- Producer13/03/2017The Price of BeansI wrote this during difficult times. My point, however subtle, was that bullying has a distinct cost to society. I experienced bullying in school, and it was terribly disruptive to my education. I implored school officials to intervene to no avail....
- 13/03/2017Stuck on The Breakwater Almost a Half Mile Out On The Oceanjournal.thriveglobal.com A brutal panic...
Comments13/03/2017 #9 Gert Scholtz@Lisa 🐝 Gallagher I think this is a well written piece Lisa which many that suffer from panic attacks can identify with. As you mention, don’t go anywhere without medicine – even if only for the placebo effect. Through all this I could only picture you yelling: “Turn your ass around, I can’t get up, help me!” Brought a welcome smile.13/03/2017 #8 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#4 Hi @Harvey Lloyd, just re-reading "turn your ass around," when you wrote it made me laugh too! I bet many men could hear their wives voices in that phrase LOL. I kept trying to call to him and my panic was so high I lost it. I have no idea if others heard because there were a few people walking on the breakwater at that time too. They probably thought I was a loon.
My daughter had a panic attack once and watching it from the 'other side,' and being her mom.. wow- it scared me too! Her's was brought on by a decongestant and she ended up in ER. She kept refusing anti-anxiety medication and her heart rate was 150 (at age 25). I finally talked her into the medication they put into her IV and within 5 minutes she was feeling so much better, her breathing slowed back down, heart rate went down and dizziness was better!13/03/2017 #7 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#3 I'm sorry your eldest is prone to panic attacks @Pascal Derrien. They do seem to come in clusters. I had a few more the week we were in Maine but they diminished much faster with my medication. I try to ride them out if I'm at home and I've been in therapy for some time now. It's a long process and there is no guarantee I will ever be cured from them. My hope, my therapists hope is that they will decrease along with my chronic anxiety, greatly. We just began a therapy called EMDR (something to look into for your eldest) if he continues to get panic attacks. I asked my therapist if we could do a live buzz together detailing with EMDR is and how it works, he agreed- so watch for one in the next few weeks, I will tag you, actually! My best to your eldest!! It's proven that exercise/sports etc.. are very helpful because endorphins do play a positive role.13/03/2017 #6 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#2 Hi @Ali Anani, my Dr. actually suggested some time ago that I always keep my medicine with me because it can work as a placebo effect and I think he's correct about that. I don't think it would have helped on the breakwater but it may have helped me to get through it if I would have had my medicine with me. Yes, I would do it again, I'd just make sure I had my medicine with me :)13/03/2017 #5 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#1 That is my hope @David B. Grinberg, the more others speak out, it's seen for what it really is, an illness not a weakness. It's nothing a person brings on or anticipates ahead of time. Well, once you begin getting them, there is another issue called pre-anticipatory anxiety.. the experiences are so scary and if your out and away from one's 'comfort zone anxiety can set in with hopes of not having a panic attack, which can sadly lead to a full blown panic attack in many cases too.13/03/2017 #4 Harvey LloydI have never experienced a true panic attack, but have been with others when they have. It made me scared just by being present.
“Turn your ass around, I can’t get up, help me!”
I will have to say that this phrase made me laugh. Its been only a few times when my reverie has been broken by my wife alerting me to something. But i heard her voice in your phrase.13/03/2017 #3 Pascal Derrienmy eldest is sometimes subject to anxiety attacks at night sometimes nothing for months and then 3 in one week, sport has been a great regulator for him rather than medication which we are not too keen on at his age. it is indeed almost uncontrollable when it kicks off , sorry to hear about your ordeal :-(13/03/2017 #1 David B. GrinbergLisa, I’m sorry to hear about that bad experience. Panic attacks are terrible and should be mitigated with the appropriate medication if possible, per one's physician. I commend you, Lisa, for being such a strong voice in standing up and speaking out about the importance of mental health issues. It’s only by publicly addressing mental health issues that we can hope to eradicate the myths, fears, stereotypes, misinformation and discrimination associated with it. Thanks for all YOU do!
- 05/03/20174 Powerful Mantras to Help You Deal with Fear and Anxiety4 Powerful Mantras to Help You Deal with Fear and Anxietytinybuddha.com Feeling panicked or anxious? Here are some of the mantras I found most effective in leading me through fear and...
- 28/02/2017Mindset is a key to success. When you wake up what are the first things you tell yourself? That first hour sets up your entire day, utilize it.
- Producer27/02/2017Staying SafeChristmas 1980 marked a turning point in my life. I was newly widowed with two small children. During the day I plied my trade as an electronic technician. At night, I was Mommy. What a juggling act. I went from angstroms to angst on a daily basis....
Comments28/02/2017 #11 Lisa 🐝 GallagherThanks for sharing such a personal story @Joyce Bowen. I suffer from something similar but different because each of our experiences are different. I finally found a Therapist who uses Mindfulness, Meditation, CBT and EMDR (a combination). EMDR will bring a person back to a time that is tough and many times recall will surprise the person but I find it's starting to work. The heat, I call those stress flashes ;-) Wishing you the best and don't give up, it sounds like you are on to something with your psychology courses.28/02/2017 #9 Sara JacoboviciWell written @Joyce Bowen. Informative, insightful and gutsy! Thanks for bringing up the name change from PTSDisorder to PTSInjury. Very important. It does make a difference. Continued strength and wishing you all the success. If I may, I would just like to add a thought that you may want to check out. As we experience trauma on a sensory, non-verbal level, that is what is stored or remembered. Especially in childhood trauma when access to language is still not readily available. If I was to look at the exit and space issue for you, I would see it as the sensory related to proprioception, our ability to make sense of where we are in space, in relation to others and objects. If you see this as relevant, you may want to do some sensory work with your therapist in trying to reframe and perhaps even rewire that aspect of your PTSI. Wishing you all the best.27/02/2017 #4 John ValledorReflecting on your story I conclude two things: a) you were imprinting your anxieties on your children--mirror imaging perhaps, and b) I get hypervigilance!
