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Yesterday’s kick-off of Mindfulness 8 weeks training for stress and burn-out handling was once again very heart full, warm and connecting. This time a rather limited group of participants creates a very intimate and embracing atmosphere.
It was really an eye-opener to witness the spontane development of open minded curiosity to awareness in the present. Many thanks and great respect for those Mindful personalities.
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- Producer23/03/2017I, You, We and MeI went to physical therapy yesterday. I met Shira, a very competent professional. As we were working on my hands, I began to recount my experiences as a child, and she said, “I don’t want to hear it.” I told her five children die every day from...
Comments24/03/2017 #34 Aaron SkogenWow! Bravo @Joyce 🐝 Bowen. Courageous, raw and unrelenting. My first thought was "find a new therapist", then I thought "no, don't conform, continue to chip away at the wall and bring it down". I, You, We and Me must continue to drive awareness, we need the black sheep of non-conformance. Looking back at history and the major social shifts in history, I ask was Rosa Parks a conformist, was Dr. King, or how about President Lincoln? None. Keep the faith. . . and maybe, find a new therapist :-).24/03/2017 #33 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#29 #30 Another question - why do we need licenses to marry, adopt a dog, to fish, but not raise children?
I don't quite think the punitive approach would effect lasting change, but why is it each parent for themselves - just do your best?
We have competency exams for all sorts of things, but not the single most crucial and complex and difficult task most humans are going to undertake - raising children.
I can feel the resistance to this sort of intervention, but why?
What is so crazy about enacting laws to ensure parents know about nutrition, psychology, along with the social & physical requirements to thrive - the basic curriculum of growing a human based on current science?
Achievement to a certain percentage in order to get a license to procreate.
Something to ponder about a strategy We could begin to consider.24/03/2017 #31 Donna-Luisa Eversley@Joyce 🐝 Bowen thank you for your bravery in bringing up this topic. It is one many will have difficulty understanding because they may not have experiences such as yours. Your contribution is overwhelmingly good in creating awareness. We live in a world where bad things happen to good people. Bad things happen to bad people. Good things happen to bad people. Awareness may not mean understanding or acceptance, but it sure takes courage to be bold enough to write. #3024/03/2017 #30 Joyce 🐝 Bowen#29 @Lisa Vanderburg I hear you back. Both my parents were psychopaths. People don't understand what psychopath means unless you say, "Jeffrey Dahmer," or "Ted Bundy." People don't understand that psychopaths have children and they are often their littlest victims. I feel for you, and understand that need for connection that is so lost when seeking it from such a parent. I followed through to my degree in psychology before I understood. I think psychopaths should be sterilized, but that's just me.24/03/2017 #29 Lisa VanderburgI hear you @Joyce 🐝 Bowen. I hear that awful loneliness that comes from this festering wound for so long. I know it well, and I have pretty much given up trying to 'explain' things so others may understand - they won't. That's the trouble with childhood abuse and its after-math, everyone's is different to them (at least), because they were CHILDREN when it happened and adults when they've had to learn to live with it - or not. I've realized two things:
1. My abuser was a charming, highly intelligent psychopath. That's why when I left home at age 16, I told a couple of childhood friends, they didn't believe me. All my siblings experienced the same thing. It was stunning and made me question myself.
2. The trouble with secrets is that the listener either feels they have to 'do' something about it, or they chose not to believe you.
For me, I know I'm broken. Some of the ladies here know me - good wimmin! But for the life of me (and because my eldest sister killed herself AFTER she seemed so much better (with her shrink), so I can't trust that anyone can 'fix' me. But I live with it....
You're one brave woman - more courage than I!24/03/2017 #28 Cyndi wilkins#23 I'm very sorry to hear that...especially for a therapist that is supposed to understand such a debilitating condition as MS...but I will leave it to you to decide who best suits your needs;-)
I'd love to meet for whatever is convenient for you...Give me a shout when it works for you and I will make it work for me;-) I will PM you with my email;-)24/03/2017 #27 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#25 I do want to be clear, I don't think there are any faults, Joyce. I feel everything you said intensely. What you wrote affected me powerfully, and sent me asking NOW WHAT?
