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  1. ProducerDavid Navarro L贸pez
    Where do we go from here?
    Where do we go from here?To all those who have grown their children, when they finally start their own lives, it uses to come to this question. Growing a child or more it鈥檚 a lifetime hard work which can lead us to a huge emptiness once is done, if we forget some undeniable...
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    Ali Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    23/04/2017 #9 Ali Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    #7 I always enjoy your thoughts and "adding life to years". Yes, the exchange of comments with you always adds "life to my years".
    Mamen 馃悵 Delgado
    23/04/2017 #8 Mamen 馃悵 Delgado
    That's a very interesting question @David Navarro L贸pez, and I would even add where do we go when our children are growing up...
    The answer to this question will give a path to follow in our future. I see friends around, specially mommies, that put her lives apart while raising children, focusing all her energy in the babies and kids.
    The future will bring a mirror to face ourselves and we will pick up what we have harvested.
    Thanks for the music, love Alan Parsons!!
    David Navarro L贸pez
    23/04/2017 #7 Anonymous
    #5 Yes dear Ali, this is one of the reasons why I did write this post and another you have already seen, https://www.bebee.com/producer/@david-navarro-lopez/get-started-adding-life-to-years
    David Navarro L贸pez
    23/04/2017 #6 Anonymous
    #4 Vincent, this is precisely what I did. When my daughter married, then I looked for a job abroad, and moved here to Germany, working in my passion, packaging machinery. And it is one of the best things I ever did. My colleagues use to ask why am I so happy while working, and I use to answer...I am not working anymore, I am retired, and developing my hobby...only that I get very well paid for it (LOL)
    Ali Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    23/04/2017 #5 Ali Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    "It is us who need to figure out how we are going to spend our lives after being parents.
    Because this is the most important last lesson we can give our children".
    Our children shall then experience the same once they have grown up and have children. In our societies family ties are still strong (even though weaker than before). However; what a great question to ask @David Navarro L贸pez. We plan for retirement, but we don't plan for the "retirement of children responsibility.
    I invite dear @Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher to comment because she is enjoying her grandchildren.
    Vincent Andrew
    23/04/2017 #4 Vincent Andrew
    "Where do we go from here now that all of the children have grown up" An inevitable question that my wife and I will face starting with our oldest daughter who'll be graduating from university this year. In all honesty I would like to go abroad again to work and to open a new chapter. I want to see the world. I want to go on a pilgrimage. I want to play musical instruments again and take up the piano or violin. My wife has her plans and as individuals we have our own interests to pursue. Thanks @David Navarro L贸pez for writing this reflective piece.
    馃悵 Fatima G. Williams
    23/04/2017 #3 馃悵 Fatima G. Williams
    Beautiful message @David Navarro L贸pez

    It is us who need to figure out how we are going to spend our lives. Love it.
    Katja Bader
    23/04/2017 #2 Katja Bader
    I agree with you very much. When we educate children, we have not to give up ourselves. I think it麓s important for a child not to see us only as parents but as passionate people that do what they love, too. Lots of parents are always searching for resamblance of their own selfs in their children. They try to transfer their own wishes and fondness to the children. But in my opinion one base of education is to discover the special person with his own special wishes and fondness in the children. And to promote them. So the child is able to go its own and independent way one day that will make it happy.
    David Navarro L贸pez
    23/04/2017 #1 Anonymous
    @Sara Jacobovici I am sure you will like this buzz
  2. ProducerTani Paxton

    Tani Paxton

    21/04/2017
    One time, at band camp...
    One time, at band camp...Ok. It wasn't band camp. It was my year nine school camp. Things happened. SO many things happened that shifted my very monochrome 14 year old perspective to a kaleidoscopic upbeat, life is amazing! kind of view.Firstly, I got to leave home for a...
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    Tani Paxton
    22/04/2017 #2 Tani Paxton
    #1 That is cute @Dean Owen. I live in a very female dominated home but I'll tell you farts and poo stories get the most giggles!
    Dean Owen
    22/04/2017 #1 Dean Owen
    Just today my daughter taught me the Chinese word for fart - fanpi ! Kinda cute.....
  3. ProducerAngela Pattridge
    5 Things to Consider When Buying a Used Car
    5 Things to Consider When Buying a Used CarThinking about buying a car? What about buying a used car? There are many factors to consider when used car shopping. From the car鈥檚 history to financing and the overall negotiation, it can be tricky if you don鈥檛 know what you鈥檙e doing or what to...
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  4. ProducerTani Paxton

    Tani Paxton

    18/04/2017
    Teen Memories #1
    Teen Memories #1She is sitting off to one side, I think, so she can see whats going on but also not to be noticed. She doesn't ask questions, nods when necessary and appears at the door beside or behind someone, never alone, but appears to loiter near the...
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  5. ProducerCraig Middleton

    Craig Middleton

    03/04/2017
    Dealing with Financial Income Inequality in Marriage
    Dealing with Financial Income Inequality in MarriageOne of the things that put a huge strain in relationships is fights over money. When couples go in for therapy, one of the things that they cite as a cause for problems is money. This claim is backed by a research conducted by SunTrust, which shows...
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    Harvey Lloyd
    03/04/2017 #1 Harvey Lloyd
    Finance is one of the greatest influences on relationships. Most of the time because of assumptions. We have hosted several Dave Ramsey Financial Peace group sessions where dialogue and budgets meet reality. These sessions were some of the funniest marriage conversations we ever heard.

    Finance usually meets living on love in humorous and disastrous ways.
  6. ProducerMikkie Mills

    Mikkie Mills

    31/03/2017
    Safe guarding your loved ones from cyber crime
    Safe guarding your loved ones from cyber crimeNowadays nearly every person - young and old has or has access to a smart phone, tablet or personal computer. For most people, the advent of technology is a beautiful thing and truly makes their lives easier. However, with all good comes the bad and...
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  7. ProducerLisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    Yes, Doctors Do Make Mistakes- He Missed The Nodule!
    Yes, Doctors Do Make Mistakes- He Missed The Nodule!I've been hesitating about writing this story because I've written so much about my mom over the past year and a half. I decided it's OK to write again because she was a major force in my life for over 50 years. We don't forget a loved one that...
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    Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    19/03/2017 #26 Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    #25 Hi Skip, many Doctors are not assholes. We are all going to run across a few, it's up to the 'consumer' to do their homework, speak up (have an advocate) present etc... I'm sorry you had such a bad experience and I'm glad to hear you are healthy now. My sister is a 10 year survivor of breast cancer and the heavy duty medications saved her life.

    To each their own with alternative stuff. You must sell Shaklee? It's been around for a long time. Thanks for your comment!
    Skip Stein
    18/03/2017 #25 Skip Stein
    SO sorry to hear about your Mom. My Dad died of Prostate cancer about 10 years ago. Doctors are basically assholes! First they are like robots and most don't give a damn about anything but a paid invoice. When I was diagnosed with prostate cancer (like father, like son...) it was a horrendous experience and NOT just because they said I was dying! The assholes tried and tried to get me accept diabolical/barbaric 'treatments' that were often worse than my cancer. They said I was too fat for surgery (boy was I then!) so radiation and a bunch of other crap was forced on me; but I told them ALL to go to hell. They said I only had 3 years if I refused their 'treatments' and maybe 5 if I accepted the crap they offered.

    Well it's no EIGHT years and I'm a healthy, mostly fit, 70+ year old fart; alive and kicking an healthier NOW than I was at 40 (or younger). I was fortunate to have discovered, while researching my Fathers cancer, that there were ALTERNATIVES to the traditional crap most doctors force upon patients; basically Treating them to DEATH.

    Don't let the bastards in the medical industry get to you. Most are quacks, drug pushers and profit from pain and suffering. Learn to LIVE and Survive. You may not CURE yourself but it's a damned site better than the side effects of chemo and radiation/surgery. Everyone need to CHOOSE what they will do and sometimes go against the flow. I did and it worked. I hope it would work for others too. My full story is on my web site: http://prostatecancerfight.com/.

    If YOU or a loved one has cancer (or any other lifestyle disease) I am available to talk/listen and maybe help.

