- Producer31/12/2016How to Help Kids Handle GriefIt's been a little while since we heard the saddening news about Jose Fernandez, 24 year old pitcher for the Florida Marlins who died in a boat accident. I remember reading the news aloud from my Facebook feed that Saturday morning, and catching...
Comments31/12/2016 #2 Deb🐝 LangeWhen we lose a part of ourselves we may then experience other emotions she ch as emptiness, or hardness or perhaps feeling vacant.
Grief and loss are the means to express our humanity our love as of loved ones, our loss of connection to the life of another. We can experience grief and loss of another even if we have not known the person who has passed on.
I believe in a world where technology and rationality pull us away from our humanity we need to consciously choose to express our humanity. Experiencing and expressing loss for another not only shows love, compassion and care for others , it also shows care for ourselves. Being compassionate with ourselves is just as important as being compassionate with others. Our grief expresses our connection to life.31/12/2016 #1 Deb🐝 LangeThat is a great post about death and grief. There are many cultures who openly talk about and have rituals to be with their grief and death. There are many cultures where death and feeling and sharing emotions and thoughts about grief and death became taboo. Keep a stiff upper lip type of thing. Be strong . But we know that to deny ourselves our feelings and our thoughts about loss is to deny our humanity.
Loss is a reality. Loss brings many emotions to many different people. Some feel empty, some feel pain and ache for who is no longer physically present. Some have waves of grief and need to release their loss with tears. Others need to talk and others need solitude.
But we all need to learn what we need to do to to allow the loss to be experienced through our bodies and released.
If we deny our loss and the emotion, thoughts and images that arise with loss we lose a part of ourselves.
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Comments21/10/2016 #59 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#57 Hi @Deb🐝 Lange, your poor dad! I have to tell you, somatic therapist is a new term to me. I will have to check that out. As you explained your fathers surgeries, on-going pain for years and PTSD it made me think of the back and neck pain I've been dealing with for a very long time which got worse after I fell and broke my left shoulder and right hand 2 years ago. I notice on days that my anxiety is at an all time low, the pain is too. They are inter-connected. I will check out the link you left and appreciate you sharing what you did! Sharing information is very helpful. Thanks!21/10/2016 #57 Deb🐝 Lange@Lisa 🐝 Gallagher an inspiring post of truth and trust. I am glad you found ways to release your anxiety. There are so many ways available today, somatic therapists, body work, yes you name exercise etc. My Dad had a car accident at 60. He then had 3 back operations which did not work. Finally, a psychiatrist said, "If we had treated you for post traumatic stress, it is likely you would not have had those back operations and you would have an able body and mind today." Yes, if Dad had been able to see a somatic therapist, he could have released the pain and tension of trauma from his body. The psychiatrist also said, the accident was like a trigger for all of the stress from him post world war 2, that he had held onto for 60 years. You might like my post and be interested in my new book that will be released shortly. Thank-you for sharing your experience. So imprtnat for people to know there are ways back to wellness. https://www.bebee.com/producer/@deb-lange/trust-your-senses-embodied-wisdom-for-the-modern-age01/08/2016 #55 Robert Bacal#54 Ok. Rebel @Rebel Brown I'm making this one last comment. The numbers DO matter, and 10% or 50% or 60% being non verbal is factually wrong, and a result of ignorance which is shared by a LOT of very smart people who simply don't know better. To promulgate falsehoods, or to repeat falsehoods does a disservice to others, and not an insignificant one. The numbers people quote are ALL bullshit. FInally, if the numbers don't matter, why did you use a number? Let's have a little accountability and responsibility for spreading bullshit.01/08/2016 #54 Rebel Brown@Robert Bacal I've heard what you're saying and I've studied that research and what M said. My bottom line around this whole argument is simple.... specific numbers DO NOT MATTER. You can make words 50% or whatever will make you happy. Words are still not the only source of input into our minds, and they are certainly not the majority of the communication inputs into our unconscious minds. We have individual interpretations of words that are stored as programs that trigger with the words. Which is one of the reasons we've all seen the miscommunication in emails, social media, any form of the written word. For complete and clear communication to occur - our minds need more. Especially our unconscious minds which control our data filtering and processing. The language of our UM is the senses, not words. So we need MORE... And that was my point. Which I am guessing you already knew anyway...01/08/2016 #53 Robert Bacal#52 Rebel @Rebel Brown Not to minimize the importance of non verbals, but you are propagating a commonly held myth here. What you say about the 10% is simply and absolutely not true. It's a gross misinterpretation of Meharabian's research, one that he often bemoaned. For a full explanation, http://work911.com/communication/mehrabian.htm28/07/2016 #50 Lisa 🐝 GallagherI just re-read my comment to you @Rebel Brown and I hope it didn't come off the way my mind read it. What I meant by being in my own research phase was this- being open to listening to others, including you. I thank you so much for all you've shared so far! I hope this comment made sense, because I felt my last one didn't.28/07/2016 #49 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#48 I'm still in my own 'research' phase @Rebel Brown :)) As I said, my therapist was just beginning it with me and we both had scheduling conflicts so I haven't delved into it yet with him. He's not trying to push this on me. He has other forms