- Producer15/01/2017Shadow BoyNot always easy to make new acquaintances when you blow in a hood where you don’t know anybody. Sometimes you get picked on because you have a different accent or because people don’t warm easily to novelty. Now I had become a master at integrating...
Comments16/01/2017 #17 Pascal Derrien#16 many thanks for reading this @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher, yes indeed we moved so much that it took me a while to lower my guard and then I did...... :-) if anything else and with the other adult stuff going on in the background at that time I suppose I have developed a good survival instinct :-)16/01/2017 #16 Lisa 🐝 GallagherI was so excited reading about your friend Ariel and the shadow game. Such innocence of childhood and how easily we could amuse ourselves FOR FREE, even! Then I read you moved, lost your good friend, and felt so alone with the exception of your shadow @Pascal Derrien. Oh the trials and tribulations of growing up. We either grow stronger or cave in from our experiences. Thanks for sharing!16/01/2017 #15 Pascal Derrien#12 thanks @Wayne Yoshida I have turned down opportunities in Singapore and Seattle partly because I have moved all my life and I am tired of it but also because I did not have the heart to uproot my eldest in particular. Funny you mentioned social media a group of friends from my late teenage years have retraced me 7 months s ago and the 10 of us have been having great time at sharing stories and catching up since :-)16/01/2017 #13 Ken BoddieThese are life's exhilirations and gut wrenching inevitabilities that form our future relationships with our chosen circle. The unexpected highs and lows of life, and how we accept them or resist, are our flexible character-moulds. Moon shadows can also. be our friends, Pascal.16/01/2017 #12 Wayne YoshidaGreat friendship story, Pascal. Although my family did not move around too much, the timing was awful. I moved away from all of my friends in the middle of my high school junior year. I lost touch with most of them, but managed to stay in touch with one or two to this day, with common interests [electronics and cars] being the most solid connection. (Nice reference to "affinity networking, eh? Looks like I have been practicing beBee when I was a kid.)
I guess kids these days have social media to stay in touch.15/01/2017 #3 Lisa VanderburgForgive my clumsiness, but this has brought out emotional yearnings in me: I am heartbroken at your boyhood loss; it is such a cruelty to move (particularly a solo) kids around like that and rarely do parents truly realize the cost. The child defends the parent. Like you, I was a 'transient' and couldn't connect - knew I was out before I was in. I ask your forgiveness because you don't want sympathy - you have delivered (in 4 minutes) the raw honesty of needing normal connection and learning to live without it. Shared.
- Producer09/01/2017The Little Prince sheds light on social networks From solitude in the middle of the desert, in his meeting with Little Prince, Antoine de Saint Exupéry took us on his journey, when a plane crashed in the middle of the Sahara. This discovery of new beings happens to all of us when we are immersed...
Comments10/01/2017 #12 Lisa 🐝 GallagherWhat a great inference you drew with the story about the little prince and Social Media @Alban JARRY. This stood out, "From the imagery of this author so many situations arise that seem so real in today’s world that the Little Prince undoubtedly gives us the keys to better discover others and deepen our introspection." That is one of the beautiful wonders of utilizing social media , deeper introspection by means of learning from others, respect of others and passions or goals we may share which can lead to professional relationships and/or deep friendships as well. Patience is a virtue. This story could be descriptive of beBee and its philosophies too! Cc: @Javier 🐝 beBee @Milos Djukic @Deb 🐝 Helfrich09/01/2017 #3 Jared 🐝 WieseI absolutely loved this post!
Incredibly insightful themes:
- Taming the social fox;
- Budding relationships beyond our neighbors;
- geographers of the eccentric.
"It is these unexpected discoveries that await the user at the bend of these crossroads proposed by the the giant social networks. They let the imagination roam while offering reality at every moment."
Merci, M @Alban JARRY, pour un reseau de connection, tout pres.
- Producer06/01/2017Parents Live Forever Only in Our Heart ❤️ Losing my parents to old age makes me realize that I'm getting older and one day may face the consequences of living in a retirement or nursing home.I visited my Mom this past weekend. She will celebrate her 92nd birthday next week. My dad passed...
Comments07/01/2017 #17 Antoinette Capasso-Backdahl#14 Jim, I concur totally. My mom also wants to be in a place now. She changed her mind. There will always be a margin of error and there will always be a need for homes. Which means there will always be a need to be mindful of how we and our parents and children plan for the future. I hope you don't think I directed my comments at you sir. I was just giving people who may be looking into finding a home some perspective.
Lots of things have evolved in home health care since I was a striper. I worked for the first charting software company. My job was a beta tester and I installed the networks for home health agencies and county health departments for this software. I had to train the staff and travel in a five state area. Things have evolved in that arena as well. One thing is the way they train nurses and aides is much better. I hope we continue to evolve in the compassionate care approach. I love the fact that they require background checks now. They should also require psych evals. but not until the evals evolve. There are some ways you can test an environment before placing your loved ones there. Look for how the staff is treated and if it is a team environment. The less ego the better.
When I think back at how hospitals/institutions were in the 70's vs now... we've come a long way baby! Still much room for improvement. MN has been sited for some horrible things. Oregon too. We need to stop putting violent people who should be in a secure facility in with vulnerable adults. Another thing to consider. Some people don't have a choice. But for those who do, these are some of the things to consider.07/01/2017 #14 Jim Cody 🐝#9 @Antoinette Capasso-Backdahl I agree, There's no place like home but unfortunately under some circumstances it's for the betterment of those involved. However my mom lives in a great place and she has excellent care and many grandchildren and great grandchildren who visit her often.
She actually requested to be placed there and has a peace of mind knowing that she will be taken care of.07/01/2017 #11 Vincent AndrewI visit my mum once a week on a Sunday after church. She loves to meet her grandkids. She loves to cook for them and tells them stories. She is a wonderful woman. I am grateful for her and thank God for her. Tomorrow I'll be meeting her and as always I will kiss her on the head as a way to say my thanks and my love.06/01/2017 #9 Antoinette Capasso-BackdahlRecently I worked in a place where I can tell they missed their family so much. I would over hear them speak about how their children do not even visit them. This home had a mixture of independent living, assisted living and memory care. One gal that worked there had the nerve to call them vultures after the guy from the food shelf brought in some goodies for them. That women was also my shift lead in the dinner. She mocked and harassed here coworkers. I finally walked out because of her. Too much nepotism in that place.
The system is NO SURROGATE for family! But if you must choose one, choose one that does not have a huge attrition rate on staffing. That is a big red flag. No, it's not because it's the kind of work it's because it's a toxic corporate culture. People with a heart refuse to stay working for places that are not caring for people properly.
Another place, the smell of ammonia was so bad... Day care providers would never get away with not changing... ok... I've said enough.
