- Producer14/11/2017Happy Birthday Dada! The sadness is almost not there; understanding and knowledge dawned!Today I couldn't help recollecting and smiling at the happy moments spent with my Dad. The last outing we had was a trip to a famous church "The Basilica of Our Lady of Good Healthof Velankanni" down south of India, a city called Nagapattinam. The...
- Producer05/09/2017You ask me........You ask me, and I would pen a poem on you the most revered on this planet. You ask me, and I would write a narrative on your life. The most exquisite that no one would have heard. O my progenitor. You would have asked for the most precious gift...
Comments07/09/2017 #42 Tausif Mundrawala#41 Thank you for your wonderful comment my friend @Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.07/09/2017 #41 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.awe so sweet @Tausif Mundrawala love it07/09/2017 #38 Tausif Mundrawala#33 First of all many many happy returns of the day to an angelic soul. Recently I had put off an idea of celebrating my mom's birthday as we were discussing about her special day. But then I realize that I should celebrate that day in order to keep her memories alive. Yes of course, you are my friend and you have consoled me and supported me during a difficult phase. They were happy that I am connected with you.
God bless you always and your sister was privileged enough to have you, my friend @Lisa Vanderburg07/09/2017 #35 Tausif Mundrawala#28 Life seemed impossible after she departed this world but time is the best healer of all griefs. You made a very powerful statement in your comment stating about her wishes and desire about me. Thank you so much for all your support, my friend @Deb 🐝 Helfrich07/09/2017 #33 Lisa Vanderburg#24 My dear @Tausif Mundrawala, I am so deeply touched that even through you and your families grief you still reach out to console and remember someone else that you've never even seen; that's pure love and I am humbled. It's my sister's birthday today and she's still on facebook so I left her a cake and a message :)
Your wonderful mother would be so proud to have seen her son rise up out of his grief to extend a helping hand. God bless you, sweet and wonderful man!07/09/2017 #28 Deb 🐝 Helfrich@Tausif Mundrawala, I was moved to read these words many times. The ways in which you have expressed your feelings highlights the love you shared with your mother and the legacy of her precious spirit that will live on in you for many years to come. I know that moving on will prove challenging in some ways. But remember, proudly, how she brought you to life, because that was her dream, her wish, her desire - for you to experience the joys of being alive.06/09/2017 #24 Tausif Mundrawala#20 Your buzz which was dedicated to your sister still resonates with me well especially the quote of Khalil Gibran. I have shared that story with my family and they have asked me to relay the message of their deepest condolences to you and your family. However hard I may try I can't remove her from memory as she was the vital part of me.
Thank you so much for your kind support as you were one among those who consoled me during this difficult phase of my life. Thank you once again, my friend @Lisa Vanderburg06/09/2017 #23 Tausif Mundrawala#19 Thank you so much for your kind words my friend. I have seen people ignoring their parents just due to some misunderstandings with their spouses. I reminded them that they are losing the most precious time which should be spent with their parents. Only those who know the value of this relation would shed tears. Thank you so much for support my friend, @Pascal Derrien06/09/2017 #22 Tausif Mundrawala#18 My sister kept a whole bunch of photos in my room. I begin my day while having a look at them. It's same with me that before smiling I start to cry. I keep asking her, 'Mama why you left?'. Yes she was a wonderful woman. She was an exception among many. In the company of women she never chatted or back bited anyone. In fact she was more interested in watching documentaries as if she was present there. She loved animals and hated the ones who hurted them.
Am glad that you liked this buzz. Once again thank you so much for consoling me at the time when I needed a friend like you, @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
- Producer30/08/2017The Tides of EmotionsIt's been a while since I've written a buzz. I feel like I've been a bit frozen in time lately. It's taken a lot of self-reflection to understand why it is I've felt this way. Before you read on, please let me warn you this blog will contain the...
Comments02/10/2017 #60 Lisa VanderburgIn respect and a bit of trepidation I comment, dear @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher; just found this (just found this hive too) and part of me doesn't want to open wounds. But I know full well, those tender spots stay always - for you, for @Tausif Mundrawala.
I'm very blessed to read your love-filled account; your mother's dignity lay in that bed, but on the inside of her - that's what I choose to believe...how else could she have sufficient control to wait? The process of dying is an awful right of passage to watch, but I feel that the soul of the passing are graced with peace for the most part; at least in the end. You are always the best of daughters.04/09/2017 #58 Anonymouswhat a lovely poem..thank you @Puneet Srivastava I always try to remember when I get sad, that they would not want me to be sad, they left together (how they wanted to) and they are no longer in pain here. I never say they died..seems so harsh (even tho true)..I say they got their wings. In my mind's eye...that is much more accepting.04/09/2017 #56 Puneet SrivastavaO' Death, why are you so difficult?
And if you are a mere transformer,
Then why so many bleeding hearts,
you leave behind with your action?
Come clean for once and always after;
or else don't blame us for seeing you
as a tormenting monster.
To all you friends with prayers of peace, courage, love & acceptance.
@Lisa 🐝 Gallagher @Tausif Mundrawala @🐝 Fatima G. Williams @Gloria 🐝 🐾 💫 ☕ (Glo) Ochoa @Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.04/09/2017 #54 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#53 I'm sorry you still feel such a loss when your dad comes to mind @🐝 Fatima G. Williams. As they say, it can come in waves and the pain is real. Many times I feel thankful I can still feel because it reminds me although she's gone, she will always live in my heart and the same with your father. That is something no one can take from us, our precious memories. At times I too, feel as though I could have valued the many times I had with my mom but took for granted. I think that is not uncommon so don't be hard on yourself. Until we face the idea of losing a loved one I think it's easy to take those we love for granted (unintentionally). The good thing, your heart comes from a place of love and compassion and I'm sure you dad always felt that from you. I'm sure he never felt taken for granted. As a parent myself with grown children, I know their lives have taken their own paths now but I also know that they love me unconditionally, faults and all.
You are making a difference in this world and I bet your dad always knew you would and you probably were doing that before he passed too in many ways you weren't even aware of. Don't be hard on yourself but remember, it's OKAY to feel what you need. I lost my father when I was 10 yrs old and there are times I still feel like I need him, I cry for a minute and then I talk to him. Joels' comment was great and made so much sense!03/09/2017 #53 🐝 Fatima G. WilliamsDear dear Lisa a big HUG to you. I always told you, 'You are a champion and you are unique. It's different for each of us like Pascal said. Even to this minute tears come streaming down just mentioning my dad's absence in my life, a feeling in my chest, a lump in my throat. No-one truly understands, it's our own heart, at its own pace, learning to embrace, value and be thankful for their presence on earth. It's like they take a piece of us that we don't really need anymore. Like for me it was not valuing the time I had with him. In a way the lesson he taught me to treasure every minute I have with every person I know and be thankful for every blessing I receive and to be generous with love to all people like he always did.
I love what Joel said "So all we can do is continue the journey of life long learning and navigating the changes along its path realizing that in our experiences, relationships, associations, interactions and just being human we truly benefit and grow from stories like yours. That despite the challenges and changes along the way, in the end, we can and will find our way home."
Sending you loads of love and happiness to fill that beautiful heart of yours.01/09/2017 #48 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#45 Great quote by Hugh Prather, @Joel Anderson, and so true! I like ( I think) the idea that we can sense our way home. Possibly that's the 3/4's of the journey, being alive enough to keep those senses open, so we can 'sense' our way home as well. Somehow we arrived here (our souls), we sensed our way here or did we choose? I always wonder about that. I'd like to read the book, it sounds interesting.
Sending you good thoughts, I know this has been a tough time for you Joel.01/09/2017 #47 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#43 I'm really glad the video resonated @Tausif Mundrawala. I have found things like that can be tough to listen to but the more we listen, the more we may shed tears and clear our heads as well. Tears are healing and yes, I truly empathize with you. I know how much you loved your dear mom. Still sending good thoughts your way!01/09/2017 #46 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#42 @Louise Smith, thanks! I'm so happy I'm out of the anger phase. I think that in some ways was the worst. I'm finally able to feel warm feelings and the grief has been slowly lifting. I'm so thankful that I had a mother that I will always feel deep love towards.31/08/2017 #45 Joel Anderson#30 @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher One interesting journey indeed. "Just when I think I have learned the way to live, life changes." Hugh Prather.
In the 20th Anniversary introduction to his book Notes to Myself: My Struggle to Become Human (*not an endorsement--just a reflection*), he makes this comment about progress: "In our hearts, we can all sense the way home..."
So all we can do is continue the journey of life long learning and navigating the changes along its path realizing that in our experiences, relationships, associations, interactions and just being human we truly benefit and grow from stories like yours. That despite the challenges and changes along the way, in the end, we can and will find our way home. (Spiritually, Physically, Metaphysically, Cosmically, or in just living the moments we are given).
In trying to find the truth of my own path, I find comfort in knowing that there are others on the same quest. I am me, You are You, and We are We. Keep making a difference Lisa: one person, one step at a time. Thank you again.31/08/2017 #43 Tausif Mundrawala#34 You are such a wonderful friend of mine to have dedicated the last video to the angelic soul of my mom. I would like everyone to know how your words acted as a balm on the wound which I thought would never go away. I am planning to pen a buzz on a subject which I would definitely tag all my friends here. What else could one ask from a friend who has dedicated a wonderful piece to my mom. You had been through those experiences where you could empathize with me. Hats off to our moms who had been through an unimaginable pain. They never let us know what they felt.
