- Producer11/01/2017Story as Technology, Part 2 is the best part of the trip Part 1 warmed us up with some basics about story as a universal knowledge management technology; I hope you found them interesting if not fun. Now I’ll share what I consider to be the single most important insight into applying story in business...
- Producer09/01/2017Boiling it down: or The Leadership Art of Talking Simply“Conceptual reductionist intercourse facilitates adherent adhesion in on-going dynamism.”Or in other words: In times of change, a leader makes it easier for followers to follow by speaking simply - “boiling it down”.Many who write about change say...
Comments10/01/2017 #5 Mohammed Sultan@Allan Culler.The overwhelming communication,media influence and the narrower span of people attention have made it impossible for a long message to stick in customers mind.Research has demonstrated that a shocking percentage of viewers remember your commercial ,but forget the name of your brand.Big long words mean little things and are difficult to recall.I,personally,understood the meaning of simplicity early in 1980's when I was working as a Research Manager at a Saudi company called "Saudi Vegetable Oils and Ghee Company".When we conducted awareness study two years after commencing the production of our flag brand AFIA,we were shocked by the high level of the spontaneous awareness of the brand AFIA which was exceeding 85% and the very low level of the company awareness (not exceeding 10%).What was more surprising and made name change a necessity,all too often consumers attributed our commercial commercials to our major competitor's brand MAZOLA.However to register the company name in customers mind and keep the value of the company's original name ,and to hit two birds with one stone,we changed the company name to SAVOLA .We played the change game and kept everything consistent at the level of 85% within 2 years.This's the value of research and the payoff of simplicity.We ,then ,learned the lesson which is -when communicating;big long words mean little things and all big things have little names.It was hard to do but they said what you mean.10/01/2017 #4 Ali Anani@Alan Culler- This is a buzz that I shared truly proudly. Simplicity to explain the complexity of change by using super examples.
“Risk Down; Value Up - Systematically.” is a great example of making things easier to grasp, comprehend and leave much less room for assumptions.
The great contribution of this buzz in my humble opinion is highlighting the need to communicate more during times of change. I add to emphasize the need to use simple words to extract the juicy slogans from communications that have already started. I believe the middle manager wouldn't have extracted the simple slogan of risk down and value up without having been engaged in repeated communications.
They say a great story has a theme that may be extracted in few simple words. Romeo and Juliet is one example: love is greater than death. For the story of change to happen similar simplicity is the way.10/01/2017 #3 AnonymousNick Mlatchkov
Jan 10, 2017 12:12:14 AM
This painting reminds me of the famous picture of I. Repin!
Ilya Yefimovich Repin was a Russian-Ukrainian realist painter. He was the most renowned Russian artist of the 19th century, when his position in the world of art was comparable to that of Leo Tolstoy in literature.
- Producer07/01/2017On the Limits of Free ExpressionWE MAY ALL HAVE THE RIGHT TO FREELY EXPRESS IDEAS AND OPINIONS BUT IS ANYONE OBLIGATED TO LISTEN, LET ALONE ANSWER ...The issue of what is and what isn't acceptable expression on social media comes up frequently, particularly on platforms such as...
Comments09/01/2017 #82 Phil Friedman#80 Excellent simile, Pascal. It's where I've finally arrived after several years. 1) On MY posts I speak my mind. If you come onto my post to comment, then expect that I will respond. If you don't want that, don't come to the comments on MY posts. And let's drop the "Phil's a meany and started it all when he hit me back." 2) I am making an extra effort to respect the sensitivities of others these days by not making critical comments on the posts of others unless a) I've been invited to comment by a tag or a shout out, or b) I have an established relationship with the author of the post and know he or she will accept the critical comment for what it is. 3) I leave it to management to eject rowdy, obnoxious fellow-customers — although I personally prefer that management exercise that prerogative sparingly. Thanks for joining the conversation. You make a lot of sense, as usual.09/01/2017 #80 Pascal DerrienI was thinking in very practical terms that social media is you do what you want in your own house, you respect other users in a public park and the management reserves the right to admission to the restaurant providing you comply with basic rules of engagement otherwise you can be escorted out thru the exit door... :-)09/01/2017 #78 Phil Friedman#76 Donna-Luisa, you are, I think, correct. There is always a tension between a desire for intellectual engagement and the need to protect oneself from emotional predators.
To my mind, "trolls" almost always fall into the latter category. For they literally draw sustenance from the negative emotional energy they elicit. And in some cases, it becomes a game of King of the Hill -- which is why it is so distressing to them to be ignored.
As true bullies, they've learned as well that making people uncomfortable frequently gets the what they want, in a recreation of buy-the-bully-off, otherwise known as the Stockholm Syndrome. As always, thank you for you insight and thoughtful comments. Cheers!09/01/2017 #77 Phil Friedman#75 Mohammed, thank you for reading and commenting. I understand your concern and the moral imperative which you recommend. And I have sometimes been able to act in accord with it -- in several instances using tolerance and playfulness to draw out a supposed troll into communicating openly without a hidden agenda, and becoming part of the community.
