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The purpose of this Hive is to provide an outlet to speak and network with each other on matters concerned with various types and degrees of mental health issues.
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  1. ProducerBen Arnold

    Ben Arnold

    09/11/2017
    How I Cаrе Fоr a Dеаf and Blіnd Unсlе Whо Hаѕ Bіроlаr Disorder
    How I Cаrе Fоr a Dеаf and Blіnd Unсlе Whо Hаѕ Bіроlаr Disorder Mу unсlе іѕ blіnd, deaf and dumb, but there is nоthіng wrоng wіth hіm. Aѕ a small сhіld, hе ассіdеntаllу witnessed thе murdеr of his fаthеr by hіѕ ѕtерfаthеr. Hіѕ mоthеr аnd ѕtерfаthеr told hіm tо fоrgеt everything he hаd ѕееn аnd heard, аnd to...
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  2. ProducerOlivia Picton

    Olivia Picton

    09/10/2017
    Fight Illness, Pains, and More With Essential Oils
    Fight Illness, Pains, and More With Essential OilsFor those who suffer from chronic pain or illnesses, essential oils may provide some relief. Aromatherapy is a great way to cure a variety of health conditions. In this article, we will discuss ways that aromatherapy can have a positive impact on...
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    Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador
    09/10/2017 #1 Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador
    Thank you @Olivia Picton. I didn't know wintergreen oil is good for pain. I find just the scents of essential oils can be calming and soothing.
  3. ProducerNorm Goldman

    Norm Goldman

    02/10/2017
    Meet Joan L. Jackson Author of Voluntary Chaos and her most recent novel, Just In Time.
    Meet Joan L. Jackson Author of Voluntary Chaos and her most recent novel, Just In Time.Bookpleasures.com welcomes as our guest, Joan L. Jackson author of Voluntary Chaos and her most recent novel, Just In Time. Norm: Good day Joan and thanks for participating in our interview. Please tell our readers a little bit about your...
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  4. ProducerNorm Goldman

    Norm Goldman

    02/10/2017
    Review: Just In Time
    Review: Just In TimeAuthor: Joan L. Jackson Publisher: She Writes Press ISBN: 978-1-63152-264-2 Schizophrenia is a serious disorder of the mind and brain wherein it is estimated that worldwide about 1 percent of the population is diagnosed with...
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  5. Brynel Sequio

    Brynel Sequio

    13/09/2017
    Take care of your body, it's the only place to live in.
    Brynel Sequio
    APPOINTMENTS
    macquariestreetmedicalpractice.com.au Book your appointments with our city doctors in Sydney CDB. We provide bookings for GP services, vaccinations, blood tests. Learn...
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  6. Brynel Sequio

    Brynel Sequio

    13/09/2017
    Want to stay smart even in your advanced years? Maintaining a healthy lifestyle from childhood may be the key as it can help in reducing the risk of developing cognitive decline as one ages.
    Brynel Sequio
    Healthy Lifestyle Key To Smarter Brain In Old Age: Study
    www.news18.com Live longer with a better...
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  7. ProducerProma 🐝 Nautiyal
    Train the Brain
    Train the BrainThis happens to be one of my favorite topics. Ever since I trained my brain to work for me the way I want, I feel more empowered and in control. It is often said that humans use only 10 percent of their brains. This made me think if only I...
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    Proma 🐝 Nautiyal
    30/08/2017 #13 Proma 🐝 Nautiyal
    #12 Thank you, @Mohammed A. Jawad!
    Mohammed A. Jawad
    29/08/2017 #12 Mohammed A. Jawad
    An inspiring lesson to others!
    Sadman Ishrak
    29/08/2017 #11 Sadman Ishrak
    #9 That is awesome!
    Proma 🐝 Nautiyal
    29/08/2017 #10 Proma 🐝 Nautiyal
    #8 @David B. Grinberg I truly believe that we are all capable of doing extraordinary things, if only we put our mind to it. Like putting together logic and empathy, hand-in-hand, can help us sail through any kind of situation. Although highly desirable, I know it is an extremely difficult feat.

    Thank you for copying Dr. Ian Weinberg, I would love to learn about his insights on the topic.
    Proma 🐝 Nautiyal
    29/08/2017 #9 Proma 🐝 Nautiyal
    #7 Thanks @Sadman Ishrak! It is about the Mayan civilization, something I am obsessed about.
    David B. Grinberg
    29/08/2017 #8 David B. Grinberg
    Thanks for sharing your important insights, Proma. I'm likewise perplexed when pondering what would be possible if humans were able to harness even 50% of their brain power? I'm copying beBee's resident neurology expert, Dr. @Ian Weinberg View more
    Thanks for sharing your important insights, Proma. I'm likewise perplexed when pondering what would be possible if humans were able to harness even 50% of their brain power? I'm copying beBee's resident neurology expert, Dr. @Ian Weinberg, for any thoughts he may have on the topic. Lastly, I wholeheartedly agree with you about @Lance 🐝 Scoular. He is indeed one-of-a-kind and an invaluable asset to this platform and everyone in his network. Close
    Sadman Ishrak
    29/08/2017 #7 Sadman Ishrak
    Writing a new book can be hard. Best of luck! By the way what is the book about?
    Lyon Brave
    29/08/2017 #6 Lyon Brave
    that saying about humans only using ten percent of their brain is not true.. We use all of our brain but at different times.
    Lance  🐝 Scoular
    29/08/2017 #5 Lance 🐝 Scoular
    👥ed 🐝🐝🐤🐳🔥🚲
    Lance  🐝 Scoular
    29/08/2017 #4 Lance 🐝 Scoular
    Thanks for the mention @Proma 🐝 Nautiyal

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    Bite off more than you can chew, then chew like crazy. Crocodile Dundee (Character of of the 1986 Australian film "Crocodile Dundee" played by Paul Hogan)
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    Proma 🐝 Nautiyal
    28/08/2017 #3 Proma 🐝 Nautiyal
    #1 This is indeed great @Javier 🐝 beBee. Thanks for sharing this. My beBee profile and Producer profile have come up in the SERPs too! :-)
    Javier 🐝 beBee
    28/08/2017 #1 Javier 🐝 beBee
    this is great! enjoy it!

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  8. ProducerPuneet Srivastava
    Sleeping Disorders & Urban Life
    Sleeping Disorders & Urban LifeA few years ago I met owner of a famous Mumbai eatery. He had some very interesting words to share. He said, forty years ago when they came to Mumbai from their village, they had nothing. Seven of them would put their heads around a bundle of old...
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    Puneet Srivastava
    18/08/2017 #35 Puneet Srivastava
    Hi @Cyndi wilkins. It was wonderful knowing of your preference (on Linkedin) for face 2 face opportunities. Few days ago I shared this write-up here on beBee where i spoke on some opportunities that came my way to help others that way. Possibly you will like it and also be able to share some insights from your deep experience. Thanks. Regards.
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    18/08/2017 #34 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #16 Thank you @Puneet Srivastava, your very observant and sincerely kind. Sending many good wishes and thoughts your way too!! I'm working on my sleeping habits but they have been off for years so they won't change soon. I know they will change eventually though. I have hope!! :)
    Puneet Srivastava
    18/08/2017 #33 Puneet Srivastava
    #31 Thank you @Melissa Hughes for liking and sharing... good wishes & good day... :)
    Zacharias 🐝 Voulgaris
    17/08/2017 #32 Zacharias 🐝 Voulgaris
    Just like every vital sign, sleep patterns follow certain rhythms. You can't expect to have the same sleep every day, throughout the year. Some days you may need less, others you may need more. What's important, in my view, is what you do during the time you are awake.
    Melissa Hughes
    17/08/2017 #31 Anonymous
    Thanks for sharing the knowledge, @Puneet Srivastava! I've written on the benefits of sleep, and intellectually I know that the brain clears out all of the neurotoxins when we sleep. Sadly, I know first hand how debilitating a lack of sleep can be. I often have a hard time quieting my brain enough to sleep. This is good stuff and worth sharing! Thank you!!
    Puneet Srivastava
    17/08/2017 #30 Puneet Srivastava
    Hi friends, 2 days ago i wrote his piece on 'sleeping disorders', a problem faced by so many of us. Pls see if this may help anyone in your family or friends. Thanks. @Dominique 🐝 Petersen @Jennifer Heflin @Kristen Edens @Melissa Hughes
    Puneet Srivastava
    17/08/2017 #29 Puneet Srivastava
    #28 Thanks @Louise Smith for reading & responding. Interestingly, there is no hypnosis involved anywhere. What I did with my mom was like dipping your feet in the warm water after a long trek. :) Also thanks for your interest in natural methods. In this respect if you have any specific questions, you may please message me separately and i will surely respond. Good day... Good wishes. :)
    Louise Smith
    16/08/2017 #28 Louise Smith
    Thank you @Puneet Srivastava for your heart warming buzz. I like how you describe helping people with pain, sleep and dreams.
    This can be done in a type of hypnosis when it is unknown to a person like you did with your Mother.
    It's using language to open the person to considering possibilities. Direct hypnosis is easier & faster.
    I am interested in hearing more about your ideas of natural methods.
    Puneet Srivastava
    16/08/2017 #27 Puneet Srivastava
    #25 Such a beautiful insight @Praveen Raj Gullepalli... Kudos... and yes of course... occasional jaunt apart :)... and though that too is an important part... yet even in those tender matters... teamwork and mutual understanding must never be lost sight of. :) I will sure try to share more as you have suggested. Thank you & Good wishes.
    Puneet Srivastava
    16/08/2017 #26 Puneet Srivastava
    #24 Thank you @Debasish Majumder. So kind of you to have shared the write up. Good wishes.
    Praveen Raj Gullepalli
    16/08/2017 #25 Praveen Raj Gullepalli
    If the wife is our better half, then sleep is our other half Puneet! Without sleep we are dead in no time and without proper sleep we are walking zombies, however sprightly our behaviour! I wish every living person gets a minimum of 6 to 7 hrs of uninterrupted sleep. I'd call any person who does not get 6 hrs of clear sleep, abnormal. He or she is making mistakes unaware, messing up others or their own bodies, slowly but surely. Without proper sleep, a lot of errors of judgement, impulse, rage and what not are surely bound to occur. They are inevitable. Sleep is the most sacred function of the body. I hate to disturb folks when they are asleep. Even couples should respect that function and try not to destroy the sleep pattern in the name of intimacy or togetherness as a routine. (The occasional jaunt apart ;)

