- Producer19/01/2017Life is a danceLife is dancing with a partner; when setbacks, delays, and detours happen; they're like steps in the mambo, tango, and cha-cha. If you dissect the movements and see them without the rest of the dance, or without hearing the music, everyone looks to...
- Producer18/01/2017Straight from the Horse's Mouth: Episode 1Men, I can tell you a 1000 times to not get married - and you will refuse to listen. You may label me bitter, jaded, misogynist or the epithet of the moment. Lest you think that just because I have never been married, I know not what I speak of; I...
Comments19/01/2017 #7 Brian McKenzie#5 @Devesh Bhatt Nobody that ever watch diligently and pragmatically where they were going, landed in love. That is why it is called 'Falling in Love'. We have Workers Comp..... there should be a supplemental accidental insurance policy to protect against the havoc 'love' brings.19/01/2017 #6 Brian McKenzie#4 @Donna-Luisa Eversley This is my channel ) This is my dating column ;) I don't date long term any more. Lessons learned.
I will never marry. I will never have kids. I say that on official date one. That shuts down nearly all second dates.
When I was 5, my Grandfather told me that Girls, Guns, Alcohol, Cigars and Motorcycles will all try and kill you - Never Mix Them.
I wish I had listened to him closer - he was right on so many occasions19/01/2017 #5 Devesh Bhatt#4 telling a guy to wait :) and someone who waits is told to act :)
Then the act must be dreamy perfect :)
Or the apology must be dreamy perfect :)
Somehow I feel bold pretty free flowing women are getting sucked into this paranoia and responding like robots .
Much like many men who show the same process with bosses :)
It's like we dump our brains the first chance we get and love a draggy heart for a roommate, makes bitching colourful and creative.
Spontaneous talk to build a character, no truth here, just the aggregate of bullshit opinions that waste our day :)19/01/2017 #4 Donna-Luisa Eversley@Brian McKenzie..I like you. Hahaha. Quite objectively I read your post and even I would not wish for my son's to marry such a nagging, complaining self sufficient and self serving woman. Now I don't agree with your thoughts on marriage, but I agree one should proceed with caution when making that marriage commitment. Guys, every woman or most will put her best foot , dress forward for you - you won't be seeing the real person if you rush. Ladies guys are going to sweet talk your panties off if you let them.
Maybe we should do a dating column ..Hahaha...
In everything, my best advice is don't rush, wait. That's it for now 😊..
- Producer16/01/2017Dating in the Ex-Pat RealmYes, genetically Foreign women are the same as American....and the similarities end there. Maybe it is me, but I simply have no mesh with American girls. I just never build relationships because I just keep meeting stone walls. So I left, fuck...
Comments19/01/2017 #3 Brian McKenzie#1 @Donna-Luisa Eversley I think having to navigate across two different languages causes 1) to slow things down and spend more time actually communicating 2) there is not a shared set of cultural stereotypes to overcome 3) strawman assumptions don't occur 4) Foreign women never attack me for tone of voice
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- 06/01/2017Due to the Current and Coming Generation Winter, it has been decreed and ratified by Congress, Senate and the Presidential Office to create the Federal Union of Copulation and Kinder for Society (FUCKS).
By National Mandate, Federal Guidelines have been established for marriage, child production and divorce ~ quotas and ratios have been formally scheduled. From this date forward, every eligible US Citizen and Free-Member of Standing of the age 18 to 45 shall be married, those 18 to 35 shall have viable positive growth toward 3.2 dependent sub-entity child units. Failure to be in a valid marriage that has or hath or shall produce prerequisite children will be fined and penalized in incremental increasing 'Matrimonial Responsible Quotient Units'.
Those failing certification of sufficient number of FUCKS shall also face taxation, incarceration, censure and forfeiture of property. In accordance with Sustainability, Transition and Resilience measures, Divorces shall be forbidden and sanctioned as illegal. As society depends upon us all to grow, it is the responsibility of each of us to give enough FUCKS to make a difference and steer Amerika toward a new prosperity of growth, equality and fairness.
Sound absurd? Then why did you agree to the ObamaCare mandates for the last 8 years? Why do you believe the Federal Government should be involved in your individual and personal health?
- Producer03/01/2017Lifestyle & Marriage. Trouble's in the Hen House!May I confide in you? I can hardly breathe at times. Have I forgotten who I am? I am barely able to sneak in a chance to start writing this while my partner makes coffee. I likely won't finish. I'll need to come back to it again and again because of...
