- Producer28/02/2017The return of the ZOMBEELook up the word ZOMBEE and you will learn some fascinating stuff about this condition caused by a parasite.Ocassionally such a parasite appears in a peivate message to you. The pic here shows such a predator!And the pic below his BEE-ES to...
- Producer13/12/2016America is held hostage by flyover statesIt is true, I did not write this, however, it does reflect my thoughts to the letter. What do you think? The predominant narrative coming out of the 2016 Presidential post-election analysis is: The flyover states have spoken. A flyover state...
Comments16/12/2016 #18 Brian McKenzieWhile I do not know General Flynn personally, I did serve with the DIA while he was at the helm. I know his directives and track record from my time overseas working with them. He was fired because he opposed how STATE was running the line between Moderate Syrian Rebels and ISIS - ie STATE was enabling, arming, funding, producing, protecting and promoting ISIS while his branches of DIA had men dying in the direct fight against ISIS. THAT is why he was fired by the Obama - the rest is smokescreen for the low information Bread and Circus crowd. I am not surprised you have not heard of the Shining Path of Communism - most Progressives never read beyond Obama's crib notes and soundbites. That man is pure Red Marxist Leninist Ideologue - by his own admission. It will take a generation to recover from the Red Soviet Stain he left on the country.15/12/2016 #16 Brian McKenzieDetroit is the shining light of 'Progressive' ideology that you say flyover Americans and uneducated regressive Republicans are exactly against. So if you want to attack those against the glorious path of Utopia as pushed by the Democrats and then refuse to stand and face the argument on basis of performance, facts and precedence - because it is your opinion only .....and your side wilts under reality ~ yet again. Facts over Feels - just once it would be great if a vacuous Liberal Agenda Pushing shill would bring numbers to the table. PS - Please do explain the Questionable credentials of Lt. Gen Mike Flynn or is that just more of your opinion?14/12/2016 #14 Brian McKenzieGreat - I would expect a PHD holder to be able to find relevant and applicable facts, trends, precedence, evidence and real world performance. I would love to conversation about the Progressive Success of Detroit from say 1964 to today - a history of decades that were dominated by Democratic / Liberal leadership and what it has done to the city, industry and economics of the region. because 'progressive' is such a good idea - as Detroit has shown.14/12/2016 #11 Neil SmithDespite being no fan of Trump, to say the least, this is quite a poor article. So called flyover states are still states. They are an integral and important part of the nation and their inhabitants are still citizens of the United States of America. To refer to these areas in such a disparaging, disrespectful way is poor form and certainly reduces the impact of any point the original author was trying to make.14/12/2016 #10 Brian McKenzieI have been around the world - military tours and deployments into 22 countries with 9 of them where shit was hot, heavy and deadly - I have been in the Russian Realm countries for the last 3 years. I speak Russian, and I have a damn clear view of what is going on in the world - far and away from the lies across your TV screen. If you want to have a debate on facts - then bring your numbers, your performance, your statistics - otherwise it is nothing but self grandizing puffery of 'Progress' while standing in the middle of the ruins. PS - the Muslim Brotherhood ARE terrorists - they admit it and recruit as such. Illegal Aliens are ILLEGAL - it is a tautology - I invite you to look with word up in a dictionary.14/12/2016 #6 Brian McKenzie#4 it is the same reason no liberals saw the wholesale theft and plagarism of Obama from Lenin and the Red Soviet Cult of Personality, including promoted and produced songs of tribute to his glory and gradeur sung by devote little minions. And yes, there is no future in the system, no matter who is at the helm - it is why I am driving the collapse / dystopia / anarchy messages on the channels I run ;)14/12/2016 #4 Jim Murray#3 Hey @Brian McKenzie. Here's a little rant I wrote tonight on Facebook, where nobody seems to mind this sort of thing. Thought you might enjoy it.
Why is it that I want to believe all the Democratic bullshit propaganda, but don't want to believe any of the Republican crap? I mean crap is crap isn't it? Or is it. Could it be the the Democratic crap is more creative and plausible, whereas the Republican crap, because it all revolves around Trump, is 100% unbelievable cause he's such a total asswipe. I am mystified. And not just about the quality, but the quantity of the crap that's floating around out there. In a way, it could be a reason why there are so many seemingly stupid people in the US. Maybe they're not stupid, but merely confused because they don't know whose crap to believe. As usual the only people who are making money out of all this are people like me who have gone over to the Dark Side. Creating fake news, spinning benign stories into accusations of injustice and confusing the hell out of everybody with crap on crap.
Man, the world is turning into one hell of a crapstorm.14/12/2016 #3 Brian McKenzieThe problem with 'debates' with the progressives / liberals / democrats was best summed up by Reagan a generation ago - their behavior has not improved nor changed over time. https://youtu.be/x3clRraH77M PS Facts / Performance / Evidence / Precedence over Feels / Rhetoric / Ideology and Cult of Personality. When you are prepared to have THAT debate - Conservatives and Constitutionalists will listen
- Producer06/11/2016Rowan, R.U., Joe King and PayPal This November, 2016, I celebrate my 'Thanks 4 Giving' holiday all month long. It is the second time that I enjoy this month long celebration since I started the tradition one year ago.It was only a few months earlier, around July 2015, that I began...
- ProducerWhat Happened to Nice?I consider myself a simple soul, perhaps a little high maintenance because of my age but I am realistic with common sense goals. I grew up sheltered, an only child, always wishing for a brother or sister. I was not blessed with either but had many...
Comments25/01/2017 #156 Ken BoddieLike plain boiled rice,
I oft times suffice,
On a diet of 'nice'.
But as I get older,
I tend to get bolder,
And season with spice.
Now life's ups and downs,
Draw both frowns and clowns,
Please heed my advice.
We need good and bad,
Hilarious and sad,
Come let's throw the dice.
Perhaps we need to jump aboard life's roller coaster more often, Franci, if we're to be able to appreciate 'nice' once in a while?24/01/2017 #155 Harvey LloydAlthough i agree what does one do when confronted with, "From my POV, undesirable chatter and bullying wreaks of immaturity and shows a lack of self-confidence"?