    Do post a live buzz demonstrating a simple exercise or two sometime :)
    Debasish Majumder
    16/08/2017 #24 Debasish Majumder
    nice insight @Puneet Srivastava! enjoyed read and shared. thank you for the share.
    Puneet Srivastava
    16/08/2017 #23 Puneet Srivastava
    Hello friends... I put this write-up a day ago... if this can help anyone around you, pls do share... Thanks. @Debasish Majumder @Moi Kliniger @Emily Datson @Pat Bagano @Bob Buckley
    Gloria 🐝 🐾 💫 ☕ (Glo) Ochoa
    15/08/2017 #22 Anonymous
    #18 Do you know what it means if you fall asleep while trying to meditate? :) :) :)
    It means I should go to bed earlier? LOL I would love to hear more of why ...I cant do Yoga either...at the end of yoga, when you rest..yup..I SNORE! lol (ok..I dont think I snore, but my yoga buddy said I did!)
    Devesh 🐝 Bhatt
    15/08/2017 #21 Devesh 🐝 Bhatt
    Gladly yes. There was a period when i realised its absence and surprise visits. But i was lucky to figure out a way.
    I say lucky, because certain inputs were at my disposal which seemed irrelevant until they produced results.
    Puneet Srivastava
    15/08/2017 #19 Puneet Srivastava
    #17 :) thanks... will revert shortly...
    Puneet Srivastava
    15/08/2017 #18 Puneet Srivastava
    #10 Wow!!! @Gloria 🐝 🐾 💫 ☕ (Glo) Ochoa Do you know what it means if you fall asleep while trying to meditate? :) :) :) No there is nothing wrong about it... on the contrary its sign of a wonderful trait... however, i can't explain that in context here in this short pitch... if you wish to know I can send you a slightly longer message... and also because that may not be relevant for everyone.... So pls do let know.... Thanks so much for reading & sharing... Good wishes & wish you many many more happy sleeps while meditating. :) :)
    Claire L Cardwell
    15/08/2017 #17 Claire L Cardwell
    #15 Thank you @Puneet Srivastava! Anyway I can nip this broken sleep pattern in the bud would be much appreciated I can tell you! Have an awesome day! Claire
    Puneet Srivastava
    15/08/2017 #16 Puneet Srivastava
    #9 Thanks @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher for sharing & writing... I think your video buzz and this write-up must have happened in parallel... you posted first, while i kept it on my desk & discovered yours... no way.... 2.40 AM you stay awake only if you have to meditate... Whatever be the reason... This must change... I pray for you, now being even more specific... everyday.... Take care... May God bring you all the strength... Good wishes & Love...
  9. ProducerClaire L Cardwell
    On being slightly nuts and other things
    On being slightly nuts and other thingsOr very occasionally very nuts.  Yup I am a nutcase, through and through.A few of you might have wondered why I've had so many extended absences through out this year....Well the truth is that I have Temporal Lobe Epilepsy (TLE) and Bipolar...
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    Claire L Cardwell
    18/08/2017 #37 Claire L Cardwell
    Thanks for the share @Gerald Hecht!
    Claire L Cardwell
    18/08/2017 #36 Claire L Cardwell
    #34 @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher - it is the worst thing I have ever been made to take. My dog Dudley was put down in front of me and I felt nothing, not a tear nothing. Just endless sombulance (sp) and numbness. I was a Zombie.
    Claire L Cardwell
    18/08/2017 #35 Claire L Cardwell
    #33 Trump... don't let me get started on the orange man....
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    18/08/2017 #34 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #29 I looked it up and it also goes by the name Depakote... nasty drug!! My sister was on that and she was like a zombie not to mention the weight gain you mentioned. I swear she gained 30 lbs in less than 2 months. Not being able to move much can do that to a person. She couldn't even hold a fork or spoon without shaking really bad. She's off of that too.
    Gerald Hecht
    15/08/2017 #33 Gerald Hecht
    #32 @Claire L Cardwell yeah...and the other thing (of course) is that designing, constructing, and accessorizing one's cat (mine anyway) with a proper aesthetically pleasing, yet functional tin foil hat (each ear encased in symmetrical antennae compartments, etc.) is something that I find to be every bit as challenging as successful cerebrovascular microsurgery on a leaking vessel in the pia mater of a small rodent. Requires a calm, distraction-free, Trumpless, environment.
    Claire L Cardwell
    14/08/2017 #32 Claire L Cardwell
    @Gerald Hecht - I also have prolonged absences from Social Media, this year for example I think I have been offline for 4 or even 5 months. Only checking in to pick up messages. I also do not have a smart phone. All that tweeting and twatting every time someone farted on facebook would drive me insane.

    I severely limit the time I spend on Social Media normally to an hour to two hours in the morning and a bit in the evening/late afternoon. Mostly to promote myself and my business. Otherwise I would never get anything done work wise or paint or anything. My ways of keeping stress at bay is to paint, go for long walks, meditate and dance like a loon around the kitchen for an hour every morning with rave music pouring out of my rather inadequate speakers.

    I often think that I would be very happy on my own (with my kitties of course) on top of a mountain and that if I never heard/saw another human being again I would be content....
    Gerald Hecht
    14/08/2017 #31 Gerald Hecht
    #7 @Claire L Cardwell I am not a very good advice giver; i'm afraid...FWIW, I know that when I feel stuck --the only things that get me unstuck are 1) becoming somewhat "hard to find" on SM platforms, 2) running outside, playing my guitar outside, and 3) getting lost outside...with all devices at least a few miles from my physical location. For however long it takes to have the "Forrest Gump thingie" (you know the one where he was running for a few years and then he stopped)...I'm kind of tired...I think I'll go back home now.
    Gerald Hecht
    14/08/2017 #30 Gerald Hecht
    #22 @Claire L Cardwell indeed! Well said!
    Claire L Cardwell
    14/08/2017 #29 Claire L Cardwell
    #28 Exactly @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher - long term liver damage, weight gain, dry spotty skin, somnolence - the list goes on. BTW it was 12 cups of coffee before lunch - which means that I was probably up to 30 a day. My Dad is great, he's a real star. He came out for 2 weeks recently to give me support after the last visit to hospital. He's 78, looks 68 and has tons of energy!
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    14/08/2017 #28 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #27 Ive never heard of epilem but it sounds brutal, if you were up to 12 cups of coffee! Glad your dad was with you, he sounds very supportive. Many of the drugs they prescribe are worse thsn the illness in varying ways.
    Claire L Cardwell
    14/08/2017 #27 Claire L Cardwell
    #26 You are so right @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher - the caffeine didn't even touch sides when I was on the Epilim. My Dad actually stopped me from having another cup of coffee at lunch time and said very kindly, Claire you can't drink anymore coffee right now. I've been counting and you have had 12 cups this morning already. Epilim does turn you into a complete zombie. I don't know why they still prescribe it. It's like giving someone a hammer when they have asked for a needle and thread!
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    14/08/2017 #26 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #16 It's stories like yours and others who choose to share that help educate others about the fragility of mental illness and how real it is. It's not something people can just wish away. It's an illness. I still say, medical because it affects other organs in our bodies.
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    14/08/2017 #25 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #21 I understand what you mean about crying, I've heard others say that too. Some meds make people so numb they can't find emotion for others. And, thank goodness you aren't all jacked up on caffeine now :))
    Claire L Cardwell
    13/08/2017 #24 Claire L Cardwell
    #23 That's not a bad idea @Deb 🐝 Helfrich! However I have a very good circle of friends and family around me, they are the first to remind me that I am human and not to forget to eat and get enough rest! I also prefer the holistic route, but there are no magic pills for my condition.

    I do however take about 3000mg Omega 3 a day to help the wiring in my brain stay wired. Apparently there are no long term negative effects to what I am taking metabolically wise (that sounds weird!) in terms of liver damage etc. etc.

    Also as Dr Z is English he has a very conservative approach to doling out pills. He doesn't over-medicate unlike some other doctors I have heard about.....
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    13/08/2017 #23 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    I'm thrilled to have you buzzing around again, @Claire L Cardwell

    My particular nuttiness is being certain DIY-healthcare is the only way I can make it through alive.

    We are excellent at the mechanical aspects like surgery, but horrific when it comes to the systems approach, as we pray at the alter of the double-blind trial. The method has some usefulness, but it is also a fatal flaw of our approach to chronic conditions. We are testing the remedies by looking at a very, very narrow slice of our bodies.

    Therefore, we shouldn't be surprised when the pill wreaks havoc in all sorts of other metabolic systems.

    Keep taking a curiously active approach, always seeking information and answers, as the only person with a holistic knowledge of what is going on is you.

    My best advice for you is that a medical journal might be a life-saving record....
    Claire L Cardwell
    13/08/2017 #22 Claire L Cardwell
    @Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador - I don't believe in a little thing like Bipolar should hold me back from achieving my dreams (or in my case trying to get there) or from really being me. Too many people's entire identity is shaped by their diagnosis. As if being bipolar explained everything about them. They have really intense conversations in cafes about their illness. The first question they ask you is 'what drugs are you on?'. Very irritating!
    Claire L Cardwell
    13/08/2017 #21 Claire L Cardwell
    It took a couple of years for me to find the right balance re mood stabilisers, but nearly a decade to find the 'big gun pill' that keeps everything all together. The cool thing about the meds I am on now is that they as you say don't stifle my creativity or my emotions into a dead mess. If I am upset about something I can cry (or lose my rag a wee bit). And I don't have to drink 22 cups of coffee a day just to stay awake!
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    13/08/2017 #20 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #18 I've heard that if the right balance is found, your creativity is not taken from you, and I'm happy to hear your not being held back!!
    Claire L Cardwell
    13/08/2017 #19 Claire L Cardwell
    Thanks for the share @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher!
    Claire L Cardwell
    13/08/2017 #18 Claire L Cardwell
    Thank you @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher! I think what really helped me the most was when I went to see my Engineer shortly after I got back to SA to get some plans signed off. He looked at me and said 'where on earth have you been?' Something about the way he looked at me made me tell him the truth without being scared.

    'I was in Ward 2 of Helen Joseph with serious head injuries and was diagnosed with bipolar disorder' I answered.

    He smiled back at me 'Welcome to the Club!' he said 'I also have bipolar disorder and so does one of my daughters.'

    That really gave me heart. You see Callie is very successful and if he didn't let bipolar hold him back, why should I?
  10. ProducerOlivia Picton

    Olivia Picton

    08/08/2017
    3 Easy Ways to Boost Your Confidence
    3 Easy Ways to Boost Your ConfidenceAs humans, we’re all prone to fall into a daily routine of some sort, from the way we get ready for work, to our commute, to when and how we feed and dress the kids. When we focus more on the consistency of the routine, as opposed to how we feel...
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    Aleta Curry
    10/08/2017 #10 Aleta Curry
    Hi Olivia, and welcome to the beeB.

    Also, what @Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador said! :D
    Numo Quest
    09/08/2017 #9 Numo Quest
    True, great publish :O)
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    09/08/2017 #8 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    Hi @Olivia Picton, welcome to beBee and great tips!
    John White, MBA
    09/08/2017 #7 John White, MBA
    Welcome to beBee!
    Luis Piriz
    08/08/2017 #6 Luis Piriz
    Keep it up, Olivia!
    Javier 🐝 beBee
    08/08/2017 #4 Javier 🐝 beBee
    @Olivia Picton welcome to the hive!
    Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador
    08/08/2017 #3 Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador
    Welcome to beBee, @Olivia Picton, and thank you for sharing your useful tips for confidence boosters. I agree that little things can make a difference.
    David B. Grinberg
    08/08/2017 #2 David B. Grinberg
    Thanks for the good advice here, Olivia. I'm sharing this in three hives. Keep buzzing!
    cc: @Javier 🐝 beBee @John White, MBA @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher @Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador @🐝 Fatima G. Williams
  11. Tricia Mitchell

    Tricia Mitchell

    19/07/2017
    Listening to this experience of Bipolar Affective Disorder, there is so much wisdom shared and challenges the status quo.
    Going beyond Mental Illness- Choosing beyond Bipolar!
    Going beyond Mental Illness- Choosing beyond Bipolar! Join clinical psychologist & cert. Access Consciousness Facilitator Susanna Mittermaier and cert. Access Consciousness Lauren Polly as they talk about a...
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  12. ProducerVictoria Toumit

