- Producer16/03/2017Yes, Doctors Do Make Mistakes- He Missed The Nodule!I've been hesitating about writing this story because I've written so much about my mom over the past year and a half. I decided it's OK to write again because she was a major force in my life for over 50 years. We don't forget a loved one that...
Comments19/03/2017 #26 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#25 Hi Skip, many Doctors are not assholes. We are all going to run across a few, it's up to the 'consumer' to do their homework, speak up (have an advocate) present etc... I'm sorry you had such a bad experience and I'm glad to hear you are healthy now. My sister is a 10 year survivor of breast cancer and the heavy duty medications saved her life.
To each their own with alternative stuff. You must sell Shaklee? It's been around for a long time. Thanks for your comment!18/03/2017 #25 Skip SteinSO sorry to hear about your Mom. My Dad died of Prostate cancer about 10 years ago. Doctors are basically assholes! First they are like robots and most don't give a damn about anything but a paid invoice. When I was diagnosed with prostate cancer (like father, like son...) it was a horrendous experience and NOT just because they said I was dying! The assholes tried and tried to get me accept diabolical/barbaric 'treatments' that were often worse than my cancer. They said I was too fat for surgery (boy was I then!) so radiation and a bunch of other crap was forced on me; but I told them ALL to go to hell. They said I only had 3 years if I refused their 'treatments' and maybe 5 if I accepted the crap they offered.
Well it's no EIGHT years and I'm a healthy, mostly fit, 70+ year old fart; alive and kicking an healthier NOW than I was at 40 (or younger). I was fortunate to have discovered, while researching my Fathers cancer, that there were ALTERNATIVES to the traditional crap most doctors force upon patients; basically Treating them to DEATH.
Don't let the bastards in the medical industry get to you. Most are quacks, drug pushers and profit from pain and suffering. Learn to LIVE and Survive. You may not CURE yourself but it's a damned site better than the side effects of chemo and radiation/surgery. Everyone need to CHOOSE what they will do and sometimes go against the flow. I did and it worked. I hope it would work for others too. My full story is on my web site: http://prostatecancerfight.com/.
If YOU or a loved one has cancer (or any other lifestyle disease) I am available to talk/listen and maybe help.
Paying it Forward
Orlando, Florida17/03/2017 #24 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#21 Thanks @Ian Weinberg. Yes, I realize Doctors are only human and imperfect like the rest of us. I must say I worked with many Doctors and although this particular Doctor was nice, I think he was a bit lazy and didn't follow up with his own notes. It wasn't the first time he let her down but she liked his demeanor and kept going back. We would have never sued him even if she hadn't changed her mind. That was a mistake that was maybe missed by the Office staff and finding that type of cancer earlier would not have saved my mom. She had small cell lung cancer.
I have a lot of respect for Doctors, they have a tough job and I believe most of them go above and beyond the call of duty. My husband has a few Doctors in Pittsburgh who even give their cell phone numbers to him and have emailed as well when there has been a problem. So, I don't want others to think I feel all doctors are irresponsible (I can't even say if her doctor was, maybe he was just very liberal with her)?? Thanks for commenting, I appreciate it!17/03/2017 #23 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#20 Hi @Glenn Melcher, I'm sorry your mom went through something similar. Yes, my mom had a compassionate heart and she did give others the benefit of doubt. Even when she brought up suing the Doctor, we all knew she was very upset with her diagnosis. Sadly, even if her cancer had been detected back in January, there was still nothing they could have done to save her because it was a terminal cancer w/out a cure. Maybe she was afforded more time because they didn't begin other treatments earlier on that might have been tougher on her.
I see so many families that do fight and don't have good relationships and that is very sad. I'm forever thankful that somehow my mom made sure we all got along and forgive easily, that's a legacy within itself. She was different from me in other ways. She was very crafty, I am not LOL. Thanks so much for your comment!17/03/2017 #21 Ian WeinbergDoctors try to carry out the requirements of their vocation to the best of their abilities. But they are only human, working within imperfect systems that are invariably over-subscribed. Yes there are some 'bad eggs' among us, but for the most part, medical and para-medical staff are decent people who aspire to making people well. But then there is a greater reality beyond our control ... Condolences @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher on your loss.17/03/2017 #20 Glenn MelcherYour words resonate with so many Lisa : My Mother who is over 80 years old would have had the identical exchange with her Physician.. The words you share about Your Mother in that she always gave People the benefit of the doubt is a true testament to her "amazing Heart condition"..
If it is such that by sharing we can make one Life better even if for only the moment.
The World we be a better place.. Thank You for sharing as you do.. I am certain by have read many of Your insights You have the same "Amazing Heart condition" as Your Mother..17/03/2017 #15 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#11 Hi @Tausif Mundrawala, the memories of being there with her and for her are for the most, heart warming. I treasure that we did have that time. I wish I could have used a recorder to enunciate her voice (it was actually quite funny) after the fact. I never saw her so upset with me but it was fear, she really wasn't mad AT me. I'm glad you enjoyed this, that was my hope.. I didn't write it to depress anyone :))17/03/2017 #14 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#10 Hi @David B. Grinberg, that had to be hard being in ICU w/your dad. I'm glad you were there to over see medications etc... Nurses and Doctors get so busy, errors do happen easily and one error you don't want when you have a loved one dying is to have them suffer because someone forgot their pain medication. Thanks for your kind words! I'm sure you still miss your dad very much, he couldn't have been too old when he passed?16/03/2017 #11 Tausif MundrawalaI know how you might have felt while hearing that word. I agree with you that we should never leave our ill loved ones unattended. More than the diagnosis they need us more. That is the moment where they need special attention and care. If not words than our magical touch does wonders. How privileged you are that you got the opportunity to nurse and take care of your mom.