In some few cases it works, and is gratifying But most times it doesn't. Because, I 've concluded, such people usually do not want to join a community. For they truly lack empathy and see others as objects to be used. And are most times, are best ignored.09/01/2017 #76 Donna-Luisa Eversley@Phil Friedman I have noted your efforts to ignore being baited and found one individual quite upset and persistent by your lack of response on one of your posts. I was confused initially about why you did not respond as it became creepy and obsessive. It was interesting to watch, but also uncomfortable. I am guilty at times of really shying away from negativity which is offensive. However, I have learnt in 2016 that I don't need to read or respond to anyone I choose not to engage with. Your discussion on free speech matters , because it is critical to deffrentiate between trollish behavior and an opinion of disagreement. The lines seem blurred on what offends sometimes, and it can be quite subjective. My only fear and concern is we lose when all thoughts mirror our own and there is no yin to yang. Disagreement can protect against fake or fraudulent information dispensed via social media by psudeo experts. Quite an interesting discussion and much needed.09/01/2017 #75 Mohammed Sultan@ Phil Friedman.Fruity trees are always thrown by stones.You either ignore the troll or support him.Those irrational people are acting emotionally ,so they need to be understood and supported until they balance their emotion with reason.In the workplaces there's many who are trolling others ideas because no body listened to their ideas.We always advice companies not to suppress their views or get them blamed for their behavior because they are often me - too people.Their capabilities depends more on their feelings ,emotions and hidden knowledge rather than relationships with others.Show them the glint of light on their broken heart after they had trolled.Kant the French philosopher said "In how a man is guilty,who he violates the rights of others,in ethics he is guilty if he only thinks of doing this." Phil, patience is a true sign of authenticity that provides you with the energy to go further.09/01/2017 #72 Phil Friedman#71 Thanks, Franci, for reading and joining the conversation. For the most part, I agree with your summary. I am moved, however, to caution everyone about the too-free use of sanctions. In the matter of freedom of expression, I think it is always better on social media to err on the side of being too liberal, and use official sanctions only when it is obvious that the issue cannot be cleared up by the free reigning interactions of the community. Cheers and best wishes to you for the new year 2017.09/01/2017 #71 Franci🐝Eugenia HoffmanThank you for your professional approach to freedom of expression, Phil. Perhaps, a fragile subject but one worthy of being addressed. We can agree and we can disagree (not referencing you and me, per se), and that's fine because if we didn't we would be complacent and drab souls. If we don't test the waters, then we don't know which way the river flows.
IMO, your post is more about freedom of speech than trolls. And it is about writers: those who use written words in various styles and techniques to communicate their ideas.
And it is about listeners(commenters) and their freedom of expression. Both the writer and listener(commenter) should be respected and show respect, as well.
With that said, relating specifically to beBee we have a gift at our fingertips where we can meet, greet, engage, discuss and have freedom of expression and freedom of listening(commenting). I feel it ours to use, but not abuse and not let anyone else abuse it, as well. @Javier 🐝 beBee has proven that abuse will not be tolerated, which is one of the reasons I'm proud to be a bee.
To sum up, my rambling, IMO, it boils down to respect.
Buzz on and be the best you can bee.08/01/2017 #68 Anonymous#66 @Phil Friedman, This is the one of the key aspects necessary for sustainable development of any social network. Unpleasant experiences and unrealistically high expectations and hopes, in contact with other people on social media, should not cause disappointment and loss of faith in humanity, kindness and the importance of helpfulness.08/01/2017 #67 Phil Friedman#62 Tetyana, thank you for commenting. I cannot speak to the charge that there are paid professional trolls on social media, who are agents of various governments, and that such agents use complaints and reporting functions to silence critics of their masters. But I can see that it is definitely a danger. Which is why it is so important to protect the rights of the minority to speak freely against any possible tyranny of the majority. And to make sure that the reporting function is not used unfairly as a tool of repression. Cheers!08/01/2017 #66 Phil Friedman#57 #61 Milos and David, in the main, I agree with both of you. David makes an important point: It is critical to avoid allowing the reporting functions from being used as tools of retaliation and vendetta. The only way to accomplish that is to assure that every complaint is properly investigated before action is taken against the user being reported. As well, I think it important to understand that simply not liking or being made uncomfortable by what somebody says is NOT, nor should it be sufficient for having that person's account closed down. Freedom of expression has primarily to do with protecting the rights of the minority (or less powerful in the situation) from the overbearing power of the majority (or the more powerful in the situation).
I think it should also be recognized that some bees might be upset by what some users say, but that in itself is not sufficient to squelch the speaker's free expression. I was aghast recently by reading a comment by a beBee user that lauded some of Hitler's ideas. And so I muted that bee, and when the block function goes live, I will block that person as well. However, I would not want that person's account closed down simply because I found the remark offensive and unacceptable. For that would itself do more damage to free expression than the objectionable remark itself.
I think Milos lays out some useful criteria in intention, form, and function. And I believe further that a balanced objectivity must be maintained.
That said, I for one trust @Javier beBee and the beBee administration to act with care and good judgment, as has been amply evidenced to date. Cheers!08/01/2017 #65 Anonymous"Philanthropy"
"1. The effort or inclination to increase the well-being of humankind, as by charitable aid or donations.
