- Producer22/10/2016SURVIVAL OF THE WEAKEST“Communities which are very strong, very rigid, that do not take into account the weak points of the community, the people who are in difficulty, tend to be communities that do not evolve.” And when they evolve, it's generally by a very strong...
Comments23/10/2016 #26 Fatima WilliamsWe begin and end life in a state of vulnerability this is so true Irene Hackett.
A very evocative buzz reminds us of our purpose and how we need to support each other in a society where we get lost in the rat race. I'm not saying we shouldn't have goals but it's about what we can do to make a difference in the lives of others while trying to do our thing in life.
I like your analogy of the weaker layer of the earth with Human weakness. We are much like the earth she produces life and so do we ; she has the power to destroy life in the form of earthquakes ,tsunamis etc and so we. We humans tend destroy the world with our meaningless actions and hurtful ways. Look at all the man-made wars, the pain and suffering inflicted by one nation on another, all for the sake of power and materialistic goals. Little children being left orphans and so on. I can go on as I feel pain enveloping me when I think that I can't do anything about it.
But what I can do is spread love ,happiness and hope around me. I can share stories of people like Xavier and you and many other bees here on how your make a difference with your testimonies. I can use my layer to give like @Deb Helfrich does and says.
Give as much as God has blessed me with "For it is in giving that we receive "
The fluid mantle, the layer with give, is the crucial component to a functioning structure, community, and planet. And yet, our attention is often diverted to the crashing and erupting of the rigid surfaces and people. - Deb I just love the way you draw a painting with your words .You described our world in two lines.23/10/2016 #24 AnonymousWe tend to discard weak points of society as if they were not an inherent part of humankind, an "annoying part" it needs to be erased, overviewed, ignored.
We forget that they are there to reflect what we are doing wrong and to put them aside disables us to learn from our failures, and thus, hindering us from evolving. Thank you Irene for sharing.23/10/2016 #22 jesse kaellis#20
I wrote to a woman whose father was dying. I was trying to find words of solace but what could I possibly say? Almost everybody who ever lived goes through grief. Maybe it is the commonality of the experience that lends value to it. The pain is keen -- when you lose a loved one.
"Any recent news? You will be busy now, with your dad. It's a terrible time. When your parents begin dying, you lose your past, and you step up to the turnstile.
I console myself that by outliving them, I have spared them the devastation of outliving their children.
Why is life so painful? But it is. I don't believe in the silver lining thing or that it's a learning experience. Learn what? How to suffer? But I do believe in stoicism."
Life can be ecstatic and it is frequent;y painful and I don't think it means more than it really is -- human experience. Thanks, Milo. Thanks for your help.23/10/2016 #21 jesse kaellis#19
Once upon a time in my life -- I was young, but I was fixated on getting a girlfriend. A guy at the EST center in Vancouver, it was on West Broadway then, he tells me, "You need a bigger problem, get a bigger problem." And I understood what he was trying to tell me. Thank's Deb. Thank you.23/10/2016 #20 Anonymous"Drowning in the Pursuit of Happiness" by @Irene Hackett it is one of the most profound lessons ever here on beBee.
"And I learned that no one escapes pain in this life; it may look different for each of us, but it is pain just the same. I found that it’s important to feel the pain, but is critical to know we are designed to transcend and overcome." - Irene Hackett
"Were we born to rot in our misery—were we born to be afraid? I never knew you afraid! If you only trust me, how little you will be disappointed! The world is all before us—and the world is very large. I know something about that. Why should there be pain? In such hours as this what have we to do with pain? That is not the deepest thing; there is something deeper. I don’t believe that such a generous mistake as yours—can hurt you for more than a little. And remember this, that if you have been hated, you have also been loved." - Ralph to Isabel. from "The Portrait of a Lady" by Henry James23/10/2016 #19 Deb Helfrich#9 #12 We are all weak in loss. And then we learn how to continue living with a lot more 'give' in our hearts. I treasure what you have shared, @jesse kaellis - because there is someone reading this, and we might never know who, that will gain strength from your words,
"I heal by living"23/10/2016 #18 Anonymous#16 Thank you @Aurorasa Sima, great excerpt from Kennedy speech and yes, it speaks to the heart of this buzz. Thank you for the kind words about my family, I appreciate you! (You may want to read my buzz "Drowning in the Pursuit of Happiness" for further background.). ❤️23/10/2016 #16 Aurorasa SimaIt´s not a perfect fit but your article reminded me on a sentence of the Kennedy speech. "If a free society cannot help the many who are poor, it cannot save the few who are rich. " I feel it applies to all forms of support people need. I was not aware of the situation of your mother. Great to hear about how your family handled it and that you stuck together.23/10/2016 #12 jesse kaellis#11
Thanks, Irene. Thanks very much. Because that may have been rude. It's your story and your thread. But sometimes -- most times, I already said it somewhere. In terms of writing a response.