    Cheers,

    Skip Stein
    Paying it Forward
    Orlando, Florida
    Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    17/03/2017 #24 Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    #21 Thanks @Ian Weinberg. Yes, I realize Doctors are only human and imperfect like the rest of us. I must say I worked with many Doctors and although this particular Doctor was nice, I think he was a bit lazy and didn't follow up with his own notes. It wasn't the first time he let her down but she liked his demeanor and kept going back. We would have never sued him even if she hadn't changed her mind. That was a mistake that was maybe missed by the Office staff and finding that type of cancer earlier would not have saved my mom. She had small cell lung cancer.

    I have a lot of respect for Doctors, they have a tough job and I believe most of them go above and beyond the call of duty. My husband has a few Doctors in Pittsburgh who even give their cell phone numbers to him and have emailed as well when there has been a problem. So, I don't want others to think I feel all doctors are irresponsible (I can't even say if her doctor was, maybe he was just very liberal with her)?? Thanks for commenting, I appreciate it!
    Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    17/03/2017 #23 Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    #20 Hi @Glenn Melcher, I'm sorry your mom went through something similar. Yes, my mom had a compassionate heart and she did give others the benefit of doubt. Even when she brought up suing the Doctor, we all knew she was very upset with her diagnosis. Sadly, even if her cancer had been detected back in January, there was still nothing they could have done to save her because it was a terminal cancer w/out a cure. Maybe she was afforded more time because they didn't begin other treatments earlier on that might have been tougher on her.

    I see so many families that do fight and don't have good relationships and that is very sad. I'm forever thankful that somehow my mom made sure we all got along and forgive easily, that's a legacy within itself. She was different from me in other ways. She was very crafty, I am not LOL. Thanks so much for your comment!
    Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    17/03/2017 #22 Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    #19 Thanks @Tausif Mundrawala, I'm glad my personal stories are helpful to others, that's always my hope when I share!
    Ian Weinberg
    17/03/2017 #21 Ian Weinberg
    Doctors try to carry out the requirements of their vocation to the best of their abilities. But they are only human, working within imperfect systems that are invariably over-subscribed. Yes there are some 'bad eggs' among us, but for the most part, medical and para-medical staff are decent people who aspire to making people well. But then there is a greater reality beyond our control ... Condolences @Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher on your loss.
    Glenn Melcher
    17/03/2017 #20 Glenn Melcher
    Your words resonate with so many Lisa : My Mother who is over 80 years old would have had the identical exchange with her Physician.. The words you share about Your Mother in that she always gave People the benefit of the doubt is a true testament to her "amazing Heart condition"..

    If it is such that by sharing we can make one Life better even if for only the moment.

    The World we be a better place.. Thank You for sharing as you do.. I am certain by have read many of Your insights You have the same "Amazing Heart condition" as Your Mother..
    Tausif Mundrawala
    17/03/2017 #19 Tausif Mundrawala
    #15 You don't have any idea how this type of writing help millions to cope with the same predicament. I am glad that you share your personal experiences with everyone with a heal touch in it.
    @Julio Angel 馃悵Lopez Lopez
    17/03/2017 #16 @Julio Angel 馃悵Lopez Lopez
    Words from the heart, thanks @Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    17/03/2017 #15 Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    #11 Hi @Tausif Mundrawala, the memories of being there with her and for her are for the most, heart warming. I treasure that we did have that time. I wish I could have used a recorder to enunciate her voice (it was actually quite funny) after the fact. I never saw her so upset with me but it was fear, she really wasn't mad AT me. I'm glad you enjoyed this, that was my hope.. I didn't write it to depress anyone :))
    Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    17/03/2017 #14 Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    #10 Hi @David B. Grinberg, that had to be hard being in ICU w/your dad. I'm glad you were there to over see medications etc... Nurses and Doctors get so busy, errors do happen easily and one error you don't want when you have a loved one dying is to have them suffer because someone forgot their pain medication. Thanks for your kind words! I'm sure you still miss your dad very much, he couldn't have been too old when he passed?
    Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    17/03/2017 #13 Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    #6 I wouldn't even want to put any energy into it. I've seen a few people sue for much more extreme reasons and it was an emotionally hard and long process. We all chalked it up to human error. But, it was frustrating to say the least.
    Franci馃悵Eugenia Hoffman
    17/03/2017 #12 Franci馃悵Eugenia Hoffman
    This is hard to read because I was a victim of a wrong diagnosis a few times. Mine was simple compared to my om because no one seems to understand mental illness. The medical profession can be on your side some of the time but not all of the time.
    Tausif Mundrawala
    16/03/2017 #11 Tausif Mundrawala
    I know how you might have felt while hearing that word. I agree with you that we should never leave our ill loved ones unattended. More than the diagnosis they need us more. That is the moment where they need special attention and care. If not words than our magical touch does wonders. How privileged you are that you got the opportunity to nurse and take care of your mom.

    Our values and virtues speaks ton about us and I highly regard you in that aspect. I do respect you in all aspects but being a family person is something different. I liked your buzz in its entirety, @Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher.
    David B. Grinberg
    16/03/2017 #10 David B. Grinberg
    Lisa, your mother was a real saint and I'm very sorry again for your loss. Moreover, I'm sure all of her fine qualities are shining through you -- per your many wonderful attributes and character traits.
    It's true that doctors are neither gods nor are they infallible, as you demonstrate. I recall being by my father's side in the ICU before he passed away. I always made sure the nurses were giving him the appropriate medication to ease his pain and suffering. Our parents were there for us as children and now it's time for us to be there for them as adults as they live through their "Golden Years." You are most certainly a role model in this respect and so many others, Lisa.
    Thanks for all YOU do!
    Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    16/03/2017 #9 Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    #4 Thanks for your comment @debasish majumder. Some mistakes are a given, others due to being irresponsible or they are just too busy and miss things.
    Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    16/03/2017 #8 Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    #3 I'm so sorry @Pascal Derrien! Yes, mistakes are common. I'm glad the second hospital caught it. Will keep her and your family in my thoughts/prayers!
    Joyce 馃悵 Bowen   Brand Ambassador @ beBee
    16/03/2017 #6 Joyce 馃悵 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee
    I tried to sue a dr after my MS had been missed for years. It's harder than you think.
  8. Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    My first article on Thriveglobal.
    cc: @馃悵 Fatima G. Williams @Ivette K. Caballero @Javier 馃悵 beBee @Pamela 馃悵 Williams and thank you @David B. Grinberg for sharing yesterday!
    Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    Her Life as Cinderella
    journal.thriveglobal.com Surviving...
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    Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    20/03/2017 #15 Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    #14 That's encouraging to know David, thanks for sharing!!
    David B. Grinberg
    19/03/2017 #14 David B. Grinberg
    #12 @Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher I would say that five recommendations or more on Thrive for any article is above average compared to the content of others on the platform. Thus, any post with 10 or more recs and several comments is considered high engagement for Thrive, which -- like Medium -- is more reader centric compared to beBee, for instance. That's why engagement, or lack thereof, is relative to the specific site. Your posts have done well in this regard, Lisa馃憦馃憦 Just compare to most other content there.
    馃悵 Fatima G. Williams
    19/03/2017 #13 馃悵 Fatima G. Williams
    A fantabulous read. Did anyone miss reading this.
    Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    12/03/2017 #12 Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    #9 #10 I noticed the engagement is low @David B. Grinberg, there are a few who seem to have high engagement but must be recognized writers? I appreciate the recommends/shares I got thanks to you and a few others! I had no idea the editors do editing on the headline, lead photo etc.., that's good to know! That may be why I wasn't able to use my header photo as my header. Thanks!
    Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    12/03/2017 #11 Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    #8 Thanks @Susan 馃悵 Rooks and I really appreciated your comment there! :)
    David B. Grinberg
    12/03/2017 #10 David B. Grinberg
    #1 Lisa, I've noticed that the editors at Thrive actually do some editing on posts, especially the headline, subhead and lead photo/image. I think they like to pick their own photo/image at the top. Thus, don't worry about it.
    David B. Grinberg
    12/03/2017 #9 David B. Grinberg
    Kudos, Lisa. I think Thrive is a great platform for you to cross-channel pollinate. Just keep in mind that, like Medium, engagement is low. Thus, receiving even a few recs or comments on your post is more than most are lucky to get.
    Susan 馃悵 Rooks
    12/03/2017 #8 Susan 馃悵 Rooks
    So glad to see you on ThriveGlobal, @Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher! And wonderful article, as I mentioned there.
    Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    12/03/2017 #7 Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    #6 Thanks so much @Javier 馃悵 beBee!
    Javier 馃悵 beBee
    12/03/2017 #6 Javier 馃悵 beBee
    This is great @Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher. I ALWAYS appreciate your contributions. Your attitude is amazing !!! Go bees !
    Joyce 馃悵 Bowen   Brand Ambassador @ beBee
    12/03/2017 #4 Joyce 馃悵 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee
    Absolutely beautiful. Grats.
    Pamela 馃悵 Williams
    12/03/2017 #2 Pamela 馃悵 Williams
    Congrats on the publication Lisa! This is awesome
    Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    12/03/2017 #1 Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    David, @Susan 馃悵 Rooks, @Sarah Elkins or @Marietta Gentles Crawford, I put up a header photo but this meme defaulted as my header? I tried to remove it but it gave me no options to remove? Any suggestions?
  9. Joyce Redlon

