- 24/07/2017Monarch, Milkweed, Pool and Phone Camera
My latest photo on www.flickr.com/photos/kwpashuk
This is a great example of things you see when you don't have your good camera, but are thankful you have your phone with you. This monarch was perfectly poised on the milkweed plant with my friend's pool providing a delightful backdrop.
- 27/07/2017Esperanza Spalding - What A Wonderful World 🎶What A Wonderful World (Louis Armstrong cover) Esperanza Spalding Jimmy Heath live 2012 Lyrics vocals & bass: Esperanza Spalding sax: Jimmy Heath piano: Danilo Pérez drums: Vinnie...
- 26/07/2017Beautiful composition by Beethoven which I love to play! Enjoy 🎵Ludwig van Beethoven -- Melody of Love ( beautiful) Moonlight Sonata - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iqFuNoXKZdk If you like what i do, you can support me (paypal) email@example.com And i will try...
- 26/07/2017"Tapping our emotional body brings us in touch with the state our inner beingness; the very heart and soul of who we are."
Being human does not come with an instruction manual, but it does have many ways of tapping into the infinite wisdom that is at the very core of our existence. Tapping our emotional body brings us in touch with the state of our inner beingness. It is the heart and soul of who we are. Expanding our vision and developing an understanding that there is a non-physical element to every human expression is an evolved way of thinking. It evokes in us a curious exploration of life beyond the physical, resulting in a heightened awareness that our thoughts and feelings,. both of which are unseen, have a defining effect on our health and well-being. Anger hurts and love heals. It is as simple as that.
- Producer24/07/2017The first day of the rest of my life I’ve created this blog for two reasons, both selfish but you are more than welcome to read, comment and post. My first reason is to address my fear of writing. Don’t get me wrong, I love to write, I just don’t let anyone read it. My...
Comments26/07/2017 #8 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#4 You really have started something with this, @Sheena Brunzlik. Try not to define 'this' for as long as possible, as there is immense freedom in the discipline of committing to show up to the keyboard, in order to let your important voice out into the world. I'm glad to have you on beBee!
Here's to sharing all the stuff that lights you up!25/07/2017 #4 Sheena Brunzlik#3 Thank yo Gert for your suggestions.. and have done just that. To say I'm just a tad intimidated would be an understatement... and normally this is where I would exit. But. I know someone great who vouches for BeBee and says there are no hidden agendas just pure conscientiousness so I'll sojourn awhile longer.
- Producer25/07/2017Hidden thingsComing out of a very relaxed weekend where we had nothing on, I was so grateful for the opportunity of empty time. Oh the joy! Perhaps I am giving my age away but life, for me, no longer just orbits the sun, it’s on a speedway. It’s half-way...
Comments26/07/2017 #1 Chas ✌️ Wyatt@Sheena Brunzlik, I love this post! "The theoretician believes in logic and believes that he despises dreams, intuition, and poetry. He does not recognize that these three fairies have only disguised themselves in order to dazzle him.... He does not know that he owes his greatest discoveries to them." ~Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, "Wartime Writings 1939-1944", translated from French by Norah Purcell.
- 20/07/2017And, now, as promised, the link the Goh Iromoto's wonderful short film The Canoe. Tagging you again @Aaron 🐝 SkogenThe Canoe | Canadian Canoe Culture “If it is love that binds people to places in this nation of rivers and in this river of nations then one enduring expression of that simple truth, is...
Comments24/07/2017 #1 Aaron 🐝 SkogenThanks @Don 🐝 Kerr! This is awesome. The first boat I ever boarded was a canoe, since then, the paddle and canoe (and kayak) have symbolized of some of the greatest connections, relationships, and memories in my life. "You cant fight the water, the water is always stronger." So as a paddler we learn to flow with the water, and use our skills, tools and experience to navigate the rough sections of water. This is a lovely metaphor!
I think @Sarah Elkins, might appreciate this, as she is also a fellow paddler!
- Producer24/07/2017We are all responsibleWe are all responsible, we are all responsible in some way, we are the ones who conduct the time, we are the ones who use the resources, we are the ones who drink and pollute the fresh water and shed in salty tears back to earth. We are the ones who...
- Producer22/07/2017A journey worth takingWhat defines you? What drives you? What inspires you? What motivates you to inspire others? What are you passionate about? Do you know yet? Perhaps you do. Perhaps there is more to learn about yourself. Self-discovery is necessary to realize...
Comments25/07/2017 #25 Barbara HensleeThanks @Sue Bryan. If only there was some way we could convince those that stay in the safe zone to take a chance on themselves. That door to the safe place won't close, they can always go back. If there is anything, anything that sparks an interest....just give it a try.24/07/2017 #24 Sue BryanNice post @Barbara Henslee. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. You've touched upon something that has been on my mind: the two innate urges that we all have that seem to be opposite: the urge to grow and expand and Self-Realize, and the urge to contract, stay safe and create reliable patterns. I think we are all dancing in the tension between these two.24/07/2017 #21 Debasish Majumderhistory does not repeat itself@Barbara Henslee. you will never get back to the former state. it is always changing and a new converted constituent which eventually come out from the fetus of history. will you expect former state of feudalism or Kingly state will at all reveal like its former state. always there is a new design of dispensation with new formation, having no relevance with it past state.23/07/2017 #14 Louise SmithThank you @Barbara Henslee for your post which is written with fluidity & a layout that makes this so easy to read and understand.
Who am I ? Self-realization
" I’m good at things I’d never thought of before.
