- Producer19/05/20178.6786° S, 115.4556° EWe are the people who pack an entire suitcase of food when we go on holidays. Its stems from having four babies in under seven years, so our normal was to take everything with us if leaving the house for longer than eight hours. The rational...
- 19/05/2017Now this should be our focus and where our help should come from. Government can't doesn't think like this! So sad. Why can't they do real, helpful things with all our money?This coat changes into a sleeping bag. And changes lives. www.thegrommet.com/the-empowerment-project To help homeless people stay warm in the winter, Veronika Scott created the EMPWR coat. This water-resistant,...
- Producer16/05/2017Mom Was 1 Tough, Loving MotherThe following story was written on Mothers Day by my brother (Charles Lee) who is 66 years old. Fannie was my mother (she passed away in January at 92 years old) who was tough and didn't take crap from no one. She was barely 5 feet tall but...
- Producer05/05/2017Mixed TapeJenny, Natalie, Ashley I was a teenager once. And like you guys, music was an essential part of my growing up. Back then we’d listen to the radio, be sure to watch the weekly episode of Top of the Pops, and guard our precious...
Comments07/05/2017 #19 Dean Owen#10 Oh yes, The Buggles one hit wonder blew us away. Too many one hit wonders. I'll always remember watching the Thriller video for the first time. Those special effects were incredible then, but rewatching it now and it all looks extremely dated. In Japan we were fortunate enough to watch Captain EO, another Michael Jackson video but in 4D that was shown in Disneyland Tokyo.06/05/2017 #17 Brian McKenzie@Dean Owen Great Post ! Weird wired serendipity - I just did a play list from the same era - hard to whittle it down to the key tracks of the era - I see many that could have made it to my post as well.
As a guy that was in the middle of the Gulf War - we rocked the Clash - Rock the Casbah after every pre-flight briefing, before bombing the shit out of what ever was on the target list that night. Screw PC then & now.05/05/2017 #5 Dean Owen#1 Is it an age thing or is the music of this decade just really bad? One day your daughter will look back on her time in the car listening to your music with fond memories. I certainly do when I think about the Dean Martin 8 track my father played over and over in the Caddy.05/05/2017 #3 Chris 🐝 Guest Cert.Prof.Acc.SAWorst thing was when the tape hot stuck on the heads and you had to yank it out destroying all the hard recorded music.Otherwise someone walked in the room and made a noise while you were recording from the radio...completely blew it as the old casette recorders did not have plug in cords! Some great days with boxes and boxes of homemade BASF tapes including all the song names carefully written down.Thanks for bringing back these times !
- Producer02/05/2017Steps in Knowing Which Health Care Plan is Best For YouOne of the top priorities in life should be your health. The best way to secure your health interests is through an insurance policy. The dynamics of choosing a healthcare plan can be complex especially for someone who is doing it for the first...
- Producer30/04/2017To Have and To Hold - The Importance of DadEvery little girl, at some point, dreams of the man she will one day marry. To be honest, she's dreaming about the wedding itself, but to get there she will need to find a man willing to participate in the biggest event of her life.The majority of...
- Producer30/04/2017Avoiding Tears When Teaching a Teenager to DriveWhen you recollect your own memories of learning how to drive, you might remember a great deal of crying. If your friends' kids have started to drive before yours, you may have heard some recent stories about plenty of tears. Instead of allowing...
- Producer29/04/2017Caring for my late PaTwo things dawned on me as I started to read Don 🐝 Kerr's book entitled 'Riding Shotgun'. How little attention is paid to the care givers of people who suffer from terminal illnesses such as cancerHow lost I felt given his condition and no doubt how...
Comments29/04/2017 #3 Cyndi wilkinsI have just lost my father over the holidays @Vincent Andrew...so I 'feel' the emotion of this post with every fiber of my being. Bearing witness to our loved ones in excruciating pain sears a path straight through the heart...embedded forever in our memory. The CFS I have experienced in the last few months made its own way to my physical being after my dad had passed...It was too overwhelming in the end...and our hearts truly bleed with love. In the end, the body will succumb to such enormous stresses, but the love never dies...He is with you always.
- Producer27/04/201710 yearsTen years and one day ago I woke up needing to pee, beating the 4am alarm I’d set the evening before. The combination of butterfly’s in my tummy, tiny feet kicking and the sway of the ship on the ocean made me feel unsteady on my feet. Since the...
- Producer24/04/201710 Rules to Determine Whether Any Relationship Will Steal Your HappinessAn edited version published originally on the Thought Catalog 4/21/17I firmly believe that happiness in life is most affected by the quality of our relationships. We all have a variety of relationships like the ones with casual acquaintances,...
Comments25/04/2017 #31 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee@Matt 🐝 Sweetwood- obviously life taught you lessons the hard way. Your list of when to drop a relationship is comprehensive even though your line "They were robbing me of my time, energy, money, happiness and they were bringing me down" gives adequate guidance.
