- 16/07/2017I feel happy. I met the best guy in Puerto Rico.
Many thanks @Jan 🐝 Barbosa
Comments16/07/2017 #4 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. International Management, Certified Executive Coach. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.the king bee is happy - really very happy!16/07/2017 #3 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. International Management, Certified Executive Coach. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.we see your happiness on the picture, yes!
- Producer07/07/20175 Tips for Maintaining Long-Lasting FriendshipsThere’s nothing as important to your psychological well-being as maintaining close and meaningful friendships. Strong social networks may even affect your longevity and physical health as well. There’s a difference between having a close circle...
- Producer24/06/2017A Story About My Friend, Phil FriedmanI have made a lot of friends over the years, in the advertising business, in my consulting business and on line as well.One of the best online friends I have is a guy named Phil Friedman. We met back on LinkedIn, before life went to hell for writers...
Comments25/06/2017 #18 Phil Friedman#16 Just to be clear, Peter, my personal position has always been (and always will be) that everyone has a right to express him or herself. However, at the same time, nobody is obligated to read or listen or pay attention to what that person has to say.
Moreover, while I've never objected to being the target of on-point criticism, I firmly believe that an author's post should not be an open forum in the sense that anyone can post anything in the comments thread of another author's post. For that is like requiring a magazine to provide space for just anybody to publicize whatever they want.
My feeling is that if you feel strongly about a particular post being wrong, publish your own piece saying so. Then take your chances on whether anyone will pay attention. Don't try to springboard on the established readership of the author whom you're criticizing. Or push some other agenda which you may have.
Just saying. Cheers!25/06/2017 #17 Jerry FletcherJim, Way to weigh in! That's what friends are for! I, for one, have endeavored not to let the negatrons get to me. It is nice to see to see two guys I admire have each others backs. And to see Javier react as well. There is enough inadvertent disagreement in the world without having to put up with intentional malevolence. We may not always agree but how we disagree is what makes a difference. Calm, rational discussion usually leads to both sides learning and modifying their viewpoint. Nobody gets anywhere when a conversation becomes character assassination.25/06/2017 #16 Peter AltschulerTrolling is a problem that needs constant attention, Jim, and you've given it appropriate exposure. That's worth doing on its own and laudable in the context of @Phil Friedman. While social sites are often interesting because they're open forums, it may be time to vet the participants or, at the very least, let authors set up temporary barriers to block the invective.25/06/2017 #15 Pascal DerrienRight on the button @Jim Murray . What I like about Phil (@Phil Friedman) is that he is discreet supporter of many and does not have the need to over publicize his actions in that domain, he is sometimes misunderstood for some reasons that do escape me but he is one the best of us...... :-)25/06/2017 #13 Phil Friedman#4 Jim, this is just about the nicest, most decent thing anyone outside my immediate family has ever done for me. Not only because of the overly kind things that you say about me but because it takes real care and sizable cajones to speak out in these circumstances. And I appreciate it more than I can express. My thanks also go out to all the others who have posted their support here and elsewhere on beBee and earlier on LinkedIn.
Being stalked by "the troll" goes back more than three years to my publishing on LinkedIn. I lost count of the number of times he challenged my authenticity and implied or even stated outright that there was no support for the things I said about my background and experience or the things I do in my core business. Never mind that all of those claims are well documented in photo-illustrated portfolios on my LinkedIn profile. And never mind that my LI profile includes a half dozen letters of recommendation from prominent marine industry people with whom I've work, for whom I've worked, and who have worked for me. Real people with verifiable identities who can be found and reached (even on LinkedIn) as queried as to the authenticity of the recommendations. https://www.linkedin.com/in/friedmanphil/
It didn't matter that I pointed this out to "the troll" at least a couple dozen times over the years. As it did not matter that, when he challenged my claim to have published more than 1,000 print and digital articles in magazines and on the web, I responded with verifiable documentation of the claim. https://www.bebee.com/producer/@friedman-phil/i-ll-show-you-mine-then-you-show-me-yours
... cont. pt. II25/06/2017 #12 Phil Friedman#4 Jim - pt. II.
No, he continued to attempt to despoil my posts and my business reputation with unsupported claims and vague innuendo. Indeed, when I once called him on not speaking to the point of one of my pieces, he proudly informed me that he never read anyone's article and rarely even read through the comment thread, but commented based on the last comment that caught his eye. And he gleefully bragged that none of it was worth his time -- never seeing the irony of what he was saying, given he stalked my profile almost every day to see where my posts were appearing.
