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  1. Aurorasa Sima

    Aurorasa Sima

    Aurorasa Sima
    The Rise of AI Makes Emotional Intelligence More Important
    hbr.org Develop the skills machines can’t...


  2. ProducerMichael Schneider
    Want to Fix Your Biggest Leadership Problem? Try These 5 Emotional Intelligence Tips
    Want to Fix Your Biggest Leadership Problem? Try These 5 Emotional Intelligence TipsThis condition has many names: leadership blinders, delusion, and narcissism, just to name a few. Although each ailment can lead to unique consequences, they are all rooted in the same cognitive bias known as "The Halo Effect." The Halo Effect is a...
  3. Jared Wiese, 🐝 adding VALUE & RESULTS
    Ever "lost your cool"? Perhaps here on social media? Or in a heated argument with a loved one?

    Learn WHY and how to bring back CONTROL in a matter of minutes with mindfulness...
    Jared Wiese, 🐝 adding VALUE & RESULTS
    Melissa Hughes on Twitter
    twitter.com “Be aware of the amygdala hijack. Keep the thinking #brain in charge....


    Jared Wiese, 🐝 adding VALUE & RESULTS
    11/02/2017 #1 Jared Wiese, 🐝 adding VALUE & RESULTS
    Thanks for the share, @Milos Djukic... I can happily say :)
  4. ProducerDon 🐝 Kerr

    Don 🐝 Kerr

    Self esteem and authenticity
    Self esteem and authenticityA recent post by my friend Pascal Derrien and the commentary thread, most notably contributions by CityVP 🐝 Manjit and Aurorasa Sima prompted me to share this perspective on the notion of personal branding.My comment on Pascal's post (...


    Max🐝 J. Carter
    14/02/2017 #52 Max🐝 J. Carter
    #51 Definitely
    Bernard Poulin
    14/02/2017 #51 Bernard Poulin
    #41 Agree. But it should not be an overwhelming pressured need to conform.
    Sara Jacobovici
    10/02/2017 #50 Sara Jacobovici
    #47 A pleasure @Don 🐝 Kerr. Thank you for using a musical reference.
    Don 🐝 Kerr
    10/02/2017 #49 Don 🐝 Kerr
    #31 'Apath' @Phil Friedman Now I've got to plagiarize something from you too. Warned @Jim Murray in another medium that I am about to liberate some of his brilliance of my own.
    Don 🐝 Kerr
    10/02/2017 #48 Don 🐝 Kerr
    #32 Why Dr. @Gerald Hecht you do me a great honour to say so. Also glad to hear about that antibiotic free thingie. We actually have to pay for antibiotics here in Canuckistan or perhaps I have misunderstood - again.
    Don 🐝 Kerr
    10/02/2017 #47 Don 🐝 Kerr
    #35 Thanks for chiming in @Sara Jacobovici
    Don 🐝 Kerr
    10/02/2017 #46 Don 🐝 Kerr
    #38 Heard that @Randy Keho and you have always been consistent in how you have presented yourself here. Makes sense.
    Don 🐝 Kerr
    10/02/2017 #45 Don 🐝 Kerr
    #43 Yo Princess - if there's anyone on this platform who is a model of authenticity to my mind it is you. xx00
    debasish majumder
    09/02/2017 #44 debasish majumder
    'People', the primary yard stick of making brand. however, nice insight @Don 🐝 Kerr! enjoyed read. thank you for the share sir.
    Donna-Luisa Eversley
    09/02/2017 #43 Donna-Luisa Eversley
    @Don 🐝 Kerr your post provokes considerable thought. It's quite revealing that I'm at a loss for words. I have wondered about the authentic self, and authenticity being not absolute in terms of being good, etc, but being real and true to who you are when in and out of the public domain. It becomes more interesting if authenticity is aligned with what we think as unacceptable. If someone says they are bad and behaves badly can that person be displaying their authenticity?
    I will need to return, as I'm struggling, for words 😀 based on my thoughts.
    Think this is interesting
    Preston 🐝 Vander Ven
    09/02/2017 #42 Preston 🐝 Vander Ven
    #4 Great View. Thanks. @CityVP 🐝 Manjit
    Max🐝 J. Carter
    09/02/2017 #41 Max🐝 J. Carter
    #24 There are times when self esteem is tied to acceptance, not adoration and each of us has a basic need for acceptance.
    Mohammed Sultan
    09/02/2017 #40 Mohammed Sultan
    #26 Philip Morris was extremely successful in creating a unique image that allowed a man to project himself through the cigarettes he smoked.The Marlboro cowboy is now a legend in many parts of the world and people are accustomed to seeing the Marlboro Man.Marlboro was able to sell for "image" and not for features and was able to keep their reputation updated.Philip Morris Marlboro is not productized and all their advertisement of the Marlboro line ,flavored or light or menthol or the not-burned have one thing in common -the cowboy.Philip Morris Marlboro line are not promoted based on the character of the product but on the character of the smoker.Thank you @Don Kerr.
    Cyndi wilkins
    09/02/2017 #39 Cyndi wilkins
    #11 From you @Gerald Hecht..." @Cyndi wilkins Please remember that in this Universe ...there are no accidents..." I stated that where??? Oh, and...

    #16 "@Cyndi wilkins I'm not sure if or where you questioned the Universe...we don't query such stuff...do we?" Really? Then why the link bomb???

    I hope you managed to consume something other than fast food...
    Randy Keho
    09/02/2017 #38 Randy Keho
    I find it difficult to separate personal from product branding. To me, they are one in the same. Both require authenticity.
    I recently launched a website that helps connect a number of related businesses, all of which are after the same customers, with those customers.
    It's a one-stop shop for the customers, allowing them to view all of the available choices without having to search them out individually.
    I have formed personal relationships with many of the business owners, therefore, establishing a high level of trust. In return, they have taken it upon themselves to introduce me to those I have yet to form a relationship with. I have also been invited to address them all at once at their next association meeting.
    I am my product.
    Gerald Hecht
    09/02/2017 #37 Gerald Hecht
    #27 @Don 🐝 Kerr Antibiotic Free since that nasty incident at the deli; (with the slicer thingie) in1981 ...and loving it --because when it comes to your loved ones; "Don't Hurry Choose gerry!"
    Gerald Hecht
    09/02/2017 #36 Gerald Hecht
    #24 "antibiotic free"
    Sara Jacobovici
    09/02/2017 #35 Sara Jacobovici
    @Don 🐝 Kerr writes: "There’s also something remarkable that happens when our business learning and personal journey begin to integrate, forming common perspective." A must read.
    Sara Jacobovici
    09/02/2017 #34 Sara Jacobovici
    Bravo @Don 🐝 Kerr for a great buzz. Well written, well told.
    Gerald Hecht
    09/02/2017 #32 Gerald Hecht
    Fabulous Post!
  5. ProducerIan Weinberg

    Ian Weinberg

    A Legal Rage
    A Legal RageOscar Pistorius is the famous or more lately, infamous blade-runner who featured in the Olympics sprinting on blades which replaced his amputated feet. Pistorius was indicted for the murder of his partner, a well-known photographic model. It was...


    CityVP 🐝 Manjit
    01/02/2017 #1 CityVP 🐝 Manjit
    It is amazing that we can put people through a so called "education", send them to a higher level of education and call people "graduates" but we can emerge on the other side of this education without an owners guide for the workings of our mind/body.

    Once we understand the how different parts of the brain relate to each new condition it is subjected to, that awareness in itself is critical insight. That is the difference between a purely conditioned response and enlightened one. Road rage is as conditioned as people can be. As education understands these relationships, future generations will benefit and possibly make different choices.
  6. Aurorasa Sima

    Aurorasa Sima

    Sample EQ Brain Entrainment
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    Aurorasa Sima
    31/01/2017 #5 Aurorasa Sima
    #2 That purple pic on LI ... I thought it was insanely beautiful.
    Aurorasa Sima
    31/01/2017 #4 Aurorasa Sima
    #2 Seriously??? I listened to Kraftwerk when I was 12 - surprised they´re still active.

    I recommend Paul Kalkbrenner. Good stuff.
    Tony Brandstetter
    31/01/2017 #2 Tony Brandstetter
    I have been into electronic music all my life. I just seen a German band called Kraftwerk in Philly last summer, awesome!
    Tony Brandstetter
    31/01/2017 #1 Tony Brandstetter
    This is futuristic!
  7. Aurorasa Sima

    Aurorasa Sima

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    Aurorasa Sima
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  8. Zacharias Voulgaris 🐝
    I wouldn't want to be in that room, for sure!
    Mary's Room: A philosophical thought experiment - Eleanor Nelsen
    Mary's Room: A philosophical thought experiment - Eleanor Nelsen View full lesson: http://ed.ted.com/lessons/mary-s-room-a-philosophical-thought-experiment-eleanor-nelsen Imagine a neuroscientist who has only ever seen...
  9. ProducerIan Weinberg

    Ian Weinberg

    Meditation re-visited
    Meditation re-visitedI decided to attend a Buddhist Retreat which focused on meditation techniques. Now I have a problem with meditation. I have difficulty quietening my mind. Meditating is a great challenge for the borderline ADD’s. It’s almost impossible for us to...


    Ian Weinberg
    01/02/2017 #11 Ian Weinberg
    #10 Thanks again @CityVP 🐝 Manjit
    CityVP 🐝 Manjit
    01/02/2017 #10 CityVP 🐝 Manjit
    #9 Dear Ian, I should have linked this Forbes article which expands on the value of our dopamine-based curiousity, which is to reveal a considerable upside when it comes to having a certain business focus :

    ADHD: The Entrepreneur's Superpower

    Just because a particular mindset encounters problems with large areas of the existing system of work or societal processes, does not mean that there are not advantages to be found or that can be mindfully addressed as a tangible value.
    Ian Weinberg
    27/01/2017 #9 Ian Weinberg
    #7Thanks so much for referring me to that article @CityVP 🐝 Manjit I've never looked upon my dopamine-based curiosity drive as a value. I frequently find myself at odds with the 'prevailing' opinion as I pursue multiple concepts down their own rabbit holes. And so I am deeply grateful to you for contributing a whole new dimension of clarity.
    Ian Weinberg
    27/01/2017 #8 Ian Weinberg
    #6 Thanks for your helpful contribution.
    CityVP 🐝 Manjit
    27/01/2017 #7 CityVP 🐝 Manjit
    #4 Dear Ian, when we look through the medication we see ADHD, but when I look through the lens of action I see "Superfocus".

