- Producer03/08/2017"This life has truly been a win." Catherine's last post.Very early on the morning of July 29, 2017 my friend Catherine wrote her last post. Later that day she was gone. Taken so goddamned early. Kate and I met Catherine and her incredible husband Szolt early in our joint travels through the raging...
Comments04/08/2017 #32 David B. GrinbergWhat a moving post, Don. I'm very sorry for the loss of your friend, who sounds like she was a wonderful and courageous person who looked on the bright side. One thing about death is that is should make us all appreciate life a bit more and the importance of being kind and courteous to others -- as we don't always know what they may be experiencing in private.03/08/2017 #15 Ian WeinbergWe can theorize it, philosophize it, rationalize it, do anything to numb it down. But death, especially the death of a young soul is a loss. And so we grieve, which is our lot. No point in making sense out of it at this time. We celebrate their lives, our lives, all lives and carry on. Thanks for the sharing and the inspiring reminder @Don 🐝 Kerr
Comments15/01/2017 #2 Bill Stankiewicz, 🐝 Brand AmbassadorVielen Dank Javier! Sie und Juan sind große Bienen und ich liebe die Affinity-Anwendung. Halten Sie sich die herausragenden Bemühungen, ich bin hier ti helfen Ihnen in irgendeiner Weise hier in Savannah, Georgia oder überall hier in den USA! Viele Grüße, Bill Stankiewicz
WOW, you are everywhere Javier! Many Thanks Javier! You and Juan are great bees & I love the Affinity Application. Keep up the outstanding efforts, I am here ti help you in any way here in Savannah, Georgia or anywhere here in the USA! Best regards, Bill Stankiewicz
- Producer31/08/2016What is a Horticulturist? What does a Horticulturist actually do? It seems that I maybe the only Horticulturist on beBee at the moment! so to give some bees a better understanding of what a Horticulturist is and does (unless some already know!) I have put this article together; which I have tried to keep...
Comments31/08/2016 #12 Jim 🐝 Cody@Andrew Porter A Good interesting read about your field of work. I'm always amazed about plants and their history. Having lived in California for many years and seeing the great sequoia is truly amazing. The giant sequoia is among the tallest, widest and longest-lived of all organisms on Earth.31/08/2016 #7 Kevin PashukAhhh. @Andrew Porter. I always thought it as "horrible culture" since I seemed to get all the weed pulling chores added to my list. Having said that, my wife has created a wonderful space using plants that provide beautiful swatches of colours all season long. A very necessary vocation in this busy world of ours.31/08/2016 #2 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD#1 Excellent article, and I love all the biology! In So. California (Los Angeles) - we grew up in a drought (no brushing your teeth with the water on!) - and all of a sudden they passed a new law that no one can sprinkle lawns with water more than 2-3 times a week, and of course never from 10am-2pm (Oh! and no washing cars in your driveway!). So many people are buying succulent cactus and spreading it all over their landscape. They hold water, serving as 'double-duty
to help retard fires during the hot Santa Ana winds. But all of a sudden when that new law passed, everyone was agasht to let their lawns saunter into a slow, dehydrated death. Totally changed how things are landscaped. - and just one note that I love about gardens: you can buy ladybugs in a paper cup at the local nursery (my Fav shopping place) so they eat all the aphids destroying the roses! Great article - keep writing more! Can you tell us about hydrangeas? I find them most difficult (and loving your Pic here, it is fantastic)!31/08/2016 #1 Robert CormackMy mother was a horticulturalist, Andrew, and you've explained what they do very well. I learned a lot about plants. What I didn't learn was how not to be forgetful. My surviving plants all live with the knowledge that I'm forgetful (funnily enough, they've all be alive over fifteen years. We should take a lesson from plants, Andrew. They're far more forgiving than us—and they live longer (in plant years).
- Producer29/08/2016We've All Got One, So What's Yours?Nothing's more interesting than hearing a good story, unless, of course, it's a great or even fantastic story! #thedailychalkboard encourages you to think about yours today. Have a great week....
- Producer18/04/2016"You come Happiness comes ; You go Happiness goes" I don't know if this is my Aha moment yet. But, what happened today drove me to write this post before going to bed. A friend of mine this evening told me, that I bring happiness when we meet. Has anyone said that to you ? (if they did - Awesome).I...