It's cheaper to build them a tiny home and bring in people anyway.06/01/2017 #8 Antoinette Capasso-BackdahlI have worked in a couple and I would say in a nut shell THERE IS NO PLACE LIKE HOME. Thank God they are requiring back ground checks now. I remember my mother making me promise her that she would never be sent to one. When I was a candy striper, I lost my favorite gal one night when someone else was charged with feeding her. She choked to death. I was not mature enough to handle it then and I ended up leaving my job because of it. I was just a teenager. I also remember they charged me with one gal that was three times my size and I actually had a near miss of a catastrophe getting her on the potty. Then there was Ms. Presley, yes, that Presley. Elvis' Aunt. A fisty one with all the spunk. But she was not being well taken care of either. She was not on my rounds but I loved to talk to her. My favorite was the WWI vet. He would take me to battles and sometimes tell me to duck for incoming. I love them all so much. My favorite was when the ladies would do a strip show for the men and the men would get all excited and I would have to watch the staff try to tell them they cannot do that sort of thing. I would just giggle at how much fun they had driving the staff mad. lol06/01/2017 #6 Gert Scholtz@Jim Cody 🐝 Visiting my mother recently I realised anew how fragile life becomes at an old age. Her mind is as sharp as ever, she reads a book a week, walks and gardens every day and still has a good circle of friends - yet we know her remaining time with us is becoming less. Thanks Jim for this poignant reminder to "Visit your parents often and say I love you. It just may be your last one."06/01/2017 #4 Paul Walters@Jim Cody 🐝 Interesting Jim. My wife is a lecturer in cross cultural studies and teaches at various universities in Australia. On aging parents Indonesians are mortified at the thought of placing them in care when they are in their dotage. The culture here is for children to share the duties of caring for parents at home unlike we in the west who often 'dump' mum and dad into places with terrible names like "golden meadows or Tranquil Gardens " Life is a bit cruel is it not when we come full circle and become totally dependent .... it sucks really!
- Producer03/01/2017Frozen In Time"Cut the shit Bill...Wake up! It's Christmas and all your kids are here!"That's my dads favorite nurse Kathy. She knows just how to get a response out of him...however small. I can almost see him smiling and thinking, "Who the hell invited you!" The...
Comments04/01/2017 #1 Sara JacoboviciDear @Cyndi wilkins, I am reaching out across cyberspace to give you a hug. I am blown away by you...your ability to write and communicate the difficult "stuff", your feelings, insights and smarts! From one daughter to another, from heart to heart, I will add my voice to those who have already written you that you have honoured your father through the telling of this story. Time is always mentioned at times like this and so it is. From your title and throughout your story, you weave time through. The one that is staying with me right now is, ....these "moments" are all lived simultaneously in the libraries of our minds. Time itself is all "ONE" moment."
Wishing you a time to grieve, Cyndi. I don't doubt that you have the strength.
- 01/01/2017Great comment by @CityVP 🐝 Manjit to a great story by @Lisa Vanderburg: "This is good and I would think even more exhilarating performed as a monologue direct to the grandmother 'Granny Grim'. Beyond the woven language, this really brought home the beauty of memorable characters. In the homogenized existence of the cultural fabric of modern media, we look for personality drawn in medium that do exist in our own environs. What we have not learned to do is capture the richness of detail of the most unique personalities either known to us, or we have known - or even that exist in our imaginative flow of storytelling.
The staged play is already made in the oven of art, and we can pay the admission price to that which is shared to all - but there is great dimension in the stories that are most personal to us - and great credit to those who have noticed life playing out like this in their own life. It means we noticed the living, we utilized that which nature equipped our own faculties, and in that exists the kind of originality that we may not find with a public admission ticket. I know that @Sara Jacobovici is a Trekkie, so she will enjoy this well beyond the Spock tribute. I enjoyed the DNA in this story - well beyond anything replicate and exponentially personal from the mind of a skilled storyteller."T'was the last night of the old year; a tale of nether-worldswww.bebee.com I hold the concept of joyous abandon of all rationality towards New Year's Eve with some foreboding - arm's length on the end of a pike would...
Comments01/01/2017 #1 CityVP 🐝 ManjitI love the hive name "Only Humans Tell Stories". This is where I distinguish stories from dance. So many life forms dance and as animals evolve they become more tribal, but at the part where the tribal can relate stories, from this point there is this uniqueness we refer to as humanity. This is the point where evolution takes us into the human.
Animals also make machines and the Spiders Web is an incredible piece of machinery. Our tribal nature may identity with machines but again how we evolve as a human being is recognizing what in the creation of advanced machines allows us to be more human.
The capacity of our humanity is a pure unadulterated appreciation of life and the gifts of nature, and our evolution into becoming human beings. We can appreciate our animal being, we can appreciate the being of machine but it is the whole which we are a part of which defines our humanity and not the destruction of that wholeness.
Storytelling is not necessarily a human act, for our tribal behaviour can use stories for nefarious intent - but at the level of being a human being, this gift of storytelling is ours to advance humanity or waste and in this regard nature has the final say whether humanity evolves or is just another piece of evolution, in a planet that has a beginning and an end.
Maybe the end point of our intelligence is to send out life-giving properties into the universe, that become the ingredients to new planets, but time is so huge in scale, we can focus on the story of humanity as it is now, without any worry or tribal stories about the end of time. If humans only tell stories then this is a living pathway to our collective humanity.
- 12/12/2016Alon Cassuto's story is worth reading.A Story Worth Telling... Why leaders need to share stories.www.linkedin.com When I was eleven years old, I flew alone from Tel Aviv to Rome to spend the summer with my grandparents. My grandfather drove for three hours from our family home in Tuscany to pick me up. He...
- 09/12/2016Sharing the gift of @Sarah Elkins' story.It's All Part of the Adventurewww.linkedin.com Stranded in the Philadelphia Airport I'm sorry, it's highly unlikely you'll get home to Montana today. All of your flights were canceled because of the snow storm. I burst into tears. Highly...
- 08/12/2016"...sifting through wreckage of her childhood, and using her creativity to help her channel the hurt and the pain." Bravo to Sheri Heller and all!Remembrances of My Lost Motherwww.linkedin.com
- 30/11/20162 Tips for Writing LinkedIn Posts that People Will Like (and Share)www.inc.com Want to write LinkedIn posts that people actually read--and share? This is what one LinkedIn Influencer suggests you...
- Producer29/11/2016A Short StoryMy father had to deal with “being let go” in 1965. I had to deal with “being let go” in 2001. The corporate culture may have looked different but it is only a variation on the same theme; losing your job. In today’s corporate culture, the system...
Comments06/12/2016 #17 Sara Jacobovici#15 Thank you @Mohammed Sultan for your contribution. I would like to highlight 2 points you make: 1. Investing; "Beside investing in saving money, people should also think of investing in their emotional life...They should invest in something that makes them feel good about selves and make them ready for work." And 2. "dignity". We can't always depend on others to be treated with dignity but you remind us that dignity needs to start from ourselves. In this way, we posses it and so our dignity can't be taken away by someone else.05/12/2016 #15 Mohammed Sultan@ Sara Jacobovici.It's a creative short story on short-life work.Two messages behind your story,one for the employers who don't care about the loss of the professional dignity of their employees and the second for the employees who lost their jobs because of the early retirement.To the employers I would say; before you push people to early retirement,you should think of how to ensure that they get retired with dignity by reaping the benefits of their short- life work.And for the employees the message is; how they can accumulate the remains of their personal dignity by thinking of savings.Savings will be a crucial investment in what's remained and help a rapid bounce back from the shock of the early retirement. Beside investing in saving money,people should also think of investing in their emotional life by seeking self-renewal and social support;why not they devote their free time to something better than merely resort to their comfort zone,where the monster of early retirement ever grow.They should invest in something that makes them feel good about selves and make them ready for work.05/12/2016 #13 Alan CullerWhat a poignant story @Sara Jacobovici you have certainly captured all the emotions that are intertwined between work and self worth. I was fired once -it turned out to be one of the best events of my life -another door and a much more exciting one opened -I also quit and left the same day -tantamount to getting fired -which also turned out well. These taught me -I will survive. I work for myself now so on alternative days I have the worst boss ever and the best boss ever. My self is still too wrapped up in what I do, but at least every other day I get to do it for the best boss ever.