Our values and virtues speaks ton about us and I highly regard you in that aspect. I do respect you in all aspects but being a family person is something different. I liked your buzz in its entirety, @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher.16/03/2017 #10 David B. GrinbergLisa, your mother was a real saint and I'm very sorry again for your loss. Moreover, I'm sure all of her fine qualities are shining through you -- per your many wonderful attributes and character traits.
It's true that doctors are neither gods nor are they infallible, as you demonstrate. I recall being by my father's side in the ICU before he passed away. I always made sure the nurses were giving him the appropriate medication to ease his pain and suffering. Our parents were there for us as children and now it's time for us to be there for them as adults as they live through their "Golden Years." You are most certainly a role model in this respect and so many others, Lisa.
Thanks for all YOU do!
- 12/03/2017My first article on Thriveglobal.
cc: @🐝 Fatima Williams @Ivette K. Caballero @Javier 🐝 beBee @Pamela 🐝 Williams and thank you @David B. Grinberg for sharing yesterday!Her Life as Cinderellajournal.thriveglobal.com Surviving...
Comments19/03/2017 #14 David B. Grinberg#12 @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher I would say that five recommendations or more on Thrive for any article is above average compared to the content of others on the platform. Thus, any post with 10 or more recs and several comments is considered high engagement for Thrive, which -- like Medium -- is more reader centric compared to beBee, for instance. That's why engagement, or lack thereof, is relative to the specific site. Your posts have done well in this regard, Lisa👏👏 Just compare to most other content there.12/03/2017 #12 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#9 #10 I noticed the engagement is low @David B. Grinberg, there are a few who seem to have high engagement but must be recognized writers? I appreciate the recommends/shares I got thanks to you and a few others! I had no idea the editors do editing on the headline, lead photo etc.., that's good to know! That may be why I wasn't able to use my header photo as my header. Thanks!
- 12/03/2017John Rosemond: Your kids should not be the most importantlacrossetribune.com I recently asked a married couple who have three kids, none of whom are yet teens, “Who are the most important people in your...
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- Producer07/03/2017My Sister, My Rock... Live Like You Were DyingOver the past few months or so I have been feeling frustrated because it seems I may have a herniated disc in my neck. The pain has been a bit overwhelming. But, I had an "Aha" moment. My sister came to mind. You're probably wondering why my sister...
Comments15/03/2017 #39 Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman#38 I can't imagine how hard it is - everyone handles their illnesses in their own way and those around them sometimes find it hard to cope and understand how to act and what to do. Even though there are difficult times in your family, you have each other and seem very close. That's a wonderful thing.15/03/2017 #38 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#37 My sister just shared with me recently that she suffers from Anxiety and this may have been her way of protecting her fears... sort of isolating. I think when some people face such grave illnesses they retreat and others prefer to have people around depending on how they feel physically. My sister has a wonderful husband and I believe she felt safe with just having him and the kids around so she could be herself if that makes sense? I can't imagine all the crying she did because she tends to hide her tears from everyone. She's got a tough exterior but many times those who appear tough on the outside could be melting on the inside. All these experiences have taught me so much more. I have to admit I felt very sad when we were told we couldn't come by for so long but I get it now, I really do! It wasn't about any of us.15/03/2017 #35 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#34 Thanks @Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman. I have to say, I heard of so many kids who my niece met during her time with cancer and becoming a Camp Counselor afterwards, she lost friends. I can't imagine how that affected such a young child. My inspiration comes from her and others. Hugs for you Xo14/03/2017 #32 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#31 Hi @Donna-Luisa Eversley, thanks and likewise, your stories inspire me too! I'm happy my niece is doing okay too! Everytime she gets sick (to this day) my sister still gets nervous if it's something that seems a bit from the norm, I would too!! I pray it never returns. My sister and I had a great time that day. I still have those sandals, they are my favorite and very comfortable because they have cushioned soles. Thanks Donna!!14/03/2017 #31 Donna-Luisa Eversley@Lisa 🐝 Gallagher I'm always inspired when I read from you. The stories of resilience and courage are very inspiring. Glad your niece is okay. The photo of you are your sis is very beautiful. On a very frivolous note I like your slippers in that photo :-) Thanks for sharing!13/03/2017 #30 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#29 I honestly don't know if I would have the strength or courage to fight as hard as my sister or niece. It's been said, you never know how you will deal with something unless or until you are faced with it. I can say one thing for sure- all of these serious issues brought us all closer together. I think it really made us realize just how fortunate we are to have a large family who forgives easily and loves unconditionally. We are far from perfect but I love that we can admit that to each other and live in the present! Thanks @🐝 Fatima Williams12/03/2017 #29 🐝 Fatima WilliamsYour family and you are fighters @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher Fighters against the odds life throws at us. You guys are an inspiration and I thank you for sharing your journey with them. Life's battles are like waves that keep coming back, we need to learn the art of swimming against those waves and surf above them. Live each day as if it were your last and cherish every person you meet as we know not if we'd meet each again.Some valuable lessons to appreciate each moment we live and to appreciate ourselves. With a beautiful and kind heart such as yours (family) nothing can drown you guys. Stay blessed and wishing you a speedy recovery with your neck pain.09/03/2017 #25 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#24 Hi @Aleta Curry, thank you for your kind sentiment. I find it easy to be supportive. I've watched so many I love go through so much and all I can think is- what would I want if that were me?! I've always loved being there for others and helping since I was a child. I'm hoping this neck of mine just heals LOL. I try to ignore it but now my husband is begging me to go to the Dr. I don't make a good patient ;-)09/03/2017 #24 Aleta CurryOh my goodness, @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher, that was so moving I hardly know what to say. What you neglected to write was what an incredibly supportive person you are yourself. I hope the prognosis for your neck turns out to be excellent, and yet I know you won't crumble if it isn't. Thank you for a very evocative post.08/03/2017 #23 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#21 Hi Shelly, thanks for your kind words. I think my entire family has their days where any one of us may complain but it seems each of us find a way of lifting the other up and my mom was also one who never complained. She used to say, "What do I have to complain about, it could be so much worse... " And, then she would speak of someone else who had an illness. I guess she set the tone! It's odd because when we were growing up it wasn't as if we weren't allowed to cry or complain, I think maturation and life just made us look at things differently. I can't imagine being bedridden with MS or any disease and when I hear stories like that I think to myself.. I bet I would feel bad for myself but then, we just never know? That must be tough on Rikki, your neighbor, hopefully she has a great support system?! Hey I love your pic, your rockin it!08/03/2017 #21 Shelley BrownBeautifully written. You and your family are amazing. I can feel your spirit through your words Lisa. You and your family are not survivors, you are thrivers! Important lesson for all of us and usually learned when it hits close to home. My neighbor, Rikki, has MS and is totally house bound and can no longer walk or take care of herself. She never complains nor says "Why me"? Every time I want to complain I think "Rikki". I am sorry about your neck. Pain is pain. Lisa, you are inspiring.
