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Habits of Highly Effective People

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This group can be for anything related to the works of Stephen R. Covey, his book The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, or anything related!

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  1. Jared 🐝 Wiese
    Shared from the Living the 7 Habits app:

    Is it possible that you and someone you disagree with are both right, that your disagreement is a result of valuable differences in perception?

    Habit 6: Synergize
  2. Jared 🐝 Wiese
    What changes could you make to your schedule today that would allow you to focus on the important rather than the urgent?

    Habit 3: Put First Things First


    Harvey Lloyd
    18/01/2017 #9 Harvey Lloyd
    #7 Questions seem to blow me out as my last thoughts of the day. But words are more seeds. Currently the word is engagement. Reviewing all of the engagement aspects of our lives, how can train, assist and deliver to our peers the concept of engagement?

    So words work better for me than questions. Any routine that exercises the brain's capacity to get outside itself and see things differently is worth the effort.

    I adapted another concept of the 360 degree aspect of solutions to: 1-180- degrees is the benevolent things we can do to solve our day where 181-360 are more destructive solutions. In getting outside the box you have to choose three different solutions from either side and defend and advance each in your mind.

    I found that the aspect of the exercise allows me not to cage myself within a single paradigm but opens up the box. The 181+degree solutions offer a other side of the coin approach. I don't typically use them but they offer some nuances to the otherside.

    I have found that when we discount half of the wheel we usually interpret everything in avoidance of the negative approaches. This way you get to contrast them and bring inner fears to light within the situation.
    Jared 🐝 Wiese
    18/01/2017 #8 Jared 🐝 Wiese
    #6 "Creativity within productivity" - love it!
    Agree on lists. Those are WHATs and/or HOWs, but often not WHYs. Remember the Covey planner? I would have so many list items that would have to move from week to week.

    Instead, the wise ask WHYs (first and foremost. The rest falls into place, creatively.
    Jared 🐝 Wiese
    18/01/2017 #7 Jared 🐝 Wiese
    #5 Agree on being fresh and optimistic in the AM. I've been doing the Miracle Morning. We have a hive on it ;) Part of it is bedtime affirmations and planning for the next day so we hit the ground running in the AM.

    Also came up with 3 questions for a rising routine (gratitude, affirmations and top 3 tasks for day) and 3 for bedtime reflection (what went well, what could improve and when felt fully alive and passionate): #SixMinuteScribing.
    Harvey Lloyd
    18/01/2017 #6 Harvey Lloyd
    #4 Creativity has a couple of paradigms i have found. My own creativity in venturing past the present and then the secondary of creativity within productivity.

    I find that list oriented people are productive but sometimes become so focused on the list they can not be creative within a productive environment. The need to execute a check mark is greater than the outcome.

    Good article i like HBR
    Harvey Lloyd
    18/01/2017 #5 Harvey Lloyd
    #2 Rocks are probably appropriate metaphor as it does seem to have earthquakes up there.

    Seriously though, sleep has a way of washing away the BS we collect throughout the day. Mornings are when our brain has a sense of optimism and this should be harnessed.

    Afternoons when the sand is well ground into the bottom of your flip flops it's usually better to stick with pragmatic decisions of operations.

    Creative questions asked after 1-3 pm usually don't receive the input of all of my rocks.
    Jared 🐝 Wiese
    18/01/2017 #4 Jared 🐝 Wiese
    #1 This wasn't exactly it, but covers the topic well:
    Jared 🐝 Wiese
    18/01/2017 #2 Jared 🐝 Wiese
    #1 That's a great point, @Harvey Lloyd. I was just reading an article about that. Let me see if I can find it, to share with others...

    Remember the Covey priorities jar of rocks, stones and sand? Sounds like your big rocks are the creative work in mornings.
    Harvey Lloyd
    18/01/2017 #1 Harvey Lloyd
    The first change i had to learn was the schedule itself. During the morning hours i tend to be more creative while towards the end of the day i tend to be more pragmatic.

    So schedule creative out of the box things first and then schedule more pragmatic decisions towards the latter part of the day.
  3. ProducerHayley Bruce

    Hayley Bruce

    Do you have a mission?
    Do you have a mission?After reading '7 Habits of Highly Effective People' a few months ago, I have been working out my personal mission statement. I thought I would share it and invite other to comment and perhaps share your mission statement. It has been a great...


    Jared 🐝 Wiese
    17/01/2017 #4 Jared 🐝 Wiese
    sharing in Habits and Self-Improvement.
    Jared 🐝 Wiese
    17/01/2017 #3 Jared 🐝 Wiese
    Thank you for sharing your personal mission statement from Covey's book! I applaud you. I got into Covey probably a couple decades ago and loved it. I spent probably weeks on my mission. So I know how much effort you must have put into yours. AWESOME.

    Perhaps I need to dust mine off again. Lately it has come down to 2 words for me: Techie Teammate.

