- ProducerEmotional Intelligence 20,000 ReasonsThe organ that has kept us alive has become our greatest obstacle to achieving better results. In the next 10-15 years we will experience the equivalent of 100 years of innovation and change. This rate will continue to accelerate throughout the...
- ProducerThe World Economic ForumEmotional Intelligence will be one of the top 10 job skills by 2020. People with a high degree of emotional intelligence make more money—an average of $29,000 more per year than people with a low degree of emotional intelligence. The link...
- 26/05/2017Respirando ..1...2...3A science-backed trick to reduce fear and anxiety takes just 30 seconds and a penqz.com Relief may be just a word...
Comments01/06/2017 #1 Jared 🐝 Wiese ➡ I sell YOU. Fast!Write it down and offer it up!
The next time painful or stressful feelings threaten to overwhelm you, here is what you do: write down a word or two that describes the emotion you’re experiencing.
It's a compressed version of the three-step process of self-compassion identified by the psychologist Kristin Neff at the University of Texas at Austin:
1) Admit that a situation is painful or uncomfortable
2) Recognize that pain and discomfort are universal elements of the human experience
3) Do something healthy to alleviate the discomfort like get outside, stretch, or call a friend
- ProducerIncrease Your Emotional IntelligenceEmotional Intelligence: The ability to accurately perceive our emotions and stay aware of them as they happen.To use awareness of our emotions to positively direct our behavior.To pick up on emotions in others and understand what is really...
- Producer18/04/2017Business Mindset Strategy for EntrepreneursBecoming an entrepreneur requires a strong business mindset strategy.We have to transition from being an individual who does something or a doer, to becoming a business that is managed by a leader. There are many steps in this transition yet when...
- Producer03/04/2017Emotional IntelligenceEmotional Intelligence is an approach that will raise your awareness of what maybe holding you back to achieve your success and happiness, and help you strive to be the only emotionally intelligent leader you should ever be waiting for -You!...
- ProducerThe Emotional Intelligence GapThe evidence is overwhelming that emotional intelligence training removes the chaos and drama so often found within organizations. If you look around I am certain you can see lots of examples of the hidden and not so hidden costs created by the...
Comments22/03/2017 #5 Preston 🐝 Vander VenI agree. Jim Whitehurst, CEO of Red Hat, “Too often we tout the intellectual capabilities of leaders by focusing on their IQ, when we should really be valuing their emotional intelligence quotient or EQ score. Being the smartest person in the room is not enough if you don’t have the capacity to work with the people who are in that room with you.When you work with and through communities of contributors as Red Hat does, where you can’t order anyone to do anything for you, your ability to listen, process, and not take everything personally becomes incredibly valuable.”
Try to imagine the worst Doctor in the worst with the High EQ and the Best Doctor in the world with a low EQ. After a visit to the "worst doctor", his or her patients will most likely return. Now when we look at the "Best Doctor", his or her patients are more looking for a reason to sue the doctor just because they made them upset. This principle applies is so many areas of life.08/03/2017 #4 Claire L Cardwell"Increasingly, individuals who were hired for their intellectual knowledge are being passed over for promotion because they lack the emotional intelligence necessary to succeed. Emotional intelligence is developed from doing the emotional labor of putting what we know into practice." Really enjoyed your article @Phil 🐝 Johnson, MBL and Brand Ambassador @beBee!07/03/2017 #3 Brian McKenzieIs there a Gold Star that I could affix to my belly in Sneech fashion to let others know - I have all the Emotional Intelligence I need ? I would love to see the source citations for those statistics. EVERY EQ test that I have taken - could be, and has been gamed. If I know what you are looking for - pandering to it - is easy. (Invariably it is the Unicorn / Rainbow / Butterfly / Heart Emoji play-land that I like to avoid)
- 12/03/2017The Science of The Heart: Our Hearts Actually Have It’s Own Intelligencethespiritscience.net We all know the difference between good vibes and bad vibes, but what is really happening at a scientific level when we talk about “vibes”? Or what about when we know someone is a bad person and can feel it in our gut, only to later find out that...