My mom was dying. We have empathy because we experienced it ourselves. This was part of an email. A friend whose father was dying.
I worked a graveyard shift. She was close, and I prayed; prayed for her to die. "Take her. Please." There was nothing left.
That body wouldn't support life. In the morning I stopped and looked on one last time and held her hand. I went home to bed, and my father called me at about 2 pm, and that was it.
I had cancer in 1985. It will come back and kill me in the end. I am certain. Or anyway, something will. I pray I don't outlive my sister. She is my best friend. After my father dies, it’s just her. I don't want to be alone. My life has been lonely.
It seems selfish, me talking about my loss and pain when you are confronting your pain. That's how it is, though. My empathy for you comes from the places I've been.
I had to mourn my best friend. He passed at 31 years old. It's just weight.
I keep a place for you in the corner of my heart.23/10/2016 #9 jesse kaellisProblems -- being a drug addict, that's a problem. Being in a relationship, that's a problem. It can present problems. Entering a young woman's life, at say, the age of 16 and the young man he's 22, this could present challenges. So what's the better opportunity? Where am I going to get more space? Where will I make a bigger difference? It's a no-brainer. But this was never about smart. Someday, sometime, I thought with my heart. I felt like living. That's all it is.
People around est used to think that if enough people did the training, and a lot of people did, why then, the world would be transformed. If everyone and his dog did the training then we would have enlightened murderers, because people will never stop killing. Not in my lifetime. Not in a million lifetimes, because spiritual evolution takes place out of time. Everybody has to climb the ladder.
So I'm watching my girlfriend's children push out into the world. I'm watching young fighters at the gym chasing their dreams. I'm watching and seeing my father transform himself into the caring, tender father I never knew at the nadir of my isolation and desolation.
I've got two favorite quotes: "Seek ye me and live." That's Amos 5. That's pretty well wide open. Lots of room there and you can be on any kind of path, even dark roads. And the quest itself is a validation.
The other one I cannot attribute. I heard it and maybe I dreamt it. "We are born broken and we heal by living." But what does that even mean? How can we be born broken? Why are we born into sin? Why are we fallen?
I came to a place in my life, a state of grace and I found this: I give what I didn't get. That's how I heal. I heal by living.22/10/2016 #8 AnonymousWow @Deb Helfrich - you captured the entire essence of the buzz in that one, brilliantly composed sentence, "The fluid mantle, the layer with give, is the crucial component to a functioning structure, community, and planet." Ah, and you are so right, it is the noise that always distracts us from the heart, it would seem. Your kind words humble me - although I must admit, I had to google "zeitgeist" LOL!! I love being the student, and you my friend are one of the great teachers on beBee, with your intelligent and poetic commenting.22/10/2016 #7 Anonymous#5 @Deb Lange - "tectonic plates inside our skulls" now that's an idea worth contemplating! Very interesting as well - exploring the Organization's weaknesses. The existence of weakness being the catalyst to change - awesome! I too, love the Scientist perspective - his discoveries leaning him to compassionate service and a transformed life. I appreciate the further probing into this subject matter - thank you!
- Producer18/10/2016Frozen Lives & Broken SoulsThe Berlin Wall fell in 1989 and by 1990 I had already made the decision that I would travel to what was called the satellite countries, I would go accompanied or not but I would go no matter what.Travelling on a low budget I found myself heading to...