    I focus more on daily affirmations now, too. One thing that you might want to consider is 3 things I learned about them. The 3 Ps: keep then Personal, Present and Positive.
    So, the mission points that start with "Not to" might be harder for your subconscious to believe and follow...
    E.g. "I" (not people or we), "am/do/have" (not will, should, may), "encourge friendship and acceptance" (instead of "against animosity and wrongs")
    Hayley Bruce
    02/01/2017 #2 Hayley Bruce
    Thank you Robin
    Robin Barton
    02/01/2017 #1 Robin Barton
    Love this Haley! I was thinking about a mission statement for myself earlier today
  4. Jared 🐝 Wiese
    Today, are you saying β€œyes” to things in Quadrant 2 or to things in Quadrants 3 and 4?

    Habit 3: Put First Things First
  5. Jared 🐝 Wiese
    "What barriers do you feel are preventing you from working on the mental dimension of your nature? How can you overcome those barriers?

    Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw"

    I'd say limiting beliefs and negative self talk...


    Jared 🐝 Wiese
    03/01/2017 #9 Jared 🐝 Wiese
    #8 Indeed. I'll have to look more into Lombardi, as my dad's side is from Green Bay! Knew he was great, but hadn't heard that.

    My saw right now is the Miracle Morning :)
    Harvey Lloyd
    03/01/2017 #8 Harvey Lloyd
    #7 I believe Vince Lombardi had just a few plays but he demanded 100% precision execution. Other coaches new the play every time and still couldn't stop him. Do a few things with precision execution and the results will be better than having a complex system of plays for every issue.

    Take away, limit the number of saws you have. Less to sharpen, more time cutting.
    Jared 🐝 Wiese
    03/01/2017 #7 Jared 🐝 Wiese
    #6 Very good point. I find myself looking for too many trees to cut, instead of sharpening that saw - if I don't make the time to sharpen. Great points.

    Reminds me of "Give me six hours to chop down a tree and I will spend the first four sharpening the axe."
    -Abraham Lincoln

    (Note to self: Now, where is that axe...)
    Harvey Lloyd
    03/01/2017 #6 Harvey Lloyd
    #5 I agree sometimes we need to "sharpen the Saw" but keep in mind we sharpen so that we may cut more efficiently. So we must also incubate ideas, collect our thoughts and introduce them to the band we have. Being an introvert i spend time qualifying thoughts but realize a thought is merely an electrical signal between two synapse until it is played in the open.
    Jared 🐝 Wiese
    02/01/2017 #5 Jared 🐝 Wiese
    #4 Man, I love your comments, Harvey! Always so astute and thought provoking.
    Indeed, "Making music with others is the only place we can find our own rhythm."

    β€œIf a man does not keep pace with his companions, perhaps it is because he hears a different drummer. Let him step to the music which he hears, however measured or far away.”
    β€” Henry David Thoreau, Walden

    For an interesting paradox on when it might make sense to MARCH TO THE BEAT OF YOUR OWN DRUM, check this out:

    To me, it is like learning from a master. We do it alone, before we can master and hopefully share with the world!
    Harvey Lloyd
    02/01/2017 #4 Harvey Lloyd
    Interesting topic and thought provoking. I would have to say that a story of a friend who played the guitar is appropriate here.

    He was an accomplished guitar player and sang at several local clubs in a one piece club singer way.

    He wanted to increase his act so he solicited several employees here to form a band.

    He stated the hardest thing he had to learn was playing with others. Specifically timing.

    From this i learned that we all are working on our timing with each other. When we solo it there is no timing we can only guess at what sounds good within the rhythm we create..

    Making music with others is the only place we can find our own rhythm. The barrier for me is internalizing to the point that i sense everyone else's timing is off. Then i don't want to play with others. Yet playing with others is where i get defined.

    Nice post @Jared 🐝 Wiese and every pun was intended.
  6. Jared 🐝 Wiese
    Do you enjoy the peace of mind that comes when your life is in harmony with true principles and values and in no other way?

    Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw


    Harvey Lloyd
    02/01/2017 #15 Harvey Lloyd
    #14 I like that
    Jared 🐝 Wiese
    01/01/2017 #14 Jared 🐝 Wiese
    I understand Covey's view of principles as being like a lighthouse. We, the ship, cannot change the lighthouse. It is there. It guides us. We either listen and adjust to it, or learn some hard lessons. He has this paradigm story in his 7 Habits book. (See http://sourcesofinsight.com/lessons-learned-from-stephen-covey/ for more.)
    "Values drive behavior.
    Principles drive the consequences of behavior."
    Harvey Lloyd
    01/01/2017 #13 Harvey Lloyd
    #12 We can speak as a seeker or an observer. Within seeking new challenges not just for success but because the journey is the real value, we find new parts of ourselves.
    Devesh Bhatt
    01/01/2017 #12 Devesh Bhatt
    #10 principles may direct experience, experience may direct principles, one may enter aware or blind.... But if someone comes out unchanged without a better understanding if principles and experience , maybe the person understood something else,
    That worth and examination part.
    The worth is examination for some, understanding for others...I assume that worth is in making a belief work without the denial of possibilities ..awareness too serves the same purpose.
    I don't like going through a horrible experience, it is possible that I may repeat the mistake in a different circumstance, a different experience ..maybe get blindsided the same way..still I sometimes think that people are too harsh on themselves, when the simplest thing is just to do something good and possible within that small scope , crushed by insecurity.
    I had so much of it once that I was adviced to plant some trees..did a lot of good...no thinking of anything else. It all fell in place . I might seem incoherent but I guess its 2017 :)
    Harvey Lloyd
    01/01/2017 #11 Harvey Lloyd
    #6 We may begin with self as we seek but we should always find us. When the journey leads to the dead end of self, we are on mars.

