- Producer23/07/2017Nowt-about the dangers: part V and LAST!In his comment to Part I of this series, Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee powerful intuition picked up on my need for quiet and isolation; he mentioned The Walden Effect. How right he was! My life is not my own; there’s no time to change my...
Comments23/07/2017 #6 Lisa Vanderburg#5 You certainly did, delightful friend @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee! Such an encourager, and it's been deeply satisfying to get it out! I should be queen-of-pratfalls :) Most of my walkabout of old have been fairly dangerous but at least it was just me....
Doubly grateful for the share, sweet man!
- Producer21/07/2017Cloudy with a Chance of ClarityThis month has been an enormous process of facing the ways I swallowed my joy, self-isolated because of childhood emotional neglect, and felt I had to do everything in life all for myself.Facing the words on the screen and reviewing them for what...
Comments21/07/2017 #12 Jerry FletcherThe clarity you speak of is like a painter's search for exactly the right color that may be part or all of a canvas awash with it. Or just that one tiny dot that only a few will see. it can be elusive but knowing it exists is the key. It may be cloudy but you can visualize the clarity. You'll get there, I'm sure.21/07/2017 #11 Bernard PoulinIs it me? Or is it the reality before me which makes life more and more depressing - rather than more and more encouraging? One way or the other, I find the 21st century heavier than past decades as we now seemingly add "threats" and trauma as "normal" adjuncts to our beingness - where once we strived to add "feathers in our caps". I am not wanting to add to this heaviness that seems to motivate our worlds being much too comfortable in discomfort and with everyone's depressive notions being equated with "real" depression. And so I can only applaud the Pope for hanging a sign on his door which asks that we whine less and "do" more to better our lives. If I am ever quoted by my children and grand-children, I would hope that it would be what I have repeated these past many years (and which, I hope, did play at least a minor role in getting them to become the strong individuals they have become) - and that is : "It is not what has been done to us which is important but rather what we do with what has been done to us."21/07/2017 #9 Shelley BrownYou express yourself so beautifully it hurts in that way that really reaches inside and takes me from feeling your pain to my heart swelling with love. I was talking to a friend about you last night and I told her what a powerful experience it has been to watch you transform and how extraordinarliy palpable that even though I have never met you, I can feel you and watch you as you start to fly.21/07/2017 #7 Sara Jacobovici(I think I've said this before, but definitely worth repeating.) You are a power to be reckoned with @Deb 🐝 Helfrich. And I am speaking of your power from within! Your core. See it, hear it and celebrate it! My fb business page posted a 2 year anniversary of this post. I thought it is worth sharing. Please let me know what you think. Thanks Deb. http://www.arts-psychotherapy.com/the-best-i-can-be/21/07/2017 #4 Lyon BraveI think this is how life goes. I have soent great periods in isolation almost heroic monk like isolation.. Well thats not true because monks usually live in groups but you get what im saying. We often pick our relationships because of proximity and this is of course limiting. I think isolating is important. I feel like rejoining the world is of greater importance but remember there are different worlds. There are people who will get your hearts desiers and bring out your laughter and your brains and there are people who will bore you to tears and keep life dull and stuck. The best thing about moving to shanghai is just searcging on a dating app i can see the people get a lot more interesting. If you are in seattle i am sure you can find people you vibe with but its a hunt and it takes putting yourself out there, trying new things and saying hi to people you want to say hi to but maybe you have a hangup like you are too old or not in shape enough or gifted enough. Mingle21/07/2017 #3 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#2 @Deb 🐝 Helfrich= the eruption of the volcano inside you led to the emerging of your new thinking and the writing of this wonderful buzz. Yes and as all fractal systems we undergo few major events in our lives and many small events that are of much less impact on us. Your last eruption has led to the turning inside out of your thinking patterns. Sharing
Never again to use mobile phone for writing comments and waking up after only three hours of sleep. I am awfully sorry dear Deb as I have to delete my previous comment because it appeared as Chinese rather than English with so many typos. My apology.21/07/2017 #1 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee@Deb 🐝 Helfrich %he eruption of the volcano inside you )ed to the emerging of yournew thinking and the writing of this won!erful buzz. Yes and as all fractal systems we undergo few major events kinour lives and many small events that are ofmuvh less impact onus. Your lzst eruption has led to the turning inside out of your thinking pafterns. Sharing
- Producer07/07/2017The tyranny of secrets - stories not told“E quindi uscimmo a riveder le stelle. And so we came forth, and once again beheld the stars.” William Styron © Copyright 2017, Don Kerr, Don Kerr Writes - All rights reserved. ...
Comments09/07/2017 #7 Chas ✌️ Wyatt@Don 🐝 Kerr, you are a wordsmith. This may have been cathartic for you, but, I enjoyed the story immensely. You also touch on the battle I sometimes face in whether, or not, to reveal deeply personal details about my life in my writing. I also love the quote in the Preface by George Moore.08/07/2017 #6 Jerry FletcherDon, I know that was not easy. I applaud your courage. I cheer your ability to string words together so that we can feel how this diorama tells the story but not all of it. Somehow I believe that sharing such stories is good for both of us as it enlightens each while lightening the load if even in a small way.08/07/2017 #5 Ian WeinbergThanks for sharing @Don 🐝 Kerr After many years of coaching self and others professionally, I've arrived at a place where I believe that it's not possible to fully expunge the founding circuitry of our subjective cognition, emotions and beliefs. Neither the deep neuro-archeological dig nor the 'aha' moment of self-discovery leads to automatic resolution. Nor in fact does the application of pure logical reasoning. However the application of acceptance and forgiveness together with gratitude for the good stuff, goes a long way to letting the light in. Add to this purposeful busyness, value contribution and personal achievement and you take the edge off the pain.08/07/2017 #4 Praveen Raj GullepalliVery poignantly expressed dear Don. To deal with undecurrents one needs to feel the source again and again. Feel the regret and the pain. If I were to explore the kaleidoscope of the past with a microscope, I should not forget to use my sense of humour for a filter. If I cannot laugh at the shy, timid, scared, foolish yet trusting kid that I was then, I surely will end up in the deeper end of the pool again!
I think the choices we had then (with or without the supporting voices outside) still remain with us. To not fear, to fight back, to resist, to focus on the present, to have a dream and fiercely work towards enabling it with effort and not waiting for a miracle to make it happen, to care and share, to protect and nurture, to relate and reach out.
I keep asking myself - What would you say if you were to come across a kid just like you were once upon a time not long ago? Would I be able to make a difference?08/07/2017 #3 Charlene NormanReally REALLY bold Don. I don't know very many people (either sex) who would publicly display themselves like this. Yet I admire you for doing so because it must be very cathartic in so many ways.
I wish I could introduce my brother to you. He too has a very checkered past and he could stand a good intervention from a good man such as yourself. But I fear he is too far gone -- like so many -- and again like so many -- when he finally does get it, it will be too late. You, my friend are one of the very lucky ones.
