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Mindfulness is the practice of bringing one's attention to the internal and external experiences occurring in the present moment,[1] which can be developed through the practice of meditation.[1] The term "mindfulness" is a translation of the Pali-term sati,[2] which is a significant element of some Buddhist traditions.
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  1. Don 馃悵 Kerr

    Don 馃悵 Kerr

    21/02/2017
    "In ancient China a terrible and ferocious warlord was ransacking the countryside. Coming upon a Zen monastery his army began killing and pillaging. When the warlord entered the inner courtyard he found the abbot of the monastery sitting in a chair. The abbot said firmly, "Get out of my monastery." The powerful warlord walked up to the abbot, sword in hand, and said, "You don't understand. I could kill you without blinking an eye." The abbot replied, "No, you don't understand. I could die without blinking an eye." After this the warlord became a devotee of the abbot." from a recent post on LinkedIn by Alan Geller.
    Don 馃悵 Kerr
    LinkedIn The First 100 Posts: WHO'S TO BLAME?
    tinyurl.com This marks my 100th post on LinkedIn. Today I'm interrupting my typical "After Dark" shenanigans to grapple with an important topic that I've given...
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  2. ProducerSarah Elkins

    Sarah Elkins

    21/02/2017
    3 Easy Applications of Neuroscience in Real Life
    3 Easy Applications of Neuroscience in Real LifeI've always been fascinated with the human brain. What's so amazing to me is how little we really know about our brain, despite decades of intensive study. And even as we learn more, there is so much that cannot be explained, like when I know my...
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    Robert Bacal
    21/02/2017 #14 Robert Bacal
    #13 Thanks you for the comment, @Ian Weinberg I'm a lapsed cognitive psych guy, so, while I try to keep up, I'm not actively involved, as I'd guess you are.
    Ian Weinberg
    21/02/2017 #13 Ian Weinberg
    #9 This is indeed true @Robert Bacal
    Cyndi wilkins
    21/02/2017 #12 Cyndi wilkins
    Great buzz @Sarah Elkins!....Being able to laugh, especially at a time when things are not quite so funny, carriers with it an enormous capacity to heal...Same goes for courageously facing our fears breaks through the barriers that set them in motion in the first place;-) We all need to lighten up a little and dump some of the baggage we are hauling around in our hearts!
    Aaron Skogen
    21/02/2017 #11 Aaron Skogen
    Great applications @Sarah Elkins! And a great book @Melissa Hughes ;-)

    Still laughing about the "Government is Beautiful" bit. . . And as you well know my friend, I need some laughs! Thanks for helping me start my day with a smile.
    Melissa Hughes
    21/02/2017 #10 Anonymous
    I love your applications, Sarah! We really are in control of our brains! Feeling incredibly grateful and rewarded......
    Robert Bacal
    21/02/2017 #9 Robert Bacal
    #6 The huge problem, @Ian Weinberg is not discovering the roles of neurotransmitters, etc, but making the leap from labelling and correlating, to the behavioral world. As an example, there has been strides in understanding some of the biology behind mental illness, but we are just not very good at truly understanding how to "fix" it. The tools are crude, the results all over the block. And the mechanism for pharamceuticals are still often unknown and results unpredictable.

    We're at the beginning, but there are a lot of people writing pop psych, and misleading folks about what we know and can do.
    Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    21/02/2017 #8 Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    As I read your buzz @Sarah Elkins it brought me back a bit. I remember when I worked for the County I would keep lollipops and other candies on my desk. Our department dealt with divorce proceedings and many of these people would bring their children- I always had something to give the kids; they were already scared and stressed from the ordeal not to mention coming into our building, it would always put a smile on their face. I love how you used the "F" word to get a reaction and laughter. My mom never used the "F" word and one day she was really upset... she had a hard time expressing herself and would turn inwards. My sister said, "Mom when I get upset I say, Shi*, *F", da*m," you just need to say that and it will make you laugh." My mom was determined she would not repeat those words. My sister and both started saying it while we were also cracking ourselves up at the same time. All of a sudden we hear this faint voice repeating the words. Then mom said it in a stronger voice, we were all laughing so hard. Mom didn't like swearing but on that day, she realized it wasn't directed at anyone and they were just words. Great story Sarah, I really enjoyed this!!
    Prahlad Rao
    21/02/2017 #7 Prahlad Rao
    Good article. The mood control is from a chemical called serotonin which is produced in the brain.
    Ian Weinberg
    21/02/2017 #6 Ian Weinberg
    #3 Thanks for the invite @David B. Grinberg. Enlightening article @Sarah Elkins Yes @Robert Bacal we're still groping a little in the dark, but we've made significant strides in certain areas. Regarding humor and curiosity as enhancers - it's pretty clear at this stage of research that they both increase dopamine secretion. Curiosity enhances hippocampal function through dopamine secretion thus enhancing memory/learning. Humor reflects a dynamic where an unpredicted/surprising occurrence that is noted as such results in a dopamine mediated 'spurt of mirth'. See https://www.bebee.com/producer/@ian-weinberg/neuroscience-is-a-joke Raised dopamine (together with raised serotonin) have been shown to diminish inflammatory activity generally (brain and body). An important effect since chronic inflammation underpins many illnesses.
    Gert Scholtz
    21/02/2017 #5 Gert Scholtz
    @Sarah Elkins Such an uplifting post Sarah- I like how you bring humor to the office and into the lives of your sons.
    Robert Bacal
    21/02/2017 #4 Robert Bacal
    #3 @David B. Grinberg That's a myth. To add about neuroscience:

    While great strides have been made due to scanning technologies, much of the stuff one reads about "neuroscience" is pop psychology -- written not by neurologists and researchers, but by people who tend to be ill equpped to interpret the results, journalists and/or pop psych. writers. As @Sarah Elkins states, we know remarkably little about how the brain works, (and how brain function maps on to the external world and behavior.
    David B. Grinberg
    21/02/2017 #3 David B. Grinberg
    Nice buzz, Sarah! You're preaching to the proverbial choir on my end. I've read that most humans only use about 10% of our brain power. Thus, what would be possible if we were able to use 50% or 75% -- the answers would boggle the mind (for lack of a better term).
    I'm reminded of the Hollywood film "Lucy" in which actress Scarlett Johansson plays a character who is able to harness increasing amounts of her brain power. Here's the movie trailer https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MVt32qoyhi0
    I'm copying beBee's resident neurology expert, @Ian Weinberg, as I'm interested on his take. Thanks in advance for chiming in on this, Ian.
    Also, Sarah, I wish you all the best with your conference and regret being unable to attend. It sounds like an amazing event!
    Todd Jones
    21/02/2017 #2 Todd Jones
    Love it Sarah! I work for the State of NY, and love to open with "I'm from the government, and I'm here to help!" Along with a wry smile, the dichotomy almost always melts the ice with disgruntled landowners.
    Milos Djukic
    21/02/2017 #1 Anonymous
    @Melissa Hughes and @Sarah Elkins :)
  3. ProducerDaniela Yar贸n de la G谩ndara
    Estr茅s y ca铆da del cabello. Alopecia Nerviosa
    Estr茅s y ca铆da del cabello. Alopecia NerviosaLa relaci贸n entre una situaci贸n de estr茅s mantenida en el tiempo y la ca铆da del cabello es muy conocida. Son varios los pacientes que acuden a consulta recomendados por su m茅dico 鈥渕e dijo que era por el estr茅s, que hasta que no lo redujese no...
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  4. Daniela Yar贸n de la G谩ndara
    La lectura es un gran aliado en el trabajo con menores y familias. No solo por el buen rato, por lo que aprenden y reflexionan, sino porque al terapeuta nos permite crear nuevas actividades y ejemplos a partir de estos, y mezclarlos directamente con el mundo de cada joven cliente. Daniela Yar贸n de la G谩ndara
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    Daniela Yar贸n de la G谩ndara
    06/02/2017 #2 Daniela Yar贸n de la G谩ndara
    #1 muchas gracias :)
    Luciano Carmo
    05/02/2017 #1 Luciano Carmo
    Gracias Daniela su trabajo es mucho bonito.
  5. ProducerDaniela Yar贸n de la G谩ndara
    驴Qu茅 relaci贸n existe entre el dolor cr贸nico y los problemas emocionales?
    驴Qu茅 relaci贸n existe entre el dolor cr贸nico y los problemas emocionales?Primero de todo definamos el dolor: Es una experiencia sensorial y emocional que responde a una lesi贸n real o potencial (Asociaci贸n Internacional para el Estudio del Dolor)Y ahora definamos las emociones:...
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    Fernando 馃悵 Santa Isabel Llanos
    03/02/2017 #2 Fernando 馃悵 Santa Isabel Llanos
    Que importante es hablar las cosas, contar lo que a uno le atormenta y dejarse ayudar. Gracias por el post @Daniela Yar贸n de la G谩ndara!!
    Javier 馃悵 beBee
    02/02/2017 #1 Javier 馃悵 beBee
    gracias por compartirlo @Daniela Yar贸n de la G谩ndara bienvenida a beBee
  6. Don 馃悵 Kerr

