- Producer22/10/2016SURVIVAL OF THE WEAKEST“Communities which are very strong, very rigid, that do not take into account the weak points of the community, the people who are in difficulty, tend to be communities that do not evolve.” And when they evolve, it's generally by a very strong...
Comments23/10/2016 #24 AnonymousWe tend to discard weak points of society as if they were not an inherent part of humankind, an "annoying part" it needs to be erased, overviewed, ignored.
We forget that they are there to reflect what we are doing wrong and to put them aside disables us to learn from our failures, and thus, hindering us from evolving. Thank you Irene for sharing.23/10/2016 #22 jesse kaellis#20
I wrote to a woman whose father was dying. I was trying to find words of solace but what could I possibly say? Almost everybody who ever lived goes through grief. Maybe it is the commonality of the experience that lends value to it. The pain is keen -- when you lose a loved one.
"Any recent news? You will be busy now, with your dad. It's a terrible time. When your parents begin dying, you lose your past, and you step up to the turnstile.
I console myself that by outliving them, I have spared them the devastation of outliving their children.
Why is life so painful? But it is. I don't believe in the silver lining thing or that it's a learning experience. Learn what? How to suffer? But I do believe in stoicism."
Life can be ecstatic and it is frequent;y painful and I don't think it means more than it really is -- human experience. Thanks, Milo. Thanks for your help.23/10/2016 #21 jesse kaellis#19
Once upon a time in my life -- I was young, but I was fixated on getting a girlfriend. A guy at the EST center in Vancouver, it was on West Broadway then, he tells me, "You need a bigger problem, get a bigger problem." And I understood what he was trying to tell me. Thank's Deb. Thank you.23/10/2016 #20 Anonymous"Drowning in the Pursuit of Happiness" by @Irene Hackett it is one of the most profound lessons ever here on beBee.
"And I learned that no one escapes pain in this life; it may look different for each of us, but it is pain just the same. I found that it’s important to feel the pain, but is critical to know we are designed to transcend and overcome." - Irene Hackett
"Were we born to rot in our misery—were we born to be afraid? I never knew you afraid! If you only trust me, how little you will be disappointed! The world is all before us—and the world is very large. I know something about that. Why should there be pain? In such hours as this what have we to do with pain? That is not the deepest thing; there is something deeper. I don’t believe that such a generous mistake as yours—can hurt you for more than a little. And remember this, that if you have been hated, you have also been loved." - Ralph to Isabel. from "The Portrait of a Lady" by Henry James23/10/2016 #19 Deb Helfrich#9 #12 We are all weak in loss. And then we learn how to continue living with a lot more 'give' in our hearts. I treasure what you have shared, @jesse kaellis - because there is someone reading this, and we might never know who, that will gain strength from your words,
"I heal by living"23/10/2016 #18 Anonymous#16 Thank you @Aurorasa Sima, great excerpt from Kennedy speech and yes, it speaks to the heart of this buzz. Thank you for the kind words about my family, I appreciate you! (You may want to read my buzz "Drowning in the Pursuit of Happiness" for further background.). ❤️23/10/2016 #16 Aurorasa SimaIt´s not a perfect fit but your article reminded me on a sentence of the Kennedy speech. "If a free society cannot help the many who are poor, it cannot save the few who are rich. " I feel it applies to all forms of support people need. I was not aware of the situation of your mother. Great to hear about how your family handled it and that you stuck together.23/10/2016 #12 jesse kaellis#11
Thanks, Irene. Thanks very much. Because that may have been rude. It's your story and your thread. But sometimes -- most times, I already said it somewhere. In terms of writing a response.
My mom was dying. We have empathy because we experienced it ourselves. This was part of an email. A friend whose father was dying.
I worked a graveyard shift. She was close, and I prayed; prayed for her to die. "Take her. Please." There was nothing left.
That body wouldn't support life. In the morning I stopped and looked on one last time and held her hand. I went home to bed, and my father called me at about 2 pm, and that was it.
I had cancer in 1985. It will come back and kill me in the end. I am certain. Or anyway, something will. I pray I don't outlive my sister. She is my best friend. After my father dies, it’s just her. I don't want to be alone. My life has been lonely.
It seems selfish, me talking about my loss and pain when you are confronting your pain. That's how it is, though. My empathy for you comes from the places I've been.
I had to mourn my best friend. He passed at 31 years old. It's just weight.
I keep a place for you in the corner of my heart.23/10/2016 #9 jesse kaellisProblems -- being a drug addict, that's a problem. Being in a relationship, that's a problem. It can present problems. Entering a young woman's life, at say, the age of 16 and the young man he's 22, this could present challenges. So what's the better opportunity? Where am I going to get more space? Where will I make a bigger difference? It's a no-brainer. But this was never about smart. Someday, sometime, I thought with my heart. I felt like living. That's all it is.
People around est used to think that if enough people did the training, and a lot of people did, why then, the world would be transformed. If everyone and his dog did the training then we would have enlightened murderers, because people will never stop killing. Not in my lifetime. Not in a million lifetimes, because spiritual evolution takes place out of time. Everybody has to climb the ladder.
So I'm watching my girlfriend's children push out into the world. I'm watching young fighters at the gym chasing their dreams. I'm watching and seeing my father transform himself into the caring, tender father I never knew at the nadir of my isolation and desolation.
I've got two favorite quotes: "Seek ye me and live." That's Amos 5. That's pretty well wide open. Lots of room there and you can be on any kind of path, even dark roads. And the quest itself is a validation.
The other one I cannot attribute. I heard it and maybe I dreamt it. "We are born broken and we heal by living." But what does that even mean? How can we be born broken? Why are we born into sin? Why are we fallen?
I came to a place in my life, a state of grace and I found this: I give what I didn't get. That's how I heal. I heal by living.22/10/2016 #8 AnonymousWow @Deb Helfrich - you captured the entire essence of the buzz in that one, brilliantly composed sentence, "The fluid mantle, the layer with give, is the crucial component to a functioning structure, community, and planet." Ah, and you are so right, it is the noise that always distracts us from the heart, it would seem. Your kind words humble me - although I must admit, I had to google "zeitgeist" LOL!! I love being the student, and you my friend are one of the great teachers on beBee, with your intelligent and poetic commenting.22/10/2016 #7 Anonymous#5 @Deb Lange - "tectonic plates inside our skulls" now that's an idea worth contemplating! Very interesting as well - exploring the Organization's weaknesses. The existence of weakness being the catalyst to change - awesome! I too, love the Scientist perspective - his discoveries leaning him to compassionate service and a transformed life. I appreciate the further probing into this subject matter - thank you!22/10/2016 #6 Deb HelfrichThe fluid mantle, the layer with give, is the crucial component to a functioning structure, community, and planet. And yet, our attention is often diverted to the crashing and erupting of the rigid surfaces and people.
@Irene Hackett, the way you have captured the zeitgeist and transmuted it into a clear, concise way to evaluate our daily actions, is priceless. I am buoyed by this buzz. Really grateful that you conveyed this correlation between our planet and our communities.22/10/2016 #5 Deb LangeGreat perspective reminding us once again we are nature. I wonder do we have "tectonic plates" inside our skulls that also have weak points and erupt? I love the story of the scientist realising g that to work with people who are suffering was where he needed to be and how this experience has informed his return to scie ce and creating a compassionate life.
I wonder about the weak points in an organisation where people suffer through intimidation, bullying g, etc and how behaviour erupts from these weak points to evolve the organisation.
- Producer21/10/2016Confessions Of A Soon To Be Ex-TorontonianI came to Toronto, by way of Fort Erie and Ottawa, in the late 1960s. Almost immediately upon arriving and getting a part time job at a discount department store called Towers, I met the girl who would eventually become my wife.I owe Toronto more...
