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  1. ProducerPhil 🐝 Johnson, MBL and Brand Ambassador @beBee
    The Hive Mind
    The Hive MindThe hive mind or group flow is a state of optimal consciousness that allows us to focus on the task at hand and perform at our best. Flow can be achieved by our self, but it also occurs and becomes even more powerful when it happens within a...
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  2. ProducerJoel Anderson

    Joel Anderson

    22/08/2017
    Navigating the ruts in life’s journey
    Navigating the ruts in life’s journeyOK so first of all, an explanation. I took an Operational Pause to clear the mechanism and reset the apparatus (aka the brain, my mental state, and my attitude). I dropped off the net about a month ago. I needed to take a temporary halt in...
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    Joel Anderson
    14/09/2017 #26 Joel Anderson
    Life is one big road with lots of signs. So when you riding through the ruts, don't complicate your mind. Flee from hate, mischief and jealousy. Don't bury your thoughts, put your vision to reality. Wake Up and Live! - Bob Marley
    Joel Anderson
    30/08/2017 #25 Joel Anderson
    #24 And in using our experiences to allow that new energy in and help to enlighten and navigate, one can only take the next step, and the one after that.

    From a tribute to my dad after he passed away in January:

    “The greatest use of a life is to spend it on something that will outlast it.” --William James

    “Every job is a self-portrait of the person who did it. Autograph your work with excellence.” --Betty M. Nelson

    Then from an unrelated post: As George Santayana is attributed as saying “Those who do not remember the past are condemned to repeat it.” Then there is the one by Einstein: “Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” And then there is Alfred North Whitehead, a defining entity in the field of process philosophy who said: “It takes an extraordinary intelligence to contemplate the obvious.”

    Sometimes as we drive through life, we hit bumps and get flat tires. We don't stop because of the adversity or challenges we experience. We use each experience to gain a deeper understanding, a deeper perspective, a richer appreciation for how they can provide us a grounding framework and new approaches. Approaches that underscore that the parts (past, present and future) contribute to the whole, and help us grow for the better.

    Thanks for the positivity and help navigating my journey in step taking.
    Kevin Baker
    30/08/2017 #24 Kevin Baker
    #23 Purge is my key to re-grounding myself. If I do not resolve any issue entirely it stays with me and then I miss out on allowing new energy into my life. @Joel Anderson
    Joel Anderson
    30/08/2017 #23 Joel Anderson
    #22 Thanks @Kevin Baker. Some time ago I used a reference in another discussion about a Soap Opera I used to watch with my sisters when I was a kid "Like sands in an hour glass, these are the Days of Our Lives." Appreciate your thoughts. Just a bad year where stuff keeps stacking up. But take the next step I will as I endeavor to navigate the journey and challenges. Keep making a difference: one step, one person at a time.
    Kevin Baker
    30/08/2017 #22 Kevin Baker
    wish you well
    Melissa Hefferman
    30/08/2017 #21 Anonymous
    #20 You and yours will be in my prayers.
    Joel Anderson
    29/08/2017 #20 Joel Anderson
    #19 @Melissa Hefferman Thank you for your kind words and insights. Following the news Wednesday of my father in laws passing, my wife's sister received news on Thursday evening that her husband's father had also passed away. The grand kids got a double whammy within two days. I feel like I am in a Soap Opera. Patience, love and peace indeed. Thanks again and keep making a difference.

    http://themercury.com/obituaries/robert-dean-tommy-thompson/article_e29e7c1f-5d5c-5199-aa28-0472bc99aa8a.html
    Melissa Hefferman
    29/08/2017 #19 Anonymous
    Thank you for sharing your journey with us @Joel Anderson. That makes a difference in my Heart! I've had a number of losses this year as well, sadly an angel 12 year old included. I just visited Home where we celebrated our Loved ones no longer present. It's not always easy and it takes Self patience and Love, but I've found alot of peace in accepting Death and impermanence. Much Love to you and yours: there is only healing. -Melissa
    Joel Anderson
    25/08/2017 #18 Joel Anderson
    #15 Thank you @Savvy Raj for your comments, they are truly appreciated. Bear with me as I just try to contemplate some of this. Your words made me think back to earlier this year when I wrote about lines in the sand and the lines in our lives.

    There are lines all around us

    Of various shape and size

    They come in different colors

    Depending on your eyes

    I see them everywhere I go

    They ebb and then they flow

    They help me see life’s beauty

    Despite the challenges, don’t you know

    Like lines, the tides of our lives truly ebb and flow. Sometimes straight and smooth. Sometimes a chaotic mess influenced by unforeseen events elsewhere in our existence. Sometimes calm and gentle. Sometimes low. Sometimes high. Others in turmoil, caused by momentary/fleeting storms in our lives where we find ourselves in the surge and boil of a turbulent current state of being.

    As I read your response and reflected on its meaning, I again returned to a place earlier this year and thought about the lines that had gotten me to that moment and now my current place in space and time.

