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  1. ProducerJim Murray

    Jim Murray

    18/02/2017
    The Critical Importance Of Family In Today’s World of Weirdness
    The Critical Importance Of Family In Today’s World of WeirdnessAs many of you know I have just lost a part of my immediate family. My brother-in law (sans the in-law), Bob Twidle.Yesterday my sister Sharon, Bob’s wife, came over and picked up my wife Heather who is going to stay with her for a couple of days,...
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    David B. Grinberg
    18/02/2017 #7 David B. Grinberg
    Jim, again please accept my most heartfelt sympathy for your loss. I lost my father several years ago, with whom I had an extremely close lifelong bond. He always took care of me and had my back growing up and even thereafter. Thus, when his health began failing, I moved him -- at his request and my urging -- from the many mediocre hospitals of South Florida to one of the world's best hospital near me. I got him into a special geriatric unit at Johns Hopkins Hospital in Baltimore. Perhaps I'll write about this at length in my own post at some point. But my point here is that, like so many, I know the hollow feeling of loss and feel for you during such a difficult time. Again, please know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers -- and that of so many other bees, I'm sure. God Bless You, Jim. You are a wise man, outstanding writer and communicator, and an overall good soul. In short, YOU make beBee a better place for all. Lastly, I would reiterate what you wrote above for everyone to ponder:
    "In today’s ‘divide and conquer’ world there are so many forces working to divide us. Ideologically, by religion, by race, by ethnicity and by ‘have and have not’ standards.
    And many people fall prey to these forces, all of which, at their root, are powered by hate and the need to make us dependent on a system and not each other."
    Don 🐝 Kerr
    18/02/2017 #6 Don 🐝 Kerr
    @Jim Murray Peace my friend.
    Todd Jones
    18/02/2017 #5 Todd Jones
    Beautiful expression of some heavy hearted, big picture contemplation, Jim. My condolences, and sincere wish that those close to you take this time to consider those things that really matter in our all to brief go-round.
    Julio Angel 🐝Lopez Lopez
    18/02/2017 #4 Julio Angel 🐝Lopez Lopez
    Very true what you say, @Jim Murray Although at times I have endured bad words, not only me, to my wife, that still hurts more. We have proved to be with the tribe. Love is something you give, without worrying that it will return.
    Jim Murray
    18/02/2017 #3 Jim Murray
    #1 Thanks@ Joyce Bowen.
    Gerald Hecht
    18/02/2017 #2 Gerald Hecht
    It's incomprehensibly weird when the death arrives and one sees the chain of family swinging...dangling; all links are vital and when we lose one; things are never gonna be what they were --the (for me) weirdest part in the immediate aftermath are the sounds of people's "well mannered utterances" of condolence...the fact is that it just sucks...and the chain of family is dangling ...and vulnerable.
    Joyce Bowen
    18/02/2017 #1 Joyce Bowen
    "This love is the room that’s always there for kids to sleep in. This love is the ride to wherever anybody really needs to go. This love is the bail money, you get by hook or by crook. This love is the feeling you get when your family is all in one place together, just being with each other." So beautifully put... Thanks for your thoughts.
  2. ProducerDorothy Cooper

    Dorothy Cooper

    17/02/2017
    What would you do if you became disabled with two children? MY STORY
    What would you do if you became disabled with two children? MY STORYI was planning on writing about my struggle with motherhood and health for a long time now. In my opinion, not only will this help me better cope with my problems but at the same time, I would help others going through a similar situation.I guess...
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    Joyce Bowen
    18/02/2017 #1 Joyce Bowen
    I can so relate. You are not alone. I went undiagnosed with MS for decades with children who had numerous school problems. I can imagine what you went through.
  3. ProducerPaul 🐝 Kearley
    If Given The Chance To Make A Difference, Would You?
    If Given The Chance To Make A Difference, Would You?I was cruising You-Tube, when I came across a video with a unique title: What would you say if you only had 15 seconds? “OK” I thought, “what will he say with his 15 seconds?” So, I watched the video. It was a short comedian act that was a little...
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    Ken Boddie
    18/02/2017 #9 Ken Boddie
    15 seconds, Paul? Not long enough to assemble a worthy address to the nation or to pen a prophetic poem, assuming that we had the inclination for either. I'd fall back on a couple of my favourite quotes:
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    "O wad some Power the giftie gie us.
    To see oursels as ithers see us!"
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    "Make new friends, but remember the old,
    One is silvern, the other is gold!"
    Preston 🐝 Vander Ven
    17/02/2017 #8 Preston 🐝 Vander Ven
    One of my goals in life is for those 15 seconds words to be, "I have nothing to say, because all my words are in the Lives of my Children."
    Ella de Jong
    17/02/2017 #7 Ella de Jong
    Thank you @Paul 🐝 Kearley. I'm sorry for your loss! I'm happy for you that your father is always, always around when you need him.
    My 15 seconds would be something like .. "Please, try to make someone smile by genuine attention and talking about their small successes. By doing this you can make your life meaningful. It's empowering for the both of you and everyone (young, old, brave and insecure) of us can try this, every single day!"
    Paul 🐝 Kearley
    17/02/2017 #6 Paul 🐝 Kearley
    #4 Thank you for that @Lori Mullins Johnson
    Paul 🐝 Kearley
    17/02/2017 #5 Paul 🐝 Kearley
    #3 The motivation for this post was my dad. He passed away on Valentines day, and I miss him terribly, but he goes with me wherever I go, whispering advice in my ear and guiding me down the right road.
    Lori Mullins Johnson
    17/02/2017 #4 Lori Mullins Johnson
    In 2013 there was a simple study done by a palliative care nurse. She started asking all of her patients, during their final days, if they had any regrets. The top ten list was filled with mostly "I should have's" , I should have pursued my dreams, I should have said I love you, I should have made more time for my family and friends, I should have learned earlier that happiness is a choice, etc... so think of your "should have's" now, and go do them.
    Robin Barton
    17/02/2017 #3 Robin Barton
    #2 Dad's sometimes have the best sayings! Something funny about my Dad having a saying-"take the tax exemption, worry about the IRS later." Seriously! And I never took that advice because he was always being audited!!
    Paul 🐝 Kearley
    17/02/2017 #2 Paul 🐝 Kearley
    #1 @Robin Barton I would say you have! My Dad used to say, you can preach a better sermon with your life than you can with your words.
    Robin Barton
    17/02/2017 #1 Robin Barton
    Paul, again, another person here has made me think and ponder and that is one of the things I love to do. Great insights. Most of my career I have had the pleasure of working with young people, just starting out, and I hope that my example, actions and words have inspired some of them in their lives. I've had the opportunity to help them, with job references, advice, job searches, and yes, even money sometimes if needed. I hope I made a difference!
  4. ProducerAli Anani

