- Producer06/03/2017On My Knees"There I was, on my knees. I was holding a child upright with one hand, while feeding her with a spoon in my other. There I was, sobbing." I’ve written or at least commented about an accident I had. It was 1999. April 28th, 1999 shortly after...
Comments06/03/2017 #4 🐝 Fatima WilliamsAaron you made me cry and happy at the same time. Cry to see the fate of these children around the world just like the ones you met and I met a few as well and Happy as there is hope in the world for them and trust that God will provide. I visited an orphanage at the age of 14 or something don't remember and ever since I've wanted to dedicate my life doing something for them. I see the signs coming back to me. Thank you for sharing your story with us and I thank God that your here to help us witness that experience and appreciate the life we have left in us.
These three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.”06/03/2017 #3 Pascal DerrienI fully understand the urge and need to give back after a brief encounter with the Grim Reaper, you can borrow a few french words from me next time you need to go there. Admirable work from a generous soul, hats off to you. You are one of the good ones !!!! @Aaron Skogen
- Producer26/02/2017Lines in the Sand: Part IV Outlasting Excellence Robert D. "Bob" Anderson“The greatest use of a life is to spend it on something that will outlast it.” --William James “Every job is a self-portrait of the person who did it. Autograph your work with excellence.” --Betty M. Nelson For those of you who...
Comments05/03/2017 #9 debasish majumderif father is an excellent axiom then i guess, son will eventually become an epitome equally to be followed and admired by many. we truly lack the continuance of such envied legacy. excellent post. enjoyed read. thank you for such Great share @Joel Anderson View moreif father is an excellent axiom then i guess, son will eventually become an epitome equally to be followed and admired by many. we truly lack the continuance of such envied legacy. excellent post. enjoyed read. thank you for such Great share @Joel Anderson. Close05/03/2017 #8 Sara Jacobovici@Joel Anderson writes: "When I started down the path of Lines in the Sand and then Part II and III, I wanted to share a personal journey that was and is reflective of the sands of life, their snap shots and moments in time. The influencing nature of lines that affect us all; lines that are permanent, lines that change, messy lines, and yes those that ebb and flow and impact the choices each of us have in using them with compassion and to advantage." A must read son's tribute to his father.28/02/2017 #3 Cyndi wilkinsThank you for sharing these precious threads to the wonderful memories of your father...I will savior each one in good time...for now you have left his footprint on my heart;-) Blessings to you @Joel Anderson View moreThank you for sharing these precious threads to the wonderful memories of your father...I will savior each one in good time...for now you have left his footprint on my heart;-) Blessings to you @Joel Anderson... Close26/02/2017 #1 Deb 🐝 HelfrichA perfectly painted portrait of Bob Anderson, Joel. I feel honored to make his acquaintance, even in this distant manner.
It all comes down to the how we interact with our fellow travelers in life, and you had a chance to apprentice with a master. It shines through in every word you write. Your father left his signature character to you, to carry on that priceless legacy of treasuring the interactions of life as the world's most precious resource.
- Producer21/02/2017Stories from around the fire...There is something about an open fire that transcends the dancing flame and the inviting smell; it beckons the memories of countless fires through the ages where people huddled for warmth, safety, a sense of community, and with the invitation for...
Comments21/02/2017 #3 🐝 Fatima Williams"Our life is our story. Make it the best one you can and share it over an open fire ! "
This story you share with your dad. I just pictured myself sitting there with you guys and listening to all the knowledge being passed down generations after generations.
Such a warm buzz Thank you @Graham🐝 Edwards Say hi to your dad 🤗
- Producer12/02/2017Have I Left My Schizophrenic Teddy Behind?It’s raining umbrellas today and the corridor is suddenly very greyNever been there before so I thought maybe it should be that wayI was expecting it to be creepy but it turns out to be kind of funnyYet I don’t understand how the air has become so...
Comments12/02/2017 #16 Phil FriedmanIf you read enough, from time to time, you'll come across a piece that's really striking and which reaches into your being to grab your spirit by the throat. This is one of those times, and this piece by Pascal Derrien does just that. I highly recommend you read it, but not try to decipher it. Instead, accept it at face value. For it will then be what you need it to be, -- which is something that a great piece always is.
- Producer09/02/2017Like Reading a BookThere is a quick way I find out more about a person. I go to their bookshelf or in some cases, their library and look at what they read. A five minute glance around their shelves tells me what they are interested in, curious about, and gives a...
Comments12/02/2017 #65 Sara JacoboviciJust came across this link and thought you might find it of interest @Gert Scholtz. http://www.bbc.co.uk/culture/story/20160819-the-secret-libraries-of-history?ocid=fbcul11/02/2017 #60 Dean OwenI didn't like Tom Wolfe's "Bonfire". I just find not many people can write about Wall St unless they have been through it (like Michael Lewis has). But for books in that sphere I highly recommend Liar's Poker, The Predators Ball, Den of Thieves, Flash Boys, Vendetta: American Express and the Smearing of Edmond Safra. For fiction, I am addicted to Anne Rice.10/02/2017 #59 Gert Scholtz#57 @Mohammed Sultan Quite true - one cannot judge a book by its cover, as the saying goes. Better to scan some parts, look at the content pages and read the cover flaps to get and idea of it. And never confuse public relations with family relations :) Thanks Mohammed.10/02/2017 #57 Mohammed SultanOn buying books,the desire to pick up a book with an attractive dust-jacket is irresistible,although this method of selection ought not to be followed ,as you might end up with a dull book and wake up on a call from the bookshop salesperson greeting 'Can I help you sir?we should not take books for granted.it's very easy to enter a shop looking for a book on,say,public relations and to the sudden come out carrying the latest best-selling novel on family relations!10/02/2017 #56 Lada 🏡 PrkicGreat topic, Gert, and nicely written post! Love to read books but also read about books. I have many books but unfortunately not enough space for shelves. We live in a small apartment and many of my books are stored in the boxes. Therefore I decided several years ago to buy only the necessary technical literature. Other books that interest me I borrow from the library, usually 1-3 books per month. Bought or borrowed, books can open our minds and hearts.10/02/2017 #51 Kevin PashukThanks for the tour of your library Gert.
I fully subscribe to the idea that in order to better know a person, check out their library. All of the truly interesting people I have met in life were readers, who would bring in such wonderful perspectives gleaned from their reading. I can't say I've had the same stimulating conversations with those who only use media (esp. television) to form their worldview.
I shared some of my library in previous posts, I would hope that more Bees would follow.10/02/2017 #50 Mohammed SultanBertrand Russell on his definition of good and bad,better and worse said"A thing is good ,if it's valued for its own sake,and not only for its effects.We take nasty medicines because we hope they will have desirable effects ,but a gouty connoisseur drinks old wine for its own sake ,in spite of possible disagreeable effects.You must do right because it's right ,and not because it's the way to get to heaven .You must save because all sensible people do,and not because you will ultimately secure an income that will enable you to enjoy life."
