- Producer23/05/2017Flash Backs On An Ordinary Tuesday MorningA few days ago on a sunny albeit windy Irish morning, I noticed that the sun was very high and the sky beautifully clear. If I am correct there was also a touch of humidity in the air that day, was it the weather or a particular Tuesday mood that...
Comments24/05/2017 #27 Sara JacoboviciThanks for sharing @Pascal Derrien. A privilege to witness and an opportunity to experience. Maybe it is the summer, but I, too, am finding myself writing less and thinking and remembering more. So, I am putting it all together and am writing my "oeuvre" on Identity. I pre-acknowledge you for the inspiration Pascal, thank you. And, as always, great music pairing! Have a great Wednesday!24/05/2017 #25 Harvey LloydYou explained my brain well with the randomness of consciousness. My chemical of choice that kicks this off is adrenaline. Your parking lot dance with mouthpiece would have triggered the Alice and Wonderland adventure for me. Great story line and journey through the synaptic pathways of unconnected thoughts.24/05/2017 #20 Ian WeinbergThe past is forever in our present - the flashbacks merely the consciousness of it. Layer upon layer of life, experience and all, but still we are our past at our core. And on it goes ... Thanks @Pascal Derrien View moreThe past is forever in our present - the flashbacks merely the consciousness of it. Layer upon layer of life, experience and all, but still we are our past at our core. And on it goes ... Thanks @Pascal Derrien for an enlightening narrative and reminding me of an early time. Close24/05/2017 #17 Praveen Raj GullepalliSomewhere in the swirling eddies and currents of my mind;
The future me I shall find.
You can never leave the past behind my friend. It is always packaged as the present you.
Thanks for yet another poignant share.
By the way it all reminded me in some disconnected way of this song. Maybe the eternal optimist in me in a state of empathy;)
https://youtu.be/OdqDeBzqlP023/05/2017 #16 Phil FriedmanI suggest, Pascal, that those who experience flashbacks do so because they have lived and so have past incidents to re-live at times. Whilst it may be perplexing, even disturbing at times, how dull one's life must have been if one does not succumb from time to time to a flashback. And to think there are people out there who think of me as pessimistic. :-) Cheers!23/05/2017 #15 Jim MurrayMy Tuesday was pretty much the same, except for that I rode my bike. Didn't experience any overt racism and never saw my dad all that drunk, although he was a drinker. Thanks for the good read, @Pascal Derrien View moreMy Tuesday was pretty much the same, except for that I rode my bike. Didn't experience any overt racism and never saw my dad all that drunk, although he was a drinker. Thanks for the good read, @Pascal Derrien. I'm thinking a lot about writing a longer piece, like a novella or screenplay these days. But then again it's summer and it's hard to muster up the literary angst you need to tackle something like that. Close23/05/2017 #11 Bill Stankiewicz, 🐝 Brand AmbassadorNice post Pascal, at first I was sad in reading because it made me think of similar recollections in my past. Such as being a cashier at Harlos Bistro & Bar in Chicago IlLINOIS back in college. Seen a lot of strange things there trying to lock up after 4:00am on weekends.23/05/2017 #9 Gert Scholtz@Pascal Derrien A tricky concept on which I am no expert, but I would think that referring to past experiences can be a good thing, and I don’t think a state of solidity means thinking only about the future. Nice how you can make one think around these things. Have a good Tuesday Pascal.23/05/2017 #8 Pascal Derrien#7 I absolutely agree we should not define our future based on our past but we need to understand it and integrate the experiences many thanks for the kind words and thoughtful comments @Vincent Andrew View more#7 I absolutely agree we should not define our future based on our past but we need to understand it and integrate the experiences many thanks for the kind words and thoughtful comments @Vincent Andrew 😀 Close
- Producer24/05/2017Underestimated powers: Motivation and listeningMy daily job often means to ask my colleagues how they manage to complete their tasks. Usually, the question " how do you see your role..." is answered by employees more or less like in this picture. It's easy to understand why. The retail...
- Producer14/05/2017Happy Mother's Day, Di.My mother was not my real mother. She was the lady who married my dad back in the 1960s and they stayed together until she passed away coming up on 20 years ago now. Her name was Dianna, But everybody called her Di. I first met her when I moved...
- 05/05/201712 Laws of Karma That Will Change Your Lifewww.linkedin.com What is Karma? Karma is the Sanskrit word for action. It is equivalent to Newton’s law of ‘every action must have a reaction’. When we think, speak...
- Producer29/04/2017Fear is a Terrible RoommateFor many years, I kept the details of my personal life to myself. I never wanted that vulnerability to show, because in the world I grew up, the mantra was show no weakness; show no mercy.There are millions of people in the world who share the same...
Comments29/04/2017 #9 Hervé SabattierFear isn't that terrible... As all emotions, it's a question of knowing how to tame it. Fear, sadness and joy are my preferred ones and I try to avoid pain and anger as much as I can. I didn't know disgust that I experiencing at the moment. Suprisingly, it's more tasty than I was expecting...29/04/2017 #5 Shelley Brown@Donna Wood I don't even have adequate words for how much this story pierced my soul. I shook my head with understanding, held my breath with relatability and tears of hope and sadness welled up in my eyes. Beautifully written piece. Hits very close to home. It's amazing how "awful" can be comforting when it's what you know. The light is becoming my roommate more and more. I would love to kick that wall of fear to crumbles! Thank you for your honesty.29/04/2017 #4 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.#3 perfect! thank you, you as well @Donna Wood!29/04/2017 #2 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.true, I rather share my room with the loving version!
- Producer12/04/2017When Writing Is FutileThis article started as one of my usual tormented urban poems but then I stopped…. I looked at the few words in front of me and I thought they were mostly crap. It did not work, there was no fluidity, no melody, no emergency maybe I had finally...
Comments14/04/2017 #38 Antoinette Capasso-BackdahlMy condolences to you and yours Pascal.
All is not lost... she lives on in your children who are you and her future selves. I often wonder why we are attracted to who we are in order to create our future selves. Is it evolution? For some it is. For some, it is the end of the line because of the choices we made or that they make. Eternal life in the physical form is nothing short of a miracle. I think, if someone had made just one different decision along the way somewhere in the last thousands of years, I would not even be here in this moment to read your work. I am grateful I am.
I had a vivid dream about the Earth imploding. I was in space floating amazed and grateful to be able to do this... then all of a sudden the fault lines started to glow. Then the molten magma was rolling into itself [two fault lines]. Then the Earth expanded three times her size. Then she exploded. As I went to tuck in my legs, I had none. By the time I looked back, all the debris was being sucked into a tiny hole. Poof! Earth was gone. Then all these orbs popped into space. We were all marveling and speaking the same language but communicating telepathically. The orbs were propelled by a black liquid and different colors with what looked like see through bodies inside. Amazing dream that I hope does not come true. Everyone was saying "wow, did you see that?" and "I am glad I made it out of there" and all kinds of things like that. I woke up when I was perplexed at how we were communicating telepathically and the same language. But I have to say, a dream like that changes a person.