- Producer03/03/2017Three Generations: The Power of CourageEva is my grandmother's name and Martha is my mom's name, they're mother and daughter. Both of them have been very influential in my life, directly and indirectly. I like to watch to learn, and I have tremendously benefited from doing this. I...
Comments07/03/2017 #36 🐝 Fatima Williams#16 @Milos Djukic My FFF. I'm sorry I'm missed replying to this comment I wanted too. Zora is a very beautiful name and I can imagine how pretty your Mom was considering you are so handsome. She has raised righteous, kind and intelligent son. A man of values and brains 😃. May her soul rest in peace as she smiles down on us all.
Mom and Fractals-forever ❤07/03/2017 #35 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#28 So true @Ivette K. Caballero, moms do love unconditionally :)) When my daughter was a teen and into her early 20's, she said so many things I was certain she hated me. I was strict with her and have no regrets. The point, I never held anything she said against her because my love for her is so much deeper. We are best friends today and she's 29. I'm thankful for her!! Glad you enjoyed my honestly LOL. I can't sew either. I can sew hems but I hate doing that too ;-)07/03/2017 #31 Ivette K. Caballero@Mamen 🐝 Delgado It's so great to know of another lady whose grandmother taught her how to knit, thank you Mamen for sharing this part of your life. It's great to know that my story filled you up with great emotions and brought back good memories and feelings to you. Yes, I am very blessed to have these wonderful women in my life. Thank you, once again, @Milos Djukic for being the marvelous messenger that you are!07/03/2017 #29 Ivette K. Caballero#16 @Milos Djukic What a wonderful way to honor your mom! I really like her name, Zora. Milos, I am so sorry about your loss. In simple, yet powerful words, you express what a wonderful woman and mother she was, which speaks volumes about the kind of person you are. You're a poet!07/03/2017 #28 Ivette K. Caballero@Lisa 🐝 Gallagher I believe that every person has their "would've, could've, should've." We are imperfectly perfect human beings. I've also said things to my mom, things that I regret. Though as you say Lisa, "what matters most is that your mom knows how much you love her." I love this part you wrote: "Our bond was enough that I knew she not only forgave but let it go. That's love at it's truest essence, forgiving, forgetting and moving on." Moms are beautifully gifted to love unconditionally.
My mom knows how to knit too, though she prefers to buy things from a lady who's extremely skillful, and fast, at knitting. "I CANT DO THIS and I DON'T LIKE IT!," I can picture this scenario Lisa :) It's cute in a way. Not all of us have patience for all tedious tasks, I have patience for some and not for others. I am grateful for having you in my network, you're very sincere, sweet, and supportive.06/03/2017 #24 Ivette K. Caballero#11 @Max🐝 J. Carter It's true, "Letting go of the past and embracing the now are not easy. We let go of one view and embrace another. That is what drives the emotion." This is something to reflect on. We can all make progress in life if we are open and willing to break old and negative thinking and bad habits.
+206/03/2017 #23 Ivette K. Caballero#9 @David B. Grinberg I agree. Part of the the circle of life is learning and sharing, and sharing and learning from others; all which adds value to our lives. I'm so grateful for having amazing people in my network, people like you and each person who have read and commented on this story. We can't achieve much alone. We need to share what we know, we need to extend a helping hand, we need to encourage and inspire others; that's how we grow and become individuals who help our society be a better one. Again, thank you for the warm welcome and for your uplifting words.06/03/2017 #22 Ivette K. Caballero#1 @David B. Grinberg Thank you David for sharing your insights about the society norms that marginalized women at that time. Times have changed and women have definitely more opportunities to raise their children while also having a full or part time job. However, you're right, women still face discrimination of all sorts at the workplace, and outside of it as well. This is why is so important that we keep learning to stay informed about our rights. Knowledge and a support system play a key role. Thanks for the reminder about "Women's History Month" this month in the USA. I appreciate your genuine and insightful feedback. I learn from reading your comments :)06/03/2017 #21 Sarah ElkinsNo kidding: "We have mom and daughter issues like all moms and daughters do. That's the fun part about it... well, not so fun sometimes." And yet, what we learn about life from our mothers is absolutely priceless. Wonderful share, @Ivette K. Caballero View moreNo kidding: "We have mom and daughter issues like all moms and daughters do. That's the fun part about it... well, not so fun sometimes." And yet, what we learn about life from our mothers is absolutely priceless. Wonderful share, @Ivette K. Caballero, thank you. And thanks to @Milos Djukic for tagging me. Close
- Producer26/02/2017How I Welcomed 2017: Las Vegas, Family, and 20 Valuable Things I LearnedHi everyone! This is my first time sharing something about me on beBee and I look forward to getting to know more about you and experiencing a positive learning and sharing experience with all of you. Happy 2017! I was blessed to have an amazing...