"...Causes you pain more than 3 times in a month". I smiled reading this because you reminded me that we need a minimum of three points to set a trend (to set a trend. Moreover, you reminded me of the simple rules of 3.
"But it also can happen with the coworker who you have helped repeatedly and when you need them, there is a deafening and hurtful silence". You
It means they don’t have the same values as you, they don’t care what you believe in and can ruin your reputation – or worse. I better forget about these experiences myself. Unfortunately, many people tend to "bite the hand" that helped them.25/04/2017 #29 Franci🐝Eugenia HoffmanOh yes, this is good, @Matt 🐝 Sweetwood. Life is too short to be in a bad relationship. Unfortunately, we don't always realize we're in a bad relationship until it starts to take its toll on us. Even worse, some victims are in denial and can't face the fact they are in a bad relationship. I agree with @Renée 🐝 Cormier, the most important relationship we have is with ourselves.25/04/2017 #26 David B. GrinbergThank you, Matt, for this sage advice. I echo your sentiments and important insights about ridding people from one's life who are toxic and negative, because these types of people only succeed in bringing down others to artificially lift themselves up. Rather, surround yourself by positive role models who support and encourage your biggest dreams and life goals -- however far off or impractical they may appear. We need to recall that impractical does not mean impossible.
Again, kudos Matt on sharing more exemplary and beneficial advice.24/04/2017 #21 Renée 🐝 CormierI truly believe the most important relationship of all, is the one you have with yourself. If you have a strong sense of who you are and love the finished product, no one can really take that away from you. Also, if you truly love and respect yourself, you will find it easy to eliminate disempowering or one way relationships from your life. It is much easier to turn away from negative relationships than to try to make them fit. It is a mistake to believe you can control or change others, and honestly, you shouldn't even want to. It is also a mistake to try to become what someone else wants you to be. All you can really control is the way you view the world around you and what you give permission for in your life. Over recent years, I have systematically rid myself of people who add no value to my life. I find the older I get, the less willing I am to put up with bull shit. When I was young, I had all the energy in the world for it, but it brought me a tremendous amount of pain. I know better now. :)24/04/2017 #20 Harvey Lloyd#19 Without the risk we have met a relationship that will not carry us anywhere. One of the attributes of BeBee is the fact that relationships are challenging. I am exposed with each comment to risk that sharpens my thoughts. You are one of those relationships. Thanks @Sara Jacobovici24/04/2017 #18 Mamen 🐝 DelgadoWoww... This doesn't sound to me as an extensive list, it sounds more like the Ten Commandments to be a happy and (above all) healthy person.
I've been applying all those rules in my life during a long time till now, and I can say at this very moment, I feel free of those energy drainers, black holes of energy. It is a question of health. And my health and the health of my loved ones is above all. Absolutely!!
Thanks for this Producer @Matt 🐝 Sweetwood and for the tag. Huge hug full of white and shared energy!!! ✨24/04/2017 #17 Harvey LloydMost relationships fail due to unmet expectations. Whether through comparison of past relationships or our own self evolved expectations. I don't think expectations are bad in general, but to have a relationship will require growth on both parties past their expectations.
Relationships represent risk. I can't know what i don't know before entering. There are some clarifying observations that may help discern entering, but if we have gotten to this stage of consideration, my assumption is that the return is seen as mutual. Marriage is a different set of guidelines as it typically elevates past just relational risk and gets deeper. But relationships will go as far as they go.
We are looking to engage or managing engagement, each represents effort in growth.24/04/2017 #15 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#14 Well, this is an interesting UNINTENDED feature of non-collaborative buzzes. We really do have a hive mind, even when writing in isolated, non-connected comment boxes, the ways in which we are all here, for a reason, participating in building something that may truly contribute to making the world a more collaborative place.
Plus, I really value your additional perspective, Sara - because when we find ourselves with these types of relationships that aren't serving us, there is very often a root cause or a similar pattern in our childhood that is begging to be examined, understood, and released. Bad relationships happen to good people because they feel similar in some way to an earlier attachment.
- Producer23/04/2017Where do we go from here?To all those who have grown their children, when they finally start their own lives, it uses to come to this question. Growing a child or more it’s a lifetime hard work which can lead us to a huge emptiness once is done, if we forget some undeniable...
Comments23/04/2017 #19 Anonymous#18 Isn't it sad when you see them they are going to be in trouble due to their own fault, and you must hold back? To let them learn from their own mistakes?
I find this the worst part, as before they get hurt, I already can feel in advance the pain they are inevitably going to feel...but one has tightened hands and has to even silence the "told you so's" and much more.
I can tell you are a loving father.23/04/2017 #18 Harvey LloydEmpty nest is certainly one of the major epoch journeys of our existence. The transition from "parent" to friend is difficult, but a worthy journey. You thought the teenage years were the most difficult. The hardest thing i have ever done as a parent was not during the years of parenting, but holding back all the "I told you so's". Allowing the grown children to find life on their own experiences.
Every once in a while we get to laugh about an "i told you so" because they bring it up.