We are our ancestors. We cannot deny we are all related somewhere down the line. It's funny, to think about what a miracle life is.
I enjoy you sharing your less selfishness in your writings. One day, I may be brave enough to write but perhaps not until I get over my disdain for rituals.13/04/2017 #32 Ken BoddieMy thoughts are with you and your wife, Pascal, and for the obvious void in your lives. But there are no dead ends ..... only new beginnings ..... and challenges to provide us with self doubt. Your road block has a detour round it, but sometimes we need to sit and wait for the windscreen wipers to kick in, so that we can see the way forward.13/04/2017 #26 Dean OwenIt appears that often the ones that don't call themselves a writer are the best. I mean who knew that Gert had a book published! I've known him for over a year and didn't know... I love the modest touch of you both, never tooting your own horn. To me, you are truly original in a social media land devoid of originality.
- Producer03/04/2017On this day... a choice"This was the day without realising it that I began to choose to care for Mum when she needed care full time in her home. Care with love, rather than duty. Care with presence of being, rather than being physically present and mentally somewhere...
Comments05/04/2017 #21 🐝 Fatima G. Williams#17 Yes @Deb🐝 Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee like the very many things adapted from the west. Nuclear families are becoming a fashion now in India. Even when my dad wanted to an old age home not to bother us I wouldn't let him not as long as I was alive. If he were still here I would have the applied the lessons - value of time in him. I was young and carefree and even though I never spent much time with him ( work, friends,boyfriend were more important at that time) I loved him alot and he knew that I guess. But loneliness kills the old faster than their sicknesses and I am witness to that. The amount of trips to the coffee shops with my boyfriend instead it could have been my dad. I now prefer the latter now. Family is the biggest gift one can have in the world. Being miles away from them my heart beats for each of them.05/04/2017 #19 Deb🐝 Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee#12 @Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee your sons may not be caretakers now. Who knows how your relationship may change over time. And then many people do not have children today, and we have friends. Sending you much love today @Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee05/04/2017 #18 Deb🐝 Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee#13 @Lisa Vanderburg - no there is so much heartache in families. And when there can be reconciliation it brings much peace. I remember getting to know Mum as if for the first time - coming to accept who she was and who she wasn't, see her pain and her love in a very different way as I cared for her. It was a tough time and there were many special gifts.05/04/2017 #17 Deb🐝 Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee#14 Thanks @🐝 Fatima G. Williams I know in many countries it is still the norm to have young and old all living with each other. I think this is still the case in India. I hope this is renewed in the west as there is so much to gain from being family supporting one another together. Isolation and everyone living on their own has brought many challenges to society.05/04/2017 #16 Deb🐝 Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee#15 I know exactly what you are talking about @Cyndi wilkins And you are still raw with grief and the incredible strain of responsibility of caring for the dying and managing the care and people. It is huge work. It has been 6 years since my Mum passed over, but I still remember the complexity, the frustration, the sadness, the grief, the love, the tenderness, the raw dealing with basic body stuff, the heartache, the stress. In Australia at home care services are improving all the time. I did have some carers coming in and had to manage them like you. And to help me I ended up bringing in someone to live in, she helped me out part time and worked outside part time, in exchange for board and accomodation. She was my lifesaver. Caring for the elderly and the dying is more complicated than caring for a baby. And we are an aging population - who will care?04/04/2017 #15 Cyndi wilkinsI'm still going in and out of processing my recent experience with caring for my dad...Yes, I felt enormous love and made the very best of my time with him...mending fences and hearts along the way....But I also I felt enormous pain and frustration when dealing with the healthcare system here in the US...Which is very sorely lacking when it comes to 'Elder care services...There were many times I felt alone in caring for him at home...Hospice services did not come right away...and even when they did, it certainly wasn't 24/7 assistance...They were wonderful when they were here...but I had to hire very many people to assist with his care as it had become round the clock...and one has to sleep...Like you said, who takes care of the care-giver....In far too many cases, it's no one. Even with all the help, when it was eventually put in place, there was still the managing of all these folks coming and going...Eventually, exhaustion set in for me and I had to put him in a local nursing home...Thankfully, he did not have to stay there very long...RIP dad...Love you....04/04/2017 #13 Lisa VanderburgHow joyous a process of love can be; thank you for this lovely shared experience @Deb🐝 Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee. Like @Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee says, it's not the same for all of us alas - should be, but to love as the unloved is too often the case, sadly.04/04/2017 #12 Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBeeYes--this is such a beautiful thought process. What grace. We should all have offspring treasures like you. My sons are not caretakers. I will die alone. Speaking from that place I hope you know just how special what you did for your mom was.04/04/2017 #7 Deb🐝 Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee#5 All those things we do for others because we just do - if we are carers, nurturers, lovers, homemakers. Like you @Lisa - you cared for your Dad, your siblings, your son. And all of that wonderful care is so needed in society and is still not valued. The skills and capabilities are not valued - and you have an amazing foundation to do what you want in the world now. I remember when my kids grew up and left home, and then I cared for my parents and they passed, all of a sudden there was just me to look after. And there is so much time left to find your dreams and create what you want for yourself and for your ongoing contribution to the world.04/04/2017 #5 Lisa 🐝 GallagherI can certainly relate in some manner. I remember asking my mom if she wanted to take a trip to the Ocean less than a year or so before she passed. She wasn't up to it even though she was still walking, she was too weak and couldn't eat. Beautifully written @Deb🐝 Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee!
- Producer23/06/2016Hasta Manana ABBAI am a fan of ABBA and have been for the last forty years. Yes I admit it. Knowing Me, Knowing You, there just might also be some Bees who share this fondness, The Way Old Friends Do. It started on Arrival in my teen years – the time when one...