Comments29/08/2016 #48 Steve Brady#24 Thank you for your reply, Fatima...especially the blessing at the end: "Have an awesome life filled with Happiness Steve :)" That means so much to me in my current circumstances. It's a wonderful thing to write words that your readers need at the time. You're a blessing, Fatima.29/08/2016 #46 🐝 Fatima G. Williams#45 It's sure does sharing the best part the chorus for those who haven't heard this one by Pharrel Williams
" Clap along if you feel like a room without a roof
Because I'm happy
Clap along if you feel like happiness is the truth
Because I'm happy
Clap along if you know what happiness is to you
Because I'm happy
Clap along if you feel like that's what you wanna do"
Clap along if you feel you find happiness on beBee
Because I'm Happy28/08/2016 #41 CityVP 🐝 Manjit#40 Dear Fatima, where else does happiness start or end other than within ourselves. It is we who have made it a thing by trying to make it a having rather than a being. One day my mother will pass from this world and it will not be a happy day and on that day the gift of sadness will be more accessible than the gift of happiness. That I can access that within me means that it can either be a blessing (a gift) or a curse (a theft). Happiness as a curse is not at all the same thing as happiness as a blessing. Happiness is not a simple off and on switch and it is nothing without sadness, it is a flow that emerges from within, which is what makes the pursuit of happiness an endless chase of vanity. The greatest vanity of all is to explain happiness when we are happy. If we need to go look for happiness in other things or people, all we will find there are the symbols and expressions of their vanity, and not our bliss. Take the Woodkids remix [Unhappy Version) of Pharrel Williams song Happy https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AyBFx18E6O4 - whatever you feel, whatever it triggers, how it effects you begins with what it evokes in you. This is what Socrates meant by "Know Thyself" - so why use my language or experiences of happiness - when they are within you and yours to discover? This means your question is a rhetorical question, which means you already know the answer, but are you ready for the practice, a practice that is yours to discover.27/08/2016 #37 CityVP 🐝 ManjitIf I get asked if happiness is important to me, this is like asking me "which of your children do you love?", but I reply "I love all my emotions" and unless I can love all of them, how can one of them be more important? It is when we hate some or most of our emotions that we are most likely to be in a search for happiness but searching for happiness is like getting on a rocket ship and head out into the distant Universe so that we can find Earth.27/08/2016 #35 Deb 🐝 HelfrichI also love it when someone says something unexpected that opens a vista to a new insight. From our 2-D interactions, I have to concur that you do bring happiness, @🐝 Fatima G. Williams and this is a super-power! Go forth and radiate happiness with your ability to ignite the smiles of everyone you interact with.27/08/2016 #27 🐝 Fatima G. Williams#23 Wow @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher some of my friends @HCL also send me messages saying the same thing. They always wondered what made me so lively and thought that I had no problems to deal with ( Believe me I had many) , but what they failed to realize is the value the power and potential of happiness , what it could do to us in helping us in our lives. With all the sadness happening in the world, the only thing that can keep us going, is spreading happiness. Stay Happy always Hugs 🤗🤗27/08/2016 #25 🐝 Fatima G. Williams#22 Thank you @Jim 🐝 Cody . Happiness also comes through people who are genuine and kind like yourself. Stay Happy always :) I love what you said in your profile about " Life is too short. Hug often and tell your family and loved ones you love them " This is the pathway or ingredients to cooking Happiness in our lives.
Talking about Hugs when I left my last job , I hugged one of the house keeping ladies ( Name:Dalanamayendi) to say goodbye to her , thanked her for doing her job which she mostly cribbed about ( LoL ) and I always took up her issues with the admin team ( to make her happy), to show her that she needed to express her work feelings to her seniors to be helped. When I hugged her in her uniform the Happiness in her face was unfathomable and at that minute I realized - the power of a hug. So Happiness and hugs go well together :)27/08/2016 #24 🐝 Fatima G. Williams#21 Thank you @Steve Brady for your delightful comment. Yes we should wake up this awareness and get everyone on their feet. Life is too short to not appreciate the time,people and things with us and around us. They are not going to be there always.