Comments19/10/2016 #34 Phil Friedman#32 The stories that most catch our notice are the tales of extraordinary heroism, But truth be told, the majority of truly heroic effort and behavior occurs within the context of day-to-day life, and is instantiated by those who consider themselves "ordinary", but who will not accept what is for what should be. If humanity is to be saved, it will be by the "regular guys" with grit, who will do the job.19/10/2016 #29 AnonymousWow, you @Pascal Derrien are what I call 'the REAL DEAL'. I praise you, you have put your heart and soul into compassionate action. This buzz has stirred me emotionally and made me know a deeper side of you which I admire greatly. And although this is an excellent story and written so well, it is what you replied in comment to Ken that speaks the loudest in this buzz: "I should help people broken down people getting back up again...... maybe a conversation or a smile means more than....." We need more of you in the world dear Pascal!19/10/2016 #26 Pascal Derrien#24 thanks @Lisa Gallagher yes a lot of mental illnesses in the street, people not diagnosed or medicalized in any shape or form but it seems nobody cares in the end since my time on the street the drugs plague which was marginal enough is now the biggest problem :-(19/10/2016 #24 Lisa GallagherA story well told @Pascal Derrien. It's so sad because many of the homeless people are mentally ill and from what I've heard, suffer from Schizophrenia. Yes, there are those who are homeless because they lost it all but those who choose to live in the streets through out each bitter winter, well it brings tears to my eyes. You saw it first hand and I'm glad you touched so many lives. I'm sure you touched more than you were ever aware of. Thank you for sharing, you have a kind and caring heart- it's very evident in your writing. Obviously I never knew Joey, but I echo your sentiments, RIP Joey and to all the "Joeys" who died homeless.
- Producer28/07/2016SilenceThey say speech is silver, and silence is golden.But how much of that is true?Ask someone forced to sit beside a relative they don't know for five long, awkward hours at a stretch and they'll gladly accept that small talk is but better than an...
Comments29/07/2016 #20 Aadarsh KrishnaThank you everyone. It is overwhelming to see such a response from all of you.
Your appreciation and blessings mean a lot to me. I seek to nurture this hobby of putting words to my thoughts.
I feel a sense of joy even if just one person feels good after reading my post and can translate and relay the message in a positive way.29/07/2016 #19 Sara JacoboviciThank you @Aadarsh Krishna for a thought provoking and beautifully written piece. For me, silence has its own noises and sounds, it is not necessarily an absence of noise or sound. @Fatima Williams View moreThank you @Aadarsh Krishna for a thought provoking and beautifully written piece. For me, silence has its own noises and sounds, it is not necessarily an absence of noise or sound. @Fatima Williams, in the same spirit, although there may be a connection between silence and loneliness, loneliness may have its own unique sound that only the lonely person can hear. Close29/07/2016 #17 Anees Zaidi#15 Dear @Fatima Williams whenever you feel lonely talk to your family back home, talk to your friends for no reason. But to enjoy loneliness go into your deep thoughts. You will find many beautiful things to remember, explore and share with us. By the way there is a possibility that on my way back from US in mid October I stop by in Dubai for 2-3 days. Would love to meet you if you happens to be there during that period. It would be good opportunity to meet Fatima Williams after spending time with Fatima Zaidi :)) I would update you with the plan when it is final.29/07/2016 #15 Fatima Williams#3 True that dear @Anees Zaidi . The comments of @debasish majumder and @Praveen Raj Gullepalli and yourself, is as @Ali Anani said "Kept me frozen in deep thought."
Silence & loneliness is golden but may be only for a certain period of time as I am currently in that phase of my life. I stay alone in Dubai with my family back home. l am no doubt enjoying it, but when it gets lonely ?