2. Love of humankind in general.
3. Something, such as an activity or institution, intended to promote human welfare."
- From thefreedictionary.com (http://www.thefreedictionary.com/Philantropy)08/01/2017 #62 Anonymous#59 Now this is like real CEO you speak @Javier 🐝 beBee .. Social media has a lot of issues with people's security, I personally have been suspended by Kremlin - hired trolls for 1 month when Russia has invaded my country in 2014 (militarily) on the false claims. Since then many Ukrainians were suspended from American social media platforms (twitter, FB) and now LinkedIn has suspended Americans, including intelligence service veterans, I even wrote about it on LinkedIn, but people don't believe it, because they think it's a fiction. If you will make BeBee safe in terms of such things, then you will sure be the best social media platform.. ))
- Producer07/01/2017What’s That Knocking at the Door?When I started writing this blog in 2014, my initial intent was to write about my journey as I started my own business as an Executive Coach. I had decided on the school I would attend for training, and had already completed some certifications...
Comments09/01/2017 #6 Sara JacoboviciAs always @Ali Anani "reads" me perfectly. Thanks Dr. ali for bringin my attention to this great buzz. @John Whitehead, you present an experience most of us can relate to and certainly identify with in a narrative that makes it easy to hear. As Dr. Ali pointed out, I appreciate when you write, ""One of the biggest lessons I've learned is to expect the unexpected: be open to opportunities as they arise and don’t be afraid to step out of your comfort zone". This can lead to what has worked for me to gratefully not have to experience the imposter syndrome anymore. First, I always find a way of asking as many questions beforehand regarding expectations; from the organizers or other team members. Then, in expecting the unexpected, my focus is on trying to imagine, where I will be, with who I will be and why I will be there; whether presenting, training, joining a new team , and so on. After all that, I go into the experience not focusing on me or others but on the work itself. With my focus on the work, I have shifted any attention from me or others to the content of the gathering. And since I wouldn't be doing what I was doing if I didn't have an interest or care enough about the work, immersing myself in the work beats any other place, comfort zone or not. Thanks for sharing your experiences and success story John.09/01/2017 #4 Laura Mikolaitis@John Whitehead, I love what you say here: "there is a reason you are here; someone thought you are the right person for this role. So do your best and be who you are. You know your stuff — be confident in that." Amen to that. It's something that we tend to forget and we do a disservice to ourselves when we do. Maybe it is due to outside forces or our own internal conflicts that can lead us down that road. But you are right. There is a reason. And likely, a steadfast one. So grab it by the reigns and go because you just never know. And if whatever it is doesn't work out, then perhaps it is leading you to the next thing that will. Growth doesn't come without challenges. We just have to be willing to accept them and learn from them - even if we don't understand the lesson at first. Thank you for sharing this. I really enjoyed reading it.09/01/2017 #3 Ali Anani@John Whitehead- I enjoyed immensely reading your buzz and experiencing the imposter syndrome. I know the feeling and your buzz triggered some memories. I like some doubts for short times because they make me try to do better. However; if should the syndrome stay for prolonged times it could be very harmful.
I am sure @Sara Jacobovici shall enjoy reading this buzz as you wrote "One of the biggest lessons I've learned is to expect the unexpected: be open to opportunities as they arise and don’t be afraid to step out of your comfort zone". Only last week she wrote on the relationship of imagination and expecting the unexpected. Sharing09/01/2017 #2 Harvey LloydThis was a good discussion about the "imposter syndrome", i have never heard it labeled. This is a concept that when traveling in uncharted areas of growth can become a battlefield of the mind.
I am not sure we can avoid it. There seems to be a competitive communications style that feels it must challenge people in their growth. This would establish a narrative of constant seeking understanding in the area of your growth. Early in my small business journey i was lucky and had a few mentors who recognized my blind exploration and provided complimentary guidance.
Great thoughts here and certainly is a worthy topic.07/01/2017 #1 David B. GrinbergNice post, John. I would emphasize the many employees need to improve their "soft skills" in today's mobile, digital and virtual Information Age. This is especially true for Millennials and Gen Z, the biggest age demographics who also represents the next generation of leadership. It's good to know you are training people on "soft skills" -- as mastering these skills enhance interpersonal communication and customer service, among other things. Keep buzing in 2017, John!
- Producer07/01/2017The Problem with Communication – Part IIIn the introduction to this series of posts, The Problem with Communication – Part I, I discussed the etymology of words in the English language, a few of the processes the human brain uses when receiving information and processing it, and a...
Comments07/01/2017 #9 Ali AnaniVery interesting buzz dear @Edward Lewellen, Your avocado story is spot on. It amazes me how we interpret communication. This is in accordance with what you mentioned as "The illusion of communication".
I am hoping to read Part 3 soon so that I may share my views of the as a bundle. All what I can add now is this is truly a novel approach to the communication issue.07/01/2017 #8 CityVP 🐝 ManjitI can now add mistakes of interpretation in line with the avacado story with mistakes of intent.
Glad that Part 2 was posted just after Part 1, because I saved Part 1 originally to my Gray Hive, but then quickly thought that my new Magenta hive is where Part 1 should be. So instead of removing the buzz from the Gray Hive I accidentally hit the "Hide Buzz" option - so at least now I have a link to both. The reason I don't put it into both hives is that this series allows me to think about the mind. Whereas David Grinberg's comment #7 helps me to think about the act of communication (hence Gray Hive).