Please don't stop sharing your magic.
- Producer25/06/2017Roots.Changes.Journeys.Generations.And the Ties that Bind.... Part 1 – East London to Abu Dhabi “Well I was born in a small town…” John Mellencamp “Small Town” 1985 I really was born in a small place! A seventh generation South African from British ancestry, I was born in East London a small city on...
Comments26/06/2017 #37 🐝 Fatima G. WilliamsComing back from my awesome Abu Dhabi trip to read this lovely Bio is a treat. I must admit it's a great place and I wish I had made the move 10 years earlier. I love Dubai but must admit Abu Dhabi as something subtle about it. UAE has to much to offer we need to look in the right place. You've captured the essence of this place in your buzz Chris :)26/06/2017 #32 Sara JacoboviciI'm not surprised that a music lover (of great taste in music), such as yourself, would also be a great storyteller @Chris 🐝 Guest Cert.Prof.Acc.SA. I came across a quote today before I read your post. Wonder if you think there is any connection? "A biography is like a handshake down the years, that can become an arm-wrestle." - Richard Holmes Looking forward to Part 2!25/06/2017 #26 Lisa 🐝 GallagherHow interesting @Chris 🐝 Guest Cert.Prof.Acc.SA. What a great experience you have received, or should I say life changing? That's cool about Elton John's band! So, does everyone work on Sundays? Does everyone have Saturday's off? The photos are beautiful. I've seen many promotional photos of the city and it looks futuristic. I would imagine there is a lot to see and do in Abu Dhabi. It sounds like you really have enjoyed the move! Looking forward to pt. 2.25/06/2017 #24 David 🐝 Martín Alonso#23 @Chris 🐝 Guest Cert.Prof.Acc.SA Thanks for recommendations, I already follow @Gert Scholtz Blog., and now your buzzes.
Barcelona is one of my favorites in Spain, i´ve lived there and visited many times. Next time you plan to visit Spain, please consider visiting South, Sevilla, Córdoba, Granada, the muslim triangle, amazing experience.25/06/2017 #23 Chris 🐝 Guest Cert.Prof.Acc.SA#22 Thanks for your kind comments @David 🐝 Martín Alonso and for the share. Cape Town is the real gem of SA and offers so much.We in turn have visited Barcelona on holiday and loved the experience.
Please see the travel blogs of @Gert Scholtz for more on SA travel.25/06/2017 #20 Chris 🐝 Guest Cert.Prof.Acc.SA#19 Thanks so much for your insightful comments dear @Deb 🐝 Helfrich. Finally have some free time to put it all down! Hope to have part 2 out later this week when I'll all also do some inter-generational analysis.
PS If Michael Moore's people don't call you about the road doccie call them 😃!25/06/2017 #19 Deb 🐝 HelfrichI love the contrast you built up, @Chris 🐝 Guest Cert.Prof.Acc.SA between a life of comforting tradition and that one phone call that sent you and your family into an entirely different future.
I feel like we become more of who we are meant to be, when we step outside the well-trodden paths. Once we are habituated to a place, life tends to function on auto-pilot, especially when we are immersed in an entire community. That we are known so well is certainly a blessing, but can also be a bind from emerging into all that we are capable of.
I am actively courting that revolutionary phone call right now. But for a contrary reason. I am feeling drawn to travel - the call of the road, as you know, in order to find that place that feels like the home I want to cultivate for the rest of my life. I am ready to negotiate the staying-put part of life. But the place were I can do my best work, contribute the most value is still a mystery to me.
So a drive-about seems prudent.
Excited to see what happens in your tale next!25/06/2017 #17 Gert Scholtz@Chris 🐝 Guest Cert.Prof.Acc.SA Now that does sound like a big change: East London to Abu Dhabi. I am sure, although at times you miss the shores of the Eastern Cape, Abu Dhabi offers a rich tapestry of experience and opportunity for you and your family. Thanks you for the mention Chris, and for a music lover such as you, here is Desert Rose: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C3lWwBslWqg
- Producer06/06/2017What I learnt from the best teachersYou don't forget your best teachers that easily. They are the ones that have made an impact on you. Every once in a while I would wonder where they are and how they are doing. I have now managed to gather my thoughts to write a tribute to them.I...
Comments08/06/2017 #19 Vincent Andrew#15 "Our best teachers never stop learning." Indeed @Jerry Fletcher. If we learn and internalise some of the best characteristics of our best teachers, I don't think we'll be too far off in inspiring others too. Thank you Jerry for taking the time to read and comment.08/06/2017 #16 Vincent Andrew#12 Love that quote that your best teachers "have left an impression that time cannot dull, not distance fade." It resonates with me too. Thanks once again for reading and commenting @☘️Don Philpott View more#12 Love that quote that your best teachers "have left an impression that time cannot dull, not distance fade." It resonates with me too. Thanks once again for reading and commenting @☘️Don Philpott. Close07/06/2017 #15 Jerry FletcherVincent, Like you, my greatest teachers were my parents. My mother, at 95, continues to be. We were chatting via telephone as we normally do each Sunday. I mentioned that I had gone to hear and author speak the previous Thursday and stopped into the library on Saturday to pick up two of his books. She said, "You know I've never had one." I didn't understand. "A library card...I think I'll get one tomorrow and take out some books." Our best teachers never stop learning.07/06/2017 #14 Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBeeI remember Mr. Rez. There are many teachers I admire, remember, and am grateful to, but Mr. Rez was a brilliant old man who flavored his history classes with vivid mental imagery in his words and the minds of his students. As a troubled adolescent, I sought to make his life miserable. Perhaps I was jealous. But, Mr. Rez, I know you are in a heaven filled with your favorite subject. I pay homage to your ability to inspire. Even if I never showed it, you did inspire me. Thank you for this post, and Thank You, Mr. Rez.07/06/2017 #13 Ella de JongWonderful @Vincent Andrew ! Teachers can create a rimpel effect also. I just got a LinkedIn connection request from a girl who's brothers were in my class. She wrote that my teaching had insured her to go to college and learn to be a teacher. Now she educates (received a special price) how to help adolescents to keep on educating themselves! Her parents are so proud of her!
- Producer29/05/2017Letter Home from WW II Soldier On special occasions, Veterans & Memorial Day, I reread this letter from a young soldier, my father, Aaron Levine. On the verge of being deployed to Europe during World War II, he wrote this 1944 note. He writes his pregnant wife who came...