Great thoughts23/04/2017 #15 Anonymous#10 As long as your wife gets on with it, I can tell you, these can be you real "golden years", with the wisdom of experience and still the power to do things....
Did you have a look at another post related to it? https://www.bebee.com/producer/@david-navarro-lopez/get-started-adding-life-to-years
I am sure you will enjoy it too23/04/2017 #12 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#5 Grandchildren add another layer to our lives and if we remember we are the grandparents (here to enjoy, not raise kids anymore) the time is so precious and the kids seem to have more innocence than I was able to appreciate while raising my kids if that makes sense?23/04/2017 #11 Lisa 🐝 GallagherExcellent topic @David Navarro López! I did wait until my children grew up and put my life on hold to a certain degree. It wasn't intentional but it sure can cause some setbacks. We have come to realize that we come first, their lives come first for them and so on. Sometimes we get so caught up in raising our children that we lose our individuality. I haven't heard that song by Alan Parsons in ages, great song! Thanks for the tag @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee23/04/2017 #8 Mamen 🐝 DelgadoThat's a very interesting question @David Navarro López, and I would even add where do we go when our children are growing up...
The answer to this question will give a path to follow in our future. I see friends around, specially mommies, that put her lives apart while raising children, focusing all her energy in the babies and kids.
The future will bring a mirror to face ourselves and we will pick up what we have harvested.
Thanks for the music, love Alan Parsons!!23/04/2017 #6 Anonymous#4 Vincent, this is precisely what I did. When my daughter married, then I looked for a job abroad, and moved here to Germany, working in my passion, packaging machinery. And it is one of the best things I ever did. My colleagues use to ask why am I so happy while working, and I use to answer...I am not working anymore, I am retired, and developing my hobby...only that I get very well paid for it (LOL)23/04/2017 #5 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee"It is us who need to figure out how we are going to spend our lives after being parents.
Because this is the most important last lesson we can give our children".
Our children shall then experience the same once they have grown up and have children. In our societies family ties are still strong (even though weaker than before). However; what a great question to ask @David Navarro López. We plan for retirement, but we don't plan for the "retirement of children responsibility.
I invite dear @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher to comment because she is enjoying her grandchildren.23/04/2017 #4 Vincent Andrew"Where do we go from here now that all of the children have grown up" An inevitable question that my wife and I will face starting with our oldest daughter who'll be graduating from university this year. In all honesty I would like to go abroad again to work and to open a new chapter. I want to see the world. I want to go on a pilgrimage. I want to play musical instruments again and take up the piano or violin. My wife has her plans and as individuals we have our own interests to pursue. Thanks @David Navarro López for writing this reflective piece.23/04/2017 #2 Katja BaderI agree with you very much. When we educate children, we have not to give up ourselves. I think it´s important for a child not to see us only as parents but as passionate people that do what they love, too. Lots of parents are always searching for resamblance of their own selfs in their children. They try to transfer their own wishes and fondness to the children. But in my opinion one base of education is to discover the special person with his own special wishes and fondness in the children. And to promote them. So the child is able to go its own and independent way one day that will make it happy.
- Producer21/04/2017One time, at band camp...Ok. It wasn't band camp. It was my year nine school camp. Things happened. SO many things happened that shifted my very monochrome 14 year old perspective to a kaleidoscopic upbeat, life is amazing! kind of view.Firstly, I got to leave home for a...
- Producer18/04/20175 Things to Consider When Buying a Used CarThinking about buying a car? What about buying a used car? There are many factors to consider when used car shopping. From the car’s history to financing and the overall negotiation, it can be tricky if you don’t know what you’re doing or what to...
- Producer18/04/2017Teen Memories #1She is sitting off to one side, I think, so she can see whats going on but also not to be noticed. She doesn't ask questions, nods when necessary and appears at the door beside or behind someone, never alone, but appears to loiter near the...
- Producer03/04/2017Dealing with Financial Income Inequality in MarriageOne of the things that put a huge strain in relationships is fights over money. When couples go in for therapy, one of the things that they cite as a cause for problems is money. This claim is backed by a research conducted by SunTrust, which shows...
Comments03/04/2017 #1 Harvey LloydFinance is one of the greatest influences on relationships. Most of the time because of assumptions. We have hosted several Dave Ramsey Financial Peace group sessions where dialogue and budgets meet reality. These sessions were some of the funniest marriage conversations we ever heard.
Finance usually meets living on love in humorous and disastrous ways.
- Producer31/03/2017Safe guarding your loved ones from cyber crimeNowadays nearly every person - young and old has or has access to a smart phone, tablet or personal computer. For most people, the advent of technology is a beautiful thing and truly makes their lives easier. However, with all good comes the bad and...
- Producer16/03/2017Yes, Doctors Do Make Mistakes- He Missed The Nodule!I've been hesitating about writing this story because I've written so much about my mom over the past year and a half. I decided it's OK to write again because she was a major force in my life for over 50 years. We don't forget a loved one that...