Comments25/06/2016 #22 Praveen Raj Gullepalli#21 Bang on Gert! Well nigh impossible to cover em. The dual vocal lead combo is deadly indeed! So are the BeeGees ;) (I could add Rush, Men At Work, Peter Gabriel, Tracy Chapman, The Scorpions, Karen Carpenter, Tanita Tikaram, Annie Lennox, Midnight Oil, The Cure, The REM, Duran Duran, Cyndi Lauper, Bob Dylan...to the list of Uncoverables...to name but a few!) :) Can't move on...cos we are stuck in that Golden Era groove man! Check out Tanita and her Twist in my Sobriety some time...unforgettable voice...solo artist.25/06/2016 #20 Gert Scholtz#18 @Praveen Raj Gullepalli. I can't agree with you more. They composed interesting, original, unpredictable chord sequences and vocal melodies. To my (untrained and unsophisticated) ear they were able to mix music and melodies from many genres and make it work. Praveen: thank to you I am reconsidering the Move On bit :)25/06/2016 #19 Praveen Raj Gullepalli#18 Absolutely! They packed some amazing talent in their songs. Only those who sit to write, compose, play and sing to record a single or more, will be able to understand how inspired they were! I have only one thing to say to those who criticise musicians and bands...first create just one single that is a hit with general public and then become a critic. Just ONE catchy original song/ composition ;)24/06/2016 #13 Gert Scholtz@Praveen Raj Gullepalli Indeed Praveen - who can ever forget all the great music from the 70"s and 80's. Apparently ABBA was one of the first bands to start producing music video's on a grand scale. The ladies wanted more time at home and less travel - video was a way of promoting their music world-wide.24/06/2016 #12 Praveen Raj GullepalliCan one really move on Gert? I wanda...and not just about the fish! ;) I first heard em on my buddy's record player deck with large wooden speakers as we were playing outside in his frontyard. Late 70s it was. His lovely sisters were blaring it out. Annifrid's voice...Mamma Mia! and Agnetha..higher and keener...wow...had me spellbound! Yeah then the infatuation...posters, their movie...cassette covers...it was more of Annifrid but now both seem equally fascinating! :) Annifrid had that sultry hispanic look...Agnetha was all fresh delicious European..They are forever One of Us...Yup, it was the age of ABBA, BoneyM, Kraftwerk (still amazing to me) on the pop side and Uriah Heep, KISS, Cliff Richard, Harry Belafonte, Steve Miller Band, Bob Marley, BadFinger, Beatles, etc etc on the other side...I could never regret the hours spent listening to these superstars on radio stations (BBC, VOA, Radio Aus, Kuwait, Ceylon, etc). And now I enjoy them even more...seeing those old music videos on YouTube...not a week goes by without listening to some of that good ol stuff! Bit hung up on Serenade by Steve Miller Band and Simple Man by Lynyrd Skynyrd of late...give em a try when you have time mate!24/06/2016 #9 Lisa 🐝 GallagherI used to love Abba's music. Memories come flooding back from the past. I can relate to the 'un-cool," oh my god, no you aren't going to play that song when my kids were teens. Now, we all enjoy 70's rock. I miss going out and dancing- another thing we did a lot of when I was under 25.24/06/2016 #8 Sara JacoboviciNice nostalgia kick @Gert Scholtz. Loved your message and the comments from your readers. About 10 years ago or so when Mama Mia was produced on stage, the Board of Directors of the agency where I worked wanted to express their gratitude to the managers for having successfully gone through a challenging time and rewarded us with a night out together for dinner and to see the show. Well who do you think was in the aisles dancing to the music? Yes, you guessed it. I loved every minute.
- Producer06/03/2017On My Knees"There I was, on my knees. I was holding a child upright with one hand, while feeding her with a spoon in my other. There I was, sobbing." I’ve written or at least commented about an accident I had. It was 1999. April 28th, 1999 shortly after...
Comments16/03/2017 #53 CityVP 🐝 ManjitIt is peculiar how things work in life for if you had highlighted "On My Knees" I would have clicked it but I did not see the link on the word "here". I am glad I did not because I read material here as a part of my learning journey and allow myself to virtually travel and having read the first piece, that virtual travel gravitated me towards the being of Alyn Shannon.
You might say that you have never met her, but you have, your spirit has. No matter how many children we pick and feed there is a limit to how many people we can touch unless we are equipped with great spiritual dimension. When you mention Mother Theresa, here is a woman with spiritual dimension that multiplies a million fold larger than mine - she came into the world as that being.
So did you in your dimension except it took the accident to release that spiritual dimension within you. We don't know this until that shell has broken, it is quite possible that if I had such an accident that I might discover that my life was an outer image which was greater than my inner spiritual dimension - but I don't know that because I have not been through that. What I do know from my sojourns and learnings is that what you have experienced doe have a word for it and it is most important word :
Yet your buzz is not just about metanoia, there is also serendipity involved, because as I followed up on the story of Alyn Shannon, I also discover her deep of love of motorcycles and her Harley Softail. This story I know because I read the piece on her niece in which she speaks of the one person who deeply inspired her (her aunt Alyn) http://www.antiquemotorcycle.org/index.php?mact=News,cntnt01,detail,0&cntnt01articleid=85&cntnt01returnid=97 As I see it, your mission began not just with God but also, like Alyn, with a motorcycle.12/03/2017 #50 Aaron 🐝 Skogen#49 I can understand @Pamela 🐝 Williams, no apology needed. I think we need to choose to see the good. I believe there is more good out there than we see. Especially considering the 2 min media cycle and focus on the "sensational". What would the perspective be if the "nightly news" (or morning, or midday) flipped the amount of time spent on attention getting, negative, sensational stories, with the amount of time spent on the positive and uplifting stories (which seems to get the last 90 seconds of the six-o-clock news). . .? I wonder. . .
Remember, each of has the power to choose to lead by that example you mention.
thanks so much for joining the conversation, I do appreciate it Pamela!11/03/2017 #49 Pamela 🐝 WilliamsHow can we be the nation we are right now? So focused on having more and more, turning our backs on humanity. I weep for the beautiful faces in the video, for the beautiful children you helped care for. Why Aaron, is our bountiful nation becoming a separated angry mob when there are entire nations like Haiti whose children can find such joy in just having or even being splashed with clean water. And yet we want more, more, more; it's a sickness. Though I no longer call myself a christian; the video illustrated what I was taught was Christianity, not the judgmental, hate filled, selfish crap I witness in too many in this country. Sorry for the soapbox; I'm just not taking what's happening in my country well.09/03/2017 #41 Sandra 🐝 SmithBless you...We take for granted so many things, complain about things that others in the world would be grateful for... my boy is 2.5 but always wears a size bigger... I could not imagine him being the size he was at 18 months now - impossible to even fathom. No wonder you were devastated... I hope you were able to nourish her back to some semblance of health...08/03/2017 #39 AnonymousThere are no words to express my emotions when reading this. I looked forward to hearing about your Haiti trip but did not expect my response to this.
I can only echo Shelley's comments: aching and powerful.
God works in funny ways; he saved you to bring you to those babies and to bring this story to us.08/03/2017 #37 Shelley Brown@Aaron 🐝 Skogen I hung onto every word almost breathes with chills and now tears. God is so good and I am so grateful you survived that horrible accident and you are alive with a heart so full and yet so broken for those babies. Thank you for going to Haiti. Thank you for doing the work God wants us to do. You shined out God's light through these words for me this morning and I am so grateful. What a beautiful, aching powerful story.07/03/2017 #33 Aaron 🐝 Skogen#28 Don't underestimate the power you have @Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee. See my reply to Phil (so I don't repeat myself), and I'd add to that with my second favorite quote from Mother Theresa "Be faithful in small things, because it is in them that your strength lies". We will indeed have a chorus!
- Producer16/02/2017Fireside Chats: MilestonesDid you know that February is Spunky Old Broads month? I hadn't until two years ago when a friend -- Claire LeSage -- told me about it. I wrote a post on it -- Spunky Old Broads -- but that one wasn't about aging. This one is, and it's on my mind...
Comments19/02/2017 #13 Susan 🐝 Rooks#11 Thanks so much for the kind words, @Gloria Ochoa! Yes, in the last few years she has been sharing stories -- no Alzheimer's or dementia -- and it's fun to remember.