Thanks for sharing this story you have a gift at capturing emotion in a few lines. Keep writing. And thank you.
Alan05/12/2016 #11 Lisa 🐝 GallagherGreat story @Sara Jacobovici. I think so many people do intertwine their work identity with their personal identity. I remember when I was new to the town I live in so many women would ask me "what I do for a living or what my husband did for a living?" I found that question to be so shallow. I joined women's groups and one in particular- a mom's club was so snobby and I was asked that question more than often than "how are you, it's nice to meet you.' Because I was new here I felt I had nothing to lose when I was asked for the umpteenth time where my husband worked- I replied, "He's a garbage man." The look on the woman's face was priceless. Not that there is anything wrong with being a garbage collector but in their minds it was a lowly job. I never went back to another club meeting after that day. There is so much more to a person than their title. Losing a job is never easy and harder for some depending on their age, so having a network of friends who care about 'you, the person,' is so vital.
- Producer28/11/2016Just Thinking out loud - Control Random ThoughtsBlogging has been for me, a way to share as much as I know with the rest of the world. These are my thoughts and examples from my own experiences, so I guess you can say - Dwordslayer shares a real person!There are days I need...
Comments18/12/2016 #49 jesse kaellis#27
Hi Donna-Luisa, I was in Mexico for a month doing a medical tourism thing that didn't involve much tourism. I've been back since December 10th and beginning a slow, protracted recovery. Thanks for the knock - knock and thanks for your story which I enjoyed reading.03/12/2016 #48 Laura MikolaitisI love the random thoughts that you shared here @Donna-Luisa Eversley. Sometimes, the random thoughts can be the best fuel for our fire.
Some days it is difficult to accept that there are things we can't control. That's why it is important to enact our gift of choice; especially when the out of control things can seem overwhelming.
It's taken me a while ton fully grasp the concept but I am better at it now. Each day is an opportunity to exercise our ability to choose - to decide whether we will make the best of a bad day or make the worst of it.
I enjoyed reading this, Donna. Thanks so much for sharing.29/11/2016 #38 Donna-Luisa Eversley#20 @Sara Jacobovici, thank you ..wow, when I read this, you got the weepy emotional blast in my eyes 😉😘 ...it is the truth of music and rythmn ..I am happy it resonates with you so much. As soon as I draw on the music my entire person responds. It is like a conductor bringing the sounds into a crescendo. Controlling emotions need that understanding of self to create harmony for self.29/11/2016 #37 Donna-Luisa Eversley#19 #hugs right back at you #babydoll @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher..
🐝🐝🐝🌹🌹🌹 Thankfully some of us are on Facebook or I would have been in a desert. 😂..glad to be back. I do have some stuff I've written.. will try to publish, but seems quite sad, not happy simply a difficult time with less light and the weepy willows.
Thanks for reading.29/11/2016 #35 Donna-Luisa Eversley#17 @Max🐝 J. Carter thank you...yes, storytelling is a part of the healing process which is powerful. It is the feel of the music which makes the story flow , making a melody which makes a whole lot more sense than life on its own sometimes 😉..thank you for your beautiful supportive words 🐝🐝🌻🌻🌻29/11/2016 #31 🐝 Fatima Williams#1 Aww ♡@Donna-Luisa Eversley I've missed you . Awesome that your back and buzzing again my dear. Your buzzes are music to the ears. This is a sensational buzz with some great takeaways. Everyone has a song for every situation we just have to sing out loud and let the music fill our lives. Buzzon dear and welcome back to beBeeland.🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗😇🤗🤗🤗🤗29/11/2016 #29 Pamela 🐝 WilliamsI really like this comment Ken. Sometimes you just can't play it safe, you need some adventure, to try new things, to speak out when things go awry. For now it is still some of the greatest freedoms and gifts we have; free will and free speach. The Internet has given us the ability to reach a tremendous audience and as long as we stay tactful and factual great things can be accomplished. Ain't no mountain high enough! Ain't no valley low enough! #28
- Producer22/11/2016The Spectrum of HumanityWhat do Jews think about Jesus?He asked me as innocently as a college freshman at a small, Jesuit school could ask. It caught me a little off guard.What do ALL Jews think of Jesus?It was puzzling to me that he would think ALL people of any...
Comments28/11/2016 #30 Sarah Elkins#17 You hit the nail on the head, @Sara Jacobovici, I'd be willing to say that the vast majority of hate is based in fear. And thank you for that wonderful share and comment. I love our spectrum of humanity. Even the people who are horrible to me teach me something!28/11/2016 #29 Sarah Elkins#19 Unfortunately, @Ali Anani, that doesn't surprise me at all. I have similar stories from early in my time here in Montana, and from my travel experiences. What you say here is exactly right, we must connect one-to-one to change the dynamic. And it helps to be a good ambassador for our people, speaking and educating rather than being insulted and defensive.28/11/2016 #27 Sarah Elkins#25 Oh dear, @Nicole Chardenet, I know exactly what you're talking about in terms of it being hard to forgive the chronically and willfully stupid. I call it willful ignorance and have a really hard time with it myself. The reason I've been able to look past that issue with some people is that I realize that without talking about it, without having that dialog, the people who voted without the intention of exacerbating hate, fear, and bigotry, we are truly lost. Those who were more intentional with their votes are a lost cause.
I agree that asking what Jews think about Jesus is a totally fair question, it's the way he asked, as if all Jews would believe the same thing about Jesus. Many Jews fall into the category your mother described, and many do not. Just like some Jews keep kosher, others do not. The best question that is consistently asked by the students I encounter each year is this: "What makes the Jewish belief so different from the Christian belief." And my answer is that practicing Jews are still waiting for the Messiah, while Christians believe he has already been here. (Notice I said "practicing" Jews, as opposed to all Jews.)
Thanks for that great comment, it made me clarify why I responded that way to the student's question.28/11/2016 #25 Nicole ChardenetAsking what Jews think about Jesus is a fair enough assessment. It could be interpreted as perhaps the 'party line', with or without a Pope or other centralized figure. When I was a kid, growing up in a Christian family, my mother said that Jews believed Jesus existed but wasn't a Saviour, but that he was a great teacher. I actually cleave toward that view more myself now, rather than the Christian one...but then again, I haven't been Christian in many years.
As for not judging people en masse, easier said than done sometimes. I find myself struggling with the anger at people who elected a total asshat for world leader and put the rest of us in danger as well. That's not judging someone on biology; that's judging them on their unwillingness to take a real look at what they were voting for. It was eye-opening going to the States for Thanksgiving; it because quite clear that it wasn't just uneducated, chronically unemployed rednecks who hadn't been paying attention during the election campaign.
