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Invisible Illnesses: Child Abuse

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  1. ProducerJoyce 🐝 Bowen   Brand Ambassador @ beBee
    Abuse Again.
    Abuse Again.Most know me for my tackling of social issues. This can take a toll. Mucking around with what’s wrong with the world can be horrific. I find things out I don’t want to know. Yes, Ian Weinberg—there is no justice. You’re right, but that doesn’t mean...
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  2. ProducerJoyce 🐝 Bowen   Brand Ambassador @ beBee
    It Takes a Chorus
    It Takes a ChorusThis is my second go at this article. MS Word crashed and took all my wonderful thoughts with it. One of the first things I thought was, “It doesn’t matter who gets the credit as long as it gets done.” And it’s true. So many times over the...
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    Antoinette Capasso-Backdahl
    16/03/2017 #25 Antoinette Capasso-Backdahl
    I just wrote a huge response. I shorted out my keyboard because my hands were pouring out buckets of water. Truth is, it's dangerous. I decided my response is better left unsaid.
    Devesh 🐝 Bhatt
    16/03/2017 #24 Devesh 🐝 Bhatt
    Could you share the barriers, all the barriers and separate them as to the ones that can be overcome with community action and one that mandates legislative change i.e. community+power +money + pressure
    Deb🐝 Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    16/03/2017 #23 Deb🐝 Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    Such s difficult topic - in australia we seem to be making headway on speaking about abuse of children and violence against mainly women / there are ads on tv that tell men no one likes a man who beats up their wife or children and then sees the man sitting in front of a counsellor - and I know women also abuse children. As I think a Joyce said below often the perpetrators have been abused themselves and the cycle of violence goes on. I have a story I will share one day of stopping the cycle of violence in my family of origin . I will share one day.
    Joyce 🐝 Bowen   Brand Ambassador @ beBee
    16/03/2017 #22 Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee
    #10 @Cyndi wilkins it is often true that abused children turn towards advocacy.
    Joyce 🐝 Bowen   Brand Ambassador @ beBee
    16/03/2017 #21 Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee
    #12 @Pascal Derrien That's why I've been focusing on a Federal Mandate over here. Otherwise, you'd have to change laws in each state. That's an overwhelming proposition. As far as enforcement goes, my attitude is one step at a time.
    Joyce 🐝 Bowen   Brand Ambassador @ beBee
    16/03/2017 #19 Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee
    #14 @Max🐝 J. Carter agreed.
    Joyce 🐝 Bowen   Brand Ambassador @ beBee
    16/03/2017 #18 Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee
    #15 @Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador That's exactly the reaction I get. People, who are people, talk about other people like other people should carry the ball.
    Joyce 🐝 Bowen   Brand Ambassador @ beBee
    16/03/2017 #17 Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee
    #16 @Phil Friedman get enough people together, there's bound to be enough strong voices to carry the lipsyncers.
    Phil Friedman
    16/03/2017 #16 Phil Friedman
    I agree fully with you, Joyce, that this is an area which requires, nay demands more attention and an absolute dedication to rooting out and punishing (not rehabilitating, for that never happens) offenders. Particularly, with what appears to be a growing incidence of human trafficking. However, I am not sure that a "chorus" is the right metaphor, because in my experience a significant percentage of chorus members are only lip-syncing. Better, I think, strong voices banding together to give concerts. Cheers!
    Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador
    16/03/2017 #15 Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador
    Yes, everything in the universe has rhythm but the rhythm has to be "in" rhythm, where we walk to the same beat or sing the same tune. I agree with @Max🐝 J. Carter, and IMO, the more people on the bandwagon the better. How to get people to join the cause - I don't know. I feel this is something people don't want to face therefore it is swept under the rug.
    Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.
    15/03/2017 #13 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.
    @Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee just be you, your unique voice will do what is necessary.
    Pascal Derrien
    15/03/2017 #12 Pascal Derrien
    Unless policies and legislations are in place it is difficult to scale up consistently and efficientlty across all segments of the society no matter what the issues may be, the enforcement of those policies is another issue but I suppose one thing at the time, like anything else amplification of the message is key and can sometimes be triggered by ''champions to the cause'' a key or public figure helps adding velocity and acts as an accelerator
    Joyce 🐝 Bowen   Brand Ambassador @ beBee
    15/03/2017 #11 Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee
    #10 that's alright @Cyndi wilkins; you're on that list now.
    Cyndi wilkins
    15/03/2017 #10 Cyndi wilkins
    You have quite the collection of talented musicians being called into your chorus @Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee...Let us see what the orchestra creates here;-) Even if you had a charmed childhood...Nobody likes an abusive personality...not even the abusers themselves. To some degree Joyce, the sensitive nature of this issue lies also with the taboo topic of mental illness...as many abusers (if not all of them) suffered terrible abuses as children themselves. That you have emerged an advocate to protect children...not everyone is that resilient, is an amazing testament to your resolve. It is a blessing to your children that you have stopped the cycle of abuse from continuing in your own family. My very best to you.