Comments28/02/2017 #44 Ivette K. Caballero#43 @Irene 🐝 Rodriguez Escolar Estoy completamente de acuerdo contigo. Siempre hay algo por lo cual estar agradecidos aun cuando las cosas sean dificiles. Un dia de estos voy a contar la historia de cuando mi padre tenia una granja de abejas y como mi mama y yo ayudabamos a embotellar la miel. Saludos!28/02/2017 #35 Ivette K. Caballero#33 @@Tausif Mundrawala Yes, it is a blessing to have a caring, loving, and supporting family... and of course, I can share more about Salvadorian food in another story. Having lived in Los Angeles, CA for almost half of my life provided me with the experience of enjoying many types of food. LA is a fusion of people from all over the world and so local cuisine is very diverse.28/02/2017 #34 Ivette K. Caballero#31 @Ali Anani Thanks for your genuine compliment and for your support. Indeed, my uncle has helped his entire family and relatives --from parents to siblings to nephews/nieces to his wife's extended family and relatives, and many more. He's not rich, he's not highly educated, he doesn't have a powerful network, but he's very hardworking, supporting and caring, and he gives of what he has--and all from the heart and without expecting anything in return. Without a doubt, my uncle is richer in heart and more valuable than people who have much to share and many resources to help and yet they are selfish. My uncle has contributed to making the life of those he loves more meaningful. I can go on and on about the amazing person that my uncle is. I will write more about in future stories.27/02/2017 #33 Tausif MundrawalaIt's a privilege to have a wonderful family and people who values it knows its significance more than anyone else. You took us to the detour of Las Vegas and then introduced us to your extended family which was indeed a wonderful experience. I would love to read about Salvadorian food in your next buzz as I have heard about it for the very first time. Thanks for sharing this buzz with us, @Ivette K. Caballero27/02/2017 #31 Ali AnaniDear @Ivette K. Caballero- you are a born storyteller. Honestly, I read your post with great passion anticipation to know why you loved your uncle so much. It is a touching buzz and restores the need of family bonding. I loved these lines " My family is very important to me. We aren't a perfect family, though we are stronger together than divided. Love feeds and sustains our lives. Although we may not always be together physically, we are always united through love". It is about time we follow your 20 recommendations. Shared27/02/2017 #27 Ivette K. Caballero#16 @Milos Djukic I am speechless. When I read each of your comments, I feel so encouraged and lifted up. I also feel like I am reading poetry in a very simple and powerful way. Thanks a million Milos for being you and for being an inspiration to me and many more. "I love your lessons in human-centred leadership," I will always remember these words from you. Fractals forever :)27/02/2017 #25 Ivette K. Caballero#14 @David B. Grinberg Your words are always so well seasoned and encouraging. I am also thrilled to have joined beBee. My experience so far has been wonderful here. You're right, things are much more different here in many positive ways. I am very happy about the way I have been welcomed, this speaks volumes about this social platform. It also makes me think of something you wrote in one of your posts, "Don't put all of your eggs in one social platform." It's true, it's so effective to diversify. I also look forward to having the opportunity to meet all of you. Happy Monday!
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- Producer18/02/2017The Critical Importance Of Family In Today’s World of WeirdnessAs many of you know I have just lost a part of my immediate family. My brother-in law (sans the in-law), Bob Twidle.Yesterday my sister Sharon, Bob’s wife, came over and picked up my wife Heather who is going to stay with her for a couple of days,...
Comments20/02/2017 #13 CityVP 🐝 Manjit"Because a family is the core energy unit of the universe." That is the greatest single line that any human being can speak and is privileged to know. I was in a hotel in Belgium that faced what was clearly the National Stadium of the Belgium football team and its name was the King Baudouin Stadium. It was just a curiousity that my hotel was opposite it.
It is when I took a walk and there was a tram line next to it, that I saw the station name "Heysel". I never connected the two but now I had realized that this was the Heysel Stadium were so many Italian football fans died. The stadium had been rebuilt and now they called it King Baudouin Stadium. From that moment, the stadium I saw from hotel window had a totally different meaning.
Soccer is a tribal thing, but death brings everything down to brass tacks. There was a European final that should have been a showpiece game but crowd disturbance between Liverpool and Juventus supporters led to a poorly designed stadium becoming a death-trap and many Juventus supporters were crushed to death on that day. It is not as if this tragedy was simply an Italian one, immediately the game of football was immaterial, it was the loved one's lost that were important.
Unfortunately tragedy struck Liverpool supporters years later in a FA Cup match in Hillsborough :
So began a long fight for justice for the Hillsborough tragedy families and a 27 year struggle for truth
They were vindicated but what can never be brought back are the individual family members. It showed to me, that for all we talk about tribal this and social that - each of those lost loved one's mattered and everything else was secondary.
Family matters.18/02/2017 #9 🐝 Fatima WilliamsIt’s your tribe and as long as they are together, you know you feel complete.
What a beautiful way to emphasise the importance of family and yes No matter what family comes first and just being with them makes us feel complete. They complete the reason for our existence.
My heart goes out to you @Jim Murray I cannot tell you I know you feel because I believe Noone can ! I know that you are the only comforter to yourself. But I would say that You make beBee a better place for many and you are loved by all.
