- Producer17/05/2017HOW MY 8 YEAR OLD SON ACHIEVED HIS GOAL #CONFIDENCE #PASSIONThe Golden Rule is the foundation for every person whether it be in your personal life or your professional life. This is a guiding principal that all should follow. My Son has this ingrained in himself, and is 2nd nature to him. He is 8. ‘Do...
- 12/05/2017Join me and some other "seasoned" moms and grandmoms for Mom Camp, a virtual camp I created in which you can participate from wherever you live! Camp themes include creative ways to pray for our children, keeping the romance in your marriage, and the importance of self-care. For details and to register. please visit my website at www.amywaltoncoaching.com. Let's go camping!
- Producer12/05/2017Beyond Reward and PunishmentIsn't a reward chart a really great, positive way to encourage good behaviour for our kids? Our next meetup is entitled "Throw The Star Chart In The Trash". Aren't parents supposed to reward good behaviours as an alternative to punishing the bad...
- 06/05/2017Don't let these self-defeating behaviors conquer you. You can conquer them!5 Self-Defeating Behaviors I Can Help Busy Mothers Conquer!- Amy Walton Coachingwww.amywaltoncoaching.com A relaxed mother and grandmother who is passionate about helping you THRIVE (yours truly!) Have you ever been in the following or a similar scene? You are running out the door in the morning, kids in tow, and worrying about what your colleagues...
- Producer05/05/2017Throw the Start Chart in the Trash!This might sound like total heresy. Most of us were raised with the idea of getting a reward for certain things like good behaviour, doing our homework, walking the dog. Perhaps we got an allowance that was contingent on certain chores, or grades at...
- Producer03/05/2017Therapist or Psychologist: Understanding What Your Child NeedsUnderstanding What Your Child NeedsOne of the greatest burdens of parenting involves understanding what your child needs. Children have different physical, emotional, and mental needs. In order for a child to grow up healthy and to become a happy...
Comments03/05/2017 #1 Harvey LloydParenting is a challenge when we look at our children as a reflection of ourselves. Children are not a reflection but yet a unique personality in conflict with your sought after reflection. Parenting is developing the skill of allowing growth within safe boundaries and taking away fears of exploration. All too often i see parents who extend their child narrative they experienced as fear based parenting within their own children.
Exploring with your children may lead you to better understand your own narrative. I know i learn more from my grandchildren's exploration than a lot of adults.
Some good thoughts.
- Producer25/04/2017Top 10 Car Models for Your Teen in 2017Car shopping for your teen? Besides shopping for car insurance through free insurance quote tools online, you’ll need to search for cars that are safe and reliable. Better yet, you’ll need a car that is affordable, efficient and has the latest...
Comments25/04/2017 #3 Aaron 🐝 Skogen#2 Absolutely agree that they are great cars on the used market as well @Donna Wood. Urgg on the insurance! Ours increased considerably when we added a 16 yo male to the policy. Thank fully we (his parents) have no accident history and clean driving records so our rates were very low to start.25/04/2017 #2 Donna Wood#1 I agree. New cars aren't necessarily the best option for new drivers. They may look cool and help the teen with maintaining or gaining their reputation, but they do little for Mom and Dad's bank account. The cost of insurance alone can be daunting. However, there's nothing wrong with getting them a second-hand version of any on the list.25/04/2017 #1 Aaron 🐝 SkogenAll good options @Kevin Faber. Admittedly, I'm in the camp of finding good used cars, especially for a teen. I recently purchased a 1974 F250 for my son who started driving last fall. Overall, it's in great shape and drives well, yet It's a project truck for he and I to work on restoring. It will provide him the opportunity to learn mechanical basics and provide time for us to spend together. Because it's a project and I expect it to spend time in our shop during the restoration I also bought a mid 2000's Honda CRV as his daily driver while we work on the restoration.
To me, buying a new car for a child is a mistake. Accident rates among teens are higher than more mature drivers. A new vehicle increases that financial exposure. I also feel that more basic "base model" vehicles provide less opportunity for distraction. Again, just my perspective. Nevertheless the list you provided is certainly a good one for those with a different perspective or even adults looking for economical options.
Hope you don't mind me adding my two cents. I enjoyed the post.
- Producer24/04/201710 Rules to Determine Whether Any Relationship Will Steal Your HappinessAn edited version published originally on the Thought Catalog 4/21/17I firmly believe that happiness in life is most affected by the quality of our relationships. We all have a variety of relationships like the ones with casual acquaintances,...
