- Producer16/02/2017Fireside Chats: MilestonesDid you know that February is Spunky Old Broads month? I hadn't until two years ago when a friend -- Claire LeSage -- told me about it. I wrote a post on it -- Spunky Old Broads -- but that one wasn't about aging. This one is, and it's on my mind...
Comments19/02/2017 #13 Susan Rooks#11 Thanks so much for the kind words, @Gloria Ochoa! Yes, in the last few years she has been sharing stories -- no Alzheimer's or dementia -- and it's fun to remember.
And like you, 30 was my dreaded milestone, although many, many years before you. Thanks so much for taking the time to comment here!18/02/2017 #11 AnonymousHappy 100 Bday to your mom!!! I bet she has stories we all would love!!! (Wish I had, had the foresight to ask my grandparents for their stories). 30 was my dreaded milestone and what spurred me into life long learning and student loans that just wont go away! hee hee. The only one in my circle and family to take nerd and geek it out. LOL
Proud to be a Spunky Old Broad (in my own mind anyway! LOL) Great post Susan!!18/02/2017 #9 Franci🐝Eugenia HoffmanAww, I love this post, @Susan Rooks. I remember turning 16 - sweet sixteen wasn't me, though. I didn't get into trouble but I was a bratty had to be in the "in-crowd" teenager. Turning 30 was major for me. I got a divorce, had surgery and my father passed away when I was in the hospital. Two years later, I moved to South Florida. After that, I had many life changing events but I managed to keep moving forward. Happy 100th Birthday Marcia Rooks!16/02/2017 #2 Sara Jacobovici"Happy 100th birthday, Marcia Rooks!" And many more!!! Great post @Susan Rooks. I appreciate your sentiments and insights. I also agree with the following: "All of those milestones make us who we are today. Each set us on a path we couldn't have seen clearly then, even if we had mapped it out, debated the pros and cons of action plans,or created a timeline of dates for accomplishments." Onward and upward!
- Producer15/02/2017The GiftBirth is a precarious thing even in the best of circumstances. Those in the room exhibit an expertise as smooth as soft music; moving around the mother; building their movements into, what they hope, is the crescendo of a healthy, wailing child. It...
Comments16/02/2017 #11 Sara Jacobovici@Joyce Bowen and @CityVP 🐝 Manjit. Please see https://www.bebee.com/producer/@sara-jacobovici/from-one-bee-to-another15/02/2017 #7 Joyce Bowen@CityVP 🐝 Manjit It is true I've suffered hardships. I'm grateful because they, in turn, drove me to learn how to write. It is my greatest pleasure. Thank you for your kind thoughts.
I think I would rather be a mouse in the wall. What I do is hard. Hard never scared me, but I must admit--the position of that mouse in the wall looks mighty good at times.15/02/2017 #6 CityVP 🐝 Manjit#1 Dear Sara [ @Sara Jacobovici ] Joyce has been a breath of fresh air since her arrival because she is not an actor playing the role of difficulty and then thanking everyone for receiving an award to describe the human condition - we have become way too reliant on proxies to broach subjects from I guess people would call "a safe distance".
I have already noted Joyce as a person who has fully experienced the unthinkable and she has this rare quality I do not see in people - which Gandhi called Satyagraha - and which is a word that is sometimes reduced to non-violence - whereas what Gandhi meant by it was far different and significant as this link provides, for in reality Satyagraha is as difficult an individual way and challenge as is Agape love which also gets reduced to unconditional love. What gets reduced is actually the practice of it.
QUOTE: "Satyagraha means the exercise of the purest soul-force against all injustice, oppression and exploitation. Suffering and trust are attributes of soul force."
So what is conveyed as "non-violence" has an even more powerful meaning, which is "stand your ground". As I have interacted with every piece Joyce has written, she displays both humanity and tenacity of spirit to stand her ground when it comes down to her fight for justice. In a world where marketing is more important than meaning - the meaning in Joyce's writing is unmistakable.15/02/2017 #3 CityVP 🐝 ManjitI have never been comfortable with the first year of a child's life because complications can arise and the graph of mortality per 1000 people shows what a critical period the first year of life is :
Mortality Rates by Age [Per 1000]
https://www.measureevaluation.org/resources/training/online-courses-and-resources/non-certificate-courses-and-mini-tutorials/multiple-decrement-life-tables/lesson-2/images/figure-2-5.1 View moreI have never been comfortable with the first year of a child's life because complications can arise and the graph of mortality per 1000 people shows what a critical period the first year of life is :
Mortality Rates by Age [Per 1000]
Now when we add in the life-saving role of healthcare and what those mortality rates would be without the supreme effort to save babies, these numbers would be much worse. The reality outlined in this buzz is still only faced by the few rather than the many and in reading accounts such as this, it speaks volumes to quality of healthcare.
Yet there are great differences in quality of healthcare even in Western nations. This 2008 comparison of healthcare services for mothers between Paris and New York, underlines the French healthcare model
France's Model Health Care For New Mothers
The key phrase difference between Paris and New York mentioned in the article is between the words "a special moment" vs "a coverage issue". One of these systems accords more with nature, the other with materialism - in the US they pay for materialism.
Another well written account Joyce and not just because of how the story concludes - but also the grounded reality presented here, that may make all the difference in the world. Close
- Producer30/01/2017The Reality of Virtual RelationshipsWhy are some online relationships so SPECIAL? Many of us feel that something is different about beBee. Some of us notice a shift in the world at large. I'd like to hypothesize that the internet has brought us to a new evolution of...
Comments09/02/2017 #29 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#27 Perfect quote, @Chas ✌️ Wyatt. It captures some of what I conveyed in comments on @Joel Anderson's series of posts about footprints and lines.
This is a both/and situation.
Fresh perspectives, clean slates, starting from scratch, not being attached to things are all occasionally preferred.
Other scenarios require an established path, a line that we will not cross, the tracks of a life well-lived.
It is all part of the duality of life. Just like in-person or virtual relationships.
We now have the technology for it to be a dynamic, joy-promoting Both/And depending on circumstances.09/02/2017 #28 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#26 I was so touched by your comment, @🐝 Fatima Williams, that I just kept rereading it. A worthy response was eluding me until now.
We may have lost the comfort of belonging to a village, but we cannot discount the soul enlivening effect of finding the perfect virtual village.09/02/2017 #27 Chas ✌️ Wyatt"It is a pleasant feeling to be the first to walk on sands which the tide has just left. It is like being the first to visit a new land. It produces a freshness of sensation something akin to that of early morning, or of spring. It is like entering upon a new stage of life, having a new world before us from which to receive, and upon which to make impressions." ~Henry James Slack (1818–1896), "The Ministry of the Beautiful", "Conversation II: Footsteps on the Sand," 1850.08/02/2017 #26 🐝 Fatima Williams@Deb 🐝 Helfrich Having had the opportunity to have a personal chat with you I know I'm blessed beyond words can describe for having met you.
The way I describe my relationship with you is as below
"The energy I collectively feel is unique. It feeds my soul in a new, exciting, and fulfilling ways. It satisfies my heart with a feeling of a content conversation"
Fulfilment and satisfaction of talking to someone. I haven't had that in a very long time. As real friends tend to drift away seemingly concerned about their social status. People like me who is no longer worried who got the lastest car or designer clothes tend to drift away in search of meaning and true relationships.
As I mentioned in my Why I love beBee buzz. I found beBee and it replaced the human connection I needed at that time. Is there any better way for me to explain how I feel about being here and knowing you all. Thank you.Stay blessed.31/01/2017 #23 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#13 I truly value your comment, Sara. There is definitely some discussion needed here to understand how it is that we have, in some cases, these really vibrant relationships happening in tiny 2-D comment boxes. We are still in the rather early stages of getting to know each other, but if life where to occur and we became neighbors, I suspect that our concepts of each other would just blossom with all the new sensory information and 'time' to learn about how we participate in daily life.
I just cannot get around the fact that the Sara I imagine talking/typing to is in my own head. It will be coming up on a year that we've been in an orbit of friendship and the amount of data points we have both directly and via numerous other people is a rather immense set of information. But I am still creating a version of you that exists in my own mind.
We've been doing this since kids with books. I can vibrantly describe most of the books I have read in terms of a full bodily existence, even though so many of these sensory details are likely my own construct. So I don't really see it as transcending bodies exactly, just setting aside some of the realities.
For instance, I find it jolting sometimes when one of the Australians mentions how hot it is, when it is winter in Seattle. Other times, most likely when they have mentioned place, the heat is a given.