  3. Joyce 🐝 Bowen   Brand Ambassador @ beBee
    https://www.bebee.com/producer/@joyuce-bowen/the-pursuit
    Joyce 🐝 Bowen   Brand Ambassador @ beBee
    The Pursuit
    www.bebee.com The pursuit was on. Equality of the contestants was not issue. Their goals were not the same. The stalker had in mind to catch her prey, who...
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  4. Joyce 🐝 Bowen   Brand Ambassador @ beBee
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    Joyce 🐝 Bowen   Brand Ambassador @ beBee
    My Story of Abuse
    www.bebee.com What is the view of child abuse? I struggle with that question. I've found that child abuse survivors are viewed as damaged goods. I see pity...
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  5. ProducerHervé Sabattier
    Carry me
    Carry meYou come from the lovely country of your childhood Its sweet gardens and its runlets of innocence You come from the broken heart of a brotherhood Growing in absence, half little girl and half silence When night was coming down,...
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    Hervé Sabattier
    30/11/2016 #18 Hervé Sabattier
    Nice! Congratulations!... You know, and it might surprise you, but I prefer writing in English than in French, for many reasons that would be too long to expose here. But, alas, I am more limited in English, in regard to vocabulary and therefore nuances, and it comes easier for me to write in French. But don't you like my poems in French? They are from the heart too, you know. And in poetry, music is as much as important as meaning, whatever the language. Anyway, should you need any translation, explanation or clarification when you read a poem in French, whoever the author, I would make a pleasure providing you with it. Have a nice evening.
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    30/11/2016 #17 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    #16 Je comprends un peu de francais. And I lean on google translate where necessary. J'ai passé deux étés à l'Institut Catholique au sixième pendant l'université.
    Hervé Sabattier
    30/11/2016 #16 Hervé Sabattier
    @Deb 🐝 Helfrich, Hi Deb, don't you read French? I am so sorry, but being French native, I am more easy in French. But I promise to write a nice poem in English soon.
    Hervé Sabattier
    30/11/2016 #15 Hervé Sabattier
    #14 Thank you Deb. It touches me. I believe you're right, and the only true gifts come from the heart. All my poems come from my heart, it's my only secret.
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    30/11/2016 #14 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    "And bring me all the gifts that only you can bring" A great poem, @Hervé Sabattier. Love is the expression of the unique gifts to be shared between two souls.
    Hervé Sabattier
    27/07/2016 #13 Hervé Sabattier
    Thank you for your nice words Pamela. Well, I trust it's just a question of love. It's a love story. Though the love from a daughter to her father is certainly different than the love from a lady to her lover or her husband, at the end it's still love. Only love. Only love remains. And to really love, you need to remember and see the world through your child's eyes...
    Pamela 🐝 Williams
    27/07/2016 #12 Pamela 🐝 Williams
    As I read your poem @Hervé Sabattier I had the thought that it was about a young child and the safety that a father brings to them. Then as I read it was the relationship between a man and woman. Then I had the thought; it could be both. The feelings a young girl has for her father is what she looks for in the man she spends her adult life with, that allows her to come in contact with the young girl within the woman. Beautiful! I loved it made me think all of this.
    Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    24/07/2016 #11 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    #9 Ahhhh. I beat you to it, so sorry but not really, as I wrote an entire Buzz using Google Translate...sorry for that hit. BUt even with the computer program, the translation was super startling in its depth. And I have requested a translation not just for me, but at your decision so we can all see what you see. Here's the English translation, choppy yet pure: https://www.bebee.com/producer/@margaret-aranda/the-miracle-of-love and I was inspired to write my own poem in response, however un-elegant in English, sir @@Hervé Sabattier, please forgive me: My Subsequent Poem: The Gift at Bay: https://www.bebee.com/producer/@margaret-aranda/the-gift-at-bay . What love in the beeeHive reigns today!
    Hervé Sabattier
    17/07/2016 #10 Hervé Sabattier
    #8 Thank you Joanna... Poetry is emotions, only emotions... Nothing to understand, only emotions to feel... And Neruda is in my top 5 poets...
    Hervé Sabattier
    17/07/2016 #9 Hervé Sabattier
    #7 Melissa, please read my poems in French. Should you pick up one whose music sounds nice to your ear, tell me and I would write an exclusive and poetic translation, only for you...
    Hervé Sabattier
    17/07/2016 #6 Hervé Sabattier
    #4 Thank you Gert.
    Hervé Sabattier
    17/07/2016 #5 Hervé Sabattier
    #3 Thank you Melissa.... Did you catch the breathing on this one too ?
    Gert Scholtz
    16/07/2016 #4 Gert Scholtz
    Herve - this is a stunningly beautiful poem!
    Hervé Sabattier
    16/07/2016 #2 Hervé Sabattier
    #1 Hi Chas. Thank you, it touches me. It makes me happy to know you enjoy. Thank you.
    Chas ✌️ Wyatt
    16/07/2016 #1 Chas ✌️ Wyatt
    You are a gifted writer and I really enjoy reading your poetry and prose.
  6. ProducerBrian McKenzie