Comments03/06/2017 #16 Deborah Levine#15 Thank you @Tausif Mundrawala. After the war, my father became a manger of retail stores. When he retired, he became the CFO of the American Jewish Archives. He was actually schooled to become a history professor. I'm grateful to have absorbed his practicality and I became a grant writer & Development Officer for many NGOs and for the Chicago City Ballet. I am indeed a lucky daughter and blessed. Thank you, Dad!03/06/2017 #15 Tausif MundrawalaVery few people in this world are financially sound. For me it's the most important aspect of life. It allows one to live life on it's own terms and to enjoy life to the fullest. Though apprehensive about the uncertainty of his life but he was quite worried about the financial independency of his wife. This letter was not a common letter to fill the void of their beloved ones but in fact it was the most practical one. Financial planning is an habit which very few inculcates in them. Am glad that I read this buzz as it's the most renowned on twitter as well. You are the luckiest daughter to be blessed with such a great father my friend,@Deborah Levine30/05/2017 #9 Sara Jacobovici#1 I appreciate the tag @Deborah Levine. I am in the midst of reading your book, The Liberator's Daughter. The only reason I have had to put it down is that my day to day reality keeps interrupting me. I must be old, because, when I was younger I could sit down with a book like yours and finish it in one sitting. Oh well, the enjoyment is still there. And so it was to read this post on the occasion of Veterans & Memorial Day. It is a moving tribute, and a privilege to be able to see how it was then, through your father's eyes.30/05/2017 #7 Deborah Levine@stephan metral 🐝 Innovative Brand Ambassador. Thanks, my father would have appreciated your comment very much. As I share in The Liberator's Daughter, dad was a US military intelligence officer assigned to interrogate Nazi prisoners of war. But he was also - just a regular dude doing his best, as you say. #430/05/2017 #4 stephan metral 🐝 Innovative Brand AmbassadorIt inspires me great respect and admiration for your father, cuz after all we all in Europe owe US WWII our freedom, and to all Canadians and allied forces. So , this his an authentic story, going stright to our souls. Thanks for sharing. We are all regular dudes, doing our best in our time.
- Producer29/05/2017Quick answer -yes or no?Meditating about balance made me think about extremes. A simple Yes side, in charge of embracing all the things I need, I strive to, or I think it might help me somehow. A dark No side, guilty for too many situations I had wished to avoid. But, how...
Comments30/05/2017 #1 Joanne Gardocki"All we can do is to decide whether we'll actively chose our answers or let someone do it for us. Whether we'll learn or bow our head, accepting whatever life chose to throw at us. Is there a difference?" What you write resonates, Sasa, and I deeply enjoy thought provoking questions. All we really can control is ourselves; our attitudes, thoughts and actions. I believe we are learning all the time, the difference may be whether we are awake and aware of our choices. You make a good point in thinking about extremes and binary choices we limit our responses. I prefer adding "both and" or "neither, thank you" to the mix, opening the mind to a whole host of creative options.
- Producer23/05/2017Flash Backs On An Ordinary Tuesday MorningA few days ago on a sunny albeit windy Irish morning, I noticed that the sun was very high and the sky clear. If I am correct there was also a touch of humidity in the air that day, was it the weather or a particular Tuesday mood that triggered it...
Comments24/05/2017 #39 Aaron 🐝 SkogenJust another Tuesday eh, @Pascal Derrien. I'm sorry I missed this yesterday, but that is in the past and I'm typing in the present. Amazing how a seemingly "routine" event can trigger a response AND a memory! I enjoyed your mash-up of the two together and hearing the Menzingers again (it's been awhile)!24/05/2017 #37 🐝 Fatima G. WilliamsLove it @Pascal Derrienpasca I just enjoy reading the way you write and you take me there with you like a time travel to the past and the experience is simply awesome to me. Merci becoup for this beautiful flashback. If I may on behalf of the bees. We all like the past and present you the future you does not hold a big questionmark to me🙂🙂🙂🙂🤗🤗🤗👍👍👍👍24/05/2017 #35 Harvey Lloyd#20 I get the layer thing it's really the algorithm that is crazy. Consciously i want a hamburger with extra pickles, my subconscious sends me a hotdog with a flat tire on the side. My early studies of the dewey decimal system were not totally correlated into the subconscious. So the book i need requires several orders. Frontal lobe meal time as served by the subconscious is a very delightful time of mystery and intrigue.24/05/2017 #32 Harvey Lloyd#26 The thanks goes to you. I enjoy your posts as i can identify with your brain wave musings. I'm not sure that is a good thing, none the less i sense we have walked through similar landscapes through out our lives. I only wish i could write as well as you, and lay out the landscapes.24/05/2017 #27 Sara JacoboviciThanks for sharing @Pascal Derrien. A privilege to witness and an opportunity to experience. Maybe it is the summer, but I, too, am finding myself writing less and thinking and remembering more. So, I am putting it all together and am writing my "oeuvre" on Identity. I pre-acknowledge you for the inspiration Pascal, thank you. And, as always, great music pairing! Have a great Wednesday!24/05/2017 #25 Harvey LloydYou explained my brain well with the randomness of consciousness. My chemical of choice that kicks this off is adrenaline. Your parking lot dance with mouthpiece would have triggered the Alice and Wonderland adventure for me. Great story line and journey through the synaptic pathways of unconnected thoughts.
- Producer24/05/2017Underestimated powers or how to carry heavy loads with a smileMy daily job often means to ask my colleagues how they manage to complete their tasks. Usually, the question " how do you see your role..." is answered by employees more or less like in this picture. It's easy to understand why. The retail...
- Producer14/05/2017Happy Mother's Day, Di.My mother was not my real mother. She was the lady who married my dad back in the 1960s and they stayed together until she passed away coming up on 20 years ago now. Her name was Dianna, But everybody called her Di. I first met her when I moved...
- 05/05/201712 Laws of Karma That Will Change Your Lifewww.linkedin.com What is Karma? Karma is the Sanskrit word for action. It is equivalent to Newton’s law of ‘every action must have a reaction’. When we think, speak...
- Producer29/04/2017Fear is a Terrible RoommateFor many years, I kept the details of my personal life to myself. I never wanted that vulnerability to show, because in the world I grew up, the mantra was show no weakness; show no mercy.There are millions of people in the world who share the same...
Comments29/04/2017 #9 Hervé SabattierFear isn't that terrible... As all emotions, it's a question of knowing how to tame it. Fear, sadness and joy are my preferred ones and I try to avoid pain and anger as much as I can. I didn't know disgust that I experiencing at the moment. Suprisingly, it's more tasty than I was expecting...29/04/2017 #5 Shelley Brown@Donna Wood I don't even have adequate words for how much this story pierced my soul. I shook my head with understanding, held my breath with relatability and tears of hope and sadness welled up in my eyes. Beautifully written piece. Hits very close to home. It's amazing how "awful" can be comforting when it's what you know. The light is becoming my roommate more and more. I would love to kick that wall of fear to crumbles! Thank you for your honesty.29/04/2017 #4 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. International Management, Certified Executive Coach. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.#3 perfect! thank you, you as well @Donna Wood!29/04/2017 #2 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. International Management, Certified Executive Coach. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.true, I rather share my room with the loving version!
- Producer12/04/2017When Writing Is FutileThis article started as one of my usual tormented urban poems but then I stopped…. I looked at the few words in front of me and I thought they were mostly crap. It did not work, there was no fluidity, no melody, no emergency maybe I had finally...
