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Comments26/10/2016 #9 Aurorasa Sima#8 NOOO no glitter. Just black on white/white on black if needed.
I wanted to show you my current one, but I can´t post it here because it has transparency. Hope you are still a few minutes around - I´d really like your opinion.
I think my current logo is better, but I´m also used to it.26/10/2016 #8 Praveen Raj Gullepalli#7 Hmmm...lemme see...a reverse logo (white or gold lettering-graphic on black /dark surface/background=bg) would be more visible and go with the diamond glitter aspect. But the black (maybe even chocolate brown) bg would look better either as a circle (to go with the curved arrows...or a hexagon;). If on a white bg, you could try out a two-colour logo instead of an all-black one. Just thinking out loud...:)
- 24/10/2016Thanks to @Deb Helfrich for pointing out this article entitled "Consciousness could be a side effect of 'entropy', say researchers" - while the sample size of the research is only 9 people, the actual blog itself is quite compelling in discussing entropy and its potential relationship to consciousness.Consciousness could be a side effect of 'entropy', say researcherswww.sciencealert.com It's impressive enough that our human brains are made up of the same ' star stuff ' that forms the Universe, but new research suggests that this might not be the only thing the two have in...
Comments24/10/2016 #6 Anonymous#5 hehe well since I swear to the high heavens that I have epiphanies whilst dancing and laughter is the best medicine, I must believe the same but it's a whole new word so more to learn! Phew, what a day and couple of timeless weeks I have had. I also swear that Life, reality, is stranger than fiction!!!! I just never noticed before my, hmmm, entropic state and/or dark night of the Soul. Maybe. ;-) Have a lovely evening my dear!!! I have a feeling I will fly in my dreams tonight!24/10/2016 #4 Anonymous#3 Oh. Oh. Oh. Something is happening, I do believe. I am not a religious person, all religions have things to offer and say much of the same, to me, when we focus on Love and the present. My momma was a Sunday school teacher though at a non demoninational church, she made me a plaque that was on my wall as a kid that noted the Greek meaning of my name, with the following Psalm which I must share right now with you @Deb Helfrich... "How sweet are thy words unto my taste. Yea sweeter than honey to my mouth" 💖24/10/2016 #1 Deb HelfrichOur own @Leckey Harrison said: "I'd be interested in seeing those same brains compared to those of Buddhist monks. Then I'd like to re-discuss what entropy might be."
And I responded:
That is a great question - Richard Davidson, neuroscientist and friend of the Dalai Lama has some answers " “What we see are these high-amplitude gamma-oscillations in the brain, which are indicative of plasticity” : http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2015/07/dalai-lama-neuroscience-compassion/397706/
I read dis-order, Leckey, not disorder. Not orderly, not rigid, which indicates greater plasticity which means greater possibility.
- Producer24/10/2016The Art Of Self ConquestI have the uttermost respect for people who leave their comfort zone in pursuit of a higher goal. Individuals who do things that are hard for them to reach this higher goal. As people, we make a choice. We can say: I am who I am, and I do not...
Comments25/10/2016 #44 Aurorasa Sima#37 You have kindly commented on the "Do you want to search or find" post as well. That´s the point. Even if know things. Do we live them? Why do top athletes have trainers that could not run half as fast? It can help us to be asked questions even if know the answer. It´s easier if you don´t walk alone.
Thank you for comment and the following discussion with Harvey was interesting to read too. My pragmatic approach to the Bourbon analogy would be to pour it in a glass (:24/10/2016 #42 Deb Helfrich#41 I am so far towards Introvert - that it really isn't a stretch to call me a hermit, yet I am not a bit shy....and when I ignite it draws a lot of attention! Right @Charles David Upchurch View more#41 I am so far towards Introvert - that it really isn't a stretch to call me a hermit, yet I am not a bit shy....and when I ignite it draws a lot of attention! Right @Charles David Upchurch? But I always know which recipes call for Maker's Mark - the occasional Manhattan is necessary in a well-lived life. Close24/10/2016 #39 Tausif MundrawalaOur nerves becomes the cage for ourselves because we have programmed ourselves that way. Once we free our nerves saying that we are capable of scaling heights which we never thought about it before than we can achieve the unthinkable. The flying albatross caught my attention and I could not resist myself reading this wonderful post and commenting on it. Thanks for sharing this post with us.24/10/2016 #38 Harvey Lloyd#37 Without the reflection of others such as @Aurorasa Sima then i am merely on a deserted island with no stimulation to even demand a different question. Thank you for your compliment @Deb Helfrich. So many times in my crazy existence in small business i have chased the wrong question.
I forgot who said the likes of this quote. If i have five days to solve the puzzle then i will spend four looking for the right questions and the fifth solving. (I butchered it, but hopefully the concept came through.)24/10/2016 #37 Deb Helfrich#36 @Harvey Lloyd - you have a great skill in generating better questions! I admire it.
