John Whitehead

John Whitehead

4d ago · 3 min read · ~10 · 1
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Listening... The Secret to Communication

Listening... The Secret to Communication

“There is a difference between listening and waiting for your turn to speak.” — Simon Sinek My previous two posts in this Soft Skills series have been about verbal and non-verbal communications: its nature of being a “two way street,”...

Preston 🐝 Vander Ven

Preston 🐝 Vander Ven

Great buzz. I feel the greatest cause of conflict in this world is lack of communication. Sadly, there is a large percentage of the world who just don't want to listen. It makes me think of debates today, especially at locations like colleges. When people ask a speaker a question, it is not because they want an answer, it seems they are now asking because they don't want the answer. They were never going to listen in the first place, because the goal was chaos.
Among my family and friends, I use to by part of this category. I was a person who at first would just rudely interpret and talk for the purpose to be the loudest voice. But, then I put on a false mask and politely waited my turn to speak, but was still very rigid so I still didn't listen to others. It wasn't until I was able to grasp the reality that the fruit of my works was not what I wanted, and that is when I chose to begin to listen and learn. I guess what I always feared was to learn if what I was originally taught was what incorrect or strayed. At first I was arrogant, but I soon realized that I was only ignorant to these subject and then willing to listen and learn.

3d ago
John Whitehead

John Whitehead

Thanks for your comments Deanne and Harvey

4d ago
Ken Lucci

Ken Lucci

3d ago · 1 min read · ~10
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Becoming A Great Business Leader

Becoming A Great Business Leader

Any good business can tell you, that they did not get there by accident. There was a willpower behind it mixed with hard work, but to get those things in a business you need to have a leader motivating those characteristics within the business....

Jim Taggart

Jim Taggart

9/12/2018 · 6 min read · ~10
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Rethinking Teams: Getting Over the Guilt Complex

Rethinking Teams: Getting Over the Guilt Complex

“Teams, teams, teams” has been the mantra since the early nineties when the literature on teams exploded. Everyone needed to be part of a team. To most people working in organizations, the reflex is to refer to one’s ‘team’ when discussing...

Michael Fourte

Michael Fourte

6/12/2018 · 2 min read · ~10
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How to Earn Respect of your Employees

How to Earn Respect of your Employees

We seek respect in our professional lives and want to gain the respect of others in the workplace. Gaining respect can sometimes come with misguided ideas about how to achieve employee respect. Once a level of mutual respect in the workplace is...

Deanne Duncombe

Deanne Duncombe

2/12/2018 · 1 min read · ~10
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For the Sake of What are You Taking Your Actions as a Leader?

For the Sake of What are You Taking Your Actions as a Leader?

Recently, a colleague was trying to respond to an email that had really annoyed her. When she had finished thumping her keyboard with passion, she paused and asked me to check her email before she sent it.After I had read the first sentence, I said...

Deanne Duncombe

Deanne Duncombe

Thank you so much for your reply, and I agree that this may be an easier question to ask ourselves. “For the sake of what...” is a question that I have learnt to ask coachees in coaching conversations. The idea behind it is that everything that we do is done to take care of something within us. For example, by being upset about the person who corrected me in a meeting I might be taking care of my need to be valued or to be right or to make a worthwhile contribution, or whatever. By asking ourselves this question, we are seeking to understand why we are doing something. My assessment is that this question is perhaps easier to ask from a mood of curiosity than “Why are you...” and therefore feels as though it is being asked without judgement. Hopefully, this then helps the situation to become about learning.

3/12/2018
Preston 🐝 Vander Ven

Preston 🐝 Vander Ven

Great Buzz. "For the sake of what..." is powerful. I do not think I have heard questions asked in this manner. Those who are defensive to answering questions or maybe scared of self-reflection may be more liking to answer questions if asked like this rather than "Why are you..." . It seems that a lot of people are becoming afraid of the "you" questions.

3/12/2018

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