    Ali Anani

    12/02/2017
    Family Dynamics in Action
    Family Dynamics in ActionThis buzz is about real life story of what started as a very promising family till… I am telling the story as it happened, but changed names so as not to hurt anybody. Lisa and David were classmates right from elementary school to attending...
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    Ali Anani
    17/02/2017 #71 Ali Anani
    #70 History has shown us that life oscillates between extremes sometimes. If it is on the positive side today it could swing to the other side tomorrow. Yes, and may be this topic would be your next buzz. It is worthy dear @Donna-Luisa Eversley
    Donna-Luisa Eversley
    17/02/2017 #70 Donna-Luisa Eversley
    Hahaha yes @Ali Anani, though many may consider it pessimistic to look at the negative what ifs up front, I think 'the bubble' of positivity needs to always have a dose of reality close by. I recall thinking many years ago, I had a business idea that could not fail... when it did I was crushed. So yes, even in circumstances which seem highly positive we need to use a bit of caution. Love though makes us all fools, so yes we will always need to face reality when it comes.#68
    Ali Anani
    17/02/2017 #69 Ali Anani
    #67 "Having some clear discussions upfront may create breaking points, but better than spending years with anger being built. Just my opinion". This is my wisdom of the day dear @Donna-Luisa Eversley
    Ali Anani
    17/02/2017 #68 Ali Anani
    #66 This is a beautiful idea dear @Donna-Luisa Eversley. "While it is always preferential to seek the better, one must prepare for 'worse', because it will come"- this is an eloquent way to look into risk management. Even in business- when a business is thriving it should also consider the possibility of cold water poured on them.
    Donna-Luisa Eversley
    17/02/2017 #67 Donna-Luisa Eversley
    @Ali Anani... to continue... It will be hard for any relationship to work with a spouse if there is not mutual trust and support. We can't get away from the intrinsic make up of men and women and the way most men may feel emasculated if their wives earn more, or for a woman if a husband is the one who is more adept at handling the home and keeping it in order. That is a controversial statement I've just made, but it is from years of observations and discussions. Though we progress as people with all similar abilities and capabilities, relationships are even more challenging if they are to be enduring and long-lasting. Having some clear discussions upfront may create breaking points, but better than spending years with anger being built. Just my opinion.
    Donna-Luisa Eversley
    17/02/2017 #66 Donna-Luisa Eversley
    @Ali Anani Relationships change and people change. In the case presented, sometimes you get the flip side of the marriage promise - for better or worse! While it is always preferential to seek the better, one must prepare for 'worse', because it will come. I was giving advice to a friend in a relationship and asked if she was prepared to stick it out if 'worse came around' in the relationship, and she said no. Thus, maybe when getting into a permanent relationship we should discuss our 'worse' with potential mates, and get the cold water poured on us. #46
    Javier 🐝 beBee
    13/02/2017 #65 Javier 🐝 beBee
    Sometimes, leaving a sick person is far better than sticking with him. Fully agreed.
    Ali Anani
    13/02/2017 #64 Ali Anani
    #63 I am waiting for the response of @Javier 🐝 beBee. Estimations range between 60%-80% of our bodies is water. What we throw in rivers we tend to throw in our bodies. This is a new idea emerging. For somebody to throw a pepsi can in water it is he who drank the bubbles and contaminated the water of his body. Careless to the environment is also careless for his own body.
    CityVP 🐝 Manjit
    13/02/2017 #63 CityVP 🐝 Manjit
    #61 Better than that - we are made of water. We are not dry of humanity and in that sea we can drown. That is why home is no different to a single polyp of coral. Given the opportunity to grow tiny polyps can become great barrier reefs. As we become smarter about our ecology we will get smarter about our home. The daily practice of living is what is dynamic - that is the value of the link to This is Water - this is where David Foster Wallace was most brilliant, but David Foster Wallace also commit suicide, how does @Javier 🐝 beBee reconcile his particular theory of happiness with someone like David Foster Wallace?
    Ali Anani
    13/02/2017 #61 Ali Anani
    #60 🤦🤷 WOW! So, in big families with so many kids the possibilities become staggering. This is one reason when we have too many interactions on a buzz the possibilities become mind-bewildering. However; my dear friend @CityVP 🐝 Manjit View more
    #60 🤦🤷 WOW! So, in big families with so many kids the possibilities become staggering. This is one reason when we have too many interactions on a buzz the possibilities become mind-bewildering. However; my dear friend @CityVP 🐝 Manjit few great possibilities shall emerge out of large possibilities. One example is water solutions and because of you I am working on it. Close
    CityVP 🐝 Manjit
    13/02/2017 #60 CityVP 🐝 Manjit
    The math of possible relationships is staggering as the formula pointed out in this link
    http://sfhelp.org/fam/pop/formula.htm
    Ali Anani
    13/02/2017 #58 Ali Anani
    #56 There is a big difference in adding sugar to water than adding fat to same water. Sugar dissolves in water and we have a homogeneous solution. Fats don't dissolve and always float on the surface of water. It is up t us what to add to the waters of marriage. This thinking is due to your superb comment @Harvey Lloyd. You wrote "We can't describe the points of each in terms of equal but rather how one fills the others weaknesses and compliments their strengths". This is our choice: sweetening strengths and reducing weaknesses or add immiscible 'thoughts and actions" and sour the relationship.
    As you wrote "The need for solidarity of family commitment has never been greater". Unfortunately, the waters are becoming salty and we make water saltier. The salting out effect takes place and wife and husband separate like oil and water do.
    I greatly appreciate your comment, Harvey. It is worthy of pondering on for long times.
    Ali Anani
    13/02/2017 #57 Ali Anani
    #55 You fed my heart dear @CityVP 🐝 Manjit
    Harvey Lloyd
    13/02/2017 #56 Harvey Lloyd
    A very divisive subject matter. It is difficult to discuss this topic without discussing the values that sustain a marriage. A vowed relationship is different than just being friends. IMHO marriage is not a vow of equals but rather of complimentary. We cant describe the points of each in terms of equal but rather how one fills the others weaknesses and compliments their strengths.

