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- Producer18/06/2017My love, you’re perfect as you are: I’m gonna change youFew things are more important in one’s life, and many have written about it along humankind history: Love No human can live without any of its forms, whether is fraternal, motherly or lovers love. So-called irrational love, (despite there is...
Comments18/06/2017 #26 Anonymous#21 It is an honour to become such a thoughtful comment from you, dear Lance. Thank you so much for sharing here and at tweeter.
(never had so many retweets before, LOL)
You are completely spot on, pointing out that the "roots" are essential.
Sadly enough, we have entered in a spiral of selfishness. Games are "solo" intended, in comparison to the games we used to play. Friendships are virtual.
Old people are not respected anymore, just pushed away of our lives as an old broken toy.
People wrongly understand that in order to keep their safety, not to be harmed, need to put distance to others, not to get involved or committed.
Part of the happiness is as well take the risk of being harmed, trust the others, knowing that they are imperfect too, same as you, and will make errors. So what? Making errors is human, and accepting them is divine.
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https://www.bebee.com/producer/@david-navarro-lopez/those-crazy-little-ones18/06/2017 #22 Matt 🐝 SweetwoodThanks you for continuing the conversation! And while there are many examples of marriages that are wonderful, there i not denying the statistics. A successful marriage requires both people to be in it for the right reasons. Human nature and a greedy system require the change I suggested in my article.18/06/2017 #21 Lance 🐝 ScoularPt2/2 🦋
"In a garden" 🌱🌷🌼🌻🌲
says Chase, "growth has its season. There are Spring and Summer but there are also Fall and Winter 🍃🍁🍂
and then Spring and Sumner again. 🌾🌹🌺
As long as the roots are not severed all is well and all will be well."
Love and marriage also have their seasons.
David, your first list qualities above, from our parents generation (I am 68 and my wife younger 😊) tended to give us the "roots" for the bad season in our garden of LIFE.
My wife Sandie and I have had our "Winters."
Not "Winters of Discontent" but winters of hibernating in preparation for a new Spring.
Aided by 🐝🐝🐝🐝, the outcome is 🍯.
The flavour of the 🍯 changes as our love matures.18/06/2017 #20 Lance 🐝 ScoularPart 1/2
David, I read this earlier to day and then again.
Watched the Jack Nicholson & Hellen Hunt clip.
Read your Catching Butterflies post and this end passage made my mind jump to an interesting book...
..."So better change your strategy, and enhance your “garden”, yourself, your environment, the things you do, how you do them, get rid of the “garbage”, act as if you were used to be surrounded by butterflies,
and they will come pleasantly and willingly to pose in your nose."
And the book is one of my favourite Audible books, Being There by Jerzy Kosinski, Narated by Justin Hoffman.
And the part in the book your Butterfly flew me to was where the President of the United States of America asks the books unlikely hero, Chase the gardener,
"And you Mr Gardener, what do you think about the bad season on the street?"
Chance flustered within, reflects to the only love he has ever had, his garden, reflects, then calmly says.
Pt2...18/06/2017 #17 Anonymous#15 your words of "do what is in the best interests of both persons" makes me think about the other day, when my love told me how could it be I was all the time thinking about how to make her feel better. My response was, that this was my purpose, to make her happy. She asked, what are you doing for yourself to be happy? My answer, I don't know, I am somehow blind to it, this is your purpose, not mine.
To give not expecting a payback, this is love. Out of this, is a trade, if you do expect a payback.
So I see you have a three strands cord:
"Though one may be overpowered,
two can defend themselves.
A cord of three strands is not quickly broken." (Ecclesiastes 4:12)18/06/2017 #16 Harvey LloydGreat post and i would suspect that as the word love has evolved within media so marriage has evolved. Marriage is a commitment of a shared journey. The grass is always greener on the other side but even that grass will require maintaining at some point. I went to a conference on marriage and the speaker really brought forward the concept of where marriage has failed.
We spend more time designing and purchasing a home or a car than we spend on "building" our marriage. This statement really struck me, mainly because i had never considered that building a marriage was necessary as we loved each other. Even further thought was perplexing, how do you build a marriage? I had nothing.
The next few years i started to understand that building a marriage was going through change and understanding the bridges that needed to be built for the next leg of the journey. Previously i had only seen these bridges as my spouses need to change or she looking at me and expecting me to change. We laugh at it now but it was a challenging time in our life and i am glad that we learned how to build bridges together.