" So make happiness while the life in you shines " ( tweaked an original proverb)
Have an awesome life filled with Happiness Steve :)
- 29/06/2016Well, I've had 2 Traumatic Brain Injuries (TBI), each with diabetes insipidus (DI) & you gotta get the best out of a bad situation. I did it with God's help, and visited the door to Heaven in a Near-Death Experience (NDE). I was in the hospital, unable to walk or talk....but I just started to write.
Comments10/07/2016 #3 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD#2 @Mohammed A. Jawad: you are absolutely right. Just like the gorilla who is holding his hand up to a butterfly just cleaning his ears while resting on that gigantic hand, everything takes on new meaning. Truth becomes more true, and lies become more nonsense. Outlook is 'micro,' but it's no longer 'soft.' It sees things for what they are. And that is a good thing. More room for the positive!
- 26/06/2016The Heartwarming Story of the Unfolding of a Rigid Man (Out-Thinking Parkinson's)
The loving kindness that Deb offered Gary not only began to mend his broken heart, but also ignited his desire to change and to seek a new life. She inspired him to write like he’d never written before. The subject of Change became the main theme of his essays and, through his writing, he began to allegorically reflect, in a very public way, the transformation he was himself undergoing with Deb in private.
The articles written by Gary, as inspired by Deb’s love, during that time are recreated here in the order they were written, but annotated to reveal, for the first time, the unfolding True Love story which was being played out in the background. The backbone of the book is therefore the tale of how, with love, Deb inspired Gary to start living again and begin a profound journey of healing.
As for the essays themselves, each contains the unique insights of a person who had lost all hope but was being given a second chance. These parables, on the common theme of change, reveal his search for a healthier, happier, and more fulfilled life. The book is therefore not only for anybody interested in the subjects of Change & Growth, whether in personal life, business or society, but also for anyone who celebrates true love as the most powerful healing force in the world.
Comments29/06/2016 #13 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD#11 #9 So I did it, @Leckey Harrison and @Deb 🐝 Helfrich...couldn't help it any more. I started: My Hive ~ "Stirring Authors Along" here: https://www.bebee.com/group/dr-margaret-aranda-stirring-authors-along29/06/2016 #8 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD#2 Book Reviews for us Authors can be written here: Amazon, Goodreads, My Blog & Your Blog (we each do one for the other). @Gary Sharpe, @Deb 🐝 Helfrich, @Leckey Harrison, @Sara Jacobovici, @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher, @debasish majumder, @Dr. Allen Brown, @Jim 🐝 Cody, @Catalina "Cat" Gálvez Urrutia, @Donald 🐝 Grandy, @Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador, @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee. If you are listed here, I think you need to write a book. 🌻 ✍🏽 🌻.
- Producer26/06/2016The Love of Something10CC is the first band whose records I purchased back in the day when cassettes were the primary form of bootleg and they wrote what I still consider to be one of the finest love songs in "I'm not in Love" - because it continues to say something...
