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Fatherhood, Divorce, Dating and the Quest for a BIG Life

The Man-Up Project was created to help men navigate their lives in a way that is healthier, happier and more fulfilling: Whether you are a single dude, happily married, getting divorce, divorced or whether you are a dad or not โ€“ The Man-Up Project has something that will dramatically improve the quality of your life.
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  1. Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood
    "I Am Not A Rock"

    When one parent is a familyโ€™s sole source of emotional stability, either alone or in a couple, the burden can take a heavy toll. Next week at Dad 2.0 Summitโ€‹ in San Diego I'll be talking on a panel about the best resources for maintaining your stamina and your sanity, as well as the best alternatives when none of those is an option.

    I'm humbled to be part of this incredible summit and will bring you some insight afterward.
    Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood
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    Mohammed Sultan
    31/01/2017 #4 Mohammed Sultan
    @ Matt Sweetwood .It seems that you have lost your hair because of this bunch of flower or may be the opposit!,,but still the highest flower in the bunch.You thrived for something that worth the thrife Matt.But I don't think you are a traditional American because you have exceeded the average members per family,and also because you didn't picture a dog!
    Mamen ๐Ÿ Delgado
    31/01/2017 #3 Mamen ๐Ÿ Delgado
    @Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood, you've got all my admiration. I can not even imagine what raising five kids on your own can be. Congrats for your beautiful family!! ๐Ÿ’
    Javier ๐Ÿ beBee
    31/01/2017 #2 Javier ๐Ÿ beBee
    @Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood you did't watch TV at home :-)
    Javier ๐Ÿ beBee
    31/01/2017 #1 Javier ๐Ÿ beBee
    beautiful family !
  2. Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood
    โ€œDating is a lot more complicatedโ€ - thank you New York Post for the feature!
    Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood
    Moving to NYC in my 50s was the best decision of my life
    nypost.com It was Shefvon Riversโ€™ 50th birthday, but she wasnโ€™t celebrating. โ€œAll around me people were getting sick and dying,โ€ says the hairstylist about her 50-something friends in Summerville, SC. โ€œAll I...
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  3. Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood
    This was fun and I can't wait for the influencer film to come out. Thanks Bonbon Networks for inviting me!
    Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood
    Instagram photo by Bonnie Ann Bruderer โ€ข Dec 17, 2016 at 10:05am UTC
    www.instagram.com See this Instagram photo by @bonbonnetworks โ€ข 19...
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  4. ProducerMatt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood
    10 Reasons Why Late to Bed and Late to Rise Can Make You Successful
    10 Reasons Why Late to Bed and Late to Rise Can Make You SuccessfulPublished on Entrepreneurย 11/16/16There have been many articles about how getting up early is the key to success. The most well-known is one by Richard Branson,ย Why I Wake Up Early. Recently I read one by Peter Shankman,ย How to Wake Up Early (And...
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    Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood
    03/12/2016 #26 Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood
    #12 Never let anyone tell you what works for you. Work and night guilt free!
    Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood
    02/12/2016 #25 Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood
    #15 Likewise for me... and that's why we Buzz On!
    Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood
    02/12/2016 #24 Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood
    #11 You'll have to come work here in the U.S. We work on MY time ;-)
    Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood
    02/12/2016 #23 Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood
    #20 Chris, It's been too long!
    Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood
    02/12/2016 #22 Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood
    #13 Mine peaks usually at 1am... so if you are working at 3AM then sleep late. YOU are the BOSS!
    Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood
    02/12/2016 #21 Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood
    #10 Chris. I had to do that when my kids were young but now, I rock MY rhythm!
    Chris Allen
    02/12/2016 #20 Chris Allen
    As always.... Great stuff Matt...

    Hope to get together soon..
    Donna-Luisa Eversley
    02/12/2016 #19 Donna-Luisa Eversley
    Quite an interesting perspective.. For similar reasons I'm an early bird. I'm sure the common denominator is commitment and consistency in whatever one decides to go by. Thanks for sharing @Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood View more
    Quite an interesting perspective.. For similar reasons I'm an early bird. I'm sure the common denominator is commitment and consistency in whatever one decides to go by. Thanks for sharing @Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood...great insights. Close
    Robert Cormack
    02/12/2016 #18 Robert Cormack
    Thanks for this, @Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood. I love the quiet and I love bedgasms. Working late at night or early in the morning (I start at 4:30 am) are the best times. I could easily give up afternoons. To me, afternoons are the most unproductive times of the day. I should sleep in the afternoon. I have occasional catnaps, but never a fixed schedule like Ford or Edison. Imagine if all offices had sleep rooms. If you're coming in early or working late, go sleep for a few hours in the afternoon. I know this exists in a few companies, but it should be worldwide. Think of the productivity if people could sleep when they need sleep and work when they need to work. Wouldn't this be better than someone working straight through at the office for 14 hours? I lost my 20s to this regimen (probably my 30s, too).
    Alex Romanovich
    02/12/2016 #17 Alex Romanovich
    I think it depends on each individual of course. If you are an Owl, or an early riser, but yes, 3am is nuts :)
    Javier ๐Ÿ beBee
    02/12/2016 #16 Javier ๐Ÿ beBee
    BUZZ ON !!!