In combat in Iraq, I along with our Soldiers, relied on hypervigilance to survive. Missing the slightest change in the environment...and extra branch on the road, a dead animal carcass on the side of the road, a gap between reed lines, the abscense of locals when they are always omni present, often signalled (subconsciously) impending contact with an IED--instant death. I coined a colloquial term to describe this hypervigilant state--"listening with your eyes!" Reading your cool story harkens me back to this descriptor--you continue to listen with your eyes! Keep writtin'27/02/2017 #3 Geoffrey CoolingI have wrestled recently with such thoughts. I wonder am I who I am because of, or in spite of what has been done to me? I think honest analysis of yourself is a start. However, analysis does not mean beat yourself up either. Understanding who you are and what drives you allows you to manage yourself. And I know I sometimes need to manage myself!!! It is quite brave of you to confront yourself and do so in an open and intelligent way.
- Producer26/01/2017Supporting Mental Health and WellnessThis is my first batch of honey. On this #BellLetsTalk day, I want to shout out support for raising awareness about mental health. My brief "first post" here is really about encouraging people to get in the conversation. The fact that conversations...
Comments26/02/2017 #6 Mike Rana#5 I am judged on almost everything I do, including having a blunt personality. I've been criticized, labeled weak, and metaphorically poked to death like a voodoo doll. Hell, I'm working on three projects that might have a 20% chance of success. If there's one phrase I want on my tombstone, it's "Mike didn't give a fuck; he did it anyway."26/02/2017 #4 Pamela 🐝 Williams@Ferg Devins, welcome to beBee. I think you'll find some kindred spirits here on beBee. I just re-shared a lot of helpful posts on using beBee successfully. Or check out the Hive: Cheat Sheet, where I found most of these posts. Lastly, don't hesitate to reach out if you have any questions. Again; welcome! One Bee you might find fascinating (I know I do) is @Ian Weinberg. He posts some wonderful honey and is in fact a neurosurgeon. His latest post: "Buzzing with Emotion" is a fascinating read. https://www.bebee.com/producer/@ian-weinberg/buzzing-with-emotion
- 17/02/2017A new study suggests that diet can help #depression. Can you eat your way to better mental health? 403 Forbiddenwww.psychologytoday.com
Comments17/02/2017 #1 Deb 🐝 HelfrichThis article really highlights the effects of diet on mindstate. The study put people on a Modified Mediterranean Diet and a similar cohort on a talk therapy "befriending" program. More people completed the study on the food plan than those talking with friends and 10 people saw remission of depression symptoms on the food plan, versus 2 using the social support plan.
The 5 point plan of diet guidelines are very astute and well-supported nutritionally.
Diet isn't the only answer in the complexity of challenging mental health, but it should be the FIRST line of treatment.
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Thanks for a great share, @Don Hornsby
- 12/02/2017I may have posted this one here a while back, but I'm doing a migration. I still have some work to do on the blog itself (I.E. a theme that accepts leading images), but overall, the migration is going well.Being an introvert in a world of extrovertsmichaelranaii.me In the last 48 hours, through several threads on here and BeBee, I have referenced my introversion. In a world where connections is the gateway to success, one has to be able to make connections, talk to people, make sales pitches, and to an extent,...
Comments12/02/2017 #1 Robin Bartonlove this advice! My younger sister, a middle child, has been so introverted since our childhood that it hurts to watch her sometimes. She can barely handle certain tasks if it means making a business connection. Personal connections seem to be easier for her. And honestly, I think some of the anonymity of social media has been helpful for her.
- Producer26/01/2017Symptoms of DepressionIt is now 20 years ago that Steve jumped from the rooftop of the office building in Frankfurt, Germany.My colleague AND friend, Steve (Dr. Steve R.), was an extraordinarily good Management Consultant. Even though he did not speak German, his...
Comments27/01/2017 #16 Claire L 🐝 Cardwell@Aurorasa Sima - v. perceptive article as always. I had a friend that committed suicide several years ago. He was quiet for a long time and then suddenly seemed to burst back into life. That last weekend we spent with him was amazing. He even made plans to meet up the following week. I felt guilty for a long time for missing the signs.....26/01/2017 #13 CityVP 🐝 ManjitDepression is such a huge monster with an unpredictable wingspan that even the medical fraternity are struggling to understand it, other than find means of alleviating moods through drugs, which themselves can worsen the situation. Both Robin Williams and David Foster Wallace took drugs which at times elevated rather than alleviated their depression.
The most curious finding for me is that physicians have a higher rate of suicide than the general population and doctors with depression is not something we think about, and so it is humbling to read this New York Times account :
Medical Student Distress and the Risk of Doctor Suicide
http://www.nytimes.com/2010/10/07/health/views/07chen.html26/01/2017 #5 Devesh BhattThe catch is how do we deduce the symptoms.
I have personally experienced people being driven to depression because society /doctors/family were persistent that the person is depressed, slowly self doubt creeped in and the person actually became depressed.
Depressed people do depressing things.
Often by misquoting the trigger of depression, people get depressed that no one understands them, hence they are a misfit.