Comments29/06/2016 #16 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD#12 And isn't "to be present" "a present" in itself? It exists as a gift that is opened, has substance, and a use. It is as a movie that never ends. As you so rightfully stated, "it is a constant navigation of what is most valuable about life." Enticing.26/06/2016 #11 Randy Keho"Love is but a song we sing ... If you hear the song I sing, you will understand, listen. You hold the key to love and fear, all in your trembling hands. Just one key unlocks them both. It's here at your command," sentiments from the "Summer of Love," from "The Youngbloods. "Come on, people now. Smile on your brother. Everybody get together , try to love one another right now." I think we need a remake, right now.26/06/2016 #10 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD#9 @CityVP 🐝 Manjit, it is all about love. Exactly. Just a blend of serenity, and an absolute epiphany... Few people really, truly see it until laying on their deathbeds in a hospital: "Where is my son? I want to see him before I die." And the patient mingles on for the two-day stretch. As soon as the son arrives, "completeness" is .... so.... pervasive that it fills the room. One immediately feels that it is a sacred time, not for the sharing of outsiders. Then, I go home and hug my son.26/06/2016 #9 Sara Jacobovici"...it is the fundamental nature that runs through all living things that are conscious enough to know that they are indeed living and in that, this is the best way I know of saying to all those conscious enough to see this, I love you." No words to express the gratitude for this statement @CityVP 🐝 Manjit and that specifically reflects the nature of love; we express it predominately in a non-verbal way and when we attempt to put it into words we produce art like your statement. Then we have the picture of your 2nd grandson Roshan - no words - but if you could only see my face......26/06/2016 #2 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#1 You kindle fires, but who shall extinguish them? Your comments fired great discussions dear @CityVP 🐝 Manjit. I am going to read the link and will comment again. Dear @Anees Zaidi and dear @Mohamed Amroussi- your input shall be most welcome here as well.26/06/2016 #1 CityVP 🐝 ManjitDear @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee I thought hard about capturing my thoughts about the different types of love but I can't publish love, I can only discover it every single minute of the day, and in your buzz I LOVE YOU? What does it mean? Every comment in that buzz here in this link https://www.bebee.com/content/626207/611145 is sufficient to keep us busy for the entire life to put into practice that which flows in our mind - so it is I will maintain LOVE as the Open Book that it is and will always be.
- Producer22/06/2016My WayI actually think that following is a chronic way of living that simply leads me to making a living, and making a living is not sufficient for me. The alternative to following is observing and observation is not an emulation or an imitation, it sits...
Comments29/06/2016 #27 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD#26 Awwweeee! My father had 6 girls, and just like you, he made me feel like I was his "only daughter." I grew up thinking that all men were like him, but learned the hard way that they're not. But I know I have arrived at that "Take No Shit from Anyone" destination that women don't all know about...and for that, I am blessed. MAN! You pierce me with a stunning laser beam of such pride and love for your daughters....I wish this upon all of our daughters. I just want to cry.29/06/2016 #26 CityVP 🐝 Manjit#25 It is more important that Ann Hawkins was there for me, in the four years I worked with her, they are treasured years. This Friday, my third daughter gets married. All three will now have wedding anniversaries in the last week of June, with the latest getting married on 1st July. Ultimately that they are succeeding in life and take absolutely no shit from anyone is something I am proud of. In their respective cases I value my family's privacy and within that privacy the best decision I made was to focus on family rather than work. I worked with Ann between 1984 and 1988. My daughters were born between 1987 and 1991. They are human beings, that is what matters to me. As father-of-the-bride this Friday, I have watched my third daughter take full control of her wedding, if anything I more like Steve Martin - watching them lead, but without Steve Martin's tantrum. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oYIHLUxzRr829/06/2016 #25 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD#24 "Laser Backup. How wonderful that you were there to provide "Laser Backup" for Ann Hawkins, with pure support and the strength that a woman derives from a man that empowers her. It is clear that the depths and reverberations remain within you today, yes. Moreso, you embrace it as a pivotal physical and emotional assault that needs to be met head-on. The man's way. And how blessed she was to have you, her mentor, encouraging her to fight back. It is a fight, a deeply psychological one that empties one's bowels in great fear of imminent danger. Such a vivid scene (I am sorely temped to know how long ago this happened, to wonder what more you have done for women in leadership (or in subservient positions ~ I only mention it because the thought is there ~ but I do not want to distract from the moments at hand for they are too worthy). Your perseverance and tenacity to devote reflection and mindful investment in contemplating this matter to its higher levels, choices, and consequences, is truly honorable....most don't give it but a passing glance. It is too 'taboo' to wonder if a woman had to sleep with a superior to 'get that account,' to 'make that sale,' or to 'rise up the ladder' in