Praying for your family and you during this difficult time. Much love to all !18/02/2017 #7 David B. GrinbergJim, again please accept my most heartfelt sympathy for your loss. I lost my father several years ago, with whom I had an extremely close lifelong bond. He always took care of me and had my back growing up and even thereafter. Thus, when his health began failing, I moved him -- at his request and my urging -- from the many mediocre hospitals of South Florida to one of the world's best hospital near me. I got him into a special geriatric unit at Johns Hopkins Hospital in Baltimore. Perhaps I'll write about this at length in my own post at some point. But my point here is that, like so many, I know the hollow feeling of loss and feel for you during such a difficult time. Again, please know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers -- and that of so many other bees, I'm sure. God Bless You, Jim. You are a wise man, outstanding writer and communicator, and an overall good soul. In short, YOU make beBee a better place for all. Lastly, I would reiterate what you wrote above for everyone to ponder:
"In today’s ‘divide and conquer’ world there are so many forces working to divide us. Ideologically, by religion, by race, by ethnicity and by ‘have and have not’ standards.
And many people fall prey to these forces, all of which, at their root, are powered by hate and the need to make us dependent on a system and not each other."18/02/2017 #2 Gerald HechtIt's incomprehensibly weird when the death arrives and one sees the chain of family swinging...dangling; all links are vital and when we lose one; things are never gonna be what they were --the (for me) weirdest part in the immediate aftermath are the sounds of people's "well mannered utterances" of condolence...the fact is that it just sucks...and the chain of family is dangling ...and vulnerable.18/02/2017 #1 Joyce 🐝 Bowen"This love is the room that’s always there for kids to sleep in. This love is the ride to wherever anybody really needs to go. This love is the bail money, you get by hook or by crook. This love is the feeling you get when your family is all in one place together, just being with each other." So beautifully put... Thanks for your thoughts.
- Producer17/02/2017What would you do if you became disabled with two children? MY STORYI was planning on writing about my struggle with motherhood and health for a long time now. In my opinion, not only will this help me better cope with my problems but at the same time, I would help others going through a similar situation.I guess...
Comments18/02/2017 #2 Dorothy CooperI love your comment and I know that I am not alone because I help with some disabled advocacy campaigns and I realize the US offers more services than most countries. The UK has had struggles this year. We forget that 51 million people identify themselves with a disability. I appreciate your comment. The second half is coming and both my children are enrolled at colleges one part-time and the other will be full time. I hope! Dorrie
- Producer17/02/2017If Given The Chance To Make A Difference, Would You?I was cruising You-Tube, when I came across a video with a unique title: What would you say if you only had 15 seconds? “OK” I thought, “what will he say with his 15 seconds?” So, I watched the video. It was a short comedian act that was a little...
Comments20/02/2017 #21 Devesh Bhatt#18 dont worry. I was almost convinced not a good person.
My worldview could not change when i was an accessory for exploitation...i had to change my world so to speak :)
On the other hand, assuming people to be unfair and still having the belief to do good is very relieving. Then the few good people i meet are a bonus.
I just had to assume unfairness but not ponder upon the details.
I still have to figure out how to define it better but it works.
But at the end of the day its all about self belief in my case.20/02/2017 #18 Paul 🐝 Kearley#10 @Devesh Bhatt you packed a lot into your comment. One part troubles me though was your quote that you are not a good person. I would certainly suggest you change that worldview, as it will have ramifications on all of the relationships you create over your lifetime. Yes, people can be unfair, that's their problem. If we do our best with the time we are given, then you will be a success.19/02/2017 #14 debasish majumderi did not come to this lovely, wonderful world out of my own wish, if though could be in fifteen seconds, how will i express my wish altogether about the last fifteen seconds, despite i cannot envisage even an iota of the situation of my last fifteen seconds! intriguing question indeed and i wonder how it trigger to peoples mind too! however, lovely joke @Paul 🐝 Kearley! you have a unique sense of humor! enjoyed read. thank you for such unique share too.19/02/2017 #13 Anonymous@Paul Kearley If at some time in the future one of your children is posting about you "The motivation for this post was my dad. He passed away on Valentines day, and I miss him terribly, but he goes with me wherever I go, whispering advice in my ear and guiding me down the right road. " then you need say nothing in your 15 seconds. Your legacy will speak for itself.19/02/2017 #11 Robert CormackWhat's interesting here, @Paul Kearley, is it's about what we leave behind. I'm more worried about how we change things while still living. If I'm not around, it seems I'm missing my most profound thoughts and words (not that I have any, but still, it's nice to know I could have one or two).19/02/2017 #10 Devesh BhattTrust yourself and do good when times are easy.
For those older than me who live during tough times but havent shifted gears durig better times.
For friends who dont have the endurance like those before us and lose self belief easily.
Its also seeded in my regret of overthinking the good i could have done but thought about bad precedents rather than enquiring facts.
Something i told myself repeatedly over a long time, i was almost convinced that im no good and i am not a good person.
What i believe now, people are unfair and i cannot let that rub off on me.18/02/2017 #9 Ken Boddie15 seconds, Paul? Not long enough to assemble a worthy address to the nation or to pen a prophetic poem, assuming that we had the inclination for either. I'd fall back on a couple of my favourite quotes:
"O wad some Power the giftie gie us.
To see oursels as ithers see us!"
"Make new friends, but remember the old,
One is silvern, the other is gold!"17/02/2017 #7 Ella de JongThank you @Paul 🐝 Kearley. I'm sorry for your loss! I'm happy for you that your father is always, always around when you need him.
My 15 seconds would be something like .. "Please, try to make someone smile by genuine attention and talking about their small successes. By doing this you can make your life meaningful. It's empowering for the both of you and everyone (young, old, brave and insecure) of us can try this, every single day!"17/02/2017 #4 Lori Mullins JohnsonIn 2013 there was a simple study done by a palliative care nurse. She started asking all of her patients, during their final days, if they had any regrets. The top ten list was filled with mostly "I should have's" , I should have pursued my dreams, I should have said I love you, I should have made more time for my family and friends, I should have learned earlier that happiness is a choice, etc... so think of your "should have's" now, and go do them.