    Dragons eating their tail are to self absorbed with their own to understand that life is about a greater existence than your own tail

    The Asian symbol is a warning not a proverb.
    Harvey Lloyd
    01/01/2017 #10 Harvey Lloyd
    #1 Although the thoughts may create a horrible experience, this is part of the journey. Principals although handed down through time through many mediums cant be told but only experienced. The larger question is did the individual enter into the life experience with understanding of the principals or did they enter blind.

    Entering the journey is more important than principals themselves. Some never enter.
    Preston Vander Ven
    01/01/2017 #9 Preston Vander Ven
    This reminds me of a quote I saw of Abraham Lincoln. It said something similar to this, "If I were given six hours to chop down a tree and I will spend the first four sharpening the axe."
    Jared 🐝 Wiese
    01/01/2017 #8 Jared 🐝 Wiese
    #6 Hi Joseph, Happy New Year!
    Your comment got me thinking on at least 3 levels. Great stuff. To paraphrase the great Casey Kasem, keep your TAIL on the ground... And chase those BUTTERFLIES!
    Devesh Bhatt
    01/01/2017 #7 Devesh Bhatt
    Life has worth irrespective of examination .. Food for thought :)
    Jared 🐝 Wiese
    01/01/2017 #5 Jared 🐝 Wiese
    #4 Great wisdom, as always, Harvey.

    My dad is an eternal seeker, but always lost. Some people never open up to seek or even question.
    I try to find a realistic middle ground.

    "The unexamined life is not worth living."
    Harvey Lloyd
    01/01/2017 #4 Harvey Lloyd
    Habits of seeking are universal they can seek harmony or destruction. We find seekers, the lost and the detractors to this journey. The detractors i sense will always be lost, the lost have the probability of finding.

    Good New Year thoughts @Jared 🐝 Wiese
    Jared 🐝 Wiese
    01/01/2017 #3 Jared 🐝 Wiese
    Great to share your thoughts... even if you're thinking of Mars
    Devesh Bhatt
    01/01/2017 #1 Devesh Bhatt
    Does peace of mind depend on harmony in life? Does harmony depend on true principles and values? What are true principles?

    These are genuine questions that one must introspect to understand the context. Assumptions can make a beautiful advice become a horrible experience.

    Just thoughts...I hope its OK to share them
  7. ProducerMelissa Hughes

    Melissa Hughes

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    Melissa Hughes
    05/01/2017 #11 Anonymous
    So glad this one resonated with you, @Jared! I haven't thought about Covey's subway story in a long time... thanks for that reminder! #9
    Jared 🐝 Wiese
    05/01/2017 #10 Jared 🐝 Wiese
    Automated tweets started. It's THAT time of year, afterall ;)
    Jared 🐝 Wiese
    29/12/2016 #9 Jared 🐝 Wiese
    Wonderful post, @Melissa Hughes!
    Funny how that noggin works. Immediately reminded me of the paradigm shifting story on the subway from Stephen R. Covey!
    I will refer to this one again and again.... sharing.
    Melissa Hughes
    15/12/2016 #8 Anonymous
    That's so funny! We talked about fries as part of the salad and salads (cole slaw) and fries as part of the sandwiches. Actually, that is what started the whole conversation... he put his french fries on his burger! LOL#7
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    15/12/2016 #7 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    #6 Ask him whether french fries are an integral part of sandwiches and salads....not sides, but actual components of the sandwiches and salad ingredients. Never seen that elsewhere.
    Melissa Hughes
    15/12/2016 #6 Anonymous
    #3 My nephew lives in "the burg" and just recently he was trying to educate me on the language.... what a hoot!
    Melissa Hughes
    15/12/2016 #5 Anonymous
    Just caught it, Deb! What a great post! #4
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    15/12/2016 #4 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    And one more synchronicity, I was actually, in the last hour, considering reposting my post about job interviews being the football playoffs of the job search process. Entirely different intensity and tactics needed.
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    15/12/2016 #3 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    #2 I grew up in the vicinity and went to Carnegie Mellon, so Pittsburgh is special in my heart for many reasons.

    But it is so curious how football means something there. I have lived in San Francisco & Seattle during Superbowls and it simply wasn't the same. Or perhaps, it is the distortion of 'youth'

    Early experiences stand out precisely because our field is not as fully filled.

    I had to wikipedia for verification, but how crazy is it that I 'knew' that was the year out of the 4 possible that the towel was 'invented'?

    These minds we operate are incredible things!
    Melissa Hughes
    15/12/2016 #2 Anonymous
    Never knew you were one of the "Terribles," Deb! It is so true that it's much easier to judge than to find out what's going on. Thanks for sharing! #1
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    15/12/2016 #1 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    I am waving my Terrible Towel! It must have been Terry Bradshaw and Lynn Swann who taught me early in life to consider things deeply so as to keep as much Fundamental Attribution Error out of my interactions as possible.