How could I thank you enough, my friend @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher31/08/2017 #42 Louise Smith@Lisa 🐝 Gallagher By dealing with the inescapable even though you passed through denial and anger, you are a stronger person. a braver person, a more understanding person. Your Mother is proud of you ! People without real compassion criticise and fall away. Do not concern yourself with them. Instead focus on the good memories, the funny stories, the dedication of your Mother as you knew her better than they did. You have learnt something about yourself that they will never know or even consider possible. Your Mother did a good job nurturing and is still teaching you. Look into your heart and know you are worthy.
- Producer27/08/2017Against All OddsMy mother, Ida Jacobovici (of blessed memory), passed away on August 17th at the age of 97. She was too young to die. I am grateful to be able to say that my mother lived a full life to her last breath. But that was the only way she knew how...
Comments09/09/2017 #85 Susan 🐝 Rooks, the Grammar GoddessThe honorific "May the memory of the righteous be a blessing" is used after the names of holy rabbis and other holy people, from Proverbs 10:7. In Hebrew transliteration: "zekher tzadik livrakha" and in Hebrew: "זכר צדיק לברכה." The English abbreviation commonly used is “ZT"L” and in Hebrew, "זצ״ל" is used.
And it dos sound, @Sara Jacobovici, that her memory is indeed for a blessing. Lucky you to have two parents you obviously adored and who adored you.
Zekher tzadik livrakha, indeed.01/09/2017 #82 Deb🐝 Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBeeWhat a wonderful story you have written to honor your Mother. You are very blessed to have had her as your inspiration. Sending you much love at this time of loss. As you say. " To honor her, I will continue to live my life to its fullest. " From what I see, you are living and contributing to life and others with your wonderful sense of being which I can feel through your words. It was wonderful to speak with you some time ago.28/08/2017 #70 Jan 🐝 BarbosaEvery time I look at these old photos I cant stop wondering... What they were thinking at the time... And if they ever thought of the everlasting impression that photo would do.. Long after the time of our lives... Sorry For Your Loss... Don't know how I will be able to withstand when it happens to me.
- Producer19/08/2017I Never Sang For My Father.The title for this piece is attributed to Robert Anderson who wrote the melancholy play of the same title. I buried my father a few years ago. Buried is perhaps too loose a term as his body had already been reduced to ashes by the time...
Comments20/08/2017 #38 Jerry FletcherPaul, There is a finality to putting your father to rest. Mine passed last year and was interred in a mausoleum. The casting of your Dad's ashes in a favored spot seems to me a better ceremony than all the pomp funeral directors try to muster. I hope you can carry that memory with you including the bit of ash that settled on an eyebrow. Thank you for a truly touching story. JLF19/08/2017 #31 Pamela 🐝 WilliamsWhat a beautiful piece Paul. I loved every word. I understand your father's wishes, they are my own. It has nothing to do with those left behind, it had everything to do with who he was. I've never desired to be center of attention, in any manner, why should this change in death? Shouldn't how a person chooses to be 'sent off' be about that person? Isn't that the best way to honor how they chose to live their life?
I too will be cremated Immediately, no fanfare, no wake, no 'viewing' (a horrible horrible event if you ask me). There are funds to fly my daughter and her mate to the southwest where they will rent a motorcycle, go to the middle of the desert, open that plastic bag and let what is left of me fly in the wind behind them. I will become a part of the landscape I loved as a child.
I've walked through graveyards and looked at all the gravestones aged through the years and thought; Why? Does any of those lying there for decades receive a visit any more? Ashes to ashes.
He's now swimming with the fishes he pursued. So, so appropriate!19/08/2017 #28 CityVP 🐝 Manjit#19 First of all @Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee you are remarkable and yours is not a chip-butty hot dog consuming telly watching beer guzzling fart and sleep life, it is one that is actively fighting for the rights of people, one that is socially conscious and one that has endured the difficult side of existence.
During life if we don't have the end-of-life conversation then we should not be surprised about the surprises of death. One of those surprises of death is what that person actually did for you, suddenly you find responsibilities that the deceased carried but that loved ones were oblivious to. Thus the more we do for others when we are alive, the greater the hole we can leave behind when those people realize that AFTER we die. If that hand off is not discussed before the end-of-life, that is a greater burden than the grief that accompanies death that was put out of mind during the living years.
People do face their own mortality in short reverences during a funeral, because even if we feel that we are attending for the loved ones, that piece of uncomfortable mortality is passing through everybody's head and it does that because we leave these things as an undiscussable or we are frightened or superstitious about tempting fate.
What I love about my mother is that she has the death conversation, but she also has the death planning and that goes all the way to who is in and out during a wedding, because she anticipates the burdens before they become a burden. Whereas my dad just cries his eyes out and that who he is. Did he think about us? is not a question that gets us anywhere, we are the ones in the land of the living, we still get to think about us and if he did not think about us, that itself is a wisdom for us, the living.19/08/2017 #21 Ian WeinbergAh @Paul Walters again the masterly strokes of an artist! And so inevitably is the ponderer inspired to reflect under a 'dirty slate sky' as to what it's all about, between the ashes to ashes gap. And so my informed response ... who the heck knows. Just laugh a lot, hug a lot and stay curious!19/08/2017 #19 Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee"It had been his emphatic wish that, upon his death there was to be no funeral or memorial service, no fuss or, as he referred to it, “ simply have me burned and be done with it,” He seemed to have no sympathy for the living or indeed those of us left behind."
"My sister, watching from afar made the remark when the deed was done, saying, “ You have a bit of Dad in your eyebrow.”"
For the first quote, I disagree that he had no sympathy for those left behind. I have made these instructions to my offspring. I do not wish to burden them with the cost. And when life is unremarkable, so should death be.
For the second, it is painful to see such a bonding of life and death, and I feel for you and your sister. In this piece you certainly sang for your father. What was his name?
- Producer03/08/2017Life and death and re-birth.I just read Don Kerr's 'Catherine' buzz, which was so fitting a tribute to a life I never knew - he made me 'feel' as if I did. This was on the tail of Lisa Gallagher's the 'Process of dying....'; in which she pines for (yet understands) her clearly...
Comments05/08/2017 #18 Lisa Vanderburg#13 My sincere acknowledgement of your loss, lovely @Lynne Black is sorrow, as well death affords those we leave behind. No matter my opinion of what is next, it has to be better than this, no? NB: that's not a negative statement, but even if we lived in full mental and physical health, we naturally degrade and increasingly become witness to the weight of the world's pain.05/08/2017 #15 Lisa Vanderburg#11 Hi @Edward Lewellen!! I first cannot escape nor deny the love and loss of your child - that you have learned to breathe again is fittingly profound as a tribute to her.
ooh...another place to get your book - ta! I'll probably get the kindle version, but PLEASE forgive me if I'm tardy as I'm moving house in the next month or so and haven't found a suitable box for my husband; he needs it to hide from ME...eek! :)
It is a joy to converse with you again, dear man! What you said about my sister's last year made her whole life - such joy!05/08/2017 #13 Lynne BlackAfter losing three family members in the last 2 years, I don't think anyone is waiting for death to overcome their life. Death is final and although we hope there is an afterlife, none of us really know. Although I appreciate your Sister enjoying her life, the sadness she experienced her final year, is quite sad.04/08/2017 #11 Edward LewellenLove your thought, @Lisa Vanderburg, "the bond forged in fire, fear and ferocity". Those are words of life. I also like Neil Young's words in his song, Hey, Hey, My My", "It's better to burn out than to fade away". What a great story for your sister to go from a shut-in to really living! If you're interested, my book that our mutual friend @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee mentioned can be found here: https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/54097804/08/2017 #10 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#9 I would love to read your comment if you get the chance to read the book of our friend @Edward Lewellen.
Dear friend @Lisa Vanderburg your reference to my buaa is a new layer of wisdom on the shell of experiences. You know how to express yourself with generosity and sheer kindness. You are a friend.04/08/2017 #9 Lisa Vanderburg#8 My dear @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee. I stand with you in your loss, following your example to honor that pain to hone character, for even the deepest wounds eventually will scar over; it amazes me to think we have come full circle to your buzz https://www.bebee.com/producer/@ali-anani/shells-of-wisdom
Try as I may, I cannot imagine the loss of my child as @Edward Lewellen knows ; I cannot even begin to say anything to convey my sorrow, but I will look out for that book, which I suspect will be more life-affirming than I can conceive! Many thanks my friend, in humility.04/08/2017 #8 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBeeNot only I have a kind mention in your buzz dear @Lisa Vanderburg, nut also I share a similar story. I lost my brother when he was 47 because of brain tumor. Like you do, I remember our great moments together and this is my relief.
I wrote the forward for the book on "The 90-Second Mind Manager" by my friend @Edward Lewellen who also lost his daughter for the same reason. Reading the book relieved me and I strongly recommend it for your readers.03/08/2017 #2 Deb 🐝 Helfrich"If you love them, let them go...." Such a tremendously hard mindstate to get to, but ultimately, really the only choice, as otherwise two people died for the soul of one. But there is no way to help or advise someone else about how to get to this state. Grief and its unfolding is completely individual and complicated, just like the actual relationship we had with the dearly departed.