Comments19/03/2017 #26 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#25 Hi Skip, many Doctors are not assholes. We are all going to run across a few, it's up to the 'consumer' to do their homework, speak up (have an advocate) present etc... I'm sorry you had such a bad experience and I'm glad to hear you are healthy now. My sister is a 10 year survivor of breast cancer and the heavy duty medications saved her life.
To each their own with alternative stuff. You must sell Shaklee? It's been around for a long time. Thanks for your comment!18/03/2017 #25 Skip SteinSO sorry to hear about your Mom. My Dad died of Prostate cancer about 10 years ago. Doctors are basically assholes! First they are like robots and most don't give a damn about anything but a paid invoice. When I was diagnosed with prostate cancer (like father, like son...) it was a horrendous experience and NOT just because they said I was dying! The assholes tried and tried to get me accept diabolical/barbaric 'treatments' that were often worse than my cancer. They said I was too fat for surgery (boy was I then!) so radiation and a bunch of other crap was forced on me; but I told them ALL to go to hell. They said I only had 3 years if I refused their 'treatments' and maybe 5 if I accepted the crap they offered.
Well it's no EIGHT years and I'm a healthy, mostly fit, 70+ year old fart; alive and kicking an healthier NOW than I was at 40 (or younger). I was fortunate to have discovered, while researching my Fathers cancer, that there were ALTERNATIVES to the traditional crap most doctors force upon patients; basically Treating them to DEATH.
Don't let the bastards in the medical industry get to you. Most are quacks, drug pushers and profit from pain and suffering. Learn to LIVE and Survive. You may not CURE yourself but it's a damned site better than the side effects of chemo and radiation/surgery. Everyone need to CHOOSE what they will do and sometimes go against the flow. I did and it worked. I hope it would work for others too. My full story is on my web site: http://prostatecancerfight.com/.
If YOU or a loved one has cancer (or any other lifestyle disease) I am available to talk/listen and maybe help.
Paying it Forward
Orlando, Florida17/03/2017 #24 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#21 Thanks @Ian Weinberg. Yes, I realize Doctors are only human and imperfect like the rest of us. I must say I worked with many Doctors and although this particular Doctor was nice, I think he was a bit lazy and didn't follow up with his own notes. It wasn't the first time he let her down but she liked his demeanor and kept going back. We would have never sued him even if she hadn't changed her mind. That was a mistake that was maybe missed by the Office staff and finding that type of cancer earlier would not have saved my mom. She had small cell lung cancer.
I have a lot of respect for Doctors, they have a tough job and I believe most of them go above and beyond the call of duty. My husband has a few Doctors in Pittsburgh who even give their cell phone numbers to him and have emailed as well when there has been a problem. So, I don't want others to think I feel all doctors are irresponsible (I can't even say if her doctor was, maybe he was just very liberal with her)?? Thanks for commenting, I appreciate it!17/03/2017 #23 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#20 Hi @Glenn Melcher, I'm sorry your mom went through something similar. Yes, my mom had a compassionate heart and she did give others the benefit of doubt. Even when she brought up suing the Doctor, we all knew she was very upset with her diagnosis. Sadly, even if her cancer had been detected back in January, there was still nothing they could have done to save her because it was a terminal cancer w/out a cure. Maybe she was afforded more time because they didn't begin other treatments earlier on that might have been tougher on her.
I see so many families that do fight and don't have good relationships and that is very sad. I'm forever thankful that somehow my mom made sure we all got along and forgive easily, that's a legacy within itself. She was different from me in other ways. She was very crafty, I am not LOL. Thanks so much for your comment!17/03/2017 #21 Ian WeinbergDoctors try to carry out the requirements of their vocation to the best of their abilities. But they are only human, working within imperfect systems that are invariably over-subscribed. Yes there are some 'bad eggs' among us, but for the most part, medical and para-medical staff are decent people who aspire to making people well. But then there is a greater reality beyond our control ... Condolences @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher on your loss.17/03/2017 #20 Glenn MelcherYour words resonate with so many Lisa : My Mother who is over 80 years old would have had the identical exchange with her Physician.. The words you share about Your Mother in that she always gave People the benefit of the doubt is a true testament to her "amazing Heart condition"..
If it is such that by sharing we can make one Life better even if for only the moment.
The World we be a better place.. Thank You for sharing as you do.. I am certain by have read many of Your insights You have the same "Amazing Heart condition" as Your Mother..17/03/2017 #15 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#11 Hi @Tausif Mundrawala, the memories of being there with her and for her are for the most, heart warming. I treasure that we did have that time. I wish I could have used a recorder to enunciate her voice (it was actually quite funny) after the fact. I never saw her so upset with me but it was fear, she really wasn't mad AT me. I'm glad you enjoyed this, that was my hope.. I didn't write it to depress anyone :))17/03/2017 #14 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#10 Hi @David B. Grinberg, that had to be hard being in ICU w/your dad. I'm glad you were there to over see medications etc... Nurses and Doctors get so busy, errors do happen easily and one error you don't want when you have a loved one dying is to have them suffer because someone forgot their pain medication. Thanks for your kind words! I'm sure you still miss your dad very much, he couldn't have been too old when he passed?16/03/2017 #11 Tausif MundrawalaI know how you might have felt while hearing that word. I agree with you that we should never leave our ill loved ones unattended. More than the diagnosis they need us more. That is the moment where they need special attention and care. If not words than our magical touch does wonders. How privileged you are that you got the opportunity to nurse and take care of your mom.
