- Producer16/08/2017Talk to your babyFrom the very beginning. Positive lines on the pregnancy test? Talk to your baby. For the purpose of this writing I'm going to call your baby a she. I have daughters so this is just easier for me. Lets flash forward. Your daughter...
- Producer28/07/2016Ser padres en el siglo XXI Formamos parte de una generación muy preparada con grandes aspiraciones, en la que el papel del hombre y la mujer fuera y dentro de casa tiene la misma importancia, y desempeñan (como no podría ser de otra manera) las mismas funciones.Decidir ser...
Comments14/08/2017 #16 Josean Rueda CardenasCompletamente de acuerdo... siempre y cuando uno asuma la verdadera responsabilidad que supone ser padre / madre...
Todavía es fácil ver padres que delegan la educación y el cuidado de sus hijos en el colegio y abuelos... y se convierten exclusivamente en proveedores... Ser padre lleva mucho tiempo... 24h al día, independientemente de que tu hija/o esté o no en el colegio y has de ceder gran parte de ese tiempo para poder ayudarle/a en su crecimiento...
Firmado, un padre feliz :)13/02/2017 #14 Irene 🐝 Rodriguez EscolarMe encanta, has de adaptarte a la vida con tus hij@s, ese es el secreto, no se puede comparar la vida anterior a cuando tienes hij@s.
Gran artículo, que alguién se lo mande a Samantha ...
Tienes suerte de tener a su padre compartiendo contigo la ardua y entrañable tarea de la ma/ paternidad.07/11/2016 #12 Maria Teresa Redondo InfantesHola,
es fácil sea el siglo que sea, soló que realmente te tiene que gustar los críos, tener muy claro que quieres realmente ser madre y realizarte como madre.
Ser madre sea ya las veces que sea que se es, es una de las más maravillosa y importante de nuestra vida.
Y los hombres nunca sabrán, saben ni sienten ni sentirán nada igual, porque aunque ellos se han un mínimo en la parte de esa creación conjuntamente, nunca sabrán realmente como nos sentimos nosotras los 9 meses y cuando llega el final donde sentimientos esos típicos y normales dolores de la etapa final, donde sientes esa enorme sensación de dolores y a la vez emoción total, y lo más grandiosoes ccuando por primera vez te lo colocan encima de tu barriga recientemente nacido de dentro de ti misma, nunca nadie que no haya experimentado esa grandiosa emoción y sensación de ser madre.
Ser madre no es una tarea fácil, pero por experiencia propia dos hijas que tengo maravillosas, ser madre al final es bonito y muy fácil.
Besos, abrazos vibraciones positivas energía, todos mis respetos y mayores deseos
Comments12/08/2017 #17 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. International Management, Certified Executive Coach. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.sweetest beBee news12/08/2017 #16 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. International Management, Certified Executive Coach. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.Happy Birthday to Matilda on Sunday!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!12/08/2017 #15 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. International Management, Certified Executive Coach. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.oooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo I adore Matilda updates!!!! So sweet.12/08/2017 #11 Lisa 🐝 GallagherI love your buzzes @Lance 🐝 Scoular, it's so nice to hear about people's lives- we meet so many and I feel like I know you so well through your videos. My first thought, what a great grandpa, and so glad Matilda is coming along so well!! I love John Grisham books too. Have you ever read any of Dean Koontz's books? Enjoy your time and thanks for sharing a piece of your life along with Matilda's journey, she's a doll!!12/08/2017 #6 Lance 🐝 ScoularMatilda's friend from Flanders @Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. International Management, Certified Executive Coach. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc. latest 🎬😊12/08/2017 #4 David B. GrinbergHi Ho Lance! Thanks for sharing this update on Matilda, she's so cute and precious. I'm glad to hear she's improving. That's quite the nice playroom too. I hope you got the slipper back (lol)! I've shared this on three hives: "My beBeeTV" and "Live Streaming" and "Lifestyles." I've also featured the "Backstage" hive at the top of the "beBee Buzz!" group on LI.
Happy reading, stay warm, and thanks for the "shout out" -- hoping for good weather next Wednesday and Thursday. Please have a wonderful weekend.
cc: @stephan metral 🐝 Innovative Brand Ambassador @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher @Javier 🐝 beBee
- Producer11/08/2017I've Been Thinking....Image Credit: Ashley BatzI'm going to dive right in. I had intended to ramble, but let's stick with one idea, here. Here's something that has entertained my thoughts more than once:If babies are conscious and consciousness begins at the point of...
Comments13/08/2017 #42 Tricia Mitchell#35 there's some many quotable comments in your response @Deb 🐝 Helfrich all of which I appreciate.
"That whole construct came from humans at a fragile point in our development. We understood little of our natural world and we were dying early and often, so stories of vengeance may have offered comfort then, but should atrophy as our knowledge progresses."
I love how you state that [stories of vengeance] "should atrophy with time.
Enjoyed reading your comments. Thank you 💚13/08/2017 #41 Tricia Mitchell#33 (part 2) Children's dependency on others for survival & love goes beyond the early years. What we don't yet know is how decisions of adult (eg "trans dad gives birth" or surrogate mum & those chemical signals between parent & unborn) vs biological ("natural") design will play out in future generations.
The concluding part of your comment about choice, at the point of creation, without judgement sounds very similar to something called Access Consciousness.