    Brian McKenzie

    17/07/2016
    My Memoir Madness: Part 1
    My Memoir Madness: Part 1This started from Dr. Margaret's post and honey - find it here:Starting Line Writing Challenge: Memoir MadnessWhere she asks, 'What is your first memory?'.    I had an exceptionally shitty childhood.  I remember none of it before age 5.  Every...
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    Brian McKenzie
    28/07/2016 #5 Brian McKenzie
    #4 @Ward Bailey another Bueller! Hazza! Be sure to check out and join the motorcycle hives. Welcome to beBee. Thanks for the read.
    Ward Bailey
    28/07/2016 #4 Ward Bailey
    Brian,

    Thanks for linking this over on BadWeb. I'd never heard of this community and am enjoying the discovery what it has to offer. Be well.
    Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    20/07/2016 #3 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    #2 Can you write it out and just list it as Age 16? You don't have to go in order here. March with our Memoir Madness ~ your fan base wants more. Pure and simple. It's your Life. Anyone who can't deal with it doesn't have to. It's yours.
    Brian McKenzie
    17/07/2016 #2 Brian McKenzie
    #1 Day 1 in Boot is always shell shock.... not nearly as fun as the day they put a 16 yo in charge of the company barracks. Good times - talk about attitude adjustments - not a lot of people like taking orders from a 16 year old. Nearly all of my family did time in the military - I was well aware of the games they played - it was really just 'Camp Happy' with as Col Jessup put it - faggety white uniforms. * Marine Corps PLDC was another game entirely - they kicked my ass.
    Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    17/07/2016 #1 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    I would entitle this: Hippy Child Abuse and a Good Grandpa Escape. Brutally honest, but I would expect nothing less from you. I'm sorry for the bad, and I see what you can do. There's so much more to you. Your brain is beautiful, something that re-wired itself to survive. I'll never call you a victim, for that does not reside. You are a Warrior, once upon a time...when children were supposed to be children, your Grandpa taught you about time. He gave you food, life, history, and sustenance. And for this, you thrive. Keep writing, my friend, as it is truly real life and we cannot be spared to look through the eyes of an adult whose body was only that of a child. Break forth, as you have always done, to conquer another quest that is before you in the military. How was your first day?
  7. Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    If you have suffered Child Abuse at the hands of your "parent(s)," "step-parent(s)," or Foster "parent(s)," then I picked out this song for you.

    If Jesus can walk on the waters, and He is holding His hand out to you in your storms and lightening and thunder.....then take His hand. Trust Him. You shall walk upon the waters too, wherever He shall lead you.

    For more on this, see my blog, "Perseverance: Be that One-in-a-Million:" http://drmargaretaranda.blogspot.com.tr/2016/06/for-mental-health-healing-by-christ-song.html
    Hillsong United - Oceans Where Feet My Fail [Zion Acoustic Sessions] (Live)
    Hillsong United - Oceans Where Feet My Fail [Zion Acoustic Sessions] (Live)
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    Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    30/06/2016 #1 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    "I'm all about Solutions." ~ Dr Margaret Aranda
  8. Donald 🐝 Grandy
    Invisible Illnesses: Child Abuse
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  9. Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    There is much room to increase awareness, invoke public support, and give it your best shot! We provide the shelter overnight!
    Invisible Illnesses: Child Abuse
    Invisible Illnesses: Child Abuse
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  10. Leckey Harrison

    Leckey Harrison

    12/06/2016
    The shooting in Orlando will have lasting impacts on many people, like secondary trauma. This is why we need a trauma informed society, and better trauma solutions.
    Hurt people, hurt people. We need to heal to quit hurting people, be it with words, or weapons. It starts with us, as individuals. This is why I do what I do.
    Leckey Harrison
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    Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    23/06/2016 #4 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    #3 @Leckey Harrison, so excited you are here to help walk people through this issue. Not enough attention has been directed over here...and it affects virtually every family, at one time or another.
    Leckey Harrison
    20/06/2016 #3 Leckey Harrison
    #1 That offer sounds quite intriguing. Let me take a look at it, as I'm a newbie here. Then I will respond to your offer.
    Leckey Harrison
    20/06/2016 #2 Leckey Harrison
    #1 Ah yes, the invisible wounds. Mine is C-PTSD and it's cousin came along for the ride.
    Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    20/06/2016 #1 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    Great ideal, one that we all should have. I'm healing the hurts, too, and invite you to Co-Admin Hive ~Invisible Illnesses: Traumatology. Or, take your pick, my friend. Let's spread the love.
  11. ProducerAnees Zaidi