    In this Forbes article they don't call it "Superfocus" instead they describe a superpower that some CEO's have. So the article begins asking a question:

    What do business mogul Sir Richard Branson, Ikea founder Ingvar Kamprad, and JetBlue founder David Neeleman, have in common?

    Answer: http://www.forbes.com/sites/dalearcher/2014/05/14/adhd-the-entrepreneurs-superpower/#2640a8b97063

    I would welcome your personal view about this frame or way of seeing.
    Pedro Casanova
    26/01/2017 #6 Pedro Casanova
    I do " try " to meditate too...Also very hard to stop that " noise ". Try to calm our mind is a huge task..or at least it is for me. Then the mantras somehow helps...but I do also get distracted..

    And then someone told me....don t use mantras with more than one word....try like " OM ".

    if your mind wanders....look at those toughts...camly and go back to OM. If someone attracts your attention....look...or listen...and then go back to OM.

    Try that OM for like 20 mins twice a day....and you will start to " tame " that noise.

    Am on it. Hopefully it will take me less than 40 years...am near 60 yers old now
    David B. Grinberg
    26/01/2017 #5 David B. Grinberg
    Thank for this buzz, Ian. We can all make better use of our awareness, clarity and calmness -- especially in today's frenetically paced 24/7 mobile, digital and virtual Information Age. Unfortunately, it appears that "information overload" and the resulting distraction (decrease of attention span) has become the rule, rather than the exception. That's why I think it's important for everyone to be more vigilant about this and take time to disconnect periodically.
    I agree that meditation and deep breathing exercises have many practical purposes which are beneficial to one's health. This dates back thousands of years per Chinese medicine.
    Regarding Buddhism, I recommend the following paperback for those interested (which was previously recommended to me): "Buddhism: Plain and Simple" https://www.amazon.com/Buddhism-Plain-Simple-Practice-Being/dp/0767903323
    Thanks again for this buzz-worthy read, Ian.
    Ian Weinberg
    26/01/2017 #4 Ian Weinberg
    #2 @CityVP 🐝 Manjit To fully comprehend your enlightening words I will need to evolve somewhat towards superfocus. I'll need a little time for this!
    CityVP 🐝 Manjit
    26/01/2017 #3 CityVP 🐝 Manjit
    PS "Dark Knight of the Soul" is an interesting read FYI
    CityVP 🐝 Manjit
    26/01/2017 #2 CityVP 🐝 Manjit
    I am fully on board with the triadic relationship between Awareness, Clarity and Calmness. Ian, ADD or ADHD is a diagnostic of disorder, but what is the diagnostic of order? I am not talking about attention but focus.

    The diagnostic of order is actually "superfocus". Once we understand where "superfocus" is an advantage, we can channel that energy where it creates an advantage. Now awareness, clarity and calmness is set in a far different context. The contextual intelligence of that leads me to recognize where superfocus is a disadvantage. Now I am channeling energies in a way that supports the natural flow of my mind, heart and will.

    Once I am aware of this context, clarity does not have to begin from a clear picture but emerge from a random one and then from there establishing equanimity in the form of calmness brings balance to our energy and flow.

    So in superfocus there is another triadic relationship between Appreciation, Context and Equanimity - hopefully my ACE card.
    Max🐝 J. Carter
    26/01/2017 #1 Max🐝 J. Carter
    I have ADHD myself and the technique I use is to simply tell myself "I let go of everything" and repeat those words until my body takes over the breathing.

    For high active minds what you say after that guides the meditation and for those with ADD and ADHD it is often better to guide what you want from it and realize things are going to come through.

    The best I have been able to do for being in the "void" so speak absent of all is to tell myself I am becoming a shadow in the void so that I may rest from my awareness. This often leads to a nap.

    I have also found doing it with my eyes open and allowing myself to zone out I can a few minutes of calmness with nothing getting through and I can have that peace in my mind.
  10. ProducerEmilia M. Ludovino
    EMOTIONAL EMPOWERMENT - Are you emotionally empowered?
    EMOTIONAL EMPOWERMENT - Are you emotionally empowered?"We can not force anyone to see what they are not ready for." Often I have heard people remark: "He is very intelligent. Just needs to find his balance.” – “Your father was a genius but he lacked wisdom.” - “He was too intelligent for his own...


    Bernard Poulin
    27/01/2017 #7 Bernard Poulin
    The only emotional empowerment required to survive a day of productivity is to be determined to do the best we can today (i.e. : seeking excellence rather than perfection) with the proviso that tomorrow is another day in which we can try to best our yesterdays. Any more requirement than that needs a therapist.
    Emilia M. Ludovino
    26/01/2017 #6 Emilia M. Ludovino
    Thanks @David B. Grinberg for the share. I'm grateful. Have a blessed day!
    Donna-Luisa Eversley
    26/01/2017 #5 Donna-Luisa Eversley
    Donna-Luisa Eversley
    26/01/2017 #4 Donna-Luisa Eversley
    #3 @Emilia M. Ludovino on mobile and will respond later.. Typos driving me bonkers
    Emilia M. Ludovino
    26/01/2017 #3 Emilia M. Ludovino
    @Donna-Luisa Eversley Thanks for the sharings. I'm grateful. Have a blessed day!
    Emilia M. Ludovino
    26/01/2017 #2 Emilia M. Ludovino
    #1 You're most welcome @Devesh Bhatt. Thank you for your beautiful poem. What a great way to receive positive feedback. :) Have a great day!
    Devesh Bhatt
    26/01/2017 #1 Devesh Bhatt
    Invader of my mind
    Slipped through my senses
    Beyond sights and sounds
    And the tasteful pretenses

    Between these hearing ears
    Behind these watchful eyes
    A Trojan undetected
    Plots a sly surprise

    Couldn't write anything for a few days. Reading you is refreshing . Thanks
  11. Aurorasa Sima

    Aurorasa Sima

    New podcast episode!
    Aurorasa Sima
    When Words Become Weapons - How To Spot Manipulation
    www.podbean.com Emotional Intelligence Training   Test result of a heart treatment pill:   A = Number of heart attacks reduced by 33 % B = 1.4 % less heart attacks C = 95.9 % of the test group given placebo has not had heart attacks, while 97.3 % of people who used...


    Aurorasa Sima
    25/01/2017 #5 Aurorasa Sima
    #4 I agee, Ian. Thank you for taking the time to listen and comment!
    Ian Weinberg
    25/01/2017 #4 Ian Weinberg
    #3very important and relevant in this age of distorted reality.
    Aurorasa Sima
    25/01/2017 #3 Aurorasa Sima
    #2 So happy you like my 12-minute video, Devesh.
    Devesh Bhatt
    25/01/2017 #2 Devesh Bhatt
    Great. Nice video.

    Caution : People are conditioned to manipulate words. It's best to filter the words of focus, this skill can be addictive and seed unwanted doubts and fears.
    Aurorasa Sima
    25/01/2017 #1 Aurorasa Sima
    Thank you, @John White, MBA. very much appreciate the share
  12. ProducerEmilia M. Ludovino
    EMOTIONAL BANK ACCOUNT - Is your balance Positive or Negative?
    EMOTIONAL BANK ACCOUNT - Is your balance Positive or Negative?Imagine that you have dropped and broken your mobile phone, and find it’s going to cost you $200 to repair it.Your reaction to this incident is influenced by the amount of discretionary money you have in your bank balance.If you have a lot of money...


    Emilia M. Ludovino
    24/01/2017 #13 Emilia M. Ludovino
    #12 Thankyou @Ignacio Gallo Campos www.ignaciogallocampos.com for the positive feedback and sharing. Have a great day!
    Ignacio Gallo Campos www.ignaciogallocampos.com
    24/01/2017 #12 Ignacio Gallo Campos www.ignaciogallocampos.com
    Insightful, clear, simple and extremely powerful advice if put them into actions. Sharing your message!
    Brian McKenzie
    23/01/2017 #11 Brian McKenzie
    I un-banked when I left the States, I haven't had a telephone in 3 years, if I were to say I have any Emotional Account - it would have been unplugged too. Emotions, and pandering to them, are quite avoidable. We live in a six second world where 'Reality' is faked, scripted, produced ~ where you are an easily replaceable line item on a corporate spread sheet ~ where 'love' is transactional, temporary and disposable ~ where war is not only inevitable but routinely scheduled. Society is merely a herd of widgets - managed through the life-cycle wickets of eat, sleep, work & reproduce well teased with money and goaded with fear before you are shuffled of to the meat packing slaughter house.
    I try to keep my Apathy in check with doses of Indifference and Detached Ambivalence - I am rewarded daily for those efforts.
    Emilia M. Ludovino
    22/01/2017 #10 Emilia M. Ludovino
    #9 Thank you, @David B. Grinberg for your kind words and best wishes. I'm a positive thinker by birth and an optimistic by nature - be optimistic and positive thinker runs in the family. Great reading recommendations. It's a pleasure to have you reading my articles. Have a blessed day and week ahead!
    David B. Grinberg
    21/01/2017 #9 David B. Grinberg
    As someone who prides himself on positive thinking -- despite naysayers -- I completely concur with your astute advice, Emilia. It's just as easy to think positively than negatively and view the proverbial cup as half full, rather than half empty. I wish you all the best and hope your cup overflows with positive life experiences.
    Lastly, for those who have a negative mindset as knee-jerk reaction, here's some recommended reading by the godfather of positive thinking, the late and great Rev. Norman Vincent Peale https://www.amazon.com/Norman-Vincent-Peale/e/B000APPE7E Keep buzzing in 2017!
    Sushmita Thakare Jain
    21/01/2017 #8 Sushmita Thakare Jain
    #6 Pleasure is all mine dear :) we are all here for each other
    Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.
    21/01/2017 #7 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.
    #4 thank you @Emilia M. Ludovino! You are most welcome.
    Emilia M. Ludovino
    21/01/2017 #6 Emilia M. Ludovino
    #3 Thank you dear @Sushmita Thakare Jain :). Your ongoing support here on beBee and in Twitter are like sweet honey. Have a blessed weekend!
    Emilia M. Ludovino
    21/01/2017 #5 Emilia M. Ludovino
    #2 You're most welcome @Jeet Sarkar. Thank you for reading it. I'm happy that you liked it. Have a blessed weekend.
    Emilia M. Ludovino
    21/01/2017 #4 Emilia M. Ludovino
    #1 Thank you @Lisbeth for reading it and share it. I appreciate your support. I'm happy that you liked the content :). Have a warm weekend. :)
    Sushmita Thakare Jain
    21/01/2017 #3 Sushmita Thakare Jain
    Such a good read!
    Thank you for sharing. Will be sharing it ahead :)
    Jeet Sarkar
    21/01/2017 #2 Jeet Sarkar
    Good share madam @Emilia M. Ludovino! Thank you for sharing it.
    Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.
    21/01/2017 #1 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.
    everyone should read this one, it is so good to know!
  13. ProducerKen Boddie

    Ken Boddie

    What are you laughing at?
    What are you laughing at?Why do we laugh? Do all cultures and creatures laugh? Is laughter really the best medicine?What happens when we tickle rats?If you are bursting at the seams to find out the answers to these soul searching, contemplative, ridiculous, yet strangely...