The Art of Self-Conquest requires a lot of skillful questions. And I do believe that taking the journey with someone like @Aurorasa Sima who can demonstrate her abilities via interacting on beBee makes the journey a lot easier. Sometimes, when left to our own devices, we will do everything we can to avoid answering the one question that will unlock our cage.24/10/2016 #36 Harvey Lloyd@Aurorasa Sima I liked the bird cage analagy and would like to reduce the cage to a series of parts. The bottom being our fundamental beliefs, the bars being the emotional concepts that are caging, the roof our belief that we are protected by the entirety of the cage system. What if we took the person and the cage within this metaphor and stuck them on the deserted island. Based on self preservation i would think that the roof would collapse as soon as the bars were recognized as being counter productive to survival.
If the above is true, then we would have to consider why did we build the cage in the first place, within our social setting? This style of comparison usually helps me better retain the right question rather than the right answer. A more challenging question would be who built the cage? myself? or someone else? To answer this one we usually have to inspect what the cages intended purpose was/is. In this we can find our way out.
As usual your posts are stimulating and challenge folks to think.
- Producer21/10/2016Two Destructive Words that Scuttle your Dreams and Goals.Every so often I sit down and take stock of my life. - What’s going well? - What’s not going well? - What do I need to do to fix it? - How do I get those damn squirrels out of my attic? (Real ones, not metaphorical). I...
Comments23/10/2016 #32 Kevin Pashuk#18 Thanks for visiting Ken. One doesn't have to look too far to find things that are broken that need fixing. But the really great changes, the innovative ones, are the ones that blow up the norm... I agree that baby steps are a good approach... but then there's always the bandage analogy... do you rip it off fast, or slow? As far as the Miss World contest... Does the Donald still own that one?22/10/2016 #30 Linda SkarrupI have little patience with the status quo; therefore, I have made many changes in my life that, in the beginning, were uncomfortable/challenging. These days, things are changing at a rate that boggles the mind, particularly as one grows older. I have two questions I always ask myself before embarking on a new (ad)venture: (1) How badly do I want it and (2) in the end will it be of benefit to others. The answer is not always logical/reasonable; most of my decisions are intuitive and heartfelt....
- Producer13/09/2016A World of Uncharted WatersAll waters are uncharted territory.Just because we have a map, it doesn't mean that we've been there before. Someone else's experience may serve as a guide, or plan for us, but is no guarantee of our experience or success.Just because we recall...
Comments21/10/2016 #5 CityVP ManjitDo check out E.F. Schumacher's Guide for the Perplexed. My copy is starting to get old but it is one of those books one can reference over time rather than read cover to cover. Schumacher provides a great map metaphor.
https://www.brainpickings.org/2014/08/05/a-guide-for-the-perplexed-schumacher/18/10/2016 #1 Lisa Gallagher"Just because we have a map doesn't mean we've been there before." Ah, so true @Tony Rossi! Every experience is unique to each individual and how we choose to get from one destination to another, well many times we have to take detours along the way or the path is unknown until we've arrived. Nice buzz and Congrats to you for being named an Ambassador!
- 20/10/2016Couple of weeks back when I was eager to participate in interfatih and religious harmony. organized at Karachi by one of our partners where leaders from different religions, faiths have been invited to share their views for a peaceful humanity.
I was surprised to know that each faith and religion was praising only the way their religion and faith defines how to reach the heaven and avoid fire of hell. while the topic mentioned on banner lagged behind and none of them touched even dared to raise how we can interactively develop the peace through mutual learnins of different religions and faith collecting on same page.
Even though being a social and religious researcher I have gone through books of various faiths and religions and found very fruitful paths which can be utilized to promote the peace and harmony in a balanced religious environment.
The major step needs is only to explore ourselves within inside to find right direction and shake the hands with each other without caste, class, status, faith and religious discrimination to move forward.
- 19/10/2016Thought of the Day! Fear of Failure! Thought of the Day! Fear of Failure! To Your Success with Joe Hicks talks about how you overcome the fear of failure and turn it into...
- Producer17/10/2016Drinking water and Thar womenThar Desert, the 9th largest subtropical desert of the world, is spread over an area of some 200,000 square kilometres between India and Pakistan. On the Indian side it is called the Rajhistan or the Great Indian Desert, while in Pakistan it is...
- 16/10/2016If you feel that people do not care enough about you, the best way to change this is to care about them.
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- Producer16/10/2016I am starting day seven of Emotional Intelligence Training withAurorasa Coachingraising my Emotional Quotient (EQ) for better Relationships, both personal and in salesthrough daily exercises ranging from easy to difficult, but in all cases challenging and rewarding.Give it a...