What is similar between interacting with imagination when reading books and interacting with reality when conversing on social media is that many parts of the background and environment are filled by my own local senses. While what is different is that you can answer in your own unique and completely different words. It can be a new sense in a very practical way, while also being extraordinarily magical and spiritual.31/01/2017 #21 Sara Jacobovici#17 Your generous (and flattering) invitation is too good to pass up. It will be my pleasure to take part in the dynamic meeting organized by you two ladies @Cyndi wilkins. I sent Deb a PM that although I can not commit to the first meeting, I will keep my "eyes and ears open" to future opportunities.31/01/2017 #18 Renée 🐝 CormierI have to say, I have met some truly wonderful people on beBee. In my opinion, beBee is the only social media platform that really makes it easy to develop friendships with other members. A world where people seek out commonalities and community will always be more loving and peaceful than a world focused on separation and differences. This microcosm called beBee is a good place. It's god to communicate with kind-hearted people like you, @Deb 🐝 Helfrich.31/01/2017 #17 Cyndi wilkins#15 Perhaps the "Time" is right to take a small step beyond the boundaries of the "Read" and dip your toe in a little....Sounds like we have a couple of discussions emerging here that would present the perfect opportunities for us all to finally meet...face to face and ear to ear:-) @Deb 🐝 Helfrich and I would be honored if you would consider lending us an ear and better yet your input on some up and coming discussions we will be hosting. The first of the series will begin this Saturday, Feb. 4th via Skype. Check out the above link for details...We would love to "See" you all there!31/01/2017 #16 Mohammed Sultan@Deb 🐝 Helfrich.Your ideas are hitting our imagination as the sea waves are always hitting the shore of the pacific.I find such group discussions are quite natural ,since they convey the emotions,feelings and thoughts which shape people's personal brands on beBee.Thank you Deb.31/01/2017 #13 Sara JacoboviciDear @Deb 🐝 Helfrich, I am slowly allowing myself to land from your piece as I attempt to form the words I need to communicate with you. (Deep breath.) First, let me thank you for the mention and for being in any way connected to your writing. I feel privileged to have witnessed the process you described, intellectually and artistically, of your SM self-discovery here on beBee. My "sense" of you is that you are an exceptional human being, with your heart in the right place, and your mind "a right place". And speaking of places....you write: when we "look past their body and 24/7 personality and our own typical human senses and we communicate directly with someone else as pure consciousness that actually lives inside of our own mind." From my perspective, this reflects you are in a different place than me. I am still where you write in the "full, physical, proximal, flawed" sensory, complicated body. If I had to place myself, I would be, not in the new sense you describe but "pivoting" on my older senses. I have never been good at transcending the physical. I am still navigating the integration of the physical, psychological and spiritual. My experiences of SM is still connected to the meanings I have formed from my sensory experiences. I am very "conscious" of being open to expanding my experiences and awareness but that is an expansion of my existing boundaries. I have yet to navigate outside those boundaries. You, Deb, have truly broken through and have reached beyond. All the power to you!
- Producer03/01/2017Frozen In Time"Cut the shit Bill...Wake up! It's Christmas and all your kids are here!"That's my dads favorite nurse Kathy. She knows just how to get a response out of him...however small. I can almost see him smiling and thinking, "Who the hell invited you!" The...
Comments24/01/2017 #8 Lisa 🐝 GallagherI had to stop crying before I could write @Cyndi wilkins. This story of your dad is very powerful. I love the quotes you included, your relationship! "Dumb water," ok, that gave me a chuckle. I can relate to this with the exception that your dad suffered longer in front of all of you than my mom. Mom became blue and her breathing changed the day she died. I worried we would have to possibly watch her in that state for longer than a day or two. I understood what you meant when you wrote of death with dignity. It's still a ruse in the US. After reading of the convo you had with your dad after he passed, I think he'd be proud of his girl!! I love the photos Cyndi. My heart goes out to you, I was still in shock the first month or so after mom died last year. As much as we don't want to lose them, we sure do not want to watch them suffer and that's what makes the loss a bit of relief when it comes. If you ever need to talk, I'm here. Your dad sounds like he was a wonderful man!! Keep those memories close to your heart and keep sharing the stories when you are up to it.24/01/2017 #7 Cyndi wilkins#5 Amen to that last line in your comment Todd...My dad was described by his peers as the salt of the Earth...And that he was...A man's man yes, but a gentleman...In all my life I can only recall seeing him loose his temper once...ONCE, in a lifetime...can you imagine that? Geez, I loose my temper at least once a day! Apparently, I did not inherit his patience gene;-)24/01/2017 #5 Todd Jones@Cyndi wilkins, this is an absolutely superb tribute to your father. That picture of him on his boat is splendid. In it I see the lifeblood of a man's man. Someone comfortable in his own skin, and untroubled by superficial trivialities or unnecessary drama. He just looks like a great guy.
This is how we should remember those close to us. Not bearing witness to endless days of pointless suffering. Not deflecting tearful requests to fetch a gun because, even with morphine, the pain is intolerable.
Five states currently have laws that support Death with Dignity. It's time for the other 45 to reverse the vile rules that demand a departure from this world that is often nothing short of Draconian misery.24/01/2017 #4 Cyndi wilkinsThank you @debasish majumder, @Pascal Derrien, @Max🐝 J. Carter, @Sara Jacobovici, @Todd Jones and @Maria Luquero Vila...I appreciate your finding this article relevant. I know there has been some buzzing going around about "tags" and their relevance...But the past two articles I have posted have such enormous significance to my well-being right now that I am feeling a very strong urge to reach out in gratitude to those have been moved by it...My apologies if anyone finds "tagging" cumbersome;-) @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher...thought you might like this one too;-)04/01/2017 #1 Sara JacoboviciDear @Cyndi wilkins, I am reaching out across cyberspace to give you a hug. I am blown away by you...your ability to write and communicate the difficult "stuff", your feelings, insights and smarts! From one daughter to another, from heart to heart, I will add my voice to those who have already written you that you have honoured your father through the telling of this story. Time is always mentioned at times like this and so it is. From your title and throughout your story, you weave time through. The one that is staying with me right now is, ....these "moments" are all lived simultaneously in the libraries of our minds. Time itself is all "ONE" moment."
Wishing you a time to grieve, Cyndi. I don't doubt that you have the strength.
- Producer29/12/2016Why does it matter?Image credit: HuffingtonPost “Popular”culture was hit hard in 2016. We are all reeling from it in our own way, with our own experiences and meanings. For me, all the people involved were “close to home” in geography and generation,...
Comments30/12/2016 #6 Max🐝 J. CarterI think for me the take away of the loss that pop culture experienced is to open the door for new people to take the stage and inspire people into acts of courage.
Some of those we lost I will miss the rest of my life and no one will ever truly take their place, however I remember that life and death are two sides of the same coin locked in an endless dance that gives meaning to our lives and the lives that had the deepest impact in our lives.
We always have the memories, the movies, the songs and everything else that media recorder to save for all time.30/12/2016 #5 Salma RodriguezHow are you feeling, @Sara Jacobovici? Spirits never die. They pass. Our bodies are transient entities, our souls eternal. Why do physicists try so hard, with M-theory, string theory, loop quantum gravity, what's next? Trying to get to the source of creation and they do not succeed? That is for next generations to figure out, and they would ultimately be brought to God. Through Perfect Will and Perfect Time, the creator elects an individual who reveals truth. Have you heard of the Yuga Cycle? Thanks for sharing!29/12/2016 #3 Jean L. Serio CPC, CeMAThank your for the poignant share, Sara. While the dying never stops, as Phil Friedman says in his comment, in some way - every day - we each experience a little death of something in our own lives. It could be loss of an account or client, loss of a personal relationship. Dying, as we know, comes in hundreds of small ways. It's living optimistically beyond them that requires strength.29/12/2016 #1 Phil FriedmanUnfortunately, Sara, the dying never stops. I am not sure that it speeds up either, except for minor variations both up and down from year to year. It is only that, as we age, the natural deaths of some of those who make up "our world" strikes us with increasing force, as our personal sel-delusion of immortality wanes bit by bit each year. Best wishes to you and yours for a healthy, happy, prosperous New Year.!and one with fewer passing from the "scene".
- Producer09/12/2016The Man in the MirrorI was born in December. For a highly introspective raging introvert, that creates a double whammy, particularly as the number of birthdays climb. I am faced with evaluating both the year that just passed, and at the same time, the years of...