I believe Silence & loneliness has helped me with self realisation so I'm in a Dilemma with my thoughts.29/07/2016 #12 debasish majumderno, loneliness, having no resemblance with gold or silver. it is the call of the hour to keep human noise or clamor away, only to concentrate or talking with one in different signals and necessarily being driven by the reflection caused by the signals, as right now i am silently enjoying your post. a symphony i enjoy cannot be translated in human speech always. this is the beauty of nature. no longer being froze as we have life and only bestowed with the boon of thinking, which is also a manner of talking. lovely post @Aadarsh Krishna. enjoyed read. thank you for sharing the post.29/07/2016 #9 Ali Anani#6 You are incredible my brother soul @Anees Zaidi. In fact, I am frozen in place. I received notification of your tagging me while considering glass as a metaphor for ideas and discussions. One main point is glassy materials (ideas) that are difficult to classify. Is silence a glassy idea? Is time a glassy idea? Sleep on ideas to become our masters? I am still playing with the idea, but your tagging put my mind in a glassy state.29/07/2016 #5 Praveen Raj GullepalliYour buzz got Simon&Garfunkel's The Sound of Silence spinning in my head Aadarsh! And here is a link to a wonderful cover of the same by Disturbed! https://www.google.co.in/search?q=Sound+of+SIlence&oq=Sound+of+SIlence&aqs=chrome..69i57.2441j0j8&sourceid=chrome&ie=UTF-8 View moreYour buzz got Simon&Garfunkel's The Sound of Silence spinning in my head Aadarsh! And here is a link to a wonderful cover of the same by Disturbed! https://www.google.co.in/search?q=Sound+of+SIlence&oq=Sound+of+SIlence&aqs=chrome..69i57.2441j0j8&sourceid=chrome&ie=UTF-8
I would like to share with you something that resonates with the last three points in your buzz...Companionable Silence. Where you spend hours in the presence of someone whose aura doesn't disturb you at all in anyway. Could be anyone. No compulsion to make conversation. No need to touch or caress. Company that not only lets you be yourself but also acts as an ingredient to that harmony. Sometimes Silence is a conversation with the Self pregnant with suggestion, punctuated by our words! It is the sound of our sub-conscious perhaps? True silence is achieved only in deep meditation, where thoughts cease to distract or attract other thoughts! Thank you for broaching on a thought provoking subject. Silence is as unfathomable as it is deep, and becomes our master, as we sleep! Close
- Producer28/07/2016Happiness#simplesttopic #mostdifficulttoinfer #takenforgranted#mytake #hypocrite?If the whole world can follow an unidentified notion called God, and hope that everything is going to be okay in the end, it reduces the guilt of writing bullshit...
Comments28/07/2016 #15 Mamen Delgado#12 I simply LOVE that title @CityVP Manjit, "To Be Happier, Start Thinking More About Your Death". Impressive. I'll try to read the article later. It reminds me a very good journalist in Spain, Jesús Hermida, who said in an interview about the people who complains for the weather or the rainy days, "If you were dead, you would love to be able to enjoy a rainy day...". He was very ill, with cancer, when that interview happened and he finally died last year. And I think of him sometimes...28/07/2016 #12 CityVP ManjitI give this to a truly happy person and that happy person may start crying because they never saw when happiness become a prescription. Arthur C. Brook writes "To Be Happier, Start Thinking More About Your Death" http://www.nytimes.com/2016/01/10/opinion/sunday/to-be-happier-start-thinking-more-about-your-death.html?_r=0 View moreI give this to a truly happy person and that happy person may start crying because they never saw when happiness become a prescription. Arthur C. Brook writes "To Be Happier, Start Thinking More About Your Death" http://www.nytimes.com/2016/01/10/opinion/sunday/to-be-happier-start-thinking-more-about-your-death.html?_r=0 As for bullshit, that is not flow, that is the glue that keeps civilization together, once we aware of the temporal joints, we can begin ignoring BS as a human construct and begin dipping into the nature of emotion and action - and there we find all the siblings of happiness including joy. Then there is the extended family and the forgotten and even expelled child called "sadness" - and when all of that comes together in the flow of my own being - I reach towards finding flow with the value of living my life closer to a whole and not just in its parts. As for what others do and think, that is their business, whatever knocks your head back is your life choice I say, for this is simply my trip and I appreciate whatever trip another wishes that does not end in harm. Whose to say happiness will emerge unless we were happy. Close28/07/2016 #11 Dean Owen#10 Great memory! https://www.bebee.com/producer/@dean-owen/culinary-sadists Yes and I'll take donkey dumplings over baby goat still in the womb anyday! :) I think we are experiencing bursts of happiness, just like in Aadarsh's delightful article! But when the squirrel crosses my path, I will always think of our prominent honey maker, @Pamela L. Williams28/07/2016 #5 Fatima WilliamsLovely message @Aadarsh Krishna Happiness turns our world in a beautiful rainbow of colors. Great buzz :)
Love this line "Happiness is not something you can capture in a mason jar and call your own. But life will give you little pieces of pure ecstasy and you must fill your heart with those pieces until you are brimming with joy" - Happiness is complete only when you share it with others !
- Producer22/04/2016Coaching and MeCoaching happens every day. We all know that at some point of our career and our life, we need to be coached on different things.We are not talking about advice here, but about the process where an individual transforms himself through steps taken...