The hardest part of all of it was that when, from time to time, I had it up to "here" and I responded with a sharp tongue, I would be labeled by some who were not aware of the circumstances, as being negative and disagreeable. And when I simply ignored his mean-spirited, disingenuous comments, other labeled me as haughty and exclusionary. Which is why I appreciate so much your stepping forward to set the record straight. Thank you again, my friend.24/06/2017 #10 David B. GrinbergKudos on this post, Jim, I couldn't agree more with your characterization of @Phil Friedman. I likewise became acquainted with Phil's talents in the so-called "Lumpy Kingdom" and we quickly developed a professional networking relationship. I admire Phil for all of the reasons you mentioned. Most importantly, IMHO, Phil always speaks his mind and speaks "truth to power" as they say. He's not afraid to be blunt and, like an umpire, call it as he sees it. This sometimes can rub some people the wrong way. However, I've always found Phil to engage with the utmost of civil discourse, honesty and integrity.
Moreover, many historians and others of high intellect equate one aspect of true leadership with telling people what they DON'T want to hear. In short, Phil is an exemplary individual, and expert writer, and a man of the highest integrity. He is a role model who deserves accolades. Thus, I tip my hat to Phil because even when we strongly disagree on the issues, we both do so in a respectful manner that showcases the best of civil discourse in a social media space that is too often toxic.
Finally, any professional writer learns quickly that you can't have "thin skin" in this field. However, when one's reputation is directly challenged or tarnished, and their veracity questioned, then it's "no holds barred" in defending oneself and correcting the record. I admire the fact that Phil does not back down, back off, of give in to trolls. He fights for what he believes is right in good conscience and with facts. He is indeed an honorable and admirable person whom I am proud to call my friend.24/06/2017 #8 Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador@Jim Murray, this is a great way to show how a friendship works. I started following you and @Phil Friedman back in the good old days at LI because I appreciate good writers. You and Phil have different styles of writing but there is one common denominator and that is being authentic. Keep up the good work, guys.
Thanks for explaining the whole story, Jim. I spotted the trouble right away and made my pitch using my own experience as an example. Stay strong, Phil. You have a lot of friends in your corner.24/06/2017 #7 Pamela 🐝 WilliamsThat troll 'followed' me and I followed back because I was waiting for the outbreak of trollness. Not surprised it appeared, though I missed the actual attack. Uncalled for!
You're right: Phil's inteligence is unquestionable, his writing skills exemplary. We've butted heads ourselves but I felt no need to 'troll' him, Agree to disagree and move on.
Good to read your words again Jim, I've missed them. I've learned a few hard lessons in these 'missing' few months and they are that I have to see beyond the superficial, I need to find the true character of the people because the harm that comes from blinding yourself to other's true intent is untold hurt. Your words for your friend are truly touching.
And good for Javier! He and his team have always protected their bees well.24/06/2017 #5 Charlene NormanAnd this entire thread with the two stories by two fine writers more than adequately demonstrates the love-hate relationship I have with social media and the two-edged sword that damn tool has. While I really do believe that only 2% of the population is certified loopy, they are truly s$#%$#%t disturbers for the sane. You are so very lucky @Phil Friedman to have so many good folks in your corner.
- Producer16/06/20177 Unique Gift Ideas for Your Best FriendYour bestie is one of the most important people in your life. Someone to share your weirdness, to poke fun at you and love you unconditionally, this is the person you love like they’re family. After all the adventures and things you’ve been...
- 04/05/2017Just sharing a taste of my island #justbecuse ;-)
@David B. Grinberg @John White, MBA @Javier 🐝 beBee
- 21/03/2017I just want to take a moment to thank @David B. Grinberg for being the absolute BEST when it comes to support and sharing on and off beBee! David you inspire me and encourage me! I'm striving to be even half as helpful and supportive to you and others as you've been to me on this, my writer's journey!
Special thanks to @Jan 🐝 Barbosa for inviting me to the platform and to @John White, MBA, @Javier 🐝 beBee and @Matt 🐝 Sweetwood for reaching out and encouraging me when "those who shall not be named kicked me to the curb"...LOL Virtual hugs to all of you! Let's continue to work at making beBee the best place ever!
Comments23/04/2017 #6 David B. Grinberg#5 Thank you, @Milos Djukic, you are way too kind. I would certainly settle for "good" any day of the week. Yet anything remotely approaching greatness on my end -- which is highly improbable -- would be almost entirely be due to the great mentors and brilliant minds I have learned from here on beBee and elsewhere. And, of course, you are chief among them, Milos!
- Producer19/03/2017Friendships lost, can we ever go back?I have this ritual that I do. Ever so often I sit on the floor in my bedroom and pull letters out of my special drawer. This drawer holds letters from many of my close friends and even casual acquaintances, the experience makes me sad at times...