Comments14/12/2016 #68 Praveen Raj GullepalliWhat a terrific pic that dear Kev! Best self-portrait I have ever seen. But I can see that the man be too scared to lookie in the mirror! ;) I love what I see in the mirror - good, bad or ugly. I think I am still in love with meee ;) Er...those last two lines are some lyrics I just wrote right here...may not really reflect my thoughts...or do they? My wish and hope for all is that though we must lose our bodies, we may not lose our minds. How we grow within, grow out of our pride and prejudices, our misconceptions and weaknesses, grow more cheerful and kind, is a thing of greater beauty than how the mirror shows we grow without - is what I believe. Having just turned 50, sharing my birthday with Bruce Lee ;), here's cheers to all Sagittarians, the pasts ...and the behinds! :)13/12/2016 #62 Kevin Pashuk#60 If I didn't know better Graham, I would think you were asking me out...😀 I'm glad you saw the 'look' in my eyes as knowing... In reality it is the look of wishing I wasn't in a picture. I much prefer to be behind the lens. In this case, it was a selfie... so I was on both sides of the shot.13/12/2016 #61 Harvey LloydSelf Awareness at 50+ oh i meant 34.75+ is a different animal than when facing it at 25+. The spousal unit and i discuss your relevant concept all the time. We are proactively engaging our children and grandchildren. We have plans to work way past our retirement age. Not for money but rather engagement.
This time of year with time off, the season and the surrounding of family it gets you to thinking about the year's goals and roles and were they really as important as you had them scaled.
Have a merry Christmas and thanks for all your posts they are thought proving.
ps. I stopped looking in the mirror more than once a day.13/12/2016 #60 Graham🐝 Edwards@Kevin Pashuk this is one of the most impactful photographs I have ever seen in my humble life.... the reserved face of "knowing". The buzz was pretty good too btw lol. I know I have already read this but every time I see this knowing face in the "feed" I need to stop and look at the wisdom behind those eyes of yours!11/12/2016 #55 Gerald Hecht#52 @Kevin Pashuk Oh ...I'm sorry--I think I made an error in my comment! I was trying to say that the mirror (and certain other traditional other optical devices) DOES ADD TEN POUNDS; but that ...it's an optical ten pounds; it doesn't really result in the person looking in the mirror to gain weight! Heavens...if it was physiological; think about what trauma surgeons would be dealing with every time the circus came to town; Post House-of-mirrors Syndrome (PHS).11/12/2016 #54 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#46 I'm sure it would be a good read @Kevin Pashuk! I'm not retired (far from being there) but I do work from home for my husband's business and sometimes I feel as though I've lost a bit of my own identity. I could see how that could happen to retirees. Some plan way ahead and work part time, travel part time etc... I think they fare better.
- 09/12/2016Sharing the gift of @Sarah Elkins' story.It's All Part of the Adventurewww.linkedin.com Stranded in the Philadelphia Airport I'm sorry, it's highly unlikely you'll get home to Montana today. All of your flights were canceled because of the snow storm. I burst into tears. Highly...
- Producer30/11/2016Inspirational Books About Self-building And MarketingArticle from Freedom One’s daily audios and daily Reading is a so important to mold their heart and mild. I wanted to share some of the books and authors that I love to learn from. The Bible The Bible is my foundation and the...
- Producer28/11/2016Just Thinking out loud - Control Random ThoughtsBlogging has been for me, a way to share as much as I know with the rest of the world. These are my thoughts and examples from my own experiences, so I guess you can say - Dwordslayer shares a real person!There are days I need...
Comments18/12/2016 #49 jesse kaellis#27
Hi Donna-Luisa, I was in Mexico for a month doing a medical tourism thing that didn't involve much tourism. I've been back since December 10th and beginning a slow, protracted recovery. Thanks for the knock - knock and thanks for your story which I enjoyed reading.03/12/2016 #48 Laura MikolaitisI love the random thoughts that you shared here @Donna-Luisa Eversley. Sometimes, the random thoughts can be the best fuel for our fire.
Some days it is difficult to accept that there are things we can't control. That's why it is important to enact our gift of choice; especially when the out of control things can seem overwhelming.
It's taken me a while ton fully grasp the concept but I am better at it now. Each day is an opportunity to exercise our ability to choose - to decide whether we will make the best of a bad day or make the worst of it.
I enjoyed reading this, Donna. Thanks so much for sharing.29/11/2016 #38 Donna-Luisa Eversley#20 @Sara Jacobovici, thank you ..wow, when I read this, you got the weepy emotional blast in my eyes 😉😘 ...it is the truth of music and rythmn ..I am happy it resonates with you so much. As soon as I draw on the music my entire person responds. It is like a conductor bringing the sounds into a crescendo. Controlling emotions need that understanding of self to create harmony for self.29/11/2016 #37 Donna-Luisa Eversley#19 #hugs right back at you #babydoll @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher..
🐝🐝🐝🌹🌹🌹 Thankfully some of us are on Facebook or I would have been in a desert. 😂..glad to be back. I do have some stuff I've written.. will try to publish, but seems quite sad, not happy simply a difficult time with less light and the weepy willows.
Thanks for reading.29/11/2016 #35 Donna-Luisa Eversley#17 @Max🐝 J. Carter thank you...yes, storytelling is a part of the healing process which is powerful. It is the feel of the music which makes the story flow , making a melody which makes a whole lot more sense than life on its own sometimes 😉..thank you for your beautiful supportive words 🐝🐝🌻🌻🌻29/11/2016 #31 🐝 Fatima Williams#1 Aww ♡@Donna-Luisa Eversley I've missed you . Awesome that your back and buzzing again my dear. Your buzzes are music to the ears. This is a sensational buzz with some great takeaways. Everyone has a song for every situation we just have to sing out loud and let the music fill our lives. Buzzon dear and welcome back to beBeeland.🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗😇🤗🤗🤗🤗29/11/2016 #29 Pamela 🐝 WilliamsI really like this comment Ken. Sometimes you just can't play it safe, you need some adventure, to try new things, to speak out when things go awry. For now it is still some of the greatest freedoms and gifts we have; free will and free speach. The Internet has given us the ability to reach a tremendous audience and as long as we stay tactful and factual great things can be accomplished. Ain't no mountain high enough! Ain't no valley low enough! #28
- Producer18/11/2016Always room to grow!Last February, I wrote a post called, Lessons From a Woman Who Changed My World. Well, today is my mother Ida's 97th birthday (till 120). In spite of any challenges, this woman continues to think of the future and of life. As such, in honor of her...
- Producer17/11/2016A Time to ReflectImage credit: Clipart KidI opened up a time capsule today; a plastic bag filled with bits of paper with my poems written on them. For about fifteen years, between my late teens and early thirties, I wrote whenever and wherever the muse took me....
Comments17/11/2016 #12 Pascal DerrienI relate to the second one most:-) I quite like the concept of time, loss and memories... there is a plaque where my daughter goes to dancing class indicating a time capsule has been buried in 1985 and is not be opened before 2075 I would love to be there when it will be opened but realistically it wont be feasible or maybe......17/11/2016 #7 Deb 🐝 HelfrichBreathe and flow, what a stunning set of words to find from earlier days, @Sara Jacobovici. I also felt this sense of 'completeness' in the way that finding and reading a story from my months right after college held so many nuggets of who I am today. I both recognize those words completely and yet they seem strangely separate - I forgot the piece itself, but the memories of the creation were alive and waiting to be retrieved.
I am looking forward to more discoveries!17/11/2016 #5 Mohammed A. JawadAha...What a poetic ecstasy! Little enjoyments of our past are all great inspirations. As we remember we realize how we wanted to do something to express ourselves. As life unfolds itself with many transitions and when passing time narrates tidbits from our memories, we ought to gauge how well we lived and what's ahead to celebrate our living.17/11/2016 #4 Sara Jacobovici#3 Thank you @🐝 Fatima Williams for your generous response and for the added value of your comment. I appreciate your line, "...re-entering time we do it all the time as the strength we draw from the experience is much stronger than the experience itself." It is a very powerful "opposite" to what I refer to clinically when I deal with traumatic memories. When it is too frightening for the individual to remember a traumatic experience, I remind that individual that she or he survived the event and so will surely survive the memory of the event during the therapy work. In this case, when an individual re-enters in order to heal, the strength is in the process of the healing not in the re-entry.17/11/2016 #3 🐝 Fatima WilliamsDear @Sara Jacobovici Lovely flash back of memories and I can imagine how the nostalgia. I love your phrase on re-entering time we do it all the time as the strength we draw from the experience is much stronger than the experience itself.
"its strength never doubted.
the struggle of morality…..wrestled in our minds
alongside projections of what’s wrong and what’s right
already decided in black and white. "
The battle and struggle has undoubted strength as it's foundation and we can see the beauty of that strength reflected in your writing and you. Thank you 🤗🤗🤗🤗 Loved the read17/11/2016 #1 Ali Anani@Sara Jacobovici- you wrote in this amazing buzz "As I have written about the integrated me, these poems represent a younger personal me whose voice I have carried over into the older professional me". This shows that past influences our present and future and that we are fractal humans as we scale up past experiences. We don't drop our past; more we scale its major events.
