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  1. Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    Revolutionary! Just a few notes to entice people...."In flow states, we are using a lot less of our brain - it becomes hypoactive - and it is the prefrontal cortex that is deactivating"

    Time is calculated in the prefrontal cortex - and if parts wink out, we can no longer separate past, present, future - we are plunged into something called the deep now.

    Sense of self is also resident in prefrontal cortex - if it is turned off your inner critic goes quiet.
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    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    11/12/2016 #2 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    #1 Well Steven is a journalist just like Malcolm, so neither is proving/disproving just packaging.

    K. Anders Ericsson is the psychologist behind the 10,000 hour hypothesis and he worked with Nobel laureate Herbert Simon, who I was lucky enough to take a class from at Carnegie Mellon. So I can 'vet' him to some extent and not just dismiss his work.

    The difference as I understand it is 10k represents a developmental approach to sustained practice of skills versus the newer research on flow, which I find so fascinating precisely because the suggestion of turning off the prefrontal cortex which we revere so highly and using the full-body intelligence of our vastly superior unconscious mind.

    I can tell we are going to have some interesting discussions, @Zacharias Voulgaris, because I do agree that the 10,000 hour claims got too much attention from the hyper-competitive crowd, because just like innate 'god-given' talent the life conditions to dedicate 10k hours to one endeavor is a pretty rare occurrence.
    Zacharias Voulgaris
    11/12/2016 #1 Zacharias Voulgaris
    Always refreshing to see someone with the guts to disprove M. Gladwell's pseudoscience with some real science to back his claims. Thanks for sharing
  2. Aurorasa Sima

    Aurorasa Sima

    Short Christmas Tales
    No. 3 - Kindness
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  3. ProducerAli Anani

    Ali Anani

    Conscious and Subconscious Questions
    Conscious and Subconscious QuestionsI say the more we know, the more we should ask questions to discover how little we know. Surprisingly, what we know for sure becomes our handicap. We all know for example, that water is an essential ingredient for our health and vitality. We know...


    Ali Anani
    30/11/2016 #157 Ali Anani
    #156 This is amazingly well-said "Traveling is about finding new and losing old".
    Joris Plaatstaal
    30/11/2016 #156 Joris Plaatstaal
    #155 I think that is the beauty and the sadness of it all. Crossing the border might be an event not noticed by the traveler.

    No matter what border the traveler crosses, at some point the traveler will realize there is no way back.

    The traveler crossed the line and lost his past. Is that why so many of us do not travel?

    I can understand them, the stayers. Traveling is about finding new and losing old. I can understand it does not appeal to everyone.
    Ali Anani
    30/11/2016 #155 Ali Anani
    #154 I hope you share with us your thoughts when they cross the borderline @Joris Plaatstaal. Again, you got me even more interested.
    Joris Plaatstaal
    30/11/2016 #154 Joris Plaatstaal
    #153 Now you got me thinking.... @Ali Anani.

    "Between freedom and illusion there is a borderline of knowledge."

    This is an interaction I truly love. ......Between freedom and illusion there is a borderline of knowledge...... It is just great, I did not realize that while commenting. You kick my thoughts a step further and at this time I am not sure why.....

    Between freedom and illusion there is a borderline of knowledge. There are so many ways to look at that. I will have to let it sink in.

    Thank you!
    Ali Anani
    30/11/2016 #153 Ali Anani
    #152 "Know" to soon and freedom is lost. Never know and freedom is an illusion- this got me thinking deeply @Joris Plaatstaal. Between freedom and illusion there is a borderline of knowledge. WOW!
    Joris Plaatstaal
    29/11/2016 #152 Joris Plaatstaal
    #148 I agree @Ali Anani.

    "And so there is a danger of always searching." That was indeed a bit of a one-liner. What I tried to say.... And that is where the complexity cuts in....

    There are people who are sure they know. There are people who are sure they don't know, and they search further.

    At what point in life and knowledge are we happy with who we are? Free?

    Am I to early reaching that point? I made up my mind. I am sixteen years old and I know it all. What I know is the rigid setting for the rest of my life.

    Will I never reach that point? I can't make up my mind. I am 120 years old and I am not sure. I must learn more.

    Those are two extremities, I know. They fell in my mind, reading your conversation with Max. Those extremities do not represent you or Max. My knowledge of the both of you is too superficial.

    Ah well. What did Come to my mind? The extremities.

    "Know" to soon and freedom is lost. Never know and freedom is an illusion. Where do I step in? At what point in my life I feel secure, without developing my own tunnel vision? It feels like a Gaussian curve with a standard deviation of close to nothing.

    Does this explain my one-liner more?

    P.S. I am only here to exchange thoughts, not to prove my right. Thank you for your open, respectful comment.
    Ali Anani
    29/11/2016 #151 Ali Anani
    #150 I apprecciate your kind words and heartfelt comments to enhance my understanding of many topics. Thank you dear @Harvey Lloyd
    Harvey Lloyd
    29/11/2016 #150 Harvey Lloyd
    @Ali Anani in my review of the post i saw the dedication and meant to say thank you. I appreciate your energy and your researching heart of understanding.
    Max🐝 J. Carter
    28/11/2016 #149 Max🐝 J. Carter
    #148 How is truth a trade in for freedom?