I don't have to continue things that I’m not very good at or enjoy.
I can explore something else & learn by mistakes.
I can look at my family traits to help me discover and change myself. " (paraphrased)
Above these are the kernel of personal change. It's important to work on the inside and the outside. Both Nature & Nurture
I use these ideas everyday to help my clients move on with their lives after tragedy and trauma or to get a new job.
"Live and work with the possibility, maybe even the reality, that you are constantly being “interviewed.” "
maybe ok for some people, for those with mental health issues esp related to anxiety,
I wouldn't use this concept.
Instead I would encourage them to do the best they can as much as they can without overdoing it.
I love this concept
"Remember that self-discovery is a journey, not a destination."
So often process is sacrificed for $ and speed which often hurts and alienates people.
"I hope you are on "A journey worth taking."
- ProducerFuture Shock PreventionFuture Shock Prevention Challenging The Inevitable Imagine you are 95 years old and about to take your last breathe. If you were able to go back in time to today what advice do you think the 95 year old you give you about your life today?...
- Producer22/07/2017The road to nothingness - an experience with mindfulnessMindfulness is apparently on everyone's radar these days and for good reason. We're increasingly and maddeningly succumbing to the stress we apparently welcome and seek out in our modern-day lives of busyness.It's crazy really what we're doing to...
Comments24/07/2017 #18 Nicole ChardenetI hear you, Don. I've been engaging in mindfulness for the past year and while I'm still not very good at it, I've learned a *lot* and have really begun to mellow out. Being in the present moment can be difficult the way our brains are wired but as you point out they're *not* "hard-wired". We can change them, the way we think, the way we process experience, the way we look at the world. It takes the focus off "How is it the rest of the world's fault that I'm not happy?" and places the source (not the *blame*) - where it belongs - within yourself. The happiness is there for the taking. The fact that you're not happy doesn't mean you're stupid or it's your fault, you just haven't found it yet.
It's particularly difficult when you're dealing with a situation of great change and suffering - like your wife's illness. Earlier this year, my mother got very sick and it was a touchy few months for my brother and I. Mindfulness and meditation helped me manage my emotions around possibly losing my mother better than I would have if I hadn't had the practice. Mom is okay - for now - but her time here is limited. Not only do I have fair warning but now I can appreciate whatever time we have left and be grateful for it.
Best of luck to you and Kate, Don.23/07/2017 #17 Praveen Raj GullepalliBeautifully expressed dear Don. The moments of clarity and peace are increasingly becoming rare in the modern milieu. Info overload. Stress overkill. Occupational hazards. All on the rise. Mindfulness (with its corollaries of rhythmic breathing, relaxation, introspection, detachment, tolerance, contemplation) does help put life and living into a different (more meaningful) perspective and can bring about sea changes. If only the horse would learn to drink from the water :)
Our world (and even the Universe at large) is nothing but a conglomeration of intersecting individual and collective karmic cycles (cause-effect events). To go beyond the Self we must first fathom ourselves. And mindfulness is the key to it.23/07/2017 #16 Jim MurrayNicely done my fellow Beezer. Over the past while I have started to spend more time trying to just start at myself through my mind's eye. So far it has produced an idea that I can work on during the long winter months, a lessening of tension and definitely more clarity of thought, or mindfulness. I don't call this meditation although I suppose that's what it is. It's nice to see the elements laid out the way you have done here, through. I will print them out and stare at them for a while. Thanks for the wisdom.22/07/2017 #15 Alan Culler@Don 🐝 Kerr
"The road to nothingness is cratered with potholes, surrounded by flashing neon lights and sparkly roadside attractions, fast-food joints, and amusement parks; the hurdy-gurdy man is playing in the back seat while Led Zeppelin screams from the car stereo at volume 10." LOL
I surely have days like that .
I've been meditating for about 10 years -this round -just about 20 minutes each morning. I've tried to add an afternoon session, but usually about that time my five-year-old-lab-who-still-thinks-she's-a-puppy finds me to let me know that I am not being mindful enough of her.
I will say that my journeys to the void have made me more focused and present on the good days. The bad days -potholes grab me and push me towards the abyss. On balance there are more good than bad days.
My wife, Billie, has meditated on and off since the 70s too, though she is off now and I'm not going to suggest a return -all things in their time.22/07/2017 #11 Lisa 🐝 GallagherWonderful buzz @Don 🐝 Kerr. I began watching the video but it's almost 3 am, so I left the youtube page open so I can finish watching it tomorrow. You and Kate are very smart people who've been through a lot together. I read the article linked to Kate, much admiration for her and she's very wise like her husband! Thank you for this. I have been working with a therapist certified in EMDR and mindfulness but once every week or two isn't enough. He's going to give me more tools so I can work from home too. Acceptance is so important. Thanks for this, it was a very helpful read!22/07/2017 #9 Ian WeinbergIndeed I con-Kerr with all that you've mentioned in this buzz @Don 🐝 Kerr. Thanks for the value contribution. Having been a facilitator of mindful retreats at a Buddhist Retreat Centre for several years,I can attest to the great benefits of mindful practices. I emphasize 'practices' rather than merely the meditation, to highlight the importance of applying the principles of meditation into our daily lives. Therefore adding to the non-judgemental acceptance and trust I would also mention sensitivity and connectiveness as well as clarity, to the mix. This combination goes a long way to assisting us in 'minding the gap' in daily life. Best wishes to you and your wife.