This scaling up shows exactly who you are. The titles of your past capsules are still consistent with your recent titles. Is the past what makes our roots the grow our fractal tree? I tend to say yes because of your great buzzz.
in fractions and fleeting opportunities
through distinct forms and underlying plans.
life threadlike…..ready to snap
I am ready to say you are a beautiful mind and your time capsule is filled with wisdom. This buzz is unique in its value for it show our footprints over time. Yours are outstanding fractal footprints. Shared
- Producer13/11/2016Sometimes it takes time to set yourself free...This is me.After my first ever Gaga, dance class. After my 3rd dance class ever since I stepped away from the world that gave me a lot but perhaps hurt me more.I don't know about you, but I spent more than half of my life fulfilling demands,...
Comments14/11/2016 #21 Sara Jacobovici#14 #20 I couldn't be more impressed or grateful for your ability to "get it" and "communicate it" in your unique and powerful way @CityVP 🐝 Manjit. It is because of what you have connected to that I went into the field of Music Therapy and trained in collaboration with Art Therapists and Dance/Movement Therapists. That was over 30 years ago. What has been exciting to witness is that using, in this instance, the body through movement and dance, and taking it out of the health and mental health institutional community and into the mainstream and flow of our lives, enables us to return to our organic nature and get our bodies "in sync" with our minds. Anyway, you said it better than me. Thanks again Manjit.14/11/2016 #20 CityVP 🐝 Manjit#18 Virag, this is what Naharin is quoted as saying about fear :
[ ..." I don’t think I’ve gotten rid of my fear. I’m actually aware of the fear. Sometimes I enjoy being afraid. It’s less a matter of getting rid of the fear and more a matter of knowing that it’s all right to be afraid "... ]
You have already confronted the primary fear and stepped forward, what I am enjoying tonight finding out about Naharin is that his thoughts recognize the body is alive and that he see's dance as a living expression. That is why when he says "sometimes I enjoy being afraid", he is so in tune and touch with his body that he reads and recognizes what his body tells him - this is a marvelous faculty. In discussing these things we use our head rather than our body - but when I think I notice most my fingers moving - my brain then serves my fingers and in that I know thoughts have traveled up both my arms to deposit thoughts.
There are very few people who think of the body as vessel of intelligence, Bruce Lee was one of the rare people who understood putting great meaning to body and this is explored in The Art of Expressing the Human Body" http://bit.ly/2g4GuUb whereas Bruce Lee took that body intelligence into martial arts, Narahin has taken it into dance - and that is why I grasp his greatness.
When we are scared, it is the foundation of what we are walking into that matters, the foundation that you have had the courage to walk into is full of meaning and spirit, courage that takes us into emptiness is blind folly, courage that takes us into life is why I am happy for you - this form of courage has meaning and in that meaning one finds their freedom, and then sometimes as Narahin says he enjoys being afraid and that it is all right to be afraid.13/11/2016 #18 Virag Gulyas#14 Ohad Naharin is a genius who goes against all mainstream. Making his dancers go out of the ballet training towards a movement that is fully pushing their bodies into unknown areas, is simply courageous. And it works. The video clip you've shared with me is incredible, and I have seen it before. Thank you for sharing. Going for a Gaga class for me was scary --- especially after 8 years of no training. But stepping into the 'scary' is where is start to grow.13/11/2016 #15 AnonymousDear @Virag Gulyas, Freedom of self-expression is worth fighting for, that is the essential meaning of the self - similarity concept. As we get older the desire for freedom is growing. Your concerns and decisions are a sign that you're on the right track. Congrats, I'm a semi-professional dancer, It is just that believe it or not :)13/11/2016 #14 CityVP 🐝 ManjitOh! Virag Gulyas what have you unleashed here ! You have just put the name Ohad Naharin smack bang into my vocabulary, for when you mentioned freedom, it overwhelmed me to know the extent of freedom as dance philosophy this is. Incredible! I just ran the film trailer for Mr.Gaga and a whole new world opened up https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F6gd8xpFMsM a world that I love where freedom is tattooed as a way, as an expression, as a force that is born from a rigid culture, freeing itself from a constraint.
This reminds me of the antonym side of the movie Whiplash - where Whiplash dictates a passionate man who loves drumming and is grounded into submission by a ruthless teacher - and the antonym here is Mr.Gaga - a dance expression that releases the ruthless world of dance. We already know what it takes to become a professional ballerina, the immeasurable sacrifice, the dream that is chased by many girls but then funneled into a excruciating and demanding test to emerge with the few and not many. Cue the movie Flashdance - but Flashdance was not about creating something new, but another recital of the hero's journey. For sure it dealt with class but it was not a philosophy and it certainly did not offer any form of freedom.
You should feel justifiably liberated because you are clearly an early adopter of this transformation, this giving dance back to the people, the loosening of rigidity, the renewal of form and function, to exercise what one actually loves about this passion. The more I read http://www.danceadvantage.net/questions-about-gaga/ and http://gagapeople.com/english/ the more I honour your post and I thank you for opening the curtain for me and I say kudos to you for embracing this, for this is truly freedom.13/11/2016 #12 Sara JacoboviciYou are a great storyteller @Virag Gulyas and it always feels like it's coming straight from the heart.
Because one of my pillars of life is movement (paradox intended), you made me think that it is not simply the freedom to move but how to move that makes the difference; the freedom lies in choosing the how.
The other thing that I found "moving" in your story is when you say, "I understood more about my body today than during my whole rigorous dancer education.". Again, here the education lies in the freedom of movement and the understanding that results from that.
Wow! Thank you for sharing your amazing life experience Virag and wishing you from strength to strength.13/11/2016 #8 David B. GrinbergKudos to you Virag, for taking that leap after so long. I think your conclusion nails it: "So many of us stay in that tight leotard we force on ourselves - because, we get used to it, we feel too comfortable to leave. But don't stay because you got used it; because it is too comfortable. Wear that damn loose t-shirt and go free."
Life is too short to be running around on a hamster wheel road to no where. No one ever got anywhere by running (or dancing ) in place. Moreover, I think it would be great if you did a Live Buzz (when ready) from your dance studio. I'm sure you're very good. Remember, we are all our worst critics. Good luck and dance on...
- Producer12/11/2016Acts of Love [Intimacy]Acts of Love.In the adult Stage of our lives, we humans, like all animals who go two-by-two, engage in Physical Acts together. Amongst the Extras - those animals which only play small parts, low down on the role-call - these Actors play their parts...
Comments16/11/2016 #9 Max🐝 J. CarterHere's the thing, sex and intimacy have nothing to do with each other. You are intimate with the people who you make yourself the most vulnerable to with what you share about yourself and how much their opinion actually means to you. That is building intimacy through trust. You can have that without sex and you can have sex without intimacy. When intimacy is built prior to the sex, that is when you have the greatest of tantric experiences as my experience has been after study and application of the art form.13/11/2016 #6 Deb🐝 LangeIntimacy, yes we are all "connected' via technology, but how often do we experience real intimacy? yet, with intimacy ,we open up to sensing and connecting with ourselves and others that enrich our experience beyond measure. When we connect intimately we are open to the source of our creativity. Thank-you for sharing of yourself so we can be intimate together.
- 11/11/2016What John Lennon's, Imagine, does for the soul of our world, Leonard Cohen's, Hallelujah, does for the soul of each of us. May his soul rest in peace.Leonard Cohen - Hallelujah Music video by Leonard Cohen performing Hallelujah. (C) 2009 Sony Music...
Comments12/11/2016 #6 Sara JacoboviciThank you for your responses @Melissa Hughes, @INNFORMATE CENTRO DE FORMACION, @Phil Friedman, @Antoinio L. Rodriguez del Pozo, and @Pedro Gomez. I have to share with you that as I am writing this comment, I am beginning to hear the song Hallelujah being sung across the street from me in what I am assuming is a memorial concert. I didn't even know it was happening. Synchronicity strikes again!
- Producer08/11/2016Liar Liar Pants On FireIt had never been my intention, it was not by design even but more of a quid proquo almost that led my parents to think I was in relationship with that stunning young girl from Paris inner city. It’s true though that I had a massive crush on her and...