    FancyJ London
    02/12/2016 #15 FancyJ London
    That moment when your head lamp lights up and you must write it down, that is my 3:00 am reality...my mind never stops "Buzzing!" #13
    Elena Rodrรญguez de Tiedra
    02/12/2016 #14 Elena Rodrรญguez de Tiedra
    #13 That happens to me too... Maybe an hour earlier, but it's when I usually feel more inspired (point 4). I knew I wasn't the only one :D
    Javier ๐Ÿ beBee
    02/12/2016 #13 Javier ๐Ÿ beBee
    What happens when Creativity peaks at 03:00 AM ? Usually it happens to me LOL
    FancyJ London
    02/12/2016 #12 FancyJ London
    @Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood, due to my somewhat eccentric lifestyle in the music industry, and in a few other areas of expertise. I tend to rise at dusk and sleep at dawn. Hence the pale skin. ๐Ÿ˜โ˜•๏ธ Nice article, made me feel better about my schedule.
    Cepee Tabibian
    02/12/2016 #11 Cepee Tabibian
    My natural body clock is also late to bed, late to rise, and by late to rise I mean 9:00am. Too bad that's also the time I have to be at work. :(
    Chas โœŒ๏ธ Wyatt
    02/12/2016 #10 Chas โœŒ๏ธ Wyatt
    @Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood, my natural rhythm is more aligned with yours. But, currently I have been following an unnatural one due to circumstances. I thoroughly enjoyed this piece, though.
    Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    02/12/2016 #9 Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    Nice article @Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood, a topic close to my heart. I've concluded I will always be a late riser unless there's something I absolutely have to be up early for and I will always be a late nighter. I find I'm able to function much better late at night, even my thinking is much clearer. I think the clarity is due to the fact that the worries of the day are over and it's like a sigh of relief. I do miss getting up early, listening to the birds chirp while drinking my morning coffee... oh wait, there are times I'm still up to hear them chirp haha. Balance is a great thing, it benefits many.
    Suzanne Dwillies-Khan, Pharmacist and Musician
    02/12/2016 #8 Suzanne Dwillies-Khan, Pharmacist and Musician
    I have tried getting up early but most of my shifts ( I am unemployed now) were later in the day. If was to get up early and by the time i get home it would be past my bedtime. i also found my most creative time was later in the day when I could have quiet, no interuptions, so things that although during the day it was too busy because I was helping patients. I do my best writing later at night and I have lesser pain later in the day too because with Rheumatoid arthritis often mornings are worse because of joint swelling
    Sarah Elkins
    02/12/2016 #7 Sarah Elkins
    As I climbed into bed last night, this image and word popped into my head. I smiled and told my husband: "This is my favorite part of my day." It has always been a favorite of mine, climbing into my bed at the end of a day, productive or otherwise. Partly, I think, because I know I get to start fresh in the morning.
  5. Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood
    In this video, we got together with Dr. Geo again, and talked about why men are not taking care of themselves and what it entails in the long run.
    Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood
    Are you hanging out with people that are good for you?
    msweetwood.com Matt Sweetwood shares his Facebook Lives and beBee Live Buzzes....
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  6. Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood
    A say before Thanksgiving, remember that single parents, too, can find happiness during the Holiday Season - read more: http://bit.ly/2gdDxQ0Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood
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    Lada ๐Ÿก Prkic
    23/11/2016 #5 Lada ๐Ÿก Prkic
    What a lovely family, Mat! Iโ€™ve read your post about single parenting. You said, โ€œWhat has happened to you in your life is for the best.โ€ I would say that no matter how bad situation is, there is always something good in it. As the proverb goes, โ€œEvery cloud has a silver liningโ€. Happy Thanksgiving!
    Tausif Mundrawala
    23/11/2016 #4 Tausif Mundrawala
    Happy Thanksgiving, Matt. The youngest one in this pic is the one who raised money for the abused children right. (the recent video uploaded by you)
    Miriam Rogado Luesma
    23/11/2016 #2 Miriam Rogado Luesma
    Be(e) happy @Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood! Happy Thanksgiving!
    Javier ๐Ÿ beBee
    23/11/2016 #1 Javier ๐Ÿ beBee
    Happy Thanksgiving ! Great family ! perfect picture !
  7. ProducerMatt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood
    3 Tips to Find Happiness During the Holiday Season
    3 Tips to Find Happiness During the Holiday SeasonPublished on The Good Men Projectย 11/20/16A dad who has โ€œbeen thereโ€ gives some important tips on surviving the holidays.โ€”During the days of Thanksgiving, Christmas, Hanukkah and New Yearโ€™s Eve, our thoughts naturally turn to what this season will...
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    Todd Jones
    22/12/2016 #5 Todd Jones
    Life is like a grindstone @Matt Sweetwood. But whether it wears you down, or polishes you up depends on what you are made of. The luster of your polish is evident in this post. Nicely done.
    Graham๐Ÿ Edwards
    22/12/2016 #4 Graham๐Ÿ Edwards
    Nice buzz @Matt Sweetwood. Have a great holiday season!!! I got my daughter a portable record player this year because, believe it or not, she has never hear a record. Christmas day will be filled with a new experience between a father and daughter, as well as the the sound of the golden oldies. My experience is that fathers (single or not) who work hard to stay in their children's lives create the greatest gift of all.
    Virag Gulyas
    22/12/2016 #3 Virag Gulyas
    I've just re-read this article and while I'm not a single parent, Matt hits to the core once again! Happy Holidays everyone!
    GERTRUDE MOSLEY
    21/11/2016 #2 GERTRUDE MOSLEY
    Thanks so much for your truth. As a single parent this was very comforting and inspiring to read.
    Kevin Baker
    21/11/2016 #1 Kevin Baker
    I was single parent 25 yrs. The holidays are a great time to include other single parents and their children for public events and navigating this social plane becomes so much easier and more fun.