    I remember hearing it as the truth shall set you free.
    Ali Anani
    28/11/2016 #148 Ali Anani
    #147 @Joris Plaatstaal- There is a concept of "DEgrees of Freedom in statistics. I realize I lost one degree from your comment "But in the end we are all free. Even people that trade in their freedom for A truth. They are free to lose their freedom.

    And so there is a danger of always searching.
    Joris Plaatstaal
    28/11/2016 #147 Joris Plaatstaal
    Joris Plaatstaal
    11 min #146

    Nov 28, 2016 12:41:55 AM

    #141 It comes with being on social media @Ali Anani. No different to life. Everywhere, anytime we follow leaders who know......

    In the end you can only follow yourself. I think you do just that. Your questioning, an admirable gift.

    But in the end we are all free. Even people that trade in their freedom for A truth. They are free to lose their freedom.

    And so there is a danger of always searching.

    Life is so lovely complicated! It is all I expected. A blind walking forwards. Infinite.

    Freedom is universal. But we seem to not live in the same universe.... Another complication, yes!
    Max🐝 J. Carter
    27/11/2016 #144 Max🐝 J. Carter
    #142 It's not negative and you are being abusive in saying so.

    Here's why.

    It;'s the truth and it hurt your feelings because the truth hurts when one is living in delusion. Again this is behavioral psychology applied. I am not being negative I am being honest.

    Using the term negative is a mechanism for retaining ones delusional state so one can dismiss that they heard truth.

    Using the term negative is done to infer there is something wrong with someone so you ignore them and what they have presented.

    If I applied the positive negative metaphor I have been more positive than most as honesty is a positive quality and delusion one that has negative impacts on the self and that damage gets spread in the name of justifying holding onto the delusion causing one to see the truth as a negative thing because it destroys their delusion.

    It is psychologically unhealthy to use such subjective terms as positive and negative as they allow for mechanism to abuse other people to become rationalized and justified through use of the terms.
    Ali Anani
    27/11/2016 #143 Ali Anani
    #142 I love your "balanced response dear @Mohammed Sultan
    Mohammed Sultan
    27/11/2016 #142 Mohammed Sultan
    #140 Wisdom goes beyond understanding to interpretation of facts,it makes one's light more brighter than another and will help us see others pitfalls.We are always required to find a synergy between our personal and professional objectives.Our knowledge base and skills often go beyond the recipes of classical behavior psychology books to coaching and mentoring , visioning and inspiring people .We always think of more creative ways to develop the students skills to stretch their thinking beyond the norms of classic books.Our thoughts are always a reflection of our feeling and when we view others as "wrong"we trigger our negative emotions and may regress into a negative mood.
    Ali Anani
    27/11/2016 #141 Ali Anani
    I read by a quote years back stating that "I have to be 300% I am correct before I dare say somebody is wrong".
    Some comments are sidelining these discussions by making sweeping comments and turning the discussions from win- win to I win-you lose. It is sad it is truly wasting our times. Just stating somebody is flatly wrong without solid proofs and with many not seeing eye-to-eye with him is unacceptable. I hope discussions here shall only focus on the theme of the buzz and not sideline it to show off what we know. If needed and the commenter has such opposing ideas I suggest he writes a separate buzz.
    Max🐝 J. Carter
    27/11/2016 #140 Max🐝 J. Carter
    #137 Wisdom is understanding how much of the knowledge is superfluous and strips away at structures to find understanding.

    You are totally wrong as knowledge about people is absolutely scientific depending how you acquire it.

    Experience reveals truth.
    Any scientific experiment is designed to find the truth or determine what the facts are and what is the actual.

    To deny there any absolutes is delusional thinking at it's best stemming from a fear of being wrong. This is behavioral psychology applied through scientific method over the course of many hundreds of years in society and is an inarguable absolute truth and fact of the human condition.

    The only reason to attempt to deny this is keep ones delusions in place so one never has to take stand and risk being wrong which means they choose willful ignorance and never really grow and keep themselves in a state of emotional maturity that is could be described as adolescent or juvenile.

    This isn't my idea or creative thinking, this is applied behavioral psychology.
    CityVP Manjit 🐝
    27/11/2016 #139 CityVP Manjit 🐝
    #136 Yes, interactions is light that travels outwards from within and connects us all, rather than putting spotlights on situations when the people who most need to change remain dark within.
    Sara Jacobovici
    27/11/2016 #138 Sara Jacobovici
    #132 Answers perfectly @David B. Grinberg. I appreciate you taking the time to respond.
    Mohammed Sultan
    27/11/2016 #137 Mohammed Sultan
    #134 I'm sure you misunderstood me.My words say what I mean about your real creativity.Our creative thinking is not based on any delusion ,we may be in different positions but we have a common interest that can bridge this gap.It has to be conceded that knowledge about people is not necessarily of a scientific nature.Not only that ;possibly the phenomenon of humanity will never be susceptible to the kind of dominating prestige in business.Not only that;Our creative thinking or innovation develop from blending our inner creative life and its application to the business world.I still remember the wisdom of Kant when he quoted; Science is organized knowledge and wisdom is organized life,and on the importance of concepts he also quoted;thoughts without context are empty and intuition without concept are blind.Believe me it's not a double- face or a double- talk or am setting a group against another.
    Ali Anani
    27/11/2016 #136 Ali Anani
    #135 Thank you for your very elaborative response dear @CityVP Manjit 🐝. I share this perspective with you "Now link this with diversity and one does not need to build a bridge for that - for the connection point is within, it is within mind, within spirit and within body". I just wanted to ensure that you didn't mean bridge. With this explanation I am in agreement with you.
    One definition of culture is that it is an emerging product of how people interact. I believe this is consistent with your response. If the "within" of individuals is healthy their interactions should yield a healthy culture. Culture that accept differences and find them a way to explore varieties of possibilities.
  4. Rick Delmonico