Thanks for sharing some of the principles here @Numo Quest; they are interesting to read. ☺13/08/2017 #40 Tricia Mitchell#33 thanks for contributing your perspective, @Numo Quest While reading your comments a few things sprung to mind in response to your comment that: "The child isn't engaged with much else then just that. It changes on the moment adults start to bring in 'aspects'"
1) Bruce Lipton states that a child BEGINS learning the rules of the world in which it is to be born in-utero, specifically from 6 months onwards.
2) Parents may actively teach babies, but babies are LEARNING through observation & modelling, earlier than the period you state it commences. The first 6-7 years of life, they are operating in beta and delta brainwaves (& if mum believes the world is a dangerous place, the baby alters physically in preparation for entering that world, according to mum's map of it) https://www.healyourlife.com/are-you-programmed-at-birth
Another principle states following, don't put focus and energy in things one can't change.
While I agree, the "issue" I & many others have come across is that people do not realise or believe we can change things. I have permission to share that working with a client born with "old lady's" hands (as she described them), I was curious as to what may be possible, not taking a stance that we couldn't change it. Past live trauma resolved, her hands continued to look younger each day. My thinking? If cells renew every 30 days & David Hamilton says there's 99.99 recurring space between atoms, hell, let's give it a shot. There are other examples of what can change when we are open to being curious...12/08/2017 #37 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#36 First of all, I want to dispute the 2/3rd in the dark ages, I think those outside the industrial world live a more human life and I'd like for us to model them, not for them to catch up to us. Of course, potable water, sewage, and such are mandatory, we should be working full out to ensure sustainable access for every human. I do believe we have the data that there are too many of us for the earth to carry and we can figure out a way to have a realistic world population.
And this ever growing number of humans is part of my thoughts around not believing in reincarnation. If there was a finiteness/distinctiveness to souls the math doesn't work with explosive population growth.
I have no personal sense or experience of being anyone or anything but Deb. I have been an atheist since 15. I believe consciousness as we experience it is god, and that in all the various forms the stories of religion are metaphors for this very fact. Being comfortable without a supreme being, I am also quite comfortable with consciousness being an emergent property that only occurs when a biological entity, from an amoeba on up, including all plants and animals, sustains life.
But each different type of organism has a different level of consciousness equipment. Just like plants don't have legs like animals, the structure defines the expression of the consciousness of life.
I have never had a moment of worry about being dead, although I have human fears about the process of how I will die or around living in terror. As a cartoon in the New Yorker illustrated, I've imagined I've booked my departure for 4:33 am on a Monday morning, in my bed, asleep.
I understand other people's belief in reincarnation through the lens of the collective unconscious - ancestral memory - unified field. We are not the program, we are the TV set, while we function, we can be tuned to numerous programs.12/08/2017 #36 Lisa Vanderburg#35 I agree my friend @Deb 🐝 Helfrich...we need to chew the cud! Ruminate, resonate, take TIME to figure out!
But to the last paragraph I'm answering; the rest remains a mystery! Are you offering that you believe in reincarnated souls? I know my bent is towards one life - sufficient time for me, but I'm curious, enthralled perhaps that others could well believe in reincarnation; many do, and I respect their beliefs, but then I think of brutal eras, famine, senseless killing, illness, starvation....none of my imaginings include being in a position of privilege no matter the date. We may be in 'enlightened times', but that for only us. 2/3rds of the world are still in the dark 'ages' with all the want and brutality that invokes. Sorry...been writing poetry for my new baby granddaughter - it affects the way my mind speaks!! I also agree that it would take a higher power to 'decide' we need to go around again, but he (or she) is not vengeful, love will turn around! Hoping you'll come back on me with this; with respect!12/08/2017 #35 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#25 #28 One thing is for sure, whatever the higher power may actually be, there will be no vengeance for open-hearted inquiry.
That whole construct came from humans at a fragile point in our development. We understood little of our natural world and we were dying early and often, so stories of vengeance may have offered comfort then, but should atrophy as our knowledge progresses.
Believing punishment accomplishes anything but the cessation of love is one of our species current tragic flaws.
And it feels like, to me, this is occurring because the internet is helping us to see each human as part of the web of humanity. It was a bumpy start, but we can see the shift from angry to accepting to caring happening all around us.
As now, anyone, anywhere can read a different point of view about something like consciousness in the womb that is difficult to dive into over a hot beverage. Well, initiating the topic is strange, not hard. What I believe to be difficult is having the ability to cogitate for a bit, rather than having to answer within the quick turn-around of verbal communication before we can examine our own rote answers and spend a moment searching if we might have come across new information that allows us to examine the topic anew, rather than simply repeat an answer long ago drummed into us.12/08/2017 #33 Numo QuestIn case of a child, from our and universal principle perspective, a child is born with character, talents and soft skills, we start to 'support' it on the moment we know how and in which fields. Since the one child isn't the other, there is a difference. Every individual is unique. By this concept the child in the first year is focused on 'need'. Every child has the reflex of survival and does by nature everything in it's power, to survive by getting what it thinks it need. This reflex is the bases for existence until the moment, the parent starts to guide the child, in line with character and talent, the social part. The child needs to learn to develop its social skills.
The child isn't engaged with much else then just that. It changes on the moment adults start to bring in 'aspects', in all Love and caring, no doubt, like you are explaining and portraying. Until then a child plays, has fun, enjoys life, has ideas, start to develop.