I believe this will haunt the affinity network design. LI cages the user writer experience in an effort to control this aspect. Personal branding by nature will probably clash between brands. Being civil about it is a choice.
If you come across a solution though, write a book, no one else has figured it out yet. I am waiting for the Colorado experiment to complete. Better living through chemicals:)30/11/2016 #152 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#106 Thanks @Jared 🐝 Wiese ➡ I sell YOU. Fast! and your right, most people are good. As for those who have rotten egos, it's become easy for me to ignore. My health means a lot to me ha ha. Toxic people attract other toxic people. Those of us who are sensitive to toxins know when it's healthy to just back off and stay away. :))09/11/2016 #151 Gerald Hecht#150 @Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador I will comment (albeit awkwardly) out of plain good manners (I was brought up that way; and, for the first few decades of my life anyway, was actually known amongst my friends and family as "Mr. Manners"); regarding anything I post or comment on, however, they are usually "stand alone/RES IPSA LOQUITUR thingies" --unless explicitly requesting engagement or posing queries, etc. I do however often read followup responses, and sometimes join in a discussion, if it seems necessary08/11/2016 #143 Claire L Cardwell#131 @Gerald Hecht you are welcome - there's plenty more where that one came from. One family favourite is 'Just Be' now those not in the know think it's the quote from Buddha, but it's short for Just be off with you and scratch yerself! I would love to say that to Donald Trump!08/11/2016 #142 Christine Stevens#138 You can early or absentee vote in most jurisdictions with little or no issue. All you have to do in Virginia is work 30 miles away or kick up a fuss and say it is too hard to get to the polls. I know someone who works around the corner from her polling location, could literally go vote on her lunch break, and voted early.
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- Producer20/07/2016Affinity Networking Is On the LineA LOT OF BEES ARE TALKING THE TALK, BUT HOW MANY ARE READY TO WALK THE WALK? ...On a recent installment of "He Said He Said" (Vol 17, by Jim Murray and Phil Friedman) an issue arose about the nature of Affinity Networking. And I was very surprised...
Comments07/06/2017 #397 Phil Friedman#396 Thank you, @Charlene Norman, for reading and commenting -- even if you did not tackle the other 395 comments in this thread.
In the main, I agree with you about the majority of users on social media somehow feeling that all which goes on is their free and open sandbox. I disagree, of course, with them about that.
If I invest my time and labor in owning and administering a beBee Hive or a LinkedIn Group, I believe it is my prerogative to filter the content posted there in respect of topicality or lack thereof. Just as I did when I was a Senior Editor for an international yachting print magazine. If anyone wants to see an open free-for-all beBee hive or LI group, that person is free to own and operate his or her own. Plain and simple, to my mind. Not complicated or difficult to understand.
As I've repeatedly said here (not to you, but to others) is that if someone signs up in the "Cars" hive to receive content about automobiles, it is nuts to think its okay to flow articles on cooking to them through THAT hive (although perhaps not nuts to send them a piece about the best vehicles for "tailgating" at sports events).
For me, this is not about being qualified to speak on a given topic. For good or bad, social media platforms are not editorially controlled or peer-reviewed venues. And I am in favor of the free expression and exchange of ideas and opinions. With the caveat, however, that while everyone has a right to freely express his or her ideas and opinions, nobody is under any obligation whatsoever to read or listen or pay the slightest bit of attention. #LETTHEAUDIENCEDECIDE . Cheers!07/06/2017 #396 Charlene Norman@Phil Friedman
I see the interaction on social media, the give and take, the passing of opinions, the generous sharing, the moving completely off topic, the introduction of extraneous stuff, the dissing of opinions, all in a very similar vein. Perhaps a bit jaundiced. But similar human behavior. Hard to control. Without annoying someone and changing something in the process.07/06/2017 #395 Charlene Norman@Phil Friedman It reminds me of a set of incidents some fifteen years ago. We Canadians believe everyone has rights, no matter how whacky and silly and self-serving they can be. We set up a Human Rights Tribunal Board to hear ALL employer/employee discriminatory cases. Any employee who feels wronged for any reason can lodge a complaint. It is up to the employer to prove its innocence regardless of the nature of the complaint. There is no gatekeeper, no ‘triage nurse’ assessing and sorting by priority. Every single case is assigned the exact same level of weight. Consequently, the Board gets bogged down and backlogged very quickly and takes up to 18 months to hear an easy case, three years a complex one.
I went before the board three different times armed with lawyers for three different frivolous cases. Each time, the employer legitimately was cleared, the employee was found guilty. YET, because there was no initial triage (and a few other ways the system was set up), the employer had to pay for everything. The employee incurred no penalty for bring frivolity and wasting so much time. Zip zero nada. They were free to do and continue to do as they pleased.07/06/2017 #394 Charlene NormanPhil, I just stumbled across this note your wrote. I can’t see all the 384 responses and nor can I read all the subtle and not so subtle nuances. I thought I would just jump in with both feet and share my two cents worth. And I just learned there is a limit of 2000 characters so this will be in three parts I think
You are correct in your premise. One of the many unfortunate side effects of social media is that everyone thinks they are an expert and their opinion, no matter how uneducated, ill-informed or unfocused is just as weighty and worthy as everyone else’s. And unfortunately, there is no triage effort or effect built into any social system that seems to work well. So you end up with a stew exactly as you described07/05/2017 #393 Phil Friedman#392 Yes, Kata, when I post a selfie in a business hive, readers mark it to be reclassified to the humor hives. Thanks for reading and commenting. Pleased it brought a smile and a chuckle.
https://www.bebee.com/producer/@friedman-phil/conversations-with-my-wife-about-my-writing26/04/2017 #391 stephan metral 🐝 Innovative Brand Ambassador#390 javier i never doubt of it. I do not fear the future because i do not live in the past and i do not regret things that i have no control on, nor i cry or any form of complain about it. As Matt swwetwood wrote recently i do not keep in my sight people that are making me sad or energy drainers. So to conclude no filter aigainst affinity propagation (it isblogic), reclassify button to control attemp and a mute feature to keep all happy free open minded users from sad ones. That keep the peace in the hives.