Comments12/11/2016 #29 Lisa 🐝 GallagherIt's a good think your mom believed you... or at least she wanted to believe you instead of worrying sick if you were out doing anything other than being a nice boy with your love! How scary that must have been. Your life is unfolding through your stories, love it. Can you explain the dog reference? Were you inferring "Nora" had dogs lol? Thanks for sharing @Pascal Derrien09/11/2016 #24 jesse kaellis#21
From what I understand Ceaușescu outlawed birth control leading to all these orphans. He was hanged along with his wife. Yeah, the nurses had no food to feed these babies, so they gave them blood intravenously as a nutritional substitute leading to the spread of HIV. http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/europe/8427299.stm09/11/2016 #20 jesse kaellisThat's a great story, Pascal. A guy I was writing for asked me to ghost write book for his wife about the AID's epidemic there, the orphaned babies. She is Romanian, It never happened. I was reluctant. Intimidated is a better word. I thought it was beyond my scope. Great writing Pascal.08/11/2016 #19 Franci🐝Eugenia HoffmanQuite an interesting story @Pascal Derrien. Some of my adventures would not have been approved by my parents and I got away with most of them. In my teens, I told my parents I was staying overnight with some girlfriends, which was true but we were all in Daytona Beach and not in our respective homes. As you mentioned in one of your comments, some of our adventures could not happen today.
So I'm looking forward to more stories from our "regular guy".08/11/2016 #18 Deb 🐝 HelfrichI certainly understand that period of not being quite honest with one's parents as they wouldn't have been supportive of my ventures. It is how I got to Paris, if I would have mentioned my intentions there would have been drama. They found out when I informed them to be looking out for my visa.... as I had plans for the summer. It was disappointing to be back at college in the fall of 89....08/11/2016 #16 Pascal Derrien#13 indeed small world, I only measure now how risky or indeed borderline collectively foolish it was :-) There is a strong Romanian community in Ireland too and I always have a soft spot for them. I have been back to Bucharest in a professional capacity in 2007/2008 the city had changed a lot @Sara Jacobovici08/11/2016 #15 Don 🐝 Kerr@Pascal Derrien Do the book buddy. I did one this summer for my boys that chronicled every day's activities with notes and photos. They're not even remotely interested at this point but in a few years I suspect they'll love it - or their kids will in decades to come when I am worm food!08/11/2016 #13 Sara JacoboviciHow cliche can I get when I say, "What a small world!". Here I am on beBee reading your story when you could have been handing a parcel to either my Uncle, Aunt or cousin! Although I wasn't born in Romania, my first language is Romanian because both my parents were born there (Iasi). My mother learned French at school and because Romanian is a Latin language, when I was learning French going to school in Montreal, I was able to pick it up very easily. I learned about Romania and France's close ties from my mother. I was able to visit my family in Bucharest both during and post Ceausescu. We were glued to the TV and waiting hours on the telephone trying to make contact with the family in Bucharest. It was a very nerve racking 36 hours until we heard my cousin's voice on a very weak connection but letting us know they were safe, traumatized by being too close to the action, but safe. So I owe you a big thank you @Pascal Derrien for putting yourself at risk to help my family!
- Producer02/11/2016Raining MiseriesToday I "celebrate" being ill at home for the last two weeks. It all started with falling and having six teeth removed. Like the Arab poet who said I went through very dry periods I prayed so that the sky would rain and wet my miseries. It...
Comments03/11/2016 #59 Ali Anani#57 Dear @🐝 Fatima Williams- it is a nourishment to the heart and mind to read your comments.
You know first you inspire me with the idea of establishing a hive calles "Quotes on beBee". I wonder if @Javier 🐝 beBee would find it relevant. SO many people have written so great comments on beBee and unfortunately they are scattered. Your comment, @Sara Jacobovici and @Praveen Raj Gullepalli are just few examples of what you commented on beBee recently. I am going to stay experience fit and credit to to all my lovely beBees
Learning + growing + self-renewing
= Living ( A fantabulous formula)
#beBeesforever and what a great hashtag and formula you have developed. Yes, beBee deserves to have all such great comments in one place.
You have been a great contributor to ideas dear Fatima and the WPD is just another example of your valuable contributions. Honestly, your comment energized me more than you would ever think.03/11/2016 #58 🐝 Fatima WilliamsI am happy to hear the golden words " I am much better now" .@@Ali Anani
I am so glad and fortunate to have this cup of experiences being handled over to me each day by you @Ali Anani and many lovely bees. I take a sip each day and gain from the nourishment of knowledge I receive from other's experiences.
Experience is the mother of all Knowledge intake. Its better than the classes taught at school. Imagining to be able to have an experience similar to what I read and to avoid the pitfalls from that experience. That is going to pave a long way for me to turn my experiences into a very fruitful one and inturn share mine with others to turn this world into a lovely place where one doesnt say " Let him experience it only then he know ; I''d rather say this was my experience take care with yours.
I am going to stay experience fit and credit to to all my lovely beBees
Learning + growing + self-renewing
= Living ( A fantabulous formula)
#beBeesforever 🤗🤗03/11/2016 #55 Ali Anani#54 You know I consider you as my sister dear @Irene Hackett. My value here is linked to my valuable connections such as you and many bees who enriched my mind and heart. No question I am truly blessed with people like you around. This feeling is indescribable by numbers. It is like trying to count the number of molecules in a human body. At these times I find such warm words my real healing and I am indebted to you and all bees who made my healing a smooth process.03/11/2016 #42 Lisa 🐝 GallagherI hope you are feeling better very soon @Ali Anani. Aging sure is a process... there are days I think, "Hey, I've got this," other days, "Wait a sec, it seems like I was only 29 yesterday." Time flies fast and I think faster the older we grow. Doing what we love if possible and yes, never stop learning helps a lot. Let us know when you are better, please! Sending good thoughts.03/11/2016 #36 Sara Jacobovici#30 What a great perspective @Ali Anani; how do we experience the changes in environmental conditions as we move through the different altitudes? Over the course of a relatively short space of time and place, we are challenged to adapt to this diversity. Here we are looking at a vertical movement in our external environment; from below to above. But the experience being discussed by your buzz Dr. Ali is a movement within ourselves, our internal environment, over the course of an event, but as it occurred over time; our aging process.
I know this is a “stretch” but I think there is a link between attitude; how we face our experiences, events in our lives and our "getting older", and altitude.
"Attitude origin 1660s, via French attitude (17c.), from Italian attitudine "disposition, postureOriginally 17c. a technical term in art for the posture of a figure in a statue or painting; later generalized to "a posture of the body supposed to imply some mental state" (1725). Sense of "settled behavior reflecting feeling or opinion" is first recorded 1837. Connotations of "antagonistic and uncooperative" developed by 1962 in slang.
Altitude originlate 14c., from Latin altitudinem (nominative altitudo) "height, altitude," from altus "high"."
Please note attitude came about 200 years after altitude.
I think this is why success can't be measured simply by the "height" of the position attained, but needs to reflect the individuals' "attitudes" while getting there.02/11/2016 #30 Ali Anani#28 Dear @Keith Bare- you remind me of a trip to the Rocky Mountains when it was very humid in Boulder. Four of us used the Winter Drive to reach the top of the mountain forgetting that as we go higher, it gets colder. When we arrived there we rushed to buy hot drinks and blankets. Some economies are the same- the higher they get, the colder the economy gets. People tend to forget that it is cold at the top no matter how hot the elections are at the valley. If we only could remember basic facts. Thank you for contributing a soul-enriching comment.02/11/2016 #29 Ali Anani#23 My dear friend @David B. Grinberg- your comment adds to my determination o write my second buzz on Nuggets of Wisdom. This comment shall have its place as it is full with wisdom. Yes, some people fall in the comfort of past glories. This is a comfort zone that has been rarely discussed and you bring a hugely valuable point that warrants searching into. Much obliged to your kind feelings.02/11/2016 #28 Keith BareYour post says it all, making lemonade from lemons.....attitude is everything!! As I was driving through DRY ARID Boulder in a TShirt with temps about 30 degrees above normal and drought fire levels at dangerous levels, noticing the ridiculous building frenzy of an economy out of control, and seeing the building cranes everywhere, a post about HEALTH and Happiness brings real life reality into an over worried election worried world........Choose Happiness if you can!!! Hope you heal quickly!02/11/2016 #24 Jean L. Serio CPC, CeMAMy Dear Ali - Your post has smoothly moved from describing your accident to considering and questioning life. Something we seem to gravitate toward when life throws us a curve ball. I hope, like you, I am able to review my life in the circumspect way you have been as I too age. As you say " Ageing is not in the number of years we live; more it is on the attitudes that we accept and limit our options in life", so very true. However your comment "We need to stay 'experience fit'. This shall be our source of power as we grow older" says it all. Continuing to learn, and aspire to learning more, will keep you centered and living your best life. My prayers are with you.
- Producer24/10/2016Are our names instrumental in shaping our personality?We all, must, in some way, keep track of people by their names. And that name becomes a short-cut for who they are. Yesterday, in a light-hearted buzz, Ali Anani inquired whether the change of Javier's surname to his business and clear passion...
Comments04/11/2016 #78 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#77 Most certainly in the observer sense. I notice things. Aesthetics was one of my favorite Philosophy courses. When I respond to Art - I really respond. But I lack any capacity as a maker of visual art. I also know now that I have some degree of Auditory processing dysfunction, which is probably the real source of why my memory is better if I see a name written out when I first meet someone.