  8. Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood
    New York City Life
    New York City Life The...
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    Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    21/11/2016 #1 Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    Love this!
  9. Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood
    Little Italy ๐Ÿ‡ฎ๐Ÿ‡น Manhattan
    Little Italy ๐Ÿ‡ฎ๐Ÿ‡น Manhattan A quick tour on a lovely autumn...
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  10. Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood
    A tour through Chinatown NYC
    A tour through Chinatown NYC The Iconic Mulberry...
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    Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    23/11/2016 #8 Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    Nice buzz @Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood, really enjoyed this!
    Javier ๐Ÿ beBee
    20/11/2016 #7 Javier ๐Ÿ beBee
    great buzz. I enjoyed it ! thanks
    Jan ๐Ÿ Barbosa
    19/11/2016 #6 Jan ๐Ÿ Barbosa
    #5 Totally Agree !!! Place is too beautiful and lots of new things to do every week !!! Feels like a World's Fair !!! :D
    Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood
    19/11/2016 #5 Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood
    #4 awesome place to go to school. Problem is that once they live in Manhattan, it's hard to get them to leave.
    Jan ๐Ÿ Barbosa
    19/11/2016 #4 Jan ๐Ÿ Barbosa
    #3 Manhattanville College !!! Go Valiants !!!
    Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood
    19/11/2016 #3 Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood
    #1 where's he studying?
    Jan ๐Ÿ Barbosa
    19/11/2016 #2 Jan ๐Ÿ Barbosa
    My Only grievances are finding a good parking space.. and NY high cost of living !!! :)
    Jan ๐Ÿ Barbosa
    19/11/2016 #1 Jan ๐Ÿ Barbosa
    Love NEW YORK !!! My Son Studing In Manhattan And Loves It As Well !!!
  11. Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood
    Like daughter like dad
    Like daughter like dad Charity starts at...
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    Mamen ๐Ÿ Delgado
    21/11/2016 #9 Mamen ๐Ÿ Delgado
    ๐Ÿ’
    Tausif Mundrawala
    21/11/2016 #8 Tausif Mundrawala
    Prodigal daughter. Congrats, Matt Sweetwood.
    Andrew ๐Ÿ Goldman
    21/11/2016 #7 Andrew ๐Ÿ Goldman
    Beautiful daughter, @Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood! Great video!
    Cepee Tabibian
    21/11/2016 #6 Cepee Tabibian
    Goooooo Sara! What a great public speaker and great charity.. :)
    Miriam Rogado Luesma
    21/11/2016 #5 Miriam Rogado Luesma
    Great! Dad and daughter together :)
    Virag Gulyas
    21/11/2016 #4 Virag Gulyas
    She rocks!!!!! Sweetwood blood. :-)
    Javier ๐Ÿ beBee
    20/11/2016 #3 Javier ๐Ÿ beBee
    great to see your great daughter!
    Mohammed A. Jawad
    19/11/2016 #2 Mohammed A. Jawad
    Great concern for charity. .. and that's so humane! @Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood Be a proud father and let your daughter's accomplishments count.
  12. Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood
    La Maison du Chocolate ๐Ÿซ
    La Maison du Chocolate ๐Ÿซ
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    Sophie Perrin
    16/11/2016 #12 Sophie Perrin
    Champagne and chocolate ๐Ÿพ !! The perfect combination!
    Thanks for the buzz, really interesting!
    Dean Owen
    16/11/2016 #10 Dean Owen
    I love their chocolate orange peel!
    Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood
    16/11/2016 #8 Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood
    #6 Yeah, I used the same Sennheiser mic that I have been using all along. It seems to have a compatibility problem with my new LG V20 Smartphone.. It's an expensive mic too.. I test later today.
    Javier ๐Ÿ beBee
    16/11/2016 #6 Javier ๐Ÿ beBee
    Did you use an extranal microphone ? CC @Ana Elisa Llera
    Javier ๐Ÿ beBee
    16/11/2016 #5 Javier ๐Ÿ beBee
    too noisy :-(
    Mamen ๐Ÿ Delgado
    16/11/2016 #4 Mamen ๐Ÿ Delgado
    Nice combination, champagne and chocolate... A pity for the noises, but good tasting!! Thanks @Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood!
    Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    16/11/2016 #2 Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    I couldn't listen and it seemed as though this would have been interesting. Glitches will happen ;-) Next time, 'check , check... " lol Did you get to taste the different chocolates?
    Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood
    16/11/2016 #1 Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood
    Fancy Microphone .. hmmm what happened?
  13. Virag Gulyas

    Virag Gulyas

    21/10/2016
    This has been a busy morning, and @Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood's evergreen article on โ€œmultitasking on steroidsโ€ is what came to my mind - a great read for all:
    Virag Gulyas
    Chronic Parent Syndrome and Multitasking on Steroids
    msweetwood.com One of the personality traits that successful parents develop is the ability to multitask. I donโ€™t mean the normal kind of multitasking that one does at work where you complete an expense report...
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  14. Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood
    Use Your Time For The Most Benefit!
    Use Your Time For The Most Benefit
    Use Your Time For The Most Benefit Matt has created The Man-Up Project to help men navigate their lives in a way that is healthier, happier and more fulfilling: Whether you are a single dude,...