I look forward to june 2017 !
At Engineeo we know where your lifecycle is leading you too. Let us beBee admirative.
Regards.26/04/2017 #389 stephan metral 🐝 Innovative Brand Ambassador#388 As we say in France, when communication is impossible, insurrender to your magnificience, but you we the french guys, forget us....communicare...put the things together..so general knowledge can grow....in another time, in another place. it is a pity you didn't answer the affinity propagation questions...a pity. Have again all my respect, and great conversations with bees in hives. Let's filter ! A special thanks to @Javier 🐝 beBee & @David B. Grinberg for their likes in my answers, their open minds, good thinking knowledge thurst and tolerance in diversity. @Javier 🐝 beBee Did you subscribe to Startupranking? beBee has changed categories and countries since my post....LOL ...long live to scientific affinity propagation!26/04/2017 #388 Phil Friedman#387 Stephan, when you say that "semantic fields that are in contents that users read and use or interact with have a lot to do with my user wall releases, otherwise in wouldn't discover some news hives..." I agree that an algorithmic sort of key words likely has an effect on which posts turn up in whose feeds, but I prefer to accept the statements of @Javier 🐝 beBee and @Juan Imaz when they explain that membership in hives also affects the distribution of posts into feeds (walls, in your parlance).
As to discovering new hives, I submit that you are just plain wrong. For one can find new hives by searching the list of hives, or by following the links that suggest them periodically in the general feed or clicking on the links provided at the end of each post, in one of a half-dozen other ways. If there were no concern over mis-posting to topic-inappropriate hives, there would be no need for the "reclassify" button that is already provided (but which I submit is inadequate to do the job for proper hive management).
Clearly you feel it is presumptuous of me to expect that you would have read the article before commenting on it. So, let us mutually agree that our differences on this are irreconcilable, and each move on. Thank you again for commenting. And cheers!26/04/2017 #387 stephan metral 🐝 Innovative Brand Ambassador#386 too bad i am such a dumb guy...but i read the bible in my car while waiting my elder son at his school so i can bring him home. You see the bible is also a vehicule, and if the blogger wants to post in car hive, why should he be filtered. when i read you it seems that your expectation was disapointed but only by the belief that biblical post shouldnt be in hive such as cars. So freedom of choice is a stake now, i hope i can still in the future read biblical posts in cars hives....and yup content filtering topic filtering have to do with affinity propagation. BeBee is not a groupware software. Sorry to disagree. If beBee is programmed the way we at Engineeo think it has been done, the semantic fields that are in contents that users read and use or interact with have a lot to do with my user wall releases, otherwise inwouldnt discover some news hives. As i said it is about programing and not adminsitrating. We are 26 in the company and unanymous about it. We are very impress by @Javier 🐝 beBee 's work regarding this aspect of bebee relying on affinity propagation. And reading your answer we have a question: are you familiar with affinity propagation its origin who discovered it etc ?26/04/2017 #386 Phil Friedman#385 Sorry, Metral, but I do not believe you understand here what I mean by "topic-filtering". BeBee uses hive membership to help determine what posts get distributed to what members. When I join the "Cars" hive, I do not expect to end up seeing pieces on biblical studies in my feed because they are wrongly posted in the Cars hive. Topic-filtering has nothing to do with the practice of algorithmically controlling the distribution of posts to reader/members. Thank you for reading and commenting.26/04/2017 #385 stephan metral 🐝 Innovative Brand AmbassadorI don't make remarks ever never. Debates ain't my things. But science Is. Unleash beBee, the Bebee i see , the Bebee l know. oh! You cannot stop affinity propagation.... unless ..... HUH.--You start filtering. FB is social media, LinkedIn is a recruiter database , bebee is affinity propagation not a saas Groupware. check @Javier 🐝 beBee EEC program credentials.25/04/2017 #383 stephan metral 🐝 Innovative Brand Ambassador3Dexperience from Dassault Systemes with who i work with as an education partner doesnt content or topic filter for the same reason. Sometime nature need chaos or freedom. Since i used beBee reading articles from @Juan Imaz View more3Dexperience from Dassault Systemes with who i work with as an education partner doesnt content or topic filter for the same reason. Sometime nature need chaos or freedom. Since i used beBee reading articles from @Juan Imaz or @Federico 🐝 Álvarez San Martín ..i met people i never thought i could ever meet in the digital space. Like @David B. Grinberg or @🐝 Fatima G. Williams okay they re ambassadord...now the fact that topic have no control leash allowed me recently to change the nature of followers. I love that. No more BAs but everydays bees with a different purpose...their individual ones. Close25/04/2017 #382 stephan metral 🐝 Innovative Brand AmbassadorSorry for the keyboard mystypes...freedom of opinions...but i also wrote: good points...meaning there i was underligning your points in the article. My nature is more pragmatic than 100% cerebral.@Javier 🐝 beBee View moreSorry for the keyboard mystypes...freedom of opinions...but i also wrote: good points...meaning there i was underligning your points in the article. My nature is more pragmatic than 100% cerebral.@Javier 🐝 beBee leads a team of talents and they do work in a team way with a programing lifecycle as i manage my teams, my scientists, my solutions architects and code wizards. If no content filtering is prior to publication it is for not narrowing the data available to affinity propagation, which bebee is based on and that other social media lack from the begining. Close25/04/2017 #381 stephan metral 🐝 Innovative Brand Ambassador#380 i entitled my comment freedom of speech for everyone wirhin the affinity networking. Meaning by there all and every opinions are valued, even counterflow ones. I wouldn't dare commenting the topic, you have way more expertise, experience and wisdom. I usually see your posts but do not read them because they are not appealing my attention and the format doesn't fit my habits. Said so you have an undeniable talent for writing. Now the title this time caught my eyes. Affinity networking as mentionnef doesn't exist by itself but affinity propagation does. In the world of IT you cannot capture nor code sentiment and emotion but convergence and clusters.