This whole online avatar thing really works to my favor.... I can chunk the written name and photo together.04/11/2016 #76 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#75 Yeah, I know I'd butcher it. I am not one of those people who can easily mimic names (or words) phonetically. I really need to see them spelled out, it assists me in some way. I know I have a better memory of names if I get a business card where I can insert the mental picture of the spelling of the name along with the face. If I just have a face and sounds, that is when I have a chance to categorize a new face with an old face and name. Brains are fascinating!31/10/2016 #71 Sara Jacobovici"The synchronicities of the world are just so juicy!", now I know why I didn't see this when it first came out. I had to spend last Saturday reading as much as I could about naming and meanings of names. So now I was able to connect in a meaningful way with your wonderful writing. Thank you @Deb 🐝 Helfrich!31/10/2016 #70 Anees ZaidiA very interesting series on 'What's in a name?' dear @Deb🐝 Lange and dear brother @Ali Anani. My grand-daughter's name 'Aliza' was selected by my wife. The name has two parts 'Ali' my son-in-law's first name and 'za' the last two alphabets in my daughter's nick name 'Muniza'. Aliza means 'Joy' , 'Joyful' and baby Aliza is true to her name - making our evenings joyful over Facetime everyday.26/10/2016 #69 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher. #68 Even when I use google translation @Deb 🐝 Helfrich, "I am ready" still comes up as je suis prêt. Not sure what basque means. I would love to know more about our heritage, because that's a peice that is missing. We were told my grandfather was from the 'dark side of Scotland." I later found out that meant darker skinned people lived in that part of Scotland and they had migrated from somewhere in the Meditteranean. We think we narrowed it down to France but can't be sure. Would be interesting if someone did have further linguistical info!26/10/2016 #68 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#67 That is some great information, @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher. I am not one to nit-pick, but I have a special relationship with the French word for ready, it is... prêt prest looks to be Basque. Pretty ironic being from a region between France and Spain.... wonder if anyone has any further linguistical information.26/10/2016 #67 Lisa 🐝 GallagherOk, this SO wasn't true for me but I thought it was funny. I pulled this from the Urban Dictionary: The name of a girl who is very pretty and is so lovable that boys fall in love with her instantly.
Chick: OMG! DID YOU SEE LISA YESTERDAY?!
Dude: Yeah, I'm like...in love with that chica.
English- The name Lisa is a baby girl name. The name Lisa comes from the English origin. In English The meaning of the name Lisa is: Diminutive of Elizabeth: Oath of God. My God is bountiful. Lisa is often used as an independent first name.
As for my surname Fraser -Origins of the clan- The Frasers are believed to have come from Anjou in France. The name Fraser may be derived from Fredarius, Fresel or Freseau. Another suggestion is that the Frasers were a tribe in Roman Gaul, whose badge was a strawberry plant (fraisier in French). What does Je suis PREST mean in English?
Clan Fraser of Lovat. Friseal. Crest: A buck's head erased Proper. Motto. Je suis prest (I am ready)
So, This "chicas oath," I am ready ;-) LOL26/10/2016 #66 Shawn Quinlivan, C.Ht.#51 I never mind telling people that the Gaelic spelling for Shawn is S-e-a-n and that it is Irish for John. Nor do I mind pronouncing my last name for folks, which is phonetic (and also Irish). These are conversational openings, sometimes into the world of Celtic heritage and wisdom -- King Arthur, Catholic missions, Druids, Stonehenge, wee folk, the Lady of the Lake, alchemy -- mystical and fun!!26/10/2016 #64 Praveen Raj GullepalliWhat's in a name? A rose by any other name would still smell as sweet! Who said that?;) Anyway, that said, any name uttered or heard, or written down or read (mentally) carries an audio signature / vibration to it that affects both the listener and the person uttering. Either positively, or otherwise. Compound that with our association an affinities and you have a persona that springs up in front of your mind's eye :) Whether you like him/her or not! And we react...or respond...accordingly. In our community we are used to naming children after our many deities and scriptural figures. My Dad took a radical departure and called me Praveen (means ''expert'' in our traditional language. And I am humbled by that definition always. He named my two siblings Raghmore (...R.I.P. - after a German name he heard on the radio that sounded like it in 1970...); Arun, the youngest one's name is derived from the Charioteer of the Sun God's name, Aruna). The middle name Raj, Dad edited from his own name RAJESHWAR. The last name or surname - Gullepally - has an interesting explanation to it. Gulle - means an oval basket woven with bamboo strips, sturdy and egg shaped; Pally - means a hamlet. My ancestors used to bury their dead in these baskets, in the foetal-curled up position (minutes before dying the breath pattern changes and you can hear a low growl which is taken as indication of imminent death and the person is brought into a sitting, knees-folded up to the chin position and a fibre rope is used to gently tie up the limbs into that posture. After demise the body is carried in that basket, tethered to a single long wooden stick carried on either ends by family members to the grave. The body is returned to the Earth as a child rests in the mothers womb, basically. Dad took another radical departure and discontinued this ceremonial practice starting with his Grandpa! :)26/10/2016 #60 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#55 I can understand protecting your families name. My dad was born to Scottish parents in Scotland. His middle name was his mom's surname and of course last name- his dads :)) I love how you promote beBee with your first name @Javier 🐝 beBee View more#55 I can understand protecting your families name. My dad was born to Scottish parents in Scotland. His middle name was his mom's surname and of course last name- his dads :)) I love how you promote beBee with your first name @Javier 🐝 beBee and that's funny about your friend, Daniel. Haha, that would have confused me too. @Ali Anani, I love how you put it about your wife's name.. you didn't say, what do I call her when I'm mad, you said, Shereen when happy and Lana when extremely happy!" That's love!! My sister's name is Deidre, but we call her DeeDee. Close
- Producer21/10/2016Confessions Of A Soon To Be Ex-TorontonianI came to Toronto, by way of Fort Erie and Ottawa, in the late 1960s. Almost immediately upon arriving and getting a part time job at a discount department store called Towers, I met the girl who would eventually become my wife.I owe Toronto more...
Comments22/10/2016 #28 Phil Friedman#26 Sara, I lived and worked in Canada during the height of the PQ, and I always laughed when some of the academics in its upper ranks spoke of secession and joining the U.S., where their minority French rights and aspirations would be better treated. For only ivory tower academics could be so idiotic in their world view. No, check that. I think we've seen that exceeded in the current U.S.presidential election campaign by the bad comb over and the orange skin. Cheers!22/10/2016 #26 Sara JacoboviciLoved reading your story @Jim Murray. Especially since I lived in Toronto between 1984 and 2009. I have friends who live in every part of Toronto you mention. I have visited St. Catherines and spent much time in the wine country. It is not just that which made the read so enjoyable. You are a true storyteller Jim, a great communicator. As @Phil Friedman said: "Best wishes to you and your wife for a very long, healthy, and happy stay in the new house. And cheers!"
PS I moved to Toronto from Montreal. I have a little bit of a different perspective re Toronto's history and growth. One thing is that Toronto owes a lot to Renee Levesque (1968-1985) whose separatist party and government led to a huge move out of Montreal, not only of people but of businesses, especially head offices of international businesses, that changed the look of downtown Toronto.22/10/2016 #22 Jerry FletcherThanks for sharing Jim. Somehow your personal tale makes you more of a communications pro to me. A few years back I made a similar decision and moved south of Portland, Oregon to what my friends describe as "where the sidewalk ends." Now, after a divorce and a daughter married and living on the other side of the continent I'm tired of knocking around in a five bedroom house so I'll sell in the spring and try to down size. Moving is never easy, but sometimes you gotta.21/10/2016 #16 David B. GrinbergJim, are you sure this has nothing to do with the Toronto Blue Jays not being in the World Series? (lol). Seriously though, while I've never been to Toronto I've heard wonderful things about it. Plus, I figured if you lived there it had to be(Bee) good. Nonetheless, as I like to say: change is the only constant in life. With that in mind, Jim, it's St. Catharines today and Mars tomorrow (or in 10-20+ years)! Good luck with the move. Also, make some room for us in the USA just in case "you know who" magically becomes President and Americans must flee for greener pastures.
- Producer18/10/2016Frozen Lives & Broken SoulsThe Berlin Wall fell in 1989 and by 1990 I had already made the decision that I would travel to what was called the satellite countries, I would go accompanied or not but I would go no matter what.Travelling on a low budget I found myself heading to...