Pleasure in not defined by whether to read or not ,but by our ability to differentiate between the means and ends.Thank you @Gert Scholtz for sharing a great article.10/02/2017 #49 Emilia M. Ludovino"Books transform, mind and heart. Not each and every read. Reading sometimes changes our views, sometimes changes us. Many times we lose ourselves in what we read, only to find a different self. Books fill crevices in the heart and answers questions of the mind. We begin a read and take bits of it in and little by little build ourselves into someone else. A better self sometimes. A more informed self often." - My dear friend @Gert Scholtz this little excerpt is poetry. So beautiful that touch our hearts, without my books I surely wasn't the same person. - Thank you so much for this wonderful reading. Have a wonderful weekend!10/02/2017 #48 Ken BoddieRead me read my books! I love it, Gert. Like you I have a large collection of books on a variety of subjects but, unlike you, my 'culling' capabilities are poor, except for the odd "How to ...." hurriedly snatched from a charity book sale which I eventually twigged that I would never read. By the way, I would be wary of sniffing books for too long, as the spine glue may 'beam you up', unbeknownst, to a whole new psychedelic world of literature. 😍10/02/2017 #47 CityVP 🐝 Manjit#39 That is a great way of approaching cultivation of reading. To sit with an author over a longer frame and allow their world to work on me is definitely a different kind of speed. A neither spend hours with a book nor do I spend hours in a gym. It is inspiring to hear the perspective of life-long readers and I look forward to an appreciation of cultivating a different relationship with time and the gifts that arise through engendering a love for reading books.
- 04/02/2017Beautifully written, beautifully told.How to see the Magic in Yourselfsherryparnell.com “Children see magic because they look for it.” –Christopher Moore I am a writer not a painter. I would love to dip a paintbrush into a brilliant color, glide the soft bristles across the...
- Producer01/02/2017Tissues & IssuesLet me take you on one of my bi-weekly Saturday morning stroll in Dublin City. Every two weeks my daughter and I are heading to town for her French course at the Alliance Française in Kildare street in Dublin. My other half and I have adopted a...
Comments03/02/2017 #29 Ken BoddieAn enthralling tale, Pascal, sharing your typical Franco-Irish Saturday and snippets of the world in print, with the tantalising aroma of coffee. And then you plug a dagger of guilt into our souls. I have no issues with your tissues but 'our' unsolved cube of man's inhumanity to man will haunt me until .....02/02/2017 #27 Mohammed Sultan@Pascal Derrien.I have really moved by your emotional post.God has given us the gift of life and a perfect planet furnished with all the blessings, and let us decide how to live well.Unfortunately,when we puzzled ourselves our tears run as a river.There's things of which we can't speak and there's dreams that can't die.There's thoughts that make the strong heart weak and bring tears into the cheek.We are made of hope and pain,a hope that gives us life when the pain is severe and a life full of pain when the hope disappear.
Your impressive post reminds me with what's written at the bottom of De mossie'(correct!) Statue in Paris "Nothing makes us great except a great pain-translation."Life trend is always a trend of ups and downs ,some can safely ride it and others have to bend and keep going.
I always ask myself a question-Are we really governed by a purpose or control it?02/02/2017 #25 Lisa 🐝 GallagherReally enjoy your writing style @Pascal Derrien. I remember the days of getting kids here and there, many times my husband and I having to go our separate ways with one or the other child. My kids are 4.5 years apart in age so it made it a bit simpler to be together with them for most of their involvements outside of home and school. As I told Dean, I love to hear stories of other's countries and cultures. You paint a beautiful and very honest picture through your words about your life and culture(s), France- to Ireland! I so love Justin Timberlake lol and I used to think he was too 'pop,' but he is very talented.02/02/2017 #23 Pascal Derrien#21 thanks @Lisa Vanderburg having spent a lot of time with homeless people in the past I thought I would be equipped to deal with this but got caught literally off guard when I found out she was pregnant and in the street......... hence probably why I gave 20 as opposed to the regular 2 I dropped normally but what is normal really :-)02/02/2017 #21 Lisa VanderburgA compelling piece of writing @Pascal Derrien that takes the reader along with you from the normalcy of your particular life to the feeling of utter helplessness of this pregnant girl crying in the street. I can feel the wretchedness of her situation and the hopelessness of yours; having to (rightly) leave to pick up your daughter. That awful 'acceptance' of how powerless suffering is.02/02/2017 #20 Pascal Derrien#16 ah thanks @Dean Owen some of the early articles were old enough and probably not very good :-), I like words and articles to a point that 2 years ago I got a diploma in Journalism, PR and Applied Coms I was the only non Irish born in the class :-) Maybe the quality is now acceptable and beBee is good in a sense that I can write about pretty much about anything but I am no writer just a regular guy having fun with no particular agenda that's why it is fun. I thought you were talking about somebody else when I read the comment are you sure it is for this article ? :-)02/02/2017 #16 Dean OwenIt has been a fascinating journey reading your articles this last year. I am somewhat flabbergasted at how you have honed your craft and mastered the art of writing in a language that is not your native language. I loved the ideas you conveyed in your earlier articles, but they were somewhat confusing. But these last few months you have clearly demonstrated you are one of the best writers here. Oh, and one more thing. I do not share your eclectic taste in music, but perhaps we agree that Justin Timberlake was one of the best artists to come out of Memphis in a long while. His album Future Sex was brill.
- 24/01/2017My first attempt at translation of a famous Tamil poetry and prayer to English.A heartfelt prayer.savvyraj.com An ever evolving knowledge An evergreen life An honest friendship An everlasting prosperity An ageless youth A healthy body An ever curious mind An ever-loving spouse A righteous child A life...
Comments26/01/2017 #8 Savvy Raj#7 #7 Yes indeed @CityVP 🐝 Manjit . And in this dance of the cosmos all exists in the strength of interconnections Sharing a few lines from my recent writing which felt apt here....
"All exists within us
Life is matter of energy, thriving in the spirit
We are material and spiritual at the same time
Realms and domains are embedded into each other
Choosing to separate or see the wisdom of oneness is a choice in our hands"25/01/2017 #7 CityVP 🐝 Manjit#5 Differences are either for people who fear differences, or who understand what diversity actually is. In the latter we learn from that which is different from us. Yet idealism and pragmatism is within us, we speak diversity but then we split things into two - and read a list of good and a list of bad, a masculine trait and a feminine trait, a left brain and a right brain - when we fear difference we are tearing our humanity apart, when we love difference, we are cosmos.25/01/2017 #5 Savvy Raj#4@CityVP 🐝 Manjit. I deeply appreciate your comment here and think quite likewise about idealism and pragmatism.Somewhere along the way inspite of the differences, there is scope in the emergence of positive connections between the two. Thank you for your thoughtful reflections .24/01/2017 #4 CityVP 🐝 ManjitAs a spiritual barometer this translation is cool because I am always interested in relating the what is in any given day to an ideal. We will not reach the horizon of the ideal but the guard against idealism is the pragmatic measure that makes practical the existence of an ideal.
