- Producer22/02/2017WWW.beBeeWelcome to Wednesday Word(s) of the Week at beBee: WWW.beBeeFor this week, an exchange between CityVP 🐝 Manjit and Savvy Raj on the word UNSHACKLE. Savvy Raj wrote a buzz Soul Cages. Below, please find...
Comments22/02/2017 #1 Savvy RajThis is an interesting take off on words choices by @ Sara Jacobvici and I appreciate and thank you Sara for your choosing to highlight on the word Unshackle from the post on ' Soul Cages' for this week along with the context..I certainly look forward to learning more from these shared interactions and the emerging patterns and perspectives.
- 20/02/2017We are the world. Music unties and crosses over boundaries and walls created by those who don't understand humanity. It is our love for ourselves which is revealed by our persistence to share, care and give to others. What do you stand for when no one is looking, is who you are when you look in the mirror.
A blast from the past, for a present much in need of unity, and awareness. Some thoughts through music!USA FOR AFRICA - We Are The World We are The World Sobre a música: We Are the World é um LP gravado em Janeiro de 1985 por 45 dos maiores nomes da música norte-americana, com o objetivo de...
- Producer19/02/2017More on Balancing ActsUse right brain or left brain or both? Be a manager or a leader? Be internally or externally motivated? To answer these deceptively easy questions and the like let me start with personal story. Recently, I visited an ear specialist. He...
Comments21/02/2017 #52 namita sinhaDear @Sara Jacobovici , I am so glad you could read my comment ...l.You have added tremendously by extending it to a more valuable insight , namely of us picking and capturing the right "information ".Indeed, that could mark the beginning of us registering the relevant inputs first, which ultimately guide us towards our intuition and ability to make the correct choices towards a state of balance... Always a pleasure to read your views !21/02/2017 #49 namita sinhaSir @Ali Anani thanks so much for acknowledging, apologies for the delay in replying , and as I always say, your buzz helps me to connect with great souls and read wonderful insights.I am the priveleged one to read the comments of dear @Sara Jacobovici and @Robert Cormack , as also some other great comments here as I resume after a day !20/02/2017 #48 Ali Anani#47 Sweet comment dear @Praveen Raj Gullepalli. Momentum entails direction. But I love your mind and direction- leadership is electrifying and magnetism is pooling resources. You make me think now- when leadership is magnetic it also leads to electrifying. It is when we have no magnetism or electricity that we don't have the other. The two in one.20/02/2017 #47 Praveen Raj GullepalliLeadership ought to galvanise/electrify the endeavour while Management (magnetism) ought to bring the work resources together and provide the (right) direction. One is Momentum while the other is Direction perhaps, dear Ali? Only when the goals of both match, there is harmony, synergy and success.20/02/2017 #38 Deb🐝 LangeSo many wonderful ideas rich from our experience - I have about 20 drafts in beBee and another 20 in linked in as I jot down my ideas after reading a buzz like yours! I have to start a new habit of completing them - sometimes it is hard to go back and complete as the idea has moved on!20/02/2017 #37 Ali Anani#35 I had just responded to dear@Deb🐝 Lange before I respond to your comment my dear @CityVP 🐝 Manjit. It is amazing in view of what you wrote "If anything what other structure in our body resembles the brain. It is neither the heart or the lungs, but our stomach". Let me see if I can get any closer to your mind without trying to. We don't have to be similar (our brains and stomachs aren't), but te end result could be similar or close. It is like adding 5+2 and subtractingng 10-3 as both give same answer.20/02/2017 #36 Ali Anani#34 The conflict of writing- I decide to write a buzz and then a new comment arrives and draws my attention to a hotter topic. Do you experience this dear @Deb🐝 Lange? I amy be writing on a metaphor derived from the kitchen! We plan only to adapt and change course!!!😂😂20/02/2017 #35 CityVP 🐝 ManjitLeadership and management are the heart and lungs of an organization - the balance between flow and absorption. We tend to relate heart to mind because we mistakenly relate emotion to reason. All of this emotion and reason operates first in the brain.
If anything what other structure in our body resembles the brain. It is neither the heart or the lungs, but our stomach. The brain-gut relationship is only beginning to be fathomed and in organization life it is no different to the strategy-execution relationship.
Why do more eating on a daily basis than we engage in loving, but we base our society on many mythologies, that maybe our metaphors are misaligned. Should we create new patterns of association and explore accordingly or maintain the cultural beliefs that our ancestors imparted to us>?
If we see things in their traditional way - all of this has been thoroughly engaged down the ages, and is it worth dredging up the known when leadership is about the unknown and learning is either a refresh of existing knowledge or cultivation of new. The organizational body does have a certain similarity to the human body, so long as we notice that relationship and actively work it.
- Producer17/02/2017If Given The Chance To Make A Difference, Would You?I was cruising You-Tube, when I came across a video with a unique title: What would you say if you only had 15 seconds? “OK” I thought, “what will he say with his 15 seconds?” So, I watched the video. It was a short comedian act that was a little...
Comments20/02/2017 #21 Devesh Bhatt#18 dont worry. I was almost convinced not a good person.
My worldview could not change when i was an accessory for exploitation...i had to change my world so to speak :)
On the other hand, assuming people to be unfair and still having the belief to do good is very relieving. Then the few good people i meet are a bonus.
I just had to assume unfairness but not ponder upon the details.
I still have to figure out how to define it better but it works.
But at the end of the day its all about self belief in my case.20/02/2017 #18 Paul 🐝 Kearley#10 @Devesh Bhatt you packed a lot into your comment. One part troubles me though was your quote that you are not a good person. I would certainly suggest you change that worldview, as it will have ramifications on all of the relationships you create over your lifetime. Yes, people can be unfair, that's their problem. If we do our best with the time we are given, then you will be a success.19/02/2017 #14 debasish majumderi did not come to this lovely, wonderful world out of my own wish, if though could be in fifteen seconds, how will i express my wish altogether about the last fifteen seconds, despite i cannot envisage even an iota of the situation of my last fifteen seconds! intriguing question indeed and i wonder how it trigger to peoples mind too! however, lovely joke @Paul 🐝 Kearley! you have a unique sense of humor! enjoyed read. thank you for such unique share too.19/02/2017 #13 Anonymous@Paul Kearley If at some time in the future one of your children is posting about you "The motivation for this post was my dad. He passed away on Valentines day, and I miss him terribly, but he goes with me wherever I go, whispering advice in my ear and guiding me down the right road. " then you need say nothing in your 15 seconds. Your legacy will speak for itself.19/02/2017 #11 Robert CormackWhat's interesting here, @Paul Kearley, is it's about what we leave behind. I'm more worried about how we change things while still living. If I'm not around, it seems I'm missing my most profound thoughts and words (not that I have any, but still, it's nice to know I could have one or two).19/02/2017 #10 Devesh BhattTrust yourself and do good when times are easy.
For those older than me who live during tough times but havent shifted gears durig better times.