    Victoria Toumit

    15/07/2017
    SOCIAL DISAPPOINTMENTS CAUSE DEPRESSION
    SOCIAL DISAPPOINTMENTS CAUSE DEPRESSIONBelieve it or not, you are always one step closer to depression than to happiness. I know-I know, we all want to be happy, we all try to be happy in this world. But the problem is, happiness hormones are working only for motivation. The...
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    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    16/07/2017 #35 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #33 I read your comments with interest as well Dr. @Ian Weinberg and want to thank you for all the info you shared. Very complex topic/illness because Mental Illness covers many territories. I had a light bulb moment today. As I read Pam's comment about being "Happy go lucky," as in putting on a smile to the point of exhaustion, I did the same when I raised my kids (although it wasn't half as frequent... my panic attacks) But, I have to wonder if it catches up with a person if they ignore it for so long? Also, my doctor told me it can get worse for women after they hit 'mid-life' because of hormonal fluctuations and that would make sense as to why mine seems like it has been so much worse. However, I am getting good therapy and we are making strides. I'm staying away from medications because I tried them and felt very sick on the 3 or 4 I did give a try.
    Ian Weinberg
    16/07/2017 #34 Ian Weinberg
    #33 Humbled - thanks very much @David B. Grinberg
    David B. Grinberg
    16/07/2017 #33 David B. Grinberg
    Thank you Dr. @Ian Weinberg for taking the time to share your incomparable expertise and shed more light on this important issue. Your exemplary efforts and buzz are appreciated by all! 😇🙏👏👏
    David B. Grinberg
    16/07/2017 #32 David B. Grinberg
    #31 I really appreciate your comments @Pamela 🐝 Williams. I understand you didn't mean any harm and, as noted, this is a difficult subject for those personally affected by mental illness. In short, I grew up with a mother who was manic depressive and prone to unforeseen fits, rages and other unpleasant episodes. This made my childhood and teenage years very difficult on a range of levels. Ditto that for my sister and father. My mother's side of the family has a history of mental illness, which is hereditary. The important thing I want to reiterate is that mental illness is a disease, like diabetes or cancer is a disease. Nobody asks for it and nobody likes it. Moreover, those impacted by mental illness, like my mom, can't always control their bad behavior even with medication. In essence, I had a rough childhood but then was free in college to spread my wings and Thrive once I got out of the toxic home environment.
    Pamela 🐝 Williams
    16/07/2017 #31 Pamela 🐝 Williams
    @David B. Grinberg you deleted your comments so I can answer to what was said, only via Lisa's comments. I by no means meant to sound patronizing and if I did my deep felt humble apologies. I would like to know about your Mom but if it's not something you want to share I understand. I tend to speak only of the positives in my family but there's this loyalty thing :=). I do admire you, envy your drive, admire your intelligence and positive attitude. I wouldn't hurt you for a second but as Lisa says: This is a very sore subject for some and when we feel like someone is telling us to "pull yourself by your boot straps and get over it" ...it hurts. Most people who 'know' me casually view me as happy-go-lucky with a very positive attitude, but I exhaust myself being this way and it never lasts. I was raised off-and-on by a very religious grandfather and his answers were either 'pray for healing' or that ole bootstrap advice. For a short while I had my stepfather who just loved me and I started to build some 'self' but he was forced out of my life as well. Nothing was stable, nothing lasted. I was shuttled back and forth between my mother and my grandparents, I didn't even know my Mom when I was dumped back in her house at the age of 5 after living with my grandparents for 2 1/2 years. My earliest memory is standing in her yard and wondering what I did to be 'left behind' as my grandparents drove away.

    If you lived in a disfunctional situation then my humblest apologies for jumping to conclusions; I know how upsetting it can be when people do that; I wish you hadn't deleted your comments because if you blasted me; I deserved it. I did what I was 'preaching' against. Guilty. You have my respect and admiration David, know that!
    Ian Weinberg
    16/07/2017 #30 Ian Weinberg
    #29 That is a very important concept that you propose here @Pamela 🐝 Williams and one currently being investigated. The DNA molecule is not static and unchanging through life. More and more we are noting an epi-genetic influence - genes become suppressed or de-suppressed through life in response to diet, toxic habits, lifestyle and indeed in response to mind states. The mediators of chronic inflammation, the pro-inflammatory cytokines, have been shown to influence this epigenetic process. And since this is in the DNA molecule, it can be passed on to the next generation.
    Pamela 🐝 Williams
    16/07/2017 #29 Pamela 🐝 Williams
    @Ian Weinberg so I'm reading that early childhood environments can create hopeless/helpless physiological menifestations that can't be 'treated' by normal medical means, it's a lifelong 'battle' for lack of a better word? Which is my perspecitive.
    But in regards to physiological state; here is my next question; IF this situation perpetuates through the generations, isn't it possible that the "identifiable chemical configuration (low serotonin, low dopamine and raised noradrenaline)" becomes an inheritable condition? This is a subject area/ question that I find fascintating; Could a constant state of this 'chemical configuration' actually become part of a DNA makeup and transmit to future generations?
    Such as in the case of children of alcoholics having a higher propensity for deveoping addictive personalities, whether it be alcohol or drugs? To me it would be the same as Darwin's theories of evolution, only instead of developing traits for 'survival' the traits move in a negative direction; eg; "low serotonin, low dopamine and raised noradrenaline"
    Ian Weinberg
    16/07/2017 #28 Ian Weinberg
    @David B. Grinberg , @Pamela 🐝 Williams and @Victoria Toumit Herewith my perspective:

    Part 1:
    At the outset it should be stated that there is no scientific explanation for depression as an entity nor is there a specific ‘depression centre’ in the brain. Additionally there is no consistent configuration of neurotransmitters and hormones which are associated with the phenomenon of depression. The low serotonin hypothesis (upon which a multi-billion dollar industry of SSRI’s is based) as being causative for depression has so many holes in it that it has become highly questionable. Definitions of depression range all the way from unhappiness to deep melancholia and a potential suicidal tendency. This mind state is also associated with many somatic manifestations such as sleep disturbances, eating disorders and extreme weight fluctuations, chronic inflammation and sickness behavior – a physiological state of disinterest in the environment, somnolence (sleepiness) and often associated with a fever. (See part 2 below)
    Ian Weinberg
    16/07/2017 #27 Ian Weinberg
    Part 2:
    It is also not accurate to imply that mind states are a product of neurophysiology and levels of neurotransmitters and hormones. Profound nature-nurture influences create core neuronal circuits which become our subjective world view. Interaction with the extended environment reflects our subjectivity and thus our nurture heritage. This dynamic will serve to endorse positively or negatively, our subjective beliefs (in the deprivation state, limiting beliefs). It is therefore more accurate to view our subjective mind state, our chemistry (including neurophysiology) and the psychosocial interaction as one integration or continuum.

    My specific model is based on a cyclical flow chart which therefore has multiple inputs – a mind state reflecting degrees of deprivation and usually precipitated by prevailing life situations is associated with an identifiable chemical configuration (low serotonin, low dopamine and raised noradrenaline). This in turn affects the immune system, initiating a chronic inflammatory process. The products of inflammation further diminish serotonin and dopamine levels thus perpetuating a negative cycle. The mind state defined in this state is that of hopeless-helplessness or degrees of this. It correlates directly with low levels of dopamine (meso-limbic system). I have therefore suggested that degrees of hopeless-helplessness is a far more understandable definition than depression. (See part 3 below)
    Ian Weinberg
    16/07/2017 #26 Ian Weinberg
    Part 3:
    In terms of intervention – it obviously depends on the subjective narrative of the individual. If limiting beliefs are too rigid and embedded, then no amount of cognitive intervention will be effective. Also if the individual is gaining gratification (in the form of raised dopamine) through the legitimizing of their hopeless-helpless state, no amount of intervention will move them. The most effective modality that we have for intervention is the creation of awareness of self and then through a process of disputation, establish meaning and purpose as well as a degree of self-esteem. Gratification and achievement experienced by the individual in the application of this intervention will get the dopamine bubbling and hopefully empower the individual to perpetuate the process.
    And so I would say that intervention of a cognitive type can be extremely successful if the individual is experiencing a significant degree of hopeless-helplessness, limiting beliefs are not too rigid and ingrained and that there is not too much secondary dopamine gain from a legitimized hopeless-helpless life situation.

    For a more comprehensive take on this, see my previous articles:

    https://www.bebee.com/producer/@ian-weinberg/challenging-limiting-beliefs-20993
    https://www.bebee.com/producer/@ian-weinberg/lighting-up-the-abyss
    https://www.bebee.com/producer/@ian-weinberg/buzzing-with-emotion
    Ian Weinberg
    16/07/2017 #23 Ian Weinberg
    Just woken up on this side of the world. This is a very topical and important issue. In the course of today I will dig out the relevant literature as well as add my own experience in the neurosciences as well from a coaching perspective. Thanks for the tag @David B. Grinberg and @Pamela 🐝 Williams
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    16/07/2017 #22 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #20 Hi @David B. Grinberg, I hope I'm not over-stepping my boundaries but I really don't think Pam's intent was to sound as though she was being patronizing. I'm glad this topic came up because it affects so many. I read your comment and it brought tears to my eyes. I truly believe the topic of Mental illness can be a tough topic to discuss at times because many have been affected and it can feel raw at times, it's very easy for others to misinterpret written words. I've had a lot of people tell me affirmations work for them and I think that's great. They don't work for me (well, it depends on the situation), I can't say they never work.

    As I read about your mom and how it affected you, it made me think of my sister I wrote of not that long ago. She has 2 beautiful daughters and I have noticed they both deal with their past and present differently. One is prone to depression and anxiety herself and the older sister is the caregiver, almost done getting her masters degree and keeps very busy. She also moved far enough away from her mom (my sister) and I think that was for self preservation. Do they both love their mom deeply, yes! They saw their mom have paranoid delusions many times and I have to wonder if the believed her when they were much younger? I can't imagine how life affected them because they were witness to her illness long before we were aware and mom took all of them in until the girls graduated from HS. You are a big proponent of MH issues and I can't thank you enough. I can't imagine how hard that must have been on you David and from what I remember, your dad was your rock! Hugs for you :)) You are very appreciated, and I know Pam appreciates you too. I will stop now and let her speak for herself when she is back online, tomorrow, I'm guessing.
    David B. Grinberg
    16/07/2017 #21 David B. Grinberg
    Victoria, please see my comments below to Pamela. And shame on you for trying to shame me.
    As a communications expert I choose my words carefully and parse them to make sure I'm not painting a broad brush which is universally applicable. That's why I used words such as "most" people, not all, and "to an extent" rather than all encompassing. I know firsthand the pain and suffering that people suffer due to mental illness by family members. Again, I would caution people not to make ignorant assumptions about other peoples lives for which they know absolutely nothing about whatsoever. Thank you.
    Is it easy to try to be positive in the face of confronting or dealing with someone who has depression? Of course not. Yet this doesn't mean a person can't try to be positive via faith and other things. The more we try the more we usually move closer to succeeding, at least for some people. Again, I never stated that my own personal situation with universally applicable. Indeed it is not. But it is applicable at least to some people including me.
    David B. Grinberg
    16/07/2017 #20 David B. Grinberg
    #14 Thank you @Pamela 🐝 Williams for your wise words. I'm sorry to disappoint you, however, I grew up with a mother who was manic depressive and physically abusive, not to mention verbally and emotionally abusive. She couldn't help it.. Therefore, I know that of which I speak. I was also bullied in high school in addition to what I had to deal with in my home life. It was not until I was free to spread my wings in college that I was truly able to thrive. And when I mention a manic-depressive mother I'm talking about someone who was involuntarily hospitalized by the police due to a severe episode of being paranoid delusional. I recall visiting her at Bellevue Hospital in Queens New York. And I recall crying like a baby right after I left.
    Therefore, With all due respect, Pamela, I don't appreciate your false assumptions and patronizing comments. II know firsthand about childhood adversity, major depression, bipolar disorder, and all the related aspects because I grew up with it as a child through my teenage years. Now, with that said, what worked for me in college via affirmations visualization, and being positive, etc. may not work for everyone. We are all individuals who are unique and uniquely respond to different life situations. That's why I sometimes write about mental health issues and try to be a proponent to end the stigma regarding mental illness.
    Thank you very much for considering these personal points. Again, I would caution everyone against jumping to conclusions and making assumptions about things for which they have absolutely no knowledge whatsoever.
    Robert Cormack
    16/07/2017 #19 Robert Cormack
    We're never going to change a world that hurts, @Victoria Toumit. Cortisol may last longer than dopamine or any endorphin, but the true test is how we handle hurt. It honestly doesn't matter what it is. Fighting anything releases endorphins which help us stabilize shock. Social disappointment has less shock than, say, being chased by a bull. But your body is still going to work out chemical ways to stabilize, meaning the more you fight, the more your body will actively work to stabilize you.
    CityVP 🐝 Manjit
    16/07/2017 #18 CityVP 🐝 Manjit
    The medical community can only provide quick fixes to lessen the effects of depression, only to create other side effects in the process and that is because even the best minds in the medical community are still in the process of understanding the fundamental expression of depression. How does that community tackle this when the same community is at the early stages of understanding the human brain - but there has been progress in trying to unlock these mysteries.

