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Mental Health: Death & Dying

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  1. Lada Prkic

    Lada Prkic

    15/08/2016
    Help others and doors shall open for you without even expecting them to ever open.

    A gem from the pen of @Ali Anani
    Lada Prkic
    The Death of My Brother, but not his great lesson
    www.linkedin.com My brother Eng. Azzam passed away fifteen years ago at the age of 47 suffering from brain cancer. I still remember him walking in my office shortly before his death walking in my office with a...
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    Ali Anani
    19/08/2016 #11 Ali Anani
    #9 You shall remain one of my closest brain and heart friends dear @Milos Djukic
    Ali Anani
    19/08/2016 #10 Ali Anani
    #7 A warm heart that doesn't break even if we throw chilled water on it. Yoi are very human @Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    Milos Djukic
    18/08/2016 #9 Anonymous
    One of my all time favorite posts @Lada Prkic. Once again thank you very much dear Ali @Ali Anani for this gem..
    Donald Grandy
    18/08/2016 #8 Donald Grandy
    Great post @Lada Prkic. Thank you for sharing this heart felt story, Helping others is the key to many doors..
    Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    18/08/2016 #7 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    "Help others and doors shall open for you without even expecting them to ever open." ~ This true story truly needs no prose, font, or 'Bold' to make it ring alive. It sinks and sails to the words my father taught us, as he told of giving his jacket off his own back to a homeless man at the railroad track. He just couldn't walk away, or look past. He had to act. "Act." Your brother "Acted" and showed true "Love." And there is nothing that conquers All better than true love. Thank you for sharing such a personal and profound accounting, one that I will share with you every July 5th, as I remember Love that Still lives. For you, your brother, my father, and the anonymous man with big, big eyes.
    Ali Anani
    15/08/2016 #6 Ali Anani
    That is the key wisdom- doors open when most needed and to the point you are @Lada Prkic
    Ali Anani
    15/08/2016 #5 Ali Anani
    Thanks dears @Sara Jacobovici and @Deb Helfrich. And you are spot on, Deb
    Lada Prkic
    15/08/2016 #4 Lada Prkic
    #1 I had to share this, @Ali Anani! As Milos Djukic commented, any further words are superfluous.

    I have only to add that my husband did similar thing as your late brother, and the door opened when it was most needed.
    Deb Helfrich
    15/08/2016 #3 Deb Helfrich
    A very touching story about giving and letting the receiving occur when it will, @Ali Anani
    Sara Jacobovici
    15/08/2016 #2 Sara Jacobovici
    Great share @Lada Prkic. Thank you.
    Ali Anani
    15/08/2016 #1 Ali Anani
    I am deeply grateful for your sharing this particular post dear @Lada Prkic. Thank you isn't enough
  2. ProducerLisa Gallagher

