make me think, dear @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee!! And with the highest quality of comments you always attract so well addresses, it behooves me to be the devil's advocate :)
When is conflict a good thing?
I sometimes wonder, for example; we seem to stand on the precipice of annihilation or a momentous leap to a higher being (in which case at least half of humanity won't make it...me included!). It's almost as if we need war to quell our internal beast. Clearly, it's out of the question on so many levels, but we tend to turn away from others when our space gets to crowded and the sense of unsolvable global NEED becomes overwhelming. Just thoughts......11/12/2017 #17 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#16 uh very interesting comment @CityVP 🐝 Manjit. This is interesting that mosquitoes kill more humans than any animal. You remind me of thre Arab poet who said more than a thousand years ago
Do't belittle a small person in a conflict... for a mosquitoe can bleed the eye of a lion.
Equally interesting the adaptation style of Bruce Lee. This is a hreat lesson for adaptations from other animals at its best.
Only humans can tell stories. Your comment is a beautiful one.11/12/2017 #16 CityVP 🐝 ManjitThe first thing I will focus on here is focus on our improvement of understanding of animal intelligence. Except for the mosquito the only other animal that represents a major danger to human beings are other human beings. Trailing far behind in the most dangerous animal league are snakes and dogs.
Mosquitoes Kill More Humans than Human Murderers
The human being who most understood animal intelligence as in conflict animals in modern times is the iconic martial artist and martial arts actor Bruce Lee. He drew on the five animal styles of kung fu in his own more flexible adaptation called Jeet-Kun-do
Bruce Lee - Jeet Kune Do
Bruce Lee understood two things, martial arts should be open to all rather than a closed discipline and that the best adaptation is examine every style and school and then create a non-mechanistic martial art. Here his adaptation of the five animal styles had more to do with teaching people their own authentic way rather than another method. Since Bruce Lee was a student of western philosophy as much eastern martial arts, he blended both into a truly holistic form. In short animal intelligence was something he could adapt. In his case he did not adapt to that which he feared but which represented movements of life and being.
- Producer08/12/2017Inspirations From NatureHere is a beautiful story share... One day i decided to quitI quit my job, my relationship, my spirituality… I wanted to quit my life.I went to the woods to have one last talk with god“God”, I asked,“Can you give me one good reason not to...
Comments11/12/2017 #34 Savvy Raj#29 Hope you are having a glorious birthday @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee And yes, in fact I must add that I have to rightaway dedicate this buzz title on Inspirations from nature to you for your buzzes are almost always connected to the nature of things elementally speaking. I have learned much from your brilliant and creative associations with examples from nature in your posts .Much goodwill and continue to shine your light my good friend @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee.10/12/2017 #28 Yogesh SukalI knew about the bamboo story, it will be as inspirational as always.
keep creating the art today, even its broken pieces may land in to the museum gallary one day. this positive thought occured in my mind while i visited the museum with antique items from sixteenth century which may be ordinary during that period, now becomes extraordinary as a vintage.
but one didn't have to wait centuries, magic happens everyday, just have to wait untill able to see it. Never give up. :)
Thank you for thought provoking buzz @Savvy Raj09/12/2017 #24 Carl E ReidThank you @Savvy Raj for sharing your inspiring story. To maintain our strong roots we must surround ourselves with an environment and people who can continue to nurture all our senses continuously. This creates mental toughness so "quitting" is eliminated from our psyche. I have been to a similar forest by running marathons :-)
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Comments08/12/2017 #15 Randall Burns#14 In your perspective @Lisa Vanderburg maybe you "dropped the ball", but I don't see it. Sometimes the best new recipes/dishes are created from "dropping the ball". Did you ever see the movie "Tortilla Soup"? Great movie in it's own right but with fantastic food, in one scene the Chef is serving a banquet and one of the cooks screws up the dessert, the Chef recuperates nicely by reworking it, coming up with a new dish which everyone receives positively without even knowing there was a problem. :-)08/12/2017 #11 Randall Burns#7 HaHa! Absolutely @Lisa Vanderburg I had a feeling you were going to say that, hence the magic of the piece. I can see it in 2 ways, 2 ways so far removed from each other, extreme opposite ends of the spectrum, both feasible, believable, both brilliant, from the very same story line. Amazing that it elicited both reactions from me at the same time, (still does).
Yes life is like that and I talk about perspectives and perceptions ALL the time.