Comments25/04/2017 #31 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee@Matt 🐝 Sweetwood- obviously life taught you lessons the hard way. Your list of when to drop a relationship is comprehensive even though your line "They were robbing me of my time, energy, money, happiness and they were bringing me down" gives adequate guidance.
"...Causes you pain more than 3 times in a month". I smiled reading this because you reminded me that we need a minimum of three points to set a trend (to set a trend. Moreover, you reminded me of the simple rules of 3.
"But it also can happen with the coworker who you have helped repeatedly and when you need them, there is a deafening and hurtful silence". You
It means they don’t have the same values as you, they don’t care what you believe in and can ruin your reputation – or worse. I better forget about these experiences myself. Unfortunately, many people tend to "bite the hand" that helped them.25/04/2017 #29 Franci🐝Eugenia HoffmanOh yes, this is good, @Matt 🐝 Sweetwood. Life is too short to be in a bad relationship. Unfortunately, we don't always realize we're in a bad relationship until it starts to take its toll on us. Even worse, some victims are in denial and can't face the fact they are in a bad relationship. I agree with @Renée 🐝 Cormier, the most important relationship we have is with ourselves.25/04/2017 #26 David B. GrinbergThank you, Matt, for this sage advice. I echo your sentiments and important insights about ridding people from one's life who are toxic and negative, because these types of people only succeed in bringing down others to artificially lift themselves up. Rather, surround yourself by positive role models who support and encourage your biggest dreams and life goals -- however far off or impractical they may appear. We need to recall that impractical does not mean impossible.
Again, kudos Matt on sharing more exemplary and beneficial advice.24/04/2017 #21 Renée 🐝 CormierI truly believe the most important relationship of all, is the one you have with yourself. If you have a strong sense of who you are and love the finished product, no one can really take that away from you. Also, if you truly love and respect yourself, you will find it easy to eliminate disempowering or one way relationships from your life. It is much easier to turn away from negative relationships than to try to make them fit. It is a mistake to believe you can control or change others, and honestly, you shouldn't even want to. It is also a mistake to try to become what someone else wants you to be. All you can really control is the way you view the world around you and what you give permission for in your life. Over recent years, I have systematically rid myself of people who add no value to my life. I find the older I get, the less willing I am to put up with bull shit. When I was young, I had all the energy in the world for it, but it brought me a tremendous amount of pain. I know better now. :)24/04/2017 #20 Harvey Lloyd#19 Without the risk we have met a relationship that will not carry us anywhere. One of the attributes of BeBee is the fact that relationships are challenging. I am exposed with each comment to risk that sharpens my thoughts. You are one of those relationships. Thanks @Sara Jacobovici24/04/2017 #18 Mamen 🐝 DelgadoWoww... This doesn't sound to me as an extensive list, it sounds more like the Ten Commandments to be a happy and (above all) healthy person.
I've been applying all those rules in my life during a long time till now, and I can say at this very moment, I feel free of those energy drainers, black holes of energy. It is a question of health. And my health and the health of my loved ones is above all. Absolutely!!
Thanks for this Producer @Matt 🐝 Sweetwood and for the tag. Huge hug full of white and shared energy!!! ✨24/04/2017 #17 Harvey LloydMost relationships fail due to unmet expectations. Whether through comparison of past relationships or our own self evolved expectations. I don't think expectations are bad in general, but to have a relationship will require growth on both parties past their expectations.
Relationships represent risk. I can't know what i don't know before entering. There are some clarifying observations that may help discern entering, but if we have gotten to this stage of consideration, my assumption is that the return is seen as mutual. Marriage is a different set of guidelines as it typically elevates past just relational risk and gets deeper. But relationships will go as far as they go.
We are looking to engage or managing engagement, each represents effort in growth.24/04/2017 #15 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#14 Well, this is an interesting UNINTENDED feature of non-collaborative buzzes. We really do have a hive mind, even when writing in isolated, non-connected comment boxes, the ways in which we are all here, for a reason, participating in building something that may truly contribute to making the world a more collaborative place.
Plus, I really value your additional perspective, Sara - because when we find ourselves with these types of relationships that aren't serving us, there is very often a root cause or a similar pattern in our childhood that is begging to be examined, understood, and released. Bad relationships happen to good people because they feel similar in some way to an earlier attachment.