    This is a crucial topic as we go around judging people far too often rather than inquiring "What's up?"
  8. Jared 🐝 Wiese
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    The reason you get yourself in a passionate place is so that you change your life.
    The only thing that changes your life is making a decision. So while you're in this passionate state that's where you make decisions!” …
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    Jose lucas Gomez
    03/01/2017 #3 Jose lucas Gomez
    #2 hola mil felicidades. Feliz 2017
    Jared 🐝 Wiese
    03/01/2017 #2 Jared 🐝 Wiese
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    So awesome to hear the ideas in the video helped. Inspirational!
    Renée  🐝 Cormier
    02/01/2017 #1 Renée 🐝 Cormier
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    Thomas Trang

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  11. Cory Galbraith

    Cory Galbraith

    Cory Galbraith
    It’s Time to Take Back Your Power
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    Jared 🐝 Wiese
    11/12/2016 #4 Jared 🐝 Wiese
    Just reread this and couldn't help thinking about the New Year. As Cory says,

    "The power of self-belief may well be the strongest force of the human spirit.

    As we are about to embark on a New Year, pause to think about your power."
    Jared 🐝 Wiese
    08/12/2016 #3 Jared 🐝 Wiese
    Cory, love your post!
    "There are countless examples in history of where people ignored the advice of others and chose instead to place the power within themselves."

    To me, it's like Hal Elrod says, be grateful for the good AND the bad... Take responsibility for everything and every circumstance in your life. Then, like Stephen Covey wrote, we become proactive and can focus on our Circle of Influence - which includes us!

    CC: @Harvey Lloyd
    Cory Galbraith
    08/12/2016 #2 Cory Galbraith
    #1 Good points Zacharias. Thanks for commenting.
    Zacharias Voulgaris 🐝
    08/12/2016 #1 Zacharias Voulgaris 🐝
    Thank you for sharing this inspiring and empowering message. We often allow ourselves to forget that the source of our power comes from how we handle ourselves, esp. our reactions, in adverse circumstances. Of course we can always gain some power by exercising control over others but this is as transient as the contentment that stems from savoring good weather.
  12. Jared 🐝 Wiese
    Shared from the Living the 7 Habits app:

    What is the relationship between courage and Synergy?

    Habit 6: Synergize


    Jared 🐝 Wiese
    08/12/2016 #3 Jared 🐝 Wiese
    #2 Wonderfully said! We're with you - herd mentality or immunity ;)
    Like I said in another comment today, we're all part of the collective unconscious. What we say/bark does have those ripple effects you mention. For the most part, I've seen beautiful ripples. Those are the conscious waves I choose to follow.
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    08/12/2016 #2 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    #1 That is a very astute and timely question, @Jared 🐝 Wiese

    Because I am certain we can take the concept of herd immunity into the realm of emotional fortitude.

    When a community decides to be cooperative and inclusive and someone takes a stand against divisiveness and exclusion there are ripple effects.

    The best kind are subtle but of a long lasting magnitude.

    I'll conclude with a dog analogy, more folks are therefore likely to growl at a bit of bad behavior, so that a full out fight - and potential wounding of a member - becomes much less likely.
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    Jared 🐝 Wiese
    07/12/2016 #4 Jared 🐝 Wiese
    Thanks for feedback. I just tried to download and they want WAY more than email. :(
    Robert Bacal
    07/12/2016 #3 Robert Bacal
    #1 Forgot to mention that it's not a bad idea to set up a free email address at gmail, yahoo or your choice of email providers JUST to use for situations where you need to supply an email address but aren't sure how it might be used. I don't bother for the reasons I stated previously, @Jared 🐝 Wiese but it's a good practice. If you ever want to stop using that address because it becomes clogged, you can delete it, and it separates out the emails you are less interested in from those that you really have to see.
    Robert Bacal
    07/12/2016 #2 Robert Bacal
    #1 Yes, @Jared 🐝 Wiese That's true. I guess in a sense there's no such thing as a free lunch. Personally, it doesn't bother me. I have only rarely found that giving out my address, or subscribing to a newsletter has been honorous, and laws demand that one can unsubscribe at any time.

    I get so much junk email already that I don't care, so I sometimes forget that others might be more protective. Thanks for pointing this out.
    Jared 🐝 Wiese
    07/12/2016 #1 Jared 🐝 Wiese
    Thanks so much for sharing, Robert!

    I love these, but do note that they usually require your e-mail, as that is golden to them.
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    Zacharias Voulgaris 🐝
    06/12/2016 #3 Zacharias Voulgaris 🐝
    Most people cannot understand what is worth listening to and listen mainly to things not worth understanding...
    Dyogo Lion
    06/12/2016 #2 Dyogo Lion
    true Ben
    Ben Pinto
    06/12/2016 #1 Ben Pinto
    The same can be said for reading posted articles and commenting on them. Ha - I just proved it! LOL
  15. ProducerCory Galbraith

    Cory Galbraith

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    Jared 🐝 Wiese
    11/12/2016 #18 Jared 🐝 Wiese
    I am liking this more and more too!