- 16/10/2016The fear of rejection can lead us to seeing enemies when there are none.
Time for a reminder of my fun rejection game (:
https://www.bebee.com/producer/@aurorasa/play-the-rejection-gamePlay The Rejection Gamewww.bebee.com Hunting Rejection I get out of my car and walk to the USPS office when I see her in front of a Mexican restaurant. She is attractive, middle-aged...
- 16/10/2016Love is making someone feel special about themselves every day. True Love is feeling special about ourselves when we do, taking our pleasure in the others pleasure. Soulmateship is when we do this to each other without a thought, as if it was the most natural thing in the world. First and foremost, to live well and be good people, we need to be our own Soulmate.
- Producer14/10/2016Nothing is True, Everything is Permissible“Everything you know is wrong.” The Firesign Theater If you stop, step back and view the world today from a completely nonpartisan unbiased perspective, the landscape changes. In order to do this, you must assume that the other side is wrong...
Comments15/10/2016 #3 Aurorasa SimaThat must be one of the best articles I read in a while (no offense, many others are super good too). Even isolation would not free you from thought patterns influenced by others. Philosophy can make every answer a neverending spiral, else I´d say isolation in the state of mindfulness is the only way to be free of bias.
- Producer14/10/2016Toxic and destructive people and why I am "missing"The last and next few days are so busy that I cannot spend as much time as I would love to and honor your valuable and often thought-provoking honey. I am doing my best. The last days, I also felt a bit sad and troubled. It happens to the most...
Comments16/10/2016 #58 CityVP ManjitWhen I look at cults I often see the empath attracted by the narcissist because the narcissist has learned to use emotional intelligence findings about human beings as a manipulation of highly empathetic human beings. Later in such groupings where sexual abuse is discovered within the group, a state of denial may exist except in those empaths whose eyes have been opened by pain - that who they trusted and placed their face in was an incarnate of evil, a monster of a human being.
This is where "real life" is about awakening to truths, while facing those truths must not make us lose faith in the idea of humanity. The cold blooded human being will treat emotion as a manipulation rather than a divine gift and those that are most human have emotional energy flowing in abundance - and when that energy is betrayed, when it has been debased and corrupted, they suffer a further emotional wounding - a wounding of trust and faith in people that was most natural to them.
For those who advocate simply forgiveness for emotional scars that will never heal, they are advocates who do not possess high emotional resonance and sensitivity to life that is a felt experience and more importantly they have not experienced even a fraction of 1% of the pain felt by those whose emotions are remain human skin rather than a suit of armor.
This narcissism is just one example of the toxic. David Foster Wallace faced a cynical and self-interest filled world that he never came to terms with, http://pangeaprogress.blogspot.ca/2015/10/david-foster-wallace-on-toxic.html In facing the real, our memories repeat many times, while the offender only needed to cut us once and often not even realize the wound so inflicted.15/10/2016 #51 Mamen Delgado#50 Yes Aurorasa, to admit our potential to grow and the willing to change is the first and essential step to a new life. I have travelled that road, I'm not the one I used to be, so I do know that change is possible as you say at the beginning of your email. It's a bit easier if we find a reason, a powerful reason, to go through that journey.
I found that reason in my oldest daughter. Powerful enough to swim down to darkness and deal with my inner little girl.
I was lucky, still I am, because Life gave that beautiful opportunity to live another life in this one. But not everybody has the chance, or finds his/her POWERFUL reason. And no one can do it for them.15/10/2016 #50 Aurorasa Sima#49 I bet you´d be a great coach with your love for people and live. That was not a coaching client, he offered to do some other work for me. You´re right once more: the people who would need you most will not come.
It´s positive people that admit their potential to grow and are willing to change.15/10/2016 #49 Mamen DelgadoI really admire your job @Aurorasa Sima, some friends tell me I should have studied Coaching or something related to Emotional Therapy but I always think I couldn't deal with negativity and with people I see clearly they don't want to change, it's easier for them to keep in the dark side or in the "poor of me" way of being.
By the way... The best cheese for pizza is clearly grana padano!!! LOL!! 😂15/10/2016 #47 Aurorasa Sima#46 Yes, there is. I told a negative person, respectful and polite, that I do not want to work with them. They then flipped out and started actions that come close to criminal offenses. You´d pity them if they were not targeting you.
It´s just not nice to see crazy up-close or to be forced to deal with negativity. These people are obviously not well. But they overstrain my patience when it comes to my willingness to help.15/10/2016 #46 Robert CormackWe all deal with destructive people, Aurorasa, even when we think we've made "friends." A few years back, I took a serious look at my friendships over the last 40 years. Some have remained around that long. What surprised me was how many had taken our relationship for granted all that time. So I took a lesson from someone who said, "Sometimes even the best of friendships need to be laid to rest." The ones I decided to "lay to rest" probably don't even know. If you don't call them, nothing happens. But I also discovered I don't miss them. I made room for other people, some good, some bad. I've actually made some friendships that are far more rewarding. My novel would never have gotten done without the help of what I'll call "new friends." They've shown themselves to be smart, loyal and incredibly insightful. There's always hope, in other words.