    In your story i wonder what the answer would have been, if early in the relationship, the wife had been asked, Would you trade your husband for a million dollars?

    Families today struggle to meet relationship requirements as they serve to many masters. Work, finance and social all pull at the family. The need for solidarity of family commitment has never been greater. Husbands cant be husbands without a wife, nor can a wife be a wife without a husband. Sounds simple but when we make so many promises outside the marriage then what is left for the family?

    Long before the outcomes you described, each party made a decision they couldn't go with the other, emotionally. They became competitive. Each responded differently to this choice, mentally. Each chose their corner and began the journey of competitive separation. The real outcome is neither chose the family.

    When i fear my boss/career more than my wife/family, then separation has started.
    CityVP 🐝 Manjit
    13/02/2017 #55 CityVP 🐝 Manjit
    #54 That indeed is the problem of underwhelm in organizations that have the potential to be even greater, pure water CEO's get frozen out, sugar water CEO's do not. Then again "This is Water" : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PhhC_N6Bm_s View more
    #54 That indeed is the problem of underwhelm in organizations that have the potential to be even greater, pure water CEO's get frozen out, sugar water CEO's do not. Then again "This is Water" : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PhhC_N6Bm_s

    There is a big difference between a tree of knowledge and a tree of life. The monkeys on the tree of knowledge can eat what they want, the rare humans who find the Tree of Life is the Tree worth finding and that tree feeds our heart not our mental stomach. Close
    Ali Anani
    13/02/2017 #54 Ali Anani
    #53 My next buzz following today's buzz on New Insights on HUman Behavior (actually an eBook) will be on "Adapting to Increase our Tolerance Levels". Dear friend @CityVP 🐝 Manjit- one way trees adapt to cold weather and to stop water freezing and killing trees is to produce sugar water. Sugar water doesn't freeze as readily as pure water. So, I thank you for increasing my tolerance level. I see more synchronicity peeping between us.
    CityVP 🐝 Manjit
    13/02/2017 #53 CityVP 🐝 Manjit
    #48 My dear Ali Anani, I am not in this world to oppose or dispose, I want to set my sights much higher visions than that. I only have two words for the limitations that stem from opposing in this regard before I get back to how the best minds make honey.

    Sugar Water.
    Mohammed Sultan
    13/02/2017 #52 Mohammed Sultan
    #51 "Sadak Alah Al azzem"
    Ali Anani
    13/02/2017 #51 Ali Anani
    #49 In my previous comment I forgot to add two words (men anfusekkum) so it should read as follows:
    Wa men ayatehi an khalaka lakum men anfusekkum azwajan litaskonoo elayha wa ja'al beinakuma mawadatan wa rahma.
    Ali Anani
    13/02/2017 #50 Ali Anani
    #49 Enjoyed your Arabic quote dear @Mohammed Sultan. Quran says it better- Wa men ayatehi an khalaka lakum azwajan litaskonoo elayha wa ja'al beinakuma mawadatan wa rahma.
    It takes the husband and wife to feel the other is an indispensable part of him/ her so that they may live happily.
  5. The Mom Connection
    Parenting is hard. We are here to help!
    www.mymomconnection.com
    The Mom Connection
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  6. Flavio 🇯🇵 Souza 🐝
    Flavio 🇯🇵 Souza 🐝
    Mom of 4 Showed What Childhood Is Like Without TV and Gadgets – Go Humans News
    gohumans.news The definitive place for positive news about the human...
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  7. Jason Stueck

    Jason Stueck

    21/01/2017
    Jason Stueck
    Rebooten: Mark Twain...Do yourself a favor
    www.rebooten.com
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  8. Jason Stueck

    Jason Stueck

    20/01/2017
    Jason Stueck
    Rebooten: Things aren’t that easy…
    www.rebooten.com
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  9. Jason Stueck

    Jason Stueck

    20/01/2017
    Jason Stueck
    Rebooten: The Power of Absurdity
    www.rebooten.com
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    Jason Stueck

    20/01/2017
    Jason Stueck
    Rebooten: Sometimes the memory has to be enough
    www.rebooten.com
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  11. ProducerJoel Anderson