Another principle states following, don't put focus and energy in things one can't change. If this life's principle is in the child as an ordinary part of life and existing, the child will deal with things in life accordingly. On the moment the adult deems it should be raised an issue, for what ever reason, then indeed it will become an issue for the child. Still not altering anything in the past.
From our experience, every moment in time has it's point of creation, choice, for every individual, without judgement or limitation, regardless your experiences of, and in the past, you are here now, as you are, unique. You have Choice and Creation. Either, dwell in a way you can't alter and put focus and energy, without changing past tense facts, or in one step say, I know that I am, hence from here I create and make my choices. Both are good, without judging, merely the question, what is it YOU want? :O)12/08/2017 #32 Tricia Mitchell#27 Thanks for sharing your experience, @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher & for sharing this buzz. I tried to tag you in comment #31, as your comments made me think of it, but it wasn't having any of it!
I think we come from Source, return to Source and the bit in between is our life, learning, growing, experiencing and a process of remembering who we truly are. I love how you experienced positive changes relating to your son once you stayed at home - something that not everybody is able to do. (Sounds like your daughter was in a hurry!)
Amazing story from when you were 18 months old. Lights obviously hold a special meaning for you. It's great when we have elders who can confirm our childhood memories & I find it fascinating when people or children can remember even being in the womb. I don't have any recollections before the age of 4 years old. Hey ho! Appreciate you contributing.12/08/2017 #31 Tricia Mitchell#27 A friend shared this (author unknown):
THE SOUL IN THE CAVERN
There was a soul whose time had come to take a human birth and so it went to the great cavern, where all such souls went. In the cavern were hundreds of thousands of souls, each manifesting a small blue flame. When its turn came, the soul stood up and said.
“My time has come to take human incarnation, for I have work to do and many lessons to learn. In my life as human I shall need family and loving friends to help me, to love me and to nurture me. Who will be my family on earth?
A ripple flickered across the thousands of flames and shortly a few stood forward and said.
“We do no know you, we have not met before and we are strangers, but being kind and giving love is a pleasant and easy task. We will be your friends and family on earth.”
The soul spoke out and again said.
“And on earth I shall need teachers, people to guide me, to correct me and to discipline me. Who will be my teachers?”
Again a ripple went out around the assembled flames, and a group came forward and said.
“We have known you in other lives and we have grown to respect you and like you. We will take on the task of being your teachers in life.”
And a third time the soul spoke out and said.
“On earth if I am to learn the retest lesson of all, the lesson of humility, tolerance under provocation and to love those who hate me, I shall need people to hate me and to do violence to me. Who will do this for me? Who will be my enemies?
There was a long pause in the cavern until at last a small group came forward and said.
“We are your soul group, we have known you over aeons of time and your growth and your learning are as dear to us as our own. This is the most delicate and difficult task and if you are to be hurt and abused it would be better done by loving friends. We will be your enemies on earth.12/08/2017 #29 Tricia Mitchell#28 thank you for your honest and open response @Lisa Vanderburg I appreciate you sharing your experience of Catholicism. love that we can hold different points of view and still remain receptive to explorations without any investment in the outcome. To be honest, I'm not one who remembers much; it's what I'm continuing to learn now about where I have been and what I know as a result. I've written about a couple of my surreal experiences. Flexibility and freedom will allow us to evolve. Have a blessed day, my dear. ☺12/08/2017 #28 Lisa Vanderburg#26 Thank you, @Tricia Mitchell for your gracious honesty. I tend to think of faith as being different from 'religion' as I was born into Catholicism but soon saw the dangers of rigid dogma. That quote you mention sends shudders down my spine!
I would love to discuss reincarnation with you sometime - respectfully and with the greatest care. We are free to evolve! Many thanks, lovey Lady!12/08/2017 #27 Lisa 🐝 GallagherInteresting topic @Tricia Mitchell. This made me think of death too (but not in a morbid manner). Does consciousness begin at birth and excelerate at death? A question many people have. I believe our souls are energy and energy transfers. One simple thought I keep close to my heart, positive ions attract positive and vice versa for negative ions.
I think the process of birth is underscored. My son had a difficult birth and he was colicky and cried a lot. He was also sick a lot his first 2 yrs of life until I decided to take time off from work and stay home with him. I noticed many positive changes once I was home full time. My daughter's birth was easy in contrast.. 2 pushes and out she came without incident.
Quick story, I was about 18 mos old when my parents took their first trip with me. I remember vividly seeing beautiful lights and I kept saying, 'ooooh, pretty lights." My mom couldn't believe I had that memory. I even knew we were on a bridge crossing over into Canada. Mom confirmed my memory was correct and she was shocked I had the memory. I have never lost my lust for lights at night!
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- Producer27/07/2017Planting a seedThe best advice my Mother-in-law gave me (amongst many other pearls) was to plant the seed. ~In the early days of my Husband and I being together, I was pregnant. So it wasn't me planting any seeds, he did that already (sorry Sandy)! And during this...
- Producer25/07/2017Kiss Me, I’m (4%) IrishMy wife and I recently sat down and began to discuss our extended family. Now they are generally nice people, and we all get along swimmingly, but if you knew them the way we do, you would agree that they are, how should I put this… nuts. And...