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  15. ProducerMatt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood
    He spent over $1 million in his divorce โ€” Matt Sweetwood of the Man-Up Project
    He spent over $1 million in his divorce โ€” Matt Sweetwood of the Man-Up ProjectThis is a transcription of my interview with Shawn Leamon, MBA and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst, host of the Divorce and Your Money Show, the #1 radio show discussing personal finance issues in divorce.ย  ย  ย  ย  ย  ย  ย  ย  ย  ย  ย  ย  ย  ย  ย  ย You can...
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    Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    14/09/2016 #37 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    #36 I love that you have self-awareness and are able to project your life into the future. I wish more people could define themselves. Hat's off to you!
    Brian McKenzie
    14/09/2016 #36 Brian McKenzie
    Hate takes too much effort and energy - I simply don't draw them in my life plan. I have gone 30 years as an adult without getting married or breeding pups, I am well prepared to go another 30.
    Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    14/09/2016 #34 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    @Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood: I wrote a 500+ page book on Age Management Medicine for Women. But it includes everything that a single Dad needs complete with progressive and age-appropriate chapters/appendices to give your daughter to read (e.g, how to insert a tampon). It starts off with the history of what Aristotle thought of various body secretions. Perfectly normal stuff to talk about and I guarantee you that 99% of women will not have heard about the things I discuss freely. That First Talk is important (and did you know that there are menstrual cups?). I thoroughly cover events rom the First Period through a woman's lifetime of sex, marriage, pregnancy, childbirth, miscarriage, motherhood, invisible illnesses, Quality of Life, humor, the history of Aristotle and WIlliam C. Stead (Europeans should know him -as we all should; I'd like to see him in our History books). Pertinent 1/3 is for people over 35 ~chronic metabolic syndrome, Pre-Diabetes, heart disease, Caregiving, finding Long-Term Care for parents, Informed Consent and Ethics, Death and Dying. Timeless stuff ~age management is important for you. My book: http://www.drmargaretaranda.tateauthor.com/other-works/ Manopause/menopause huge discussions. Immunonutrition, i think you should be on an immunonutrition low-glycemic diet. :)
    Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    14/09/2016 #33 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    #17 You're absolutely right that in the medical profession, we "count" a divorce as a death. Three life stressors in a year or so make a man more prone to a heart attack. So it's seriously true that you need to take care of your physical nutrition and mental health, @Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood. Particularly since you want to be well-slept for each and every morning. If you went to an Age Management Doctor, you'd probably be on an eating plan to avoid something we call chronic metabolic disorder. Briefly, increased belly weight leads to heart disease (#1 killer), diabetes, and more. I like Immunonutrition and I'll copy the blog here as a Producer. For all those that are hitting their 40's ~it's time to look at each bite you put in your mouth. You're probably already Pre-Diabetic if you can't stand up and see your toes. Food is either medicine or poison and there's no other way. I have a 500+ book on Age Management for Girls, Women and Single Dads with daughters (ya know, that First Talk...and did you know there are menstrual Cups?). 'No' on the Gardasil vaccination (it can cause dysautonomia or paralysis; the vaccine has been banned in India, Spain and Europe for years) and Essure Fallopian tube contraception. Title: Archives of the Vagina: A Journey through Time. Guess I'll have to explain that as a Producer, too! http://www.DrMargaretAranda.tateauthor/other-works/ I start with Aristotle.
    Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    14/09/2016 #32 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    #29 (So @David B. Grinberg, I'd tell your friend not to file for Divorce until after an amiable agreement is reached and no one will argue for anything else.)#24 I left this thought to it's own Comment, because Yes! Single Dads ROCK! (And I don't care ~ this is one time I'll yell it out as a Cheerleader!) My Dad was my best father and I was too stupid to know that not all men are like him. With 7 kids, he always made me feel like I was his only, favorite daughter. The father:child bond is so powerful and what you have with your children will only add more outstanding quality to the natural resilience the youth have in overcoming familial adversity. A huge component for them is that they have one another. What group therapy, to know instinctively that they'll get through this! With you as a Dad, they'll all make you proud ~ I'd say to still talk to them about the kind of qualities to look for in a marriage partner. My Dad wasn't good at those things, figuring we would learn by osmosis. Rocket scientist that he was, the man was an incredible father. Reflecting on how he "did it" (never remarried, @Brian McKenzie ~hated women) only leaves one to ponder further since it turns out that he and his siblings were all sent away to different Boarding Schools. They never even had one CHristmas together. My Dad was just pure love. ;)
    Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    14/09/2016 #31 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    #25 16 years is ...just unimaginable, @Paul "Pablo" Croubalian. I'm at the tail end of a 5+ year divorce (it's been Final but for the retirement $). Left on disability after 10 years, my ex left me and our child without essentials too horrible to be publicly mentioned. My lawyers all quit after flailing a bit just waiting for me to actually fire them. But the brain injury, you know and then a neurologist let me drop to the hard wood floor when he didn't catch my fall with my eyes closed ~ so during the proceedings, I sustained a 2nd traumatic brain injury (@David B. Grinberg, an 'open' brain injury is truly hard to survive). My Ex and his lawyer convinced the "Judge" that I'm pretending to be sick. So I'm in Pro Per mangling along as "leftover" assets are "split." (We won't even talk about the 'missing 6 figures') Oh yeah, he took the child. And stopped paying the mortgage, forcing the house into foreclosure. I just keep saying that God sees everything and you know what? No one poisoned me or put me away in a mental institution, taking all my potential income with them as Conservators. So, hey ~ I'm getting away with my life.
    Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    14/09/2016 #30 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    #24 #17 #15 #10 I read all the Comments first for completeness (usually I don't, to maintain my own opinion). Much praise to God and let us try to look at the Positives. That's hard to do, but let's look at this startling scenario: when a mother leaves small children and commits suicide, that's when a good doctor (or divorce attorney) should think that she had undiagnosed Postpartum Depression. It makes a woman want to throw her babies out of a 3-story window. Undiagnosed, it's another Invisible Illness afflicting millions of women worldwide. My friend and his wife are currently caring for 7 children as 5 are now motherless after, yes, the mom committed suicide. So @Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood, it may seem like little consolation now, but thank God she didn't leave the children motherless at that age. No one will ever know why things happened ~but I became a mother at age 13 when my mother left 7 kids. My father was a single parent in 1972 and the Judge mocked him, saying he 'never heard of a man who raised 7 kids on his own.' While the devastation of being without her rang true, I was relieved that I didn't have her to interrupt my Mother's Day strawberry cakes I baked for my Dad. That's just how children think. So the first thing I want to say after giving you a hug is that Your Children are So Blessed. Thank God they weren't all drowned in a tub. Because that is the reality of Postpartum Depression. It's a grave mental illness. Kiss those children and God continue to Bless them ...and You! You Are A Very Rich Man!
    David B. Grinberg
    14/09/2016 #29 David B. Grinberg
    Thanks for sharing your story, Matt. You deserve many accolades for how you got yourself into better physical condition, took care of those cute kids, and launched the Man-Up Project. Those are all major lifetime accomplishments.
    Perhaps you can share some advice and wisdom about this situation: I have a good friend who is about to get divorced. There are no kids. The separation lasted longer than the marriage (5-years). One reason the separation lasted so long was so could keep his separated wife on his health plan, as she has a "closed head" brain injury. In addition, he helped her out financially during the separation by paying her car monthly car lease and insurance, as well as emergency money requests.
    Well, here's the kicker. Her elderly mother just died and she inherited about $2 million, albeit via an irrevocable trust. So here are my questions;
    1) Now, being a millionaire, can she still make financial claims on my friend's employer-provided retirement plan for instance?
    2) Does my friend have any legal avenue to pursue part of the inherited money, as they are still technically married.
    3) How would you suggest proceeding in this type of situation? Like mediation or just filing for divorce?
    Keep in mind my friend has been living with his girlfriend for the entire 6-years of the separation. Also, my friend doesn't have a lot of savings to spend on high-priced divorce lawyers. Thus, thanks for any advice you or others might have which I can pass along pro bono.
    Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    14/09/2016 #28 Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    cc; @Jeremy Kossen @Renee Harrison I hope you hear/read this.
    Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    14/09/2016 #27 Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    Great interview @Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood! Let me first say, I admire you as a father and a man. Your children are lucky to have such a wonderful dad like yourself and I'm sure they feel the same.

    I'm going to admit, I am not a feminist. I believe in equal rights for all. I have seen men get screwed over very bad in the court system and after hearing your story it literally angered me that you had to go through this as do other men and it brought tears to my eyes. Yes, I've seen women go through it too, but not to the same degree I've witnessed men, not close.

    I have an ex-brother in law who was probably was close to losing his mind or worse by the time his divorce was final. His ex-wife (now) was having an affair, she even got permission to go to Texas with the guy she had the affair with, her ex was hoping she'd come back and realize she stilled loved him. To add insult to injury, she had numerous affairs before this. She filed for divorce and got alimony for 10 years in Ohio along with 50% of his retirement and what ever was left from the sale of their home they had to split 50/50. She was abusive, not him. Many women don't realize how abusive some women can be and the man will keep taking it because of either the children, or hoping it will just stop? Not sure.. for similar reasons women stay in abusive relationships.

    As I heard your story I felt my heart rate going up, so I can't IMAGINE the stress you endured. Thank you for sharing this, it's such an important story for people to hear.
    Michael D. Davis
    14/09/2016 #26 Michael D. Davis
    #21 Well, @Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood, You certainly won't hear me arguing anything to the contrary!
    Paul "Pablo" Croubalian
    14/09/2016 #25 Paul "Pablo" Croubalian
    #23 Hey that which does not kill me and all that stuff...
    Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood
    14/09/2016 #24 Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood
    #12 Single dads rock!
    Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood
    14/09/2016 #23 Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood
    #15 16 years is crazy. Sorry to hear that.
    Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood
    14/09/2016 #22 Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood
    #11 Thank you @Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman. First the book, then Hollywood.
    Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood
    14/09/2016 #21 Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood
    #20 #oneinamillion
    Michael D. Davis
    13/09/2016 #20 Michael D. Davis
    A great read @Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood . We ought to team up. Of course I've been married for 40 years to the same wonderful woman. What makes her wonderful? She puts up with me!
    Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood
    13/09/2016 #19 Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood
    #16 That is assuming your soon-to-be-ex is willing to do mediation. Many times they just want you destroyed.
  16. ProducerJohn White, MBA

    John White, MBA

    03/05/2016
    A Father Should Be Great
    A Father Should Be GreatJohn White shares his thoughts on the qualities that make a dad โ€œgreat.โ€โ€”โ€œAnd all of your words fall flat. I made something of myself and now you want to come back. But your love, it isnโ€™t free, it has to be earned. Back then I didnโ€™t have anything...
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    debasish majumder
    12/09/2016 #23 debasish majumder
    Great post @John White, MBA. mother bear the child in her womb and to become ideal father, it is hard, as he has to act accordingly to become an axiom to be followed. nice post indeed! thank you for sharing the post.
    Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    12/09/2016 #22 Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    Love this story by @John White, MBA
    Vincent Andrew
    24/06/2016 #21 Vincent Andrew
    "A great dad is a difference maker. He realizes that his work is never done. He knows that his job is often thankless and he is at peace with that. A great dad raises well-adjusted children." Yes absolutely I can relate with this. Thanks @John White, MBA View more
    "A great dad is a difference maker. He realizes that his work is never done. He knows that his job is often thankless and he is at peace with that. A great dad raises well-adjusted children." Yes absolutely I can relate with this. Thanks @John White, MBA for sharing this. Close
    Donna-Luisa Eversley
    24/06/2016 #19 Donna-Luisa Eversley
    Great post @John White, MBA... think all parents should aspire for being the greatest they can be...a human condition of love... inspired!
    Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    22/06/2016 #18 Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    dont get it.. hit enter before I was done.
    Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    22/06/2016 #17 Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    #16 @John White, MBA it will be a 'work in progress' for life. I just had this talk with my daughter 2 nights ago. No one gave us a handbook on how to be excellent parents and all we can do is our best. I told my daughter I hope the good I've don't certainly outweighs the negatives. And to remember we are all human, humans ere but loving parents learn from their mistakes and move forward. My kids are grown and there are times they still don't
    John White, MBA
    22/06/2016 #16 John White, MBA
    #8 Thank you, @Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman. My parenting is a work in progress. I usually just lead with the heart.
    Jason Attar
    22/06/2016 #15 Jason Attar
    Thank you for posting this article. I can relate...
    Don ๐Ÿ Kerr
    22/06/2016 #14 Don ๐Ÿ Kerr
    @John White, MBA Thought provoking again. I didn't become a dad 'til my mid-50s. As a friend just recently said, sometimes you play well on the front nine and sometimes on the back nine. Part of the reason I didn't have kids the first go 'round was because my adopted father was aloof, remote, cold, domineering, and, well...'nuff said. When I took the plunge I swore to try to be better than he was on many fronts while taking from him some of the good that I managed to mine. At this point, I am doing OK. I get the rudimentary "You're the worst dad in the history of mankind" comments but I view them as a badge of competence and honour. What I work on most of all now, probably because I could slip into grumpy old man territory, is being patient and understanding that my boys relentless curiosity and quest to learn will be annoying at times. A good dad never loses his ability to recapture his sense of wonder and in so doing help his kids grow their whole brain and live life fully. Thanks again for this post. I needed it today on day three of summer vacation where I am operating as Camp Dad!
    Divyakant Mishra
    22/06/2016 #13 Divyakant Mishra
    Father must Teach How to Deal With Human Material in addition to Millions of other Materials.ThanQ.
    Divyakant Mishra
    22/06/2016 #12 Divyakant Mishra
    There is Nothing like Part Time Job Everything is a Full Time Job.
    David B. Grinberg
    22/06/2016 #11 David B. Grinberg
    You did it again, @John White, MBA! Belated kudos on another awesome read filled with important insights. I shared with the "College" group (51K) here on beBee. Keep up the awesome!
    Anees Zaidi
    20/06/2016 #10 Anees Zaidi
    "My father didn't tell me how to live; he lived, and let me watch him do it." - Clarence Budington Kelland. My father did the same. Thanks @John White, MBA for your lovely post.
    ๐Ÿ Fatima Williams
    19/06/2016 #9 ๐Ÿ Fatima Williams
    You must be every kids dream dad. Keep rocking @John White, MBA
    Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman
    19/06/2016 #8 Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman
    I enjoyed your story @John White, MBA. I imagine you to be a terrific dad as you seem to dedicate yourself to making your life and those lives around you more meaningful.
    Milos Djukic
    05/05/2016 #7 Anonymous
    Thank you @Diane Schultz!
    Diane Schultz
    05/05/2016 #6 Diane Schultz
    My Dad was an honorable, loving man, who worked multiple jobs to support his family. He taught me about true love because he dated my Mom for a year while she fought polio and paralysis. He whistled, sang and played a harmonica. He made our Halloween costunes and made sure we had new clothes for at least Christmas. He designed and built doll beds and our swingset play house amongst other things. Dad gave us magic shows at birthday oartues, always learning new ones. Dad taught us to listen to birds chirping and I feel the cardinal in my tree is Dad visiting. My Dad loved us unconditionally and cherished my Mom. He lived in extreme pain and endured severe illnesses but he oersevered. He taught us to keep family together. He read to us and encouraged us to learn forever. He laughed with a mischievious twinkle in his eyes and you knew firecrackers were going off sometime during July 4th..Above all else, he taught us to count our blessings and honor/praise God. He engrained in us to show empathy and grace to all. Not a day goes by that I do not recall his vslues, lessons and sayings. This is what made my Dad so great.
    John White, MBA
    05/05/2016 #5 John White, MBA
    #4 Thank you @Julie Hickman. @Milos Djukic you are great too!!
    Milos Djukic
    05/05/2016 #3 Anonymous
    @John White, MBA, you are great...
    Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    04/05/2016 #2 Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    I really enjoyed this story @John White, MBA!
  17. Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood
    Don't Ever Shame Your Child - My rant for today!
    Don't Ever Shame Your Child
    Don't Ever Shame Your Child Matt has created The Man-Up Project to help men navigate their lives in a way that is healthier, happier and more fulfilling: Whether you are a single dude,...