    Ken Boddie
    21/01/2017 #24 Ken Boddie
    #23 I bow to the bard of trouble and strife. 😔
    Rod Loader
    21/01/2017 #23 Rod Loader
    To @Ken Boddie...

    Thoughtful prose, to the rose,
    That is my lovely wife.
    About your fear, to draw near,
    To trouble and to strife.

    Now your pain, won't be gain,
    If done by your own hand.
    No she won't laugh, unless your gaff,
    Is totally unplanned.

    Live your life, without strife,
    Or harm to hand or hair.
    But let us know, if your toe,
    Should find a lurking chair.

    Ken Boddie
    20/01/2017 #22 Ken Boddie
    #18 To @Rod Loader and his good lady wife .....

    When a challenge brings a hazard,
    Then the risk must be assessed.
    Are the consequences good or bad?
    This really is no time for jest.

    A self harm act will cause me pain,
    Of that there can be no real doubt,
    So surely then I must refrain,
    And hope no lady's tears will spout.
    Sara Jacobovici
    20/01/2017 #21 Sara Jacobovici
    #14 Happy and flattered @Ken Boddie!
    Ken Boddie
    20/01/2017 #20 Ken Boddie
    #16 Can I then assume, Dean-san, that your 'tomatosensory' cortex is the portion of the somatosensory cortex that is particularly sensitive to being touched by salads? If you disagree then we could always fight it out. Bagpipes or black pudding? 🤣
    Rod Loader
    20/01/2017 #19 Rod Loader
    #16 Now, I'm going to have to go back into the archives @Dean Owen. The Goodies and Eckythump, brings back memories.
    Rod Loader
    20/01/2017 #18 Rod Loader
    Oh, come on, @Ken Boddie, where's you're sense of adventure.
    Ken Boddie
    20/01/2017 #17 Ken Boddie
    #15 No Rod! I'm not going to pour hot coffee over my head while wearing that cool beBee Tshirt so that both you and your wife can laugh at me. ☹️
    Dean Owen
    20/01/2017 #16 Dean Owen
    I hear that women find an especially active tomatosensory cortex an especially endearing trait in a man. Did you know that people actually die from laughter. I found this particular story quite touching. "On 24 March 1975, Alex Mitchell, from King's Lynn, England, died laughing while watching the "Kung Fu Kapers" episode of The Goodies, featuring a kilt-clad Scotsman with his bagpipes battling a master of the Lancastrian martial art "Eckythump", who was armed with a black pudding." (Wikipedia) -
    Rod Loader
    20/01/2017 #15 Rod Loader
    Because we're all different, it is often different things which make us laugh. My lovely wife laughs when people hurt themselves, I laughed at the funny bearded bloke in the "Bee cool" t-shirt at the end of your post (only kidding... or am I).
    Ken Boddie
    20/01/2017 #14 Ken Boddie
    #9 Hope you don't mind, Sara, but I've added your baby video to the end of this buzz. 👶 🤣
    Ken Boddie
    20/01/2017 #13 Ken Boddie
    #9 I watched your video, Sara, on my own and went from silent chortle to laugh out loud in less than a minute. This video is a great find, Sara, and the babies laughing at dogs which follow it is also hilarious. Thanks for the endorphin transfusion. 🤣
    Ken Boddie
    20/01/2017 #12 Ken Boddie
    #7 I hear that beBee's also looking for a CGO, Kev. Any takers?
    Ken Boddie
    20/01/2017 #11 Ken Boddie
    #8 So what do you 'life' at Devesh? 🤣
    Ken Boddie
    20/01/2017 #10 Ken Boddie
    #6 Thanks for your thoughts, Gert, and of course the joke, which fits into the 'Mismatch of Expectation and Reality' category. This also brings up the concept of miscommunication by accident when we can only really laugh when we are in a remote situation or really know a person well, rather than in a face to face situation, particularly with strangers. I remember the tale of the unfortunate overseas student who arrived in UK and got himself into a number of awkward situations by frequently asking for "hairy twot". After a number of episodes (embarrassing to him but hilarious to others) it transpired he was looking for directions to Herriot Watt University.
    Sara Jacobovici
    19/01/2017 #9 Sara Jacobovici
    I love your style @Ken Boddie; you offer a serious buzz on laughter. But seriously, try to keep a straight face when watching this video of babies laughing (3 min.)
    Devesh Bhatt
    19/01/2017 #8 Devesh Bhatt
    I just replaced laugh with life and the article is still very interesting.
    Kevin Pashuk
    19/01/2017 #7 Kevin Pashuk
    I was waiting for the punch line Ken...

    Seriously though, some great questions. Why do we laugh? Why did it evolve so that only one type of shrieking laughter is present in a restaurant when you and your partner are trying to have a semi-romantic evening?

    In a recent post I wrote on people's use of titles (vs. experience), I made mention of someone calling themselves "Chief Giggles Officer". I wrote that in a mocking tone. I stand corrected. Any of the people on the panel of the television show you referenced likely qualify for that title.
    Gert Scholtz
    19/01/2017 #6 Gert Scholtz
    @Ken Boddie An intriguing post Ken. I think we laugh for a few reasons. As a means of social bonding; where group cohesion was fostered long ago by touch, as groups increased in size verbal grooming and bonding replaced it – language, laughter and song. The other reason is that laughter is a response to unexpected juxtapositions or ideas – we have a certain train of thought or a fixed perspective and laughter is the response to having it changed and altered in an unforeseen way. Mostly we laugh because it feels good – the chemicals released in the body because of it, makes it a self-seeking act. The other side of the question is interesting too: why do we (try to) induce laughter in others? A long list it could be.

    According to a poll by Prof Richard Wiseman of the UK, here is the joke voted funniest: Two hunters are out in the woods when one of them collapses. He doesn't seem to be breathing and his eyes are glazed. The other guy whips out his phone and calls the emergency services. He gasps, "My friend is dead! What can I do?" The operator says "Calm down. I can help. First, let's make sure he's dead." There is a silence, then a shot is heard. Back on the phone, the guy says "OK, now what?"
    Devesh Bhatt
    19/01/2017 #5 Devesh Bhatt
    #4 well the disagreement may make them intense. Let them have a laugh :)
  14. ProducerAdam Weedy

    Adam Weedy

    What emotional intelligence means to me (revised)
    What emotional intelligence means to me (revised)I keep seeing this reference to “emotional intelligence” on social media. I can’t read the whole article lots of times because it’s boring to me, and I don’t really understand what they’re talking about. The first time I saw it was around 2005. I...


    Wayne Yoshida
    10/01/2017 #7 Wayne Yoshida
    Sounds like torture, @Adam Weedy. I think I would have left and grabbed that refund. Maybe more discussions about how this really should work would be great.
    Adam Weedy
    09/01/2017 #6 Adam Weedy
    #5 Hi Edythe! I certainly do not intend for the article to suggest that the "seminar" was about emotional intelligence. I am suggesting that an emotionally intelligent person would have read the scenario and extricated themselves from it. Thanks for the feedback!
    Edythe Richards
    09/01/2017 #5 Edythe Richards
    Hello all,

    Thank you for posting your thoughts on EI (or EQ, as I call it). I am new here to this platform, so please go easy on me!

    I am a certified Emotional Intelligence practitioner. After a great deal of research into this subject myself, I sought out to become certified in the most statistically reliable model of EQ (and there are more than a few out there): the EQ-i 2.0, which also includes a valid self-report, when administered correctly.

    Based on what you’ve described, this (to me) doesn’t sound like Emotional Intelligence at all (particularly the sharing of “secrets”), which is quite unfortunate. When it is presented correctly, by someone who understand what it does (and does not) measure, it is not only empowering, but actionable. Results are malleable, and b/c coaching is part of this process, one’s EQ “score” not only does, but should change when goals are set and action is taken.

    For more information about what EQ is and isn’t, I have a short article on my blog: http://atopcareer.com/eq-ei-emotional-intelligence-overview/, and I’ll be posting more on this topic once I become familiar with this medium.
    John Vaughan
    09/01/2017 #4 John Vaughan
    Variation on a theme: "Intelligent Ignorance"
    Devesh Bhatt
    09/01/2017 #3 Devesh Bhatt
    #2 I think the inner anchor is the ideal.anchor, it just needs the right trigger. It makes our filters working fine, most people link their inner anchor to a memory and courage, I like to link it with patience.
    Why I am.interested in EI is because of 3 things :
    A) someone I least expected who belonged to this field helped me, I got curious and the more I studied it the more shameless greedy people emerged who were the cut from the exact same cloth as phoney preachers.
    B) it has less to do with coaching and more with the habituation of sled contempt for the serious.cases and spoon feeding for many who don't have time to sort themselves out.
    C) Now I want to get work from clients and I find all this coaching etc when they themselves have diminishing revenue very unacceptable, spend 10 % of that on me or 50% of that on yourself , Get on your feet and start earning...Isn't spend when the wallets empty. Makes you more vulnerable.also I was their I could be their again.

    This is an assumption, I believe childhood learning coupled with one good teacher moulds the inner anchor, the teacher could be family/freind/teacher/anyone.cant their be a way of making it consistent
    Adam Weedy
    09/01/2017 #2 Adam Weedy
    #1 I think the "inner anchor" is sufficient for many situations, except for the one I described in this piece. It would have been smarter to run
    Devesh Bhatt
    09/01/2017 #1 Devesh Bhatt
    First we perceive the world as a harmful environment and seek refuge in coaching, therapy, emotional intelligence etc.
    Then we areade aware of the exploitation and remove ourselves from that environment.
    What is the probability of a person bouncing in and out of places ?
    Also, couldn't a person develop and anchor/ refuge for self irrespective of the environment around and use that anchor to bounce back into a sensible emotional aware being? Stuff I ask myself and share here.
  15. ProducerAurorasa Sima

    Aurorasa Sima

    Did the executive coaching industry fail?
    Did the executive coaching industry fail?The dose makes the poison Currently, terms like authenticity, emotional intelligence, mindfulness are trending. We want to optimize the way we communicate, we want to be mindful, we want to grow and become more efficient and productive. Companies...