Comments04/01/2017 #26 Harvey Lloyd#8 You are correct Marriage is not about happiness. This would short sell the concept. Its about joy, as was promised. The emotions we feel as we become a married couple will expose happiness, sadness and many others. The joy is navigating them in trust and faith. We typically spend more time designing our home, vacation or next major purpose than designing our marriage.
Marriage is not a position but a journey. A journey you will take even if not married. The question is do you want someone to share it with?04/01/2017 #24 Brian McKenzieI am not a fan of marriage - I am not shy I have never done it - nor ever will. Marriage is the Marquis de Sade Circus Fun House that too many enter with rosy glasses on believing in the 'Happily Ever After' Hollywood Propaganda. 70% of divorces are brought to court by women - and from those self surveyed the number one cause of it is not infidelity, abuse, nor money - but boredom. The meme has branded itself under the ever growing and trending moniker - 'Conscious Uncoupling' with their path on how to walk out of a marriage. There is even a growing number of Divorce Coaches in the 'Life Coach" sector04/01/2017 #23 Pamela 🐝 Williams#4 That was going to be my suggestion; a separate room with a door and a lock. A note on the door; "Disturb at your own risk".
To be truthful; can't help you here Emily; I'm single and have been that way a lot longer than I was married. I was married for 6 years, and in that time he worked the graveyard shift as a law enforcement officer and I worked days and went to school so we had about 2 hours a day together and if his mommy dearest called upon him, less that that. When he changed careers and we were on the same schedule...well, like I said we were married just 6 years. :-) So I say; if it's just a bit of frustration; work it out. Deb's 5-lbs of salt upside the head, just might do the trick. LOL!04/01/2017 #22 Don 🐝 Kerr@Emily🐝 Bee Was going to write 'been there, done that, got the t-shirt' then realized it would need to be rewritten as 'am there, doing that, don't give a shit about the t-shirt'. Kate and I work from home. It's small too. And we have two boys 6 & 9. And a new kitten. And somehow we make it work - mostly. It helps that Kate is deeply into mindfulness based stress reduction and that I am old and progressively losing my hearing (at least that what I tell people). Mostly though we know we love each other and we know we make each other totally freakin' nuts and we know that when Kate worked for me out in the real world it was exactly the same except for the love part. That's the thing that saves us. Hang in there.04/01/2017 #16 Devesh Bhatt#14 thanks for taking it on a lighter note @Emily🐝 Bee... You sound a but confused, its not a good state to open doors to a variety of opinions.
Ask yourself - what do you want ? Perhaps write it down with clarity in points.. not an article but points.
Then write all the good in your life? Again points.
See which answer has more material benefits and which has personal elements attached to it.
Now, if your problems are personal, the solution must also be personal - hide & seek was just a way of saying discovery in a fun way ..most of your serious advice is the same.
Personal time is quite easy... Just close your eyes and gather your thoughts --- not meditation in a technical sense..just figure things out.
If you need personal time in doing something...just see that activity and ask yourself , why the intrusion? Maybe he sees excitement in a lot of things and stops halfway from sharing it? Just exemplifying with a positive thought because I think you have already figured out the negatives... Keeping both in mind figure out things.
Rid the confusion before you make the decision. It will certainly help you in life once you figure out your own way of deciding things.
Lawyers will make you write, counsellors and therapists will write what you say.
Why not write in a precise manner for yourself, not an audience but yourself... When the confusions are gone..perhaps then share ...this way you can apply the advice you are given, else confusions will snowball.04/01/2017 #12 Emily🐝 Bee#4 Hey @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher, thanks so much for your thoughts on this. Trouble is, I don't have a Job to go to at this time. What's worse, is that I am in the early stages of developing an independent business, where I do my work at home.... So we're both home. All. The. Time.03/01/2017 #10 Todd Jones"Familiarity breeds contempt." (Aesop's Fables)
Never have words more true been written. I can tell you, without hesitation, that what you are feeling is normal, not only in nearly all marriages, but any scenario where two people spend a substantial amount of time together. Given the amount of time that you spend with your husband, I am surprised that you haven't tried to suffocate him with a pillow in his sleep. And vice versa.