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Comments17/02/2017 #70 Donna-Luisa EversleyHahaha yes @Ali Anani, though many may consider it pessimistic to look at the negative what ifs up front, I think 'the bubble' of positivity needs to always have a dose of reality close by. I recall thinking many years ago, I had a business idea that could not fail... when it did I was crushed. So yes, even in circumstances which seem highly positive we need to use a bit of caution. Love though makes us all fools, so yes we will always need to face reality when it comes.#6817/02/2017 #68 Ali Anani#66 This is a beautiful idea dear @Donna-Luisa Eversley. "While it is always preferential to seek the better, one must prepare for 'worse', because it will come"- this is an eloquent way to look into risk management. Even in business- when a business is thriving it should also consider the possibility of cold water poured on them.17/02/2017 #67 Donna-Luisa Eversley@Ali Anani... to continue... It will be hard for any relationship to work with a spouse if there is not mutual trust and support. We can't get away from the intrinsic make up of men and women and the way most men may feel emasculated if their wives earn more, or for a woman if a husband is the one who is more adept at handling the home and keeping it in order. That is a controversial statement I've just made, but it is from years of observations and discussions. Though we progress as people with all similar abilities and capabilities, relationships are even more challenging if they are to be enduring and long-lasting. Having some clear discussions upfront may create breaking points, but better than spending years with anger being built. Just my opinion.17/02/2017 #66 Donna-Luisa Eversley@Ali Anani Relationships change and people change. In the case presented, sometimes you get the flip side of the marriage promise - for better or worse! While it is always preferential to seek the better, one must prepare for 'worse', because it will come. I was giving advice to a friend in a relationship and asked if she was prepared to stick it out if 'worse came around' in the relationship, and she said no. Thus, maybe when getting into a permanent relationship we should discuss our 'worse' with potential mates, and get the cold water poured on us. #4613/02/2017 #64 Ali Anani#63 I am waiting for the response of @Javier 🐝 beBee. Estimations range between 60%-80% of our bodies is water. What we throw in rivers we tend to throw in our bodies. This is a new idea emerging. For somebody to throw a pepsi can in water it is he who drank the bubbles and contaminated the water of his body. Careless to the environment is also careless for his own body.13/02/2017 #63 CityVP 🐝 Manjit#61 Better than that - we are made of water. We are not dry of humanity and in that sea we can drown. That is why home is no different to a single polyp of coral. Given the opportunity to grow tiny polyps can become great barrier reefs. As we become smarter about our ecology we will get smarter about our home. The daily practice of living is what is dynamic - that is the value of the link to This is Water - this is where David Foster Wallace was most brilliant, but David Foster Wallace also commit suicide, how does @Javier 🐝 beBee reconcile his particular theory of happiness with someone like David Foster Wallace?13/02/2017 #61 Ali Anani#60 🤦🤷 WOW! So, in big families with so many kids the possibilities become staggering. This is one reason when we have too many interactions on a buzz the possibilities become mind-bewildering. However; my dear friend @CityVP 🐝 Manjit View more#60 🤦🤷 WOW! So, in big families with so many kids the possibilities become staggering. This is one reason when we have too many interactions on a buzz the possibilities become mind-bewildering. However; my dear friend @CityVP 🐝 Manjit few great possibilities shall emerge out of large possibilities. One example is water solutions and because of you I am working on it. Close13/02/2017 #58 Ali Anani#56 There is a big difference in adding sugar to water than adding fat to same water. Sugar dissolves in water and we have a homogeneous solution. Fats don't dissolve and always float on the surface of water. It is up t us what to add to the waters of marriage. This thinking is due to your superb comment @Harvey Lloyd. You wrote "We can't describe the points of each in terms of equal but rather how one fills the others weaknesses and compliments their strengths". This is our choice: sweetening strengths and reducing weaknesses or add immiscible 'thoughts and actions" and sour the relationship.
As you wrote "The need for solidarity of family commitment has never been greater". Unfortunately, the waters are becoming salty and we make water saltier. The salting out effect takes place and wife and husband separate like oil and water do.
I greatly appreciate your comment, Harvey. It is worthy of pondering on for long times.13/02/2017 #56 Harvey LloydA very divisive subject matter. It is difficult to discuss this topic without discussing the values that sustain a marriage. A vowed relationship is different than just being friends. IMHO marriage is not a vow of equals but rather of complimentary. We cant describe the points of each in terms of equal but rather how one fills the others weaknesses and compliments their strengths.
In your story i wonder what the answer would have been, if early in the relationship, the wife had been asked, Would you trade your husband for a million dollars?
Families today struggle to meet relationship requirements as they serve to many masters. Work, finance and social all pull at the family. The need for solidarity of family commitment has never been greater. Husbands cant be husbands without a wife, nor can a wife be a wife without a husband. Sounds simple but when we make so many promises outside the marriage then what is left for the family?
Long before the outcomes you described, each party made a decision they couldn't go with the other, emotionally. They became competitive. Each responded differently to this choice, mentally. Each chose their corner and began the journey of competitive separation. The real outcome is neither chose the family.