Harder to forgive, sometimes, the chronically and wilfully stupid.28/11/2016 #24 Julio Angel Lopez LopezGreat article, we can only contribute a little more, we are still evolving. https://www.bebee.com/producer/@julio-angel-lopez-lopez/una-teoria-sobre-la-evolucion-humana-a-theory-about-human-evolution27/11/2016 #21 Lisa 🐝 GallagherThat's the second time I watched that video @Sarah Elkins and it still brings tears to my eyes. If only... most people would realize we are all connected in one way or another, we'd have a more humane world. We are humans, we are not our religion or our designated ethnicity. One day I hope that prejudice and biases end... that's my hope! It sure will be a better world when that time comes. I wish it would happen in my lifetime.27/11/2016 #19 Ali Anani@Sarah Elkins- I experienced what you experienced when I first went to the UK to do my PhD. As an Arab I was mocked. It took me three months before people accepted me as a non-conforming Arab to what impressions they had about Arabs. People tend to generalize and extend their conclusions linearly. I agree with your post. I find your writing "When we paint an entire community with the same, broad brush, we miss incredible opportunities to learn, to grow, and to make connections with each other. The only way to heal our fractured communities is to care about each individual we interact with, and avoid making assumptions". I believe this is the only way.
Mind you when my elder brother went to study his undergraduate studies in the USA he was asked to show "his tail". Some students believed that Arabs have tails. It is true. However; it is our actions that may change those impressions as my brother and I did.27/11/2016 #17 Sara JacoboviciAnother work of art produced by an artist story teller @Sarah Elkins. Beautifully written, beautifully told. Thank you Sarah. You write, "The spectrum of humanity is always my first priority." Agreed. I find beauty in the spectrum. Although I am always moved when I hear John Lennon's Imagine, it's the idea of hope that moves me. I don't want a world where we are all the same. Our challenge is to allow the differences to enable us to grow as humans, not to negate us. You write, "When we paint an entire community with the same, broad brush, we miss incredible opportunities to learn, to grow, and to make connections with each other." 100%! I regret to say that that brush is dipped in fear; for some reason we are made to feel that differences are a threat. It's individual behaviors, both verbal and non-verbal, which hold the potential of threat, not our differences.
@Ali Anani and I spent some time last evening (our time) in a synchronicity loop. I open up your buzz this morning and feel like I have fallen right back into that loop. You write, "The students laughed uncomfortably. I explained why that story was important in our discussion". I have recently shared the following video which I think greatly supports your invaluable message. Thanks again Sarah.https://www.ted.com/talks/chimamanda_adichie_the_danger_of_a_single_story?utm_source=facebook.com&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=tedspr26/11/2016 #16 Sarah Elkins#8 @Dean Owen, thank you for the comment. When I notice an immediate response to a person, I dig in to figure out whether it's truly intuition or bias. You're so right, it's human to make a snap judgment - and being introspective about those snap judgments helps us grow as humans.25/11/2016 #14 Mohammed SultanVery impressive @Sarah Elkins.God gave us the gift of life and honored us as humans and let us decide how to live well.Only wise people regardless of their religious devotion know well that a life is worth living when we live it for him.There's only one fact ,but can be interpreted in different ways and different manners because we each receive different "Light" from the same source.Because we receive the same message differently ,we have different and enduring cultures,not related to our DNA but to the paths we chose.Everyone has his own light and his own path and can see and think best within this context.25/11/2016 #13 Jared 🐝 WieseTweeted:
The Spectrum of Humanity @sarahelkins "Are you able to truly judge ALL Americans based on.. handful of experiences?" https://www.bebee.com/producer/@sarah-elkins/the-spectrum-of-humanity
- 25/11/2016A great story teller telling a great story. A must hear, especially for the beBee community.Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie: The danger of a single story | TED Talk | TED.comwww.ted.com Our lives, our cultures, are composed of many overlapping stories. Novelist Chimamanda Adichie tells the story of how she found her authentic cultural voice -- and warns that if we hear only a single story about another person or country, we risk a...
Comments25/11/2016 #6 Deb 🐝 HelfrichI have read her novel "Americanah" and it is a fascinating look into the disconnect that Africans feel as they confront African-American culture.
I would also love to urge anyone who has found themselves equating internet scammers with Nigerian princes to watch this talk - it is a damaging stereotype.
And to tell a personal story, I have to credit books with the fact that my freshmen year African roommate, who was from Ghana, did not have to bunk with someone who had no African stories of real people.
I want to challenge us all, let's ask people about their stories, rather than make generalized assumptions.25/11/2016 #4 Sara Jacobovici@Harvey Lloyd wrote:
"This video really does share the forest of human existence so well.
The forest is full of many trees and each tells us a story. In today's narrative, it would appear, we overlook many trees of the human existence. We seek out those trees that offer us a dramatic, emotional view rather than the typical.
The 80/20 rule is alive and well. The 20 describes the 80. A biased story or narrative that ensnares our imagination."25/11/2016 #2 Ali AnaniGreat and thank you my friend @Harvey Lloyd for tagging me. I am going to watch now.
I have just published a buzz dedicated to you. I hope it is worthy. I strongly invite dear @Sara Jacobovici to read as I belive it shall help her with further developing the movement equation.
https://www.bebee.com/producer/@ali-anani/conscious-and-subconscious-questions25/11/2016 #1 Harvey Lloyd@Ali Anani this video shared by @Sara Jacobovici really does share the forest of human existence so well i wanted to tag you.
The forest is full of many trees and each tells us a story. In today's narrative, it would appear, we overlook many trees of the human existence. We seek out those trees that offer us a dramatic, emotional view rather than the typical.
The 80/20 rule is alive and well. The 20 describes the 80. A biased story or narrative that ensnares our imagination.
I enjoyed this talk and sense it is relevant even within America.
- 22/11/2016As a confessed bookaholic I loved seeing this. Enjoy!Ten of the world’s most beautiful bookshopswww.bbc.com From an Argentinian theatre and a Dutch church to an underground car park in China, BBC Culture picks the loveliest bookstores around the...
- Producer17/11/2016A Time to ReflectImage credit: Clipart KidI opened up a time capsule today; a plastic bag filled with bits of paper with my poems written on them. For about fifteen years, between my late teens and early thirties, I wrote whenever and wherever the muse took me....
Comments17/11/2016 #12 Pascal DerrienI relate to the second one most:-) I quite like the concept of time, loss and memories... there is a plaque where my daughter goes to dancing class indicating a time capsule has been buried in 1985 and is not be opened before 2075 I would love to be there when it will be opened but realistically it wont be feasible or maybe......17/11/2016 #7 Deb 🐝 HelfrichBreathe and flow, what a stunning set of words to find from earlier days, @Sara Jacobovici. I also felt this sense of 'completeness' in the way that finding and reading a story from my months right after college held so many nuggets of who I am today. I both recognize those words completely and yet they seem strangely separate - I forgot the piece itself, but the memories of the creation were alive and waiting to be retrieved.