And like you, 30 was my dreaded milestone, although many, many years before you. Thanks so much for taking the time to comment here!18/02/2017 #11 AnonymousHappy 100 Bday to your mom!!! I bet she has stories we all would love!!! (Wish I had, had the foresight to ask my grandparents for their stories). 30 was my dreaded milestone and what spurred me into life long learning and student loans that just wont go away! hee hee. The only one in my circle and family to take nerd and geek it out. LOL
Proud to be a Spunky Old Broad (in my own mind anyway! LOL) Great post Susan!!18/02/2017 #9 Franci🐝Eugenia HoffmanAww, I love this post, @Susan 🐝 Rooks. I remember turning 16 - sweet sixteen wasn't me, though. I didn't get into trouble but I was a bratty had to be in the "in-crowd" teenager. Turning 30 was major for me. I got a divorce, had surgery and my father passed away when I was in the hospital. Two years later, I moved to South Florida. After that, I had many life changing events but I managed to keep moving forward. Happy 100th Birthday Marcia Rooks!16/02/2017 #2 Sara Jacobovici"Happy 100th birthday, Marcia Rooks!" And many more!!! Great post @Susan 🐝 Rooks. I appreciate your sentiments and insights. I also agree with the following: "All of those milestones make us who we are today. Each set us on a path we couldn't have seen clearly then, even if we had mapped it out, debated the pros and cons of action plans,or created a timeline of dates for accomplishments." Onward and upward!
- Producer15/02/2017The GiftBirth is a precarious thing even in the best of circumstances. Those in the room exhibit an expertise as smooth as soft music; moving around the mother; building their movements into, what they hope, is the crescendo of a healthy, wailing child. It...
Comments15/02/2017 #7 Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee@CityVP 🐝 Manjit It is true I've suffered hardships. I'm grateful because they, in turn, drove me to learn how to write. It is my greatest pleasure. Thank you for your kind thoughts.
I think I would rather be a mouse in the wall. What I do is hard. Hard never scared me, but I must admit--the position of that mouse in the wall looks mighty good at times.15/02/2017 #6 CityVP 🐝 Manjit#1 Dear Sara [ @Sara Jacobovici ] Joyce has been a breath of fresh air since her arrival because she is not an actor playing the role of difficulty and then thanking everyone for receiving an award to describe the human condition - we have become way too reliant on proxies to broach subjects from I guess people would call "a safe distance".
I have already noted Joyce as a person who has fully experienced the unthinkable and she has this rare quality I do not see in people - which Gandhi called Satyagraha - and which is a word that is sometimes reduced to non-violence - whereas what Gandhi meant by it was far different and significant as this link provides, for in reality Satyagraha is as difficult an individual way and challenge as is Agape love which also gets reduced to unconditional love. What gets reduced is actually the practice of it.
QUOTE: "Satyagraha means the exercise of the purest soul-force against all injustice, oppression and exploitation. Suffering and trust are attributes of soul force."
So what is conveyed as "non-violence" has an even more powerful meaning, which is "stand your ground". As I have interacted with every piece Joyce has written, she displays both humanity and tenacity of spirit to stand her ground when it comes down to her fight for justice. In a world where marketing is more important than meaning - the meaning in Joyce's writing is unmistakable.15/02/2017 #3 CityVP 🐝 ManjitI have never been comfortable with the first year of a child's life because complications can arise and the graph of mortality per 1000 people shows what a critical period the first year of life is :
Mortality Rates by Age [Per 1000]
https://www.measureevaluation.org/resources/training/online-courses-and-resources/non-certificate-courses-and-mini-tutorials/multiple-decrement-life-tables/lesson-2/images/figure-2-5.1 View moreI have never been comfortable with the first year of a child's life because complications can arise and the graph of mortality per 1000 people shows what a critical period the first year of life is :
Mortality Rates by Age [Per 1000]
Now when we add in the life-saving role of healthcare and what those mortality rates would be without the supreme effort to save babies, these numbers would be much worse. The reality outlined in this buzz is still only faced by the few rather than the many and in reading accounts such as this, it speaks volumes to quality of healthcare.
Yet there are great differences in quality of healthcare even in Western nations. This 2008 comparison of healthcare services for mothers between Paris and New York, underlines the French healthcare model
France's Model Health Care For New Mothers
The key phrase difference between Paris and New York mentioned in the article is between the words "a special moment" vs "a coverage issue". One of these systems accords more with nature, the other with materialism - in the US they pay for materialism.
Another well written account Joyce and not just because of how the story concludes - but also the grounded reality presented here, that may make all the difference in the world. Close
- Producer30/01/2017The Reality of Virtual RelationshipsWhy are some online relationships so SPECIAL? Many of us feel that something is different about beBee. Some of us notice a shift in the world at large. I'd like to hypothesize that the internet has brought us to a new evolution of...
Comments09/02/2017 #29 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#27 Perfect quote, @Chas ✌️ Wyatt. It captures some of what I conveyed in comments on @Joel Anderson's series of posts about footprints and lines.
This is a both/and situation.
Fresh perspectives, clean slates, starting from scratch, not being attached to things are all occasionally preferred.
Other scenarios require an established path, a line that we will not cross, the tracks of a life well-lived.
It is all part of the duality of life. Just like in-person or virtual relationships.
We now have the technology for it to be a dynamic, joy-promoting Both/And depending on circumstances.09/02/2017 #28 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#26 I was so touched by your comment, @🐝 Fatima G. Williams, that I just kept rereading it. A worthy response was eluding me until now.
We may have lost the comfort of belonging to a village, but we cannot discount the soul enlivening effect of finding the perfect virtual village.09/02/2017 #27 Chas ✌️ Wyatt"It is a pleasant feeling to be the first to walk on sands which the tide has just left. It is like being the first to visit a new land. It produces a freshness of sensation something akin to that of early morning, or of spring. It is like entering upon a new stage of life, having a new world before us from which to receive, and upon which to make impressions." ~Henry James Slack (1818–1896), "The Ministry of the Beautiful", "Conversation II: Footsteps on the Sand," 1850.08/02/2017 #26 🐝 Fatima G. Williams@Deb 🐝 Helfrich Having had the opportunity to have a personal chat with you I know I'm blessed beyond words can describe for having met you.
The way I describe my relationship with you is as below
"The energy I collectively feel is unique. It feeds my soul in a new, exciting, and fulfilling ways. It satisfies my heart with a feeling of a content conversation"
Fulfilment and satisfaction of talking to someone. I haven't had that in a very long time. As real friends tend to drift away seemingly concerned about their social status. People like me who is no longer worried who got the lastest car or designer clothes tend to drift away in search of meaning and true relationships.
As I mentioned in my Why I love beBee buzz. I found beBee and it replaced the human connection I needed at that time. Is there any better way for me to explain how I feel about being here and knowing you all. Thank you.Stay blessed.31/01/2017 #23 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#13 I truly value your comment, Sara. There is definitely some discussion needed here to understand how it is that we have, in some cases, these really vibrant relationships happening in tiny 2-D comment boxes. We are still in the rather early stages of getting to know each other, but if life where to occur and we became neighbors, I suspect that our concepts of each other would just blossom with all the new sensory information and 'time' to learn about how we participate in daily life.