    Joyce Redlon

    12/03/2017
    Joyce Redlon
    John Rosemond: Your kids should not be the most important
    lacrossetribune.com I recently asked a married couple who have three kids, none of whom are yet teens, 鈥淲ho are the most important people in your...
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  10. ProducerMikkie Mills

    Mikkie Mills

    10/03/2017
    Buying a Home in Arlington Texas? Other Expenses You Should Know About
    Buying a Home in Arlington Texas? Other Expenses You Should Know AboutSituated in North Texas in the heart of the Dallas-Fort Worth metroplex, Arlington is a town that holds great appeal for those relocating to the area. The U.S. Census Bureau indicates that almost 400,000 residents call this town home, and it has...
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  11. ProducerLisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    My Sister, My Rock... Live Like You Were Dying
    My Sister, My Rock... Live Like You Were DyingOver the past few聽months or so I have been feeling frustrated because it seems I may have a herniated disc in my neck. The pain has been a bit overwhelming. But, I had an "Aha" moment. 聽My sister came to mind. You're probably wondering why my sister...
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    Franci馃悵Eugenia Hoffman
    15/03/2017 #39 Franci馃悵Eugenia Hoffman
    #38 I can't imagine how hard it is - everyone handles their illnesses in their own way and those around them sometimes find it hard to cope and understand how to act and what to do. Even though there are difficult times in your family, you have each other and seem very close. That's a wonderful thing.
    Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    15/03/2017 #38 Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    #37 My sister just shared with me recently that she suffers from Anxiety and this may have been her way of protecting her fears... sort of isolating. I think when some people face such grave illnesses they retreat and others prefer to have people around depending on how they feel physically. My sister has a wonderful husband and I believe she felt safe with just having him and the kids around so she could be herself if that makes sense? I can't imagine all the crying she did because she tends to hide her tears from everyone. She's got a tough exterior but many times those who appear tough on the outside could be melting on the inside. All these experiences have taught me so much more. I have to admit I felt very sad when we were told we couldn't come by for so long but I get it now, I really do! It wasn't about any of us.
    Franci馃悵Eugenia Hoffman
    15/03/2017 #37 Franci馃悵Eugenia Hoffman
    #35 People are hard to understand at times. Perhaps, they just don't know how to act around those with illnesses or are in pain.
    Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    15/03/2017 #36 Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    Thanks for sharing @Franci馃悵Eugenia Hoffman! :))
    Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    15/03/2017 #35 Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    #34 Thanks @Franci馃悵Eugenia Hoffman. I have to say, I heard of so many kids who my niece met during her time with cancer and becoming a Camp Counselor afterwards, she lost friends. I can't imagine how that affected such a young child. My inspiration comes from her and others. Hugs for you Xo
    Franci馃悵Eugenia Hoffman
    14/03/2017 #34 Franci馃悵Eugenia Hoffman
    Oh my, Lisa, you are inspirational. I can't imagine how you and your family have endured so many issues. Love and light to you and your family.
    Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    14/03/2017 #33 Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    Thanks for sharing @Donna-Luisa Eversley! :))
    Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    14/03/2017 #32 Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    #31 Hi @Donna-Luisa Eversley, thanks and likewise, your stories inspire me too! I'm happy my niece is doing okay too! Everytime she gets sick (to this day) my sister still gets nervous if it's something that seems a bit from the norm, I would too!! I pray it never returns. My sister and I had a great time that day. I still have those sandals, they are my favorite and very comfortable because they have cushioned soles. Thanks Donna!!
    Donna-Luisa Eversley
    14/03/2017 #31 Donna-Luisa Eversley
    @Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher I'm always inspired when I read from you. The stories of resilience and courage are very inspiring. Glad your niece is okay. The photo of you are your sis is very beautiful. On a very frivolous note I like your slippers in that photo :-) Thanks for sharing!
    Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    13/03/2017 #30 Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    #29 I honestly don't know if I would have the strength or courage to fight as hard as my sister or niece. It's been said, you never know how you will deal with something unless or until you are faced with it. I can say one thing for sure- all of these serious issues brought us all closer together. I think it really made us realize just how fortunate we are to have a large family who forgives easily and loves unconditionally. We are far from perfect but I love that we can admit that to each other and live in the present! Thanks @馃悵 Fatima G. Williams
    馃悵 Fatima G. Williams
    12/03/2017 #29 馃悵 Fatima G. Williams
    Your family and you are fighters @Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher Fighters against the odds life throws at us. You guys are an inspiration and I thank you for sharing your journey with them. Life's battles are like waves that keep coming back, we need to learn the art of swimming against those waves and surf above them. Live each day as if it were your last and cherish every person you meet as we know not if we'd meet each again.Some valuable lessons to appreciate each moment we live and to appreciate ourselves. With a beautiful and kind heart such as yours (family) nothing can drown you guys. Stay blessed and wishing you a speedy recovery with your neck pain.
    Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    12/03/2017 #28 Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    #27 ditto, if I miss something please tag me 馃槝
    馃悵 Fatima G. Williams
    11/03/2017 #27 馃悵 Fatima G. Williams
    Anything for you :) :)
    Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    11/03/2017 #26 Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    Thank you for sharing my buzz @馃悵 Fatima G. Williams! 馃槝
    Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    09/03/2017 #25 Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    #24 Hi @Aleta Curry, thank you for your kind sentiment. I find it easy to be supportive. I've watched so many I love go through so much and all I can think is- what would I want if that were me?! I've always loved being there for others and helping since I was a child. I'm hoping this neck of mine just heals LOL. I try to ignore it but now my husband is begging me to go to the Dr. I don't make a good patient ;-)
    Aleta Curry
    09/03/2017 #24 Aleta Curry
    Oh my goodness, @Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher, that was so moving I hardly know what to say. What you neglected to write was what an incredibly supportive person you are yourself. I hope the prognosis for your neck turns out to be excellent, and yet I know you won't crumble if it isn't. Thank you for a very evocative post.
    Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    08/03/2017 #23 Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    #21 Hi Shelly, thanks for your kind words. I think my entire family has their days where any one of us may complain but it seems each of us find a way of lifting the other up and my mom was also one who never complained. She used to say, "What do I have to complain about, it could be so much worse... " And, then she would speak of someone else who had an illness. I guess she set the tone! It's odd because when we were growing up it wasn't as if we weren't allowed to cry or complain, I think maturation and life just made us look at things differently. I can't imagine being bedridden with MS or any disease and when I hear stories like that I think to myself.. I bet I would feel bad for myself but then, we just never know? That must be tough on Rikki, your neighbor, hopefully she has a great support system?! Hey I love your pic, your rockin it!
    Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    08/03/2017 #22 Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    #9 @Don 馃悵 Kerr, I meant to add that I admire you!
    Shelley Brown
    08/03/2017 #21 Shelley Brown
    Beautifully written. You and your family are amazing. I can feel your spirit through your words Lisa. You and your family are not survivors, you are thrivers! Important lesson for all of us and usually learned when it hits close to home. My neighbor, Rikki, has MS and is totally house bound and can no longer walk or take care of herself. She never complains nor says "Why me"? Every time I want to complain I think "Rikki". I am sorry about your neck. Pain is pain. Lisa, you are inspiring.
    Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    08/03/2017 #20 Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    Thank you very much for sharing my buzz @debasish majumder!
  12. ProducerIvette K. Caballero
    Three Generations: The Power of Courage
    Three Generations: The Power of CourageEva is my grandmother's name and Martha is my mom's name, they're mother and daughter. Both of them have been very influential in my life, directly and indirectly. I like to watch to learn, and I've tremendously benefited from doing this throughout...
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    Ivette K. Caballero
    09/03/2017 #38 Ivette K. Caballero
    #37 You're welcome @Milos Djukic.
    Milos Djukic
    08/03/2017 #37 Anonymous
    #29 #36 Thanks so much dear @Ivette K. Caballero and @馃悵 Fatima G. Williams :)
    馃悵 Fatima G. Williams
    07/03/2017 #36 馃悵 Fatima G. Williams
    #16 @Milos Djukic My FFF. I'm sorry I'm missed replying to this comment I wanted too. Zora is a very beautiful name and I can imagine how pretty your Mom was considering you are so handsome. She has raised righteous, kind and intelligent son. A man of values and brains 馃槂. May her soul rest in peace as she smiles down on us all.
    Mom and Fractals-forever 鉂
    Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    07/03/2017 #35 Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    #28 So true @Ivette K. Caballero, moms do love unconditionally :)) When my daughter was a teen and into her early 20's, she said so many things I was certain she hated me. I was strict with her and have no regrets. The point, I never held anything she said against her because my love for her is so much deeper. We are best friends today and she's 29. I'm thankful for her!! Glad you enjoyed my honestly LOL. I can't sew either. I can sew hems but I hate doing that too ;-)
    Ivette K. Caballero
    07/03/2017 #34 Ivette K. Caballero
    #21 @Sarah Elkins Love the words you wrote: "What we learn about life from our mothers is absolutely priceless." Thank you for enriching my story with your words. Thank you @Milos Djukic for sharing my story. Blessings!
    Ivette K. Caballero
    07/03/2017 #33 Ivette K. Caballero
    @馃悵 Fatima G. Williams I appreciate your kind words. Thank you @Milos Djukic for spreading my story. Blessings!
    Ivette K. Caballero
    07/03/2017 #31 Ivette K. Caballero
    @Mamen 馃悵 Delgado It's so great to know of another lady whose grandmother taught her how to knit, thank you Mamen for sharing this part of your life. It's great to know that my story filled you up with great emotions and brought back good memories and feelings to you. Yes, I am very blessed to have these wonderful women in my life. Thank you, once again, @Milos Djukic for being the marvelous messenger that you are!
    Ivette K. Caballero
    07/03/2017 #30 Ivette K. Caballero
    #17 @Ali Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee Thank you Ali for your uplifting words, I value them. I thank you @Milos Djukic for being the messenger and spreading this story to others.
    Ivette K. Caballero
    07/03/2017 #29 Ivette K. Caballero
    #16 @Milos Djukic What a wonderful way to honor your mom! I really like her name, Zora. Milos, I am so sorry about your loss. In simple, yet powerful words, you express what a wonderful woman and mother she was, which speaks volumes about the kind of person you are. You're a poet!
    Ivette K. Caballero
    07/03/2017 #28 Ivette K. Caballero
    @Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher I believe that every person has their "would've, could've, should've." We are imperfectly perfect human beings. I've also said things to my mom, things that I regret. Though as you say Lisa, "what matters most is that your mom knows how much you love her." I love this part you wrote: "Our bond was enough that I knew she not only forgave but let it go. That's love at it's truest essence, forgiving, forgetting and moving on." Moms are beautifully gifted to love unconditionally.