    Lisa Gallagher

    26/07/2016
    Is Anxiety Disease Interfering With Your Job?
    Is Anxiety Disease Interfering With Your Job?We all get anxious when it comes to our jobs, however, Anxiety Disease - also called Anxiety Disorder can lead to missing too much time from work, leaving work early, or ultimately losing your job.Many people aren't aware they have Anxiety disorder...
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    Robert Bacal
    01/08/2016 #55 Robert Bacal
    #54 Ok. Rebel @Rebel Brown I'm making this one last comment. The numbers DO matter, and 10% or 50% or 60% being non verbal is factually wrong, and a result of ignorance which is shared by a LOT of very smart people who simply don't know better. To promulgate falsehoods, or to repeat falsehoods does a disservice to others, and not an insignificant one. The numbers people quote are ALL bullshit. FInally, if the numbers don't matter, why did you use a number? Let's have a little accountability and responsibility for spreading bullshit.
    Rebel Brown
    01/08/2016 #54 Rebel Brown
    @Robert Bacal I've heard what you're saying and I've studied that research and what M said. My bottom line around this whole argument is simple.... specific numbers DO NOT MATTER. You can make words 50% or whatever will make you happy. Words are still not the only source of input into our minds, and they are certainly not the majority of the communication inputs into our unconscious minds. We have individual interpretations of words that are stored as programs that trigger with the words. Which is one of the reasons we've all seen the miscommunication in emails, social media, any form of the written word. For complete and clear communication to occur - our minds need more. Especially our unconscious minds which control our data filtering and processing. The language of our UM is the senses, not words. So we need MORE... And that was my point. Which I am guessing you already knew anyway...
    Robert Bacal
    01/08/2016 #53 Robert Bacal
    #52 Rebel @Rebel Brown Not to minimize the importance of non verbals, but you are propagating a commonly held myth here. What you say about the 10% is simply and absolutely not true. It's a gross misinterpretation of Meharabian's research, one that he often bemoaned. For a full explanation, http://work911.com/communication/mehrabian.htm
    Rebel Brown
    01/08/2016 #52 Rebel Brown
    #50 No Worries @Lisa Gallagher Words comprise less than 10% of our total communication processing, which is why email, social media etc are such nebulous forms of communication. I know your heart sistah!!
    Lisa Gallagher
    28/07/2016 #51 Lisa Gallagher
    Thanks for sharing my buzz @Milos Djukic!
    Lisa Gallagher
    28/07/2016 #50 Lisa Gallagher
    I just re-read my comment to you @Rebel Brown and I hope it didn't come off the way my mind read it. What I meant by being in my own research phase was this- being open to listening to others, including you. I thank you so much for all you've shared so far! I hope this comment made sense, because I felt my last one didn't.
    Lisa Gallagher
    28/07/2016 #49 Lisa Gallagher
    #48 I'm still in my own 'research' phase @Rebel Brown :)) As I said, my therapist was just beginning it with me and we both had scheduling conflicts so I haven't delved into it yet with him. He's not trying to push this on me. He has other forms of treatment as well. You don't need to back out... this discussion is valuable from all viewpoints! Thanks Rebel!
    Rebel Brown
    28/07/2016 #48 Rebel Brown
    #34 I'll take your word for that @Lisa Gallagher . Ive had research thrown in my face since I started PTSD treatment. No one cared about MY EXPERIENCE. they were trained hypnotherapists and so they bullied me into using their approach because "it was proven." Worst decision I EVER made in my life. Darned near ruined my life to be totally honest. So when someone throws research back at me, without asking about my experience, instead treating it as a throw away exception to some rule, that doesn't feel open minded. Especially given that I have worked with many others who had the same experience I did . As I said - thats why I went back and became a trainer of hypnotherapists, so I share my experience with those I train so they understand there's more than research. There are people who have experiences and not all are perfect or successful. I'll back out now. I pray you have a better experience than many I've worked with on the other side of EMDR my friend... Blessings always..
    Lisa Gallagher
    28/07/2016 #47 Lisa Gallagher
    #44 Thanks @Dale Masters, yes, highly aware :))
    Lisa Gallagher
    28/07/2016 #46 Lisa Gallagher
    #42 @Shawn Quinlivan Thank you for such a detailed response. I'm the type of person who needs to read Scientific data. I'm far from a Scientist but I do understand a lot of Medical terminology. There is much to be said about treatment with Medications and on-going treatment with a therapist too. I agree, I've read that the person conducting EMDR needs to really know what they are doing. I would love to chat with you too Shawn, I value your input on this discussion. Anxiety and PTSD are hell to live with. Thanks so much for your comment!
    Lisa Gallagher
    28/07/2016 #45 Lisa Gallagher
    #40 Hi @Sara Jacobovici, yes I agree- this topic is very important. Many Americans are afflicted with Anxiety Disease/Panic Disorder and it's not something we can just wish away. If it was that easy, we wouldn't seek help. We wouldn't feel the need to finally speak out about this illness. It's been an illness that has been taboo to speak of for years. Any illness that's categorized as a "Mental illness," has a stigma attached. The brain is malfunctioning and with all the reading I've done (believe me, I've read a lot) I still don't feel they know enough about the brain to understand why this happens. They are getting closer by understanding the chemical messengers that add to this illness and the part of the brain that seems to be affected, the receptors but as far as treatment, we are all different (think of fractals) as our friend @Milos Djukic talks so much about. I think of our brains as fractals. And, that may be why what works for one person may not work for another. For example, I have friends who are able to take SSRI's or SNRI's and have rebounded. I can't take those, I have a severe reaction. I'm not sure if some people realize there is a difference between anxiety we all feel over stressful situations or events vs. Generalized Anxiety Disorder. The first one- life's stressors are normal even though they suck. The second is an illness that a person has no control over and the chemical messengers flood the body before the person has time to try and calm their brain. It's exhausting physically and emotionally. I really appreciate your input Sara and value this discussion!! Thanks so much for your comment.
    Dale Masters
    27/07/2016 #44 Dale Masters
    #42 EXCELLENT! (You are aware that EMDR can be used in a harmful fashion by less than ethical therapists?)
    Shawn Quinlivan, C.Ht.
    27/07/2016 #42 Shawn Quinlivan, C.Ht.
    My primary interest in this thread is to offer @Lisa Gallagher some helpful information.