I just cannot get around the fact that the Sara I imagine talking/typing to is in my own head. It will be coming up on a year that we've been in an orbit of friendship and the amount of data points we have both directly and via numerous other people is a rather immense set of information. But I am still creating a version of you that exists in my own mind.
We've been doing this since kids with books. I can vibrantly describe most of the books I have read in terms of a full bodily existence, even though so many of these sensory details are likely my own construct. So I don't really see it as transcending bodies exactly, just setting aside some of the realities.
For instance, I find it jolting sometimes when one of the Australians mentions how hot it is, when it is winter in Seattle. Other times, most likely when they have mentioned place, the heat is a given.
What is similar between interacting with imagination when reading books and interacting with reality when conversing on social media is that many parts of the background and environment are filled by my own local senses. While what is different is that you can answer in your own unique and completely different words. It can be a new sense in a very practical way, while also being extraordinarily magical and spiritual.31/01/2017 #21 Sara Jacobovici#17 Your generous (and flattering) invitation is too good to pass up. It will be my pleasure to take part in the dynamic meeting organized by you two ladies @Cyndi wilkins. I sent Deb a PM that although I can not commit to the first meeting, I will keep my "eyes and ears open" to future opportunities.31/01/2017 #18 Renée 🐝 CormierI have to say, I have met some truly wonderful people on beBee. In my opinion, beBee is the only social media platform that really makes it easy to develop friendships with other members. A world where people seek out commonalities and community will always be more loving and peaceful than a world focused on separation and differences. This microcosm called beBee is a good place. It's god to communicate with kind-hearted people like you, @Deb 🐝 Helfrich.31/01/2017 #17 Cyndi wilkins#15 Perhaps the "Time" is right to take a small step beyond the boundaries of the "Read" and dip your toe in a little....Sounds like we have a couple of discussions emerging here that would present the perfect opportunities for us all to finally meet...face to face and ear to ear:-) @Deb 🐝 Helfrich and I would be honored if you would consider lending us an ear and better yet your input on some up and coming discussions we will be hosting. The first of the series will begin this Saturday, Feb. 4th via Skype. Check out the above link for details...We would love to "See" you all there!31/01/2017 #16 Mohammed Sultan@Deb 🐝 Helfrich.Your ideas are hitting our imagination as the sea waves are always hitting the shore of the pacific.I find such group discussions are quite natural ,since they convey the emotions,feelings and thoughts which shape people's personal brands on beBee.Thank you Deb.31/01/2017 #13 Sara JacoboviciDear @Deb 🐝 Helfrich, I am slowly allowing myself to land from your piece as I attempt to form the words I need to communicate with you. (Deep breath.) First, let me thank you for the mention and for being in any way connected to your writing. I feel privileged to have witnessed the process you described, intellectually and artistically, of your SM self-discovery here on beBee. My "sense" of you is that you are an exceptional human being, with your heart in the right place, and your mind "a right place". And speaking of places....you write: when we "look past their body and 24/7 personality and our own typical human senses and we communicate directly with someone else as pure consciousness that actually lives inside of our own mind." From my perspective, this reflects you are in a different place than me. I am still where you write in the "full, physical, proximal, flawed" sensory, complicated body. If I had to place myself, I would be, not in the new sense you describe but "pivoting" on my older senses. I have never been good at transcending the physical. I am still navigating the integration of the physical, psychological and spiritual. My experiences of SM is still connected to the meanings I have formed from my sensory experiences. I am very "conscious" of being open to expanding my experiences and awareness but that is an expansion of my existing boundaries. I have yet to navigate outside those boundaries. You, Deb, have truly broken through and have reached beyond. All the power to you!
- Producer03/01/2017Frozen In Time"Cut the shit Bill...Wake up! It's Christmas and all your kids are here!"That's my dads favorite nurse Kathy. She knows just how to get a response out of him...however small. I can almost see him smiling and thinking, "Who the hell invited you!" The...
Comments24/01/2017 #8 Lisa 🐝 GallagherI had to stop crying before I could write @Cyndi wilkins. This story of your dad is very powerful. I love the quotes you included, your relationship! "Dumb water," ok, that gave me a chuckle. I can relate to this with the exception that your dad suffered longer in front of all of you than my mom. Mom became blue and her breathing changed the day she died. I worried we would have to possibly watch her in that state for longer than a day or two. I understood what you meant when you wrote of death with dignity. It's still a ruse in the US. After reading of the convo you had with your dad after he passed, I think he'd be proud of his girl!! I love the photos Cyndi. My heart goes out to you, I was still in shock the first month or so after mom died last year. As much as we don't want to lose them, we sure do not want to watch them suffer and that's what makes the loss a bit of relief when it comes. If you ever need to talk, I'm here. Your dad sounds like he was a wonderful man!! Keep those memories close to your heart and keep sharing the stories when you are up to it.24/01/2017 #7 Cyndi wilkins#5 Amen to that last line in your comment Todd...My dad was described by his peers as the salt of the Earth...And that he was...A man's man yes, but a gentleman...In all my life I can only recall seeing him loose his temper once...ONCE, in a lifetime...can you imagine that? Geez, I loose my temper at least once a day! Apparently, I did not inherit his patience gene;-)24/01/2017 #5 Todd Jones@Cyndi wilkins, this is an absolutely superb tribute to your father. That picture of him on his boat is splendid. In it I see the lifeblood of a man's man. Someone comfortable in his own skin, and untroubled by superficial trivialities or unnecessary drama. He just looks like a great guy.
This is how we should remember those close to us. Not bearing witness to endless days of pointless suffering. Not deflecting tearful requests to fetch a gun because, even with morphine, the pain is intolerable.
Five states currently have laws that support Death with Dignity. It's time for the other 45 to reverse the vile rules that demand a departure from this world that is often nothing short of Draconian misery.24/01/2017 #4 Cyndi wilkinsThank you @debasish majumder, @Pascal Derrien, @Max🐝 J. Carter, @Sara Jacobovici, @Todd Jones and @Maria Luquero Vila...I appreciate your finding this article relevant. I know there has been some buzzing going around about "tags" and their relevance...But the past two articles I have posted have such enormous significance to my well-being right now that I am feeling a very strong urge to reach out in gratitude to those have been moved by it...My apologies if anyone finds "tagging" cumbersome;-) @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher...thought you might like this one too;-)04/01/2017 #1 Sara JacoboviciDear @Cyndi wilkins, I am reaching out across cyberspace to give you a hug. I am blown away by you...your ability to write and communicate the difficult "stuff", your feelings, insights and smarts! From one daughter to another, from heart to heart, I will add my voice to those who have already written you that you have honoured your father through the telling of this story. Time is always mentioned at times like this and so it is. From your title and throughout your story, you weave time through. The one that is staying with me right now is, ....these "moments" are all lived simultaneously in the libraries of our minds. Time itself is all "ONE" moment."
Wishing you a time to grieve, Cyndi. I don't doubt that you have the strength.
- Producer29/12/2016Why does it matter?Image credit: HuffingtonPost “Popular”culture was hit hard in 2016. We are all reeling from it in our own way, with our own experiences and meanings. For me, all the people involved were “close to home” in geography and generation,...