I am looking forward to more discoveries!17/11/2016 #5 Mohammed A. JawadAha...What a poetic ecstasy! Little enjoyments of our past are all great inspirations. As we remember we realize how we wanted to do something to express ourselves. As life unfolds itself with many transitions and when passing time narrates tidbits from our memories, we ought to gauge how well we lived and what's ahead to celebrate our living.17/11/2016 #4 Sara Jacobovici#3 Thank you @🐝 Fatima Williams for your generous response and for the added value of your comment. I appreciate your line, "...re-entering time we do it all the time as the strength we draw from the experience is much stronger than the experience itself." It is a very powerful "opposite" to what I refer to clinically when I deal with traumatic memories. When it is too frightening for the individual to remember a traumatic experience, I remind that individual that she or he survived the event and so will surely survive the memory of the event during the therapy work. In this case, when an individual re-enters in order to heal, the strength is in the process of the healing not in the re-entry.17/11/2016 #3 🐝 Fatima WilliamsDear @Sara Jacobovici Lovely flash back of memories and I can imagine how the nostalgia. I love your phrase on re-entering time we do it all the time as the strength we draw from the experience is much stronger than the experience itself.
"its strength never doubted.
the struggle of morality…..wrestled in our minds
alongside projections of what’s wrong and what’s right
already decided in black and white. "
The battle and struggle has undoubted strength as it's foundation and we can see the beauty of that strength reflected in your writing and you. Thank you 🤗🤗🤗🤗 Loved the read17/11/2016 #1 Ali Anani@Sara Jacobovici- you wrote in this amazing buzz "As I have written about the integrated me, these poems represent a younger personal me whose voice I have carried over into the older professional me". This shows that past influences our present and future and that we are fractal humans as we scale up past experiences. We don't drop our past; more we scale its major events.
This scaling up shows exactly who you are. The titles of your past capsules are still consistent with your recent titles. Is the past what makes our roots the grow our fractal tree? I tend to say yes because of your great buzzz.
in fractions and fleeting opportunities
through distinct forms and underlying plans.
life threadlike…..ready to snap
I am ready to say you are a beautiful mind and your time capsule is filled with wisdom. This buzz is unique in its value for it show our footprints over time. Yours are outstanding fractal footprints. Shared
- Producer13/11/2016Sometimes it takes time to set yourself free...This is me.After my first ever Gaga, dance class. After my 3rd dance class ever since I stepped away from the world that gave me a lot but perhaps hurt me more.I don't know about you, but I spent more than half of my life fulfilling demands,...
Comments14/11/2016 #21 Sara Jacobovici#14 #20 I couldn't be more impressed or grateful for your ability to "get it" and "communicate it" in your unique and powerful way @CityVP 🐝 Manjit. It is because of what you have connected to that I went into the field of Music Therapy and trained in collaboration with Art Therapists and Dance/Movement Therapists. That was over 30 years ago. What has been exciting to witness is that using, in this instance, the body through movement and dance, and taking it out of the health and mental health institutional community and into the mainstream and flow of our lives, enables us to return to our organic nature and get our bodies "in sync" with our minds. Anyway, you said it better than me. Thanks again Manjit.14/11/2016 #20 CityVP 🐝 Manjit#18 Virag, this is what Naharin is quoted as saying about fear :
[ ..." I don’t think I’ve gotten rid of my fear. I’m actually aware of the fear. Sometimes I enjoy being afraid. It’s less a matter of getting rid of the fear and more a matter of knowing that it’s all right to be afraid "... ]
You have already confronted the primary fear and stepped forward, what I am enjoying tonight finding out about Naharin is that his thoughts recognize the body is alive and that he see's dance as a living expression. That is why when he says "sometimes I enjoy being afraid", he is so in tune and touch with his body that he reads and recognizes what his body tells him - this is a marvelous faculty. In discussing these things we use our head rather than our body - but when I think I notice most my fingers moving - my brain then serves my fingers and in that I know thoughts have traveled up both my arms to deposit thoughts.
There are very few people who think of the body as vessel of intelligence, Bruce Lee was one of the rare people who understood putting great meaning to body and this is explored in The Art of Expressing the Human Body" http://bit.ly/2g4GuUb whereas Bruce Lee took that body intelligence into martial arts, Narahin has taken it into dance - and that is why I grasp his greatness.
When we are scared, it is the foundation of what we are walking into that matters, the foundation that you have had the courage to walk into is full of meaning and spirit, courage that takes us into emptiness is blind folly, courage that takes us into life is why I am happy for you - this form of courage has meaning and in that meaning one finds their freedom, and then sometimes as Narahin says he enjoys being afraid and that it is all right to be afraid.13/11/2016 #18 Virag Gulyas#14 Ohad Naharin is a genius who goes against all mainstream. Making his dancers go out of the ballet training towards a movement that is fully pushing their bodies into unknown areas, is simply courageous. And it works. The video clip you've shared with me is incredible, and I have seen it before. Thank you for sharing. Going for a Gaga class for me was scary --- especially after 8 years of no training. But stepping into the 'scary' is where is start to grow.13/11/2016 #15 AnonymousDear @Virag Gulyas, Freedom of self-expression is worth fighting for, that is the essential meaning of the self - similarity concept. As we get older the desire for freedom is growing. Your concerns and decisions are a sign that you're on the right track. Congrats, I'm a semi-professional dancer, It is just that believe it or not :)13/11/2016 #14 CityVP 🐝 ManjitOh! Virag Gulyas what have you unleashed here ! You have just put the name Ohad Naharin smack bang into my vocabulary, for when you mentioned freedom, it overwhelmed me to know the extent of freedom as dance philosophy this is. Incredible! I just ran the film trailer for Mr.Gaga and a whole new world opened up https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F6gd8xpFMsM a world that I love where freedom is tattooed as a way, as an expression, as a force that is born from a rigid culture, freeing itself from a constraint.
This reminds me of the antonym side of the movie Whiplash - where Whiplash dictates a passionate man who loves drumming and is grounded into submission by a ruthless teacher - and the antonym here is Mr.Gaga - a dance expression that releases the ruthless world of dance. We already know what it takes to become a professional ballerina, the immeasurable sacrifice, the dream that is chased by many girls but then funneled into a excruciating and demanding test to emerge with the few and not many. Cue the movie Flashdance - but Flashdance was not about creating something new, but another recital of the hero's journey. For sure it dealt with class but it was not a philosophy and it certainly did not offer any form of freedom.
You should feel justifiably liberated because you are clearly an early adopter of this transformation, this giving dance back to the people, the loosening of rigidity, the renewal of form and function, to exercise what one actually loves about this passion. The more I read http://www.danceadvantage.net/questions-about-gaga/ and http://gagapeople.com/english/ the more I honour your post and I thank you for opening the curtain for me and I say kudos to you for embracing this, for this is truly freedom.13/11/2016 #12 Sara JacoboviciYou are a great storyteller @Virag Gulyas and it always feels like it's coming straight from the heart.
Because one of my pillars of life is movement (paradox intended), you made me think that it is not simply the freedom to move but how to move that makes the difference; the freedom lies in choosing the how.
The other thing that I found "moving" in your story is when you say, "I understood more about my body today than during my whole rigorous dancer education.". Again, here the education lies in the freedom of movement and the understanding that results from that.
Wow! Thank you for sharing your amazing life experience Virag and wishing you from strength to strength.13/11/2016 #8 David B. GrinbergKudos to you Virag, for taking that leap after so long. I think your conclusion nails it: "So many of us stay in that tight leotard we force on ourselves - because, we get used to it, we feel too comfortable to leave. But don't stay because you got used it; because it is too comfortable. Wear that damn loose t-shirt and go free."