For friends who dont have the endurance like those before us and lose self belief easily.
Its also seeded in my regret of overthinking the good i could have done but thought about bad precedents rather than enquiring facts.
Something i told myself repeatedly over a long time, i was almost convinced that im no good and i am not a good person.
What i believe now, people are unfair and i cannot let that rub off on me.18/02/2017 #9 Ken Boddie15 seconds, Paul? Not long enough to assemble a worthy address to the nation or to pen a prophetic poem, assuming that we had the inclination for either. I'd fall back on a couple of my favourite quotes:
"O wad some Power the giftie gie us.
To see oursels as ithers see us!"
"Make new friends, but remember the old,
One is silvern, the other is gold!"17/02/2017 #7 Ella de JongThank you @Paul 🐝 Kearley. I'm sorry for your loss! I'm happy for you that your father is always, always around when you need him.
My 15 seconds would be something like .. "Please, try to make someone smile by genuine attention and talking about their small successes. By doing this you can make your life meaningful. It's empowering for the both of you and everyone (young, old, brave and insecure) of us can try this, every single day!"17/02/2017 #4 Lori Mullins JohnsonIn 2013 there was a simple study done by a palliative care nurse. She started asking all of her patients, during their final days, if they had any regrets. The top ten list was filled with mostly "I should have's" , I should have pursued my dreams, I should have said I love you, I should have made more time for my family and friends, I should have learned earlier that happiness is a choice, etc... so think of your "should have's" now, and go do them.
- Producer15/02/2017Anger Buddies Does a Body GoodMy dear buddy Cyndi wilkins has really helped me move forward over the last few weeks because she is very good at using her intuition to guide a conversation into the nooks and crannies that typically get overlooked. We all have periods in life when...
Comments18/02/2017 #14 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#13 You've highlighted the very thin line between anger and danger, @debasish majumder. I think that is why we find it easy to want to ignore these feelings, bury them, and pretend everything is fine. It is incredibly hard to express anger in a constructive way, and yet, learning this skill is pretty crucial for living a contented and meaningful life.
Knowing the things that draw our ire - the things we will not tolerate - helps us navigate life in a direction that will ultimately bring us to serenity, while ignoring anger is very likely to dump us right into situations that trigger the emotion in ever-escalating cycles.
Like so many things in life, the way to learn how to deal constructively with anger is to practice and @Cyndi wilkins and I are finding this buddy system to be a fun, fruitful, and sometimes profound way to express feelings, understand life-long patterns, and start to change the way we feel so that we move on, full of hope, curiosity, and delight.18/02/2017 #13 debasish majumderto prefix 'D' to anger i guess, amply clarify the gravity as well demerits of anger @Deb 🐝 Helfrich. yet, anger have positive impact too, as it vent out our suppress emotions, enabling us to understand our constraints and how detrimental our emotions are if we allow them to overrule us. however, lovely insight madam. enjoyed read. thank you for the share.16/02/2017 #6 Cyndi wilkinsAs a manual therapist by training, I am more accustomed to using therapeutic touch to interpret the signals that the physical body communicates to me. In that way I can assist my client in the release of their pain through soft tissue manipulation. This was more of a cerebral experience where I really had to trust my intuition to guide me ...@Deb 🐝 Helfrich and I were both challenged to engage ALL of our senses...particularly sight, sound and body language, in an effort to tap into the "emotion" trying to make its way to the surface. Once we did that, we could have a little "playdate" with it...give it expression in a supportive environment where it can be transformed through the eyes of others as they reflect back to us the lessons to be learned from our collective experiences.
These "patterns of behavior" are inherent within all of us. As society has taught us to bury our emotions like an unnecessary appendage, it is high time we did a little excavating of those old bones and shed new light on how we express ourselves effectively.15/02/2017 #3 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#1 Of course, you picked out my favorite sentence, @Ali Anani. And added so much more by extending it to the very important concept of SELF-NEGOTIATION. I actually think that is the core of learning to be a happy and well-adjusted human being.
Self-negotiation is learning about ourselves and how we react and questioning which parts of our actions and habits may be due to factors way beyond something as innocuous as a comment by a stranger that causes us to lash out in ways harmful to our own bodily equilibrium and meant to throw someone else off of their balance, regardless of who else might be inflicted unintended damage.
That sort of behavior solves nothing, generates nothing but hostility in return and actually becomes an ever increasing cycle since the actual wrong never had a chance to be rationally discussed.
I think the first step to being able to find the insight in anger is learning how other people process anger in ways that actually allow the emotion to resolve whatever situation first brought the feelings of hostility into focus.15/02/2017 #1 Ali AnaniDear @Deb 🐝 Helfrich- wonderful buzz. You said it in one line "Being able to express ourselves, and all our emotions, with clarity is part of the dance of negotiation that every human needs to learn to live a joyful, productive, and relatively stress-less life". You bring up to my understanding a hugely important point. We need to negotiate with ourselves as we do with others. Self-negotiation is an idea that strikes me powerfully. Great reading and is worthy of sharing.
- Producer13/02/2017What reality are you creating for yourself?What does reality really mean? Is my reality same than yours? Could it be different? The answer is YES. Maybe some of you would ask me, why do you think so? The reason was an incredible and inspirational TED Talks's video I recently watched, where...
Comments17/02/2017 #10 Sara JacoboviciGreat post @Miguel López de la Oliva. A topic close to my heart. From my perspective, we are sensory beings and as such we form meaning from our experiences. It is our meaning, therefore our reality. The poet Alfred North Whitehead said: "Nature gets credit which in truth should be reserved for ourselves, the rose for its scent, the nightingale for his song, and the sun for its radiance. The poets are entirely mistaken. They should address their lyrics to themselves and should turn them into odes of self-congratulations on the excellence of the human mind. Nature is a dull affair, soundless, scentless, colorless, merely the hurrying of material, endlessly, meaninglessly." This process of how we form our "reality" is what needs to be clearly understood. Fear, for example, doesn't form our reality, it's our response to fear that does that. Everything we sense is information. It is what we choose to do with that information that forms our reality. You're right, we are the creator of our reality. But because we are individuals who depend on community to survive, our challenge is to form that reality which is connected or attached to a common reality. Awareness is the key. If you're "smart" about it, you can "have your cake and eat it too". You can be the individual you want when you find the community in which to express that individuality.15/02/2017 #7 Lisa 🐝 GallagherThanks for tagging me Donna Luisa! @Miguel López de la Oliva, this was an excellent topic. I watched this video before and he just makes so much sense. I think it's great to recognize what may be holding you back or your fears (especially if they are extreme) earlier in life hence, better chance at over-coming them in the short term. I'm at an age where I finally had to seek help for some extreme stuff that my brain programmed and stored wrong. I'm currently working hard with my therapist. My sessions began with CBT (Cognitive behavioral therapy) and progressed to EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing). I will have my 3 session this week. What is EMDR [ condensed]- "The EMDR therapy uses bilateral stimulation, right/left eye movement, or tactile stimulation, which repeatedly activates the opposite sides of the brain, releasing emotional experiences that are "trapped" in the nervous system. This assists the neurophysiological system, the basis of the mind/body connection, to free itself of blockages and reconnect itself." http://www.psychotherapist.net/emdr-faq.html This is one of the few newer therapies recognized and insurance will pay for. I don't want others to view me as a person with fears and anxiety who is unable to function, my hope is they see me as a person whose had a set back in life that caught up with her and she's taking the right steps to become more functional than she could have imagined. We all have our baggage but the brain is a versatile organ that is able to use other parts of the brain for processing information we once perceived as horrible.15/02/2017 #6 Max🐝 J. CarterWhat I teach as a Shaman is similar yet different to this.