    Mohammed Sultan
    15/01/2017 #34 Mohammed Sultan
    #33 The concept has been developed specially for top management who are going to qualify for leadership positions and have no time to deal with everyday routine affairs.The intervention is done to widen the time window of the trainees based on a vision building exercise and how could they relate the current vision with the rapidly changing conditions in the marketplace.
    Aurorasa Sima
    15/01/2017 #33 Aurorasa Sima
    #31 That´s an interesting concept, Mohammed, thank you for sharing details. I will admit that I still did not fully understand - that´s probably owed to my lack of English language skills, or that I am not sure which industry/job roles you work with.
    Aurorasa Sima
    15/01/2017 #32 Aurorasa Sima
    #30 Thanks for clarifying, @Phil Friedman, that makes sense to me and I agree. Also ... often, coaches do things intuitively, but they need formal training to understand how they can make what they do intuitively accessible to others.
    Mohammed Sultan
    13/01/2017 #31 Mohammed Sultan
    #28 In "time leadership" we help the leader investigates h/his relation with "time and decisions" in a different way based on h/his "core interests" not his "core skills".The time horizon of time leadership will be stretched more beyond the traditional leadership tasks of operational visioning to the philosophical part of their org vision which includes its identity and purpose.Time leadership will lead to the emergence of a new set of an organizational "core competences" based on the common interests of its people and rooted in the success moments in which they have done things differently.Time leadership,at the end ,will help create an org "common intuition" and expand the cognitive span of its executives beyond the norm and the logic of the traditional leadership tasks.
    Phil Friedman
    13/01/2017 #30 Phil Friedman
    #29 Aurorasa, not saying that training is completely irrelevant. However, it is well known that practitioners who are successful with one approach in a coaching or clinical counseling field are very often successful using other approaches as well. While some are not successful using the same approaches, no matter what. Leading to the conclusion that the contribution made by the practitioner him- or herself is often the key to success. When it comes to dealing with human needs and frailty, you can't just read a book or take a course, and, wham bang, become good at helping people. In your case, for example, I personally perceive a level of empathy and sympathy that cannot be taught but must be nurtured and developed.
    Aurorasa Sima
    13/01/2017 #29 Aurorasa Sima
    #20 Hmmmm .. I think it´s a mix of experience and training you receive.

    After your "coach the coach" class you have to go out there and find clients to gain experience. After a while, what you have learned in theory and praxis will melt together into "your thing".
    Aurorasa Sima
    13/01/2017 #28 Aurorasa Sima
    #22 Could you expand on "time leadership", please? It´s not my area of expertise, but I would like to learn more about the concept.
    Aurorasa Sima
    13/01/2017 #27 Aurorasa Sima
    #19 I think I was more aiming at the delivery (including follow-up) than the quality of coaches.

    I have to say that I started coaching only 3 years ago (and not exclusively executives) so that I have definitely not seen it all or know it all.

    What you are saying about prices seems to be a good point. Maybe we should negotiate from the beginning on that follow-ups are necessary.
    Aurorasa Sima
    13/01/2017 #26 Aurorasa Sima
    #18 Well, that´s an interesting tax construct.

    I´m not saying that I think the quality of coaches is not good. Often it would help if there would be a follow-up after a training.

    What is difficult, especially if you can´t bill the time, is keeping people motivated to repeat whatever information has been shared until it became a skill or habit.

    Often, we go back to our stressful jobs and forget about the training/coaching right after it ended, even though we felt the content made sense and can help us.
    Aurorasa Sima
    13/01/2017 #25 Aurorasa Sima
    #21 Thank you for pointing that out and joining the conversation.
    Aurorasa Sima
    13/01/2017 #24 Aurorasa Sima
    #23 Thank you, dear Emilia. Your support and kind words are much appreciated!
    Emilia M. Ludovino
    12/01/2017 #23 Emilia M. Ludovino
    Great article @Aurorasa Sima, with great points and full of insights. It's always a pleasure to read something that I can relate and written based on years of experience. A big thank you for such a refreshing and real post. Best wishes!
    Mohammed Sultan
    12/01/2017 #22 Mohammed Sultan
    @Aurora Sima. The problem with leadership coaching is that many executives are trained on "core skills" not "core interests".Every executive based on his or her core skills wants to be a leader,but the question is ;are they really have deep interests in creative thinking and the instinct of taking risks rather than the ambition and the prestige of being leaders by the title?Nowadays, leadership training should go beyond "time management" to "time leadership" Executives are in a more need to be trained on how they conceive their leadership role for the future and in different boundaries.The more the coach can expand the cognitive power of the trainee ,the more the individual will be able to stretch his or her thinking beyond the norm, and the more the trainee will be able to pay attention to what's left unsaid or what else question? "Time leadership" training will surface the moments when the trainee has made something different.The more you analyze them you will find the themes or the threads that run through them, and the more you can help him/her to shape their core interests.Thank you for your insightful article.
    Robert Bacal
    12/01/2017 #21 Robert Bacal
    #20 Within each of the professional areas you highlight, there exists models and schools of thoughts that are student centred, client centred, and NOT practitioner centred. Of course, you'd have to have more than a passing knowledge about these disciplines to know that.
    Phil Friedman
    12/01/2017 #20 Phil Friedman
    #19 Pascal and Aurorasa, what People have to realize is that coaching -- like teaching, clinical psychology, and counseling -- is practitioner-centric. Methods, schools of thought, techniques all matter less than WHO THE PERSON IS who is doing it. Effective coaches grow organically, not made. And paying to take and complete a course doesn't turn someone into a coach. Of course, neither does standing on a rock and proclaiming oneself the leader of the next evolutionary level of mankind. Caveat emptor. Cheers!
    Pascal Derrien
    12/01/2017 #19 Pascal Derrien
    too many coaches are kill the coaching industry, in Ireland there is an abnormal ratio of coaches, consultants per square meter it is actually frightening. The excellent ones get shafted by the mediocre ones who offer great prices.....and average service delivery, they all worship gurus like Tony Robbins to a point of obsession.

    It is an industry that need to reset itself but is not homogeneous so maybe it is only a phase.... but I am tired and sometimes cynical when I hear the same things form interchangeable consultant. So to your quesiton, has it failed probably not but the edge is not too far either:-)
    Devesh Bhatt
    12/01/2017 #18 Devesh Bhatt
    One shoe doesn't fit all. It's not an excuse to deny core issues.

    It is derived from bad policies, bad processes, bad communication or bad people.

    I don't think it's a failure, it overperformed and is now normalising to the genuine people when people have become aware .

    They may not know your field but they certainly know how to evaluate coaches better.

    Funny thing in India, Hiring Executive coaches can save companies' tax but hiring an operations/business consultant gets both of us taxed. Clients want to hire an executive coach who teaches their manager operations in the guise of leadership. I don't pick up such assignments because the label would be very restrictive unless they mention my scope in the contract.
    Don 🐝 Kerr
    12/01/2017 #17 Don 🐝 Kerr
    @Aurorasa Sima It's great to see you active. Now, I don't know if it's IQ, EQ or FQ (careful pronouncing that last one) but I entered the professional working world in 1977. In the ensuing 40 years technology has made the great leap forward. From what I can see, human resource management (a misnomer if ever there was one) hasn't changed one goddamn bit except for the adoption of new jargon, lingo and buzz. For all of the corporate world's claims to care for the well being of their most valuable asset they continue to give short shrift to supporting the real humans who work for them. Wall Street, Bay Street, or The City - they demand quarterly results and if those are put in jeopardy by the collateral damage of human kind - too bad. Perhaps there are some shining examples that disprove this - Google, Aetna, Apple, Manulife? Not sure. That would be an interesting track to follow and maybe I shall for another day. In the meantime, thanks again for provoking thought in a meaningful way!
    Aurorasa Sima
    11/01/2017 #16 Aurorasa Sima
    #10 Thank you Harvey!
    Aurorasa Sima
    11/01/2017 #15 Aurorasa Sima
    Good point, Ian. Anything that has to do with changing your ressourceful brain is tricky. The approach you suggested would definitely be the way to go.

    I could see smaller companies with wise leaders adopting it. Large corporations, public companies not so much. It´s not easy to show the ROI on gratitude. Respect ends when sales targets are not met.

    And if companies adapt it ... I´m working on an article "mindfuless to go". Some companies ARE adopting mindfulness programs. But it´s more a play on the old game of increasing productivity and helping people who are suffering from too much pressure to endure even more.

    I deliver my EI training over a period of 30 days and then two more components on days 50 and 80. Supporting people after the initial motivations fades is the hard part.
  16. ProducerIan Weinberg

    Ian Weinberg

    The Driven
    The DrivenJake felt great. It was a perfect Monday morning in early spring. A deep blue sky formed a canopy over the awakening life all around him. With great contentment and a generous helping of gratitude Jake surveyed his beautiful garden with the early...


    Ian Weinberg
    09/01/2017 #4 Ian Weinberg
    #2 connect with me before you purchase. I'm creating a special for the beBee community
    Ian Weinberg
    09/01/2017 #3 Ian Weinberg
    #1 Perhaps clarity first - then to strive for calmness and trust.
    Aurorasa Sima
    09/01/2017 #2 Aurorasa Sima
    Your piece of art reminded me a bit of Joostein Gardeners "Sophies World". It´s totally different, but what both have in common is that they make a complicated and sometimes dry topic interesting and approachable for everyone.

    I´ll open an account and check the offering out.
    Mohammed A. Jawad
    09/01/2017 #1 Mohammed A. Jawad
    Ah, what a human equation! Sometimes, we are a mixture of just wobbling emotions, berserk thoughts and chemical imbalances within our bodies. Is it the heart that needs wise counsel or mind needs a soothing dose of tranquility? Or best our bodies need capsules of chemical entities to balance the mayhem of chemical dysfunctions? Perhaps the level of treatment varies and by simplicity there's immense remedies from the precepts of patience.
  17. Aurorasa Sima

    Aurorasa Sima

    Translation: If you are stuck or need a dose energy, but have no time at all - refresh in just five minutes and gain clarity and new energy.

    For the desired effect, please use headphones.

    PLEASE NOTE: The audio contains binaural sounds and must not be used while operating machinery or if you are epileptic.
    Projekt Power Truth Rush Meditation / Brain Entrainment
    Projekt Power Truth Rush Meditation / Brain Entrainment Wenn Sie eine Dose Energie benötigen, oder eine Antwort auf eine Frage und haben überhaupt keine Zeit, stöpseln Sie einfach den Kopfhörer ein und lassen Sie...