    Much of the incredible content Cory writes about resonates for me in the SAVERS acronym of the Miracle Morning:

    I came up with a slightly different approach, tying together various similar concepts:

    For similar content, please see the beBee group:

    I sure hope this is helpful :)
    Cory Galbraith
    11/12/2016 #17 Cory Galbraith
    #16 Thanks Max, and I will try your technique!
    Max🐝 J. Carter
    11/12/2016 #16 Max🐝 J. Carter
    I use a simple meditation that aids to go along with waht you have laid out here.

    Say "I let got of everything"

    Repeat until you feel your body take over the breathing. Then say.

    "I go into the void of my own mind to learn what I need to know right now"

    This activates the higher self connection to guide you and you show you how to rewire at faster speeds opening up higher levels of conscious awareness.

    I dig this buzz big time.
    Praveen Raj Gullepalli
    11/12/2016 #15 Praveen Raj Gullepalli
    #14 It's just a TIP of the iceberg dear Jared! :)
    Jared 🐝 Wiese
    11/12/2016 #14 Jared 🐝 Wiese
    #10 Thanks for the tips on yoga!
    Praveen Raj Gullepalli
    07/12/2016 #13 Praveen Raj Gullepalli
    #9 But am sure most bees here are Gnana Yogis and Karma Yogis already without knowing it...already way ahead in the quest for Right Knowledge and indulging in Right Actions! :)
    debasish majumder
    06/12/2016 #12 debasish majumder
    lovely insight @Cory Galbraith! enjoyed read. thank you very much for the share.
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    06/12/2016 #11 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #8 great idea Cory!
    Praveen Raj Gullepalli
    06/12/2016 #10 Praveen Raj Gullepalli
    #9 I think you should, if you have time. Practice is key. There are four paths of Yoga dear Cory. Karma Yoga - the way of selfless Action; Raja Yoga - Right attitudes, Postures / Mudras / Asanas; Gnana Yoga - Seeking right Knowledge...Self knowledge; Bhakti Yoga - Right Devotion...depending on your temperament and bodily condition. Do check out these links for the four Yogas when you would! www.ramakrishna.org www.sivananda.org
    Cory Galbraith
    06/12/2016 #9 Cory Galbraith
    #7 Thanks Praveen. I tried Yoga once but looked like a complete idiot trying to do it. I do know it has great value though so must give it another try!
    Cory Galbraith
    06/12/2016 #8 Cory Galbraith
    #6 Lisa Gallagher, bring along your favorite music. That's the only thing which worked for me!
    Praveen Raj Gullepalli
    06/12/2016 #7 Praveen Raj Gullepalli
    Great thoughts and a lot of inspiration there, dear Cory. Point 4 takes the cake though! (at least for me!) :) Out here, we have Yoga to help us elevate our perception and understanding of the self, but we haven't been doing it enough. ;)
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    06/12/2016 #6 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    Great article @Cory Galbraith ( I know, that sounds SO cliche) but seriously- good! I'm actually working on some of the steps you listed, having a hard time motivating myself to go workout! I'd love to have a partner to workout with, we could hold each other responsible. However, I've done it alone each time in the past, I just need a good kick in the butt to get moving on it again. I would love it if my higher brain was more in control, a good thing to aim for!
    Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman
    05/12/2016 #5 Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman
    Yes, "But our attitude towards these things can change." and "If you take only one thing away from this article today, make it this: doing nothing about excessive stress is not an option.". This is a geat post, Cory.
    🐝 Fatima Williams
    05/12/2016 #4 🐝 Fatima Williams
    We cannot just throw up our hands and give up on ourselves.Very true
    We can, and we must, remap our mind"

    Love this buzz Thank you @Cory Galbraith
    Jared 🐝 Wiese
    05/12/2016 #3 Jared 🐝 Wiese
    Hi Cory,

    Say, you might want to add your twitter account to your links in the bottom-right of your profile. That way, when beBee and others share tweets from here, it has your handle.
    Jared 🐝 Wiese
    05/12/2016 #2 Jared 🐝 Wiese
    #1 I totally agree, Irene. Well done, Cory. Sharing...
  16. Jared 🐝 Wiese
    Shared from the Living the 7 Habits app:

    A good engineer will understand the forces, the stresses at work, before designing the bridge. A good teacher will assess the class before teaching. A good student will understand before he applies. A good parent will understand before evaluating or judging.

    Habit 5: Seek First To Understand, Then To Be Understood
    Jared 🐝 Wiese


    Jared 🐝 Wiese
    03/12/2016 #2 Jared 🐝 Wiese
    #1 Thanks for the feedback, CityVP.

    Don't you think his message is sound: instead of focusing on yourself, your message, your goals... Focus on what others want/like/understand first?

    Even in terms of creating a following, if we post just things we like - that may even offend others - how much of a following will we get? Surely some rotten apples, but not the good core we seek.

    On the other hand, if we post good content that others like, showing our understanding of their likes, then we gain a following.