Comments14/04/2017 #38 Antoinette Capasso-BackdahlMy condolences to you and yours Pascal.
All is not lost... she lives on in your children who are you and her future selves. I often wonder why we are attracted to who we are in order to create our future selves. Is it evolution? For some it is. For some, it is the end of the line because of the choices we made or that they make. Eternal life in the physical form is nothing short of a miracle. I think, if someone had made just one different decision along the way somewhere in the last thousands of years, I would not even be here in this moment to read your work. I am grateful I am.
I had a vivid dream about the Earth imploding. I was in space floating amazed and grateful to be able to do this... then all of a sudden the fault lines started to glow. Then the molten magma was rolling into itself [two fault lines]. Then the Earth expanded three times her size. Then she exploded. As I went to tuck in my legs, I had none. By the time I looked back, all the debris was being sucked into a tiny hole. Poof! Earth was gone. Then all these orbs popped into space. We were all marveling and speaking the same language but communicating telepathically. The orbs were propelled by a black liquid and different colors with what looked like see through bodies inside. Amazing dream that I hope does not come true. Everyone was saying "wow, did you see that?" and "I am glad I made it out of there" and all kinds of things like that. I woke up when I was perplexed at how we were communicating telepathically and the same language. But I have to say, a dream like that changes a person.
We are our ancestors. We cannot deny we are all related somewhere down the line. It's funny, to think about what a miracle life is.
I enjoy you sharing your less selfishness in your writings. One day, I may be brave enough to write but perhaps not until I get over my disdain for rituals.13/04/2017 #32 Ken BoddieMy thoughts are with you and your wife, Pascal, and for the obvious void in your lives. But there are no dead ends ..... only new beginnings ..... and challenges to provide us with self doubt. Your road block has a detour round it, but sometimes we need to sit and wait for the windscreen wipers to kick in, so that we can see the way forward.13/04/2017 #26 Dean OwenIt appears that often the ones that don't call themselves a writer are the best. I mean who knew that Gert had a book published! I've known him for over a year and didn't know... I love the modest touch of you both, never tooting your own horn. To me, you are truly original in a social media land devoid of originality.
- Producer03/04/2017On this day... a choice"This was the day without realising it that I began to choose to care for Mum when she needed care full time in her home. Care with love, rather than duty. Care with presence of being, rather than being physically present and mentally somewhere...
Comments05/04/2017 #21 🐝 Fatima G. Williams#17 Yes @Deb🐝 Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee like the very many things adapted from the west. Nuclear families are becoming a fashion now in India. Even when my dad wanted to an old age home not to bother us I wouldn't let him not as long as I was alive. If he were still here I would have the applied the lessons - value of time in him. I was young and carefree and even though I never spent much time with him ( work, friends,boyfriend were more important at that time) I loved him alot and he knew that I guess. But loneliness kills the old faster than their sicknesses and I am witness to that. The amount of trips to the coffee shops with my boyfriend instead it could have been my dad. I now prefer the latter now. Family is the biggest gift one can have in the world. Being miles away from them my heart beats for each of them.05/04/2017 #19 Deb🐝 Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee#12 @Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee your sons may not be caretakers now. Who knows how your relationship may change over time. And then many people do not have children today, and we have friends. Sending you much love today @Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee05/04/2017 #18 Deb🐝 Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee#13 @Lisa Vanderburg - no there is so much heartache in families. And when there can be reconciliation it brings much peace. I remember getting to know Mum as if for the first time - coming to accept who she was and who she wasn't, see her pain and her love in a very different way as I cared for her. It was a tough time and there were many special gifts.05/04/2017 #17 Deb🐝 Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee#14 Thanks @🐝 Fatima G. Williams I know in many countries it is still the norm to have young and old all living with each other. I think this is still the case in India. I hope this is renewed in the west as there is so much to gain from being family supporting one another together. Isolation and everyone living on their own has brought many challenges to society.05/04/2017 #16 Deb🐝 Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee#15 I know exactly what you are talking about @Cyndi wilkins And you are still raw with grief and the incredible strain of responsibility of caring for the dying and managing the care and people. It is huge work. It has been 6 years since my Mum passed over, but I still remember the complexity, the frustration, the sadness, the grief, the love, the tenderness, the raw dealing with basic body stuff, the heartache, the stress. In Australia at home care services are improving all the time. I did have some carers coming in and had to manage them like you. And to help me I ended up bringing in someone to live in, she helped me out part time and worked outside part time, in exchange for board and accomodation. She was my lifesaver. Caring for the elderly and the dying is more complicated than caring for a baby. And we are an aging population - who will care?04/04/2017 #15 Cyndi wilkinsI'm still going in and out of processing my recent experience with caring for my dad...Yes, I felt enormous love and made the very best of my time with him...mending fences and hearts along the way....But I also I felt enormous pain and frustration when dealing with the healthcare system here in the US...Which is very sorely lacking when it comes to 'Elder care services...There were many times I felt alone in caring for him at home...Hospice services did not come right away...and even when they did, it certainly wasn't 24/7 assistance...They were wonderful when they were here...but I had to hire very many people to assist with his care as it had become round the clock...and one has to sleep...Like you said, who takes care of the care-giver....In far too many cases, it's no one. Even with all the help, when it was eventually put in place, there was still the managing of all these folks coming and going...Eventually, exhaustion set in for me and I had to put him in a local nursing home...Thankfully, he did not have to stay there very long...RIP dad...Love you....04/04/2017 #13 Lisa VanderburgHow joyous a process of love can be; thank you for this lovely shared experience @Deb🐝 Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee. Like @Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee says, it's not the same for all of us alas - should be, but to love as the unloved is too often the case, sadly.04/04/2017 #12 Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBeeYes--this is such a beautiful thought process. What grace. We should all have offspring treasures like you. My sons are not caretakers. I will die alone. Speaking from that place I hope you know just how special what you did for your mom was.04/04/2017 #7 Deb🐝 Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee#5 All those things we do for others because we just do - if we are carers, nurturers, lovers, homemakers. Like you @Lisa - you cared for your Dad, your siblings, your son. And all of that wonderful care is so needed in society and is still not valued. The skills and capabilities are not valued - and you have an amazing foundation to do what you want in the world now. I remember when my kids grew up and left home, and then I cared for my parents and they passed, all of a sudden there was just me to look after. And there is so much time left to find your dreams and create what you want for yourself and for your ongoing contribution to the world.04/04/2017 #5 Lisa 🐝 GallagherI can certainly relate in some manner. I remember asking my mom if she wanted to take a trip to the Ocean less than a year or so before she passed. She wasn't up to it even though she was still walking, she was too weak and couldn't eat. Beautifully written @Deb🐝 Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee!
- Producer23/06/2016Hasta Manana ABBAI am a fan of ABBA and have been for the last forty years. Yes I admit it. Knowing Me, Knowing You, there just might also be some Bees who share this fondness, The Way Old Friends Do. It started on Arrival in my teen years – the time when one...