    Similar to my father, my father-in-law's journey in line making started over 85 years ago. As the son of a public transportation engineer and he himself a public education teacher, he led a good life. As a teacher he laid the formative pathways, roads, highways and opportunity for so many life travelers. He made a difference in my world and the world of countless others.
    Joel Anderson
    25/08/2017 #17 Joel Anderson
    3:50am August 23, 2017 with my wife and two daughters by his side, my father-in-law passed away. Your comments and caring have truly helped. Whatever your reality, whatever your belief system, I found this song to help put things in perspective: https://youtu.be/W4ga_M5Zdn4
    Chas ✌️ Wyatt
    24/08/2017 #16 Chas ✌️ Wyatt
    #15 @Savvy Raj, that is such a beautiful and eloquent response. What you say is true.
    Savvy Raj
    24/08/2017 #15 Savvy Raj
    Your poignant post @Joel Anderson moves me much and mellows my mind and heart to muster strength to sense your situation while thinking of how tough it's been for you to tide through these times.

    The choices made in such moments sees you through no matter what ... I must add your sense of appreciation of life's gifts along the way inspite of being stacked with odds is remarkable and of great relevance here. It makes you the wonderful person you actually are😊

    Thank you for your appreciation of my poems but most of all thank you for your taking the time to appreciate and acknowledge . Often in the company of such inspiring individuals that you have mentioned and are, everyone benefits in the corelation. Often we find our predicaments shared by someone somewhere in perhaps a way which may give us strength and reserve we need That is why we share as we can evolve along And Bebee is a great place to be in as there always much heart in these sharing and that's what makes all the difference. All is well in the strength of the interconnects
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    24/08/2017 #14 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    Gone but not forgotten @Joel Anderson. I'm so sorry for all that's hit you over the months. Life sure can throw curve balls. I think it's very good to take a break when needed because those nearest and dearest to us will always come first. When you've reached your emotional tolls it's almost impossible to get online and read, let alone think clearly. Sending good wishes and glad you are back. Thanks for the mention my friend!
    Puneet Srivastava
    24/08/2017 #13 Puneet Srivastava
    good wishes... peace & courage...
    CityVP 🐝 Manjit
    23/08/2017 #12 CityVP 🐝 Manjit
    #6 I applaud your tremendous courage to know these challenges and yet there is a therapeutic element in letting others know these difficulties and that is the most precious part, that one does not feel isolated or alone in these moments. Take all the time you need because the very nature of so many things coming at once requires substantial coping mechanisms. Where you can draw strength it is like coming up for air. My utmost respect to you in such challenging situations.
    Chas ✌️ Wyatt
    23/08/2017 #11 Chas ✌️ Wyatt
    I have lost many close to me in the last several years. Do what is best for you. It is good to have you on beBee.
    Devesh 🐝 Bhatt
    23/08/2017 #10 Devesh 🐝 Bhatt
    Time has been tough. I sincerely hope it all works out. Eventually, it all does, maybe in the strangesr ways but it does.

    My best wishes and thanks for the shout out to everyone. There is always a lot to learn in what yoh write. Infact in whatever i have found on bebee. TC and Best Wishes.
    Joel Anderson
    22/08/2017 #9 Joel Anderson
    Thank you @Gert Scholtz Much appreciated.

    “The greatest use of a life is to spend it on something that will outlast it.”

    --William James

    “Every job is a self-portrait of the person who did it. Autograph your work with excellence.”

    --Betty M. Nelson
    Gert Scholtz
    22/08/2017 #8 Gert Scholtz
    @Joel Anderson Very good to see you back on beBee. My best wishes to you in these difficult times, Joel . May you keep on making a difference to yourself and those around you - one step at a time.
    Joel Anderson
    22/08/2017 #7 Joel Anderson
    And thank you @Cyndi wilkins for drawing this to my attention and for you positive reinforcing words.
  3. ProducerPhil 🐝 Johnson, MBL and Brand Ambassador @beBee
    Big Magic
    Big MagicBig Magic Thank you, thank you, thank you. Doing the work we are called to do is ultimately a gift to ourselves and to those with whom we come into contact. It is an act of community service. When we change our inner world or organization our...
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    David B. Grinberg
    24/08/2017 #1 David B. Grinberg
    Thank you, Phil, for sharing more words of wisdom. As Teddy Roosevelt famously said, "The only thing we have to fear is fear itself."
  4. Gennaro Cuofano

    Gennaro Cuofano

    13/08/2017
    Gennaro Cuofano
    A Whole New Science About Emotional Intelligence and Why Emotions Are Made, Not Triggered
    fourweekmba.com Emotions fingerprints is a myth The classic view of emotions wants them to be a fixed state, always the same across the human and animal kingdom and from culture to culture. How much is that true?...
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  5. ProducerJohn White, MBA