Nobody is for child abuse. It continues. Our species does have a very long legacy of wanting to dominate and/or eradicate those not like us - for all sorts of random superficial reasons. Including that someone does something heinous. Anger hasn't been an effective long-term strategy so far.
So I found myself pondering what is the fundamental disconnect that we feel this must stop, but perhaps, in such an intense, confused, and overwhelming way that it seems to almost preclude acting. This state goes along with the stories of how hard it is to change human nature.
The ways we mis-anthropromorphize animal behavior is something I think about a lot. We have labelled an entire breed as demonically vicious because a few people trained their dogs to be nothing but fighters.
How do we define cruelty? And how do we, as a species, instill it in our young and our pets? It does not arise in a vacuum.
It comes down to faulty training, faulty thinking, and poorly designed systems that are unable to stop the cycles right now.
Each aspect is entirely about the stories humans tell themselves and each other.23/03/2017 #24 Joyce 🐝 Bowen#18 Actually, I only let myself be mad for a split second. I put her in a small cage only to allow me to move Sarah, at which point she had only killed 2; but she was so smart, she got out and killed a third pup. I immediately chalked her actions up to Nature, and vowed not to hold her accountable. And I didn't.23/03/2017 #22 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#21 Well then, we have much in common, @Helena Jansen van Vuuren, It takes a lot of effort and time for me to get these 'knowings' swirling around my bodymind out into language. I try to catch my run-on sentences, but it all is smushed together in my head in even more complexity than how it comes out on the page. I get frustrated all the time at hitting the 2000 character limit.
Anyway, this is a topic I care about. So I try to re-orient the discussion, pivot it just slightly to change how we talk it through.
Based on how I was raised, I lead with being mired in the horror of it all, too. I get viscerally upset, nauseated. So I listen to these feelings and realize we cannot fix anything when we are sick. (And this might have been what Shiva very ineloquently reacted to. What she meant to convewy was not lets ignore the problem, but let's focus right this minute on healing you, so your hands can do the work they need to.)
If I can help in any little way to get the conversation set back to flowing, back to love-storming, back to how very many things like Berlin walls and apartheid simply ceased quite quickly and painlessly; with none of the obviously bound to happen worst case scenarios unfolding, then we can start to increase our energy toward fixing horrific situations because we have been primed to remember that tipping points exist all around us, and we can choose to create a narrative that ignores oft-repeated 'common sense' and starts to say 'let's do this instead"
Given that it is #NationalPuppyDay - really re-thinking how contemporary humans raise our families is a fruitful place to focus our attention, as we know each newborn is a relatively blank slate waiting to be taught.23/03/2017 #20 Cyndi wilkinsYou were shut down by a 'professional.' That indicates fear...and as Deb mentioned, fear is paralyzing. Please find another therapist..
BTW...I know you live in my neck of the woods here...Were you perhaps at the Salem Diner? I love that tin can! Maybe we could meet for breakfast or lunch sometime;-).23/03/2017 #19 🐝 Fatima Williams"Let’s evolve beyond being pack animals and strive for the betterment of all rather than the chosen few. Let’s learn to think for ourselves instead of acting like cows being driven to the trough. "
We ,You and I. Its you and me who think like that. I am not sure about the We.
If I advice a few poeple to Becareful of their children being abused. They are like " No way he's always around safe people. But once the media started showing reports on child abuse where parents of millennials had reported the same to the police. They get the awareness.
So pretty much Either you fall or I'll fall only then They'll learn. This is the mentality of some people.
Recently a girl punched a boy at school for unstrapping her bra and the management was against the girl for violence. The professor had watched this and did not intervene which means he enjoyed it and perhaps had some evil intentions. So she suggested at the meeting that he ( Professor) do the same the principal sitting at the desk and they we bewildered.
Then the mom said to the boy "Come over here and let me touch the front of your trousers.”
Everyone was like “What?! No!”