You did not mention how long you have been together. My wife and I have been at it for nearly 23 years, and we have finally gotten to a place where we know when the other needs a little space. However, I travel frequently for work, so our condition is not even remotely similar to yours. And we have two cars at our disposal in the event that either feels the need to beat a hasty escape.
I don't have a solution to your particular dilemma, but I will offer another nugget of proverbial wisdom:
"The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence." Unless the relationship is emotionally or physically abusive, don't think that the key to happiness will be handed over at the conclusion of divorce court. Try to remember what brought you together in the first place, and use this as a foundation for working the problem.03/01/2017 #9 Deb 🐝 HelfrichDo take Brian with a 5-lb bag of salt, @Emily🐝 Bee. @Harvey Lloyd already said anything I could offer : "Explore, challenge and create something different than what everyone else." Here's an example how about a headphone rule? You put 'em on and you are with a 'client' and cannot be disturbed.03/01/2017 #8 Preston Vander VenRemember, marriage is not about Happiness. It is God's design that two "imperfect" people would become one and complete each other. So every marriage is either moving toward oneness or drifting toward isolation.
The problem is today's society has brainwashed this oneness to be a desire for personal happiness, a trouble-free life, or a great marriage. Yet, is should be motivated by a desire to enjoy a relationship with God, embrace Him as our Savior, follow Him as our leader, and experience His power in our lives.
Conflict is part of all marriages. This friction helps mold us if used correctly. The goals is not to be conflict free but to handle conflict correctly. For example, healthy conflict resolution occurs when couples are willing to seek and grant forgiveness. "Forgiveness works like oil in relationships." - Josh McDowell
One of the hardest stepping stones is simply Communication. We communicate in various ways. Misunderstanding can develop when we are at opposite ends of styles. We must allow freedom for these differences and trust to adjust to each others styles. For example, I am a "Just-the-Facts" like Spock, while my wife is more of "Share-your-feeling" style. I am always working on listening with acceptance and understanding. I sometimes just take things to literal.
- Producer02/01/2017TEACH CONDOM SENSE: SAY NO TO BOOTY & YES TO SELF-RESPECTRULE 3: THOU SHALL NOT CHASE BOOTY “You are not an option, a choice or a soft place to land after a long battle. You were meant to be the one. If you can wrap yourself around the idea that you are something incredible, then you will...
- Producer31/12/2016New Year's ResolutionIt's that time of year again – in the sprint through the holidays to the final mark on the calendar, to make room in your lives for the New Year's Resolutions. We run em down, burn through the bad habits, indulge in nearly every excess, and of...
- Producer30/12/2016Terms of Endearment: Love You Honey PieWhat is love? Baby don’t hurt me, no more.Before I get your hopes up, this article is not about cute-faced helpless little precious babies that are essentially cute to encourage us to protect them instead of kill them. In case you don’t know why...
- Producer28/12/2016Holiday Hook-UpsI get it. The eggnog, the booze, the tight skirts, the mistletoe and the ever provocative way that Suzy from the Mail Room is sucking on that candy-cane; Holiday Hook-ups can be tempting, exciting.... and yes: life threatening. A few words to the...
- Producer27/12/2016Finding the right P.I.L. Partner In LifeI love monogamy. I have tried exploring this poly-sexual thing and it's not me. To me it's about a lot more than the sex, however if the sex is an issue...I read an article a few months ago about this thing called deep dating while I was in the...
Comments28/12/2016 #7 Brian McKenzie#6 not likely, i have gone from chasing women, to ignoring them to outright avoiding them. I finally like my life, I am not about to mess it up by inviting trouble. I have a long line of ex's - they all go. "Love" is temporary, transactional, disposable and inherently dangerous.28/12/2016 #5 Max🐝 J. Carter#3 @David B. Grinberg You present quite the riddle indeed. Neither one is the answer.
The right one consumes your thoughts as well as your heart and while yes at times you fight like demons, the make up sex is nearly as demonic and twice as good. ;)
It gets boring as you noted when there are no waves to ride and hope you can still shoot the curl without eating the ocean floor and being tossed around like a rag doll at the mercy of the crashing waves.
I often tell men find a woman whose wave you like riding and adjust accordingly as in the USA PMS is a legal reason to get away with murder while being considered legally temporarily insane. I wish I was making it up.
With each of my marriages I knew long before the end the end was coming as the eye and mind wandered. Their eyes and minds had wandered too. Somewhere we just stopped working at it and for some reason decided there was no way to get it back.