- ProducerEmotional Labor and Emotional IntelligenceEmotional Intelligence: Your ability to accurately perceive your emotions and stay aware of them as they happen. Your ability to use awareness of your emotions to positively direct your behavior. Your ability to pick up on emotions in others and...
- 11/03/2017You've Just Failed – Congratulations! You Get A Trip For Two Around the World.www.linkedin.com Perpetually curious. These two words define Garry Ridge, CEO, WD-40 Company, and my guest on the Disrupt Yourself Podcast. A native of...
- Finding the Time to Do It Allwww.chrisspurvey.com I’m constantly asked “Chris, how do you manage to get so much done?” That question is typically followed by the statement “You must use some form of time management...
- Producer25/11/2016HOW TO CHOOSE HAPPINESS WHEN LIFE IS S**T!When life gets hard, the last thing you want to hear is that “happiness is a choice.”I get it. It’s as if you’ve been slapped in the face and then kicked while you’re still reeling.I know that when you hear “happiness is a choice”, you think I am...
Comments23/03/2017 #28 Renée 🐝 CormierSome people use misery as an attention seeking tool. All they ever manage to do with that behaviour is drive people away. Setbacks in life can make us feel very sad and unhappy for a period of time. You have to remember, though, that the only difference between failure and a setback is mindset. If you see your negative circumstances as temporary and within your control, then you can certainly create happiness for yourself by altering your circumstances and your point of view. You have to really like being happy more than you like being miserable, though. I liked this post. Thanks for writing it. I shared it with some miserable people I know. :)08/03/2017 #25 Katyan Roach"People who are afraid of choosing happiness aren’t afraid of or resistant to being happy. They are afraid of the risk that comes with being happy. Happiness is vulnerable. Once we have it, we have something we can lose, something that can be taken away from us"
Have you been spying on my girl! LOL Awesome article. One to save for my archives! @Emilia M. Ludovino08/03/2017 #21 Claire L CardwellExcellent @Emilia M. Ludovino - really good points - I particularly liked the analogy you used about bending your knee after a Knee operation "The first thing the doctors have them to do after surgery is bend the knee. They have to move. It hurts like f-ing hell and no one wants to do it but they have to. Otherwise the knee becomes frozen. The range of motion will become lost and the knee will become incapable of bending." Am sharing !25/11/2016 #3 Robert CormackAs we grow older (and experience a vast multitude of happiness, pain and sorrow) we're always waiting for the other shoe to drop. Call it "gun shy," but we're always wondering when happiness will end and the shit storm will start. It's one thing to embrace pain, but it's another to never let go. Psychiatrists call this the "martyr state" and people can live their whole lives like this. They find a comfort level "waiting for the other shoe to drop." What separates us from other animals (for good or bad) is we can understand pain. We can do something about it. That's part of our evolution. I think our biggest problem is NOT letting go of pain. It creates long periods of distress (and also wars, by the way). At some point, we have to leave the "martyr state." That's really what separates us from other animals.
- ProducerSales Leadership and Emotional IntelligenceIf the sales professional cares about the people they serve it will ultimately be reflected in the revenue being generated. The willingness to stare into the abyss of failure is the true measure of how compelled a person or an organization is to...
- Ten Unmistakable Signs Of A Fear-Based Workplace by Liz Ryan.
I did not know what a fear-based workplace was the first time I started working in one. At first, I thought the problem was me.
Maybe I didn't have the right clothes or know the right business jargon. I walked on eggshells at work. I went home anxious and discouraged every night.
Gradually it dawned on me that it wasn't just me. My co-workers were uptight, too. No one was having a good time in our workplace. What made everyone so nervous and fearful?
It can take time to realize that you work in a fear-based environment. We can't bear to think that we took a new job in a broken company!