Full story below :
https://stuffhappens.us/boy-at-school-snapped-her-14307/23/03/2017 #18 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#14 Thanks for sharing this story, Joyce. #12 I wonder if you can take the same pieces of data and generate a new narrative based on the few sentences that Pam and I shared.
The goal of this re-telling is to remove judgement and evil intent from the dog's actions. The point is to learn more about human nature and how we overlay our own beliefs about self-survival and self-sacrifice and the way we let our own "I" - our personality - shape what we believe to be the rationale for not only our behavior, but our kid's behavior and our pet's behavior.
Given the deep thoughts you gleaned from the boardroom, there is a really big shift available in understanding that how we tell stories is downloaded between ages 1-6 from the stories and actions of our parents. This is the crucial age for growing a child with all the necessary nutrients to become a loving adult - this is an intertwined physical and mental process.
Right now, so much of the 'truth' is based on the fact that the only species doing the talking, writing the stories, documenting the history happens to be humans. Everything is skewed based on how we experience life, via how we were trained to talk about, judge, and understand before we had the cognitive power to make up our own minds.
My belief is that you can advance your very important advocacy work more efficiently by focusing on what to do, versus what not to do. This is because I feel the fear and anger in the narrative and I think these emotions paralyze most people and send us into overwhelm.
I agree with everything you said about always - it was the narrative I downloaded, as well.
Yet, I am willing to dwell in the awe of a new wave of humans raised on different stories and actions. Massive change is simply a new generation away, if we start to focus on how to raise these new humans with love.23/03/2017 #17 CityVP 🐝 Manjit#16 Child abuse is an awful pandora's box and if we are too overwhelmed in opening it, it ironically keeps it that much more closed - but remember where much of this abuse originates is systemic and we are not free of that industrial cage - and we are not free from the selling of a pap and docile existence, and when I see the children in the documentary "Cries from Syria" - this pandora's box begins to open - and all of this overwhelms, and I have not even touched on the data and facts that people never see or worse, at least marginally think about. At least we hearing voices like yours and your fighting spirit to make a difference in this hidden pit of sorrows and hurt.23/03/2017 #16 Joyce 🐝 Bowen#15 I'm an old dog, and every year I torture myself with Child Maltreatment reports, sometimes trying to lay out data in a shorter form. 2015's is here. https://www.acf.hhs.gov/sites/default/files/cb/cm2015.pdf View more#15 I'm an old dog, and every year I torture myself with Child Maltreatment reports, sometimes trying to lay out data in a shorter form. 2015's is here. https://www.acf.hhs.gov/sites/default/files/cb/cm2015.pdf. It takes a long time to load. Note that it took them 2 years to produce it. The stats are frightening, and states can choose to not submit data. Close
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Comments19/03/2017 #14 🐝 Fatima Williams“@Donna Girl you look lovely but Yes I would love to see you fabulous. I’ll be there virtually to bug you when you have that brownie. I loved the letter to self. There’s a big promise when we say we’ll do something for someone but an even bigger one when it comes to the self. You’ve motivated me to apologise to myself for those broken promises and relive them again. Thank you and come on now I can wait to see you looking sexy hot fab 😍”18/03/2017 #13 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher@Donna-Luisa Eversley, I look forward to your next buzz on exercises that work for you. I sure wasn't in an accident 3/4's as severe as you. I think I mentioned I broke my left shoulder and right hand a little over 2 years ago and had a 3rd degree sprain in my ankle. I also broke my tailbone 3 times LOL, so needless to say my back/neck are a bit of a mess. Oddly, I healed up fairly well and did great for the first yr and a half after my breaks. I was using the batter operated hedge trimmers this summer and trimmed 50 ft worth of bushes. My middle fingers shook uncontrollably for 3 hours afterwards then the shoulder/neck pain set in. I haven't been able to power walk or use the elliptical as I did over the years since and it's sure not helping my weight. You are inspiring me to FIND a way to just DO IT!! My husband has been begging me to go to the Dr but as I told you my deductible is 3400/yr and I can't afford tests. I never thought I'd say that! I do know I need to change my