It retrospect I see the loves I have gone to have and have heard each of them has what I couldn't give them and there was something lacking from their end too, however it's not about blame or he said she said, it just became healthier for where we were growing a part to part ways.
There is never a cookie cutter answer to any of life's issues as you have to really take the time to think about all the people involved and know every one is going to get hurt if comes to the break up.
Take the time to make sure you know what you want and have found it in another human being. Even then people grow apart at times.28/12/2016 #3 David B. GrinbergNice buzz with some good advice, Max. Now riddle me this: what does a guy do when his heart is with one woman but his head is with another? To be more specific, the first is a true love but the two partners cannot live together because each agitates and aggravates the other too often (plus, the sex is bad). The second woman is a rock solid winner, a hard worker and great home maker simultaneously. You get along well (and the sex is good). But things get boring at times. What to do?
And, no, they won't both marry me in Utah. Thanks for your sage advice based on this limited information.28/12/2016 #2 Brian McKenzieBeing truly honest with myself led me to know that it is all game, lies heaped upon stereotypes, hearsay and branded iconography from the oracles of Hollywood and Wall Street. There is no "Love", it is simply a dopamine narcotic episode of transactional emotions where money, height, figure and tit-for-tat collide. Don't believe me? Take money off the table - see how long 'Love' lasts.
- 23/12/2016How do you know you are being punked and phished in international dating......?
"Good Evening(name)!!!How are you?(name)Do you feel good?What are you doing here?You like ukrainian girls,dont you?:)(name)
I wanna tell you about one trait of character which called a good sense of humour you know yeaah?
I think that for me a sense of humour is a very important thing.For me humor is indicator of intelligence and IQ. It doesn’t mean that you should joke every minute, but I want to know that you can do it any minute if you really want)
Of course serious and succesful men its fundamental type of individual identity in this crazy world but a little of humour can be help to live easy and finally simple and pleasantly !
Do you have a good sense of humour?(name)Do you like to watch comedian films,scenes with famous actors?I hope you do!
What makes you laugh?May be some occasions in your life?Tell me some little funny moments!
By the way I think that mostly women can’t joke, but they can evaluate joke…And they like men with a good sense of humour!
Have a nice day,(name)Hope to hear from you soon!."
Remember if you are spoofing the romance - put the proper bait in the water
As bad as this is.... it is still better than most HR Departments ever manage with their ATS response emails.
- 23/12/2016This explains a lot, I thought it was because I was a Virgo that I was anti-social 8?/Intelligent People Have Fewer Friends, Here's Why... SUBSCRIBE - New Vids Mon & Thurs: http://bit.ly/thoughty2 Support me on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thoughty2 Thoughty2 Facebook:...
Comments19/12/2016 #8 José Ramón 🐝 López#7 si @Jorge 🐝 Carballo Pérez, hay parejitas que se aman toda su vida. Tantas experiencias, vivencias divertidas, grandes momentos, tragos duros...
Con las personas que amas de verdad quieres estar siempre. Para lo bueno, lo diver y guai, y para cuando llegan los problemas también. No, mejor aun, cuando llegan los problemas sobretodo.
- Producer12/12/2016The Art and Reason for Being LovingI am one of those few North Americans who can easily express feelings of love. Being openly affectionate is more fashionable now than it was when I was growing up, but I think there are still plenty of people who are uncomfortable with physical...
Comments13/12/2016 #14 David B. GrinbergI love this post, Renee! You offer sage advice which would make the world a better place if universally adopted. I don't recall the song or singer but there's a lyric that came to mind while reading this, "Love is the drug I'm thinking of..."
Please have a blessed holiday season and keep buzzing!12/12/2016 #10 Jared 🐝 WieseFor anyone struggling with the term "vibrational energy", perhaps think of it as that tingly feeling you get when someone YOU love does or says something loving for you - and you FEEL it. It is unconditional. You know they mean it. You know they'd protect you and defend you and always be your friend. THAT's vibrational!
"The very instant you wake up in the morning", of course, makes me think of the Miracle Morning (https://www.bebee.com/group/themiraclemorning).
"With love, the more you give, the more you have to give. It is like a vessel that replenishes itself ten-fold whenever you draw from it." BRILLIANT and brightly true!
"Love yourself unconditionally. We humans spend our lives accumulating baggage and condemning ourselves for making mistakes. Stop doing that. Consider that we are all on a journey."