- Producer19/07/2017Are we too distracted in this digital world for our real relationships?One Sunday afternoon early this year, I was editing my new book, “Meaningful Conversations“, and found myself reading the same paragraph over and over, a half dozen times before concluding that it was hopeless to continue. I simply could not marshal...
Comments21/07/2017 #30 Pamela 🐝 WilliamsI so agree it's that last statement "it's a trade off between intelligence and humanity". People get frustrated with me because I don't keep my phone glued to my hand and miss calls and text but I refuse to do that! I like talking to people face to face! Here is the real shocker; I don't have Facebook, Twitter or LI on my phone or tablet beBee is the only SM app I carry with me 😊#1921/07/2017 #27 Geoff Hudson-Searle#21 Great to hear your views and opinions Jerry, smiling while reading :-) so true...as i said earlier in the discussion i believe technological innovation does have its place, but maybe i am getting older too! :-) whatever happened to picking up the phone, coffee with friends and having creative thoughts about a friend or your significant other, buying flowers, writing a card and for human to human interaction, or have we all arrived at a point where we are all too older for generation X, Y or Z :-)21/07/2017 #24 Simone Luise Hardthi Geoff :) good you´ve kept your title open (question instead of fact ;) and "distracted by" (your words) you know ;) you can go offline ;) so, this distraction(s) is kind of by your own choice ;) nevertheless, great article ! and I wasn´t distracted while reading it lol ;) have a lovely day & evening today :)21/07/2017 #23 Sara JacoboviciHave enjoyed our exchanges here on your buzz @Geoff Hudson-Searle. I came across this past buzz of mine and thought it communicates one aspect of creativity that is important to me. Thanks for letting me share my link. https://www.bebee.com/producer/@sara-jacobovici/we-are-creative-beings-first-later-we-learn-how-to-think21/07/2017 #22 Praveen Raj Gullepalli#19 I guess these technologies and gadgets will only end up making machines out of men. Ruled by gadgets. It all began with the Idiot Box ;) But I do feel that there will be a shift from the tech-savvy to the tech-cautious very soon and some balance would be restored where it really matters. But not without huge collateral damage.21/07/2017 #21 Jerry FletcherGeoff, I have lived from the time we had a multi-party telephone line to the current "everyone must have a smart phone turned on all the time." The first TV in the neighborhood was a 12 inch black and white owned by our neighbors. I was a subscriber to The Well which preceded all social media. I've witnessed the adaption of the new technology and sometimes been on the "bleeding edge" of adoption. Across the years I carefully kept the circular vision of Yin and Yang in mind with the tiny red dot in the center which to me represents humanity.
Your suggestions are the way for anyone to be more efficient and overcome the invalid assumption that one can "multi-task." All the new technology is wonderful if you don't let it get in the way of getting things done. Carving out time to do both short and longer term tasks each day may just save your sanity.20/07/2017 #19 Geoff Hudson-Searle#12 Thank you Praveen for your words, interesting enough in 2002, Allison Pearson wrote “I Don’t Know How She Does It” – she exposed, for the first time, the mayhem and exhaustion of a modern working mother. Yelps of recognition came from all over the globe. It was an international bestseller. But in the short time between then and now, there seems to have been yet another seismic shift. Everybody is exhausted, not just working women with children. We’re all run ragged by what social commentators refer to as ‘the breakneck pace of life’, or the 24/7 society that never sleeps. What research points to is our inability to switch off and relax, either because of internal anxieties or those placed upon us by a boss, by society or by all of these things. The new technological age that was supposed to bring us freedom by allowing us greater flexibility is, in fact, slowly working to destroy us. It is as if we have made a pact with the devil. Is all of this connectivity helping us to evolve into a more intelligent species, as some futurists speculate, or is this actually hurting us? An even bigger question: As we surrender our cognitive independence to our devices in an effort to make our lives easier, what is happening to our humanity? Is it a trade-off between greater intelligence and loss of humanity?20/07/2017 #18 Geoff Hudson-Searle#11 Thank you Lisa, great prospective, I never give up ordering books from Amazon or reading soft back or hard back editions of great books! :-) on Kabat-Zinn sums this up quite well when he quotes: “Mindfulness is about being fully awake in our lives. It is about perceiving the exquisite vividness of each moment. We also gain immediate access to our own powerful inner resources for insight, transformation, and healing.”20/07/2017 #16 Geoff Hudson-Searle#9 Thank you Sara, I really enjoyed reading your comments. We have this amazing and wondrous thing called a brain, and yet as we make increasingly greater strides in technological innovation, we are tempted to use this masterful tool less and less. If you use technology at every opportunity as a replacement for critical thinking or problem solving, in time, those skills will begin to lose their edge. There is a reason why computers haven’t yet reached human level intelligence, and it has nothing to do with how fast they can compute, or how much power we can load them with. It’s because humans have something that computers do not, something that is a pretty significant component of intelligence that many people are all too quick to disregard. This critical element? Creativity. When we over-rely on technology to do our thinking for us, not only are our cognitive skills losing their edge, but our creativity can suffer as well. Why do we care about creativity? For one thing, creativity is at the root of our ability to problem-solve novel situations. Creativity is what we use when we’re presented with a new problem and need to figure out the best course of action. When we let our devices make all of these decisions for us, we stop utilizing those problem-solving skills. Do I see the rise of technology as the Intellectual Apocalypse? Not necessarily. The best way to make technology work for you instead of against you is to be smart about it: I think there needs to be a balance of email, social media and collaboration tools. What ever happened to picking up the phone? Or talking to someone face-to-face? Or do we not have time because of technology?20/07/2017 #15 Geoff Hudson-Searle#6 Thank you CityVP Manjit for your prospective and great comments, I feel many people probably think about the day that just the cell phone was the source of basic communication. I think there needs to be a balance of email, social media and collaboration tools. What ever happened to picking up the phone? Talking to someone face-to-face? Or sending someone a card? Or do we not have time? We need to examine our technology use to ensure that it isn’t getting in the way of our being sociable and getting the emotional support we need from the people who are closest to us, if we really want to preserve that ‘Special Relationship’ We need to put our phones away in social settings and consider making phone calls when we want to contact people instead of a series of brief texts, misinformed innuendos, and misleading interpretations. We absolutely need to learn to check in less often and seek out face-to-face contact more often.20/07/2017 #13 CityVP 🐝 ManjitHere is an interesting perspective from Christopher Nolan
http://www.esquire.com/entertainment/movies/a55985/christopher-nolan-interview/20/07/2017 #12 Praveen Raj GullepalliI guess once this obsession with multi-tasking peaks and the stats of failed, unfinished or endlessly WIP status projects start speaking for themselves, it will be time for folks to realise a new truth - Survival of the Undistracted. This needless and heedless preoccupation with virtual reality and constant connectedness to one virtual machine or the other, may actually spawn a tougher, more discerning, resilient and techno-cautious generation in the not too distant future; who would have learnt lots from our present mistakes.