Great post and thoughts.18/06/2017 #15 Vincent Andrew@David Navarro López "we have forgotten that marriage is “us” instead of “I and you”." This is why marriage is so difficult. A couple has to learn to listen to each other and do what is in the best interests of both persons. If a compromise is needed, it has to be done with willingness and not resentfulness. It's about a lifetime of communication. It's about sacrifice and commitment to make it work. In my case, it's about putting God in the centre of our marriage. A very thoughtful buzz. Thanks David.18/06/2017 #12 Anonymous#11 Exactly dear Lisa, "Marriages that work develop love that is not easy to explain"
If one has only experienced the lack of it, can only see what love is not, but not what it really is.
Love changes, due to the fact that each individual changes too, and this make the relationship, change, evolve, and in the best case, to get enhanced.
I saw many times my parents understanding each other just with a glance. Later, I have been able to experience it myself, and it is much more enriching as it seems at first sight. Both enter in a secret place on which no one except them can see clearly what goes on, a safe place on which everything is simple, clear and secure. This secret place can only be built by the complicity, together with forgetting willingly some of our "selfish rights", in order to taste the overwhelming flavour of the honey of having the soul caressed, abandoned to each other.18/06/2017 #11 Lisa 🐝 GallagherWell said @David Navarro López. Marriage is give and take. It's mutual and doesn't come without it's challenges. There are many legitimate reasons not to stay in a marriage, eg: Abuse, cheating, no love or friendship and the list can go on. But, we all face challenges IE: raising children together, work, finances, differing opinions and more- those things can be remedied and with time, we move on and appreciate where we were vs. where we are today. Marriages that work develop love that is not easy to explain. Love changes with time. It becomes a deep and rooted friendship along with respect and understanding of the other that changes the dynamics. Thanks for this.18/06/2017 #9 AnonymousOH, Oh, how could I have missed it? I will look at it. @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
Now i understand your words "Isn't this a form of turning the simple into complex? "
In the other hand, the maintenance issue is a complex issue. It was, it is and it will be.
It is funny you mention it, because I was thinking on writing a buzz18/06/2017 #8 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#7 You know better my friend David as you are in the maintenance and repair business. You know well that sometimes you were called over long distances to repair a machine and to your surprise the repair was so simple to avoid attention. Isn't this a form of turning the simple into complex? For more details, you may check my buzz of today. BTW- I wrote a presentation on "Customers Maintenance" two years ago. Maintenance is needed for humans as much as we need it for machinery.
- Producer15/06/2017It's Time To Change the Way Marriage WorksIt all started with a humorous Facebook post I made recently about my fear of marriage. I was taking my usual Saturday walk-about in Manhattan when I turned the corner on 42nd street, near Grand Central Terminal, and I came across a wedding...
Comments18/06/2017 #73 Renée 🐝 Cormier#67 As long as nobody is trying to "run" me, I'm happy. Love begins within oneself. If you genuinely love who you are, then you will never need anyone to give you some sense of completion. Looking for that in another will only lead to disappointment. Also, if your relationship with yourself is completely healthy, then your partner will always feel safe with you. With that comes, trust, security, etc., assuming both partners are equally emotionally balanced. If one partner is "off" so to speak, then the relationship will be challenged in ways that will undermine its success. That's my take on things, for whatever it is worth. :)18/06/2017 #72 Gerald Hecht#70 @Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, Brand Ambassador @ beBee I think that I've suddenly become possessed...all it took was to let my (hippie dreamer) guard down for a moment ...and now...I think I may be headed for the history books as "The First True Divorce Robber Baron in America".
Oh, may the universe not judge me harshly.
I fear that My new company, "Divorce Logistics Enterprises" may surpass Facebook by 2020.
I haven't even finished the business plan (I just started working on it about 10 minutes ago)...and I've already been booked for "60 Minutes" and "Time" wants to start working on a cover story.
I wish I was suffering from Bi-Polar Affective Disorder or something; that I may be able to provide a potentially forgivable rationale for what (they will say) I've done...18/06/2017 #71 Gerald Hecht#69 @Paul "Pablo" Croubalian I'm increasingly discovering that so much of the advice that I ignored ...has resulted in really hard puzzles that I would never have bought even at a yard sale;
and yet, your previous comment has quickly (seed-like) "sprouted" into this evolving vision for an "end to end" divorce solution business.