academia. I know @Rebel Brown faced this issue and fought it 'her own way,' without 'backup.' While this situation definitely 'breaks' many young women, it also serves to 'make' others find the 'real me' that will fight alone. So many thoughts, reflections, and more experiences...yet this is a good place to stop for now. Beautiful that you were there for Ann Hawkins. It has the makings of a dedicated Buzz. I'd like to know more...29/06/2016 #24 CityVP 🐝 Manjit#23 Margaret I don't think of the feminine in terms of Jack Ma, I think of it both the feminine within me but also in terms of Ann Hawkins. Who is Ann Hawkins? Ann is the first girl I hired when I was a 23 year old manager, yes she was pretty but she was amazing as a person and not because her good looks. A year into working for me, I was over the moon with her professionalism and work contribution but then one day she was not her usual self. I could see that she had been crying and so I wanted to know if I could help. As it happens, she confided in me that she had been sexually harassed by another manager. So I faced Ann and new this was a pivotal moment in her career and asked her if she trusted me. The answer was affirmative, so I asked her to go to that manager and let him assertively know that she did not like his language, that it was inappropriate and that it was unacceptable to her. She was brave enough to do that and when she came back, she had asserted herself, found that she had the strength to assert her feminine power and she was never bothered again - but more she blossomed from that - and on that day I touched upon feminine leadership, not only did I witness a young girls power but I was intensely proud of this for I too had grown.29/06/2016 #23 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD#17 @CityVP 🐝 Manjit: Beautiful and empowering to thousands and throngs. Please allow me to so aptly refer you to a similar-stringed manifesto on the role of the feminine touch on this video. I do hope that it speaks to you. It features Jack Ma, the CEO of Alibaba Group, who was rejected by Harvard 10 times, and more... https://www.facebook.com/igbondioma/?pnref=story23/06/2016 #21 Sara Jacobovici#17 What an honour to have my name in any way connected to your deeply uplifting (and the use of the push and pull of the opposites @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee is intentional) writing; your thoughts and insights always leave me in wonder @CityVP 🐝 Manjit. When you write, "what we are born into", there is no way that the feminine can be neglected or minimized. Our journey or process of becoming whole human beings in this world started from the union of genders and then we were given time to form and then pushed out into the world through the feminine only to integrate once more the feminine and masculine. Lots of hard work but definitely worth it.23/06/2016 #18 CityVP 🐝 Manjit#16 Dale I am sure that @Dean Owen will read what you have written. The jobs I enjoyed most are the one's where I worked with truly great people and if that paid me minimum wage the value is in those relationships. Minimum wage work is a part of my black intelligence - not because it is something that must be hidden or dark or dirty but because it is an area of life that people do not shine their light upon - if only they did, they will see the true value in people like you and me. Originally in our society before the industrial revolution, meaning was created by our home, today due to the industrial revolution meaning is created by our work - as in "Dale what do you do for a living". To me such a question is not important, the important question that was the one where meaning when it used to be attached to our home is "Dale how are you making a life". My life remains private but this I can say, my meaning comes from home and not my work - without the home, the work is just an act of passing one's time.23/06/2016 #17 CityVP 🐝 Manjit#15 My dear @Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD, you and @Sara Jacobovici in mentioning caring and color for life have made me deeply aware that I have left out a vital piece of my focus on Blue Intelligence - and that is the Maternal. Not the paternal because we already reside in a paternal society and that is what we are born into. As I meditate on the Blue I see that which connects the great leader with the great doctor and the great mother, and this is the act of tending. My Way will now proceed with a 21st Edition where I will look at all aspects of my Spectraneuron (My Way) and fit in the missing feminine that serves to make my leadership more whole. As the 21st Century proceeds, the feminine strengths will serve to make me a wiser leader also - feminine here does not mean the woman, but the at of tending that can be done by those who care regardless of their gender. The paternal society will push back at this notion but what is push back but a society stuck in the past not ready to embrace the future. This is the essential aspect of "My Way" it is in within, the inner reflective spirit which as a society we have not been taught to access. Who you are as a leader is within you, not as a King but as the mother we all came from that remains always umbilical within us.23/06/2016 #16 Dale MastersI have never understood the consumer-driven way of life in the US. I had to be taught at a young age that if you give money to people they can use your friendship as a means of obtaining the money, or (worse yet) they might rob you.
I chose the jobs I did because I enjoyed them, and it gave me an opportunity to help people. I remember a conversation I had with an MIT physics professor. We were talking about the latest developments in physics (this was the 1970's...and I know we said something else that drove the rest of it out of my head: "We'll see where you're working in 5 years...then we'll see how intelligent you are."
