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  1. ProducerNikki Petersen

    Nikki Petersen

    08/11/2016
    Narcissism and Non-Identity
    Narcissism and Non-IdentityI recently had to have a very frank discussion with my kids about what it means to be the child of a narcissist (their father). As they get older, I feel more able to have these types of conversations with them because they are my emotional...
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    Katja Bader
    14/11/2016 #21 Katja Bader
    #18 Your buzz is still in my head. I bought a good book to this topic, in German of course, but it´s available in English, too: Nina W. Brown "Children of the Self-Absorbed".
    Nikki Petersen
    09/11/2016 #20 Nikki Petersen
    I'm sorry, Renée. I thought that's what you meant when you said, "they really don't care how their behaviour affects others." You're right, that's definitely sociopathic/psychopathic.
    Renée Cormier
    09/11/2016 #19 Renée Cormier
    #14 I never said they lack conscience. That's a feature of psychopaths.
    Nikki Petersen
    09/11/2016 #18 Nikki Petersen
    @Katja, I am actually pretty lucky that he's no longer in our lives. Of course, I would never wish harm on anyone, including my ex, but he's no longer living. I'm grateful that the chaos no longer affects us. #12
    Nikki Petersen
    09/11/2016 #17 Nikki Petersen
    #5 Hi Deb and thanks so much! I'm still trying to get the hang of it! :)
    Nikki Petersen
    09/11/2016 #16 Nikki Petersen
    #6 Right, Renee. The not knowing is when you're blaming yourself. Finding your way out of that can be tough when you're a kid because you don't have the emotional maturity to see the world for what it is (which, some would argue, is a good thing). I'm so glad you are healing.
    Nikki Petersen
    09/11/2016 #15 Nikki Petersen
    #9 That's exactly it. I'm trying, but honestly, the grip of a narcissistic parent is so pervasive that it's a really tough uphill battle. It's horrible to hear my wonderful baby say that he's worthless and would be better off dead. I've been hearing that since he was 5 or 6. As an empath, I also experienced this existential depression related to my lack of identity. It took decades for me to get it, with therapy. I hope that I will be able to help him enough that he can also find his way out.
    Nikki Petersen
    09/11/2016 #14 Nikki Petersen
    Not all narcissists have a lack of conscience, but that definitely complicates things. #7
    Chris Dixon
    08/11/2016 #13 Chris Dixon
    Wow. That feeling of utter relatability coupled with seething frustration from not being able to safely share one's experiences publicly online (court ordered, no kidding!)... Thank you, Nikki and friends. {{{group hug}}}
    Katja Bader
    08/11/2016 #12 Katja Bader
    Thank you for this great buzz, Nikki. You write so many words, that I felt when I was with my (now Ex-) husband, who is a narcissist and our children.
    A narcissist always sees parts of himself in his children and wants to create them to a copy of himself. He tries to implant his meanings, ideas, dreams etc in his children. That could have bad results for the children and can take years to heal it. I always want to find out the real and own personality of the children and promote them as much as I can.
    Max Carter
    08/11/2016 #11 Max Carter
    As an Empath I can relate.
    Jared Wiese
    08/11/2016 #10 Jared Wiese
    #9 I heard from Brian Tracy that the number one thing a parent owes his/her child is self-esteem... "a place where they are accepted for themselves"
    Paul Frank Gilbert
    08/11/2016 #9 Paul Frank Gilbert
    Flawed and imperfect as we are ... there is something particularly sad and seemingly humanly wrong about a parent that would divide their children into such classifications as to have them sense for one moment a feeling of less. Less love. Less acceptance. Less understanding. Less trust. Less expectation ... hope ... ability ... on and on.

    The world is a tough place. Life is not fair. But we all want our kids to know with certainty that they have a place where they are accepted for themselves, where a mistake or a weakness does not define them and label them. We want to for them to see a place for themselves in the world and to be strong enough to fight for it if necessary.