    Don 馃悵 Kerr

    30/01/2017
    Do nothing. Silently. It will help.
    The world is very noisy right now. Here's some simple, practical advice from my wife.
    Don 馃悵 Kerr
    What's the point of silence?
    tinyurl.com Silence may just be the most valuable resource in our hyper-connected world. It is the gateway to reclaiming our dramatically shrinking attention spans,...
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  7. ProducerDayne Yarbrough

    Dayne Yarbrough

    26/01/2017
    FINE CARE
    FINE CAREIWhat has not been tried to understand?聽 Who actually understands?聽 Am I wrong for applying what I know about a person to how they feel about a matter?聽 Should I trust that they were influenced positively or negatively and to what extent without...
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  8. Emily馃悵 Bee

    Emily馃悵 Bee

    19/01/2017
    Let it be known ~ I will no longer live in anger, be angered or accept anger in my vicinity. From this day forward, I permit myself to finally live in Peace. Amen. Emily馃悵 Bee
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    Preston 馃悵 Vander Ven
    25/01/2017 #2 Preston 馃悵 Vander Ven
    Something that brings me Peace is all the promises.
    http://www.biblestudytools.com/topical-verses/peace-bible-verses/
    Deb 馃悵 Helfrich
    20/01/2017 #1 Deb 馃悵 Helfrich
    May the peace be strong, @Emily馃悵 Bee. There is a great deal of power in just deciding forevermore.
  9. ProducerRoyce Shook

    Royce Shook

    19/01/2017
    Life is a dance
    Life is a danceLife is dancing with a partner; when setbacks, delays, and detours happen; they're like steps in the mambo, tango, and cha-cha.聽If you dissect the movements and see them without the rest of the dance, or without hearing the music, everyone looks to...
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    Emily馃悵 Bee
    19/01/2017 #1 Emily馃悵 Bee
    Shared! I enjoyed this read, thanks.
  10. ProducerEvelyn Asher

    Evelyn Asher

    17/01/2017
    PEERING AHEAD
    PEERING AHEADBy Evelyn Asher聽My ideal day a year from now is to celebrate with a business owner at an award luncheon. The business owner and his strategic team had been totally unaware how others perceived the 10-year startup and what immediate changes could...
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    Donna-Luisa Eversley
    19/01/2017 #3 Donna-Luisa Eversley
    @Evelyn Asher happy new year. It's amazing, as you crossed my mind I see this post馃槉. I like the sound of that quest. I must see where I will be. I look forward to more of your posts 鈽吼煠楌煂拣煂拣煂拣煂
    Mohammed Sultan
    17/01/2017 #2 Mohammed Sultan
    Evelyn Asher -Welcome to beBee .I hope you will widen the "time window" of your thoughts on beBee.The more you change your position by this widow,the more you will see things differently.The simplicity of your article reflects the attitude of an expert coach who says little words in a big way.Thank you for sharing.
    Javier 馃悵 beBee
    17/01/2017 #1 Javier 馃悵 beBee
    @Evelyn Asher welcome to beBee! Thanks for sharing it !
  11. Cory Galbraith

    Cory Galbraith

    16/01/2017
    Cory Galbraith
    How Mindfulness Cured My Headaches
    corygalbraith.com For weeks, I experienced strange headaches. Of course, when this happens, most people fear the worst possible scenario. Brain tumor? I thought it may be a sinus problem so I took sinus pills. They...
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    Cory Galbraith
    16/01/2017 #8 Cory Galbraith
    #7 Haha, I know what you mean Phil!
    Phil Friedman
    16/01/2017 #7 Phil Friedman
    Great post, Cory. My experience is that almost always tension and it's outward physical symptoms are a trigger for headaches. And I can also see from my experience how Mindfulness can work to alleviate such headaches. Now if I could, in my life, eliminate the many pains in my ass, I'd be in truly good shape. :-). Cheers!
    Cory Galbraith
    16/01/2017 #6 Cory Galbraith
    #3 Good stuff John. Also, try deeper breathing. I found I was also not breathing properly.
    Paz馃悵 Hueso Luque
    16/01/2017 #5 Paz馃悵 Hueso Luque
    Very interesting post...Thank you so much!
    Franci馃悵Eugenia Hoffman
    16/01/2017 #4 Franci馃悵Eugenia Hoffman
    Good reminder that we need to step and take a break.
    John White, MBA
    16/01/2017 #3 John White, MBA
    This is happening to me right now, @Cory Galbraith. Immediately implementing your suggestion. Now excuse me while I get my zen on.
    Laurent Boscherini
    16/01/2017 #2 Anonymous
    Thank you @Cory Galbraith for sharing your mindful tip. Meditation can be practiced all the time, (with a daily training +/- 7 mns), that could be very helpful for a long journey to reconnect with yourself.
    Don 馃悵 Kerr
    16/01/2017 #1 Don 馃悵 Kerr
    Shared to mindfulness hive
  12. ProducerSandra 馃悵 Smith
    Dealing with Mental Illness at Work
    Dealing with Mental Illness at WorkI read聽this piece聽via The Telegraph yesterday, and it struck a chord. A number of my family members suffer from bipolar disorder, and I lost my cousin Sarah to it last year.聽I was diagnosed with "Mood disorder - Not otherwise specified" some years...
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    Jim 馃悵 Cody
    18/01/2017 #15 Jim 馃悵 Cody
    #14 The stigma will not lessen until our governments and medical communities cover mental illnesses in equal par with other illnesses.
    Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    17/01/2017 #14 Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    Hi @Sandra 馃悵 Smith, I agree, the stigma needs to end. I don't see it ending anytime soon because of the lack of awareness, education and quite frankly many people still do see Mental Illness as a weakness, not a real illness. I have written a lot about Anxiety Disorder and the stigmas attached, including the workplace too. Maybe if more of us keep writing, supporting each other's writing, one day the voices will grow louder and together, we can all affect change. Thanks for sharing this!
    Mike Rana
    17/01/2017 #13 Mike Rana
    If Americans weren't such a sue-happy culture, and lawmakers had the spine to not consider writing "nanny laws," things might be score better in the US of A. We do love our bubble wrap.#12
    Harvey Lloyd
    17/01/2017 #12 Harvey Lloyd
    #10 I would say that you have cornered the issues in a single sentence. I believe lawyers get a bum wrap to some degree, as humans tend to think because they have been wronged according to their philosophy they can seek $ain. Then add in the topping of costs and insurance companies, the gain exists due to cost to litigate. A vicious cycle of precedents.
    Sandra 馃悵 Smith
    16/01/2017 #11 Sandra 馃悵 Smith
    #10 Lawyers are pretty much a barrier to everything... ;-)
    Mike Rana
    16/01/2017 #10 Mike Rana
    One of the barriers in the workplace to dealing with mental illness is lawyers.
    Sandra 馃悵 Smith
    16/01/2017 #9 Sandra 馃悵 Smith
    #8 Absolutely Harvey, and not at all
    Harvey Lloyd
    16/01/2017 #8 Harvey Lloyd
    #7 I hope you did not read into the comment the lack of need but rather the stirring issues on each side of the equation. It is an issue that requires input, insight and action. More importantly i sense that society is moving forward and the need for all to engage exists. This introduces a deeper challenge of mankind.
    Sandra 馃悵 Smith
    16/01/2017 #7 Sandra 馃悵 Smith
    #5 Thank you, @Harvey. Exactly right - you cannot show favouritism at work. But you can foster an environment where it is not seen as favouritism - because there is a genuine need for that person's accommodations. For example, at Symbian, a senior-staffer had a syndrome that made her very tired during the day. So she was allowed to have a couch in her office to rest on. No-one begrudged her because it was explained why she needed it. Of course, having a room with a day bed that anyone can use may be a more fair and diplomatic way to tackle the problem, if practical...
    Sandra 馃悵 Smith
    16/01/2017 #6 Sandra 馃悵 Smith
    #3 Thank you, @sara!
    Harvey Lloyd
    16/01/2017 #5 Harvey Lloyd
    @Sandra Smith a compelling post. Having lead many people within the construction industry and now in the education industry, I am recognizing this as a growing concern. We work with folks at a very personal level to help them achieve job satisfaction.