    When I think of depression I see a multifaceted cause and effect relationship with multiple variables and the medical community in the early days were studying different facets of this elephant, but it is only now that there has been a move to integrate specialists, so a good example is how brain experts are now working with gut experts in learning new things about the gut-brain relationship.

    Hormones definitely play a part in the emergence of depression because pharma companies have created responses and interventions that are related to hormones, but what happens if one of multiple pathways for depression is light? In darkness we know animals have interventions such as hibernation, so could this natural withdrawal response be activated by a combination of fear and not living in natural light? When a body gets cold, it begins to shut off to preserve life at the core of the body, even to the point of suspended animation - could depression be a similar form of effect, where safety equates with withdrawing inwards?

    Ultimately, we are the best judge of our own being and here I definitely recognize thinking as a cause, because what is the meaning of a depression, is it not a rut and if our thoughts keep making ruts then see points of depression in that also. For sure if we can understand our own triggers or nutritional response or mind-state, all these things could help overcome some effects.
    Milos Djukic
    16/07/2017 #17 Anonymous
    "Most people dream about acceptance by other people." - @Victoria Toumit
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    16/07/2017 #16 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #4 Thanks for the tag @Pamela 🐝 Williams :))
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    16/07/2017 #15 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    Depression is not a choice, it's an illness. Happiness is a choice and I feel fortunate when I'm happy, actually happiness comes easier to those who don't suffer from depression. People would not commit suicide if depression wasn't real. Depression needs to be taken seriously because many suffer in silence thanks to people who still attach that lovely stigma to it... there are still many who feel those who are suffering from depression are just weak or failures, because they don't understand depression is a condition not a temporary feeling. Everyone feels down or depressed for one reason or another but if they don't suffer from clinical depression they have the right chemicals (balance) and coping skills to work through. What people don't realize is that those who do suffer from clinical depression, well it can come on like a thief in the night and hang around for a long time. Treatment is key as is compassion. I noticed you mentioned EMDR, great treatment and has a high success rate. Honestly, the more I've tried affirmations, the more I feel anxious and like a failure because they sound great... they just don't connect properly when a person is depressed. Thanks for this topic @Victoria Toumit, it's a very important topic!
    Pamela 🐝 Williams
    16/07/2017 #14 Pamela 🐝 Williams
    #6 David, you seem to come from a background of support and encouragement and you accomplished a lot in your young life. I don't believe that if you had been raised in a atmosphere that didn't encourage you to believe in yourself and that you could accomplish whatever you set your mind to, that you would have reached the level you did. Not everyone is that lucky. All the affirmations in the world aren't going to overcome the years of being stifled or abused. Sometimes it is physical. Depression is not 'all in head' and I think Dr @Ian Weinberg will agree with that, there are actual physical imbalances in the body.
    Take a pill and it will all go away. It's not that easy; all the symptomology is still there.
    I've watched loved ones suffer from depression, resulting in two taking their own life. Their father suffered from the same illness...it passes down. If you haven't been to that black hole, you will never understand. Both men were men of faith, worked hard, had loving, accomplished families and yet years and years of fighting that darkness was exhausting until they were too tired to fight. There is situational depression (normal losses suffered in life) and then there is DEPRESSION, where getting out of bed takes all the energy a person can muster. Love, faith, and affirmations will not overcome. Bullying in social media can be devastating for people wanting to reach out from the depths of their dark holes only to meet a troll. We should all remember that there are human beings out there and we can't know what damage careless words can cause. We can't be responsible for everyone we meet on social media but we should take a moment to consider our words carefully.
  13. ProducerGeoff Hudson-Searle
    Good mental health in today's business and life
    Good mental health in today's business and lifeA very good friend and associate was in debate with me over some horrific trends within employee illness and mental health issues within business recently, and, with this in mind and reading a report another friend sent me, I decided to do some of...
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    12/07/2017 #6 Geoff Hudson-Searle
    #5 Thank you Lisa, I agree heightening awareness for this so important issue is an imperative, I am aware that Prince William and Princes Kate support CHUMS, a mental health and emotional wellbeing service for children and young people, where they support young people dealing with or affected by suicide, but government, WHO, corporates and charities need to come together to collaborate on such seriousness in today's society.
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    12/07/2017 #5 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #4 The findings are very staggering. Raising awareness, leaders who understand and employees along with the general population learning its ok to be honest about a legitimate illness may be the push society needs. We also need more backing from the medical community as a whole. Thanks for writing about this important topic /issue.
    Geoff Hudson-Searle
    12/07/2017 #4 Geoff Hudson-Searle
    #2 Thank you so much Lisa for your great comments, I did some research earlier in the year the findings were staggering, the new estimates were released in the lead-up to World Health Day on 7 April, the high point in WHO’s year-long campaign “Depression: let’s talk”. The overall goal of the campaign is that more people with depression, everywhere in the world, both seek and get help. According to the WHO, depression is the leading cause of ill health and disability worldwide. The latest estimates account for more than 300 million people are now living with depression, an increase of more than 18% between 2005 and 2015. Lack of support for people with mental disorders, coupled with a fear of stigma, prevent many from accessing the treatment they need to live healthy, productive lives. Investment in mental health makes economic sense. Every US$ 1 invested in scaling up treatment for depression and anxiety leads to a return of US$ 4 in better health and ability to work. Treatment usually involves either a talking therapy or antidepressant medication or a combination of the two. Both approaches can be provided by non-specialist health-workers, following a short course of training, and using WHO’s mhGAP Intervention Guide. More than 90 countries, of all income levels, have introduced or scaled-up programmes that provide treatment for depression and other mental disorders using this Intervention Guide. With the connected world and the increased levels of productivity that we live in I really do not see these statistics improving any time soon. Have a great week!
    Geoff Hudson-Searle
    12/07/2017 #3 Geoff Hudson-Searle
    #1 Thank you Sara for your kind comments, this is one of my push button subjects, so do stay tuned.
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    12/07/2017 #2 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    Great buzz @Geoff Hudson-Searle. More people suffer from Mental Health issues than are probably reported because they don't seek help due to the stigma still attached in 2017. I have been a strong advocate on behalf of Mental Health because I suffer from Anxiety and Panic disorder. My last employer had no idea I suffered because she and my deputy director actually told me about a Co-worker who had a full blown panic attack at work ( a very dedicated employee), they went on to make fun of her because she had a panic attack, passed out and was shaking while on the floor. The deputy director actually tried to mimic what happened to this poor woman. She mimicked to make fun, not out of compassion. I gave my 2 cents and realized I would never feel I could share my illness with y boss.

    You wrote, "Many people with mental health problems want to work, but they must feel confident that their employer supports them." I could not AGREE more!
  14. Sara Jacobovici

    Sara Jacobovici

    12/07/2017
    A must read. The author writes: "At Olark our mission is to make business human, and from these comments it’s clear that not all leaders see the opportunity to increase impact by focusing on the humans that make up their organization."
    Sara Jacobovici
    It’s 2017 and Mental Health is still an issue in the workplace.
    medium.com Last week a personal email I wrote was retweeted over 7,000 times, and liked by almost 30k...
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    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    12/07/2017 #3 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    I think it's great that the author listed Mental Health Organizations that are available for those in the Tech industry. We as humans, need more of this :)
    Sara Jacobovici
    12/07/2017 #2 Sara Jacobovici
    #1 True @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher. That's why it's encouraging when this discussion does take place. Here's hoping!
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    12/07/2017 #1 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    Inspiring article @Sara Jacobovici, thanks for sharing. It's sad as the author pointed out that Mental Health within the workplace is still not highly recognized considering how many suffer.
  15. ProducerTricia Mitchell

    Tricia Mitchell

    04/07/2017
    A Curious Thing Happened On My Path To Peace
    A Curious Thing Happened On My Path To PeaceOn Saturday night, I listened to my own meditation audio. Yes, I'd listened before now to critique it, but I was ready to receive its gifts. I led there as my stomach periodically convulsed, elevating my legs and upper body, then relaxing. I saw...
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    10/07/2017 #31 Tricia Mitchell
    #30 I understand what you're saying about feeling bad but, you're right, there is nothing you can do. It was a similar thing with this person, as you describe. I kept giving options: hypnotherapy, reiki, coffee & cake or walking the dogs - I made it as easy as possible, offering to pick her up and drop her off. She would only engage if it was about staying stuck. The emotional distress caused to all was too much, then the family backlash because I'd "deserted her", but I couldn't be around that manipulative energy any longer.

    If that friend wishes to come back, they will. If not, you were good enough to leave the door open but they have the choice whether to walk through or close it. Thanks for sharing @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    10/07/2017 #30 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #29 I had to do that with a certain person over a year ago. I felt bad but there was nothing I could do to help and I felt she was self-sabotaging our relationship after she did the same with her family and a few other good friends. I left the door open but I haven't heard from her since.
    Tricia Mitchell
    08/07/2017 #29 Tricia Mitchell
    #28 thanks @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher yes, you summarised it well. I referred to her as an old friend because eventually I had to walk away when I discovered she had become emotionally manipulating. Recycling crises to get sympathy, which (I'd later learn from her daughter) had actually happened weeks earlier. She engaged when speaking about meds & MH professionals. She'd withdraw & fall silent if focusing on anything that may contribute to the solution, which meant facing her reality. The things she did were very damaging emotionally to those around her. For reasons of self-preservation, I eventually severed all ties.
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    08/07/2017 #28 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #27 Thanks for explaining that. Numbness which can lead to situational depression from real life experiences. A great support system can help people when they are going through a hard time. It sounds like she has a good friend in you. Life can be so tough and it can leave people feeling numb, I agree- meds are not the answer in cases like that.
    Tricia Mitchell
    07/07/2017 #27 Tricia Mitchell
    #26 hi @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher I recognise that each person has the right to choose the best course of action for them; I'm not anti meds. My old friend's issue was a social one with her neighbours. Her neighbourhood was a socially & economically deprived area. Meds, sadly, don't factor in any social elements, they just numb feelings, including joy. They take the edge off life, which, if someones been living on a knife's edge is helpful. But it also numbs joy, which is one of the contributors to lifting us out of feeling low. Thanks for replying.
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    07/07/2017 #26 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #24 That's sad to hear about your neighbor. Sometimes meds are needed depending on the severity of the illness but many times doctors either over-medicate or put people on drugs without giving other modalities of treatment a chance. Many times, meds should just be temporary, helping a person to get over their hump period while they receive other therapy.
    Tricia Mitchell
    06/07/2017 #25 Tricia Mitchell
    I'm grateful to you for sharing this buzz @David B. Grinberg Thank you.
    Tricia Mitchell
    06/07/2017 #24 Tricia Mitchell
    #23 how wonderfully refreshing @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher that you have an MD who is so aware & interested in healing in the widest sense of the word. He sounds great & totally supportive. When I read your quote of him stating that meds numb, it reminded me of an old friend. She had an ongoing dispute with noisy neighbours.

    The ongoing dispute shifted her existing low mood into depression. She felt unable to move home. So, the doctor put her on anti-depressants. The nuisance neighbour situation got worse, the doctor kept increasing the dosage.

    It was a social situation that medication could not resolve. Changing the environment, or trying to detach from the situation (with meditation) may have more beneficial than creating the conditions where a plan was needed to gradually reduce the dosage!
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    06/07/2017 #23 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #22 Inspiring @Tricia Mitchell. You wrote: "Doctors practicing functional health understand the mind-body-environment (social) connection. If they could 'prescribe' self training & holistic therapies, in consultation with patients/clients," I am lucky enough to have a Doctor like this. He refrained from giving me meds knowing I'm working with my therapist using EMDR and meditation, along wtih CBT. My therapist even has essential oils to use during the meditative part of our therapy which is at the end. My Doctor looks forward to updates because he's been to a few conferences on EMDR and found it can relieve symptoms for a long time unlike Meds that numb you and give you no chance for a cure... his words. :)
    Tricia Mitchell
    05/07/2017 #22 Tricia Mitchell
    #18 @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher thanks for reading this one and commenting. If I understand you correctly, you're suggesting looking at what others have already done, in terms of methods? I think it's a great idea. Personally, I tend to limit what I take on these days, because I spent a long time "gathering" certificates in order to "prove" I was "good enough" & didn't know when to stop. In my 20s, there would be rookie cowboys out in the field, doing harm & I would be cautious & conscientious, declining work because I wasn't qualified, then I wasn't experienced enough. It was only them making a "pig's ear" out of something that would spur me into action. So, I use the tools I already have& trust that I'll be shown what I need to know or directed to any new training I need.

