- Producer19/01/2017Life is a danceLife is dancing with a partner; when setbacks, delays, and detours happen; they're like steps in the mambo, tango, and cha-cha. If you dissect the movements and see them without the rest of the dance, or without hearing the music, everyone looks to...
- Producer17/01/2017PEERING AHEADBy Evelyn Asher My ideal day a year from now is to celebrate with a business owner at an award luncheon. The business owner and his strategic team had been totally unaware how others perceived the 10-year startup and what immediate changes could...
Comments17/01/2017 #2 Mohammed SultanEvelyn Asher -Welcome to beBee .I hope you will widen the "time window" of your thoughts on beBee.The more you change your position by this widow,the more you will see things differently.The simplicity of your article reflects the attitude of an expert coach who says little words in a big way.Thank you for sharing.
- 16/01/2017How Mindfulness Cured My Headachescorygalbraith.com For weeks, I experienced strange headaches. Of course, when this happens, most people fear the worst possible scenario. Brain tumor? I thought it may be a sinus problem so I took sinus pills. They...
Comments16/01/2017 #7 Phil FriedmanGreat post, Cory. My experience is that almost always tension and it's outward physical symptoms are a trigger for headaches. And I can also see from my experience how Mindfulness can work to alleviate such headaches. Now if I could, in my life, eliminate the many pains in my ass, I'd be in truly good shape. :-). Cheers!
- Producer16/01/2017Dealing with Mental Illness at WorkI read this piece via The Telegraph yesterday, and it struck a chord. A number of my family members suffer from bipolar disorder, and I lost my cousin Sarah to it last year. I was diagnosed with "Mood disorder - Not otherwise specified" some years...
Comments17/01/2017 #14 Lisa 🐝 GallagherHi @Sandra Smith, I agree, the stigma needs to end. I don't see it ending anytime soon because of the lack of awareness, education and quite frankly many people still do see Mental Illness as a weakness, not a real illness. I have written a lot about Anxiety Disorder and the stigmas attached, including the workplace too. Maybe if more of us keep writing, supporting each other's writing, one day the voices will grow louder and together, we can all affect change. Thanks for sharing this!17/01/2017 #12 Harvey Lloyd#10 I would say that you have cornered the issues in a single sentence. I believe lawyers get a bum wrap to some degree, as humans tend to think because they have been wronged according to their philosophy they can seek $ain. Then add in the topping of costs and insurance companies, the gain exists due to cost to litigate. A vicious cycle of precedents.16/01/2017 #8 Harvey Lloyd#7 I hope you did not read into the comment the lack of need but rather the stirring issues on each side of the equation. It is an issue that requires input, insight and action. More importantly i sense that society is moving forward and the need for all to engage exists. This introduces a deeper challenge of mankind.16/01/2017 #7 Sandra Smith#5 Thank you, @Harvey. Exactly right - you cannot show favouritism at work. But you can foster an environment where it is not seen as favouritism - because there is a genuine need for that person's accommodations. For example, at Symbian, a senior-staffer had a syndrome that made her very tired during the day. So she was allowed to have a couch in her office to rest on. No-one begrudged her because it was explained why she needed it. Of course, having a room with a day bed that anyone can use may be a more fair and diplomatic way to tackle the problem, if practical...16/01/2017 #5 Harvey Lloyd@Sandra Smith a compelling post. Having lead many people within the construction industry and now in the education industry, I am recognizing this as a growing concern. We work with folks at a very personal level to help them achieve job satisfaction.
We have recognized that this is the best way to address the minor/major issues that are brought on by an individuals perceptions of themselves. I will have to say though, leadership has to have a very strong personal conviction to address this in the workplace. Although some of the returns on investment are great the fall out within the larger group can be costly.
Giving an individual special consideration due to mental illness can be seen as favoritism to others who are experiencing temporary bad judgement. Leaders must balance the support of one by the perceptions of others within the workforce. This is not a cop out statement but rather an understanding that the issues of mental illness are growing and the leadership will require a different perspective. But so will co-workers.16/01/2017 #4 Sara Jacobovici@Sandra Smith writes: "Open, honest environment needed.
This is why I am writing my piece too. Employers need to start working to create an open environment. Where mental illness is identified, discussed and supported. Not pushed under the carpet and stigmatised. Otherwise they will end up losing talent, and that talent may end up losing themselves."16/01/2017 #2 Don 🐝 Kerr@Sandra Smith "Employers need to start working to create an open environment. Where mental illness is identified, discussed and supported. Not pushed under the carpet and stigmatised. Otherwise they will end up losing talent, and that talent may end up losing themselves." Wouldn't that be brilliant? One can only hope. Will share and thanks for this.
- 16/01/2017Unilever boss lives by African proverb - "Go Fast, Go Alone - Go Far, Go Together" #DavosUnilever boss lives by African proverb - BBC Newsow.ly Paul Polman, the head of Unilever, shares the business advice he wishes he had been given when he started...