It is a shared reality created by all ones and all ones share the responsibility for the reality shared by all ones.
We create this reality for each other as much as we create it for ourselves and when you begin to do as is suggested in this buzz by holding yourself accountable for every thought and word you realize that at times for us to have means others must be made to have not.
Choose wisely in deciding your desires and know for everything you have and want their is a price that others in the shared reality may have to pay for you to have it your way.15/02/2017 #1 Donna-Luisa Eversley@Miguel López de la Oliva what a truly powerful post! Thank you so much for this!
We really do create our own reality, and believe in it as you said above. It is the power we have locked into all of us, this ability to control the outcomes of our engaged lives, if we dare to believe. I think what has me most intrigued by your post are your words on fear. Indeed it is the potential and the possibility of something terrible which is imminent that gives fear its power over us. Friends, please check this out!
@Milos Djukic @Claire 🐝 Cardwell @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher @Ken Boddie @Pascal Derrien
Comments13/02/2017 #2 Francisco LopezI am so grateful to all my teachers, they taught me how to think systematically and opened my mind. I was a terrible student, nerd, pestered them with questions, rarely studies, almost never took notes,but, I am who I am thanks to their patience and dedication to their vocation.and their effort to satisfy my intellectual curiosity. I have a huge debt but will never be able to pay to them.for all what they did. It can be a difficult and even risky work, as many almost act like substitute parents for a precious few hours and deal with kids whose potential is sometimes cut by bad socioeconomic conditions and culture. Blessings to a those who teach, after parenting, they have the most important job.
- Producer10/02/2017AUROVILLE :Dawn of ConsciousnessUnderstanding Auroville The Idealism in principle and its pragmatism in purpose! Is it ....A Dream of divinity A Manifestation of hope in humanity Mystical in its simplicity Solution for complexities Propogating human connectivityPromoting life...
Comments11/02/2017 #11 Savvy Raj#6 City VP Manjit .Appreciate your empathic connectivity here as well.! Just realised that I posted this post link on my linked in article much after your hearty efforts to reach here. Thank you for all your supportive comments to this post that are both encouraging and empowering at the same time.11/02/2017 #10 Devesh Bhatt#2 corruption is everywhere. Be cautious, gain a good experience and move on.
Wherever their is an institution and collective needs, this is inevitable.
Only thing is this, there was an effort to clean house at Auroville.
At the end of the day, nothing works better than some quality time with oneself, nature adds to the experience like none other.
I wait for an inspiring quote :)10/02/2017 #7 CityVP 🐝 Manjit#4 Hi Chas, along as one is aware that the foundation of cults can most often be traced to empaths being attracted to narcissists, then it is cavaet emptor [buyer beware] for the empath. http://www.elephantjournal.com/2015/06/the-toxic-attraction-between-an-empath-a-narcissist/
Such is the degree of empath response to the narcissist to seem them wounded rather than monstrous, that the narcissist can keep wounding and the empath will tolerate the wound ironically due to the tremendous humanity an empath has stored in them for caring for people.
When the wound is diabolical and the world begins to knock on the door of the cult - that is the moment when it is too late to realize that an empath has been used and abused by the narcissist. If there is awareness around this, then the danger of cult formation is mitigated. Even then the empath keeps quiet about the wound because the narcissist lays the blame on them and they are caught in this viscous relationship spiral.
For the times that this happens we must not negate the virtuous relationship of the empath to inform the rest of us the essence of humanity. That is what I find here. Then we can look upon the beauty of that which should be beautiful and in that regard I view Savvy Raj and you as the picture postcards of freedom. In that regard I send both of you my regards and highest appreciation.10/02/2017 #4 Savvy Raj#2 @Chas ✌️ Wyatt I appreciate your immediate concern and also understand the need to highlight the context of safety of one and all . I am by nature far removed from any kind of cult like propogation .
While I do resonate with the ideals of human unity and consciousness.I believe that embodying these practically and actualizing them to be a task of immense difficulty especially so in these times. And even more so having to live there and deal with problems of such a society with its unique sense of ideals, will certainly have issues of their implementation. But yet I found it to be great place to visit to experience the arts and cultural confluence reflected in life and living and spend some quiet contemplative time.10/02/2017 #2 Chas ✌️ Wyatt@Savvy Raj, I used to get a newsletter from auroville back in the late 70's. I don't mean to put a damper on your enthusiasm and idealism for Auroville, but, there is also a dark side to this utopian experiment. You may also wish to read this article about the undercurrent running through Auroville; http://www.slate.com/articles/news_and_politics/roads/2015/07/auroville_india_s_famed_utopian_community_struggles_with_crime_and_corruption.html
- Producer09/02/2017Like Reading a BookThere is a quick way I find out more about a person. I go to their bookshelf or in some cases, their library and look at what they read. A five minute glance around their shelves tells me what they are interested in, curious about, and gives a...
Comments12/02/2017 #65 Sara JacoboviciJust came across this link and thought you might find it of interest @Gert Scholtz. http://www.bbc.co.uk/culture/story/20160819-the-secret-libraries-of-history?ocid=fbcul11/02/2017 #60 Dean OwenI didn't like Tom Wolfe's "Bonfire". I just find not many people can write about Wall St unless they have been through it (like Michael Lewis has). But for books in that sphere I highly recommend Liar's Poker, The Predators Ball, Den of Thieves, Flash Boys, Vendetta: American Express and the Smearing of Edmond Safra. For fiction, I am addicted to Anne Rice.10/02/2017 #59 Gert Scholtz#57 @Mohammed Sultan Quite true - one cannot judge a book by its cover, as the saying goes. Better to scan some parts, look at the content pages and read the cover flaps to get and idea of it. And never confuse public relations with family relations :) Thanks Mohammed.10/02/2017 #57 Mohammed SultanOn buying books,the desire to pick up a book with an attractive dust-jacket is irresistible,although this method of selection ought not to be followed ,as you might end up with a dull book and wake up on a call from the bookshop salesperson greeting 'Can I help you sir?we should not take books for granted.it's very easy to enter a shop looking for a book on,say,public relations and to the sudden come out carrying the latest best-selling novel on family relations!10/02/2017 #56 Lada 🏡 PrkicGreat topic, Gert, and nicely written post! Love to read books but also read about books. I have many books but unfortunately not enough space for shelves. We live in a small apartment and many of my books are stored in the boxes. Therefore I decided several years ago to buy only the necessary technical literature. Other books that interest me I borrow from the library, usually 1-3 books per month. Bought or borrowed, books can open our minds and hearts.10/02/2017 #51 Kevin PashukThanks for the tour of your library Gert.