Comments26/07/2017 #29 Renée 🐝 Cormier#24 Actually, McMaster University is doing a study on addiction and mental health and are looking for volunteers from all walks of life in the Greater Hamilton area. It's called PATH Registry. The $250 DNA test was free, plus I got $30 in gift cards for groceries and free parking. It was like winning the lottery. :) Here's the link: https://fhs.mcmaster.ca/pbcar/path.html
As far as the weight thing goes, I have to say, my weight is primarily a choice. I have never given myself permission to be grossly overweight. A lot of people really don't care how they look. I could easily be 40 lbs heavier, if I allowed it, but perhaps I'd never weigh 300 lbs. I am not sure how much stock I would actually place in those tests. My test results also revealed that my ring finger is likely longer than my index finger (it isn't) and that I don't have any dimples, but I actually do, and they aren't just in my ass! In fact, they were the most commented on trait of mine when I was a child.26/07/2017 #16 David B. GrinbergVery interesting, Kevin. I hear that a lot of people are also doing this via Ancestry. I suppose the only downside -- similar to personal data -- is allowing companies to keep your DNA samples which could be used in the future for other uses -- with some possible nefarious purposes like hypothetically selling to drug companies and health insurers, as one's genetic information can predict predisposition to certain illnesses and medical conditions. Just saying.
Now, let's raise a pint to the luck of the Irish!26/07/2017 #15 Renée 🐝 CormierThis is a very timely post. I just got my results back from 23 and Me. They look at your DNA in terms of your ancestry, health and physical traits. I always thought of myself as French, but apparently, my DNA is only 4% French and German. 64% of my DNA is actually British and Irish. What is even more interesting is that while my Neanderthal ancestry is less than 4% I am actually in the 83rd percentile among 23 and Me customers. Damn! That may explain a few things...
On the upside, it doesn't look like I will succumb to late onset Alzheimer's or Parkinson's. I am also genetically predisposed to remain slim and have the muscle composition of an elite power athlete. Too bad I can't hit, catch or throw a ball. :)
- 22/07/2017It is a positively wonderful feeling to look back at those days in my life when I had nothing and realize I really had it all. I am so blessed and so grateful for the experience.
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- Producer21/07/2017A heart full of generosity and love!I hurt and have been hurting and as much I'm finding healing, I never forgave myself for allowing my father to pass away. I was sitting and watching a movie in the living room not knowing he needed my help. Why didn't he call out like he usually...
Comments22/07/2017 #23 Cyndi wilkinsHey soul sister...It's not easy for us gals to say goodbye to our daddies...but you know...he's closer to you now than he's ever been...Just take a look at the gift his passing has given you...
"I choose to love everyone around me as much as I can, as I know there's not much time left with each other."
He's given you wings;-)21/07/2017 #22 Joel AndersonWe all miss moments and opportunities but your message speaks volumes for the perspective of time, understanding, letting go, remembering and knowing that even in those lost moments, those unspoken works, there is a truth to love that outlast the mistakes (real or perceived).
“The greatest use of a life is to spend it on something that will outlast it.”
“Every job is a self-portrait of the person who did it. Autograph your work with excellence.”
--Betty M. Nelson
Walk proud @🐝 Fatima G. Williams and stand tall for a life well lived--apparent, hidden just under the surface and at times totally unseen. An outlasting life of excellence that because of him and your mom lives on in the portrait of you.21/07/2017 #18 Charlene Norman@🐝 Fatima G. Williams When we humans become parents we don't get a manual that tells us how to "parent'. We do the best we can. When our parents get sick and eventually die, we kids don't get the manual that tells us what to do. We do the best we can. When we siblings lose our brothers/sisters at far too tender an age, there is never a manual that tells us what to do. We do the best we can. By all the comments below, you have many friends in the bee community with many wise words who have been shown, told, coached to "do the best we can." You will never lose the pain of losing Dad. It will be with you forever. But you can turn all that pain into joy by focusing only on the goodness of the man and happiness he brought you and others. You can turn your own pain into joy by thinking upon all the gifts that he gave you (the strength, the resilience, the sense of humour and wonder and the huge capacity to share and to love). You can talk to him every day and thank him for what he gave you. He wants you to be blissfully happy and joyful. And to do and be the best that you can. A Huge hug to you my friend.21/07/2017 #17 Tausif MundrawalaI can feel the void left by my progenitor. Losing a parent creates a heartache which could never be healed however strong we become. The fear of losing our loved one kills us and that have been killing me day in and day out. We than start blaming ourselves that where did we fail taking care of them. I faltered because ........ There could be many reasons which could make us inconsolable throughout our life. It needs courage to talk about our grief because bottling up would lead to a dangerous burst.
My deepest condolences to you and your family, my friend, @🐝 Fatima G. Williams21/07/2017 #16 Anonymous@🐝 Fatima G. Williams, This is the post dedicated to my late father published on July 27, 2014 (https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/20140727012813-248021126-writing-and-human-spirit-the-good-the-bad-and-the-ugly). He was a poet and he taught me about many "hidden" things. Original title of the post was: "Writing and Human Spirit, the Good, the Bad and the Ugly". In the end, only one things matter: good - your writing and his spirit. A great person deserves no less: FFF dad.21/07/2017 #13 Harvey LloydDads are a funny bread. Most feel and sense their children deeply, but always they want desperately for them to have the strength to live past them. So they hide their "self" and build their family.