- Producer15/01/2017Thoughts on Depression and Un-DepressionThe most insidious feature of depression, in my view, is that, when it is upon us, we begin to believe it is somehow expected, reasonable and obvious that this is the way we should, of course, be feeling: depression has its self-promoting...
Comments15/01/2017 #2 Don 🐝 Kerr@Gary Sharpe "Mysteriously and in ways that are totally remote from natural experience, the gray drizzle of horror induced by depression takes on the quality of physical pain." - William Styron
I think your recommended approach is well worth adding to the arsenal of self treatment. Thanks for sharing this.
- Producer15/01/2017Shadow BoyNot always easy to make new acquaintances when you blow in a hood where you don’t know anybody. Sometimes you get picked on because you have a different accent or because people don’t warm easily to novelty. Now I had become a master at integrating...
Comments17/01/2017 #40 Pascal Derrien#39 thank you @Bernard Poulin I am pretty humbled by your comments, I am just a regular guy who likes to play with words and it seems this small vignette for some reasons is resonating with people, it says more about the people who made some comments than the post it self I suppose17/01/2017 #39 Bernard PoulinThere is a serious difference between all the artwork created in the world and "art". Artwork is a thing which says nothing more than that "we made something" - a physical thing, a product. At other times our artwork begins to speak on its own. It reaches out to others and touches and moves them. This is what has happened here: : universal impact. It is a rare 0ccurrence in artwork but is always present in art. Art - that which is transferred from our "insides" to the canvas or paper or stone - and once freed to speak - emerges from the artwork, reaching beyond the creator to speak and share itself with and "give" to others because that is what art does.. Bravo. This is "art". (and I'm not easily brought into the common ordinary fold that considers everything we do art.)16/01/2017 #37 Pamela 🐝 WilliamsThis story touched me Pascal. Being a child growing up in a military family we moved constantly. I had siblings, 6 in fact and all extroverts, which at times was overwhelming to this introvert. I too was described as a 'loner'. But then I was shuffled around, a lot. I lived with grandparents from ages 2-5, and they moved almost every year, whenever my grandfather moved on to minister a new church. Then I was sent to my Mother when it was time to start school. I turned to books and became a bookworm, always reading, because to be quite honest; I always felt like the outsider around my mother and siblings. As I look back now I realize my friends were Nancy Drew, The Hardy Boys, Laura Ingells Wilder and so many other characters...
These memories stay with out, become part of us, and as I always started my stories; we are all our histories.16/01/2017 #32 Kevin PashukLove the picture, and the story @Pascal Derrien. I can identify with the multiple moves as a kid. My father was transferred to new communities on a fairly regular basis.
Your story awoke a memory of a poem that was in a school book from when I was in early grades at school. I only remember the first line, but thanks to Google, it turns out it was written by Robert Louis Stevenson and is quite germane to your post.
BY ROBERT LOUIS STEVENSON
I have a little shadow that goes in and out with me,
And what can be the use of him is more than I can see.
He is very, very like me from the heels up to the head;
And I see him jump before me, when I jump into my bed.
The funniest thing about him is the way he likes to grow—
Not at all like proper children, which is always very slow;
For he sometimes shoots up taller like an india-rubber ball,
And he sometimes gets so little that there's none of him at all.
He hasn't got a notion of how children ought to play,
And can only make a fool of me in every sort of way.
He stays so close beside me, he's a coward you can see;
I'd think shame to stick to nursie as that shadow sticks to me!
One morning, very early, before the sun was up,
I rose and found the shining dew on every buttercup;
But my lazy little shadow, like an arrant sleepy-head,
Had stayed at home behind me and was fast asleep in bed.
- ProducerDrop the "S" Word and Start Getting Real Ever sat in a meeting and counted the amount of times when someone starts a sentence by apologising for what they are about to say?"I'm sorry to say this............................."Apologies in advance for what I'm about to...
Comments13/01/2017 #1 Harvey LloydI agree here to a point. I find that many seem to need to excuse themselves for existing, while the other extreme is someone speaking their mind regardless of being relevant. I don't care for either extreme.
I do think that sorry has become one of those words we use describe our own discomfort with the topic at hand. But sorry also opens up discussion about the "elephant", is that what you wanted? If i merely require discussion about the elephant then introduce it as a discussion topic. Instead of sorry i use the word uncomfortable as a way to open discussions.
If you need the team to eat the elephant one bite at the time and time constraints exist........Then we must be direct, factual and lay out an eating plan. The word sorry will derail this effort by opening up discussions. In leading you get to decide when discussion is appropriate and when it is not. Choose wisely, but choose.
I also think the apologetic style of leadership was born from a education and political system where we are gun shy to be but so direct, as we might offend someone. Also the number of folks waiting to be offended has grown.
- Producer12/01/2017Numbing Down AmericaNovember 8 has come and gone, and now we find ourselves just days away from an epic transfer of power in perhaps the greatest office in the world. Regardless of which side you're on, the days and weeks and months that have led up to our current...
Comments15/01/2017 #21 Nicole ChardenetOkay, who said to America, "May you live in interesting times"?
