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  1. ProducerLisa 🐝 Gallagher
    The Process Of Dying Remains A Mystery- Public Speaking And The Fear Of Death Are Real
    The Process Of Dying Remains A Mystery- Public Speaking And The Fear Of Death Are RealAccording to Dr. Christopher Kerr the two biggest fears people face in society is the fear of public speaking and dying. I have to admit, public speaking was fear of mine but the idea of dying is a much larger fear. I am not a Doctor obviously, but...
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    Harvey Lloyd
    31/07/2017 #6 Harvey Lloyd
    If i may be spiritual for a moment. The Speaker in the video claimed a neutrality within the understanding of spiritual things but couldnt explain what he saw any other way.

    Death is the ultimate time when we separate the physical from the spiritual. We have lost control of all things physical. We fight for existance until we finally resolve we cant maintain the effort.

    Once we cross this point we earnestly begin to resolve our spiritual selves in a physical world. This peace cant be explained and when heard by the living sounds crazy.

    This peace is something we can have without waiting for the end. The resolution between the physical and spiritual is difficult but not unobtainable.

    Your thoughts here remind us that life is finite and in the end our check book will not matter.

    Great Ted Talk and insights.
    Puneet Srivastava
    31/07/2017 #5 Puneet Srivastava
    Hi @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher in 2014, I slipped and came 60 feet sliding down on a steep rocky mountain while trekking. Mid way down my slide, I was sure i would die. Luckily, i escaped with a minor fracture in my wrist that had no pain. Nevertheless, since I am trained in Yoga, I had instantly initiated a procedure to ensure i pass off smoothly. Incidentally that was not to be. Yet that day on wards, yoga became the main agenda of my life. The Science of Yoga not only helps us understand life, but also that which lies beyond what we call life. Very touching write up. Hope my experience adds a perspective to it. Good wishes & peace to all.
    Pascal Derrien
    31/07/2017 #4 Pascal Derrien
    As often you offer us a deep topic, I am not religious or spiritual but have found some of my articles ''ending'' with the topic of death for whatever reasons. I did not notice what you mentioned in others, my only personal experience being a near death experience with a light coma and flashbacks including 'tunnel'' soft voices and blurry silhouettes. Now I don't know if I have truly experienced it or is it my brain or subconscious who has made up a story I have come to accept as potential reality. In the end it does not matter whatever it is I think people relate to this topic in a different ways and approach allowing their own sensitivities or beliefs to guide them. thru their last steps. Thumbs up on the article ( I will watch the video later) @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    Numo Quest
    31/07/2017 #3 Numo Quest
    Great publish indeed. As a life's experiencer, just to invent a word, to me, there is no fear of 'end'. There are two things happening on the moment, people usually refers to as dying, or death. A split moment, a 'door' if you will, opens where you may go through, becoming 'One of the Whole again...' It is just a moment. If that moments passes, one experiences 'the tunnel' as so many are referring to. There it all starts again by being born again, hence instant all one knows and has experienced, is vanished. As I have spoken with loved ones dying, others, it is exactly as here portrayed. There are always loved ones, who went before, awaiting, visible for those about to go. Great comfort and utter fascinating. Many thanks Lisa. Hope this may show to be a comfort to the reader.
    Tricia Mitchell
    31/07/2017 #2 Tricia Mitchell
    Thanks for sharing your experiences - both professional and personal @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher I'm happy for you that you no longer carry the guilt.

    There are 2 references that spring to mind. Dr Eben Alexander, a neuorsurgeon and his Near Death Experience and he talks about consciousness in patients who are in comas, contributing to discussions within the medical profession that lead to redefining what was thought to be true about patients in comas. (There's also Anita Moorjani's 'Dying to be me' TED talk).

    Oh, a psychic medium channelled a message from a client's loved one, describing the transistion to the other side.

    Thanks for sharing the video, which I'll watch.
  2. Lada 🏑 Prkic
    Help others and doors shall open for you without even expecting them to ever open.