I have two wonderful daughters who love me and would do anything to help. My only wish is to see that they can face the world and find peace and joy within their heart.
For a dad to know that their children will make it based on the knowledge they have passed on is a triumph that can not be described.
Prove dads thoughts right, take what he has given and build your life and keep in mind the torch he passed is now your responsibility to pass to the next. From what i have read here your dad was an awesome person and passed a torch that shines brightly, and aptly named @🐝 Fatima G. Williams.21/07/2017 #8 Lyon BraveI have two fathers and Jhonny died next to my mother in bed and im pretty sure if he could choose his death thats how he would of wanted it. I am sure your father knew you loved him. It sounds like you were very active in his life. I know people who dont see thei parents for years. They come after the funeral and pawn their stuff, so having guilt because he didnt see you get married or.because you didnt spend enough time with him is just not how you should look back on your time togethet. Your name is Fatima. The fathers favorite daughter. I am sure you were loved and loved. Now i think all you can do is tell your children wonderful bedtime stories about your dada when you make your own family.21/07/2017 #7 Ian WeinbergThanks @🐝 Fatima G. Williams for reminding us of our humanness with all its limitations. We control very little after all. We are judged therefore only on our best intentions. Celebrate and rejoice the good times and cherish everything that contributes to increasing awareness. No blame, no guilt and no regret. But grieve we will because this is our lot. Feel your loss. Wish you well.21/07/2017 #6 Brigette HyacinthThis is so deep and touching. Fatima, don't beat up yourself with, "If Only." You can't change the past and he knew you loved him. I am sorry for how hard his passing has been on you and your family. There are many nights when the pain is so great and you cry yourself to sleep. You would give anything to see them, talk to them, hug them just one more time. Death is the hardest thing to deal with and it never gets easier. There is nothing anyone could have done. When our hourglass is full we must leave this earth. I read many posts but this is one that will remain with me. Thanks for the remainder and for this wonderful tribute of your father. ((Hugs)) Brigette
- Producer18/06/2017Happy Father’s Day: Qualities I Learned to Value From my DadMy dad — who was actually my adoptive dad — has been gone now for nearly 30 years, but I can still hear him on the phone saying, “Hi, Sis — how are things going?” (Sis stood for sister; I do have a brother.)He was a remarkable man, especially for...
Comments19/06/2017 #1 Tausif MundrawalaThe most remarable thing of a daughter is to praise her dad that no one else did. Being a father of a daughter is the most precious gift the Almighty bestowes upon a human. Someday even I would be a father of a daughter and this buzz would remind me that she is observing my story from the closest and would recall it whenever I am absent from that spot. Your father was really a remarakable person and a jewel of your family. Thanks for sharing this wonderful buzz with us my friend,@Susan 🐝 Rooks, the Grammar Goddess
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Comments20/06/2017 #46 Claire L CardwellLouise - I will temporarly change my profile pic to the one where I was sitting with 7-9 month Lioness Cubs. The cub lying in front of me climbed a tree in a major thunderstorm - fell out and broke 3 legs. She is fine, but I made sure that it would never ever happen again.20/06/2017 #44 Louise Smith#39 Sounds like it works out ok and you feel like you have professional support !
"As a therapist - I am a reiki master that only practices on animals" that's great what are some of your best successes?
" I design spaces so that people are more comfortable/happy at home." I looked at your FB page - you are an architect?
I'd like to build a green totally off the grid sustainable house one day !20/06/2017 #42 Don Philpott☘️#41 Subtle, avoid insulting the small, thin skinned, pasty faced ones, by throwing the larger group of handsome, tall Aryans under the bus...you know that old psychology question about being in a truck with no brakes and having to decide on the lesser of two weevils;) - stole that joke from Russel Crowe20/06/2017 #39 Claire L Cardwell#37 Louise - I just go and get my script so he can see I am still alive. I do sometimes check in for a few days to chat to him and my psychologist every day for 3-5 days. So from my side - it's chat to professional people who really do care about you. As a therapist - I am a reiki master that only practices on animals and I design spaces so that people are more comfortable/happy at home.20/06/2017 #38 Claire L Cardwell#36 No Louise - I will make it much much worse. I will tell him that I've started reading brain physiology stuff and that there is nothing wrong with me.... And that your idea was in fact mine. Yup - someone with no medical training whatsoever feels that she knows more than you (sans google).20/06/2017 #35 Claire L Cardwell#34 Hi Louise - this is great - I am going to print this out and hand it in to my shrink - I have been in therapy since 2005 this time. I was wondering why I hadn't 'got better'. Inkblots. The one set of cards that I am not allowed to play with. I always take a few souvenirs and add my 'tag' to them and stick them up on the fridge.,20/06/2017 #34 Louise SmithHi @Claire L Cardwell
Please don't go into Psychoanalysis....... You will never get out !
(Sigmund Freud often compared psychoanalysis to an archeological dig. In his day psychoanalysts saw their patients 6 times a week!)
Oliver Saks went for more than 46 years
If you are an artist you prob do well with the Inkblots.
Free Association is well demonstrated in your buzz above.
I can definitely see that resistance, transference and defence mechanisms are well developed.
Dreams are not a challenge to you either.