- Producer12/10/2016Nuggets of WisdomI have been honored by a considerable number of comments on my buzzes. Some comments carried gems with them. I extracted some gems and compiled them as Nuggets of Wisdom. I have plans to write Part 2; however I wanted first to probe your...
Comments15/10/2016 #83 AnonymousDear Ali, I am honored to be on your listing, at the look of so much talent and wisdom here, even if my contribution is so small. Wish I would have made more comments to your last posts, but as you already know, I do not use to make comments unless I did not understand firstly, and meditated about the running issue, and it will take some time for me to be capable to understand them, as your posts are lately out of the bounds of my possibilities. Sorry for that.13/10/2016 #78 Ali AnaniClarisse Nigaud
Dr. Anani, your post is appreciated profoundly. Most peoples would go online fishing for ideas, rebuff them and post an article under their names. You show in reverse, appreciate great ideas into a pot of gold! Warm Regards.
This comment was made on G+. I find it very relevant to share here. WE learn and progress by digesting ideas and not by stealing them. I am profoundly grateful to Clarisse as much as I am to everyone of you who helped me move forward. The least I could do is to say thank you and this is the nugget of wisdom that helped me improve.
- 10/10/2016Infront of statue of love that taken thousands of souls only to be exposed on earth. I lodged my complaint...............do you?????
- Producer07/10/2016Can mindfulness change your brain?The effects of meditation on your soulOr how the soul can change your body´s biology Neuroscientists discovered how the "soul" could change the body and help to overcome illness. Meditation, yoga, and positive thinking have been seen as "esoteric...
Comments08/10/2016 #8 Aurorasa Sima#3 Dear David, TCM is extremely interesting, I agree 100 %. It´s amazing how much difference acupuncture or even acupressure can make. Ayurveda, an Indian tradition, is not less fascinating. Beside that they recommend to get up early (ewh!) I apply a good portion of ayurvedic wisdom.
What did you pay for your back treatment? Couple of hundred bucks? I did not know that insurers added TCM to their catalogue. Good for the people and good for cost reduction. Thanks for the tip!08/10/2016 #7 AnonymousYou are wonder full!!!! The here and now is magical and maybe meditation can be personal. Sun, music, and walking has helped me be in 'the trance'... time literally ceased for me 2 yearsish ago. I noticed eventually that I barely notice it passing at all any more. And funny thing, granted from my experiences only, is I've also noticed that this "There is just not as much money in the game." is not necessarily true.... maybe it depends on which game you're playing? In the game of Life, not thinking about money has made me more... that's an energy conversation though, maybe. And yes on pathways. After pulling myself out of the gutter and getting my financial ducks and many other corporeal successes that shocked me once in a row, I was sad. I talked to my mentor about it, she noted I was reforming my neural pathways from the long term practice of failing. That floored me. I'm still working on it. Thanks to you and many others I'm getting there! Imperfect moment by moment.... "stay gold ponyboy".... ;-) Thanks love!07/10/2016 #3 David B. GrinbergExcellent buzz, as usual, @Aurorasa Sima. You present many good suggestions that gel with the theory of "mind over matter." Chinese medicine says a lot about deep breathing and the other techniques you mentioned. Let's remember that American medicine has only been around for 240 years, whereas Chinese medicine has been around for thousands of years. To wit, the phrase, "Ancient Chinese secret." I learned more about all this when I did acupuncture a few years ago with a practitioner from Shanghi who helped relieve pain due to lower back injury.
Yes, it works and is now covered by some big health insurance plans, like Blue Cross/Blue Shield. Finally, for those interested, I recommend the book, "Between Heaven and Earth: A Guide to Chinese Medicine." Perhaps @Dean Owen might have something to say about this per his travels in China.
- 07/10/2016Hurricane Matthew is expected to make landfall on Florida's east coast tonight as a Category 4 storm with winds as high as 145 mph. Some 1.5 million people have already been evacuated from coastal areas of Florida, Georgia and South Carolina.
- 06/10/20165 Misconceptions about Empathygoo.gl The 5 most common false beliefs about Empathy. With pictures of Tony Brandstetter....
Comments06/10/2016 #2 Aurorasa Sima#1 Sure thing. I´ll do several more. At least for one or two I can use more pics from you. Sadly, many are in the wrong format (you know what I mean ... right?). I need wide ones.
I have not looked at all of your collections yet. I´ll also mention them in newsletter, podcast etc.