Comments22/10/2016 #28 Phil Friedman#26 Sara, I lived and worked in Canada during the height of the PQ, and I always laughed when some of the academics in its upper ranks spoke of secession and joining the U.S., where their minority French rights and aspirations would be better treated. For only ivory tower academics could be so idiotic in their world view. No, check that. I think we've seen that exceeded in the current U.S.presidential election campaign by the bad comb over and the orange skin. Cheers!22/10/2016 #26 Sara JacoboviciLoved reading your story @Jim Murray. Especially since I lived in Toronto between 1984 and 2009. I have friends who live in every part of Toronto you mention. I have visited St. Catherines and spent much time in the wine country. It is not just that which made the read so enjoyable. You are a true storyteller Jim, a great communicator. As @Phil Friedman said: "Best wishes to you and your wife for a very long, healthy, and happy stay in the new house. And cheers!"
PS I moved to Toronto from Montreal. I have a little bit of a different perspective re Toronto's history and growth. One thing is that Toronto owes a lot to Renee Levesque (1968-1985) whose separatist party and government led to a huge move out of Montreal, not only of people but of businesses, especially head offices of international businesses, that changed the look of downtown Toronto.22/10/2016 #22 Jerry FletcherThanks for sharing Jim. Somehow your personal tale makes you more of a communications pro to me. A few years back I made a similar decision and moved south of Portland, Oregon to what my friends describe as "where the sidewalk ends." Now, after a divorce and a daughter married and living on the other side of the continent I'm tired of knocking around in a five bedroom house so I'll sell in the spring and try to down size. Moving is never easy, but sometimes you gotta.21/10/2016 #16 David B. GrinbergJim, are you sure this has nothing to do with the Toronto Blue Jays not being in the World Series? (lol). Seriously though, while I've never been to Toronto I've heard wonderful things about it. Plus, I figured if you lived there it had to be(Bee) good. Nonetheless, as I like to say: change is the only constant in life. With that in mind, Jim, it's St. Catharines today and Mars tomorrow (or in 10-20+ years)! Good luck with the move. Also, make some room for us in the USA just in case "you know who" magically becomes President and Americans must flee for greener pastures.
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Comments21/10/2016 #6 Phil Friedman#5 Thank you Nicole and @Sara Jacobovici for supporting the Worldwide Authors Conspiracy as Wacko Author-Members. As you well know, the mission of www.wwaco.org is to find and share outstanding digital content on the web. We welcome not only writers, but publishers and discerning readers to join. There is a place for everyone who is interested in seeing the bar raised for Internet publishing. Wacko members are serious about that mission --- although never overly self-serious. Try us, you'll like us.
- Producer19/10/2016Her Life Wasn't Easy but She Prevailed- My InspirationTonight I read a buzz about Inspiration by Graham Edwards and his buzz made me think of others who've inspired me. The first person who came to mind was my mom. Mom did not have an easy life, she grew up with a father who was an abusive Alcoholic...
Comments20/10/2016 #10 Lisa GallagherMom's start sure didn't predict the majority of her life, including her ending which is very inspiring. Love and hate are both choices. I'm glad mom had no tolerance for hate, we weren't even allowed to use the word hate in our home. Thanks @Deb Helfrich View moreMom's start sure didn't predict the majority of her life, including her ending which is very inspiring. Love and hate are both choices. I'm glad mom had no tolerance for hate, we weren't even allowed to use the word hate in our home. Thanks @Deb Helfrich, appreciate your comment! :) Close19/10/2016 #9 Deb Helfrich"Mom taught us that life is a constant lesson and when we stop learning, we stop living." Inspirational, @Lisa Gallagher, because of the honest truth that our start doesn't necessarily predict our ending. We do have the ability to choose, most especially to choose LOVE.19/10/2016 #8 Lisa Gallagher#7 Hi @Renée Cormier, I could not agree more about my grandfather. As I grew older and heard the stories (too many offenses to list) I felt the same about him, "he's an evil man." He had 6 brothers who were all nice and not one of them were alcoholics. My mom's real mother fell down a flight of stairs and ended up with a brain injury and amnesia. He had her committed to a state mental hospital back then. She developed pneumonia and was pregnant with her second child. They tried to get a hold of him to have her transferred to the Cleveland Clinic for treatment and he was no where to be found. My mom showed me an add his own family placed in the paper looking for him (I just saw the clipping about 4 years ago). Anyhow, her real mom gave birth to a full term still born and died from pneumonia not long after the birth. He took off and joined the Army. My mom was sent to live with relatives in Florida. She told me she loved them and that was the only good time in her entire childhood. He came back when she was 5 years old with his 'new' wife and took my mom back with them. I'm glad my mom broke ties with him when we were younger, she did us all a big favor. Yes, we all get along like best friends, I feel very fortunate. Mom always felt fortunate to have 5 children that loved her so much and was able to give so much love back to all of us. Sorry this was so long but I'm glad you called him out for what he was, it's true.19/10/2016 #7 Renée CormierSuch a beautiful family. You are lucky to have had a loving, caring and giving mother. Not all of us get to experience that. As for your grandfather; it has always been my belief that anything you do drunk you would do sober, if you only had the guts. Your grandfather was cruel at his core. Alcohol just made it easier for him to be his true self. I'm glad your mother found a loving family to be a part of and I am especially glad she did not choose to live her life in bitterness. She certainly raised a lovely lady (you) and I am sure the rest of your siblings have been well raised too.19/10/2016 #5 Laura Mikolaitis"Mom taught us that life is a constant lesson and when we stop learning, we stop living. She taught us that life is more than just ABOUT us, it's about those around us." ~ A beautiful reflection on love and inspiration by @Lisa Gallagher View more"Mom taught us that life is a constant lesson and when we stop learning, we stop living. She taught us that life is more than just ABOUT us, it's about those around us." ~ A beautiful reflection on love and inspiration by @Lisa Gallagher. Here's to moms or to whomever inspires you. Close19/10/2016 #1 Vincent AndrewYour mum is an inspiring person Lisa. Despite the setbacks she faced, she stayed positive and helped raise a kind and happy family. She put others' needs before herself. 'I don't think it was until I became a parent myself that I was able to honestly appreciate the life we were given.' I fully agree with this. I am really really thankful to both my mum and my late dad for their toils, encouragement and wisdom just to help us pull through life. Thanks for sharing this Lisa.
- 18/10/2016Father and Daughter
This is me with my daughter Satanieh. Is there a generation gap between us? Do my wrinkles tell my history like the rings on the trunk of a tree do? Do my wrinkles tell my age, my seasons and my memories? Does the shape of my wrinkles tell what were the easy times and hard ones in my life?
My daughter is part of my history, the joy of my present and the hope of my future. The bright moments of the past brings joy to the present and aspirations for the future.
The triad of time (past, present and future) mixes together while looking at this recent photo. Do I see my present or my daughter's' time? I wonder if time has a sense when we are with our kids!
Comments19/10/2016 #20 Ali Anani#18 You have a special place in my heart @Harvey Lloyd. Your comments fill me with all positive things in life. I love this from you "The wrinkles and gray hairs are the wisdom they brought to me when I thought I new everything. Their innocent nature showed this crusty bark what life is really about".19/10/2016 #18 Harvey LloydAwesome photo. I couldn't be who I am today with out my daughters. The wrinkles and gray hairs are the wisdom they brought to me when I thought I new everything. Their innocent nature showed this crusty bark what life is really about. I look at you differently now @Ali Anani I know where your views of nature come from . You have raised a beautiful daughter.19/10/2016 #15 AnonymousAwww, this picture warms my heart dear brother @Ali Anani ! Your daughter has such natural beauty, to which I am not surprised! And in you I see no time - just present joy - thank you for sharing such a personal and important part of your life in this wonderful photo !