Comments25/06/2016 #22 Praveen Raj Gullepalli#21 Bang on Gert! Well nigh impossible to cover em. The dual vocal lead combo is deadly indeed! So are the BeeGees ;) (I could add Rush, Men At Work, Peter Gabriel, Tracy Chapman, The Scorpions, Karen Carpenter, Tanita Tikaram, Annie Lennox, Midnight Oil, The Cure, The REM, Duran Duran, Cyndi Lauper, Bob Dylan...to the list of Uncoverables...to name but a few!) :) Can't move on...cos we are stuck in that Golden Era groove man! Check out Tanita and her Twist in my Sobriety some time...unforgettable voice...solo artist.25/06/2016 #20 Gert Scholtz#18 @Praveen Raj Gullepalli. I can't agree with you more. They composed interesting, original, unpredictable chord sequences and vocal melodies. To my (untrained and unsophisticated) ear they were able to mix music and melodies from many genres and make it work. Praveen: thank to you I am reconsidering the Move On bit :)25/06/2016 #19 Praveen Raj Gullepalli#18 Absolutely! They packed some amazing talent in their songs. Only those who sit to write, compose, play and sing to record a single or more, will be able to understand how inspired they were! I have only one thing to say to those who criticise musicians and bands...first create just one single that is a hit with general public and then become a critic. Just ONE catchy original song/ composition ;)24/06/2016 #13 Gert Scholtz@Praveen Raj Gullepalli Indeed Praveen - who can ever forget all the great music from the 70"s and 80's. Apparently ABBA was one of the first bands to start producing music video's on a grand scale. The ladies wanted more time at home and less travel - video was a way of promoting their music world-wide.24/06/2016 #12 Praveen Raj GullepalliCan one really move on Gert? I wanda...and not just about the fish! ;) I first heard em on my buddy's record player deck with large wooden speakers as we were playing outside in his frontyard. Late 70s it was. His lovely sisters were blaring it out. Annifrid's voice...Mamma Mia! and Agnetha..higher and keener...wow...had me spellbound! Yeah then the infatuation...posters, their movie...cassette covers...it was more of Annifrid but now both seem equally fascinating! :) Annifrid had that sultry hispanic look...Agnetha was all fresh delicious European..They are forever One of Us...Yup, it was the age of ABBA, BoneyM, Kraftwerk (still amazing to me) on the pop side and Uriah Heep, KISS, Cliff Richard, Harry Belafonte, Steve Miller Band, Bob Marley, BadFinger, Beatles, etc etc on the other side...I could never regret the hours spent listening to these superstars on radio stations (BBC, VOA, Radio Aus, Kuwait, Ceylon, etc). And now I enjoy them even more...seeing those old music videos on YouTube...not a week goes by without listening to some of that good ol stuff! Bit hung up on Serenade by Steve Miller Band and Simple Man by Lynyrd Skynyrd of late...give em a try when you have time mate!24/06/2016 #9 Lisa 🐝 GallagherI used to love Abba's music. Memories come flooding back from the past. I can relate to the 'un-cool," oh my god, no you aren't going to play that song when my kids were teens. Now, we all enjoy 70's rock. I miss going out and dancing- another thing we did a lot of when I was under 25.24/06/2016 #8 Sara JacoboviciNice nostalgia kick @Gert Scholtz. Loved your message and the comments from your readers. About 10 years ago or so when Mama Mia was produced on stage, the Board of Directors of the agency where I worked wanted to express their gratitude to the managers for having successfully gone through a challenging time and rewarded us with a night out together for dinner and to see the show. Well who do you think was in the aisles dancing to the music? Yes, you guessed it. I loved every minute.
- Producer06/03/2017On My Knees"There I was, on my knees. I was holding a child upright with one hand, while feeding her with a spoon in my other. There I was, sobbing." I’ve written or at least commented about an accident I had. It was 1999. April 28th, 1999 shortly after...
Comments16/03/2017 #53 CityVP 🐝 ManjitIt is peculiar how things work in life for if you had highlighted "On My Knees" I would have clicked it but I did not see the link on the word "here". I am glad I did not because I read material here as a part of my learning journey and allow myself to virtually travel and having read the first piece, that virtual travel gravitated me towards the being of Alyn Shannon.
You might say that you have never met her, but you have, your spirit has. No matter how many children we pick and feed there is a limit to how many people we can touch unless we are equipped with great spiritual dimension. When you mention Mother Theresa, here is a woman with spiritual dimension that multiplies a million fold larger than mine - she came into the world as that being.
So did you in your dimension except it took the accident to release that spiritual dimension within you. We don't know this until that shell has broken, it is quite possible that if I had such an accident that I might discover that my life was an outer image which was greater than my inner spiritual dimension - but I don't know that because I have not been through that. What I do know from my sojourns and learnings is that what you have experienced doe have a word for it and it is most important word :
Yet your buzz is not just about metanoia, there is also serendipity involved, because as I followed up on the story of Alyn Shannon, I also discover her deep of love of motorcycles and her Harley Softail. This story I know because I read the piece on her niece in which she speaks of the one person who deeply inspired her (her aunt Alyn) http://www.antiquemotorcycle.org/index.php?mact=News,cntnt01,detail,0&cntnt01articleid=85&cntnt01returnid=97 As I see it, your mission began not just with God but also, like Alyn, with a motorcycle.12/03/2017 #50 Aaron 🐝 Skogen#49 I can understand @Pamela 🐝 Williams, no apology needed. I think we need to choose to see the good. I believe there is more good out there than we see. Especially considering the 2 min media cycle and focus on the "sensational". What would the perspective be if the "nightly news" (or morning, or midday) flipped the amount of time spent on attention getting, negative, sensational stories, with the amount of time spent on the positive and uplifting stories (which seems to get the last 90 seconds of the six-o-clock news). . .? I wonder. . .
Remember, each of has the power to choose to lead by that example you mention.
thanks so much for joining the conversation, I do appreciate it Pamela!11/03/2017 #49 Pamela 🐝 WilliamsHow can we be the nation we are right now? So focused on having more and more, turning our backs on humanity. I weep for the beautiful faces in the video, for the beautiful children you helped care for. Why Aaron, is our bountiful nation becoming a separated angry mob when there are entire nations like Haiti whose children can find such joy in just having or even being splashed with clean water. And yet we want more, more, more; it's a sickness. Though I no longer call myself a christian; the video illustrated what I was taught was Christianity, not the judgmental, hate filled, selfish crap I witness in too many in this country. Sorry for the soapbox; I'm just not taking what's happening in my country well.09/03/2017 #41 Sandra SmithBless you...We take for granted so many things, complain about things that others in the world would be grateful for... my boy is 2.5 but always wears a size bigger... I could not imagine him being the size he was at 18 months now - impossible to even fathom. No wonder you were devastated... I hope you were able to nourish her back to some semblance of health...08/03/2017 #39 AnonymousThere are no words to express my emotions when reading this. I looked forward to hearing about your Haiti trip but did not expect my response to this.