    I wholeheartedly agree with you when you state, "Many of us suffer from lack of inner peace and I going to bet it's great to add layers of self training along with therapy if necessary and a Doctor's help. Why not, it sure can't hurt." Doctors practicing functional health understand the mind-body-environment (social) connection. If they could 'prescribe' self training & holistic therapies, in consultation with patients/clients, it would be so empowering. I think it all boils down to educating the people who are looking for a different solution. Thank you for sharing this buzz in the Mental Health hive. I appreciate it.
    +2
    Tricia Mitchell
    05/07/2017 #21 Tricia Mitchell
    #15 (Part 3) I am pleased that you've been able to release comingled events through physical releasing using the audios I recorded @Deb 🐝 Helfrich. You wrote, "But I didn't quite understand how intensely, even low level, sub-cognitive stressors and events can affect how we proceed through life." I don't think any of us do, until we stumble across them & then laugh at the absurdity of some of the beliefs. Here's an example I wrote about: https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/foul-play-business-tricia-mitchell where a repeated pattern of successful businesses & wealth SLIPPED AWAY from a man, and the root was found in when he was 15 years old - the chance of a professional football career SLIPPED AWAY from him.

    It seems your travels are bringing you back to shore, Deb.

    "Hopefully these two different personal narratives can indicate a direction of sorts for those who will have to hack their own way out of their own jungle of memories and the wild things that grew up in their bodymind complex." I hope, too, Deb that others will benefit from our willingness to be open about our journeys & perhaps, be inspired to embark on their own travels to unravel & understand the patterns in their lives. Thank you for your poetic expressions, I do appreciate them, as I do your contributions & engagement with my buzzes.
    +1
    Tricia Mitchell
    05/07/2017 #20 Tricia Mitchell
    #15 (part 2) I admire that you're able to stay out of words & just allow the process to unfold, as you unfurl. You capture the western approach to dis-ease so eloquently, "Unlike the current, standard, western model that seeks to converge any issue into a set of symptoms that require a fixed remedy, our mind makes connections in a free flowing, relevance-centric way."

    I don't know whether I've shared this video clip with you before or not, but this is my trainer talking about a woman who walked out of her job. Events eventually went back to childhood, being hit by a swing as a toddler & then the day that she was born. The belief? When things are going well, I screw it up for others (she was born on Christmas Eve & Xmas was put aside for her older siblings, because the new baby was here). Only when we become aware of the existence of a pattern, "Why does this seem to keep happening to me?" (although life does not happen TO us), can we take steps to change it.

    At 3.33 he starts to talk about the ONE BELIEF that we all have in our lives: https://youtu.be/iGCpEjobv-w?t=213 5.05 he uses a bamboo metaphor which illustrates your comment, "We often regard our random thoughts as just that, out of the blue, and yet there has to be some shared salience, for these thoughts to proceed in sequence. Uncovering where events 20 years apart hold the same emotional charge is a new method, to most, for uncovering how our brains have wired certain disparate events together." He introduces Diana's story at 7.43.
    Tricia Mitchell
    05/07/2017 #19 Tricia Mitchell
    #15 Dear @Deb 🐝 Helfrich I enjoy reading your comments. I'm glad you found this post very insightful. Today, I learned that the pioneer of the system I referenced here died, aged 82. My next buzz will be about his journey. Although I never met him, I feel emotional talking about his selfless contribution to the planet, without which, I'm sure I wouldn't be able to affix my spiritual approach to a scientific framework

    I love how your approach is away from words, because it was your way of escaping & your rich metaphor of moats and being an island suddenly brings to mind the saying "No man is an island".

    It's interesting, looking at Human Design (HD), my chart shows that I have to speak aloud to understand - so the internal healing conversation actually happens externally (I think aloud; I'm one of those "annoying" people who asks for advice, and in talking it through arrives at a conclusion, thanks you for your input, without you uttering a word).

    My "obsession" with seeing patterns in everything probably leads to a curious exploration of where this thought may 'fit', which also leads me away of just BE-ing and accepting "It just is". I am an investigator in HD terms, so I'm always going to try to understand what's going on.

    I don't think many people are aware of just how compliant the subconscious mind is. Set the intention & it will provide the answers, if it's safe to do so. Tell it to show you the events & it will. It's then our childlike curiosity that can explore the connection, if we wish, between seemingly random events.
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    05/07/2017 #18 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    Very interesting stuff @Tricia Mitchell. My thoughts, why not explore methods others have tested. Many of us suffer from lack of inner peace and I going to bet it's great to add layers of self training along with therapy if necessary and a Doctor's help. Why not, it sure can't hurt. Thanks for sharing all of this.
    Tricia Mitchell
    05/07/2017 #17 Tricia Mitchell
    It is late @Deb 🐝 Helfrich and your comments are too rich to respond to now. I will be back tomorrow. Thank you so much for enriching this buzz & adding to the narratives, so those with curious minds may choose to water the seeds that reading this may have planted in their minds.
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    04/07/2017 #16 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    Pt2 - But the truth is that I wasn't fighting any specific villain or trauma, and I was unaware of how the very low attachment I received in my earliest days played out in my choices and preferences and ultimate withdrawing. Therefore, I didn't keep track of the steps of protection, I didn't even notice them at all. But the boundaries between me and the world went from a mote that a drawbridge could easily connect, to an ever vaster sea as my island of self drifted from shore.

    Hopefully these two different personal narratives can indicate a direction of sorts for those who will have to hack their own way out of their own jungle of memories and the wild things that grew up in their bodymind complex.
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    04/07/2017 #15 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    I find this a very insightful post, @Tricia Mitchell, as a model of how a personal, internal healing conversation unfolds. Unlike the current, standard, western model that seeks to converge any issue into a set of symptoms that require a fixed remedy, our mind makes connections in a free flowing, relevance-centric way.

    We often regard our random thoughts as just that, out of the blue, and yet there has to be some shared salience, for these thoughts to proceed in sequence. Uncovering where events 20 years apart hold the same emotional charge is a new method, to most, for uncovering how our brains have wired certain disparate events together.

    As you know, I have been experiencing quite a lot of tremoring as my body releases decades of comingled events, as I listen to your recordings. From the very first, I intuitively felt the power of TRE. But I didn't quite understand how intensely, even low level, sub-cognitive stressors and events can affect how we proceed through life.

    In my case, different than yours, I try to stay out of my mind and cognition, as much as possible, since my own way of self-soothing was my ability to retreat into the world of my thoughts. My mind palace was a comforting, fortified place that I spent years trying to escape, rather than just unsecuring the steps I took to secure myself in the first place.
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    04/07/2017 #14 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    #11 There are some profound truths in this statement @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee. True communication is a much more nuanced and reciprocal version of plain old talking.
    Tricia Mitchell
    04/07/2017 #13 Tricia Mitchell
    #2 I meant to thank you for your encouraging words, @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee and overlooked to do so, in responding to another of your points. Apologies and thank you. I will continue to move forward and follow where my curiosity takes me.
    Tricia Mitchell
    04/07/2017 #12 Tricia Mitchell
    #11 And you expressed it so succinctly. I agree with you entirely, and also, if we don't see the world as it is, but as we are (attributed to the Talmud & others), where there is a lack of inner peace, our outer world will merely reflect that turmoil. I'm resisting making reference to a "political" leader who lacks the finesse and oratory skills required to convey peace to the masses. It all starts with the inner work on ourselves and being at peace with who we are & accepting responsibility for the decisions and choices we make in our lives.
  16. ProducerLisa 🐝 Gallagher
    Mental Illness Affects The Entire Family - The Stigma Causes People To Lose Sight
    Mental Illness Affects The Entire Family - The Stigma Causes People To Lose Sight This past year and a half has been a world wind since I lost my mom.  Just when you think you have managed to over come so many obstacles something will come up to remind you that your loved one is really, really gone. I have a sister who has been...
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    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    09/07/2017 #50 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #48 Hi @Joel Anderson, I'm very sorry. As you put it, "another round all over again," I swear it feels like the cycle never ends. I hope in the case of someone close to you, it won't become a vicious cycle. Sending good thoughts your way, MANY!!
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    09/07/2017 #49 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #47 That's great @Shelley Brown. You write and others will read :)) I think you're a great writer!
    Joel Anderson
    08/07/2017 #48 Joel Anderson
    @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher Thank you. The complexity of it all. Thank you. Two weeks ago, we started another round over again. Someone close made a strong intimation. Didnt act on it, but it was enough to cause concern. Now we are on a similar journey to you and your sister. Just know you have a kindred spirit Joel
    Shelley Brown
    08/07/2017 #47 Shelley Brown
    #46 https://www.bebee.com/producer/@shelley-brown/eva-s-room was it this? @Deb 🐝 Helfrich and a few others have encourage me to do what brings me joy so I have been writing no matter what. Sending you hugs.
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    08/07/2017 #46 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #44 Hi @Shelley Brown, my heart breaks for her too. She's a good person with a big heart. She would do anything within her power to help anyone. Hey, I had a buzz of your's up the other day and my pc crashed. You can post a link to your last buzz for me on here so I can read and comment? Sending you good thoughts my friend!
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    08/07/2017 #45 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #43 Very frustrating @Nicole Chardenet. The numbers are extremely disheartening. You made many valid points- one: Mental illness crosses all boundaries. It does not care if it's victim is rich, poor, highly intelligent (many are) or poor. They have no concrete answers and too many are treated like a part on an assembly line- we need to get past this because everyone's brain chemistry and more differs from another. That's why certain meds may work for one and that same med may have no affect or adverse affects on others. I lost a friend to suicide about 10 years ago. He was an awesome guy and it wasn't until about 4 months before he committed suicide that I was aware he might be serious. He had only been married a little over a year and left the state to marry his wife, moved again after they were married and nixed his entire family. They had no idea where he was until they got that fatal call. I need to write a buzz about it because I felt guilty for almost a year- I was the last person he contacted 15 mins before he took his life. He contacted me by email and I wrote him back 2 days after he was gone, I had no clue he was gone until his wife called me. He was a Physician's assistant in a large ER in Oregon. I will say, I begged him to get counseling and he did. I thought he was getting better, people can really fool you when they want and have made up their mind (or should I say, untreated Mental Illness helped him to make up his mind?) We have a long way to go and I just keep my fingers crossed w/my sister, along with staying focused on the reality that she may never be cured. Thanks for sharing, I love your comments!
    Shelley Brown
    07/07/2017 #44 Shelley Brown
    Oh My God @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher. This post just broke my heart and also filled me with gratitude for your strength in sharing what is going on, the hope you have for your Sister, your willingness to help her and most importantly for shining a light and a very difficult topic where people need to have awareness. Thank you.
    Nicole Chardenet
    07/07/2017 #43 Nicole Chardenet
    #39 Urggghh, good luck trying to find any help here. Been through that last year trying to find help for my friend. The mental health organizations here are as hobbled as they are in the States...esp. by the notion that unless someone has been declared unfit, they are left to make their own decisions, for better or for worse. It's frustrating. I read in the paper this morning about more suicides on First Nations northern Ontario reserves, and people saying, "We need to fund mental health better for these reserves." And I thought about how we don't know how to deal with *anyone's* mental health issues, no matter who they are. Even rich 'privileged' people don't know how to deal with it or where to turn for help or even to get the help they actually need...because sometimes you have to look around for awhile to find the right help, and try various methods or therapists that don't work. It's why alcohol and drugs and overeating and retail therapy are so common in our society. Not a single one of us knows a damn thing about how to deal with mental illness.
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    07/07/2017 #42 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #41 Appreciate your kind sentiments David! We are working on this as a family. Time will tell. It's sad because I believe over medicating her for years along with the last session of ECT (they did it about 5 years ago and it she seemed better) but this put her into a very bad manic spin and I fear there is some damage. She has an appointment w/a new Doctor and the Cleveland Clinic for neurology along with testing (medical) to figure out if something else IS going on.
    David B. Grinberg
    07/07/2017 #41 David B. Grinberg
    Thank YOU, Lisa, for being so open about your personal life experience, as well as so outspoken and passionate about ending the stigma! You inspire all of us, so keep up the awesome!
    I also hope and pray your sister takes a turn for the best. May God bless her and you!
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    07/07/2017 #40 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    Thanks for the share @David B. Grinberg and others whose names I can't see :))
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    06/07/2017 #39 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #38 So sorry to hear about your co-worker. His case is a prime example of those who are in dire need of Mental Health Intervention. He obviously has some type of disorder with paranoid delusions and possibly auditory psychosis. You are right to be fearful considering his statements. I think it would be beneficial to call a mental health hotline and ask what to do in a situation like this? There are places to call but not sure where in Canada @Nicole Chardenet that can guide others or report an incident so a wellness check can be made ASAP. If he does have guns, they would be taken away due to his statements and sounds like a past mental health history too.