    We have recognized that this is the best way to address the minor/major issues that are brought on by an individuals perceptions of themselves. I will have to say though, leadership has to have a very strong personal conviction to address this in the workplace. Although some of the returns on investment are great the fall out within the larger group can be costly.

    Giving an individual special consideration due to mental illness can be seen as favoritism to others who are experiencing temporary bad judgement. Leaders must balance the support of one by the perceptions of others within the workforce. This is not a cop out statement but rather an understanding that the issues of mental illness are growing and the leadership will require a different perspective. But so will co-workers.
    Sara Jacobovici
    16/01/2017 #4 Sara Jacobovici
    @Sandra 馃悵 Smith writes: "Open, honest environment needed.
    This is why I am writing my piece too. Employers need to start working to create an open environment. Where mental illness is identified, discussed and supported. Not pushed under the carpet and stigmatised. Otherwise they will end up losing talent, and that talent may end up losing themselves."
    Sara Jacobovici
    16/01/2017 #3 Sara Jacobovici
    Bravo @Sandra 馃悵 Smith! One of the best posts on mental illness and the workplace I have read. Well written and articulated. Wishing you all the success!
    Don 馃悵 Kerr
    16/01/2017 #2 Don 馃悵 Kerr
    @Sandra 馃悵 Smith "Employers need to start working to create an open environment. Where mental illness is identified, discussed and supported. Not pushed under the carpet and stigmatised. Otherwise they will end up losing talent, and that talent may end up losing themselves." Wouldn't that be brilliant? One can only hope. Will share and thanks for this.
    Pascal Derrien
    16/01/2017 #1 Pascal Derrien
    I had somebody diagnosed with Bipolar disorder reporting to me and I fully relate to the ''genius'' episodes and surge of creativity, as a manager it does require a bit of adjustment but he was by far the sharpest contributor in the team :-)
  13. Gary Watkins

    Gary Watkins

    16/01/2017
    Unilever boss lives by African proverb - "Go Fast, Go Alone - Go Far, Go Together" #Davos
    Gary Watkins
    Unilever boss lives by African proverb - BBC News
    ow.ly Paul Polman, the head of Unilever, shares the business advice he wishes he had been given when he started...
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  14. ProducerGary Sharpe

    Gary Sharpe

    15/01/2017
    Thoughts on Depression and Un-Depression
    Thoughts on Depression and Un-DepressionThe most insidious feature of depression, in my view, is that, when it is upon us, we begin to believe it is somehow expected, reasonable and obvious that this is the way we should, of course, be feeling: depression has its self-promoting...
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    Gary Sharpe
    23/01/2017 #11 Gary Sharpe
    #9 very good advice Lisa!
    Donna Gordon
    22/01/2017 #10 Donna Gordon
    Thanks for sharing @Gary Sharp your writing is a bright light :)
    Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    22/01/2017 #9 Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    Very inspirational read @Gary Sharpe. I'm sure you've had your fair share of 'days of depression.' I found out that the county I live in is the second cloudiest county in the US. So, I know when the winter months arrive SAD sets in. Depression can rob a person of their rational thoughts. Today it was sunny part of the day and 60 degrees F. I took this opportunity and went out with my camera (phone) to video and went to visit my daughter- that always cheers me up because she's so bubbly and I get to see my granddaughter which is certain to put a smile on my face and make me forget those dark feelings. Thank you for sharing and the tips that have worked for you!!
    Vivian Chapman
    16/01/2017 #8 Vivian Chapman
    #7 I think God is whispering in Gary Sharpe's ear, whether he knows him yet or not. Gary helps so many people.
    Jim 馃悵 Cody
    16/01/2017 #7 Jim 馃悵 Cody
    Sunshine, good friends, ice cream helps. But I find God helps the most.
    Alissa Translations
    16/01/2017 #6 Alissa Translations
    God created us from dirt. We are like the plants, we need sunshine, food, water, positive words, and no weeds (negative influences).
    Robin Barton
    15/01/2017 #5 Robin Barton
    Love this!
    Robin Barton
    15/01/2017 #4 Robin Barton
    I hear you!
    Laura Melguizo P茅rez
    15/01/2017 #3 Anonymous
    I really agree with all you share, and sure it works! I have written a little book about what I have learned from my depressions, recurrent, major ones... and yes, it's a hell we believe to be our natural state of mind!
    Don 馃悵 Kerr
    15/01/2017 #2 Don 馃悵 Kerr
    @Gary Sharpe "Mysteriously and in ways that are totally remote from natural experience, the gray drizzle of horror induced by depression takes on the quality of physical pain." - William Styron
    I think your recommended approach is well worth adding to the arsenal of self treatment. Thanks for sharing this.
    Kevin Baker
    15/01/2017 #1 Kevin Baker
    Great proactive advise that works
  15. ProducerPascal Derrien