diet, maybe we can keep each other on track! You've got this and thank you for sharing, you inspire many. :))17/03/2017 #12 Laura Mikolaitis@Donna-Luisa Eversley this is a great letter to your beautiful self. Thank you for sharing your commitment with us. As someone who has been on that journey for a while now, I can tell you that it is worth it. I never could buy into any of the weight loss pills and gimmicks that are out there. I did it by changing my lifestyle because that's really what it is: a lifestyle change. It meant changing my eating habits and exercising regularly. And with that came a lot of self-reflection on the course to a better, healthier self - physically, emotionally, and mentally. I still struggle from time to time, but not a day goes by that I ever regret making the change. I still have some weight I'd like to shed, and I'll get there. Slowly and surely. You've got this my friend and I have no doubt you'll achieve your goals. I'm here if you ever need encouragement or a virtual get healthy buddy!17/03/2017 #11 Donna-Luisa Eversley#6 @Aaron Skogen when I read about your accident, I was inspired. I know it may sound bad, but your was a lot more bad than my own and its a pleasure, a real honor to see how you have recovered. Its made a big difference to me. I feel maybe I need to start a survivors Hive , just because you are so dam great! Now my weepies are turned on . #bighug I am so grateful to God for your life! :-) Thanks for your encouragement!17/03/2017 #10 Donna-Luisa Eversley#5 @Ken Boddie I sure like that example of snakes and ladders. I would somehow land on the snakes, but right now I'm going to be carrying that ladder, even when I fall down the snakes of life! Thank you for your confidence. Today, I was thinking about a slice of a perfect cheesecake, and said no! Also told Mr Cadbury creamy chocolate bar no... feeling quite powerful ! :-)17/03/2017 #6 Aaron SkogenYou go @Donna-Luisa Eversley! You have the right mindset and are doing it for the right reasons. I'll be here in MN cycling right with you, heck I might even run a little.
As a severe accident survivor, I get it!
It's so much more about balanced and healthy nutrition than it is about logging hour upon hour in the gym.
As my friend says, fuel the right way and just keep moving!
I'm excited to see what you wrote a year from now,17/03/2017 #5 Ken BoddieIf anyone can do this, you can, DLE. I used to think that weight loss was like a game of 'snakes and ladders' and that eventually you get to the top of the ladder and finish the game (if you don't stand on too many slippery snakes). Now I know the game never ends, so if we take it one rung at a time, one day we'll notice that the snakes have gone, the view is magnificent, and the ladder is our best friend.16/03/2017 #4 David B. GrinbergMany congrats, DL, on your outstanding accomplishments! You always write such motivational blog posts which inspire us all. I love your excellent points from which we can all learn and benefit. Moreover, you're wonderful writing style is always a pleasure to read. Keep buzzing!16/03/2017 #3 Katyan RoachGo Girl!! It's an awesome step you're taking to be the best you that you can be. I'm with you! Full support! Keep pressing on and keep us updated on your progress, we can be each other's accountability partners for we are all at a place where we are trying to achieve one goal or another. :-)
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Comments19/03/2017 #5 Cyndi wilkins"If we cannot hear our inner voice we are missing the most important thing in life, it’s the first step toward making peace with your self not with the world."
This is the most important piece of the puzzle that resonates throughout all of us and the work we are doing @abhishek shah...If we cannot find the peace within ourselves, we will never find it in the world as external...What we have created here is a classroom for the discovery of the true self in all its manifestations. It is up to us which portrait we choose to paint. Regardless of what goes on outside of ourselves...we have complete control over what goes on within.
"There is a difference between knowing the path and walking on the path."
Spot on again...Knowing the work renders no result whatsoever unless you actually DO THE WORK;-) Nice to connect with you along the path to wellness Abhishek...
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Comments16/03/2017 #2 Mark Miller#1 Hey @Deb 🐝 Helfrich I appreciate the affirmation that astaxanthin helps you. The only thing I would add is make sure it is a natural form. The synthetic forms have issues with the wrong isomers, where the orientation is off. Sort of trying to put a left hand into a right hand glove. It is a hand and it is a glove but it does not work well. Personally I have been taking AstaReal brand for a decade, that is where I place my trust.