    Also like adding value at work, once we understand value to someone else.
    CityVP 🐝 Manjit
    03/12/2016 #1 CityVP 🐝 Manjit
    The irony is that we still live in a media broadcast model, where the expectations are that we will create a following - which prompts people to be understood. So this is more than just Elvis Costello's words "Don't let Me Be Misunderstood" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zriKO7hXsTc View more
    The irony is that we still live in a media broadcast model, where the expectations are that we will create a following - which prompts people to be understood. So this is more than just Elvis Costello's words "Don't let Me Be Misunderstood" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zriKO7hXsTc or The Animals https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mfwN0X8YnWo but getting back to our core - which is understanding and Covey wrote about that core in a way that we intuitively understand, though the practical part of that understanding explains why people consult Covey rather than see the learner that is their own mind, heart and will.. Close
  17. Jared 🐝 Wiese
    Shared from the Living the 7 Habits app:

    It is in the ordinary events of every day that we develop the proactive capacity to handle the extraordinary pressures of life. It’s how we make and keep commitments, how we handle a traffic jam, how we respond to an irate customer or a disobedient child. It’s how we view our problems and where we focus our energies. It’s the language we use.

    Habit 1: Be Proactive
  18. ProducerSara Jacobovici

    Sara Jacobovici

    Developing a Tolerance to Negativity
    Developing a Tolerance to NegativityImage credit: Casual Photophile The writers and readers who participate in the discussions found on beBee provide such a great source of energy to think, learn, grow and succeed. And it’s...


    Sara Jacobovici
    27/11/2016 #105 Sara Jacobovici
    #103 Nice share and powerful ending @Jared Wiese. Thanks
    Jared 🐝 Wiese
    27/11/2016 #104 Jared 🐝 Wiese
    #85 Sara, I am honored, but even happier that I added to the discussion and can share it. :)
    Jared 🐝 Wiese
    27/11/2016 #103 Jared 🐝 Wiese
    #102 Love it! HA... here we go....

    Your acceptance comment reminds me of M. Scott Peck's Road Less Travelled (which I imagine you've read ;)

    The first 2 paragraphs speak to acceptance (CAPS are mine):
    "Life is difficult.

    This is a great truth, one of the greatest truths. It is a great truth because once we truly see this truth, we transcend it. Once we truly know that life is difficult - once we truly understand and ACCEPT it - then life is no longer difficult. Because once it is accepted, the fact that life is difficult no longer matters."

    The paradox, duality, good/bad, negative emotions (suffering) topics also remind me of Dan Millman's The Life You Were Born to Live. From the chapter, The Law of Perfection:

    "From a transcendental perspective, everyone and everything is unconditionally perfect; from a conventional viewpoint, perfection doesn't exist" -J. Krishnamurti

    "The Law of Perfection presents a paradox because it contains two apparently opposite truths, which operate at different levels of experience.

    From a conventional view, this world is a place of suffering: crime in the streets, the hungry, the homeless, the oppressed. Even without the daily news, in our own lives, when we get what we don't want, we suffer; when we don't get what we do want, we also suffer; and even when we get exactly what we want, nothing lasts in this realm.

    From a transcendental perspective - seeing ourselves and this world with all its difficulties from the all-encompassing wisdom and patience and love and understanding that comes when our hearts are open - then all of it, the joys and sorrows, the suffering and pleasure, and everything going on in this moment on planet Earth, is absolutely, completely perfect in terms of a great process of evolution."
    Sara Jacobovici
    27/11/2016 #102 Sara Jacobovici
    #101 No rambling here @Jared Wiese but your perspective and insights. Thanks for sharing. When you write, "Until we reach a threshold, we probably will not really change the circumstances that got us, stung.", it reminds me of Carl Rogers quote, "The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change."
    Jared 🐝 Wiese
    27/11/2016 #101 Jared 🐝 Wiese
    #84 yes, Sara. Thank you for the insightful reply! More good perspectives.

    My simile also speaks to tolerance. Many people can tolerate 1 sting. Some cannot. Until we reach a threshold, we probably will not really change the circumstances that got us, stung.
    I am thinking of the more current definition of tolerance. To me, it then gets into how much pain we take before changing. This ties to negative emotions and your discussion point.

    - Am I "really mad/sad/hurt/NEGATIVE" that I got stung? (notice the reactivity)
    - Am I "grateful/glad/smarter/POSITIVE" that I now know what I did or can do to avoid getting stung (proactive).

    It is not me vs. the bee. It is me AND the bee. Perhaps that's another perception of duality?! We both exist and do what we are innately born to do (sting/react)
    . . . or learn to do better (sting/not swat at a Bee's nest, then get uoset about it) if we are more evolved.

    Please excuse the rambling-if you feel/choose to see it as such. I hope it ties to many points in this discussion.
    Sara Jacobovici
    27/11/2016 #100 Sara Jacobovici
    Part 2/2 @Nikki Petersen continued from part 1.....Tension does exist in the "negative" until the expected resolution occurs and then the positive/release takes place. The duration, intensity and sense of familiarity of the tension will create different experiences. Nothing simple about all of this but certainly makes for interesting discussion.

    I have to confess the first thing I thought of was Peanuts and Lucy and Charlie Brown and the football. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=055wFyO6gag
    Sara Jacobovici
    27/11/2016 #99 Sara Jacobovici
    #96 Part 1/2 Thank you @Nikki Petersen for taking the time to read my post and for your comment. I appreciate you bringing up trust/mistrust as they are are an important contribution to this discussion. You write, "For us to create the trust that enables the sitting with the tension, there also has to be mistrust. There has to be doubt that the outcome will be what we hope it will be." My sense of this is a mature view point; something we are able to form out of accumulated experiences, whereas trust and mistrust are formed very early on in human development. It's not a matter of hope for the newborn and infant to have his or her needs met, its an expectation. The newborn or infant trusts that his or her physical and emotional needs will be met; it's unspoken and innate. It is when those needs are not met that mistrust begins to form and produces feelings/sensations related to anxiety.