I guess this explains why my reaction to the election is, "Fuck it, I've had it with Idiot America, they can shoot each other into oblivion for all I care" and not visiting the CNN website anymore, which I used to do daily.
I may live in Canada now but I and a lot of my fellow ex-pats here are just horrified, appalled, and I think also a little bit in shock over what's happened. Watched President Obama's farewell speech and thought, "There goes the last presidential speech with dignity, class, and respect we'll hear for a very long time."13/01/2017 #17 Harvey Lloyd#15 @Mohammed A. Jawad We did live in a world where we trusted the essence of man. Seeing the charlatans of the day was easy. We also acted on the charlatans, sometimes inhumanely. We transcended this essence into a trust and verify world where we needed to offer up trust, but before commitment we needed to verify the essence. Man had become good at being a charlatan, but was still discernible with verification.
Today even the smartest among us are being challenged in any form of trust. Even through deep verification we still find ourselves in a mistrustful state. So apathy sets in. Cognitive dissonance is on the rise.
Its time for a new era of understanding. The charlatan is now very sophisticated and is not necessarily a single individual but rather a grass root cause and effect as the group think grows around the event/issue or situation. Instead of verification we need trauma surgery around the drama of a position. Carve out the emotional drama laden parts and can the facts support themselves. More specifically do the facts represent your thoughts. Today's terrorism is yesterdays psychopaths. But the word terrorism sells, gets eyeballs and expands government. Drama.
It seems brain understanding has reached a Neanderthal view. We know how to trick the brain into believing something regardless of facts. No different than when cave man understood that herding food into a canyon or confined space, it gave them the advantage. Emotionally, media has figured out the same thing, accept we are the food.13/01/2017 #15 Mohammed A. Jawad#13 @Harvey Lloyd You have put down an excellent synopsis. Perhaps, the greater damage that's done by the world media and still goes on is the mingled, half truth, or wholly fabricated and partially focused news. Media is all shadowy and so much is the world's news that how can a person perceive, digest or ponder over. Today we see one thing, next there's something and we forget the previous one. It's all clutter effect and people are getting brainwashed. Who cares whom when people in their trial and tribulations are falling in oblivion and world politics is beyond human understanding.13/01/2017 #14 Lisa 🐝 GallagherWhat a strong and well needed message @Melissa Hughes. You've described the climate in America very well. I've never seen so many angry, sad and hopeless people after an election, so I will keep your suggestions in mind and offer these suggestions to others as well. Thank you !13/01/2017 #13 Harvey Lloyd"Impactful". We are a species where our sight and hearing are the main senses of developing a profile of our environment. We have to become numb to the onslaught of news feeds where drama is playing out all over the world. I don't believe our brains have developed enough to handle the 24hr news cycle.
I also believe that media has figured the brain out and realize they can choose stories, photos and elements of an event to display and challenge our emotions. This constant display of the depravity of man numbs us until we have to withdraw into a cocoon of our own existence.
The various emotions range from guilt to anger and the constant engagement of these is a numbing agent. Unfortunately it spills over into our daily lives with those we have real contact. Why is EI, mindfulness and other inner understanding of others so popular. Well it appears obvious when you consider that 24hrs a day we are told that humans are depraved and this would transfer into our normal relationships. Suspicion and misunderstanding would be normal in relationships.
This topic is one that i sense will be in the headlines overtly or covertly for the next few decades as the process of emotion shocking runs its course in media.13/01/2017 #12 Brian McKenzieThere is evidence that the photo, like the ones of the shell shocked smoke faced toddlers was staged - because if you want to pull on the heart strings of media audiences - children offer the biggest ROI for sensationalism. PS if you have ever done rescue / recovery - you immediately knew what was wrong with this photo.12/01/2017 #9 Chad CarrollI think this article is well written, and with over-all good intent, but does anybody who post photos of dead children ever consider the fact that their parents and family members may come across the photo, over, and over, and over again. I know if that was a photo of my daughter dead, I wouldn't be able to function the rest of the day let alone type this. Just saying. I think there are more considerate ways to promote a cause. I vote we let this sweet poor little boy rest in peace.12/01/2017 #5 Phil FriedmanWisdom distilled from observation, from Melissa Hughes, pointing a way forward at this juncture in our history. It occurs to me that a corollary might be that airy professions of love for humanity in general pale beside concrete small acts of kindness toward even just one or two individuals in particular.12/01/2017 #2 Zacharias Voulgaris 🐝Fortunately there are several volunteer groups that allow their members to contribute to a good cause on a personal level (i.e. by physically offering some help through a service or some donation of things people need). Yet, we can contribute to helping tackle a global problem in everything we do.
For example, lately I've been involved in education. As you may know, education sucks (big time), pretty much everywhere in the Western World. Still, there are initiatives in the private sectors, mainly through startups or non-profits, that aim to fill that gap. By contributing to these initiatives as an instructor, even a paid one, you can make a difference. Schools and universities may have their role to play, but unless education is hands-on and personal, like it is in these private initiatives I mentioned, it's not as effective or meaningful.