Networking is about affinities...i think @Javier 🐝 beBee initially didnt restrict thevuse by any filter for affinity propagation reasons.
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- Producer12/09/2016Why You Want To Join WannabeeGripe was a hive that started for griping about anything. Those of us that love beBee don't want to see a bunch of griping about the network, especially since it is still evolving so fast. I am guilty of this and feel guilty about it. So I am doing...
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Comments04/11/2016 #129 Don 🐝 Kerr@Phil Friedman How the hell did I miss this post? Was stalking @Ben Pinto when I came upon it. Excellent perspectives and initiatives. I particularly like "It would be a big help to authors seeking to build a readership to have available a button for following the author that could be placed in the post itself."01/10/2016 #122 Phil Friedman#121 thank you Ben. I will leave my reply up because it clarifies what I've been suggesting, and may be useful to the discussion. I agree with you about the advantages of authors promoting not only their own work, but that iof others as well. I just believe each of us should have a say in which authors are associated with us and our work. Thanks.cheers!01/10/2016 #120 Phil Friedman#119 Sorry, Bennie, but I don't see why you say it's my math or why you comment is directed at me. My suggestion was originally that one of the three ad boxes at the bottom be for the author's posts, while the other two boxes highlight other authors CHOSEN BY THE AUTHOR OF THE POST. No algorithm involved, unless that author fails to make the selection. Thus, the author of the post gets to control who and what is associated with his or her work. Cheers!01/10/2016 #119 Ben PintoOk @Phil Friedman, I have to say that either you didn't do your homework or your math skills are off:
At first I was happy to agree with your peeve about advertising three buzzes from other bees at the bottom of your honey. Now that I have been paying attention to this it is a teeny price to pay BECAUSE of all the publicity you get when you are one of the three at the bottom of other Bee's buzzes.
About the research - next time you are with someone else that is on beBee ask to take a look at their viewpoint. In the case of me YOU ARE ADVERTISED ON ALMOST EVERY PAGE I SEE!!!!!!! Which I wouldn't mind at all if if your rogues gallery shot was replaced with my wife's picture. Perhaps a better solution would involve a number of criteria to form a fairer algorithm.13/09/2016 #117 Ben PintoWe are Fried Man! In others words, I think any respectable author and people like me would have to agree with you! I am reposting this to a newer hive called Wannabee. I have asked @Javier 🐝 beBee and @Juan Imaz and other beBee people to join, because what is good for the gander is good for the goose.
People like @Phil Friedman and myself have used argumentative writing since before we knew the name for it. I remember a piece I wrote in 6th grade. The point is that showing how we wannabees, want to be on beBee, will make the managing of ideas easier on the beBee management team.09/09/2016 #115 Gerald Hecht#108 @Milos Djukic I think we both have some stories; in Psychology/Neuroscience...the world is still so small it can downright rattle a person... I think I told you about this massive crowd-sourced endeavor called Neurotree; I don't know if you checked it out or not...but I think you would love it (if for no other reason than this conversation) even if not a Psycho! It's the idea of mapping the ENTIRE ACADEMIC FAMILY TREE for an ENTIRE BRANCH OF SCIENCE! Psychos and Neuros just happen to be "young enough" to have been thoroughly documented even before this interactive TREE!! It is such GREAT FUN!!! It also "EXPLAINS STUFF" in the same way that learning things about your "crazy aunt" in your "real family tree" does...real quick...I thought I was a rebel, who somehow got into a world class academic bloodline...exploring the tree; revealed the more mundane truth "they wouldn't have had me any other way", lol --couldn't have http://neurotree.org09/09/2016 #114 Gerald Hecht#112 @Phil Friedman it's something --you they that nobody really is gonna change anyone else's core beliefs with an argument and yh'a may well be true. It also becomes irrelevant when you are interacting with someone at the level...I mean it can't just be me; it matters not in the least if you agree or disagree with the idea(s) --I don't even know how to describe it coherently; I imagine it's like a boxer training with that perfect sparring partner (right and wrong don't even exist anymore) winning/losing/competition thingies go similarly bye bye...and afterwords (speculating with your interactions with Noam Chomsky)...something has changed! Something in Phil and something in Noam! Given the intensity of the discussions hear regarding "science" --I'm hesitant to bring up the word "alchemy" and I probably will vanish if a discussion about that topic ensues ( at least for a few weeks)... but umm...well actually nevermind09/09/2016 #113 Anonymous#112 You @Phil Friedman are correct. And then we have some article ghost-written (by some self proclaimed ghostwriter) by some self proclaimed or corporate interests motivated "influencer", phew. "Content marketing", It used to be sad, even comical. Which content marketing? By some self proclaimed ghostwriter or some self proclaimed or corporate interests motivated "influencer"? The agony of social media writing :)09/09/2016 #112 Phil Friedman#108 You, @Milos Djukic. and Gerald Hecht are correct about the power of meeting a great mind in person. I was fortunate that while I was in graduate school Noam Chomsky spent several months there as a scientist in residence, and i had the opportunity to attend a couple of his seminar style talks. Much different from just reading his work. Cheers!09/09/2016 #109 Anonymous#107 Yap @Gerald Hecht :) It's true. That is the reason why I wrote: "The moment when we start to believe that we are influential is at the same time the final moment for our own rigorous review, reconsideration and implementation of all necessary corrections." and @John White, MBA, my friend (oops Our friend :)) loves this quote. Glory and respect should be above the mist or any kind of mystification. First of all, it is a great responsibility. Ego is a very strange beast, which is often unreasonably hungry. Then we become futile.09/09/2016 #108 Anonymous#106 @Gerald Hecht, Yes it was him, Edward Lorenz. My mother knew Niels Bohr (Bohr model of the atom) Nobel Laureate. She was a metallurgist. Unfortunately, Prof Mandelbrot has never received the Nobel Prize. I've experienced him as a humble man of the utmost integrity. It is hard to explain that someone's lecture can influence someone's change in thinking, but it is true. I realized that his praise was the most genuine. He was a fractal. We should not have the slightest doubt that any breakthroughs were preceded by “creative chaos”. Of course, such a creative chaos certainly involves some very heated discussions, confronted opinions and disagreements. I also believe that you have the potential for "greatness", please do not ask me how :))) You're different, my friend, definitely ("not necessarily in a good way" :)) A great person deserves no less.. I recently also met Paul C. Paris (Paris' law), pioneer of fracture mechanics. These are important things for a scientist.