    My mom knows how to knit too, though she prefers to buy things from a lady who's extremely skillful, and fast, at knitting. "I CANT DO THIS and I DON'T LIKE IT!," I can picture this scenario Lisa :) It's cute in a way. Not all of us have patience for all tedious tasks, I have patience for some and not for others. I am grateful for having you in my network, you're very sincere, sweet, and supportive.
    Ivette K. Caballero
    06/03/2017 #27 Ivette K. Caballero
    #14 @Pascal Derrien "We have to embrace what we have and let go of the past." I agree. Living in the past prevents from fully living in the present. Thank you for sharing your thoughts about my story.
    Ivette K. Caballero
    06/03/2017 #26 Ivette K. Caballero
    #13 @Milos Djukic Thank you for spreading this story. You're super!
    Ivette K. Caballero
    06/03/2017 #25 Ivette K. Caballero
    #12 @Milos Djukic You're very welcome! :)
    Ivette K. Caballero
    06/03/2017 #24 Ivette K. Caballero
    #11 @Max馃悵 J. Carter It's true, "Letting go of the past and embracing the now are not easy. We let go of one view and embrace another. That is what drives the emotion." This is something to reflect on. We can all make progress in life if we are open and willing to break old and negative thinking and bad habits.

    +2
    Ivette K. Caballero
    06/03/2017 #23 Ivette K. Caballero
    #9 @David B. Grinberg I agree. Part of the the circle of life is learning and sharing, and sharing and learning from others; all which adds value to our lives. I'm so grateful for having amazing people in my network, people like you and each person who have read and commented on this story. We can't achieve much alone. We need to share what we know, we need to extend a helping hand, we need to encourage and inspire others; that's how we grow and become individuals who help our society be a better one. Again, thank you for the warm welcome and for your uplifting words.
    Ivette K. Caballero
    06/03/2017 #22 Ivette K. Caballero
    #1 @David B. Grinberg Thank you David for sharing your insights about the society norms that marginalized women at that time. Times have changed and women have definitely more opportunities to raise their children while also having a full or part time job. However, you're right, women still face discrimination of all sorts at the workplace, and outside of it as well. This is why is so important that we keep learning to stay informed about our rights. Knowledge and a support system play a key role. Thanks for the reminder about "Women's History Month" this month in the USA. I appreciate your genuine and insightful feedback. I learn from reading your comments :)
    Sarah Elkins
    06/03/2017 #21 Sarah Elkins
    No kidding: "We have mom and daughter issues like all moms and daughters do. That's the fun part about it... well, not so fun sometimes." And yet, what we learn about life from our mothers is absolutely priceless. Wonderful share, @Ivette K. Caballero View more
    No kidding: "We have mom and daughter issues like all moms and daughters do. That's the fun part about it... well, not so fun sometimes." And yet, what we learn about life from our mothers is absolutely priceless. Wonderful share, @Ivette K. Caballero, thank you. And thanks to @Milos Djukic for tagging me. Close
    Juan Imaz
    06/03/2017 #20 Juan Imaz
    thanks for publishing @Ivette K. Caballero!
    馃悵 Fatima G. Williams
    05/03/2017 #19 馃悵 Fatima G. Williams
    #13 Thank you for the Tag @Milos Djukic This is a very beautiful tribute about the power our moms and grandparents have on us in life. Love the buzz with alot of warm feelings. Thanks @Ivette K. Caballero
    Mamen 馃悵 Delgado
    05/03/2017 #18 Mamen 馃悵 Delgado
    Dear @Ivette K. Caballero, this is such a beautiful tribute, and has filled me up with great emotions.
    My grandmother taught me how to knit as well. 馃槈
    Thanks so much for bringing back those memories and feelings, you made my day. And I feel you are (as I am in my side) very very lucky to have these two extraordinary women as a reference. 馃挮
    Thanks @Milos Djukic for bringing my attention to this marvelous Producer. 馃槝
  13. ProducerIvette K. Caballero
    How I Welcomed 2017: Las Vegas, Family, and 20 Valuable Things I Learned
    How I Welcomed 2017: Las Vegas, Family, and 20 Valuable Things I LearnedHi everyone! This is my first time sharing something about me on beBee and I look forward to getting to know more about you and experiencing a positive learning and sharing experience with all of you. Happy 2017! I was blessed to have an amazing...
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    Irene 馃悵 Rodriguez Escolar
    28/02/2017 #45 Irene 馃悵 Rodriguez Escolar
    #44 Esperando ese dulce art铆culo nos dejas.
    Ivette K. Caballero
    28/02/2017 #44 Ivette K. Caballero
    #43 @Irene 馃悵 Rodriguez Escolar Estoy completamente de acuerdo contigo. Siempre hay algo por lo cual estar agradecidos aun cuando las cosas sean dificiles. Un dia de estos voy a contar la historia de cuando mi padre tenia una granja de abejas y como mi mama y yo ayudabamos a embotellar la miel. Saludos!
    Irene 馃悵 Rodriguez Escolar
    28/02/2017 #43 Irene 馃悵 Rodriguez Escolar
    Exacto hay que hacer grandes los peque帽os momentos, y valorar cada peque帽o y bu茅n gesto, una sonrisa, un abrazo, un beso...
    De las adversidades se aprende y ayudan a valorarlo.
    A producir mi茅l abejita 馃槈
    Ivette K. Caballero
    28/02/2017 #42 Ivette K. Caballero
    @@Irene 馃悵 Rodriguez Escolar Muchas gracias por la cordial bienvenida. I appreciate your feedback. It's true "anytime is a good time to be together."
    Irene 馃悵 Rodriguez Escolar
    28/02/2017 #41 Irene 馃悵 Rodriguez Escolar
    Entra帽able story, I miss being able to spend time like this. Any time is good to be together.
    Welcome, we'll see you flying through the hives.
    Milos Djukic
    28/02/2017 #40 Anonymous
    #39 @Ivette K. Caballero, I have not the slightest doubt, that you will be a great ambassador. just like @Lada 馃彙 Prkic.
    Ivette K. Caballero
    28/02/2017 #39 Ivette K. Caballero
    #37 @John White, MBA Completely true. I'm very happy for the amazing response I've received so far and for the sincere and warm welcome. Wowza! My experience here has surpassed my expectations. I am ready to be an ambassador.
    Milos Djukic
    28/02/2017 #38 Anonymous
    #37 Wowza! @John White, MBA :))
    John White, MBA
    28/02/2017 #37 John White, MBA
    Wowza! Great response from the hive to your first post @Ivette K. Caballero.
    Franci馃悵Eugenia Hoffman
    28/02/2017 #36 Franci馃悵Eugenia Hoffman
    A lovely story and thank you for sharing part of you, Ivette. Families spending time together is worth every second. You are truly blessed with a beautiful family and your ability to share your lovely story.
    Ivette K. Caballero
    28/02/2017 #35 Ivette K. Caballero