Why do people mask depression? They supress and supress and when they finally let the load out it is spontaneous and may seem incoherebt. They do try revealing it makes it worse for them.26/01/2017 #4 CityVP 🐝 ManjitDavid Foster Wallace wrote a piece called The Depressed Person. David Foster Wallace was a genius of a writer, hailed as one of the 20th Century's greatest American writers. David Foster Wallace had serious depression. David Foster Wallace took his own life - unable to bear the depth of his depression.
This is a poignant buzz, not simply because even a great thinker can succumb but a little more awareness is good for all of us. http://harpers.org/wp-content/uploads/HarpersMagazine-1998-01-0059425.pdf26/01/2017 #2 Lisa 🐝 GallagherThanks for posting this @Aurorasa Sima, depression leading to suicidal thoughts or suicide is very real. I'm not sure when the mind crosses from 'People would be better off without me, to- I'm OK with this, I am doing everyone a favor and relieving the pain I can't escape." I had a friend who committed suicide over 10 years ago, I didn't see the signs until after he was gone either. He sent me an email 15 mins before he took his life. It left me with a lot of guilt.26/01/2017 #1 Mohammed A. JawadNever accept defeat with hardships and agony in life . Accepting defeat is like embracing depression.
Let come what comes. You have to shun depression, at critical and tough times. Yes, you have to be realistic and courageous, with unfaltering determination and passion. Getting distracted by deviations is vain.
Be simple, possess excellent character, and at the same time, harbor a strong will power coupled with patience, and at times, be far-sighted with your vision, actions and expectations. Aha…you will be an influential person!
- Producer23/01/2017When Anxiety Persists Too Long- Depression Follows: People Feel So Alone and ShamedIt's not fun when you suffer from Generalized Anxiety Disorder, it's with you 24/7. Left untreated it can lead to Clinical Depression. I will share some facts and what feels like a dismal story, looking for that happy ending! Many times the person...
Comments26/01/2017 #38 Steve Brady#15 @Lisa Gallagher Thank you so much for the encouragement in your reply to my reply to your buzz, Lisa. As many of your commenters have alluded to, it's often unhelpful to compare suffering between individuals. However, I find there is an implicit understanding among those who have struggled with similar debilitating conditions. Thank you for your PM offer. It's very kind of you. Yours in peace and healing, Steve25/01/2017 #37 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#34 @🐝 Fatima Williams, I believe that you did grieve differently. I have 4 siblings and each one of us has grieved differently too. I feel bad for my step dad because he still lives in the big home that he and my mom built together, much of it done by them! I'm glad you were able to start sleeping normally again. Your brain must have held onto that time (1:30) and because of grief, it would wake you up. Laughter is so good for the soul and I can tell you, that's one thing I haven't done enough of in a long time. Maybe I need to make a few new friends that aren't so serious... I have some great friends who are wonderful people but also have a fantastic sense of humor but we don't live close enough to get together often. I think there is a lot to be said about laughter, not taking life too serious, people who don't take themselves too serious along with some (not speaking of anyone on here) who just need to lighten up, period. Thanks Fatima, your such a kind person and I appreciate your sincere thoughts and sharing your story too!25/01/2017 #35 Bernard PoulinWe live in difficult times. On the side of mental health sufferers, they/we are living in an environment which both encourages everyone to "have problems", we provide "meds" to counter those (but not really, since maintaining problems is a growth industry) - while victimhood status is encouraged as a state of mind. Discouragement has become the norm and belittling an individual's capacity to function "despite" is more common than should be. What is most difficult is defining who actually is suffering from mental health issues when mental illness has been "normalized" so that everyone can be a part of the times. I cringe for those who really are suffering from mental health issues. They're the ones we should be paying attention to rather than to those who suck up all the air in a room "jus cause". Over all , universal general health seems down and out for the count. We are a depressed time and this is due to the environment which is far from being the supportive ambiance individuals and families once had "way back when". We talk a good talk today about everyone being creative and wondrously artistic and thriving (in our own minds?) yet so many articles are being written in social media about depression and sadness and discouragement and so few out there are able "to deal with" someone's real dilemma. From the very young to elders, failure has become a catch-phrase. Grad students are afraid of admitting let alone actually "suffering" failures. And when and if this experience occurs. . . - as stated in this article - no one is around to help in picking up the pieces. We have a long way to go. . . . before being honestly caring and providing an environment which both nurtures and breathes good mental health - ours. . . and that of others.25/01/2017 #34 🐝 Fatima WilliamsDear @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher I dislike it when some people behave when they act as if they care or say that they understand one's pain. No-one can understand the way one feels but rather may have the experience of a similar incident with a different kind of feeling / pain. No two person's pain is the same. The pain I had and my mom had, when we lost my DAD were two different types of pain. We grieved differently . I remember not being able to sleep at the exact time that my DAD had passed for nearly two months. When 1.30 am arrived each morning I would get all worked up and I could say it was perhaps anxiety or a kind of depression I didn't know that such things until a few years ago. It took me about 2 months to start sleeping normally , led me to resign my job as it lacked the liveliness I needed at that point , go on holidays with my mom and sisters to places in the country side laugh, laugh and laugh at silly things until we could cry no - more. All of which turned out in my favour today as I have learnt so much as a result of such experiences.