I even said to myself: why not actually name the thing: "Divorce Logistic Enterprises" (DLE).
the lawyers would just be one group of employees, along with CPA's, Counselors, Investment Planners, etc. (working under one of 50 "State Specific Compliance Divisions")...which in turn would be part of an "Interstate Coordination Best Practices Department"...
The vision is growing faster than I can articulate it...
...and even stranger; every bit of seems "metaphysically wrong" to me.
We humans are a strange lot; I've never thought of myself as an entrepreneur --I am opposed to the purpose of this thing; and simultaneously; I'm seeing the blueprint for the whole thing draw itself, accompanied by a feeling of divine inspiration...like "a calling".
Ye Gods!18/06/2017 #69 Paul "Pablo" Croubalian#68 I didn't mean that divorce is A business for the general public. It's certainly a big business for the lawyerin' guys. If I was a lawyer I'd do nothing but.
I meant it's business and should be treated just like any other business negotiation. (Coolly, calmly, forcing emotion out of the equation.) That was the advice I got and ignored. I wish I hadn't.18/06/2017 #68 Gerald Hecht#59 @Paul "Pablo" Croubalian I don't know if divorce is an autonomous business ...yet. I think it's still a branch of the lawyerin' business (as opposed to the legal business); like personal injury lawyerin' business.
But , there are many qualified entrepreneurs who will (no doubt) figure out a cost effective, revenue generating "autonomous thingie".
There will be franchises and everything... "Na na, na na na na, hey hey hey, bye bye, Inc."18/06/2017 #67 Gerald Hecht#63 @Renée 🐝 Cormier yes they can...another reason to fight for the "right" to have spaces/intervals where nobody is allowed to watch...where its physically impossible for anyone to watch...that's what the 4th amendment really is; it's the keystone of every real love story.
Technology isn't what's killing it, and neither is any "national/public security rationale".
The real cause of the increasingly Orwellian nightmare of our lives is one thing:
fear and loathing and self hate in the businessmen, politicians, policymakers, and clerics/dictators who've deluded themselves into believing that they "run the world".18/06/2017 #65 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#63 We had a rocky start because we were so young when we met. My husband was 15, I was 16. We married at age 21. Our first child was born when I was 22, almost 23 years old. Life was not easy and there were times I felt like walking away. I'm so glad I rode out the waves (and believe me, I'm not saying that's possible for everyone) but we are closer now than I would have ever imagined 20 years ago. I think in our case, hard times made both of us appreciate simpler times and much more. Is our life perfect, no... far from it but it's beautiful in ways that are hard to describe.17/06/2017 #62 Todd Jones#26 Renee, I believe that you are on to something here. One of the most happily married couples that I know maintain separate homes. It is the second marriage for both individuals.
I initially thought the arrangement odd, however now believe that there is a genius aspect to it. They spend tons of time with each other, travel extensively, and are always out on the town together, but with their separate retreats are able to escape the contempt that inevitably follows the familiarity of marriage and living together. I have never seen nor even heard of them having a heated argument.
Different strokes for different folks. This design continues to serve them well after 15 years.
My wife of 18 years (we've been together for 24) originally stated that this type of agreement would never work for her personally, but I think that she is now warming to the idea :)17/06/2017 #59 Paul "Pablo" CroubalianInteresting. I often thought that a marriage should have a five-year term like a commercial lease. Two years just may not be enough time. I do believe that no one should get married until they have lived together for two years. Maybe an initial two-year term with multiple options to renew?
Before anyone gripes that a marriage is not a business, maybe not, but divorce certainly is.
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Comments15/06/2017 #19 Ken BoddieNever hurts to spread some sunshine, Paul. Invariably what goes around comes around, don't you think?
Unfortunately, when most of us ask, "How are you?" or How's your day?", the last thing we really want to know, or even expect, is to be told. There are times we really need to kick back and learn to be good listeners.14/06/2017 #15 John RylanceOn UK radio there is a short one or two minute piece under the title The Listening Project, which is people talking about something that interests/ concerns them. The contributetors are members of the public, their pieces are always thought provoking and interesting/illuminating.14/06/2017 #13 Susan 🐝 Rooks"All I did was ask how someone’s day was, and was genuinely interested, and now I am the one who continues to be impacted, even weeks later. It has changed me."