- Producer24/04/2017Is Aluminum Destroying Our Daughters?What can make a beautiful girl want to stop eating, or to cut herself in secret? Naturally, every case has its own context and I don't mean to solve such a complex problem with a simplistic answer. What I am really asking is why more and more young...
- Producer23/04/2017Where do we go from here?To all those who have grown their children, when they finally start their own lives, it uses to come to this question. Growing a child or more it’s a lifetime hard work which can lead us to a huge emptiness once is done, if we forget some undeniable...
Comments23/04/2017 #19 Anonymous#18 Isn't it sad when you see them they are going to be in trouble due to their own fault, and you must hold back? To let them learn from their own mistakes?
I find this the worst part, as before they get hurt, I already can feel in advance the pain they are inevitably going to feel...but one has tightened hands and has to even silence the "told you so's" and much more.
I can tell you are a loving father.23/04/2017 #18 Harvey LloydEmpty nest is certainly one of the major epoch journeys of our existence. The transition from "parent" to friend is difficult, but a worthy journey. You thought the teenage years were the most difficult. The hardest thing i have ever done as a parent was not during the years of parenting, but holding back all the "I told you so's". Allowing the grown children to find life on their own experiences.
Every once in a while we get to laugh about an "i told you so" because they bring it up.
Great thoughts23/04/2017 #15 Anonymous#10 As long as your wife gets on with it, I can tell you, these can be you real "golden years", with the wisdom of experience and still the power to do things....
Did you have a look at another post related to it? https://www.bebee.com/producer/@david-navarro-lopez/get-started-adding-life-to-years
I am sure you will enjoy it too23/04/2017 #12 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#5 Grandchildren add another layer to our lives and if we remember we are the grandparents (here to enjoy, not raise kids anymore) the time is so precious and the kids seem to have more innocence than I was able to appreciate while raising my kids if that makes sense?23/04/2017 #11 Lisa 🐝 GallagherExcellent topic @David Navarro López! I did wait until my children grew up and put my life on hold to a certain degree. It wasn't intentional but it sure can cause some setbacks. We have come to realize that we come first, their lives come first for them and so on. Sometimes we get so caught up in raising our children that we lose our individuality. I haven't heard that song by Alan Parsons in ages, great song! Thanks for the tag @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee23/04/2017 #8 Mamen 🐝 DelgadoThat's a very interesting question @David Navarro López, and I would even add where do we go when our children are growing up...
The answer to this question will give a path to follow in our future. I see friends around, specially mommies, that put her lives apart while raising children, focusing all her energy in the babies and kids.
The future will bring a mirror to face ourselves and we will pick up what we have harvested.
Thanks for the music, love Alan Parsons!!23/04/2017 #6 Anonymous#4 Vincent, this is precisely what I did. When my daughter married, then I looked for a job abroad, and moved here to Germany, working in my passion, packaging machinery. And it is one of the best things I ever did. My colleagues use to ask why am I so happy while working, and I use to answer...I am not working anymore, I am retired, and developing my hobby...only that I get very well paid for it (LOL)23/04/2017 #5 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee"It is us who need to figure out how we are going to spend our lives after being parents.
Because this is the most important last lesson we can give our children".
Our children shall then experience the same once they have grown up and have children. In our societies family ties are still strong (even though weaker than before). However; what a great question to ask @David Navarro López. We plan for retirement, but we don't plan for the "retirement of children responsibility.
I invite dear @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher to comment because she is enjoying her grandchildren.23/04/2017 #4 Vincent Andrew"Where do we go from here now that all of the children have grown up" An inevitable question that my wife and I will face starting with our oldest daughter who'll be graduating from university this year. In all honesty I would like to go abroad again to work and to open a new chapter. I want to see the world. I want to go on a pilgrimage. I want to play musical instruments again and take up the piano or violin. My wife has her plans and as individuals we have our own interests to pursue. Thanks @David Navarro López for writing this reflective piece.23/04/2017 #2 Katja BaderI agree with you very much. When we educate children, we have not to give up ourselves. I think it´s important for a child not to see us only as parents but as passionate people that do what they love, too. Lots of parents are always searching for resamblance of their own selfs in their children. They try to transfer their own wishes and fondness to the children. But in my opinion one base of education is to discover the special person with his own special wishes and fondness in the children. And to promote them. So the child is able to go its own and independent way one day that will make it happy.
- Producer20/04/2017My first Buzz on BeBeehttps://getconnectdad.com/What is GetConnectDad?For the past year, 300+ parents from 26 countries have been answering the question, “What do I want my kids to value?” These parents have shared some great stories and many tips, all focused on, ‘How...