WHOA. I had to sit down for that one! ;)
DEFINITELY gave me a loving day, Renee!
Thanks so much for the tag!
CC: @Melissa Hughes: what happens inside a LOVING brain ?!
I believe expressing gratitude and love has been proven to make YOU feel better too.
- Producer11/12/2016Kyrzbekistan: Part 22* Appropriate Trigger Warning * Delicate Sensibilities will be Offended; Early, Often and Without Remorse *Ah, the questions of love. It is the happy lie that we tell ourselves, when we outgrew Santa- we pinned our hopes to 'LOVE'. The stink of it...
- 11/12/2016Happen as they do, when they do.
The poem is mine - dedicated to a Chiris Isaak listening binge - and black coffee
The Painting is Alex Colville, Woman, Man, and Boat, 1952
- 05/12/2016Domestic violence numbers rise in the winter. If you’re in an unhealthy marriage, take action now.Why You Shouldn’t Wait to File for Divorce Until After the Holidays | Schmidt & Gladstonewww.schmidtgladstone.com
- 30/11/2016Oy, I wish I had known these details 20 years ago. Oh well - live and learn. More MGTOW - less of that other shit.How to Tell if He Hates Your Fucking Guts Some more help with nagging...
- Producer28/11/201610 Best Travel Destinations to Visit After Breaking UpBreaking up is one of the most hurtful experiences you will ever go through. Some get depressed, some get drunk and some search for a getaway to move on. While turning off your phone and shutting yourself down is not the best solution, travelling...
Comments29/11/2016 #2 Cepee TabibianHaha, @Chloe Miller, love this! Travel is always my cure for most things in life. But I had no idea there were places like the The Museum Of Broken Relationships to mend a broken heart. lol. I had heard of the Matchmaking Festival in Ireland which sounds like loads of fun. Thanks for the share!
- Producer18/11/2016Aren’t we all just liars?There are times in lifewe remain mumWhen beliefs are questioned fading away like maples in autumnAren’t we all just liars?Feeling so deeplyyet showing so littleWanting to be lovedbut not giving chancesPretending to be happywhile bleeding...
Comments21/11/2016 #1 Lisa 🐝 GallagherGreat poem @Ebenezar John Paul. What you wrote of tends to be true for many, especially in the early stages of dating. It can also be true when someone is attracted to another yet they are afraid of letting them know for fear of rejection. Pretenses, we've all been guilty!
- Producer19/11/2016A Book About Staying Safe From Intruders & Protecting yourself from Suffe(ring)About The Book: #When it comes to strategically managing successfully the unexpected turn of events in the personal life, like that of marriage life for instance,many a times, young professionals get stressed and some even get into depression...
Comments21/11/2016 #13 Sarah ElkinsThis is a great lesson, @Prakashan B.V, thank you for sharing this story; I especially love the quote at the end by Debra Fileta. Early in our marriage, with a six month old baby, my husband and I moved more than 1,000 miles away from our nearest family members. It has been difficult sometimes, because I miss them and we cannot get together as often as I would like, but on the whole, I think our family has benefited from the move. We avoid minor family obligations because we live so far away, and the time we spend when we are together is appreciated immensely. Our family has created an incredible community in our little town, full of support and love, and lacking obligation. I hope your friend listens to your wise words of encouragement!21/11/2016 #9 Lisa 🐝 GallagherVery moving story @Prakashan B.V. What a great quote you shared with him. We had to cut ties with a few of my husband's family members. They were not happy in their own lives and they tried their best to interfere in ours for years. It's very hard to cut ties but it's also healthy and liberating if those ties are affecting your psyche and/or marriage. I hope that was helpful to your friend!19/11/2016 #2 Ali AnaniThis is a painful story @Prakashan B.V and even more painfully is it repeats in many developing countries. The intruders are many and young couples fail to stop intruders from ruining their marriage because of lack of experience. Once they realize they need to stop intruders it is mostly too late with health deteriorating or divorce happening. At the peak of their need for support intruders disappear. May be we need more marriage counselling
- 13/11/2016There will soon be an App for it ~ Japan already has 'Robot' Love cafes and brothels. i-Ntimacy will shortly be a new Apple Product and people will further unplug from on another. The goose is cooked - 'Love' has exceeded the ROI vs ROE paradigm - Sign post ahead: Welcome to MGTOW.