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    Praveen Raj Gullepalli
    07/09/2016 #2 Praveen Raj Gullepalli
    Wonderful piece of advice Matt! That came straight from the heart. Thanks for the share. I feel bad already wondering if i ever did that without being aware...next one better be Step 1 on disciplining them without bringing it on! ;)
    Mamen ๐Ÿ Delgado
    07/09/2016 #1 Mamen ๐Ÿ Delgado
    Love it!! You are so GREAT @Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood!!!
  18. Javier ๐Ÿ beBee
    Thanks @Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood for our American mobile 4G phones ! Javier ๐Ÿ beBee
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    Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    07/09/2016 #2 Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    Very nice!!
    Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood
    07/09/2016 #1 Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood
    Without phones, how could we make important business decisions, like where to go to dinner?
  19. Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood
    Hope you had a great weekend. Let's start the week with some Man-Up Project talk: this time a dad called in, and we discuss: How to be a Good Father when Your Kids Challenge You?
    Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood
    The Man-Up Project Episode 8: How to be a Good Father when Your Kids Challenge You?
    msweetwood.com In this podcast, I am talking with a dad who is going through some rough time. We talk about how to stay โ€“ can we stay? โ€“ A good father when our kids challenge us greatly. And whatโ€™s the take home...
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  20. Josรฉ Jordรกn de Urrรญes
    Estaremos hartos de ver mensajes como este en la web... pero esta claro que una buena actitud y tener perseverancia en la vida es la clave para triunfar. Josรฉ Jordรกn de Urrรญes
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    Bill Stankiewicz, ๐Ÿ Brand Ambassador
    09/09/2016 #8 Bill Stankiewicz, ๐Ÿ Brand Ambassador
    A free throw out to all of our Bees to think about this evening. regards, Bill Stankiewicz
    Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood
    03/09/2016 #6 Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood
    #5 He was such a competitor, He didn't need a calulator. Every time he missed the memory remained so he knew to try harder.
    Mamen ๐Ÿ Delgado
    02/09/2016 #4 Mamen ๐Ÿ Delgado
    No doubt it is a question of attitude!!!
    Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood
    02/09/2016 #3 Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood
    That's the one I was talking about! Great find!
    Josรฉ Jordรกn de Urrรญes
    02/09/2016 #1 Josรฉ Jordรกn de Urrรญes
    Weโ€™re probably sick of seeing messages like this on the Internetโ€ฆ. but having a good attitude and perseverance in life are crucial keys to succeed in life.
  21. Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood
    I could get use to this working from Madrid thing. #beBee Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood
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    Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood
    02/09/2016 #4 Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood
    #1 you bet! And soon for our first live buzz.
    Marie Hoffman
    01/09/2016 #3 Marie Hoffman
    Good for you, Matt!
    Javier ๐Ÿ beBee
    01/09/2016 #1 Javier ๐Ÿ beBee
    great pic ! the next one will be..... a live buzz ??? :-)
  22. Juan Imaz

    Juan Imaz

    30/08/2016
    @Josรฉ Jordรกn de Urrรญes @Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood @Javier ๐Ÿ beBee and me in Club Perta de Hierro , Madrid Juan Imaz
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    Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood
    30/08/2016 #2 Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood
    If I had hair, I would be just as tall.
    Javier ๐Ÿ beBee
    30/08/2016 #1 Javier ๐Ÿ beBee
    Great place better friends best social network
  23. ProducerMatt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood
    The Man-Up Project Supports Men Facing Family Challenges
    The Man-Up Project Supports Men Facing Family ChallengesLast weekend I talked on the Life & Living with Joanna Gagis about my organization, The Man-Up Project (join the hive here). It supports men through some of lifeโ€™s biggest challenges, including preparing for divorce and how to handle being a...
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    David B. Grinberg
    25/08/2016 #1 David B. Grinberg
    Kudos on your involvement with this critically important effort @Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood. Your work is impressive and admirable!
  24. Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood
    My rant for today, from The Man Up Project. Your input, as always, is welcome!
    The Way You Treat Your Children
    The Way You Treat Your Children Matt has created The Man-Up Project to help men navigate their lives in a way that is healthier, happier and more fulfilling: Whether you are a single dude,...
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  25. ProducerMatt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood
    How Male Bonding Builds Better Business
    How Male Bonding Builds Better BusinessPublished on The Good Men Project 8/20/16One meeting I had last week had a surprisingly different flow.My company is called beBee.com. It is an 18-month old professional social network (think LinkedIn on steroids), and is looking for more investors...
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    Barki Mustapha GSCE
    29/10/2016 #31 Barki Mustapha GSCE
    Great to be here
    God bless u always
    Robert Cormack
    28/10/2016 #30 Robert Cormack
    I've seen this work in a similar environment, Matt. It's called a bar, and we don't care a smidge about race, creed, color or political affiliations. We share our lives, our concerns, our hopes and fears, all of which has a freeing effect, consummated by each arguing over who should pick up the bill. Just kidding. It's been so long since I've been in a bar, but I'd like to think we built the path for bonding in the boardroom. Men do get it, even if women think we're trogs.
    Robby Love
    26/08/2016 #28 Robby Love
    What a excellent suggestion
    Vincent Andrew
    24/08/2016 #26 Vincent Andrew
    "From now on, when I hold business meetings (even if there are only men in the room), I am going to insist we begin by sharing something personal or interesting about ourselves. It really does build better business โ€“ and I will admit it, it feels good." Interesting idea. Worth a try to see what the effects may be. Thanks for sharing this @Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood.
    Anees Zaidi
    24/08/2016 #25 Anees Zaidi
    Great insight @Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood.