Comments18/04/2017 #11 Henri GalvãoJust like Donna Wood below, I'm also going through the process of coming to terms with the end of a friendship. I now see that I could/should have invested more time in it. I also feel that the same could be said about my (former) friend, but I can't do much about his perspective, right? So I guess it's time to move on, and maybe someday we can rekindle our friendship in a different way.
p.s.: I hope it didn't seem like I was venting out here :-)
p.s.2: by the way, great text!20/03/2017 #10 Devesh 🐝 BhattDont feel lonely when friends are away. Moving on from memories does not mean moving on from people.
An example .. i had two friends as a child but really one of the 3 outcasts was balanced. I talk about me and the other guy. When life took us different places, he became a liar because he had no one to share stuff with and i became a dominating person cause i had no one to fend for me. Only we could set each other right and it took 5 years of trashy experiences and unemployment.. yes the girls did not stick around because his lying and my dominance were suddenly unacceptable without jobs.
The dependence became a weakness and weakness allowed shitty behaviour to creep in. So yeah it is great to have friends but one should never feel lonely without them. So i agree with you.
And i think the dose of buzzes today has been very very heavy.. you did it subtle but it came at a heavy time20/03/2017 #9 Tausif MundrawalaI my view there should be a reciprocity from the other end also. One of my best friend worked with me in my company and we were together for six years. Last year due to some reason he left the company and there ceased to exist our contact with each other. His birthday was on 25th Dec and I rang him without fail. He was surprised to receive my call and I requested him to contact me as and when he is free.
I am glad he is blessed with a baby boy after six years of his marriage. I agree with you that touch or essence of our friendship is lost. It hurts when you lose your friends where you have given your time and resources to nurture it. I am glad that you wrote this wonderful buzz, @Katyan Roach20/03/2017 #8 Katyan Roach#3 @Donna Wood I've had to deal with that situation myself and I was the one that changed. It was hard for my friend and I wished that he would have been able to embrace the 'new' me but sometimes it doesn't always work out like that. With your friend I hope that in spite of the change the friendships will endure. It may not be the same, but it doesn't necessarily need to end ;-)20/03/2017 #5 Harvey LloydFriendship is really a shared journey. A kindred understanding of each other as you battle existence in that phase of life. My wife and i woke up one day to the empty nest and realized a lot of our friendships left when the children did.
Friendship is like a bottle of wine of shared, once its gone you can't share the same bottle again, but you can open a new one. Not necessarily with the same person every time.
Great thoughts.20/03/2017 #4 Paul Walters@Katyan Roach " I hear the voices of friends, vanished and gone" Always thought that a poignant phrase from Bruce Springsteen . However some stay in you and you in them. I have been a wanderer by trade and sometimes I re visit places I have lived and curiosity sometimes drives me to knock on a door of an old friend often with varying results. I do however find it gratifying when after twenty or thirty years after a silence lasting just a nano second our conversations are taken up where we left off. Thanks for a heartfelt post!20/03/2017 #3 Donna WoodI'm currently working on the acceptance that my best friend of over twenty years is slowly drifting away. She's not the same person she was when we were younger, as it should be. But, it's hard to accept that life has taken us both down different paths. Perhaps they will cross again in another time. Until then, I will cherish the years we've had thus far.19/03/2017 #1 Deb 🐝 HelfrichWhat a precious insight into your mind, @Katyan Roach! I could sense every nuance of that ritual. And I, like probably many others have remnants of those sorts of letters.
Friendship is a complex form of love that often flourishes with proximity (which as pen pals classically show, isn't really only strictly about physical distance) and recedes with change.
I am coming to believe that the key to longevity in any relationship is whether or not the pair constantly work to affirm their commitment to continuing relations - via looks, words, or simply the mutual experience of the flowing of positive energy.
We should cherish when everything aligns and treasure the memories of the friends who moved into a different phase.
- Producer10/03/2017The Power of Friendship in Life and Why We Need FriendsThe following video inspired me to write this post. It's a very meaningful memory about the power of friendship. Have you recently thought about the most meaningful and happy moments in your life? Do they include friendships running through them?...