I fully subscribe to the idea that in order to better know a person, check out their library. All of the truly interesting people I have met in life were readers, who would bring in such wonderful perspectives gleaned from their reading. I can't say I've had the same stimulating conversations with those who only use media (esp. television) to form their worldview.
I shared some of my library in previous posts, I would hope that more Bees would follow.10/02/2017 #50 Mohammed SultanBertrand Russell on his definition of good and bad,better and worse said"A thing is good ,if it's valued for its own sake,and not only for its effects.We take nasty medicines because we hope they will have desirable effects ,but a gouty connoisseur drinks old wine for its own sake ,in spite of possible disagreeable effects.You must do right because it's right ,and not because it's the way to get to heaven .You must save because all sensible people do,and not because you will ultimately secure an income that will enable you to enjoy life."
Pleasure in not defined by whether to read or not ,but by our ability to differentiate between the means and ends.Thank you @Gert Scholtz for sharing a great article.10/02/2017 #49 Emilia M. Ludovino"Books transform, mind and heart. Not each and every read. Reading sometimes changes our views, sometimes changes us. Many times we lose ourselves in what we read, only to find a different self. Books fill crevices in the heart and answers questions of the mind. We begin a read and take bits of it in and little by little build ourselves into someone else. A better self sometimes. A more informed self often." - My dear friend @Gert Scholtz this little excerpt is poetry. So beautiful that touch our hearts, without my books I surely wasn't the same person. - Thank you so much for this wonderful reading. Have a wonderful weekend!10/02/2017 #48 Ken BoddieRead me read my books! I love it, Gert. Like you I have a large collection of books on a variety of subjects but, unlike you, my 'culling' capabilities are poor, except for the odd "How to ...." hurriedly snatched from a charity book sale which I eventually twigged that I would never read. By the way, I would be wary of sniffing books for too long, as the spine glue may 'beam you up', unbeknownst, to a whole new psychedelic world of literature. 😍10/02/2017 #47 CityVP 🐝 Manjit#39 That is a great way of approaching cultivation of reading. To sit with an author over a longer frame and allow their world to work on me is definitely a different kind of speed. A neither spend hours with a book nor do I spend hours in a gym. It is inspiring to hear the perspective of life-long readers and I look forward to an appreciation of cultivating a different relationship with time and the gifts that arise through engendering a love for reading books.
- Producer06/02/201712 Good MenMeet Uther! My uncut calvarium. He's a beautiful brute, clocking in at just shy of 12lb (without a brain, so that's HUGE...if I had a brain!). He was dug up in the chalky, limestone earth of the Jurassic coast in the 1950's. All I really know about...
Comments10/02/2017 #37 Lisa Vanderburg#36 haha...I actually googled that thinking it was local colloquialism; just came up with 'good returns.' Just look at all the oopsies I've made! Even when I reread I'm looking at context not grammar - I don't even have the excuse of using a phone!! It got me going :)09/02/2017 #35 Lisa Vanderburg#31 to #34 monkey see, monkey do...I'm learning, YAY! (Except I tried to highlight the other ladies in my comments with the @..?)
Pertinent point about learning what to do with our own damaged selves rather than being told by the conventional rote behavioral approach. Much more proactive - like it!!
I'll visit your site and find the conversations. Very grateful for all you help @Deb🐝 Lange - a treasure trove!09/02/2017 #34 Deb🐝 LangeWhat I intended for ng book was to share what worked for me and how I have helped other people discover useful stuff for themselves. I love that Deb Helfrich has used my book
Like a recipe book. She duos in finds something beneficial and adapts it to work for her and her life. Wd have been doing a series of conversations - havd a listen . Lots of love to you for this stage - keep on learning to care and love yourself . Be kind to you do things that nourish you. Xxc09/02/2017 #33 Deb🐝 LangeI believe we have all gaddcoeturncrs and we have learnt some things about creating our lives. Some of those things work well for us. Some of those don't work so well for us, as over time we have events and experiences and we make them mean something g about ourselves and others that isimiti g, of judgemental of inhibiting. Those events often carry psychological, emotional Etc pain. We have not Been taught how to be with our suffering, how to give ourselves the care and love we need to heal. We have not been taught how to create loving kind boundaries for ourselves and what is love and kindness anyway.09/02/2017 #32 Deb🐝 LangeAnd with my belief in the potential of people I followed and developed practices based on cocreating learning environments that enabled people to discover what they needed in partnership with me and others and for themselves. This is basically the philosophy of my work and my book.09/02/2017 #31 Deb🐝 LangeWith deep respect to psychologists and psychiatrists in the least century I do believe we are learning other ways to learn about ourselves #30 we have done the best that we could at the time and we are getting better at understanding how to "help" each other. 40 years ago when looking at what career to choose I decided not to do psychology as at the time it was all behavioural, i would have studied rats and I would have studied therapeutic models that had ideas based on people being flawed or having something wrong with them. I did not believe in those models. So studied education as I believed in the potential of people.09/02/2017 #30 Lisa Vanderburg#28 PART 2: (good thing you showed me this @Deb🐝 Lange!).
While I'm here - sorry to use your space Deb but Lisa 🐝 Gallagher..I need to address what you last said - my apologies for tardiness! I don't get professional help for two reasons:
1. My recently-passed sister did do this for years. It ended with the various Psychiatrists & Psychologists acknowledging her 're-wiring' was permanent and she knew herself better than anyone else could ever. She wanted ECT for the longest time..didn't have it, thank God.
2. My long-dead sister killed herself after becoming her new self following the Psychs mentioned above.
Such a long reply! So sorry, but I feel very grateful for ALL of you ladies' (including Deb 🐝 Helfrich and Cyndi wilkins) loving ear and thoughtful suggestions and for the sheer guts NOT to back away! Thank you so much!!09/02/2017 #29 Lisa Vanderburg#28 Too true, and a timely reminder @Deb🐝 Lange of how very little we know of each others' situatriences on these platforms. Is that also why they are so appealing? That said, I want to open up but I'm just awaiting the 'other shoe to drop' :) But, I am going to get your book because I'm intrigued...sounds a lot more substantial and cerebral than Mindfulness (me repeating how much I love myself is not gonna end well!).
And I thank you for your kind words that I certainly haven't earned;...just suffer?