    John White, MBA

    11/08/2017
    How To Build Your Success as a Leader Using Emotional Intelligence
    How To Build Your Success as a Leader Using Emotional IntelligenceAre you ready to go places in your career?Well, if there was a skill that you could hone that could help earn $30k more per year, wouldn't you set out to work on it right now? It turns out there is just such a skill, you can learn how to develop it,...
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    Laurent Donnadieu
    31/08/2017 #8 Laurent Donnadieu
    NIce Thx U
    Judy Olbrych
    12/08/2017 #7 Judy Olbrych
    Love this, @John White, MBA. Great infographic too. Sharing on SM and with the kids.
    Zacharias 🐝 Voulgaris
    11/08/2017 #5 Zacharias 🐝 Voulgaris
    There is no doubt that high EQ is essential for leadership. I'd add that SQ has an important role to play. SQ, which stands for Spiritual Intelligence, has to do with our sense of morality and our ethical behavior. Complementary to EQ and IQ, this aspect of intelligence has been shown to be quite high in successful industry leaders.
    Melissa Hughes
    11/08/2017 #4 Anonymous
    Thanks, @John White, MBA.... this is awesome stuff! Sharing!
    Numo Quest
    11/08/2017 #2 Numo Quest
    What I sincerely am missing is ..... Individual Talent and Soft Skills are a born set of qualities and unique to each individual. Many often think one is able to learn everything. That in practice is more often not the case. From commerce stand I can see the urge to influence hence, practice so often pose so different. Good publish btw John. :O) Thanks.
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    11/08/2017 #1 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    I always chose a job based on excitement for the field not the money. This is a very good article that is extremely true.
  6. ProducerPhil 🐝 Johnson, MBL and Brand Ambassador @beBee
    Resonance vs. Dissonance
    Resonance vs. DissonanceResonance vs. Dissonance We must create alignment between our goals and habits or we will find our sabotaging our success. Knowing what to do is not the same thing as doing it. We need to learn how to master our emotions instead of allowing our...
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    David B. Grinberg
    26/07/2017 #2 David B. Grinberg
    Nice buzz, Phil, you make excellent points.
    Debasish Majumder
    25/07/2017 #1 Debasish Majumder
    lovely insight@Phil 🐝 Johnson, MBL and Brand Ambassador @beBee! enjoyed read and shared. thank you for the share.
  7. ProducerLiesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.
    Happiness Is Found In Solid Steps.
    Happiness Is Found In Solid Steps.With age comes wisdom. The numbers do not lie. They never do. It is true, that I get older. No denial possible, but I feel that I get something in return for my walk on this planet. A feeling of peace. Acceptation for life as it is and for who I...
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    Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.
    27/07/2017 #42 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.
    #36 awe yes I found my hang of life and I am grateful for it. Thanks so much, wish you a day full of smiles.
    Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.
    27/07/2017 #41 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.
    #35 I am sure @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher that what is forseen for you and what you allow, is more than you ever could dream of. Enjoy it!
    Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.
    27/07/2017 #40 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.
    #34 what would we do without you @David B. Grinberg, you are a joy to bee with on this platform
    Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.
    27/07/2017 #39 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.
    #33 @Jerry Fletcher we bees, we all walk together, connected for life.
    Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.
    27/07/2017 #38 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.
    #32 complimentw received with grace, thank you, @Pascal Derrien, you are a great bee
    Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.
    27/07/2017 #37 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.
    #27 well @Kevin Baker, wow, that is awesome what you wrote here, thank you!
    Numo Quest
    26/07/2017 #36 Numo Quest
    Great to read you have found 'Your Hang' of life. Now you start to enjoy every aspect of it. You deserve it. :O)
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    26/07/2017 #35 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    These are great @Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.. This one, well I'm working on it (except I don't take life for granted) "7. A llowing life to come as it is.

    When I learn to take the day as it comes, and live day by day, life feels like a divine present that I am carrying with respect and gratitude. Let me not take life for granted."
    David B. Grinberg
    26/07/2017 #34 David B. Grinberg
    Thank you, Liesbeth, for another profound piece of writing filled with useful tips for self-improvement. It's only through introspection that we gain more wisdom about ourselves and the world around us. You astutely articulate this concept in your own unique and special way.
    Jerry Fletcher
    26/07/2017 #33 Jerry Fletcher
    Liesbeth, With you, I would like to take a walk.
    Pascal Derrien
    25/07/2017 #32 Pascal Derrien
    A solid article if I may say 👍
    Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.
    25/07/2017 #31 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.
    #30 @Joanne Gardocki you got it, that is what it is all about, we are more precious than we think we are.
    Joanne Gardocki
    25/07/2017 #30 Joanne Gardocki
    Solid walking, awesome. I love the Michaelangelo reference. We are all about removing layers to bring out the beauty within. We are diamonds in the rough bringing forth our own brilliance.
    Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador
    25/07/2017 #28 Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador
    "Practicing our own part, is definitely a fundamental reason we are here." - this line is from a post by @Deb 🐝 Helfrich - https://www.bebee.com/producer/@deb-helfrich/broadcast-your-signal#c1, which seems to be relevant to your thoughts, as well, @Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.
    Kevin Baker
    25/07/2017 #27 Kevin Baker
    #26 What is important is you. What brings you to smile, feel balanced and know, least I wish you to know, you make a huge difference every time you extend your self.
    Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.
    25/07/2017 #26 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.
    #25 you express the importance of it, so agree with you @Kevin Baker, thank you
    Kevin Baker
    25/07/2017 #25 Kevin Baker
    There is no substitute for risking vulnerability. If we do not risk this, understanding of ourselves becomes the chase that never completes.
    Lance  🐝 Scoular
    25/07/2017 #24 Lance 🐝 Scoular
    #21 😊
    Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.
    25/07/2017 #23 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.
    #22 thank you @Gabriel Bazzolo it is not a post about drones but I hope that it is also useful for humanity.
  8. ProducerTricia Mitchell