Same as my first comment, it is great to think of this as a "Brain Operators Guide" - the manual we never received when we were born, but discovered through insights like this.07/01/2017 #7 David B. GrinbergNice post, Edward, you provide excellent information on the brain processes information consciously and subconsciously.
As a professional communicator, I would also note the following advice (which you may have covered already in Part I):
1) Practice "Active Listening" (google it). As famous talk show host Larry King once remarked (and other have repeated in some form): "I never learned anything while I was talking."
2) Studies show the most effective communication is non-verbal! This might come as a surprise to some who believe talking elicits the best response from others. But most people respond better to visual cues, such as body language and facial expressions.
3) Understand the difference between listening/hearing versus comprehending what's being said. The two can sometimes be mutual exclusive, per the phrase, "In one ear, out the other."
Again, good read and series, Edward. Keep buzzing in 2017!07/01/2017 #6 debasish majumderonce i came across a story, where a mathematician being asked to look after the luggage by his wife in the airport while she went out fetch for a cab. she told repeatedly to her husband, that there was only ten luggage the possess. while returning the spot after securing a cab, she found that her husband in utter distress. when she asked what was the reason, her husband replied that she told her ten luggage, but he was finding nine luggage, and he stated to count in front of her, one, two,....nine, zero. his wife became wild, but the reality is, the mathematician have utter different than common folk. now, the question is how will you define this communication gap and what are the measures to overcome it? however, intriguing post indeed @Edward Lewellen! thank you for the share.
- Producer08/12/2016For the Communicationally - ChallengedWHICH IS ALL OF US; IT JUST DEPENDS ON THE DAY. All too often the art of communication, or lack of art, gets us into trouble. With a little grace and intentionality in the way we listen and speak, the majority of the problems we face would be...
Comments08/12/2016 #6 Mohammed A. JawadIndeed, the art of communication matters most. If we make a truthful, clear utterance with right facial expressions, then that's really going to influence others. Like dulcet oratory plays a magic on listeners, even wrong words and harsh tone can simply mar our relationships.08/12/2016 #1 Sarah ElkinsI can really use #6, Laine, what a great way to respond! I know I can apply that to our two teenagers, too. These are good guidelines, and are complementary to the conversation I had with @Alan Culler View moreI can really use #6, Laine, what a great way to respond! I know I can apply that to our two teenagers, too. These are good guidelines, and are complementary to the conversation I had with @Alan Culler today. Terrific post! Close
- Producer09/12/2016E-mail Etiquette: To Cc or Not to Cc, That is the Question...This is from a co-worker and it is so good, I decided to share it with a wider audience. With some slight edits and some additional hints of my own, here are some things that should help enhance communication via e-mail.All correspondence is a...
Comments09/12/2016 #2 Wayne Yoshida#1 Thanks for the comment Aleta. I see these messages all the time in my mailbox. The hints really should be common sense, although sometimes microsoft engineers tend to insert settings and features they think everyone needs - which is not always correct. Remember the annoying paper clip thing?
- 07/12/2016Take the time and effort to correct misinformationwww.nature.com Scientists should challenge online falsehoods and inaccuracies — and harness the collective power of the Internet to fight back, argues Phil...
Comments08/12/2016 #15 CityVP 🐝 Manjit#14 Cannot say that we were not warned, Chomsky was warning about this when I was still a young man. When we look at the attitudes to science between the boomers and the millennials, there is a difference - but I won't advocate for euthanasia - not now that I am getting old - man have we buggered up the future for them up and coming Gen W's i.e. "generation whatever".08/12/2016 #14 Gerald Hecht#13 @CityVP 🐝 Manjit criteria for inclusion into a category constituting either "a good" or "a service" (including "a reviewable scientific study") are increasingly based on algorithms drawing from key "features" based on this: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Manufacturing_Consent (SERIOUSLY!)08/12/2016 #13 CityVP 🐝 ManjitWe surely must know that bad science is at pathetic levels when it has reached the desk of John Oliver https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0Rnq1NpHdmw and that is just scientific studies manipulated for consumer markets. Climate science is operating at an altogether bizzarro universe, so here look at Dr Phil Williamson response to an ocean acidification article http://www.mba.ac.uk/marinebiologist/comments-on-ocean-acidification-yet-another-wobbly-pillar-of-climate-alarmism-by-james-delingpole/ and it is very reasonable. Now move over to climate science that uses words like "Hall of Shame" http://www.campaigncc.org/climate_change/sceptics/hall_of_shame and how about this group with a different view of the Hall of Shame http://www.seafriends.org.nz/issues/global/hall_of_shame.htm So when Dr Williamson says "Discussion threads provide some opportunity for challenge and informed comment, but are not for the faint-hearted" - and when it is this noisy where does one begin to know what is misinformation, what is political, what is good science? Talk about a very, very bad situation as @Gerald Hecht says - I would go one step more, right now it is an impossible situation if one just looks at the dogfight in the climate science community as just one example.07/12/2016 #12 Gerald HechtSadly, I believe that "Brandolini's law" is getting worse; this is a very, very bad situation --make NO MISTAKE! The author's estimate that it requires "one order of magnitude more effort to combat fake news via the presentation of the actual facts"... is, I believe, rapidly approaching TWO OR MORE ORDERS OF MAGNITUDE more effort. This doesn't mean that we should give up --but it does add even more logistical obstacles to the effort of countering propaganda with truth; for in the process of "increasing the volume" (even though the message be one of truth)...the net effect is one of such a tremendous amount of "noise"...that the uninformed/uneducated will most likely be simply overwhelmed; unable to know what to believe! This increases the likelihood of people simply "TUNING OUT". Make no mistake --this really is VERY BAD; indeed the FDA (just this week) has already dramatically lowered the bar for acceptable evidence rules regarding approval of new medications. I don't know what the answer is --I do know the effects of overloading the delivery systems in communications...positive feedback loops of (sometimes painful, sometimes ecstatic) meaningless, incoherent distortion...07/12/2016 #11 Harvey Lloyd@Milos Djukic this situation is challenging. We have seen politics lead the way in misinformation as a deterrent to truth. This has become so acceptable that it is not really the truth anymore that we seek, but yet the results of any information that gets us what we want.