- Producer20/07/2017"Is there anybody there? Knock twice for 'No'""How would one relate ESP with an HSP Tricia?" Praveen Raj Gullepalli Interesting question... here are my thoughts:A definition of Extra Sensory Perception (ESP) offered by an online psychology dictionary is:Extra Sensory Perception, otherwise known...
Comments21/07/2017 #5 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#4 Having lived with physiological hypersensitivity every day of my life and mental hypersensitivity in periods, like lots of stuff in life, there are gifts and burdens. They are inter-related, but also separate, in my experience.
Here is an example of how two personality states that often get confused, may overlap, but are felt entirely differently. Shyness versus introversion. Introverts want to leave the crowd, they don't want to be the life of the party. Shy people do want to be socially interactive, and they have a lot of mental anguish over why they cannot be bubbly and mingle without preempting themselves.
The quality of the mental chatter differs greatly around what appears on the outside to be the exact same behavior.
Speaking from experience in this very moment, if a person wants to be different, but is stuck running their same patterns that prevent them from schmoozing with strangers or stepping into meaningful, well-paying work, then that hypersensitivity has become a problem that consulting a healer/guide, of any kind, can help calm the hyperactive mind that is locked in a certain set of repeating thoughts.
My hypersensitivity to smell, on the other hand, as I experience it, while it does affect how I can be in the world, is, in my opinion telling me something important about the toxicity of human created and attenuated smells. My body is saying these sorts of smells have hurt you before and will do so again, so let's skedaddle, fast. I have no mental turmoil around the validity of these signals.
Same for me on the few extra-sensory perceptions that arise for me. No mental turmoil. Just utter curiosity and a willingness to heed what I know.21/07/2017 #3 David B. GrinbergThank you, Tricia, for this informative, insightful and educational blogging buzz. I really enjoyed reading this and learning more about ESP versus HSP. I've always found myself to have some semblance of ESP -- like thinking of a person right before they contact me, or thinking exactly what someone else just said before I could say it.
Also, on a lighter note, I would surely let my hair grow longer if that were possible. However, as midlife approaches I feel fortunate to at least have a receding hair line (lol). And here's another attempt at humor: for the sports lovers out there who may not be interested in ESP, there's always ESPN!
Keep up the brilliant blogging buzz, Tricia...20/07/2017 #1 Deb 🐝 HelfrichTremendous post, @Tricia Mitchell.So much richness.
But off the top of my head - how can I resist? - the hair information is utterly new to me. At the intellectual level. On the physical level, I have 3 feet of utterly natural red curly hair.
There are a couple things I've observed about these knowings that are outside of what we commonly talk about. First of all, there needs to be a level of being comfortable with silence and aloneness to notice some of these uncommon perceptions. Secondly, we need to tune down the prefrontal cortex executive functions in order to access this information at first. Although there are a lot of studies that show statistically relevant results, where things are right now reproducibility is a challenge. I posit that that is because mostly we've all been taught to learn with our memorization caps on. This measurement and analysis functioning is antithetical to the burgeoning of these extra-sensory capacities, therefore until we get the preconditions of the mind set to the right frequency, those of us who can't dial in, struggle to learn from those who can.
- 07/07/2017CHRIS REA - SWEET SUMMER DAY CHRIS REA (Christopher Anton Rea), born 4 March 1951) is a great English singer-songwriter and guitarist, recognisable for his distinctive, husky voice. Rea...
- Producer03/07/2017Mental Illness Affects The Entire Family - The Stigma Causes People To Lose Sight This past year and a half has been a world wind since I lost my mom. Just when you think you have managed to over come so many obstacles something will come up to remind you that your loved one is really, really gone. I have a sister who has been...