Well done!08/12/2017 #1 CityVP 🐝 ManjitOh darn Lisa you have a magical way with words, now I wish I used this piece in Interpretative Reading project. For sure reading from Heart of Darkness by Joseph Conrad fit what I wanted to do, but it would have been even more satisfying to read the flow of words that made this a wonderful read.
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- Producer06/12/2017WWW.beBeeWelcome to Wednesday Word(s) of the Week at beBee: WWW.beBeeMy contribution for this week is a discussion on the words,connect and engage. CONNECT and ENGAGE, two words associated with social media....
Comments11/12/2017 #24 Isabella M H WesolyIronically, I've had to dis-engage for a while to enable a construction process (as explained in my first honey, earlier today). But it's always good to read from you @Sara Jacobovici. However, social media was integral to what was built (ahead of time) to include in later presentations. Engagement was vital here, with musicians, in order to find music that was fit for purpose.. and glad to say that aside from making new acquaintances, the music helped with the motion! I'm certain it could not have been done via email marketing, nor appealing posts, but by engaging fully and listening to their craft!
Also through engaging myself in best practice of making and sharing art. That way I knew I didn't have to keep writing 'verse' or narrative to explain. Every picture tells a story. I wonder now, how many forms of 'engagement' there are and does how we enagage depend on what our work/mission/goals are? A quest for someone.. if I don't turn the topic of 'Engagement Types' into honey, you or @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee surely will :) Thanks Sara!11/12/2017 #23 Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand AmbassadorWelcome back @Sara Jacobovici, and you have proved an excellent point. The fact that you contributed such a sincere piece relative to your reason for temporarily being away is why we follow you, Sara. This is a perfect example of engagement, in my opinion. Without engagement, the amusement derived from social media would be virtually naught.10/12/2017 #21 Ken BoddieYou had me at 'engage', Sara (without the 'h'). 😁
After all, the engagement we get here on beBee, by way of others commenting on our posts and we old die-hard regulars commenting on the works of, either our favourite bees (Bees), or the occasional newBee, is why we are addicted to beBee, is that not so?
We have a unique culture here on beBee (which a very few bees, both new and old, have not as yet managed to grasp successfully) and that is to always respond to comments on our posts (except, perhaps those of the occasional troll or idiotic sh_t-stirrer, see more below).
Interesting that my on-line dictionary attributes 5 meanings to 'engage' of which only 3 apply to what we do on beBee as follows:
1. 'attract someone's attention' (we maximise this by writing posts and comments);
2. 'participate or become involved in' (again by writing and conversing in the form of comments .... not sure here that 'likes' and 'relevants' on their own really qualify); and
3. 'enter into combat with' (welcome to the self destructing downward troll spiral).
I wrote this some time ago (as a comment on one of @Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador's posts on similar subject) when we had a few bees getting quite hot headed and impolite in their comments.
Let's be nice,
That's my advice,
From nasty let's abstain!
Please keep respect,
When you interject,
We're here to entertain!
🤗🤗🤗09/12/2017 #18 Sara Jacobovici#14 Thanks for taking the time to read and respond @Deborah Levine. You are an important connection that I wish to invest in. I am hoping to catch up with reading your book and respond soon. Thanks for your good wishes. I am in the process of resolution (not the most comfortable of experiences) and feeling optimistic of a successful outcome.07/12/2017 #13 Preston 🐝 Vander Ven@Sara Jacobovici you said it so well. This is what I love about beBee. It has the best feeling of connection and engagement on the internet. I love how you ended. Back in my days of MYSPACE, I had great numbers, but no connection or engagement. This had nothing to do with the social platform. I just did not understand the importance of these two. I spent the entire time sending "Friend Requests" to everyone. I would never read their content or speak to them again. I realized years later that I wasted a lot of time.06/12/2017 #12 CityVP 🐝 ManjitSara, it is great that we are both returning at the same time !
Allow me to add a third piece to connecting and engaging, which is appreciating. In the last week I engaged with @Randall Burns View moreSara, it is great that we are both returning at the same time !
Allow me to add a third piece to connecting and engaging, which is appreciating. In the last week I engaged with @Randall Burns and @Gennaro Cuofano and aside to my engagement with their buzzes, what I in addition appreciate is both of their unique minds, which are a fabulous addition of writers that complement and add to the fabtastic writers on beBee.
Appreciation comes with our own individual affinity. Close06/12/2017 #9 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.wonderful share @Sara Jacobovici without being connected and engaged, nothing really happens.