    Joel Anderson

    19/01/2017
    Lines in the Sand: Part II
    Lines in the Sand: Part IILast night in a hospital room with my father, while he slept, my grown and very smart daughter and I somehow embarked on a discussion about things coming up and looming in our future. The focus was on my father, but as we watched him sleep she...
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    Devesh Bhatt
    21/01/2017 #15 Devesh Bhatt
    Lines are everywhere :)
    Gerald Hecht
    21/01/2017 #14 Gerald Hecht
    Some lines aren't even relevant...in the end who among us would waste an iota of our precious time and energy (best not wasted...all of our lives, all of our loved ones lives...all over --in the blink of an eye) on the political views of "The Federalists" vs. "The Whigs"?
    I don't mean to be obtuse or provincial...FWIW...it's a reference to the ghost of a line in the sand...in which existed in the ghost of a place called "America"; neither of which exist. They are Dead. No sand. No line. Remains.
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    21/01/2017 #13 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #12 Hi @Joel Anderson, no apologies necessary :)) I understand typing on the phone. I can't type messages well at all from my phone. I agree, snapshots in time... one moment- so well said!
    Joel Anderson
    21/01/2017 #12 Joel Anderson
    #5 @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher Sorry, was trying to write, read and respond on my phone and in between meetings and other distractions that come with the work day. I am truly thankful for your comments and thoughts on this particular piece. Amazing how simple "Moments:Snap shots in time" can become become so profound.
    FancyJ London
    21/01/2017 #11 FancyJ London
    Thank you I am so glad you loved it! I am humbled. #7
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    20/01/2017 #10 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    #9 These lines of text leave the footprints of family, along the path of its glorious complexity.
    Joel Anderson
    20/01/2017 #9 Joel Anderson
    #4 Deb your kindness and compassion are truly appreciated.
    Joel Anderson
    20/01/2017 #8 Joel Anderson
    #5 Thank you Lisa Gallagher.
    Joel Anderson
    20/01/2017 #7 Joel Anderson
    #6 Thank you so much. "Our threads cross and tangle with twists" indeed. I didn't like it, I loved Crimson Thread. Keep making a difference.
    FancyJ London
    20/01/2017 #6 FancyJ London
    This reminds me of the Red Thread Ancient chinese Proverb. If you have a moment take a look at a poem I wrote on my blog, Crimson Thread. I think you will like it. Thank you for sharing your deep amazing thoughts, I enjoyed this post immensely. Cheers
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    20/01/2017 #5 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    @Joel Anderson, this was 'mind' altering. Thank you for giving the reader another perspective through your eyes. This just made SO much sense. I'm glad you and your daughter are able to talk as you do!
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    20/01/2017 #4 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    Masterpiece.
    Joel Anderson
    19/01/2017 #3 Joel Anderson
    #1 In time dear cousin we will make it so. Thanks and all the best to you and yours
    Joel Anderson
    19/01/2017 #2 Joel Anderson
    #1 In time dear cousin we will make it so. Thanks and all the best to yiu and yours
    Dave Anderson
    19/01/2017 #1 Dave Anderson
    So when are you and Marybeth's lines going to intertwine and head out to Monterey for a visit?
  12. ProducerLisa 🐝 Gallagher
    Dear Mom, Gone but Not Forgotten
    Dear Mom, Gone but Not ForgottenToday marks one year since my mother passed away. It still seems as though it was yesterday. I know that the sadness will pass it just takes time. I wrote a letter to my mom before she passed but she always wanted to stay focused on the day in front...
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    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    25/01/2017 #47 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #45 #46 Thank you so much for your kind and generous words @🐝 Fatima Williams. I have a sense that she is much happier now, I feel it. Still miss her so much. I think I miss her more now than I did when she first left. God bless you and your family too, I would say the same of you, a beautiful person we are all blessed to know. Sending positive thoughts back to you from Pennsylvania, US :))
    🐝 Fatima Williams
    25/01/2017 #46 🐝 Fatima Williams
    And I love the picture 😍😍😍😍😍😍 You both look awesome 😘
    🐝 Fatima Williams
    25/01/2017 #45 🐝 Fatima Williams
    This is such a beautiful tribute dear @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher Love you loads and a big Hug to you. May your Mom's Soul rest in Peace as She smiles down at you from Heaven for; she can see how proud I am to know you and How thankful I am to her for bringing you to this world and raising you into such a lovely person 😍😍😘😘 God bless your family with all the love they need now. Sending you positive vibes from Dubai 😍😍😘😘🤗🤗
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    15/01/2017 #44 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #42 Hi @Sharon Fulgenzi, thank you for taking the time to read my letter and I appreciate your kind comment!!
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    14/01/2017 #43 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #41 Hi @Lisa Vanderburg, thank you so much for reading this not once but 2 times. Yes, that was my intent... to honor my mom and celebrate her life. I began writing my letter before she passed and finished the letter within a few days of her passing. I smile when I read it because it's a fond reminder of the love we all shared together thanks to mom and her love for all of us. That alone, puts a smile on my face even though every first without her has had it's up's/downs. I will continue to honor her love through my children and grandchildren :))
    Sharon Fulgenzi
    14/01/2017 #42 Sharon Fulgenzi
    What a beautiful tribute to your Mom. I am so sorry for your loss. Her love and strength will always be part of you and your family. Thank you for sharing such a beautiful tender letter. Prayers.....
    Lisa Vanderburg
    14/01/2017 #41 Lisa Vanderburg
    I read this a couple of days ago and couldn't respond, lovely @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher. Your love is too intimate for me to come close - it breaks my heart.
    I so applaud you writing this (which I've re-read anew). Your Mother is what all Mother's show be; you are what all daughters should be. You have taken the pain of your loss to make a celebration of a life well loved. Bravo!
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    14/01/2017 #40 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #39 I accept your gift with honor and will share your poem with my siblings. Thank you so much Ken!
    Ken Boddie
    14/01/2017 #39 Ken Boddie
    #37 If talent is a gift, Lisa, then this is my gift to you and your siblings.
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    14/01/2017 #38 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #34 I'm glad to know my memory is fairly well intact still @David B. Grinberg :)) I got half of it right RE: team, yay me! LOL. I agree, remembering all the happy times, the proud etc... leave us with a sense of peace. After my dad died, I wasn't able to get to that place until I got through the grieving process and I don't remember how long that took. It's been a long time since he's been gone and my memories are beautiful of him without tears. One day I will be able to smile big when I remember the beautiful memories of my mom without anymore tears too. Thanks! Psst, I don't cry often as it is.
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    14/01/2017 #37 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #36 Ken, your poem brought happy tears to my eyes. "She hugs us like a shadow, And refuses our goodbyes." Last night and part of today, I felt this. And then remembered, "That their spirit lives in what we do and everything we say." Wow... so true and so very moving. Thank You Ken!! You have a talent with words.
    Ken Boddie
    14/01/2017 #36 Ken Boddie
    I wrote this poem, Lisa, for another occasion, but I hope that it helps reinforce what you already know - that your daily actions and your obvious love for your mum, both then and now, are more important than words unshared.

