- 13/07/2016What is the Man-Up Project?
A series of articles, vlogs, podcasts created by President & CEO of beBee USA and the voice of single dads, @Matt Sweetwood.
Matt has created The Man-Up Project to help men navigate their lives in a way that is healthier, happier and more fulfilling: Whether you are a single dude, happily married, getting divorce, divorced or whether you are a dad or not – The Man-Up Project has something that will dramatically improve the quality of your life.
Comments15/07/2016 #3 Virag Gulyas#2 @RandyKeho - thank you for your openness and kind comment here. @Matt Sweetwood's articles are pretty applicable for both genders. He talks on parenting also on Youtube. Feel free to check it out here: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLCdq80k2-idZB6dmcLPVrg7FuQ_ozUCpq13/07/2016 #2 Randy KehoWhat an excellent project. My daughter is a single mother and she and her 10-year-old son live with me. I have become his father figure. He's a great kid, but he needs some guidance to keep him on the right path, especially with the preponderance of gang activity in our neighborhood. They're now recruiting kids as young as 8-years-old. @Matt Sweetwood
- Producer19/06/2016My Father's Day Wish Is Hoping Your Dad Was As Great As Mine.This is my dad…his name is Pete Murray and I am his oldest kid,.My dad was a regular guy in a lot of ways. He grew up during the Great Depression and was very much a child of his generation.He was street smart and enterprising. He liked to gamble...
Comments21/06/2016 #12 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhDAwesome post on several huge issues, the personal ones being at the forefront. For those of us parents who lost our child(ren) to Custody issues, I love your insight about it then, and your feelings now. It's good to know that during the most impressionable years as a small child, your Dad left his mark. Then later, for decades after he went 'away' as so many Motherless Children do, you still had years to enjoy with him as an adult. That means the world to us. And a little P.S. note: perhaps the civil judge robe would do well in a museum. I bet the man and the meaning would most vividly live on for all. Such a sweet piece. Thanks!19/06/2016 #8 Randy KehoHere you go @Jim Murray, I can finally comment on something you've shared without saying, "You had me up until ... Like your dad, my uncle was a navigator in the RAF during WWII, flying Lancaster bombers over Germany. Perhaps, they knew each other? What a small world. After the war, my uncle joined the USAF, eventually retiring from the service and managing an airbase bowling alley. It must be tough to be a Maple Leaf's fan these days. I'm rather enjoying the Blackhawks run of good fortune. I've lived outside of Chicago for most of my life and there wasn't much to cheer about for decades.
- Producer20/06/2016My Response to Recent Joe Pa Hating- Love Trumps Hate; Happy Fathers Day- From My Many Fathers- Dad, Joe Paterno & My Heavenly FatherJoe PaternoThe Father of Penn State, 1926-2012 - A Penn State StudentMy Father has had a great impact on my life. He's taught everything many things beginning in my youth from right and wrong, the family sports legacy, the arts and the finer things...
Comments20/06/2016 #2 Christopher TaylorSadly, my first comment seem to register here, maybe it will correct itself shortly. Nevertheless, thank you so much for posting this Christian @Christian Menges, it's been a wonderful reminder of all those wisdoms passed down to me from my father - every single one a wealth of experience - some good, some bad... But I'll remember them all. Thank you.
- 19/06/2016For belated Father's Day UK) Gifts, here's the Ultimate Father's Day Gift Guide. Featuring: Buyagift coconutgrass @bemightyfine notonthehighstreett Waterstones Waterstones Swindon Adnams The King Of Soho Harrods Fortnum & Mason Tipplesworth Harvey Nichols Selfridges John Lewis Ocado Amazon.com Amazon.co.uk @gerryswinessoho Haig Club Newby Teas Kanuka Tea Apatchy London Heat Holders NIVEA NIVEA MEN Asda @howathutchinson Native Union
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Comments19/06/2016 #1 Gina AkersFor belated Father's Day (UK) Gifts, here's the Ultimate Father's Day Gift Guide. Featuring: Buyagift coconutgrass @bemightyfine notonthehighstreett Waterstones Waterstones Swindon Adnams The King Of Soho Harrods Fortnum & Mason Tipplesworth Harvey Nichols Selfridges John Lewis Ocado Amazon.com Amazon.co.uk @gerryswinessoho Haig Club Newby Teas Kanuka Tea Apatchy London Heat Holders NIVEA NIVEA MEN Asda @howathutchinson Native Union
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- Producer19/06/2016Have a Happy Daddy Day!His DeathMy friends and bloggers, I could not let this day pass without sharing. In the past six weeks I have had the 'life challenges and triumphs' which I will share as I resume writing. Today, I thought to share my thoughts on a Father v Dad,...