- Producer03/08/2017"This life has truly been a win." Catherine's last post.Very early on the morning of July 29, 2017 my friend Catherine wrote her last post. Later that day she was gone. Taken so goddamned early. Kate and I met Catherine and her incredible husband Szolt early in our joint travels through the raging...
Comments04/08/2017 #32 David B. GrinbergWhat a moving post, Don. I'm very sorry for the loss of your friend, who sounds like she was a wonderful and courageous person who looked on the bright side. One thing about death is that is should make us all appreciate life a bit more and the importance of being kind and courteous to others -- as we don't always know what they may be experiencing in private.03/08/2017 #15 Ian WeinbergWe can theorize it, philosophize it, rationalize it, do anything to numb it down. But death, especially the death of a young soul is a loss. And so we grieve, which is our lot. No point in making sense out of it at this time. We celebrate their lives, our lives, all lives and carry on. Thanks for the sharing and the inspiring reminder @Don 🐝 Kerr
- Producer21/07/2017A heart full of generosity and love!I hurt and have been hurting and as much I'm finding healing, I never forgave myself for allowing my father to pass away. I was sitting and watching a movie in the living room not knowing he needed my help. Why didn't he call out like he usually...
Comments22/07/2017 #23 Cyndi wilkinsHey soul sister...It's not easy for us gals to say goodbye to our daddies...but you know...he's closer to you now than he's ever been...Just take a look at the gift his passing has given you...
"I choose to love everyone around me as much as I can, as I know there's not much time left with each other."
He's given you wings;-)21/07/2017 #22 Joel AndersonWe all miss moments and opportunities but your message speaks volumes for the perspective of time, understanding, letting go, remembering and knowing that even in those lost moments, those unspoken works, there is a truth to love that outlast the mistakes (real or perceived).
“The greatest use of a life is to spend it on something that will outlast it.”
“Every job is a self-portrait of the person who did it. Autograph your work with excellence.”
--Betty M. Nelson
Walk proud @🐝 Fatima G. Williams and stand tall for a life well lived--apparent, hidden just under the surface and at times totally unseen. An outlasting life of excellence that because of him and your mom lives on in the portrait of you.21/07/2017 #18 Charlene Norman@🐝 Fatima G. Williams When we humans become parents we don't get a manual that tells us how to "parent'. We do the best we can. When our parents get sick and eventually die, we kids don't get the manual that tells us what to do. We do the best we can. When we siblings lose our brothers/sisters at far too tender an age, there is never a manual that tells us what to do. We do the best we can. By all the comments below, you have many friends in the bee community with many wise words who have been shown, told, coached to "do the best we can." You will never lose the pain of losing Dad. It will be with you forever. But you can turn all that pain into joy by focusing only on the goodness of the man and happiness he brought you and others. You can turn your own pain into joy by thinking upon all the gifts that he gave you (the strength, the resilience, the sense of humour and wonder and the huge capacity to share and to love). You can talk to him every day and thank him for what he gave you. He wants you to be blissfully happy and joyful. And to do and be the best that you can. A Huge hug to you my friend.21/07/2017 #17 Tausif MundrawalaI can feel the void left by my progenitor. Losing a parent creates a heartache which could never be healed however strong we become. The fear of losing our loved one kills us and that have been killing me day in and day out. We than start blaming ourselves that where did we fail taking care of them. I faltered because ........ There could be many reasons which could make us inconsolable throughout our life. It needs courage to talk about our grief because bottling up would lead to a dangerous burst.
My deepest condolences to you and your family, my friend, @🐝 Fatima G. Williams21/07/2017 #16 Anonymous@🐝 Fatima G. Williams, This is the post dedicated to my late father published on July 27, 2014 (https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/20140727012813-248021126-writing-and-human-spirit-the-good-the-bad-and-the-ugly). He was a poet and he taught me about many "hidden" things. Original title of the post was: "Writing and Human Spirit, the Good, the Bad and the Ugly". In the end, only one things matter: good - your writing and his spirit. A great person deserves no less: FFF dad.21/07/2017 #13 Harvey LloydDads are a funny bread. Most feel and sense their children deeply, but always they want desperately for them to have the strength to live past them. So they hide their "self" and build their family.
I have two wonderful daughters who love me and would do anything to help. My only wish is to see that they can face the world and find peace and joy within their heart.
For a dad to know that their children will make it based on the knowledge they have passed on is a triumph that can not be described.
Prove dads thoughts right, take what he has given and build your life and keep in mind the torch he passed is now your responsibility to pass to the next. From what i have read here your dad was an awesome person and passed a torch that shines brightly, and aptly named @🐝 Fatima G. Williams.21/07/2017 #8 Lyon BraveI have two fathers and Jhonny died next to my mother in bed and im pretty sure if he could choose his death thats how he would of wanted it. I am sure your father knew you loved him. It sounds like you were very active in his life. I know people who dont see thei parents for years. They come after the funeral and pawn their stuff, so having guilt because he didnt see you get married or.because you didnt spend enough time with him is just not how you should look back on your time togethet. Your name is Fatima. The fathers favorite daughter. I am sure you were loved and loved. Now i think all you can do is tell your children wonderful bedtime stories about your dada when you make your own family.21/07/2017 #7 Ian WeinbergThanks @🐝 Fatima G. Williams for reminding us of our humanness with all its limitations. We control very little after all. We are judged therefore only on our best intentions. Celebrate and rejoice the good times and cherish everything that contributes to increasing awareness. No blame, no guilt and no regret. But grieve we will because this is our lot. Feel your loss. Wish you well.21/07/2017 #6 Brigette HyacinthThis is so deep and touching. Fatima, don't beat up yourself with, "If Only." You can't change the past and he knew you loved him. I am sorry for how hard his passing has been on you and your family. There are many nights when the pain is so great and you cry yourself to sleep. You would give anything to see them, talk to them, hug them just one more time. Death is the hardest thing to deal with and it never gets easier. There is nothing anyone could have done. When our hourglass is full we must leave this earth. I read many posts but this is one that will remain with me. Thanks for the remainder and for this wonderful tribute of your father. ((Hugs)) Brigette21/07/2017 #4 David B. GrinbergThank you, Fatima, for this profoundly poignant post. It takes real guts and fortitude for a writer to open up the way you did by spilling their heart out on the page. You did this with elegance and grace, Fatima, which is admirable and impressive.
I likewise lost my father a few years ago. And although the circumstances were different than your situation, I also think about my dad every day. Sometimes, I feel as if he's still around and I could just pick up the phone and call him, or drive over and visit.
Every person who loses a loved one will always carry a hole in their heart reserved for that person, especially a parent or close relative. You deserve accolades, Fatima, for honoring your father by keeping his memory alive internally and externally. And that's something no one can ever take away. I feel for you...
- Producer03/04/2017On this day... a choice"This was the day without realising it that I began to choose to care for Mum when she needed care full time in her home. Care with love, rather than duty. Care with presence of being, rather than being physically present and mentally somewhere...
Comments05/04/2017 #21 🐝 Fatima G. Williams#17 Yes @Deb🐝 Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee like the very many things adapted from the west. Nuclear families are becoming a fashion now in India. Even when my dad wanted to an old age home not to bother us I wouldn't let him not as long as I was alive. If he were still here I would have the applied the lessons - value of time in him. I was young and carefree and even though I never spent much time with him ( work, friends,boyfriend were more important at that time) I loved him alot and he knew that I guess. But loneliness kills the old faster than their sicknesses and I am witness to that. The amount of trips to the coffee shops with my boyfriend instead it could have been my dad. I now prefer the latter now. Family is the biggest gift one can have in the world. Being miles away from them my heart beats for each of them.05/04/2017 #19 Deb🐝 Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee#12 @Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee your sons may not be caretakers now. Who knows how your relationship may change over time. And then many people do not have children today, and we have friends. Sending you much love today @Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee05/04/2017 #18 Deb🐝 Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee#13 @Lisa Vanderburg - no there is so much heartache in families. And when there can be reconciliation it brings much peace. I remember getting to know Mum as if for the first time - coming to accept who she was and who she wasn't, see her pain and her love in a very different way as I cared for her. It was a tough time and there were many special gifts.05/04/2017 #17 Deb🐝 Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee#14 Thanks @🐝 Fatima G. Williams I know in many countries it is still the norm to have young and old all living with each other. I think this is still the case in India. I hope this is renewed in the west as there is so much to gain from being family supporting one another together. Isolation and everyone living on their own has brought many challenges to society.05/04/2017 #16 Deb🐝 Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee#15 I know exactly what you are talking about @Cyndi wilkins And you are still raw with grief and the incredible strain of responsibility of caring for the dying and managing the care and people. It is huge work. It has been 6 years since my Mum passed over, but I still remember the complexity, the frustration, the sadness, the grief, the love, the tenderness, the raw dealing with basic body stuff, the heartache, the stress. In Australia at home care services are improving all the time. I did have some carers coming in and had to manage them like you. And to help me I ended up bringing in someone to live in, she helped me out part time and worked outside part time, in exchange for board and accomodation. She was my lifesaver. Caring for the elderly and the dying is more complicated than caring for a baby. And we are an aging population - who will care?04/04/2017 #15 Cyndi wilkinsI'm still going in and out of processing my recent experience with caring for my dad...Yes, I felt enormous love and made the very best of my time with him...mending fences and hearts along the way....But I also I felt enormous pain and frustration when dealing with the healthcare system here in the US...Which is very sorely lacking when it comes to 'Elder care services...There were many times I felt alone in caring for him at home...Hospice services did not come right away...and even when they did, it certainly wasn't 24/7 assistance...They were wonderful when they were here...but I had to hire very many people to assist with his care as it had become round the clock...and one has to sleep...Like you said, who takes care of the care-giver....In far too many cases, it's no one. Even with all the help, when it was eventually put in place, there was still the managing of all these folks coming and going...Eventually, exhaustion set in for me and I had to put him in a local nursing home...Thankfully, he did not have to stay there very long...RIP dad...Love you....04/04/2017 #13 Lisa VanderburgHow joyous a process of love can be; thank you for this lovely shared experience @Deb🐝 Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee. Like @Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee says, it's not the same for all of us alas - should be, but to love as the unloved is too often the case, sadly.04/04/2017 #12 Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBeeYes--this is such a beautiful thought process. What grace. We should all have offspring treasures like you. My sons are not caretakers. I will die alone. Speaking from that place I hope you know just how special what you did for your mom was.04/04/2017 #7 Deb🐝 Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee#5 All those things we do for others because we just do - if we are carers, nurturers, lovers, homemakers. Like you @Lisa - you cared for your Dad, your siblings, your son. And all of that wonderful care is so needed in society and is still not valued. The skills and capabilities are not valued - and you have an amazing foundation to do what you want in the world now. I remember when my kids grew up and left home, and then I cared for my parents and they passed, all of a sudden there was just me to look after. And there is so much time left to find your dreams and create what you want for yourself and for your ongoing contribution to the world.04/04/2017 #5 Lisa 🐝 GallagherI can certainly relate in some manner. I remember asking my mom if she wanted to take a trip to the Ocean less than a year or so before she passed. She wasn't up to it even though she was still walking, she was too weak and couldn't eat. Beautifully written @Deb🐝 Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee!