Once someone stands up in the theatre yells "FIRE" please scream the truth all you want, people will still be clamouring for the doors. The story will unfold over time as each fleeing movie goer settles into their eye witness report.
Unfortunately, news and media in general have become fluid in bending opinions and emotions with total disregard for truth. Within the global warming issue the facts have been so clouded the issue has become an apathetic discussion with folks that have emotions, not informed opinions.
My personal take on global warming is that climate is changing. But why are we trying to monetize global warming through charity, carbon exchanges and most importantly why are we arguing about science?
New Orleans is sinking into the Gulf while measurable Gulf levels are rising. I don't need science, i need a ruler and ruled tablet and fat number 2 pencil. Maybe a wooden 12" ruler.
Misinformation pays money; Bends the public opinion in a direction that someone or something benefits. Facts just get in the way.07/12/2016 #5 David B. GrinbergThanks for sharing this excellent article, Milos. We must not let misinformation or fake news usurp the truth in today's frenetic mobile, digital and virtual Information Age. Thus, no one should be shy in immediately clarifying and correcting media mistakes online. The extra effort is well worth the desired result. At least that's one lesson I learned from 20+ years of working closely with the news media: go the extra mile because the truth is worth it and facts don't lie!
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- Producer13/11/2016Sorry, you can’t blame it on politics or politicians.Image credit: You Tube This “Out of the Comment Box” buzz is in response to two articles. Thank you to @Deb Lange and @ Irene Hackett for sharing and exchanging. This is the stuff that gives value to...
Comments13/11/2016 #14 Sara JacoboviciThank you @Ian Weinberg for the continued exchange and for your link. I would suggest that a very important thread in your work is the "life narrative" you refer to. Stories are both individual and collective. They have a place in history for transmitting information across generations. Culturally, stories have been used to teach the children about who we are and the world around us. And so we internalize stories we hear. In this way our life narrative and story is formed internally. What is an important piece of work is developing the awareness of whose voices narrate different parts of our story and when and how we use our own voice. Not an easy process but definitely worth the effort.13/11/2016 #12 Ian Weinberg@Sara Jacobovici thanks for a valid and thought-provoking contribution to the subject. Based on my intervention experience, I would add that the intrinsic limiting belief bias can be a hard nut to crack ( I actually crack nuts professionally, both literally and figuratively!). It really boils down to the prevailing life narrative. There are varying degrees of receptivity ranging from not even acknowledging that there is a blind-spot through recognizing but not being able to transcend the blind-spot to the other extreme, being able to transcend with appropriate intervention and inspiration. And so my approach has always been to contribute as much value as I can to self, other individuals and to the extended environment in the hope that there's some receptivity and traction. It may be of some interest in this regard, to peruse an earlier post of mine which engaged this subject - see https://www.bebee.com/producer/@ian-weinberg/challenging-limiting-beliefs-2099313/11/2016 #11 Harvey LloydWhat an engaging post @Sara Jacobovici. I read both of the pieces you linked and was somewhat bewildered by the group think display.
Your statement "tribe vs individual" are where my interests lie. Do we reflect a core set of values in our behavior or do we react to our environment to achieve a certain reflection from our behaviors? This question is the study of many hours by great folks, yet the answer is sometimes elusive within the individual. I like the quote by Friedrich Nietzsche.
It would appear that the election process has demonstrated, on both sides, group think is a powerful force when polarized. Being an individual grants us the opportunity to grow through observation, yet moves us closer or further away from the tribes within our environment. A personal conundrum when we consider our options within social groups.
One of the "brain" shows demonstrated the strength of group think by asking a simple multiple choice question. Instead of giving an answer the subject would have to walk and stand in one of four roped off areas labeled A-D. They placed a group in the wrong answer. A large percentage of the subjects chose the group. Amazingly the few that choose the right answer looked weird standing away from the group. The ones that choose the group stated they didn't want to appear stupid and were willing to fail with the group even though they new it was the wrong answer. A few ignored the group and stood alone.