Comments08/07/2017 #48 Joel Anderson@Lisa 🐝 Gallagher Thank you. The complexity of it all. Thank you. Two weeks ago, we started another round over again. Someone close made a strong intimation. Didnt act on it, but it was enough to cause concern. Now we are on a similar journey to you and your sister. Just know you have a kindred spirit Joel08/07/2017 #47 Shelley Brown#46 https://www.bebee.com/producer/@shelley-brown/eva-s-room was it this? @Deb 🐝 Helfrich and a few others have encourage me to do what brings me joy so I have been writing no matter what. Sending you hugs.08/07/2017 #46 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#44 Hi @Shelley Brown, my heart breaks for her too. She's a good person with a big heart. She would do anything within her power to help anyone. Hey, I had a buzz of your's up the other day and my pc crashed. You can post a link to your last buzz for me on here so I can read and comment? Sending you good thoughts my friend!08/07/2017 #45 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#43 Very frustrating @Nicole Chardenet. The numbers are extremely disheartening. You made many valid points- one: Mental illness crosses all boundaries. It does not care if it's victim is rich, poor, highly intelligent (many are) or poor. They have no concrete answers and too many are treated like a part on an assembly line- we need to get past this because everyone's brain chemistry and more differs from another. That's why certain meds may work for one and that same med may have no affect or adverse affects on others. I lost a friend to suicide about 10 years ago. He was an awesome guy and it wasn't until about 4 months before he committed suicide that I was aware he might be serious. He had only been married a little over a year and left the state to marry his wife, moved again after they were married and nixed his entire family. They had no idea where he was until they got that fatal call. I need to write a buzz about it because I felt guilty for almost a year- I was the last person he contacted 15 mins before he took his life. He contacted me by email and I wrote him back 2 days after he was gone, I had no clue he was gone until his wife called me. He was a Physician's assistant in a large ER in Oregon. I will say, I begged him to get counseling and he did. I thought he was getting better, people can really fool you when they want and have made up their mind (or should I say, untreated Mental Illness helped him to make up his mind?) We have a long way to go and I just keep my fingers crossed w/my sister, along with staying focused on the reality that she may never be cured. Thanks for sharing, I love your comments!07/07/2017 #44 Shelley BrownOh My God @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher. This post just broke my heart and also filled me with gratitude for your strength in sharing what is going on, the hope you have for your Sister, your willingness to help her and most importantly for shining a light and a very difficult topic where people need to have awareness. Thank you.07/07/2017 #43 Nicole Chardenet#39 Urggghh, good luck trying to find any help here. Been through that last year trying to find help for my friend. The mental health organizations here are as hobbled as they are in the States...esp. by the notion that unless someone has been declared unfit, they are left to make their own decisions, for better or for worse. It's frustrating. I read in the paper this morning about more suicides on First Nations northern Ontario reserves, and people saying, "We need to fund mental health better for these reserves." And I thought about how we don't know how to deal with *anyone's* mental health issues, no matter who they are. Even rich 'privileged' people don't know how to deal with it or where to turn for help or even to get the help they actually need...because sometimes you have to look around for awhile to find the right help, and try various methods or therapists that don't work. It's why alcohol and drugs and overeating and retail therapy are so common in our society. Not a single one of us knows a damn thing about how to deal with mental illness.07/07/2017 #42 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#41 Appreciate your kind sentiments David! We are working on this as a family. Time will tell. It's sad because I believe over medicating her for years along with the last session of ECT (they did it about 5 years ago and it she seemed better) but this put her into a very bad manic spin and I fear there is some damage. She has an appointment w/a new Doctor and the Cleveland Clinic for neurology along with testing (medical) to figure out if something else IS going on.07/07/2017 #41 David B. GrinbergThank YOU, Lisa, for being so open about your personal life experience, as well as so outspoken and passionate about ending the stigma! You inspire all of us, so keep up the awesome!
I also hope and pray your sister takes a turn for the best. May God bless her and you!06/07/2017 #39 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#38 So sorry to hear about your co-worker. His case is a prime example of those who are in dire need of Mental Health Intervention. He obviously has some type of disorder with paranoid delusions and possibly auditory psychosis. You are right to be fearful considering his statements. I think it would be beneficial to call a mental health hotline and ask what to do in a situation like this? There are places to call but not sure where in Canada @Nicole Chardenet that can guide others or report an incident so a wellness check can be made ASAP. If he does have guns, they would be taken away due to his statements and sounds like a past mental health history too.
As for his color, maybe he actually thinks he's black... now if he thinks he's purple, we have a case of Barney Syndrome... sorry, all kidding aside, I will see if I can find a few links that may help. I think that would have me on egg shells worrying he may go postal on those he has a dismay with.05/07/2017 #38 Nicole ChardenetThanks for sharing this story, Lisa. It's folks like you who will help to chip away at the stigma of mental illness and make it easier for others to seek help for themselves or others. I think I've mentioned to you before I have a friend and former co-worker who has simply gone off the rails in the last few years as he descends into delusionary madness. At this point I'm a little bit afraid of him. Not that he'll come after me, but I don't want to be around him because he talks kind of violent sometimes on social media. A mutual friend and also fellow co-worker (we all three of us worked together several years ago) are convinced he will probably die by cop. Whether it will be suicide or just shot in the middle of pulling some really crazy shit remains to be seen. He's not black but he's recently decided he's not white and I'm not sure what colour he thinks he is but he's always carrying on about crazy racist mofo'ing Toronto cops. It's heartbreaking to see but he won't go back on his meds, and he's a LOT more normal when he's on his meds.