- Producer22/03/2017Acts of KindnessOn Friday, March 17, 2017, Marcia Turesky Rooks died. She had lived a wonderful life, and she died just six weeks past her 100th birthday.She was my mother.And while her death was a blessing, as she'd gone rapidly downhill after her momentous...
Comments27/03/2017 #30 🐝 Fatima G. Williams@Susan 🐝 Rooks, the Grammar Goddess My heart goes out to you and your family. I see your Mom was so wonderful that she had such a beautiful funeral with all the family around. Send offs are so hard but the memories are eternal. My prayers for you and your family.23/03/2017 #29 Ken BoddieHere is a poem I wrote last year for another occasion. I hope it brings you some comfort, Susan, as you ponder over your loss in the days and months to come.
Grief never leaves us,
She answers not our why's,
She hugs us like a shadow,
And refuses our goodbyes.
She's there lest we forget,
When our loved ones slip away,
That their spirit lives in what we do,
And everything we say.23/03/2017 #28 Nicole ChardenetSo sorry to hear about your loss, Susan. We have to let go of our parents sooner or later. Fortunately you got to keep yours for a good long time. As I watch my mother (my remaining parent) slowly decline I prepare myself for the eventual outcome. Many condolences to you and your family.23/03/2017 #26 siraj shaik@Susan 🐝 Rooks, the Grammar Goddess sorry for the loss. An Aquarian, indeed she might have been an awesome persona with full of kindness and good acts plus doing out of the ways support to known and unknown. Thou shalt not grieve, we beseech thee O lord' to give thou strength.23/03/2017 #25 Lisa 🐝 GallagherI'm so sorry for your loss @Susan 🐝 Rooks, the Grammar Goddess. This is a great tribute to your mom and family. The irony of your parent's anniversary. I'm going to guess your mom was an awesome woman just like her daughter! It doesn't matter how old we are or how old are mom's are when they pass, we still feel like a child grieving the loss of our moms. Grieve when you must and don't beat yourself up over it when the tears may come flooding. They say tears are healing. I'm happy you had so much time with your mom!23/03/2017 #24 Jared 🐝 WieseSo sorry to hear of your loss, @Susan 🐝 Rooks, the Grammar Goddess. Grateful that everyone came together and helped each other out.
Reminds me of the quote, "They May Forget What You Said, But They Will Never Forget How You Made Them Feel".
This is often attributed to Maya Angelou, but some say it was actually Carl W. Buehner.
Regardless of who said it, perhaps you may reflect on how your mother, Marcia Turesky Rooks, made you and many others feel.23/03/2017 #22 Sarah ElkinsIt is a special study of human nature to observe how people behave at special occasions like weddings, births, and funerals. I'm so glad you had such kindness in your life as you said goodbye to your mother, @Susan 🐝 Rooks, the Grammar Goddess View moreIt is a special study of human nature to observe how people behave at special occasions like weddings, births, and funerals. I'm so glad you had such kindness in your life as you said goodbye to your mother, @Susan 🐝 Rooks, the Grammar Goddess. Thanks for sharing. Close22/03/2017 #13 Cyndi wilkins#12 Yes...He has been reunited with my mom...She passed almost fourteen years ago and not a day went by that he did not mourn her...So I am happy for them both;-) Knowing and believing that makes my heart feel a little lighter.
Sounds like your mom had a wonderful and very full life...Now reunited with her beloved too...May we all be so lucky;-)
Next time you come this way, I'd love to meet for lunch or something...perhaps a walk around Fort Sewall with a stop at the Barnacle for the obligatory lobster roll;-) The summer is so beautiful out here on the edge of nowhere!22/03/2017 #12 Susan 🐝 Rooks, the Grammar Goddess#11 Oh my, @Cyndi wilkins! Who knew? I grew up in Marblehead and left it at 18, returning sporadically when I had to. Gorgeous town, out on the edge of nowhere!
Interesting that you believe your dad chose his date; I will always think my mom tried to do just that, falling just a couple of hours short. But if there's anything to the idea of an afterlife, I know she's with my dad, and your dad is with . . . your mom?
- Producer03/03/2017Stopping DeathI think of so many things when it comes to this topic, but mostly it’s about the death of my Grandmother. I remember her last hours, the last of which I fled. Not because I was fearful, but because I had excuses—okay—maybe I was a little afraid....
Comments04/03/2017 #18 Todd JonesJoyce, I was going to offer that this is your best post yet, but that compliment is only fractionally true. Each of your posts are your best work. Nobody writes consistently from the heart like @Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee View moreJoyce, I was going to offer that this is your best post yet, but that compliment is only fractionally true. Each of your posts are your best work. Nobody writes consistently from the heart like @Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee. You are an absolute master of emotive originality. Nicely done.
I spent the last two month of my father-in-law's life at his side, and know first hand of what you write. The loss of dignity that accompanies the inability to perform the most basic of functions. The drug induced stupors and hallucinations. The slack jawed death rattles. And also the flashes of lucid perspicacity. I recall a moment near the end when I asked him whether I could get him anything, and he responded wryly, "Yeah. A new body. This one is fucked."
The process of diminishing and disappearing from this earth is as painful for family members as it is for the dying. Close04/03/2017 #17 Lisa 🐝 GallagherGreat read @Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee. As I read this I felt a bit of familiarity. My grandmother was 93 when she died and we had a beautiful relationship growing up. I feel bad I wasn't there for her during her last days on this earth. She was in a nursing home, I was only 19 and self-absorbed. I can only hope she understood. I actually didn't know she was dying, it seems many tried to spare us from that word. What a nice tribute to your nana!! I'm glad you had those beautiful moments with her.03/03/2017 #9 🐝 Fatima G. WilliamsA lovely tribute to the lovely Nana.
It matters so much that we are there for them to love them, care for them. Show them we love them.
Love is so pure and priceless and you have done so well @Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee View moreA lovely tribute to the lovely Nana.
It matters so much that we are there for them to love them, care for them. Show them we love them.
Love is so pure and priceless and you have done so well @Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee. Close
- Producer27/02/2017Funeral For A FriendFor Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc....In loving memory of your wonderful friend...Special thanks to 🐝 Fatima Williams...For tagging me on Liesbeth's beautiful tribute in her honor..."The End Note. In The Book Of Life"THE DASH: By...
Comments27/02/2017 #7 🐝 Fatima G. WilliamsPrefect Fractal poem to rehash the life lived so far and the rest yet to be spent.
I wish the dash was an infinity line that never ended. Nevertheless accepting the reality that lies ahead and treasuring the minutes left.
This poem is perfect @Cyndi wilkins Thank you bless your heart.27/02/2017 #2 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.So beautiful @Cyndi wilkins this goes right into the heart27/02/2017 #1 Pamela 🐝 WilliamsLovely Cyndi. A perfect accompaniment to @Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc. beautiful post.
- ProducerThe End Note. In The Book Of Life.Yesterday I attended a funeral. It was a respectful service that truly honored the person exactly as she was. She has lived as a bright example. Always. Throughout her whole life. Always supportive. Helping others. A humble giving hand. She did not...
Comments28/02/2017 #52 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.#43 @Ivette K. Caballero your words are a blessing in every way, thank you for your inspiring comments.28/02/2017 #51 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.#45 @Matt 🐝 Sweetwood we all look forward to your article!!!28/02/2017 #50 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.#47 @Milos Djukic thank you, appreciate your beautiful words, also a form of art.28/02/2017 #49 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.#48 thank you so much @Deb 🐝 Helfrich you are the best.28/02/2017 #48 Deb 🐝 Helfrich"Suppose we find it out right now, we still would have the chance to change direction to create the most fulfilling end note. In our book. It is never too late to be who we really want to be."