    Tricia Mitchell

    20/07/2017
    "Is there anybody there? Knock twice for 'No'"
    "Is there anybody there? Knock twice for 'No'""How would one relate ESP with an HSP Tricia?" Praveen Raj Gullepalli Interesting question... here are my thoughts:A definition of Extra Sensory Perception (ESP) offered by an online psychology dictionary is:Extra Sensory Perception, otherwise known...
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    Tricia Mitchell
    02/08/2017 #18 Tricia Mitchell
    #11 Dear @Praveen Raj Gullepalli you wrote, "I have known some super clairvoyants who sadly lacked empathy and came through cold, manipulative and even selfish in the end. Sensitivity and compassion is the clear denominator." I totally agree with you. I encountered psychic mediums who had yet to work on their egos and is the reason I stopped seeking guidance from the spiritualist churches.I guess we are all on our own spiritual path and just because we associate with spiritual practices, or call ourselves 'spiritual [.......]' it doesn't mean we've achieved spiritual enlightenment.
    Tricia Mitchell
    02/08/2017 #17 Tricia Mitchell
    #16 Connie thank you for your honesty. I love how you were able to analyse the message, after feeling the soul-ution, which is a deeper compassion. I wonder whether that is an universal lesson of tolerance and 'love thy neighbour' delivered in whatever form each of us is intolerant/hold a vibration lower than love towards? I love the divine timing of the messages we receive. I was walking the dogs this morning and one of my audiobooks popped into my mind - Les Brown's The Power of Purpose. I hit the play button to resume listening where I'd previously left off. It was exactly what I needed to hear today about being of service. I totally agree that we are led to the information we need to hear or see at that point in time on our journey through life. Thank you for sharing.
    Connie Limon
    31/07/2017 #16 Connie Limon
    #15 @TriciaMitchel, Thanks for your reply. I think it is a "divine" gift and I also think there is a purpose in it. Several things ran through my mind during that time i smelled the blood, a deeper compassion arose up in me for the homosexual population, in that no matter how much be disagree with a lifestyle, God still loves those people, and that is actually the "message" I received within my awareness when I smelled the blood on the video. It most likely was a personal message to me. Since that time, honestly I have been much more compassionate with the homosexual population. I will read the article you shared about smell. I would share the 2nd experience I had with smell, but it much too personal, and occurred on Twitter actually with something someone else shared that suddenly related to exactly what was going on in my mind at that very moment in time. I too have turned myself off from so much of the "violent news, yet at times, I believe there is a direct purpose for us personally when we are lead to view news.
    Tricia Mitchell
    31/07/2017 #15 Tricia Mitchell
    #14 Connie Limon thanks for sharing that you're also a Highly Sensitive Person and I'm sorry that your senses are so acute that you were able to smell the blood in the that horrendous nightclub incident caused by the hands of someone who didn't love himself enough to accept himself and others who reflected that aspect of him. I wonder what the gift is for you? I wrote about becoming more aware of my olfactory sense here: https://www.bebee.com/producer/@tricia-mitchell/can-you-smell-that-or-have-i-finally-lost-it-pt-2 I, personally, believe it has some sort of purpose, otherwise we wouldn't have the ability (& that the Divine makes no mistakes in our design). It took a while and a lot of trial and error to find ways that make my sensitivities manageable (one of those is to shut myself off to the repetitive nature in which the news is broadcast via several channels daily).

    Thank you for reading and I'm glad you found it interesting.

    Tricia
    Connie Limon
    30/07/2017 #14 Connie Limon
    Tricia Mitchell, very interesting: "I explain the condition in four letters: DOES. D is for depth of processing, which is the key to the whole condition. They process everything around them very deeply. O is for overstimulation, which is brought about because of D. E is for emotional reactivity and empathy. Research shows HSPs respond more to the emotions of others and to situations in general. And S is for sensitive stimuli – they’re incredibly sensitive to smells, sounds and light." Honestly, I am one of these people, I process things around me deeper than most people do, and I often feel overstimulated because of this processing, and so far as emotional reactivity and empathy, I can place myself in the shoes of someone else and feel what they are feeling. Smell: when the horrible incident happened at the Gay NIghtclub in Florida, as I watched the bloody scenes, I actually smelled blood. This was a very interesting read for me. Thank you.
    Tricia Mitchell
    30/07/2017 #13 Tricia Mitchell
    #5 #4 Your comment @Deb 🐝 Helfrich about your mental and physiological hypersensitivity is interesting Having lived with physiological hypersensitivity every day of my life and mental hypersensitivity in periods, like lots of stuff in life, there are gifts and burdens. They are inter-related, but also separate, in my experience.

    I hadn't even thought about shyness versus introversion. You wrote, "Introverts want to leave the crowd, they don't want to be the life of the party." My family thought I was anti-social, avoiding big family get togethers and leaving when it became too noisy. As I've become more aware of my sensitivity I've come to understand why, at social functions, I will stand on the periphery of a crowd and will interact with people who are energetically drawn to me. I'm sensitive to sounds, and that explains why noisy get-togethers would be too much after a few hours and I'd escape in favour of solitude (my nervous system was probably telling me enough is enough).