As I mentioned once to you and I hope you won't forget that "You are a champion" dear Lisa and you will thrive anywhere like you do here on beBee. Nothing or noone nor this anxiety can bring you down, they are mere speed breakers that slow you down. The race track is yours and your in the driver seat what more do you want Keep racing on :) :) Hugs to you .25/01/2017 #33 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#28 Hi @Preston 🐝 Vander Ven, I can't imagine the depths of depression you experienced after the loss of your brother and to have your seizures increase too, wow! I would imagine a major event/stress can cause epileptic seizures to increase? You made such a great point Preston, 'surrounding yourself with others who had dreams and hope, which you lacked at the time." Maybe that's what gave me the courage to post such a personal buzz on beBee because I do feel safe, it is a positive environment and it's helpful to release certain emotions via writing and by talking to others who are such positive forces like you and others who posted on here! Thank you so much and I'm sorry you endured such a difficult loss.25/01/2017 #31 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#26 Hi @Don 🐝 Kerr, I love that quote and it's the first time I've heard it. I will have to remember that. I'm glad it works for you too or you would have never finished that book which, btw... I'm half way through. I'd be done already but I put books on the side burner until my concentration level returns. I wish I could just go catch it lol. Thanks Don and hope your doing well125/01/2017 #28 Preston 🐝 Vander VenI love your buzz and thanks for your testimony. I, myself, went through a similar trial during my early twenties when I lost my brother and I began having more severe seizures from my epilepsy. Yet, what help me overcome my trial was surrounding myself with others who had dreams and hope, which I lacked at the time. I didn't want to do this, yet an associate invited me.
I really wanted to know why these "dreamers" could always have a smile even when a tragedy happened in their life. This is one reason I enjoy positive groups like beBee. It is a group of people I see Dreams and Hope in their writing and posts. It reminds me of my how I got out of my depression. @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher your story is still moving forward today. Thanks.24/01/2017 #25 Ali AnaniDear @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher- there is nothing that I may add to your very thoughtful buzz. You live the experience and your words are alive describing anxiety disorder. I only know that with such clear understanding of this disorder that all fake smiles shall disappear and then your hearty smile shall surface out. Only I hope soonest.24/01/2017 #24 Cyndi wilkinsYep...She's like a vampire in the energy department...Bingo on the personality disorder too...An "all about me" type you know? It's like a Jekyll and Hyde effect...One minute she'll give you the shirt off her back...But it comes at a very heavy price...Perhaps your sanity?? I've definitely been chucked under that bus...LOL! My anger spilled over with the whole "I have anorexia" scheme...Took her to the best doctors in Boston and she snubbed them because they were not fooled by her antics...Sad really. She has everything...Money, houses, friends (the ones she can still manipulate) and her health...which she put in jeopardy when she starved herself. I do believe there is an underlying mental illness there...you don't binge and purge without reason. I just don't have the energy for people who stay in denial and won't help themselves...Sometimes you just have to let them go. Thanks @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher...For shedding light on this.24/01/2017 #23 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#21 Hi @Cyndi wilkins, after reading that I feel cured (just joking to make light of the seriousness of your friends condition). Wow, I've never heard of an illness like that, I wonder what the term is? It sounds like she's sucking the energy out of you and you don't need that right now... or ever. One thing that did enlighten me through counseling, I have allowed others for way too long to take advantage of me and drain me because I didn't want to hurt their feelings. I have been letting go of toxic relationships. My anger spilled out this year and I'm sure grief played a large role. In some ways I have to thank grief for it because it opened my eyes to others and myself a bit more. Maybe your friend is more than you need to deal with and she needs to get extreme help from professionals? It almost sounds like she has a personality disorder too which can't be fixed. I'm sorry that happened to you. You need positive people around you that are going to care about YOUR feelings!! Hugs Cyndi, so many ups/downs after the loss of a loved one, don't allow her to intrude on your own healing.24/01/2017 #21 Cyndi wilkins@Lisa 🐝 Gallagher ...I am absolutely not going to say, "I know how you feel." I am just going to comment that I know where you are...Big difference. Grief hugely exacerbates underlying conditions...but is certainly not their cause. Grief is a natural process of our being...Trauma however, is not...nor is chemical imbalance in the brain. The "invisible invasion" I like to call it... Your advantage to the situation is your AWARENESS...Many stay locked away in denial...mostly because of this terrible stigma attached to mental illness. I had an experience with a close friend recently in the aftermath of my dad's passing...This friend of mine suffers from a condition that resembles Munchausen Syndrome...whereas she is constantly adopting the "conditions" of others that she sees are drawing them sympathetic attention....Most recently of course would be Dementia...A condition my dad suffered toward the end of his life that caused me to focus my total attention on him. She always seems quite put off when she is not the center of attention...in the past, she went so far as to starve herself and lose 22 pounds in the process.She and I went to a play the other day...Something I have not been able to do for quite some time.I was a bit late picking her up and she snapped at me a little when she got in the car. She said she had been waiting a long time for me and was getting nervous that I wasn't going to show...BTW...I've NEVER ditched anyone like that...But she pulls that shit ALL the time! Like it's ok 'cause she has dementia now right? I tell her I'm sorry but I got held up on the phone...She says, "Well, at least you can't blame your father anymore," WTF??? I was so pissed off I said, "Neither can you...So cut the shit!"
- Producer18/01/2017Are we really SAFE?Hello, my dear fellow bees.Let me begin this post with a simple question?What do you know India for?INDIA a beautiful country where people from all around the globe visit, a country where gods & goddesses are prayed for blessings and...