    Anees Zaidi

    16/06/2016
    My GrandPa's Garden and The Mating of My Own Ideas
    My GrandPa's Garden and The Mating of My Own IdeasIn this post I have done an experiment. I have tried 'mating' some of my own ideas scattered over at different places. My readers would judge how best I could do that....
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    Anees Zaidi
    01/07/2016 #43 Anees Zaidi
    Dear @debasish majumder your mind is so beautiful. 'A Rose is a good deal The blushing apology for its thorns'. To access to beauty and to reach to truth any obstacle however hard and thorny is worth crossing. Thanks for your fabulous comment.
    Anees Zaidi
    01/07/2016 #41 Anees Zaidi
    #40 I agree with you @Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD Did you did you my today's post My Grandpa's Garden and the Story of Dried Rose Petals? I had marked you. I am sure you will enjoy it.
    Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    01/07/2016 #40 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    #39 You are so right. Perhaps the pressures of money, a job, paying bills, and living in the "rat race" isn't so good after age 50. That was the 'old' retirement age in the USA in the 70's. Now, retirement is at age 65. But lots of Baby Boomers are still switching professions at 50 years of age, and perhaps that is a measure that people don't really want to lose their 'childhood.' It's just fun to be child-like...after seeing so many people die, I just feel so free to really "live" the way God is leading me. It's all good!
    Anees Zaidi
    01/07/2016 #39 Anees Zaidi
    #37 Dear @Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD 'desire to never grow up' is highly appealing. But your desire to have babies and toddlers around you, and your love to write Children's books speaks of child sitting inside you. We grow up physically but we always carry a child inside us. And this 'child' sitting inside us shows up more often when we reach to our ripe age. Isn't it?
    Anees Zaidi
    01/07/2016 #38 Anees Zaidi
    #34 Dear @Mohamed Amroussi yours is a powerful statement - childhood 'have to be well understood and nurtured'. Sometime we keep nurturing childhood to the best of our ability but we don't 'understand' it or we 'misunderstand' it that leads to unfulfilled expectations. Thanks for your time to read and comment upon the post.
    Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    01/07/2016 #37 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    #34 I think that having children of your own keeps you swinging on the swing set at the park....and watching nothing but "G"- rated movies with imagination and color. So, after having my son when I was 19, and then having my daughter when I was 42....I quite think that I decided that I'm 'never' going to grow up. I still want babies and toddlers around me, and love to write Children's books (more are in my head than on a shelf, lol). Here's to eternal childhood!
    Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    01/07/2016 #36 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    #32 @Anees Zaidi: I So Much Agree! Let's name it "@Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee's Love Buzz Festival." How does that sound? ❣️
    Mohamed Amroussi
    01/07/2016 #35 Mohamed Amroussi
    Thank you Bro Anees for sharing about your Childhood
    Mohamed Amroussi
    01/07/2016 #34 Mohamed Amroussi
    All the milestones of the life are interrelated and serve each others without saying that , Childhood , Adulthood . Childhood is the preparation for all the next stages , Childhood is very important and have to be well understood and nurtured.
    Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador
    01/07/2016 #33 Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador
    #30 Yes, and reminds me of when in receipt of one rose or a dozen, and drying the petals and in order to preserve the joyful memories.
    Anees Zaidi
    30/06/2016 #32 Anees Zaidi
    #29 @Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD that will be great. I am sure @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee ' s buzz "I Love you; what does it mean? and it's triggered buzzes will make a record.
    Anees Zaidi
    30/06/2016 #31 Anees Zaidi
    #28 Dear @Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD I look forward to read it soonest. I am sure @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee will be equally excited.
    Anees Zaidi
    30/06/2016 #30 Anees Zaidi
    #27 Hi @Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador thanks liked the buzz. It is amazing that when after a period if time we again see dry petals in our books we feel like getting a renewed life. All memories linked to those dry petals makes us dancing with joy.
    Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    30/06/2016 #29 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    #27 @Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador: Indeed....and when the soul is troubled and there is no one around but a bridge over troubled waters, that is where the doctor is sought. Do doctors, medications, and music all heal in the same ways? I shall write on this due to the spurring on, so gently done by lovely @Anees Zaidi. This all is part of a huge chain of Buzzes on "Love" and "I Love You: What does it Mean?" that @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee has so rightfully incited in the BeeHives!
    Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    30/06/2016 #28 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    #26 @Anees Zaidi: With the inspiration you have given me to look at my poetic side of writing, I shall make a meager attempt to incorporate these ideas together with all the issues facing a medical doctor. WoW ~ I truly thank you for your encouragement....thank you. I shall write, and dedicate it to you and @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee for starting this great wheel of love.
    Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador
    30/06/2016 #27 Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador
    Thank you @Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD for linking me in your comment. Otherwise, I would have not seen this amazing buzz by @Anees Zaidi. Yes, music soothes the soul and rose petals in between the pages will keep our ideas dancing with happiness.
    Anees Zaidi
    30/06/2016 #26 Anees Zaidi
    #25 Excellent observation @Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD. Music = Medicine. I would love to read a buzz from you on this. I know you would write it most beautifully.
    Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    30/06/2016 #25 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    #24 @Anees Zaidi: Yes, and I still love the music from the 60's and 70's. A pariticular song takes me back to "exactly where I was" when I heard a fantastic song with fantastic visual pictures, too. Good memories and reminiscences are treatments for Alzheimer's disease and dementia. The brain secretes "happy" hormones, exactly like a drug. That is why music is soothing to the soul. Just pick the right songs for you. What do you think, @Rebel Brown, @Sara Jacobovici, @Brian McKenzie, @Selim Yeniçeri, @Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador, @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee? Music = Medicine.
    Anees Zaidi
    27/06/2016 #24 Anees Zaidi
    #22 Dear @Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD thank you for your thoughtful comment. I also feel happy to be raised in 60s and 70s when our values and priorities were different. Going to grandparents house over the weekend was permanent routine for us. We were more close to the nature and its splendid beauty. We used to live shared life. Now we see sharing only in virtual world.
    Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    27/06/2016 #23 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    #18 @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee: Yes, and thank you for spurring us on!
  12. ProducerDr. Allen Brown