- Producer15/01/2017Shadow BoyNot always easy to make new acquaintances when you blow in a hood where you don’t know anybody. Sometimes you get picked on because you have a different accent or because people don’t warm easily to novelty. Now I had become a master at integrating...
Comments22/01/2017 #42 Pascal Derrien#41 Thanks @Deb🐝 Lange indeed but travelled a lot between 18 and 26 including a long spell of time in New York before leaving France and moving to ireland 20 years ago only moved 3 times there and the last time moved from #52 to #42 in the same street :-) Never wrote a book it is for real writers :-)17/01/2017 #40 Pascal Derrien#39 thank you @Bernard Poulin I am pretty humbled by your comments, I am just a regular guy who likes to play with words and it seems this small vignette for some reasons is resonating with people, it says more about the people who made some comments than the post it self I suppose17/01/2017 #39 Bernard PoulinThere is a serious difference between all the artwork created in the world and "art". Artwork is a thing which says nothing more than that "we made something" - a physical thing, a product. At other times our artwork begins to speak on its own. It reaches out to others and touches and moves them. This is what has happened here: : universal impact. It is a rare 0ccurrence in artwork but is always present in art. Art - that which is transferred from our "insides" to the canvas or paper or stone - and once freed to speak - emerges from the artwork, reaching beyond the creator to speak and share itself with and "give" to others because that is what art does.. Bravo. This is "art". (and I'm not easily brought into the common ordinary fold that considers everything we do art.)16/01/2017 #37 Pamela 🐝 WilliamsThis story touched me Pascal. Being a child growing up in a military family we moved constantly. I had siblings, 6 in fact and all extroverts, which at times was overwhelming to this introvert. I too was described as a 'loner'. But then I was shuffled around, a lot. I lived with grandparents from ages 2-5, and they moved almost every year, whenever my grandfather moved on to minister a new church. Then I was sent to my Mother when it was time to start school. I turned to books and became a bookworm, always reading, because to be quite honest; I always felt like the outsider around my mother and siblings. As I look back now I realize my friends were Nancy Drew, The Hardy Boys, Laura Ingells Wilder and so many other characters...
These memories stay with out, become part of us, and as I always started my stories; we are all our histories.16/01/2017 #32 Kevin PashukLove the picture, and the story @Pascal Derrien. I can identify with the multiple moves as a kid. My father was transferred to new communities on a fairly regular basis.
Your story awoke a memory of a poem that was in a school book from when I was in early grades at school. I only remember the first line, but thanks to Google, it turns out it was written by Robert Louis Stevenson and is quite germane to your post.
BY ROBERT LOUIS STEVENSON
I have a little shadow that goes in and out with me,
And what can be the use of him is more than I can see.
He is very, very like me from the heels up to the head;
And I see him jump before me, when I jump into my bed.
The funniest thing about him is the way he likes to grow—
Not at all like proper children, which is always very slow;
For he sometimes shoots up taller like an india-rubber ball,
And he sometimes gets so little that there's none of him at all.
He hasn't got a notion of how children ought to play,
And can only make a fool of me in every sort of way.
He stays so close beside me, he's a coward you can see;
I'd think shame to stick to nursie as that shadow sticks to me!
One morning, very early, before the sun was up,
I rose and found the shining dew on every buttercup;
But my lazy little shadow, like an arrant sleepy-head,
Had stayed at home behind me and was fast asleep in bed.
- Producer09/01/2017The Little Prince sheds light on social networks From solitude in the middle of the desert, in his meeting with Little Prince, Antoine de Saint Exupéry took us on his journey, when a plane crashed in the middle of the Sahara. This discovery of new beings happens to all of us when we are immersed...
Comments10/01/2017 #12 Lisa 🐝 GallagherWhat a great inference you drew with the story about the little prince and Social Media @Alban JARRY. This stood out, "From the imagery of this author so many situations arise that seem so real in today’s world that the Little Prince undoubtedly gives us the keys to better discover others and deepen our introspection." That is one of the beautiful wonders of utilizing social media , deeper introspection by means of learning from others, respect of others and passions or goals we may share which can lead to professional relationships and/or deep friendships as well. Patience is a virtue. This story could be descriptive of beBee and its philosophies too! Cc: @Javier 🐝 beBee @Milos Djukic @Deb 🐝 Helfrich09/01/2017 #4 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.Well this approach touches my heart. Beautiful article. Thank you @Alban JARRY09/01/2017 #3 Jared Wiese, 🐝 adding VALUE & RESULTSI absolutely loved this post!
Incredibly insightful themes:
- Taming the social fox;
- Budding relationships beyond our neighbors;
- geographers of the eccentric.
"It is these unexpected discoveries that await the user at the bend of these crossroads proposed by the the giant social networks. They let the imagination roam while offering reality at every moment."
Merci, M @Alban JARRY, pour un reseau de connection, tout pres.
- Producer06/01/2017Parents Live Forever Only in Our Heart ❤️ Losing my parents to old age makes me realize that I'm getting older and one day may face the consequences of living in a retirement or nursing home.I visited my Mom this past weekend. She will celebrate her 92nd birthday next week. My dad passed...
Comments07/01/2017 #17 Antoinette Capasso-Backdahl#14 Jim, I concur totally. My mom also wants to be in a place now. She changed her mind. There will always be a margin of error and there will always be a need for homes. Which means there will always be a need to be mindful of how we and our parents and children plan for the future. I hope you don't think I directed my comments at you sir. I was just giving people who may be looking into finding a home some perspective.
Lots of things have evolved in home health care since I was a striper. I worked for the first charting software company. My job was a beta tester and I installed the networks for home health agencies and county health departments for this software. I had to train the staff and travel in a five state area. Things have evolved in that arena as well. One thing is the way they train nurses and aides is much better. I hope we continue to evolve in the compassionate care approach. I love the fact that they require background checks now. They should also require psych evals. but not until the evals evolve. There are some ways you can test an environment before placing your loved ones there. Look for how the staff is treated and if it is a team environment. The less ego the better.
When I think back at how hospitals/institutions were in the 70's vs now... we've come a long way baby! Still much room for improvement. MN has been sited for some horrible things. Oregon too. We need to stop putting violent people who should be in a secure facility in with vulnerable adults. Another thing to consider. Some people don't have a choice. But for those who do, these are some of the things to consider.07/01/2017 #14 Jim 🐝 Cody#9 @Antoinette Capasso-Backdahl I agree, There's no place like home but unfortunately under some circumstances it's for the betterment of those involved. However my mom lives in a great place and she has excellent care and many grandchildren and great grandchildren who visit her often.