What opportunities can you pinpoint in your everyday life where you can help make a difference on a personal level, be it through volunteering or through your work?
- Producer11/01/2017I Traveled the World, Helped Save Lives, and Learned 6 Transferable Skills. Newsflash: You Can Too.Learn the skills, I mean. And save lives, depending on what you do for a living. But develop those skills? For sure.I could have indulged in some serious role play in the past decade. People asked me over and over again: “Are you a doctor?”When I...
Comments11/01/2017 #4 Deb 🐝 HelfrichGlad to see you here on beBee with such an incredibly well-written and inspiring buzz, @Christine Homolko.
I also love how you still put into play these skills. You told me you were about to start buzzing and here you are, living up to your own words.
Hit me up if I can help in any way!
- Producer12/01/2017Die Schuhe im KühlschrankWie kriegt man den Schuh in den Kühlschrank? Genauso wie den Elefanten: Tür auf, Schuh rein und Tür zu. Ich nehme an, Sie wie ich, haben selten Schuhe im Kühlschrank verlegt, obwohl es Gründe gibt, dies zu tun. Zum Beispiel, schwören manche darauf,...
- Producer11/01/2017Celebrate OneNew year. First Month. Eleven Days. Each day arrives as a precious gift. Gratefully following the mysterious river of life. Smoothly. In silence. Delivered easily at our address. Just like that. Each of us blessed with the possibility of a choice. A...
Comments12/01/2017 #1 David B. GrinbergNice buzz, Liesbeth. In my experience being positive and fostering a positive mindset almost always pays off in one way or another. Everyone has a choice whether to think positive or negative. Choose positive. Recommended reading: any of numerous books by Norman Vincent Peale...
I've also shared in three hives, "beBee in Engilsh" and "Lifestyles" and "bee Inspired."
- Producer11/01/2017The "White space" that so infrequently gets used...Whitespace seems to be one of those terms that is blessed with a wide array of definitions* - Who knew? White space is the empty space in a design. White space is used to separate disparate design elements and group similar ones. White space is the...
Comments12/01/2017 #22 Graham🐝 Edwards#12 Thanks for the comment and the compliment @Sara Jacobovici... I for one like to think in the car when I'm driving alone; I also love thinking with a "white board"... no pun intended : ) The question regarding boundaries is a great one... I think boundaries can be a great contradiction and many we create (both literally and figuratively) so that we can function and co-exist in groups greater than ten; the rub is we need to tear down or disregard boundaries to grow and become better. I haven't done justice to this so I am hoping people jump into this conversation as it speaks to how we co-exist, work together, stretch to be better and organize ourselves so we don't fall into anarchy.12/01/2017 #12 Sara JacoboviciAs always @Graham🐝 Edwards, you produced a very thought provoking piece. You've left me with much "to think about". Three things that stand out for me right now is, 1. "where" we choose to think is crucial. You offer an option. An important one. Your readers touched upon other "places" to think. So not only do we want to make time to think, we need to prepare that "space"within which we can think. And 2. (sorry, I am paradox obsessed) the idea of white as an "empty" space when one of its definitions is, "White is produced when all colors of the visible spectrum are combined." Finally 3., "White space is a process management concept described by Geary A. Rummler and Alan P. Brache in 1991 as the area between the boxes in an organizational chart; where, very often, no one is in charge." This leads to questions like; where do the boundaries come from, how were they defined and marked, what does take place when "no one is in charge"? This takes me in so many directions....have to find the place and time to think this through! Thanks Graham.12/01/2017 #11 CityVP 🐝 ManjitWhether it is the white space as design element or white space as for thinking, appreciation is central and over time it works on us, and even better when we are not trying to change but actually learning to appreciate (both in value and values meaning of the word - appreciation).
I will certainly vouch for this. The ages between 17 and 37 and 37 and next year when I reach 57 are vastly different 20 year development periods (night and day in difference). The earlier involved absolutely not an iota of reading and daydreaming rather than thinking and ultimately time passing rather than appreciation.
I would not be doing this today, if I did not see the difference it has made in my life - and continues to make as time flows forward.11/01/2017 #8 Aurorasa Sima#1 .... and visualizing a white wall is harder than one would think.
Great post, Graham, besides the interesting content I enjoyed your presentation. Poignant and well structured and written.
Here is a track, free for bees - everyone else has to "pay" with their email addresses or buy my mindfulness product (;
Thanks for bringing this article to my attention, Renée!11/01/2017 #7 Jared 🐝 WieseI loved "White space for thinking time" and "if you think something is important enough, you will find the time." Spot on.
Thank you for the reminder!
I heard Juliet Funt give a speach on your latter definition. It was a conference full of Business Analysts usually consumed with their Busy-ness.
It was a standing ovation. Please "think" about checking it out: http://www.whitespaceatwork.com/
Reminds me of how M. Scott Peck described how we can learn anything if we give it enough attention. He described how he helped a lady get her car out of emergency parking, despite his lack of mechanical skill.