- Producer18/10/2016Frozen Lives & Broken SoulsThe Berlin Wall fell in 1989 and by 1990 I had already made the decision that I would travel to what was called the satellite countries, I would go accompanied or not but I would go no matter what.Travelling on a low budget I found myself heading to...
Comments19/10/2016 #34 Phil Friedman#32 The stories that most catch our notice are the tales of extraordinary heroism, But truth be told, the majority of truly heroic effort and behavior occurs within the context of day-to-day life, and is instantiated by those who consider themselves "ordinary", but who will not accept what is for what should be. If humanity is to be saved, it will be by the "regular guys" with grit, who will do the job.19/10/2016 #29 AnonymousWow, you @Pascal Derrien are what I call 'the REAL DEAL'. I praise you, you have put your heart and soul into compassionate action. This buzz has stirred me emotionally and made me know a deeper side of you which I admire greatly. And although this is an excellent story and written so well, it is what you replied in comment to Ken that speaks the loudest in this buzz: "I should help people broken down people getting back up again...... maybe a conversation or a smile means more than....." We need more of you in the world dear Pascal!19/10/2016 #26 Pascal Derrien#24 thanks @Lisa Gallagher yes a lot of mental illnesses in the street, people not diagnosed or medicalized in any shape or form but it seems nobody cares in the end since my time on the street the drugs plague which was marginal enough is now the biggest problem :-(19/10/2016 #24 Lisa GallagherA story well told @Pascal Derrien. It's so sad because many of the homeless people are mentally ill and from what I've heard, suffer from Schizophrenia. Yes, there are those who are homeless because they lost it all but those who choose to live in the streets through out each bitter winter, well it brings tears to my eyes. You saw it first hand and I'm glad you touched so many lives. I'm sure you touched more than you were ever aware of. Thank you for sharing, you have a kind and caring heart- it's very evident in your writing. Obviously I never knew Joey, but I echo your sentiments, RIP Joey and to all the "Joeys" who died homeless.
- Producer16/10/2016'Chinar Talks' is backHi fellow Bees....I am back after over two months break. The break was very long indeed with no digital footsteps at all - no email, no browsing, no Facebook, no messaging. But yes, in addition to our (I and my wife) almost daily long walk along the...
Comments16/10/2016 #2 Anees Zaidi#1 Thank you dearest brother @Ali Anani. I too missed all of you and the buzzing as well but I wanted to keep myself completely hooked off and give a full quality time to the family. I hope you and other friends keep doing fine during all this period. Soon I will catch up with the sweet honey produced in my absence. My best to you and the family.16/10/2016 #1 Ali AnaniThis morning I was about to send you dear brother @Anees Zaidi and to dear friend @William King a messages to enquire about your whereabouts. So, as I am reading this buzz I feel great and I say you filled my heart wit "Aliza" my goo brother. Congratulations on the arrival of Aliza with all the joy she brings with her. So happy to see you back and smell the fragrance of your mind. My day is Aliza
- Producer10/10/2016A Tale of Two Women - Hillary & KimPrelude...I was eighteen when I had my first son. I did not know what it felt like to love someone unconditionally until I met him as he grew in my womb. He was born on November, 22nd 1987, the most beautiful baby boy the earth had ever seen.I had a...
Comments16/10/2016 #28 Pamela L. WilliamsI loved your perspective @Donna-Luisa Eversley. Though I empathize with Kim's robbery experience I just can't find her 'business' as having a positive impact on society or the young women of today, which to me is just as harmful to women as anything Hugh Hefner has done. Just because it's women getting rich from the exposure doesn't change the negative stereotype is places on all women.
As for Hilary, that is one strong woman, of that there is no doubt, I'm just not sure she is Presidential material. But if I have to chose between her and DT, I'm Hilary all the way.14/10/2016 #25 David B. GrinbergBelated kudos on sharing that personal story @Donna-Luisa Eversley. I'm reminded of that old saying: what doesn't kill us makes us stronger. I think going through adversity and facing immense challenges -- while no fun at all -- does in fact strengthen people's character, determination and steadfastness.
I recall at the last town hall presidential debate, the last questioner asked each candidate to say something they admired about the other. Donald Trump sounded sincere, at least in this instance, when he praised Hillary for being a fighter and never giving up. I think all her past challenging life experiences helped to mold Hillary into the person she is today. And ditto that for most, if not all, people.
And while it's terrible what happened to KK in Paris, one would think she would have bodyguards to protect her in public when she flaunting very expensive jewelry while playing games on social media. But that's just my 2-cents.14/10/2016 #24 Andrew Porter#19 I must admit @Donna-Luisa Eversley I did see the buzz and thought it was going to be about politics which I try to avoid!
As quite a few bees have said which I will reiterate I just cannot imagine what must have been going through your and everyone else's minds, how frightening for you all. and what a really moving piece you have produced here on bebee...I take my hat off to you for a remarkable contribution.14/10/2016 #22 Mamen DelgadoMy dear @Donna-Luisa Eversley, I confess I saw this Producer a couple of days ago but, as @Pascal Derrien has said before, I was so silly I didn't feel any engagement with the title neither with the two pictures on the top.
I simply can not imagine what you were through in that night you have described, as a mother I don´t feel strong enough to try to imagine it.
Your article is full of sensibleness and sobriety, as well as of emotion. The same emotion any human being can feel, because as you wisely say none is inmune or set apart from humanity in a life or death experience.
Thanks so much for tagging me. Love you, dear being. 💞14/10/2016 #21 debasish majumderwonderful post madam Donna-Luisa Eversley! absolutely stunning! i wonder, how state sometimes act as a male and sometimes as a female! we have seen number of states where female at the helm, but the character of state remain same. there is no absolute masculinity or feminism. still, i believe, female are more compassionate and caring, as they can only endow motherhood. however, lovely post madam. thank you very much for sharing the post.14/10/2016 #20 Laura MikolaitisExcellent piece, @Donna-Luisa Eversley. What a chilling recall of your experience. I can't even begin to imagine what it must have been like, but you paint a vivid picture that speaks volumes to your own faith, strength and resilience. I am sad to hear that you went through something so terrifying, but it seems in spite of it all you have found the grace within. You have crated and penned such a well-written piece here and opened eyes so that we can see beyond the media hype. It can be challenging to dissect the authenticity that is often overshadowed by the propaganda. In the end, both women are human beings - and as you have so eloquently pointed out - there's more than what meets the eye.
You have brought to light some interesting perspective with regard to both Kim K and Hillary Rodham-Clinton. While I may not necessarily agree with or be a fan of either, what I will openly acknowledge is their perseverance and resilience. It takes a great deal of tenacity to be a public figure and both women have demonstrated these traits under some dire and heated situations. And for that, I give them credit. It's not easy to be torn down and ridiculed at every turn but they fight back where some might never find the strength to get up and keep going.