A fear-based workplace is a place where fear is the predominant energy. A healthy workplace is one where trust is the predominant energy.
- 10 Research-Proven Tricks That Make You Seem Smarter Than You Arewww.linkedin.com It’s great to be smart, but intelligence is a hard thing to pin down. In many cases, how smart people think you are is just as important as how...
Comments08/03/2017 #10 Claire L CardwellWhen I was young I used to do the Mensa Tests in the Sunday Magazines in the UK. You were given an hour to do them. I used to do them in 10 minutes flat and made one deliberate mistake. When I told Nigel about his he laughed and said that it was his strategy too for doing IQ Tests. I never bothered to join Mensa though. I thought it would be rather boring to hang out with people who would spend their time bragging about how smart they were..... After all it must be the stunted who need to boast.08/03/2017 #9 Claire L CardwellA couple of good friends of mine were also diagnosed as being educationally subnormal and were sent to a 'special school'. One of them is now a Distinguished Engineer at JP Morgan and the other is a carpenter and life coach. Both have been assessed as having IQs over 200.08/03/2017 #7 Claire L Cardwell#6 Thanks @Max🐝 J. Carter! I remember when I was about 16 my headmistress called my parents in for a meeting with me. She argued with them for quite a while about my low intelligence and the fact that I would not be a good candidate for university. She even suggested that I left school and enrolled in a secretarial college.... Fortunately two science degrees later I proved her wrong. Her silence on hearing the news was quite telling.... Miss Dees couldn't even be bothered to say a limp 'well done'. My parents immediately enrolled me in one of the UK's top schools and I did very well there.
I wonder how many girls had their dreams crushed by this narrow minded alcoholic?08/03/2017 #5 Claire L CardwellI can relate to that @Max🐝 J. Carter! I actually got a very low score on the IQ tests I sat as a very young child as they are maths based and I am numerate dyslexic. It was only when I was helping a friend out at Kings College in London with a new IQ Test did I realise just how high my IQ was - I aced all the tests up to 180 - then Philip wanted me to do more and more (he was getting rather excited!). It was a rare sunny summer's day in London and I said no. He persuaded me to do one more... Like you my IQ is over 200. My brother in law frequently described conversations between myself and my sweet ex-husband Nigel as being in the 180 Club! I have never measured my emotional intelligence - perhaps I fear it would be a bit low.... I've noticed that Dr Travis does not respond to his comments either.... A rather aloof approach to someone that champions Emotional Intelligence don't you think?
- Producer26/02/2017Do You Have Enterprise Emotion Skills?Over the years, I have had the privilege of working with start- up, small and medium businesses. The range and diversity of business and ownership, has given me an insight into the many conflicting issues facing small business owners today. As...
- Producer23/02/2017Time to Change Your Culture? Don't Forget These Emotional Intelligence Must-HavesYou have a new strategy and your mission is clear, then why aren't your employees excited? Although it took a lot of work to revamp your vision, the truth is, that's only the beginning. Your organization must now prepare to manage the cultural...
- Producer11/02/2017Want to Fix Your Biggest Leadership Problem? Try These 5 Emotional Intelligence TipsThis condition has many names: leadership blinders, delusion, and narcissism, just to name a few. Although each ailment can lead to unique consequences, they are all rooted in the same cognitive bias known as "The Halo Effect." The Halo Effect is a...
- 10/02/2017Ever "lost your cool"? Perhaps here on social media? Or in a heated argument with a loved one?
Learn WHY and how to bring back CONTROL in a matter of minutes with mindfulness...Melissa Hughes on Twittertwitter.com “Be aware of the amygdala hijack. Keep the thinking #brain in charge....
- Producer26/01/2017EMOTIONAL EMPOWERMENT - Are you emotionally empowered?"We can not force anyone to see what they are not ready for." Often I have heard people remark: "He is very intelligent. Just needs to find his balance.” – “Your father was a genius but he lacked wisdom.” - “He was too intelligent for his own...