    In any group, individuals bring their own meanings formed from experiences related to expectations and will either be "naively" open in their trust or on the other end of the spectrum, suspicious, or anywhere in between. Trust is earned; we shouldn't trust anyone until they have proven that they are trustworthy. In terms of my clinical work I remind my client of that. I have to work hard at earning his or her trust. As well, I remind my client that there are three aspects to the trust in the work; they need to trust themselves that they will do what they need or able to do in their work, trust the medium; whether the talking or the creative arts materials and process, and then there is me, where the client can take the time to develop that trust.
    Sara Jacobovici
    27/11/2016 #98 Sara Jacobovici
    #97 Thanks for your encouraging remark about my post @Jim Murray. As for the rest, I defend your right to saying what needed to be said.
    Jim Murray
    27/11/2016 #97 Jim Murray
    I learned a bit here and that's always good. This is a solid post, nicely reasoned and resolved and very useful, especially for Americans at this extremely stressful juncture in their history.

    But I was a little taken aback at some of the comments. This Max Carter fellow very much appears to be a walking contradiction of sorts. "I have one rule in life. Do not go to jail. If you like it, do it again, if not, don't." What does that even mean and what does that have to do with your piece? The first time I read it I got the distinct impression he was approving of those who choose a life of crime.

    There's a certain etiquette that needs to be observed here. People spend a lot of time and energy on their posts, and slathering the comments with non-sequiturs and discussion highjacks is really bad form. The whole idea is that the engagement should add to the value of the post, not take the discussion off into the wild blue yonder.

    I guess you could accuse me of the same thing, but it needed to be said, because I'm seeing a lot of it lately.
    Nikki Petersen
    27/11/2016 #96 Nikki Petersen
    @Sara Jacobovici I enjoyed your discussion of this topic. I do enjoy this forum because it allows me to think deeply, which I need in my life. Thank you.

    I wonder where trust fits in? In trying to apply the topic to my own life, personal, business, and parenting (among other aspects), my observation is that so much of the tension and dissonance is created by trust/mistrust issues. For example, the employees can feel that they should focus on the journey of discovery to multiple outcomes, but they have to trust that their ideas will fall on receptive ears; isn't the reason that sitting with the tension is uncomfortable is because they're not sure they can trust what will happen in the long-run?

    With your other example, music and therapy, doesn't the client need to be able to trust that the outcome of being with the tension created in a session will be useful or meaningful? That trust isn't just there, automagically -- it has to be created.

    For us to create the trust that enables the sitting with the tension, there also has to be mistrust. There has to be doubt that the outcome will be what we hope it will be.

    And that's where the circle comes back to negative emotions. We've all been hurt and we've all experienced the disappointment of misplaced trust. It's part of being human.

    The tension between positive and negative then, must come from trust and mistrust?
    Max🐝 J. Carter
    27/11/2016 #95 Max🐝 J. Carter
    What is it you are disagreeing with?

    Which part and why?

    I am think the readers would be curious to know more than I would.

    Is the part where I say we are not as removed from the animal kingdom a we would like to think?

    Is it the part where I explain pack mentality and how it actually works?

    Is the part about rules creating exclusion?

    Or is it all of it summarily?

    I covered more Tran one point.
    Ali Anani
    27/11/2016 #94 Ali Anani
    #90 We agreed to disagree.
    Max🐝 J. Carter
    27/11/2016 #93 Max🐝 J. Carter
    #92 I am curios as to why?
    Sara Jacobovici
    27/11/2016 #92 Sara Jacobovici
    #88 As you said @Max Carter, you disagree. And so, at the risk of sounding cliche, I respectfully agree to disagree.
    Sara Jacobovici
    27/11/2016 #91 Sara Jacobovici
    #87 Read it and admired it @Ali Anani
    Max🐝 J. Carter
    27/11/2016 #90 Max🐝 J. Carter
    #89 The chaos behind why the birds flock together has many variables down to the individual birds and the place they take within the flock. there are no rules, they feel their way though it with instinct and at times in any flock or even pack there are challenges for pecking order or place in the pack.

    The alpha is the strongest leader of the flock or the pack that guides them true and out of danger based on the leaders intuition which is chaos based in the now and the variables in a state of flux being read in the moment.

    We as humans foolishly think ourselves more evolved from the animal and will go against intuition in favor of thinking we can think better than our intuitive senses. That is the biggest road block we create and keep in place for ourselves.

    I have one rule in life. Do not go to jail. If you like it, do it again, if not, don't.

    When you start creating rules you have to start excluding those who don't meet with your rules. For me i think it's healthy not be hanging out with someone in the middle of creating a crime and to avoid breaking the law myself in my own actions.

    When people do not comply with the laws we impose in society they go away from society and are excluded from society.