Thank you Donna-Luisa for leading me to this. I did miss it's original posting somehow.14/10/2016 #17 Donna-Luisa Eversley#13 Wow .. @Franci Eugenia Hoffman, thank you very much. I appreciate your feedback and comments. Its never easy sharing some things, but you make it okay. #worldbestcheerleader #bebeehugs Yes women have come a long way, and we keep moving forward, because we are #ablewomen10/10/2016 #13 Franci Eugenia Hoffman@Donna-Luisa Eversley, you just hit a homerun with this post. I agree with Pascal in that this is the best article I have read all week. I can't imagine how you endured the robbery but so glad you did or I wouldn't be reading this 5 star read. I am not a fan of Kim Kardashian but give her credit for making herself into a multi-million dollar empire. Hillary is a smart and gutsy woman and has endured a lot, as well. She seems to have the ability to bounce back and ready for the next hurdle. Women have come a long way and are making great strides but we still have a rocky ride ahead of us. It takes time and patience - and endurance to make the world a better place. Bravo Donna-Luisa and buzz on.10/10/2016 #12 Dean OwenI cannot imagine the trauma of being held at gunpoint. How horrific. Kim Kardashian - I have no idea who she is and had no idea she had been robbed. I empathize with Hillary for the fact that she had to deal very publically with a cheating husband. I have never thought "if Hillary was a man" but I have thought if Michael Moore looked like Robert Redford, he'd probably be heralded as an American icon. Weird world we live in.....10/10/2016 #10 Donna-Luisa Eversley#4 @Vincent Andrew thank you for understanding us women 😉...you have had the privilege to be surrounded by many females and you get to protect and love and care for all our hormones! The robbery was awful. I try not to think about it, and I guess I have not really laid it to rest. The feel of the gun remains, and my son is 29 next month. I was crazy about safety and security after that..sleeping lightly, keeping my home locked tightly day and night. Not opening windows, being obsessed with locks...took almost twenty years for me to relax. When one is robbed like that the physical things lost are nothing, it is the way your personal safety was violated, that, is a loss hard to recover from. 🐝🌸10/10/2016 #8 Donna-Luisa Eversley#2 @Lisa Gallagher , I'm always sure you would understand the depth of my own emotions when I recall some of these memories. Thought it was nicely tucked away, the memories, until I read about Kim's experience and the comments. I've been following the US elections and Hillary's fight. Two very different women. Somehow last evening, 'a tale of two cities' came to mind and I saw a common thread in the very different circumstances and women. Lot's of thoughts in this jigsaw puzzle of social media. I appreciate your thoughtful comments 🌺
- 10/10/2016Both versions; the embellished and the reality are worth reading (and the stories within the stories). The moral of the story is not new; everything you do counts. But seeing it in action is a great reminder.Boldt Actionwww.snopes.com William Waldorf Astor rewards friendly hotel employee's kindness by making him manager of the...
Comments10/10/2016 #1 Ali AnaniA moving story and I absolutely loved the lined buzz dear @Sara Jacobovici. If we plant very good seeds hey shall yield the best plants. Little and considerate acts may move mountains. The reward for kindness in this telling story is simply a great example of the butterfly effect of small acts ending in exfoliated results. I shared on three hives because the buzz moved me.
- 07/10/2016Worth watching and listening to his story.Dushun Wangwww.youtube.com Dushun Wang an 80 year old Chinese actor-turned-model by trade featuring in Hollywood films such as he Forbidden Kingdom (2008), Detective Dee: Mystery of...
- Producer04/10/2016You're a Hero in My Eyes"There goes my heroWatch him as he goesThere goes my heroHe's ordinary"Foo FightersThis blog post is dedicated to my ordinary hero: my husband. A man who has filled my life with happiness and has made me laugh so hard my sides hurt. My soul mate, my...
Comments13/10/2016 #41 Laura Mikolaitis#40 @Lori Boxer, thank you so much for such an enriching comment. I appreciate you taking the time to read this post and for sharing some of your experience here with us. It does seem that everyone, in one way or another, has someone in their circle who has fought the fight. What you say here is so true: "...It was they who motivated me and taught me what real strength is." I know I feel that way about my husband, and so many others close to us who have been down this road. I have a sister-in-law who has been battling cancer in all its various forms for over 13 years now. She's a fighter and I've learned so much from her and how valiantly she faces each new chapter. Thanks again for your contribution Lori, I really enjoyed reading your comments.12/10/2016 #40 Lori BoxerLaura, your story conveys breathtakingly well when the power of love and a tower of strength meet, anything can be overcome. There's none among us who doesn't have someone (or 2 or more) in our circle of family or friends who has gone through the battles of cancer. For several years I was on the Board of Directors of the Cancer Support Community here in NJ. Once a month we had our evening Board meetings at the CSC facility where, simultaneous to our convening in the conference room, cancer 'clients' (those going through treatment and those who had successfully completed their treatment) would be at the in other rooms for various activities such as group therapy, yoga, drum circles, spin class, and so forth. Anyway, after a very long work day, and then a long board meeting, you'd think I'd want to get right home. I didn't. I looked forward to hanging out a while longer JUST SO I could chat with people before their class or as they ended, or just catch a cup of coffee in the kitchen with them. I say without hesitation that every single man and woman and teenager that I met through that experience were the toughest, strongest, most important people I have met in my life, bar none. THEY taught me about what fighting for something is all about. THEY taught me to really understand that a business problem I may have had during the day was insignificant bullshit. THEY taught me that the only 'fighting' with Steve (my husband) I should hope I DON'T have to do is to fight cancer together, and that fighting with each other is just a needless time suck. The point is: These people always gave me a dose of reality. Initially, I thought engaging them in conversation, perhaps to motivate them, would be good for them. Boy, was I wrong: It was they who motivated me and taught me what real strength is. So, I salute your husband because I know there is no stronger soldier, or one deserving of life, than one who's been to hell and back.12/10/2016 #39 Lori BoxerLaura, your story conveys breathtakingly well when the power of love and a tower of strength meet, anything can be overcome. There's none among us who doesn't have someone (or 2 or more) in our circle of family or friends who has gone through the battles of cancer. For several years I was on the Board of Directors of the Cancer Support Community here in NJ. Once a month we had our evening Board meetings at the CSC facility where, simultaneous to the our convening in the conference room, cancer 'clients' (those going through treatment and those who had successfully completed their treatment) would be at the in other rooms for various activities such as group therapy, yoga, drum circles, spin class, and so forth. Anyway, after a very long work day, and then a long board meeting, you'd think I'd want to get right home. I didn't. I looked forward to hanging out a while longer JUST SO I could chat with people before their class or as they ended, or just catch a cup of coffee in the kitchen with them. I say without hesitation that every single man and woman and teenager that I met through that experience were the toughest, strongest, most important people I have met in my life, bar none. THEY taught me about what fighting for something is all about. THEY taught me to really understand that a business problem I may have had during the day was insignificant bullshit. THEY taught me that the only 'fighting' with Steve (my husband) I should hope I DON'T have to do is to fight cancer together, and that fighting with each other is just a needless time suck. The point is: These people always gave me a dose of reality. Initially, I thought engaging them in conversation, perhaps to motivate them, would be good for them. Boy, was I wrong: It was they who motivated me and taught me what real strength is. So, I salute your husband because I know there is no stronger soldier, or one deserving of life, than one who's been to hell and back.06/10/2016 #38 Lisa Gallagher#16 @Laura Mikolaitis, you wrote with each other we find support, that is SO true! We will all face a time in our lives where we will need extra, loving support and likewise, we need (or shall I say), or should try to be keen to others when they may need us. Life sure comes with many ups and downs.06/10/2016 #37 Laura MikolaitisThank you John Rylance. We are believers in fighting the good fight, and so we do. Even when the fight knocks you down and knocks you out. Somehow we keep getting back up. "Out thinking" definitely has a lot to do with it and I am a firm believer in the healing power of the mind.06/10/2016 #36 Laura Mikolaitis#34 Thank you @Jim Murray. It's true what you said about "nobody ever thinks about it when they first start out together." I know I didn't and I'm fairly certain Paul didn't either. In fact, if you had asked me when we first got married, or at any point during the early years of our marriage, if we'd face something like that I would have shrugged it off. But we also thought we were invincible too. Little did we know. We are fighters that's for sure and he is also one of my biggest supporters. We've had many ups and downs, but we get through them together - because together we are strong.05/10/2016 #35 John RylanceBeing positive in these circumstances is hard, but as this post proves wel worth the effort. It underlines the thinking expressed elsewhere on "out thinking" something, in that case Parkinson's Disease.
