- Producer08/11/2016Narcissism and Non-IdentityI recently had to have a very frank discussion with my kids about what it means to be the child of a narcissist (their father). As they get older, I feel more able to have these types of conversations with them because they are my emotional...
Comments09/11/2016 #16 Nikki Petersen#6 Right, Renee. The not knowing is when you're blaming yourself. Finding your way out of that can be tough when you're a kid because you don't have the emotional maturity to see the world for what it is (which, some would argue, is a good thing). I'm so glad you are healing.09/11/2016 #15 Nikki Petersen#9 That's exactly it. I'm trying, but honestly, the grip of a narcissistic parent is so pervasive that it's a really tough uphill battle. It's horrible to hear my wonderful baby say that he's worthless and would be better off dead. I've been hearing that since he was 5 or 6. As an empath, I also experienced this existential depression related to my lack of identity. It took decades for me to get it, with therapy. I hope that I will be able to help him enough that he can also find his way out.08/11/2016 #12 Katja BaderThank you for this great buzz, Nikki. You write so many words, that I felt when I was with my (now Ex-) husband, who is a narcissist and our children.
A narcissist always sees parts of himself in his children and wants to create them to a copy of himself. He tries to implant his meanings, ideas, dreams etc in his children. That could have bad results for the children and can take years to heal it. I always want to find out the real and own personality of the children and promote them as much as I can.08/11/2016 #9 Paul Frank GilbertFlawed and imperfect as we are ... there is something particularly sad and seemingly humanly wrong about a parent that would divide their children into such classifications as to have them sense for one moment a feeling of less. Less love. Less acceptance. Less understanding. Less trust. Less expectation ... hope ... ability ... on and on.
The world is a tough place. Life is not fair. But we all want our kids to know with certainty that they have a place where they are accepted for themselves, where a mistake or a weakness does not define them and label them. We want to for them to see a place for themselves in the world and to be strong enough to fight for it if necessary.
Sounds like you are a great parent.08/11/2016 #6 Renée CormierAs the daughter of a narcissist and the sibling of at least one, I can tell you it took me some time to figure out what was wrong with our family. I found my way to heal over the years but the healing really came once I realized what I was dealing with. It's the not knowing period that is the most damaging because you are constantly being manipulated and you can't see or understand what is going on. The upside of my early life is that it has enabled me to become very good at managing people and their emotions. As long as your children understand the divisive and manipulative tactics that narcissists rely on and when they are being played, they will be able to avoid the trap of seeking approval, being afraid or being resentful of other family members.08/11/2016 #5 Deb HelfrichA very warm welcome to beBee, @Nikki Petersen. This is a great lesson on a number of topics. Primarily that we get the kids we create, and that will shape the rest of their lives. Further, this point about understanding oneself as a business person is crucial:
"If you're thinking about going into business for yourself (or you're already there), please get to know yourself and what your challenges are. Without that introspection and self-correction, you aren't likely to make it far."
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- Producer21/10/2016Lost your Modern Mojo?! In need of some Practical Philosophy!?Then please welcome LQ McDonald III to beBee! He is a Motivational Philosopher - Educational Speaker- Lifestyle Trainer - with his own blog.Don't worry, he keeps it REAL! ;pFrom his blog - http://modern-mojo.com/aboutMojo – noun mo·jo \ˈmō-(ˌ)jō\ :a...
Comments25/10/2016 #19 Fatima WilliamsWelcome to beBee land @LQ McDonald III :)
Buzz away my friend; as in you know what I mean LOL This is funny @Donna-Luisa Eversley " Buzz away " ( winks)
BTW @Paul "Pablo" Croubalian I prefer calling Pablo than Paul sounds more spanishy to me :) But I also like Paul so I'm confused now that we are discussing what we can call you ( Thinking )21/10/2016 #13 LQ McDonald III#12. That neat little feature is part of the Brooks theme for WordPress that I am using and have customized. I believe it is able to store some data for Google analytics and also save the users place when the go back, though I am not currently using that version do to my customizations and the need to walk through the update process when I have time.21/10/2016 #12 Paul "Pablo" Croubalian#11 On a more serious note, LQ, I just went back to your site and noticed that progression slider you have at the top of the post. Does that track (i.e. store for later analysis) how far along someone got on the post before skipping off into the netherworld?
If so, is that a proprietary thing or where can I find it? I suppose I could write one, but why reinvent the wheel?21/10/2016 #5 Jared WieseLQ, for a beBee jump start, please check out :
http://blog.bebee.com/en/bebee-guide/10-new-bee-mistakes-to-avoid-on-bebee/21/10/2016 #4 Jared Wiese#2 LQ, he's talking about this:
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- 18/05/2016I wrote about my Fraser Island Holiday ! I hope you enjoy reading about it !Come Camping with Me to Fraser Island....www.bebee.com Travelling in my own country is full of exciting experiences. One of my fav destinations is Fraser Island (Australia) It's the biggest sand island...
- 18/05/2016Hi Ben @Ben Redgell, What a great idea to have a lifestyle blog for lifestyle bloggers ! Of course lifestyle means different things for different people in different countries and cultures. This is me on a camping holiday on Fraser Island Queensland Australia. I love to drive on the beach in my 4WD, swim, fish, cook on a campfire and relax ! (https://www.bebee.com/producer/@louise-smith-state-of-queensland/come-camping-with-me-to-fraser-island)