    Rick Delmonico

    The Fractal Brain Theory and Consciousness - Wai H Tsang on The justBernard Show
    The Fractal Brain Theory and Consciousness - Wai H Tsang on The justBernard Show Known for his presentations about the fractal brain theory and consciousness, author of "Quest: A Modern Spiritual Quest to Understand Mind, Brain,...
  5. Aurorasa Sima

    Aurorasa Sima

    Aurorasa Sima
    How human brains do language: One system, two channels
    medicalxpress.com Contrary to popular belief, language is not limited to speech. In a recent study published in the journal PNAS, Northeastern University Prof. Iris Berent reveals that people also apply the rules of their spoken language to sign...
  6. Federico Álvarez San Martín
    Federico Álvarez San Martín
    Ad agencies are rushing out artificial intelligence services - Digiday
    digiday.com MDC Media Partners, Huge, Team One, Isobar and GroupM are approaching AI on their own...
  7. ProducerNikki Petersen

    Nikki Petersen

    Narcissism and Non-Identity
    Narcissism and Non-IdentityI recently had to have a very frank discussion with my kids about what it means to be the child of a narcissist (their father). As they get older, I feel more able to have these types of conversations with them because they are my emotional...


    Katja Bader
    14/11/2016 #21 Katja Bader
    #18 Your buzz is still in my head. I bought a good book to this topic, in German of course, but it´s available in English, too: Nina W. Brown "Children of the Self-Absorbed".
    Nikki Petersen
    09/11/2016 #20 Nikki Petersen
    I'm sorry, Renée. I thought that's what you meant when you said, "they really don't care how their behaviour affects others." You're right, that's definitely sociopathic/psychopathic.
    Renée Cormier
    09/11/2016 #19 Renée Cormier
    #14 I never said they lack conscience. That's a feature of psychopaths.
    Nikki Petersen
    09/11/2016 #18 Nikki Petersen
    @Katja, I am actually pretty lucky that he's no longer in our lives. Of course, I would never wish harm on anyone, including my ex, but he's no longer living. I'm grateful that the chaos no longer affects us. #12
    Nikki Petersen
    09/11/2016 #17 Nikki Petersen
    #5 Hi Deb and thanks so much! I'm still trying to get the hang of it! :)
    Nikki Petersen
    09/11/2016 #16 Nikki Petersen
    #6 Right, Renee. The not knowing is when you're blaming yourself. Finding your way out of that can be tough when you're a kid because you don't have the emotional maturity to see the world for what it is (which, some would argue, is a good thing). I'm so glad you are healing.
    Nikki Petersen
    09/11/2016 #15 Nikki Petersen
    #9 That's exactly it. I'm trying, but honestly, the grip of a narcissistic parent is so pervasive that it's a really tough uphill battle. It's horrible to hear my wonderful baby say that he's worthless and would be better off dead. I've been hearing that since he was 5 or 6. As an empath, I also experienced this existential depression related to my lack of identity. It took decades for me to get it, with therapy. I hope that I will be able to help him enough that he can also find his way out.
    Nikki Petersen
    09/11/2016 #14 Nikki Petersen
    Not all narcissists have a lack of conscience, but that definitely complicates things. #7
    Chris Dixon
    08/11/2016 #13 Chris Dixon
    Wow. That feeling of utter relatability coupled with seething frustration from not being able to safely share one's experiences publicly online (court ordered, no kidding!)... Thank you, Nikki and friends. {{{group hug}}}
    Katja Bader
    08/11/2016 #12 Katja Bader
    Thank you for this great buzz, Nikki. You write so many words, that I felt when I was with my (now Ex-) husband, who is a narcissist and our children.
    A narcissist always sees parts of himself in his children and wants to create them to a copy of himself. He tries to implant his meanings, ideas, dreams etc in his children. That could have bad results for the children and can take years to heal it. I always want to find out the real and own personality of the children and promote them as much as I can.
    Max🐝 J. Carter
    08/11/2016 #11 Max🐝 J. Carter
    As an Empath I can relate.
    Jared 🐝 Wiese
    08/11/2016 #10 Jared 🐝 Wiese
    #9 I heard from Brian Tracy that the number one thing a parent owes his/her child is self-esteem... "a place where they are accepted for themselves"
    Paul Frank Gilbert
    08/11/2016 #9 Paul Frank Gilbert
    Flawed and imperfect as we are ... there is something particularly sad and seemingly humanly wrong about a parent that would divide their children into such classifications as to have them sense for one moment a feeling of less. Less love. Less acceptance. Less understanding. Less trust. Less expectation ... hope ... ability ... on and on.

    The world is a tough place. Life is not fair. But we all want our kids to know with certainty that they have a place where they are accepted for themselves, where a mistake or a weakness does not define them and label them. We want to for them to see a place for themselves in the world and to be strong enough to fight for it if necessary.