- Producer05/12/2017BEAUTY OF CONFLICT!Father and daughter A holy and pristine affair Frequently they entangle in war Without any blood-shed, a unique gesture Never have we noticed Apart from armistice There is seldom any nemesis What a jovial affinity...
Comments05/12/2017 #3 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee"Sometimes it yield gulf of difference
Sometimes it brings warmth and exuberance".
I had no doubt I would read this poem tonight dear @Debasish Majumder. Yes, creative minds like yours may configure or figure out the positivity in the negativity of a conflict.
Conflict in poetry might be your next poem my friend.
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Comments06/12/2017 #7 CityVP 🐝 ManjitNews is so pervasive these days that even if we lived in a wooden hut in Montana, one way or another it will find us. I can see how a rant can have therapeutic quality. I had heard of Tourettes but not aware at all about other tic syndrome and the effects of stress related to that , so that was insightful. As I searched more about this I came across your May 2016 post https://www.bebee.com/producer/@jim-murray/the-rant-it-s-literally-saved-me-years-of-psychotherapy which I had not seen before.06/12/2017 #6 Nicole ChardenetI have been avoiding CNN more.
I've found there's no point in getting het up about what's going on in Washington...which affects me, as an American, and also as a Canadian because as below, so above; but there's nothing I can do about it, and it was just making me insane so I only go one now for my daily "WTF?" moment. I used to not understand why my mother did that when she was my age, now I do...the older you get, the more you realize it's easier to just not give a shit. Even though sometimes I wonder if we may be living with the very real threat of nuclear war again, and whether I am close enough to a Ground Zero that I can just get torched and done with it or whether I'll be one of the unlucky bastards to survive, at least for a little bit.06/12/2017 #4 Pamela 🐝 WilliamsWhen I've had a bad day, or someone hurt my feelings, or I'm not sure how to handle a problem; I talk to the Moon. He's a good fellow, he let's me figure it out all by myself. He doesn't give me stupid advice or tell me I'm being ridiculous or tell me I'm imagining a slight. We have some great conversations my friend and I. My best confidant is the ocean; it takes all my anxieties or fears and washes them out to it's deepest depths and it's best when the surf is rough and crashing against the shore, it comforts me.
Okay, so now everyone knows I'm a bit loony.05/12/2017 #1 Wayne YoshidaExcellent @Jim Murray - Sticking one's head in the sand / trying to ignore the world / getting comfortably numb is dumb. At some point, one gets a big kick in the rear for doing that.
To combat the stress and negativity, I like to work with my hands - building something or destroying something. Primal screaming also works wonders, and makes the neighbors wonder what's going on.
- Producer05/12/2017Novel Approaches to ConflictsWhat starts small could grow up beyond imagination and reach unexpected sizes. Conflicts of all types have this tendency. The snowballing effect of conflicts is practiced at all levels. Let us take few examples: A husband and wife enter...
Comments09/12/2017 #40 Brian McKenzieNo wife -> No Divorce, No Conflict. #MGTOW - We will keep the thawing fires going for ya. PS Opting out of the bad, broken and entrenched is exactly what Ghandi did. We will not participate in the mess when there is no solution to be found in a trap, except to walk away from it in the first place.07/12/2017 #39 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#38 Thank you for stepping in again my friend @Edward Lewellen. I was just about to mention your name again in my response to the comment of @John Rylance #36 . I did not wanter to trouble you.
Your sequential analysis of the conflict issue is great. Yes and if we act in contradiction of our core values this means we have more than one identity.
I shall write a buzz to reflect more on your greaft comment.07/12/2017 #38 Edward Lewellen#33 Dear @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee, I appreciate you drawing me out to share more. Here are a few points: 1) When we know our Core Identity and we find ourselves acting differently due to conflict, then we can ask ourselves, “Are my thoughts and actions congruent with who I am, my core values? If not, then was acting differently a choice, or was it an unconscious event I allowed myself to be a victim of? If it’s a conscious choice, am I willing to accept the consequences, good or bad? 2) Ee can never know everything about anything. When we accept that there are thing beyond what we know, a sense of humility sets in and allows us to be open to additional information..07/12/2017 #34 Proma 🐝 NautiyalI agree, @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee, conflicts are a necessity, without them we would live in ignorance as we would not be questioning or hunting for answers, proofs, and examples. The motivation to look for a way to diffuse the situation comes from two things, how invested I am in the relationship (more invested when it comes to family, less invested when it comes to a vendor) and the state of mind I am during that time (in a hurry, irritated/ have lots of time, relatively calmer). Truth be told, I will be more patient when it comes to conflicts within family. I have faced the vendor situation a few times as some salesmen are not too interested in selling. In those cases, I just walk out, but not without reminding them that they should value people's time.07/12/2017 #33 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#32 the assumption bias is what I would call this tendency to deal akwardly with a conflict dear @Edward Lewellen. It is riskier that cognition bias in my view.