Comments28/06/2016 #23 AnonymousWow...thank you for sharing such a personal story and compelling message, @Donna-Luisa Eversley. I'm truly touched and moved. Sometimes, the most profound wisdom comes from the darkest places. Life and experience has a way of creating meaning even through pain. Your courage to share is an inspiration. Thank you.20/06/2016 #18 Donna-Luisa Eversley#16 Thank you very much @Phil Friedman... you are quite right, it probably would not have worked out between them... or with us. My big son has a way of looking at things and says " your life is a unique normal - live with it, don't wallow in it!"Hope you had a wonderful Daddy Day!20/06/2016 #16 Phil Friedman@Donna-Luisa Eversley, keep in mind that physical presence is only one form of being there for someone. And things might have been no better if he had been with you and your siblings during those years, if he wasn't the kind of person to bond well to his children. This in not to say that you don't hurt for his absence, either way. But someone once told me, you choose you friends, but you're assigned your family. So the best thing to do is to let it go, and move on. And make the best of what is to come. It wasn't you that caused him to leave. So don't worry, be happy,.20/06/2016 #14 Donna-Luisa Eversley#5 Thank you @William King... wow that is interesting 13th as a number in your life, like my own. The thing about resilience is we can move forward with a greater cache of experiences to draw on... mental illness is hard on any family. My mom is a remarkable woman.20/06/2016 #11 Donna-Luisa Eversley#8 Thank you @Dean Owen... my sisters each deal with their emotions differently also. I simply refuse to rehash all the what ifs and whys.. I accept him for who he was, but it took some life experiences to get it all into perspective. I appreciate your comments.. haope you had a happy Daddy Day!20/06/2016 #8 Dean OwenThis I can totally relate to @Donna-Luisa Eversley - but what is it that we are able to forgive but others live life with that constant chip on their shoulder. Perhaps it has something to do with what age we were when the separation occurred. My elder brothers never recovered. Maybe I was too young and embraced my new father with ease. But then he left too. Such is life ! Thanks for sharing this.20/06/2016 #7 Kevin Pashuk@Donna-Luisa Eversley, what a poignant post. It certainly comes from your depths and reflects the soul searching and all that comes with dealing with such a raw subject. Your father was fortunate to have such a daughter, who has used this pain to see through the situation and focus on the relationship.20/06/2016 #6 Lisa Gallagher@Donna-Luisa Eversley, this moved me to tears. Im sorry your dad never really got to know such a beautiful, loving soul, you, his daughter. I sorry life was so hard for your mom after he left. I admire your contagious energy and your family I'm sure, feel so fortunate to have you in their lives!
- Producer19/06/2016Not Your Usual Lessons From My FatherMy father taught me a lot about life. Certainly more than I needed to know as a child, more than any of us need to know. Yet for the first 48 years of my life, I didn't even know those lessons existed.My father was an abuser. So was his mother, my...