    Its sounds like techniques to desensitise you, and also retraining your nervous system, so your olfactory sense doesn't (incorrectly) react from a place of past hurts would benefit you as a way to cease the patterns you've been running. The point you make about getting stuck running unresourceful patterns is something that can affect us all, whether a HSP or not.

    I'm glad that your approach is one of curiosity, coupled with a willingness to heed what you know. Thanks for engaging and offering food for thought🙏
    Tricia Mitchell
    29/07/2017 #12 Tricia Mitchell
    #1 Thanks @Deb 🐝 Helfrich I appreciate that you enjoyed this post. "But off the top of my head - how can I resist? - the hair information is utterly new to me. At the intellectual level. On the physical level, I have 3 feet of utterly natural red curly hair." 😀 Your comment about hair reminded me of the poem about the little girl who had a little curl, right in the middle of her forehead (just those lines).

    You're absolutely right about needing to be comfortable with creating space from the busyness. There's a quote I can't find at the moment that your "comfortable with silence and aloneness" observation reminded me of, about once you've discovered who you are, being comfortable with who you've found (or there's nothing more lonely than not liking who you've found). So I found this one on self-acceptance, which may come up a some point if we're sitting in a meditative state. of “Because one believes in oneself, one doesn't try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn't need others' approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.” Lao Tzu

    "Although there are a lot of studies that show statistically relevant results, where things are right now reproducibility is a challenge. I posit that that is because mostly we've all been taught to learn with our memorization caps on." I wonder whether results can't be replicated because of the effect of merely observing an experiment changes it (I believe it's Schrödinger's cat/ quantum mechanics). I agree with what your statement about the prerequisite conditions. Thanks for such an erudite answer, Deb.
    Praveen Raj Gullepalli
    29/07/2017 #11 Praveen Raj Gullepalli
    #7 Right you are Tricia. It is hard to find a combination of both. I have known some super clairvoyants who sadly lacked empathy and came through cold, manipulative and even selfish in the end. Sensitivity and compassion is the clear denominator. It is the real difference between an angel and a energy hungry familiar.
    Tricia Mitchell
    29/07/2017 #10 Tricia Mitchell
    #3 @David B. Grinberg
    Your comment - the lighter note part about growing your hair - made me laugh. Here's something not many people know, though I may have already buzzed about it 🙂 There was a wrestler, British Bulldog (Davey Boy Smith). He lived in America and, at the time I received a call from 'Princess Paula" https://youtu.be/mTH_yrthVQg and he was in the UK wanting his trademark hair plaiting. I was in my twenties, at college or Uni, and would plait people's hair for a fee. Paula had seen my handiwork - she'd stopped my sister's friend to ask who'd done her hair? She rang me up "No press," she insisted. I tried to keep a straight face. At 14, I'd worked in a private clinic (in the kitchen, then later waitressing) & seen a famous pop star (visiting his wife, who was receiving psychiatric treatment) & a tv star (alcoholism) in there. I was rather underwhelmed after such a dramatic build up! I found I roped my sister into it... He was wrestling that night. We made a real pigs ear of it (I'd never plaited European hair & the beads weren't going to stay in). Shortly after that, I noticed from his telly appearance that his long locks were gone. Pay peanuts, get monkeys (they didn't want to pay salon rates). Can't remember if I was upfront at the time. Perhaps, it was a Branson 'say yes, figure out how later,' moment?! Although I know steroid use was/is(?) notorious in the wrestling world, when he died, Samson & Delilah sprung to mind on more than one occasion.

    Appreciate your encouragement to continue buzzing 🙏
    Tricia Mitchell
    29/07/2017 #9 Tricia Mitchell
    #3 Thank you @David B. Grinberg for engaging with this buzz and I'm glad (& flattered) you found it enjoyable and educational. Your comment about you always tapping into your ESP had me thinking about resonance and entrainment. E.g. you thinking the same thing as someone else, except they beat you to articulating it, happens a lot in romantic coupling. Two people are so in tune/resonate with each other that they finish each other's sentences. It was that that had me thinking about heart entrainment and the heart's intuition. The ESP/ESPN joke was funny; I'd say your 'attempt' was successful! 😄 (I exceeded 2000 characters, so part 2 coming up)

    +1
    Tricia Mitchell
    29/07/2017 #8 Tricia Mitchell
    #4 @Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee I'm glad that this post has been able to offer a different perspective to you about your hypersensitivity. I appreciate you engaging with and commenting on this buzz.
    Tricia Mitchell
    29/07/2017 #7 Tricia Mitchell
    #2 @Praveen Raj Gullepalli thanks for your response. " This is very intriguing indeed, but i do see that the emotional response to stimuli as the key differentiator." Yes, the emotional response to stimuli is the key difference. But emotions or e-motion is simply energy in motion, and if people with extra sensory perception possess the ability to sense events around them, then they can sense energy and tap into the e-motions of others? Everything is energy and we're all psychic to varying degrees. I'm wondering if all clairvoyants/psychic mediums/ those who possess ESP are HSPs, but not all HSPs have ESP?
    Tricia Mitchell
    29/07/2017 #6 Tricia Mitchell
    Thanks for sharing this one @Milos Djukic I'm grateful to you.
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    21/07/2017 #5 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    #4 Having lived with physiological hypersensitivity every day of my life and mental hypersensitivity in periods, like lots of stuff in life, there are gifts and burdens. They are inter-related, but also separate, in my experience.