Life is too short to be running around on a hamster wheel road to no where. No one ever got anywhere by running (or dancing ) in place. Moreover, I think it would be great if you did a Live Buzz (when ready) from your dance studio. I'm sure you're very good. Remember, we are all our worst critics. Good luck and dance on...
- Producer12/11/2016Acts of Love [Intimacy]Acts of Love.In the adult Stage of our lives, we humans, like all animals who go two-by-two, engage in Physical Acts together. Amongst the Extras - those animals which only play small parts, low down on the role-call - these Actors play their parts...
Comments16/11/2016 #9 Max🐝 J. CarterHere's the thing, sex and intimacy have nothing to do with each other. You are intimate with the people who you make yourself the most vulnerable to with what you share about yourself and how much their opinion actually means to you. That is building intimacy through trust. You can have that without sex and you can have sex without intimacy. When intimacy is built prior to the sex, that is when you have the greatest of tantric experiences as my experience has been after study and application of the art form.13/11/2016 #6 Deb🐝 LangeIntimacy, yes we are all "connected' via technology, but how often do we experience real intimacy? yet, with intimacy ,we open up to sensing and connecting with ourselves and others that enrich our experience beyond measure. When we connect intimately we are open to the source of our creativity. Thank-you for sharing of yourself so we can be intimate together.
- Producer08/11/2016Liar Liar Pants On FireIt had never been my intention, it was not by design even but more of a quid proquo almost that led my parents to think I was in relationship with that stunning young girl from Paris inner city. It’s true though that I had a massive crush on her and...
Comments12/11/2016 #29 Lisa 🐝 GallagherIt's a good think your mom believed you... or at least she wanted to believe you instead of worrying sick if you were out doing anything other than being a nice boy with your love! How scary that must have been. Your life is unfolding through your stories, love it. Can you explain the dog reference? Were you inferring "Nora" had dogs lol? Thanks for sharing @Pascal Derrien09/11/2016 #24 jesse kaellis#21
From what I understand Ceaușescu outlawed birth control leading to all these orphans. He was hanged along with his wife. Yeah, the nurses had no food to feed these babies, so they gave them blood intravenously as a nutritional substitute leading to the spread of HIV. http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/europe/8427299.stm09/11/2016 #20 jesse kaellisThat's a great story, Pascal. A guy I was writing for asked me to ghost write book for his wife about the AID's epidemic there, the orphaned babies. She is Romanian, It never happened. I was reluctant. Intimidated is a better word. I thought it was beyond my scope. Great writing Pascal.08/11/2016 #19 Franci🐝Eugenia HoffmanQuite an interesting story @Pascal Derrien. Some of my adventures would not have been approved by my parents and I got away with most of them. In my teens, I told my parents I was staying overnight with some girlfriends, which was true but we were all in Daytona Beach and not in our respective homes. As you mentioned in one of your comments, some of our adventures could not happen today.
So I'm looking forward to more stories from our "regular guy".08/11/2016 #18 Deb 🐝 HelfrichI certainly understand that period of not being quite honest with one's parents as they wouldn't have been supportive of my ventures. It is how I got to Paris, if I would have mentioned my intentions there would have been drama. They found out when I informed them to be looking out for my visa.... as I had plans for the summer. It was disappointing to be back at college in the fall of 89....08/11/2016 #16 Pascal Derrien#13 indeed small world, I only measure now how risky or indeed borderline collectively foolish it was :-) There is a strong Romanian community in Ireland too and I always have a soft spot for them. I have been back to Bucharest in a professional capacity in 2007/2008 the city had changed a lot @Sara Jacobovici08/11/2016 #15 Don 🐝 Kerr@Pascal Derrien Do the book buddy. I did one this summer for my boys that chronicled every day's activities with notes and photos. They're not even remotely interested at this point but in a few years I suspect they'll love it - or their kids will in decades to come when I am worm food!08/11/2016 #13 Sara JacoboviciHow cliche can I get when I say, "What a small world!". Here I am on beBee reading your story when you could have been handing a parcel to either my Uncle, Aunt or cousin! Although I wasn't born in Romania, my first language is Romanian because both my parents were born there (Iasi). My mother learned French at school and because Romanian is a Latin language, when I was learning French going to school in Montreal, I was able to pick it up very easily. I learned about Romania and France's close ties from my mother. I was able to visit my family in Bucharest both during and post Ceausescu. We were glued to the TV and waiting hours on the telephone trying to make contact with the family in Bucharest. It was a very nerve racking 36 hours until we heard my cousin's voice on a very weak connection but letting us know they were safe, traumatized by being too close to the action, but safe. So I owe you a big thank you @Pascal Derrien for putting yourself at risk to help my family!
- Producer01/11/2016Pathogenic ThinkingLife is a full of conflicts. We experience conflict between new ideas and old ones, between the familiar and long-standing beliefs and the emerging new ones. We have conflict of interests. We have conflict between new strategies and old ones and...
Comments03/11/2016 #68 Joanne Swecker#59 Thank you @Sara Jacobovivi for the warm welcome. Consciousness and intelligence are synonymous for me. Asking the question where is intellignece, asks the mind for a point of reference and it is no where. When we use no thought to interpret it simply is here, present. The 'isness', we can say nothing about it.03/11/2016 #65 Praveen Raj Gullepalli#63 It is a privilege to be connected with such evolved minds and souls, ever curious and ever-searching for meaning and answers, in their personal and professional lives, the way I am, here on beBee. I have rarely seen such Intellect, Passion, Reason, Rationale, Humour, Grit, Satire and Wit showcased on one platform the way it is here. The pleasure is all mine Sir! Shukran!03/11/2016 #62 Ali Anani#59 I am on the look out for your feedback @Sara Jacobovici. I welcome @Joanne Swecker greatly as I have frequently exchanged comments with her on LI and she always amazes me with the quality of her comments and before that the quality of herself as a great and passionate human.03/11/2016 #61 Praveen Raj Gullepalli#57 Dear Joanne, just to add to your thoughts ...from some reading I had done recently. I share thus:
Observing thoughts as they surface and get replaced by other thoughts is Awareness. (This is generally done by observing the Breath calmly in a sitting posture, with closed eyes). Being deep in thought, evaluating an idea, process or concept is Contemplation. Focusing mentally on a Thought form/idea/ sound is akin to Meditation. A great lot of importance is given to the breathing rhythm and frequency which resonates with our thoughts and even health.03/11/2016 #60 Praveen Raj Gullepalli#33 Jawad Bhai! Thank you for the kind words! Everyone we meet here on this platform connects us either to the past, the present or the future. And helps us Branch out. Take deeper root. As fractals. As forms. As ideators. As creators. As rationalists. Or otherwise - setting up a flow. To help us Grow. I get so distraught at the paucity of time! So much to share and catch up on, but I steal moments off and on to read, respond, participate and share the best I can. My beBee interface is almost always on through the waking hours. I am a short-form communicator mostly. I have been writing off and on through the years, but in short couplets, paras, even doggerel, that fits the thoughts. But I believe I can get into a blogging mode eventually.03/11/2016 #59 Sara Jacobovici#57 #58 First, let me say how wonderful it is to see you on beBee @Joanne Swecker. Your comment is proof already of what a wonderful contribution you are and will be making to this site. Your comment is beautifully written and conceived. No less is the proof that it has inspired @Ali Anani. My gut/heart reaction to your comment Joanne is that you are introducing the concept of thoughts as an entity in and of themselves that can move in and out of our thought consciousness to be experienced but not owned. This inspires me to revisit Jung's collective unconscious and see how your insight/perspective fits in.03/11/2016 #58 Ali Anani#57 Not less even by one inch what your comments inspire me with dear @Joanne Swecker. Even though you meant thought and not though in the following extract of your comment, but it got my mind brewing We can experience a clear observation, in this clarity we are able to allow thoughts to come and go, we recognize that though is an appearance in and of itself."02/11/2016 #57 Joanne SweckerThoughts on thought Dear Ali...Where are thoughts located? When we come from an expanded and open perspective we can direct our experience to what is actually here right now, instead of our attention being scattered in thinking. We can experience a clear observation, in this clarity we are able to allow thoughts to come and go, we reccognize that though is an appearance in and of itself. Thought thinks about appearance, about this and that. But in this openess we come to allow this appearance, coming and going. What is aware of thought is never absent and thought has no intelligence of it's own. I am continually and eagerly challenged to observe my thoughts by your thinking.02/11/2016 #54 Praveen Raj Gullepalli#46 Talking of energy-drainers, yes, I have read about such energy-vampires and experienced a few thank you! ;) They could be anywhere, among friends, family. I guess they are not to blame, but you do feel all drained up, awry and tired after even a brief stint/conversation/chat on the phone with them. Ah but it is so much easier to ignore such vacuum cleaners on a virtual platform! :)
- Producer22/10/2016SURVIVAL OF THE WEAKEST“Communities which are very strong, very rigid, that do not take into account the weak points of the community, the people who are in difficulty, tend to be communities that do not evolve.” And when they evolve, it's generally by a very strong...