She actually requested to be placed there and has a peace of mind knowing that she will be taken care of.07/01/2017 #11 Vincent AndrewI visit my mum once a week on a Sunday after church. She loves to meet her grandkids. She loves to cook for them and tells them stories. She is a wonderful woman. I am grateful for her and thank God for her. Tomorrow I'll be meeting her and as always I will kiss her on the head as a way to say my thanks and my love.06/01/2017 #9 Antoinette Capasso-BackdahlRecently I worked in a place where I can tell they missed their family so much. I would over hear them speak about how their children do not even visit them. This home had a mixture of independent living, assisted living and memory care. One gal that worked there had the nerve to call them vultures after the guy from the food shelf brought in some goodies for them. That women was also my shift lead in the dinner. She mocked and harassed here coworkers. I finally walked out because of her. Too much nepotism in that place.
The system is NO SURROGATE for family! But if you must choose one, choose one that does not have a huge attrition rate on staffing. That is a big red flag. No, it's not because it's the kind of work it's because it's a toxic corporate culture. People with a heart refuse to stay working for places that are not caring for people properly.
Another place, the smell of ammonia was so bad... Day care providers would never get away with not changing... ok... I've said enough.
It's cheaper to build them a tiny home and bring in people anyway.06/01/2017 #8 Antoinette Capasso-BackdahlI have worked in a couple and I would say in a nut shell THERE IS NO PLACE LIKE HOME. Thank God they are requiring back ground checks now. I remember my mother making me promise her that she would never be sent to one. When I was a candy striper, I lost my favorite gal one night when someone else was charged with feeding her. She choked to death. I was not mature enough to handle it then and I ended up leaving my job because of it. I was just a teenager. I also remember they charged me with one gal that was three times my size and I actually had a near miss of a catastrophe getting her on the potty. Then there was Ms. Presley, yes, that Presley. Elvis' Aunt. A fisty one with all the spunk. But she was not being well taken care of either. She was not on my rounds but I loved to talk to her. My favorite was the WWI vet. He would take me to battles and sometimes tell me to duck for incoming. I love them all so much. My favorite was when the ladies would do a strip show for the men and the men would get all excited and I would have to watch the staff try to tell them they cannot do that sort of thing. I would just giggle at how much fun they had driving the staff mad. lol06/01/2017 #6 Gert Scholtz@Jim 🐝 Cody Visiting my mother recently I realised anew how fragile life becomes at an old age. Her mind is as sharp as ever, she reads a book a week, walks and gardens every day and still has a good circle of friends - yet we know her remaining time with us is becoming less. Thanks Jim for this poignant reminder to "Visit your parents often and say I love you. It just may be your last one."06/01/2017 #4 Paul Walters@Jim 🐝 Cody Interesting Jim. My wife is a lecturer in cross cultural studies and teaches at various universities in Australia. On aging parents Indonesians are mortified at the thought of placing them in care when they are in their dotage. The culture here is for children to share the duties of caring for parents at home unlike we in the west who often 'dump' mum and dad into places with terrible names like "golden meadows or Tranquil Gardens " Life is a bit cruel is it not when we come full circle and become totally dependent .... it sucks really!
- Producer03/01/2017Frozen In Time"Cut the shit Bill...Wake up! It's Christmas and all your kids are here!"That's my dads favorite nurse Kathy. She knows just how to get a response out of him...however small. I can almost see him smiling and thinking, "Who the hell invited you!" The...
Comments24/01/2017 #8 Lisa 🐝 GallagherI had to stop crying before I could write @Cyndi wilkins. This story of your dad is very powerful. I love the quotes you included, your relationship! "Dumb water," ok, that gave me a chuckle. I can relate to this with the exception that your dad suffered longer in front of all of you than my mom. Mom became blue and her breathing changed the day she died. I worried we would have to possibly watch her in that state for longer than a day or two. I understood what you meant when you wrote of death with dignity. It's still a ruse in the US. After reading of the convo you had with your dad after he passed, I think he'd be proud of his girl!! I love the photos Cyndi. My heart goes out to you, I was still in shock the first month or so after mom died last year. As much as we don't want to lose them, we sure do not want to watch them suffer and that's what makes the loss a bit of relief when it comes. If you ever need to talk, I'm here. Your dad sounds like he was a wonderful man!! Keep those memories close to your heart and keep sharing the stories when you are up to it.24/01/2017 #7 Cyndi wilkins#5 Amen to that last line in your comment Todd...My dad was described by his peers as the salt of the Earth...And that he was...A man's man yes, but a gentleman...In all my life I can only recall seeing him loose his temper once...ONCE, in a lifetime...can you imagine that? Geez, I loose my temper at least once a day! Apparently, I did not inherit his patience gene;-)24/01/2017 #5 Todd Jones@Cyndi wilkins, this is an absolutely superb tribute to your father. That picture of him on his boat is splendid. In it I see the lifeblood of a man's man. Someone comfortable in his own skin, and untroubled by superficial trivialities or unnecessary drama. He just looks like a great guy.
This is how we should remember those close to us. Not bearing witness to endless days of pointless suffering. Not deflecting tearful requests to fetch a gun because, even with morphine, the pain is intolerable.
Five states currently have laws that support Death with Dignity. It's time for the other 45 to reverse the vile rules that demand a departure from this world that is often nothing short of Draconian misery.24/01/2017 #4 Cyndi wilkinsThank you @debasish majumder, @Pascal Derrien, @Max🐝 J. Carter, @Sara Jacobovici, @Todd Jones and @Maria Luquero Vila...I appreciate your finding this article relevant. I know there has been some buzzing going around about "tags" and their relevance...But the past two articles I have posted have such enormous significance to my well-being right now that I am feeling a very strong urge to reach out in gratitude to those have been moved by it...My apologies if anyone finds "tagging" cumbersome;-) @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher...thought you might like this one too;-)04/01/2017 #1 Sara JacoboviciDear @Cyndi wilkins, I am reaching out across cyberspace to give you a hug. I am blown away by you...your ability to write and communicate the difficult "stuff", your feelings, insights and smarts! From one daughter to another, from heart to heart, I will add my voice to those who have already written you that you have honoured your father through the telling of this story. Time is always mentioned at times like this and so it is. From your title and throughout your story, you weave time through. The one that is staying with me right now is, ....these "moments" are all lived simultaneously in the libraries of our minds. Time itself is all "ONE" moment."
Wishing you a time to grieve, Cyndi. I don't doubt that you have the strength.