    A gem from the pen of @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    Lada 🏑 Prkic
    The Death of My Brother, but not his great lesson
    www.linkedin.com My brother Eng. Azzam passed away fifteen years ago at the age of 47 suffering from brain cancer. I still remember him walking in my office shortly before his death walking in my office with a...
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    Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    19/08/2016 #11 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    #9 You shall remain one of my closest brain and heart friends dear @Milos Djukic
    Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    19/08/2016 #10 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    #7 A warm heart that doesn't break even if we throw chilled water on it. Yoi are very human @Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    Milos Djukic
    18/08/2016 #9 Anonymous
    One of my all time favorite posts @Lada 🏑 Prkic. Once again thank you very much dear Ali @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee for this gem..
    Donald 🐝 Grandy
    18/08/2016 #8 Donald 🐝 Grandy
    Great post @Lada 🏑 Prkic. Thank you for sharing this heart felt story, Helping others is the key to many doors..
    Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    18/08/2016 #7 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    "Help others and doors shall open for you without even expecting them to ever open." ~ This true story truly needs no prose, font, or 'Bold' to make it ring alive. It sinks and sails to the words my father taught us, as he told of giving his jacket off his own back to a homeless man at the railroad track. He just couldn't walk away, or look past. He had to act. "Act." Your brother "Acted" and showed true "Love." And there is nothing that conquers All better than true love. Thank you for sharing such a personal and profound accounting, one that I will share with you every July 5th, as I remember Love that Still lives. For you, your brother, my father, and the anonymous man with big, big eyes.
    Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    15/08/2016 #6 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    That is the key wisdom- doors open when most needed and to the point you are @Lada 🏑 Prkic
    Lada 🏑 Prkic
    15/08/2016 #4 Lada 🏑 Prkic
    #1 I had to share this, @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee! As Milos Djukic commented, any further words are superfluous.

    I have only to add that my husband did similar thing as your late brother, and the door opened when it was most needed.
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    15/08/2016 #3 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    A very touching story about giving and letting the receiving occur when it will, @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    Sara Jacobovici
    15/08/2016 #2 Sara Jacobovici
    Great share @Lada 🏑 Prkic. Thank you.
    Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    15/08/2016 #1 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    I am deeply grateful for your sharing this particular post dear @Lada 🏑 Prkic. Thank you isn't enough
  3. ProducerLisa 🐝 Gallagher
    Is Anxiety Disease Interfering With Your Job?
    Is Anxiety Disease Interfering With Your Job?We all get anxious when it comes to our jobs, however, Anxiety Disease - also called Anxiety DisorderΒ can lead to missing too much time from work, leaving work early, or ultimately losing your job.Many people aren't aware they have Anxiety disorder...
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    Antoinette Capasso-Backdahl
    23/05/2017 #86 Antoinette Capasso-Backdahl
    I just posted an article about disease naming. It made me think about the way you describe anxiety as a disease. The co-worker you mention was probably in a hostile working environment and being triggered by abusive people. If this environment tolerated the girl that mocked her it likely was an over all reflection of who the organization attracted. So, why do the survivors of such behavior get a break and the ones who are hostile start being called to the carpet. I'll call it hostility disease and it is infectious.

    When someone is having anxiety and then realizes they are in a non-supportive environment is escalates the symptoms.

    People who like to see people suffer get an enjoyment out of it. What is that disease? I'll call it energy vampire for now.