Our values and virtues speaks ton about us and I highly regard you in that aspect. I do respect you in all aspects but being a family person is something different. I liked your buzz in its entirety, @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher.16/03/2017 #10 David B. GrinbergLisa, your mother was a real saint and I'm very sorry again for your loss. Moreover, I'm sure all of her fine qualities are shining through you -- per your many wonderful attributes and character traits.
It's true that doctors are neither gods nor are they infallible, as you demonstrate. I recall being by my father's side in the ICU before he passed away. I always made sure the nurses were giving him the appropriate medication to ease his pain and suffering. Our parents were there for us as children and now it's time for us to be there for them as adults as they live through their "Golden Years." You are most certainly a role model in this respect and so many others, Lisa.
Thanks for all YOU do!
- 12/03/2017My first article on Thriveglobal.
cc: @🐝 Fatima G. Williams @Ivette K. Caballero @Javier 🐝 beBee @Pamela 🐝 Williams and thank you @David B. Grinberg for sharing yesterday!Her Life as Cinderellajournal.thriveglobal.com Surviving...
Comments19/03/2017 #14 David B. Grinberg#12 @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher I would say that five recommendations or more on Thrive for any article is above average compared to the content of others on the platform. Thus, any post with 10 or more recs and several comments is considered high engagement for Thrive, which -- like Medium -- is more reader centric compared to beBee, for instance. That's why engagement, or lack thereof, is relative to the specific site. Your posts have done well in this regard, Lisa👏👏 Just compare to most other content there.12/03/2017 #12 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#9 #10 I noticed the engagement is low @David B. Grinberg, there are a few who seem to have high engagement but must be recognized writers? I appreciate the recommends/shares I got thanks to you and a few others! I had no idea the editors do editing on the headline, lead photo etc.., that's good to know! That may be why I wasn't able to use my header photo as my header. Thanks!
- 12/03/2017John Rosemond: Your kids should not be the most importantlacrossetribune.com I recently asked a married couple who have three kids, none of whom are yet teens, “Who are the most important people in your...
- Producer10/03/2017Buying a Home in Arlington Texas? Other Expenses You Should Know AboutSituated in North Texas in the heart of the Dallas-Fort Worth metroplex, Arlington is a town that holds great appeal for those relocating to the area. The U.S. Census Bureau indicates that almost 400,000 residents call this town home, and it has...
- Producer07/03/2017My Sister, My Rock... Live Like You Were DyingOver the past few months or so I have been feeling frustrated because it seems I may have a herniated disc in my neck. The pain has been a bit overwhelming. But, I had an "Aha" moment. My sister came to mind. You're probably wondering why my sister...
Comments15/03/2017 #39 Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman#38 I can't imagine how hard it is - everyone handles their illnesses in their own way and those around them sometimes find it hard to cope and understand how to act and what to do. Even though there are difficult times in your family, you have each other and seem very close. That's a wonderful thing.15/03/2017 #38 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#37 My sister just shared with me recently that she suffers from Anxiety and this may have been her way of protecting her fears... sort of isolating. I think when some people face such grave illnesses they retreat and others prefer to have people around depending on how they feel physically. My sister has a wonderful husband and I believe she felt safe with just having him and the kids around so she could be herself if that makes sense? I can't imagine all the crying she did because she tends to hide her tears from everyone. She's got a tough exterior but many times those who appear tough on the outside could be melting on the inside. All these experiences have taught me so much more. I have to admit I felt very sad when we were told we couldn't come by for so long but I get it now, I really do! It wasn't about any of us.15/03/2017 #35 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#34 Thanks @Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman. I have to say, I heard of so many kids who my niece met during her time with cancer and becoming a Camp Counselor afterwards, she lost friends. I can't imagine how that affected such a young child. My inspiration comes from her and others. Hugs for you Xo14/03/2017 #32 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#31 Hi @Donna-Luisa Eversley, thanks and likewise, your stories inspire me too! I'm happy my niece is doing okay too! Everytime she gets sick (to this day) my sister still gets nervous if it's something that seems a bit from the norm, I would too!! I pray it never returns. My sister and I had a great time that day. I still have those sandals, they are my favorite and very comfortable because they have cushioned soles. Thanks Donna!!14/03/2017 #31 Donna-Luisa Eversley@Lisa 🐝 Gallagher I'm always inspired when I read from you. The stories of resilience and courage are very inspiring. Glad your niece is okay. The photo of you are your sis is very beautiful. On a very frivolous note I like your slippers in that photo :-) Thanks for sharing!13/03/2017 #30 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#29 I honestly don't know if I would have the strength or courage to fight as hard as my sister or niece. It's been said, you never know how you will deal with something unless or until you are faced with it. I can