    Rule building is about creating mechanisms for and parameters for exclusion.
    Ali Anani
    27/11/2016 #89 Ali Anani
    #88 There are simple rules for birds flocking together> The feedback effect leading to chaos is based on simple rules. No one pretends the rules are always right, but we strive to improve them. They help in focusing our efforts. Nobody till now can predict the weather of of its complexity, but it was the three simple differential equations that helped in noticing the butterfly effect. We are trying to do the same.
    Max🐝 J. Carter
    27/11/2016 #88 Max🐝 J. Carter
    #87 I disagree because existence works on the principle of organized chaos and as a part of existence so do we which means all the variables are variable in the moment and no equation is ever going to suit the moment you are in unless you create it and can control all the variables which control is an illusion.

    To create an equation is to engage in willful delusion that one has control over anything. We mange ourselves we don't control anything because we are organized chaos not a machine.
    Ali Anani
    27/11/2016 #87 Ali Anani
    #85 I agree entirely with you @Sara Jacobovici. On my last buzz, I responded to a comment by @Max🐝 J. Carter and I almost said the same about the value of developing the equation. It is trial and error, but is worthy.
    Sara Jacobovici
    27/11/2016 #86 Sara Jacobovici
    #78 Thank you @Jared Wiese for your very valuable contribution to this discussion. Much appreciated.
  19. Jared 🐝 Wiese
    He makes things easier for himself who makes things easier for others.
    Asian sayingβ€”Habit 4: Think Win-Win

    -Shared from the Living the 7 Habits app:


    Jared 🐝 Wiese
    16/11/2016 #2 Jared 🐝 Wiese
    This app has content related to the works of Stephen R. Covey, and his book The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.
    Jared 🐝 Wiese
    16/11/2016 #1 Jared 🐝 Wiese
    To me, this says: determine your value to others and you will have a fulfilling career!

  20. ProducerMichael D. Davis
    It's Not What You Think
    It's Not What You ThinkWhat is the value of life? What is the value of belief? Β Does value exist only in misguided and arrogant ideology giving right and rise to power over others? Regardless of the justification it is the worst of values to believe that one person...


    Jared 🐝 Wiese
    11/11/2016 #1 Jared 🐝 Wiese
    DARN good food for thought!
    I'd suggest a discussion on values vs. PRINCIPLES:


    β€œCorrect principles are like compasses: they are always pointing the way. And if we know how to read them, we won’t get lost, confused, or fooled by conflicting voices and values.

    Principles are self-evident, self-validating natural laws. They don’t change or shift. They provide β€˜true north’ direction to our lives when navigating the β€˜streams’ of our environments.

    Principles apply at all time in all places. They surface in the form of values, ideas, norms, and teachings that uplift, ennoble, fulfill, empower, and inspire people. The lesson of history is that to the degree people and civilizations have operated in harmony with correct principles, they have prospered.”


    β€œPrinciples, unlike values, are objective and external. They operate in obedience to natural laws, regardless of conditions. Values are subjective and internal. Values are like maps. Maps are not the territories; they are only subjective attempts to describe or represent the territory. The more closely our values or maps are aligned with correct principlesβ€”with the realities of the territory, with things as they really areβ€”the more accurate and useful they will be.”
    β€”Stephen R. Covey
  21. Jared 🐝 Wiese
    Win/Win is based on the paradigm that there is plenty for everybody, that one person’s success is not achieved at the expense or exclusion of the success of others.

    Habit 4: Think Win-Win

    :Shared from the Living the 7 Habits app:
    Jared 🐝 Wiese


  22. Jared 🐝 Wiese
    11/9/2016 - the day after the US elections...

    Be a model, not a critic. Look at the weakness of others with compassion, not accusation. It's not what they are doing or should be doing that's the issue. The issue is your own chosen response to the situation and what you should be doing.

    Habit 1: Be Proactive

    This ties nicely with a classic:

    "What things in your Circle of Influence are being crowded out of your attention and energy by things that are really in your Circle of Concern?"

    Habit 1: Be Proactive

    :Shared from the Living the 7 Habits app:
  23. Jared 🐝 Wiese
    Psychology of Motivation - How to Get Motivated using Psychological Insight and Tricks
    Psychology of Motivation - How to Get Motivated using Psychological Insight and Tricks How to get motivated using some psychological tricks and being self-aware to use your passions to drive you. Tai Lopez has mentioned that there are four...
  24. Jared 🐝 Wiese
    Plan your week. Weekly organizing gives you the freedom and the flexibility to handle unanticipated events, to shift appointments if you need to, to savor relationships and interactions with others, and to deeply enjoy spontaneous experiences.

    Habit 3: Put First Things First

    :Shared from the Living the 7 Habits app:
  25. ProducerJared 🐝 Wiese
    How I build new Habits
    How I build new Habits(This post was first published on Linkedin)Habits can be changed. Old ones can be dropped and new ones can be added.Your life is, after all, Β a reflection of your habits.But it is not that easy. You see one cannot looseΒ a negative habit like their...


    Jared 🐝 Wiese
    08/11/2016 #5 Jared 🐝 Wiese
    Great post, @Savani Shinde!
    Ali Anani
    27/04/2016 #2 Ali Anani
    @Savani Shinde
    I enjoyed your post. I have written on habits as marketing tools and I find your post quite useful.
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