When i fear my boss/career more than my wife/family, then separation has started.13/02/2017 #55 CityVP 🐝 Manjit#54 That indeed is the problem of underwhelm in organizations that have the potential to be even greater, pure water CEO's get frozen out, sugar water CEO's do not. Then again "This is Water" : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PhhC_N6Bm_s View more#54 That indeed is the problem of underwhelm in organizations that have the potential to be even greater, pure water CEO's get frozen out, sugar water CEO's do not. Then again "This is Water" : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PhhC_N6Bm_s
There is a big difference between a tree of knowledge and a tree of life. The monkeys on the tree of knowledge can eat what they want, the rare humans who find the Tree of Life is the Tree worth finding and that tree feeds our heart not our mental stomach. Close13/02/2017 #54 Ali Anani#53 My next buzz following today's buzz on New Insights on HUman Behavior (actually an eBook) will be on "Adapting to Increase our Tolerance Levels". Dear friend @CityVP 🐝 Manjit- one way trees adapt to cold weather and to stop water freezing and killing trees is to produce sugar water. Sugar water doesn't freeze as readily as pure water. So, I thank you for increasing my tolerance level. I see more synchronicity peeping between us.13/02/2017 #53 CityVP 🐝 Manjit#48 My dear Ali Anani, I am not in this world to oppose or dispose, I want to set my sights much higher visions than that. I only have two words for the limitations that stem from opposing in this regard before I get back to how the best minds make honey.
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Comments05/03/2017 #16 Sara JacoboviciOne line that is obvious here @Joel Anderson is the one straight from the heart! The lines of connection that you describe, from both time and place, verbal and nonverbal, are as you say; "straight and narrow, squiggly, or dotted focused in one direction or left to meander down paths well or less travelled." The connections don't just form lines, but patterns and imprints. What is significant is that, nothing can be formed if no connection exists; between individuals, community, nature, our environment. In your words, connections made through lines that "converge, rather than diverge".21/01/2017 #14 Gerald HechtSome lines aren't even relevant...in the end who among us would waste an iota of our precious time and energy (best not wasted...all of our lives, all of our loved ones lives...all over --in the blink of an eye) on the political views of "The Federalists" vs. "The Whigs"?
I don't mean to be obtuse or provincial...FWIW...it's a reference to the ghost of a line in the sand...in which existed in the ghost of a place called "America"; neither of which exist. They are Dead. No sand. No line. Remains.21/01/2017 #12 Joel Anderson#5 @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher Sorry, was trying to write, read and respond on my phone and in between meetings and other distractions that come with the work day. I am truly thankful for your comments and thoughts on this particular piece. Amazing how simple "Moments:Snap shots in time" can become become so profound.
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Comments25/01/2017 #47 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#45 #46 Thank you so much for your kind and generous words @🐝 Fatima Williams. I have a sense that she is much happier now, I feel it. Still miss her so much. I think I miss her more now than I did when she first left. God bless you and your family too, I would say the same of you, a beautiful person we are all blessed to know. Sending positive thoughts back to you from Pennsylvania, US :))25/01/2017 #45 🐝 Fatima WilliamsThis is such a beautiful tribute dear @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher Love you loads and a big Hug to you. May your Mom's Soul rest in Peace as She smiles down at you from Heaven for; she can see how proud I am to know you and How thankful I am to her for bringing you to this world and raising you into such a lovely person 😍😍😘😘 God bless your family with all the love they need now. Sending you positive vibes from Dubai 😍😍😘😘🤗🤗14/01/2017 #43 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#41 Hi @Lisa Vanderburg, thank you so much for reading this not once but 2 times. Yes, that was my intent... to honor my mom and celebrate her life. I began writing my letter before she passed and finished the letter within a few days of her passing. I smile when I read it because it's a fond reminder of the love we all shared together thanks to mom and her love for all of us. That alone, puts a smile on my face even though every first without her has had it's up's/downs. I will continue to honor her love through my children and grandchildren :))14/01/2017 #41 Lisa VanderburgI read this a couple of days ago and couldn't respond, lovely @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher. Your love is too intimate for me to come close - it breaks my heart.
I so applaud you writing this (which I've re-read anew). Your Mother is what all Mother's show be; you are what all daughters should be. You have taken the pain of your loss to make a celebration of a life well loved. Bravo!14/01/2017 #38 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#34 I'm glad to know my memory is fairly well intact still @David B. Grinberg :)) I got half of it right RE: team, yay me! LOL. I agree, remembering all the happy times, the proud etc... leave us with a sense of peace. After my dad died, I wasn't able to get to that place until I got through the grieving process and I don't remember how long that took. It's been a long time since he's been gone and my memories are beautiful of him without tears. One day I will be able to smile big when I remember the beautiful memories of my mom without anymore tears too. Thanks! Psst, I don't cry often as it is.14/01/2017 #37 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#36 Ken, your poem brought happy tears to my eyes. "She hugs us like a shadow, And refuses our goodbyes." Last night and part of today, I felt this. And then remembered, "That their spirit lives in what we do and everything we say." Wow... so true and so very moving. Thank You Ken!! You have a talent with words.14/01/2017 #36 Ken BoddieI wrote this poem, Lisa, for another occasion, but I hope that it helps reinforce what you already know - that your daily actions and your obvious love for your mum, both then and now, are more important than words unshared.
Grief never leaves us,
She answers not our why's,
She hugs us like a shadow,
And refuses our goodbyes.
She's there lest we forget,
When our loved ones slip away,
That their spirit lives in what we do,
And everything we say.14/01/2017 #34 David B. Grinberg#30 Thanks for your kind reply, Lisa. I'm impressed you remembered the football team. Well, almost. You got it half right: NY Jets. My dad got season tickets for us when I was a kid and the Jets actually played in NY back then (now it's NJ) at the old Shea Stadium in Queens. As noted previously, even though the Jets usually lost more than they won, the father-son bonding was always a winning experience.
Not a day goes by when I don't think about him. But rather than being sad, I think of all his positive life accomplishments: an Army veteran, president and CEO of a textile manufacturing company in NYC, a loving husband and father, a world traveler, an amateur tennis player and swimmer, etc. My dad lived a full and fruitful life. In fact, I would even say he lived the "American dream" IMHO.