Comments01/03/2017 #8 Renata JakielaszekThank you so much, indeed. Emilia M. Ludovino ! I have always believed that the hardest thing to do in this life is to get to know yourself.
It’s more about the things that you feel deeply. What drives you. What you crusade for. What you really want your life to be like…Stuff like that.
Never Stop Learning Yourself27/01/2017 #7 Bernard PoulinThe only emotional empowerment required to survive a day of productivity is to be determined to do the best we can today (i.e. : seeking excellence rather than perfection) with the proviso that tomorrow is another day in which we can try to best our yesterdays. Any more requirement than that needs a therapist.
- ProducerEMOTIONAL BANK ACCOUNT - Is your balance Positive or Negative?Imagine that you have dropped and broken your mobile phone, and find it’s going to cost you $200 to repair it.Your reaction to this incident is influenced by the amount of discretionary money you have in your bank balance.If you have a lot of money...
Comments23/01/2017 #11 Brian McKenzieI un-banked when I left the States, I haven't had a telephone in 3 years, if I were to say I have any Emotional Account - it would have been unplugged too. Emotions, and pandering to them, are quite avoidable. We live in a six second world where 'Reality' is faked, scripted, produced ~ where you are an easily replaceable line item on a corporate spread sheet ~ where 'love' is transactional, temporary and disposable ~ where war is not only inevitable but routinely scheduled. Society is merely a herd of widgets - managed through the life-cycle wickets of eat, sleep, work & reproduce well teased with money and goaded with fear before you are shuffled of to the meat packing slaughter house.
I try to keep my Apathy in check with doses of Indifference and Detached Ambivalence - I am rewarded daily for those efforts.21/01/2017 #9 David B. GrinbergAs someone who prides himself on positive thinking -- despite naysayers -- I completely concur with your astute advice, Emilia. It's just as easy to think positively than negatively and view the proverbial cup as half full, rather than half empty. I wish you all the best and hope your cup overflows with positive life experiences.
Lastly, for those who have a negative mindset as knee-jerk reaction, here's some recommended reading by the godfather of positive thinking, the late and great Rev. Norman Vincent Peale https://www.amazon.com/Norman-Vincent-Peale/e/B000APPE7E Keep buzzing in 2017!21/01/2017 #7 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.#4 thank you @Emilia M. Ludovino! You are most welcome.21/01/2017 #1 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.everyone should read this one, it is so good to know!
- Producer19/01/2017What are you laughing at?Why do we laugh? Do all cultures and creatures laugh? Is laughter really the best medicine?What happens when we tickle rats?If you are bursting at the seams to find out the answers to these soul searching, contemplative, ridiculous, yet strangely...
Comments08/06/2017 #26 Ken Boddie#25 I can almost hear your laughter from here, Deb, but, although I have no idea about the type of humour conveyed in these presumably TV programmes, which have not, as far as I am aware, crossed over to 'marsupiala', I'll bet anything that they don't show rats being tickled. 🤣07/06/2017 #25 Deb 🐝 HelfrichThese days, I laugh at 'Grace and Frankie' even on the third and fourth viewings...oh, the joys of on-demand streaming.
I tend to not analyze why, in fact, I am pretty sure the other buddy comedy that cracks me up every time I watch it - Ab Fab - does so for the exact opposite reason as G&F. G&F is funny because it is so real, and AbFab because it is so outlandishly unreal.
And then there is the 'doll & Rita Wilson' episode of Curb Your Enthusiasm. What a crescendo of laughter that barely stops for the whole 30 minutes.....21/01/2017 #23 Rod LoaderTo @Ken Boddie...
Thoughtful prose, to the rose,
That is my lovely wife.
About your fear, to draw near,
To trouble and to strife.
Now your pain, won't be gain,
If done by your own hand.
No she won't laugh, unless your gaff,
Is totally unplanned.
Live your life, without strife,
Or harm to hand or hair.
But let us know, if your toe,
Should find a lurking chair.