Comments19/10/2016 #34 Phil Friedman#32 The stories that most catch our notice are the tales of extraordinary heroism, But truth be told, the majority of truly heroic effort and behavior occurs within the context of day-to-day life, and is instantiated by those who consider themselves "ordinary", but who will not accept what is for what should be. If humanity is to be saved, it will be by the "regular guys" with grit, who will do the job.19/10/2016 #26 Pascal Derrien#24 thanks @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher yes a lot of mental illnesses in the street, people not diagnosed or medicalized in any shape or form but it seems nobody cares in the end since my time on the street the drugs plague which was marginal enough is now the biggest problem :-(19/10/2016 #24 Lisa 🐝 GallagherA story well told @Pascal Derrien. It's so sad because many of the homeless people are mentally ill and from what I've heard, suffer from Schizophrenia. Yes, there are those who are homeless because they lost it all but those who choose to live in the streets through out each bitter winter, well it brings tears to my eyes. You saw it first hand and I'm glad you touched so many lives. I'm sure you touched more than you were ever aware of. Thank you for sharing, you have a kind and caring heart- it's very evident in your writing. Obviously I never knew Joey, but I echo your sentiments, RIP Joey and to all the "Joeys" who died homeless.
- Producer15/10/2016I Said NO! Why Didn't He Listen?The story I'm about to share is a very hard story to talk about. I've gone back and forth in my mind about sharing this story because it really is very personal. This week's news about women being groped and talked about as if they are inanimate...
Comments18/10/2016 #65 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#63 Well said @Renée 🐝 Cormier, "Abuse is about power, so we should never empower our abusers by letting them taint our souls." A good motto to live by. I can't help feeling sad when I hear of anyone who's been abused in any manner but I understand you've risen above the power abusers!! :))18/10/2016 #63 Renée 🐝 Cormier#60 Please don't feel sad for me. I'm not looking for pity. It is very hard to share those stories because they churn up a lot, but I am okay. I really only wanted to offer a little help to those who are having trouble moving on. Abuse is about power, so we should never empower our abusers by letting them taint our souls.17/10/2016 #60 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#58 @Renée 🐝 Cormier, You sure have been through a lot. I thank you so much for sharing your story, it has to be hard if you've never shared it before. I agree, the good men outweigh the predators by far, and thank god for them. I can't imagine what you experienced for everyone's experience is different and unique to that person. Happiness and trust are choices. Like you, I choose happiness over gloom. It doesn't mean people should ever forget but by not forgetting as you pointed out helps a person to become more intuitive. I'd like to think I read people fairly well too. It's rare I've been wrong about a person's intentions etc... I feel it's a gift and I'm thankful for that. I think we learn to choose our friends well! Again thanks, your story made me feel pain and sad.17/10/2016 #58 Renée 🐝 CormierThanks for sharing your story, Lisa. I've had my own share of trouble at the hands of men, starting from early childhood. As I read some of the comments below, I find it rather sad that there are people our age who still can't figure out that life is about choices. Bad things happen to all of us and heinous things happen to some of us. All that said, happiness and trust are choices. I'm glad you are someone who can choose to allow yourself to love and trust a man because there are still many who are worth it. Having been sexually assaulted, groped, beaten and drugged at various times in my life. Sometimes I think it will never end. I certainly don't trust all men, but over time, I learned to read people very well and I also learned to trust my instinct. It is there for a reason and it is never wrong. I am a happy and loving person because I choose to be. It takes way too much energy to be anything else. I'd choose joy over anger any day, and believe me, I have plenty of reason to be hateful, resentful and bitter. Here's to love and getting over things!17/10/2016 #56 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#52 Thanks for reading @Graham🐝 Edwards, these are tough topics to tackle and read. I wish people could carry something with them that would always protect them but if it were that easy, it wouldn't happen at all. Scream a loud NO, yes with a siren in your hand? ;-)17/10/2016 #55 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#51 Thanks again for your comment @Lisa Vanderburg, couldn't agree more about the children who had no voice or help to deal with issues no one should have to deal with. Yes, I understood that Praveen's words were of encouragement and enlightenment. I appreciate all the comments on this thread. Always a good conversation to have, too many women still being assaulted and/or raped today. I wish there were better answers for those who suffer both physically and emotionally. Thanks again :))17/10/2016 #51 Lisa Vanderburg#39 Apologies for my tardy reply to your generous and candid reply, @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher. I so applaud the considered answer; I would be tempted to be berating myself with a borrowed Priest's flagellation weapon by this point, so I'm really grateful that you don't 'feel' that need. That means - at least to me - that you have truly been able to assimilate what was so commonplace, so (still) unspoken of.
I think it was @Praveen Raj Gullepalli who pointed out that there are worse things, and I think he meant it kindly. But it really takes great courage to 'admit' your assault as an adult instead of a child.
The importance that you answer proves is that there are so many people abused as children - worse, less...doesn't matter for this point, that can't speak out; didn't get the psychological help then, and are now are left with 'those lost potentials', as a result.
Well done - I applaud you!17/10/2016 #50 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#44 Thanks @Mohammed A. Jawad. There are many women who do speak out and if they have no-one to verify what happened, in other words, it's a he said/she said, many times the woman is considered or called a liar. Women have been ostracized for speaking out unless there is evidence to back up their claim. I appreciate your comment :))17/10/2016 #49 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#32 I think it has to be one of the hardest things to come forward about unless you've been physically beaten too and have no choice except to seek emergency treatment, @Melissa Hughes. Women are made to feel as though they asked for this and in many cases, they are called liars. To have to relive the pain is not easy, to report it is hard when you already lack trust in others and realize our system still does not protect people who've been sexually assaulted and/or raped. As in the Sandusky case, other cases and now Trump, I hope people find strength in numbers and understand it's OK to speak up and out against their offender. Thank you very much for your comment and share!
- Producer13/10/2016Rooted in TimeImage credit: Captain KimoRoots below, branches above; connected, making contact. The trunk acts as the bridge between the two, while its rings measure time.@Ali Anani has been asking, encouraging and teaching us to look at patterns in nature...
Comments15/10/2016 #8 Sara Jacobovici#5 Thank you @Shawn Quinlivan, C.Ht. for your generous and kind words, your reminders of the Park and Sequoia trees and for your line, "...the universe is a vast tapestry meshed by myriad threads of interconnected consciousness, spun in subliminal links of harmony."15/10/2016 #5 Shawn Quinlivan, C.Ht.Beautiful Sara. I love your Ode - and the awareness it conjures. This is a poetic and poignant reminder of how the universe is a vast tapestry meshed by myriad threads of interconnected consciousness, spun in subliminal links of harmony. I am reminded of King's Canyon National Park and the palpable, powerful sentience of the great Sequoia trees. Thanks so much for this! It's really lovely.15/10/2016 #4 debasish majumdermirror gives a virtual reflection to our eyes. it is our brain which can distinguish the reality. quality and quantity relationship is being envisaged by us, as we know the tree we observing is also in a process of continuous changing and the former state of it will never be appeared, as the time we spent in association with the tree will never be the same soothing moment which once being enjoyed never be appeared in same tune. however, lovely insightful post. enjoyed read. thank you very much Sara Jacobovici for sharing such lovely post.15/10/2016 #3 Chas ✌️ Wyatt"It has been said that trees are imperfect men, and seem to bemoan their imprisonment rooted in the ground. But they never seem so to me. I never saw a discontented tree. They grip the ground as though they liked it, and though fast rooted they travel about as far as we do. They go wandering forth in all directions with every wind, going and coming like ourselves, traveling with us around the sun two million miles a day, and through space heaven knows how fast and far!" ~John Muir, July 1890.13/10/2016 #1 Ali AnaniDear @Sara Jacobovici- I surely will start working on a buzz and title it The Sara and I. You stand out as the most engaging person I have had exchanges of mind with. Now, with the honor you bestow upon me by mentioning my name in this great buzz, I am baffled by your quality of thinking and relating. Yess, the tree rings reflect the quality of time and the environment surrounding the trees. Your linking the three parts of the tree with the three parts of the human body is amazingly relevant. What to say more? I am honored that a buzz of mine has a linkage to this post, which I shared on three hives very proudly.
- 05/10/2016This is my first "integrated" piece on social media. beBee is the first place where I am sharing a "personal" post on a "professional" site. This is a reflection of how beBee is successfully bringing the parts of me to a whole. @Ali Anani, your influence crosses many boundaries. I was happy to include a Dr. Ali quote in this article.Sara Jacobovici – Beginning a New Year, when “I” becomes “We”israelseen.com Sara Jacobovici – Beginning a New Year, when “I” becomes “We” I hate starting any work with the word “I”, yet this story is about the process that “I” have been going through in my “I”dentity journey. Although my journey has been ongoing, it isn’t...