I really hope your sister finds the peace she must surely want, even if she feels there's no hope.04/07/2017 #37 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#32 Hi @Sara Jacobovici, thank you so much for taking the time to read my buzz and for your input. You wrote: "Help her understand that you are not placing blame and that you want to work with your sister's treatment team to enable she get the best treatment possible." I am copying and pasting some of the wonderful input I'm getting on here, including your statement about helping the case worker to understand I work with my sister's treatment team... your suggestion will be helpful when I talk to her. Having notes makes a world of difference because it's easy to leave one thing out and that ONE THING could be vital towards a better recovery for our family members when we are advocating on their behalf.
We had her hospitalized before for detox and a wean. It worked well but her Dr. (and she may doctor hop?) had her on a ton of medications again within 8 months or so. It was sad and angering considering how well she seemed to be doing. All she has to do is say she is feeling suicidal (and healthcare professionals along with family members have to take that seriously) but her doctor seems to just keep adding news medications when she does this, so he defeated the purpose. She will use ADD as a mechanism to get a stimulant as well and I think she likes it because it stimulates her mania. I have suggested she get a second opinion from a new Dr. because she's been seeing this one for years and I'm not sure he can be objective anymore.
Thank you for your kind thoughts as well, I really appreciate them!04/07/2017 #36 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#31 Hi @Charlene Norman, thank you so much for sharing your story. Every story can add more insight to those who suffer in silence, including family members.
I can't imagine how tough that had to be growing up with illness surrounding you and then knowing your mom attempted suicide at 60 years old. Your resilience is astounding. I agree, love and compassion do play a big role. Without love or compassion a person would end up on the streets or worse. I'm sure that's why we do have so many homeless people living on the streets because they didn't receive the proper help, may have families who gave up on them and many of these people went off their meds from what I've read. Sadly, there are some types of disorders where a person is unreachable and dangerous not only to themselves but others and they are the people who others, for the sake of their own safety have to turn away from. It's like cancer, some people can be cured, some can be managed and with others- no treatment is available yet to cure or at least help them to manage and heal somewhat. I'm glad you were able to find strength and what works for you because it's obviously kept you mentally healthy! :)04/07/2017 #34 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#29 Dear @Debesh Choudhury, thank you for your comment. I'm sorry you have a family member that is ill with Mental illness too. It's much more prevalent than many are probably aware of because we keep it so hush as if it's a bad secret. It's always great when I see people openly talking about the illness because we take no issues if people talk about heart disease, kidney disease etc... an illness is an illness. I agree, ECT is very bad. She lost her license after the ECT because she had severe memory loss and other issues. They need to stop using ECT as a 'tool' and begin working harder to come up with solutions that are proven to work- even therapy based models. There has been a lot of new therapies coming to light yet, some of these are not used in many communities yet or they aren't approved, which means Insurance won't pay. Best wishes to you and your sister!04/07/2017 #33 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#28 Hi @Deb 🐝 Helfrich, I just typed a full comment and my PC crashed. I found out after I wrote this buzz from my sister (without asking) that her Dr. looked at her meds and said, Wow, you are on a lot of meds, we need to wean you off some of these. I have no idea which meds but I still need to talk to her caseworker to find out for myself. I guess he began weaning last Friday and I just noticed a difference today in her speech, cognition and she sounds much less aggressive.
As for the family dynamics, it's true about my father's death. It obviously affected each of us differently. I remember after the funeral was over we didn't bring up his name again. If we did, it must have been very little because I don't recall speaking of my dad again until I was 19 years old. They didn't have grief counseling back then or hospice. I'm sure my mom was of the mindset that to talk about him would open old wounds but those wounds really never closed completely because we didn't discuss him as a family. We didn't even have happy conversations about wonderful memories of him after he was gone. My sister's illness was probably triggered from the loss. That gene surfaced.
You wrote "But one thing I would like to say is that, for the future, for our society and its most vulnerable members, we need to put in place resources early and often to prevent someone living a life of such torture." I couldn't agree more, it's vital to put resources in place early because early intervention can possibly prevent a person from getting to the point my sister is now. She lives in her own "hell" (excuse the phrase) but it's true and my heart just bleeds for her.04/07/2017 #32 Sara JacoboviciDear @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher, a courageous and straight from the heart share. Thank you. I also had the opportunity to read the incredible comments from your readers. You've touched on every nerve that is impacted upon by mental illness. Of course it is not possible to give justice to your needs in this venue. Support and suggestions. Here goes. You are doing everything you can and the most important piece is coming up. You write that you will be speaking to your sister's caseworker and nurse this week. Because you had already influenced the system to reduce your sister's meds from 10 to 3 during one hospital stay, you are obviously influential. And so, I encourage you to focus on that when you speak to your sister's caseworker. Help her understand that you are not placing blame and that you want to work with your sister's treatment team to enable she get the best treatment possible. Given the decline, you are legitimately concerned. Medications are an issue. And you want to look at a hospital stay where your sister continues to be weaned off her current meds, goes through a monitored detox period and that with concurrent therapy, individual and group, different modalities, determine the main area of concern, and address that one area only and discuss what medication would be appropriate given her needs. It is important that the discussion stays on your sister's immediate need to stop the decline. Issues related to the malfunctioning system need to be voiced in a different place. And don't forget to (continue I trust) take care of yourself and get your needs met. Wishing you continued strength and hope. And I am confident that you are making your mother proud Lisa. All the best and take good care.04/07/2017 #31 Charlene NormanThank you for writing Lisa. You have spoken to many hearts and minds with this story. It desperately needs to be told. The pain and anguish and frustration you have are so real, so poignant and so devastating.