Comments30/12/2016 #5 Salma RodriguezHow are you feeling, @Sara Jacobovici? Spirits never die. They pass. Our bodies are transient entities, our souls eternal. Why do physicists try so hard, with M-theory, string theory, loop quantum gravity, what's next? Trying to get to the source of creation and they do not succeed? That is for next generations to figure out, and they would ultimately be brought to God. Through Perfect Will and Perfect Time, the creator elects an individual who reveals truth. Have you heard of the Yuga Cycle? Thanks for sharing!29/12/2016 #3 Jean L. Serio CPC, CeMAThank your for the poignant share, Sara. While the dying never stops, as Phil Friedman says in his comment, in some way - every day - we each experience a little death of something in our own lives. It could be loss of an account or client, loss of a personal relationship. Dying, as we know, comes in hundreds of small ways. It's living optimistically beyond them that requires strength.29/12/2016 #1 Phil FriedmanUnfortunately, Sara, the dying never stops. I am not sure that it speeds up either, except for minor variations both up and down from year to year. It is only that, as we age, the natural deaths of some of those who make up "our world" strikes us with increasing force, as our personal sel-delusion of immortality wanes bit by bit each year. Best wishes to you and yours for a healthy, happy, prosperous New Year.!and one with fewer passing from the "scene".
- Producer09/12/2016The Man in the MirrorI was born in December. For a highly introspective raging introvert, that creates a double whammy, particularly as the number of birthdays climb. I am faced with evaluating both the year that just passed, and at the same time, the years of...
Comments14/12/2016 #68 Praveen Raj GullepalliWhat a terrific pic that dear Kev! Best self-portrait I have ever seen. But I can see that the man be too scared to lookie in the mirror! ;) I love what I see in the mirror - good, bad or ugly. I think I am still in love with meee ;) Er...those last two lines are some lyrics I just wrote right here...may not really reflect my thoughts...or do they? My wish and hope for all is that though we must lose our bodies, we may not lose our minds. How we grow within, grow out of our pride and prejudices, our misconceptions and weaknesses, grow more cheerful and kind, is a thing of greater beauty than how the mirror shows we grow without - is what I believe. Having just turned 50, sharing my birthday with Bruce Lee ;), here's cheers to all Sagittarians, the pasts ...and the behinds! :)13/12/2016 #62 Kevin Pashuk#60 If I didn't know better Graham, I would think you were asking me out...😀 I'm glad you saw the 'look' in my eyes as knowing... In reality it is the look of wishing I wasn't in a picture. I much prefer to be behind the lens. In this case, it was a selfie... so I was on both sides of the shot.13/12/2016 #61 Harvey LloydSelf Awareness at 50+ oh i meant 34.75+ is a different animal than when facing it at 25+. The spousal unit and i discuss your relevant concept all the time. We are proactively engaging our children and grandchildren. We have plans to work way past our retirement age. Not for money but rather engagement.
This time of year with time off, the season and the surrounding of family it gets you to thinking about the year's goals and roles and were they really as important as you had them scaled.
Have a merry Christmas and thanks for all your posts they are thought proving.
ps. I stopped looking in the mirror more than once a day.13/12/2016 #60 Graham🐝 Edwards@Kevin Pashuk this is one of the most impactful photographs I have ever seen in my humble life.... the reserved face of "knowing". The buzz was pretty good too btw lol. I know I have already read this but every time I see this knowing face in the "feed" I need to stop and look at the wisdom behind those eyes of yours!11/12/2016 #55 Gerald Hecht#52 @Kevin Pashuk Oh ...I'm sorry--I think I made an error in my comment! I was trying to say that the mirror (and certain other traditional other optical devices) DOES ADD TEN POUNDS; but that ...it's an optical ten pounds; it doesn't really result in the person looking in the mirror to gain weight! Heavens...if it was physiological; think about what trauma surgeons would be dealing with every time the circus came to town; Post House-of-mirrors Syndrome (PHS).11/12/2016 #54 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#46 I'm sure it would be a good read @Kevin Pashuk! I'm not retired (far from being there) but I do work from home for my husband's business and sometimes I feel as though I've lost a bit of my own identity. I could see how that could happen to retirees. Some plan way ahead and work part time, travel part time etc... I think they fare better.
- 09/12/2016Sharing the gift of @Sarah Elkins' story.It's All Part of the Adventurewww.linkedin.com Stranded in the Philadelphia Airport I'm sorry, it's highly unlikely you'll get home to Montana today. All of your flights were canceled because of the snow storm. I burst into tears. Highly...
- Producer30/11/2016Inspirational Books About Self-building And MarketingArticle from Freedom One’s daily audios and daily Reading is a so important to mold their heart and mild. I wanted to share some of the books and authors that I love to learn from. The Bible The Bible is my foundation and the...
- Producer28/11/2016Just Thinking out loud - Control Random ThoughtsBlogging has been for me, a way to share as much as I know with the rest of the world. These are my thoughts and examples from my own experiences, so I guess you can say - Dwordslayer shares a real person!There are days I need...
Comments18/12/2016 #49 jesse kaellis#27
Hi Donna-Luisa, I was in Mexico for a month doing a medical tourism thing that didn't involve much tourism. I've been back since December 10th and beginning a slow, protracted recovery. Thanks for the knock - knock and thanks for your story which I enjoyed reading.03/12/2016 #48 Laura MikolaitisI love the random thoughts that you shared here @Donna-Luisa Eversley. Sometimes, the random thoughts can be the best fuel for our fire.
Some days it is difficult to accept that there are things we can't control. That's why it is important to enact our gift of choice; especially when the out of control things can seem overwhelming.
It's taken me a while ton fully grasp the concept but I am better at it now. Each day is an opportunity to exercise our ability to choose - to decide whether we will make the best of a bad day or make the worst of it.
I enjoyed reading this, Donna. Thanks so much for sharing.29/11/2016 #38 Donna-Luisa Eversley#20 @Sara Jacobovici, thank you ..wow, when I read this, you got the weepy emotional blast in my eyes 😉😘 ...it is the truth of music and rythmn ..I am happy it resonates with you so much. As soon as I draw on the music my entire person responds. It is like a conductor bringing the sounds into a crescendo. Controlling emotions need that understanding of self to create harmony for self.29/11/2016 #37 Donna-Luisa Eversley#19 #hugs right back at you #babydoll @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher..
🐝🐝🐝🌹🌹🌹 Thankfully some of us are on Facebook or I would have been in a desert. 😂..glad to be back. I do have some stuff I've written.. will try to publish, but seems quite sad, not happy simply a difficult time with less light and the weepy willows.