So maybe you don't need it !20/06/2017 #29 Gerald Hecht#24 @Claire L Cardwell That's so weird...I can't imagine anyone with the hubris (is that spelled right? It might be chutzpah...something like that) thinking they could get away alive after phoning into your phone thingie...wow; well I'm sure you explained the nature of their transgression with tact, swiftness, and umm --you know those things that people in decent societies are expected to be well versed in...like batmitten, croquet and cool junk like that...polo...19/06/2017 #28 Claire L Cardwell#17 I love 1940s European dual function chandeliers - electric and fire that lower down so you can clean them, had an argument with a builder who couldn't conceptialise this proposal. He simply didn't understand why I would rather lower the chandelier and not take the equally fun option of scaffolding. SA Scaffolding is not as fun as the old UK one.
- Producer18/06/2017My father and I(Photo Credits : A picture with my father … taken by my daughter after a bit of Sunday dancing.😊)Sharing a few life lessons from my fatherLife is to live in every moment.Keep it simple.Be honest in your dealings.Being enthusiastic.Take pleasure in...
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Comments18/06/2017 #26 Anonymous#21 It is an honour to become such a thoughtful comment from you, dear Lance. Thank you so much for sharing here and at tweeter.
(never had so many retweets before, LOL)
You are completely spot on, pointing out that the "roots" are essential.
Sadly enough, we have entered in a spiral of selfishness. Games are "solo" intended, in comparison to the games we used to play. Friendships are virtual.
Old people are not respected anymore, just pushed away of our lives as an old broken toy.
People wrongly understand that in order to keep their safety, not to be harmed, need to put distance to others, not to get involved or committed.
Part of the happiness is as well take the risk of being harmed, trust the others, knowing that they are imperfect too, same as you, and will make errors. So what? Making errors is human, and accepting them is divine.
You might like these post too
https://www.bebee.com/producer/@david-navarro-lopez/those-crazy-little-ones18/06/2017 #22 Matt 🐝 SweetwoodThanks you for continuing the conversation! And while there are many examples of marriages that are wonderful, there i not denying the statistics. A successful marriage requires both people to be in it for the right reasons. Human nature and a greedy system require the change I suggested in my article.18/06/2017 #21 Lance 🐝 ScoularPt2/2 🦋
"In a garden" 🌱🌷🌼🌻🌲
says Chase, "growth has its season. There are Spring and Summer but there are also Fall and Winter 🍃🍁🍂
and then Spring and Sumner again. 🌾🌹🌺
As long as the roots are not severed all is well and all will be well."
Love and marriage also have their seasons.
David, your first list qualities above, from our parents generation (I am 68 and my wife younger 😊) tended to give us the "roots" for the bad season in our garden of LIFE.
My wife Sandie and I have had our "Winters."
Not "Winters of Discontent" but winters of hibernating in preparation for a new Spring.
Aided by 🐝🐝🐝🐝, the outcome is 🍯.
The flavour of the 🍯 changes as our love matures.18/06/2017 #20 Lance 🐝 ScoularPart 1/2
David, I read this earlier to day and then again.
Watched the Jack Nicholson & Hellen Hunt clip.
Read your Catching Butterflies post and this end passage made my mind jump to an interesting book...
..."So better change your strategy, and enhance your “garden”, yourself, your environment, the things you do, how you do them, get rid of the “garbage”, act as if you were used to be surrounded by butterflies,
and they will come pleasantly and willingly to pose in your nose."
And the book is one of my favourite Audible books, Being There by Jerzy Kosinski, Narated by Justin Hoffman.
And the part in the book your Butterfly flew me to was where the President of the United States of America asks the books unlikely hero, Chase the gardener,
"And you Mr Gardener, what do you think about the bad season on the street?"
Chance flustered within, reflects to the only love he has ever had, his garden, reflects, then calmly says.
Pt2...18/06/2017 #17 Anonymous#15 your words of "do what is in the best interests of both persons" makes me think about the other day, when my love told me how could it be I was all the time thinking about how to make her feel better. My response was, that this was my purpose, to make her happy. She asked, what are you doing for yourself to be happy? My answer, I don't know, I am somehow blind to it, this is your purpose, not mine.
To give not expecting a payback, this is love. Out of this, is a trade, if you do expect a payback.
So I see you have a three strands cord:
"Though one may be overpowered,
two can defend themselves.
A cord of three strands is not quickly broken." (Ecclesiastes 4:12)18/06/2017 #16 Harvey LloydGreat post and i would suspect that as the word love has evolved within media so marriage has evolved. Marriage is a commitment of a shared journey. The grass is always greener on the other side but even that grass will require maintaining at some point. I went to a conference on marriage and the speaker really brought forward the concept of where marriage has failed.
We spend more time designing and purchasing a home or a car than we spend on "building" our marriage. This statement really struck me, mainly because i had never considered that building a marriage was necessary as we loved each other. Even further thought was perplexing, how do you build a marriage? I had nothing.
The next few years i started to understand that building a marriage was going through change and understanding the bridges that needed to be built for the next leg of the journey. Previously i had only seen these bridges as my spouses need to change or she looking at me and expecting me to change. We laugh at it now but it was a challenging time in our life and i am glad that we learned how to build bridges together.