    Dr. Allen Brown

    21/06/2016
    Greatest Show On Earth
    Greatest Show On EarthFor investors who have and an out of the box mindset you may want to take a look at Flash Back Academy. If your money has gotten you to a place where it has now become important to be concerned about how people will remember you. It might be a good...
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    Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    22/06/2016 #1 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    Absolutely!!!
  13. ProducerRebel Brown

    Rebel Brown

    19/06/2016
    Not Your Usual Lessons From My Father
    Not Your Usual Lessons From My FatherMy father taught me a lot about life. Certainly more than I needed to know as a child, more than any of us need to know. Yet for the first 48 years of my life, I didn't even know those lessons existed.My father was an abuser. So was his mother, my...
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    Rebel Brown
    27/06/2016 #39 Rebel Brown
    #38 Hi @Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD I dont believe in self competition. Its a program from society that does little for us thats positive and sets us up to create more limiting programs about ourselves and our worth. We dont need to prove anything or compete for anything. We are perfect just the way we are. I focus on being kind to myself, honoring myself and building myself up. Which leads to more positive programming and better results. Just sayin...
    Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    27/06/2016 #38 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    #37 @Rebel Brown: and isn't that it's own kind of self-competition...to take on the challenge! That's what we both do!
    Rebel Brown
    23/06/2016 #37 Rebel Brown
    #36 @Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD Thanks for all your support sistah. What doesn't kill us makes us stronger. And that's a choice. We can choose to give up, turn our face to the darkness and fall. Or we can stand up, dust off, face the light and step into our freedom. I simply chose the light. Blessings Margaret.
    Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    23/06/2016 #36 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    #19 You got it, Girl! We can ROAARR for the next woman, and the future generations! @Rebel Brown is a shining role model, and we need this so immensely in Women's Mental Health, which in turn affects Women's Health in general! It's a domino effect we all are inspired to keep every day, thanks to wonderful and powerful people like Rebel and her 'instant' message!
    Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    23/06/2016 #35 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    #26 You Go, Woman! You are an awesome role model and must be 'quick to the chase' with your fantastic gift of touching souls! You are a healer now, a physician. God Bless You!
    Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    23/06/2016 #34 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    #33 Amen to that! Children are a blessing and anyone abusing a child will face their Maker and receive Judgement. I do pray that abusers pray for forgiveness from their own children as they are adults...of course, this provides great healing for both. And if we forgive all who have hurt us, or all that hate us, we allow our bitterness to leave our hearts as we give up the negative! So stay positive, turn negative into the molded claypot of spiritual gifts, and gain strength in KNOWing that you shall, in return, be able to help the rest of the world like no one else!
    Mohammed A. Jawad
    22/06/2016 #33 Mohammed A. Jawad
    Ugh...deviant attitude breeds dry, rude culture. Oftentimes, history repeats and people instead of correcting themselves spew their spoils on others, become arrogant and bereft of compassion. In such times, the essential and sublime solution is the right guidance that comes as a shimmering pathway. When people embrace it with upright faith and cancel spots of all vain hopelessness, there comes solace, pulsating confidence and urge to learn good precepts for bettering lives.
    Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    22/06/2016 #32 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    #30 I'm all about being a rebel, and motivating others, especially young teen girls, to be a rebel for a good cause. Great point, great Hive, great rebel you are...and a fine and outstanding RebelExample, too! We shall empower women to BE themselves! For inside each one of us is a rebel just waiting to be freed.
    Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    22/06/2016 #31 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    What strength you have grasped, in the right 'timing' of life. I know that you know that you wouldn't be who you are if it weren't for the horrid experiences you underwent as an innocent child. But I love the inner strength you found, and the final resolution to make the damn best of things and get your life back, for yourself. For now, I cannot imagine beBee without you. You left an indelible mark in this post, one that speaks to millions of adults who suffered horrific abuse at the hands of one or both parents, even if the 'silent' parent was aware but did nothing. You ARE whole! You ARE a fine role model, and you are a lioness with great magic to rightfully rule her own kingdom. RROOOAARRR!
    Rebel Brown
    22/06/2016 #30 Rebel Brown
    #29 Well said @CityVP 🐝 Manjit "How can we get to any kind of restorative justice if condemnation is what is in our hearts?" That's my sentiment exactly when it comes to the state of the US and our political free for all this year. What are we thinking? Rage and anger, condemnation and profiling are not the paths to freedom. Nor is hiding the truth of our lives and our world from others ... the former destroys nations and the latter destroys ourselves. It's funny. I never even thought of staying quiet when I have information and understanding to share with others. Yet so many of my friends couldn't understand why I would ever share my story or my healing. We are programmed to be so limited ... but I'm a rebel so I don't go there:) Thanks for taking your time to share!