    Anyway, there are labels for these things. But because right now it's "cool" to blame the victims and survivors of rape and being bullied. It's true that you can't avoid every situation but only suicidal people would intentionally want to work with hostile people.
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    23/05/2017 #85 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #84 I will get in touch with you when we get back from Colorado, FOR SURE! @Shelley Brown
    Shelley Brown
    22/05/2017 #84 Shelley Brown
    #82 @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher please do ping me.
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    21/05/2017 #83 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #79 #81 I just spoke to someone the other day who works remotely out of Cleveland for Marriott. I found out because I can't sleep at night and I called to make a reservation on the phone. For some reason I had a feeling she worked remotely and I asked. We talked for some time and she said that it's going to grow and they are going to do more virtual training (hotels, credit card companies, airlines, car rental agencies and more). Once companies are able to implement more virtual training they can expand their territories for hiring remote workers. She's a night owl like me and works Thurs-Monday from 10:30 pm - 8:30 am and she loves it. Right now many companies need people to live within the vicinity in order to receive training on site. I agree, remote work would be ideal for many who are stay at home moms that may need extra money but don't want to leave their children, people who do have disabilities, yet are able to continue to work- the workforce can be very brutal on people that have open or hidden disabilities. I'm very sorry to hear of everything you've been through but it's also refreshing to hear that you are finding what works for you in order to keep functioning. Those of us with severe anxiety understand that if we don't continue to push ourselves we can end up with full blown agoraphobia and that's a scary thought. Hang in there (easy to say, right?) and lets keep these topics/discussions open. I think it helps when people can finally speak without feeling retribution. It validates that this illness is real, as my dr. told me- it's a medical illness. So, it appears within the Medical community they are progressing!
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    21/05/2017 #82 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #78 I'm sorry to hear that @Shelley Brown! I worked with a woman a few years back who suffered from Anxiety Disorder and panic attacks. She had a very bad one at work once and passed out. I guess she was shaking on the floor real bad right before she passed out. The saddest part of this story, a co-worker of mine told me about it (she was actually my boss). She went on to say, she's strange... she once got all flustered and was flailing on the floor (then the woman telling me this began to mimic the 'flailing' as she called it) and laughed. I became angry and said, well what REALLY happened to her?! She said, oh I think it was an ear problem or something but she over reacted. They had to call an ambulance for her. I don't recall the entire convo because it hurt to hear someone make fun of someone who had a medical issue, it blew me away actually. I will PM you, maybe we can put our brains together and come up with a plan. We'd need a few professionals or at least one along with many story tellers. So, who knows, maybe we can brainstorm and make it happen? I'm game!!
    Antoinette Capasso-Backdahl
    21/05/2017 #81 Antoinette Capasso-Backdahl
    #76 @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher, thank you for your kind words.

    Friday, I was happily on my to a half a days worth of appointments. One was the unemployment office and the other three were doctors appointments. I was getting an ultra-sound for my lady parts, a visit with the doctor for a review of my previous lab work that revealed hypothyroid, and then a mammogram. I deviated from my routine slightly and locked my keys in my house.

    Had this happened 15 years ago, it would've ruined my day completely. However, I had to take a deep breath and sit in my hallway and think. Sometimes anxiety doesn't allow you to do that.

    I found someone to drive me to my appointments, thank goodness another golden nugget! She hung out the entire day getting her errands done and even got in to see an ortho for her knee. It all worked out.

    While at my appointments my landlord got the message. By the time I got back, I only had to sit in my hallway for a little over a half an hour to wait for on of my landlords. I was fine, but my landlord let it ruin her day. But I can't fix anyone but me.
    Antoinette Capasso-Backdahl
    21/05/2017 #79 Antoinette Capasso-Backdahl
    #76 If I hadn't had Dialectical Behavioral Therapy which is a mode of Cognitive Therapy and a few golden nuggets along the way who told me their stories and how they deal with it, I would be lost.

    My biggest problem is that I do not like to be pretentious. The unemployment rehab gal wants me to not disclose my issues. This is impossible. I have hands that poor out water and act like a barometer. Also, I have limits. I've tried places that advertise "disabled and veterans" but they are not trained professionals, their work environment hostile, they have a high attrition for employees, they do not treat "normal" employees well, nor do they have the best coping skills.

    I would love to create non hostile work environments that do not pay slave wages for the disabled folks who need to work. I would also like to get more companies to offer tele-commute jobs for disabled. I like how Ancestry does their data entry for volunteers. This would be great for me if I could get paid to do it.