    Michael Dowling
    24/08/2016 #24 Michael Dowling
    @Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood - nice peek into the world of investment business...and the human interaction. You need to know your client, and the client needs to know you. Thanks for the share!
    Jim Murray
    23/08/2016 #23 Jim Murray
    Interesting insight. @Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood. In my advertising agency career I was in a lot of meeting like the one you described (a while ago now) and things never went like that. You tended to find out of about what people were like by their interests, sports, boating, shooting, golf etc. People seldom got personal and in hindsight, I think a lot of those meeting might have gone better, or at least more comfortably, if they had been like the one you just described. It's funny though because whenever I met with a creative director in a job interview situation, the conversation was almost 100% personal. Guess creative people are just nosier.
    Mamen ๐Ÿ Delgado
    23/08/2016 #21 Mamen ๐Ÿ Delgado
    Love that gentleman from the investment firm!! He is a beBee Bee, and probably by now he already knows it... ;) Great experience @Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood, thanks so much for sharing it, so you are not the only one who has learned how to hold your next business meeting. Wish you the best!!! And kudos to you about your family story. All my love!
    Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    23/08/2016 #19 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    #13 After reading through the comments, yours is exactly where I started, too, @Mark Tillman Davis. You bring up excellent points that apply to a huge population of men, deserving of validation of course! I'm not a man, but I've been the only woman in a Conference Room full of male doctors thousands of times....and some of my best friends have always been men. Back in the day, I totally 'get' that a "man was a man" concept. But...today, the child isn't there just to be seen and not heard...parenting is not "Just do what I said." "BeCauSe I SaiD sO!" kinda thing. I'm raising my third generation of kids (no grandkids, humph!) so I've had my finger on the pulse. I think men should be men, and be the head of the family ~ testosterone wins out! Without going too extreme on what is presented, I'm thinking it may be better to look at this interaction more as 'mentoring' or 'parenting.' Because @Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood is a single Dad. I baked my Dad Mother's Day cakes, to honor him as both a mother and father. So perhaps @Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood, you are using that skill set here, not the 'crying mascara' 'drama' or talk of 'minutia' or gossip or blabber. Useful stuff. I'm thinking that is the angle. Matt? Being a single Dad has to matter.
    Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    23/08/2016 #18 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    I was a bit hindered at a discussion of male bonding instinctually (after working with primarily surgeons for eons and ions)...but here is my take, which took a full-on turn: you nurture your children (honors for being a single parent~so was my Dad); the first man nurtured you; then everyone nurtured one another & that's what women do, by nature. So I'm thinking that women:emotion is really women:nurture. And are we parenting/mentoring/teaching leaders to be leaders during these business meetings? I'd say, "Yes." So I'm Sharing to 'Parenting Hives." And look what you've done! Taught men about meetings and also about parenting and having families! You did it. You do it. Congrats!
    Alexa Steele
    23/08/2016 #17 Alexa Steele
    So you all developed an affinity for one another? By taking an interest in your potential business partners as human beings first? This investment firm sounds like a really good match for beBee!
    David B. Grinberg
    23/08/2016 #16 David B. Grinberg
    Exemplary advice as usual, @Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood. Why am I not surprised. Good luck with everything in the Big Apple. I'll let you know when I visit NY.
    Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    22/08/2016 #15 Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    Excellent article @Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood. Thanks for tagging me. You wrote, "Everyone took turns sharing about themselves. The whole dynamic in the room changed. It was one of those moments you will remember long after the business part is forgotten." Helps to break the ice and really get to know others on another level.
    mohammed khalaf
    22/08/2016 #14 mohammed khalaf
    All savvy employers should know by now that providing equal opportunities to people simply makes good business sense in the 21st century economy. However, it appears that some CEOs and executive leaders haven't gotten the message.
    Mark Tillman Davis
    22/08/2016 #13 Mark Tillman Davis
    I have spent my entire adult life associated with men of "traditional" masculinity. These men would view the author's concept of "enlightened masculinity" as what we refer to as the feminization of men. We "Neanderthals" don't spend much time talking to each other about our feelings or sharing. We talk smack. We cuss. We use the "f" word like a comma. We don't give a thought to each others race or ethinicity or cultural background. It doesn't matter. What we have shared are difficult times in harsh environments. Life and death stuff. I would trust these men with my life, my wallet and my family.
    My father and grandfathers weren't big "sharers" either. They taught me my role as a man. Do the right thing in the right way for the reasons because that's what men do...and when you don't, be prepared for consequences. I idolize them and the men of their generations. Bonding between men happens as result of genuine experiences; not from an announcement that "at this point in the meeting, we're gonna' share."
    Javier ๐Ÿ beBee
    22/08/2016 #12 Javier ๐Ÿ beBee
    ๐Ÿ๐Ÿ๐Ÿ๐Ÿ bzzzzzzzz
    Paul "Pablo" Croubalian
    22/08/2016 #11 Paul "Pablo" Croubalian
    #10 LOL Any time, my friend, any time.
    Javier ๐Ÿ beBee
    22/08/2016 #10 Javier ๐Ÿ beBee
    #8 LOL my first flight to Canada is going to be to meet Pablo. After some drink let's talk about hives hahaha
    Zachary Ostin
    22/08/2016 #9 Zachary Ostin
    Love this post @Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood. We need each other more than we think.
    Paul "Pablo" Croubalian
    22/08/2016 #8 Paul "Pablo" Croubalian
    #7 Yes, it sounds like those brokers did their homework
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