    Grief never leaves us,
    She answers not our why's,
    She hugs us like a shadow,
    And refuses our goodbyes.

    She's there lest we forget,
    When our loved ones slip away,
    That their spirit lives in what we do,
    And everything we say.
    Luis Piriz
    14/01/2017 #35 Luis Piriz
    #25 Amen
    David B. Grinberg
    14/01/2017 #34 David B. Grinberg
    #30 Thanks for your kind reply, Lisa. I'm impressed you remembered the football team. Well, almost. You got it half right: NY Jets. My dad got season tickets for us when I was a kid and the Jets actually played in NY back then (now it's NJ) at the old Shea Stadium in Queens. As noted previously, even though the Jets usually lost more than they won, the father-son bonding was always a winning experience.
    Not a day goes by when I don't think about him. But rather than being sad, I think of all his positive life accomplishments: an Army veteran, president and CEO of a textile manufacturing company in NYC, a loving husband and father, a world traveler, an amateur tennis player and swimmer, etc. My dad lived a full and fruitful life. In fact, I would even say he lived the "American dream" IMHO.
    Thus, I thank the good Lord above for blessing me with such a wonderful father who was always there for me. Even when our loved ones are gone, the wonderful memories live on within in us -- even as the pain of missing someone always lingers.
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    13/01/2017 #33 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    Thanks for sharing @Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman and your so right, I always feel she's close and she will never leave my heart :))
    Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman
    13/01/2017 #32 Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman
    Your mom will always be with you in spirit, @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher. The unwavering love between you, you mom and your family will be forever.
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    13/01/2017 #30 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #19 I'm sorry you lost your father @David B. Grinberg, if I recall you both loved going to the NY Giants games together? I might have the team wrong? Loss is never easy for anyone. I actually feel guilty for hurting when I do because I think of people who lost loved one's in a manner I didn't (without being detailed) and then I feel I have no right to feel sad when I think of others losses which seem even worse to me if that makes sense?
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    13/01/2017 #29 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #11 @Larry Boyer, 🐝 Brand Ambassador, I forgot to mention... I saved 3 voicemails from my mom and I haven't been able to listen to them either. Not sure I will ever be able to. I remember long after dad died and I forgot what his voice sounded like, I wished I would have had his voice on tape or something but that was long before the technology we have today. At least we both know we have them if we do chose to listen :))
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    13/01/2017 #28 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #18 Your words/thoughts are beautiful @Mohammed A. Jawad, thank you!
  13. ProducerMax🐝 J. Carter
    Family and what they teach us
    Family and what they teach usMy dad has Parkinson's Disease. My dad's legs don't work so well and he is supposed to use a walker, he doesn't and at times it feels as though the roles have reversed. I get why though. As a contractor my dad was a power horse. His own boss...
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    Max🐝 J. Carter
    11/01/2017 #15 Max🐝 J. Carter
    #13 I rarely blush.... well done @Lisa Vanderburg.

    You are too kind.

    It is unfortunate that it is more machismo that is taught than true manhood in schools. One of my ongoing efforts is in teaching men to be more manly and that means more in touch with being able to express themselves with love without fear of being thought of as a homosexual and before anyone says something there is nothing wrong with being homosexual.

    What's wrong is thinking only homosexual men can be emotional creatures who are capable of tender caring and compassion and experiencing what I call androgynous love.

    The male friends I have in my life often get big hugs and hear I love you frequently.
    Lisa Vanderburg
    11/01/2017 #13 Lisa Vanderburg
    #6 Aw..God love ya! (I'm old, you can overlook this once), what a heart you have! I so long for your love, bonding and - yes - manhood! It should be taught at school to be in another's shoes :)
    Just an aside for levity; my father's last word to me before he died (I was the carer that night) was, 'oh....SHUT UP woman'. Your Dad is a great guy and well worth your respect; just don't burn out!
    Max🐝 J. Carter
    11/01/2017 #12 Max🐝 J. Carter
    #10 @David Navarro López it appears to me you honor him daily in the way you live.

    I love the tile concept you shared with us and thank you for doing so.

    It reminds o the old line "The older I got, the smarter my father got."