    Sounds like you are a great parent.
    Jared 🐝 Wiese
    08/11/2016 #8 Jared 🐝 Wiese
    #6 What an insightful (not incite-ful) response, Renée! ;)
    Great advice.
    Renée Cormier
    08/11/2016 #7 Renée Cormier
    #3 #4 The irony here is that narcissists really don't care how their behaviour affects others, including their children. All non-narcissists try to do the right thing.
    Renée Cormier
    08/11/2016 #6 Renée Cormier
    As the daughter of a narcissist and the sibling of at least one, I can tell you it took me some time to figure out what was wrong with our family. I found my way to heal over the years but the healing really came once I realized what I was dealing with. It's the not knowing period that is the most damaging because you are constantly being manipulated and you can't see or understand what is going on. The upside of my early life is that it has enabled me to become very good at managing people and their emotions. As long as your children understand the divisive and manipulative tactics that narcissists rely on and when they are being played, they will be able to avoid the trap of seeking approval, being afraid or being resentful of other family members.
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    08/11/2016 #5 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    A very warm welcome to beBee, @Nikki Petersen. This is a great lesson on a number of topics. Primarily that we get the kids we create, and that will shape the rest of their lives. Further, this point about understanding oneself as a business person is crucial:

    "If you're thinking about going into business for yourself (or you're already there), please get to know yourself and what your challenges are. Without that introspection and self-correction, you aren't likely to make it far."
    Nikki Petersen
    08/11/2016 #4 Nikki Petersen
    Thanks, Jared!
    Jared 🐝 Wiese
    08/11/2016 #3 Jared 🐝 Wiese
    I spoke too soon. What an amazing, though provoking post. A MUST READ for parents...

    "If you are a parent, please consider how deeply you impact your kids... in a big picture sense, about the adults we're cultivating.
    Jared 🐝 Wiese
    08/11/2016 #2 Jared 🐝 Wiese
  8. Aurorasa Sima

    Aurorasa Sima

    I feel this article was a real highlight. Can I nominate two for the @Kevin Pashuk challenge?

    My second vote:

    Aurorasa Sima
    Nothing is True, Everything is Permissible
    www.bebee.com “Everything you know is wrong.” The Firesign Theater If you stop, step back and view the world today from a completely nonpartisan unbiased...


    Kevin Pashuk
    08/11/2016 #2 Kevin Pashuk
    This is indeed a great article Aurorasa... And you can dig up gold from the past as often as you wish.
    Aurorasa Sima
    08/11/2016 #1 Aurorasa Sima
    @Fatima Williams @Lisa Gallagher @Irene Hackett @Milos Djukic

    4 tags, oh man, I´m a mass tagger (:
  9. Aurorasa Sima

    Aurorasa Sima

    Aurorasa Sima
    Insight Into the ‘Seat of Human Consciousness’
    stfi.re Summary: Researchers believe they may have pinpointed an area of the brain that plays a role in maintaining human consciousness.Source: Beth Israel Deaconess Medical Center.Study reveals a...


    Aurorasa Sima
    07/11/2016 #3 Aurorasa Sima
    #2 #1 Thank you for appreciating the share. I will check out the hive, Chas, sounds like my cup´o tea.
    Chas ✌️ Wyatt
    06/11/2016 #2 Chas ✌️ Wyatt
    @Aurorasa Sima, shared in "Conscious Excavations"; thank you.
    Sara Jacobovici
    06/11/2016 #1 Sara Jacobovici
    I appreciate the share @Aurorasa Sima. Very "thought provoking".
  10. Aurorasa Sima

    Aurorasa Sima

    Aurorasa Sima
    Random Image Experiment Reveals The Building Blocks of Human Imagination
    stfi.re Scientists have discovered how to extract the template images that the human mind uses to recognise objects, such as balls, cars and people. Here’s a curious experiment. Take some white noise and use it to produce a set of images that are...
  11. Aurorasa Sima

    Aurorasa Sima

    Aurorasa Sima
    The Wiring of Fly Brains: Mapping Cell-to-Cell Connections
    neurosciencenews.com Summary: Researchers have developed a new system for visualizing connections between individual cells in fly brains.Source: CalTech.Biologists at Caltech have developed a new system for...
  12. Aurorasa Sima

    Aurorasa Sima

    Article from a woman leader who worked for the FBI
    Aurorasa Sima
    Forbes Welcome
    www.forbes.com Emotional intelligence is your ability to 1) identify and manage your own emotions; 2) pick up on the emotions of others and manage them; and 3) in so doing, build trust and grow influence. Meanwhile, a softer skill like emotional intelligence often...
  13. Aurorasa Sima

    Aurorasa Sima

    Aurorasa Sima
    Neural networks learn more about protecting communications: Just ask Alice, Bob and Eve
    stfi.re (Tech Xplore)—What will Google think of next? Actually, if you are looking at the goings on of the Google Brain team you are right to suspect they don't want to be thinking at all. They would rather put their AI resources to...
  14. Aurorasa Sima

    Aurorasa Sima

    Aurorasa Sima
    Balancing time and space in the brain: New model holds promise for predicting brain dynamics
    stfi.re For as long as scientists have been listening in on the activity of the brain, they have been trying to understand the source of its noisy, apparently random, activity. In the past 20 years, "balanced network theory" has emerged to explain this...