You might not as beat the problem, but it's better than just giving up. As the hymn says "Fight the good fight with all your might"05/10/2016 #34 Jim MurrayWow...that kind of courage and fortitude is hard to come by in this day and age. In sickness and in health. Nobody ever thinks about it when they first start out together. We all think it's just thrown in there for dramatic effect. But sooner or later it touches us all. You touched a lot of people with this story in both a scary and ultimately hopeful way. Your faith and support combined with your husband's strength were the keys to a good outcome.05/10/2016 #32 Laura Mikolaitis#27 Thanks @John White, MBA. I had to re-read your comment a couple of times because I was taken aback. Thank you so much! This was a close to my heart post and it's evoking more emotion in me as that day and night go on. I guess I didn't realize how much of an impact putting it down would have but I am so glad that I did. We all have stories that involve trials and tribulations...they are the links that make us who we are and bind us together near and far.05/10/2016 #31 Laura Mikolaitis#29 @Franci Eugenia Hoffman, I don't know about being an amazing person, but thank you for your thoughtful and encouraging words. You have uplifted my spirits for sure. I have to say that my husband and I make a pretty good team even though we get on each other's nerves from time to time. We've seen each other at our worst and at our best and I couldn't imagine writing these chapters without him. And I'm glad that I don't have to. Thanks so much for reading and being a part of the conversation Franci, I really appreciate it.05/10/2016 #30 Laura Mikolaitis#26 @Aaron Skogen, I got the message - thank you. I just sent one back to you - I had to go compose myself for a bit. My eyes were sweating terribly. Lots of emotion is swirling around me tonight but I am so thankful for all of these wonderful contributions. Thank you for your continued support and encouragement. It means so much to me. I'm feeling so inspired.05/10/2016 #29 Franci Eugenia HoffmanYou are an amazing person, @Laura Mikolaitis. You endured and you never gave up your spirit. That spirit spilled over to your husband giving him the strength to endure all that he had to go through. You are both pillars of strength and I wish you both good health and happiness for many years to come.04/10/2016 #26 Aaron Skogen#24 @Laura Mikolaitis you have a rather long message sitting in your beBee inbox. . . I would have had to written it in four parts to post here.
I ended the message with this. . . "What I really want to say, is thanks for this today Laura. It was a gift to me and I sincerely appreciate it and I really needed the uplifting message today. Thank you!"
You'll have to check your inbox to read the whole chapter.
- 28/09/2016Compartiendo la cultura china
“葉公好龍” (Yè gōng hào lóng)
Esta frase se puede traducir como La adoración de los dragones de Yè. La historia es la siguiente:
Erase una vez un noble llamado Yè, de quien se dice que estuvo vivo durante la época de los Anales de la Primavera-Otoño (春秋) entre los años 722-481 aC. La historia cuenta que profesaba su amor por los dragones con tanta claridad, que todo el mundo lo conocía como el de las ropas bordadas con dragones. Un dragón de carne y hueso había oído hablar de esto y fue a encontrarse con este amante de los dragones. Cuando llegó el dragón, Yè quedó aterrado por su intimidante presencia. El dragón, aturdido, le preguntó por qué estaba asustado, a lo que Yè respondió que sólo apreciaba la imagen del dragón, no la real. A partir de entonces, fue conocido por provocar el dicho popular: La adoración de los dragones (葉公好龍) de Yè. Cuando una persona dice que les gusta algo, pero en realidad sólo le gusta su imagen, o dice una cosa y hace otra, se puede utilizar este dicho, por ejemplo cuando alguien dice que “disfruta” del otoño. La emoción del otoño no es alegría, es tristeza. Por supuesto, todas las emociones son para ser vividas con moderación. La importancia de esto es que sirve para decir que es normal que uno sienta una ligera tristeza durante la estación del otoño. La sensación de una falsa alegría podría no permitir que el corazón descansara, lo que llevaría al agotamiento en invierno.
Translated from Chinese by Dr. Chandler Stump (https://es.linkedin.com/in/chandlerstump)
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- Producer22/09/2016Daddy"Greater things are believed of those who are absent." TacitusI didn’t know much about my father until I was 18 years old. I knew who is was, but his life was a mystery. I lived most of my life up until that point, where my mother was home with...
- Producer28/08/2016The Cave In The BasementNovember 1978, somewhere in Brittany it is about 6.30 in the evening, it’s dark it’s cold and I am sobbing. I have some difficulty to come to terms or comprehend how I have ended up in the basement of the 5 storey building surely a 10-year-old...
Comments30/08/2016 #25 Pascal Derrien#24 thanks @Laura Mikolaitis not sure originally I could or should write about 4 to 5 topics this year that were very personal, in the end besides the need to position it as a sharing excercise and not self pity it seems to have spoken to many if I judge by the overwhelming messages I got off line. Life is not perfect but great we only have one anyway so better get on with it :-) u just to get rid of excess baggage evrery now and again :-)29/08/2016 #24 Laura MikolaitisVery powerful and personal story @Pascal Derrien. Thank you for sharing it. I can't begin to understand your circumstances and clearly it is something that caused you pain but your openness and ability to talk about your childhood experience here in this forum demonstrates your strength and character. It is clear that you didn't let your pain define you and instead have channeled it so that you can pave the way for others to feel more comfortable sharing their stories. None of us are immune to life's imperfections but sharing our stories certainly offers hope and perspective. I'm glad that you shared yours here.29/08/2016 #22 Vincent AndrewWhat you went through is difficult, no make that very very difficult for any child Pascal. I am sorry you went through this but your story is also one of being in control of yourself at such a young age. Faced with adversity, you looked for solace in a place only you could call home. You found solace in your books. You also had some good times with your father when you played soldiers with him. Thank you for sharing your story.29/08/2016 #21 Mark AnthonyDear Pascal , there may be many of us with heavy backgrounds and experiences due to the horrors of alcohol use however I don't think that makes one persons any less, or more,heavier than anothers. Each individual experience , I think, is unique and the impact it has is incomparable . Thank you for sharing this story as, for me, it is inspiring. #1129/08/2016 #17 Lisa Gallagher@Pascal Derrien, thank you so much for sharing your story. I'm sure it's a story you don't share often because it's painful. No shame, just pain. I'm sure your story is much deeper than what you shared since I know someone personally who grew up with an Alcoholic dad and step mother who was both co-dependent and an enabler. I would hear one horrid story and possibly years later when I didn't think the stories could get worse, this person would let another story slip. Maybe that's half the battle, getting it out there and validating your own pain which is healthy. I'm so sorry this happened to you. I can't imagine the fear, I'm glad you were left alone (even though that had to be uncomforting too) in your 'cave,' your 'safe place'29/08/2016 #15 Deb HelfrichYou captured this nook of your childhood with such a vivid story that it seems to me as if I watched it unfold, @Pascal Derrien. Masterful memory-surfing. That knack for creating your own security has likely helped you make your own path one of clearing the brush for others.29/08/2016 #14 Aurorasa Sima#12 You are allowed to suffer. Pain is not rational like that. Yes, it can help to put things into perspective sometimes. But even the compassionate ones - we´re selfish creatures and suffering because of the biggest current problem. That doesn´t mean we don´t care about others. There is a certain amount of "base" pain. We will not hurt double as much or half as much if something that can be rationally described as "double as bad" or "half as bad" happens. If a child gets veggies instead of the treat it was hoping for, it´ll cry as hard no matter if it´s least favorite or 10th least favorite veggie is being served. You don´t have to deserve to hurt by being the most hurt person in the world.