But it's very important to me that both you and Lisa 🐝 GallagherT a cry for help. I am no closer to suicidal idealization than usual :) I have to see my ey to the finish S a fierce loyalty that would make Bullmastiff wimp out. PART 1:..bleedin' count!09/02/2017 #28 Deb🐝 LangeDear @Lisa Vanderburg - where do I start? perhaps with sending you affirmation of your boldness, courage, fortitude, strength and underneath all of that your vulnerability, your pain, your open gaping wound. One of the good things is that now you have opened up to what you really feel - you can now care for yourself in ways that your father & perhaps mother never could. Give yourself the love, kindness, empathy, compassion, love, nurturing that you would have loved to have from others in your life. By the way - - you say "I ain't you" - yet we only know each other a little on the internet. I have my story - a little of it is in my book, Trust Your Senses - the book is really how I "healed", "released", suffering in my life and how I then worked out ways to help others. what is good to know is that when you give yourself the love you need, you can almost re-birth self, re-create yourself newly. Whilst you may not sense that right now as you are in the midst of your uncovering and opening and your wounds which have been covered up for years are now open, raw and sore. And now they are open, just like a physical wound, the air, salt, care and tenderness heals them. A physical cut takes a few days to grow new cells, a scab, and then the scab falls off and we have new skin. This can happen with our emotional, psychological, energetic and soul wounds. What is great is that you opened them up now - it does not matter what age - you have done it so now they can heal. many never get that far and end up like your father. No more turning in on yourself in a mean way - turn towards yourself in love. If you have not already got my book I do recommend it as there are ways in my book to gently playfully lovingly find what is loving for you. Sending you much love Deb.08/02/2017 #27 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#26 Hiding behind a happy face or trying to ignore what lies deep within will lead to mental and physical exhaustion. It can become debilitating if we dont put ourselves first and reach out to even a professional thst can help to heal the wounds. Reaching out is the hardest part but there are many professionals who care and can guide one properly. Just think of the relief you may feel when you dont have to pretend anymore. Hugs, Lisa08/02/2017 #26 Lisa Vanderburg#25 You're so right @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher! I think that's why I'm beginning to write about it - I've realized the only peace I will get will come with death (drama-queen, I know), so I'm looking for another way. Why has it come up now? Probably because either performing or 'hiding etc' has just plum tuckered me out! There's ALWAYS worse....
Thank you lovely Lady for sharing my buzz, but also for your wisdom and perceptiveness!08/02/2017 #25 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#24 Sometimes we can hold things in for so long while putting on a face of 'the performer' as you noted and it may be eating us up on the inside. Or it may come to haunt us when we least expect it. I hope you are at peace with 'hiding in plain sight,' and I mean that sincerely. You went through a LOT!
- 03/02/2017Study something you love in depthaustinkleon.com Here’s how cartoonist and teacher Paul Karasik ended his lecture “How To Read a Comic” yesterday: “Here's the only thing you need to remember from this...
- Producer31/01/2017Death Called and Mom AnsweredToday my mom went to heaven to be with the Lord and my father who passed away in 2013. Tears cleanses my eyes but, my heart will forever have a hole in it and I will miss her dearly. As I write this article, tears streak down my face but my...
Comments31/01/2017 #14 Harvey LloydWow @Jim Cody i am so sorry. I have not yet faced this time but is just around the corner for me. Mom is a tough one to lose. Although she is in a great place right now you will need to grieve and collect your thoughts and great memories. Wish i had words, but only time and faith will heal the heart.
- Producer20/11/2016Relationships and EmpathyThere have been a lot of articles, buzzes and/or blogs written about Empaths and empathy. I read many articles, then shake my head while thinking, "you might be making some valid points but do you honestly live the life of an empath or are you able...
Comments26/01/2017 #83 Savvy RajI love everything about this post dear @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher.. And pretty sure you would know that by now. U have said it all!
So in the journey towards Cultivation of Empathy...
Let us accept that although we may all be housed in different bodies and be distanced by space and time but we all breath the same air and are made up of energy from the same magnificient source.23/11/2016 #75 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#73 @Paul "Pablo" Croubalian, you do work hard! I bet (judt knowing whast I do about you that you're always putting others first and forgetting to put yourself first sometimes. I'm happy that you're relaxing now. I actually got a tear in my eye when I read your comment. Have a great holiday with your wife and family if for some reason I don't talk to you before then!23/11/2016 #73 Paul "Pablo" CroubalianThanks, Lisa, I needed that. I've been so hung up lately trying to get stuff done before the Holidays that I seem to have forgotten why those Holidays exist in the first place.
So, again, thank you. . . I'm shutting my computer now and going to sit with my wife. Time enough for work tomorrow.22/11/2016 #70 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#69 I thought that was important to point out because people who are highly sensitive are viewed as weak, that is not true (at least in many cases). Some of the strongest people I know are extremely sensitive but they don't wear it on their sleeve ;-) Thanks @Melinda Brain, appreciate your comment!!22/11/2016 #65 Ebenezar John PaulI can relate to the Unspoken understanding of each other" with a best my friend of mine. Very true and it gives a sense of content and happiness knowing that we share more than what can be put into words!!
Great article @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher View moreI can relate to the Unspoken understanding of each other" with a best my friend of mine. Very true and it gives a sense of content and happiness knowing that we share more than what can be put into words!!
Great article @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher :) Close
- Producer25/01/2017New ExperiencesSharing my life experiences with friends, family or small groups (2-5) isn't a problem for me; this is a new experience.....sharing with the world. Born at the end of the Baby Boomer era, I seem to identify with many generations and find value...
Comments25/01/2017 #2 Julio Angel 🐝Lopez LopezI had only 4 months, after the years and even knowing the facts, you live those moments when reading ODESSA from FORSYTH, FREDERICK, the beginning is precisely with the protagonist driving, the music of the radio stops and gives the news.
Thanks @Terri Barr
- 24/01/2017My first attempt at translation of a famous Tamil poetry and prayer to English.A heartfelt prayer.savvyraj.com An ever evolving knowledge An evergreen life An honest friendship An everlasting prosperity An ageless youth A healthy body An ever curious mind An ever-loving spouse A righteous child A life...
Comments26/01/2017 #8 Savvy Raj#7 #7 Yes indeed @CityVP 🐝 Manjit . And in this dance of the cosmos all exists in the strength of interconnections Sharing a few lines from my recent writing which felt apt here....
"All exists within us
Life is matter of energy, thriving in the spirit
We are material and spiritual at the same time
Realms and domains are embedded into each other
Choosing to separate or see the wisdom of oneness is a choice in our hands"25/01/2017 #7 CityVP 🐝 Manjit#5 Differences are either for people who fear differences, or who understand what diversity actually is. In the latter we learn from that which is different from us. Yet idealism and pragmatism is within us, we speak diversity but then we split things into two - and read a list of good and a list of bad, a masculine trait and a feminine trait, a left brain and a right brain - when we fear difference we are tearing our humanity apart, when we love difference, we are cosmos.25/01/2017 #5 Savvy Raj#4@CityVP 🐝 Manjit. I deeply appreciate your comment here and think quite likewise about idealism and pragmatism.Somewhere along the way inspite of the differences, there is scope in the emergence of positive connections between the two. Thank you for your thoughtful reflections .24/01/2017 #4 CityVP 🐝 ManjitAs a spiritual barometer this translation is cool because I am always interested in relating the what is in any given day to an ideal. We will not reach the horizon of the ideal but the guard against idealism is the pragmatic measure that makes practical the existence of an ideal.