- 01/01/2017Great comment by @CityVP 🐝 Manjit to a great story by @Lisa Vanderburg: "This is good and I would think even more exhilarating performed as a monologue direct to the grandmother 'Granny Grim'. Beyond the woven language, this really brought home the beauty of memorable characters. In the homogenized existence of the cultural fabric of modern media, we look for personality drawn in medium that do exist in our own environs. What we have not learned to do is capture the richness of detail of the most unique personalities either known to us, or we have known - or even that exist in our imaginative flow of storytelling.
The staged play is already made in the oven of art, and we can pay the admission price to that which is shared to all - but there is great dimension in the stories that are most personal to us - and great credit to those who have noticed life playing out like this in their own life. It means we noticed the living, we utilized that which nature equipped our own faculties, and in that exists the kind of originality that we may not find with a public admission ticket. I know that @Sara Jacobovici is a Trekkie, so she will enjoy this well beyond the Spock tribute. I enjoyed the DNA in this story - well beyond anything replicate and exponentially personal from the mind of a skilled storyteller."T'was the last night of the old year; a tale of nether-worldswww.bebee.com I hold the concept of joyous abandon of all rationality towards New Year's Eve with some foreboding - arm's length on the end of a pike would...
Comments01/01/2017 #1 CityVP 🐝 ManjitI love the hive name "Only Humans Tell Stories". This is where I distinguish stories from dance. So many life forms dance and as animals evolve they become more tribal, but at the part where the tribal can relate stories, from this point there is this uniqueness we refer to as humanity. This is the point where evolution takes us into the human.
Animals also make machines and the Spiders Web is an incredible piece of machinery. Our tribal nature may identity with machines but again how we evolve as a human being is recognizing what in the creation of advanced machines allows us to be more human.
The capacity of our humanity is a pure unadulterated appreciation of life and the gifts of nature, and our evolution into becoming human beings. We can appreciate our animal being, we can appreciate the being of machine but it is the whole which we are a part of which defines our humanity and not the destruction of that wholeness.
Storytelling is not necessarily a human act, for our tribal behaviour can use stories for nefarious intent - but at the level of being a human being, this gift of storytelling is ours to advance humanity or waste and in this regard nature has the final say whether humanity evolves or is just another piece of evolution, in a planet that has a beginning and an end.
Maybe the end point of our intelligence is to send out life-giving properties into the universe, that become the ingredients to new planets, but time is so huge in scale, we can focus on the story of humanity as it is now, without any worry or tribal stories about the end of time. If humans only tell stories then this is a living pathway to our collective humanity.
- 12/12/2016Alon Cassuto's story is worth reading.A Story Worth Telling... Why leaders need to share stories.www.linkedin.com When I was eleven years old, I flew alone from Tel Aviv to Rome to spend the summer with my grandparents. My grandfather drove for three hours from our family home in Tuscany to pick me up. He...
- 09/12/2016Sharing the gift of @Sarah Elkins' story.It's All Part of the Adventurewww.linkedin.com Stranded in the Philadelphia Airport I'm sorry, it's highly unlikely you'll get home to Montana today. All of your flights were canceled because of the snow storm. I burst into tears. Highly...
- 08/12/2016"...sifting through wreckage of her childhood, and using her creativity to help her channel the hurt and the pain." Bravo to Sheri Heller and all!Remembrances of My Lost Motherwww.linkedin.com
- 30/11/20162 Tips for Writing LinkedIn Posts that People Will Like (and Share)www.inc.com Want to write LinkedIn posts that people actually read--and share? This is what one LinkedIn Influencer suggests you...
- Producer29/11/2016A Short StoryMy father had to deal with “being let go” in 1965. I had to deal with “being let go” in 2001. The corporate culture may have looked different but it is only a variation on the same theme; losing your job. In today’s corporate culture, the system...
Comments06/12/2016 #17 Sara Jacobovici#15 Thank you @Mohammed Sultan for your contribution. I would like to highlight 2 points you make: 1. Investing; "Beside investing in saving money, people should also think of investing in their emotional life...They should invest in something that makes them feel good about selves and make them ready for work." And 2. "dignity". We can't always depend on others to be treated with dignity but you remind us that dignity needs to start from ourselves. In this way, we posses it and so our dignity can't be taken away by someone else.05/12/2016 #15 Mohammed Sultan@ Sara Jacobovici.It's a creative short story on short-life work.Two messages behind your story,one for the employers who don't care about the loss of the professional dignity of their employees and the second for the employees who lost their jobs because of the early retirement.To the employers I would say; before you push people to early retirement,you should think of how to ensure that they get retired with dignity by reaping the benefits of their short- life work.And for the employees the message is; how they can accumulate the remains of their personal dignity by thinking of savings.Savings will be a crucial investment in what's remained and help a rapid bounce back from the shock of the early retirement. Beside investing in saving money,people should also think of investing in their emotional life by seeking self-renewal and social support;why not they devote their free time to something better than merely resort to their comfort zone,where the monster of early retirement ever grow.They should invest in something that makes them feel good about selves and make them ready for work.05/12/2016 #13 Alan CullerWhat a poignant story @Sara Jacobovici you have certainly captured all the emotions that are intertwined between work and self worth. I was fired once -it turned out to be one of the best events of my life -another door and a much more exciting one opened -I also quit and left the same day -tantamount to getting fired -which also turned out well. These taught me -I will survive. I work for myself now so on alternative days I have the worst boss ever and the best boss ever. My self is still too wrapped up in what I do, but at least every other day I get to do it for the best boss ever.
Thanks for sharing this story you have a gift at capturing emotion in a few lines. Keep writing. And thank you.
Alan05/12/2016 #11 Lisa 🐝 GallagherGreat story @Sara Jacobovici. I think so many people do intertwine their work identity with their personal identity. I remember when I was new to the town I live in so many women would ask me "what I do for a living or what my husband did for a living?" I found that question to be so shallow. I joined women's groups and one in particular- a mom's club was so snobby and I was asked that question more than often than "how are you, it's nice to meet you.' Because I was new here I felt I had nothing to lose when I was asked for the umpteenth time where my husband worked- I replied, "He's a garbage man." The look on the woman's face was priceless. Not that there is anything wrong with being a garbage collector but in their minds it was a lowly job. I never went back to another club meeting after that day. There is so much more to a person than their title. Losing a job is never easy and harder for some depending on their age, so having a network of friends who care about 'you, the person,' is so vital.
- Producer28/11/2016Just Thinking out loud - Control Random ThoughtsBlogging has been for me, a way to share as much as I know with the rest of the world. These are my thoughts and examples from my own experiences, so I guess you can say - Dwordslayer shares a real person!There are days I need...