Comments02/12/2016 #88 Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman“Human people are not adults in full possession of their means.” is a powerful statement in a quiet way. "The fragility is the essence of men and women, and it is at the heart of humanity. And once you realize that, you accept your own fragility." is important to heed because once we come to terms with ourselves, we can understand suffering within others and ourselves.02/12/2016 #85 Sarah ElkinsWeak. Fragile. Vulnerable. Those words used to be criticism and insults. But now, as we humans start to consider what makes us human in relation to the very real, very near potential of AI, the values in those words are changing. I recognized the name, Le Pichon, from studying plate tectonics with our sons during Earth science classes in school. I had no idea what else made him such an exceptional human being. Thank you, @Irene Hackett, for bringing this story to beBee.25/10/2016 #75 Praveen Raj Gullepalli#74 Nature is telling us...through the birds...the bees...the trees...the fractals...the forms...etc...of the interdependence that is essential for both survival and evolution. Any development outside the frameworks of interdependence could only be called one thing - Cancer.24/10/2016 #72 Harvey Lloyd#67 @Irene Hackett These styled discussions always make me think of musical chairs. Everyone is focused on the music and the empty chair that is closest to them. Our society, through systems, have initiated and nearly perfected, the game of musical chairs. We focus on the media or social alignment, music and our ability to seek success and joy, the chair.
Neither of these goals are bad, it's the game. I don't play within that circus. I don't require the music or reflection of media to find my peace and joy. I will have to say, a lounge chair and a umbrella drink is required to watch the game from a distance:)
"Oneness" i don't believe is the same as interdependence. This may be splitting hairs, but interdependence requires me to understand your journey and how we might benefit from each other. Oneness means that i need to not only share the journey but also belief systems. In this you and i can't be one. This journey of oneness is reserved for our spouses. I can share a portion of others journeys and each can benefit for the time.
Our answer for interdependence is a homogenized viewpoint that i feel is ground zero for some of our cultural issues. We are requesting oneness in our belief systems when this is next to impossible. We have all refined our systems from our perspectives and the journey has showed us wisdom. In this we are each unique, not one. We can all share a portion of a journey over time but we can't all live in a journey that has been homogenized.24/10/2016 #69 Praveen Raj Gullepalli#68 True Irene. We all have our little "stories" and we are all challenged in some way or the other all the time! We can transfer strength, like knowledge, to the person next...just by standing beside a weaker person! It is just that most folks are afraid of lowering the guard in fear of exposing vulnerabilities.24/10/2016 #64 Praveen Raj GullepalliA great soul - Xavier Le Pichon! Such a source of inspiration. So's your story and the challenges you have had to surmount Irene! The strong should neither ignore nor oppress the weak. It is their duty - not to gloat about their strength and build a following of loyalists - but use it to raise the others to higher strength and productivity. Transform the weak into the strong...and nothing can be more heartbreaking than seeing a strong man falter and fall. Not just literally. And wise are those who Rise, after the fall.24/10/2016 #63 Harvey Lloyd@Irene Hackett, @Ali Anani and @🐝 Fatima Williams thank you for comments and more importantly thank you for considering a different perspective of direction. Our journey as humans is one of interdependence. When we accept this our eyes are opened to possibilities that otherwise didn't exist under dependence or independent. The transformation into interdependence cant happen until we register a strong set of core values that include the success of others.
Without these values then we will remain either dependent on others success for our own or be the ones others depend. Ali has shown, along with your article here that nature is interdependent this why nature is our guiding light for existence. Nature doesn't have the emotions humans have (in General) so it/they don't create barriers to interdependence.
Within interdependence we have to have faith. Or in today's language, trust. We have to believe that by serving others the value will be returned in a form that is self fulfilling and rewarding. When we transform from independent our feedback could force us to remain where we are. Courage is needed to keep moving forward. It took us a long time to behave ourselves where we are and it will take a long time to behave our way out of independence.24/10/2016 #62 Harvey Lloyd#54 @Milos Djukic, If i could be so bold as to state, future society, not future leaders, will understand their true value within the scope of fractal math and leaders will become organizers of resources. The larger question is will we arrive at this conclusion through discourse or because of our need for survival? In this concept of fractals i believe that the series will be served regardless the outcome. So time is the elusive equation we all seek.
Unfortunately we have behaved ourselves into seeing completed fractal elements where folks do not belong nor engage. IMO i sense that this is because we are being taught/shown that individually we are our own fractal within a vacuum. This vacuum could not exist if the societal fractal wasn't present. Until we see that we are all a part of the fractal math and play our role, then time will be the discussion. The fractal cant move forward without each of us participating. The illusion of individual success implies that time is moving, where in fact the fractal development for the next stage is at a stand still. Waiting for the individual to recognize their role in development.
We all seek that great leader that will draw society/company/country together and serve the fractal math in this context. Those leaders are already present, you and me. No one person can take this responsibility. It will take individuals that stop listening to the chatter of what success is and realize that the person next to you is who needs to be successful. Building each other is the fractal answer to the time equation.
- Producer21/10/2016Confessions Of A Soon To Be Ex-TorontonianI came to Toronto, by way of Fort Erie and Ottawa, in the late 1960s. Almost immediately upon arriving and getting a part time job at a discount department store called Towers, I met the girl who would eventually become my wife.I owe Toronto more...