I was also hoping that you would not shy off mentioning the visual approach you developed and described in your newest book on living life. I believe your moddel is quite fitting here.07/12/2017 #32 Edward Lewellen#4 Yes, dear friend, we humans have a tendency to ruminate on conflict and adding more negative content the more we think about it. We "Mind Read" what other people are thinking to the point that what we create in a hallucination becomes what we believe other people are saying and thinking in reality. Most of the time, what we have conjured up in our minds doesn't match reality. We do this as if we're role-playing in preparation for negotiations/conflict. Unfortunately, this creates biases so that we have drawn forgone conclusions and aren't open to legitimate discussions. When we do this, we sabotage natural and open communication.06/12/2017 #30 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#29 We all need your wisdom. Your comment coupled with those comments of Magalena on LI on this buzz make a great story dear @CityVP 🐝 Manjit.
What amazed me a lot is your writing "By the time we have stepped on a minefield we are either going to explode with the conflict or we try to become more mindful of minefields". Incredible as Iam developing two metaphors for conflict. One of them is popcorn which behaves in unpredictable manner. Upon roasting some seeds give great flakes. Some burn and burn in consequence seeds that touch them. Some of the seeds explode and act as "minefields and not mind fields" to quote you.
I am about to explode with the heat of your comment.06/12/2017 #29 CityVP 🐝 ManjitWe may see the heat rise in a conflict or we may see people drowning in a particular conflict and both heat and water have their analogies with conflict, but the conflicts to be wary of are one's I would call "minefields". By the time we have stepped on a minefield we are either going to explode with the conflict or we try to become more mindful of minefields. Thus we need mind fields in order to see minefields.
What is worse about minefields is that it is not simply how we have pushed someone' elses buttons or someone has pushed our buttons, but that there are horrible people in this world, who have become cunning enough to be people who plant minefields between people. To describe this as ego or evil does not add to the awareness that sometimes between two people in conflict, there is a Machiavellian entity who may have planted the mischief.05/12/2017 #25 Harvey Lloyd#24 conflict is born of two or more wants or needs that in conflict. The goal. Whether it’s branding ideas or contract negotiations.
If we are indifferent to outcomes there would be no conflict. If we love or hate and outcome then conflict can arise
The goal could be as simple as information gathering or making a huge decision
I’n conflict their is always a goal your stated example of marriage conflicts would imply one of two together or separate. Staying focused here would allow conflict to resolve. Discussing past experiences will only serve the conflict itself.
The escape would be a discussion about who benifits or gets hurt by either choice. Getting the conversation off the two in conflict and broaden their discussion. The third alternative may live there.05/12/2017 #24 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#23 now I realize that I may have to write two more parts than one only.
I am nust curios my friend @Harvey Lloyd to explore more on losing sight of the goal. My question here is what goal(s) do you have in mind? Could you elaborate please?
By the way i accept your offer to pay for the drinks. Equally, I hope you accept my offer to pay for the meal.05/12/2017 #23 Harvey Lloyd#22 Personal investment is usually where folks go wrong in conflict. They loose site of the real goal.
I try to stay goal oriented in any conflict or negotiations On occasion folks seem to want to draw you out. Staying focused and offering them an escape insures resolution. Hopefully to win-win
It would be a pleasure to discuss the world and humanity in person. Drinks are on me
A side not is managing conflict (I am useing your word do consistency but realize my definition is different) in real-time is a game changer. Listening to the parties finding common ground and finding that third alternative is art.
I have seen and worked with some masters. This skill is one I had to have. I was always the cat in a rocking chair store. Tail always exposed.05/12/2017 #22 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#21 I wonder if I would live long enough to author a book with you @Harvey Lloyd. You are truly incredible. You anticipate my mind in an amazing way. In the next part on conflict I am using a metaphor in which when es caping becomes futile. But you add a new thought "in my dealings i always offered this escape". What a great alterbnative.