Condolences, @Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc. View more"Suppose we find it out right now, we still would have the chance to change direction to create the most fulfilling end note. In our book. It is never too late to be who we really want to be."
Condolences, @Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc. & Congratulations for framing the loss in the most beneficial way. Close28/02/2017 #47 Anonymous@Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc., this is the pure art. Thank you. (A great person deserves no less, always...)27/02/2017 #44 Ivette K. Caballero#24 Matt 🐝 Sweetwood I really like the five courageous actions you listed. I think if we all practice more of those things, we would become better people and we would enhance the quality of our lives and the quality of life of the people we love and care for. Thus, making the world a better place to live in one person at a time. Did you write the story about it?27/02/2017 #43 Ivette K. CaballeroThis is a very inspiring, touching, and thought-provoking story. Thank you Liesbeth for sharing it. It's interesting to hear and see how we react to the death of a person; it seems to make us reflect more about life and not take it for granted and it also seems to bring the more human side in us. How great would it be that we didn't have to wait for these moments to be more caring, more loving, more grateful, more helpful, and more respectful. We need to value our lives and the lives of others too. We are here today and we must cherish it for what it is. A tomorrow is not guaranteed to anyone.27/02/2017 #42 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.#41 thank you @Sara Jacobovici, your words are appreciated!27/02/2017 #41 Sara JacoboviciDear @Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.. I am sorry for your loss. Your post is a wonderful tribute to your friend.27/02/2017 #40 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.#39 oh thanks so much @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher for seeing what truly matters and yes the picture was reflecting that to me. Picture perfect!27/02/2017 #39 Lisa 🐝 GallagherFrom the heart, you wrote @Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.! I hope I have no regrets at the end of my life. I'm sorry for the loss of your friend but it appears you are taking with you the best, her 'sunshine' which did shine down on everyone! I think when many of us lose someone close to us we also hope they had no regrets and if they did, I can only hope they were able to share their regrets and talk through them. I think we realize how precious life is the moment we lose someone precious and even then, it may take time for the message to sink in. I love your photo, it's beautiful and filled with energy! Thanks for tagging me.27/02/2017 #38 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.#31 Thank you @debasish majumder it is wonderful what you are mentioning here.27/02/2017 #37 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.#32 Thank you @Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee27/02/2017 #36 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.#33 Thank you @Hervé Sabattier a precious add.27/02/2017 #35 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.#34 @🐝 Fatima G. Williams your heart is truly beautiful. Your comments are treasured. Thank you.26/02/2017 #34 🐝 Fatima G. Williams@Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc. Thank you and stay awesome forever. Stay blessed and a big hug to you.
Whenever anyone writes a eulogy with so much love it makes me smile just to think how much love that person must have contributed to you that she ended up being known to a person somewhere in the world after her time on earth.
She is probably smiling down with a couple of people I know and believe as angels with some of the lovely people I've come to know through their loved ones on beBee.
You ask how to stop feeding future regrets. The only thing I do now is let everyone I love know, how much I love them and thereby trying to avoid those future regrets.
However I think the lovely @Cyndi wilkins will have something hearty to share with us. Cyndi i hope you don't mind the tag ❤26/02/2017 #33 Hervé SabattierWe have no regrets if we did our best. And we are moving forward for a better life anyway so, why should we have regrets, if we did our best ? Recently, one of my very best friends passed away and I couldn't attend the funerals because I was travelling abroad, far away from the venue. But I wrote and sent my friend's wife this poem: https://www.bebee.com/producer/edit/43011
No regrets in this poem. Only hope. And love.
- Producer23/02/2017Farewell Sweet GirlMY HEART ACHES TODAY...My heart aches today, for my niece died last evening.After a three-year battle with cancer.It was a form of non-Hodgkins lymphoma that generally has an eighty-five percent chance of being cured or driven into remission.But...
Comments24/02/2017 #34 Lynne BlackSo sorry for your difficult loss. When we lose someone close to us, it is hard for us to understand and often come to terms with a loss. I can totally relate to your article as I lost my Sister 15 months ago. Your in my thoughts during this difficult time in your life.24/02/2017 #29 Praveen Raj GullepalliOnly nineteen...such a sad loss..my heartfelt condolences to the family and you dear Phil! Wishes of everlasting peace to the brave departed Soul. Prayers for strength and acceptance to all. Glad she did not allow chemo to disrupt her composure and chose to live her own way at the close.
- Producer18/02/2017The Critical Importance Of Family In Today’s World of WeirdnessAs many of you know I have just lost a part of my immediate family. My brother-in law (sans the in-law), Bob Twidle.Yesterday my sister Sharon, Bob’s wife, came over and picked up my wife Heather who is going to stay with her for a couple of days,...
Comments20/02/2017 #13 CityVP 🐝 Manjit"Because a family is the core energy unit of the universe." That is the greatest single line that any human being can speak and is privileged to know. I was in a hotel in Belgium that faced what was clearly the National Stadium of the Belgium football team and its name was the King Baudouin Stadium. It was just a curiousity that my hotel was opposite it.
It is when I took a walk and there was a tram line next to it, that I saw the station name "Heysel". I never connected the two but now I had realized that this was the Heysel Stadium were so many Italian football fans died. The stadium had been rebuilt and now they called it King Baudouin Stadium. From that moment, the stadium I saw from hotel window had a totally different meaning.
Soccer is a tribal thing, but death brings everything down to brass tacks. There was a European final that should have been a showpiece game but crowd disturbance between Liverpool and Juventus supporters led to a poorly designed stadium becoming a death-trap and many Juventus supporters were crushed to death on that day. It is not as if this tragedy was simply an Italian one, immediately the game of football was immaterial, it was the loved one's lost that were important.
Unfortunately tragedy struck Liverpool supporters years later in a FA Cup match in Hillsborough :
So began a long fight for justice for the Hillsborough tragedy families and a 27 year struggle for truth
They were vindicated but what can never be brought back are the individual family members. It showed to me, that for all we talk about tribal this and social that - each of those lost loved one's mattered and everything else was secondary.
Family matters.18/02/2017 #9 🐝 Fatima G. WilliamsIt’s your tribe and as long as they are together, you know you feel complete.
What a beautiful way to emphasise the importance of family and yes No matter what family comes first and just being with them makes us feel complete. They complete the reason for our existence.
My heart goes out to you @Jim Murray I cannot tell you I know you feel because I believe Noone can ! I know that you are the only comforter to yourself. But I would say that You make beBee a better place for many and you are loved by all.
Praying for your family and you during this difficult time. Much love to all !18/02/2017 #7 David B. GrinbergJim, again please accept my most heartfelt sympathy for your loss. I lost my father several years ago, with whom I had an extremely close lifelong bond. He always took care of me and had my back growing up and even thereafter. Thus, when his health began failing, I moved him -- at his request and my urging -- from the many mediocre hospitals of South Florida to one of the world's best hospital near me. I got him into a special geriatric unit at Johns Hopkins Hospital in Baltimore. Perhaps I'll write about this at length in my own post at some point. But my point here is that, like so many, I know the hollow feeling of loss and feel for you during such a difficult time. Again, please know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers -- and that of so many other bees, I'm sure. God Bless You, Jim. You are a wise man, outstanding writer and communicator, and an overall good soul. In short, YOU make beBee a better place for all. Lastly, I would reiterate what you wrote above for everyone to ponder:
"In today’s ‘divide and conquer’ world there are so many forces working to divide us. Ideologically, by religion, by race, by ethnicity and by ‘have and have not’ standards.
And many people fall prey to these forces, all of which, at their root, are powered by hate and the need to make us dependent on a system and not each other."18/02/2017 #2 Gerald HechtIt's incomprehensibly weird when the death arrives and one sees the chain of family swinging...dangling; all links are vital and when we lose one; things are never gonna be what they were --the (for me) weirdest part in the immediate aftermath are the sounds of people's "well mannered utterances" of condolence...the fact is that it just sucks...and the chain of family is dangling ...and vulnerable.18/02/2017 #1 Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee"This love is the room that’s always there for kids to sleep in. This love is the ride to wherever anybody really needs to go. This love is the bail money, you get by hook or by crook. This love is the feeling you get when your family is all in one place together, just being with each other." So beautifully put... Thanks for your thoughts.
- Producer23/01/2017Time Passages"As I Perceive The Time I Have Left, I Am Turning Inward Even More And Taking A Look At My Trajectory"jesse kaelis"Love what you do and you will find you have all the time in the world." Sara JacoboviciThere are few subjects that capture my interest...