Comments23/04/2016 #8 Neville Gaunt#7 Thank you @@Fatima Williams - coaching as you probably know has a bad taste in many organisations mainly due to poor coaches and unready coachees, and when you get both it's a disaster. I'd welcome your comments either here or privately on this . http://www.mindfitltd.com/personalpower/wp-content/uploads/2015/05/There%E2%80%99s-a-place-for-coaching-%E2%80%93-but-are-you-ready-to-be-coached.pdf23/04/2016 #7 Fatima Williams#3 Thank you @Neville Gaunt . Each one of us need coaching is my view on Coaching. Some accept it , other's don't. Whether people are ready to be coached depends on their readiness to accept that they need coaching. Once they have been coached they need to track their progress to make sure they don't fall behind. And if they do , that's when a Coach comes handy again. If they set new goals that need to be acquired then again they can approach a Coach.
I find that most people are ready to accept coaching when you tell them that they need it and have seen employees grow in front of my eyes to reach the positions or goals they want. Thank you once again for your kind words.
- Producer14/04/2016Tips for Successful ConsultingCONSULTING IS VERY DIFFERENT FROM TERM EMPLOYMENT...I read recently that the workplace and job market are shifting paradigms, from the employer/employee model to one in which work is being performed more and more on limited term contracts....
- Producer18/04/2016"You come Happiness comes ; You go Happiness goes" I don't know if this is my Aha moment yet. But, what happened today drove me to write this post before going to bed. A friend of mine this evening told me, that I bring happiness when we meet. Has anyone said that to you ? (if they did - Awesome).I...
Comments29/08/2016 #48 Steve Brady#24 Thank you for your reply, Fatima...especially the blessing at the end: "Have an awesome life filled with Happiness Steve :)" That means so much to me in my current circumstances. It's a wonderful thing to write words that your readers need at the time. You're a blessing, Fatima.29/08/2016 #46 Fatima Williams#45 It's sure does sharing the best part the chorus for those who haven't heard this one by Pharrel Williams
" Clap along if you feel like a room without a roof
Because I'm happy
Clap along if you feel like happiness is the truth
Because I'm happy
Clap along if you know what happiness is to you
Because I'm happy
Clap along if you feel like that's what you wanna do"
Clap along if you feel you find happiness on beBee
Because I'm Happy28/08/2016 #41 CityVP Manjit#40 Dear Fatima, where else does happiness start or end other than within ourselves. It is we who have made it a thing by trying to make it a having rather than a being. One day my mother will pass from this world and it will not be a happy day and on that day the gift of sadness will be more accessible than the gift of happiness. That I can access that within me means that it can either be a blessing (a gift) or a curse (a theft). Happiness as a curse is not at all the same thing as happiness as a blessing. Happiness is not a simple off and on switch and it is nothing without sadness, it is a flow that emerges from within, which is what makes the pursuit of happiness an endless chase of vanity. The greatest vanity of all is to explain happiness when we are happy. If we need to go look for happiness in other things or people, all we will find there are the symbols and expressions of their vanity, and not our bliss. Take the Woodkids remix [Unhappy Version) of Pharrel Williams song Happy https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AyBFx18E6O4 - whatever you feel, whatever it triggers, how it effects you begins with what it evokes in you. This is what Socrates meant by "Know Thyself" - so why use my language or experiences of happiness - when they are within you and yours to discover? This means your question is a rhetorical question, which means you already know the answer, but are you ready for the practice, a practice that is yours to discover.27/08/2016 #37 CityVP ManjitIf I get asked if happiness is important to me, this is like asking me "which of your children do you love?", but I reply "I love all my emotions" and unless I can love all of them, how can one of them be more important? It is when we hate some or most of our emotions that we are most likely to be in a search for happiness but searching for happiness is like getting on a rocket ship and head out into the distant Universe so that we can find Earth.27/08/2016 #35 Deb HelfrichI also love it when someone says something unexpected that opens a vista to a new insight. From our 2-D interactions, I have to concur that you do bring happiness, @Fatima Williams and this is a super-power! Go forth and radiate happiness with your ability to ignite the smiles of everyone you interact with.27/08/2016 #31 AnonymousDear @Fatima Williams, the more I am 'getting to know you' by your writing here on beBee, the more I am fascinated and delighted by the beauty of your words and your character! The message of this buzz resonates strongly with me, so much so that if you were here, I would give you a 'high 5' (followed with a hug!) This my friend, is what I call 'love in action', which is how I try to live out this one, precious life - so we are kindred spirits! To BEE 'love in action', to offer my attention, my smile, my heart to another. If not this, what then is the joy of being human? The twinkle in your writing is the essence of happiness - we are all blessed!