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- Good to know for parents ! Close accounts and play with your kids ! Healthier....Cyberbullying: Which 3 Social Networks Are the Worst? | MomsTeamwww.momsteam.com Social media sites are one of the leading places that pre-teens and teens experience bullying, whether they are being bullied, bullying someone or witnessing it. Here's a list of the worst three social media sites for...
- Producer08/04/2017Bach Flowers for Mother and DaughterBach Flowers are among my very favourite medicines because they are so very gentle but really effective. They are prescribed based solely on an emotional picture so they are very simple to use. Here are a few that I have chosen especially for...
- Producer02/04/2017To Raise Well Adjusted Kids Host Exchange StudentsGrowing up as an only child, I missed out on the many great experiences other kids were having with their brothers and sisters. That is, until we decided to start hosting exchange students. As I was growing up, my family hosted kids from France,...
Comments05/04/2017 #11 Sweta ParmarYes indeed ! It's a great experience and we really get to know many new things n culture, tradition n many more . I hosted four times (once from Switzerland and then italy and then germany and then Indiana)when my daughter was in school and now I'll be hosting again for a year a student from USA
It's great for learning and diversity uniting
Great article though
Regards!03/04/2017 #10 Marcel Kuhn BamertHi @John White, MBA - Thank you for this article. I grew up in a family where we had hosted a few exchange students and other guests from different cultures: Tibet, NZ, USA, Australia, Korea.. For my two brothers and I it was a great opportunity to improve our English skills. All three of us had the opportunity later to live and work abroad. These early contacts with different cultures had a lasting influence on us. Knowing both sides - as a host family and as a student I will make sure to host foreign exchange students at my home as well. And of course, I will encourage my kids to study abroad. There is now better way to grow open and tolerant kids. Best, Marcel02/04/2017 #8 David B. GrinbergGreat advice here, John, as always. It's important for children to gain a broader perspective of the world than just that of the USA, or wherever country in which they live. Moreover, in today's modern and hyper-connected global, digital, mobile and virtual world, it simply makes good sense -- personally and professionally -- to learn more about other cultures and peoples. This will make the next generation of leaders more well rounded and grounded.
Again, John, kudos on another brilliant buzz!02/04/2017 #2 Gert Scholtz@John White, MBA We hosted an American exchange student through the AFS program when I was at school. In a year he learned Afrikaans and wrote the final Grade 12 School exams in Afrikaans with full university exemption – remarkable. I attest to the formative and educational value it brings – both for him and for me. Thanks John.
- 31/03/20175 Ways to Have a Love Language "Blitz" With Your Spouse - Amy Walton Coachingwww.amywaltoncoaching.com Feel like your relationship with your spouse has become a bit boring? Have you been together so long that you are comfortable but no longer feel that initial “spark” you had when you first met and fell in love? Do you find there is little time for...
- 27/03/2017A very timely investment of 17 minutes. Please watch and listen to the end.What you are missing while being a digital zombie | Patrik Wincent | TEDxStockholm In a hyperconnected world, where mobile devices have become appendices to our body and people check their social media accounts hundreds of times a day,...
- Producer26/03/2017Put your cell phone down and pay attention to your childrenChildren’s personal brand doomed before it starts? So are we as parents dooming our children’s personal brand before they have even had a chance to create one themselves? Given the proliferation of cell phones and the ability to take...
- Producer24/03/2017Benefits and dangers for children using social networksChildren in the digital age is a topic of huge importance and must be discussed. We teach our future generation, so let’s educate ourselves so that we can teach our youth. Today the average age for wanting and having a social profile keeps...
Comments28/03/2017 #25 Praveen Raj GullepalliVery relevant and thought provoking JuanBee! We do not have ALL THE TIME in the world, to explore the WORLD OF INFO and knowledge and distraction now at our fingertips thanks to smartphony and the ubiquitous Internet. So it is of utmost importance that we teach our children to prioritize, be selective, considerate, cautious and focused (in activities and relationships online), and lend greater importance (or at least equal importance) to physical activity, time management and connecting with peers and family, and of course, not ignore newspaper and book reading (the hard-copy versions) ;)28/03/2017 #22 Lisa 🐝 GallagherExcellent tips @Juan Imaz! I remember when my daughter was a teen and using ICQ back then. I worried about some of the dangers you mentioned above and told her she could only use if KNOWING we have the password for the PC. She was also warned we would check her convo's on occasion. She didn't like it but I did fear she might have been naive and met a stranger online, it's too easy for kids to get duped. I love the positive aspects you wrote about too!!26/03/2017 #20 AnonymousA wider issue is the extent of exposure to screens at the exclusion of the real world especially in the first 100 days. Some parents are extending "social" to mean using devices as a distraction, baby sitter, or pacifier for very young children. There is some research that warns that this is potentially causing long term damage.