Profound, yet so simple, @Paul Kearley! But to actually see someone clearly and ask how they're doing requires us to get out of our own heads and lives first, right? And put down the cell phone. Look around. Oh, and listen to the answer . . .
You wrote a beautiful article on this, and I thank you!14/06/2017 #11 Renée 🐝 CormierBeautiful story, Paul. I always look forward to your posts. The best thing about giving love and caring about others is that one way or another, it gets you more love. Feeling love is as beautiful as being loved. When you offer love to others with no expectation of receiving anything, you can actually love yourself more. By nurturing your relationship with yourself, you will naturally have better relationships with others. It's a continuous cycle that feeds our souls and is really very simple to do. You only need to cast off your inhibitions and want to. Love completely changes the quality of our lives. Such is the power of being loving.14/06/2017 #7 Praveen Raj GullepalliBeautiful thoughts Paul. A lot can happen over...Chocolate! ;) The world would indeed be a better place if more folks would stop...to smell the roses; or say Hello Howdy; or read a buzz like this and think about it. When you love People and really do care, every look and smile you receive is a dose of happiness. Every busy person becomes an inspiration.14/06/2017 #6 Lisa 🐝 GallagherWhat a wonderful story Paul Kearley! As I continued to read, I got chills. The blog I read JUST before this one had a meme with Zig Zigler's quote you posted. Maybe someone is nudging me ;-) I love moments that make us dig deep within our souls, introspective moments- they are the best.14/06/2017 #5 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee@Paul Kearley- this is a great buzz. and I enjoyed every word of it. You moved me with the way you narrated your story . You wrote "Life isn’t about you, it’s about the impact you have on the people you meet each and every day". This alone was enough to urge me and share your buzz three times. Humans are complex, and you provide the simple rules to deal with this complexity. Be nice, care, smile, show care nd little gestures that make the complex look simple.
Salute to you, Paul.
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Comments31/05/2017 #42 Lisa 🐝 GallagherCongrats new Granddad! He is beautiful. I love the Scottish lullaby and the message contained within. I have hope for the future generations because so many now having children are thinking globally for their children's sake and also seem to going back to a time that I remember- teaching respect for elders, love for humanity over materialism and so much more. Thanks for sharing such a wonderful time in your lives. I had tears (happy ones) reading this and seeing the photos. We are on the road (well not literally, now), in a hotel for night but we will arrive to see our grandboys in 3 days, it's been almost a year. I can relate to the questions they ask so innocently and I also have time to understand the innocence so much more now that I'm not raising kids. Can't put a price tag on that! Have fun with your new grandson :))30/05/2017 #36 Kevin PashukI have a feeling that wee one will be 'Canon'ized... (as opposed to Nikoned in my case) by his Grandfather's photos.
It could be argued that there is no greater calling, or joy, in being a Grandpa. Congrats to the whole Boddie clan with the welcoming of Hudson into their midst.30/05/2017 #32 Ken Boddie#24 Who is this saintly white-clad high roller with the massive cheroot, and what have you done with my buddy @Dean Owen? Wait one ..... I recognise those failed attempts at humour. Where have you been, Dean-san? I thought perhaps your last blog had been considered admissible evidence for permanent incarceration?
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Comments07/05/2017 #19 Dean Owen#10 Oh yes, The Buggles one hit wonder blew us away. Too many one hit wonders. I'll always remember watching the Thriller video for the first time. Those special effects were incredible then, but rewatching it now and it all looks extremely dated. In Japan we were fortunate enough to watch Captain EO, another Michael Jackson video but in 4D that was shown in Disneyland Tokyo.06/05/2017 #17 Brian McKenzie@Dean Owen Great Post ! Weird wired serendipity - I just did a play list from the same era - hard to whittle it down to the key tracks of the era - I see many that could have made it to my post as well.