say one thing for sure- all of these serious issues brought us all closer together. I think it really made us realize just how fortunate we are to have a large family who forgives easily and loves unconditionally. We are far from perfect but I love that we can admit that to each other and live in the present! Thanks @🐝 Fatima G. Williams12/03/2017 #29 🐝 Fatima G. WilliamsYour family and you are fighters @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher Fighters against the odds life throws at us. You guys are an inspiration and I thank you for sharing your journey with them. Life's battles are like waves that keep coming back, we need to learn the art of swimming against those waves and surf above them. Live each day as if it were your last and cherish every person you meet as we know not if we'd meet each again.Some valuable lessons to appreciate each moment we live and to appreciate ourselves. With a beautiful and kind heart such as yours (family) nothing can drown you guys. Stay blessed and wishing you a speedy recovery with your neck pain.09/03/2017 #25 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#24 Hi @Aleta Curry, thank you for your kind sentiment. I find it easy to be supportive. I've watched so many I love go through so much and all I can think is- what would I want if that were me?! I've always loved being there for others and helping since I was a child. I'm hoping this neck of mine just heals LOL. I try to ignore it but now my husband is begging me to go to the Dr. I don't make a good patient ;-)09/03/2017 #24 Aleta CurryOh my goodness, @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher, that was so moving I hardly know what to say. What you neglected to write was what an incredibly supportive person you are yourself. I hope the prognosis for your neck turns out to be excellent, and yet I know you won't crumble if it isn't. Thank you for a very evocative post.08/03/2017 #23 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#21 Hi Shelly, thanks for your kind words. I think my entire family has their days where any one of us may complain but it seems each of us find a way of lifting the other up and my mom was also one who never complained. She used to say, "What do I have to complain about, it could be so much worse... " And, then she would speak of someone else who had an illness. I guess she set the tone! It's odd because when we were growing up it wasn't as if we weren't allowed to cry or complain, I think maturation and life just made us look at things differently. I can't imagine being bedridden with MS or any disease and when I hear stories like that I think to myself.. I bet I would feel bad for myself but then, we just never know? That must be tough on Rikki, your neighbor, hopefully she has a great support system?! Hey I love your pic, your rockin it!08/03/2017 #21 Shelley BrownBeautifully written. You and your family are amazing. I can feel your spirit through your words Lisa. You and your family are not survivors, you are thrivers! Important lesson for all of us and usually learned when it hits close to home. My neighbor, Rikki, has MS and is totally house bound and can no longer walk or take care of herself. She never complains nor says "Why me"? Every time I want to complain I think "Rikki". I am sorry about your neck. Pain is pain. Lisa, you are inspiring.
- Producer03/03/2017Three Generations: The Power of CourageEva is my grandmother's name and Martha is my mom's name, they're mother and daughter. Both of them have been very influential in my life, directly and indirectly. I like to watch to learn, and I've tremendously benefited from doing this throughout...
Comments07/03/2017 #36 🐝 Fatima G. Williams#16 @Milos Djukic My FFF. I'm sorry I'm missed replying to this comment I wanted too. Zora is a very beautiful name and I can imagine how pretty your Mom was considering you are so handsome. She has raised righteous, kind and intelligent son. A man of values and brains 😃. May her soul rest in peace as she smiles down on us all.
Mom and Fractals-forever ❤07/03/2017 #35 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#28 So true @Ivette K. Caballero, moms do love unconditionally :)) When my daughter was a teen and into her early 20's, she said so many things I was certain she hated me. I was strict with her and have no regrets. The point, I never held anything she said against her because my love for her is so much deeper. We are best friends today and she's 29. I'm thankful for her!! Glad you enjoyed my honestly LOL. I can't sew either. I can sew hems but I hate doing that too ;-)07/03/2017 #31 Ivette K. Caballero@Mamen 🐝 Delgado It's so great to know of another lady whose grandmother taught her how to knit, thank you Mamen for sharing this part of your life. It's great to know that my story filled you up with great emotions and brought back good memories and feelings to you. Yes, I am very blessed to have these wonderful women in my life. Thank you, once again, @Milos Djukic for being the marvelous messenger that you are!07/03/2017 #29 Ivette K. Caballero#16 @Milos Djukic What a wonderful way to honor your mom! I really like her name, Zora. Milos, I am so sorry about your loss. In simple, yet powerful words, you express what a wonderful woman and mother she was, which speaks volumes about the kind of person you are. You're a poet!07/03/2017 #28 Ivette K. Caballero@Lisa 🐝 Gallagher I believe that every person has their "would've, could've, should've." We are imperfectly perfect human beings. I've also said things to my mom, things that I regret. Though as you say Lisa, "what matters most is that your mom knows how much you love her." I love this part you wrote: "Our bond was enough that I knew she not only forgave but let it go. That's love at it's truest essence, forgiving, forgetting and moving on." Moms are beautifully gifted to love unconditionally.