- Producer25/10/2016Bee PassionateImage credit: Lil Fish Studios In his Buzz, Unexpected Passion Migrations, @Ali Anani asks, “Where is the passion?” Because of Dr. Ali’s choice of the word “migration”, I will expand on the...
Comments11/01/2017 #41 Harvey Lloyd#40 "....then experiences, then meaning, then expectations and then emotions." You described it very well with this statement. I do agree they coexist. But in the world of self help it is incumbent that we look at the expectation if the emotion is not gratifying ourselves. Not to separate but rather to establish a cause and effect inner monologue.
In my world of understanding we can observe something and render a discussion. The language would be different within our inner monologue of searching for greater existence. I find it interesting how folks who write about such things slip in and out of the observer role within their writing. I try to write based on the inner monologue perspective. Not as an observer.
Our inner monologue, if we are trying to seek new understanding, has to eventually come to motivation. Expectations are a motivating factor in our actions, and may produce an unintended result that turns on an emotion. Certainly not the exclusive motivator but a large one.11/01/2017 #40 Sara Jacobovici#39 Much to think about @Harvey Lloyd. One thing that stands out for me is when you write, "Emotions come from our expectations of the world which are designed through our life experience." I see a different timeline in this process (developmentally); first emotions and expectations co-exist, then experiences, then meaning, then expectations and then emotions.11/01/2017 #39 Harvey Lloyd#38 This is what makes passion so nebulous. When you explain it to another it doesn't seem quite as passionate, its a personal ideal.
Passion is a force of energy. Energy is something that can be broken down into components. But i can't break them down for you, only myself. There is no recipe that works for everyone. But the ingredients are still the same.
I noticed that you placed an S at the end emotion of your definition. Implying that passion is a result of.... not in and of itself a single emotion. This is my point. Emotions come from our expectations of the world which are designed through our life experience.
A challenging discussion. Similar to how do you describe anger. We can discuss the outward appearance of the emotion as felt by others, or....we can discuss the components of the emotion. A third description of anger is my personal feelings and judgement, what it caused in me.
Not sure we need to define passion so pointedly. Our interface with others is where we need to understand the motivation of passion in someway so we can make a decision of whether we want to join.11/01/2017 #38 Sara Jacobovici#37 This is why I like our engagement and exchanges so much @Harvey Lloyd - they're so dynamic. Not at all predictable. In this comment I am struggling with the notion of passion as "a container of emotions, skills and knowledge." For me, passion is something we feel, not as an emotion but as I mention a hybrid of emotions. I am having a hard time imaging passion holding anything else but emotions. But.....I am willing to try. I'll get back to you. Thanks Harvey.11/01/2017 #37 Harvey LloydPassion is a very nebulous topic of discussion. I enjoy folks who are passionate like you @Sara Jacobovici. But when it comes to the description of what makes up passion it becomes a quest for "who am I". Passion is a container of emotions, skills and knowledge. To much of any one ingredient is like a bottle rocket, heavy anticipation, the lighting of the fuse and the 3 second exhilaration, followed by whats next.
Our passion container should have a good recipe, if you will, of the three ingredients. Its not necessary to have the full range of each ingredient but we do need to know where to find the missing ones.
With the correct ingredients we can secure a growing recipe where we share the passion and grow it not only in ourselves but through others also. One of the biggest killers of passion is when our container is easily broken. The ingredients are still there but we cant collect and organize them anymore. The paradox, the recipe is the designer of the container. The passion container is challenged when we share the passion. Keeping in mind this recipe of passion has been simmering in you for some time. This is not so when it comes to the share. I might need time and throw a little skepticism your way during my merging with your passions.
Passion that includes the goals designed around win-win and can be pointed out to others will usually survive the skepticism.27/10/2016 #30 Lisa 🐝 GallagherPassion can run so deep @Sara Jacobovici. I agree with @🐝 Fatima Williams you don't need to be an expert at something to make change or do something different. I even find passion in the simple things, such as the birds chirping right before the sun rises, the tides of the ocean and the smells I take in when near the ocean, out in the forest- these things remind me of the innocence of a child. Pure wonderment we had within us as children. If we can be aware of those passions that stirred us as children, I believe it's always possible to expound on those passions. Many of those scents, noises and senses allowed me to fantasize or dream as a child, I still find myself doing that and yes, I act on some of my dreams as I'm able.27/10/2016 #27 Pamela 🐝 WilliamsAh, @Sara Jacobovici and @Ali Anani, Again rises the question of passion. What is my passion from where does it come from. Every since I wrote that piece I still occasionally contemplate the question. I think you're correct in your thought that it is a hybrid emotion. I can't associate my passion to an emotion, but instead emotions seem to arise from the passion. A perfect example: today at work I was facing a tedious task that was going to take hours/days but then that 'exploring' part of me kicked in and I went on a search for a 'quick fix' you might say (at least less tedious). Before I knew it that internal motivation, that passion that drives me to discover arose. I was on a personal quest and when I'm there, in my mind world, I feel elated. Then I found the fix and I turned hours/days of tedious work into minutes. I felt like I was Columbus and I had just discovered the New World. It didn't matter that the 'fix' already existed in the software I was using, I discovered it for myself, I learned today, my mind expanded just a little. Whoopee!
- Producer15/09/2016Social isolation ‘as bad for your health as smoking’Having a small social network is as bad for your health as smoking, according to a new study. Researchers from Yale University showed that a person’s position in the social network is associated with blood markers of stress. They discovered that the...
Comments11/01/2017 #19 Lisa Vanderburg#18 Actually - I hear you David; even perceived social rejection is enough, so it doesn't have to be real. My BFF and most beloved sister was a shut-in. She saw herself as ugly in every possible way and she didn't want people to see. She was beautiful in every possible way!11/01/2017 #18 Anonymous#16 Lisa i appreciate your answer. If someone feels like Shrek the ogre, the fear of being socially refused could be the reason. The real life case i have in mind (in fact, three of them) have in common that they have chosen a decadent behaviour which they feel confortable on it, while is not socially accepted.11/01/2017 #17 Harvey LloydIsolation is a cause and effect process. The cause and effect is based on how you answer the question, How am i relevant to others? The game of life is a journey whereby we enrich ourselves and others through participation. When the enrichment is side tracked through unrealistic expectations of others then we begin the journey of isolation.
Isolation is a long term journey, once we arrive it becomes difficult to transition, as time out of isolation is in direct proportion to time it took to arrive.