As a guy that was in the middle of the Gulf War - we rocked the Clash - Rock the Casbah after every pre-flight briefing, before bombing the shit out of what ever was on the target list that night. Screw PC then & now.05/05/2017 #5 Dean Owen#1 Is it an age thing or is the music of this decade just really bad? One day your daughter will look back on her time in the car listening to your music with fond memories. I certainly do when I think about the Dean Martin 8 track my father played over and over in the Caddy.05/05/2017 #3 Chris 🐝 Guest Cert.Prof.Acc.SAWorst thing was when the tape hot stuck on the heads and you had to yank it out destroying all the hard recorded music.Otherwise someone walked in the room and made a noise while you were recording from the radio...completely blew it as the old casette recorders did not have plug in cords! Some great days with boxes and boxes of homemade BASF tapes including all the song names carefully written down.Thanks for bringing back these times !
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Comments29/04/2017 #3 Cyndi wilkinsI have just lost my father over the holidays @Vincent Andrew...so I 'feel' the emotion of this post with every fiber of my being. Bearing witness to our loved ones in excruciating pain sears a path straight through the heart...embedded forever in our memory. The CFS I have experienced in the last few months made its own way to my physical being after my dad had passed...It was too overwhelming in the end...and our hearts truly bleed with love. In the end, the body will succumb to such enormous stresses, but the love never dies...He is with you always.
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Comments25/05/2017 #40 Louise SmithIt's hard to disconnect from difficult people sometimes impossible so it's best to learn how to deal with them. I wish there was a subject at high school or uni -
Difficult People 101. But most of us learn the hard way over time (unless your parents work as a Social Worker, Psychologist or very good at personal relationships) Almost every client who comes to see me wants or needs to work on this - Being Assertive not Angry, Aggressive, Sarcastic or Negative.
But these days I don't keep these difficult people close. The older I get the easier it becomes to do this. How about you?25/05/2017 #38 Louise SmithAs a person who by accident of birth order (not just birth), I am the oldest of 4 siblings and since I was 4yo I have been moulded , not deliberately but by circumstance, to be a giver and a carer. Then I was a high school teacher and now am a psychologist. What hope did I have of a different career path when most of my peers left school to work at 15yo and very few women went to Uni.
Also genetically, I didn't have a chance as my Mother and Father and Maternal Grandmother are/were very gentle, obliging and considerate people.
So what to do about it?25/05/2017 #37 Louise Smith#31 Because they consciously or unconsciously know the giver is the better person. They feel self shame and guilt unless they are complete narcissists, sociopaths, psychopaths or politicians ( also could be your boss). They think that most people are ultimately takers and even though the giver would prob never do this, the takers expect to get the same treatment from the givers down the track.
As a derivative of fight or flight, attack is the best form of defence, that is what they do to the giver immediately in small doses or they wait and pick the big moment that is important to the giver and whamo they strike!25/04/2017 #31 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee@Matt 🐝 Sweetwood- obviously life taught you lessons the hard way. Your list of when to drop a relationship is comprehensive even though your line "They were robbing me of my time, energy, money, happiness and they were bringing me down" gives adequate guidance.
"...Causes you pain more than 3 times in a month". I smiled reading this because you reminded me that we need a minimum of three points to set a trend (to set a trend. Moreover, you reminded me of the simple rules of 3.
"But it also can happen with the coworker who you have helped repeatedly and when you need them, there is a deafening and hurtful silence". You
It means they don’t have the same values as you, they don’t care what you believe in and can ruin your reputation – or worse. I better forget about these experiences myself. Unfortunately, many people tend to "bite the hand" that helped them.25/04/2017 #29 Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, Brand Ambassador @ beBeeOh yes, this is good, @Matt 🐝 Sweetwood. Life is too short to be in a bad relationship. Unfortunately, we don't always realize we're in a bad relationship until it starts to take its toll on us. Even worse, some victims are in denial and can't face the fact they are in a bad relationship. I agree with @Renée 🐝 Cormier, the most important relationship we have is with ourselves.25/04/2017 #26 David B. GrinbergThank you, Matt, for this sage advice. I echo your sentiments and important insights about ridding people from one's life who are toxic and negative, because these types of people only succeed in bringing down others to artificially lift themselves up. Rather, surround yourself by positive role models who support and encourage your biggest dreams and life goals -- however far off or impractical they may appear. We need to recall that impractical does not mean impossible.