My mom knows how to knit too, though she prefers to buy things from a lady who's extremely skillful, and fast, at knitting. "I CANT DO THIS and I DON'T LIKE IT!," I can picture this scenario Lisa :) It's cute in a way. Not all of us have patience for all tedious tasks, I have patience for some and not for others. I am grateful for having you in my network, you're very sincere, sweet, and supportive.06/03/2017 #24 Ivette K. Caballero#11 @Max🐝 J. Carter It's true, "Letting go of the past and embracing the now are not easy. We let go of one view and embrace another. That is what drives the emotion." This is something to reflect on. We can all make progress in life if we are open and willing to break old and negative thinking and bad habits.
+206/03/2017 #23 Ivette K. Caballero#9 @David B. Grinberg I agree. Part of the the circle of life is learning and sharing, and sharing and learning from others; all which adds value to our lives. I'm so grateful for having amazing people in my network, people like you and each person who have read and commented on this story. We can't achieve much alone. We need to share what we know, we need to extend a helping hand, we need to encourage and inspire others; that's how we grow and become individuals who help our society be a better one. Again, thank you for the warm welcome and for your uplifting words.06/03/2017 #22 Ivette K. Caballero#1 @David B. Grinberg Thank you David for sharing your insights about the society norms that marginalized women at that time. Times have changed and women have definitely more opportunities to raise their children while also having a full or part time job. However, you're right, women still face discrimination of all sorts at the workplace, and outside of it as well. This is why is so important that we keep learning to stay informed about our rights. Knowledge and a support system play a key role. Thanks for the reminder about "Women's History Month" this month in the USA. I appreciate your genuine and insightful feedback. I learn from reading your comments :)06/03/2017 #21 Sarah ElkinsNo kidding: "We have mom and daughter issues like all moms and daughters do. That's the fun part about it... well, not so fun sometimes." And yet, what we learn about life from our mothers is absolutely priceless. Wonderful share, @Ivette K. Caballero View moreNo kidding: "We have mom and daughter issues like all moms and daughters do. That's the fun part about it... well, not so fun sometimes." And yet, what we learn about life from our mothers is absolutely priceless. Wonderful share, @Ivette K. Caballero, thank you. And thanks to @Milos Djukic for tagging me. Close05/03/2017 #18 Mamen 🐝 DelgadoDear @Ivette K. Caballero, this is such a beautiful tribute, and has filled me up with great emotions.
My grandmother taught me how to knit as well. 😉
Thanks so much for bringing back those memories and feelings, you made my day. And I feel you are (as I am in my side) very very lucky to have these two extraordinary women as a reference. 💫
Thanks @Milos Djukic for bringing my attention to this marvelous Producer. 😘
- Producer26/02/2017How I Welcomed 2017: Las Vegas, Family, and 20 Valuable Things I LearnedHi everyone! This is my first time sharing something about me on beBee and I look forward to getting to know more about you and experiencing a positive learning and sharing experience with all of you. Happy 2017! I was blessed to have an amazing...
Comments28/02/2017 #44 Ivette K. Caballero#43 @Irene 🐝 Rodriguez Escolar Estoy completamente de acuerdo contigo. Siempre hay algo por lo cual estar agradecidos aun cuando las cosas sean dificiles. Un dia de estos voy a contar la historia de cuando mi padre tenia una granja de abejas y como mi mama y yo ayudabamos a embotellar la miel. Saludos!28/02/2017 #35 Ivette K. Caballero#33 @@Tausif Mundrawala Yes, it is a blessing to have a caring, loving, and supporting family... and of course, I can share more about Salvadorian food in another story. Having lived in Los Angeles, CA for almost half of my life provided me with the experience of enjoying many types of food. LA is a fusion of people from all over the world and so local cuisine is very diverse.28/02/2017 #34 Ivette K. Caballero#31 @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee Thanks for your genuine compliment and for your support. Indeed, my uncle has helped his entire family and relatives --from parents to siblings to nephews/nieces to his wife's extended family and relatives, and many more. He's not rich, he's not highly educated, he doesn't have a powerful network, but he's very hardworking, supporting and caring, and he gives of what he has--and all from the heart and without expecting anything in return. Without a doubt, my uncle is richer in heart and more valuable than people who have much to share and many resources to help and yet they are selfish. My uncle has contributed to making the life of those he loves more meaningful. I can go on and on about the amazing person that my uncle is. I will write more about in future stories.27/02/2017 #33 Tausif MundrawalaIt's a privilege to have a wonderful family and people who values it knows its significance more than anyone else. You took us to the detour of Las Vegas and then introduced us to your extended family which was indeed a wonderful experience. I would love to read about Salvadorian food in your next buzz as I have heard about it for the very first time. Thanks for sharing this buzz with us, @Ivette K. Caballero27/02/2017 #31 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBeeDear @Ivette K. Caballero- you are a born storyteller. Honestly, I read your post with great passion anticipation to know why you loved your uncle so much. It is a touching buzz and restores the need of family bonding. I loved these lines " My family is very important to me. We aren't a perfect family, though we are stronger together than divided. Love feeds and sustains our lives. Although we may not always be together physically, we are always united through love". It is about time we follow your 20 recommendations. Shared27/02/2017 #27 Ivette K. Caballero#16 @Milos Djukic I am speechless. When I read each of your comments, I feel so encouraged and lifted up. I also feel like I am reading poetry in a very simple and powerful way. Thanks a million Milos for being you and for being an inspiration to me and many more. "I love your lessons in human-centred leadership," I will always remember these words from you. Fractals forever :)27/02/2017 #25 Ivette K. Caballero#14 @David B. Grinberg Your words are always so well seasoned and encouraging. I am also thrilled to have joined beBee. My experience so far has been wonderful here. You're right, things are much more different here in many positive ways. I am very happy about the way I have been welcomed, this speaks volumes about this social platform. It also makes me think of something you wrote in one of your posts, "Don't put all of your eggs in one social platform." It's true, it's so effective to diversify. I also look forward to having the opportunity to meet all of you. Happy Monday!