    The other issue getting employed is this dang activism I embarked on. When you look up my name, you can see the smear campaign. Oh well, I'll have to write a blog defending myself and the army of dicks [Dick Armey's crew] did warn me, that I would not be able to quit because of the internet. So, I'll have to be creative.

    The best thing for me is meditation and exercise are the key. It helps tremendously. I was in a series of serious accidents, meditation also helps with pain. Exercise is a challenge because if I exercise too much I injure myself and if I don't exercise enough, I am in deep doo doo.
    Shelley Brown
    21/05/2017 #78 Shelley Brown
    #77 @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher thank you so much. I will share my story and I love your goal of organizing a conference. I would like to help you educate people and end the stigma. I just went through a major struggle at work which felt humilating due to this stigma. .
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    21/05/2017 #77 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #75 Hi @Shelley Brown, please share your story. There is no shame in having an illness. We are not crazy, I actually think many people with anxiety are extremely smart, artsy, writers etc... Tag me if you decide to write about your story, please. I would love to organize a conference (informal) with maybe one or two professionals. I have tons of ideas but I would need a few people who are experienced to help organize. What I'd love to see are others who are willing to share their stories in front of an audience. It would be great to have people who are in treatment, people who've been through different modalities of treatment and found success- even sharing what medications along with therapy have been extremely useful and life changing. I think another aspect that I've been studying would be to add what happens during menopause and how hormone fluctuations can actually cause an increase in Anxiety disorder during these trying years for women. I want the stigma to end, it's sad that we feel we have to put on a smile and go on as if our bodies/brains feel normal, when inside we feel like we are slowly dying at times- which I think @Antoinette Capasso-Backdahl was referring to as well? Never feel shame!!
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    21/05/2017 #76 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #74 I'm so sorry I missed your comment @Antoinette Capasso-Backdahl. I understand the part about giving in. I think that is something many of us struggle with depending on the day, the week or the month(s). Never give up, we can't allow this disorder to rule our lives. It's a struggle, a major struggle but there is always hope with good therapy, a good psychiatrist and support system. I have learned to listen to my body as well, which means if I'm having a very bad day, I just chill. Other days when it's not so bad I push myself to do what I need and find things to do that actually take my mind to another place. I was just telling someone that I love traveling but get so anxious weeks before because of the intrusive (rapid firing) thoughts. Once we are on the road and viewing something outside of my daily environment, I feel like a weight has been lifted. It's a tough fight, but one worth fighting :))
    Shelley Brown
    20/05/2017 #75 Shelley Brown
    Lisa, I can't thank you enough for writing this story. I am so thankful your brother made it and so so sorry about his friend. Your willingness to share about anxiety disorder, something I have as well, really helps drive it home to that it's not something we should be ashamed of. In fact, because of your generous heart which allows you to share about this, makes me think I may want to write a story about my own struggle. Thank you so much!
    Antoinette Capasso-Backdahl
    01/05/2017 #74 Antoinette Capasso-Backdahl
    #73 I used to be a master at shielding myself. Overtime, I am not sure what has changed, but I keep finding a way. It's not as if I hadn't been down these winding roads before. I have a sneaking suspicious it is a combination of factors. Sometimes I feel like I should just give in, and decide, I AM DISABLED and other times I do not want to admit and submit to that label because I feel I am able! It is difficult to keep a traditional work schedule. I love to work and am afraid of not being able to make ends meet. Being in transition is stressful. I have to be optimistic.

    I too feel the need to know what is happening but must keep it in perspective as to space and time. Finding balance is the key for me.
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    01/05/2017 #73 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    Hi @Antoinette Capasso-Backdahl, you are so right, it does affect cortisol levels which is one reason people develop belly fat... or better known as that hard to get rid of, dangerous visceral fat. Anxiety disease can cause so many physical diseases. My Dr. told me they consider Anxiety Disease a Medical Condition now.

    Meditation helps me if I don't have a full blown panic attack, by then the chemical responses are beyond our control. I wrote of being out on the breakwater in Maine and having a horrific panic attack, I can attest that meditation would not have worked in that situation.