Comments05/10/2016 #4 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher@Sara Jacobovici, what a beautifully written article about "I" and how "I becomes We." You wrote: "My “I” is anciently rooted but growing and thriving in my present ground. I don’t need to “let go” of my past in order to be in the present and look forward to the future. “I” exist in a relationship with myself, others and my world. Everything I do comes from and goes into this relationship." This makes so much sense on many levels and I think our past plays a pivotal role in shaping our futures. Thanks so much for sharing this wonderful article! PS: I loved Ali @Ali Anani metaphor about Trees.05/10/2016 #1 Deb 🐝 HelfrichI really enjoyed reading this, @Sara Jacobovici. This time of year really feels new to me and this quote speaks to me as a necessary ritual in any well-lived life:
"I am conscious of Shabbat as a day when I need to cease to interfere and allow what is to be and what is not, not to be."
- Producer28/09/2016OCD Pre-Ironman? *New Photos Added*We drove to Georgia to watch my son participate in Ironman Augusta this past week. I had a revelation over the past six days and I think it may work in my favor. There was a lot which led up to my revelation but it didn't smack me in the face until...
Comments01/10/2016 #42 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#40 I try @Donna-Luisa Eversley, that's all any of us can do. If we don't succeed, it's Ok, just have to remind ourselves that tomorrow is a new day. I think my family gives me strength- the love we all share is empowering. I'm proud to know you too, your a wonderful person Donna with a heart of gold!28/09/2016 #32 David B. GrinbergKudos to you and your amazing son @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher, you must be so proud. His fortitude and dedication to setting and achieving challenging goals is indeed admirable. Obviously, he has a wonderful role model in you! Your dedication to beBee is likewise impressive and admirable. As they say, the apple doesn't fall far from the tree!28/09/2016 #30 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#29 Hi @Praveen Raj Gullepalli, and one lucky mom too! Yes, I have to give my husband props for being understanding and I really do appreciate him! I agree, the names are fancy, aren't they? As I wrote below, we all have issues we deal with, it's how we come out in the end and manage them that matters. We can also learn from others who have similar issues, they may find ways to cope that work for us too, so sharing is a good thing. You picked up on something, my photos. I have to admit, my camera and love for taking photos takes my mind to a really great place and we have those great memories for a lifetime to keep viewing! Thanks for your kind comment :)28/09/2016 #29 Praveen Raj GullepalliA lucky Son. A loving Mother. An understanding Hubby. A beautiful tale of affection and concern...for being right and for beinng there for all. OCD...ADHD...all conditioned reflexes given fancy names perhaps? Take ten deep breaths ..slow in and out...each time you come up around a "bend" and mentally shoo the pattern away ;) You have a knack for capturing serene, still-life moments and landscapes with your cam Lisa...framed, those pics have the power to calm one down!!28/09/2016 #27 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#26 You were a big help @Deb 🐝 Helfrich, and patient since my anxiety was evident even with my voice. I have to agree, writing about this in the sequence it began and how it ended on a very good note is very useful. It's useful because it helps to recall what works and I think, helps to lessen the anxiety knowing you accomplished something you thought would be tough to trod through.
Great terms, "What fires together, wires together." I find that to be so true. Remembering the positive lessons and repeating them before another event of any kind can help to re-wire what misfires.
I think the OCD that I was told I have is probably intrusive thoughts which was what I was told for years- those lead to anxiety. I'm not compulsive, so it's probably true that I'm not OCD. I think we can all be a bit OCD; life can do that to anyone ;-) Thanks for your well thought out comment and advice, very appreciated!28/09/2016 #26 Deb 🐝 HelfrichI am so glad I was able to help, @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher! I think you showed a useful part of the cycle by writing it all out afterwards, so that other people might take the same approach - it doesn't necessarily have to be published either, but the intention to make it clear enough to publish is likely important. I don't necessarily think you are writing about OCD at all. I think you are writing about certain strategies to calm your anxiety that have a chance to work.
Going over things ahead of time is a prudent strategy that airlines and doctors and firemen all do - it is an important career skill if you learn to harness and package it. But because of the anxiety overlaying the thoughts, you forget to do a checkpoint that will allow you to signify you've done your best planning, time to move on. Doing a post-event assessment is another useful career skill and it creates the concrete thoughts that can challenge the next set of anxiety and intrusive thoughts.
What fires together, wires together - which is not to say that there isn't a mis-wiring in the anxiety disease pathway - but you can slowly and steadily learn how to manage living with it so that you continue to be able to participate in life and show up for your loved ones.28/09/2016 #25 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#16 Hi @Paul 🐝 Kearley, it's nice to see you! You're so right, packing my bags and doing this has helped me to realize I'm capable of facing other fears with less anxiety now! I love life and I refuse to allow my anxiety to rule it. I never allowed it to rule but it's caused me to slow down at times. Life is too precious and I'm grateful for so much! Thanks for your kind comment.28/09/2016 #24 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#15 @Dean Owen, you only sleep 4 hours? Oh wow.. I could not function. I need at least 6 hrs, 7 hours and I feel great. I have a friend like you, she only sleeps 4 hours and goes all day late into the evening. I must warn you, it's beginning to catch up with her. You could be right about the OCD thing, because as I noted above, I had a hard time accepting that since no one ever told me I had it before. I think my intrusive thoughts appear OCD like and my anxiety causes me to feel out of control, which makes me appear more controlling if that makes sense? The anxiety is real and stinks but I can power through it thanks to so many tools I've been given. I won't lie, there are days it's tough but over all, most people would never know I have it with the exception of the 'internet' now- since I made it public LOL!
- Producer28/08/2016The Cave In The BasementNovember 1978, somewhere in Brittany it is about 6.30 in the evening, it’s dark it’s cold and I am sobbing. I have some difficulty to come to terms or comprehend how I have ended up in the basement of the 5 storey building surely a 10-year-old...
Comments30/08/2016 #25 Pascal Derrien#24 thanks @Laura Mikolaitis not sure originally I could or should write about 4 to 5 topics this year that were very personal, in the end besides the need to position it as a sharing excercise and not self pity it seems to have spoken to many if I judge by the overwhelming messages I got off line. Life is not perfect but great we only have one anyway so better get on with it :-) u just to get rid of excess baggage evrery now and again :-)29/08/2016 #24 Laura MikolaitisVery powerful and personal story @Pascal Derrien. Thank you for sharing it. I can't begin to understand your circumstances and clearly it is something that caused you pain but your openness and ability to talk about your childhood experience here in this forum demonstrates your strength and character. It is clear that you didn't let your pain define you and instead have channeled it so that you can pave the way for others to feel more comfortable sharing their stories. None of us are immune to life's imperfections but sharing our stories certainly offers hope and perspective. I'm glad that you shared yours here.29/08/2016 #22 Vincent AndrewWhat you went through is difficult, no make that very very difficult for any child Pascal. I am sorry you went through this but your story is also one of being in control of yourself at such a young age. Faced with adversity, you looked for solace in a place only you could call home. You found solace in your books. You also had some good times with your father when you played soldiers with him. Thank you for sharing your story.29/08/2016 #21 Mark AnthonyDear Pascal , there may be many of us with heavy backgrounds and experiences due to the horrors of alcohol use however I don't think that makes one persons any less, or more,heavier than anothers. Each individual experience , I think, is unique and the impact it has is incomparable . Thank you for sharing this story as, for me, it is inspiring. #1129/08/2016 #17 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher@Pascal Derrien, thank you so much for sharing your story. I'm sure it's a story you don't share often because it's painful. No shame, just pain. I'm sure your story is much deeper than what you shared since I know someone personally who grew up with an Alcoholic dad and step mother who was both co-dependent and an enabler. I would hear one horrid story and possibly years later when I didn't think the stories could get worse, this person would let another story slip. Maybe that's half the battle, getting it out there and validating your own pain which is healthy. I'm so sorry this happened to you. I can't imagine the fear, I'm glad you were left alone (even though that had to be uncomforting too) in your 'cave,' your 'safe place'29/08/2016 #15 Deb 🐝 HelfrichYou captured this nook of your childhood with such a vivid story that it seems to me as if I watched it unfold, @Pascal Derrien. Masterful memory-surfing. That knack for creating your own security has likely helped you make your own path one of clearing the brush for others.29/08/2016 #14 Aurorasa Sima#12 You are allowed to suffer. Pain is not rational like that. Yes, it can help to put things into perspective sometimes. But even the compassionate ones - we´re selfish creatures and suffering because of the biggest current problem. That doesn´t mean we don´t care about others. There is a certain amount of "base" pain. We will not hurt double as much or half as much if something that can be rationally described as "double as bad" or "half as bad" happens. If a child gets veggies instead of the treat it was hoping for, it´ll cry as hard no matter if it´s least favorite or 10th least favorite veggie is being served. You don´t have to deserve to hurt by being the most hurt person in the world.