Great post and thoughts.18/06/2017 #15 Vincent Andrew@David Navarro López "we have forgotten that marriage is “us” instead of “I and you”." This is why marriage is so difficult. A couple has to learn to listen to each other and do what is in the best interests of both persons. If a compromise is needed, it has to be done with willingness and not resentfulness. It's about a lifetime of communication. It's about sacrifice and commitment to make it work. In my case, it's about putting God in the centre of our marriage. A very thoughtful buzz. Thanks David.18/06/2017 #12 Anonymous#11 Exactly dear Lisa, "Marriages that work develop love that is not easy to explain"
If one has only experienced the lack of it, can only see what love is not, but not what it really is.
Love changes, due to the fact that each individual changes too, and this make the relationship, change, evolve, and in the best case, to get enhanced.
I saw many times my parents understanding each other just with a glance. Later, I have been able to experience it myself, and it is much more enriching as it seems at first sight. Both enter in a secret place on which no one except them can see clearly what goes on, a safe place on which everything is simple, clear and secure. This secret place can only be built by the complicity, together with forgetting willingly some of our "selfish rights", in order to taste the overwhelming flavour of the honey of having the soul caressed, abandoned to each other.18/06/2017 #11 Lisa 🐝 GallagherWell said @David Navarro López. Marriage is give and take. It's mutual and doesn't come without it's challenges. There are many legitimate reasons not to stay in a marriage, eg: Abuse, cheating, no love or friendship and the list can go on. But, we all face challenges IE: raising children together, work, finances, differing opinions and more- those things can be remedied and with time, we move on and appreciate where we were vs. where we are today. Marriages that work develop love that is not easy to explain. Love changes with time. It becomes a deep and rooted friendship along with respect and understanding of the other that changes the dynamics. Thanks for this.18/06/2017 #9 AnonymousOH, Oh, how could I have missed it? I will look at it. @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
Now i understand your words "Isn't this a form of turning the simple into complex? "
In the other hand, the maintenance issue is a complex issue. It was, it is and it will be.
It is funny you mention it, because I was thinking on writing a buzz18/06/2017 #8 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#7 You know better my friend David as you are in the maintenance and repair business. You know well that sometimes you were called over long distances to repair a machine and to your surprise the repair was so simple to avoid attention. Isn't this a form of turning the simple into complex? For more details, you may check my buzz of today. BTW- I wrote a presentation on "Customers Maintenance" two years ago. Maintenance is needed for humans as much as we need it for machinery.
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Comments21/06/2017 #90 Gerald Hecht#89 @Renée 🐝 Cormier no im not worried in the "specific"...more the general principle that she's a licensed professional with the legal power to say stuff like that (and in so doing) --thereby "adding a new twist to the (these days) already charged first impression situation" ...you know what I mean; it makes doing very high quality improv (for no charge) a "requirement" --at a Saturday morning soccer game.21/06/2017 #82 Gerald Hecht#80 @Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador I think you are right...I got a raft thingie with oars at Academy Sports...that's one brick and mortar base...that may have come through in the clutch...even if Amazon does have those robot flying saucers; assembling the ground shipping pallets--they may have container ships out there; but all they do is ram Trump's bathtub navy ..."sinkin his battleships. I got the whole Cajun Navy! We got rafts and military surplus hand crank weather radios..and (quite frankly) we are in surly moods; and rich people are starting to bug us21/06/2017 #81 Gerald Hecht#73 @Renée 🐝 Cormier exactly love is the thing no can lecture anyone about or bam! My former partner has the power to have people committed to psychiatric facilities..she got mad at me last week for not getting mad at her anymore...I really can't even act like I am....wouldn't you know it: "knock, knock"...but it was just my neighbor asking if I had an extra hand crank lantern for when the lights go out...and I did; so I gave it to him.
In the end stuff like that is what love originally meant...I'm guessing...but it's been over translated and almost as overproduced as Princess Diana's funeral thingie...umm Uh oh, I forgot the original topic ; just a sec20/06/2017 #79 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#66 ha, I can't imagine, considering how hot our tempers were back then. Our communication technique(s) have changed tremendously over time. We just ignore each other now and it works out great. I kid, but I must say, we have learned a lot and still have a lot to learn!20/06/2017 #78 Gerald Hecht#77 @Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador First "Gerry Dead Pool" of the new hurricane season is on: bet early and bet often (so the ghost of Huey Long will be pleased); same basic bets as last season (alive vs. dead), (flooded vs.habitable), etc. I'll be around Grande Isle, Delacroix area; https://www.bebee.com/producer/@gerald-hecht/september-9-2016-postscript-on-swimming-in-poison-with-horses18/06/2017 #73 Renée 🐝 Cormier#67 As long as nobody is trying to "run" me, I'm happy. Love begins within oneself. If you genuinely love who you are, then you will never need anyone to give you some sense of completion. Looking for that in another will only lead to disappointment. Also, if your relationship with yourself is completely healthy, then your partner will always feel safe with you. With that comes, trust, security, etc., assuming both partners are equally emotionally balanced. If one partner is "off" so to speak, then the relationship will be challenged in ways that will undermine its success. That's my take on things, for whatever it is worth. :)18/06/2017 #72 Gerald Hecht#70 @Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador I think that I've suddenly become possessed...all it took was to let my (hippie dreamer) guard down for a moment ...and now...I think I may be headed for the history books as "The First True Divorce Robber Baron in America".
Oh, may the universe not judge me harshly.