    #33 @@Tausif Mundrawala Yes, it is a blessing to have a caring, loving, and supporting family... and of course, I can share more about Salvadorian food in another story. Having lived in Los Angeles, CA for almost half of my life provided me with the experience of enjoying many types of food. LA is a fusion of people from all over the world and so local cuisine is very diverse.
    Ivette K. Caballero
    28/02/2017 #34 Ivette K. Caballero
    #31 @Ali Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee Thanks for your genuine compliment and for your support. Indeed, my uncle has helped his entire family and relatives --from parents to siblings to nephews/nieces to his wife's extended family and relatives, and many more. He's not rich, he's not highly educated, he doesn't have a powerful network, but he's very hardworking, supporting and caring, and he gives of what he has--and all from the heart and without expecting anything in return. Without a doubt, my uncle is richer in heart and more valuable than people who have much to share and many resources to help and yet they are selfish. My uncle has contributed to making the life of those he loves more meaningful. I can go on and on about the amazing person that my uncle is. I will write more about in future stories.
    Tausif Mundrawala
    27/02/2017 #33 Tausif Mundrawala
    It's a privilege to have a wonderful family and people who values it knows its significance more than anyone else. You took us to the detour of Las Vegas and then introduced us to your extended family which was indeed a wonderful experience. I would love to read about Salvadorian food in your next buzz as I have heard about it for the very first time. Thanks for sharing this buzz with us, @Ivette K. Caballero
    Ali Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    27/02/2017 #31 Ali Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    Dear @Ivette K. Caballero- you are a born storyteller. Honestly, I read your post with great passion anticipation to know why you loved your uncle so much. It is a touching buzz and restores the need of family bonding. I loved these lines " My family is very important to me. We aren't a perfect family, though we are stronger together than divided. Love feeds and sustains our lives. Although we may not always be together physically, we are always united through love". It is about time we follow your 20 recommendations. Shared
    Ivette K. Caballero
    27/02/2017 #30 Ivette K. Caballero
    #29 Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher Thanks! I truly feel that people are more of themselves here. I am glad I made the decision to join. Have a wonderful evening!
    Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    27/02/2017 #29 Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    #28 Happy Monday to you too, @Ivette K. Caballero! I'm glad you feel the positivity on here. I honestly love this network- so many new people have been joining; never a loss of reading material, help, etc.. Enjoy your evening :))
    Ivette K. Caballero
    27/02/2017 #28 Ivette K. Caballero
    #17 @Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher It's great to be here with people who are such a positive and encouraging source like you. I agree with you, values are very important; and respect, inclusiveness, and listening are key. Happy Monday!
    Ivette K. Caballero
    27/02/2017 #27 Ivette K. Caballero
    #16 @Milos Djukic I am speechless. When I read each of your comments, I feel so encouraged and lifted up. I also feel like I am reading poetry in a very simple and powerful way. Thanks a million Milos for being you and for being an inspiration to me and many more. "I love your lessons in human-centred leadership," I will always remember these words from you. Fractals forever :)
    Ivette K. Caballero
    27/02/2017 #26 Ivette K. Caballero
    #15 @Susan 馃悵 Rooks Thank your charming welcoming!
    Ivette K. Caballero
    27/02/2017 #25 Ivette K. Caballero
    #14 @David B. Grinberg Your words are always so well seasoned and encouraging. I am also thrilled to have joined beBee. My experience so far has been wonderful here. You're right, things are much more different here in many positive ways. I am very happy about the way I have been welcomed, this speaks volumes about this social platform. It also makes me think of something you wrote in one of your posts, "Don't put all of your eggs in one social platform." It's true, it's so effective to diversify. I also look forward to having the opportunity to meet all of you. Happy Monday!
  14. ProducerLinda Gimmeson

    Linda Gimmeson

    26/02/2017
    5 Potential Careers Military Spouses Should Consider
    5 Potential Careers Military Spouses Should ConsiderAre you wondering what direction to take your career? As a military spouse, you may be concerned about the limitations you face and finding the right educational path. There are many possible career options for military spouses. No matter what your...
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  15. ProducerJim Murray

    Jim Murray

    18/02/2017
    The Critical Importance Of Family In Today鈥檚 World of Weirdness
    The Critical Importance Of Family In Today鈥檚 World of WeirdnessAs many of you know I have just lost a part of my immediate family. My brother-in law (sans the in-law), Bob Twidle.Yesterday my sister Sharon, Bob鈥檚 wife, came over and picked up my wife Heather who is going to stay with her for a couple of days,...
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    Robert Cormack
    20/02/2017 #17 Robert Cormack
    Nice thoughts,@Jim Murray. Agree totally.
    Donald 馃悵 Grandy
    20/02/2017 #16 Donald 馃悵 Grandy
    Thank you for sharing @Jim Murray. Beautiful thoughts and reflections.
    Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    20/02/2017 #15 Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    Beautiful family @Jim Murray and love is the greatest asset/gift we could ever receive on planet earth. Sending good thoughts during this difficult time to you and your family.
    Milos Djukic
    20/02/2017 #14 Anonymous
    Thank you @Jim Murray!
    CityVP 馃悵 Manjit
    20/02/2017 #13 CityVP 馃悵 Manjit
    "Because a family is the core energy unit of the universe." That is the greatest single line that any human being can speak and is privileged to know. I was in a hotel in Belgium that faced what was clearly the National Stadium of the Belgium football team and its name was the King Baudouin Stadium. It was just a curiousity that my hotel was opposite it.

    It is when I took a walk and there was a tram line next to it, that I saw the station name "Heysel". I never connected the two but now I had realized that this was the Heysel Stadium were so many Italian football fans died. The stadium had been rebuilt and now they called it King Baudouin Stadium. From that moment, the stadium I saw from hotel window had a totally different meaning.