Your courage to write such a post, was encouraging and engaging. Bravo!13/11/2016 #5 Ali AnaniJust combining three segments that I read in this buzz shows how powerful this bizz is. These segments are:
The only blind spot that exists is the internal, in the moment, when taking in information. But because we know there is a blind spot, it is our responsibility to compensate, strategize and adapt.
We are a part of this dynamic existence we call life, not passive receivers or observers. It is within the tension of what is and isn’t in our control, fighting for our individuality while living in a community and the choices we make, that moves us on our chosen paths. Sara Jacobovici
The “luck factor”, as he called it, was the most important one to keep in mind when we are learning psychological development. This doctor and professor at an internationally renowned United States teaching hospital felt it necessary to teach us that an immeasurable factor is an important influence on the measurable development of the human psyche
Luck comes to those people who deserve it. People who live in the tension of opposites and try to make the best out of it. The tension of knowing what is controllable and what isn't and adapting to it.
I couldn't agree more with you @Sara Jacobovici and I am truly enlightened. Thank you13/11/2016 #2 Lisa 🐝 GallagherInteresting perspective @Sara Jacobovici. I love the lyrics on the meme from Micheal Jackson's song. That was actually one of my favorites later in the years because it has a lot of meaning. We are the change we seek and it must begin with us first. I've seen a lot of group think mentality over the years while following politics and I've always been one to think outside of the box. I hate punditry, and repetitive catch phrases the media uses over and over. One thing I learned long ago is that we need to realize we can be persuaded to believe almost anything if we don't fact check and REMEMBER that many times people are trying to throw others off their game (distractions) which helps to aid them (the Politicians) to avoid topics that are very relevant to everyone. And, there is group think mentality that many get caught up in too, a very dangerous scenario for our country and life in general if we don't take time to reflect and think for ourselves. It does take courage to be your own person.13/11/2016 #1 Deb🐝 LangeGreat post @Sara Jacobovici - so much of this comes back to a deep need for embodied awareness. If I am aware, that throughout my childhood my parents did the best they could, but, they were also living with the struggles of being brought up by their parents, and they were living with theirs etc etc, we can be compassionate for our parents and families. After we have realised we are all in this together, doing the best that we can, then perhaps we can start looking at how we are creating our lives. Are we blindly creating the same as our family of origin as we are doing this by osmosis, or have we chosen to look at the values and beliefs inherent in the way we are thinking, doing, emoting, sensing, voicing and being, and in doing so freely choose the values we want to express in our actions. One of the problems is not all of us know how to uncover our blindspots, and how to uncover our values and beliefs inherent in our actions. Most people are not taught these things in their families, schools or workplaces. The good thing is when we make a commitment we can learn to open our awareness. This new awareness gives us more choice in who we are being at any given time.
- 31/10/2016I just love Kartic's post on LinkedIn and had to share it here. It's a brilliant and effective communication tool for change management in a large organization. After all, what is the cost for miscommunication?Effect(ive/ing) Change Communication using Gameswww.linkedin.com After a couple months into a change initiative, I was reviewing the progress and a few of my team mates said "people are unclear about the change". I called a few people and I realized that it...
- 25/10/2016Today's column on Inc.10 Ways To Avoid Being Labeled a Complainer At Workwww.inc.com Science tells us that once you start complaining it can become a way of life and your team at work will...
Comments01/11/2016 #2 Praveen Raj GullepalliExcellent suggestions! A complaint (if not a personal grouse or malicious gossip) often opens ground for feedback that would make a positive difference if acknowledged and addressed. Open channels of communication between teams, efficient feedback mechanisms and being brand-centric above all else go a long way in neutralising negatives in any work space.
- Producer08/10/2016Organization Tips: Job/Internship SearchCall me nerdy, but I love to be organized. Creating to-do lists, files on my computer, and knowing where everything is, makes me feel happy. Through applying to internships and now jobs, I’ve learned a thing or two about the best way to stay...
- Producer26/09/2016Compounding CommunicationImage credit: Solutions.3m.com We are organic, biological units and as such we are part of what we refer to as “nature”. Although we invented the wheel, we don’t need to go very far to look at why we invented it and what we are trying to enhance....
Comments19/10/2016 #53 Sara Jacobovici#52 "...serving is the DNA of leadership...", in these few words @CityVP 🐝 Manjit, you have captured the essence of leadership, something that is still being described and defined in volumes of writings. If we can make this wise choice, we then can have the experience you had; realizing that our roles are not measured through a lesser than and greater than comparison but rather through measuring the the factor of enabling; a learning, an opportunity, an experience. Thank you for your link. I would like to say that your post breathes new life into the overused (and often misused) word "authentic". I also appreciate how you describe thankfulness or gratitude as an alternative to escaping reality. After having the joy of seeing and hearing the video of Montego Bay that you share, I'm wondering if one of the reasons music is so powerful is that music is not so much an escape from reality but a means through which we can experience gratitude. I would like to express my gratitude to you Manjit for our engagement, thank you.19/10/2016 #52 CityVP 🐝 Manjit#50 Dear Sara, yes I have read this after the event has been completed. The success of the last weeks and the effort associated with it was a servant role. As we encouraged our students to attend and my goal was to make them feel proud of such an event, the role I chose as organizer was in the background - standing outside the event hall, to ensure speakers were not disturbed, recognizing that sometimes this lesser role is the greatest role we could have chosen, and it was. This is what Montego Bay, my post at LinkedIn is about https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/montego-bay-cityvp-manjit?articleId=6191220543887273984#comments-6191220543887273984&trk=prof-post - that conflict between sacrifice and serving, that dissipates when one recognizes serving is the DNA of leadership - as a wisdom within us which we can choose.17/10/2016 #50 Sara Jacobovici#49 Dear @CityVP 🐝 Manjit, I am sure you will be reading this after your speaking engagement. I envy your audience. Thank you for taking the time to read this buzz and for your invaluable contribution to the discussion. The flow of communication took me straight from the opening word to the last. And what a wonderful ending it is, "With the right combinations we become poetic."16/10/2016 #49 CityVP 🐝 ManjitFinally, I have reached this destination and got to read this wonderful buzz and more importantly I am able to pay my full attention to it, an attention that it deserves. Tomorrow at my public speaking club I am leading with the theme "Word Power". Earlier today I began compiling a hidden page for club members that fleshes out the role of the Grammarian, the intent being to enrich the meaning of that role, rather than the very basic way it has to date been delivered.