    As for his color, maybe he actually thinks he's black... now if he thinks he's purple, we have a case of Barney Syndrome... sorry, all kidding aside, I will see if I can find a few links that may help. I think that would have me on egg shells worrying he may go postal on those he has a dismay with.
    Nicole Chardenet
    05/07/2017 #38 Nicole Chardenet
    Thanks for sharing this story, Lisa. It's folks like you who will help to chip away at the stigma of mental illness and make it easier for others to seek help for themselves or others. I think I've mentioned to you before I have a friend and former co-worker who has simply gone off the rails in the last few years as he descends into delusionary madness. At this point I'm a little bit afraid of him. Not that he'll come after me, but I don't want to be around him because he talks kind of violent sometimes on social media. A mutual friend and also fellow co-worker (we all three of us worked together several years ago) are convinced he will probably die by cop. Whether it will be suicide or just shot in the middle of pulling some really crazy shit remains to be seen. He's not black but he's recently decided he's not white and I'm not sure what colour he thinks he is but he's always carrying on about crazy racist mofo'ing Toronto cops. It's heartbreaking to see but he won't go back on his meds, and he's a LOT more normal when he's on his meds.

    I really hope your sister finds the peace she must surely want, even if she feels there's no hope.
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    04/07/2017 #37 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #32 Hi @Sara Jacobovici, thank you so much for taking the time to read my buzz and for your input. You wrote: "Help her understand that you are not placing blame and that you want to work with your sister's treatment team to enable she get the best treatment possible." I am copying and pasting some of the wonderful input I'm getting on here, including your statement about helping the case worker to understand I work with my sister's treatment team... your suggestion will be helpful when I talk to her. Having notes makes a world of difference because it's easy to leave one thing out and that ONE THING could be vital towards a better recovery for our family members when we are advocating on their behalf.

    We had her hospitalized before for detox and a wean. It worked well but her Dr. (and she may doctor hop?) had her on a ton of medications again within 8 months or so. It was sad and angering considering how well she seemed to be doing. All she has to do is say she is feeling suicidal (and healthcare professionals along with family members have to take that seriously) but her doctor seems to just keep adding news medications when she does this, so he defeated the purpose. She will use ADD as a mechanism to get a stimulant as well and I think she likes it because it stimulates her mania. I have suggested she get a second opinion from a new Dr. because she's been seeing this one for years and I'm not sure he can be objective anymore.

    Thank you for your kind thoughts as well, I really appreciate them!
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    04/07/2017 #36 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #31 Hi @Charlene Norman, thank you so much for sharing your story. Every story can add more insight to those who suffer in silence, including family members.

    I can't imagine how tough that had to be growing up with illness surrounding you and then knowing your mom attempted suicide at 60 years old. Your resilience is astounding. I agree, love and compassion do play a big role. Without love or compassion a person would end up on the streets or worse. I'm sure that's why we do have so many homeless people living on the streets because they didn't receive the proper help, may have families who gave up on them and many of these people went off their meds from what I've read. Sadly, there are some types of disorders where a person is unreachable and dangerous not only to themselves but others and they are the people who others, for the sake of their own safety have to turn away from. It's like cancer, some people can be cured, some can be managed and with others- no treatment is available yet to cure or at least help them to manage and heal somewhat. I'm glad you were able to find strength and what works for you because it's obviously kept you mentally healthy! :)
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    04/07/2017 #35 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #30 My heart goes out to you too @Bill Stankiewicz, 🐝 Brand Ambassador, sending good thoughts your way!!
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    04/07/2017 #34 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #29 Dear @Debesh Choudhury, thank you for your comment. I'm sorry you have a family member that is ill with Mental illness too. It's much more prevalent than many are probably aware of because we keep it so hush as if it's a bad secret. It's always great when I see people openly talking about the illness because we take no issues if people talk about heart disease, kidney disease etc... an illness is an illness. I agree, ECT is very bad. She lost her license after the ECT because she had severe memory loss and other issues. They need to stop using ECT as a 'tool' and begin working harder to come up with solutions that are proven to work- even therapy based models. There has been a lot of new therapies coming to light yet, some of these are not used in many communities yet or they aren't approved, which means Insurance won't pay. Best wishes to you and your sister!
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    04/07/2017 #33 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #28 Hi @Deb 🐝 Helfrich, I just typed a full comment and my PC crashed. I found out after I wrote this buzz from my sister (without asking) that her Dr. looked at her meds and said, Wow, you are on a lot of meds, we need to wean you off some of these. I have no idea which meds but I still need to talk to her caseworker to find out for myself. I guess he began weaning last Friday and I just noticed a difference today in her speech, cognition and she sounds much less aggressive.

    As for the family dynamics, it's true about my father's death. It obviously affected each of us differently. I remember after the funeral was over we didn't bring up his name again. If we did, it must have been very little because I don't recall speaking of my dad again until I was 19 years old. They didn't have grief counseling back then or hospice. I'm sure my mom was of the mindset that to talk about him would open old wounds but those wounds really never closed completely because we didn't discuss him as a family. We didn't even have happy conversations about wonderful memories of him after he was gone. My sister's illness was probably triggered from the loss. That gene surfaced.

    You wrote "But one thing I would like to say is that, for the future, for our society and its most vulnerable members, we need to put in place resources early and often to prevent someone living a life of such torture." I couldn't agree more, it's vital to put resources in place early because early intervention can possibly prevent a person from getting to the point my sister is now. She lives in her own "hell" (excuse the phrase) but it's true and my heart just bleeds for her.
    Sara Jacobovici
    04/07/2017 #32 Sara Jacobovici
    Dear @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher, a courageous and straight from the heart share. Thank you. I also had the opportunity to read the incredible comments from your readers. You've touched on every nerve that is impacted upon by mental illness. Of course it is not possible to give justice to your needs in this venue. Support and suggestions. Here goes. You are doing everything you can and the most important piece is coming up. You write that you will be speaking to your sister's caseworker and nurse this week. Because you had already influenced the system to reduce your sister's meds from 10 to 3 during one hospital stay, you are obviously influential. And so, I encourage you to focus on that when you speak to your sister's caseworker. Help her understand that you are not placing blame and that you want to work with your sister's treatment team to enable she get the best treatment possible. Given the decline, you are legitimately concerned. Medications are an issue. And you want to look at a hospital stay where your sister continues to be weaned off her current meds, goes through a monitored detox period and that with concurrent therapy, individual and group, different modalities, determine the main area of concern, and address that one area only and discuss what medication would be appropriate given her needs. It is important that the discussion stays on your sister's immediate need to stop the decline. Issues related to the malfunctioning system need to be voiced in a different place. And don't forget to (continue I trust) take care of yourself and get your needs met. Wishing you continued strength and hope. And I am confident that you are making your mother proud Lisa. All the best and take good care.
    Charlene Norman
    04/07/2017 #31 Charlene Norman
    Thank you for writing Lisa. You have spoken to many hearts and minds with this story. It desperately needs to be told. The pain and anguish and frustration you have are so real, so poignant and so devastating.

    I too am ‘just’ the surviving family member of a sibling who was tormented, of a father who unknowingly did a lot of tormenting, and of a mother who finally broke (attempted suicide) at sixty years of age. And as the only one in the family (on both sides, with long lines of issues) untouched by mental illness, the only way I could fight was refuse to have children and not pass on the bad gene.

    Yet, the gifts I received from the illness that complicated my entire life were many. Strength, resilience, deep wells of humour to sustain the darkest periods and a never ending huge capacity to love. It took me many years to recognise and realise that while I can not cure the people I love, and I can’t change the many broken systems, I have within me the gifts they really need. And so do you. Deep within all of us frail human beings, our love and “just being there” for the other person can do more than we can ever comprehend. Please take a small degree of comfort in knowing that.
  17. ProducerJim Murray

    Jim Murray

    30/06/2017
    The Things You Gladly Do For Your Kids
    The Things You Gladly Do For Your KidsMy daughter whose name is Star, (nee Charlotte, seen here with her old man, Ben),  was recently diagnosed as bi-polar. This is a tough thing for a writer to be and and even tougher thing for a young writer with her first publishing contact in place...
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    Barbara Henslee
    11/07/2017 #6 Barbara Henslee
    Star is very fortunate to have you in her life. No doubt you say the same of her. Nobody needs to tell you how essential it is to have a strong and influential support system. I can only imagine, but getting words out of her head and onto "paper" must be greatly therapeutic. Thank you for sharing. I wish her the best, now go get some rest. (see what I did there?) :-D
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    01/07/2017 #5 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    The love for your daughter shines like a bright star. Thank you for sharing. Its great to read about all the unconditional support. Best wishes to you and your daughter. Ps: The poetry was an extra special read.
    Laurent Boscherini
    01/07/2017 #4 Anonymous
    Thank you @Jim Murray for sharing your priceless poetry so uplifting to feel your sensitive touch of that unconditional benevolence.
    Pascal Derrien
    01/07/2017 #3 Pascal Derrien
    thanks for this PRECIOUS share :-)
    Gert Scholtz
    01/07/2017 #2 Gert Scholtz
    @Jim Murray Super-talented poetry. My best wishes to you and to Star.
    Phil Friedman
    01/07/2017 #1 Phil Friedman
    Hang in there, Star. For you have a talent -- which is all too rare.
  18. ProducerAlyssa Abonales

    Alyssa Abonales

    28/06/2017
    5 ways to Achieve Psychological Flexibility
    5 ways to Achieve Psychological FlexibilityWhat is Psychological Flexibility? Psychological flexibility simply means acting on longer term values rather than short term impulses.Basing your actions and decision making on deeper values that we carry growing up from many phases in our life...
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    Jordan Sands
    28/06/2017 #1 Jordan Sands
    Great post. My article on ownership mentions some of these traits.
  19. ProducerJoyce 🐝 Bowen   Brand Ambassador @ beBee
    My Story of Abuse
    My Story of AbuseWhat is the view of child abuse? I struggle with that question.  I've found that child abuse survivors are viewed as damaged goods.  I see pity in people’s eyes.  I say, don’t see me and my ordeal—understand that there are children out there right...
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    Preston 🐝 Vander Ven
    12/09/2017 #13 Preston 🐝 Vander Ven
    Thanks for this Story. I enjoy walking with others and learning from their trials. I also went through my abuse as a child. This was severe and even lead to brain damage, thus my epilepsy. It's wasn't until I was in my mid-twenties that I realized that my trauma hurting in my life at that moment wasn't the physical damage, yet the unforgiveness of my own. This was the hardest conquest I have ever had to overcome.
    For years it was like carrying a backpack of painful memories and chains attached to my legs. A close friend help me realize that if Christ can forgive everyone of our sins, then I can forgive those you pained me. Yet, that decision was mine. It was not in a day either. After I completed this journey, I was free.
    With this freedom, I wanted to find others who are currently in the same pain I was in, and help them from their present danger. That is one reason I became a foster parent. The next step is to guide them with the hardest journey, "Forgiveness."
    The story of Joseph is Genesis was one that had always help guide me. He was innocent yet terrible things happened to him over and over. This happen so he could be were he could be where he was needed. I understand as a grown man, my past help grow and guide me to where I am needed today.
    Joyce 🐝 Bowen   Brand Ambassador @ beBee
    17/02/2017 #12 Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee
    @Joel Savage Thank you for reading it. Thanks for your comment.
    Joyce 🐝 Bowen   Brand Ambassador @ beBee
    13/02/2017 #10 Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee
    @CityVP 🐝 Manjit ahhh yes. I have been at the mercy of the whims of others so often that I collect many things. I have 5T external hard drives.
    CityVP 🐝 Manjit
    13/02/2017 #9 CityVP 🐝 Manjit
    #7 Last year there was a site called about.com and they had this facility called "collections", where you collect people under their interests - I thought the idea was brilliant and I ended up setting up 95 categories and had read and collected over +5000 profiles.