I can only echo Shelley's comments: aching and powerful.
God works in funny ways; he saved you to bring you to those babies and to bring this story to us.08/03/2017 #37 Shelley Brown@Aaron 🐝 Skogen I hung onto every word almost breathes with chills and now tears. God is so good and I am so grateful you survived that horrible accident and you are alive with a heart so full and yet so broken for those babies. Thank you for going to Haiti. Thank you for doing the work God wants us to do. You shined out God's light through these words for me this morning and I am so grateful. What a beautiful, aching powerful story.07/03/2017 #33 Aaron 🐝 Skogen#28 Don't underestimate the power you have @Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee. See my reply to Phil (so I don't repeat myself), and I'd add to that with my second favorite quote from Mother Theresa "Be faithful in small things, because it is in them that your strength lies". We will indeed have a chorus!
- Producer16/02/2017Fireside Chats: MilestonesDid you know that February is Spunky Old Broads month? I hadn't until two years ago when a friend -- Claire LeSage -- told me about it. I wrote a post on it -- Spunky Old Broads -- but that one wasn't about aging. This one is, and it's on my mind...
Comments19/02/2017 #13 Susan 🐝 Rooks, the Grammar Goddess#11 Thanks so much for the kind words, @Gloria Ochoa! Yes, in the last few years she has been sharing stories -- no Alzheimer's or dementia -- and it's fun to remember.
And like you, 30 was my dreaded milestone, although many, many years before you. Thanks so much for taking the time to comment here!18/02/2017 #11 AnonymousHappy 100 Bday to your mom!!! I bet she has stories we all would love!!! (Wish I had, had the foresight to ask my grandparents for their stories). 30 was my dreaded milestone and what spurred me into life long learning and student loans that just wont go away! hee hee. The only one in my circle and family to take nerd and geek it out. LOL
Proud to be a Spunky Old Broad (in my own mind anyway! LOL) Great post Susan!!18/02/2017 #9 Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand AmbassadorAww, I love this post, @Susan 🐝 Rooks, the Grammar Goddess. I remember turning 16 - sweet sixteen wasn't me, though. I didn't get into trouble but I was a bratty had to be in the "in-crowd" teenager. Turning 30 was major for me. I got a divorce, had surgery and my father passed away when I was in the hospital. Two years later, I moved to South Florida. After that, I had many life changing events but I managed to keep moving forward. Happy 100th Birthday Marcia Rooks!16/02/2017 #5 Susan 🐝 Rooks, the Grammar Goddess#3 @Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee, time surely does move quickly, doesn't it? I clearly remember being 16, excited to go for my driver's license test (which I FAILED), looking forward to driving my dad's car. Of course, that didn't happen as planned . . .16/02/2017 #2 Sara Jacobovici"Happy 100th birthday, Marcia Rooks!" And many more!!! Great post @Susan 🐝 Rooks, the Grammar Goddess. I appreciate your sentiments and insights. I also agree with the following: "All of those milestones make us who we are today. Each set us on a path we couldn't have seen clearly then, even if we had mapped it out, debated the pros and cons of action plans,or created a timeline of dates for accomplishments." Onward and upward!
- Producer15/02/2017The GiftBirth is a precarious thing even in the best of circumstances. Those in the room exhibit an expertise as smooth as soft music; moving around the mother; building their movements into, what they hope, is the crescendo of a healthy, wailing child. It...
Comments15/02/2017 #7 Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee@CityVP 🐝 Manjit It is true I've suffered hardships. I'm grateful because they, in turn, drove me to learn how to write. It is my greatest pleasure. Thank you for your kind thoughts.
I think I would rather be a mouse in the wall. What I do is hard. Hard never scared me, but I must admit--the position of that mouse in the wall looks mighty good at times.15/02/2017 #6 CityVP 🐝 Manjit#1 Dear Sara [ @Sara Jacobovici ] Joyce has been a breath of fresh air since her arrival because she is not an actor playing the role of difficulty and then thanking everyone for receiving an award to describe the human condition - we have become way too reliant on proxies to broach subjects from I guess people would call "a safe distance".
I have already noted Joyce as a person who has fully experienced the unthinkable and she has this rare quality I do not see in people - which Gandhi called Satyagraha - and which is a word that is sometimes reduced to non-violence - whereas what Gandhi meant by it was far different and significant as this link provides, for in reality Satyagraha is as difficult an individual way and challenge as is Agape love which also gets reduced to unconditional love. What gets reduced is actually the practice of it.
QUOTE: "Satyagraha means the exercise of the purest soul-force against all injustice, oppression and exploitation. Suffering and trust are attributes of soul force."
So what is conveyed as "non-violence" has an even more powerful meaning, which is "stand your ground". As I have interacted with every piece Joyce has written, she displays both humanity and tenacity of spirit to stand her ground when it comes down to her fight for justice. In a world where marketing is more important than meaning - the meaning in Joyce's writing is unmistakable.15/02/2017 #3 CityVP 🐝 ManjitI have never been comfortable with the first year of a child's life because complications can arise and the graph of mortality per 1000 people shows what a critical period the first year of life is :
Mortality Rates by Age [Per 1000]
https://www.measureevaluation.org/resources/training/online-courses-and-resources/non-certificate-courses-and-mini-tutorials/multiple-decrement-life-tables/lesson-2/images/figure-2-5.1 View moreI have never been comfortable with the first year of a child's life because complications can arise and the graph of mortality per 1000 people shows what a critical period the first year of life is :
Mortality Rates by Age [Per 1000]
Now when we add in the life-saving role of healthcare and what those mortality rates would be without the supreme effort to save babies, these numbers would be much worse. The reality outlined in this buzz is still only faced by the few rather than the many and in reading accounts such as this, it speaks volumes to quality of healthcare.
Yet there are great differences in quality of healthcare even in Western nations. This 2008 comparison of healthcare services for mothers between Paris and New York, underlines the French healthcare model
France's Model Health Care For New Mothers
The key phrase difference between Paris and New York mentioned in the article is between the words "a special moment" vs "a coverage issue". One of these systems accords more with nature, the other with materialism - in the US they pay for materialism.
Another well written account Joyce and not just because of how the story concludes - but also the grounded reality presented here, that may make all the difference in the world. Close
- Producer30/01/2017The Reality of Virtual RelationshipsWhy are some online relationships so SPECIAL? Many of us feel that something is different about beBee. Some of us notice a shift in the world at large. I'd like to hypothesize that the internet has brought us to a new evolution of...
Comments09/02/2017 #29 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#27 Perfect quote, @Chas ✌️ Wyatt. It captures some of what I conveyed in comments on @Joel Anderson's series of posts about footprints and lines.
This is a both/and situation.
Fresh perspectives, clean slates, starting from scratch, not being attached to things are all occasionally preferred.
Other scenarios require an established path, a line that we will not cross, the tracks of a life well-lived.
It is all part of the duality of life. Just like in-person or virtual relationships.