    Sara Hodge
    06/01/2017 #10 Sara Hodge
    Very neat!
    Don 🐝 Kerr
    06/01/2017 #9 Don 🐝 Kerr
    Don 🐝 Kerr
    06/01/2017 #8 Don 🐝 Kerr
    @Aurorasa Sima There is some fascinating research being done by the Canadian Association for Mental Health on the use of nearly sub-aural (is that a word?) sound to assist in treating depression and other maladies. This is very interesting. Sharing with the Mindfulness hive.
    Renée  🐝 Cormier
    06/01/2017 #7 Renée 🐝 Cormier
    I really enjoyed this. Looking forward to the full version.
    Aurorasa Sima
    06/01/2017 #6 Aurorasa Sima
    #4 I will post a long track for you later.
    Aurorasa Sima
    06/01/2017 #5 Aurorasa Sima
    #3 The movie does not serve any other purpose than allowing me to put it on youtube. Most people´s brains waves are stimulated by the difference in tone on right and left ear, so that they experience a stronger effect than from meditation alone.

    Thanks for sharing about your experience.
    Renée  🐝 Cormier
    06/01/2017 #4 Renée 🐝 Cormier
    @Graham🐝 Edwards, perhaps this will provide a little help with your mindfulness exercises.
    Ken Boddie
    06/01/2017 #3 Ken Boddie
    #2 Wide awake this time but, sorry to say, Aurorasa, that even with my headphones on there was still no energy boost and nothing enlightening ..... except of course the music was soothing. Pardon me for making light of something with which I have no understanding, but I would have thought that watching a series of clockwise-rotating well-lit orifices would have sparked some affinity with my anal character? Am I perhaps the exception that proves the rule? Presumably others have obtained some benefit from watching this strange revolving musical vision?
    Aurorasa Sima
    05/01/2017 #2 Aurorasa Sima
    #1 Ok, Ken. Yes, without headphones it could not stimulate your brain waves and is just meditation music. Looking forward to hearing when you listened with headphones.
    Ken Boddie
    05/01/2017 #1 Ken Boddie
    What the ..... ? Hypnotic and soothing but, for me, no energy boost, Aurorasa. Perhaps it's too close to bedtime? Will give it another go, with headphones, when I find them, tomorrow.
  18. ProducerHarvey Lloyd

    Harvey Lloyd

    Defensive Behaviour ........a small business perspective
    Defensive Behaviour ........a small business perspectiveI am wrestling with team members who have become defensive in their responses to performance needs of our operations.   This is normal when you are trying to grow leaders within an organization.  Leadership growth thrust folks into unknown territory...


    Harvey Lloyd
    06/01/2017 #22 Harvey Lloyd
    #19 If i could get my team (Including me) to fully understand this single statement in real time "No one ever hits it perfect every time. ;)" defensiveness would go away.

    But then they would be my competitors. So it becomes a circular argument, that is...... life.
    Harvey Lloyd
    06/01/2017 #21 Harvey Lloyd
    #19 "investigative response" The post was a primer on this very stute phrase. When meeting defensive responses we do need to investigate.

    Thanks for your perspective it was helpful. Our words are the only tools we have, choose wisely.
    Harvey Lloyd
    06/01/2017 #20 Harvey Lloyd
    #18 I really dont wont to get into the specific personal issues within the dynamic. But think i can explain from the post the growth into leadership perspective.

    When we don't know something or our education or self confidence is challenged we tend to defend the current way of doing things. A four year degree may walk into a room with a bunch of PHD's in your profession and be intimidated or another emotional reaction. Your presentation may appear defensive to the others.

    Ours is a change to a more media centric communications style. Enhancing our relationship with our customer through media engagement.

    It requires us to get outside of our normal ways of communications and be intentional, not conversational. This is challenging for our team of professionals. Engagement through knowledge is one thing but engagement through understanding motivations and supporting them is quite another.

    I appreciate your inquiry and do enjoy different perspectives. I can get a in a box sometimes. Also defensiveness is a broad topic that would require a series of posts to discuss the nuances of their creation and acceptance into our identity.
    Max🐝 J. Carter
    05/01/2017 #19 Max🐝 J. Carter
    #14 No one ever hits it perfect every time. ;)

    We often allow time to be a limiting factor in these face to face situations where defensive behavior presents itself. It is going against our plan in our head and it is not emotional laziness that stops us it is often impatience that brings up our defensive behavior when we meet with resistance.

    In communication we often forget that language is all metaphorical and we attach meanings different at times. You mention New York, depending on what block you are on the slang can change and communication can be more difficult. When I was in the Air Force people came from all over.

    Taking time to get to know the people we are working with and their history can often identify potential communication that might put them on the defensive based on the slang from where they are from.

    This again is where I find the investigative response being built can help avoid these issues. Instead of getting defensive when someone uses a word I might normally find upsetting based on my context I am applying to the metaphor may not be what they intended and it is better for me to ask for clarification than allow myself to become defensive in my response to a perceived verbal attack that might not even be an attack.

    Even if it is, choosing the investigative route allows for more questions to see if resolution can be found and defensive behavior can be removed from the equation in favor of more evolved thinking that leads to more evolved behavior.
    Lyon Brave
    05/01/2017 #18 Lyon Brave
    I wish you would have used some examples of the defensive behavior you are seeing at work. There are a lot of ways people can seem defensive. I also wished you would of explained some triggers. You mention growing leaders causes people to be defensive? Is it the specific person who is being groomed for a leadership position, defensive, or is it other coworkers who feel left out? Shouldn't growth be exciting and not cause people to feel guarded. What is the hierarchical structure like in this business? Haha I guess I like details.
    Harvey Lloyd
    05/01/2017 #17 Harvey Lloyd
    #13 "It takes intent and work on a daily basis" The intent cant begin until you recognize the behavior exists. In my growth as a leader and company i have discovered in myself and in team members we operate until we become uncomfortable or challenged. Once there, we can become defensive of past behaviors or we can self analysis where we are and what is needed to grow out.

    The question is usually not about defend, but how long do you dwell there?

    Sounds simple from the outside looking in, but i think we have all been and will be at certain growth areas where we need to re-access our behaviors.
    Harvey Lloyd
    05/01/2017 #16 Harvey Lloyd
    #11 I wish it were a please thing, these are typically easy to lead. No, its a personal growth thing. We are asking professionals of various fields to develop in areas they were not educated within. This is the plight of small business, everyone needs to wear different hats.

    I am always uncomfortable with bending ones training in new directions and utilizing HR tactics to bring them along. I enjoy growing folks and sharing the journey.

    Thanks for your comment and have been where you discussed, in my earlier years i sought relationships and understood that with this, leadership would be easy. That was a school of hard knocks journey.
    Harvey Lloyd
    05/01/2017 #15 Harvey Lloyd
    #12 Thanks for the comments and you clearly broadened the discussion out to include leadership styles. Leadership styles are an important aspect of change management and what triggers discussion about which style, is what the leader experiences within the feedback loop.

    When i sense feedback that is defensive i realize that i may have assumed a few things that i shouldn't and now and individual may become defensive.

    Intentions are often misinterpreted. We have two opportunities for this to self correct. The leader recognizes and adjusts or the team member seeks understanding. The best direction is always from the team member. It shows the leader that courage and responsibility exists within the member.
    Harvey Lloyd
    05/01/2017 #14 Harvey Lloyd
    #13 Max thanks for your comment and i agree it does take two sides to create a defensive position. Within change management you are moving perspectives along with goals.

    I would like to say that you hit it perfect each time but this is not the case. Time constraints and possibly emotional laziness you step through some aspects without thinking about the impact on others.

    Defensiveness is a misinterpretation of events or a natural response to attack, if i may borrow your word. We have moved past the attack style of leadership. But we are in the midst of realigning our communications style.

    The post was more an awareness initiator. Your comments expose other elements of the process.
    Max🐝 J. Carter
    05/01/2017 #13 Max🐝 J. Carter
    What's there to defend?

    When I designed out Protection Through Right Action it was to create a thought process that allow one to not feel the need to defend.

    To feel the need to defend means there must be an attack.

    This is where the results of my piece on Changing Instincts comes into place.

    Identify the situations which bring up the defensive response or make you feel as though you are being attacked and start changing the reaction/response/insticnct to investigate as often in life the idea of needing to defend ourselves is done out of fear of losing status or having our image dented. Social media multiplies this effect as many have their online image tied to their career.

    In my corporate days and some of the leadership material I have written I talk about tailoring your message to the counter. You know who the "mob" boss is in the group and if you tailor your message to them and take away the counters they might make you shore up your message and communication skills and learn how to motivate them better. It was the experience I had with my direct reports based on the 2 following ideas.

    Take the ability to attack away and you never have to worry about defending anything.

    Never take an attacking posture and no one need defend themselves from you.

    Just as any behavior our defensive behavior starts with a primal instinct and is cultivated by our experiences and our choices. It is always within our personal power to change anything about us behaviorally. It takes intent and work on a daily basis and progress will be made and anyone can retrain their instincts and get a handle on their behavior better through better self talk which is where our personal programming is done.
    Preston 🐝 Vander Ven
    05/01/2017 #12 Preston 🐝 Vander Ven
    Sometimes if there is a lot of defensiveness within the group the style of Leadership needs to change depending on the situation. Five styles of leadership generally are recognized.