- Producer21/09/2016The Honey Hive: Lesson 2. Balance and imbalance. Motivational Reading.Balance: so easy and difficult at the same time. The honey hive: How to achieve easily and with happiness what you wish for. Practical course.Storytelling is one of the most powerful techniques we have as humans to communicate and motivate. So, let...
Comments21/09/2016 #7 Deb HelfrichYep, @Anna Valadzko, such a hard skill to learn, but one which is crucial. The world is full of people paid large salaries to distract us from our own priorities. We must learn to balance important information coming in via our senses and disregard the storms that are merely passing fury, then we can shine our light with clarity into the world. It is perhaps interesting that we tend to lose our sense of physical balance as we age - perhaps we lose focus on paying attention to the functioning of our bodies.
- Producer19/09/2016The Illusion of ProximitySocial Media is a strange beast and to me it is a bit like giving an oxygen mask to a fish at times. When I was thinking about this unstructured article I was thinking about the illusion of immediacy, the topic being social media I realized I...
Comments20/09/2016 #37 Mark AnthonyDare I say it , there is intimacy , connectedness, which makes me think of Fractals and affinity , and relationships of an interesting, sometimes weird and bizzare , emotional nature . I never got the feeling on LinkedIn that I do on beBee and I deactivated my FB account some time ago . I guess I didn't find what I was looking for. I do think that beBee has plugged a gap , let's hope it stays that way .20/09/2016 #34 Mark AnthonyWell pascal I have been touched by your stories . In fact , you are one of the main people that inspired and helped me gain the courage to write one of ,what for me was , my first meaningful piece of writing , The Happy Boy . That , for me , was something special , cathartic , emotional and liberating .19/09/2016 #27 Lisa Gallagher#14 @Ken Boddie you so eloquently made your point and I agree with you. I have met so many beautiful, sincere and real people on here. I love reading stories about life, travel and all of you! My intentions were never to join social media for the purpose of landing a dream job, it was purely social. I'm proud to be a part of your network @Pascal Derrien and so many of you. I really think many of us make real friendships on here even if they may be virtual. Maybe we should have skype-A-thons on occasion ;-) Pascal, loved your buzz and I visit fish in the sea photos all the time LOL! Keeping it real, love it!19/09/2016 #26 Aurorasa SimaHahahaha ... did you buy it on silkroad while they were still open? The SM way of doing it would be starting a crowdfunding campaign for the app to be, I guess. Nothing is tactile that does not want to be touched. Still, that app would sell. Social sell?
I wonder how many people are like me and would not even happen on "social" media if they would not have to.19/09/2016 #18 Sara Jacobovici@Pascal Derrien, you are a genuine storyteller and this plays a key factor in my SM engagements and definitely contributes to shortening the distance. My only comment to you would be that you may want to look at, in your future post-doctoral research, the (average) age of the individuals in our groups. My bias is that as a (chronologically) mature adult I come to SM with a certain amount of knowledge and experience and language to communicate those and that makes the engagement more "real". I found it refreshingly easy to understand your Buzz, and so felt close to your writing style, images, humour, and so closer to you. Thanks Pascal, beside the learning, I also enjoyed your Buzz.19/09/2016 #17 Sara Jacobovici#14 Love your comment @Ken Boddie both what you said and how you said it. Your last line, "So if the above are signs of true proximal engagement then let's open the illusionary honey pot and celebrate in the illusion of proximity." is a real eye opener. Begs the question, what are the signs of engagement, proximal or otherwise? On a Buzz by @Fatima Williams a discussion was taking place about expectations. I think the signs are based on what we expect from engagement, especially proximal engagement, all based on previous non-SM experiences. And I think that's where the illusionary piece comes from; we project our past experiences from a non-SM environment onto a completely different environment. In spite of all of this, thanks for the opportunity to engage with you Ken. I think in your case, humour has to be on the top 10 list of signs.
- Producer14/09/2016Sunset Heralds More 'Bang for your Crater'This was our first glympse of Lake Toba, after a long day's journey from our various home bases, a fitting start to our exploration of this remote and beautiful part of North Sumatra, historic home of the now peaceful Batak people. Danau (or Lake)...
Comments18/09/2016 #46 Ken Boddie#45 Not long enough, Lisa. We had an arrangement with a local tour company, organised through one of my brothers-in-law, and had a pretty rigid itinerary with many other places in North Sumatra to visit, not to mention our own itinerary in South Sumatra, Central Java and Pulau Lombok. Hence we only had part of a day on Pulau Samosir (the island in the lake), although I could have happily stayed there a week. It appears that, back in the Hippy Days, many young foreigners used to escape to Samosir and get 'stranded' there, hiding away with the locals, playing music and partying in a haze of ..........??? Pretty tame, however, when we were there, apart from the odd back-packer. 😎 Peace, Sister! ✌️18/09/2016 #45 Lisa GallagherWhat a vacation @Ken Boddie!! Lake Toba looks breathtaking. Your travels, well I'd say you must be patient. It appears the travels along bumpy, winding roads were well worth the trip! I love your hotel, "Lake Niagara," and the resort looks beautiful. Your sister in law is so colorfully dressed, love it. How long were you here? Your photos make me want to jump right in!!17/09/2016 #42 Lada PrkicBesides your fluently written article with pictures showing the amazing allure of this unique geographical and geological wonder, I am impressed by your comment which beautifully summed up the essence of traveling: "The satisfaction I get from travel arises from the new, the strange, the different, but most of all, the people and their behaviour as individuals and in their various societies."
I most likely will never go to the Lake Toba, but I really want to travel to this part of the world and experience the new, the strange, and the different. Dear @Ken Boddie , thank you for showing us all the beauty of this journey.17/09/2016 #40 Pamela L. Williams#39 Absolutely Ken! I couldn't agree more. The more different the culture and people are from what I'm used to the more I enjoy visiting and understanding them. What I learned most in my educational and employment experiences is learning about the differences in people. Once when taking a humanities class I chose an assignment to interview Buddhist monks. I learned that those who approach a monk in a temple were to enter the room on bent knee. They told me I didn't have to since I wasn't a Buddhist but I asked them one question: Why do your followers perform this act? Their answer: It's a sign of humble respect. I entered the room on bent knee! I didn't have to be a Buddhist to show respect for their beliefs.
I love the differences in humanity, even if I don't agree with some of them, I try to respect their right to be different. Though I tend to have trouble with cultures that subjugate women. No one should be made to feel inferior because of their sex or station in life.17/09/2016 #39 Ken Boddie#38 For me, Pam, the beauty is a bonus and the icing on the cake to embellish the photos. The satisfaction I get from travel arises from the new, the strange, the different, but most of all, the people and their behaviour as individuals and in their various societies. Nothing teaches tolerance more than being a foreigner in other societies. Sure the natural beauty is awe inspiring, but the people (including their beliefs, religions, behaviours and amazing tolerance of our false misconceptions of them) are the real attraction.17/09/2016 #38 Pamela L. WilliamsIn the interview with @Donna-Luisa Eversley I said; I don't think there is anywhere I Don't want to go. This is why Ken! The natural beauty to be found throughout the world is so awe inspiring! Your photos put us there, right in the middle of what to us is a remote corner of the world. Thank you for taking us on this journey with you. If I never get to visit I can say I learned something about the Batak people and their beautiful lands.
- Producer08/09/2016The Sound of Silence: When Thoughts Consume Your ThoughtsMusic has long been a tapestry that chronicles my life -- a timeline, if your will.It's like an unending spool of thread that sews the bits and pieces of my life together. Some good, some bad.For me, nothing conjures up memories like a favorite...