    Aurorasa Sima
    01/11/2016 #4 Aurorasa Sima
    #3 I doubt our brain could deactivate the laws of physics. But other dreams could come true. Like peace on earth.
    David B. Grinberg
    01/11/2016 #3 David B. Grinberg
    It always amazed me that, according to neurologists, the average human only uses 10% of his/her brain capacity. What would happen if we used 80%? Could we communicate telepathically, could we travel via self teleporting?
    Aurorasa Sima
    01/11/2016 #2 Aurorasa Sima
    #1 It´s so fascinating and great how the young science of the brain shares new exciting findings every other day.

    I thank you for your comment. It´s clear that you enjoyed the post and that was my aim.

    I am looking forward to seeing if the model can live up to the confident expectations.
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    01/11/2016 #1 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    Fantastic share, @Aurorasa Sima

    "In the context of this balance, neurons are in a constant state of tension. According to co-author Matthew Smith, assistant professor of ophthalmology at Pitt and a member of UPBI, "It's like balancing on one foot on your toes. If there are small overcorrections, the result is big fluctuations in neural firing, or communication."

    Tension! There is a thin line between everything, perhaps most especially what we tend to currently think of as opposites like love and hate. Both are extremely salient and excitatory.
  15. Aurorasa Sima

    Aurorasa Sima

    Your 10-minute tool allows you to acquire the soft skill, that is meanwhile considered an important management attribute.
    Active Empathic Listening in 8 Steps
    Active Empathic Listening in 8 Steps Master the art of active empathic listening and enjoy better relationships - in business and in life....
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    Aurorasa Sima

    Extract from Project Phoenix Emotional Intelligence Webinar
    Extract from Project Phoenix Emotional Intelligence Webinar Please forgive the low quality. Join the next webinar live for new content and a better picture (: http://phoenix.braindiamond.com Blog:...
  18. Aurorasa Sima

    Aurorasa Sima

    The latest edition of my newsletter:
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    10-26-2016 - News, articles, the event of the year, and a special Halloween greeting for YOU,
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    Aurorasa Sima
    5 Common Misconceptions About Empathy - Emotional Intelligence Hub
    ei-hub.com Empathy is the ability to understand our emotions and motives as well as the emotions and motives...


    Harvey Lloyd
    27/10/2016 #1 Harvey Lloyd
    Enjoyed this post on EI @Aurorasa Sima. Especially the part where you separate the two types of EI, Cognitive and Natural. Never thought about the fact some have it naturally and what i believe like me its something i learned. I wonder under the Myers Briggs designations which types would tend to have it more naturally? Or require skill development under the cognitive?
  20. ProducerAurorasa Sima

    Aurorasa Sima

    The Art Of Self Conquest
    The Art Of Self ConquestI have the uttermost respect for people who leave their comfort zone in pursuit of a higher goal. Individuals who do things that are hard for them to reach this higher goal. As people, we make a choice. We can say: I am who I am, and I do not...


    Aurorasa Sima
    25/10/2016 #45 Aurorasa Sima
    #39 Thank you very much for taking the time to read and share your thoughts about the cage. I´m glad the Albatross attracted you. Have a wonderful day!
    Aurorasa Sima
    25/10/2016 #44 Aurorasa Sima
    #37 You have kindly commented on the "Do you want to search or find" post as well. That´s the point. Even if know things. Do we live them? Why do top athletes have trainers that could not run half as fast? It can help us to be asked questions even if know the answer. It´s easier if you don´t walk alone.

    Thank you for comment and the following discussion with Harvey was interesting to read too. My pragmatic approach to the Bourbon analogy would be to pour it in a glass (:
    Aurorasa Sima
    25/10/2016 #43 Aurorasa Sima
    #36 As always, very thoughtful and engaging comment, dear @Harvey Lloyd. Several factors are part of the cage. Our upbringing, society, fears, painful experiences.
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    24/10/2016 #42 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    #41 I am so far towards Introvert - that it really isn't a stretch to call me a hermit, yet I am not a bit shy....and when I ignite it draws a lot of attention! Right @Charles David Upchurch View more
    #41 I am so far towards Introvert - that it really isn't a stretch to call me a hermit, yet I am not a bit shy....and when I ignite it draws a lot of attention! Right @Charles David Upchurch? But I always know which recipes call for Maker's Mark - the occasional Manhattan is necessary in a well-lived life. Close
    Harvey Lloyd
    24/10/2016 #41 Harvey Lloyd
    #40 @Deb 🐝 Helfrich I would surmise then that you are probably an I with the myers briggs personality quest of understanding. Also i would add, be cautious when bringing the heat up, the extra bourbon you put into marinate may flash to quickly.
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    24/10/2016 #40 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    #38 Ah, yes, 4 days on the right question! I am known to call it marinating. I do try to wait to do (and communicate) until I have the seasoning optimally suffused.... then the cooking is but a few minutes on high heat.
    Tausif Mundrawala
    24/10/2016 #39 Tausif Mundrawala
    Our nerves becomes the cage for ourselves because we have programmed ourselves that way. Once we free our nerves saying that we are capable of scaling heights which we never thought about it before than we can achieve the unthinkable. The flying albatross caught my attention and I could not resist myself reading this wonderful post and commenting on it. Thanks for sharing this post with us.
    Harvey Lloyd
    24/10/2016 #38 Harvey Lloyd
    #37 Without the reflection of others such as @Aurorasa Sima then i am merely on a deserted island with no stimulation to even demand a different question. Thank you for your compliment @Deb 🐝 Helfrich. So many times in my crazy existence in small business i have chased the wrong question.