Comments20/01/2017 #42 Sushmita Thakare Jain#33 #35 @🐝 Fatima Williams thank you for sharing your story, it is our life stories who motivate me to follow my dreams and path I choose for myself. Also, I agree when Jyothi died it was a wake-up call the video shared by @CityVP 🐝 Manjit gave me goosebumps hope people understand and educating upcoming generations regarding the same, coz the learning must begin from home20/01/2017 #39 Sushmita Thakare Jain#29 Thank you, @Julie Hickman for sharing your views I agree with them it must be the way you have said but sometimes the sad part is that the men with this disrupted mentality are somewhere or the others a father or brother figure and still can't make hold of it. It makes me even sadder when I come to know about cases where the victim is raped by their father or brother and my heart sinks :(20/01/2017 #37 CityVP 🐝 Manjit#35 Dear Fatima, read the Huffington Post interview with Vice President Joe Biden
Where there is any portal of light shining through, grab it, bring it into view and then that is one more hole of hope, that light can get through. The coming generations will see more of this light than we were limited to, so long as we are not consumed by the very darkness that gets exposed in documentaries and instead see all of this as tiny steps towards a healthier view of humanity.19/01/2017 #36 AnonymousThank you @Sushmita Thakare Jain for sharing your brilliant post. According to a study carried out by the British NGO ActionAid, 79 percent of Indian women have already experienced violence or sexual harassment while out and about in the streets. There is several group of people in India, as “Blank Noise”, who have organised several events, including the “I never ask for it” campaign, to fight this terrible trend and to raise awareness about it. Keep going !19/01/2017 #35 🐝 Fatima WilliamsI loved Malaika Arora Khan tweet on what you shared above with everyone. And some of them give women the push they need. To stand up and fight for the respect that rightfully ours.
As Julie says "Every son, brother, father, or loving husband made it a mission to eliminate violence against women. These same men could be the best advocates and greatest allies in the struggle to keep their mothers, sisters, daughters and wives safe on earth. It should begin in every family for the change to happen. Well said Julie Hickman
@CityVP 🐝 Manjit so back at that time I watched several broken clips but had never watched the whole documentary. Thank you for sharing this with us. My heart ached watching the video and the way the criminals spoke of rape. May her soul R.I.P. If ask me about the politicians it only makes me squirm. Can a country run without such people. Is it possible to throw all these baised men out and appoint new ones ! I don't know how to answer that question after Hilary lost the elections.
Thank you19/01/2017 #33 🐝 Fatima WilliamsThank you @Sushmita Thakare Jain for talking the hearts of many women in India. Your voice is my voice and together the sound can be thundering. When ever a women is disrespected in India there comes a feeling of powerless in me as a women. What could I have done if had to be there ? Even I had no self defense lessons at the time in 2012 when Jyothi lost her light to the darkness that enveloped her. It could have been me ! I was in Delhi a couple of months just before this incident happened.
My sisters and me we are 3 girls and my mother struggled to bring us up but she taught us to be bold .She always said I wish I had a son. Which of course has changed as I showed her it doesn't have to only be a man, to look after the family , a women like me can also do it. I helped her raise and educate my sisters and run the family as my dad fell sick ,had a stroke and couldn't work. At the age of 16 and took up my family responsibilities. I had not been bold until 2012 as well. Infact this incident is so close to my heart and it made me the bold women I never knew I had in me. My mentality before used to be like if a guy is approaching I should run in the opposite direction. Today, if a guy challenges me I'd challenge him back. When she ( Jyothi ) died she buried our fears and when we cried we drowned our f change the mindset of the children when they grow up. Teach them that there is no man or woman and everyone is a human and a being with life. To give respect and get respect. Sex should be commonly spoken off and not discreet and I can go on. But, at the end of the day it is the mindset. The ones who are spoilt rotten cant change. I am wishing that this generation is bolder, smarter and kinder children a and have a safe world around them.19/01/2017 #32 Ella de JongDear Sushmita do you know Anu Aggarwal? Today I saw a post on LinkedIn about her work in India. She wrote about: ... "Since the very start, my teens, this is what my dream was!– "Better people's lives". A trained social worker, MSW I saw "sexual repression" and bursting population of india, a huge hurdle in this. So glamorous star, in the early 90s, i openly talked about sex even if it hurt me public image then, and accepted to endorse and be the Brand Ambassador of a condom. ..." You two seem to fight a good fight!19/01/2017 #22 Sushmita Thakare Jain#7 @Donna-Luisa Eversley thank you for sharing the post, my dear! I am flattered by the response never knew random words unedited but from the heart can be effective. Thank you for motivating me in expressing myself and my feelings. I feel the same way each time a woman or a girl is victmized by these beasts. Our words cannot do justice to them but it can help in raising voices so that this inhuman act doesn't happen again not here but anywhere in the world.
- Producer16/01/2017Dealing with Mental Illness at WorkI read this piece via The Telegraph yesterday, and it struck a chord. A number of my family members suffer from bipolar disorder, and I lost my cousin Sarah to it last year. I was diagnosed with "Mood disorder - Not otherwise specified" some years...
Comments17/01/2017 #14 Lisa 🐝 GallagherHi @Sandra 🐝 Smith, I agree, the stigma needs to end. I don't see it ending anytime soon because of the lack of awareness, education and quite frankly many people still do see Mental Illness as a weakness, not a real illness. I have written a lot about Anxiety Disorder and the stigmas attached, including the workplace too. Maybe if more of us keep writing, supporting each other's writing, one day the voices will grow louder and together, we can all affect change. Thanks for sharing this!17/01/2017 #12 Harvey Lloyd#10 I would say that you have cornered the issues in a single sentence. I believe lawyers get a bum wrap to some degree, as humans tend to think because they have been wronged according to their philosophy they can seek $ain. Then add in the topping of costs and insurance companies, the gain exists due to cost to litigate. A vicious cycle of precedents.16/01/2017 #8 Harvey Lloyd#7 I hope you did not read into the comment the lack of need but rather the stirring issues on each side of the equation. It is an issue that requires input, insight and action. More importantly i sense that society is moving forward and the need for all to engage exists. This introduces a deeper challenge of mankind.16/01/2017 #7 Sandra 🐝 Smith#5 Thank you, @Harvey. Exactly right - you cannot show favouritism at work. But you can foster an environment where it is not seen as favouritism - because there is a genuine need for that person's accommodations. For example, at Symbian, a senior-staffer had a syndrome that made her very tired during the day. So she was allowed to have a couch in her office to rest on. No-one begrudged her because it was explained why she needed it. Of course, having a room with a day bed that anyone can use may be a more fair and diplomatic way to tackle the problem, if practical...16/01/2017 #5 Harvey Lloyd@Sandra Smith a compelling post. Having lead many people within the construction industry and now in the education industry, I am recognizing this as a growing concern. We work with folks at a very personal level to help them achieve job satisfaction.