    Telling (or ordering) - The leader alone identifies the problem, makes the decisions, and directs the activities. This style appears autocratic and may or may not involve opinions of the group members.
    Persuading (or Selling) - In this style of leadership, the decision has already been made by the leader. Having made the decision, the leader must sell it to the group to get the cooperation.
    Consulting - Group members participate and provide input. The leader may suggest a tentative decision or plan and get the group’s reaction. Having consulted the group, the leader still makes the final decision, usually based on group consensus. If consensus can’t be reached, the group is encouraged to note this and follow the desires of the majority.
    Delegating - The leader identifies the problem, sets certain guidelines, boundaries, or rules, and then turns the situation to be solved over to the group or one of its members. The leader accepts the decision of the group if it is within the boundaries established of the group. While authority may be delegated, the responsibility still remains with the leader.
    Joining - The leader steps down as leader and now joins the group. The leader agree in advance to abide by the entire group decision. It is important to remember that “Joining” the group is still leadership. Before this step, allows consider the resources of the group.
    No single leadership style is “best.” Each depends on the situation, experience of the people in the group, and the task at hand. As leadership styles move from Telling to Joining, the person’s authority appear to diminish and the group’s participation increases.
    Jim 🐝 Cody
    05/01/2017 #11 Jim 🐝 Cody
    You can't please everyone and if try you'll wind up with others who will become defensive. Pull each individual aside and speak to them. Been there done that.
    Devesh Bhatt
    05/01/2017 #10 Devesh Bhatt
    #9 or maybe time constraints are the exact tool to manipulate others to function as we please, haste doesn't permit them to evaluate. Soon, by the time they move under good management they have this defensive mechanism which refuses to work without sufficient data even when the data constraint is genuine. The outdated narrative is not as outdated.
    An example, as an employee I could have been handed the entire information to function right away, but I was made to do the each step without the inputs for the subsequent running, I did not mind the extra running but I certainly felt cheated because many unethical acts were done by my hand repeatedly which were revealed as unethical after seeing the big picture.
    I was adviced to apply the tactic of evasion and reversing the time constraint on the boss who would have to yield information for action or else find another resource.
    A few years down the line I realised the shrewd employer and employees had found new subjects to exploit in different companies , teaching each other the art of manipulation.
    Devesh Bhatt
    04/01/2017 #8 Devesh Bhatt
    #5 180 degrees from the objective with subtle tactics of opposition.
    Yet the defensive mechanism is rooted in perceived threats or a tough stand because they don't want to attach hope to the negotiables
    Now if we look at the threat,, the recession into the childhood narrative seems like a generalisation because it has specific triggers of Social conditioning or much worse traumatic corelations.
    The real constraint here is not convincing them, but convincing them to change the stance within the given time constraints, it always is.
    What we need to understand are the triggers of motivation that may distract them from their own tactics.
    They are thinking risk, reward and responsibility and the scope for error in the intangibles, all factor heavily in a small business, specially for leaders.
    What makes people vulnerable and get defensive - the answer vests in the people, the diagnosis maybe worked as per mentioned frameworks but the actual application requires decision making experience that you already have.. Aligning your method with this theory for replication may not yield a desirable result...instead if you could divulge how you would solve the problem, it can be traced back and linked to behaviour I business problems including the common ailments across all businesses.
    Harvey Lloyd
    04/01/2017 #7 Harvey Lloyd
    #6 Sounds like you have been down this road a few times.
    Adam Weedy
    04/01/2017 #6 Adam Weedy
    #5 Ok, the best way to deal with a defensive person is to reverse the centerfuge by separating them from the team. ie. having a private conversation. Secondly, explain to the defensive person how the initiative is beneficial to their current position - this should eliminate the "fear" which is driving their behavior. Lastly, if the above doesn't work - replace that person with someone who is talented and interested in solutions.
    Harvey Lloyd
    04/01/2017 #5 Harvey Lloyd
    #3 #4 The post should represent a skill set of dealing with defensive people or finding yourself in a defensive position.

    Defensive conversations are like a centerfuge they become concentrated and focused 180 degrees from the objective.

    We should have strategies that allow us to recover back to the objective.
    Adam Weedy
    04/01/2017 #4 Adam Weedy
    My perspective for what it's worth: I see defensive behavior among people who were hired for the wrong reasons. They have a mix of "non-threatening" and "aggressive" traits which assist their quest for elevation. Their interest in the company they're working for is consequential at best.
    Devesh Bhatt
    04/01/2017 #3 Devesh Bhatt

    The consistent method which I have witnessed but I have not been able to practice effectively
    Manipulate others into submission with hints of intent and position as points of reference that there was no dishonesty in the negotistions /talks... Both parties are familiar with the unsaid nuances and both update their narratives with new needs and new strategies... Unfortunately customers in North and Western India also negotiate hard as they don't trust the law , the processes and the company.

    This is how I relate to your post while I read it again to gain more insights to your references, perhaps improve my learning.
    Devesh Bhatt
    04/01/2017 #2 Devesh Bhatt
    Enlightening. Thanks..

    If I may

    My assumptions : every response is an outdated narrative. Defence mechanism is a cocoon and not a shell, to safely update narratives without present our vulnerabilities.
    Why do people assume a cocoon as a shell? Reasons may range from lack of trust on people/uncertainty, adaptability; fear; complacency coupled with doubts; loss of control; and as you mentioned unintentional conditioning.
    We are concerned with the shell and reasons are irrelevant for now, they hold value in revising systems, right now the concern is the shell - the outdated narrative.

    My method --- transparent engagement + cutting through the clutter -- patiently with customers and patiently or aggressively as the time constraints demand with vendors and coworkers, demarcating accountability (against transparency) and leading by example..with papers and precedents of progress as the bedrock -- the outdated narrative has been changed before, why stop now? ... This process in my experience has been inconsistent as it leaves a bad taste for the next cycle and people get back with stronger shells... Updated systems need to be built with collaboration and it never hurts to give them credit for merely participating even though they have not given any substantial inputs -- only barrier time constraints which do not allow for appeasement and apologies

  19. ProducerAmarish J. Khan 🐝
    How to Use Your Whole Brain to Generate Ideas
    How to Use Your Whole Brain to Generate IdeasIt's arguably the most popular theory of all time.The split brain theory states that the left hemisphere of your brain brain is logical, analytical and boring. It associates with vocal intelligence and gets you through life acceptably. Left...


    Praveen Raj Gullepalli
    03/01/2017 #4 Praveen Raj Gullepalli
    Hi Amarish, thanks for the share. Intuition is also defined as the direct perception of knowledge. You indicate that the article above is written by Vishal Kataria. All of it? Or just the mind mapping bit?
    Harvey Lloyd
    03/01/2017 #3 Harvey Lloyd
    This is an excellent concept and rings very true as you stated with your question, "What Stifles Creativity? " This is a question i try and answer everyday in my profession. When faced with leadership issues you not only have the creative steps of going forward but you have others in the organization that require you to bring them along. The overall answer to the question is fear.

    A broad answer but as @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher stated, "I thought it was a crazy idea...",overcoming our own limitations is the first key to becoming creative. Mind mapping i can only assume must be done within a vacuum of no fear. When you develop links across hemispheres their can't be channeling based on fears already established, they must flow freely.

    Thanks for the post
    Amarish J. Khan 🐝
    03/01/2017 #2 Amarish J. Khan 🐝
    #1 that was a very valuable response. I'm so glad your vertigo is under control. Great example regarding the Children.
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    03/01/2017 #1 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    I like the idea of drawing a visual mind map @Amarish J. Khan 🐝. When I have time I will have to give it a try. It's true that we utilize both sides of our brain. It even works in cases of medical issues. I have a damaged nerve inside my inner ear which is closely connected to the Cerebellum. I was taught to do brain exercises to allow another part of my brain to compensate for the vertigo. I thought it was a crazy idea at first but it worked. It didn't get rid of it but I gained my balance back and most of my vertigo is under control now. They've even removed one side of the brain in children who had chronic, uncontrolled seizures and found the kids were able to function just as highly with one half of their brain & the seizures diminished greatly or disappeared.
  20. Aurorasa Sima

    Aurorasa Sima

    To all the wonderful bees Aurorasa Sima


    Aurorasa Sima
    29/12/2016 #11 Aurorasa Sima
    #7 #8 #9 #10 My apologies for not replying. I did not receive a notification about any of your comments.

    BUT I saw them just in time to wish you a Happy New Yeaaaar!!!!!
    José Luís Casado
    24/12/2016 #10 José Luís Casado
    ¡Felices Fiestas!
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    24/12/2016 #9 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    Merry Christmas @Aurorasa Sima!
    Dean Owen
    24/12/2016 #8 Dean Owen
    #7 Aurorasa definitely has naughty streak (or at least perhaps that is the image she wants to convey). Wish you a good one Aurorasa! 🎄☃️🎁
    Ken Boddie
    24/12/2016 #7 Ken Boddie
    Now tell me, Aurorasa. Have you been naughty 😡 or nice 😇? ..... Oh there you are, up near the top of the list. OK, so world peace it is then! 😉
    Aurorasa Sima
    24/12/2016 #6 Aurorasa Sima
    #2 #5 #4 Happy Holidays!!!!!!!!!!!!
    Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman
    24/12/2016 #5 Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman
    So cute. Happy holidays!
    Zacharias Voulgaris 🐝
    23/12/2016 #4 Zacharias Voulgaris 🐝
    So, why are there no blue snowmen in the picture? That's discrimination :-)

    Happy holidays!
    Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.
    23/12/2016 #3 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.
    Merry Christmas, @Aurorasa Sima
    Kirk Rhoads
    23/12/2016 #2 Kirk Rhoads
    Merry Christmas, Aurorasa. Thank you for all your kind support on beBee this past year. All the best in 2017!
  21. ProducerCraig Middleton

    Craig Middleton

    How Addictions Are Created In the Brain
    How Addictions Are Created In the BrainOnce the brain becomes dependent on substances for pleasure, it becomes difficult to discontinue the use of these substances. Even when a person has made a conscious decision to abstain from drugs or alcohol, the hippocampus remembers how good these...


    Ian Weinberg
    16/12/2016 #8 Ian Weinberg
    Craig, you may find this previous buzz of some interest regarding the intervention side. See https://www.bebee.com/producer/@ian-weinberg/the-neuroscience-of-change
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    16/12/2016 #7 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    Well written buzz @Craig Middleton. Dopamine is the pleasure center of our brains. There are healthy addictions and then the addictions you mentioned. Maybe that center of the brain is unable to detect whether we crave a healthy vs. unhealthy addiction. I agree, it's been proven Scientifically that Alcoholism and Drug addiction are diseases and I think every family has an immediate family member or relative that suffers or did suffer. I find it's vital if it runs in families to try and educate our children when they are young about the addiction, be honest and explain the illness by relating it to the person who is addicted because it may help kids later in life to understand they could be next w/out warning. Thanks for this, it's an important topic!
    Mohammed A. Jawad
    16/12/2016 #6 Mohammed A. Jawad
    Ah, Craig, you've made a post-mortem of addiction with this informative post. But, is really addiction a disease? Is it contagious or static? Well then, an addict is a diseased person! Right? Perhaps, before dealing in medical terms, if we humans are aware of what's right and what's wrong, what's good and what's evil, we become not prey to devil's temptations and sickening habits. In fact, addiction is a sort weakness, an outcome after embracing harmful substances that weakens reasoning, emotions and stamina. It's after all true realization, bent of conscience, giving worth to temporal life, contentment and gratitude towards the Almighty Lord can kick off this addiction. With the presence of these, even counsel and medicines work.
    Praveen Raj Gullepalli
    16/12/2016 #5 Praveen Raj Gullepalli
    Very insightful! Dear Craig, when you say Addiction is a disease and not a lack of Will, you classify it as something that can be treated and cured. Which is a great thing indeed! Not all addiction is bad...some of us are addicted to work ;) or cycling...or playing music etc., as professionals! So not all addiction is a disease as Max opined. We understand what kind of addiction is harmful here of course and can obviously self-define for convenience :) It really makes me think harder about why some yogis and sages have held positive equanimity so high. They always maintained that a high would be followed by a low. Inevitable. So better to cultivate the mind not to feel joy or pain; or try not to be affected by either - is what they tried to say in their own way. Hmmm!
    Ian Weinberg
    16/12/2016 #4 Ian Weinberg
    Excellent article. Thanks for posting. That's the reason why we have such s challenge moving an individual away from an addiction (any addiction). It's a chemical thing and therefore you need to sustitute with meaningful/purposeful activities which causes the same or more dopamine to be secreted.
    Amanda Ashton-Booth
    16/12/2016 #3 Amanda Ashton-Booth
    I have a condition called fibromyalgia and this causes memory complications but I focus on mindset to keep pain levels at bay and memory in check 😉
    Amanda Ashton-Booth
    16/12/2016 #2 Amanda Ashton-Booth
    The brain is a remarkable tool and if you use it wisely, you will be capable of the unthinkable .. 😀
    Max🐝 J. Carter
    16/12/2016 #1 Max🐝 J. Carter
    I have always disagreed with the idea of addiction being a disease. Here' why.