I fear that My new company, "Divorce Logistics Enterprises" may surpass Facebook by 2020.
I haven't even finished the business plan (I just started working on it about 10 minutes ago)...and I've already been booked for "60 Minutes" and "Time" wants to start working on a cover story.
I wish I was suffering from Bi-Polar Affective Disorder or something; that I may be able to provide a potentially forgivable rationale for what (they will say) I've done...18/06/2017 #71 Gerald Hecht#69 @Paul "Pablo" Croubalian I'm increasingly discovering that so much of the advice that I ignored ...has resulted in really hard puzzles that I would never have bought even at a yard sale;
and yet, your previous comment has quickly (seed-like) "sprouted" into this evolving vision for an "end to end" divorce solution business.
I even said to myself: why not actually name the thing: "Divorce Logistic Enterprises" (DLE).
the lawyers would just be one group of employees, along with CPA's, Counselors, Investment Planners, etc. (working under one of 50 "State Specific Compliance Divisions")...which in turn would be part of an "Interstate Coordination Best Practices Department"...
The vision is growing faster than I can articulate it...
...and even stranger; every bit of seems "metaphysically wrong" to me.
We humans are a strange lot; I've never thought of myself as an entrepreneur --I am opposed to the purpose of this thing; and simultaneously; I'm seeing the blueprint for the whole thing draw itself, accompanied by a feeling of divine inspiration...like "a calling".
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Comments15/06/2017 #19 Ken BoddieNever hurts to spread some sunshine, Paul. Invariably what goes around comes around, don't you think?
Unfortunately, when most of us ask, "How are you?" or How's your day?", the last thing we really want to know, or even expect, is to be told. There are times we really need to kick back and learn to be good listeners.14/06/2017 #15 John RylanceOn UK radio there is a short one or two minute piece under the title The Listening Project, which is people talking about something that interests/ concerns them. The contributetors are members of the public, their pieces are always thought provoking and interesting/illuminating.14/06/2017 #13 Susan 🐝 Rooks, the Grammar Goddess"All I did was ask how someone’s day was, and was genuinely interested, and now I am the one who continues to be impacted, even weeks later. It has changed me."
Profound, yet so simple, @Paul Kearley! But to actually see someone clearly and ask how they're doing requires us to get out of our own heads and lives first, right? And put down the cell phone. Look around. Oh, and listen to the answer . . .
You wrote a beautiful article on this, and I thank you!14/06/2017 #11 Renée 🐝 CormierBeautiful story, Paul. I always look forward to your posts. The best thing about giving love and caring about others is that one way or another, it gets you more love. Feeling love is as beautiful as being loved. When you offer love to others with no expectation of receiving anything, you can actually love yourself more. By nurturing your relationship with yourself, you will naturally have better relationships with others. It's a continuous cycle that feeds our souls and is really very simple to do. You only need to cast off your inhibitions and want to. Love completely changes the quality of our lives. Such is the power of being loving.14/06/2017 #7 Praveen Raj GullepalliBeautiful thoughts Paul. A lot can happen over...Chocolate! ;) The world would indeed be a better place if more folks would stop...to smell the roses; or say Hello Howdy; or read a buzz like this and think about it. When you love People and really do care, every look and smile you receive is a dose of happiness. Every busy person becomes an inspiration.14/06/2017 #6 Lisa 🐝 GallagherWhat a wonderful story Paul Kearley! As I continued to read, I got chills. The blog I read JUST before this one had a meme with Zig Zigler's quote you posted. Maybe someone is nudging me ;-) I love moments that make us dig deep within our souls, introspective moments- they are the best.14/06/2017 #5 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee@Paul Kearley- this is a great buzz. and I enjoyed every word of it. You moved me with the way you narrated your story . You wrote "Life isn’t about you, it’s about the impact you have on the people you meet each and every day". This alone was enough to urge me and share your buzz three times. Humans are complex, and you provide the simple rules to deal with this complexity. Be nice, care, smile, show care nd little gestures that make the complex look simple.
Salute to you, Paul.
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Comments31/05/2017 #42 Lisa 🐝 GallagherCongrats new Granddad! He is beautiful. I love the Scottish lullaby and the message contained within. I have hope for the future generations because so many now having children are thinking globally for their children's sake and also seem to going back to a time that I remember- teaching respect for elders, love for humanity over materialism and so much more. Thanks for sharing such a wonderful time in your lives. I had tears (happy ones) reading this and seeing the photos. We are on the road (well not literally, now), in a hotel for night but we will arrive to see our grandboys in 3 days, it's been almost a year. I can relate to the questions they ask so innocently and I also have time to understand the innocence so much more now that I'm not raising kids. Can't put a price tag on that! Have fun with your new grandson :))30/05/2017 #36 Kevin PashukI have a feeling that wee one will be 'Canon'ized... (as opposed to Nikoned in my case) by his Grandfather's photos.
It could be argued that there is no greater calling, or joy, in being a Grandpa. Congrats to the whole Boddie clan with the welcoming of Hudson into their midst.30/05/2017 #32 Ken Boddie#24 Who is this saintly white-clad high roller with the massive cheroot, and what have you done with my buddy @Dean Owen? Wait one ..... I recognise those failed attempts at humour. Where have you been, Dean-san? I thought perhaps your last blog had been considered admissible evidence for permanent incarceration?