"You can learn more in an hour of silence than you can in a year from books." -Matthew Kelly
Data to back it up? I bet in Edison failing 10,000 times on the lightbulb, that a - ahem - lightbulb or two of thought must have happened ;)
Ok, here's one I just had to part with: http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/2016/11/02/want-to-be-more-successful-try-thinking-about-death---study/11/01/2017 #4 Phil FriedmanGraham, I've been told that the "space" between my ears is a brilliant blue-white — and substantially unbroken by anything worthwhile. Of course, I don't put much stock in that because I've also been told to perform some physical exercises that are clearly anatomically impossible. Good post here. Pinpoints something we all should be taking seriously. Cheers!
- Producer10/01/2017Reasons It's OK To Burn Some Bridges: Part 2 You’ve heard it said, “May the bridges I burn today light the way for a better tomorrow.” Indeed, burning some bridges is sometimes the only way forward.Our years on this earth are priceless; we must spend the time with an unburdened heart and...
Comments11/01/2017 #8 Tapiwa Matthew Mutisi@Deb 🐝 Helfrich thank you very much for taking your time reading my article. Indeed, our years here on earth are priceless, hence, we should not accommodate things that do not make us grow as individuals #personal growth
I will certainly be writing more articles.
I appreciate the support. Thank you.11/01/2017 #1 Deb 🐝 Helfrich"Our years on this earth are priceless; we must spend the time with an unburdened heart and mind. We must distance ourselves from anything or anyone that obstructs our way forward, or that intentionally causes us pain."
Fabulously well-said, @Tapiwa Matthew Mutisi View more"Our years on this earth are priceless; we must spend the time with an unburdened heart and mind. We must distance ourselves from anything or anyone that obstructs our way forward, or that intentionally causes us pain."
Fabulously well-said, @Tapiwa Matthew Mutisi. Here's to the joy of reading some more of your writing! Close
- Producer10/01/2017Press pause and sense a moment in a conversation. This is an excerpt of a study I did some time ago, called, A Sense of Being". The original chapter was published in a Management textbook. This is a few moments in the life of a Management Team when pressing pause and being with our sensory...
Comments19/01/2017 #16 Deb🐝 Lange#14 Dear Donna-Luisa yes and we can listen with more than our ears - we can listen with our body, our energy, all of our senses. Lean in and listen - and listen to not only what is being said, but listen for what is not being spoken. Then be curious and check in lightly - I hear you saying this, but I am curious? what are you thinking and sensing but not saying that is important for our conversation?11/01/2017 #6 Mohammed Sultan@Deb Lange.One way to defuse conflict among your team members is to momentarily shift the conversation to a time when you can laugh together .When the group laugh together,they can take a cool breath with a common smell and can easily get their conversation into Yes.We have to learn to accept others point of view in order to get accepted.We need to surround ourselves with conversations that mean something ,add rewards and can better absorb our difficult times.We should not involve ourselves to a conversation because we have to say something,but when we have something to say.In this way,we can spread a spirit and smell of friendship and shift our judgement toward increased optimism among the group.10/01/2017 #3 Deb🐝 Lange#1 Hi Sara, yes there is follow up. And I had worked with the team before that day as well. The thing is when we have Ahha Haa's that are visceral and sensory, not celebral - mind only, they stick. There is a shift in our energy, a shift in our state of being. This is real transformation. It has happened to me personally and I can co-create the conditions for deep learning to happen with groups. Building deep trust is critical. Making a commitment is critical. Being able to be non-defensive with anything that arises is critical. Every moment is a learning moment. No matter what arises it is up to the group to choose to take the time to learn from that action or energy that arose.10/01/2017 #1 Sara HodgeLove how you were able to help them turn it around! Do you follow up with the group later on, to see if they're carrying this new energy forward into their work together? I'd be curious as to how long it might take for old habits to set back in, and whether or not the team would recognize them and be able to deal effectively or not.
- Producer10/01/2017UNDER THE INFLUENCE OF ASSUMPTIONS- by Devesh BhattI am under the influence of the idea of influence i.e. ways I am influenced, ways i influence and the ways people influence. Some influence to serve, some to observe, some influence to conserve (their world/self view) and some influence to reserve...
Comments18/01/2017 #23 Donna-Luisa Eversleyhahaha @Devesh Bhatt, we are on similar zones I think. Love your post. Assumptions can be good but for influencing its got a lot of weight to carry, but then you've also advised on what not to assume :-)
A little over a year ago I wrote a post on LinkedIn and shared on my blog UTIOW - which means Under The Influence Of Words... thank great minds think alike :-)11/01/2017 #21 Devesh Bhatt#20 thanks for the detailed response. I think it has more to do with the chain of events, first get the facts, then decide to collaborate and then factor intent if it suits your method.