In looking from the outside in it appears that isolation may be caused by others and in some cases is, but more often than not isolation is a lifestyle that others could not merge. Which exacerbates the cycle.11/01/2017 #16 Lisa Vanderburg#5 You have a point @David Navarro Lopez, but I think those who isolate themselves do so out of fear, not laziness.
Some of us do not have the confidence, are psychologically re-wired, or are impaired by life-changes. I think all mentioned does lead to a sort of laziness, but I think a better term would be hopelessness?
As @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher mentions her step-father as an example of loss, aging, broken patterns, habit...all the attitudes that stand in the way of healthy social living. It's enormously difficult for him to be expected to change his ways after he lost his life-partner and has led a [theoretically] normal life. It would require a gargantuan change that the elderly particularly are less able to do. I have seen it happen - this 'change-of-mind', but only once. My father-in-law lost his wife all too early. He was about 78 then. After a year or so, he decided that he would change his mind. It was really incredible to see! He got out, travelled to see family and grandchildren, downsized etc. He lived until 85 years. What was curious is the reason he did it; for his wife, for all the times he didn't do what she wanted to do, go where she wanted to go. God bless him!
Thank you Fernando for this very important reminder that we NEED other people!10/01/2017 #8 Devesh BhattThere is a big difference between isolation and solitude.
My experience, society conditions within a set framework and make people assume it as a necessity.
A cigarette would never say, smoke me, but society would entice you and say, without me you are nothing.
If a person is not dependent on social certifications, then it's the first step to enjoying solitude and entering the social space with self esteem.10/01/2017 #3 Michele Williams#2 @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher, I agree. this is a very important topic. It is especially interesting that what matters most is that other people see you as their friend. I think this stems back to your comments related to sharing and generosity as core to social networking. Thanks for sharing, @Fernando 🐝 Santa Isabel Llanos.10/01/2017 #2 Lisa 🐝 GallagherI'm glad I came across this buzz @Fernando 🐝 Santa Isabel Llanos. This is an important topic. Since my mom died last year I see my out going Step dad isolating more and I feel helpless because he lives 2 hours from me. He's all alone in the large home they built together years ago. His friends are from Church but they only see each other on Sundays. I have seen this with others too, isolation leads to depression which does lead to health issues. Thank you for bringing this topic up!
- Producer05/01/2017Hive Talk 30 - Featuring Mensajes para recordar/Messages to Remember/Maria Oslara (in Spanish) Don't miss this buzz. Stunning presentation and infographic! Build a Successful Personal Brand With beBee https://www.bebee.com/producer/hive/bebee-english/build-a-successful-personal-brand-with-bebeehttps://www.bebee.com/group/47892 Dream...
Comments06/01/2017 #13 Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman#7 David, I like your idea! Bringing attention to older hives in Hive Talk - why not?! We tend to forget some of the hives unless we see them on a frequent basis. Some of my hives don't generate a lot of action either, so don't feel alone.
I created a hive for posts and hives that deserve a second bow (which all of them are worthy of a second or third time around, IMO). https://www.bebee.com/group/buzzing-memories. I feel this is a good way to keep track them. I also have a spreadsheet of my Hive Talk series.
This goes for anyone that wants their hive(s) brought back around. You can message me! 🙂06/01/2017 #9 Savvy Raj#1 Power of Bebee is in the mutual sharing and learning and connecting creatively. .This post is a reflection of it @ Franci Eugenia Hoffmann Great idea of sharing and highlighting some of the amazing hives here.. And thank you for your mention of the Hive ' Life and Living' in your list . Sharing this post in it right away .06/01/2017 #7 David B. GrinbergThanks for continuing this series valuable series, Franci. Unfortunately, I'm still having trouble growing my hive, "Universe, Space & Beyond"
Thus, I would appreciate:
1) Any suggestion which you or others might have on growing hives, and
2) Your mentioning my hive in all of your subsequent Hive Talk posts, if possible and as you deem appropriate.
Keep buzzing, Franci!05/01/2017 #5 Jared Wiese, 🐝 adding VALUE & RESULTS#2 Thank you so much for mentioning me and the Egoscue hive, @Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman!!
You know, I tried something I posted there the other day and it worked!
You ever get a pain in the back of your neck when you've been out in really cold weather? It's because your body automatically tightens up from the extreme cold - like a "cold in the bones". Well, a simple lying position got rid of the pain in 2 minutes! I will add a comment in that post too.05/01/2017 #3 debasish majumderamazing post indeed @Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman! this is perhaps the U.S.P. of this beBee like social affinity site making it utterly distinct from the rest other social networking site. the endeavor of ambassadors are truly amazing! @Javier 🐝 beBee, thank for such lovely innovation and i wish it will surely surpass any other social networking for its honest essence and the phenomenal personalities, who have the potential to make it reach to its zenith before you expected. thank you very much madam for such honest endeavor.
- 06/01/2017'Because' Life is to Live 'and not just simply exist.' SavvyTo Bewww.linkedin.com To be in every now has infinite potential. When every thought arises from abundance substantial. You can be an impactor or the collaborator. You can be a follower or followed . You can be...
- Producer03/01/2017Hiring Tips From the Man Who Discovered Elvis Presley.Back in the fifties, there was a ragtag assortment of characters, all in the general vicinity of Memphis, Tennessee. They had old guitars and didn’t look quite right to most people — even to the man who would turn them into household names. He was...
Comments04/01/2017 #8 Henri GalvãoI didn't know Sam Phillips had such a heart. Indeed, being willing to listen and being patient are two qualities that pay off in the long run.
maybe you've watched that movie Rush, about F1 drivers Niki Lauda and James Hunt. the way Hunt convinced the guys at McLaren to hire him (after Emerson Fittipaldi had left) is a good example of what you talk about here03/01/2017 #2 Pamela 🐝 WilliamsI think this is the BEST post about hiring that I have read on beBee, LinkedIn or any of the other myriad of articles, books, etc out there. Where has 'instinct' gone? Where has face to face gone? This is one area where technology has hurt companies by choosing Key Words over Instinct.
Sharing everywhere Robert.03/01/2017 #1 Kevin PashukThanks for the back story Robert. There are some great points in here. It made me think back in my career. All of the breaks I got were because someone saw the potential in me. I certainly wasn't your typical 'safe' candidate. History has proven them right and it encourages me to consider the misfits, the outliers, and those who are a bit different. I think it is the 'magic' inside that makes them that way.
- Producer03/07/2016A Trip to a Fantastical world full of Wisteria FlowersApparently once you step into this wisteria tunnel, you will be overwhelmed by the fresh cent and the beautiful scenery of numerous clusters of flowers lying on top of one another. There are many...