This grammar page is at the beginning line of the continuum of communication and on the other end of this continuum is "Compounding Communication". What brings this continuum in flow is the force of nature, rather than the condition of the unnatural which is when we turn this continuum into a machine and our communication is either mechanical or vapor.
Communication is a distillation towards essence and the metaphor of atoms and molecules brings me to the nature of things - and words are things that we apply meaning to. When our communication is unclear the way those atoms and molecules vibrate either lose their meaning (a gas state) or they get too hard (the solid state). The way I interpret the continuum is that which is between gas and solid - a flow. This is what we do to words and synonyms.
Now add to that the complexity when we look at words and synonyms as a power of three. The combinations that are then produced are an extension or compression of the original essence. These combinations that maintain their flow are more valuable to us then those that lose their meaning or become rigid and inflexible. With the right combinations we become poetic.04/10/2016 #47 Leckey Harrison#46 There is some notion @Donna-Luisa Eversley, that it starts before then. Your mom had every egg she would ever produce when she was born, according to Mark Wolynn. Whatever she went through in utero (think stress/trauma), the egg went through and was biochemically effected at the gene expression level. The mom grew up and had her own experiences, and then the egg that you became started to grow, and whatever mom experienced directly she passed to your biochemistry as it was forming. For example, women from 9/11 in Rachel Yehuda's study that were pregnant and had PTSD, gave birth to infants with the identical biochemistry markers of PTSD.
What you say about a human smell, and the voice timbre and so is so true. It wasn't my experience, nor that of many, some worse than mine, so development gets hijacked. Development that includes emotional presence and ability to communicate down the road. There is also the flip side of that in those with highly attuned emotional radar (self acclaimed empaths) that are so only because they needed that ability to survive, and are stuck in that mode. Withdrawn or highly sensitive, neither system returns to the state of safety. The project those states of being into relationships twenty years down the road.29/09/2016 #46 Donna-Luisa EversleyThe cognitive development of people starts from our beginning, rather than outside the womb, hence the ability to sense the need to stay close to another human who smells like mom...As we grow older this intuitive process is honed and helps with our confidence, which is our internal response to knowledge... I'm not sure I'm on the right path @Sara Jacobovici, haha, you have somehow managed to get me swimming in the deep.. .very very stimulating!29/09/2016 #44 Donna-Luisa EversleyI'm sharing all of this to say, as one branches out, that innate sense of establishing contact can take any form, and the environment can be the same but affect everyone differently. Thus the way they choose to 'speak' will be within their talent parameters as determined by what is absorbed through developmentl conditioning....
O dear, it's quite long @Sara Jacobovici but these are my thoughts29/09/2016 #43 Donna-Luisa Eversley@Sara Jacobovici, continuing my second son did not speak until he was eighteen months and we were worried. When he started it was in sentences... 😊 I was quite busy and spoke to him less but spent more time with him. He was a strange child, a bit quiet but thoughtful in his expressions. He was able to communicate through some strong facial expressions. It worked.
My daughter the baby of the bunch was a real trooper...she had the least time with me because of work, and is the most spoilt and coodled. She started speaking at 2 years and was what seemed to me at the time as normal. She loved coloring and writing in squiggles. Her brothers would know what she wanted and they spoke for her mostly... There was an eight year difference..
Part 229/09/2016 #42 Donna-Luisa Eversley#41 Yes @Sara Jacobovici , as I reflect I recall the different ways each of my three children responded to the art of speech, and the activities I was engrossed in while they were housed within me 😉..My eldest started to speak at Nine months. I loved listening to music and sang all the time. I read a lot in those days also .We were driving and Phil Collins - groovy kind of love - was playing and he actually sang two lines of the chorus. I was shocked, this baby was learning to walk too early and now sing..crazy...I would sing it to him, and when it came on the radio he was able to identify and communicate in like manner...