    Pascal Derrien

    15/01/2017
    Shadow Boy
    Shadow BoyNot always easy to make new acquaintances when you blow in a hood where you don鈥檛 know anybody. Sometimes you get picked on because you have a different accent or because people don鈥檛 warm easily to novelty. Now I had become a master at integrating...
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    Deb馃悵 Lange
    22/01/2017 #43 Deb馃悵 Lange
    I sense you are real writer #42 - that is the kind of writing people want today - sensuous, description Ve, earthy, emotional , real!
    Pascal Derrien
    22/01/2017 #42 Pascal Derrien
    #41 Thanks @Deb馃悵 Lange indeed but travelled a lot between 18 and 26 including a long spell of time in New York before leaving France and moving to ireland 20 years ago only moved 3 times there and the last time moved from #52 to #42 in the same street :-) Never wrote a book it is for real writers :-)
    Deb馃悵 Lange
    21/01/2017 #41 Deb馃悵 Lange
    Wow, powerful story, full of the sensuous. have you written a book? Must have been very difficult moving so much. Did you settle in one place as an adult?
    Pascal Derrien
    17/01/2017 #40 Pascal Derrien
    #39 thank you @Bernard Poulin I am pretty humbled by your comments, I am just a regular guy who likes to play with words and it seems this small vignette for some reasons is resonating with people, it says more about the people who made some comments than the post it self I suppose
    Bernard Poulin
    17/01/2017 #39 Bernard Poulin
    There is a serious difference between all the artwork created in the world and "art". Artwork is a thing which says nothing more than that "we made something" - a physical thing, a product. At other times our artwork begins to speak on its own. It reaches out to others and touches and moves them. This is what has happened here: : universal impact. It is a rare 0ccurrence in artwork but is always present in art. Art - that which is transferred from our "insides" to the canvas or paper or stone - and once freed to speak - emerges from the artwork, reaching beyond the creator to speak and share itself with and "give" to others because that is what art does.. Bravo. This is "art". (and I'm not easily brought into the common ordinary fold that considers everything we do art.)
    Pascal Derrien
    16/01/2017 #38 Pascal Derrien
    Thanks @Pamela 馃悵 Williams I got into books and music big time after that move to keep me entertained with the other moves to come. It seems you were in great company back then 鈽 its kind of you sharing that side of your life
    Pamela 馃悵 Williams
    16/01/2017 #37 Pamela 馃悵 Williams
    This story touched me Pascal. Being a child growing up in a military family we moved constantly. I had siblings, 6 in fact and all extroverts, which at times was overwhelming to this introvert. I too was described as a 'loner'. But then I was shuffled around, a lot. I lived with grandparents from ages 2-5, and they moved almost every year, whenever my grandfather moved on to minister a new church. Then I was sent to my Mother when it was time to start school. I turned to books and became a bookworm, always reading, because to be quite honest; I always felt like the outsider around my mother and siblings. As I look back now I realize my friends were Nancy Drew, The Hardy Boys, Laura Ingells Wilder and so many other characters...
    These memories stay with out, become part of us, and as I always started my stories; we are all our histories.
    Pascal Derrien
    16/01/2017 #36 Pascal Derrien
    #32 thanks SO much for sharing that poem @Kevin Pashuk :-)
    Pascal Derrien
    16/01/2017 #35 Pascal Derrien
    #33 Many thanks @Praveen Raj Gullepalli it doesn resonate indeed the shadow is now behind you :-)
    Pascal Derrien
    16/01/2017 #34 Pascal Derrien
    #31 ah thanks @Dean Owen sometimes I manage to come up with something decent...... cheers and enjoy the film :-)
    Praveen Raj Gullepalli
    16/01/2017 #33 Praveen Raj Gullepalli
    With my shadow for company, I stand resolute in the Sun; scared of only the clouds, that make my shadow run! ...and that thought just occured as I read thru your gripping post Pascal. Does it resonate? But I can relate...I can relate...
    Kevin Pashuk
    16/01/2017 #32 Kevin Pashuk
    Love the picture, and the story @Pascal Derrien. I can identify with the multiple moves as a kid. My father was transferred to new communities on a fairly regular basis.

    Your story awoke a memory of a poem that was in a school book from when I was in early grades at school. I only remember the first line, but thanks to Google, it turns out it was written by Robert Louis Stevenson and is quite germane to your post.

    My Shadow
    BY ROBERT LOUIS STEVENSON
    I have a little shadow that goes in and out with me,
    And what can be the use of him is more than I can see.
    He is very, very like me from the heels up to the head;
    And I see him jump before me, when I jump into my bed.

    The funniest thing about him is the way he likes to grow鈥
    Not at all like proper children, which is always very slow;
    For he sometimes shoots up taller like an india-rubber ball,
    And he sometimes gets so little that there's none of him at all.

    He hasn't got a notion of how children ought to play,
    And can only make a fool of me in every sort of way.
    He stays so close beside me, he's a coward you can see;
    I'd think shame to stick to nursie as that shadow sticks to me!

    One morning, very early, before the sun was up,
    I rose and found the shining dew on every buttercup;
    But my lazy little shadow, like an arrant sleepy-head,
    Had stayed at home behind me and was fast asleep in bed.
    Dean Owen
    16/01/2017 #31 Dean Owen
    Once in a while I see a movie that I love so much, I watch it again the next day. This happens very rarely for me with articles, but this one is certainly one I will read again, and soon....
    Pascal Derrien
    16/01/2017 #30 Pascal Derrien
    #29 thanks @Harvey Loyd , one to the emotional stop on the journey indeed :-)
    Harvey Lloyd
    16/01/2017 #29 Harvey Lloyd
    What a journey and your writing of it was absorbing. Thanks for the walk @Pascal Derrien.
    Bernard Poulin
    16/01/2017 #28 Bernard Poulin
    #27 Ah, real writers, "c'est quoi?" So many call themselves artists and you don't - Kudos to you for being humble rather than bombastic like so many who have much less to offer. I still say this "series" would be fun to visit and take in. All the best.
    Pascal Derrien
    16/01/2017 #27 Pascal Derrien
    #25 thanks @Bernard Poulin there are few others in that vein under my beBee producer profile but there are greater articles from real writers spread out thru different hives :-)
    Pascal Derrien
    16/01/2017 #26 Pascal Derrien
    #24 many thanks @Paul Burge you are very good to me :-)
    Bernard Poulin
    16/01/2017 #25 Bernard Poulin
    Now, That is intriguing! Would love to see a complete exhibition of like-created works.
    Paul Burge
    16/01/2017 #24 Paul Burge
    Always look forward to reading a new producer from you @Pascal Derrien. Thanks for sharing :)
  16. ProducerMark LeBusque Human Manager & Purposeful Provocateur
    Drop the "S" Word and Start Getting Real
    Drop the "S" Word and Start Getting Real Ever sat in a meeting and counted the amount of times when someone starts a sentence by apologising for what they are about to say?"I'm sorry to say this............................."Apologies in advance for what I'm about to...
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    Harvey Lloyd
    13/01/2017 #1 Harvey Lloyd
    I agree here to a point. I find that many seem to need to excuse themselves for existing, while the other extreme is someone speaking their mind regardless of being relevant. I don't care for either extreme.

    I do think that sorry has become one of those words we use describe our own discomfort with the topic at hand. But sorry also opens up discussion about the "elephant", is that what you wanted? If i merely require discussion about the elephant then introduce it as a discussion topic. Instead of sorry i use the word uncomfortable as a way to open discussions.

    If you need the team to eat the elephant one bite at the time and time constraints exist........Then we must be direct, factual and lay out an eating plan. The word sorry will derail this effort by opening up discussions. In leading you get to decide when discussion is appropriate and when it is not. Choose wisely, but choose.

    I also think the apologetic style of leadership was born from a education and political system where we are gun shy to be but so direct, as we might offend someone. Also the number of folks waiting to be offended has grown.
  17. ProducerMelissa Hughes

    Melissa Hughes

    12/01/2017
    Numbing Down America
    Numbing Down AmericaNovember 8 has come and gone, and now we find ourselves just days away from an epic transfer of power in perhaps the greatest office in the world.聽Regardless of which side you're on, the days and weeks and months that have led up to our current...
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    Gerald Hecht
    03/02/2017 #41 Gerald Hecht
    #37 @Brian McKenzie It is important that you remind of this truth; although many lack the stomach for the reality of our ultimate status as by-products of the beings with four of them (stomachs)...