    I agree I think our dads would have been great friends and I appreciate the friendship that you and I have been building slowly over time.
    David Navarro López
    11/01/2017 #11 Anonymous
    Sorry, I mean "My Father passed away on 2008 and there is no single day without my mind flying to him."
    David Navarro López
    11/01/2017 #10 Anonymous
    In Spain we use to make tiles with sayings or adages on it and hang them in the wall like this https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-MSbo-Mp78GA/Vy-PV9PFdlI/AAAAAAAAUBo/VNsdi7Z3EoE0FsV-2oYuackN6vsKY4mqwCLcB/s1600/azulejos%2Bcon%2Brefranes.jpg
    I remember a very good one, which I am translating for you:
    At 5 years old, Papa knows everything
    At 15, there are things Papa doesn't know
    At 25, Papa knows nothing
    At 35, maybe Papa was right in something
    At 45, I am going to ask Papa
    At 55, I wish I had my Papa
    My Father passed away on 2008 and there is no single day my mind flies to him.
    I was lucky to have him, learned a lot from him. He never was too tired to teach me something. Whenever something had to be done at home, fixing a door, painting, whatever, he always took me with him and made me help him, explaining me why and how he was doing it, letting me do it, even if wrong, to learn.
    In many ways, when you described yours, it made me think of mine. I am sure they would have been good friends.
    I believe we both have been fortunate with our respective fathers.
    I saw him going down in his health, day by day. However, he never left his spirit going down.
    I hope I will honour him. Close
    Max🐝 J. Carter
    11/01/2017 #9 Max🐝 J. Carter
    Yo @David B. Grinberg thank you for sharing this.
    Max🐝 J. Carter
    11/01/2017 #8 Max🐝 J. Carter
    #5 Thank you @Ian Weinberg wise words of advice.
    Max🐝 J. Carter
    11/01/2017 #6 Max🐝 J. Carter
    #3 It felt like a living eulogy as I was writing it. Kind of preparing myself in away for the inevitable.

    I found with my dad that there was this unspoken competition for alpha dominance so to speak that went on for too many years. It has done both of us a world of good to set that aside and work it out. I think a lot of fathers and sons go through it and I see it in mothers and daughters at times

    I remember the old movie THE BREAKFAST CLUB and that I am calling it an old movie is making me feel old ;)

    When a teen girl is asked why she wants to run away she says "My home life is unsatisfying."

    The response summed up was so is everyone else's or we would live with our parents for ever. I only hope to not have the same rfit with my own son and work at it with him. He's 12.

    Thank you @Lisa Vanderburg for your kind words, they are felt and appreciated.
    Ian Weinberg
    11/01/2017 #5 Ian Weinberg
    Good stuff @Max🐝 J. Carter Savor the moments, support purposeful business
    Julio Angel 🐝Lopez Lopez
    11/01/2017 #4 Julio Angel 🐝Lopez Lopez
    I'm doing it @Max🐝 J. Carter
    He is 90 on the 17th of this month.
    I have the impression that his gaze is lost in memories and I hear his stories repeated over and over again, giving him a face of surprise and laughter as if he told me for the first time.
    I own him.
    Thanks
    Lisa Vanderburg
    11/01/2017 #3 Lisa Vanderburg
    Wow...that hit home, Max. What you have so beautifully written is a living eulogy, although I can understand if you don't see it as such!
    I feel your steps, moments of watching, waiting and breath-holding regarding your father's Parkinson's - my husband is 18 years into his and is moving to a wheelchair (temporarily, of course!). You are a good son and a practised listened; your father has taught you so many great life-lessons, and I find it so freeing to hear you talk of this - even though it costs you plenty! My husband started aged 49, so our sons were early teens. They never talk about it (at least to me). I wish they did.
    Thanks @Max🐝 J. Carter, for the love you have for your father.
    David Navarro López
    11/01/2017 #2 Anonymous
    #1 dear max, i found your post very interesting and want to add acomment later, when i have the time for it. Such a post worths taking the time to.
    Max🐝 J. Carter
    11/01/2017 #1 Max🐝 J. Carter
    Thank you @David Navarro López for sharing this.
  14. Bert Purdy

    Bert Purdy

    10/01/2017
    Bert Purdy
    5 Ways You Can Spend Quality Time with Your Family Today
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  15. ProducerKevin Baker

    Kevin Baker

    07/01/2017
    Children are gifts
    Children are giftsChildren choose us to be there parents. They entrust us with the largest test of moral fiber life can bestow upon us. The difference is of course that the results will last not only our life time, it will also last through theirs and through...
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    Gert Scholtz
    07/01/2017 #10 Gert Scholtz
    @Kevin Baker Well written and grounded description of parenthood and children. Thanks Kevin.
    Kevin Baker
    07/01/2017 #9 Kevin Baker
    #7 Don't change, when we stop acting like a child, things get to serious
    Kevin Baker
    07/01/2017 #8 Kevin Baker
    #3 Your fun
    David B. Grinberg
    07/01/2017 #7 David B. Grinberg
    Nice buzz, Kevin. You make some good points. And while I've never had children (by choice), I am sometimes accused of acting like a child (lol). Keep buzzing!
    Brian McKenzie
    07/01/2017 #6 Brian McKenzie
    #5 Predictable - sure, Vulnerable - nope. I don't let anyone in, nor close enough to be vulnerable. I won't get fooled again. It is simply not a risk / danger I want in my life.
    Devesh Bhatt
    07/01/2017 #5 Devesh Bhatt
    #3 you have a long list of "keep away from me unless.." , repeated time and again, don't you think so much self expression of safeguards make you predictable, hence vulnerable? Or these are diversions to the judging kind who may be in for a surprise of they show bad intent?
    No offence, just curious
    Lyon Brave
    07/01/2017 #4 Lyon Brave
    this post makes the Rugrats song pop into my head ha
    Brian McKenzie
    07/01/2017 #3 Brian McKenzie
    I am not the nurturing type, nor do I wish to be. I jump rope between apathy and indifference while grinding towards dystopia and anarchy.
    Kevin Baker
    07/01/2017 #2 Kevin Baker
    #1 Thank you for sharing Brian, If your parents showed you only what not to be, being a nurturer may be easier for you.
    Brian McKenzie
    07/01/2017 #1 Brian McKenzie
    I certainly did not, nor would not have chosen my parents. But their tyranny and dysfunction will ensure I NEVER have kids. Nearly 50; never bred, never wed ~ never will.
  16. Donna Gordon