I too am ‘just’ the surviving family member of a sibling who was tormented, of a father who unknowingly did a lot of tormenting, and of a mother who finally broke (attempted suicide) at sixty years of age. And as the only one in the family (on both sides, with long lines of issues) untouched by mental illness, the only way I could fight was refuse to have children and not pass on the bad gene.
Yet, the gifts I received from the illness that complicated my entire life were many. Strength, resilience, deep wells of humour to sustain the darkest periods and a never ending huge capacity to love. It took me many years to recognise and realise that while I can not cure the people I love, and I can’t change the many broken systems, I have within me the gifts they really need. And so do you. Deep within all of us frail human beings, our love and “just being there” for the other person can do more than we can ever comprehend. Please take a small degree of comfort in knowing that.
- Producer03/07/2017Does everything happen for a reason?When you live your life with an appreciation of coincidences and their meanings, you connect with the underlying field of infinite possibilities. Deepak ChopraLet me tell you a story.In 1996, Sarah Copley was only 4 years old when her parents took...
Comments03/07/2017 #10 Numo Quest#9 Hey Sonny, there are basically thirty three universal principles making it all go round before beginning of earth where all derives from. These principles are for all working omnipotent and free, without reservation or judgement. We are on the brink of a global shift where peoples awareness is sliding from oblivious to sane. By free giving the thirty three principles to any one that wants them, we like to contribute to that change to make the transition much easier. The only you have to do is just join with an email address to receive free updates. No hassle, no commerce, no politics. Just do with them as you please. Passing them on to kindred spirits or interested individuals always welcomed. Just send us an email to firstname.lastname@example.org with simple subject you like to join. That's all. :O)03/07/2017 #5 MAR MARIANO ROMEROThe life give you several oportunities, it depens if you know to folow its or the fear stop you. Many great people was pushing me and gave me your hand in bad moments, I acepted these hands and I felt better I obteined a good chance to grow up in my live.
Thanks!! This post is very good.
Mariano03/07/2017 #2 Numo QuestYes! Great publication. Basically what happens here is that people, unknowing, use some of the thirty three universal principles and make things happen as they see. Mind you, dear reader, they work for any one, any where, without reservation or discrimination. Great read. Thanks! :O)03/07/2017 #1 Lisa 🐝 GallagherWhat a powerful and uplifting story about Sarah and her singing career @Sonny Melendrez. I think many of us can look back and realize at least one major thing happened that was not a coincidence. "Sarah Copley tells her audience all the time that, “There’s nothing about the randomness of life. You have to put yourself out there so the universe can connect you with the people you’re supposed to connect with.” I couldn't agree more! Thanks for sharing this wonderful story.
- 01/07/2017Join me for live for a Cornell University discussion on Negotiation!
Thursday July 6 at 1pm ET
Free Promotion Code: WILTW17
Participate in a live interactive discussion with beBee's Michele Williams called "How to Get what You Really Want: From Difficult Conversations to Closing the Deal."
Professor Williams will examine groundbreaking, research-based tools that will help you address the real-life negotiation challenges that we all face working in a diverse, global workplace.Getting What You Want: Gender Negotiation & Stereotypes Michele Williams, PhD. discusses gender and...
Comments04/07/2017 #22 Michele Williams#21 Thanks, Phil. Interestingly, I did an interest-based negotiation workshop with entrepreneurs and despite the importance of win-win solutions for new firms, not one group found the interest-based solution. I also had a colleague try the same exercise at the end of a semester long class on negotiations for MBA students. Even after training, over a third of the class failed to find the interest-based solution. Part of the trick may be how to reframe the negotiation process for the other negotiator and orient them to understanding the potential long-term benefits of honestly sharing information and uncovering a win-win solution..04/07/2017 #21 Phil Friedman#19 That may be true, Michele. But I'd bet that the bulk of subjects studies by Kray and colleagues were lawyers and businessmen raised in the tradition of power- and leverage-based negotiating. And that it had never occurred to them that "winning" such negotiations more often than not resulted in collateral damage to the potential for the parties to do future, mutually profitable business. What I am suggesting is that women may not, for the most part, be already irretrievably inured to such short-sighted negotiating approaches and may, therefore, offer the best chance for interest-based negotiating to gain traction in the business world, to the benefit of us all. Am looking forward to your upcoming podcast. Cheers!03/07/2017 #19 Michele Williams#18 Thanks Phil. Fabulous post! Thank you for sharing it here. I agree that Interest-based Negotiations can help level the playing field, but that depends somewhat on people being honest about their interests or as in the cases you mentioned in your post, having other ways to uncover the other parties true interests, I mention this because of an interesting study by Kray and colleagues who found that negotiators were more likely to lie to women based on stereotypical perceptions that women are more gullible than men.03/07/2017 #18 Phil FriedmanExcellent post, Michele, and a terrific video. I suggest that the gender stereotypes you outline present an opportunity for women in negotiating heretofore mostly overlooked. Namely, to reject the "stereotypical" power- and leverage-based forms of negotiating in favor of Interest-Based Negotiation and Mediation. https://www.bebee.com/producer/@friedman-phil/interest-based-negotiation-taking-the-high-road
Cheers!02/07/2017 #11 Michele Williams@Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee, thanks for sharing and for the kind words. I am glad that you had a boss that was concerned about a level playing field. It is a fine balance between the positive stance that you will be treated equally as a female professional, leader or entrepreneur and planning for the possibility that you may be treated differently.02/07/2017 #9 Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBeeSuch an interesting talk. I worked in male dominated fields for most of my life, and never realized I was being treated differently, but I was. My boss, a man, strove to level the playing field for me, for which I was grateful. Problem was, I could not comprehend that I was different at all. It's all hindsight for me. Keep up the good work.