Thanks for reading.29/11/2016 #35 Donna-Luisa Eversley#17 @Max Carter thank you...yes, storytelling is a part of the healing process which is powerful. It is the feel of the music which makes the story flow , making a melody which makes a whole lot more sense than life on its own sometimes 😉..thank you for your beautiful supportive words 🐝🐝🌻🌻🌻29/11/2016 #31 🐝 Fatima G. Williams#1 Aww ♡@Donna-Luisa Eversley I've missed you . Awesome that your back and buzzing again my dear. Your buzzes are music to the ears. This is a sensational buzz with some great takeaways. Everyone has a song for every situation we just have to sing out loud and let the music fill our lives. Buzzon dear and welcome back to beBeeland.🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗😇🤗🤗🤗🤗
- Producer18/11/2016Always room to grow!Last February, I wrote a post called, Lessons From a Woman Who Changed My World. Well, today is my mother Ida's 97th birthday (till 120). In spite of any challenges, this woman continues to think of the future and of life. As such, in honor of her...
- Producer17/11/2016A Time to ReflectImage credit: Clipart KidI opened up a time capsule today; a plastic bag filled with bits of paper with my poems written on them. For about fifteen years, between my late teens and early thirties, I wrote whenever and wherever the muse took me....
Comments17/11/2016 #12 Pascal DerrienI relate to the second one most:-) I quite like the concept of time, loss and memories... there is a plaque where my daughter goes to dancing class indicating a time capsule has been buried in 1985 and is not be opened before 2075 I would love to be there when it will be opened but realistically it wont be feasible or maybe......17/11/2016 #7 Deb 🐝 HelfrichBreathe and flow, what a stunning set of words to find from earlier days, @Sara Jacobovici. I also felt this sense of 'completeness' in the way that finding and reading a story from my months right after college held so many nuggets of who I am today. I both recognize those words completely and yet they seem strangely separate - I forgot the piece itself, but the memories of the creation were alive and waiting to be retrieved.
I am looking forward to more discoveries!17/11/2016 #5 Mohammed A. JawadAha...What a poetic ecstasy! Little enjoyments of our past are all great inspirations. As we remember we realize how we wanted to do something to express ourselves. As life unfolds itself with many transitions and when passing time narrates tidbits from our memories, we ought to gauge how well we lived and what's ahead to celebrate our living.17/11/2016 #4 Sara Jacobovici#3 Thank you @🐝 Fatima G. Williams for your generous response and for the added value of your comment. I appreciate your line, "...re-entering time we do it all the time as the strength we draw from the experience is much stronger than the experience itself." It is a very powerful "opposite" to what I refer to clinically when I deal with traumatic memories. When it is too frightening for the individual to remember a traumatic experience, I remind that individual that she or he survived the event and so will surely survive the memory of the event during the therapy work. In this case, when an individual re-enters in order to heal, the strength is in the process of the healing not in the re-entry.17/11/2016 #3 🐝 Fatima G. WilliamsDear @Sara Jacobovici Lovely flash back of memories and I can imagine how the nostalgia. I love your phrase on re-entering time we do it all the time as the strength we draw from the experience is much stronger than the experience itself.
"its strength never doubted.
the struggle of morality…..wrestled in our minds
alongside projections of what’s wrong and what’s right
already decided in black and white. "
The battle and struggle has undoubted strength as it's foundation and we can see the beauty of that strength reflected in your writing and you. Thank you 🤗🤗🤗🤗 Loved the read17/11/2016 #1 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee@Sara Jacobovici- you wrote in this amazing buzz "As I have written about the integrated me, these poems represent a younger personal me whose voice I have carried over into the older professional me". This shows that past influences our present and future and that we are fractal humans as we scale up past experiences. We don't drop our past; more we scale its major events.
This scaling up shows exactly who you are. The titles of your past capsules are still consistent with your recent titles. Is the past what makes our roots the grow our fractal tree? I tend to say yes because of your great buzzz.
in fractions and fleeting opportunities
through distinct forms and underlying plans.
life threadlike…..ready to snap
I am ready to say you are a beautiful mind and your time capsule is filled with wisdom. This buzz is unique in its value for it show our footprints over time. Yours are outstanding fractal footprints. Shared
- Producer13/11/2016Sometimes it takes time to set yourself free...This is me.After my first ever Gaga, dance class. After my 3rd dance class ever since I stepped away from the world that gave me a lot but perhaps hurt me more.I don't know about you, but I spent more than half of my life fulfilling demands,...
Comments14/11/2016 #21 Sara Jacobovici#14 #20 I couldn't be more impressed or grateful for your ability to "get it" and "communicate it" in your unique and powerful way @CityVP 🐝 Manjit. It is because of what you have connected to that I went into the field of Music Therapy and trained in collaboration with Art Therapists and Dance/Movement Therapists. That was over 30 years ago. What has been exciting to witness is that using, in this instance, the body through movement and dance, and taking it out of the health and mental health institutional community and into the mainstream and flow of our lives, enables us to return to our organic nature and get our bodies "in sync" with our minds. Anyway, you said it better than me. Thanks again Manjit.14/11/2016 #20 CityVP 🐝 Manjit#18 Virag, this is what Naharin is quoted as saying about fear :
[ ..." I don’t think I’ve gotten rid of my fear. I’m actually aware of the fear. Sometimes I enjoy being afraid. It’s less a matter of getting rid of the fear and more a matter of knowing that it’s all right to be afraid "... ]
You have already confronted the primary fear and stepped forward, what I am enjoying tonight finding out about Naharin is that his thoughts recognize the body is alive and that he see's dance as a living expression. That is why when he says "sometimes I enjoy being afraid", he is so in tune and touch with his body that he reads and recognizes what his body tells him - this is a marvelous faculty. In discussing these things we use our head rather than our body - but when I think I notice most my fingers moving - my brain then serves my fingers and in that I know thoughts have traveled up both my arms to deposit thoughts.
There are very few people who think of the body as vessel of intelligence, Bruce Lee was one of the rare people who understood putting great meaning to body and this is explored in The Art of Expressing the Human Body" http://bit.ly/2g4GuUb whereas Bruce Lee took that body intelligence into martial arts, Narahin has taken it into dance - and that is why I grasp his greatness.
When we are scared, it is the foundation of what we are walking into that matters, the foundation that you have had the courage to walk into is full of meaning and spirit, courage that takes us into emptiness is blind folly, courage that takes us into life is why I am happy for you - this form of courage has meaning and in that meaning one finds their freedom, and then sometimes as Narahin says he enjoys being afraid and that it is all right to be afraid.13/11/2016 #18 Virag Gulyas#14 Ohad Naharin is a genius who goes against all mainstream. Making his dancers go out of the ballet training towards a movement that is fully pushing their bodies into unknown areas, is simply courageous. And it works. The video clip you've shared with me is incredible, and I have seen it before. Thank you for sharing. Going for a Gaga class for me was scary --- especially after 8 years of no training. But stepping into the 'scary' is where is start to grow.13/11/2016 #15 AnonymousDear @Virag Gulyas, Freedom of self-expression is worth fighting for, that is the essential meaning of the self - similarity concept. As we get older the desire for freedom is growing. Your concerns and decisions are a sign that you're on the right track. Congrats, I'm a semi-professional dancer, It is just that believe it or not :)13/11/2016 #14 CityVP 🐝 ManjitOh! Virag Gulyas what have you unleashed here ! You have just put the name Ohad Naharin smack bang into my vocabulary, for when you mentioned freedom, it overwhelmed me to know the extent of freedom as dance philosophy this is. Incredible! I just ran the film trailer for Mr.Gaga and a whole new world opened up https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F6gd8xpFMsM a world that I love where freedom is tattooed as a way, as an expression, as a force that is born from a rigid culture, freeing itself from a constraint.