of treatment as well. You don't need to back out... this discussion is valuable from all viewpoints! Thanks Rebel!28/07/2016 #48 Rebel Brown#34 I'll take your word for that @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher . Ive had research thrown in my face since I started PTSD treatment. No one cared about MY EXPERIENCE. they were trained hypnotherapists and so they bullied me into using their approach because "it was proven." Worst decision I EVER made in my life. Darned near ruined my life to be totally honest. So when someone throws research back at me, without asking about my experience, instead treating it as a throw away exception to some rule, that doesn't feel open minded. Especially given that I have worked with many others who had the same experience I did . As I said - thats why I went back and became a trainer of hypnotherapists, so I share my experience with those I train so they understand there's more than research. There are people who have experiences and not all are perfect or successful. I'll back out now. I pray you have a better experience than many I've worked with on the other side of EMDR my friend... Blessings always..28/07/2016 #46 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#42 @Shawn Quinlivan Thank you for such a detailed response. I'm the type of person who needs to read Scientific data. I'm far from a Scientist but I do understand a lot of Medical terminology. There is much to be said about treatment with Medications and on-going treatment with a therapist too. I agree, I've read that the person conducting EMDR needs to really know what they are doing. I would love to chat with you too Shawn, I value your input on this discussion. Anxiety and PTSD are hell to live with. Thanks so much for your comment!28/07/2016 #45 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#40 Hi @Sara Jacobovici, yes I agree- this topic is very important. Many Americans are afflicted with Anxiety Disease/Panic Disorder and it's not something we can just wish away. If it was that easy, we wouldn't seek help. We wouldn't feel the need to finally speak out about this illness. It's been an illness that has been taboo to speak of for years. Any illness that's categorized as a "Mental illness," has a stigma attached. The brain is malfunctioning and with all the reading I've done (believe me, I've read a lot) I still don't feel they know enough about the brain to understand why this happens. They are getting closer by understanding the chemical messengers that add to this illness and the part of the brain that seems to be affected, the receptors but as far as treatment, we are all different (think of fractals) as our friend @Milos Djukic talks so much about. I think of our brains as fractals. And, that may be why what works for one person may not work for another. For example, I have friends who are able to take SSRI's or SNRI's and have rebounded. I can't take those, I have a severe reaction. I'm not sure if some people realize there is a difference between anxiety we all feel over stressful situations or events vs. Generalized Anxiety Disorder. The first one- life's stressors are normal even though they suck. The second is an illness that a person has no control over and the chemical messengers flood the body before the person has time to try and calm their brain. It's exhausting physically and emotionally. I really appreciate your input Sara and value this discussion!! Thanks so much for your comment.27/07/2016 #42 Shawn Quinlivan, C.Ht.My primary interest in this thread is to offer @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher some helpful information.
For the sake of discussion, randomized, controlled clinical trials have shown that hypnosis significantly decreases PTSD symptoms and is more efficient than comparison treatments. These peer reviewed research studies appear in publications by the International Society for Traumatic Stress Studies and the Journal of Clinical Psychiatry. I present this evidence as the foundation upon which I have built a very successful and specialized approach; it is not intended to marginalize anyone else’s experience or perspective.
It is important to consider the variable of the human element here: all therapists are not created equal and some are more skilled at dealing with the adverse reactions common to overcoming traumatic stress. In my experience, interactive techniques such as therapeutic imagery, along with EMDR and other desensitization methods, gently reframe unhealthy responses—both psychological and physiological—to memories of traumatic events, diffusing both the emotional charge and negative impact. PTSD triggers and anticipatory anxiety are recognized and cast aside. Neural pathways are rewired and PTSD sufferers learn to become more present in the moment of their lives. And as love and connectivity begin to triumph over fear and separation, the trauma is embraced as a transformative and catalyzing force, a ‘wounded gift.’ This is how PTSD sufferers become not just survivors, but agents of hope and change for the many who are afflicted with this debilitating condition.27/07/2016 #40 Sara JacoboviciDear @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher, you have obviously sparked an incredibly important discussion. One that needs to openly and freely discussed. As you say, "there is no shame in illness. The only shame is when it's untreated, or not recognized." I would add, and not debated. #34 Lisa, I agree with you saying, "It's helpful to me and I'm sure many to understand more about different therapy options that are out there.#36 @Deb 🐝 Helfrich I echo some points you made that are crucial towards establishing the framework for this discussion: "...as far as I am concerned, we are clouding the issue taking sides the lack of people integrating, rather than isolating and reducing, seems to be the root of the current craziness that provides medicines that do more harm than the originating condition. Treatments that are known to only mask symptoms, not address the actual dysfunction... I am a philosopher, not a scientist, so my job is to ask questions" Integrating and asking questions, essential to successfully treating individuals. By the way, philosophy started it all including science and psychology.