#2220/01/2017 #22 Ken Boddie#18 To @Rod Loader and his good lady wife .....
When a challenge brings a hazard,
Then the risk must be assessed.
Are the consequences good or bad?
This really is no time for jest.
A self harm act will cause me pain,
Of that there can be no real doubt,
So surely then I must refrain,
And hope no lady's tears will spout.20/01/2017 #16 Dean OwenI hear that women find an especially active tomatosensory cortex an especially endearing trait in a man. Did you know that people actually die from laughter. I found this particular story quite touching. "On 24 March 1975, Alex Mitchell, from King's Lynn, England, died laughing while watching the "Kung Fu Kapers" episode of The Goodies, featuring a kilt-clad Scotsman with his bagpipes battling a master of the Lancastrian martial art "Eckythump", who was armed with a black pudding." (Wikipedia) -
http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-1854237720/01/2017 #10 Ken Boddie#6 Thanks for your thoughts, Gert, and of course the joke, which fits into the 'Mismatch of Expectation and Reality' category. This also brings up the concept of miscommunication by accident when we can only really laugh when we are in a remote situation or really know a person well, rather than in a face to face situation, particularly with strangers. I remember the tale of the unfortunate overseas student who arrived in UK and got himself into a number of awkward situations by frequently asking for "hairy twot". After a number of episodes (embarrassing to him but hilarious to others) it transpired he was looking for directions to Herriot Watt University.19/01/2017 #7 Kevin PashukI was waiting for the punch line Ken...
Seriously though, some great questions. Why do we laugh? Why did it evolve so that only one type of shrieking laughter is present in a restaurant when you and your partner are trying to have a semi-romantic evening?
In a recent post I wrote on people's use of titles (vs. experience), I made mention of someone calling themselves "Chief Giggles Officer". I wrote that in a mocking tone. I stand corrected. Any of the people on the panel of the television show you referenced likely qualify for that title.
- Producer09/01/2017What emotional intelligence means to me (revised)I keep seeing this reference to “emotional intelligence” on social media. I can’t read the whole article lots of times because it’s boring to me, and I don’t really understand what they’re talking about. The first time I saw it was around 2005. I...
Comments09/01/2017 #5 Edythe RichardsHello all,
Thank you for posting your thoughts on EI (or EQ, as I call it). I am new here to this platform, so please go easy on me!
I am a certified Emotional Intelligence practitioner. After a great deal of research into this subject myself, I sought out to become certified in the most statistically reliable model of EQ (and there are more than a few out there): the EQ-i 2.0, which also includes a valid self-report, when administered correctly.
Based on what you’ve described, this (to me) doesn’t sound like Emotional Intelligence at all (particularly the sharing of “secrets”), which is quite unfortunate. When it is presented correctly, by someone who understand what it does (and does not) measure, it is not only empowering, but actionable. Results are malleable, and b/c coaching is part of this process, one’s EQ “score” not only does, but should change when goals are set and action is taken.
For more information about what EQ is and isn’t, I have a short article on my blog: http://atopcareer.com/eq-ei-emotional-intelligence-overview/, and I’ll be posting more on this topic once I become familiar with this medium.09/01/2017 #3 Devesh 🐝 Bhatt#2 I think the inner anchor is the ideal.anchor, it just needs the right trigger. It makes our filters working fine, most people link their inner anchor to a memory and courage, I like to link it with patience.
Why I am.interested in EI is because of 3 things :
A) someone I least expected who belonged to this field helped me, I got curious and the more I studied it the more shameless greedy people emerged who were the cut from the exact same cloth as phoney preachers.
B) it has less to do with coaching and more with the habituation of sled contempt for the serious.cases and spoon feeding for many who don't have time to sort themselves out.
C) Now I want to get work from clients and I find all this coaching etc when they themselves have diminishing revenue very unacceptable, spend 10 % of that on me or 50% of that on yourself , Get on your feet and start earning...Isn't spend when the wallets empty. Makes you more vulnerable.also I was their I could be their again.