About your sense of humor:
"For some people, childlike behavior, after reaching maturity, can be an indication of emotional immaturity. I have a tendency for revert to "childish" behavior. Children love to play; their game is a fascinating evidence of commitment to truth. Children are inexhaustible source of some of the most wonderful wisdom. The problem is that most adults with years gradually lose the mind of a toy. Termination of playing is the ultimate sign of the beginning of stagnation. Of course, I believe that we will not fall into a dangerous trap." - from "Leadership and Successful Human Conversations", LI long-form post, March, 2015 (https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/leadership-successful-human-conversations-milos-djukic?trk=mp-reader-card)09/09/2016 #107 Gerald Hecht#101 @Milos Djukic Interestingly, in a "pre social media world" , it was also Enrico Alleva who said to me (and I believe he was very serious), that: "in the academy, many of the most influential thinkers, go to their graves filled with regret that their ideas were never influential" (it's haunting in Italian, I remember that much --I don't remember his way of saying it BUT I wrote it down carefully and still have it in a box from that meeting; also in Latin...which isn't as "haunting"); I must dig those out.09/09/2016 #106 Gerald Hecht#86 @Milos Djukic was the it Lorenz who first coined the phrase "Butterfly Effect?" I know that when one has the opportunity to speak with thinkers of that caliber, it's extremely cool; because very often, this heretofore "hidden" (and human) aspect of the construct(s) for which they are known provides insights; for me, hanging out for two weeks (also in Italy) with the Neuroscientist Enrico Alleva at a NATO-ASI was kind of life changing...not necessarily in a good way; I distinctively remember him telling me that I had the potential for "greatness", if I could learn to let my sense of humor shine --"be crazy!"...I was one of about 6 or 7 American Scientists Invited...on the 2nd day they stopped serving pitchers of wine at lunch --because the "Americans couldn't handle it...he convinced me to stand up pond my fist on the table and say: "IT WOULD BEBA SIN TO SERVE FISH WITHOUT WINE!"...I did it! I have never been the same --we had wine at lunch for the duration!!
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Comments11/09/2016 #48 Larry Boyer, 🐝 Brand AmbassadorI like your take on this @Paul "Pablo" Croubalian. There is plenty of self righteous or self-centered blame to go around. The only caution I would add is there is a difference between in both when you are in the minority and in the majority. I believe those in the majority should make an effort to listen to the experience of those in the minority. We cannot understand their experience if we don't.11/09/2016 #47 Don 🐝 Kerr#43 Yeah. About that confession thing. Never understood the Roman Catholic approach. Convenient sure but I think the Jewish faith has a superior approach with an annual day of Atonement. While an avowed atheist I am not entirely against hedging my bets on occasion. Look out now...here comes a tag @Aurorasa Sima10/09/2016 #35 AnonymousI see where this has annoyed you @Paul "Pablo" Croubalian ! Is this similar to the rule in a lunchroom at work: No cooking fish in the microwave (lol)
I find that I sometimes have little tolerance for stupid things that honestly I wonder why it even has been acknowledge by entities such as CBC or any "real" News delivery feed, that should have better things to report on..this event I would expect to see in a Rag-Mag at the store along with "I Married The Terminator from Plant X". :)
I think common courtesy and consideration of someone else that you share a small space (this world IS becoming much smaller isnt it?) is the bottom line for both dorm roomies and apparently were not taught that at home. I am worried for when they both have to go out into the real world after mommy and daddy pay for college and have to deal with real world issues that are undoubtedly more important...this squabble is just what it is: two babies that need a time out and a lesson in common respect for another. I have a feeling we may be seeing more of these gals on a reality show called: Who the Bleep Did I Room WIth or Killer Roomies (to compliment the weekend series: Snapped and Killer Women) #MissedTheLessonAtHome10/09/2016 #34 Charles David Upchurch@Paul "Pablo" Croubalian I read all 3 posts: yours, the one from @Nicole Chardenet which started this conversation, and the one by @Ben Pinto. Until I got to yours, I knew I disagreed with many of the arguments, but It was your post which helped me to see why that was. Thank you for that clarity.
I am not saying that I agree any more with your arguments about this than I do with the other two writers, but I think there is hope for mutual understanding.
The three of you, not unlike the two roommates, have staked out positions, then argued out lines in the sand. As in the pre-eminent negotiation and conflict resolution manual "Getting to Yes" by Fisher and Ury...to prevent and resolve potential conflicts, it is important to look first for interests and values which we, the interacting parties, have in common. Positions almost always inform us of the potential differences between us, after which we argue or fight over the values and interests that were the separate BASIS for each party's choices about positions or territorial claims. That, of course, gets us precisely nowhere. The 60-year conflict between Israel and Palestine is a perfect example of this.