I always thought that finding a job you enjoyed was a measure of intelligence. I got jobs a manager of gas/service stations because I enjoyed fixing cars (much like I enjoyed building models when I was younger), and I enjoyed the people. I also got a job at a materials handling company delivering steel and tools to different worksites. When I got back to the shop, I would either fix tools or construct parts. It was my favourite job...and at times I still dream that I'm working there, and that the waking world is just some psychotic fantasy world I've come out of. It was about the people there as well---we were like family.
I really miss Viatech...and the people there. Dean, if by some chance you ever see this, I love you.22/06/2016 #15 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhDBeing yourself means being a Leader. And most leaders have to get used to be alone to see themselves through, without exception. Only one King sits on the throne, and he is not there to please every individual. When we stop caring about what others think of us, only then do we have the freedom to be our raw selves, and find the special gifts that each one of us has as a God-given right. "I did it my way." Great application of this song! Fantastic! I knew this song, but I never realized its depths until this moment. What an epiphany! I can't thank you enough.22/06/2016 #12 CityVP 🐝 Manjit#9 Perfect Sara. I am listening to the Berlin song now. The version that most resonated with me is by Bryan Davis https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oX5qZoCOxfo It is so beautiful and I will add this song to my Physical Intelligence log at LinkedIn - this is so appropriate to that journey. My struggles with achieving the simplest thing as sleep now has an amazing reference point - love this and it is the first time I have heard this song. Thank you - you talk about time sense, this is time sense.22/06/2016 #11 Paulo CastroThe colors speak everything in this life! Through them it is possible to decipher all Millenary Sciences. Many scientists talk bad or do theater. They did not understand where the Millenary Sciences extracted so much knowledge. It is a global challenge to prove they are not true! https://www.bebee.com/producer/@ptharso/ciencias-milenares-sao-uteis-e-verdadeiras22/06/2016 #10 CityVP 🐝 Manjit#8 When I finally develop a slow appreciation as I addressed in a "yellow intelligence" it will allow thoughts to percolate and settle a while and that goes back to your thoughts on habits. The difference here is appreciation for fine wine rather than a focus on what alcohol does to the brain, in the former we discover patience and value, in the latter all the myths that are not actually facts http://www.nytimes.com/2004/11/23/health/the-claim-alcohol-kills-brain-cells.html?_r=022/06/2016 #9 Sara JacoboviciPowerful Buzz @CityVP 🐝 Manjit. Each paragraph, each line so rich in insight and meaning. "My Way" (written by Paul Anka, a Canuck) is definitely a song that communicates your message Manjit in a strong way and underscores your Call To Action; "Observe all that you can observe but do not follow my way, observe your own way."
1. The alternative to following is observing...2. One must not throw away their crutches, or their labels or their attachments if that is what it takes for people to survive...3. ...we grab hold of the nearest arm or mind because creativity is too taxing and thinking is too hard...4. ...who wants to live in a Universe where the Earth is mortal and we are immortal. Immortality is watching everything die around us until we are floating in the blackness of space forever. 5. A metaphorical representation to observe this metaphor.
You reminded me Manjit when you write, "We hardly count our blessings and cannot see what it is we have." of Berlin's song, "When I'm worried and I can't sleep, I count my blessings instead of sheep, And I fall asleep, Counting my blessings."
- 21/06/2016Breakout WomenBreakout Women We women know the truth, Everyday we face situations that test our confidence and our patience. We're smart and we know our stuff. Yet they still question our skills. While we're dealing with conflict, diversity, resistance to change and less than
- 20/06/2016The website of @Selim Yeniçeri is:SELIM YENICERI ~ "I AM THE STORM"www.selimyeniceri.com Self-motivation, Expression of All Your...
- Producer20/06/2016Finding the Positive, After Multiple TraumaNow, what positive 'anything' can come out of trauma?Great question, and it deserves a great answer. In short, the answer can be summarized. Others with experience and/or expertise can only add to the list. Make it better than what is here, and that...