Comments27/06/2016 #39 Rebel Brown#38 Hi @Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD I dont believe in self competition. Its a program from society that does little for us thats positive and sets us up to create more limiting programs about ourselves and our worth. We dont need to prove anything or compete for anything. We are perfect just the way we are. I focus on being kind to myself, honoring myself and building myself up. Which leads to more positive programming and better results. Just sayin...23/06/2016 #37 Rebel Brown#36 @Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD Thanks for all your support sistah. What doesn't kill us makes us stronger. And that's a choice. We can choose to give up, turn our face to the darkness and fall. Or we can stand up, dust off, face the light and step into our freedom. I simply chose the light. Blessings Margaret.23/06/2016 #36 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD#19 You got it, Girl! We can ROAARR for the next woman, and the future generations! @Rebel Brown is a shining role model, and we need this so immensely in Women's Mental Health, which in turn affects Women's Health in general! It's a domino effect we all are inspired to keep every day, thanks to wonderful and powerful people like Rebel and her 'instant' message!23/06/2016 #34 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD#33 Amen to that! Children are a blessing and anyone abusing a child will face their Maker and receive Judgement. I do pray that abusers pray for forgiveness from their own children as they are adults...of course, this provides great healing for both. And if we forgive all who have hurt us, or all that hate us, we allow our bitterness to leave our hearts as we give up the negative! So stay positive, turn negative into the molded claypot of spiritual gifts, and gain strength in KNOWing that you shall, in return, be able to help the rest of the world like no one else!22/06/2016 #33 Mohammed A. JawadUgh...deviant attitude breeds dry, rude culture. Oftentimes, history repeats and people instead of correcting themselves spew their spoils on others, become arrogant and bereft of compassion. In such times, the essential and sublime solution is the right guidance that comes as a shimmering pathway. When people embrace it with upright faith and cancel spots of all vain hopelessness, there comes solace, pulsating confidence and urge to learn good precepts for bettering lives.22/06/2016 #32 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD#30 I'm all about being a rebel, and motivating others, especially young teen girls, to be a rebel for a good cause. Great point, great Hive, great rebel you are...and a fine and outstanding RebelExample, too! We shall empower women to BE themselves! For inside each one of us is a rebel just waiting to be freed.22/06/2016 #31 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhDWhat strength you have grasped, in the right 'timing' of life. I know that you know that you wouldn't be who you are if it weren't for the horrid experiences you underwent as an innocent child. But I love the inner strength you found, and the final resolution to make the damn best of things and get your life back, for yourself. For now, I cannot imagine beBee without you. You left an indelible mark in this post, one that speaks to millions of adults who suffered horrific abuse at the hands of one or both parents, even if the 'silent' parent was aware but did nothing. You ARE whole! You ARE a fine role model, and you are a lioness with great magic to rightfully rule her own kingdom. RROOOAARRR!22/06/2016 #30 Rebel Brown#29 Well said @CityVP Manjit "How can we get to any kind of restorative justice if condemnation is what is in our hearts?" That's my sentiment exactly when it comes to the state of the US and our political free for all this year. What are we thinking? Rage and anger, condemnation and profiling are not the paths to freedom. Nor is hiding the truth of our lives and our world from others ... the former destroys nations and the latter destroys ourselves. It's funny. I never even thought of staying quiet when I have information and understanding to share with others. Yet so many of my friends couldn't understand why I would ever share my story or my healing. We are programmed to be so limited ... but I'm a rebel so I don't go there:) Thanks for taking your time to share!21/06/2016 #29 CityVP Manjit#25 When people watch pain the best they will get to is to become an expert in pain. I want to observe those people who can make the human spirit live again who I know can do this for others because they have achieved doing this for themselves first. There are far less in the world who recognize this form of dignity and you are one of them. How can we get to any kind of restorative justice if condemnation is what is in our hearts? Look at all the opposites of the word "condemn" - absolve, build up, release and most of all set free. When we condemn we surrender the opposite and that is what we then really lose when pain gives birth to pain. Your account is wisest in the transformations you have experienced.21/06/2016 #27 Rebel Brown#22 Ms @Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD We both have our