Comments22/02/2017 #23 Cyndi wilkins#22 Thank you @Laura Mikolaitis...Yes, I was given the gift of "precious time" with my dad...as he lay actively dying for almost two weeks...I think perhaps his passing slowly, as painful as it was to watch, was necessary for us BOTH to move forward...him in spirit and me in allowing myself to let him go without completely falling apart. I feel for you that your mom's death was so sudden...not leaving you an opportunity to say the things you may have wanted to say...But remember this...just think of her and she hears you...It's one of the best kept secrets in the world;-)
When you have a moment, you might want to take a peek at this link... https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/frozen-time-cyndi-wilkins?trk=pulse_spock-
It's how my thoughts were weaving in and out of time during my last days with him...and again, thank you for such a heart felt comment. XOXO22/02/2017 #22 Laura MikolaitisWhat a poignant story, @Cyndi wilkins. Thank you for sharing it. You tell it so masterfully and with such love - a wonderful tribute to your dad. As I read through it, I was reminded of my mother's death, which was sudden. I didn't have that chance to say good bye and I never expected that my last words to her that day would be the last words she would hear from me, and me her. I was also reminded of my father-in-law's death where we were able to say good bye. I remember the last night that we visited him. It was late evening and we had all decided to go home and try to get some rest. My father-in-law had been "actively dying" as they called it for almost 8 days. The nurse said to us before we left that she would leave the window open a crack so that his spirit could find its way out if he was ready. The call came at 3 am the next morning that he had passed. I guess his spirit was ready.21/02/2017 #19 Cyndi wilkinsThank you for popping in here @Sara Jacobovici...and also to @Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador for posting it in the "Memory Capsule." This is one of my own personal favorites to put in a memory capsule of my own...I hope one day my daughter finds them all to be hidden treasure maps;-)21/02/2017 #18 Sara JacoboviciDear @Cyndi wilkins, I can't believe I didn't see this when you first posted it. So happy (as a result of @Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador's Hive Talk, I joined Memory Capsule hive and saw this there) to see it now. Let me quote you, "...my thoughts weave in and out of time..." What a tremendous line. Thank you Cyndi, for everything.12/02/2017 #15 Cyndi wilkins#14 @🐝 Fatima G. Williams..." I think of our dad's more as angels." ...Now that certainly qualifies as a "life after"...Don't you think? They are both smiling at us right now...and yours is blowing you a kiss;-)
No more beating yourself up my dear...The time of departure was his to choose...and he would never give up on you. Don't give up on yourself...XO12/02/2017 #14 🐝 Fatima G. WilliamsThank you @Cyndi wilkins for alerting me to this very beautiful tribute for your Dad. He looks very handsome. I guess he's smiling at us now. I don't know if there is an after life but I think they are much less in pain especially when they die sick. I think of our dad's more as angels and till date beat myself up for Not spending more time with my dad while he was sick. He was a very strong man I wonder why he gave up too soon perhaps he needed our support of spending time with him physically or perhaps he was too tired fighting his illness. I have so many unanswered questions I've buried them deep within.
The biggest lesson I learnt from him is fight till the end and ensure you have an audience always for he loved to make the crowds smile. Giving you a big hug with lots of love and a thank you too for sharing your story with us.25/01/2017 #12 Cyndi wilkins#11 " I've had 2 encounters with my dad since he died years ago. One was face to face and we didn't use our mouths to speak yet, I understood him and vice versa." Beautiful example of telepathy...We all possess the ability, we just do not "remember." ..." My Aunt had the same dream- verbatim!! She described the scenery just as I saw it my dream." That's awesome! And this happens ALL the time...we are just not aware of it in our waking reality most of the time...There's a reason why so many people describe the same thing in experiences of "near death." I'll even go so far as to say...UFO encounters;-) But that's another post altogether! Thanks @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher...You are very intriguing;-)25/01/2017 #11 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#10 Very interesting @Cyndi wilkins! I never discard anything like this because there is more we don't know about life/death, the universe and beyond than we do. I've had 2 encounters with my dad since he died years ago. One was face to face and we didn't use our mouths to speak yet, I understood him and vice versa. He gave me 2 simple messages but it took me time to understand one of the messages. The other encounter which appeared like a dream was a 'glimpse' of my dad fishing on a dock and my grandparents young again over in Scotland, sitting on a Veranda outside of a Restaurant sipping tea, chatting, laughing and I had such a sense of calm. My Aunt had the same dream- verbatim!! She described the scenery just as I saw it my dream. I knew it wasn't a dream after that. I think that's cool about your sister too. See, we do get glimpses into the afterlife. I'm a believer.24/01/2017 #10 Cyndi wilkins#9 In this case I was not necessarily in the "dream state" I described in this post...but rather wide awake. I could "feel" him...and hear him...but not physically see him...certainly not vividly like I did in the dream. He was more like an "energetic imprint"....If that makes any sense. I think the reason I could sense him so acutely was the fact that he had not left this plane of existence yet...He was working on it he said;-) Lol...Interestingly, my sister was "visited" by my grandfather in her dreams around the same time. Sort of a "check in" I think because she is so devastated by the loss of my dad. She was telling me about her dream visit and wondered why it was our grandfather that came to her and not dad...When I checked in with him about it, he said he was not strong enough yet to penetrate her grief...he needed to go regain his strength first...My granddad has been deceased for many years now, so for him it was a piece of cake;-) Interesting stuff huh?24/01/2017 #9 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#8 Wow @Cyndi wilkins, you had one heck of a visit! Did he look as he did before his illness or the same as when he left? I find stuff like this so interesting. And, you know me, I would never say, never! That had to have a calming effect? Amazing that he was able to tell you about the missing photo from the reel. I'm glad you shared this! Did any of your sisters have a visit?24/01/2017 #8 Cyndi wilkins#6 I see you found my buzz @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher...Thanks so much for sharing it...I wrote an earlier one called "Frozen In Time" which describes my thoughts as I experience my last moments with him...This post was my search for peace in the aftermath...I will tell you this because you know me well enough to understand the humor in it...The night after he passed he showed up at my bedside chatting in my ear...I had been struggling earlier in the day with my siblings about who to mention in the obituary,,,( I was elected to write it but they all had their bullshit opinions on what it should say, LOL) So dad comes in and says, Look...this is how things are gonna go...you tell them I'm still in charge and I'll tell you what to write...Well, he kept me awake from 2:30 to 6:15am ironing out the details...Man O man...he never talked that much in life! He even mentioned that there was a picture missing from the video feed we had created to run at his funeral service...Both my sister and I had been certain this picture was included on the reel...We went back to look and guess what?? Wasn't there! TRUE STORY;-)24/01/2017 #7 Cyndi wilkins@Todd Jones...I am so sorry for the loss of your father-in-law under such terribly brutal circumstances...It is heartbreaking to lose someone you love, but to watch them suffer a prolonged, torturous departure is terribly traumatic...for them and for their families. My dad had struggled briefly in his final moments and the distress it created in me was overwhelming, so I cannot even imagine how I would have managed to get through what you have just described...My heart goes out to you... I'm sure you still feel this pain very acutely in your own heart. It has certainly reawakened in me the need for us all to redefine what we consider to be "Death with Dignity." Peace to you.24/01/2017 #6 Lisa 🐝 GallagherWhat a great tribute to your dad and I hate to use the word I 'understand' your goodbye but it sounded quite similar to what went through my mind after my mom had just passed. My sisters felt the same, so maybe it's not uncommon to wonder if we do believe in spirit and afterlife. I have felt my mom's presence in ways I can't describe and I believe you will too @Cyndi wilkins. I'm so sorry for your loss, I don't think I was one to hear about it until I read this. My heart aches for you but I must say this was a well written piece. Please keep writing!!24/01/2017 #5 Cyndi wilkins#4 Thank you so much again @Shawn Quinlivan, C.Ht. .for your shares, support and very encouraging words. It is ALWAYS appreciated...but especially at this time,,, Very healing for me to share such an intimate part of my journey and have it strike such a deep chord with so many others. Gift from God I think...
- Producer17/11/2016A Time to ReflectImage credit: Clipart KidI opened up a time capsule today; a plastic bag filled with bits of paper with my poems written on them. For about fifteen years, between my late teens and early thirties, I wrote whenever and wherever the muse took me....
Comments17/11/2016 #12 Pascal DerrienI relate to the second one most:-) I quite like the concept of time, loss and memories... there is a plaque where my daughter goes to dancing class indicating a time capsule has been buried in 1985 and is not be opened before 2075 I would love to be there when it will be opened but realistically it wont be feasible or maybe......17/11/2016 #7 Deb 🐝 HelfrichBreathe and flow, what a stunning set of words to find from earlier days, @Sara Jacobovici. I also felt this sense of 'completeness' in the way that finding and reading a story from my months right after college held so many nuggets of who I am today. I both recognize those words completely and yet they seem strangely separate - I forgot the piece itself, but the memories of the creation were alive and waiting to be retrieved.
I am looking forward to more discoveries!17/11/2016 #5 Mohammed A. JawadAha...What a poetic ecstasy! Little enjoyments of our past are all great inspirations. As we remember we realize how we wanted to do something to express ourselves. As life unfolds itself with many transitions and when passing time narrates tidbits from our memories, we ought to gauge how well we lived and what's ahead to celebrate our living.17/11/2016 #4 Sara Jacobovici#3 Thank you @🐝 Fatima G. Williams for your generous response and for the added value of your comment. I appreciate your line, "...re-entering time we do it all the time as the strength we draw from the experience is much stronger than the experience itself." It is a very powerful "opposite" to what I refer to clinically when I deal with traumatic memories. When it is too frightening for the individual to remember a traumatic experience, I remind that individual that she or he survived the event and so will surely survive the memory of the event during the therapy work. In this case, when an individual re-enters in order to heal, the strength is in the process of the healing not in the re-entry.17/11/2016 #3 🐝 Fatima G. WilliamsDear @Sara Jacobovici Lovely flash back of memories and I can imagine how the nostalgia. I love your phrase on re-entering time we do it all the time as the strength we draw from the experience is much stronger than the experience itself.