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- Producer18/02/2017The Critical Importance Of Family In Today’s World of WeirdnessAs many of you know I have just lost a part of my immediate family. My brother-in law (sans the in-law), Bob Twidle.Yesterday my sister Sharon, Bob’s wife, came over and picked up my wife Heather who is going to stay with her for a couple of days,...
Comments20/02/2017 #13 CityVP 🐝 Manjit"Because a family is the core energy unit of the universe." That is the greatest single line that any human being can speak and is privileged to know. I was in a hotel in Belgium that faced what was clearly the National Stadium of the Belgium football team and its name was the King Baudouin Stadium. It was just a curiousity that my hotel was opposite it.
It is when I took a walk and there was a tram line next to it, that I saw the station name "Heysel". I never connected the two but now I had realized that this was the Heysel Stadium were so many Italian football fans died. The stadium had been rebuilt and now they called it King Baudouin Stadium. From that moment, the stadium I saw from hotel window had a totally different meaning.
Soccer is a tribal thing, but death brings everything down to brass tacks. There was a European final that should have been a showpiece game but crowd disturbance between Liverpool and Juventus supporters led to a poorly designed stadium becoming a death-trap and many Juventus supporters were crushed to death on that day. It is not as if this tragedy was simply an Italian one, immediately the game of football was immaterial, it was the loved one's lost that were important.
Unfortunately tragedy struck Liverpool supporters years later in a FA Cup match in Hillsborough :
So began a long fight for justice for the Hillsborough tragedy families and a 27 year struggle for truth
They were vindicated but what can never be brought back are the individual family members. It showed to me, that for all we talk about tribal this and social that - each of those lost loved one's mattered and everything else was secondary.
Family matters.18/02/2017 #9 🐝 Fatima G. WilliamsIt’s your tribe and as long as they are together, you know you feel complete.
What a beautiful way to emphasise the importance of family and yes No matter what family comes first and just being with them makes us feel complete. They complete the reason for our existence.
My heart goes out to you @Jim Murray I cannot tell you I know you feel because I believe Noone can ! I know that you are the only comforter to yourself. But I would say that You make beBee a better place for many and you are loved by all.
Praying for your family and you during this difficult time. Much love to all !18/02/2017 #7 David B. GrinbergJim, again please accept my most heartfelt sympathy for your loss. I lost my father several years ago, with whom I had an extremely close lifelong bond. He always took care of me and had my back growing up and even thereafter. Thus, when his health began failing, I moved him -- at his request and my urging -- from the many mediocre hospitals of South Florida to one of the world's best hospital near me. I got him into a special geriatric unit at Johns Hopkins Hospital in Baltimore. Perhaps I'll write about this at length in my own post at some point. But my point here is that, like so many, I know the hollow feeling of loss and feel for you during such a difficult time. Again, please know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers -- and that of so many other bees, I'm sure. God Bless You, Jim. You are a wise man, outstanding writer and communicator, and an overall good soul. In short, YOU make beBee a better place for all. Lastly, I would reiterate what you wrote above for everyone to ponder:
"In today’s ‘divide and conquer’ world there are so many forces working to divide us. Ideologically, by religion, by race, by ethnicity and by ‘have and have not’ standards.
And many people fall prey to these forces, all of which, at their root, are powered by hate and the need to make us dependent on a system and not each other."18/02/2017 #2 Gerald HechtIt's incomprehensibly weird when the death arrives and one sees the chain of family swinging...dangling; all links are vital and when we lose one; things are never gonna be what they were --the (for me) weirdest part in the immediate aftermath are the sounds of people's "well mannered utterances" of condolence...the fact is that it just sucks...and the chain of family is dangling ...and vulnerable.18/02/2017 #1 Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee"This love is the room that’s always there for kids to sleep in. This love is the ride to wherever anybody really needs to go. This love is the bail money, you get by hook or by crook. This love is the feeling you get when your family is all in one place together, just being with each other." So beautifully put... Thanks for your thoughts.