We have recognized that this is the best way to address the minor/major issues that are brought on by an individuals perceptions of themselves. I will have to say though, leadership has to have a very strong personal conviction to address this in the workplace. Although some of the returns on investment are great the fall out within the larger group can be costly.
Giving an individual special consideration due to mental illness can be seen as favoritism to others who are experiencing temporary bad judgement. Leaders must balance the support of one by the perceptions of others within the workforce. This is not a cop out statement but rather an understanding that the issues of mental illness are growing and the leadership will require a different perspective. But so will co-workers.16/01/2017 #4 Sara Jacobovici@Sandra 🐝 Smith writes: "Open, honest environment needed.
This is why I am writing my piece too. Employers need to start working to create an open environment. Where mental illness is identified, discussed and supported. Not pushed under the carpet and stigmatised. Otherwise they will end up losing talent, and that talent may end up losing themselves."16/01/2017 #2 Don 🐝 Kerr@Sandra 🐝 Smith "Employers need to start working to create an open environment. Where mental illness is identified, discussed and supported. Not pushed under the carpet and stigmatised. Otherwise they will end up losing talent, and that talent may end up losing themselves." Wouldn't that be brilliant? One can only hope. Will share and thanks for this.
- Producer07/01/201720 Powerful Affirmations To Reduce AnxietyVideo version with soothing music or if you want to download the affirmations that resonate the most with you, grab them on slideshare. Downloadable Powerpoint Version: HERE -- Aurorasa SimaEmpowermentalist/Coach/Emotional Intelligence Trainer...
- Producer06/01/201710 Things That Will Change Your Life 1. Put your cellphone down. Unless you are calling someone. We spend too much time on our electronic devices. Make it part of your 2017 goal to spend more time with family and friends. Talking may once again become a vibrant part of your...
Comments01/02/2017 #32 Preston 🐝 Vander Ven#1 is a powerful on this list. A cellphone is a great tool if used in this manner. Yet, lately I seen so many of my associates waste hours upon hours arguing with people they don't even know about topics they will forget about in two days. If they really wanted to use that time on their phone, they could have invested it marketing their businesses they have. Our phones today can be a great champion or a great enemy.
The rest of the list is Great.10/01/2017 #17 Jared Wiese, 🐝 adding VALUE & RESULTSGreat thoughts, Jim! Resonates with me so much. We so often get distracted with the corporate ladder, or simply our own busy-ness of life. Taking time to pause, reflect and plan daily is so key - not just once a year!
#3 & #9 remind me of Getting Results the Agile Way by J.D. Meier.
#4 Reminds me of the Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod.
#5 is like Affirmations to me. Keys I like to remember are :
1) Personal ("I" am doing something. Nobody is doing it for me),
2) Positive (I am "not" poor ==> I have enough and am getting more!) and
3) Present tens (I will be rich ==> I AM abundant in ...).
#6 & #8 are like gratitude - for the good and the bad
... I wrote a post on Six Minute Scribing that works on all of these with 6 daily questions - if you are interested. It helps keeps me focused and grounded.
Hoping it adds to your great post and might help inspire someone, like you said in #3.
(NOTE: If you want to be tagged, move your 🐝 after your first name ;)07/01/2017 #16 Jim 🐝 Cody#15 Absolute not, but many choose to be poor... something I'll never understand. To change your life you must first have a positive attitude. Second you must set obtainable goals. Third you must work your a__ off and do whatever it takes. Most of all you must have faith in yourself and mankind. God Bless.
- 03/01/2017Until a few minutes ago, I didn't know this hive existed.
In the coming days, I will be writing about my struggle with mental illness.
I chose the image below because it's my dominant struggle.
- 28/12/2016A strong foundation of support can aid tremendously in addiction recovery.How to Support a Loved One in Addiction Recovery - Pathways Real Life Recoverypathwaysreallife.com When people think of the addiction recovery journey, they usually focus on detox and rehab. However, breaking the chemical hold on the body is just the...
- Producer20/12/2016When it's only a paper moon...Image credit: Everyone Goes to Mick’s. The holiday season is often a time that challenges us emotionally more than any other period of the year. Self-care is crucial to help us get through this season in a safe way. It is worth our time to stop...
Comments22/12/2016 #8 Graham🐝 EdwardsI really appreciate this buzz @Sara Jacobovici... I find myself saying I'm TIRED once in a while and now I know exactly what I mean by it. You have also reminded me I definitely need to drink more fluids. Do have a great holiday season.... I have to admit I'm counting down and can hardly wait!21/12/2016 #4 David B. GrinbergThanks for the good advice and analysis, Sara. The holiday is certainly a stressful time for many people. And some of those people lash out at other people to vent their negative feelings and frustrations -- either inadvertently or by design. This is very unfortunate during a season of hope, faith, love and good spirits. Happy holidays and keep buzzing!