    ...ultimately, to forget this truth --and substitute it with a delusional story --a story in which our individual "worth" and "dignity" are real --is nothing more than additional methane for the stratosphere...
    Donna-Luisa Eversley
    02/02/2017 #40 Donna-Luisa Eversley
    @Melissa Hughes I think sometimes being numb is all that is left. Looking at the photo, one realizes the boy died an was washed on the shore. He needed help, his family needed help. His life has impacted on us through his death. He is not voiceless. He has a face and a name - Alyan Kurdi
    Steve Brady
    02/02/2017 #39 Steve Brady
    #38 Hi Melissa...it's good isn't it? Sounds like a Nike ad! It's not a Steve Brady original unfortunately- shared with me by Jodie Hoff. Not sure if she's the author. I can find out if you want....I have her phone number and email.
    Melissa Hughes
    02/02/2017 #38 Anonymous
    "Be Real. Do Real." I love that, Steve! I think I will borrow that one! #29
    Brian McKenzie
    02/02/2017 #37 Brian McKenzie
    despite how important we may feel in the world about us - we are all expendable - they already have the formula for their discretionary murder - if the machine wants you - it will be so. We are merely an errant fart in a field of bovine flatulence
    Gerald Hecht
    02/02/2017 #36 Gerald Hecht
    #35 @Brian McKenzie you left out the: "elementary my Dear Watson"...playing the role of Watson; my rejoinder is that it is still a heartbreaking photograph of a dead child.
    Brian McKenzie
    01/02/2017 #35 Brian McKenzie
    When I saw that photo - I had the feeling that it was fully artificial and dubiously staged for simple next hit of knee jerk Propaganda Kibble, because people were bored with the 24/7 prattling media streams. 1) the family were not fleeing Syria - they had been residents in Turkey since 2012 with a very active social media account of their daily life 2) bodies washed ashore - predominantly land head facing inland - not towards the sea, NONE of the recoveries I have been on have ever been any different 3) UNTIED shoes - miraculously stayed on the feet - if the waves were powerful enough to topple the boat, and turn the head offshore - those shoes would be gone. So what is the power of a photo like that ? ..... something must feed off of that - or else they would not have done it. as always - follow intersections of money and power - they will rarely lead you astray for what is really happening.
    Steve Brady
    01/02/2017 #34 Steve Brady
    #30 It's a mixed view for me, @Gerald Hecht. I cant recall seeing so much division and fear fed to us by the media.
    馃悵 Fatima Williams
    31/01/2017 #33 馃悵 Fatima Williams
    A buzz of the hour I should say. It breaks my heart to see that picture. I believe in starting small too. Help the person right next to you. We may never know that they need help unless we ask. Thank you @Melissa Hughes
    Gerald Hecht
    31/01/2017 #32 Gerald Hecht
    She don't lie, she don't lie, she don't lie:
    http://cocaine.org/benztropine/
    Gerald Hecht
    31/01/2017 #31 Gerald Hecht
    EVERYTHING IS AWESOME!!!!
    Gerald Hecht
    31/01/2017 #30 Gerald Hecht
    #29 @Steve Brady Yes! I can see that it is getting better with each passing day!!
    Steve Brady
    31/01/2017 #29 Steve Brady
    I agree with @Jim Murray, Melissa. This is brilliant. The big picture, at present, is numbing. It's like a global recipe for "compassion fatigue en masse". I used to have a manager who was particularly skillful at using wise sayings. One of my favourites that she actually printed out and gave to the entire staff was:
    Be Real. Do Real.
    Your reminder to us all that one Real Story, even with only One Real Person at a time, is immensely valuable. Thank you so much for this buzz.
    Gerald Hecht
    31/01/2017 #28 Gerald Hecht
    #25 no --all together now!
    Gerald Hecht
    31/01/2017 #27 Gerald Hecht
    There is no more room for positive energy --this can only end with casualties; quite frankly,I just hope they don't include my loved ones nor myself.
    Gerald Hecht
    31/01/2017 #26 Gerald Hecht
    #22 @Donna-Luisa Eversley I never went numb; and the only thing I see is a red mist ; tread carefully; everybody...the time for talk is over now.
    Salma Rodriguez
    31/01/2017 #25 Salma Rodriguez
    Break from your psychological numbness, one being at a time!
    Jim Murray
    30/01/2017 #24 Jim Murray
    This is brilliant @Melissa Hughes. It puts meat on the bones of a lot of the stuff I have been feeling. I am actually approaching the point of complete saturation with the negative and feeling the need to move away into a different realm where none of this bullshit exists. It's part of the reason I moved out of Toronto. Some people think I retired, but what I really did was retreat from the world being too much with me. I am now in withdrawal but am confident that my psyche will be strengthened by this action. This new town I'm living in is filled with human beings who love being in this part of the world. We're also very close to my siblings who are really our best friends. I can see where a lot of people will start dropping like flies into depression as the insanity builds. Thanks for the excellent post. I will share it far and wide.
    Phil Friedman
    30/01/2017 #23 Phil Friedman
    #21 However, you might, Nicole, consider visiting the CNNN site at http://tinyurl.com/zmpxdfq and

    https://www.bebee.com/producer/@jim-able/bringing-you-all-the-news-that-s-unfit-to-print

    For a different perspective.
    Donna-Luisa Eversley
    30/01/2017 #22 Donna-Luisa Eversley
    @Melissa Hughes I just saw this and it is even more relevant. That shitty sandwich is now a whole congress of fecal matter. The results, rubbish in =rubbish out. We are indeed our brothers keepers when we get it right.
  18. ProducerChristine Homolko
    I Traveled the World, Helped Save Lives, and Learned 6 Transferable Skills. Newsflash: You Can Too.
    I Traveled the World, Helped Save Lives, and Learned 6 Transferable Skills. Newsflash: You Can Too.Learn the skills, I mean.聽And save lives, depending on what you do for a living. But develop those skills? For sure.I could have indulged in some serious role play in the past decade. People asked me over and over again: 鈥淎re you a doctor?鈥漌hen I...
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    Christine Homolko
    12/01/2017 #9 Christine Homolko
    @Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher I was lucky to visit a few continents on this journey! And as to covering travel expenses: basic travel costs are covered by health insurances (via medical courier organizations) making transplantations possible.
    Paul Burge
    12/01/2017 #8 Paul Burge
    A very warm welcome to beBee @Christine Homolko. Really enjoyed reading this post, travelling really does open the mind and teach us lots about oursleves and others. Thanks for sharing!
    Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    12/01/2017 #7 Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    Hi @Christine Homolko, I really enjoyed reading this. Did you travel internationally or throughout the USA? I'm sure there were many interesting aspects to doing this. One question, if you were a volunteer who paid for your travels, hotel ad food? Kudos to you!
    Devesh Bhatt
    12/01/2017 #6 Devesh Bhatt
    Perhaps the most relatable, enjoyable and inspiring post I've read in a long time.
    No I didn't travel the world, but I feel you have written this for me.
    Chas 鉁岋笍 Wyatt
    11/01/2017 #5 Chas 鉁岋笍 Wyatt
    @Christine Homolko, very nice first buzz. I knew right away that you were someone I should follow. You now have your wings. ;-)
    Deb 馃悵 Helfrich
    11/01/2017 #4 Deb 馃悵 Helfrich
    Glad to see you here on beBee with such an incredibly well-written and inspiring buzz, @Christine Homolko.

    I also love how you still put into play these skills. You told me you were about to start buzzing and here you are, living up to your own words.