    You can addicted to anything and it is not limited to substances. Anything that activates the pleasure center can become addictive.

    People get addicted to all kinds of activities and not substances alone. Alcoholism can be passed down genetically however not all addictions are the same.
  22. Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    Just left a review of this fabulous book by a great bee, @Deb Lange and mentioned the fact that we met on beBee!!!

    Here is the most interesting fact about Deb Lange's book. It is helping me so much, that I want to spend all my available time playing, and walking, and sensing the world around me – I keep popping away from my keyboard when I sit down to write a review.

    I recently had the good fortune to meet Deb on a new social media site – beBee. We live in such a magical time. You can synchronistically bump into an author on the other side of the world, a few months before her book is published, strike up a few conversations, and then when the book is available – it is the exact guide that you need to help you help yourself through a period of immense transition.

    This is truly a MUST EXPERIENCE book as read is too one-dimensional to describe the full impact of learning about embodied wisdom. Deb Lange is a marvelous guide through the rites of passage that will allow us to operate with a full body intelligence.

    I really recommend that anyone looking to understand their sensory-based body wisdom get a copy of this book - the words and illustrations partner to create a sense of feeling what one is reading.

    Deb 🐝 Helfrich


    Deb🐝 Lange
    08/01/2017 #5 Deb🐝 Lange
    #1 that is so great @Graham Edwards - I would love to hear what you are noticing newly.
    Deb🐝 Lange
    08/01/2017 #4 Deb🐝 Lange
    #3 much gratitude @Deb 🐝 Helfrich - love to know how your journey is unfolding!
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    08/01/2017 #3 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    @Deb🐝 Lange - I just scheduled this review of your fabulous book to tweet out 4x a day for the next 3 weeks. Hopefully we can get some attention flowing your way!
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    15/12/2016 #2 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    @Deb🐝 Lange - wonderful you are now able to be mentioned!

    Appreciate that @Graham🐝 Edwards!!!
    Graham🐝 Edwards
    15/12/2016 #1 Graham🐝 Edwards
    This is a great book and I thoroughly enjoyed reading it. I finding myself "noticing much more effectively" because of "Trust Your Senses"...
  23. Sara Jacobovici

    Sara Jacobovici

    I am not a big proponent of recipie music for a particular effect but.....it can't hurt to try. And the list looks interesting. If you have a chance, let me know what your experience was.
    Sara Jacobovici
    Neuroscience Says Listening to This Song Reduces Anxiety by Up to 65 Percent
    www.inc.com Sure to both stir your soul and calm your nervous...


    Ali Anani
    14/12/2016 #6 Ali Anani
    Just to be perfectly honest for some reason the sound is not functional on my laptop. So, please bear with me till tomorrow @Sara Jacobovici and I shall share what I feel.
    Sara Jacobovici
    14/12/2016 #5 Sara Jacobovici
    #4 Thanks @Aurorasa Sima. This makes a difference.
    Aurorasa Sima
    14/12/2016 #4 Aurorasa Sima
    #2 Sometimes claims people make regarding brainwave entrainment are unrealistic. I am not sure about putting a percentage on the amount of stress reduction.

    But I strongly believe in it and include binaural audio in my training and have nothing but great (personal and clients) experience with it.

    Especially, for people who hate mediation or who want a little helper when they want to make changes it´s gold.

    IF you are interested, here is a link with a list of publications

    Max🐝 J. Carter
    14/12/2016 #3 Max🐝 J. Carter
    That was fascinating @Sararh Jacobovici.

    I am not going to start song titles, howsoever there is a lot of music you can listen to that can do the same for you. I have a few that cut my stress when I crank it to 11 almost instantly.

    Thank you for sharing this article.
    Sara Jacobovici
    14/12/2016 #2 Sara Jacobovici
    #1 Appreciate hearing from you @Aurorasa Sima. Sounds like it's worth checking out.
    Aurorasa Sima
    14/12/2016 #1 Aurorasa Sima
    Binaural audio has a very strong effect on most people. Very few are "immune".

    One should not listen to this while driving a car or similar, it works best with headphones.
  24. Gary Sharpe

    Gary Sharpe

    "Working with Gary has given me the opportunity to become aware of how my emotions affect his physical state – and while it can be truly difficult to confront my culpability in the moment – overall this clarity is a gift. Because until I could see the damage of raging emotions physically, I was not doing the best job of maintaining my own awareness. Because there was very little cost to my physical stamina."

    ~ @Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    Gary Sharpe
    What Emotions Have To Do With It
    www.outthinkingparkinsons.com For those of us lucky enough to share our lives with someone with Parkinson's we can use this as an opportunity for both of us to learn something about self-awareness and the hope that can arise from noticing and implementing simple...


    Deb🐝 Lange
    14/12/2016 #2 Deb🐝 Lange
    #1 great sharing about learning from and with someone with parkinsons . I have learnt much from working with someone with chronic fatigue - how energy can shift in a moment, how not being authentic is draining to both people, how being authentic is life-giving and much more
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    13/12/2016 #1 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    This is a post I wrote back in March that talks about looking at our emotions through the lens of how they affect the physical symptoms of Parkinson's.

    The physical toll of 'Raging' emotions might not be so obvious to most of us, but our bodies are unquestionably taking a hit.
  25. ProducerSara Jacobovici

    Sara Jacobovici

    Getting to see the big picture in business.
    Getting to see the big picture in business.Image credit: Temperate Climate Permaculture This post will introduce the reader to the visual, experiential Branching Out Patterns* tool, used to identify and assess business teams’ problems. Introduction:  Tools represent...


    Harvey Lloyd
    12/12/2016 #23 Harvey Lloyd
    #22 I agree with your sentiments here. I realize though that the language of wisdom must transcend the ideological to the present of human existence. Social media is not bad but it has offered new directions that i don't sense will allow us to evolve as a species.

    I share your insights with the group here that has been diligently discussing the tenuous situation of emotions and their outcomes. Like social media, emotions are not bad or good until we discern their value within the human dynamic. Although we can empathise with an individual and their needs, the results of their emotions as felt by mankind is another story. We can't merge the two.

    This sounds like a harsh statement, and it is. My emotions and how they direct me should have two components, others and then myself, and in that order. Should i choose myself first, then i should be prepared for the consequences of my actions. I am ok with those who place themselves first within their emotional sphere but, bare in mind that i am referring to human existence within a large social group. (Not personal reflective self awareness styled self talk.)

    Given this position, i would suggest that it creates interdependencies that propels mankind forward. Otherwise, with me first we create dependencies that separate us at the fundamental level. Your matrix is capturing the dichotomy.
    Sara Jacobovici
    12/12/2016 #22 Sara Jacobovici
    Part 2/2: This leads me to what #19, @Harvey Lloyd captures when he writes: "The ability to carry in my hand technology that allows for total connectivity has allowed me to live virtually while losing my skills within the human experience." It's not so much technology that I am concerned about, it's the impact technology has on "re-wiring" who we are. We are sensory beings and if we are deprived of certain sensory experiences, the same people that imagined these new devices will no longer be able to see beyond their function.
    Sara Jacobovici
    12/12/2016 #21 Sara Jacobovici
    Part 1/2: #14 #17 #18 Gentlemen, @David B. Grinberg, @CityVP Manjit and @Mohammed Sultan, your discussion is invaluable and I am excited to see it arise here. The depth of the comments; self-reflective, intelligent, informative and interpretative, and the questions that are raised, prove that it is emotion, especially fear, that distract from our ability to stay grounded in our human capacity. David, you who look out beyond the boundaries of earth, can not speak of limits and scope. Manjit proves that technologically based devices cannot replace humans when he says, "...explore flow with my learned capabilities to handle variety of information in a way that best represents my exploration. " Only a human (like Manjit) can think and express himself in this way. Another example comes from Mohammed Sultan when he differentiates between creative thinking which is binding to the moment and creative thinking that can also work in different boundaries. This can only come from a human source.
    Harvey Lloyd
    12/12/2016 #20 Harvey Lloyd
    #14 I will have to go with you on this thought pattern. Although i understand the reply of @CityVP Manjit i believe we speak of two very different aspects of the discussions.

    Our journey of technology is one aspect while the impact of current technology is another. The future of technology may promise many things, healthcare, human safety and productivity, but what does that world look like based on where we are now? Clearly technology is leading the way to a new society that i don't think we have thought through. Many consumers who once were our customers are now without work, so they cant consume. We will no longer be able to barter our time for money and consume. Technology is taking the value of our time from the barter equation.

    I am not against technology, but am stating that if tech is going to change the barter system we have, then shouldn't we be working on that at the same rate as tech? If we think about it, i believe we can see tech at the center of the have and have not debate and the narrowing of the middle class.
    Harvey Lloyd
    12/12/2016 #19 Harvey Lloyd
    @Sara Jacobovici you are continuing to shed light in dark areas. Our challenging emotions are typically our yield and stop signs. But like when we experience these signs in driving we are called to act a certain way, then so we should when experiencing these emotions. Emotions should not change the journey but rather enhance our experience on the journey. Just as the signs of the road keep us safe.

    In our daily professional lives we have people we journey with and this causes these yielding emotions to come forward. Most importantly though we have to reconcile these emotions with each other. This is the human experience. Clearly, though there is a new kid on the block that i think you touch on. Technology.