Comments03/01/2017 #18 Anonymous#17 Wisteria is a beautiful climber Pamela, it seems that the Japanese have some wonderful specimens of old Wisterias there is even a 140 something year old Wisteria tree in Japan, which I did a buzz about many many moons ago. If you do happen to take a picture of the Oak tree and Wisteria post it to my hive because I would love to see it, thanks again!03/01/2017 #17 Pamela 🐝 WilliamsSo glad you're back Andrew! Wisteria is one of my favorites. I would love to build a trellis over my driveway and create a tunnel. There is an old Wisteria vine that is growing on a road I used to take to work. It has intermingled with an old oak tree and is beautiful. At points it looks like the flowers are coming out of the oak. I'll have to remember to take a ride up that road next spring and take a picture!02/01/2017 #16 Anonymous#15 Yes definitely one for the bucket list @Brook Massey and here is another that may be of interest https://www.bebee.com/producer/@andrew-porter/keukenhof-the-most-beautiful-spring-garden-in-the-world that I resurrected just before the new year...enjoy!02/01/2017 #14 Anonymous#9 Well Bill you found a blast from the past with this which I originally posted on Linkedin many moons ago I had forgotten about it until now, I think it lacks a little compared to some of my recent buzzes.
#11 Thanks Sara and a happy and healthy new year to you, I think Bill deserves a little credit for resurrecting this one.
#13 @CityVP 🐝 Manjit yes this is a wonderful organic creation, and agreed that revisiting has infinitely more power than repurposing.
Thanks everyone for commenting and a happy new year to all.02/01/2017 #13 CityVP 🐝 ManjitWow! I thought it was a painting and then the other photo's revealed that it is an organic creation.
I also love the fact that in age when people repurpose their posts, this buzz organically re-emerged the moment Bill Stankiewicz found it again two hours ago. Revisiting or discovering has infinitely more power to it than repurposing - the former is a measure of quality, whereas repurposing is the measure of content.
- 29/12/2016Indeed, Sara, we are a work in progress; personally and professionally.The Art of Problem Solvingwww.linkedin.com We are a work in progress; personally and professionally. We are made up of what came before, what we aspire for tomorrow and, most importantly, who we are now. I can see it now as clearly as if...
Comments31/12/2016 #11 Pamela 🐝 WilliamsI recently wrote a comment on @Bernard Poulin post about artists that fits well with this subject. I have always enjoyed arts and even crafts, they were my mind melts, my fortresses of solitude. When i entered the corporate world I became known as the problem solver in every position I held. What i began to realize was that the "solutions I would develop came from the same part of me as what would be considered " art". I used the same process of studying the blank canvas or in the problem and a picture would begin to develop in my minds eye. I painted a new reality you might say...Unfortunately communicating this process was difficult to communicate and teach. Everyone's creative side works differently so what was completely logical to me sounded like a new language to others. Thar's why I was usually left to "just do it". That took a lot of trust on their part 😄30/12/2016 #9 Sara JacoboviciLadies, @Lada 🏡 Prkic and @Aurorasa Sima, because of your kindness, I bring 2016 to a close not in a linear way but as through a spiral as you have brought back to me the first blog I had ever written or posted in my new journey. To read the comments I have received as a result gives me the momentum to continue in that journey in the New Year. Thank you. I am grateful that our paths have crossed.30/12/2016 #6 Savvy RajCreativity is an expression from your soul which has the power to explore the depth of emotions and thoughts and brings in the open facets that are perhaps hidden and seems inaccessible and thereby even heal oneself of limiting convictions and beliefs.... Such a lovely story on the art of creative enterprise.. Appreciate you as much as your journey. Have a blessed New year full of soulfilling creative endeavours @Sara Jacobovici.
And thank you @Lada 🏡 Prkic& @Aurorasa Sima for sharing this beautiful post.
- Producer25/12/2016Spirit of Christmas!The Spirit of Christmas is truly in the little things that matter, In caring wishes & gifts of grace that makes the world feeling so much better.In the kind words loving hugs , that happiness & hope can restore.In the simple joys of sharing...
- Producer19/12/2016Why People Feel Lonely, and What We Can Do About ItPeople are lonely because they build walls instead of bridgesThe woman, my birth mother, who lay on the hospital bed beside me and who was dying of cancer was an enigma to me. I knew her only by reputation, yet she was very familiar. As she lay...
Comments20/12/2016 #15 Preston 🐝 Vander VenGreat article. You mentioned that the deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated. I kind of agree. I believe the greatest driving force of mankind is to find a purpose in life. If someone can’t find a purpose, they will blindly follow anything or anyone just to have that feeling to belong.
Reading many books I noticed that when people blindly follow something, this is when they close their doors and build walls. They are afraid of losing what they believe they are of part of, when they are mindless sheep. If you turn of the television you see riots because they feel special now.
Yet when you show them a door or a bridge to the Truth, it strikes fear. Not of the "Truth", yet of losing their illusion of purpose.20/12/2016 #10 Paul 🐝 Kearley#7 @Hervé Sabattier Thank you for taking the time to comment. I appreciate it very much.
I'm not saying that ALL lonely people choose to be lonely nor unhappy. I too, know people who, on first impression, seem lonely, but talk to them and they are happy. It's just that some people are lonely because they choose to be lonely, and still others are lonely because of circumstances that may be out of their control.20/12/2016 #7 Hervé SabattierThank you Paul. Yes, your post is moving, and it is the same emotion I tried to transfer in one poem, "Maman": https://www.bebee.com/producer/@herve-sabattier/maman View moreThank you Paul. Yes, your post is moving, and it is the same emotion I tried to transfer in one poem, "Maman": https://www.bebee.com/producer/@herve-sabattier/maman . (Sorry, it is in French, and I can provide a translation if you wish)...
Yet... Are we so sure that some lonely people are really unhappy? Are we so sure that some people are lonely because they build walls instead of bridges? Can't we imagine that some lonely people build bridges that are so peculiar that they are seen as walls for they would be too demanding and frightening to walk on by?
I met happy lonely people and as Albert Camus said "we may imagine Sysiphe happy".
The nicest bridges are flying over deep precipices and large canyons, often above the clouds, and not just laying on runlets that can be crossed by footing in the water and the toughest and hardest walls are made of iron and topped with barble wire and not made of hay that a gentle breeze can remove away. Close20/12/2016 #6 Lisa 🐝 GallagherPaul this was SO moving. I'm going to bet your unspoken words with your mom were already in her heart... she knew because you cared enough to be there with her. As for your dad, I'm glad that you said everything you felt you needed to. That's one regret I have with my mom after her passing, I keep going over in my head the words I didn't say. Maybe we say what we need to and we are too hard on ourselves after the fact? My mom never liked the focus to be on her so it was hard to tell her everything I felt. Plus, she kept saying she was getting treatments to live. I kept thinking, how can I tell her just how much she means if I make her feel as though she's dying? I agree, say what you feel and the regrets aren't there. People do need others and they need to know others care. This carries over into work and friendships too. I always tell my kids why I love them, how important they are to me, the world and their own families and why I'm so proud of them. It's tough when you are left with words unspoken and have thoughts of, "I really wish I would have said this, or shared that.." Thanks for this!