Comments12/03/2017 #24 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#23 "Friendships are perfectly imperfect." I have found this to be so true over the years @Ivette K. Caballero. That's the beauty of friendships and what's even better is when we can laugh at our own imperfections with a good friend, while they laugh with us! I'm not sure about you but if I go any length of time without speaking to one of my good friends, I feel a void. Women are more social creatures than men and it has been proven we need each other. We can tell our good friends things we may never share with a man and they also get our quirky moods, humor etc... Great buzz!!11/03/2017 #17 Ivette K. Caballero#14 @CityVP 🐝 Manjit We need to spend time with people in order to know them, we need to listen more and talk less. Not doing so leads to misinterpretations, disagreements, and so on. Labeling people based on their age is what creates separation from each generation, sadly. Thank you for your objective observations and for sharing them.10/03/2017 #14 CityVP 🐝 Manjit#10 This "quality of friendship" is what millennials do so well and rarely get credit for, instead we question young people's attitude to work, drop a marketing label like millennials over them and judge individual relationships with a group moniker. The best thing I ever did was get involved with bright kids at my local college - it keeps my perspective grounded that every human being is unique.10/03/2017 #10 Ivette K. Caballero#6 @CityVP 🐝 Manjit Thank you for sharing your thoughts about friendship. It's true that media has contributed to distorting what friendship is all about. Having hundreds of connections/followers on social media doesn't translate to friendships; sadly, younger generations are the most impacted by this. "Our basic social drivers still emanate from the cave rather than emerge in 21st Century renaissance," another truth you share, thanks. I also prefer quality of friends rather than quantity. I wouldn't be able to dedicate quality time to hundreds of "friends." The meaning of friendships is taken so lightly.10/03/2017 #7 Ivette K. Caballero#3 @Javier 🐝 beBee Thank you for sharing your thoughts about friendship. Indeed, there's some superficiality through networking, it's not necessarily focused on making friends. We can have hundreds of connections online, some close ones, though the truth is that friendships require time, effort, and presence. However, you meet people online who become your friends. The key is that true friendships grow more beautifully offline. Face-to-face time is a must to develop healthy friendships, nothing can replace that. FRIENDS ARE VERY IMPORTANT!!! I completely agree with you.10/03/2017 #6 CityVP 🐝 ManjitThere is friendship and then there is the reality distortion field of media and then there is test of friendship. A part of tribal reality is fight or flight, which means our basic social drivers still emanate from the cave rather than emerge in 21st Century renaissance.
This is why I am fascinated by "small group friendships" - and the privacy and value of that - because there is an evolution in that and that is one of the dynamic things that I am observing that is worthy of being described "21st Century" evolution.
- Producer19/01/2017In my lifeIn my life, was on the radio, and I thought what a wonderful song for a dreary rainy Thursday in January. Our guests have come and gone and I thought this is a good time to think of people who have come and gone in my life. When I was involved in...
Comments19/01/2017 #1 Lisa 🐝 GallagherI think becoming friends can be both serendipity and choice. Maybe in the end if we continue the friendship and it blossoms that is by choice. I have met some wonderful people on Social Media eg. and never thought I would end up becoming friends with them. A few of my good friends I've known for 5 years or more via social media. Those who are in my life and live close to me are by choice. I think when we are younger we choose friends for different reasons, I guess that would still be a choice? Good food for thought @Royce Shook!
- Producer02/01/2017How to Dump a Lousy Friend.Lately I’ve been wondering what constitutes a friend—not so much a friend as a true friend. I read all these comments on Facebook and LinkedIn, where people say wonderful things like “That’s a great shot of you holding Fluffy,” or “How old is Fluffy...
Comments03/01/2017 #9 Robert Cormack#5 I agree to a point, Pamela, but my ex used to always tell her daughter, "Don't say anything, Katrina." Better to remain silent and likeable than try to offer constructive criticism and possibly fail. This is how young women think today, and it's a shame that so many will end up being "lousy friends" simply because they listened to their mothers or social media. Better to risk and fail than to never have tried at all.03/01/2017 #5 Pamela 🐝 WilliamsI'll give you an example of the friend who lowers your self-esteem when they're 'praising' you. It's back-handed compliments or 'correcting' you; "I think what you really mean is..." (not what I meant at all). "Your life is so sweet" (aka: your life sucks). After a bad day at work you say jokingly "I'd rather mop floors for a living" and their serious response is "That's something you should look into" (aka: That's about all your good for). I've encountered 'friends' like this, and I've seen my daughter subjected to 'friends' like this and my advice to her; is "If you question whether or not it's a compliment; it probably isn't" "Give them a chance to explain their words because usually if you confront them immediately they don't have time to come up with a cover story and they'll show their true selves". There is constructive criticism and advice and then there are those who have such low self-esteem themselves they need to bring others down to make themselves feel better. It's just manipulation in it's most insulting form and it chips away at your self-esteem.03/01/2017 #3 David B. GrinbergNice buzz, Robert. I'm a huge fan of Rev. Norman Vincent Peale and love his books on the importance of being a positive person. I think real friends, whether online or off, are those who go the extra mile for you without expecting anything in return. Real friends derive happiness by helping others, plan and simple.