    Then someone there decided that they were going to a new system and announced that in the "collections" pages will be scrapped. It was their site and their decision. This is how marketed human beings are - it has nothing to do with personal. They were not interested in what this media meant to people, it did not fit their business model and so employed a more simpler model of focusing on personal brand.

    In noticing your fight it is not the first time I have come across people with your fighting spirit. At about.com I had come across over 20. Just like that the site was wiped clean of all collections, but not before I realized that some people dedicate their "work" to this form of seeking justice for others. Abuse does not start as canyons, it starts as tiny cracks.

    What you write is tell your story, but what you actually do is fight for justice. That was the name of that collection I once had at about.com "fight for justice". I have zero respect today for about.com but plenty of respect for the stories of those people I encountered, people whose names I should have recorded but did not because I naively thought info on a cloud stayed there.
    Joyce 🐝 Bowen   Brand Ambassador @ beBee
    13/02/2017 #7 Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee
    @CityVP 🐝 Manjit yes--so true. I went on to be sexually assaulted by a predator who victimized disadvantaged children. That is a much longer story spanning years of tracking both him and his victims.
    CityVP 🐝 Manjit
    13/02/2017 #6 CityVP 🐝 Manjit
    When I first found the web my curiosity revealed my naivety. The first niche social network site I joined was back in 1998 and the site called yoni.com and such was my naivety that even as I interacted in the discussions there, I did not know what a yoni was. The moment I saw what it was, I could not believe that I could not see it, it was just a case of OMG.

    That OMG pales in comparison to one particular discussion I had. The discussion was about bulimia. As a naive individual I wanted to understand bulimia and why this condition of self-image effected women. One of the answers I received I was not ready for and even today the chill of the answer registers to my bone.

    I was curious enough to initiate a private chat with one of the women who took part in this group. It is in this conversation that I both realized that I had ventured into something much bigger than me and that I was a million miles removed from.

    I asked this woman about bulimia and explain what it was. I will never forget her answer. She told me that as a child her father asked her mother to hold her while the mother watched and he would thrust his penis into her mouth. If this isn't horrific enough, this woman was disabled and so was objectified as a thing by her parents.

    This discussion group that discussed bulimia was a gathering place for women like her to share their humanity and not simply there misery, this was not a place where someone liked me belonged. What did I get from that woman is the hidden truth of what sits behind these conditions that we call bulimia. This was one woman's story about what happened to her. One is enough.

    It is not bulimia I am talking about here it is abuse. Later I discovered the horrific accounts of disabled people to widespread abuse simply because they were disabled. Those that want meaning to be about work miss the meaning of home, they miss this.
    Joyce 🐝 Bowen   Brand Ambassador @ beBee
    13/02/2017 #5 Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee
    @Todd Jones Hard to find healing when I know children are still out there dying. I should be dead myself.
    Todd Jones
    13/02/2017 #4 Todd Jones
    Another painful read Joyce. I hope you find comfort and healing in these essays. Your words tear at my heart.
    Pascal Derrien
    13/02/2017 #3 Pascal Derrien
    That's summing it all I suppose for now, selfish adults praising diversion and ignorance hoping there is a holy value in repentance......
    Paul Walters
    13/02/2017 #1 Paul Walters
    @Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee may I suggest a novel I read last year entitled A Little Life
    by Hanya Yanagihara which resonated with me
  20. Pat Bagano

    Pat Bagano

    24/06/2017
    Life coaching for anxiety is found by many to be the most effective compared to medications offered by modern medicine. Life coaches with pure intent to heal and are equipped with knowledge on how to destroy anxiety triggers may drive lasting and faster results.
    Pat Bagano
    Life Coaching for Anxiety: A Path Recovery - Memory Changer
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    Dear Anxiety, I hate you!
    Dear Anxiety, I hate you! Anxiety, just when you think you might be beating this disorder it comes back with a fervor. There is very little I hate but I want to shout, "I hate YOU Anxiety!"  An incident happened today that angered and inspired me to write.We left for...
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    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    29/06/2017 #62 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #61 I never heard of Bemidji MN, I will have to look it up. Oh wow, I can still remember those major heart flutters when our kids drove. My son was in ski club and he decided he was tired of seeing kids monkeying around and smoking pot while skiing so he and another friend went solo. We allowed them to drive and hour and a half away for skiing every Friday night. I would pace a bit when I felt they were possibly over-due from returning home on snow covered roads or is a storm began after they left. They were doing this before kids had cell phones. So, I can imagine your 'bit of a gulp' feeling! Glad he made it home safely.

    I love to fish @Aaron 🐝 Skogen. It wasn't until a few years ago when my husband and I rented a cabin not too far from home on a lake and we would canoe early in the evening to fish. I caught 2 fish one night and we put them over the fire and ate! I fished w/my grandsons out in Colorado and will be going to Nags Head in Oct - I hope to fish there too. I'm meeting a friend from beBee ( We will make it public after I talk to her lol), and I hope to fish on a big pier close to our Condo, just one afternoon. It's relaxing and takes the mind off of so much, just like my photography does.

    Thanks for sharing about your vacation. Have you written a buzz w/photos? If you have, please post a link here so I can find it. beBee sure is growing because I'm missing a lot lately. PS: Yes, I'm very curious to hear about the genome testing and thanks... I could not remember what it was called. Oh and one more thing, campfire, now that sounds like fun too!!
    Aaron 🐝 Skogen
    28/06/2017 #61 Aaron 🐝 Skogen
    #59 #60 YOu are most welcome @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher, happy to share!!!

    I had originally thought about heading back to Montana for some fly fishing, but due to our older two kids schedules, we stayed closer to home and spent the week north of Bemidji, MN. That allowed the older two kids drive up and join us midway through the week after their Marching Band practices were done for the week. That was a bit of a "gulp" as that was the first long (5 hour) drive we have allowed our son, who is still 16, to drive on his own. They made it safely!

    It was a great week spent fishing, and more fishing, with some fun campfires thrown in mix! Thanks for asking!

    It'll be interesting to see what the genome testing indicates for your med tolerance. I pray it helps you find some additional results! And again, thank you for sharing your story and journey with all of us. Understanding breaks down barriers and eliminates fear. You just keep at it Lisa!
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    27/06/2017 #60 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    Thank you for sharing @Aaron 🐝 Skogen!!
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    27/06/2017 #59 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #58 Hi @Aaron 🐝 Skogen, I hope your trip was wonderful! Where did you end up going?

    Thanks so much for remembering my buzz, so kind of you! Your friend describes her symptoms well. Sometimes it can feel like an out of body experience and you have no control until the episode ends. No matter how many times a person tells themselves that our brain is out of control due to a flood of chemicals from a physiological response, I think many people feel frustration, emotional pain and embarrassment after it's over. They have been studying adrenaline and how it affects those with anxiety. They were working on trials with new drugs to target just that but so far the trials have not made it through phase 3, the longest and final phase. That's why SSI's and SSRI's don't tend to work on many who have Generalized Anxiety Disorder with Panic because those drugs target the serotonin and nor-epinephrine.

    I just had a DNA test done with enzymes to help determine if there is a drug that my body will tolerate and at what dose to begin along with maximum dose and some other info. I have an appointment coming up and I'm curious to see what this produced as far as results go.

    Thank you for your comment, it's greatly appreciated!!
    Aaron 🐝 Skogen
    27/06/2017 #58 Aaron 🐝 Skogen
    #1 @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher, first thank you so much for tagging me via our note on FB. I was away on vacation for a spell with the family, and wanted to be sure I found this when when I came back. I sincerely appreciate your tag as a reminder.

    This is really powerful Lisa, and I commend your continued work to bring awareness to mental health issues and working to break down the stigma. As you communicate so well, there is no "choice". A friend deals with some mental health issues and describes it as "an out of body experience", she says she can see herself snapping, being rude, or overly emotional and feels guilt, but simply cannot control her response at times, much like you describe above. A moving post for sure!

    Thanks for having the courage to share your story my friend.

    Loved some of the pics from the trip and I am happy you had a great time overall. You made some great memories!
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    25/06/2017 #57 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    Hi @Blaine Little, thanks for sharing my buzz!
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    24/06/2017 #56 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #55 It's nice to read you are able to begin giving up control @Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee, that has to be such a freeing feeling! Thanks for sharing.
    Joyce 🐝 Bowen   Brand Ambassador @ beBee
    23/06/2017 #55 Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee
    As I age, I am forced into a world of Trust. It is revealing and comforting. I had no idea... I am coming upon a time when my disease may force me to give up driving. Talk about control--jeesh. I learned there is a network of people tasked with getting the aged and the disabled around the state. I traded my panic about getting to needed professionals off to the lessor panic of not being in control behind the wheel. It is called The Ride. I am learning that giving up control can be comforting.
    Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador
    23/06/2017 #54 Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador
    #53 Yes, it is amazing I can remember the details of a bad experience and not remember something I want to. 😐
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    23/06/2017 #53 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #52 That sure sounds like you had a full blown panic attack in your car @Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador. When you said you had to turn on your A/C full blast, I understood. I have been lucky and only had 1 major panic attack in my car while driving. I did the same thing, turned on the A/C full blast and cold! You must have felt dizzy and like you were going to pass out? I even pulled over trying to 'pull' it together. Lack of sleep and major stressors can induce panic if a person has a propensity towards it. I'm so glad in your case it was transient. I never thought about the loss of my mom this past year and that it may have opened up a can of worms. Grief can do this too, not sure why that didn't cross my mind. Thanks for sharing your story, they all matter. Isn't amazing how clear the memory is when you experience something like that?
    Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador
    22/06/2017 #52 Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador
    #39 It seems what is so difficult to understand is being anxious is not the same as an anxiety attack. However, for those that are prone to anxiety attacks, being anxious will spark it. My worst anxiety attack was when I driving and I was in an area not completely familiar to me. Even though I was close to home, I became overcome with fear and I felt totally lost. I turned the a/c in my car to the coldest setting and let it blow in my face. It helped because it calmed me down.

    I still remember the day, the road, and the make and model of my car. I haven't had any major attacks since then and I believe it was brought on by undesirable life events and stress (work and a passing of a loved one). I used to have them after my mother passed away but finally grew out of them. My episodes were not nearly severe as what you experience.

    You're doing yourself a favor by facing your problem and sharing it with others. You are not alone in your suffering.

    Sending hugs. 🌼 🌸 🌺
    Lance  🐝 Scoular
    22/06/2017 #51 Lance 🐝 Scoular
    #48 Mel, our daughter, became anxious during first pregnancy and her doctor refered her to a councillor which has helped to some extent.