    I forgot who said the likes of this quote. If i have five days to solve the puzzle then i will spend four looking for the right questions and the fifth solving. (I butchered it, but hopefully the concept came through.)
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    24/10/2016 #37 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    #36 @Harvey Lloyd - you have a great skill in generating better questions! I admire it.

    The Art of Self-Conquest requires a lot of skillful questions. And I do believe that taking the journey with someone like @Aurorasa Sima who can demonstrate her abilities via interacting on beBee makes the journey a lot easier. Sometimes, when left to our own devices, we will do everything we can to avoid answering the one question that will unlock our cage.
    Harvey Lloyd
    24/10/2016 #36 Harvey Lloyd
    @Aurorasa Sima I liked the bird cage analagy and would like to reduce the cage to a series of parts. The bottom being our fundamental beliefs, the bars being the emotional concepts that are caging, the roof our belief that we are protected by the entirety of the cage system. What if we took the person and the cage within this metaphor and stuck them on the deserted island. Based on self preservation i would think that the roof would collapse as soon as the bars were recognized as being counter productive to survival.

    If the above is true, then we would have to consider why did we build the cage in the first place, within our social setting? This style of comparison usually helps me better retain the right question rather than the right answer. A more challenging question would be who built the cage? myself? or someone else? To answer this one we usually have to inspect what the cages intended purpose was/is. In this we can find our way out.

    As usual your posts are stimulating and challenge folks to think.
    Aurorasa Sima
    24/10/2016 #35 Aurorasa Sima
    #28 Hello, Monica,
    It´s so nice to meet you! Thank you for reading and taking the time to comment. Limitations are in our mind, in our brain. We need to convince our brain to change itself, which explains why it´s not as easy as 1-2-3
    Aurorasa Sima
    24/10/2016 #33 Aurorasa Sima
    #27 I have nothing to add to this great comment, dear Prav, besides: Thank you!
    Irene Hackett
    24/10/2016 #32 Anonymous
    #22 Thanks @Deb 🐝 Helfrich for the link, this is a subject of much interest, indeed!
    Aurorasa Sima
    24/10/2016 #31 Aurorasa Sima
    #26 @Pascal Derrien 🐝, you are absolutely right. The art of asking just the right amount from yourself - indeed an interesting topic. Thanks for commenting, I feel I did not read you in a long time.
    Aurorasa Sima
    24/10/2016 #30 Aurorasa Sima
    #29 You don´t know the philosopher, creator, and lyricist Matt Hardy? Oh ... my dear friend, @Irene Hackett I nearly fell for it.
    Irene Hackett
    24/10/2016 #29 Anonymous
    #19 I am sorry to admit this my friend @Aurorasa Sima - but I have no idea who Matt Hardy is! By the way, I did not find out until several years ago that the meaning of my name is PEACE. :-)
    Monica Chetal
    24/10/2016 #28 Monica Chetal
    Limitations are all in the mind. So well said! Thanks for sharing
    Praveen Raj Gullepalli
    24/10/2016 #27 Praveen Raj Gullepalli
    The belief in oneself grows with the little self-conquests Aura. Encouragement, appreciation, acknowledgement are the things that breed positive thinking and infuse courage to take that step or two.
    Pascal Derrien 🐝
    24/10/2016 #26 Pascal Derrien 🐝
    I think knowing your limits or should I say not ignoring them can also be a powerful engine insofar they are the starting point of acknowledgement of self as an individual then you can grow........ I suppose interesting topic :-)
  21. John White, MBA

    John White, MBA

    This week's column on The Huffington Post.
    John White, MBA
    Here’s What This Top Data Scientist at Dreamforce Taught Me About the Emotional Secrets of Data | Huffington Post
    www.huffingtonpost.com While most blogs you read about Dreamforce tend to cover the keynote speakers and big names at the event, my experience is that many of the best...
  22. ProducerBen Pinto

    Ben Pinto

    I am starting day seven of
    I am starting day seven of Emotional Intelligence Training withAurorasa Coachingraising my Emotional Quotient (EQ) for better Relationships, both personal and in salesthrough daily exercises ranging from easy to difficult, but in all cases challenging and rewarding.Give it a...


    Ben Pinto
    17/10/2016 #9 Ben Pinto
    👄 🔜 🔚 🔛 🔝@Gerald Hecht
    Ben Pinto
    17/10/2016 #8 Ben Pinto
    Gerald Hecht
    17/10/2016 #7 Gerald Hecht
    @Ben Pinto 🔮⚖️👎🏻👍🏻...
    Aurorasa Sima
    17/10/2016 #5 Aurorasa Sima
    #4 You´re too kind!
    Ben Pinto
    16/10/2016 #4 Ben Pinto
    I guess it is working a little already!
    Aurorasa Sima
    16/10/2016 #3 Aurorasa Sima
    #2 It´s hard to find words to describe how gratified I feel by the effort you made to express that you consider your training helpful.