Part 129/09/2016 #41 Sara Jacobovici#40 No apologies necessary @Donna-Luisa Eversley. You're right on! It starts with our development in the womb. There is communication on a cellular level and, yes, our innate system of communication is on from the beginning. In this way we may think for the developmental stages of communication as "in-born", experience and meaning (another triad?). The other forms seem to "branch" out from there. What do you think?29/09/2016 #40 Donna-Luisa Eversley@Sara Jacobovici as I read this post my thoughts strayed to a young child growing up and how he/she learns to make decisions and process actions. Are we hardwired with an innate ability which we tap into with each move we make? In the womb a baby knows the surroundings yet somehow adapts to the new world, steadily. Understanding communication and the talent imposed by simply being alive is one a baby, I think shows great awareness of without being taught on how to adapt on the outside....
My apologies if I stray but I enjoyed the stimulation of this discussion.28/09/2016 #38 Dale Masters#30 @Ali Anani Trees communicate with each other and plants around them:
I hope sincerely that you feel beter as soo as possible.28/09/2016 #37 Leckey Harrison#35 Done....@Sara Jacobovici @Deb 🐝 Helfrich I could have been more specific on the neurological process, and will if I get enough engagement. Good takeaway, @Sara Jacobovici. That's the upshot, the work I do is showing people how to self-induce and self-regulate that mechanism.28/09/2016 #35 Sara Jacobovici#33 "Once we learn to work with the body's innate mechanism to release, we can become open, curious, and engaged people, and then the world will change." This is my take away from your comment @Leckey Harrison View more#33 "Once we learn to work with the body's innate mechanism to release, we can become open, curious, and engaged people, and then the world will change." This is my take away from your comment @Leckey Harrison. And I echo @Deb 🐝 Helfrich words: your comment deserves its own buzz. Close
- 15/09/2016Sadly Suzette Haden Elgin, Psycholinguist, SF author and the developer of verbal self defense passed away in 2015. She had a profound effect on my own work and books.
Many of her verbal self defense books are still in print, and I recommend them highly. I had the honor of being contacted by her a number of years ago via email, and I know she was active in social media and blogging until shortly before here death. We lost a good one, but one with an incredibly productive life helping others deal with verbal abuse.R.I.P. Suzette Haden Elgin: Author, Poet, Verbal Self-Defense Coachio9.gizmodo.com Suzette Haden Elgin, who died last week, was a pioneer of using linguistics in science fiction, creating a whole constructed language in her novel Native Tongue. She was a giant of feminist SF. And she helped bring SF poetry to prominence, while...
- Producer15/09/2016Soft Skills That Help You Survive In Every Part Of The WorldA lot has been written on the importance of soft skills for career growth; however, it is vital to note that development of soft skills is indeed beneficial in all walks of life. More than ever, soft skills are profoundly significant in today’s...
Comments17/09/2016 #2 Donna-Luisa EversleySoft skills were taught in school when I was a child through religious education. Today , because of the absence of religious education there is a gap. Religious education is different to religious indoctrination, one focuses on general principals of life and harmonious living, the other is acceptance of a practice as truth.
Great post discussion @Tressie Dawson
- 31/08/2016A computer voiced presentation/reading of Using Your Head To Manage Conflict, essentially from the miniguide featured at http://bacalassociates.com/using-your-head-to-manage-conflict-learnbytes-helpcard-download/ Eh. Does the computer voice make it annoying? Yeah. Not a successful experiment, but the content is there.Using Your Head To Manage Conflict Presentation Using Your Head to Manage Conflict Helpcard covering the basics of conflict management, and how to choose the best conflict strategy for your situation. The...
- Producer30/08/2016WHY ME !!!!!!!!!One day, my little son returned back from his school crying & when I asked him what the problem is, he began to explain.His school is expected to be visited by external auditors by next week to evaluate the educational system and the...
- 29/08/2016Whether someone intends their remarks to hurt someone or not is not the point. The pain from ALL verbal abuse is real regardless of what the abuser was "trying to do". More https://www.bebee.com/producer/@robert-bacal/the-subtleties-of-verbal-abuse-and-we-all-do-some-of-them
- 25/08/2016Screwed up my buzz.....got solutions to this problem that happens at work AND online? Article: When The People Who Really NEED the Feedback Are The Least Likely To "Hear" It? http://work911.com/communication/feedbackhear.htm
- 13/08/2016Ask, Acknowledge, Affirm: A simple formula to help ensure that diverse ideas (and quieter voices in general) are heard and become part of problem-solving. This article is written in the context of men and women working in technology, but it applies much more broadly than that: it can help any team leader get the best ideas from their team.How I Teach Men to Work with Womenwww.witi.com There is a growing recognition that considering a large number of diverse ideas will usually lead to better solutions than considering a small number of similar ideas. In problem-solving the model is divergence precedes convergence. That seems...
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- 24/07/2016Interesting post about the decline of learning portals, and what may be replacing them. What trends are you seeing in the future of learning?Where Have All the Learning Portals Gone?www.clomedia.com Many learning portals are still there — somewhere — but no one is using them. As learning evolves, so must how learners access...
- Producer19/07/2016Excerpt - Why You Should Never Ask "Can I give you some constructive feedback?" By Robert BacalThis is a book excerpt from Imperfect Phrases For Relationships: 101 ImPerfect Phrases You Should Never Say To Someone Important To You...And What To Say Instead. You can download the pdf by clicking here, or purchase the hard copy book from amazon...