Comments18/12/2016 #49 jesse kaellis#27
Hi Donna-Luisa, I was in Mexico for a month doing a medical tourism thing that didn't involve much tourism. I've been back since December 10th and beginning a slow, protracted recovery. Thanks for the knock - knock and thanks for your story which I enjoyed reading.03/12/2016 #48 Laura MikolaitisI love the random thoughts that you shared here @Donna-Luisa Eversley. Sometimes, the random thoughts can be the best fuel for our fire.
Some days it is difficult to accept that there are things we can't control. That's why it is important to enact our gift of choice; especially when the out of control things can seem overwhelming.
It's taken me a while ton fully grasp the concept but I am better at it now. Each day is an opportunity to exercise our ability to choose - to decide whether we will make the best of a bad day or make the worst of it.
I enjoyed reading this, Donna. Thanks so much for sharing.29/11/2016 #38 Donna-Luisa Eversley#20 @Sara Jacobovici, thank you ..wow, when I read this, you got the weepy emotional blast in my eyes 😉😘 ...it is the truth of music and rythmn ..I am happy it resonates with you so much. As soon as I draw on the music my entire person responds. It is like a conductor bringing the sounds into a crescendo. Controlling emotions need that understanding of self to create harmony for self.29/11/2016 #37 Donna-Luisa Eversley#19 #hugs right back at you #babydoll @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher..
🐝🐝🐝🌹🌹🌹 Thankfully some of us are on Facebook or I would have been in a desert. 😂..glad to be back. I do have some stuff I've written.. will try to publish, but seems quite sad, not happy simply a difficult time with less light and the weepy willows.
Thanks for reading.29/11/2016 #35 Donna-Luisa Eversley#17 @Max🐝 J. Carter thank you...yes, storytelling is a part of the healing process which is powerful. It is the feel of the music which makes the story flow , making a melody which makes a whole lot more sense than life on its own sometimes 😉..thank you for your beautiful supportive words 🐝🐝🌻🌻🌻29/11/2016 #31 🐝 Fatima Williams#1 Aww ♡@Donna-Luisa Eversley I've missed you . Awesome that your back and buzzing again my dear. Your buzzes are music to the ears. This is a sensational buzz with some great takeaways. Everyone has a song for every situation we just have to sing out loud and let the music fill our lives. Buzzon dear and welcome back to beBeeland.🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗😇🤗🤗🤗🤗29/11/2016 #29 Pamela 🐝 WilliamsI really like this comment Ken. Sometimes you just can't play it safe, you need some adventure, to try new things, to speak out when things go awry. For now it is still some of the greatest freedoms and gifts we have; free will and free speach. The Internet has given us the ability to reach a tremendous audience and as long as we stay tactful and factual great things can be accomplished. Ain't no mountain high enough! Ain't no valley low enough! #28
- Producer22/11/2016The Spectrum of HumanityWhat do Jews think about Jesus?He asked me as innocently as a college freshman at a small, Jesuit school could ask. It caught me a little off guard.What do ALL Jews think of Jesus?It was puzzling to me that he would think ALL people of any...
Comments28/11/2016 #30 Sarah Elkins#17 You hit the nail on the head, @Sara Jacobovici, I'd be willing to say that the vast majority of hate is based in fear. And thank you for that wonderful share and comment. I love our spectrum of humanity. Even the people who are horrible to me teach me something!28/11/2016 #29 Sarah Elkins#19 Unfortunately, @Ali Anani, that doesn't surprise me at all. I have similar stories from early in my time here in Montana, and from my travel experiences. What you say here is exactly right, we must connect one-to-one to change the dynamic. And it helps to be a good ambassador for our people, speaking and educating rather than being insulted and defensive.28/11/2016 #27 Sarah Elkins#25 Oh dear, @Nicole Chardenet, I know exactly what you're talking about in terms of it being hard to forgive the chronically and willfully stupid. I call it willful ignorance and have a really hard time with it myself. The reason I've been able to look past that issue with some people is that I realize that without talking about it, without having that dialog, the people who voted without the intention of exacerbating hate, fear, and bigotry, we are truly lost. Those who were more intentional with their votes are a lost cause.
I agree that asking what Jews think about Jesus is a totally fair question, it's the way he asked, as if all Jews would believe the same thing about Jesus. Many Jews fall into the category your mother described, and many do not. Just like some Jews keep kosher, others do not. The best question that is consistently asked by the students I encounter each year is this: "What makes the Jewish belief so different from the Christian belief." And my answer is that practicing Jews are still waiting for the Messiah, while Christians believe he has already been here. (Notice I said "practicing" Jews, as opposed to all Jews.)
Thanks for that great comment, it made me clarify why I responded that way to the student's question.28/11/2016 #25 Nicole ChardenetAsking what Jews think about Jesus is a fair enough assessment. It could be interpreted as perhaps the 'party line', with or without a Pope or other centralized figure. When I was a kid, growing up in a Christian family, my mother said that Jews believed Jesus existed but wasn't a Saviour, but that he was a great teacher. I actually cleave toward that view more myself now, rather than the Christian one...but then again, I haven't been Christian in many years.
As for not judging people en masse, easier said than done sometimes. I find myself struggling with the anger at people who elected a total asshat for world leader and put the rest of us in danger as well. That's not judging someone on biology; that's judging them on their unwillingness to take a real look at what they were voting for. It was eye-opening going to the States for Thanksgiving; it because quite clear that it wasn't just uneducated, chronically unemployed rednecks who hadn't been paying attention during the election campaign.
Harder to forgive, sometimes, the chronically and wilfully stupid.28/11/2016 #24 Julio Angel 🐝Lopez LopezGreat article, we can only contribute a little more, we are still evolving. https://www.bebee.com/producer/@julio-angel-lopez-lopez/una-teoria-sobre-la-evolucion-humana-a-theory-about-human-evolution27/11/2016 #21 Lisa 🐝 GallagherThat's the second time I watched that video @Sarah Elkins and it still brings tears to my eyes. If only... most people would realize we are all connected in one way or another, we'd have a more humane world. We are humans, we are not our religion or our designated ethnicity. One day I hope that prejudice and biases end... that's my hope! It sure will be a better world when that time comes. I wish it would happen in my lifetime.27/11/2016 #19 Ali Anani@Sarah Elkins- I experienced what you experienced when I first went to the UK to do my PhD. As an Arab I was mocked. It took me three months before people accepted me as a non-conforming Arab to what impressions they had about Arabs. People tend to generalize and extend their conclusions linearly. I agree with your post. I find your writing "When we paint an entire community with the same, broad brush, we miss incredible opportunities to learn, to grow, and to make connections with each other. The only way to heal our fractured communities is to care about each individual we interact with, and avoid making assumptions". I believe this is the only way.