I do hope to meet with you in person one day.
- Producer05/12/2017Miguel Sopena: A Tale of Two CitiesMatthews Yard, Croydon, South London 1 Matthews Yard, off Surrey Street, Croydon CR0 1FF, London, UK 1 December 2017 - 31 January 2018The Valencia series: The Old Town I, acrylic on canvas, 92x73cmMiguel Sopena's second solo exhibition A Tale...
- Producer04/12/2017EQ and Your Emotional Rescue"Don't you know promises were never meant to keep? Just like the night, they dissolve off in sleep."So says the Rolling Stones 1978 song, Emotional Rescue, which is about a man wanting to help a woman who is emotionally confused. Have you ever felt...
Comments05/12/2017 #12 Harvey Lloyd#10 I believe i heard Dave Ramsey state, people will not change until the pain of staying the same is greater than the pain of change. This is the reason for my comment surrounding offering up a reason. The reason can sometimes reduce the pain of change below that of staying the same.
But all too often i have found that the heart of individuals is desperate to hang onto current methods. The loss would be just too great. In these cases the catalyst will need to be greater than another human can provide.
Great stuff and thanks for sharing your knowledge and wisdom.05/12/2017 #11 Edward Lewellen#8 Hi, my friend, @Lisa Gallagher! I have successfully helped many people with both acute and chronic pain. In the case of chronic pain, what happens is that, even after the body has healed, the brain forgets to stop sending the pain signal to the body part that was injured or hurt. Because it doesn't get the feedback it wants, it increases the pain signal and the sensation becomes even worse. Dr. Ramachandran I mentioned in the article is world-renowned for his work with Phantom Limb. This is where a person whose missing a body part still feels pain as if the body part is still there and he explains this phenomena. Here are some YouTube video testimonials from some of my pain management clients that you'll find interesting and encouraging for your husband: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-0p3kTP9fWs, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jMoZ-KmoFlI&t=96s, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Jx5zTaAuGW005/12/2017 #10 Edward Lewellen#9 Thanks for your contribution, @Harvey Lloyd! Your insights are right on. People have to desire to change to make transformation a reality. It's like the people whom I help stop smoking; I tell them that their life will change as a result of being a non-smoker. Their current friends will drop off and new friends will come into being due to the fact that the person they used to be has changed. No matter the change (smoker to non-smoker, fearful to confident, angry to peaceful, depressed to happy, etc.) When the person transforms, so does their world.05/12/2017 #9 Harvey LloydI read with great interest as it seem that in these days many suffer from the need of emotional rescue. I enjoy the science behind the process as a novice but the reality is the experience of the loop. My own personal experience in this area has narrowed it down to two basic elements. People need a "reason" to let go and they require a "place" to drop it off. Given these two outcomes they can then reconcile their past with their present.
Within the rescue or what i like to call reframing, the individual is typically unwilling to let go because they realise their entire life is centered around the emotions. Friends, family and social connections have been made with those emotions. To reject the loop would mean all new connections and a new journey with the family.
It sounds as though you have found some answers and i can only say Godspeed in the journey of assisting others with this very precarious need.05/12/2017 #8 Lisa 🐝 GallagherI'd love to hear more about the mind/body connection with regards to chronic pain. My husband deals with it without getting too personal about him. I'm always searching for something beyond medication(s) for him which are taking a tole on his body. Great read and enjoyed the video too, very informative.04/12/2017 #3 Deborah LevineMuch of my exploration of neuroscience and the unconscious mind relates to chronic pain. Creating new neural pathways and quieting painful ones is a growing area of research. We definitely need to understand the emotional involvement in unconscious reactions in these stressful times.
- Producer04/12/2017What do I want?It's a curious question; at least, for me. I'm not corporate, 'branding' myself, nor am I seeking a job. As far as I see it, I have nothing to lose but much to gain in my personal curiosities. So....what am I doing here? Am I predictor or prey,...
Comments05/12/2017 #18 Tausif MundrawalaWhile signing in, never once did I realize that I am going to achieve a lot in terms of personal gain. You reminded me of the novel which I read a decade ago named, 'Everything to Gain'- Barbara Taylor Bradford. It's main message was I have nothing to lose and everything to gain. The protagonist lose her husband and kids in a catastrophic accident and she rebuilds her life by starting a business of kitchen wares in a barn on her own property. At one point or the other life throws an event or an incident where we have to gather our wits and to start anew.