This reminds me of the antonym side of the movie Whiplash - where Whiplash dictates a passionate man who loves drumming and is grounded into submission by a ruthless teacher - and the antonym here is Mr.Gaga - a dance expression that releases the ruthless world of dance. We already know what it takes to become a professional ballerina, the immeasurable sacrifice, the dream that is chased by many girls but then funneled into a excruciating and demanding test to emerge with the few and not many. Cue the movie Flashdance - but Flashdance was not about creating something new, but another recital of the hero's journey. For sure it dealt with class but it was not a philosophy and it certainly did not offer any form of freedom.
You should feel justifiably liberated because you are clearly an early adopter of this transformation, this giving dance back to the people, the loosening of rigidity, the renewal of form and function, to exercise what one actually loves about this passion. The more I read http://www.danceadvantage.net/questions-about-gaga/ and http://gagapeople.com/english/ the more I honour your post and I thank you for opening the curtain for me and I say kudos to you for embracing this, for this is truly freedom.13/11/2016 #12 Sara JacoboviciYou are a great storyteller @Virag Gulyas and it always feels like it's coming straight from the heart.
Because one of my pillars of life is movement (paradox intended), you made me think that it is not simply the freedom to move but how to move that makes the difference; the freedom lies in choosing the how.
The other thing that I found "moving" in your story is when you say, "I understood more about my body today than during my whole rigorous dancer education.". Again, here the education lies in the freedom of movement and the understanding that results from that.
Wow! Thank you for sharing your amazing life experience Virag and wishing you from strength to strength.13/11/2016 #8 David B. GrinbergKudos to you Virag, for taking that leap after so long. I think your conclusion nails it: "So many of us stay in that tight leotard we force on ourselves - because, we get used to it, we feel too comfortable to leave. But don't stay because you got used it; because it is too comfortable. Wear that damn loose t-shirt and go free."
Life is too short to be running around on a hamster wheel road to no where. No one ever got anywhere by running (or dancing ) in place. Moreover, I think it would be great if you did a Live Buzz (when ready) from your dance studio. I'm sure you're very good. Remember, we are all our worst critics. Good luck and dance on...
- Producer12/11/2016Acts of Love [Intimacy]Acts of Love.In the adult Stage of our lives, we humans, like all animals who go two-by-two, engage in Physical Acts together. Amongst the Extras - those animals which only play small parts, low down on the role-call - these Actors play their parts...
Comments13/11/2016 #6 Deb🐝 Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBeeIntimacy, yes we are all "connected' via technology, but how often do we experience real intimacy? yet, with intimacy ,we open up to sensing and connecting with ourselves and others that enrich our experience beyond measure. When we connect intimately we are open to the source of our creativity. Thank-you for sharing of yourself so we can be intimate together.
- 11/11/2016What John Lennon's, Imagine, does for the soul of our world, Leonard Cohen's, Hallelujah, does for the soul of each of us. May his soul rest in peace.Leonard Cohen - Hallelujah Music video by Leonard Cohen performing Hallelujah. (C) 2009 Sony Music...
Comments12/11/2016 #6 Sara JacoboviciThank you for your responses @Melissa Hughes, @INNFORMATE CENTRO DE FORMACION, @Phil Friedman, @Antoinio L. Rodriguez del Pozo, and @Pedro Gomez. I have to share with you that as I am writing this comment, I am beginning to hear the song Hallelujah being sung across the street from me in what I am assuming is a memorial concert. I didn't even know it was happening. Synchronicity strikes again!
- Producer08/11/2016Liar Liar Pants On FireIt had never been my intention, it was not by design even but more of a quid proquo almost that led my parents to think I was in relationship with that stunning young girl from Paris inner city. It’s true though that I had a massive crush on her and...
Comments12/11/2016 #29 Lisa 🐝 GallagherIt's a good think your mom believed you... or at least she wanted to believe you instead of worrying sick if you were out doing anything other than being a nice boy with your love! How scary that must have been. Your life is unfolding through your stories, love it. Can you explain the dog reference? Were you inferring "Nora" had dogs lol? Thanks for sharing @Pascal Derrien09/11/2016 #24 jesse kaellis#21
From what I understand Ceaușescu outlawed birth control leading to all these orphans. He was hanged along with his wife. Yeah, the nurses had no food to feed these babies, so they gave them blood intravenously as a nutritional substitute leading to the spread of HIV. http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/europe/8427299.stm09/11/2016 #20 jesse kaellisThat's a great story, Pascal. A guy I was writing for asked me to ghost write book for his wife about the AID's epidemic there, the orphaned babies. She is Romanian, It never happened. I was reluctant. Intimidated is a better word. I thought it was beyond my scope. Great writing Pascal.08/11/2016 #19 Franci🐝Eugenia HoffmanQuite an interesting story @Pascal Derrien. Some of my adventures would not have been approved by my parents and I got away with most of them. In my teens, I told my parents I was staying overnight with some girlfriends, which was true but we were all in Daytona Beach and not in our respective homes. As you mentioned in one of your comments, some of our adventures could not happen today.
So I'm looking forward to more stories from our "regular guy".08/11/2016 #18 Deb 🐝 HelfrichI certainly understand that period of not being quite honest with one's parents as they wouldn't have been supportive of my ventures. It is how I got to Paris, if I would have mentioned my intentions there would have been drama. They found out when I informed them to be looking out for my visa.... as I had plans for the summer. It was disappointing to be back at college in the fall of 89....08/11/2016 #16 Pascal Derrien#13 indeed small world, I only measure now how risky or indeed borderline collectively foolish it was :-) There is a strong Romanian community in Ireland too and I always have a soft spot for them. I have been back to Bucharest in a professional capacity in 2007/2008 the city had changed a lot @Sara Jacobovici08/11/2016 #15 Don 🐝 Kerr@Pascal Derrien Do the book buddy. I did one this summer for my boys that chronicled every day's activities with notes and photos. They're not even remotely interested at this point but in a few years I suspect they'll love it - or their kids will in decades to come when I am worm food!08/11/2016 #13 Sara JacoboviciHow cliche can I get when I say, "What a small world!". Here I am on beBee reading your story when you could have been handing a parcel to either my Uncle, Aunt or cousin! Although I wasn't born in Romania, my first language is Romanian because both my parents were born there (Iasi). My mother learned French at school and because Romanian is a Latin language, when I was learning French going to school in Montreal, I was able to pick it up very easily. I learned about Romania and France's close ties from my mother. I was able to visit my family in Bucharest both during and post Ceausescu. We were glued to the TV and waiting hours on the telephone trying to make contact with the family in Bucharest. It was a very nerve racking 36 hours until we heard my cousin's voice on a very weak connection but letting us know they were safe, traumatized by being too close to the action, but safe. So I owe you a big thank you @Pascal Derrien for putting yourself at risk to help my family!