    I´ll look for your post on that other portal. Thank you, Ben.
    Ben Pinto
    16/10/2016 #2 Ben Pinto
    Wow, thanks @Aurorasa Sima. Like me, you are a straight shooter and call it like it is. By the way, I made a similar post on another network that we have in common and the second commenter is interested in your coaching according to her comment. #1
    Aurorasa Sima
    16/10/2016 #1 Aurorasa Sima
    You´re a blessing, Ben. I admire your openness to learning and growth as well as your passion and positivity.
  23. ProducerRobert Bacal

    Robert Bacal

    The Prime Directive - The Brain As An Information Reduction Machine
    The Prime Directive - The Brain As An Information Reduction MachineYour brain has a limited capacity to process and store information, and to pay attention. Its prime directive, then, is to filter out information it doesn't "think" it needs.If you want to increase your understanding of why and how people behave,...


    Harvey Lloyd
    23/10/2016 #21 Harvey Lloyd
    "Heuristics" is where choice lies and success begins from a practical lifestyle of learning. I agree with the many points that are made here @Robert Bacal. The question for us to consider is whether the brain controls us or we the brain. I myself believe we have some level of the latter. Twenty years of inputs into a brain in a unique walk known as "you" creates a huge data set. Managing the data set based on the inputs is one set of issues and the need for "Heuristics" and once self aware (an area of self that is a challenge to achieve) we can develop intake filters we create to better parse the data stream.

    Intake filters consist of values that we aspire to maintain within the social/professional envelope. When confronted with another human do i seek to understand "first" then be understood would be such a value or filter. When participating with a team am i focused on the outcome or the individual speaking. Developing habits that screen data a certain way is a our best chance to not pick up the bitter aspects of personal emotional challenges.

    The faith part comes from the need to believe that if my filters are honorable, my interactions follow these filters then, the right outcome will be achieved. This belief has to come in spite of others actions where their filters may be more of a personal agenda.

    From this personal perspective i would state that the earlier we become self aware of the need for these values/filters of interaction the less damaging data we imprint on our brain. Ultimately meaning that the imprints don't go away permanently but rather must be managed after we become self aware of our parsing values go in place.
    Javier beBee
    23/10/2016 #20 Javier beBee
    Faith and determination is what beBee have to go on growing a lot ! Faith without determination don't take you to your goals. Good article that made me think. Thanks
    Aurorasa Sima
    16/10/2016 #19 Aurorasa Sima
    #18 The filter can work the other way too and enhance a certain noise. When it bothers you, you give your brain a marching order to focus on it.

    Once the chirping birds outside start to annoy you, you might hear them louder or it might be the only thing you hear.
    Robert Bacal
    16/10/2016 #18 Robert Bacal
    #15 @Lisa Gallagher We definitely had that conversation about the inability to filter out noise. Normally, people "habituate", (get used to noise, particularly constant noise), but it seems you are less able to do that (sometimes?) We're also wired to "orient" or pay attention to change in our environments, again a clear advantage and necessity evolutionarily speaking. I'm guessing it's an anxiety issue but I'm not a clinician.
    Robert Bacal
    16/10/2016 #17 Robert Bacal
    #14 Thank you Ian. If my recollection is accurate isn't Miller's law relevant to short term memory, and that stm and working memory (m-space) was considered a seperate "space/process" I'm a wee bit rusty here. My background (one of them is cognitive science, and I'm admitedly out of date.

    In terms of neuro-science, my sense is that it's really in its toddler state, and that the application of what is being learned about the brain is still a ways away from being applicable to things like learning and memory enhancement -- ie. real world behavior. OOP. just noticed your links in the other post. I'll check those.
    Ian Weinberg
    16/10/2016 #16 Ian Weinberg
    @Robert Bacal The subjects of EQ, IQ, AI , neuro-data processing etc are at the core of intense investigation and research. It is very difficult to draw simple conclusions from this enormous area of study. My personal interest and expertise extends from the neurosciences and neurosurgery, pioneering and incorporating the science and applications of Psycheoneuro-immunology (PNI) to the development and application of corporate wellness, performance and leadership programs. To boot, I have also managed comprehensive neuro-rehabilitation teams. I offer you the following 2 links. The first is our corporate application and the second is the reference text used in the training of neuro-coaches. This latter text is pretty heavy reading. Part 2 however can be read as a standalone text. See therefore http://www.neuronostic.com/PromoSurge.pdf and for some light bed-time reading http://www.pninet.com/articles/Memory.pdf
    Lisa Gallagher
    16/10/2016 #15 Lisa Gallagher
    I thought I read this before, and I still enjoyed reading it again @Robert Bacal. I remember telling you I'm unable to filter out noise, like that from an A/C unit in a hotel room if it's rattling. It will drive my brain nuts all night. I've always had a hard time filtering out background noise unless it noise I've truly grown used to. My IQ is just a tad above average but my EQ is high. Personally, I can attest that I don't always think rationally because my EQ can over ride the rational part of my brain. However, it depends on the circumstances- there are issues that arise that require your EQ to kick in which allows one to be more rational and see the larger picture, if that makes sense? I would make a good mediator or coach because I'm able to see, think and feel outside of the box.
    Ian Weinberg
    16/10/2016 #14 Ian Weinberg
    The amount of information which can be handled at the pre-frontal cortex level (working memory) at any one time is limited in accordance with Miller's 7+2 Rule. Further limitations reflect the pro-survival processes of deletion, distortion and generalization. And yes, habituation too (at the sensory level). But the comprehensiveness of perception and the processing of extrinsic sensory and intrinsic stored information is a function of the degree of integration of the individual. Islands of unintegrated networks have limitations within reality contexts. The more integrated configurations engage in a more comprehensive way with the environment and can therefore handle much more data (the integrated networks are greater that the sum of the individual unintegrated networks). Therefore subjective belief reflects configurations of integration which determine limits of data that can be processed. References available if so desired.
    Robert Bacal
    16/10/2016 #13 Robert Bacal
    #10 @David B. Grinberg That 10% thing is a myth. On the capacity question, the analogy would be a computer with 2 megabytes of ram. It limits how much information can be dealt with at one time. HOWEVER, it IS possible to get around some limitations by using programming tricks...for example, using the hard drive for additional, but slower storage or working space.