    Hit me up if I can help in any way!
    Mohammed A. Jawad
    11/01/2017 #3 Mohammed A. Jawad
    Welcome Christine. ..now begin to pen down your world experience and keep the world of beBee engaged!
    Christine Homolko
    11/01/2017 #2 Christine Homolko
    Thanks Javier! That was my first little bit o' honey here.
    Javier 馃悵 beBee
    11/01/2017 #1 Javier 馃悵 beBee
    @Christine Homolko welcome to beBee ! thanks for sharing !
  19. ProducerHarry Groenert

    Harry Groenert

    12/01/2017
    Die Schuhe im K眉hlschrank
    Die Schuhe im K眉hlschrankWie kriegt man den Schuh in den K眉hlschrank? Genauso wie den Elefanten: T眉r auf, Schuh rein und T眉r zu. Ich nehme an, Sie wie ich, haben selten Schuhe im K眉hlschrank verlegt, obwohl es Gr眉nde gibt, dies zu tun. Zum Beispiel, schw枚ren manche darauf,...
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    Heinz J. Hafner
    23/01/2017 #1 Heinz J. Hafner
    lesenswerte Wahrheiten ...
  20. ProducerLiesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.
    Celebrate One
    Celebrate OneNew year. First Month. Eleven Days. Each day arrives as a precious gift. Gratefully following the mysterious river of life. Smoothly. In silence. Delivered easily at our address. Just like that. Each of us blessed with the possibility of a choice. A...
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    David B. Grinberg
    12/01/2017 #1 David B. Grinberg
    Nice buzz, Liesbeth. In my experience being positive and fostering a positive mindset almost always pays off in one way or another. Everyone has a choice whether to think positive or negative. Choose positive. Recommended reading: any of numerous books by Norman Vincent Peale...
    https://www.google.com/#q=norman+vincent+peale+books
    I've also shared in three hives, "beBee in Engilsh" and "Lifestyles" and "bee Inspired."
  21. ProducerGraham馃悵 Edwards
    The "White space" that so infrequently gets used...
    The "White space" that so infrequently gets used...Whitespace seems to be one of those terms that is blessed with a wide array of definitions* -聽Who knew? White space is the empty space in a design. White space is used to separate disparate design elements and group similar ones. White space is the...
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    Luis Cort茅s Tamez
    20/01/2017 #23 Luis Cort茅s Tamez
    #17 Super good Wow
    Graham馃悵 Edwards
    12/01/2017 #22 Graham馃悵 Edwards
    #12 Thanks for the comment and the compliment @Sara Jacobovici... I for one like to think in the car when I'm driving alone; I also love thinking with a "white board"... no pun intended : ) The question regarding boundaries is a great one... I think boundaries can be a great contradiction and many we create (both literally and figuratively) so that we can function and co-exist in groups greater than ten; the rub is we need to tear down or disregard boundaries to grow and become better. I haven't done justice to this so I am hoping people jump into this conversation as it speaks to how we co-exist, work together, stretch to be better and organize ourselves so we don't fall into anarchy.
    Graham馃悵 Edwards
    12/01/2017 #21 Graham馃悵 Edwards
    #11 I "appreciate" you commenting and your thoughts @CityVP 馃悵 Manjit
    Graham馃悵 Edwards
    12/01/2017 #20 Graham馃悵 Edwards
    #10 Being in marketing, with some design and communications thrown in, I totally agree @PAM BLOCH
    Graham馃悵 Edwards
    12/01/2017 #19 Graham馃悵 Edwards
    #8 Thanks for the comment and the link @Aurorasa Sima
    Graham馃悵 Edwards
    12/01/2017 #18 Graham馃悵 Edwards
    #7 Thanks for the links @Jared Wiese, 馃悵 adding VALUE & RESULTS. I will check into them for sure!
    Graham馃悵 Edwards
    12/01/2017 #17 Graham馃悵 Edwards
    Is that a "good WOW"or a "bad WOW" @Luis Cort茅s Tamez. Thanks for reading.
    Graham馃悵 Edwards
    12/01/2017 #16 Graham馃悵 Edwards
    #4 hahaha.. sometimes people just aren't good with constructive feedback @Phil Friedman. Thanks for the comment!
    Graham馃悵 Edwards
    12/01/2017 #15 Graham馃悵 Edwards
    #3 Thank you for your comment @Donnie Maynard Christianson
    Graham馃悵 Edwards
    12/01/2017 #14 Graham馃悵 Edwards
    #2 Thx... "Ponder box"... I like that @Kevin Pashuk
    Graham馃悵 Edwards
    12/01/2017 #13 Graham馃悵 Edwards
    #1 Thanks for the note @Ren茅e 馃悵 Cormier and the link to @Aurorasa Sima
    Sara Jacobovici
    12/01/2017 #12 Sara Jacobovici
    As always @Graham馃悵 Edwards, you produced a very thought provoking piece. You've left me with much "to think about". Three things that stand out for me right now is, 1. "where" we choose to think is crucial. You offer an option. An important one. Your readers touched upon other "places" to think. So not only do we want to make time to think, we need to prepare that "space"within which we can think. And 2. (sorry, I am paradox obsessed) the idea of white as an "empty" space when one of its definitions is, "White is produced when all colors of the visible spectrum are combined." Finally 3., "White space is a process management concept described by Geary A. Rummler and Alan P. Brache in 1991 as the area between the boxes in an organizational chart; where, very often, no one is in charge." This leads to questions like; where do the boundaries come from, how were they defined and marked, what does take place when "no one is in charge"? This takes me in so many directions....have to find the place and time to think this through! Thanks Graham.
    CityVP 馃悵 Manjit
    12/01/2017 #11 CityVP 馃悵 Manjit
    Whether it is the white space as design element or white space as for thinking, appreciation is central and over time it works on us, and even better when we are not trying to change but actually learning to appreciate (both in value and values meaning of the word - appreciation).

    I will certainly vouch for this. The ages between 17 and 37 and 37 and next year when I reach 57 are vastly different 20 year development periods (night and day in difference). The earlier involved absolutely not an iota of reading and daydreaming rather than thinking and ultimately time passing rather than appreciation.

    I would not be doing this today, if I did not see the difference it has made in my life - and continues to make as time flows forward.
    PAM BLOCH
    12/01/2017 #10 PAM BLOCH
    Having been a graphic designer all my life, I know the importance of white space. thanks
    Ren茅e  馃悵 Cormier
    11/01/2017 #9 Ren茅e 馃悵 Cormier
    #8 Always a pleasure, @Aurorasa Sima! Thank you for the links.
    Aurorasa Sima
    11/01/2017 #8 Aurorasa Sima
    #1 .... and visualizing a white wall is harder than one would think.

    Great post, Graham, besides the interesting content I enjoyed your presentation. Poignant and well structured and written.

    Here is a track, free for bees - everyone else has to "pay" with their email addresses or buy my mindfulness product (;

    https://drive.google.com/open?id=0B9erJ-LaZhF-SXVscEtnaUh3bEU


    Thanks for bringing this article to my attention, Ren茅e!
    Jared Wiese, 馃悵 adding VALUE & RESULTS
    11/01/2017 #7 Jared Wiese, 馃悵 adding VALUE & RESULTS
    I loved "White space for thinking time" and "if you think something is important enough, you will find the time." Spot on.
    Thank you for the reminder!


    I heard Juliet Funt give a speach on your latter definition. It was a conference full of Business Analysts usually consumed with their Busy-ness.
    It was a standing ovation. Please "think" about checking it out: http://www.whitespaceatwork.com/

    Reminds me of how M. Scott Peck described how we can learn anything if we give it enough attention. He described how he helped a lady get her car out of emergency parking, despite his lack of mechanical skill.