Again, kudos Matt on sharing more exemplary and beneficial advice.24/04/2017 #21 Renée 🐝 CormierI truly believe the most important relationship of all, is the one you have with yourself. If you have a strong sense of who you are and love the finished product, no one can really take that away from you. Also, if you truly love and respect yourself, you will find it easy to eliminate disempowering or one way relationships from your life. It is much easier to turn away from negative relationships than to try to make them fit. It is a mistake to believe you can control or change others, and honestly, you shouldn't even want to. It is also a mistake to try to become what someone else wants you to be. All you can really control is the way you view the world around you and what you give permission for in your life. Over recent years, I have systematically rid myself of people who add no value to my life. I find the older I get, the less willing I am to put up with bull shit. When I was young, I had all the energy in the world for it, but it brought me a tremendous amount of pain. I know better now. :)
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Comments23/04/2017 #19 Anonymous#18 Isn't it sad when you see them they are going to be in trouble due to their own fault, and you must hold back? To let them learn from their own mistakes?
I find this the worst part, as before they get hurt, I already can feel in advance the pain they are inevitably going to feel...but one has tightened hands and has to even silence the "told you so's" and much more.
I can tell you are a loving father.23/04/2017 #18 Harvey LloydEmpty nest is certainly one of the major epoch journeys of our existence. The transition from "parent" to friend is difficult, but a worthy journey. You thought the teenage years were the most difficult. The hardest thing i have ever done as a parent was not during the years of parenting, but holding back all the "I told you so's". Allowing the grown children to find life on their own experiences.
Every once in a while we get to laugh about an "i told you so" because they bring it up.
Great thoughts23/04/2017 #15 Anonymous#10 As long as your wife gets on with it, I can tell you, these can be you real "golden years", with the wisdom of experience and still the power to do things....
Did you have a look at another post related to it? https://www.bebee.com/producer/@david-navarro-lopez/get-started-adding-life-to-years
I am sure you will enjoy it too23/04/2017 #12 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#5 Grandchildren add another layer to our lives and if we remember we are the grandparents (here to enjoy, not raise kids anymore) the time is so precious and the kids seem to have more innocence than I was able to appreciate while raising my kids if that makes sense?23/04/2017 #11 Lisa 🐝 GallagherExcellent topic @David Navarro López! I did wait until my children grew up and put my life on hold to a certain degree. It wasn't intentional but it sure can cause some setbacks. We have come to realize that we come first, their lives come first for them and so on. Sometimes we get so caught up in raising our children that we lose our individuality. I haven't heard that song by Alan Parsons in ages, great song! Thanks for the tag @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee23/04/2017 #8 Mamen 🐝 DelgadoThat's a very interesting question @David Navarro López, and I would even add where do we go when our children are growing up...
The answer to this question will give a path to follow in our future. I see friends around, specially mommies, that put her lives apart while raising children, focusing all her energy in the babies and kids.
The future will bring a mirror to face ourselves and we will pick up what we have harvested.
Thanks for the music, love Alan Parsons!!23/04/2017 #6 Anonymous#4 Vincent, this is precisely what I did. When my daughter married, then I looked for a job abroad, and moved here to Germany, working in my passion, packaging machinery. And it is one of the best things I ever did. My colleagues use to ask why am I so happy while working, and I use to answer...I am not working anymore, I am retired, and developing my hobby...only that I get very well paid for it (LOL)23/04/2017 #5 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee"It is us who need to figure out how we are going to spend our lives after being parents.
Because this is the most important last lesson we can give our children".
Our children shall then experience the same once they have grown up and have children. In our societies family ties are still strong (even though weaker than before). However; what a great question to ask @David Navarro López. We plan for retirement, but we don't plan for the "retirement of children responsibility.
I invite dear @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher to comment because she is enjoying her grandchildren.23/04/2017 #4 Vincent Andrew"Where do we go from here now that all of the children have grown up" An inevitable question that my wife and I will face starting with our oldest daughter who'll be graduating from university this year. In all honesty I would like to go abroad again to work and to open a new chapter. I want to see the world. I want to go on a pilgrimage. I want to play musical instruments again and take up the piano or violin. My wife has her plans and as individuals we have our own interests to pursue. Thanks @David Navarro López for writing this reflective piece.
- Producer21/04/2017One time, at band camp...Ok. It wasn't band camp. It was my year nine school camp. Things happened. SO many things happened that shifted my very monochrome 14 year old perspective to a kaleidoscopic upbeat, life is amazing! kind of view.Firstly, I got to leave home for a...