Comments23/06/2016 #15 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD#8 Yes! I think it best to just stay healthy, eat foods with immunonutrition in mind, and stay away from the doctors and hospitals. Unless you are there on a weekend, to visit the sick and bring flowers for the patient, and a huge box of chocolates for the room. This way, the nurses are eager to visit the patient, the patient actually has happier people around her/him, and WoW!...the patient gets better care ;-)!23/06/2016 #14 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD#7 @Leckey Harrison, Nice. I liken your phrase "learning to keep your head up while your feet seems to be sliding this way and that and keeping up and balanced" to one that I kept telling myself: "I am a swan. An elegant, classy swan. I float on top of the water gracefully (for all to see), and I paddle like heck under the water (keeping my cool). So many times a professional, we are not "allowed" to be seen in any other way. Or people feel sorry for us, and none of us needs 'sorrow,' only simple, everyday human compassion. Great comments! Thank you!23/06/2016 #11 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhDP#2 Oopsies! (brain injury, lol) Here's the link to Invisible Illnesses: Miracles! Gotta love it! God is still in charge, and Jesus is the best healer of all! Please join: https://www.bebee.com/group/invisible-illnesses-miracles20/06/2016 #7 Leckey HarrisonIt was a trick to learn how to be positive in the midst of raging PTSD. There is an advantage to learning about it, because it puts into focus the scope of work. Daunting, eh? In my recovery, I started to notice small changes that began to snowball, and then I was able to look the positive aspects, the end game as it were of the work I was doing, and now I do the same for clients. It's easy to see the mire and muck, until you realize your head is down. Then there's learning to keep your head up while your feet seems to be sliding this way and that and keeping up and balanced is the challenge. It is however, a good tool to have, to be able to see a positive, and to believe in yourself, because sometimes I look back at where I was and see how far I've come. That's a boost in self-confidence.20/06/2016 #6 Donald 🐝 GrandyI just made a promise to myself never to complain again about my insignificant discomfort, aches and pains. Most of which are self inflicted. Margaret, you are a warrior and role model for others to mirror when tragedy strikes. And the odds are that it will. You have used your God given gifts to fight for yourself and passed on that strength to anyone who reads this post. God Bless20/06/2016 #4 Ken BoddieMust admit, Maggie (hope you don't mind me calling you that), that I am always unsure why my local GP keeps asking me how I am, when I first meet him at his practice. It always prompts me to think (but not say) "Why don't you tell me, doc? That's what I'm here for."
As for asking in general, "Hello, how are you?" what we really mean is "Nice to see you. I will now go through a polite routine of asking how you are, but please don't tell me, as I really don't have the time and don't want to know. Just say 'fine' then we can both move on".
When I really want to know how somebody is or has been and know there is a history of illness, accident, etc I find it better to be more specific with my greeting, such as, "How are you / How have you been / since your illness / accident, etc". Although I only use this approach when I really know the person well and that they won't feel uncomfortable opening up and really telling me 'how they are'.
Agreed that everyone needs to stay positive and you must know this better than most. So I wish you and yours an old Scots wish for the best with "Lang may yer lummie reek wi' other folks' coal". 🤗20/06/2016 #3 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhDFor those I can think of (brain injury lol), who may relate: @Dr. Allen Brown, @Ken Boddie, @Rebel Brown, @Brian McKenzie, @Paul "Pablo" Croubalian, @Dale Masters, @Mamen 🐝 Delgado, @debasish majumder, @David Mumma, @Fernando 🐝 Santa Isabel Llanos, @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher, @Catalina "Cat" Gálvez Urrutia, @Leckey Harrison, @Juan Imaz, @Javier 🐝 beBee, @Federico 🐝 Álvarez San Martín, @Jim 🐝 Cody, @John White, MBA, @James McElearney, @Kirstie-Sweetie Louise, @Randy Keho, @Rod Loader, @Michele Williams, @Mike Restivo, @Neal Rauhauser, @Nick Mlatchkov, @Cristian Randieri, PhD -President & CEO of Intellisystem.it @C_Randieri, @Randy Smith, @Reena Saxena, @Bill Stankiewicz, 🐝 Brand Ambassador, @Flavia Toro Rodriguez, @Ali Anani, @Dean Owens, and more.20/06/2016 #2 David BrownBelieving in yourself is the first thing that anyone should have, sometimes science and doctors will (not intentionally) limit the patient by stating the facts. We have to keep in mind that there are miracles or explainable happenings in life that will prove those facts wrong everyday.20/06/2016 #1 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhDTrauma, Traumatic Brain Injury, PTSD, Lost of Child Custody, sadness and triumph during it all. Heart goes out to fellow traumatized and 'left behind' patients who never seem to get the right medical care. Remember that every surgeon expects a 2nd Opinion before doing it, so talk to the original surgeon first. ;-)
- Producer18/06/2016Age 1: A Baby in the Sky for Father's Day/ by Dr Margaret Aranda / (Third Edition of previous post on my Author blog, www.drmargaretaranda.blogspot.com ; "Perseverance.")It was my Father. I knew him. I had no fear.My Father held me, the scent of his cologne permeating my brain such that...