In short, if what you are looking for is disagreements and the attendant social problems, stake positions. If what you want is to build on agreements and form alliances among diverse individuals or groups, be interested in what the others value.08/09/2016 #32 Robert CormackNo question, we had to get rid of Harper, but if we're comparing Justin to his father, Pierre never would have made that comment. As he would have put it, "We have no business in the bedrooms of feminists." There is nothing Justin will do—or can do—that will advance the feminist cause. He'll learn that feminists are divided, those who want equality, and those who want preferential treatment. Pierre would have recognized this division and essentially told feminists—like he would have told Black Lives Matter—reaching equality and tolerance is an incredible achievement. But "special status" in any matter reduces the equality of everyone else. I've been passed over many times because a company wanted (and expected) a woman. I've worked hard my whole life establishing what I hope is a reputation for doing good work. To be passed over because I'm not the right gender repeats a bias favouring one group over another (regardless of credentials). To say, "Well, it's about time, you had your chance, now move over," sounds heartless (as it should). I've lived as an equalitarian my whole life, believing we should all be judged on what we can do.08/09/2016 #29 Nicole Chardenet#28 I can't fault the PM for calling himself a feminist, Robert. More men need to say that and more men need to hear other men saying it. I also really liked his line about..."Because it's 2015," in response to an utterly asinine question from a *female* reporter. Although I agree that the CBC...and the Canadian media in general...make feminist issues out of very minor problems. But after Stephen Harper, I'm glad we have a PM now who's not afraid to be progressive, feminist, and more open. I don't agree with everything he says or does...I voted for him with some reservations...but let's be real, we *had* to get rid of Harper.
- Producer05/09/2016Cause that is how we are!Andrew said to Harriet, "you can take my place just don't cook the curry!"Perhaps Tubman didn't realize how privileged she was to not have been one of Jackson's 300 slaves.My buzz about: How's *Your* Privilege? by Nicole Chardenet It seems like the...
Comments08/09/2016 #20 Ben Pinto#19 Mags, I couldn't help notice that you tagged @Paul "Pablo" Croubalian here and you may not have noticed that he is the thinker model I used for 'sit on b.' That may have given it away, but if it didn't, that's ok, because I do like to keep a mystery going for as long as possible. The suspense is like a page-turner...07/09/2016 #19 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD#6 I love the idea of a Gripe Hive. Ben, this opens up a slew of negativity Quotes. For Mental Health and balance in making sweet honey, what other kind of Hive would be most appropriate? The one on Positivity? Outer Space? @Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador View more#6 I love the idea of a Gripe Hive. Ben, this opens up a slew of negativity Quotes. For Mental Health and balance in making sweet honey, what other kind of Hive would be most appropriate? The one on Positivity? Outer Space? @Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador, @David B. Grinberg, @Paul "Pablo" Croubalian? Close07/09/2016 #17 Lisa 🐝 GallagherYoung and immature, her complaint ok.. whatever, I get it, she doesn't like the smell of curry. But for the news to pick this up and make it about racism, not cool at all when there is real racism taking place all over the globe. That undermines the true meaning of the term. Maybe she was sweating curry? LOL07/09/2016 #13 Nicole Chardenet#11 I dunno, I think it was a simple case of two immature girls who weren't used to living with people they weren't related to. I'm reminded of the old Buffy the Vampire Slayer episode where Buffy meets her new roommate Cathy who's a bit high-strung and spazzy, plays the same damn Cher song over and over, and labels every food in the fridge with her name that she bought herself. Not, you understand, that it's any great picnic to live with a vampire slayer either...
And oh yeah, they were both white. So I doubt they got interviewed on the radio. :)07/09/2016 #12 Nicole ChardenetLOL! While I'm a fan of curry, I'm NOT a fan of curried gym socks...so you just keep your smelly curried gym socks out of my face!!! But if you want to curry some chicken go right ahead. Here, I'll make up some basmati rice and run down to the store for some naan...and you can't have naan...ha ha just kidding! :)05/09/2016 #6 Ben PintoI have removed my gripes about gripes and am posting this answer to another gripe into 'Gripe.' This would be a great hive to join to learn what others are complaining about: @John White, MBA, @Paul "Pablo" Croubalian, @Javier 🐝 beBee, @Donna-Luisa Eversley, @Federico 🐝 Álvarez San Martín, @Matt 🐝 Sweetwood, @Cristian Randieri, PhD -President & CEO of Intellisystem.it @C_Randieri,05/09/2016 #3 Ben Pinto#1 https://www.bebee.com/producer/@nicole-chardenet/how-s-your-privilege
I would have just commented, but my rant ran over 2000 characters.05/09/2016 #2 Ben Pinto@Sara Jacobovici, @Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD, @Paul "Pablo" Croubalian, @Aurorasa Sima, @Nicole Chardenet, @Sarah Elkins, Don Kerr, @Donna-Luisa Eversley, @Praveen Raj Gullepalli, @Phil Friedman, @David B. Grinberg, @jesse kaellis, Lisa @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher, @Gary Sharpe, @Jim Murray, @Milos Djukic
- Producer17/08/2016How's *Your* Privilege?I heard a Pakistani immigrant girl on the CBC a few weeks ago complaining about racism in Canada. She told of how she was going to university and her new roommate said that 'Rule 1' of the household would be no cooking curry, because she couldn't...
Comments27/04/2017 #76 Nicole Chardenet#75 Much agreed, Natalie. In the end we all have to get along with each other. Talking about privilege other than white messes with a lot of folks' entitled sense of victimhood. And of course, fighting racism doesn't mean just fighting *white* racism, but the racism within all of us.24/04/2017 #75 Natalie ChickeeNice perspective and it's nice to see that you will admit being of white privilege, not all whites think they are privileged by default. At the end of the day though we were all humans and we need to all learn how to harmoniously coexist. I've mentioned the idea to some other Native Canadians and Blacks from Detroit and stated last week that we are privileged and they hated the idea of that. No white people are the only ones privileged. If you can access university education and a medical care you are privileged. My mom is white, I was raised in white privilege I guess. When I see some minorities who have more than some whites I grew up with, the idea of what that means, the line of privilege gets seriously blurred. Brown people have a different experience than African Canadians, First Nations, Inuits (Native Americans/Canadians). It's interesting they(CBC) didn't give a voice to the so called brown/minorities who have been here living in Canada for a longer time vis a vis, this spoiled person perspective. Shedding a light to give a broader picture of what the real issues other minorities experience in Canada experience and what racism really means in Canada so it can be eradicated. They can learn to appreciate that their parents are probably paying top dollar for them to come to our schools, to access our education. Who is accessing what and why.04/04/2017 #72 Nicole Chardenet#71 Lyon, I'm not at all convinced that young lady's difficult roommate problem was any different from many other peoples'. The roommate was a bully, plain and simple, and whether the Pakistani girl's freedoms were curtailed is unknown - did she bow to the roommate's wishes or demands? Or did she say, "Screw you, I'll cook whatever I want, and BTW your cabbage stew stinks up the house so if we have a no-curry rule, we'll also have a no-cabbage rule"? I had a bullying roommate for a short period of time many years ago (she moved in shortly before I moved out, had nothing to do with her) and she was a bully to *everyone*, dictating who would do this and who would do that and assigning us chores. We were all, as I recall, white. Fact is, the world is full of a*holes, and they never need much of an excuse to be one.