journeys, eh? And I believe we all have a choice. We can choose to face forward and find the light, no matter what it takes. or we can choose to lose our lives in the darkness. Im not about to give in to the dark... so here I am. In the light:) Blessing this Universe for the powerful journey and lessons along the way:) Blessings to you:)21/06/2016 #26 Rebel Brown#21 @Pamela L. Williams I've worked with a number of abused women and traumatized kids now. I find that the biggest challenge they have is the outright terror that rules their unconscious mind. The symptoms come out in isolation and discomfort in public, panic attacks at meeting new people and more. But the core seems to be the integration of a "panic button" into our "selves" that is so inherently part of us, we think its NORMAL. Once I learned how to release the fear and angst, the guilt and hurt..... I moved beyond it all. So do my clients. It's the best work I've ever done. I literally change a life in 2 hours or less. WHAT A BLESSING and I'm so honored to have been directed to this path in my life. BLESSINGS PAmela and thanks as always for your oh so powerful words.21/06/2016 #25 Rebel Brown#20 @CityVP Manjit Wow... you captured the feelings and intent in my heart SO well. Many people can't understand why I feel sorry for my father now. Yes, he did horrible things to me for over 10 years. He also had horrible things done to him as a child. And he had no means to step beyond those horrors. No where to turn. I'm blessed because I had the freedom and lived in a world where I could find my answers - from around the world. It's funny, as I recovered all the memories, I had the opportunity to literally feel my little girl transform from hopeful to powerless, from eager to afraid, from joyous to oh so sad. When I went back and looked at my photos, you SEE the change in my eyes and my smile, or lack thereof. The sparkle dies. And yes, that powerlessness overwhelmed me thanks to my imprinting it with the use of EMDR. But I found my way out... and as I was crawling out of the black pit - I knew one thing. What happened to me happened for a reason. And that reason is to share the horrors AND the healing with anyone and everyone who needs it. because I did find my answers, and today, I am Thriving on the Other Side. I am blessed.21/06/2016 #22 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD#21 Absolutely agree that we need to Validate and Encourage transparency, because our stories, however embarrassing or not, WILL Inspire Others! +@Rebel Brown's story is amazing and even more remarkable is the Inspiration, the #WHATISTHEPOSITIVE that she gleaned from it for the rest of her life! What a role model! Amen and thanks be to God that you're here for us, Rebel! We need you!21/06/2016 #21 Pamela L. WilliamsEloquent is the word that comes to mind to describe your comment @CityVP Manjit. Rebel's post temporarily stupefied me. It's hard to share revelations such as this because one of the most difficult wounds to heal is the embarrassment. One of my closest friends is a clinical psychologist and we've discussed young life trauma several times. In his many years of caring for abused children he found that the feelings of isolation resulting from having a 'not normal' family was the most difficult hurdle to cross. They didn't want others to know of the façade, I'm truly amazed by Rebel's strength. She is the ultimate example of a Breakout Woman. #2020/06/2016 #20 CityVP ManjitEven though I have no experience of this, as the years roll on I listen to these accounts and while they still shock me, I see that this is not just an isolated experience, that there is a Pandora's Box of issues that people have carried, and while I am not advocating opening that Pandora's Box, when it does open, it requires a human being that can control the forces that then emerge from these dark stories - and I see a great and awesome strength in Rebel Brown - a strength that has been forged by choosing to acknowledge the pain, but in ways that strengthen not only Rebel but giving a sense of how to emerge from brokenness and to begin leading a life redrawn with new meaning, and values that transcend the darkness that would otherwise suffocate a life.
For those who like me who have never had to endure any of this, it is a powerful reminder of the realities that people endure and then Rebel Brown becomes a reference point for those who have also endured this. Ultimately the line with the greatest power is where Rebel says "He never got the chance to find his power, to free himself from her evilness. He never had a chance" Such a statement is not simply a form of great courage, it is a statement of intelligence - in a world that needs lots of that intelligence, because the alternative is not a good place to be. When we talk about freedom, we really underestimate freedom, what Rebel has described here is a story of freedom - of mind, of spirit and of body. I honour her story here and respect greatly her intelligence.
- 19/06/2016A Father Should Be Greatwww.bebee.com John White shares his thoughts on the qualities that make a dad “great.” — “And all of your words fall flat. I made something of myself and now...
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