Am glad that you shared this buzz with us, my friend @Lisa Vanderburg05/12/2017 #16 Harvey LloydYour thoughts really help digest some reasons for social media. It is an immersion, a thought process whereby you can see how others explore answering their own questions. A diversity of understanding if you will.
For me it is cultural. The media tends to paint pictures of the 20% that culturally give us opinions. Beebe has blown this opinion making process out of the water. Having met and discussed various topics across so many borders i realize that we all really want the same thing. To truly understand that we individually are not insane. My sanity is intact because of reading posts like yours as you explore life's journey.
Ironically we are all joined, maybe not in the answer, but rather by the questions we ask.05/12/2017 #11 Lisa VanderburgThanks to all who commented, shared and liked! I'd respond to y'all, but that would give me more comments to my own bleedin' buzz :) So to @Javier 🐝 beBee; you (et al) guys have created an oasis for all exotic species, and that's very appealing; to know that it is both unique, wild and tantalizing just makes it worth the challenge! @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee; everyone knows the irresistible feast you bring to the table! Thank you @Debasish Majumder for your gentle civility and beautiful works! Thanks Randell#4..look forward to it, can you tag me?05/12/2017 #10 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher@Lisa Vanderburg, well said! Like you, I'm not on here to promote myself. I love to read, interact and write when it comes to me. I don't have 'writers flair,' so stories do not come to me on a daily or even weekly basis. I'm much more comfortable on beBee. I wrote a blog on Linkedin about 3-4 weeks ago for 'old times sake,' and curiosity. The interaction was small and I didn't get the same warm and fuzzy feelings I used to on LI. I'm not slamming LI, it's just not for me anymore, even though I will check in once a week or sometimes more just to promote others if they tag me or I see something interesting. beBee is like family. I'm happy I've met so many authentic people on here.05/12/2017 #8 Proma 🐝 Nautiyal@Lisa Vanderburg, you are a fighter and a winner. I had read the post you had published on LI and trust me, you inspired me to go beyond what life has given us and make the most of it, anyway.
I agree with your points about beBee. It seems more like a growing family to me rather than a social media /networking platform. When I am away from it for sometime, I miss it. Not because I am addicted to it, but because I feel like I am missing out on a wealth of reading, learning, and knowing others.
I am on LI, too, for networking purposes, but beBee has become my go-to nook, warm and cozy, perfect with a cup of tea.
P.S. Your hour-glass is perfectly fine. :-)05/12/2017 #4 Randall BurnsGreat post and sentiments @Lisa Vanderburg, agree with your observation of,
"I have never had the pleasure to read such a plethora of diverse minds that examine themselves - that a HUGE point!"
" This is my go-to if I want to grow, experience, love, re-learn", that's great!
Funny as I'm putting the finishing touches on a Buzz right now with a similar message regarding beBee, it will be out in a couple of days, you may appreciate it...
- Producer04/12/2017My Labor of LoveAs some of you know I've been offline for a bit working on a new project. Really it's a labor of love as I feel the message therein can help many of us.I believe that the journey to grow a successful business, relationship or life, starts with the...
Comments06/12/2017 #18 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.so proud of you @Katyan Roach04/12/2017 #3 Harvey LloydJust purchased the book. Hopefully over the holidays i will have a chance to read. I couldn't help but think that our inner monologue tends to go with our eyes. Why humans seem to want to compare things in such a vertical way must be in our DNA. The only vertical climb is the one we need to create with our own inner selves.
Media though is constantly contrasting what we don't have and showing us ways to get it. Somewhat precluding our own self determinations. Its subtle enough to not be intrusive, but the multiples over time tend to drown out our own thoughts.
Great post and looking forward to reading the book.
- Producer02/12/2017CLOUD OF LUST!Shakespeare wrote about seven stages of life Which is an eloquent testimony of only masculine’s stride Feminine emerge in the context with mere pretext Where their gravity restrict with love to create progeny in haste It only...
Comments04/12/2017 #12 Geoff Hudson-Searle#9 Dear @Debasish Majumder you have really hit a nerve on the subject of our social fabric, I could speak about this forever, but in essence when significant numbers of people see their standards of living fall despite an ever-growing economic pie, it threatens the social contract of the economy and even the social fabric of society. One instinctual response is to simply redistribute income to those who have been hurt. The second part of loss is measured in imbalance. Imbalances can causes severe unhappiness, Just like consumerism is always bad, adding little to our well-being as well as being disastrous for the planet. In particular strands of over consumption, where we purchase things, not to fulfill our basic needs, but to fill some voids about our lives and make social statements about ourselves, our obsessive relationship with material things is actually jeopardizing our relationships, which are proven over and over to be the biggest determining factor in our happiness and the happiness of others.