    CityVP 🐝 Manjit
    21/06/2016 #29 CityVP 🐝 Manjit
    #25 When people watch pain the best they will get to is to become an expert in pain. I want to observe those people who can make the human spirit live again who I know can do this for others because they have achieved doing this for themselves first. There are far less in the world who recognize this form of dignity and you are one of them. How can we get to any kind of restorative justice if condemnation is what is in our hearts? Look at all the opposites of the word "condemn" - absolve, build up, release and most of all set free. When we condemn we surrender the opposite and that is what we then really lose when pain gives birth to pain. Your account is wisest in the transformations you have experienced.
    Rebel Brown
    21/06/2016 #28 Rebel Brown
    #23 I need to go find that @Don 🐝 Kerr !!! THANKS for the honor.....
    Rebel Brown
    21/06/2016 #27 Rebel Brown
    #22 Ms @Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD We both have our journeys, eh? And I believe we all have a choice. We can choose to face forward and find the light, no matter what it takes. or we can choose to lose our lives in the darkness. Im not about to give in to the dark... so here I am. In the light:) Blessing this Universe for the powerful journey and lessons along the way:) Blessings to you:)
    Rebel Brown
    21/06/2016 #26 Rebel Brown
    #21 @Pamela 🐝 Williams I've worked with a number of abused women and traumatized kids now. I find that the biggest challenge they have is the outright terror that rules their unconscious mind. The symptoms come out in isolation and discomfort in public, panic attacks at meeting new people and more. But the core seems to be the integration of a "panic button" into our "selves" that is so inherently part of us, we think its NORMAL. Once I learned how to release the fear and angst, the guilt and hurt..... I moved beyond it all. So do my clients. It's the best work I've ever done. I literally change a life in 2 hours or less. WHAT A BLESSING and I'm so honored to have been directed to this path in my life. BLESSINGS PAmela and thanks as always for your oh so powerful words.
    Rebel Brown
    21/06/2016 #25 Rebel Brown
    #20 @CityVP 🐝 Manjit Wow... you captured the feelings and intent in my heart SO well. Many people can't understand why I feel sorry for my father now. Yes, he did horrible things to me for over 10 years. He also had horrible things done to him as a child. And he had no means to step beyond those horrors. No where to turn. I'm blessed because I had the freedom and lived in a world where I could find my answers - from around the world. It's funny, as I recovered all the memories, I had the opportunity to literally feel my little girl transform from hopeful to powerless, from eager to afraid, from joyous to oh so sad. When I went back and looked at my photos, you SEE the change in my eyes and my smile, or lack thereof. The sparkle dies. And yes, that powerlessness overwhelmed me thanks to my imprinting it with the use of EMDR. But I found my way out... and as I was crawling out of the black pit - I knew one thing. What happened to me happened for a reason. And that reason is to share the horrors AND the healing with anyone and everyone who needs it. because I did find my answers, and today, I am Thriving on the Other Side. I am blessed.
    Rebel Brown
    21/06/2016 #24 Rebel Brown
    #19 Thanks Ms @Catalina "Cat" Gálvez Urrutia Simply Beeing me:) Thats all I know how to do and these days I'm just fine with that:) YES!
    Don 🐝 Kerr
    21/06/2016 #23 Don 🐝 Kerr
    Thanks for this @Rebel Brown You inspired my most recent post to beBee.
    Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    21/06/2016 #22 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    #21 Absolutely agree that we need to Validate and Encourage transparency, because our stories, however embarrassing or not, WILL Inspire Others! +@Rebel Brown's story is amazing and even more remarkable is the Inspiration, the #WHATISTHEPOSITIVE that she gleaned from it for the rest of her life! What a role model! Amen and thanks be to God that you're here for us, Rebel! We need you!
    Pamela 🐝 Williams
    21/06/2016 #21 Pamela 🐝 Williams
    Eloquent is the word that comes to mind to describe your comment @CityVP 🐝 Manjit. Rebel's post temporarily stupefied me. It's hard to share revelations such as this because one of the most difficult wounds to heal is the embarrassment. One of my closest friends is a clinical psychologist and we've discussed young life trauma several times. In his many years of caring for abused children he found that the feelings of isolation resulting from having a 'not normal' family was the most difficult hurdle to cross. They didn't want others to know of the façade, I'm truly amazed by Rebel's strength. She is the ultimate example of a Breakout Woman. #20
    CityVP 🐝 Manjit
    20/06/2016 #20 CityVP 🐝 Manjit
    Even though I have no experience of this, as the years roll on I listen to these accounts and while they still shock me, I see that this is not just an isolated experience, that there is a Pandora's Box of issues that people have carried, and while I am not advocating opening that Pandora's Box, when it does open, it requires a human being that can control the forces that then emerge from these dark stories - and I see a great and awesome strength in Rebel Brown - a strength that has been forged by choosing to acknowledge the pain, but in ways that strengthen not only Rebel but giving a sense of how to emerge from brokenness and to begin leading a life redrawn with new meaning, and values that transcend the darkness that would otherwise suffocate a life.