    Here is an example of how two personality states that often get confused, may overlap, but are felt entirely differently. Shyness versus introversion. Introverts want to leave the crowd, they don't want to be the life of the party. Shy people do want to be socially interactive, and they have a lot of mental anguish over why they cannot be bubbly and mingle without preempting themselves.

    The quality of the mental chatter differs greatly around what appears on the outside to be the exact same behavior.

    Speaking from experience in this very moment, if a person wants to be different, but is stuck running their same patterns that prevent them from schmoozing with strangers or stepping into meaningful, well-paying work, then that hypersensitivity has become a problem that consulting a healer/guide, of any kind, can help calm the hyperactive mind that is locked in a certain set of repeating thoughts.

    My hypersensitivity to smell, on the other hand, as I experience it, while it does affect how I can be in the world, is, in my opinion telling me something important about the toxicity of human created and attenuated smells. My body is saying these sorts of smells have hurt you before and will do so again, so let's skedaddle, fast. I have no mental turmoil around the validity of these signals.

    Same for me on the few extra-sensory perceptions that arise for me. No mental turmoil. Just utter curiosity and a willingness to heed what I know.
    Joyce 🐝 Bowen   Brand Ambassador @ beBee
    21/07/2017 #4 Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee
    I've always viewed my hypersensitivity as pathology. As a psychologist, I search for ways to tamp this down. You've given me a different way to look at it.
    David B. Grinberg
    21/07/2017 #3 David B. Grinberg
    Thank you, Tricia, for this informative, insightful and educational blogging buzz. I really enjoyed reading this and learning more about ESP versus HSP. I've always found myself to have some semblance of ESP -- like thinking of a person right before they contact me, or thinking exactly what someone else just said before I could say it.
    Also, on a lighter note, I would surely let my hair grow longer if that were possible. However, as midlife approaches I feel fortunate to at least have a receding hair line (lol). And here's another attempt at humor: for the sports lovers out there who may not be interested in ESP, there's always ESPN!
    Keep up the brilliant blogging buzz, Tricia...
    Praveen Raj Gullepalli
    21/07/2017 #2 Praveen Raj Gullepalli
    Thanks Tricia! This is very intriguing indeed, but i do see that the emotional response to stimuli as the key differentiator. Will respond further on this after a deeper look.
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    20/07/2017 #1 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    Tremendous post, @Tricia Mitchell.So much richness.

    But off the top of my head - how can I resist? - the hair information is utterly new to me. At the intellectual level. On the physical level, I have 3 feet of utterly natural red curly hair.

    There are a couple things I've observed about these knowings that are outside of what we commonly talk about. First of all, there needs to be a level of being comfortable with silence and aloneness to notice some of these uncommon perceptions. Secondly, we need to tune down the prefrontal cortex executive functions in order to access this information at first. Although there are a lot of studies that show statistically relevant results, where things are right now reproducibility is a challenge. I posit that that is because mostly we've all been taught to learn with our memorization caps on. This measurement and analysis functioning is antithetical to the burgeoning of these extra-sensory capacities, therefore until we get the preconditions of the mind set to the right frequency, those of us who can't dial in, struggle to learn from those who can.
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    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    29/06/2017 #2 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    Great explanation of the brain @Phil 🐝 Johnson, MBL and Brand Ambassador @beBee. I think my limbic system works overtime. It needs to slow down & compensate lol. You wrote, "Our ability to embrace these changes will be determined by our level of emotional intelligence and authentic leadership." How true this is. Well stated!
    Lyon Brave
    29/06/2017 #1 Lyon Brave
    I love this
  10. ProducerPhil 🐝 Johnson, MBL and Brand Ambassador @beBee
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    Praveen Raj Gullepalli
    05/06/2017 #1 Praveen Raj Gullepalli
    Great observations! Combining sensitivity with sensibility would always add value Phil! By the way, that pic has got to be of La Defense in Paris. Am I right? ;)
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    Jared 🐝 Wiese
    01/06/2017 #1 Jared 🐝 Wiese
    Write it down and offer it up!

    The next time painful or stressful feelings threaten to overwhelm you, here is what you do: write down a word or two that describes the emotion you’re experiencing.

    It's a compressed version of the three-step process of self-compassion identified by the psychologist Kristin Neff at the University of Texas at Austin:
    1) Admit that a situation is painful or uncomfortable
    2) Recognize that pain and discomfort are universal elements of the human experience
    3) Do something healthy to alleviate the discomfort like get outside, stretch, or call a friend
  12. ProducerPhil 🐝 Johnson, MBL and Brand Ambassador @beBee
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    Jacob Roig
    18/04/2017 #2 Jacob Roig
    Thank you @javierbebee, I am glad you found it insightful enough to comment today!
    Javier 🐝 beBee
    18/04/2017 #1 Javier 🐝 beBee
    @Jacob Roig thanks for sharing it ! welcome to the hive !
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    Preston 🐝 Vander Ven
    22/03/2017 #5 Preston 🐝 Vander Ven
    I agree. Jim Whitehurst, CEO of Red Hat, “Too often we tout the intellectual capabilities of leaders by focusing on their IQ, when we should really be valuing their emotional intelligence quotient or EQ score. Being the smartest person in the room is not enough if you don’t have the capacity to work with the people who are in that room with you.When you work with and through communities of contributors as Red Hat does, where you can’t order anyone to do anything for you, your ability to listen, process, and not take everything personally becomes incredibly valuable.”