- 28/11/2016Overview - Resiliencekpjrfilms.co Resilience is a new documentary that delves into the science of Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) and a new movement to treat and prevent toxic...
- Producer24/11/2016Find Your Calm. Achieving Mindfulness in a Demanding WorldYou are on a beach at sunset, walking along the water's edge. The air is crisp and warm, smelling a little salty. The sky is clear with a few clouds. You feel a slight breeze on your face and see the waves coming in from the ocean. You sit down...
Comments24/11/2016 #12 Max🐝 J. Carter#11 I teach a little bit of everything that goes into assisting people to live unified in mind, body and spirit and that encompasses a great variety of topics for mapping ones life to be something one can be unified in mind body and spirit in living.
Enjoy the meditation many have said it has aided in making great leaps in personal realization and self discovery. I myself have been using this particular one for several years after studying many other forms.24/11/2016 #10 Emily🐝 Bee#4 Hi Jared! Thanks for your comment! I am too curious about this Miracle Morning, it sounds wonderful. You should most definitely try to use the App more... at least daily I would suggest, even for 5-10 minutes to start.. I know it sounds like a lot, but you will most likely start to enjoy it so it becomes a pleasure. Like going in and out of a Jacuzzi on a cold day.... soooooooo amazzzzzing. I find that now, I get the urge to meditate more than once a day, but time and daily duties restricts me. In a perfect world, I suppose! ;-)24/11/2016 #6 Emily🐝 Bee#2 Hey Max! Those are awesome mantras, love it! When you say "I use this meditation", do you mean the Calm App specifically? Allowing space for everything that comes up during meditation is so important. Pema Chodron once said, "Sticking with uncertainty, getting the knack of relaxing in the midst of chaos, learning not to panic - this is the spiritual path." Thank you for commenting!!! :-)24/11/2016 #2 Max🐝 J. CarterI use this meditation and have given it to thousands I have worked with.
Say "I let got of everything"
Repeat these words until your body takes over the breathing and then tel yourself.
"I go into the void of my mind to learn what I need to know right now."
This creates a calm space for you to be shown things that will aid you in dealing with life better and in less stressful ways getting the guidance form within.
- Producer19/11/2016But Why Quibble?Insane:There is only one kind of person, Phaedrus said, who freely chooses to accept or reject the mythos in which he lives. And the definition of that person, when he has rejected the mythos, Phaedrus said, is “insane”. To go outside the mythos is...
Comments03/12/2016 #52 Praveen Raj Gullepalli#50 No man in his right senses can deny the fact that we are failing as a species, collectively, by always, consistently, invariably, unrelentingly biting the hand that feeds us, by cutting away the hands that rock our cradles, by slowly draining away the life blood from our very planet, love from our hearts, and hope from the minds of our children allowing them to be led by the illusions of the digital age. Exceptions never made the rule. Of course there is more to it. I apologise everyday. Every time I see a beggar with his hand stretched out. Every time I see a tree being cut to make way for a playground or a bypass road. Every time my rupee buys me less than what it bought me yesterday. Every time I see the cloud of smog enveloping the streets in the mornings. And there's lots more here too. But I fear we are eternal optimists (didn't someone say that the only real pessimist is a dead one? :) If not our civilisation, maybe the next? This age is called Kaliyuga in our ethos. The End of Ages. The decline of civilisation has been so well described that it is frightening. And it is happening as written. Nothing is sacred anymore. In the final equation, good will be outnumbered. Crucified million times over. It is just us. Just you, Just me. And we should treasure, nurture what good there is left around in the people around us. Regardless of who they are and where they might be. Now it is time for a Dylan song dear Sir! Don't think twice it's alright :)03/12/2016 #50 Gerald Hecht#48 @Praveen Raj Gullepalli I appreciate the sentiments...sadly; it is increasingly apparent that our species --our creation...was but a failed prototype. We should all show each other as much love and respect as we can...in the brief moment we, collectively, have left. Yes, we have already sowed the seeds of our collective extinction...yet, still, as of this moment,we can turn and apologize to us --for what we have done to us; how we have all finished all of us...thank you kindly my friend....for a final (and as always) good natured reminder;03/12/2016 #48 Praveen Raj Gullepalli#46 I stopped by and saw your comment on this buzz....sitting in a hotel room in Gauhati, in the middle of official travel across Rajasthan, Delhi and now Assam. Felt like pausing and connecting with you...after a fair bit! I ask myself - Why can't we just let the others beBee? And let em do their own thingy? On a Bingee! ;) Why exhaust ourselves on things that we do not or cannot relate to? And Gerry, you produce some terrific stuff and there are many who can understand and relate to you. If someone who pissed you off real bad lived next door, would you go call him out, call him names and then kinda Brianically, shoot him out of the equation? ;) Or would you just ignore, build a wall (like others intend to) and generally paint your own better place, build your won network, connected to those who mean well, understand and matter...and let the kids grow up? To each his/her own affinity bees! It is irresistible - that urge to be judgemental, critical, condescending...and most succumb to it, more often than not; At home or at work. But I have found out that peace and stresslessness dwell just beyond those feelings. ...and like Kate said to Pete - Don't give up...;) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VjEq-r2agqc03/12/2016 #47 Anonymous#45 @Gerald Hecht, I suggest you to read again my most personal and probably the most valuable post on LI titled: "I'll be Back, Innovation in Self Leadership"...