Comments12/09/2016 #14 Randy KehoShe responded with a smile, which is the most I could have expected. She's mostly bedridden or in a wheelchair at best. She's been in hospice care for months, weighing maybe 80 pounds. She's a fighter, always has been, and the staff often falls victim to a punch or two on a daily basis. She doesn't like to be touched, but she needs help doing everything. They nicknamed her "Tyson," after the professional boxer.#611/09/2016 #12 Praveen Raj GullepalliArresting thoughts dear @Randy Keho...kind of an eye opener to another perspective on music too for me. Can't believe you would not turn on that music sitting right in front of the radio! I always felt music was the water that could cleanse and transform everything ...thought, mood, motive in a few minutes; but you gotta drink a bit of it first! :) I can switch off my entire thought process in a few seconds just by turning on a song...and shift into whatever mood I want to get into. I have felt healthy in the middle of a severe viral fever...forgotten the discomfort...if only for a few moments...listening to a song i like...and I suspect that it accelerates healing too! I have ignored heartache, headaches, pain of personal loss and lots more, just by immersing myself into music. It is such a fabulous escape too, come to think of it! I have even brought on depression deliberately in moments of happiness, just by listening to a particular kind of music. Such is the power of music over mood. Eating breakfast before starting for school early morning in the late seventies, in my hometown in south India...decades ago...sitting at the small table with my brothers chomping it all down...i can vividly recall the daily requests for Denver, George Baker, Tom Jones, Neil Diamond, Cliff Richard, Jimmy Cliff, Beatles, Linda Ronstadt, Olivia, Boney M, Abba...and more... on that old box Murphy Monitor! Took away the schoolboy blues! There was a smaller Philips transistor too... playing Hindi or Telugu songs for my grandma in the other room. Ahh the longing for those moments hurts! And I feel terrible about Mom...it must be so damn hard to come to terms with it...you stirred up so many memories Randy! Thank you.11/09/2016 #10 Phil FriedmanTruly terrific piece, @Randy Keho. Because you avoid celebrating your issues in the all-to-common form of emotional exhibitionism. You convey the depth of your feelings and the seriousness of the subject, not to mention your feeling toward your mom, without inviting shallow expressions of sympathy. But instead share what you've learned about copy. Well done, indeed. Sharing this now.11/09/2016 #9 Dale MastersBeing a singer/songwriter who (thankfully) was able to conquer the deep depression that fuels much our music, I can relate, @Randy Keho. Sometimes the music we write acts as a sort of bloodletting for the soul. They're purifying tears of emotional blood and sound, taking out the "old, bad" blood to make room for the nourishment every soul needs. I think it's understood only by those who have experienced the same thing. It's literally beyond words...but not outside the language of music, which is the language of the soul.09/09/2016 #6 Sara JacoboviciAn important story @Randy Keho, beautifully communicated and one that needs to be "heard". If I may suggest, from my perspective, there is a difference between not being able to hear something and silence. Mozart (don't hold the fact that he was a classical composer against him ;) said: “The music is not in the notes, but in the silence between." Nothing can take the sound of music away from you, it's always there when you can hear it and its silence.
PS Did your mother respond to hearing the Irish reels?09/09/2016 #5 Aurorasa SimaConsider me highly entertained and interested. I even learned a new word. Caca ... ca ... cacophony. I did not imagine you being a dancer. Any videos? I´ll invite you to my next webinar when I talk about the default state of the brain. It shows how depression looks in your brain and how you can work on gaining power over the single thought of darkness. Depression, Anxiety, Burnout are conditions that are visible in a brain scan. Thank you and @Lisa Gallagher for sharing and helping to raise awareness. I can imagine how much strength it takes to take care of your parents.08/09/2016 #4 Lisa Gallagher#3 Thanks @Randy Keho, it's been my hope by sharing my own personal stories that others would feel free to as well. I'm glad you shared yours! I also appreciate the fact that you were open, it does take a bit of courage. Each time I post something new, I swear I sweat bullets for a while before I finally hit post. I would love to see the photo, I bet you have many stories to tell about your mom's time as an Irish dancer. My husband's father had dementia and it was tough on the entire family. Will keep you in my thoughts (and your mom)!08/09/2016 #3 Randy KehoThank you for your reply @Lisa Gallagher#2 I tagged you because I've read your personal battles with anxiety and admire your courage to speak openly about it. I appreciate your efforts to help dispel the stigma of mental illness.
I believe I do have a black-and-white photo of mom in one of her outfits and some medals, too. The aunt who practically raised her was a dance teacher in Belfast -- very old school.08/09/2016 #2 Lisa GallagherHi @Randy Keho, thanks for tagging me. I'm really sorry to hear about your mom, dementia is tough illness to watch a loved one 'wither' away from as you put it. Keep hanging on to those happy memories, even now! I had so many wonderful memories of my mom and I can honestly say they helped me to cope when she became bedridden. I didn't realize they were helping at the time but they did. I'm also sorry you suffer from depression. I can really relate to jumping from one topic to another, the brain tends to run in circles at times, faster than the physical body. Depression is a lonely and frustrating illness. I'm glad you're able to recognize your triggers. Keep listening to the music you enjoy, even if you feel you haven't heard it- it may be helping. You are proof that we can never assume that someone lives a carefree life because you are the jokester and you have provided so many visually lovely stories. I know everyone has their battles but there are many battles that seem socially acceptable to speak of while depression and other illnesses still take a back burner to what's considered socially acceptable. I think social media is helping to change that perception, or that is my hope. I remember not that long ago, it was something people kept hush for major fear of being rejected by others who didn't understand it at all. I hope the stigma is completely gone one day because it is a medical illness. Your right- there are many positives in life and I try to hang on to those too. My kids bring me a lot of joy. I'm glad you are able to do that. Lastly, I think it's so cool that your mom was an award winning Irish dancer, are there any photos? Thanks for sharing this and love the poster, darn those voices lol.
- Producer06/09/2016That Jewish Man Who Made My Grandfather a PriestThis article was originally published on Times of IsraelI haven’t seen my grandfather for the last five years. But it wasn’t his fault. And it wasn’t my fault either. It was life and all its complexities around it.I moved away from Hungary for the...
Comments07/09/2016 #14 Virag Gulyas#13 Yes, @Ben Pinto. That era in the Easters part of Europe is something most nations would not comprehend. Things happened that for the West is only a story in history books. Hiding Jews was one such acts when you need to risk your life. But Hungarians were obliged to report and spy on other Hungarians as well. It was not only about religious freedom, but yes, it played a huge role!07/09/2016 #13 Ben PintoWe can see into a glimpse of history and wonder why so many do not realize that choice of religious freedom does not make a person. Europeans that were successful in hiding people with Jewish beliefs did so because they made a vow to themselves to never tell a soul. They could not share their secret with the closest of relatives. This was especially difficult to do if one had children. All it took for those in hiding to be caught, was your child sharing a secret with a close friend. Bless your ancestors for their compassionate humanity. Those that ask themselves WWJD can see the outcome here. Let's us not forget this concept of Freedom in the USA. Our forefathers caught for this right. Let the vetting of immigrants start with something other than their religious beliefs.06/09/2016 #9 Deb HelfrichWhat a compelling story of the twists and turns of history as they wind through your paternal lineage, @Virag Gulyas, creating both a great deal of love and a lot of torment, too. It is curious how sometimes we can care for strangers while hurting the people who are close to us and who we could so easily lift up in joy. And then because we aren't fully loved and acknowledged by our family we take that out on others in the world who are different than us.
I think tears and words are equally healing in different ways, but the spread-ability of words makes them more useful in uncovering a dose of healing for many people struggling with the tenants of the religion they were born into or unable to understand the rigidity of feeling that locks us away from members of our families.
- Producer05/09/2016September 9, 2016 Postscript: On Swimming In Poison With Horses🏊💦☠September 9, 2016 Postscript:It was interesting in and around my apartment complex during the recent great flood in Baton Rouge. The complex, located in the area where Coursey Blvd (which Intersects with Sherwood Forest Boulevard) turns into...