- 02/07/2017Us and Beyond…savvyraj.com Us and beyond … the strength of the interconnects run deep. Artwork by Savvy...
- Producer29/06/2017Confronting Your Teen’s Mistakes“The difference between the exact right words and the almost right words is like the difference between lightning bugs and lightning bolts.” — Mark Twain Avoiding toxic words and wrong motivations helps maintain a solid relationship while...
Comments29/06/2017 #2 Harvey LloydA really great post on the growth and development of our youth, specifically surrounding the issues of behavior. We as parents or guardians are entrusted with a gift and charge to bring children into adulthood. The skills you discuss are powerful words of action towards this end.
If i could add a point.... Professionally and in our careers we discuss a vision statement and how it helps guide us through the tough times and keeps our communications focused in a specific direction. Raising children is no different. Each child requires a vision statement. Whether on paper or in your head. The vision statement is not necessarily for the child, could be, but mainly for the parent.
Children test boundaries and get hurt. This is normal and the vision statement should help guide the paradigm of growth. The vision statement helped me deploy the skills you discuss as i didn't focus on the behavior, however was able to focus on what the child needed to learn from the challenge that didn't go well.
The number one challenge in parenting, keeping the parents emotions out of the equation, so learning can happen.29/06/2017 #1 Vincent AndrewAs a father I also realize how important it is to listen to what teenagers say and what they don't say. I look at their body language to see if everything is ok. If not I'll ask, Is there anything you want to talk about? If they're ready they'll talk. If not I let them know they can talk whenever they're ready.
Communication skills are very important at home just as they are important in the office. Sometimes we take such skills for granted at home.
This is an excellent buzz @Sanford Kulkin and it's my pleasure to share it.
- 27/06/20171960s - THE RONETTES
Led by the inimitable Ronnie Spector, the Ronettes embodied all that was cool about the girl-group aesthetic and all that was brilliant about their producer Phil Spector's Wall of Sound approach.The Ronettes - Be My Baby - live [HQ] - music video: BE MY BABY - The Ronettes - live at tv show Shindig! , aired on US tv: 11 August 1965 Songwriters: Ellie Greenwich (✝, 68 yrs) and Jeff Barry...
- 26/06/2017Our souls are not hungry for fame, comfort, wealth, or power. Those rewards create almost as many problems as they solve. Our souls are hungry for meaning, for the sense that we have figured out how to live so that our lives matter so the world will be at least be a little bit different for our having passed through it. ― (Rabbi Harold Kushner)
How do you want to make a difference in this world? Your "Boom" for today.
Comments26/06/2017 #1 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. International Management, Certified Executive Coach. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.good focus!
- 27/06/2017Support ocean conservation...The Ocean: Everybody's Business The Ocean is probably the biggest employer in the world, it provides half the oxygen we breathe, it has absorbed a quarter of our CO2 emissions and puts...
Comments28/06/2017 #7 David B. GrinbergMany thanks for your comments and engagement @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee @Joel Anderson @CityVP 🐝 Manjit and @Lyon Brave.
Ali, I'm going to defer to Manjit regarding my starting a new hive on this topic. But not because I think it's a bad idea. Rather, I'm my social media activity, like everyone's, is limited by time constraints and information overload. Moreover, I'm still trying my best to keep up with the busy bees in my hive, "Universe, Space & Beyond" and growing the membership (shameless promotion) https://www.bebee.com/group/universe-space-beyond
Again, many thanks gents!27/06/2017 #5 Joel AndersonAn important message indeed. As part of the crew on Spaceship Earth I merely add a message to all of us; "I Dare You to embrace a different mentality about ONE EARTH as it is the only one we have." I am but a cosmic spec on this Blue Planet, but I am grateful that you posted this as it will take all of us to make a difference: Thank you and and Sir Richard Branson for your efforts in making a difference in a world needing difference making: One Earth, One Ocean, One River, one person, one step at a time.27/06/2017 #4 CityVP 🐝 ManjitTHere are three hives that this buzz can be placed for my own learning purposes.
It can be placed in the Crimson Hive because there is a relationship between activism and the ocean, but I will take examples of activism and place those in the Crimson Hive.
It can be placed in the Violet Hive because our attitude to Oceans is also a personal measure of our own creativity and our awareness of how we coexist in a system and we are not separate from that.
I placed this buzz in the Green Hive because we call Earth our home, but the actual part of Earth we normally refer to is land we live upon - but the Earth in reality is Planet Ocean that happens to have land masses between the ocean. "Home" is ocean+earth.
While the ocean is salt-water, it's role in keeping us alive is extraordinary, and just as important is a focus on Fresh Water. As a starting point however we must look at this buzz and allow that inform us what we each individually mean by the word "HOME".27/06/2017 #2 David B. GrinbergFYI - Sir Richard Branson supports this important ocean conservation effort, read his blog about it on Virgin's website https://www.virgin.com/richard-branson/we-are-all-crew-spaceship-earth View moreFYI - Sir Richard Branson supports this important ocean conservation effort, read his blog about it on Virgin's website https://www.virgin.com/richard-branson/we-are-all-crew-spaceship-earth
cc: @Javier 🐝 beBee @John White, MBA @Milos Djukic Close
- 26/06/2017We are already at the end of the month. If you haven't already grabbed your free Resource of the Month, go here now and get yours. This one is especially good for conscious business owners and solo-preneurs.