    Thanks Lisa.
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    22/06/2017 #50 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #47 That's cool to know @stephan metral 🐝 Innovative Brand Ambassador. If I decided to do it, I'd probably have someone help me because I've never done a video like that before. It's something to really give thought to though, if I could make a video with a strong and interesting message. Thanks for the info and offer!!
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    22/06/2017 #49 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    @Lance 🐝 Scoular, I meant to write granddaughter in my last sentence, I wish her a speedy, non-eventful recovery!
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    22/06/2017 #48 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #46 Oh so much for a 22 month old to go through and hard on mommy too @Lance 🐝 Scoular. I wonder if your daughter is traumatized by your granddaughters surgery and recovery? Was she prone to this before her pregnancy? It has to be VERY hard to live 4 hrs from her. I feel bad for her and both, you and your wife. Does she have a counselor or is her OB Doctor helping? Hopefully this will pass for her sooner than not if it's been brought on suddenly during her pregnancy.

    My daughter's friend has a little girl and last year she broke her leg at the babysitter (who is no longer the sitter) there were questions as to the truth of how it happened. Long story short, she ended up in a the same type of cast because it was her fibula. Her mommy became very depressed and anxious. Mom was and still is much better now that her daughter is healed. I wish the same for your daughter and a speedy, non-eventful recovery for little baby Matilda!
    stephan metral 🐝 Innovative Brand Ambassador
    22/06/2017 #47 stephan metral 🐝 Innovative Brand Ambassador
    i am not a videographer as per cameraman, but i am qualified in directing and post production of videomaterial, using final cut on mac and techsmith software, if you shoot scene raw and upload them on google drive shared with me i can add jingle, intro, transitions, subtitles, fade in and out, special fx and legnds, then compress them in mp4 for both desktops and smartphones format. If you have a youtube channel consider them uploaded thanks to my fiber optic unlimited bandwith. I t all up to you. Check Solomon jones on beBee and Youtube, he runs one by himself.#43
    Lance  🐝 Scoular
    22/06/2017 #46 Lance 🐝 Scoular
    #45 Lisa, Your post resonates as
    our 22 month old granddaughter Matilda, recently had major surgery for clicky hips which went well😊

    She is in a cast for 6 weeks and she looks like an upside down V.

    Then she will be in a brace for 5 weeks.

    Her mother, our daughter, is expecting her second and due in August and has been suffering from anxiety with these and othrr issues and lives 4 hours from us.

    They spent 2 weeks with us but have retuned to their home and being supportive long distance is not so easy.

    We do our best.

    Thanks for your post Lisa.

    Best
    Lance
    ✴🌐
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    22/06/2017 #45 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #44 Thanks @Lance 🐝 Scoular, hope you and your family are doing well!!
    Lance  🐝 Scoular
    22/06/2017 #44 Lance 🐝 Scoular
    👍👌

    👥ed 🐝🐝🐤🐳🔥🚲
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    22/06/2017 #43 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #37 Maybe I should have a videographer follow me around ;-) I'd love to do a Vlog and share it. They seem to have a lot of impact if done right @stephan metral 🐝 Innovative Brand Ambassador
  22. ProducerCasey Katchersyde
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    CityVP 🐝 Manjit
    09/06/2017 #5 CityVP 🐝 Manjit
    #4 This is why I do not put stock into comments but into energy, and the energy of reflection you speak of is presence. The students in my college hate my emails because their meme is that attention is precious, but I say meaning is precious and the meaning we deposit is raw material. That is the problem with education is it not, it is all about doing/having and not thinking/being - so my doing is not your being, all I have here at beBee is thinking in what is presence that got presented.

    What separates reflection from comments is the energy it generates and how we link this energy up will determine what it lights (hence the word enlightenment). Words like "goals" and "challenges" are also raw material but processed as an energy called reflection it can take us to a wholly different place like it did for Leo Babauta here https://zenhabits.net/no-goal/

    The last thing I want to do is change others for they are responsible for that change but a comment is in the past - reflection is in the present - and the act of you reading what I am thinking out aloud here is you reading my past - for the simple reason presence is in my present.

    Presence is where my energy meets my consciousness where I am fully alive, and so is reflection a foundation like a house or is it an energy that travels through a house that makes a house a home and shifts making a living into making a life?
    Casey Katchersyde
    09/06/2017 #4 Casey Katchersyde
    Such wonderful comments @Jerry Fletcher, @CityVP 🐝 Manjit, and Michael O'Neil! Thank You! I'm very happy to hear how your experiences with this topic has helped you realize new goals and take on new challenges. As I am constantly learning, I am excited to practice new life experiences and being able to reflect back is a foundation to being able to move forward.
    CityVP 🐝 Manjit
    08/06/2017 #2 CityVP 🐝 Manjit
    When I was taking selfies in the early 80's, it looked odd that someone at that time would point a camera at themselves and take a picture, so when my kids discovered an old album of selfies, they screamed "Hey! Papa used to take selfies!!!".

    The same goes with reflective practice. People are not familiar or largely do not engage in reflection, yet both of us do and therefore we represent the early majority of this particular way of thinking. Of course reflection cannot be compared to selfies. Reflection is a higher order faculty, whereas selfies is a lower order indulgence. The irony is that in recent decades I tend to limit being in photographs because reflective practice helps see through things and become conscious of what is image and what is presence.

    Nor do I take pictures on my travels to capture moments to add them to the 10,000 other captured moments because it is easy to engage visual collection - but it is more meaningful for me to be present and enjoy the blessings of a mind that is more relaxed and free - and ironically in such a mind, there is greater room to learn to see, which sits at the basis of what we can imagine and in this way reflection is a complimentary intelligence to vision and this "learning to see".
    Jerry Fletcher
    08/06/2017 #1 Jerry Fletcher
    Casey, A prediction: You will do well in the goals you choose. I can say that because you have learned one of the great lessons of life. There always will come a time when you have succeeded, failed, finished or tripped over something. It is then that you need to step back and reconsider. It is worth distancing and rediscovering yourself as you have been transformed. Always.
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    Nicole Chardenet
    01/05/2017 #4 Nicole Chardenet
    Hey Brian, denial is not just a river in Egypt. If you're happy in any sense of the word, then I'm Melania Trump. Riding a Brontosaurus. Through Central Park. Dressed as Darth Vader.
    Brian McKenzie
    30/04/2017 #3 Brian McKenzie
    While there is no 'I' in TEAM, there is a ME, and I am not social. I am happiest alone....even happier when I get to destroy the lies and banality of society / civility / humanity. My soul purpose is to murder the machine ~ create the chaos that causes it to crash, burn and die.
    Imagine being such a failure at life, you can't even manage to successfully commit suicide despite a long string of attempts.
    Donna Wood
    29/04/2017 #2 Donna Wood
    Excellent points, @Lyon Brave! We must choose to decide how each moment will play out. Talk well about ourselves and others. It makes a lot of difference.
    Kevin Baker
    29/04/2017 #1 Kevin Baker
    Excellent insight. Depression kept on the inside festers, put to the outside diminishes. Thanks @Lyon Brave
  25. ProducerLisa 🐝 Gallagher
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    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    30/05/2017 #30 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #29 Personally, they've never worked for me. Some people say Kava works. Studies have been done which state Kava doesn't. I never benefited from it. Maybe others would know? They do sell teas specifically for stress, a company named Yogi sells one. You can get it in the grocery store. It wouldn't hurt to try, maybe it would work for you. B vitamins are supposed to be really good for anxiety. You have to take B Complex with B12. I buy both and get sublingual drops. They sell sublingual B12 too. It takes time for a vitamin regime to begin to work if it's going to but that is well worth trying.
    Lyon Brave
    29/05/2017 #29 Lyon Brave
    Do you know any good herbal pills or teas that help with anxiety
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    26/04/2017 #28 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #27 Thank you @🐝 Fatima G. Williams, you are so sweet! Yes, it will be a great trip :)) Thanks for sharing too!!
    🐝 Fatima G. Williams
    26/04/2017 #27 🐝 Fatima G. Williams
    I kept sharing this cause I know the heart and mind that wrote it and to show you I am there to support you in any way. I learnt alot about anxiety and how it can affect us through your stories. I would like to say "You Got this Lisa and your going to have a fantastic trip" :)
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    25/04/2017 #25 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    oops I meant to add thanks for the share @🐝 Fatima G. Williams :))
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    25/04/2017 #24 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #23 Hi @debasish majumder thank you very much! I felt my mind was a bit scattered when I wrote this but that's what anxiety does to a person. I try to keep it very real because so many suffer. Appreciate that you took the time to read! Thanks for the share!
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    21/04/2017 #22 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #21 Thanks @Renée 🐝 Cormier, hugs back and always, wishing you the best too. Your awesome!
    Renée  🐝 Cormier
    20/04/2017 #21 Renée 🐝 Cormier
    #19 I wish you all the best @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher. I know it's a struggle for you. Big hug.
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    20/04/2017 #20 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #16 Thanks @Jerry Fletcher, that's the key, understanding myself, understanding how my brain is different and trying hard to reprogram years of not 'understanding' which led to where I am now. Thanks for reading and wish you all the best too :)
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    20/04/2017 #19 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #15 Hi @Renée 🐝 Cormier, sadly with GAD (Generalized Anxiety Disorder) thoughts do control you in a strange way. That's one of the reasons I'm in therapy working on reprogramming my brain per se. Intrusive thoughts are unwanted thoughts that play over and over like a broken record in your mind no matter what thoughts you try to replace them with, they return instantly. I never realized how much my thoughts controlled me until I sought help. That is *one* of my issues and I actually thought for a very long time that I was weak and should be able to control my thoughts- I worked hard daily w/out success and just became more worn down physically, When people are inflicted with intrusive thoughts they beat themselves up more than anyone. Logically, a person will keep saying, "This is BS, I need to stop thinking these thoughts, re-direct... think about all the positive things going on, think of wonderful memories," eg, it's only a temporary (very temporary) reprieve. Don't get me wrong, I'm not a negative Nancy no matter how it may appear when I write. I agree, we can choose our thoughts but we aren't always in control. I appreciate you taking the time to read this. :)
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    20/04/2017 #18 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #13 Thanks for reading @Pascal Derrien :)
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    20/04/2017 #17 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #14 Maybe I will silently use those two words while doing my deep breathing lol.
    Jerry Fletcher
    20/04/2017 #16 Jerry Fletcher
    Lisa, I applaud your courage and your forthright way of helping us understand how things are for you. I wish you enjoyment on this short part of the adventure we call life that though defined as separate from "regular life" truly is not..
    Renée  🐝 Cormier
    20/04/2017 #15 Renée 🐝 Cormier
    #14 I agree. Changing the talk in your head may be difficult for some, but your thoughts are the only thing you can actually control. They do not control you. You create them, so choose them wisely.
    Robert Cormack
    20/04/2017 #14 Robert Cormack
    You'll excuse my language, @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher, but one of the most therapeutic things you can do is tell your brain to "f**k off." I know it sounds crazy but our rambling minds can sometimes create panic that goes way beyond reality. Every time you feel anxious, just use those two little words. Say them to yourself or say them out loud. And just keep saying it until your brain calms down.
    Pascal Derrien
    20/04/2017 #13 Pascal Derrien
    I have no smart advice for you :-) You know what to do :-) Honest article as usual :-)
    Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    20/04/2017 #12 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    #11 You aren't alone or crazy. I wish we all had your bravery and social commitment.
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    20/04/2017 #11 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #10 I used to have as part of my bio on Twitter that my mind travels faster than the speed of light. You may be on to something @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee. And, my hope is by sharing such personal stories, others will find they arent alone or crazy.
    Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    20/04/2017 #10 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    I just wonder if your attention is spread over many issues if this would lead to increased anxiety @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher! You seem to enjoy trying variety of things and this may ead to some anxiety. I wonder if I am right. Great buzz because you share your own experiences and therefore the reader trusts you. Sharing
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    20/04/2017 #9 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #8 My son is doing a race at Pikes Peak this summer! Every year my son, my brother, and brother in law do Mt. Evans bike race, it's become a yearly tradition for them. Pikes Peak I've yet to see. I think my son wanted to drive me up there the last time but I said no... Isn't that where you can see the Continental Divide from?
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