"its strength never doubted.
the struggle of morality…..wrestled in our minds
alongside projections of what’s wrong and what’s right
already decided in black and white. "
The battle and struggle has undoubted strength as it's foundation and we can see the beauty of that strength reflected in your writing and you. Thank you 🤗🤗🤗🤗 Loved the read17/11/2016 #1 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee@Sara Jacobovici- you wrote in this amazing buzz "As I have written about the integrated me, these poems represent a younger personal me whose voice I have carried over into the older professional me". This shows that past influences our present and future and that we are fractal humans as we scale up past experiences. We don't drop our past; more we scale its major events.
This scaling up shows exactly who you are. The titles of your past capsules are still consistent with your recent titles. Is the past what makes our roots the grow our fractal tree? I tend to say yes because of your great buzzz.
in fractions and fleeting opportunities
through distinct forms and underlying plans.
life threadlike…..ready to snap
I am ready to say you are a beautiful mind and your time capsule is filled with wisdom. This buzz is unique in its value for it show our footprints over time. Yours are outstanding fractal footprints. Shared
- Producer26/10/2016Mixed Bag Of EmotionsToday I was reminded that it was almost a year ago when mom became bedridden. My sister sent out an email to our family asking us if we would like to honor Mom by making homemade gifts for Christmas in honor of my mom. I never thought I would feel...
Comments29/12/2016 #66 Jared 🐝 Wiese#65 Ah, of course! Well, as someone else commented, it appears beBee is making some changes. For example I am seeing in the notifications, "There are ## changes with your buzz" - yes, double-digits sometimes. So I have to scour through and try to find out if it was a Relevant, share, new comment or +/-.29/12/2016 #60 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#59 Couldn't agree more Jared, compassion and even getting away from the madness is the sane thing to do. It's called self-preservation. Wow, I just heard on the news (speaking of death) Debbie Reynolds just died 1 day after her daughter Carrie Fisher.
That Tony Soprano was one smart character... get in touch with too many feelings and yep, never shut up. Great quote, thanks for sharing it!! Sending good thoughts your way, sounds like it might have been a hard season for you too.29/12/2016 #59 Jared 🐝 Wiese#57 Thanks, Lisa. Any time.
Compassion is so much better. That, and/or getting away from the madness.
I will quote the character Tony Soprano:
"Let me tell ya something. Nowadays, everybody's gotta go to shrinks, and counselors, and go on 'Sally Jessy Raphael' and talk about their problems. What happened to Gary Cooper? The strong, silent type. That was an American. He wasn't in touch with his feelings. He just did what he had to do. See, what they didn't know was once they got Gary Cooper in touch with his feelings that they wouldn't be able to shut him up! And then it's dysfunction this, and dysfunction that, and **dysfunction vaffancul**!" (** mine)29/12/2016 #57 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#55 I'm so sorry to hear that @Jared 🐝 Wiese, I can't imagine doing something 'fun' or leaving a loved one on the day of a major surgery, furthermore... it's even sadder when the family was unaware that one person was the glue that bonded and once they are gone (with your example, the matriarch) and the family falls apart. I wonder how common this is? I fear that. I pray it doesn't happen. I'm just sorry and you hang in there too. I'm sure life can teach us tough lessons and we either become more compassionate because of them, or bitter. I choose compassion. Thanks for sharing!28/12/2016 #55 Jared 🐝 Wiese#53 Not a single worry, @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher. Family dynamics can be downright dysfunctional. I've dealt with it for over 20 years.
I had a bout Christmas day so I get it. So sorry it did not go so well this year. I've seen family members want to go watch a comedian do a skeleton skit - that's right - the day a patriarch was recovering from open-heart surgery and look pale as a, well skeleton! No fun.
I agree with Harvey - we each have our own ways of reflecting - and responding. Some seem to force their way on others, and realize it too late, if ever.
Also saw a huge fun family break up when the Matriarch died. Sad. Tough.
Hang in there. It can get better. When you are ready for it.28/12/2016 #54 Harvey Lloyd#50 No need for apologies. I am really having trouble with keeping up with tags and other aspects of the platform. I guess some changes are in the works and i need to figure them out. Again your mom sounds like an amazing women. I would have enjoyed a conversation or two with her. She could have "learned" me something i am sure.
Have great new year.28/12/2016 #53 Lisa 🐝 GallagherPt 2, sorry I wrote a buzz in response to your comment @Jared 🐝 Wiese Then they were sending out texts and including me in the texts saying how wonderful it was to get together and they shared their personal joys they had with each other on Christmas day. Contained within the texts were a few, "sorry you were sick, we missed you and hope your feeling better." They all know I hate texts for conversing. And, I almost felt like it was a slap in the face to include me in texts about their day together when I wasn't there and never heard from anyone personally. So I wrote in my last text, "Ok quit rubbing it in LOL. It still hurts that I wasn't able to be there, feeling a loss I can't explain. Love you all." That was ignored too. I ended up sending an email to my sister who initiated and wrote the most and told her how I felt. She got angry with me and I ended up reacting out anger too, telling her I don't want to talk, we will talk again someday when I'm better and people don't take me so personally." Yep, not feeling good about the outcome or even my own response. Sorry you were the one to get this story.. I think I'm feeling so confused. Thanks for your nice comment and right now I don't think MoM would be feeling very happy about all of this. :-(28/12/2016 #52 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#49 Hi @Jared 🐝 Wiese, I'm sorry for your losses too! It's never easy to watch someone die and then 'lose' them forever. It's a part of life but I'm sure we can all agree, it doesn't make it any less painful knowing this.
Oddly, I became ill on Christmas morning and I wasn't able to be with my family. Once I was feeling better and had my wits back I felt so alone that evening. This year more than any other year, I really needed to be with my family. Maybe I felt there would be some more closure? At any rate I never received a call from my sisters on Christmas day or the next day. I thought maybe (ok, yes... here comes the expectations) someone would call later that night or at least the next day. Pt 128/12/2016 #50 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#47 Hi @Harvey Lloyd, I'm so glad a few people posted on this buzz in the last day because somehow I missed your comment and apologize. I love your description of reflection. I think you hit the nail on the head and it makes total sense. Even through grief we are all dealing with it differently, and I think we all have forgotten this on a given day which in some ways has drawn us apart instead of the glue that held us together. I guess we need to find our way back. I believe it's only temporary but it's evident even through my own actions or inaction. Good to keep in mind, thanks!27/12/2016 #49 Jared 🐝 WieseWoW, @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher, how you brought me to tears! I have seen loved ones pass all too soon - some not as happily or cherished as others. Your MoM definitely loved, loved, loved you all in her own wonderful way. This is clear from your beautiful and cathartic writing.
Holidays are tough. And you got great ideas and support, which should help in moving on while still remembering her fondly. You are indeed "lucky to be part of a large family that all gets along so well." I hope you were able to reach out to them and be with them more.
--Sorry for your sadness; hopeful for your healing--27/12/2016 #48 Dorothy CooperI have a disability and was bedridden with crippling Juvenile Arthritis. I also began the journey in midlife of turning into a titanium wonder with six joints. I would love to connect and I see you are from Pa! Happy New Year and thanks for sharing your struggles. Dorrie28/10/2016 #47 Harvey Lloyd#45 I believe that we can all find some levels of being in tune with our emotions. These emotions get tested at small levels and we do seem to learn some system of management. The walk we speak of here though, doesn't dull an emotion, but rather rings it out so that we might see beyond the areas of our life that it had covered. The finality of the walk with no route of escape becomes a reflecting pool of ourselves, we are not always happy with the reflection. A process we would all like to avoid, and many do. I would imagine you took the courage to walk this journey. Never easy, but a step that only perseverance can show. Wisdom always comes at a price.
Facing the reflecting pool at this level, i found, is indeed personal. Although personal, it is a journey we will all make at some point. Some of my family members did not have the courage to walk by this pool. I could only walk with them knowing they would eventually face the reflection. Avoiding this reflection requires lots of energy and from the outside it looks and shows as a misguided process of hiding.
I offer this up only as a perspective of drawing the family together again. Each has to walk at their speed. Your wisdom can be shared at the pool when they return.
- Producer04/09/2016The Tragedy of AaronThe Study hive is my personal interface between my offline studies through both public and college libraries - though I have yet to make good use of any college library I have the choice to access. My presence here is as a 21st Century learner, but...
Comments18/09/2016 #5 AnonymousThank you @CityVP 🐝 Manjit for sharing your insightful and relevant post. Let me share you one relevant quote which enlightens quite well what happened... " Since one cannot educate adults, the word "education" has an evil sound in politics; there is a pretense of education, when the real purpose is coercion without the use of force. " - HANNAH ARENDT16/09/2016 #3 CityVP 🐝 Manjit#2 Dear Fatima there is nothing wrong with fighting injustice and obscene power but one must be prepared for the consequences. Both Edward Snowden and Julian Assange are now living in exile but they had a plan, however Aaron underestimated the consequences of special interest in education and the power they wield with government officials. This is why there must be campaign finance reform and a democratization of special interest groups.
In order to fear these things we must first get caught in the cross-hairs of those who have a different opinion of freedom and what the future should be. Instead of fearing power, we must be thoughtful that there are people like Aaron who were willing to see a bigger picture and the tragedy here is what his loss has meant in terms of reforms to the law and more importantly, the reshaping of law so society can move into the knowledge age.