Comments24/07/2016 #30 Salma RodriguezWonderful! Parents keep us from flying at an early age. I also wanted to fly :-D I still want to fly! I enjoy the idea of lifting "[h]igh...above the clouds". Yet, they keep us honest to ourselves, helping us learn WHY we are and WHAT--- purpose? reason? A truth-seeker's quest! I had no father, only a cherished mother who helped me learn WHO--- it is not about "me" because there are other "me"s out there, including you :-) Thank you, @Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD!20/07/2016 #26 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD#25 You are too poetic and you must become the writer that is inside you. To put words on a piece of paper, and to make some one like me cry....that is something that @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee View more#25 You are too poetic and you must become the writer that is inside you. To put words on a piece of paper, and to make some one like me cry....that is something that @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee, @debasish majumder, @Selim Yeniçeri, and only a few have done. So please I beg you to join my MEMOIR MADNESS Project and let us get your writing skills perked up for the rest of the world to see! For you have a gift that God gave you, and you must touch it with us all, not just me! Here is the link to get you started, kind sir. Please. Start here: https://www.bebee.com/producer/@margaret-aranda/memoir-madness-update-july-20 Close20/07/2016 #24 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD#23 YEs, thank you. I cry at your words, as I didn't realize how good he was when I was a child. I only appreciated it later, and I did my best to honor him when he was diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease. I stayed by his side until a tragic car accident took me away from my spot there. He died 6 months later, but not without my daughter knowing exactly who "Grandpa" was, and watching her walk the halls with him. He still held out 2 fingers at his side, and the little girl in all 6 of his own girls...she, now my own daughter, walked and subconsciously just reached up and grabbed those two fingers, as if it was the most natural thing in the world to do. This is the vision of him that I love the most: the man inside.20/07/2016 #22 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD#21 Yes, I hold on to what he taught me by doing what he would have loved the most: spreading the message on to other girls, and teenagers. I love telling them inspiring stories, and being able to impress upon them the smallest gift of self-confidence. It honors my father all over again, in all the lives that he still touches.18/07/2016 #19 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD#17 I thought that every man was like my father. He gave me so much unconditional love, laughed at my foils, and allowed me to be "me." I don't think that most fathers appreciate just how much their little girls will always adore them, no matter how old the girl is. She is always, "Daddy's little girl." 💞
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Comments14/06/2016 #3 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhDJust goes to show that sometimes, there's a goldmine sitting in our brains or buried in our back yards. So we should never give up on any of our goals, even if our only goal is to make it through another day! Keep ON GOING! Dig! Dig! Dig! Look up...and see the helping hand waiting for you, because you are not alone. Just look up!
Comments16/06/2016 #7 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD#3 I hear you! We all have to be on earth another day anyway, so why not make it fun? Besides, laughter is the best medicine, right @Dr. Allen Brown, @Dale Masters, @Federico 🐝 Álvarez San Martín, @Bill Stankiewicz, 🐝 Brand Ambassador, @Alison Huntley, @Brigette Hyacinth, @Cristian Randieri, PhD -President & CEO of Intellisystem.it @C_Randieri, @Candice 🐝 Galek, @Jim 🐝 Cody, @Javier 🐝 beBee, @Catalina "Cat" Gálvez Urrutia, @Kirstie-Sweetie Louise, @Fernando 🐝 Santa Isabel Llanos, @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher, @Beatriz Lagares Hortas, @Juan Imaz, @James McElearney, @John White, MBA?