Regarding "dumping a lousy friend" I would just note it appears much easier to do so online compared to off. I'm reminded of that saying, "Breaking up is hard to do."
I'm sharing this on three hives. I look forward to reading more buzz from you in 2017!
- 08/12/2016The glory of friendship is not the outstretched hand, not the kindly smile, nor the joy of companionship…
It is the spiritual inspiration that comes to you when you discover that someone believes in you and is willing to trust you with friendship.
Who are your real friends, and who are you a true friend to?
Reflect on those questions as you read this moving storyTHE DAILY SHORTCUT #6www.empowernetwork.com THE DAILY SHORTCUT...
- Producer30/09/2016Desventajas de trabajar con tu pareja / Disadvantages of working with your partner (BF/GF)Read in english below:En EspañolPara los que aún pensáis que es positivo trabajar con tu pareja, expongo una serie de desventajas que he visto a lo largo de mi trayectoria profesional.1.- No tienes privacidadSon al menos ocho horas del día las que...
Comments30/05/2017 #28 Adriana Monzo FuentesHace muchos años pase por la 4, que nadie lo sabia... o eso creíamos pues era una empresa pequeña y el se sentaba a menos de dos metros de mi silla.
Trabaje para una multinacional americana que claramente establecía que si uno re los dos (familiares incluidos) recibía ordenes del otro no se podía y la regla no escrita que el departamento de RRHH no debía mantener relación sentimental con alguien de la empresa.
Todo esto me recuerda el escándalo del presidente de Boeing, Harry Stonecipher01/10/2016 #22 Mamen 🐝 Delgado#21 Uyyy @Perla Rodriguez Dieguez, eso de que no haya cuñadas en la empresa suena a que tiene historia suculenta detrás!!! Perdona... 😉
Yo llevo 20 años con mi pareja y nunca hemos trabajado juntos, cada uno tiene su profesión y su ámbito laboral. Y para mí es lo perfecto porque yo he aprendido mucho con él de lo suyo y él conmigo de lo mío, y así se enriquece la relación. Supongo que depende de cada pareja, cada una es un mundo y tenemos una capacidad asombrosa de adaptación y de aceptación. Pero en líneas generales me parece más enriquecedor a nivel individual que cada cual tenga su espacio laboral.
Muy acertado por cierto el dicho rudo... 😂01/10/2016 #20 Perla Rodriguez Dieguez#18 La verdad que si, me encanta,
Llevo más de 20 años con diferentes tipos de emprendimientos y por una u otra razón, terminamos juntos en el proyecto, así que si alguna o alguno necesita consejo, aunque cada pareja es un mundo, en cuestión de organización en la empresa... aquí me tienen. :P01/10/2016 #16 Perla Rodriguez DieguezEscribo mi experiencia que por una razón u otra, termino trabajando con mi marido casi siempre, será porque es la persona con la que te apoyas y según las circunstancias, si ambos estamos en el paro o queremos un cambio, juntamos los conocimientos, experiencias de ambas partes para formar algo nuevo, yo lo que veo es lo siguiente
* Es difícil separar los roles:
-Al tener una relación cercana, muy cercana, a veces resulta muy difícil llamar la atención sobre algo que se hace mal tanto para una u otra parte y que no se ofenda.
-Las diferencias de opinión sobre como hacer tal o cual trabajo puede llevarse a la casa, al almuerzo y a la cama.
- Es complejo el finalizar una relación LABORAL, cuando es un proyecto juntos, normalmente puede terminar en divorcio, no fue mi caso, pero son situaciones muy difícil de abordar, para evitar situaciones tensas, terminas por abandonar el barco y asumir uno las culpas, y en cierta manera, todos los tenemos, por ese problema de no saber separar los roles.
Si tuviera que dar una opinión? Como experiencia cada pareja es un mundo, pero yo no lo recomiendo, es mejor extrañarse, llegar a casa y contar las experiencias y anécdotas cuando comemos o salimos. Puede llegar a ser desgastante.30/09/2016 #15 Pedro🐝 GómezEn principio depende de las personas, como lleven su relación, de qué tipo de trabajo se trate...de lo que el trabajo implique mayor o menor roce, si existe jerarquía en el mismo...son muchas las variantes que pueden hacer viable esa situación o convertirla en un infierno.....y hay de todo...yo creo posible la adaptación a trabajar juntos, pero con muchos "depende"....los hay favorables y contrarios...!!! muy buena tertulia...saludos @Javier 🐝 beBee