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    Linda Gimmeson

    30/12/2016
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  18. ProducerCraig Middleton

    Craig Middleton

    15/12/2016
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  19. ProducerMohammed A. Jawad
    Relationships between Rage and Rancor
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    Mohammed A. Jawad
    13/12/2016 #8 Mohammed A. Jawad
    #6 @Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman Thanks for your thoughtful comments. Perhaps, in this fast-paced global village where communication is easy, accessible and spontaneous, we ought to harbor cordial, peaceful relationships and live cheery lives. That's the need of the passing times.
    Mohammed A. Jawad
    13/12/2016 #7 Mohammed A. Jawad
    #5 @Donna-Luisa Eversley Thanks for your comments and appreciation. Indeed, as long as nothing is initiated and sorted out forgiveness does seem hard to perform. But, when someone comes with apologies, then we ought to readily forgive him/her. On the other hand, forgiving our near and dear ones with our mellowed hearts is worthwhile action. After all, 'to err is human and to forgive is divine'.
    Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman
    13/12/2016 #6 Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman
    It's disturbing that people can't get along and some carry grudges and some turn to revenge. Your post is timely because, during this time of the year, some people tend to be more caring and giving - but what about the rest of the year? And forgiveness, I agree with Donna-Luisa. Forgiving seems to be easier said than done.
    Donna-Luisa Eversley
    12/12/2016 #5 Donna-Luisa Eversley
    @Mohammed A. Jawad it is quite an interesting post you have here...provocative is the word I should use, because it should stir emotions, and does ! Forgiveness is I think one of the easiest things to give verbally but very hard in action to perform. It is the actions which come after the words which will yield us to our true feelings! Excellent post, I hope everyone will read😊💐
    Mohammed A. Jawad
    12/12/2016 #4 Mohammed A. Jawad
    #3 @Phil Friedman Yea...I have seen families, who clinging on to their ways, had diffusing differences. Either they happen to meet at marriage ceremonies or at funerals. Other than that they keep grudging with complaints and criticisms. But, now-a-days, so much has changed that members of the same families avoid each other on festive occasions and are rarely seen at funerals. :(
    Phil Friedman
    12/12/2016 #3 Phil Friedman
    Mohammed, there is wisdom here. My family on my father's side had an unspoken tradition. At the death of a family member, all family feuds existing at that time were cancelled, and all grievances erased. It would then take several years for new ones to emerge, but they would last only until the next funeral. Not a perfect system, but better than most. Cheers!
    Mohammed A. Jawad
    12/12/2016 #2 Mohammed A. Jawad
    #1 @Ken Boddie Thanks for your comments. Well said. Yea...in fact, anger is after all temporal madness!
    Ken Boddie
    12/12/2016 #1 Ken Boddie
    'Hyperbolic hatred' says it all, Mohd!
    Isn't is weird how anger can turn some people psychotic? 😡
    You might say ..... as mad as a barefoot centipede on a hot rock! 😊
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  23. ProducerAndrew 🐝 Goldman
    The Family
    The FamilyHello, friends! Andrew Goldman here. Just as I promised on my latest stream to write a post about the family, here it is. Our world is a magical place. Everything is connected to one another. We are a part of one. But when it comes down to our...
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    Andrew 🐝 Goldman
    03/12/2016 #14 Andrew 🐝 Goldman
    Very true, thanks for a great comment, @Irene Hackett#13
    Andrew 🐝 Goldman
    03/12/2016 #12 Andrew 🐝 Goldman
    Very true, @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher Thanks for a great comment! #11
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    03/12/2016 #11 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    Love this buzz @Andrew 🐝 Goldman. I am reminded by my grown children a lot of the positive impacts I had on their lives and sometimes they remind of the not so positive. We have to be open to hearing the 'not so positives,' in order to continue to grow. It's rare my kids share negative memories and even then, they aren't as bad as I would have envisioned because parents can be very hard on themselves as it is. I love the positive impacts they speak of because it leads to further conversation and how they are choosing to raise their own children now. This stood out, "One person can do a lot." Yes, if one person does something positive it can have a ripple effect.
    Andrew 🐝 Goldman
    03/12/2016 #10 Andrew 🐝 Goldman
    Thanks for a great comment, @Ken Boddie! Have an awesome weekend! #9
    Ken Boddie
    02/12/2016 #9 Ken Boddie
    Our family members, Andrew, like everyone else, have a range of personalities. If we attempt to understand these differences and acknowledge then with our loved ones, then we'll all be a lot happier. You'll see what I mean in this buzz I published previously, using 'Modern Family' members to illustrate the personality types: https://www.bebee.com/producer/@ken-boddie/do-you-know-your-characters
    Andrew 🐝 Goldman
    01/12/2016 #8 Andrew 🐝 Goldman
    Great comment, @David B. Grinberg Thank you! I believe that love and respect starts with us. It is hard but possible even for people with no relatives. After all everyone in the world is a relative. #7
    David B. Grinberg
    01/12/2016 #7 David B. Grinberg
    Nice buzz, Andrew. You offer many words of wisdom. I think some of the problems in America and elsewhere stem from a breakdown of the so-called nuclear family, particularly in urban areas. I imagine it's gut wrenching for a child to be raised by a single parent, not to mention perhaps never knowing who the other parent is, where they are, or why they left. This replaces love and security with feelings of abandonment, guilt and remorse. Thus, the importance of family structure cannot be overstated IMHO.
    I'm sharing this on three hives. Keep buzzing, my friend!
    Brian McKenzie
    30/11/2016 #6 Brian McKenzie
    My family was not the rosy Normal Rockwell fantasy. I haven't talked to them in 30 years, I see no reason to change that trend in the next 30 years either. Nor will I continue this lineage - these genes die with me.
    Andrew 🐝 Goldman
    30/11/2016 #5 Andrew 🐝 Goldman
    Thank you, Barbara! Have an awesome day! #3
    Andrew 🐝 Goldman
    30/11/2016 #4 Andrew 🐝 Goldman
    Thank you, @Aleksey Kharlamov. Have an awesome day! #1
    Bárbara Fernandez Lima
    30/11/2016 #3 Bárbara Fernandez Lima
    Your article is very, very interesting. I believe in our family shapes us to be who we are. And btw, I love this serie modern family :)
    Aleksey Kharlamov
    30/11/2016 #1 Aleksey Kharlamov
    Great post! Thank you!
  24. ProducerJim Murray