    Soccer is a tribal thing, but death brings everything down to brass tacks. There was a European final that should have been a showpiece game but crowd disturbance between Liverpool and Juventus supporters led to a poorly designed stadium becoming a death-trap and many Juventus supporters were crushed to death on that day. It is not as if this tragedy was simply an Italian one, immediately the game of football was immaterial, it was the loved one's lost that were important.

    Unfortunately tragedy struck Liverpool supporters years later in a FA Cup match in Hillsborough :

    So began a long fight for justice for the Hillsborough tragedy families and a 27 year struggle for truth
    https://www.theguardian.com/football/2016/apr/26/hillsborough-families-27-year-struggle-for-truth-vindicated

    They were vindicated but what can never be brought back are the individual family members. It showed to me, that for all we talk about tribal this and social that - each of those lost loved one's mattered and everything else was secondary.

    Family matters.
    Franci馃悵Eugenia Hoffman
    20/02/2017 #11 Franci馃悵Eugenia Hoffman
    This is a beautiful post, Jim. One of your best.
    Paul Walters
    19/02/2017 #10 Paul Walters
    @Jim Murray Love indeed conquers all !
    馃悵 Fatima G. Williams
    18/02/2017 #9 馃悵 Fatima G. Williams
    It鈥檚 your tribe and as long as they are together, you know you feel complete.

    What a beautiful way to emphasise the importance of family and yes No matter what family comes first and just being with them makes us feel complete. They complete the reason for our existence.

    My heart goes out to you @Jim Murray I cannot tell you I know you feel because I believe Noone can ! I know that you are the only comforter to yourself. But I would say that You make beBee a better place for many and you are loved by all.
    Praying for your family and you during this difficult time. Much love to all !
    David B. Grinberg
    18/02/2017 #7 David B. Grinberg
    Jim, again please accept my most heartfelt sympathy for your loss. I lost my father several years ago, with whom I had an extremely close lifelong bond. He always took care of me and had my back growing up and even thereafter. Thus, when his health began failing, I moved him -- at his request and my urging -- from the many mediocre hospitals of South Florida to one of the world's best hospital near me. I got him into a special geriatric unit at Johns Hopkins Hospital in Baltimore. Perhaps I'll write about this at length in my own post at some point. But my point here is that, like so many, I know the hollow feeling of loss and feel for you during such a difficult time. Again, please know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers -- and that of so many other bees, I'm sure. God Bless You, Jim. You are a wise man, outstanding writer and communicator, and an overall good soul. In short, YOU make beBee a better place for all. Lastly, I would reiterate what you wrote above for everyone to ponder:
    "In today鈥檚 鈥榙ivide and conquer鈥 world there are so many forces working to divide us. Ideologically, by religion, by race, by ethnicity and by 鈥榟ave and have not鈥 standards.
    And many people fall prey to these forces, all of which, at their root, are powered by hate and the need to make us dependent on a system and not each other."
    Don 馃悵 Kerr
    18/02/2017 #6 Don 馃悵 Kerr
    @Jim Murray Peace my friend.
    Todd Jones
    18/02/2017 #5 Todd Jones
    Beautiful expression of some heavy hearted, big picture contemplation, Jim. My condolences, and sincere wish that those close to you take this time to consider those things that really matter in our all to brief go-round.
    @Julio Angel 馃悵Lopez Lopez
    18/02/2017 #4 @Julio Angel 馃悵Lopez Lopez
    Very true what you say, @Jim Murray Although at times I have endured bad words, not only me, to my wife, that still hurts more. We have proved to be with the tribe. Love is something you give, without worrying that it will return.
    Jim Murray
    18/02/2017 #3 Jim Murray
    #1 Thanks@ Joyce Bowen.
    Gerald Hecht
    18/02/2017 #2 Gerald Hecht
    It's incomprehensibly weird when the death arrives and one sees the chain of family swinging...dangling; all links are vital and when we lose one; things are never gonna be what they were --the (for me) weirdest part in the immediate aftermath are the sounds of people's "well mannered utterances" of condolence...the fact is that it just sucks...and the chain of family is dangling ...and vulnerable.
    Joyce 馃悵 Bowen   Brand Ambassador @ beBee
    18/02/2017 #1 Joyce 馃悵 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee
    "This love is the room that鈥檚 always there for kids to sleep in. This love is the ride to wherever anybody really needs to go. This love is the bail money, you get by hook or by crook. This love is the feeling you get when your family is all in one place together, just being with each other." So beautifully put... Thanks for your thoughts.
  16. ProducerDorothy Cooper

    Dorothy Cooper

    17/02/2017
    What would you do if you became disabled with two children? MY STORY
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    Dorothy Cooper
    18/02/2017 #2 Dorothy Cooper
    I love your comment and I know that I am not alone because I help with some disabled advocacy campaigns and I realize the US offers more services than most countries. The UK has had struggles this year. We forget that 51 million people identify themselves with a disability. I appreciate your comment. The second half is coming and both my children are enrolled at colleges one part-time and the other will be full time. I hope! Dorrie
    Joyce 馃悵 Bowen   Brand Ambassador @ beBee
    18/02/2017 #1 Joyce 馃悵 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee
    I can so relate. You are not alone. I went undiagnosed with MS for decades with children who had numerous school problems. I can imagine what you went through.
  17. ProducerPaul 馃悵 Kearley
    If Given The Chance To Make A Difference, Would You?
    If Given The Chance To Make A Difference, Would You?I was cruising You-Tube, when I came across a video with a unique title: What would you say if you only had 15 seconds?聽鈥淥K鈥 I thought, 鈥渨hat will he say with his 15 seconds?鈥 So, I watched the video.聽It was a short comedian act that was a little...
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    Devesh 馃悵 Bhatt
    20/02/2017 #21 Devesh 馃悵 Bhatt
    #18 dont worry. I was almost convinced not a good person.

    My worldview could not change when i was an accessory for exploitation...i had to change my world so to speak :)

    On the other hand, assuming people to be unfair and still having the belief to do good is very relieving. Then the few good people i meet are a bonus.

    I just had to assume unfairness but not ponder upon the details.

    I still have to figure out how to define it better but it works.

    But at the end of the day its all about self belief in my case.
    Paul 馃悵 Kearley
    20/02/2017 #20 Paul 馃悵 Kearley
    #8 @Preston 馃悵 Vander Ven Thank you for this... check out the comment @MichaelO'Neil made... That's synergy.
    Paul 馃悵 Kearley
    20/02/2017 #19 Paul 馃悵 Kearley
    #9 @KenBoddie, ah the Scottish have such a wonderful view of the world. Loved this: "O wad some Power the giftie gie us.
    To see oursels as ithers see us!" Thank you so much for posting.
    Paul 馃悵 Kearley
    20/02/2017 #18 Paul 馃悵 Kearley
    #10 @Devesh 馃悵 Bhatt you packed a lot into your comment. One part troubles me though was your quote that you are not a good person. I would certainly suggest you change that worldview, as it will have ramifications on all of the relationships you create over your lifetime. Yes, people can be unfair, that's their problem. If we do our best with the time we are given, then you will be a success.
    Paul 馃悵 Kearley
    20/02/2017 #17 Paul 馃悵 Kearley
    #11 Well @Robert Cormack If you are living a life of purpose, then you ARE changing things. In that case, my fifteen seconds would be simply encouraging those left behind on how to create a legacy as you have.
    Paul 馃悵 Kearley
    20/02/2017 #16 Paul 馃悵 Kearley
    #13 @Michael O'Neil What a lovely sentiment. Thank you for commenting.
    Paul 馃悵 Kearley
    20/02/2017 #15 Paul 馃悵 Kearley
    #14 Thanks @debasish majumder No one asked to be born, it's what we do with the time that we do have that counts.
    debasish majumder
    19/02/2017 #14 debasish majumder
    i did not come to this lovely, wonderful world out of my own wish, if though could be in fifteen seconds, how will i express my wish altogether about the last fifteen seconds, despite i cannot envisage even an iota of the situation of my last fifteen seconds! intriguing question indeed and i wonder how it trigger to peoples mind too! however, lovely joke @Paul 馃悵 Kearley! you have a unique sense of humor! enjoyed read. thank you for such unique share too.
    Michael O'Neil
    19/02/2017 #13 Anonymous
    @Paul Kearley If at some time in the future one of your children is posting about you "The motivation for this post was my dad. He passed away on Valentines day, and I miss him terribly, but he goes with me wherever I go, whispering advice in my ear and guiding me down the right road. " then you need say nothing in your 15 seconds. Your legacy will speak for itself.
    Joyce 馃悵 Bowen   Brand Ambassador @ beBee
    19/02/2017 #12 Joyce 馃悵 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee
    15 seconds? More importantly--who would those 15 seconds be with.
    Robert Cormack
    19/02/2017 #11 Robert Cormack
    What's interesting here, @Paul Kearley, is it's about what we leave behind. I'm more worried about how we change things while still living. If I'm not around, it seems I'm missing my most profound thoughts and words (not that I have any, but still, it's nice to know I could have one or two).
    Devesh 馃悵 Bhatt
    19/02/2017 #10 Devesh 馃悵 Bhatt
    Trust yourself and do good when times are easy.