These battles for transformation are nothing new, these fights occurred at the beginning of the first wave of globalization at the beginning of the century, as well as at all other prior transformational periods. https://www.etown.edu/offices/president/2014-11-14-WW1-Globalization.pdf Another way that supporters of globalization look at this is written here http://www.americanforeignrelations.com/E-N/Globalization-First-era-of-modern-globalization-to-1914.html
You and I Fatima are ordinary mortals far removed from the world Aaron was trying to change, there should be no fear from trying to be aware of these things, unless of course anxiety is our underlying condition, and that is a personal transformation.16/09/2016 #2 🐝 Fatima G. Williamsmy heart goes out to Aaron such a brilliant mind targeted and forced to live a short life. Our lives have become a movie directed by those who want to control us and sometimes we end up being mere puppets. An untold melancholy remains in my heart as I think more about this Aaron's story made me feel so insecure about what can happen to one who is much lesser in thought and actions than him
- Producer15/08/2016She's BlueI was woken by a noise so foreign I cowered under my sheets. But curiosity got the better of me. It was still dark outside. I had no concept of this time of day. I would sleep at 9pm, wake up at 7am, have breakfast and be off to...
Comments03/09/2016 #35 Ken BoddieFriday 24 June is Red Nose Day here in Oz, Dean-San. Many buy red clown noses and some stick large ones on their cars. All proceeds go to SIDS.
Grief never leaves us,
She answers not our why's,
She hugs us like a shadow,
And refuses our goodbyes.
She's there lest we forget,
When our loved ones slip away,
That their spirit lives in what we do,
And everything we say.
I'm sure your little sister would be proud of her big brother, Dean-San.03/09/2016 #33 Dean Owen#30 Grief is weird isn't it. I never really grieved. It was only after decades and finally writing this that I actually felt deep emotions of grief. It was easy to lock away in the back drawer, but just wonderful to dust off this memory and share.... Thanks so much @Sarah Elkins03/09/2016 #31 🐝 Fatima G. Williams@Dean Owen Thank you for introducing Natasha to us. She's a beautiful angel in heaven right now but she has been reborn in our hearts as a new memory , new person , we are going to remember her as you have given life to her time here , through this brave act of sharing her story with us .
I'm sure and wish that your heart is light now. Peace to Natasha who must have been a very beautiful lady right now judging by your looks ( Winks ).02/09/2016 #30 Sarah ElkinsGrief is such a strange thing, isn't it, @Dean Owen? What a vivid and heartbreaking memory from your childhood. And yet... I would guess just a little bit of a relief to share it, own it, and appreciate it for its intensity of feeling. Without that, what do we have?02/09/2016 #29 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#26 I'm sorry I missed your reply @Dean Owen and I just wrote on Donna's buzz I needed to read this because I seem to be missing your stories. wow, I think I'm missing my mind somewhere lol. This was a good yet, sad read again. They do say to lay babies on their backs now, no blankets, no toys and yes open air. I remember fearing SIDS when my babies were little. We swaddled them and laid them on their sides back then.16/08/2016 #23 Lisa 🐝 GallagherSo very sad that you lost your sister when she was an infant @Dean Owen. I cant imagine how tough that was for your parents! I can imagine you do still think of her and will always have unanswered questions. SIDS is scary, I know my daughter worries about it with the new baby. They follow all the guidelines but I think that fear is there for most parents. Thanks for sharing something so personal16/08/2016 #20 Phil Friedman@Dean Owen, I cannot even begin to imagine your anguish. As parents, my wife and I were absolutely crazed about SIDS and keeping everything out of our daughters' crib (except the dog, who faithfully watched over each of them in turn, and would scold us if we didn't respond quickly enough to their crying). We allowed only a bottom sheet and no blanket. And when they were very young, we had a set of soft foam wedges to keep them sleeping on their sides. But truth be told, we have a close and dear friend who did all of that and more, yet lost a baby to SIDS anyway. It may be the universe's way of reminding us that we are not in control, or it may be just random misfortune. I am sorry for your loss, and for the hole in your heart that I am sure will always be there.
- Producer20/07/2016They say time is medicine ; I now believe it's a mythIf time were medicine it would heal our wounds but no amount of time could ever make us not miss you dada.You are missed so badly ; my heart can't explain how much, each day I wake up I wish you were still there.To tell us where we're lacking and...
Comments11/02/2017 #14 Cyndi wilkinsSending warm hugs right back to you@🐝 Fatima G. Williams...It is so very difficult for little girls to say goodbye to their daddies....That child's heart within is broken, but the women we are now will nurture our souls so we can move beyond the pain and keep living...Much love to you...XO03/01/2017 #13 🐝 Fatima G. Williams#12 Thank you dear @Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador This was a tough one to write and we missed him so much this Christmas and new year. There hasn't been a day I haven't thought and wish he were with me. I'm sure your Mom is super proud of the wonderful person you are Franci.
It's the graces we receive from them that shine right through us.23/07/2016 #9 CityVP 🐝 Manjit#8 Dear @🐝 Fatima G. Williams, you and @Sara Jacobovici honour your respective fathers immensely by being beautiful souls, for no parent wants to see their children in a state of hurt but in a state of blessing. That is the reality of love, we all know love when the magnitude of love quakes within our own heart - and my intention here is not to awaken that hurt but to show how awaken that love is within you both - for it is this awakened state that showers strength into the life we have and hence become the substance of winged blessings. For sure our time provides us more gifts than simply the photograph but our hearts contain the gifts that a greater relationship gave us. Now as I absorb the meaning of the love you express, this is what enriches me in my own life - and this the grounded reality of how we choose to interact in this virtual space - that the gifts we find in that are more precious than success. Did you lose a father or did you win love? If winning is society's chief credo this is the only kind of winning I want to seek.23/07/2016 #8 🐝 Fatima G. Williams#7 Thank you @Sara Jacobovici . I'm guessing the scar can never heal, I'm going to look at this as a tatoo that remains with me till the end. And I admire what @CityVP 🐝 Manjit has graciously mentioned in the comments below, on how we can create an online virtual space where loved one's can come and visit and pay respects online. Where my unborn children or family in the near future can reminisce the memories of our loved ones. This is absolutely, a brilliant thing and I wish my parents had done the same, it would have helped connect with my grand parents whom I hardly remember as they had partrd when I was very young.23/07/2016 #7 Sara JacoboviciI felt and heard your words coming straight from the heart @🐝 Fatima G. Williams. It's been 20 years for me since my father passed away. I miss him today as much as the day he passed but the wound is a separate experience. I find that each year a layer of scar tissue covers the wound. It just makes breathing easier when I do miss him. Wishing you all the best Fatima.22/07/2016 #4 CityVP 🐝 ManjitThe online space has opened up for creating memories of loved one's that have passed https://www.everplans.com/articles/the-top-10-online-memorial-websites View moreThe online space has opened up for creating memories of loved one's that have passed https://www.everplans.com/articles/the-top-10-online-memorial-websites and here memory capsules as a hive serves to do the same thing. My view is that personal space is not just about our work life, it is the expression of life. As time passes and the virtual world merges with the physical one, spaces where loved one's can come and visit and pay respects online will become far greater in form than it is now.
The stories of Philip Clinton Williams live within you and this is where I differentiate between sharing as publishing and a life shared. This is also a very delicate line because it involves highly emotional aspects of our life - and in a world driven largely by marketers and professionals one cannot assume that people who have used advantage as a strategy, have the same motivation as those who genuinely read obituaries.
I do read obituaries because the best one's give me a sense of life. Since often I do not know these families or people, I am free respect human life as a human being. I also read these obituaries because I want to be intelligent about grief, and there are myths about grief that we are not cognoscente of and if a part of life is increasing our intelligence about mortality. There is great reverence in the one thing that we all have a commonality with. At the same time I also note that the spiritual also contains ego.
We continue to treat social and business networks from the view of connection - but affinity is far greater than that. I want to understand my relationship with grief, just as writing this buzz provides comfort for you and can be highly cathartic in that regard. Affinity needs to be as close to authenticity and the heart as possible, and that in it self inspires in us greater intelligence. Close22/07/2016 #3 Anees ZaidiThank you dear @🐝 Fatima G. Williams for remembering me on such an emotional moment. Neither I met you nor I met your father. But I see your dad in you. I know he was kind like you, he was loving and caring like you. The change is inevitable - sooner or later this has to happen. The best we can do is to put our steps in the shoes of our loving parents and continue their journey. May God bless you with all His bounties and give your dad a place in the Heaven.
Memory Capsules~ 100 buzzes
In memory of our loved ones. Because words make us feel better. Words give us strength. Because words can draw a picture. Words can tell their story !
Write about your loved one story Store in a capsule every memory you remember before the human mind would fail us.
If life had a rewind button I'd rewind those moments I was not there with you and make sure I spend each day with you.
You are an angel smiling from above
Looking at me prouding
Wanting me not to worry
You are my blessing from above
And will always be !
Love you always and Forever!
Write about your loved one story Store in a capsule every memory you remember before the human mind would fail us.
If life had a rewind button I'd rewind those moments I was not there with you and make sure I spend each day with you.
You are an angel smiling from above
Looking at me prouding
Wanting me not to worry
You are my blessing from above
And will always be !
Love you always and Forever!