Comments22/10/2016 #196 jesse kaellis#195
It's like Agent Orange or something. There was an old man that played craps at the Union Plaza when I was dealing there. He would make one roll bets "on the hop" which is entirely redundant. Hard twelve on the hop. WTF? He wore these bright orange shirts and red pants. We called him Agent Orange.
Maybe you can somehow recover from your exposure. I really hope so, Gerald.17/10/2016 #193 Gerald Hecht#191 @jesse kaellis I know; but I also know what they manufacture here and what the "waste products" are; there is no medical treatment for this; but --the good thing is there is a timeframe! The "playing field" has clear boundaries ...I know the difference now between wasting time and doing something for living things that will come after me17/10/2016 #189 Gerald Hecht#188 @jesse kaellispersonal redress is criminal --the whole joint is a criminal enterprise; don't worry about me; let's fix the joint and at some point it will become noticeable that our appearance coincided with the complete disappearance of the criminals; they will all say pretty much the same thing: "it's weird --it's as if the swine just vaporized or something..."16/10/2016 #183 Gerald Hecht#182 @jesse kaellis This happens to me too; It started after I was exposed to the chemicals in the flood waters --also a tingling in my left great toe --I wonder if @Ian Weinberg has any thoughts as to possible petrochemical precursors/end-products which could be responsible?16/10/2016 #178 jesse kaellis#173
I read a book by Primo Levy, one of the most sublime of the survivor novelists; he wrote that the Hungarian Jews refused to do that work, to be Sonderkommandos and the Nazi's gassed the entire block en masse. All 400 hundred of them. Perhaps it's better to lose your life then lose your soul. I tried to watch that movie again, to watch "Son of Saul" and I couldn't even take it. I quit a third of the way through. The movie made "Shindler's List" look like some Pollyanna fairytale. Cloyingly sentimental.
- 04/09/2016Thanks @Jeffrey Strickland for taking me along on your journeys.These are the Voyages… (Part 1)www.linkedin.com “Space: the final frontier. These are the voyages of the starship Enterprise. Its continuing mission: to explore strange new worlds, to seek out new life and new civilizations, to boldly go where...
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Comments02/09/2016 #6 AnonymousYour intentions are so pure, I am at once, drawn to and awed by the essence of your journey: "I share this for the same reason I share all my posts - to Inspire, Motivate and Demonstrate that there is always Hope and through Loving Kindness we Humans can rewrite our own Stories." It doesn't get any better than that dear Gary and I thank you for all that you are and all that you are doing!
- Producer30/08/2016The WellingtonsI was in such admiration of my new wellington boots, never in my wildest dreams I thought I would own a pair of Aigle. I was 10 and half on this wet March 1979 when my auntie took me shopping to what was to me a high end shop and 90 francs was...
Comments02/09/2016 #23 Praveen Raj Gullepalli@Pascal Derrien...Am glad that the thought of Grandma going after you for violating a house rule made you shout WE SHOULD GO BACK ;) These memories become the true tests of forgiveness eventually. With the Wellingtons reminding you of it all, even after you wear them down. Great recap!01/09/2016 #18 Pascal Derrien#15 ah thanks @Dean Owen, I am not the real mc coy but doing my best to only be my best :-) I don't really benchmark myself with others some had easier lives and that's great but I don't envy them so had far more difficult paths and I don't envy them either. It came back to me recently when I went to buy a pair of wellies for my daughter recently pink with some white spots if you want to know ......01/09/2016 #15 Dean OwenThank you for sharing this. I had bookmarked it when you published it but had no time to read this week. Glad I did. How often do we recall chaos through something tangible, something real, in this case a pair of Wellies that kept you grounded. Loved the storytelling. These events makes us what we are, and in your case it is obviously a good thing!31/08/2016 #11 Lisa GallagherWow @Pascal Derrien, that had to be a hard decision? Or did the emotions of your dad seem real to you and you truly wanted to go back? I bet you felt just like the little boy you should have for that time you spent with your Aunts and Grandparents. Actually, you probably felt like royalty. Agree, no child should have to see or experience what you did. Too many do and it makes me so sad. I thought you were going to leave us with a cliff hanger ;-) Glad you didn't.31/08/2016 #9 Franci Eugenia HoffmanPowerful story @Pascal Derrien. Life is so different in so many ways when we were in our childhood. There were times when I was a child and I had to make a decisions, one of which involved my health. I was 12 or so and had strep throat. My parents were practicing Christian Scientists and did not want to call a doctor. I pitched such a fit, they broke down and called a doctor. Good thing because I was on the verge of pneumonia. After that they still practiced their religion, however, they also practiced common sense. Sometimes a child's decision is pure and simple and not complicated by suggestions of others.31/08/2016 #7 Vincent AndrewWhat a powerful story Pascal. Vivid memories of yesteryear. Wellington boots brought you much cheer despite life's setbacks. To be asked for a decision at such a young age, a decision that could impact you both is truly in my view a courageous one and not for the faint hearted. Thanks again for sharing this.30/08/2016 #6 Pascal Derrien#5 some decisions are defining moments I suppose. I was not taken aback by the enormity of the ask but probably more aware that I had to get it right for others than just me i changed my mind at least 5 times in a space of 2 mns...... in the end I made the right choice I believe ☺ thanks so much for dropping by and finding the right words Mark30/08/2016 #5 Mark Anthony"some mention of forgiveness and giving it another try" I would think this is a lot for a ten year old to have to take in. Having said that, children seem great at unconditional love and acceptance. Or, perhaps they don't always have a choice and just adapt and survive because they love, want it to be better, are optimistic and wanting.Great traits that, for some, are lost in adulthood. Thank you @Pascal Derrien for sharing such a story.
- Producer30/08/2016Learning with Vincent Andrewhttps://unsplash.com/@todddesantis What makes a man? What he thinks, talks about, and writes about. The first time we “met “ on beBee, and upon knowing Vincent Andrew was from Brunei, I...
Comments31/08/2016 #9 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD#8 "My role model has got to be my dad. He was a hardworking and unpretentious man. He cared for us kids and gave us a good education with the money he earned with his hands." I haven't heard anyone use the phrase, "Money earned with his own hands.." in a while. Us daughters adore our fathers, and clearly he was both a man of a few words and a family man, too ~hence you carry on to the next generation the values. @Sue Chien Lee @Vincent Andrew great interview & quotes, both!31/08/2016 #5 Vincent Andrew#2 Yes Deb. The world today is so different to the one I experienced as a kid and as you say 'childhood in the 60s and 70s may have more in common than those today'. I admit I don't know everything about my own culture. That's why it is so fascinating to listen to the elders.31/08/2016 #3 Lisa GallagherWhat a great interview @Sue Chien Lee with @Vincent Andrew! I really enjoyed reading more about you Vincent. The words of wisdom your dad gave you were wonderful, I particularly loved this, "“Anang nitih jako orang” – “Don’t listen to what people say”. This has to be understood in context. They explain to me that sometimes when people give advice, it is not always given in your best interests. They say that I need to think for myself about what is good for me." Isn't that the truth, we find out so much more and make better decisions (or learn from the decisions that weren't that great) by thinking for ourselves.30/08/2016 #2 Deb HelfrichReally interesting interview with @Vincent Andrew, @Sue Chien Lee thanks for taking the initiative. The Dayak quotes are full of wisdom and it is striking to think that in most places around the world childhoods in the 60's and 70's might have more in common than those today when we are a much more interconnected globe. Without gadgets, kids could invent very similar modes of running around and exploring the world, whereas so much of life is now isolated and inside. Thanks again for giving me a glimpse into Brunei.