    Sounds like you are a great parent.
    Jared Wiese
    08/11/2016 #8 Jared Wiese
    #6 What an insightful (not incite-ful) response, Renée! ;)
    Great advice.
    Renée Cormier
    08/11/2016 #7 Renée Cormier
    #3 #4 The irony here is that narcissists really don't care how their behaviour affects others, including their children. All non-narcissists try to do the right thing.
    Renée Cormier
    08/11/2016 #6 Renée Cormier
    As the daughter of a narcissist and the sibling of at least one, I can tell you it took me some time to figure out what was wrong with our family. I found my way to heal over the years but the healing really came once I realized what I was dealing with. It's the not knowing period that is the most damaging because you are constantly being manipulated and you can't see or understand what is going on. The upside of my early life is that it has enabled me to become very good at managing people and their emotions. As long as your children understand the divisive and manipulative tactics that narcissists rely on and when they are being played, they will be able to avoid the trap of seeking approval, being afraid or being resentful of other family members.
    Deb Helfrich
    08/11/2016 #5 Deb Helfrich
    A very warm welcome to beBee, @Nikki Petersen. This is a great lesson on a number of topics. Primarily that we get the kids we create, and that will shape the rest of their lives. Further, this point about understanding oneself as a business person is crucial:

    "If you're thinking about going into business for yourself (or you're already there), please get to know yourself and what your challenges are. Without that introspection and self-correction, you aren't likely to make it far."
    Nikki Petersen
    08/11/2016 #4 Nikki Petersen
    Thanks, Jared!
    Jared Wiese
    08/11/2016 #3 Jared Wiese
    I spoke too soon. What an amazing, though provoking post. A MUST READ for parents...

    "If you are a parent, please consider how deeply you impact your kids... in a big picture sense, about the adults we're cultivating.
    Jared Wiese
    08/11/2016 #2 Jared Wiese
    agreed!
  2. David Chappell

    David Chappell

    03/11/2016
    Galerie de Hors D'Oeuvres: Hot or Cold
    David Chappell
    Galerie de Hors D'Oeuvres: Hot or Cold
    horsdoeuvresgalerie.blogspot.com
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  3. ProducerIvan Martínez

    Ivan Martínez

    25/10/2016
    40th birthday celebration ideas
    40th birthday celebration ideasYou made it! Life is not easy and turning 40 is an important moment in your life journey and 40th birthday celebrators should take time to plan this milestone carefully. Are you reaching the big 40 and hitting a wall planning or thinking of ideas to...
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  4. ProducerJared Wiese

    Jared Wiese

    21/10/2016
    Lost your Modern Mojo?! In need of some Practical Philosophy!?
    Lost your Modern Mojo?! In need of some Practical Philosophy!?Then please welcome LQ McDonald III to beBee! He is a Motivational Philosopher - Educational Speaker- Lifestyle Trainer - with his own blog.Don't worry, he keeps it REAL! ;pFrom his blog - http://modern-mojo.com/aboutMojo – noun mo·jo \ˈmō-(ˌ)jō\ :a...
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    Fatima Williams
    25/10/2016 #19 Fatima Williams
    Welcome to beBee land @LQ McDonald III :)

    Buzz away my friend; as in you know what I mean LOL This is funny @Donna-Luisa Eversley " Buzz away " ( winks)

    BTW @Paul "Pablo" Croubalian I prefer calling Pablo than Paul sounds more spanishy to me :) But I also like Paul so I'm confused now that we are discussing what we can call you ( Thinking )
    LQ McDonald III
    25/10/2016 #18 LQ McDonald III
    #17 I couldn't agree more @Fatima Williams, and I really appreciate the readership!
    Fatima Williams
    25/10/2016 #17 Fatima Williams
    We all need the right magic, the right belief and the right effort.We have to be open, inquisitive, skeptical but always seeking. Lovely buzz I can feel my Mojo.
    LQ McDonald III
    25/10/2016 #16 LQ McDonald III
    #14 Thank you Donna-Luisa!
    Donna-Luisa Eversley
    23/10/2016 #14 Donna-Luisa Eversley
    Wow..thanks for going a bit in-depth with this. I'm getting my mojo back😊
    LQ McDonald III
    21/10/2016 #13 LQ McDonald III
    #12. That neat little feature is part of the Brooks theme for WordPress that I am using and have customized. I believe it is able to store some data for Google analytics and also save the users place when the go back, though I am not currently using that version do to my customizations and the need to walk through the update process when I have time.
    Paul "Pablo" Croubalian
    21/10/2016 #12 Paul "Pablo" Croubalian
    #11 On a more serious note, LQ, I just went back to your site and noticed that progression slider you have at the top of the post. Does that track (i.e. store for later analysis) how far along someone got on the post before skipping off into the netherworld?