    You made great points about the news cycles and media- I've been trying to watch shows that make me laugh. It's hard not to watch the news though because I want to stay updated on world/US events and that has become much more stressful. My husband began watching the news every night over the past 4 months or so, I finally told him he needed to stop and just watch shows that were conducive to his mental health because it was causing him to feel so angry. That's not like my husband at all.
    Antoinette Capasso-Backdahl
    30/04/2017 #72 Antoinette Capasso-Backdahl
    I think the hardest part is the subconscious mind has a better memory.

    Anxiety can cause a heart attack and inflammation besides high cortisol levels.

    Although meditation for me works well. I cannot always meditate in every situation because things can happen so fast.

    Now with the entertainment, news cycle and all media wanting to be all about violence, drama and fear bating, I believe there will be more people with anxiety.

    This coupled with the Google talk doctors stating that obesity is linked to the antibiotics and GMO crops, besides being related to heightened cortisol levels. I wonder who the scholars dare to body shame people based on the cycle of revenue pipelines they have created. It would be nice if they acknowledge their cause in the matter. Hopefully they'll just treat people with the dignity and respect they deserve and be grateful for their contribution as being an unsuspecting specimens who lost out on an opportunity to have a better quality of life in what some call FIRST WORLD PROBLEMS.
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    02/02/2017 #71 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #70 Interesting stuff @Robert Cormack and great analogy with the use of ginger ale 'going off in my head,' by Tony Soprano!
    Robert Cormack
    01/02/2017 #70 Robert Cormack
    They did some studies at the University of Toronto, comparing certain centres of the brain using MRIs. Depression causes red areas whereas, when the brain is more stimulated (read happy or relaxed) the centres turn yellow. Both CBT and SSRIs produced the same yellow areas over essentially the same time (SSRIs were quicker but tended to move from red to yellow to red while the CBT patients were more consistent). Yoga and meditation are particularly good before stressful days, parties, lectures, etc. It takes time, but it's important to reduce stress levels whenever possible. Anxiety is really the build up of stress, acting like a release valve. If you think of air suddenly coming out of a tire puncture, that's what anxiety is like. That's why Tony Soprano once said about his panic attacks "It feels like a can of ginger ale going off in my head." Very apt description.
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    01/02/2017 #69 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #67 lol no biggie @Lisa Vanderburg :)) Should see my typing when I don't have my glasses, I have typo's galore.
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    01/02/2017 #68 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #66 Hi @Robert Cormack, I agree... I've found after being in therapy for quite a few months now that was the beginning of my tipping point. I always thought maybe there were many triggers but never brought it up to the Dr because I didn't want to sound like a major complainer. Sad that with an illness we still get embarrassed. Thankfully, this is the first Counselor who seems to really know what he is doing. CBT for quite a few months and just began my first session of EMDR followed by some type of meditative techniques to bring the mind back down before I left. As even my Dr. told me, this can work much better than meds- we shall see, I have a lot of hope! I haven't given up on the idea of taking yoga either. Tag me in one of your next buzzes, thanks!
    Lisa Vanderburg
    31/01/2017 #67 Lisa Vanderburg
    #65 My bad - you're right Lisa...it was his friend Bobby. MUST put my glasses on! :)
    Robert Cormack
    31/01/2017 #66 Robert Cormack
    I've written on this as well, Lisa. So many people change jobs, linking those jobs directly to their panic disorder. Unfortunately, events at work may only be the tipping point of many early unresolved issues. I think panic disorder is the result of too many "triggers." It's not the job so much (Let's call it the irritant factor), it's all the triggers making an anxiety soup in our brains. CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy) takes timeβ€”more time than most people want to spendβ€”but it can be just as effective as relying on SSRIs, etc. I also firmly believe that medication and yogaβ€”together with CBTβ€”is more effective SSRI therapy (and a lot less expensive if Trump really bungles healthcare). Thanks for the post.