We now have the technology for it to be a dynamic, joy-promoting Both/And depending on circumstances.09/02/2017 #28 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#26 I was so touched by your comment, @🐝 Fatima G. Williams, that I just kept rereading it. A worthy response was eluding me until now.
We may have lost the comfort of belonging to a village, but we cannot discount the soul enlivening effect of finding the perfect virtual village.09/02/2017 #27 Chas ✌️ Wyatt"It is a pleasant feeling to be the first to walk on sands which the tide has just left. It is like being the first to visit a new land. It produces a freshness of sensation something akin to that of early morning, or of spring. It is like entering upon a new stage of life, having a new world before us from which to receive, and upon which to make impressions." ~Henry James Slack (1818–1896), "The Ministry of the Beautiful", "Conversation II: Footsteps on the Sand," 1850.08/02/2017 #26 🐝 Fatima G. Williams@Deb 🐝 Helfrich Having had the opportunity to have a personal chat with you I know I'm blessed beyond words can describe for having met you.
The way I describe my relationship with you is as below
"The energy I collectively feel is unique. It feeds my soul in a new, exciting, and fulfilling ways. It satisfies my heart with a feeling of a content conversation"
Fulfilment and satisfaction of talking to someone. I haven't had that in a very long time. As real friends tend to drift away seemingly concerned about their social status. People like me who is no longer worried who got the lastest car or designer clothes tend to drift away in search of meaning and true relationships.
As I mentioned in my Why I love beBee buzz. I found beBee and it replaced the human connection I needed at that time. Is there any better way for me to explain how I feel about being here and knowing you all. Thank you.Stay blessed.31/01/2017 #23 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#13 I truly value your comment, Sara. There is definitely some discussion needed here to understand how it is that we have, in some cases, these really vibrant relationships happening in tiny 2-D comment boxes. We are still in the rather early stages of getting to know each other, but if life where to occur and we became neighbors, I suspect that our concepts of each other would just blossom with all the new sensory information and 'time' to learn about how we participate in daily life.
I just cannot get around the fact that the Sara I imagine talking/typing to is in my own head. It will be coming up on a year that we've been in an orbit of friendship and the amount of data points we have both directly and via numerous other people is a rather immense set of information. But I am still creating a version of you that exists in my own mind.
We've been doing this since kids with books. I can vibrantly describe most of the books I have read in terms of a full bodily existence, even though so many of these sensory details are likely my own construct. So I don't really see it as transcending bodies exactly, just setting aside some of the realities.
For instance, I find it jolting sometimes when one of the Australians mentions how hot it is, when it is winter in Seattle. Other times, most likely when they have mentioned place, the heat is a given.
What is similar between interacting with imagination when reading books and interacting with reality when conversing on social media is that many parts of the background and environment are filled by my own local senses. While what is different is that you can answer in your own unique and completely different words. It can be a new sense in a very practical way, while also being extraordinarily magical and spiritual.31/01/2017 #21 Sara Jacobovici#17 Your generous (and flattering) invitation is too good to pass up. It will be my pleasure to take part in the dynamic meeting organized by you two ladies @Cyndi wilkins. I sent Deb a PM that although I can not commit to the first meeting, I will keep my "eyes and ears open" to future opportunities.31/01/2017 #18 Renée 🐝 CormierI have to say, I have met some truly wonderful people on beBee. In my opinion, beBee is the only social media platform that really makes it easy to develop friendships with other members. A world where people seek out commonalities and community will always be more loving and peaceful than a world focused on separation and differences. This microcosm called beBee is a good place. It's god to communicate with kind-hearted people like you, @Deb 🐝 Helfrich.31/01/2017 #17 Cyndi wilkins#15 Perhaps the "Time" is right to take a small step beyond the boundaries of the "Read" and dip your toe in a little....Sounds like we have a couple of discussions emerging here that would present the perfect opportunities for us all to finally meet...face to face and ear to ear:-) @Deb 🐝 Helfrich and I would be honored if you would consider lending us an ear and better yet your input on some up and coming discussions we will be hosting. The first of the series will begin this Saturday, Feb. 4th via Skype. Check out the above link for details...We would love to "See" you all there!31/01/2017 #16 Mohammed Sultan@Deb 🐝 Helfrich.Your ideas are hitting our imagination as the sea waves are always hitting the shore of the pacific.I find such group discussions are quite natural ,since they convey the emotions,feelings and thoughts which shape people's personal brands on beBee.Thank you Deb.31/01/2017 #13 Sara JacoboviciDear @Deb 🐝 Helfrich, I am slowly allowing myself to land from your piece as I attempt to form the words I need to communicate with you. (Deep breath.) First, let me thank you for the mention and for being in any way connected to your writing. I feel privileged to have witnessed the process you described, intellectually and artistically, of your SM self-discovery here on beBee. My "sense" of you is that you are an exceptional human being, with your heart in the right place, and your mind "a right place". And speaking of places....you write: when we "look past their body and 24/7 personality and our own typical human senses and we communicate directly with someone else as pure consciousness that actually lives inside of our own mind." From my perspective, this reflects you are in a different place than me. I am still where you write in the "full, physical, proximal, flawed" sensory, complicated body. If I had to place myself, I would be, not in the new sense you describe but "pivoting" on my older senses. I have never been good at transcending the physical. I am still navigating the integration of the physical, psychological and spiritual. My experiences of SM is still connected to the meanings I have formed from my sensory experiences. I am very "conscious" of being open to expanding my experiences and awareness but that is an expansion of my existing boundaries. I have yet to navigate outside those boundaries. You, Deb, have truly broken through and have reached beyond. All the power to you!
- Producer03/01/2017Frozen In Time"Cut the shit Bill...Wake up! It's Christmas and all your kids are here!"That's my dads favorite nurse Kathy. She knows just how to get a response out of him...however small. I can almost see him smiling and thinking, "Who the hell invited you!" The...
Comments24/01/2017 #8 Lisa 🐝 GallagherI had to stop crying before I could write @Cyndi wilkins. This story of your dad is very powerful. I love the quotes you included, your relationship! "Dumb water," ok, that gave me a chuckle. I can relate to this with the exception that your dad suffered longer in front of all of you than my mom. Mom became blue and her breathing changed the day she died. I worried we would have to possibly watch her in that state for longer than a day or two. I understood what you meant when you wrote of death with dignity. It's still a ruse in the US. After reading of the convo you had with your dad after he passed, I think he'd be proud of his girl!! I love the photos Cyndi. My heart goes out to you, I was still in shock the first month or so after mom died last year. As much as we don't want to lose them, we sure do not want to watch them suffer and that's what makes the loss a bit of relief when it comes. If you ever need to talk, I'm here. Your dad sounds like he was a wonderful man!! Keep those memories close to your heart and keep sharing the stories when you are up to it.24/01/2017 #7 Cyndi wilkins#5 Amen to that last line in your comment Todd...My dad was described by his peers as the salt of the Earth...And that he was...A man's man yes, but a gentleman...In all my life I can only recall seeing him loose his temper once...ONCE, in a lifetime...can you imagine that? Geez, I loose my temper at least once a day! Apparently, I did not inherit his patience gene;-)24/01/2017 #5 Todd Jones@Cyndi wilkins, this is an absolutely superb tribute to your father. That picture of him on his boat is splendid. In it I see the lifeblood of a man's man. Someone comfortable in his own skin, and untroubled by superficial trivialities or unnecessary drama. He just looks like a great guy.