Mind you when my elder brother went to study his undergraduate studies in the USA he was asked to show "his tail". Some students believed that Arabs have tails. It is true. However; it is our actions that may change those impressions as my brother and I did.27/11/2016 #17 Sara JacoboviciAnother work of art produced by an artist story teller @Sarah Elkins. Beautifully written, beautifully told. Thank you Sarah. You write, "The spectrum of humanity is always my first priority." Agreed. I find beauty in the spectrum. Although I am always moved when I hear John Lennon's Imagine, it's the idea of hope that moves me. I don't want a world where we are all the same. Our challenge is to allow the differences to enable us to grow as humans, not to negate us. You write, "When we paint an entire community with the same, broad brush, we miss incredible opportunities to learn, to grow, and to make connections with each other." 100%! I regret to say that that brush is dipped in fear; for some reason we are made to feel that differences are a threat. It's individual behaviors, both verbal and non-verbal, which hold the potential of threat, not our differences.
@Ali Anani and I spent some time last evening (our time) in a synchronicity loop. I open up your buzz this morning and feel like I have fallen right back into that loop. You write, "The students laughed uncomfortably. I explained why that story was important in our discussion". I have recently shared the following video which I think greatly supports your invaluable message. Thanks again Sarah.https://www.ted.com/talks/chimamanda_adichie_the_danger_of_a_single_story?utm_source=facebook.com&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=tedspr26/11/2016 #16 Sarah Elkins#8 @Dean Owen, thank you for the comment. When I notice an immediate response to a person, I dig in to figure out whether it's truly intuition or bias. You're so right, it's human to make a snap judgment - and being introspective about those snap judgments helps us grow as humans.25/11/2016 #14 Mohammed SultanVery impressive @Sarah Elkins.God gave us the gift of life and honored us as humans and let us decide how to live well.Only wise people regardless of their religious devotion know well that a life is worth living when we live it for him.There's only one fact ,but can be interpreted in different ways and different manners because we each receive different "Light" from the same source.Because we receive the same message differently ,we have different and enduring cultures,not related to our DNA but to the paths we chose.Everyone has his own light and his own path and can see and think best within this context.25/11/2016 #13 Jared Wiese, 🐝 adding VALUE & RESULTSTweeted:
The Spectrum of Humanity @sarahelkins "Are you able to truly judge ALL Americans based on.. handful of experiences?" https://www.bebee.com/producer/@sarah-elkins/the-spectrum-of-humanity
- 25/11/2016A great story teller telling a great story. A must hear, especially for the beBee community.Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie: The danger of a single story | TED Talk | TED.comwww.ted.com Our lives, our cultures, are composed of many overlapping stories. Novelist Chimamanda Adichie tells the story of how she found her authentic cultural voice -- and warns that if we hear only a single story about another person or country, we risk a...
Comments25/11/2016 #6 Deb 🐝 HelfrichI have read her novel "Americanah" and it is a fascinating look into the disconnect that Africans feel as they confront African-American culture.
I would also love to urge anyone who has found themselves equating internet scammers with Nigerian princes to watch this talk - it is a damaging stereotype.
And to tell a personal story, I have to credit books with the fact that my freshmen year African roommate, who was from Ghana, did not have to bunk with someone who had no African stories of real people.
I want to challenge us all, let's ask people about their stories, rather than make generalized assumptions.25/11/2016 #4 Sara Jacobovici@Harvey Lloyd wrote:
"This video really does share the forest of human existence so well.
The forest is full of many trees and each tells us a story. In today's narrative, it would appear, we overlook many trees of the human existence. We seek out those trees that offer us a dramatic, emotional view rather than the typical.
The 80/20 rule is alive and well. The 20 describes the 80. A biased story or narrative that ensnares our imagination."25/11/2016 #2 Ali AnaniGreat and thank you my friend @Harvey Lloyd for tagging me. I am going to watch now.
I have just published a buzz dedicated to you. I hope it is worthy. I strongly invite dear @Sara Jacobovici to read as I belive it shall help her with further developing the movement equation.
https://www.bebee.com/producer/@ali-anani/conscious-and-subconscious-questions25/11/2016 #1 Harvey Lloyd@Ali Anani this video shared by @Sara Jacobovici really does share the forest of human existence so well i wanted to tag you.
The forest is full of many trees and each tells us a story. In today's narrative, it would appear, we overlook many trees of the human existence. We seek out those trees that offer us a dramatic, emotional view rather than the typical.
The 80/20 rule is alive and well. The 20 describes the 80. A biased story or narrative that ensnares our imagination.
I enjoyed this talk and sense it is relevant even within America.
- 22/11/2016As a confessed bookaholic I loved seeing this. Enjoy!Ten of the world’s most beautiful bookshopswww.bbc.com From an Argentinian theatre and a Dutch church to an underground car park in China, BBC Culture picks the loveliest bookstores around the...
- Producer17/11/2016A Time to ReflectImage credit: Clipart KidI opened up a time capsule today; a plastic bag filled with bits of paper with my poems written on them. For about fifteen years, between my late teens and early thirties, I wrote whenever and wherever the muse took me....
Comments17/11/2016 #12 Pascal DerrienI relate to the second one most:-) I quite like the concept of time, loss and memories... there is a plaque where my daughter goes to dancing class indicating a time capsule has been buried in 1985 and is not be opened before 2075 I would love to be there when it will be opened but realistically it wont be feasible or maybe......17/11/2016 #7 Deb 🐝 HelfrichBreathe and flow, what a stunning set of words to find from earlier days, @Sara Jacobovici. I also felt this sense of 'completeness' in the way that finding and reading a story from my months right after college held so many nuggets of who I am today. I both recognize those words completely and yet they seem strangely separate - I forgot the piece itself, but the memories of the creation were alive and waiting to be retrieved.
I am looking forward to more discoveries!17/11/2016 #5 Mohammed A. JawadAha...What a poetic ecstasy! Little enjoyments of our past are all great inspirations. As we remember we realize how we wanted to do something to express ourselves. As life unfolds itself with many transitions and when passing time narrates tidbits from our memories, we ought to gauge how well we lived and what's ahead to celebrate our living.17/11/2016 #4 Sara Jacobovici#3 Thank you @🐝 Fatima Williams for your generous response and for the added value of your comment. I appreciate your line, "...re-entering time we do it all the time as the strength we draw from the experience is much stronger than the experience itself." It is a very powerful "opposite" to what I refer to clinically when I deal with traumatic memories. When it is too frightening for the individual to remember a traumatic experience, I remind that individual that she or he survived the event and so will surely survive the memory of the event during the therapy work. In this case, when an individual re-enters in order to heal, the strength is in the process of the healing not in the re-entry.17/11/2016 #3 🐝 Fatima WilliamsDear @Sara Jacobovici Lovely flash back of memories and I can imagine how the nostalgia. I love your phrase on re-entering time we do it all the time as the strength we draw from the experience is much stronger than the experience itself.