"Any tendency towards unity and sublimity carries with it a certain degree of disturbance. We are our own conscience, if so discomfort is always transient in nature. When we are an authentic self-similar whole, only then a neutral equilibrium is possible." - from "I'll be Back, Innovation in Self Leadership", LI long-form post published on May 5, 2015
Only enigmatic time will reveal the results of each thought including this one.03/12/2016 #46 Gerald HechtLike this "Church of Rock and Roll guy"...seems to be the thing that people think is normal and therapeutic...for the life of me...I can't square that circle or circle that square or whatever...madness and complete stupidity is the normal "path to wholeness" ...and an exhausting effort to elucidate a "path to wholeness" is considered "crazy"...people seem to have the attention span if a flea...so a "teenage mutant fake ninjaflea with bandanna" is what saturates this platform...it doesn't matter to me anymore... I've exhausted all of my everything03/12/2016 #44 Anonymous#43 @Gerald Hecht, In the second part of the quote Meyrink suggests in a visionary way some possibilities concerning the influence of higher dimensions that are interwoven into three-dimensional perception of reality and which can not be perceived by normal senses, but which exist in accordance to string theory. The same goes for Insane and fractals, I guess :) We don't know much about mental illness.03/12/2016 #42 AnonymousThis goal can and must be attained in this life. But even if this does not happen, remember that he who has found the way once, always returns to this world with an internal maturity that enables him to continue his work. Man is firmly convinced that he is awake; in reality he is caught in a net of sleep and dreams which he has unconsciously woven himself." - Gustav Meyrink02/12/2016 #40 Mark AnthonyHey im watching a programme and there are young kids with swollen bellies due to parasite infection. This is due to washing and drinking from the same river they defecate and piss in. One child joined anti balaka to fight Seleka because his father was killed in front of him. That's not insane and there is no such thing as insane apart from in the criminal thingie world . Now that is serious shit
- 17/11/2016Today's column 11-17-16.How To Cope With a Panic Attack At Work According To Sciencewww.inc.com Anxiety disorders affect 40-million Americans and many of them have no idea what to do to get...
Comments17/11/2016 #3 Lisa 🐝 GallagherFirst let me thank you for writing this article which is an important topic for so many @John White, MBA. Your dad had to be fairly young when he passed. I found out something interesting just last night. Those who lose parents when they are younger tend to worry about dying earlier in age too along with the pain of loss which never leaves us, it just changes with time.
You also brought up another important topic, fleeing a place to be alone when a panic attack comes on. When I first developed anxiety disease and had no clue what a panic attack was and had a fear of passing out in front of people not to mention, a fear of what the hell is happening to me?! I remember being in a store once writing a check and my sister was with me. I signed it then quickly said, you need to finish this and ran out of the store. I sat in the car crying, not sure what was going on and she came out asking, what just happened? It was so embarrassing.
Thanks for writing what you do to cope and reiterating how important it is to get help. People should not have to be embarrassed because they have an illness they have no control over. Excellent article John and I thank you for tagging me!!
- Producer25/10/2016Working in the Asylum“You can't really be strong until you see a funny side to things.” Ken Kesey At the tender age of 23, I really needed a job. I had been on my own since 18 and had moved home briefly after leaving college when my Daddy had a stroke. I got a job...
Comments25/10/2016 #2 Randy KehoA beautifully written recollection @Phillip Hubbell. I taught English to student-inmates at a state prison while attending graduate school. The prison was originally a state mental hospital. The prison was segregated, with the general population being housed separately from those in the special treatment center, except while attending school. The special treatment center was filled with inmates requiring medications for various mental disorders.
If one had faked taking his meds, classroom discussions would become more than interesting. I decided I'd had enough when they knocked holes in the cafeteria walls to insert machine guns. The security level had been increased from medium to maximum and they were introducing women into the mix.
- 19/10/2016A new plan for anxious feelings: escape the custard! | Neil Hughes | TEDxLeamingtonSpa Comedian, author, and physicist Neil Hughes lived with anxiety for years before he had a strange realisation: anxiety is just like custard! This surprising...
- Producer10/10/2016Riding for a Reason: One Entrepreneur's Mission to Raise Awareness for Suicide Prevention About six years ago, I was sitting at my computer doing something unimportant when my daughter walked in in tears and told me one of her dearest friends killed himself. He was only 18 and he jumped from a building in downtown Fairfax, ending his...
Comments10/10/2016 #11 James McElearneyUnfortunately for me, I do know the figures worldwide as I have been looking into this for a short film I am writing, and staggering they are! This is a very important issue that needs addressing and in everyway possible. I knew two of my childhood aquantances who took their own lives and I saw frst hand the devistation it causes the families that remain. More needs to be done to raise awareness10/10/2016 #10 Jared Wiese, 🐝 adding VALUE & RESULTS#8 I would too. I think of all the talented people who are suffering, yet have so much to give. Robin Williams comes to mind. Perhaps because he appeared on the outside to be just the opposite of depressed. A true issue that NEEDS awareness.10/10/2016 #9 Deb 🐝 HelfrichJosh Quigley's journey is one I have been following for about six weeks. It is the very essence of understanding what life is all about. Thank you, @Christine Stevens for so eloquently sharing his mission and the fact that we all need to reach out to the people in our lives who may be having a tough time. It may be more serious than we can imagine and the gift we can give with our time and concern may be priceless.10/10/2016 #5 Jared Wiese, 🐝 adding VALUE & RESULTSAbsolutely brilliant post, @Christine Stevens. You've turned on a light for hopefully so many!
You engaged us. Hell, you got me all choked up.
You've pointed out resources and ways we can all help. There is always hope.
Sharing on all my networks.