I wonder if the Pakistani girl stood up to the roommate or whether she knuckled under like a good little conflict-avoidant girl. Women's psychology - how does it not serve us sometimes? Explain. Discuss. Debate. :)
Just because I'm white doesn't mean I can't comment on issues of people of colour. Just because someone is male doesn't mean they can't have valid opinions or criticisms of women and feminist issues. If it's okay to support someone who belongs to a group you don't belong to, then it's okay to critically analyze them or that group as well. This political correctness that dictates who can comment on this or that is just a subtle and often bullying way of shutting down opinions one doesn't like. It's time to challenge prevailing thinking.
That's a general comment, BTW, not aimed at you. I don't think you're trying to bully me, just offering your opinion. But it's something to think about. Does political correctness subtly bully others into offering non-standard opinions? Explain. Discuss. Debate. :)01/04/2017 #71 Lyon BraveI appreciate lots of things about you. One you are very bold and honest with your opinions and you are not afraid to tackle race issues that are not your own. I do think all people of color should discuss race issues. However, bullying alone can create server problems. You reported the girl is being denied freedom in her own house and facing a series of ignorant and racist comments. People should feel comfortable and understood in their own house. Cooking curry might be a part of her identity. Perhaps, you should consider that just because something is a lesser evil of hate doesn't make it acceptable. Humans don't always need to share their opinions. And truthfully, though it is your right to write about race issues you will never understand them because you are not a woman of color, you are not brown. However as a woman you are a minority and I hear you. I think many of your points are valid but don't confuse people who report harassment and racism as playing the victim. Victims are often silent. Advocates are often vocal. Please keep sharing and I mean no offense.14/02/2017 #70 Nicole Chardenet#69 Actually, Paul, it's 'negativity bias' and it's a by-product of our evolution, which wired us to always expect trouble (since it was usually just around the corner), constant imminent death (which was usually imminent just around the corner), and to be wary and fearful of anyone who was not of our tribe or not exactly like us (because they were often unfriendly and dangerous).
However, we're not slaves to evolution or our wired brains. We have the capacity to move beyond that and challenge ourselves. And yes, there's a lot of power in victimhood - it will probably be the subject of a future blog post. Watch for my post tomorrow on how "It's all your parents' fault!" (Maybe a bit of a pre-victimhodd-blog-post taste :)12/02/2017 #69 Paul JacksonWe are an imperfect species which only focus on the negative aspects of life, this is a by-product of sin. Humanity was given free will and we have unfortunately chosen to just bitch and moan about everything. O, don't focus on any positivity in the world, that takes away the limelight from the "victims" in the world.09/09/2016 #62 Nicole Chardenet#60 BTW I think you're looking for Ben @Ben Pinto's link https://www.bebee.com/producer/@ben/cause-that-is-how-we-are08/09/2016 #60 Paul "Pablo" Croubalian#57 To quote the Beatles: "I'll get by with a little help from my friends." This rant of yours, plus one that you inspired that I want to link to but can't find (It was titled "because that's the way we are" or something like that) led me to write my https://www.bebee.com/producer/@paul-croubalian/emulsification-racism-and-getting-along .
I was also thinking about this post this morning. It's a quiet work day and I needed to think about stuff for my web-app-with-no-name.
So I got to cooking.
It's my father-in-law's 88th tomorrow, so I made his favs. I started with Jack Daniels infused orange marmalade. It will be served with homemade vanilla/Grand Marnier ice cream on puff pastry boats (now in the oven.)
I have a big-assed batch of basil tomato sauce simmering away to use in the lasagna/cannelloni/manicotti (I haven't decided which yet, but the pasta dough is ready)
I also made some tomato sherbert to use as ice cubes to keep the gazpacho cold. Did I mention the gazpacho?
My condo has waves of various aromas. The marmalade mixed with tomato was getting to me. I opened the windows.
That's when I saw Melissa, my neighbour. She was heading out.
She told me she couldn't stand the smells anymore. Not that they were bad, but that they were making her hungry. She was off to a Weight Watchers' meeting.
LOL08/09/2016 #59 Nicole Chardenet#55 WOW. I think I would have killed my kids (if I'd had any) if they referred to me as a 'white bitch'. What an awesome act, to move them to a whiter neighbourhood where they can learn to appreciate the other half of their DNA. You bring up a great point, which is that racism is ALWAYS wrong. Even when you're not white. 'Victimhood' isn't an excuse.08/09/2016 #57 Nicole Chardenet#52 Yes, and I very much appreciate everyone's support! It still amazes me how it drew little attention a few weeks ago when it was published (and I almost didn't for fear I would get flamed far and wide by the left) but then Paul and you and a few others found it and now it's got over 2,000 views! Thanks so much to all of you!08/09/2016 #56 Nicole Chardenet#50 You can come over to my apartment building and rant about all the curry smells you can find...along with fried fish and Goddess knows what else. I live in an immigrant 'hood in Toronto (and I'm an immigrant myself) and the halls are always filled with food smells. But my reaction is usually, "Oh please, invite me in for dinner!"
- Producer24/08/2016Is Rudeness Costing Your Company Revenue?We have all had our encounters with rude people – they butt in line in front of you or cut you off on the highway, they pop you the special finger saying you are number one, and they interrupt conversations – should I go on? The big question is –...