"its strength never doubted.
the struggle of morality…..wrestled in our minds
alongside projections of what’s wrong and what’s right
already decided in black and white. "
The battle and struggle has undoubted strength as it's foundation and we can see the beauty of that strength reflected in your writing and you. Thank you 🤗🤗🤗🤗 Loved the read17/11/2016 #1 Ali Anani@Sara Jacobovici- you wrote in this amazing buzz "As I have written about the integrated me, these poems represent a younger personal me whose voice I have carried over into the older professional me". This shows that past influences our present and future and that we are fractal humans as we scale up past experiences. We don't drop our past; more we scale its major events.
This scaling up shows exactly who you are. The titles of your past capsules are still consistent with your recent titles. Is the past what makes our roots the grow our fractal tree? I tend to say yes because of your great buzzz.
in fractions and fleeting opportunities
through distinct forms and underlying plans.
life threadlike…..ready to snap
I am ready to say you are a beautiful mind and your time capsule is filled with wisdom. This buzz is unique in its value for it show our footprints over time. Yours are outstanding fractal footprints. Shared
- Producer13/11/2016Sometimes it takes time to set yourself free...This is me.After my first ever Gaga, dance class. After my 3rd dance class ever since I stepped away from the world that gave me a lot but perhaps hurt me more.I don't know about you, but I spent more than half of my life fulfilling demands,...
Comments14/11/2016 #21 Sara Jacobovici#14 #20 I couldn't be more impressed or grateful for your ability to "get it" and "communicate it" in your unique and powerful way @CityVP 🐝 Manjit. It is because of what you have connected to that I went into the field of Music Therapy and trained in collaboration with Art Therapists and Dance/Movement Therapists. That was over 30 years ago. What has been exciting to witness is that using, in this instance, the body through movement and dance, and taking it out of the health and mental health institutional community and into the mainstream and flow of our lives, enables us to return to our organic nature and get our bodies "in sync" with our minds. Anyway, you said it better than me. Thanks again Manjit.14/11/2016 #20 CityVP 🐝 Manjit#18 Virag, this is what Naharin is quoted as saying about fear :
[ ..." I don’t think I’ve gotten rid of my fear. I’m actually aware of the fear. Sometimes I enjoy being afraid. It’s less a matter of getting rid of the fear and more a matter of knowing that it’s all right to be afraid "... ]
You have already confronted the primary fear and stepped forward, what I am enjoying tonight finding out about Naharin is that his thoughts recognize the body is alive and that he see's dance as a living expression. That is why when he says "sometimes I enjoy being afraid", he is so in tune and touch with his body that he reads and recognizes what his body tells him - this is a marvelous faculty. In discussing these things we use our head rather than our body - but when I think I notice most my fingers moving - my brain then serves my fingers and in that I know thoughts have traveled up both my arms to deposit thoughts.
There are very few people who think of the body as vessel of intelligence, Bruce Lee was one of the rare people who understood putting great meaning to body and this is explored in The Art of Expressing the Human Body" http://bit.ly/2g4GuUb whereas Bruce Lee took that body intelligence into martial arts, Narahin has taken it into dance - and that is why I grasp his greatness.
When we are scared, it is the foundation of what we are walking into that matters, the foundation that you have had the courage to walk into is full of meaning and spirit, courage that takes us into emptiness is blind folly, courage that takes us into life is why I am happy for you - this form of courage has meaning and in that meaning one finds their freedom, and then sometimes as Narahin says he enjoys being afraid and that it is all right to be afraid.13/11/2016 #18 Virag Gulyas#14 Ohad Naharin is a genius who goes against all mainstream. Making his dancers go out of the ballet training towards a movement that is fully pushing their bodies into unknown areas, is simply courageous. And it works. The video clip you've shared with me is incredible, and I have seen it before. Thank you for sharing. Going for a Gaga class for me was scary --- especially after 8 years of no training. But stepping into the 'scary' is where is start to grow.13/11/2016 #15 AnonymousDear @Virag Gulyas, Freedom of self-expression is worth fighting for, that is the essential meaning of the self - similarity concept. As we get older the desire for freedom is growing. Your concerns and decisions are a sign that you're on the right track. Congrats, I'm a semi-professional dancer, It is just that believe it or not :)13/11/2016 #14 CityVP 🐝 ManjitOh! Virag Gulyas what have you unleashed here ! You have just put the name Ohad Naharin smack bang into my vocabulary, for when you mentioned freedom, it overwhelmed me to know the extent of freedom as dance philosophy this is. Incredible! I just ran the film trailer for Mr.Gaga and a whole new world opened up https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F6gd8xpFMsM a world that I love where freedom is tattooed as a way, as an expression, as a force that is born from a rigid culture, freeing itself from a constraint.
This reminds me of the antonym side of the movie Whiplash - where Whiplash dictates a passionate man who loves drumming and is grounded into submission by a ruthless teacher - and the antonym here is Mr.Gaga - a dance expression that releases the ruthless world of dance. We already know what it takes to become a professional ballerina, the immeasurable sacrifice, the dream that is chased by many girls but then funneled into a excruciating and demanding test to emerge with the few and not many. Cue the movie Flashdance - but Flashdance was not about creating something new, but another recital of the hero's journey. For sure it dealt with class but it was not a philosophy and it certainly did not offer any form of freedom.
You should feel justifiably liberated because you are clearly an early adopter of this transformation, this giving dance back to the people, the loosening of rigidity, the renewal of form and function, to exercise what one actually loves about this passion. The more I read http://www.danceadvantage.net/questions-about-gaga/ and http://gagapeople.com/english/ the more I honour your post and I thank you for opening the curtain for me and I say kudos to you for embracing this, for this is truly freedom.13/11/2016 #12 Sara JacoboviciYou are a great storyteller @Virag Gulyas and it always feels like it's coming straight from the heart.
Because one of my pillars of life is movement (paradox intended), you made me think that it is not simply the freedom to move but how to move that makes the difference; the freedom lies in choosing the how.
The other thing that I found "moving" in your story is when you say, "I understood more about my body today than during my whole rigorous dancer education.". Again, here the education lies in the freedom of movement and the understanding that results from that.
Wow! Thank you for sharing your amazing life experience Virag and wishing you from strength to strength.13/11/2016 #8 David B. GrinbergKudos to you Virag, for taking that leap after so long. I think your conclusion nails it: "So many of us stay in that tight leotard we force on ourselves - because, we get used to it, we feel too comfortable to leave. But don't stay because you got used it; because it is too comfortable. Wear that damn loose t-shirt and go free."
Life is too short to be running around on a hamster wheel road to no where. No one ever got anywhere by running (or dancing ) in place. Moreover, I think it would be great if you did a Live Buzz (when ready) from your dance studio. I'm sure you're very good. Remember, we are all our worst critics. Good luck and dance on...