Instead people want to save time and judge intent to decide upon collaborations, in the personal sense it's useful, but as a professional it's better to focus only on facts, intent will be taken care of by a well drafted work contract.11/01/2017 #20 Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman@Devesh Bhatt - 5 stars for this thought-provoking piece. I am especially impressed with your item #3 under the heading NEVER ASSUME THE FOLLOWING. - 3. Another person's intent, it is a dynamic world. Just use it to understand possibilities and prepare for them. People assume others to be judging their intent, it can complicate responses on both ends and make it political. At best it is a hypothetical input.
I believe this can be a reason why people don't get along. Assuming another's intent is consciously second guessing them, and if the assumption is negative then there is the chance of causing unwanted friction. However, to use it in the best interest of all involved can create a positive force thus avoiding unhappy and angry feelings.
IMO, one must have a clear understanding of the facts before making an assumption and not base their assumption on another's intent.10/01/2017 #15 Ken BoddieFunny how the English language adapts and changes, or rather how we use the English language. These days, "under the influence" has, for many, an association with overindulgence in alcohol or other chemical stimulants which, should I stare at your image for much longer, will be the condition to which my meagre mind will be reduced. 🙄 My choice is to desist.10/01/2017 #13 Praveen Raj GullepalliJust recovering from a bout of Influenza Devesh ;) and that pic just aggravated it by a few more sneezes ;) I shall fortify myself and then come under further influence...eventually! :) But that said, Influence indicates Inference. And that takes it into the subjective realm. And to further touch-points of Relativity. In essence, we all end up deriving some sense out of every influence. But who am I to judge what kind? To each his own behind :)10/01/2017 #11 Devesh Bhatt#10 thank you for correlating the sensible parts with yourself. Recognising ourselves makes a lot of the influences useful. Honestly speaking, I can never imagine you as the road rage kind. Just like I couldn't imagine @Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman View more#10 thank you for correlating the sensible parts with yourself. Recognising ourselves makes a lot of the influences useful. Honestly speaking, I can never imagine you as the road rage kind. Just like I couldn't imagine @Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman celebrating disco. But life is meant to be colourful. Close10/01/2017 #10 Lisa 🐝 GallagherLife itself can be so confusing. If there is a person who never angers, I want to be a fly on the wall to learn from this person. Recognizing our behaviors is key to growth. I have made many mistakes and will make many more. I can only hope my mistakes become further apart with age and less extreme than some mistakes I've made in my past. I used to get road rage (embarrassed to admit that) but I realized it wasn't healthy or kind, actually dangerous too. I now find ways to pacify myself when feeling a bit of anger on the road and it works. To your point about being influenced by others, yes- whether directly or indirectly we all are even if we aren't aware of it. It's always good to take a step back at times and assess our own values vs. that of someone else's. Just because values may differ doesn't mean a person is bad, right or wrong. I guess respect is another key ingredient. Well thought out buzz @Devesh Bhatt10/01/2017 #8 Sara JacoboviciThank you @Ali Anani for bringing this buzz to my attention. You have produced a very thoughtful and thought provoking buzz @Devesh Bhatt. Dr. Ali is right to point out the concept of choices. It is part of my core belief that, as Viktor Frankl says: "Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom." So for me, in spite of all the dynamics of what it means to be human, everything you have outlined in your buzz, everything that is out of our realm of control, we never lose our freedom, our ability, to choose how we respond.
- Producer10/01/2017What makes you feel alive?Since death visited my house two weeks ago, I have been thinking about this question. I think it is the simple things in life that make you feel alive. I believe that we sometimes get caught up in the struggles of life, and the politics of despair,...
Comments10/01/2017 #5 Laura MikolaitisSuch a beautifully written post, @Royce Shook. Thank you for sharing it. What makes me feel alive? So many things really. Little things, moments that I get lost in. Time with my husband and our canine child. Laughter. Pure, uninhibited laughter. Friends and family and silliness. Fresh air; especially on a cold winter's night or first thing in the morning. Anytime, really. The swell of the river as it caresses my soul and heals my heart. An incredibly pigmented blue sky cast against the hills.
Like you, writing is my heart's contentment. It is here that I feel alive and boundaries are removed. It is my catharsis and pure joy. It's my zen.
It's the moments that count...and each one reminds me to be grateful for this day. Thank you for opening your heart to us.
- Producer20 Powerful Affirmations To Reduce AnxietyVideo version with soothing music or if you want to download the affirmations that resonate the most with you, grab them on slideshare. Downloadable Powerpoint Version: HERE -- Aurorasa SimaEmpowermentalist/Coach/Emotional Intelligence Trainer...
Comments08/01/2017 #13 Aurorasa Sima#11 Glad you like them! I made 20 with music to send a positive vibe to people suffering from anxiety too.
https://www.bebee.com/producer/@aurorasa/20-powerful-affirmations-to-reduce-anxiety08/01/2017 #12 Aurorasa Sima#8 If you are lucky enough to find one with that credentials, good for you.
100 % agree with the definition of meditation. Just would like to add that by being present you actually get away from everything.