    For the sake of discussion, randomized, controlled clinical trials have shown that hypnosis significantly decreases PTSD symptoms and is more efficient than comparison treatments. These peer reviewed research studies appear in publications by the International Society for Traumatic Stress Studies and the Journal of Clinical Psychiatry. I present this evidence as the foundation upon which I have built a very successful and specialized approach; it is not intended to marginalize anyone else’s experience or perspective.

    It is important to consider the variable of the human element here: all therapists are not created equal and some are more skilled at dealing with the adverse reactions common to overcoming traumatic stress. In my experience, interactive techniques such as therapeutic imagery, along with EMDR and other desensitization methods, gently reframe unhealthy responses—both psychological and physiological—to memories of traumatic events, diffusing both the emotional charge and negative impact. PTSD triggers and anticipatory anxiety are recognized and cast aside. Neural pathways are rewired and PTSD sufferers learn to become more present in the moment of their lives. And as love and connectivity begin to triumph over fear and separation, the trauma is embraced as a transformative and catalyzing force, a ‘wounded gift.’ This is how PTSD sufferers become not just survivors, but agents of hope and change for the many who are afflicted with this debilitating condition.
    Deb Helfrich
    27/07/2016 #41 Deb Helfrich
    Us synthesizers, @Sara Jacobovici, have our work cut out for us. The outcome is the focus, not the route. But of course, nothing wrong with analyzing the route to see if there are more efficient or universal ways to get to the outcome
    Sara Jacobovici
    27/07/2016 #40 Sara Jacobovici
    Dear @Lisa Gallagher, you have obviously sparked an incredibly important discussion. One that needs to openly and freely discussed. As you say, "there is no shame in illness. The only shame is when it's untreated, or not recognized." I would add, and not debated. #34 Lisa, I agree with you saying, "It's helpful to me and I'm sure many to understand more about different therapy options that are out there.#36 @Deb Helfrich I echo some points you made that are crucial towards establishing the framework for this discussion: "...as far as I am concerned, we are clouding the issue taking sides the lack of people integrating, rather than isolating and reducing, seems to be the root of the current craziness that provides medicines that do more harm than the originating condition. Treatments that are known to only mask symptoms, not address the actual dysfunction... I am a philosopher, not a scientist, so my job is to ask questions" Integrating and asking questions, essential to successfully treating individuals. By the way, philosophy started it all including science and psychology.
    Lisa Gallagher
    27/07/2016 #39 Lisa Gallagher
    Thanks for the shares everyone!!
    Lisa Gallagher
    27/07/2016 #38 Lisa Gallagher
    #35 Thanks @Leckey Harrison, appreciate!
    Lisa Gallagher
    27/07/2016 #37 Lisa Gallagher
    #36 great analogy with Vegan vs. Paleo @Deb Helfrich. Like you, I'm not a scientist and I honestly love to (and need to ) hear of the treatments available. I have an open mind and I think it will help me to make a very educated decision for myself. And, sometimes we may try something, it may not work which is another reason I love the fact that there are those of you offering differing treatment options! Yes please, lets keep this conversation going. I appreciate all of your input. @Rebel Brown @Leckey Harrison @Shawn Quinlivan, C.Ht.
    Deb Helfrich
    27/07/2016 #36 Deb Helfrich
    #29 #33 Hmmm. What if you are both right? I see incredible power within both of you and what I know of what you have overcome. An analogy that comes to mind is vegan vs paleo - as far as I am concerned, we are clouding the issue taking sides as if there is just 1 true diet for 7 billion individuals. People thrive on the diets available at the equator and in the arctic.

    I am obviously coming from immersing myself in the chronic disease world and the lack of people integrating, rather than isolating and reducing, seems to be the root of the current craziness that provides medicines that do more harm than the originating condition. Treatments that are known to only mask symptoms, not address the actual dysfunction.

    This is a VALID discussion. I am wondering if I can ask a question simply out of curiosity. Why would both approaches work for some, but not all, even occasionally making some folks worse? What about 2 other modalities - EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) and TRE(trauma/tension releasing exercises) [as our own @Leckey Harrison has me very excited about]- also have data and many success stories within the Veteran community?

    I am a philosopher, not a scientist, so my job is to ask questions that might keep 2 very competent people communicating for the good of many others. The human organism is infinitely complex and highly redundant. What are the commonalities among these treatment modalities?
    Leckey Harrison
    27/07/2016 #35 Leckey Harrison
    #10 Glad to: https://RaiseYourResilience.com