    Try to imagine the worst Doctor in the worst with the High EQ and the Best Doctor in the world with a low EQ. After a visit to the "worst doctor", his or her patients will most likely return. Now when we look at the "Best Doctor", his or her patients are more looking for a reason to sue the doctor just because they made them upset. This principle applies is so many areas of life.
    Claire L Cardwell
    08/03/2017 #4 Claire L Cardwell
    "Increasingly, individuals who were hired for their intellectual knowledge are being passed over for promotion because they lack the emotional intelligence necessary to succeed. Emotional intelligence is developed from doing the emotional labor of putting what we know into practice." Really enjoyed your article @Phil 🐝 Johnson, MBL and Brand Ambassador @beBee!
    Brian McKenzie
    07/03/2017 #3 Brian McKenzie
    Is there a Gold Star that I could affix to my belly in Sneech fashion to let others know - I have all the Emotional Intelligence I need ? I would love to see the source citations for those statistics. EVERY EQ test that I have taken - could be, and has been gamed. If I know what you are looking for - pandering to it - is easy. (Invariably it is the Unicorn / Rainbow / Butterfly / Heart Emoji play-land that I like to avoid)
    Mohamed Amroussi
    07/03/2017 #2 Mohamed Amroussi
    Challenge yourself go beyond your comfort zone
    Mohamed Amroussi
    07/03/2017 #1 Mohamed Amroussi
    Know yourself , lead yourself
    Know the others, lead them
    Build human relations that generate benefits and reduce harms
  16. Claire L Cardwell
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    James O'Connell
    10/04/2017 #30 James O'Connell
    I've not been about the hive in a while, been a busy busy ..turned burnt out bee!
    But this nice piece of honey from Emilia has come my way adding a little sweetness to my outlooks, much thanks (' ' ,)
    James O'Connell
    10/04/2017 #29 James O'Connell
    so apt for my circumstances right now..thank you Emilia x(' ' ,)
    Renée  🐝 Cormier
    23/03/2017 #28 Renée 🐝 Cormier
    Some people use misery as an attention seeking tool. All they ever manage to do with that behaviour is drive people away. Setbacks in life can make us feel very sad and unhappy for a period of time. You have to remember, though, that the only difference between failure and a setback is mindset. If you see your negative circumstances as temporary and within your control, then you can certainly create happiness for yourself by altering your circumstances and your point of view. You have to really like being happy more than you like being miserable, though. I liked this post. Thanks for writing it. I shared it with some miserable people I know. :)
    Scott Craig
    08/03/2017 #27 Scott Craig
    I'm homeless and trying to concentrate on my writing. Thanks. Very enlightening.
    Katyan Roach
    08/03/2017 #25 Katyan Roach
    "People who are afraid of choosing happiness aren’t afraid of or resistant to being happy. They are afraid of the risk that comes with being happy. Happiness is vulnerable. Once we have it, we have something we can lose, something that can be taken away from us"

    Have you been spying on my girl! LOL Awesome article. One to save for my archives! @Emilia M. Ludovino
    Javier 🐝 beBee
    08/03/2017 #22 Javier 🐝 beBee
    Choose happiness ! Happiness is not a mood. It is an option we choose !
    Claire L Cardwell
    08/03/2017 #21 Claire L Cardwell
    Excellent @Emilia M. Ludovino - really good points - I particularly liked the analogy you used about bending your knee after a Knee operation "The first thing the doctors have them to do after surgery is bend the knee. They have to move. It hurts like f-ing hell and no one wants to do it but they have to. Otherwise the knee becomes frozen. The range of motion will become lost and the knee will become incapable of bending." Am sharing !
    Henri Galvão
    08/02/2017 #20 Henri Galvão
    #19 haha não lembrava desse "detalhe"
    Henri Galvão
    08/02/2017 #18 Henri Galvão
    #17 obrigado, Emilia, vou ler esse outro texto também!