    For those older than me who live during tough times but havent shifted gears durig better times.

    For friends who dont have the endurance like those before us and lose self belief easily.

    Its also seeded in my regret of overthinking the good i could have done but thought about bad precedents rather than enquiring facts.

    Something i told myself repeatedly over a long time, i was almost convinced that im no good and i am not a good person.

    What i believe now, people are unfair and i cannot let that rub off on me.
    Ken Boddie
    18/02/2017 #9 Ken Boddie
    15 seconds, Paul? Not long enough to assemble a worthy address to the nation or to pen a prophetic poem, assuming that we had the inclination for either. I'd fall back on a couple of my favourite quotes:
    -------------------------------------------
    "O wad some Power the giftie gie us.
    To see oursels as ithers see us!"
    --------------------------------------------
    "Make new friends, but remember the old,
    One is silvern, the other is gold!"
    Preston 馃悵 Vander Ven
    17/02/2017 #8 Preston 馃悵 Vander Ven
    One of my goals in life is for those 15 seconds words to be, "I have nothing to say, because all my words are in the Lives of my Children."
    Ella de Jong
    17/02/2017 #7 Ella de Jong
    Thank you @Paul 馃悵 Kearley. I'm sorry for your loss! I'm happy for you that your father is always, always around when you need him.
    My 15 seconds would be something like .. "Please, try to make someone smile by genuine attention and talking about their small successes. By doing this you can make your life meaningful. It's empowering for the both of you and everyone (young, old, brave and insecure) of us can try this, every single day!"
    Paul 馃悵 Kearley
    17/02/2017 #6 Paul 馃悵 Kearley
    #4 Thank you for that @Lori Mullins-Johnson
    Paul 馃悵 Kearley
    17/02/2017 #5 Paul 馃悵 Kearley
    #3 The motivation for this post was my dad. He passed away on Valentines day, and I miss him terribly, but he goes with me wherever I go, whispering advice in my ear and guiding me down the right road.
    Lori Mullins-Johnson
    17/02/2017 #4 Lori Mullins-Johnson
    In 2013 there was a simple study done by a palliative care nurse. She started asking all of her patients, during their final days, if they had any regrets. The top ten list was filled with mostly "I should have's" , I should have pursued my dreams, I should have said I love you, I should have made more time for my family and friends, I should have learned earlier that happiness is a choice, etc... so think of your "should have's" now, and go do them.
    Robin Barton
    17/02/2017 #3 Robin Barton
    #2 Dad's sometimes have the best sayings! Something funny about my Dad having a saying-"take the tax exemption, worry about the IRS later." Seriously! And I never took that advice because he was always being audited!!
    Paul 馃悵 Kearley
    17/02/2017 #2 Paul 馃悵 Kearley
    #1 @Robin Barton I would say you have! My Dad used to say, you can preach a better sermon with your life than you can with your words.
  18. ProducerAli Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    Family Dynamics in Action
    Family Dynamics in ActionThis buzz is about real life story of what started as a very promising family till鈥 I am telling the story as it happened, but changed names so as not to hurt anybody. Lisa and David were classmates right from elementary school to attending...
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    rene pontaza
    21/02/2017 #72 rene pontaza
    You are a wonderful writer, thank you
    Ali Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    17/02/2017 #71 Ali Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    #70 History has shown us that life oscillates between extremes sometimes. If it is on the positive side today it could swing to the other side tomorrow. Yes, and may be this topic would be your next buzz. It is worthy dear @Donna-Luisa Eversley
    Donna-Luisa Eversley
    17/02/2017 #70 Donna-Luisa Eversley
    Hahaha yes @Ali Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee, though many may consider it pessimistic to look at the negative what ifs up front, I think 'the bubble' of positivity needs to always have a dose of reality close by. I recall thinking many years ago, I had a business idea that could not fail... when it did I was crushed. So yes, even in circumstances which seem highly positive we need to use a bit of caution. Love though makes us all fools, so yes we will always need to face reality when it comes.#68
    Ali Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    17/02/2017 #69 Ali Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    #67 "Having some clear discussions upfront may create breaking points, but better than spending years with anger being built. Just my opinion". This is my wisdom of the day dear @Donna-Luisa Eversley
    Ali Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    17/02/2017 #68 Ali Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    #66 This is a beautiful idea dear @Donna-Luisa Eversley. "While it is always preferential to seek the better, one must prepare for 'worse', because it will come"- this is an eloquent way to look into risk management. Even in business- when a business is thriving it should also consider the possibility of cold water poured on them.
    Donna-Luisa Eversley
    17/02/2017 #67 Donna-Luisa Eversley
    @Ali Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee... to continue... It will be hard for any relationship to work with a spouse if there is not mutual trust and support. We can't get away from the intrinsic make up of men and women and the way most men may feel emasculated if their wives earn more, or for a woman if a husband is the one who is more adept at handling the home and keeping it in order. That is a controversial statement I've just made, but it is from years of observations and discussions. Though we progress as people with all similar abilities and capabilities, relationships are even more challenging if they are to be enduring and long-lasting. Having some clear discussions upfront may create breaking points, but better than spending years with anger being built. Just my opinion.
    Donna-Luisa Eversley
    17/02/2017 #66 Donna-Luisa Eversley
    @Ali Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee Relationships change and people change. In the case presented, sometimes you get the flip side of the marriage promise - for better or worse! While it is always preferential to seek the better, one must prepare for 'worse', because it will come. I was giving advice to a friend in a relationship and asked if she was prepared to stick it out if 'worse came around' in the relationship, and she said no. Thus, maybe when getting into a permanent relationship we should discuss our 'worse' with potential mates, and get the cold water poured on us. #46
    Javier 馃悵 beBee
    13/02/2017 #65 Javier 馃悵 beBee
    Sometimes, leaving a sick person is far better than sticking with him. Fully agreed.
    Ali Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    13/02/2017 #64 Ali Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    #63 I am waiting for the response of @Javier 馃悵 beBee. Estimations range between 60%-80% of our bodies is water. What we throw in rivers we tend to throw in our bodies. This is a new idea emerging. For somebody to throw a pepsi can in water it is he who drank the bubbles and contaminated the water of his body. Careless to the environment is also careless for his own body.
    CityVP 馃悵 Manjit
    13/02/2017 #63 CityVP 馃悵 Manjit
    #61 Better than that - we are made of water. We are not dry of humanity and in that sea we can drown. That is why home is no different to a single polyp of coral. Given the opportunity to grow tiny polyps can become great barrier reefs. As we become smarter about our ecology we will get smarter about our home. The daily practice of living is what is dynamic - that is the value of the link to This is Water - this is where David Foster Wallace was most brilliant, but David Foster Wallace also commit suicide, how does @Javier 馃悵 beBee reconcile his particular theory of happiness with someone like David Foster Wallace?
    Ali Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    13/02/2017 #61 Ali Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    #60 馃う馃し WOW! So, in big families with so many kids the possibilities become staggering. This is one reason when we have too many interactions on a buzz the possibilities become mind-bewildering. However; my dear friend @CityVP 馃悵 Manjit View more
    #60 馃う馃し WOW! So, in big families with so many kids the possibilities become staggering. This is one reason when we have too many interactions on a buzz the possibilities become mind-bewildering. However; my dear friend @CityVP 馃悵 Manjit few great possibilities shall emerge out of large possibilities. One example is water solutions and because of you I am working on it. Close
    CityVP 馃悵 Manjit
    13/02/2017 #60 CityVP 馃悵 Manjit
    The math of possible relationships is staggering as the formula pointed out in this link
    http://sfhelp.org/fam/pop/formula.htm
    Ali Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    13/02/2017 #58 Ali Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    #56 There is a big difference in adding sugar to water than adding fat to same water. Sugar dissolves in water and we have a homogeneous solution. Fats don't dissolve and always float on the surface of water. It is up t us what to add to the waters of marriage. This thinking is due to your superb comment @Harvey Lloyd. You wrote "We can't describe the points of each in terms of equal but rather how one fills the others weaknesses and compliments their strengths". This is our choice: sweetening strengths and reducing weaknesses or add immiscible 'thoughts and actions" and sour the relationship.
    As you wrote "The need for solidarity of family commitment has never been greater". Unfortunately, the waters are becoming salty and we make water saltier. The salting out effect takes place and wife and husband separate like oil and water do.
    I greatly appreciate your comment, Harvey. It is worthy of pondering on for long times.
    Harvey Lloyd
    13/02/2017 #56 Harvey Lloyd
    A very divisive subject matter. It is difficult to discuss this topic without discussing the values that sustain a marriage. A vowed relationship is different than just being friends. IMHO marriage is not a vow of equals but rather of complimentary. We cant describe the points of each in terms of equal but rather how one fills the others weaknesses and compliments their strengths.