- Producer01/12/2017Saying Good-byeThe woman in the photo above is an amazing soul. I don’t say that lightly and I don’t mean it in a religious sense. I mean it in a playful, let’s-go-kick-some-butt sense. I mean it as a fellow traveler who admired how she made a conscious decision...
Comments04/12/2017 #8 Jena Ball#1 Thank you Phil. She would have hated maudlin. One of my favorite memories was of her sharing her father's death. She related it quietly, factually, and with no expectation of sympathy - just as one friend to another. I hope I have conveyed her spirit with the same effect. Erin's life speaks for itself. Enough said.04/12/2017 #4 Joe GanciShe sounds like a wonderful person, @Jena. That's the trouble with getting to know wonderful people. Either we will suffer their loss when they pass away, or they will suffer ours if we go first. Yet, I wouldn't trade those kinds of friendships, no matter how hard saying goodbye usually is.01/12/2017 #1 Phil FriedmanI am sincerely sorry for your loss. KNow that what you've written here is a beautiful tribute that conveys your deep feelings for Erin and the reasons you loved her -- without being maudlin or self-pitying. I did not know Erin, but I am sure I would have liked her. R.I.P.
- Producer01/12/2017Me Promote BeBee? I never considered myself to be a marketing person. That is until I joined BeBee. A few months after becoming a member, I was named as one of the ambassadors. Oh Boy! How am I going to promote BeBee? Frantically I thought back to what I remember...
Comments02/12/2017 #41 Gert Scholtz#37 @Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee Your comment is so well worded, I wish to repeat it: "Many times things people share can cause one to scratch their heads with understanding. What has been experienced by one has been experienced by many. We weave our way through solutions, and many times those solutions can emerge through the similar experiences of others. " Thank you very much.02/12/2017 #37 Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee"BeBee Producer posts are a treasure chest of personal information. Mine it. When you view someone’s blogs on their profile, their insight and a lot of who they are is reflected in their posts over time. A few minutes’ reading and one might well know more about the person than their next door neighbor."
You are welcome for the share, @Gert Scholtz. This post has valuable insights.
As for the quote, as I have intimated many times in my travels as a psychologist, we (I) are not unique. Many times things people share can cause one to scratch their heads with understanding. What has been experienced by one has been experienced by many. We weave our way through solutions, and many times those solutions can emerge through the similar experiences of others. We are, essentially, a team. My goal in many of my posts is to cause folks to know more about themselves.02/12/2017 #36 Savvy Raj@Gert Scholtz Great set of comments there that show how much this resonates with all the Bebee contributors. Totally enjoyed reading this buzz especially the way you have elementally said it all!
I truly agree that the @ Bebee platform is indeed a growing collection of valuable information on know-how, people and places. All thanks to all the wonderful people who believe in people to make this happen.02/12/2017 #35 Lada 🏡 PrkicDear Gert, although you said that promotion of any kind is far from your natural inclination, this post proves the opposite. :-) We, who love being on this platform, are all promotors of beBee in one way or another. You did a great job and still do, in promoting the people of this platform and platform itself. People always come first.
- Producer30/11/2017How To Become a Travel BloggerTravel blogging is a crowded field and it is getting more crowded by the day. After all, the idea of getting paid to travel the world seems like an amazing thing to try to do. You get to visit wonderful places around the world on someone else’s...
Comments03/12/2017 #23 Pamela 🐝 WilliamsI never read anything by a travel blogger to the finish until I 'met' @Paul Walters. All the others were like reading a travel brochure, Paul brings actual life to the places he writes about, it's not just places that happen to have people in the story. I think Paul is every Bee's favorite travel guru! Don't stop Paul! our live's will lose a bit of sparkle :-)02/12/2017 #19 Renée 🐝 CormierI agree, @Paul Walters is the best travel blogger. I absolutely love his writing and reading about the places he's been. BeBee provides a great platform to get your content to more people. I'd never heard of Paul before I joined beBee. I try not to miss any of his posts.01/12/2017 #17 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBeeGreat insights by @Javier 🐝 beBee. I agree fully with you "The only way to get better is to keep doing it". Rightly @Paul Walters deserves special mention because his writing is visual and he makes the reader feel as if he was the one on travel.01/12/2017 #16 Pedro J. EstébanezAlthough I'm not planning on becoming a travel blogger, I've found interesting rules-of-thumb for getting noticed at SNs, as pretty much they apply to other topics.