    "You can learn more in an hour of silence than you can in a year from books." -Matthew Kelly

    Data to back it up? I bet in Edison failing 10,000 times on the lightbulb, that a - ahem - lightbulb or two of thought must have happened ;)
    Ok, here's one I just had to part with: http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/2016/11/02/want-to-be-more-successful-try-thinking-about-death---study/
    Harvey Lloyd
    11/01/2017 #5 Harvey Lloyd
    White space is a good name for the time where we use silence to connect the lower brain with the more logical/creative upper brain. Great read thanks.
  22. ProducerTapiwa Matthew Mutisi
    Reasons It's OK To Burn Some Bridges: Part 2
    Reasons It's OK To Burn Some Bridges: Part 2 You鈥檝e heard it said, 鈥淢ay the bridges I burn today light the way for a better tomorrow.鈥澛營ndeed, burning some bridges is sometimes the only way forward.Our years on this earth are priceless; we must spend the time with an unburdened heart and...
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    Devesh Bhatt
    13/01/2017 #13 Devesh Bhatt
    #11 it's a point of view, I really admire your paint post. I admire you writing style in this one.With times you will see bridges differently. I look forward to reading more of your posts.
    Tapiwa Matthew Mutisi
    13/01/2017 #12 Tapiwa Matthew Mutisi
    #9 Thank you @Paul Burge for taking your time to read my article. You are really making me feel at home, this is one, if not the only social networking site that I have first witnessed this. I really appreciate the support.
    Tapiwa Matthew Mutisi
    13/01/2017 #11 Tapiwa Matthew Mutisi
    #10 by eliminating all possibility of return or retreat...Thank you @Devesh Bhatt for taking your time reading my article.
    Devesh Bhatt
    11/01/2017 #10 Devesh Bhatt
    How would you burn the bridges? Interesting article.
    Paul Burge
    11/01/2017 #9 Paul Burge
    A warm welcome to beBee @Tapiwa Matthew Mutisi. Really enjoyed your two articles on 'Burning Bridges'. Some great advice. I look forward to reading your other articles and seeing more form you! If you have any questions feel free to ask me...
    Tapiwa Matthew Mutisi
    11/01/2017 #8 Tapiwa Matthew Mutisi
    @Deb 馃悵 Helfrich thank you very much for taking your time reading my article. Indeed, our years here on earth are priceless, hence, we should not accommodate things that do not make us grow as individuals #personal growth

    I will certainly be writing more articles.

    I appreciate the support. Thank you.
    Tapiwa Matthew Mutisi
    11/01/2017 #6 Tapiwa Matthew Mutisi
    @Chas 鉁岋笍 Wyatt @#2 thank you very much for taking your time reading my article and that you enjoyed reading it. I am certainly happy to be here. It's awesome!!!
    Chas 鉁岋笍 Wyatt
    11/01/2017 #2 Chas 鉁岋笍 Wyatt
    @Tapiwa Matthew Mutisi, very well written. Welcme to beBee. I am happy to be one of your new followers here.
    Deb 馃悵 Helfrich
    11/01/2017 #1 Deb 馃悵 Helfrich
    "Our years on this earth are priceless; we must spend the time with an unburdened heart and mind. We must distance ourselves from anything or anyone that obstructs our way forward, or that intentionally causes us pain."

    Fabulously well-said, @Tapiwa Matthew Mutisi View more
    "Our years on this earth are priceless; we must spend the time with an unburdened heart and mind. We must distance ourselves from anything or anyone that obstructs our way forward, or that intentionally causes us pain."

    Fabulously well-said, @Tapiwa Matthew Mutisi. Here's to the joy of reading some more of your writing! Close
  23. ProducerDeb馃悵 Lange

    Deb馃悵 Lange

    10/01/2017
    Press pause and sense a moment in a conversation.
    Press pause and sense a moment in a conversation. This is an excerpt of a study I did some time ago, called, A Sense of Being". The original chapter was published in a Management textbook.聽This is a few moments in the life of a Management Team when pressing pause and being with our sensory...
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    Deb馃悵 Lange
    19/01/2017 #17 Deb馃悵 Lange
    #15 Dear @Ali Anani - I take lots of pauses! enjoy your pause.
    Deb馃悵 Lange
    19/01/2017 #16 Deb馃悵 Lange
    #14 Dear Donna-Luisa yes and we can listen with more than our ears - we can listen with our body, our energy, all of our senses. Lean in and listen - and listen to not only what is being said, but listen for what is not being spoken. Then be curious and check in lightly - I hear you saying this, but I am curious? what are you thinking and sensing but not saying that is important for our conversation?
    Ali Anani
    18/01/2017 #15 Ali Anani
    Dear @Deb馃悵 Lange- what a lovely buzz this is! It is on pause and I need to pause many times to comprehend it. I agree completely with the comment of dear @Donna-Luisa Eversley and we need to listen and pause before we talk.
    Donna-Luisa Eversley
    18/01/2017 #14 Donna-Luisa Eversley
    @Deb馃悵 Lange quite a powerful article. It does make me think about the importance of listening. That focused action which allows us to take in all aspects of communication. That pause is important. Thanks for sharing!
    Deb馃悵 Lange
    18/01/2017 #13 Deb馃悵 Lange
    #12 Thanks for taking the time to read and respond @Laurent Boscherini if you try any, please let me know what you discover
    Laurent Boscherini
    16/01/2017 #12 Anonymous
    Thank you @Deb馃悵 Lange for sharing your excellent and educational prism, full of useful tips.
    Deb馃悵 Lange
    13/01/2017 #11 Deb馃悵 Lange
    yes, @kevin baker - energy is everywhere - noticing what lights us up and what saps our energy is very enlightening.
    Kevin Baker
    12/01/2017 #10 Kevin Baker
    The energy is in the air
    Deb馃悵 Lange
    11/01/2017 #9 Deb馃悵 Lange
    #5 mindfulness and deep mind body connection - the shifts happen through our bodies
    Deb馃悵 Lange
    11/01/2017 #8 Deb馃悵 Lange
    #6 yes Mohammed when we breathe deeply and move we can release stress and laugh together
    Deb馃悵 Lange
    11/01/2017 #7 Deb馃悵 Lange
    The more time up front building relationships & trust - the less time down the track on conflict & misunderstandings - when people get that - it is a no brainer - it just makes wirk so much better #4
    Mohammed Sultan
    11/01/2017 #6 Mohammed Sultan
    @Deb Lange.One way to defuse conflict among your team members is to momentarily shift the conversation to a time when you can laugh together .When the group laugh together,they can take a cool breath with a common smell and can easily get their conversation into Yes.We have to learn to accept others point of view in order to get accepted.We need to surround ourselves with conversations that mean something ,add rewards and can better absorb our difficult times.We should not involve ourselves to a conversation because we have to say something,but when we have something to say.In this way,we can spread a spirit and smell of friendship and shift our judgement toward increased optimism among the group.
    Emily馃悵 Bee
    11/01/2017 #5 Emily馃悵 Bee
    One word: Mindfulness! :-)
    Michele Williams
    11/01/2017 #4 Michele Williams
    Great example @Deb馃悵 Lange. Startup teams are under so much time pressure that taking pauses seems impossible. What do you recommend for them?
    Deb馃悵 Lange
    10/01/2017 #3 Deb馃悵 Lange
    #1 Hi Sara, yes there is follow up. And I had worked with the team before that day as well. The thing is when we have Ahha Haa's that are visceral and sensory, not celebral - mind only, they stick. There is a shift in our energy, a shift in our state of being. This is real transformation. It has happened to me personally and I can co-create the conditions for deep learning to happen with groups. Building deep trust is critical. Making a commitment is critical. Being able to be non-defensive with anything that arises is critical. Every moment is a learning moment. No matter what arises it is up to the group to choose to take the time to learn from that action or energy that arose.
    Sara Hodge
    10/01/2017 #1 Sara Hodge
    Love how you were able to help them turn it around! Do you follow up with the group later on, to see if they're carrying this new energy forward into their work together? I'd be curious as to how long it might take for old habits to set back in, and whether or not the team would recognize them and be able to deal effectively or not.
  24. ProducerDevesh Bhatt