    For those who like me who have never had to endure any of this, it is a powerful reminder of the realities that people endure and then Rebel Brown becomes a reference point for those who have also endured this. Ultimately the line with the greatest power is where Rebel says "He never got the chance to find his power, to free himself from her evilness. He never had a chance" Such a statement is not simply a form of great courage, it is a statement of intelligence - in a world that needs lots of that intelligence, because the alternative is not a good place to be. When we talk about freedom, we really underestimate freedom, what Rebel has described here is a story of freedom - of mind, of spirit and of body. I honour her story here and respect greatly her intelligence.
  14. Leckey Harrison

    Leckey Harrison

    05/06/2016
    Trauma --- traumatic stress --- PTSD. The list is not extensive. It isn't expicit about adverse childhood experiences. June is PTSD Awareness month. There is a cure. Leckey Harrison
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    Leckey Harrison
    04/07/2016 #18 Leckey Harrison
    #17 I think one thing we've seen over time is that those who were violent and are in prison, had "hurt" at the foundation of their lives. James Gilligan wrote a book about it several years ago. The obvious presence of developmental trauma is clear: hurt people, hurt people. It doesn't mean all hurt people will, but just as clearly, sane healthy people don't. I think also we might see that even in icons, like Dr. Martin Luther King, that there were behaviors one would consider less than optimal. President Bill Clinton comes to mind. What prompts a man to commit adultery (a relative moral label), and then, to lie about it? If he was healthy in his relationships, would he have done that? If he were responsible, would he have owned it instead? Nothing is absolute, including the idea that hurt people, hurt people. When we look closely though, in my experience, it either happens via psychological hurt, and at the very least, self-hurt.
    Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    04/07/2016 #17 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    #11 I wonder who has studied the kids of abusive/alcoholic parents who haven't carried on the bad behavior. For another time, but aren't we all so glad to know that love can still conquer all? @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher View more
    #11 I wonder who has studied the kids of abusive/alcoholic parents who haven't carried on the bad behavior. For another time, but aren't we all so glad to know that love can still conquer all? @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher, @Rebel Brown, @Leckey Harrison, @Gerald Hecht @Dr. Allen Brown. Those who end up being loving, caring parents are definitely to be commended. ☺️ Close
    Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    04/07/2016 #16 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    #11 Not to pound it in, but here's an interesting animal study over 33 years of observation in 5 large families. Regarding infant abuse recurring over the generations: "Conclusions: This study provides the first evidence of genealogical effects on infant abuse in nonhuman primates. Several characteristics of infant abuse in socially living macaques suggest that this phenomenon could represent a good animal model for studying the etiology of child abuse and neglect." Reference: http://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0145213497000069
    Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    04/07/2016 #15 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    #11 I did it again. Reference on comment below, #14 on the right side: http://ije.oxfordjournals.org/content/31/3/560.short
    Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    04/07/2016 #14 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    #11 Study results of almost 7,000 Indian men who, in childhood, had witnessed their father abusing their mother: "Conclusions These findings from northern India are congruent with those from other geographical/cultural settings in suggesting that witnessing violence between one's parents while growing up is an important risk factor for the perpetration of partner violence in adulthood." @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher, @Rebel Brown, @Leckey Harrison, @Gerald Hecht, @Sara Jacobovici...
    Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    04/07/2016 #13 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    #11 Oopsies. Reference on my #11 comment: http://www.jsad.com/doi/abs/10.15288/jsa.2003.64.472
    Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    04/07/2016 #12 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    #11 Definitely worthy of a Buzz. Here's a 3-generational study of sons of alcoholics: "Results indicate continuity of aggression across three generations and also indicate that the child's pathway into risk for later Alcohol Use Disorder (AUD) is not simply mediated by parental alcoholism, but is carried by other comorbid aspects of family functioning, in particular aggression. /☝️ The patient population here may be most important in picking 'the right man." ☝️ i.e., 'don't have kids' with an alcoholic man, esp if his parents were alcoholics. And grandparents, especially. @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher, @Rebel Brown , @Leckey Harrison, @Gerald Hecht, @Sara Jacobovici...hmm.