for example. The tips have to include alerting parents of young children (under 3) of this risk.26/03/2017 #19 Krishta-Gay LewisGreat article with excellent points. My sons are 12 years old and I am very wary of them becoming social. While there are great benefits there are still many dangers and cause for concern. Thus, the need for supervision, which a teenager does not want. The best option is to teach them right from wrong and how to assess situations to make the morally right and ethical decsions.
An addition to your article though are the parents who create profiles for their children and chronicle their lives on social media. I think this is wrong and is a violation of the child's rights. What if later in life the child is embarrassed by some of these posts? Parents who do this must consider what and how they are posting about their child.26/03/2017 #18 Franci🐝Eugenia HoffmanThis is a post every parent should read. The benefits of the internet for children can be amazing in helping them grow, but the dark side can set a young mind back permanently. Also, the internet should not be a child's sole communication with the outside world. Children need face to face contact in order to grow healthy relationships.25/03/2017 #15 Sara JacoboviciSo encouraged to see your post @Juan Imaz, Thank you for doing such a great job writing about the big, and complex, picture. I echo the comments of your readers, this is a very important discussion and one that needs to go on on a regular basis throughout the various mediums. My contribution to the discussion would be to say something I just read in an article about this topic; let the children live as long as they can in the real world before they go on to the virtual one. And I would like to see 16 as the age of starting to form a profile on-line.25/03/2017 #14 John Rylance@Susan 🐝 Rooks , @Juan Imaz I suggest you google the following
I can't walk yet but I know how to work an iPad.
It's an article from today's Times Magazine.
It covers many of the issues raised so far and most of the points I wanted to make.
Particularly around the issues of what constitutes addiction.
From " Kids have basically been carrying around a portable dopamine pump for 10 years, to an interesting comparison of the effect of screen time to eating time.
I like the final two sentences.
"You can only do your best. There's always going to be something."
As parents don't we know it.25/03/2017 #11 Susan 🐝 Rooks@Juan Imaz, this is obviously an incredibly important issue. I'm part of that 36% in your graphic that thinks the appropriate age is around 15 (depending on the kid, to some extent). I get that younger kids have peers who may be allowed more freedom, and that's where I also think parents need to be watchful. Parents may be careful in their own home, but what happens when their kids sleep over at a friend's house? Just go over to play? Have the parents had conversations with other parents on this? I sure hope so!24/03/2017 #9 siraj shaik@Juan Imaz well said. And good suggestion mentioned for "caretakers, guardians and as well as for parents" by @Matt 🐝 Sweetwood. During March 2011, at an event in Scarborough I got an opportunity to interact with Toronto Mayor Rob Ford and spent some time sharing about aspects of merits and demerits of children's online and usage of devices (yeah prior few of us as freelance volunteered during 2005/2006 shared awareness about such in a different global locale). Also at the same time had shared opinion about focusing on LinkedIn as tool for HR. And got to interact for a minute with John Tory (now present mayor of Toronto) was also present at that event. Later thrice got to meet for some reasons. (If by chance some might have seen friendly tweets exchange during 2013/2014).24/03/2017 #7 AnonymousThank you @Juan Imaz for sharing one of the most important topics, not "trendy" but more as the trend for the next decade, with the increasing number of smartphone users.
Well done !
At all steps, children need guidelines, and more so in this digital age very competitive. Lowering the stress level digitally will help them focus on more important tasks in their daily life.
- 12/03/2017John Rosemond: Your kids should not be the most importantlacrossetribune.com I recently asked a married couple who have three kids, none of whom are yet teens, “Who are the most important people in your...
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- Producer22/02/2017Why Your Bad Divorce Affects Your Children Their Whole LivesImagine being a six year old girl and asked by a judge - "do you want to live with your mom or your dad?" These are words no child wants to hear or be stressed out by making a choice. She didn't even know what a divorce was or that her parents...
- 12/02/2017Parenting is hard. We are here to help!