    In your story i wonder what the answer would have been, if early in the relationship, the wife had been asked, Would you trade your husband for a million dollars?

    Families today struggle to meet relationship requirements as they serve to many masters. Work, finance and social all pull at the family. The need for solidarity of family commitment has never been greater. Husbands cant be husbands without a wife, nor can a wife be a wife without a husband. Sounds simple but when we make so many promises outside the marriage then what is left for the family?

    Long before the outcomes you described, each party made a decision they couldn't go with the other, emotionally. They became competitive. Each responded differently to this choice, mentally. Each chose their corner and began the journey of competitive separation. The real outcome is neither chose the family.

    When i fear my boss/career more than my wife/family, then separation has started.
    CityVP 馃悵 Manjit
    13/02/2017 #55 CityVP 馃悵 Manjit
    #54 That indeed is the problem of underwhelm in organizations that have the potential to be even greater, pure water CEO's get frozen out, sugar water CEO's do not. Then again "This is Water" : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PhhC_N6Bm_s View more
    #54 That indeed is the problem of underwhelm in organizations that have the potential to be even greater, pure water CEO's get frozen out, sugar water CEO's do not. Then again "This is Water" : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PhhC_N6Bm_s

    There is a big difference between a tree of knowledge and a tree of life. The monkeys on the tree of knowledge can eat what they want, the rare humans who find the Tree of Life is the Tree worth finding and that tree feeds our heart not our mental stomach. Close
    Ali Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    13/02/2017 #54 Ali Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    #53 My next buzz following today's buzz on New Insights on HUman Behavior (actually an eBook) will be on "Adapting to Increase our Tolerance Levels". Dear friend @CityVP 馃悵 Manjit- one way trees adapt to cold weather and to stop water freezing and killing trees is to produce sugar water. Sugar water doesn't freeze as readily as pure water. So, I thank you for increasing my tolerance level. I see more synchronicity peeping between us.
    CityVP 馃悵 Manjit
    13/02/2017 #53 CityVP 馃悵 Manjit
    #48 My dear Ali Anani, I am not in this world to oppose or dispose, I want to set my sights much higher visions than that. I only have two words for the limitations that stem from opposing in this regard before I get back to how the best minds make honey.

    Sugar Water.
    Mohammed Sultan
    13/02/2017 #52 Mohammed Sultan
    #51 "Sadak Alah Al azzem"
    Ali Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    13/02/2017 #51 Ali Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    #49 In my previous comment I forgot to add two words (men anfusekkum) so it should read as follows:
    Wa men ayatehi an khalaka lakum men anfusekkum azwajan litaskonoo elayha wa ja'al beinakuma mawadatan wa rahma.
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    19/01/2017
    Lines in the Sand: Part II
    Lines in the Sand: Part IILast night in a hospital room with my father, while he slept, my grown and very smart daughter and I somehow embarked on a discussion about things coming up and looming in our future. The focus was on my father, but as we watched him sleep she...
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    Joel Anderson
    05/03/2017 #17 Joel Anderson
    #16 Thank you @Sara Jacobovici That one evening made me so aware of the lines in our lives why connections are so important, and as you say, in taking the time to make and sustain them.
    Sara Jacobovici
    05/03/2017 #16 Sara Jacobovici
    One line that is obvious here @Joel Anderson is the one straight from the heart! The lines of connection that you describe, from both time and place, verbal and nonverbal, are as you say; "straight and narrow, squiggly, or dotted focused in one direction or left to meander down paths well or less travelled." The connections don't just form lines, but patterns and imprints. What is significant is that, nothing can be formed if no connection exists; between individuals, community, nature, our environment. In your words, connections made through lines that "converge, rather than diverge".
    Devesh 馃悵 Bhatt
    21/01/2017 #15 Devesh 馃悵 Bhatt
    Lines are everywhere :)
    Gerald Hecht
    21/01/2017 #14 Gerald Hecht
    Some lines aren't even relevant...in the end who among us would waste an iota of our precious time and energy (best not wasted...all of our lives, all of our loved ones lives...all over --in the blink of an eye) on the political views of "The Federalists" vs. "The Whigs"?
    I don't mean to be obtuse or provincial...FWIW...it's a reference to the ghost of a line in the sand...in which existed in the ghost of a place called "America"; neither of which exist. They are Dead. No sand. No line. Remains.
    Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    21/01/2017 #13 Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    #12 Hi @Joel Anderson, no apologies necessary :)) I understand typing on the phone. I can't type messages well at all from my phone. I agree, snapshots in time... one moment- so well said!
    Joel Anderson
    21/01/2017 #12 Joel Anderson
    #5 @Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher Sorry, was trying to write, read and respond on my phone and in between meetings and other distractions that come with the work day. I am truly thankful for your comments and thoughts on this particular piece. Amazing how simple "Moments:Snap shots in time" can become become so profound.
    FancyJ London
    21/01/2017 #11 FancyJ London
    Thank you I am so glad you loved it! I am humbled. #7
    Deb 馃悵 Helfrich
    20/01/2017 #10 Deb 馃悵 Helfrich
    #9 These lines of text leave the footprints of family, along the path of its glorious complexity.
    Joel Anderson
    20/01/2017 #9 Joel Anderson
    #4 Deb your kindness and compassion are truly appreciated.
    Joel Anderson
    20/01/2017 #8 Joel Anderson
    #5 Thank you Lisa Gallagher.
    Joel Anderson
    20/01/2017 #7 Joel Anderson
    #6 Thank you so much. "Our threads cross and tangle with twists" indeed. I didn't like it, I loved Crimson Thread. Keep making a difference.
    FancyJ London
    20/01/2017 #6 FancyJ London
    This reminds me of the Red Thread Ancient chinese Proverb. If you have a moment take a look at a poem I wrote on my blog, Crimson Thread. I think you will like it. Thank you for sharing your deep amazing thoughts, I enjoyed this post immensely. Cheers
    Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    20/01/2017 #5 Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    @Joel Anderson, this was 'mind' altering. Thank you for giving the reader another perspective through your eyes. This just made SO much sense. I'm glad you and your daughter are able to talk as you do!
    Deb 馃悵 Helfrich
    20/01/2017 #4 Deb 馃悵 Helfrich
    Masterpiece.
    Joel Anderson
    19/01/2017 #3 Joel Anderson
    #1 In time dear cousin we will make it so. Thanks and all the best to you and yours
    Joel Anderson
    19/01/2017 #2 Joel Anderson
    #1 In time dear cousin we will make it so. Thanks and all the best to yiu and yours
    Dave Anderson
    19/01/2017 #1 Dave Anderson
    So when are you and Marybeth's lines going to intertwine and head out to Monterey for a visit?
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