Comments24/08/2016 #14 Jennifer 🐝 Schultz@Erroll -EL- Warner - that's so true - I know though, that some people are just crabby and rude - all the time and no one can ever break their shell. In my experience, when I had rude co-workers - they had a reputation of being rude and people could not change them. People do not like confrontation - so they would say and do nothing. In these cases, upper management didn't understand or care that there was a problem. So good employee after employee would quit to get away from these rude people, especially because rudeness was accompanied by other negative traits as well.24/08/2016 #13 Erroll -EL- WarnerWhen people including associates are rude just "shower" them with kindness. Going to the donut shop next door on a break ask them if they need you to purchase something for them. Oh!, how quick they are to say "NO"!. It takes two to build an argument. When associates smile with other customers and fellow associates those with the "attitude" get angry because they keep wondering how come that person constant being so nice. The lady refused your invitation or conversation because there is a serious employee problem. It could relate to micro managing and other awful treatment. She would never like other people and customers to heard about it.24/08/2016 #12 Harvey Lloyd#11 The Secrets of Power Negotiating is Roger Dawson's series. When it comes to employees and being rude to customers......I find that rudeness knows no boundaries. Rude folks do believe in equal rights, they are generally rude to everyone. Employees who are rude within the office I know are rude to customers. Rudeness in the office is met with a separate and swift action outside of whatever is being discussed.
We often ask customers for feedback on our communications with them and have had to let some folks go based on feedback. But like you I have my limits of rudeness. Situational rudeness is where I will practice, my button is when you make it personal. Personal attacks by lumping me in with the call centers that call all hours of the night can become a battlefield. That's usually when the not so nice active listening skills come out.24/08/2016 #11 Jennifer 🐝 SchultzWell said @Harvey Lloyd - listening is key - for example, when someone is rushed, I use tactics like asking if there is a better time to call them back so I am respectful of their time. And yes, I too try to see if I can win them over or calm them down - but, as you have probably experienced, there are always the challenging characters that push my limits on my ability to engage in pleasant conversation. At the same time, rudeness to me is unacceptable - and I would be personally embarrassed if one my staff was rude to anyone. Companies need to be aware of how someone, in a position like answering phones, which is most times a first interaction with an organization, can truly make or break their business. And thanks for mentioning Rodger Dawson, I'll have to check him out. :-) #1024/08/2016 #10 Harvey Lloyd@Jennifer Schultz The Golden Rule always applies. Sounds like you applied it well. I would offer up that rude people offer us an opportunity to hone our active listening skill sets. These skills in sales or other styles of negotiations are so important to success. Most of the time we are learning on the job, where risk is high. When given the opportunity in a low to no risk situation, using active listening skills gives us immediate feedback of technique.
Reflective language is a part of the process and I try to use it in low risk settings to see if I can win the person over or calm them down. Also rudeness sets us back on our heels in negotiations. Practicing active listening in low risk settings stops the rudeness from knocking us back. Especially when the negotiations have a large meaning to your success.
Rodger Dawson, a negotiations expert, stated that rudeness in the opening gambit should be treated as an interesting first position. Merely a perspective that allows us to turn our skills on and not push us back on our heels.
I would like to say I do this every time, but not. I usually do what you accomplished and not meet rude with rude. Unfortunately though I am human and try and out preform the rudeness on occasions.24/08/2016 #7 Jennifer 🐝 SchultzI know @Aurorasa Sima - I think companies get very disengaged with their business - and it doesn't seem to matter whether they are big or small. It's funny I was always taught the customer is always right even when they are wrong. That might be old school - but, it is something that I still follow. It's about serving people no matter what size or type of business. So many business owners look at their P&L and blame losses on other reasons. #6
- Producer18/08/2016With a Cherry on it. I see a lot of people on here, on Linkedin, motivational speakers; they seem to have a secret language that I hear as this: "Blah, blah, blah--with a cherry on it!" Be positive, do these steps and pay a lot of money to take my seminar, and you too...
Comments18/08/2016 #3 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher@jessie kaellis, There are motivational speakers I admire and then there are those like Joel Olsteen who I abhor. I find him to be a fake and IMHO it'a all about how much money he can make off the backs of others. I like @ben pinto's idea for the Gripe Hive- serves a higher purpose!18/08/2016 #2 jesse kaellisI do not want to appear to be too caustic. The people in the congregation looked to be reasonably prosperous already. I have an aversion to motivational seminars and programs, but I did the est training in 1980 (google it if you are not aware of that -- Werner Erhard) the precursor to many present day programs like what Tony Robbins does. I did the Landmark Forum a couple or more years ago because -- what the hell. And as an est graduate, I got a discount. It didn't do me any harm, but I managed to get kicked out of one of the seminars.
These programs have their applications. For example, you can meet nice middle-class average type women, the ones I go for, who suffer from middle-class angst. I don't have that particular malady having crawled through the gutter for much of my life and surfaced into a serene existence. I'm not kvetching about the meaning of life if you get my drift. Life doesn't have a greater purpose than just to experience it. Whatever road you take, whatever script you write. You try not to hurt other people or pull them into your drama. And that is about it. Thank you, Ben. I enjoy your comments, and they give me an opportunity to run my mouth.18/08/2016 #1 Ben PintoI love a good gripe so I have shared this story to the hive named Gripe. Since you mentioned the church of money in your rant, I would like to tie in a blessed gripe. I meet people that are hard on luck and need a little financial aid from friends and/or relatives. To support their families they will beg if nescessary, while offering prayers. Months later I ask about their previous plight, "so how did it go?" This is what I ALWAYS HEAR, "I was blessed. God came to my rescue and I got the money I needed."
HELLO - what about the coworker that loaned you $300!!!!! Are you kidding me????
Next time how about saying "my brother gave us $500 that we don't have to pay back, and my boss was so nice to loan me $200. Oh, and by the way, I am blessed."
Anyway, this is an example of a use for this 'Gripe' hive.