Comments22/10/2016 #28 Phil Friedman#26 Sara, I lived and worked in Canada during the height of the PQ, and I always laughed when some of the academics in its upper ranks spoke of secession and joining the U.S., where their minority French rights and aspirations would be better treated. For only ivory tower academics could be so idiotic in their world view. No, check that. I think we've seen that exceeded in the current U.S.presidential election campaign by the bad comb over and the orange skin. Cheers!22/10/2016 #26 Sara JacoboviciLoved reading your story @Jim Murray. Especially since I lived in Toronto between 1984 and 2009. I have friends who live in every part of Toronto you mention. I have visited St. Catherines and spent much time in the wine country. It is not just that which made the read so enjoyable. You are a true storyteller Jim, a great communicator. As @Phil Friedman said: "Best wishes to you and your wife for a very long, healthy, and happy stay in the new house. And cheers!"
PS I moved to Toronto from Montreal. I have a little bit of a different perspective re Toronto's history and growth. One thing is that Toronto owes a lot to Renee Levesque (1968-1985) whose separatist party and government led to a huge move out of Montreal, not only of people but of businesses, especially head offices of international businesses, that changed the look of downtown Toronto.22/10/2016 #22 Jerry FletcherThanks for sharing Jim. Somehow your personal tale makes you more of a communications pro to me. A few years back I made a similar decision and moved south of Portland, Oregon to what my friends describe as "where the sidewalk ends." Now, after a divorce and a daughter married and living on the other side of the continent I'm tired of knocking around in a five bedroom house so I'll sell in the spring and try to down size. Moving is never easy, but sometimes you gotta.21/10/2016 #16 David B. GrinbergJim, are you sure this has nothing to do with the Toronto Blue Jays not being in the World Series? (lol). Seriously though, while I've never been to Toronto I've heard wonderful things about it. Plus, I figured if you lived there it had to be(Bee) good. Nonetheless, as I like to say: change is the only constant in life. With that in mind, Jim, it's St. Catharines today and Mars tomorrow (or in 10-20+ years)! Good luck with the move. Also, make some room for us in the USA just in case "you know who" magically becomes President and Americans must flee for greener pastures.
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- Producer19/10/2016Her Life Wasn't Easy but She Prevailed- My InspirationTonight I read a buzz about Inspiration by Graham Edwards and his buzz made me think of others who've inspired me. The first person who came to mind was my mom. Mom did not have an easy life, she grew up with a father who was an abusive Alcoholic...
Comments20/10/2016 #10 Lisa 🐝 GallagherMom's start sure didn't predict the majority of her life, including her ending which is very inspiring. Love and hate are both choices. I'm glad mom had no tolerance for hate, we weren't even allowed to use the word hate in our home. Thanks @Deb 🐝 Helfrich View moreMom's start sure didn't predict the majority of her life, including her ending which is very inspiring. Love and hate are both choices. I'm glad mom had no tolerance for hate, we weren't even allowed to use the word hate in our home. Thanks @Deb 🐝 Helfrich, appreciate your comment! :) Close19/10/2016 #9 Deb 🐝 Helfrich"Mom taught us that life is a constant lesson and when we stop learning, we stop living." Inspirational, @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher, because of the honest truth that our start doesn't necessarily predict our ending. We do have the ability to choose, most especially to choose LOVE.19/10/2016 #8 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#7 Hi @Renée 🐝 Cormier, I could not agree more about my grandfather. As I grew older and heard the stories (too many offenses to list) I felt the same about him, "he's an evil man." He had 6 brothers who were all nice and not one of them were alcoholics. My mom's real mother fell down a flight of stairs and ended up with a brain injury and amnesia. He had her committed to a state mental hospital back then. She developed pneumonia and was pregnant with her second child. They tried to get a hold of him to have her transferred to the Cleveland Clinic for treatment and he was no where to be found. My mom showed me an add his own family placed in the paper looking for him (I just saw the clipping about 4 years ago). Anyhow, her real mom gave birth to a full term still born and died from pneumonia not long after the birth. He took off and joined the Army. My mom was sent to live with relatives in Florida. She told me she loved them and that was the only good time in her entire childhood. He came back when she was 5 years old with his 'new' wife and took my mom back with them. I'm glad my mom broke ties with him when we were younger, she did us all a big favor. Yes, we all get along like best friends, I feel very fortunate. Mom always felt fortunate to have 5 children that loved her so much and was able to give so much love back to all of us. Sorry this was so long but I'm glad you called him out for what he was, it's true.19/10/2016 #7 Renée 🐝 CormierSuch a beautiful family. You are lucky to have had a loving, caring and giving mother. Not all of us get to experience that. As for your grandfather; it has always been my belief that anything you do drunk you would do sober, if you only had the guts. Your grandfather was cruel at his core. Alcohol just made it easier for him to be his true self. I'm glad your mother found a loving family to be a part of and I am especially glad she did not choose to live her life in bitterness. She certainly raised a lovely lady (you) and I am sure the rest of your siblings have been well raised too.19/10/2016 #5 Laura Mikolaitis"Mom taught us that life is a constant lesson and when we stop learning, we stop living. She taught us that life is more than just ABOUT us, it's about those around us." ~ A beautiful reflection on love and inspiration by @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher View more"Mom taught us that life is a constant lesson and when we stop learning, we stop living. She taught us that life is more than just ABOUT us, it's about those around us." ~ A beautiful reflection on love and inspiration by @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher. Here's to moms or to whomever inspires you. Close19/10/2016 #1 Vincent AndrewYour mum is an inspiring person Lisa. Despite the setbacks she faced, she stayed positive and helped raise a kind and happy family. She put others' needs before herself. 'I don't think it was until I became a parent myself that I was able to honestly appreciate the life we were given.' I fully agree with this. I am really really thankful to both my mum and my late dad for their toils, encouragement and wisdom just to help us pull through life. Thanks for sharing this Lisa.
- 18/10/2016Father and Daughter
This is me with my daughter Satanieh. Is there a generation gap between us? Do my wrinkles tell my history like the rings on the trunk of a tree do? Do my wrinkles tell my age, my seasons and my memories? Does the shape of my wrinkles tell what were the easy times and hard ones in my life?
My daughter is part of my history, the joy of my present and the hope of my future. The bright moments of the past brings joy to the present and aspirations for the future.
The triad of time (past, present and future) mixes together while looking at this recent photo. Do I see my present or my daughter's' time? I wonder if time has a sense when we are with our kids!
Comments23/10/2016 #21 🐝 Fatima WilliamsAwww How did I miss this photo @Ali Anani Your daughter looks so so beautiful and this a stunning fantabulous picture of you two. She is much like you.
All I see is a wonderful dad whose image, work and words are a gracious reflection of his kind heart and humble nature. You are the silver lining to beBee and thank you for sharing this photo with us.19/10/2016 #20 Ali Anani#18 You have a special place in my heart @Harvey Lloyd. Your comments fill me with all positive things in life. I love this from you "The wrinkles and gray hairs are the wisdom they brought to me when I thought I new everything. Their innocent nature showed this crusty bark what life is really about".19/10/2016 #18 Harvey LloydAwesome photo. I couldn't be who I am today with out my daughters. The wrinkles and gray hairs are the wisdom they brought to me when I thought I new everything. Their innocent nature showed this crusty bark what life is really about. I look at you differently now @Ali Anani I know where your views of nature come from . You have raised a beautiful daughter.