    I find technology foreboding. It introduces to each group of professionals a myriad of data sets that can overwhelm and can also be generated in such a way that replaces humans. In reviewing the outputs of technology we now create a third participant within the discussion You/Me/Data. But data is binary in the sense that it is right or wrong about the future as perceived. Also, data is subjective in its appearance and collection.

    Although our imaginations did create the technology i don't believe we thought through the impact. I enjoy the impact up to the point my job, career, fiscal stability gets affected. The ability to carry in my hand technology that allows for total connectivity has allowed me to live virtually while losing my skills within the human experience.

    Your tree and understanding of problem solving comes from your history without the technology. What of the new/next generations that all they know is tech? Will they or can they grasp the concepts presented here?
    Mohammed Sultan
    12/12/2016 #18 Mohammed Sultan
    #17 Thanks for sharing your link.When we compare singularity or AI with what's been shared by @ Sara Jacobovici we at once will realize that both are talking about the creative thinking,but from two different angles.Sara is talking about creative thinking which is binding to the moment and can improve the current state of workplaces performance in the short term.Her creative thinking can also work in different boundaries anchored by the same rules,but can't be conceived for uncertain future.Whereas singularity is not limited to specific" time horizon" and can be conceived for the future and also in different boundaries.As a researcher I don't believe in the power of singularity or AI in which one can be vividly aware or see himself functioning a decade from now.Singularity of such kind that can tell the future or control it, is only owned by the power of God,otherwise scientists could have hurried up to clone it for the ordinary people.
    CityVP 🐝 Manjit
    12/12/2016 #17 CityVP 🐝 Manjit
    #16 Dear @David B. Grinberg you do know what those limits and scopes are because that is the emotional response that Sara is talking about here, and thus when I am pursuing information in how I am able to receive it, whether it is relevant that I understand it now and to see what I can grasp immediately, without setting out acres of personal time trying to understand these things at a deeper level. That deeper level has one compass which is to know our own flow. If we become overwhelmed we know we have flown to high or engaged in too many areas at once, or if we are underwhelmed then we know we have room to explore more.

    Take this proponent for singularity who wrote their thoughts about it, relating positive thinking with singularity - of course that is the opinion of this individual but this opinion is well within both of our limits and scope - of course all dependent on what else is occupying our field of attention at the time we attend to this material :

    Singularity Defined and Refined by Singularity Utopia (2013 Blog)

    I don't want to flood others with information, but explore flow with my learned capabilities to handle variety of information in a way that best represents my exploration. Learning is as unique as our own individual DNA. You cannot become me, and I cannot become you- but the abundance we share is this opportunity to explore the way that makes most sense for us to explore. There is network intelligence (not network stupidity) which is to welcome what you can welcome so long as it leads to flow, liberation and freedom of your own mind and being.
    David B. Grinberg
    12/12/2016 #16 David B. Grinberg
    #15 Many thanks for your thoughtful reply, CityVP Manjit, and thank you for sharing those web links too. I can tell you that my own "limit and scope" is, shall we say, limited in scope. I try to wrap my head around these mega concepts, but usually that just results in a mega headache. Thus, I appreciate your pointing me in the right direction.
    CityVP 🐝 Manjit
    12/12/2016 #15 CityVP 🐝 Manjit
    #14 Dear @David B. Grinberg, you are asking here about something unfathomable. There are people who have tried to put a perspective around the movement to what you describe as the brave new world in life and one of those is Kevin Kelly, because Kelly has the abstractive ability to begin to knit together the thinking that is dimensions above where most of us are and emerge from this rarefied atmosphere with something that we can put our minds around, or at least begin to establish what this map of the unknown may potentially look like.

    Here is Kevin Kelly talking about the Singularity as it applies to AI

    This is no different to knowing we cannot think like Einstein but we can follow his example of imagining following a beam of light. We will only go so far in our own learning journey but it is sufficient enough to awaken our individual lives to the uncertainty and new possibilities emerging ahead.

    One of the steps we can take our own awareness is then follow the leads that will make most sense to us because we each know our own limits of understanding and scope of imagination. I cannot say what this limit and scope is for David B. Grinberg - only you know that.

    An example of a step I can take in my own learning journey in this particular stream of consciousness is simply to listen to someone like Vernor Vinge - because ideas he originated have been level set for the understanding of the earnest learner with basic curiosity.

    Vernor Vinge - Foresight and the Singularity
    David B. Grinberg
    12/12/2016 #14 David B. Grinberg
    Thank you, Sara, for such an informative, educational and enlightening read. As someone who considers himself an amateur futurist (rightly or wrongly), I'm concerned that the frenetic pace of technology will soon overwhelm human capacities. Some scientists say that the average laptop computer is currently equivalent to the human brain. Others say artificial intelligence will be smarter than humans by the 2030s. Thus, keeping pace with new and evolving tech -- let alone staying ahead of the curve -- is a substantial challenge which will likely grow more difficult over time.
    According to "Moore's law" -- for example -- computing power doubles every two years (some say as little as 18-months). Additionally, many scientists and others predict that AI humanoid robots (or androids) will be capable of passing the so-called "Turing Test" as early as the 2030s as well. That means these AI androids will not only be much smarter than humans, but indistinguishable as well. Some fear they will replace humans altogether, not just jobs. As you know, many large companies are also adopting machine learning, AI and robotics in many aspects of their business operations to replace human employees. Thus, to coin a phrase, we indeed face a brave new world not only in business but in life generally. The subsequent challenges ahead of us are immense and historically game changing. THOUGHTS?
    Sara Jacobovici
    11/12/2016 #13 Sara Jacobovici
    #12 Thank you @debasish majumder for writing a comment that has left me with so much to think about. Much appreciated.
    debasish majumder
    11/12/2016 #12 debasish majumder
    four hydrogen atoms enable to produce Helium in the sun. and helium consists of 2 electron, two protons and two neutrons. have we ever thought, where is the missing electrons and protons and how it transforms to form helium, where energy how plays the key role? we must not be flummoxed and nature maintains a unique balance, along with matter and anti-matter, the duality, a significant feature, causing immense impact to even our very existence! Great post @Sara Jacobovici! enjoyed read. thank you very much for sharing the post madam.
    Sara Jacobovici
    11/12/2016 #11 Sara Jacobovici
    #10 Well said @Mohammed Sultan. Although I don't consider myself a cynic, I am afraid that unless ROEmotion can be translated into profit, most companies will not measure its value or worth.
    Mohammed Sultan
    11/12/2016 #10 Mohammed Sultan
    #6 When companies treat people motivation as strategy they will value people emotion over capital or equity, and will think of the ROE -as Return On Emotion not Equity. Researches on motivation have shown that people feel more satisfied when they get regarded rather than being rewarded,because their emotion has become more important than the salaries they are paid.When companies treat motivation as strategy they will come to a conclusion that; when they trust people they will trust their customers,and the higher the trust level the higher ROE will be.Businesses also are about feelings and when feelings are suppressed we expect the ROE to get lower .You can't imagine how pride people feel when they get regarded ,they will extend their creative domain and stretch their thinking beyond the norms and logic to creativity and imagination.
    Sara Jacobovici
    11/12/2016 #9 Sara Jacobovici
    #8 Thanks for sharing your approach and philosophy @Max J. Carter.
    Max🐝 J. Carter
    11/12/2016 #8 Max🐝 J. Carter
    When I was a supervisor for United Healthcare I found that simply treating my direct reports as human beings and not functions made all the difference.

    I said things like :"Good morning, thanks for making it in today." had big impact on their desire to be there.

    Then I made it a priority to ensure my people understood that my performance was direct result of theirs and my best interest was served by serving theirs where creating a sense of feeling valued to inspire and motivate them to perform better.

    I simply invested my own caring into caring about the human being and let that show in my actions and words and it created more of a family dynamic and i was much more approachable and found coaching them in performance became easier as they were much more receptive.

    I find it really is more efficient in business to simplify and be human about what you do and treat each other as thinking and feeling human beings.

    Emotional states are the result of the love we feel we are or are not getting from the environment we are in.

    When i started taking a fatherly approach to my job I saw the improved performance and morale and loyalty and desire to perform. I cover this in my leadership writing .

    I have covered before in my own writing one emotion that there is only one love and fear and all everything else is states of love and fear or faces of it so to speak. This eliminates the idea of positive and negative emotions and forces one to see a whole being and investigate the history that led to the now and the current emotional state.
    Sara Jacobovici
    11/12/2016 #7 Sara Jacobovici
    #5 I meant every word when I wrote that it was your work that inspired me @Ali Anani. I can't thank you enough. Thank you as well for your comment. I am grateful to see that your are satisfied with the outcome as it is an extension of what you started.
    Sara Jacobovici
    11/12/2016 #6 Sara Jacobovici
    #4 @Mohammed Sultan, personally, I am always so encouraged and flattered by your comments. Thank you. Your insights are always appreciated, as well as your writing style. The take away, for me, of this comment has to be, "When the employee motivation is treated as a strategy, people will work in harmony to achieve the balance between their internal actions and their external impact." Thanks again.
    Ali Anani
    11/12/2016 #5 Ali Anani
    Hello @Sara Jacobovici- I am thrilled by your buzz and it deserves a welcoming waggling dance. You have shown in three examples how the initial emotional points may diversify into different patterns by different people and follow trajectories of their own.
    The first three feelings were negative as it is well-established that it is easier to stay in one domain of negative emotions than to make a jump to the domain of positive emotions. That frustration developed into disappointment and irritation is in line with what has been experienced. It takes energy to make the jump and this is evident from the emotions branching out patterns in your worked examples.
    You have now an emotions fingerprint-equivalent.
    One of the pioneering IBM CEOs said that it is managing people and their emotions that counts. Your buzz explains this beautifully.
    I am humbled for playing the role of a trigger in prompting you to write such a. thinking buzz on emotional patterns. I thank you for the mention of my name.
    Mohammed Sultan
    11/12/2016 #4 Mohammed Sultan
    @Sara Jacobovici It's really a creative post .You either have the attitude of an expert consultant or had been trained in your childhood on how to fit pieces into a synergistic whole (JIGSAW) and enjoyed the beauty and measured the impact of this process.Fit and balance between both sides the human and the physical..between our personal and professional interests ..between knowledge and feeling are crucial to build an emotional corporate jigsaw.The emotional org culture has become a necessity because it reflects our thoughts and feelings.When the employee motivation is treated as a strategy, people will work in harmony to achieve the balance between their internal actions and their external impact.The shape and the beauty of the future corporate jigsaw will depend to large extent on how well the internal parts,the external impact and our actions can all be kept in balance and lead to strategic moves in the right time.
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