Thus, I thank the good Lord above for blessing me with such a wonderful father who was always there for me. Even when our loved ones are gone, the wonderful memories live on within in us -- even as the pain of missing someone always lingers.13/01/2017 #30 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#19 I'm sorry you lost your father @David B. Grinberg, if I recall you both loved going to the NY Giants games together? I might have the team wrong? Loss is never easy for anyone. I actually feel guilty for hurting when I do because I think of people who lost loved one's in a manner I didn't (without being detailed) and then I feel I have no right to feel sad when I think of others losses which seem even worse to me if that makes sense?13/01/2017 #29 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#11 @Larry Boyer, 🐝 Brand Ambassador, I forgot to mention... I saved 3 voicemails from my mom and I haven't been able to listen to them either. Not sure I will ever be able to. I remember long after dad died and I forgot what his voice sounded like, I wished I would have had his voice on tape or something but that was long before the technology we have today. At least we both know we have them if we do chose to listen :))
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Comments11/01/2017 #15 Max🐝 J. Carter#13 I rarely blush.... well done @Lisa Vanderburg.
You are too kind.
It is unfortunate that it is more machismo that is taught than true manhood in schools. One of my ongoing efforts is in teaching men to be more manly and that means more in touch with being able to express themselves with love without fear of being thought of as a homosexual and before anyone says something there is nothing wrong with being homosexual.
What's wrong is thinking only homosexual men can be emotional creatures who are capable of tender caring and compassion and experiencing what I call androgynous love.
The male friends I have in my life often get big hugs and hear I love you frequently.11/01/2017 #13 Lisa Vanderburg#6 Aw..God love ya! (I'm old, you can overlook this once), what a heart you have! I so long for your love, bonding and - yes - manhood! It should be taught at school to be in another's shoes :)
Just an aside for levity; my father's last word to me before he died (I was the carer that night) was, 'oh....SHUT UP woman'. Your Dad is a great guy and well worth your respect; just don't burn out!11/01/2017 #12 Max🐝 J. Carter#10 @David Navarro López it appears to me you honor him daily in the way you live.
I love the tile concept you shared with us and thank you for doing so.
It reminds o the old line "The older I got, the smarter my father got."
I agree I think our dads would have been great friends and I appreciate the friendship that you and I have been building slowly over time.11/01/2017 #10 AnonymousIn Spain we use to make tiles with sayings or adages on it and hang them in the wall like this https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-MSbo-Mp78GA/Vy-PV9PFdlI/AAAAAAAAUBo/VNsdi7Z3EoE0FsV-2oYuackN6vsKY4mqwCLcB/s1600/azulejos%2Bcon%2Brefranes.jpg View moreIn Spain we use to make tiles with sayings or adages on it and hang them in the wall like this https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-MSbo-Mp78GA/Vy-PV9PFdlI/AAAAAAAAUBo/VNsdi7Z3EoE0FsV-2oYuackN6vsKY4mqwCLcB/s1600/azulejos%2Bcon%2Brefranes.jpg
I remember a very good one, which I am translating for you:
At 5 years old, Papa knows everything
At 15, there are things Papa doesn't know
At 25, Papa knows nothing
At 35, maybe Papa was right in something
At 45, I am going to ask Papa
At 55, I wish I had my Papa
My Father passed away on 2008 and there is no single day my mind flies to him.
I was lucky to have him, learned a lot from him. He never was too tired to teach me something. Whenever something had to be done at home, fixing a door, painting, whatever, he always took me with him and made me help him, explaining me why and how he was doing it, letting me do it, even if wrong, to learn.
In many ways, when you described yours, it made me think of mine. I am sure they would have been good friends.
I believe we both have been fortunate with our respective fathers.
I saw him going down in his health, day by day. However, he never left his spirit going down.
I hope I will honour him. Close11/01/2017 #6 Max🐝 J. Carter#3 It felt like a living eulogy as I was writing it. Kind of preparing myself in away for the inevitable.
I found with my dad that there was this unspoken competition for alpha dominance so to speak that went on for too many years. It has done both of us a world of good to set that aside and work it out. I think a lot of fathers and sons go through it and I see it in mothers and daughters at times
I remember the old movie THE BREAKFAST CLUB and that I am calling it an old movie is making me feel old ;)
When a teen girl is asked why she wants to run away she says "My home life is unsatisfying."
The response summed up was so is everyone else's or we would live with our parents for ever. I only hope to not have the same rfit with my own son and work at it with him. He's 12.
Thank you @Lisa Vanderburg for your kind words, they are felt and appreciated.11/01/2017 #4 Julio Angel 🐝Lopez LopezI'm doing it @Max🐝 J. Carter
He is 90 on the 17th of this month.
I have the impression that his gaze is lost in memories and I hear his stories repeated over and over again, giving him a face of surprise and laughter as if he told me for the first time.
I own him.
Thanks11/01/2017 #3 Lisa VanderburgWow...that hit home, Max. What you have so beautifully written is a living eulogy, although I can understand if you don't see it as such!
I feel your steps, moments of watching, waiting and breath-holding regarding your father's Parkinson's - my husband is 18 years into his and is moving to a wheelchair (temporarily, of course!). You are a good son and a practised listened; your father has taught you so many great life-lessons, and I find it so freeing to hear you talk of this - even though it costs you plenty! My husband started aged 49, so our sons were early teens. They never talk about it (at least to me). I wish they did.
Thanks @Max🐝 J. Carter, for the love you have for your father.
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Comments07/01/2017 #5 Devesh Bhatt#3 you have a long list of "keep away from me unless.." , repeated time and again, don't you think so much self expression of safeguards make you predictable, hence vulnerable? Or these are diversions to the judging kind who may be in for a surprise of they show bad intent?
No offence, just curious