This is an assumption, I believe childhood learning coupled with one good teacher moulds the inner anchor, the teacher could be family/freind/teacher/anyone.cant their be a way of making it consistent09/01/2017 #1 Devesh 🐝 BhattFirst we perceive the world as a harmful environment and seek refuge in coaching, therapy, emotional intelligence etc.
Then we areade aware of the exploitation and remove ourselves from that environment.
What is the probability of a person bouncing in and out of places ?
Also, couldn't a person develop and anchor/ refuge for self irrespective of the environment around and use that anchor to bounce back into a sensible emotional aware being? Stuff I ask myself and share here.
- Producer03/01/2017How to Use Your Whole Brain to Generate IdeasIt's arguably the most popular theory of all time.The split brain theory states that the left hemisphere of your brain brain is logical, analytical and boring. It associates with vocal intelligence and gets you through life acceptably. Left...
Comments03/01/2017 #3 Harvey LloydThis is an excellent concept and rings very true as you stated with your question, "What Stifles Creativity? " This is a question i try and answer everyday in my profession. When faced with leadership issues you not only have the creative steps of going forward but you have others in the organization that require you to bring them along. The overall answer to the question is fear.
A broad answer but as @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher stated, "I thought it was a crazy idea...",overcoming our own limitations is the first key to becoming creative. Mind mapping i can only assume must be done within a vacuum of no fear. When you develop links across hemispheres their can't be channeling based on fears already established, they must flow freely.
Thanks for the post03/01/2017 #1 Lisa 🐝 GallagherI like the idea of drawing a visual mind map @Amarish J. Khan 🐝. When I have time I will have to give it a try. It's true that we utilize both sides of our brain. It even works in cases of medical issues. I have a damaged nerve inside my inner ear which is closely connected to the Cerebellum. I was taught to do brain exercises to allow another part of my brain to compensate for the vertigo. I thought it was a crazy idea at first but it worked. It didn't get rid of it but I gained my balance back and most of my vertigo is under control now. They've even removed one side of the brain in children who had chronic, uncontrolled seizures and found the kids were able to function just as highly with one half of their brain & the seizures diminished greatly or disappeared.
- 14/12/2016Just left a review of this fabulous book by a great bee, @Deb Lange and mentioned the fact that we met on beBee!!!
Here is the most interesting fact about Deb Lange's book. It is helping me so much, that I want to spend all my available time playing, and walking, and sensing the world around me – I keep popping away from my keyboard when I sit down to write a review.
I recently had the good fortune to meet Deb on a new social media site – beBee. We live in such a magical time. You can synchronistically bump into an author on the other side of the world, a few months before her book is published, strike up a few conversations, and then when the book is available – it is the exact guide that you need to help you help yourself through a period of immense transition.
This is truly a MUST EXPERIENCE book as read is too one-dimensional to describe the full impact of learning about embodied wisdom. Deb Lange is a marvelous guide through the rites of passage that will allow us to operate with a full body intelligence.
I really recommend that anyone looking to understand their sensory-based body wisdom get a copy of this book - the words and illustrations partner to create a sense of feeling what one is reading.
Comments28/03/2017 #9 Deb 🐝 HelfrichI could write a book about the experiential impact of "Trust Your Senses" It has been a journey in all senses of the word.
Most especially in how I have been able to have so many conversations with @Deb🐝 Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee View moreI could write a book about the experiential impact of "Trust Your Senses" It has been a journey in all senses of the word.
Most especially in how I have been able to have so many conversations with @Deb🐝 Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee - there is something very powerful to the concept of "Bringing the Book Alive"
I am in my element alone with a book, but there is further magic & lots of breakthroughs when we can have a series of conversations after reading the book.
If you are craving a new way to live, navigating via your body's wisdom - please consider joining us! We meet via webcam weekly and lives are changing as a result of all this knowledge and support.