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    30/06/2016 #11 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #6 @Rebel Brown, I have to agree with you that not all abused people grow up to be abusers. My mother was horribly abused yet she never abused us. She guided us with love. I honestly believe she got through life fantasizing about the life she would have once she got away from her parents. I believe she put her fantasies into action and we were very blessed to have had such a beautiful soul as a mother. I'm not sure what leads an abused person to abuse others but in many cases they don't repeat their own history. I have no stats so I don't discredit that this is a problem with abusers as well. I agree with not putting everyone into one category. This is a great topic and should be discussed. Thank you for tagging me too @Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    30/06/2016 #10 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    #4 @Sara Jacobovici: Absolutely agree that awareness is key. I have seen so many patients with this "generational" family abuse pattern...and the devastation inflicted on abandoned children as young as 15 yrs of age (have discussed with @Selim Yeniçeri, @Dr. Allen Brown, @Brian McKenzie, and more). I see the devastation, and have been both a battered wife and the wife of an alcoholic. So I've lived it, too. Please feel free to join my Hive: named "Invisible Illnesses: Child Abuse:" ( https://www.bebee.com/group/invisible-illnesses-child-abuse ). Also extending this Hive invite to @Rebel Brown, @Mamen 🐝 Delgado, @Deb 🐝 Helfrich, @Catalina "Cat" Gálvez Urrutia, @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee, @CityVP 🐝 Manjit, @Leckey Harrison, and opened up to all. @Gerald Hecht, @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher, @Kirstie-Sweetie Louise, too.
    Rebel Brown
    30/06/2016 #9 Rebel Brown
    @Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD Hey sistah. I havent been commenting here much because I have fundamentally different perspectives from most of the comments here, based on both my experience and my coaching clients, many of whom come to me to release the trauma of PTSD and move on with their lives, quickly and effectively.. They aren't abusers, I'm not an abuser and so assuming that the abused are the source of abuse is much too broad a generalization for me to comfortably accept. I know too many people who were never abused that are some of the nastiest abusers ever. Especially i today's world where the masses are being constantly programmed toward fear which then breeds anger and violence. But I wanted to thank you for tagging me.
    Rebel Brown
    30/06/2016 #8 Rebel Brown
    #7 I believe that generalizations are dangerous in their intent and result @Leckey, and that insanity and rage are often undetectable. Its certainly not only abused people that hurt other people. So saying all abused people hurt people is unfair in my world. But thats the beauty of our lives - we all get to have our opinions. Blessings...
    Leckey Harrison
    27/06/2016 #7 Leckey Harrison
    #6 It's not that it's a guarantee, Rebel. It is fairly common though. Hurt people, hurt people doesn't mean that it HAS to happen, but that healthy sane people don't hurt people.
    Rebel Brown
    27/06/2016 #6 Rebel Brown
    Well, as an horribly abused child (my therapists told me to call it what it was, torture), I'd like to point out that I've never abused anyone and have the opposite response to many of the assumptions here. I've worked with a number of abused women and men. None of them were abusers either. In fact, every one of them became exactly the opposite type of person. Loving, caring,going out of the way to be different than their abusers. As with all things, I suggest to clients that they not apply broad brush applications to people about anything. We are ALL unique in our mind programming, and we all deserve to be given the respect of a positive perception until proven otherwise. Negative generalized assumptions be gone.
    Leckey Harrison
    27/06/2016 #5 Leckey Harrison
    #1 Hurt people, hurt people. The cycle continues. An activated sympathetic system becomes the norm, and the emotions associated with it.
    Sara Jacobovici
    27/06/2016 #4 Sara Jacobovici
    #3 Thank you @Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD for bringing my attention to this update and its message as well as your comment. I will compact the complexity of the topic at hand into one word that is appropriate to the posting of: awareness. Imperative that we as a community are aware of the fact that traumatic events do take place and will impact on individuals as well as the community. That the impact can vary and to be aware of the signs and means to address those signs. Important that we use information and learning to treat each individual and individual situation with educated awareness and not preconceived ideas of what will happen, just what the potential of what may happen is and to ensure the support necessary for a positive outcome.
    Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    27/06/2016 #3 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    @Sara Jacobovici, @Leckey Harrison, @Rebel Brown, @Randy Keho, @Mamen 🐝 Delgado: In the continuum of the child who underwent child abuse, let us consider: (1) Phase I: The (abused) adult who underwent intervention(s) to mitigate their own precious salvation; (2) Phase 2: The newborn babies of the abused parent, who has no idea what is ahead of her/him after looking into their newborn's eyes with true Love; (3) Phase 3: The parent's potential capacity (and statistical likelihood) of inflicting mental, physical, and emotional harm onto their baby as (s)he grows; (4) Phase 4: Transformation to consider all human actions to be either (A) Love or (B) a call for Love. (5) Phase 5: Forgiveness. Please help me forward to other interested parties I miss here: @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee, @debasish majumder, @Mohammed A. Jawad, @Mohamed S, @Daniel, ..... thank you.
    Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    20/06/2016 #1 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    Also note and wish that child abuse was specifically mentioned, but would you agree: child abuse leads to the next generation of child abuse, etc....and perhaps it is these abused children that grow up to be abusive husbands and wives, with the mental issues becoming more dominant if not addressed at the time, i.e., in childhood, youth, or teenage years. Increased awareness for Teens & Youth may be a good strategy working towards a solution? Would love your insight.