    Devesh Bhatt

    10/01/2017
    UNDER THE INFLUENCE OF ASSUMPTIONS- by Devesh Bhatt
    UNDER THE INFLUENCE OF ASSUMPTIONS- by Devesh BhattI am under the influence of the idea of influence i.e. ways I am influenced, ways i influence and the ways people influence.聽Some influence to serve, some to observe, some influence to conserve (their world/self view) and some influence to reserve...
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    Devesh Bhatt
    07/02/2017 #28 Devesh Bhatt
    #27 Dr Who? Just kidding. Thanks
    Bill Stankiewicz, 馃悵 Brand Ambassador
    07/02/2017 #27 Bill Stankiewicz, 馃悵 Brand Ambassador
    Devesh knocks it out of the park!! I like the picture too, I see Tom Baker in there from Dr Who...
    Devesh Bhatt
    25/01/2017 #26 Devesh Bhatt
    #25 Thanks for the time and the motivating reply.
    Joel Anderson
    24/01/2017 #25 Joel Anderson
    Not only do I like the article, I love the picture. Slightly destabilizing, unbalancing and uncomfortable in appearance and apparent movement and challenging to ones senses as you peer at it. Yet it seems equally reinforcing of the message you convey once focused on what appears to be the influencing nature at the center of it all. Thanks for the great insight.
    Devesh Bhatt
    19/01/2017 #24 Devesh Bhatt
    #23 I hope that you think better with more clarity :)
    Donna-Luisa Eversley
    18/01/2017 #23 Donna-Luisa Eversley
    hahaha @Devesh Bhatt, we are on similar zones I think. Love your post. Assumptions can be good but for influencing its got a lot of weight to carry, but then you've also advised on what not to assume :-)
    A little over a year ago I wrote a post on LinkedIn and shared on my blog UTIOW - which means Under The Influence Of Words... thank great minds think alike :-)
    Franci馃悵Eugenia Hoffman
    11/01/2017 #22 Franci馃悵Eugenia Hoffman
    #21 Yes, I agree.
    Devesh Bhatt
    11/01/2017 #21 Devesh Bhatt
    #20 thanks for the detailed response. I think it has more to do with the chain of events, first get the facts, then decide to collaborate and then factor intent if it suits your method.
    Instead people want to save time and judge intent to decide upon collaborations, in the personal sense it's useful, but as a professional it's better to focus only on facts, intent will be taken care of by a well drafted work contract.
    Franci馃悵Eugenia Hoffman
    11/01/2017 #20 Franci馃悵Eugenia Hoffman
    @Devesh Bhatt - 5 stars for this thought-provoking piece. I am especially impressed with your item #3 under the heading NEVER ASSUME THE FOLLOWING. - 3. Another person's intent, it is a dynamic world. Just use it to understand possibilities and prepare for them. People assume others to be judging their intent, it can complicate responses on both ends and make it political. At best it is a hypothetical input.

    I believe this can be a reason why people don't get along. Assuming another's intent is consciously second guessing them, and if the assumption is negative then there is the chance of causing unwanted friction. However, to use it in the best interest of all involved can create a positive force thus avoiding unhappy and angry feelings.

    IMO, one must have a clear understanding of the facts before making an assumption and not base their assumption on another's intent.
    Praveen Raj Gullepalli
    10/01/2017 #19 Praveen Raj Gullepalli
    #18 You need not insist dear Ken, I gotcha loud and clear! (Hear! Hear!) ;)
    Ken Boddie
    10/01/2017 #18 Ken Boddie
    #17 I shall, Praveen, desist, resist, but not persist! 馃槉
    Praveen Raj Gullepalli
    10/01/2017 #17 Praveen Raj Gullepalli
    #15 To desist is sometimes verily to exist dear Ken! ;)
    Devesh Bhatt
    10/01/2017 #16 Devesh Bhatt
    #15 a good choice. Your use of English is so much fun and inspiring.
    Ken Boddie
    10/01/2017 #15 Ken Boddie
    Funny how the English language adapts and changes, or rather how we use the English language. These days, "under the influence" has, for many, an association with overindulgence in alcohol or other chemical stimulants which, should I stare at your image for much longer, will be the condition to which my meagre mind will be reduced. 馃檮 My choice is to desist.
    Devesh Bhatt
    10/01/2017 #14 Devesh Bhatt
    #13 influence , inference and relativity...Kind of influences all my assumptions but this one.

    to each his own behind. Makes the world a much safer and saner place
    Praveen Raj Gullepalli
    10/01/2017 #13 Praveen Raj Gullepalli
    Just recovering from a bout of Influenza Devesh ;) and that pic just aggravated it by a few more sneezes ;) I shall fortify myself and then come under further influence...eventually! :) But that said, Influence indicates Inference. And that takes it into the subjective realm. And to further touch-points of Relativity. In essence, we all end up deriving some sense out of every influence. But who am I to judge what kind? To each his own behind :)
    Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    10/01/2017 #12 Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    #11 First laugh I had today, thank you, @Devesh Bhatt! Oh, I used to have bad road rage and I think it came from driving long distance so much. I have chilled, thank goodness! I could see Franci in bell bottom jeans with boots dancing her booty off! :))
    Devesh Bhatt
    10/01/2017 #11 Devesh Bhatt
    #10 thank you for correlating the sensible parts with yourself. Recognising ourselves makes a lot of the influences useful. Honestly speaking, I can never imagine you as the road rage kind. Just like I couldn't imagine @Franci馃悵Eugenia Hoffman View more
    #10 thank you for correlating the sensible parts with yourself. Recognising ourselves makes a lot of the influences useful. Honestly speaking, I can never imagine you as the road rage kind. Just like I couldn't imagine @Franci馃悵Eugenia Hoffman celebrating disco. But life is meant to be colourful. Close
    Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    10/01/2017 #10 Lisa 馃悵 Gallagher
    Life itself can be so confusing. If there is a person who never angers, I want to be a fly on the wall to learn from this person. Recognizing our behaviors is key to growth. I have made many mistakes and will make many more. I can only hope my mistakes become further apart with age and less extreme than some mistakes I've made in my past. I used to get road rage (embarrassed to admit that) but I realized it wasn't healthy or kind, actually dangerous too. I now find ways to pacify myself when feeling a bit of anger on the road and it works. To your point about being influenced by others, yes- whether directly or indirectly we all are even if we aren't aware of it. It's always good to take a step back at times and assess our own values vs. that of someone else's. Just because values may differ doesn't mean a person is bad, right or wrong. I guess respect is another key ingredient. Well thought out buzz @Devesh Bhatt
    Devesh Bhatt
    10/01/2017 #9 Devesh Bhatt
    #8 indeed, we never lose our ability, rather we surrender it to the illusion of control.
    Victor Frankl sounds very interesting, by imagining it as a space, it makes it spacious :) thanks for the lead , more reading awaits.
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    What makes you feel  alive?
    What makes you feel alive?Since death visited my house two weeks ago, I have been thinking about this question. I think it is the simple things in life that make you feel alive. I believe that we sometimes get caught up in the struggles of life, and the politics of despair,...
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    Laura Mikolaitis
    10/01/2017 #5 Laura Mikolaitis
    Such a beautifully written post, @Royce Shook. Thank you for sharing it. What makes me feel alive? So many things really. Little things, moments that I get lost in. Time with my husband and our canine child. Laughter. Pure, uninhibited laughter. Friends and family and silliness. Fresh air; especially on a cold winter's night or first thing in the morning. Anytime, really. The swell of the river as it caresses my soul and heals my heart. An incredibly pigmented blue sky cast against the hills.

    Like you, writing is my heart's contentment. It is here that I feel alive and boundaries are removed. It is my catharsis and pure joy. It's my zen.

    It's the moments that count...and each one reminds me to be grateful for this day. Thank you for opening your heart to us.
    Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.
    10/01/2017 #3 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.
    allowing love into my heart
    Pascal Derrien
    10/01/2017 #2 Pascal Derrien
    to your question simple stuff are big things at the same time, everyday is a bonus :-)
    Devesh Bhatt
    10/01/2017 #1 Devesh Bhatt
    Now that you remind me, this moment I'm alive. I feel it with your expressions and I wish to do more. You are a wonderful person.
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