Yes, rewiring is possible, takes about 90 days but will not happen if you meet the 08/15 doctor that puts you on meds.08/01/2017 #8 Don 🐝 Kerr#6 However, if you are working with a psychotherapist with an understanding of neuroscience then the benefits of mindfulness based stress reduction practice and it's ability to assist on the neuroelasticity front, i.e., it is never too late to rewire, progress can be made and sustained. I don't ever (now) underestimate the genuine benefit of mindful meditation. While it is far from 'affirming' since it demands that you face adversity and explore it with curiosity and openness leading to acceptance and love, it is effective for many. "The point of meditation isn't to be peaceful, to be better than where you are now, or to get away from everything. It's to be present. Present with whatever is." Waylon Lewis08/01/2017 #7 Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman#6 I would trust in neuroscience since it is a scientific study of the nervous system, rather than psychotherapy, which could be made up of those in the field but with varying degrees.
Interesting discussion, Aurorasa, especially relating to traumatic experiences.08/01/2017 #6 Aurorasa Sima#4 I learned three years ago that EI is not always enough when I discovered that 8 years of traumatic experience had changed my brain.
Similar to anxiety and depression, traumatic experience changes our brains in a way that regions of the brain that do not serve us when it comes to achieving goals and happiness become part of our default mode network (the DMN turns on when we "turn off" = relax).
Affirmations can never be more than a short positive sprinkle for a depressed person, for as long as they did not retrain their brain - for which everyone is in needed to check out my offering.
I don´t trust in psychotherapy. I trust in neuroscience.07/01/2017 #1 Franci🐝Eugenia HoffmanThank you for sharing, Aurorasa! This is an inspiring selection of positive affirmations. Depression is difficult to detect as it can tuck itself away deep in the mind. There are some obvious signs but not always. It's transparency is frequently elusive and treatment is a guessing game. Depression=the hidden disease.
- I like this.Fred Luskin, PhD: What Is Forgiveness? This video series is a dialogue between Dr. Fred Luskin, who holds a PhD in Counseling and Health Psychology from Stanford University where he served as...
- 05/01/2017Translation: If you are stuck or need a dose energy, but have no time at all - refresh in just five minutes and gain clarity and new energy.
For the desired effect, please use headphones.
PLEASE NOTE: The audio contains binaural sounds and must not be used while operating machinery or if you are epileptic.Projekt Power Truth Rush Meditation / Brain Entrainment Wenn Sie eine Dose Energie benötigen, oder eine Antwort auf eine Frage und haben überhaupt keine Zeit, stöpseln Sie einfach den Kopfhörer ein und lassen Sie...
Comments06/01/2017 #8 Don 🐝 Kerr@Aurorasa Sima There is some fascinating research being done by the Canadian Association for Mental Health on the use of nearly sub-aural (is that a word?) sound to assist in treating depression and other maladies. This is very interesting. Sharing with the Mindfulness hive.06/01/2017 #5 Aurorasa Sima#3 The movie does not serve any other purpose than allowing me to put it on youtube. Most people´s brains waves are stimulated by the difference in tone on right and left ear, so that they experience a stronger effect than from meditation alone.
Thanks for sharing about your experience.06/01/2017 #3 Ken Boddie#2 Wide awake this time but, sorry to say, Aurorasa, that even with my headphones on there was still no energy boost and nothing enlightening ..... except of course the music was soothing. Pardon me for making light of something with which I have no understanding, but I would have thought that watching a series of clockwise-rotating well-lit orifices would have sparked some affinity with my anal character? Am I perhaps the exception that proves the rule? Presumably others have obtained some benefit from watching this strange revolving musical vision?
- Producer05/01/2017PSYCHOLOGY OF WORDS: I'M RUBBER, YOU'RE GLUEWords are tremendously powerful, but it is our choice to give words there power or not. When someone give us a command, we can choose to obey, or disobey. We have been made to feel fear by others threats, shame by remarks about our worthiness and...
Comments09/01/2017 #6 Mohammed A. JawadHere's a good precept: "If a negative thought enters our minds, we need to push out the thought as fast as possible and try to focus on something positive. This is called mindful thinking, or conscious thinking."
Indeed, negative thoughts, when unbridled, destroys the strength of conscience. And that's devastation of human personality. When negative thoughts sprout, in abundance, so strange to sight life becomes and to reason becomes a task. And then, when errors by increase upon life make a heavy burden. O, that's a beguiling burden!05/01/2017 #5 Harvey Lloyd#4 I believe you read between the lines, the exact meaning. But social media is in its youth. 50 years from now it will have run its course. We might be into mind melds through technology or something. Clearly though the communications world is evolving in delivery. Context is what i sense is next to evolve. Platforms such as Bebee and others are merely that platforms. The people on them are currently are setting the context. Many are trying to control the context but i dont believe they are/will be successful.
We can watch politics and its attempt to use, control and use media to their end. It always seems that once content reaches the eyes, and ears of people the context is defined. Not necessarily based on the originators intentions.
This is my journey with social media, context. Content abounds but watching posts, comments and mostly reactions is showing me the true world we live in, over time. It truly is a mixed bag of understandings that makes up this world.