    obs.: seu português escrito está fantástico!
    Henri Galvão
    07/02/2017 #16 Henri Galvão
    I like particularly what you said about happiness being vulnerable. It might help to explain why many times people (myself included, for sure) play not to lose, instead of playing to win.
    Cyndi wilkins
    15/12/2016 #14 Cyndi wilkins
    This is a must read...Life is famous for the sucker punch...Nice to have the tools of retaliation...Thank you for this marvelous buzz Emilia;-)
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    26/11/2016 #11 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    @Emilia M. Ludovino, I love your analogy about getting back up with the use of knee surgery and choosing happiness. By the way, I can never seem to make my point in under 1000 words ;-) Excellent buzz, sharing!
    Renée  🐝 Cormier
    25/11/2016 #4 Renée 🐝 Cormier
    Great insight and advice, @Emilia M. Ludovino. I really like the knee replacement analogy. You have to forge on with positive changes in mind in order for anything to change. I shard this for you on beBee, Twitter and Facebook.
    Robert Cormack
    25/11/2016 #3 Robert Cormack
    As we grow older (and experience a vast multitude of happiness, pain and sorrow) we're always waiting for the other shoe to drop. Call it "gun shy," but we're always wondering when happiness will end and the shit storm will start. It's one thing to embrace pain, but it's another to never let go. Psychiatrists call this the "martyr state" and people can live their whole lives like this. They find a comfort level "waiting for the other shoe to drop." What separates us from other animals (for good or bad) is we can understand pain. We can do something about it. That's part of our evolution. I think our biggest problem is NOT letting go of pain. It creates long periods of distress (and also wars, by the way). At some point, we have to leave the "martyr state." That's really what separates us from other animals.
  21. ProducerPhil 🐝 Johnson, MBL and Brand Ambassador @beBee
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  22. Claire L Cardwell
    Ten Unmistakable Signs Of A Fear-Based Workplace by Liz Ryan.

    I did not know what a fear-based workplace was the first time I started working in one. At first, I thought the problem was me.

    Maybe I didn't have the right clothes or know the right business jargon. I walked on eggshells at work. I went home anxious and discouraged every night.

    Gradually it dawned on me that it wasn't just me. My co-workers were uptight, too. No one was having a good time in our workplace. What made everyone so nervous and fearful?

    It can take time to realize that you work in a fear-based environment. We can't bear to think that we took a new job in a broken company!

    A fear-based workplace is a place where fear is the predominant energy. A healthy workplace is one where trust is the predominant energy.
    https://www.forbes.com/sites/lizryan/2017/03/07/ten-unmistakable-signs-of-a-fear-based-workplace/#6b385bb01e26
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    Claire L Cardwell
    08/03/2017 #10 Claire L Cardwell
    When I was young I used to do the Mensa Tests in the Sunday Magazines in the UK. You were given an hour to do them. I used to do them in 10 minutes flat and made one deliberate mistake. When I told Nigel about his he laughed and said that it was his strategy too for doing IQ Tests. I never bothered to join Mensa though. I thought it would be rather boring to hang out with people who would spend their time bragging about how smart they were..... After all it must be the stunted who need to boast.
    Claire L Cardwell
    08/03/2017 #9 Claire L Cardwell
    A couple of good friends of mine were also diagnosed as being educationally subnormal and were sent to a 'special school'. One of them is now a Distinguished Engineer at JP Morgan and the other is a carpenter and life coach. Both have been assessed as having IQs over 200.
    Claire L Cardwell
    08/03/2017 #7 Claire L Cardwell
    #6 Thanks @Max🐝 J. Carter! I remember when I was about 16 my headmistress called my parents in for a meeting with me. She argued with them for quite a while about my low intelligence and the fact that I would not be a good candidate for university. She even suggested that I left school and enrolled in a secretarial college.... Fortunately two science degrees later I proved her wrong. Her silence on hearing the news was quite telling.... Miss Dees couldn't even be bothered to say a limp 'well done'. My parents immediately enrolled me in one of the UK's top schools and I did very well there.
    I wonder how many girls had their dreams crushed by this narrow minded alcoholic?
    Claire L Cardwell
    08/03/2017 #5 Claire L Cardwell
    I can relate to that @Max🐝 J. Carter! I actually got a very low score on the IQ tests I sat as a very young child as they are maths based and I am numerate dyslexic. It was only when I was helping a friend out at Kings College in London with a new IQ Test did I realise just how high my IQ was - I aced all the tests up to 180 - then Philip wanted me to do more and more (he was getting rather excited!). It was a rare sunny summer's day in London and I said no. He persuaded me to do one more... Like you my IQ is over 200. My brother in law frequently described conversations between myself and my sweet ex-husband Nigel as being in the 180 Club! I have never measured my emotional intelligence - perhaps I fear it would be a bit low.... I've noticed that Dr Travis does not respond to his comments either.... A rather aloof approach to someone that champions Emotional Intelligence don't you think?
    Claire L Cardwell
    08/03/2017 #3 Claire L Cardwell
    #2 OK - what makes you say that? I guess I have been fooled!
    Claire L Cardwell
    08/03/2017 #1 Claire L Cardwell
    Has anyone reached out to Dr Travis Bradberry yet? He writes awesome articles on Emotional Intelligence and I really enjoy his posts. @Javier 🐝 beBee @Juan Imaz @Matt 🐝 Sweetwood @Milos Djukic @Kevin Pashuk @Don 🐝 Kerr
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    Funmi Ade
    11/03/2017 #2 Funmi Ade
    Hi Claire
    Just watch this space. Best
    Claire L Cardwell
    08/03/2017 #1 Claire L Cardwell
    Great post @Funmi Ade! Looking forward to reading your manual - when does it come out?
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    Claire L Cardwell
    08/03/2017 #1 Claire L Cardwell
    Great pointers @Michael Schneider! Have shared your article - have an awesome day!
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