This is how we should remember those close to us. Not bearing witness to endless days of pointless suffering. Not deflecting tearful requests to fetch a gun because, even with morphine, the pain is intolerable.
Five states currently have laws that support Death with Dignity. It's time for the other 45 to reverse the vile rules that demand a departure from this world that is often nothing short of Draconian misery.24/01/2017 #4 Cyndi wilkinsThank you @debasish majumder, @Pascal Derrien, @Max🐝 J. Carter, @Sara Jacobovici, @Todd Jones and @Maria Luquero Vila...I appreciate your finding this article relevant. I know there has been some buzzing going around about "tags" and their relevance...But the past two articles I have posted have such enormous significance to my well-being right now that I am feeling a very strong urge to reach out in gratitude to those have been moved by it...My apologies if anyone finds "tagging" cumbersome;-) @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher...thought you might like this one too;-)04/01/2017 #1 Sara JacoboviciDear @Cyndi wilkins, I am reaching out across cyberspace to give you a hug. I am blown away by you...your ability to write and communicate the difficult "stuff", your feelings, insights and smarts! From one daughter to another, from heart to heart, I will add my voice to those who have already written you that you have honoured your father through the telling of this story. Time is always mentioned at times like this and so it is. From your title and throughout your story, you weave time through. The one that is staying with me right now is, ....these "moments" are all lived simultaneously in the libraries of our minds. Time itself is all "ONE" moment."
Wishing you a time to grieve, Cyndi. I don't doubt that you have the strength.
- Producer29/12/2016Why does it matter?Image credit: HuffingtonPost “Popular”culture was hit hard in 2016. We are all reeling from it in our own way, with our own experiences and meanings. For me, all the people involved were “close to home” in geography and generation,...
Comments30/12/2016 #5 Salma RodriguezHow are you feeling, @Sara Jacobovici? Spirits never die. They pass. Our bodies are transient entities, our souls eternal. Why do physicists try so hard, with M-theory, string theory, loop quantum gravity, what's next? Trying to get to the source of creation and they do not succeed? That is for next generations to figure out, and they would ultimately be brought to God. Through Perfect Will and Perfect Time, the creator elects an individual who reveals truth. Have you heard of the Yuga Cycle? Thanks for sharing!29/12/2016 #3 Jean L. Serio CPC, CeMAThank your for the poignant share, Sara. While the dying never stops, as Phil Friedman says in his comment, in some way - every day - we each experience a little death of something in our own lives. It could be loss of an account or client, loss of a personal relationship. Dying, as we know, comes in hundreds of small ways. It's living optimistically beyond them that requires strength.29/12/2016 #1 Phil FriedmanUnfortunately, Sara, the dying never stops. I am not sure that it speeds up either, except for minor variations both up and down from year to year. It is only that, as we age, the natural deaths of some of those who make up "our world" strikes us with increasing force, as our personal sel-delusion of immortality wanes bit by bit each year. Best wishes to you and yours for a healthy, happy, prosperous New Year.!and one with fewer passing from the "scene".
- Producer09/12/2016The Man in the MirrorI was born in December. For a highly introspective raging introvert, that creates a double whammy, particularly as the number of birthdays climb. I am faced with evaluating both the year that just passed, and at the same time, the years of...
Comments14/12/2016 #68 Praveen Raj GullepalliWhat a terrific pic that dear Kev! Best self-portrait I have ever seen. But I can see that the man be too scared to lookie in the mirror! ;) I love what I see in the mirror - good, bad or ugly. I think I am still in love with meee ;) Er...those last two lines are some lyrics I just wrote right here...may not really reflect my thoughts...or do they? My wish and hope for all is that though we must lose our bodies, we may not lose our minds. How we grow within, grow out of our pride and prejudices, our misconceptions and weaknesses, grow more cheerful and kind, is a thing of greater beauty than how the mirror shows we grow without - is what I believe. Having just turned 50, sharing my birthday with Bruce Lee ;), here's cheers to all Sagittarians, the pasts ...and the behinds! :)13/12/2016 #62 Kevin Pashuk#60 If I didn't know better Graham, I would think you were asking me out...😀 I'm glad you saw the 'look' in my eyes as knowing... In reality it is the look of wishing I wasn't in a picture. I much prefer to be behind the lens. In this case, it was a selfie... so I was on both sides of the shot.13/12/2016 #61 Harvey LloydSelf Awareness at 50+ oh i meant 34.75+ is a different animal than when facing it at 25+. The spousal unit and i discuss your relevant concept all the time. We are proactively engaging our children and grandchildren. We have plans to work way past our retirement age. Not for money but rather engagement.
This time of year with time off, the season and the surrounding of family it gets you to thinking about the year's goals and roles and were they really as important as you had them scaled.
Have a merry Christmas and thanks for all your posts they are thought proving.
ps. I stopped looking in the mirror more than once a day.13/12/2016 #60 Graham🐝 Edwards@Kevin Pashuk this is one of the most impactful photographs I have ever seen in my humble life.... the reserved face of "knowing". The buzz was pretty good too btw lol. I know I have already read this but every time I see this knowing face in the "feed" I need to stop and look at the wisdom behind those eyes of yours!11/12/2016 #55 Gerald Hecht#52 @Kevin Pashuk Oh ...I'm sorry--I think I made an error in my comment! I was trying to say that the mirror (and certain other traditional other optical devices) DOES ADD TEN POUNDS; but that ...it's an optical ten pounds; it doesn't really result in the person looking in the mirror to gain weight! Heavens...if it was physiological; think about what trauma surgeons would be dealing with every time the circus came to town; Post House-of-mirrors Syndrome (PHS).11/12/2016 #54 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#46 I'm sure it would be a good read @Kevin Pashuk! I'm not retired (far from being there) but I do work from home for my husband's business and sometimes I feel as though I've lost a bit of my own identity. I could see how that could happen to retirees. Some plan way ahead and work part time, travel part time etc... I think they fare better.
- 09/12/2016Sharing the gift of @Sarah Elkins' story.It's All Part of the Adventurewww.linkedin.com Stranded in the Philadelphia Airport I'm sorry, it's highly unlikely you'll get home to Montana today. All of your flights were canceled because of the snow storm. I burst into tears. Highly...
- Producer30/11/2016Inspirational Books About Self-building And MarketingArticle from Freedom One’s daily audios and daily Reading is a so important to mold their heart and mild. I wanted to share some of the books and authors that I love to learn from. The Bible The Bible is my foundation and the...