The comedy of it all, when a group, political party or entity senses they have "control" over the context of world opinions/views. From my perspective i sense that we are within a flow of information, controlling our own boat is enough. Trying to control beyond that, is what heart disease is made.
The most interesting group i encounter is the one way group. Life is a one way street and take it or leave it perspective. I have to believe that many leave it within the live group scenario. My favorite group is the explorers, folks who see the broader picture, they just want to get to the next turn and see whats there.05/01/2017 #4 Ali Anani#3 @Harvey Lloyd- great point that you mention "The challenge, within social media we seek a level of acceptance that causes us to define our words or measure our words differently than we would within the live group". No wonder I see many posts on beware of what you say on social media. May be to the extent that we are on our foot trying to avoid what not to say rather than what we intend to say.05/01/2017 #3 Harvey LloydWords have many meanings to many different people in different social groups. That was a mouth full. I would imagine that with the advent of social media we had an unintended consequence. Our "live" social groups, the ones we stand face to face with, cause us to adjust our definitions of words in order to retain/build the relationship.
With social media though our relationships are different, its more conversational rather than personal. Yet we get feedback negative and positive, according to our perceptions, based on how we define words. If your comments or word choice are offensive in my live social group it will guide my commentary in social media..
The challenge, within social media we seek a level of acceptance that causes us to define our words or measure our words differently than we would within the live group. Whether we heed the definitions or not, is not the point but rather the point being we carry different dictionary's around in our head for different forms of communication.
This is an interesting topic of discussion. Maybe we carry internal, general public, personal/friend and social media dictionaries?05/01/2017 #2 Ali AnaniBeautiful contribution this is @Lyon Brave. The rubber and glue example is strikingly beautiful. The observation that "...usually when someone is insulting us- it stems from a place of insecurity" is correct. I agree and really strong people from inside refrain insulting others. Those people find encouraging others an opportunity. It is unfortunate that is life negative actions are much easier than positive ones and they may become spontaneous. Getting angry on others, insulting them or blaming them need to energy to activate them; we need the energy to transform them into positive actions. How a self-defeated person with feelings of insecurity shall transform is an issue that begs for more thinking.
Sharing your beautiful buzz05/01/2017 #1 Lisa 🐝 GallagherVery inspiring @Lyon Brave. I agree, we can create our own reality with the exception of certain life's circumstances that affect our psyche, like the loss of a loved one. We still can choose to be nice or mean though. My vision includes having an oceanfront place , ive been visualizing it for years and i dont see it in my near future. ;-)
- Producer04/01/2017Being humble and getting humbledI was talking about the importance of self talk as a recurring theme yesterday. I have a habit of doing that. I often learn by teaching. This means my students often teach by learning. What is it they need to learn?How is it they learn best?When I...
- Producer04/01/2017The Four Agreements: Some Very Nourishing Food For ThoughtI’m not big on personal philosophies outside of my own. Because at the end of the day that’s the only one that matters.But arriving at your own personal philosophy is not always a straight line journey, and it’s certainly not without its share of...
Comments05/01/2017 #12 Chas ✌️ Wyatt@Jim Murray, this is very relevant to me on a very personal level. I was turned on to Don Miguel Ruez's "The Four Agreements" by someone whom I was in love with in my early 20's. We reconnected via the internet shortly before the events of 9/11 and she now makes her home in Manhattan. She also released a CD based on Ruez's "The Four Agreements".
- Producer04/01/2017Building confidence through better self talkI frequently say that self talk is the most important talk there is in life.It's the talk that defines us and our life. It's the perception we create of who we are and where our life is and where it has been and where it going. Self talk is the...
Comments15/01/2017 #6 Max🐝 J. Carter#5 True however I always find that the stuff I design for me sticks better and often change up my morning mantras that I start each day with.
Getting yourself in the habit of creating your own self talk reminders in the form of personal mantras is also a good mental strengthening exercise.
If we rely in others to do it for us it can make us lazy in our thinking. This is why I always love the quote from Henry Ford. "Thinking is the hardest work there is that's probably why so few engage in it."
You empower yourself through finding your own words to encourage you and build you up more so than using the words of another. That is giving them your power.15/01/2017 #5 Deb 🐝 HelfrichInterrupting our very myopic self-talk is exactly why the meme phenomenon has such traction. A pretty picture and some pretty words have a tendency to re-route the standard grooves in our mental pathways just enough to trend us a bit more towards kindness - both internally and externally.04/01/2017 #3 Max🐝 J. Carter#1 I get the feeling that Henry has that kind of presence. In the interview I saw the guy interviewing him was taken back by him. He has intense energy that I am sure is not easy to hold ground in front of. The man attacks life with rage in every waking moment is how he put it. That has to have an effect on people.
Mindfulness is the practice of bringing one's attention to the internal and external experiences occurring in the present moment, which can be developed through the practice of meditation. The term "mindfulness" is a translation of the Pali-term sati, which is a significant element of some Buddhist traditions.