But what I've liked the most: not just because someone intends to do something, he has to believe he is able to or is really willing to take the effort and survive periods of non-rewarding work or low motivation.
And I'd say the latter is the most important, even enough by itself, at least to expect some results.01/12/2017 #14 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher@Paul Walters is also my favorite travel blogger. I give travel bloggers A LOT of credit because it's very time consuming. You left a lot of great tips @Javier 🐝 beBee. I haven't used Instagram in a while, I keep telling myself I need to get back on there. Once your away from Instagram or any Social Platform for any length of time it's like starting all over again because people move on. I also recommend MyTweetPack for promotion on Twitter, it works great and simplifies so much.01/12/2017 #12 Paul Walters@Javier 🐝 beBee many thanks for the post and invaluable advice therein. I am deeply humbled by your praise but inspired at the same time. I am off on my travels in the next few weeks and will post from exotic locations such as Raja Ampat, West Papua and hopefully ( weather permitting) the Banda Islands30/11/2017 #7 David B. GrinbergJavier: thanks for such an interesting blogging buzz. You provide important insights and awesome advice on what it takes to be a successful travel blogger in today's crowded social media space. I'm glad you highlighted the phenomenal travel blogging of @Paul Walters, whom beBee is very fortunate to have producing such unique buzz and honey. Anyone who aspires to become a relevant travel blogger should read, study and learn from Paul's style and professionalism.
I would also note that travel blogging is similar in many ways to being a multi-media journalist. You must not only possess excellent writing and reporting skills, but it's also essential need to excel in digital photography and video technology to tell the story beyond just words. This is where the Live Buzz feature can come in handy for practice, per my recent post https://www.bebee.com/producer/@dbgrinberg/how-to-catch-more-buzz-with-bebee-live-video.
In essence, Paul is a master of this trade and deserves many accolades for his exemplary contributions to Producer. Thank so much, Paul, for all YOU do! And thank you, Javier, for shining a spotlight on Paul's terrific travel blogging.
- ProducerLucky StarsIt was a cold winter night. The forest was silent. The trees were covered by ice and snow. The dogs felt a change in the air. They were ready for their mission. As true team players they were used to follow the same path. A voice commanded them to...
Comments06/12/2017 #13 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.#11 awe thank you so much @Jerry Fletcher, Merry Christmas period to you too.03/12/2017 #10 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.#9 I love those stories too, @Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador thank you so much02/12/2017 #9 Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand AmbassadorI love stories with happy endings, @Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.. This is a magical and lovely tale.02/12/2017 #8 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.#1 thank you so much @Savvy Raj have a great week ahead02/12/2017 #7 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.#2 cannot agree more with your magic words @Tausif Mundrawala Happy week!01/12/2017 #6 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.#3 So happy to know, thank you so much wonderful you @Joanne Gardocki01/12/2017 #5 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.#4 my pleasure @Debasish Majumder have a wondeful week full of poems01/12/2017 #4 Debasish Majumdernice story @Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.! enjoyed read and shared. thank you for the buzz.01/12/2017 #3 Joanne Gardocki@Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc. you have delivered heartwarming smiles again. So good to see you sharing stories and the dogs looks like they are smiling. Thank you for the lovely story for this season of miracles.30/11/2017 #2 Tausif MundrawalaI regret missing all those magical stories weaved by you in a very creative way. I enjoyed reading this lovely story as the world in distress needs those magical charms in order to fill their life with joy and pleasure. Am glad that I read this story, my friend @Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.30/11/2017 #1 Savvy RajLovely read all through!@Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.sbeth
Especially loved ....because they were made from stardust. Stars bring light in darkness and will always do.
- 01/12/2017Launch of Paradiso Ceramics at "Arcadia" Crookwell, New South Wales, Australia https://paradisoceramics.com.au
Comments01/12/2017 #2 Lance 🐝 ScoularHand-made ceramics authentic to Deruta, Italy
Deruta, a small town in Umbria in central Italy, is one of the biggest producers of the glazed Italian ceramic ware known as majolica. Artisans in Deruta still apply centuries-old techniques to produce the ceramics, from throwing local clay on a potter’s wheel to hand-painting colourful and intricate designs.
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