    For example, short term memory limits can appear to be defeated because we can learn to better use the available space.

    One of the interesting things about AI work is that traditionally, there have been two different thrusts. One is to get a computer to solve things humans can, and the other is to have the computer process information the same WAY humans do. One is result oriented and one process oriented.

    The idea with the latter is that we can use computers to model and better understand how humans process information.

    I'm not terribly satisfied with this answer, but I'm tired.
    Gerald Hecht
    16/10/2016 #12 Gerald Hecht
    Randy Keho
    15/10/2016 #11 Randy Keho
    Mr. Spock, of Star Trek fame, not to be confused with Dr. Spock, the famous pediatrician, would find this discussion rather amusing. Being half Vulcan and half human must have been a real bitch at times. Would that be logically speaking? I'm not sure. I would be the wrong person to ask.
    I'm still working on filtering. I started with the female voice. I've got a long way to go. Live long and prosper @Robert Bacal
    David B. Grinberg
    15/10/2016 #10 David B. Grinberg
    Nice buzz @Robert Bacal. I'm wondering if you think new advances in AI, computing and decoding the human genome will help unlock more than the average 10% of brain capacity which most individuals use? Also, is it that the brain has "limited capacity" or simply that humans don't know how to access full capacity?
    Aurorasa Sima
    15/10/2016 #9 Aurorasa Sima
    #6 Thanks for sharing the slideshow.
    Robert Bacal
    15/10/2016 #7 Robert Bacal
    #5 @Aurorasa Sima OK. That works for me. Perhaps my use of the word rational was not the best choice. I certainly agree with you that rational means using all the information that is available to you. It's been a while since I wrote the article, to be honest, but thanks for pointing this out.
    Robert Bacal
    15/10/2016 #6 Robert Bacal
    @Fatima Williams posted a link to a Slideshare presentation on this topic. Can't vouch for the content, since there's a LOT of slides in the presentation and I don't have time to look at it just now, but wanted to make it available if anyone is interested http://www.slideshare.net/aoweiyang/you-are-not-as-rational-as-you-think?from_m_app=android
    Aurorasa Sima
    15/10/2016 #5 Aurorasa Sima
    #4 Yes, that´s very close. They are more capable of making conscious decisions. Not influenced by others, past experience, fear, emotions.That´s "rational" to me. Based on facts and an unbiased, intellectual thought process.

    In my opinion, rational does not assume you have all available information, but that you make a decision based on those available to you. Even assumptions can be part of a rational decision-making process, as long as they are unbiased.

    A silly little example I just wrote about: People with a high EQ are immune to marketing triggers like creating a false sense of urgency, scarcity, made up value propositions and such.
    Robert Bacal
    15/10/2016 #4 Robert Bacal
    #2 @Aurorasa Sima You hooked me in with that first one on the list. Would I be understanding you correctly if I paraphrased a bit and said you believe that emotionally intelligent people can make rational decisions because they have a better awareness of themselves and so are more able to separate their own biases and such from the external facts? Is that close?

    I suppose the other question that pops into my mind from your comment is what constitutes rationality? I'm not sure I'm up to the challenge of answering that question. You?
    Aurorasa Sima
    15/10/2016 #3 Aurorasa Sima
    #1 I´ll read this
    Aurorasa Sima
    15/10/2016 #2 Aurorasa Sima
    My opinion.
    1. I believe emotionally intelligent people can make rational decisions. Not having all available information does not make a decision-making process irrational.
    I agree that people with a low IQ generally are not able to make rational decisions unless they face a situation that is totally new to them (no triggers)
    2. Fully agree multitasking-wise. If two tasks require the same cognitive resources, your brain will split it. Stanford University could prove that this leads to problems telling relevant from irrelevant information and ergo worse learning/understanding/production.
    3. Yes, the brain filters and automates and it´s very generous in deciding which situations are "similar"
    4. I like this post
    5. Replying twice to a comment does not make us "friends". It just makes it more interesting to comment (;
    Gerald Hecht
    15/10/2016 #1 Gerald Hecht
    Oh now you are going to pretend to understand this http://psiwebsubr.org/SUBR/studyguides/488/Fechner.pdf View more
    Oh now you are going to pretend to understand this http://psiwebsubr.org/SUBR/studyguides/488/Fechner.pdf You are positively hysterical Robert Close
  24. Aurorasa Sima

    Aurorasa Sima

    Aurorasa Sima
    Using behavioral science to improve the customer experience | McKinsey & Company
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  25. ProducerPat Bagano

    Pat Bagano

    Life Transformation Courses Offered by Faster EFT
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