    Jim Murray

    23/11/2016
    My Special Relationship With American Thanksgiving
    My Special Relationship With American ThanksgivingAmerican Thanksgiving will always bring with it a bit of sadness for me.Nine years ago, US Thanksgiving day was the last day we spent with our dad…Pete.Fort ErieMy dad was a kid in Fort Erie during the great depression. He learned how to scramble...
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    John Rylance
    24/11/2016 #8 John Rylance
    Our memories alongside our experience in conjunction with our families are the bedrock of our future. Thank you Jim for sharing this with us.
    Asesh Datta
    24/11/2016 #7 Asesh Datta
    What an emotive feeling associated with Thanksgiving Day. Thanks for sharing. Nine years ago, Jim, you were so lucky that since that day every thanksgiving day like today you are specially praying for him. So nice for such coincidence and you should be thankful to the 'bus driver' who escorted your Dad away. So nice and blessed all of you are. Started in Fort Erie and a fort (effort) which was so dear to your Dad and he wanted to escape from effortlessly. Great and thanks for the insight. Regards
    Bill Stankiewicz, 🐝 Brand Ambassador
    23/11/2016 #6 Bill Stankiewicz, 🐝 Brand Ambassador
    Keep the stories coming Jim, I was touched very much by your post, my dad past away near thanksgiving Too. @Jim Murray Happy Thanksgiving!!!!!!!!!!!
    Paul Walters
    23/11/2016 #5 Paul Walters
    @Jim Murray Happy Thanksgiving
    Bill Stankiewicz, 🐝 Brand Ambassador
    23/11/2016 #4 Bill Stankiewicz, 🐝 Brand Ambassador
    WOW, @Jim Murray, great post here. My father was in the Polish Army in WWII & served in Italy & in the Monte Casino raid where his division routed the Germans. My father was later captured by the Germans & was in a POW camp, escaped & then later captured by the Russians & later released. He was given a beautiful sterling silver bracelet by the govt from the raid on Monte Casino that I still have. He has since past & had many stories about WWII when we talked. Here is some info about the raid: But the day is ours and a great victory has been won. Last night we received an operation order for the attack on Cassino in which we were to take part. It was to be supported by two squadrons of N.Z. tanks.

    But when the infantry probed the outskirts they found little opposition, and many Germans gave themselves up. There was some sniping and some machine gunning, but this was soon overcome, and in due course the place was mopped up. Some casualties were caused by time bombs left by the Hun.

    Later we learnt that the Polish flag was flying over the Monastery. It was very fitting that this should be so, for the Poles have suffered dearly. Georgi, the Polish liaison officer, told me that the hills behind the Monastery were absolutely indescribable. Hundreds of dead lay all over the hillsides, Americans, French, N. Zealanders, and now Poles. best regards, Bill Stankiewicz, Savannah , Georgia
    David B. Grinberg
    23/11/2016 #3 David B. Grinberg
    Kudos Jim on your excellent storytelling which is impressive and admirable. Also, thank you for sharing such a personal and moving story. I really enjoyed reading it, as I reminded me of my late father.
    Having lost my dad a few years ago, I can relate well to your statement: "My dad was very much in my life for most all of my life. I miss him every day."
    My dad likewise served in the military, albeit in the Army, 10th Mountain Division. We also enjoyed going to sporting events together. We had season tickets for the NY Jets football team (NFL). They used to play at Shea Stadium in Queens back then. And while the Jets usually lost more than they won, the father-son bonding was always a winning experience which I will cherish for the rest of my life.
    God Bless them both!
    Loribeth Pierson
    23/11/2016 #2 Loribeth Pierson
    What a wonderful buzz Jim in honor of your Father. I am sure he is looking down and smiling on you today. My Papa passed away 19 months ago today from esophageal cancer. Not a good way to go at all. I still miss him every day and reading your buzz has brought tears to my eyes. I'm sure there will be more tears with the family tomorrow, but tears of remembering what a great man he was. He will forever be my hero.
    Aaron Skogen
    23/11/2016 #1 Aaron Skogen
    Nice tribute to your dad @Jim Murray. Keep those warm memories close this Thanksgiving.

    It seems to me, and by your own admission, you have much to be thankful for.

    Cheers from just south of the boarder.
  25. David B. Grinberg
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    cc: @Javier 🐝 beBee @John White, MBA @Mamen 🐝 Delgado @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
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    23/11/2016 #3 Michele Williams
    Welcome Ray! Happ-bee Thanksgiving!
    Mamen 🐝 Delgado
    23/11/2016 #2 Mamen 🐝 Delgado
    Welcome to beBee Land @Ray Stasieczko!!! 💫
    Javier 🐝 beBee
    23/11/2016 #1 Javier 🐝 beBee
    @Ray Stasieczko welcome to beBee !
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