    If so, is that a proprietary thing or where can I find it? I suppose I could write one, but why reinvent the wheel?
    LQ McDonald III
    21/10/2016 #11 LQ McDonald III
    #10 Ha! Give me some time to get to know you, Paul. I am sure I can think of some worse things to call you. :)
    Paul "Pablo" Croubalian
    21/10/2016 #10 Paul "Pablo" Croubalian
    #9 LOL, no biggie, I've been called a lot worse things than "Pablo"
    LQ McDonald III
    21/10/2016 #9 LQ McDonald III
    #8 Noted and filed.
    Paul "Pablo" Croubalian
    21/10/2016 #8 Paul "Pablo" Croubalian
    #3 Paul is plenty. The Pablo part is just my homage to beBee's Spanish roots. That and taking a Duolingo Spanish course that provides a lot of comedic fodder in its own right
    Jared Wiese
    21/10/2016 #7 Jared Wiese
    Ha! You're buzzin' just fine.....
    LQ McDonald III
    21/10/2016 #6 LQ McDonald III
    #4 Oh perfect. I am going to have to convince @Jared Wiese to give me some free training on this platform! I appreciate the heads up guys with the links and will read up and make sure I got this right.
    LQ McDonald III
    21/10/2016 #3 LQ McDonald III
    I really appreciate you taking the time to read some of my post Pablo. And thanks for the warm welcome to you, @Jared Wiese and everyone here. Really looking forward to contributing and learning!
    Paul "Pablo" Croubalian
    21/10/2016 #2 Paul "Pablo" Croubalian
    Cool, I just read a few of LQ's posts, very impressive. Welcome indeed!

    Just a tip, LQ, add your Twitter handle to your profile asap. It makes it a lot easier to share your stuff.
  5. ProducerPat Bagano

    Pat Bagano

    13/10/2016
    Life Transformation Courses Offered by Faster EFT
    Life Transformation Courses Offered by Faster EFTAbout Faster EFT CoursesFaster EFT courses are designed for all levels of practitioners who wish to expand their knowledge about Faster Emotionally Focused Transformations. The courses are designed for easy comprehension and viewable across devices,...
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  6. ProducerXander Schofield
    4 Things To Make City Living Easier
    4 Things To Make City Living EasierBig city living is not for those who like a lot of personal space. Time also tends to be in short supply when you spend much of your day stuck in traffic. Ditto that for waiting in line behind hundreds of fellow city dwellers who also had the same...
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  7. Ben Redgell

    Ben Redgell

    26/05/2016
    I've published three new posts recently on my blog - you can catch up here! I would love any comments or feedback on how to improve my blog!

    Have a good day!
    Ben Redgell
    (no title)
    chinsontour.com Ben Redgell: Lifestyle Blogger & International Business...
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  8. Louise Smith

    Louise Smith

    18/05/2016
    I wrote about my Fraser Island Holiday ! I hope you enjoy reading about it !
    Louise Smith
    Come Camping with Me to Fraser Island....
    www.bebee.com Travelling in my own country is full of exciting experiences. One of my fav destinations is Fraser Island (Australia) It's the biggest sand island...
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  9. Louise Smith

    Louise Smith

    18/05/2016
    Hi Ben @Ben Redgell, What a great idea to have a lifestyle blog for lifestyle bloggers ! Of course lifestyle means different things for different people in different countries and cultures. This is me on a camping holiday on Fraser Island Queensland Australia. I love to drive on the beach in my 4WD, swim, fish, cook on a campfire and relax ! (https://www.bebee.com/producer/@louise-smith-state-of-queensland/come-camping-with-me-to-fraser-island) Louise Smith
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    Louise Smith
    19/05/2016 #3 Louise Smith
    Australia is a long way to come from UK but when you do come, you will love it! You need at least a month or a working holiday visa!
    Louise Smith
    19/05/2016 #2 Louise Smith
    Yes @Ben Redgell This is one of the best beaches in Australia. Even here you can't drive on the beach like this legally in many States close to urban areas - cities and regional towns.
    Ben Redgell
    18/05/2016 #1 Ben Redgell
    That beach looks incredible! I hope to go travelling to Australia one day! Hopefully people will share different posts on different topics and we can learn more about various cultures and ways of life around the world!