- Producer22/02/2017Why Your Bad Divorce Affects Your Children Their Whole LivesImagine being a six year old girl and asked by a judge - "do you want to live with your mom or your dad?" I can assure you that these are words no child wants to hear or be stressed out by making a choice. She didn't even know what a divorce was or...
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- 18/01/20175 Ways to Beat Mom Guilt When Practicing Self Care:5 Ways to Beat Mom Guilt When Practicing Self Caremumsnchums.com Motherhood and Self Care When it comes to moms and self-care, it can seem like the two don’t mix any better than oil and water. What mother actually has the time to take for herself when there’s a miniature human completely reliant on you for...
- 18/01/2017My family has hosted more than 20 exchange students. Here's what it taught me about life and raising kids.Want to Raise Well Adjusted Kids? Host an Exchange Studentwww.inc.com Hosting an exchange student teaches your kids the life lessons they can't get at school or soccer...
- 10/01/20175 Ways You Can Spend Quality Time with Your Family Todayintentionalemployee.com Learn five ways to spend quality time with family that you can start today. It isn't complicated. These are easy to...
- 08/01/2017I just finished reading Tim Tebow's book "Shaken". Tim is the real deal and takes a strong stand for Jesus Christ.
You can read my blog post about the book and see a video interview he made here:scott moore online: Finished reading "Shaken" by Tim Tebowscottmooreonline.blogspot.com
- 05/01/2017This is a must watch!Simon Sinek on Millennials in the Workplace Excerpt of Simon Sinek from an episode of Inside Quest....
Comments08/01/2017 #6 CityVP 🐝 Manjit#5 This is the thing, not everybody with millennial kids shares the same experiences he is talking about, but first when I watched this - I thought maybe our family is just an exception to the rule. As I went out exploring this I discovered he has exposed a home truth about a particular parenting style, but one cannot paint all millennials as a result with the same brush - and if anything the usefulness of this video is to discover at the same time the truths that go into a stereotype or a label.
There is a problem with social media but it applies equally to all generations whether they be boomers or millennials, which is how quickly we take it at face value. It is not that we are not individually intelligent enough to understand it, but that we move on quickly to the next piece of social media before we have absorbed and tested this in our own context or given reality.
Ironically when I first heard him speak, his powers of persuasion were immense, he had me convinced that he had found the great truth and I had to check myself spouting this as I thought "Wait, why not ask a millennial - the one's I know, the one's we parented".
In the cold day of light, it is a great truth that pertains to a specific demographic with a specific conformity of cultural values. As Bugs Bunny might say, "sometimes it just feels-white", (I mean right).08/01/2017 #5 Antoine 🐝 PragerThis video is super important and very interesting, anyone with kids should first watch it, reflect on it and then watch it and discuss it with their kids. Because social media are a great thing but managing social media is now part of parenting. Don´t you think so?06/01/2017 #4 CityVP 🐝 ManjitWhat I am going to focus on most is Simon Sinek delivery and presentation style. He speaks with great authority and assurance, only problem is that I have yet to find a millennial who I have talked to that actually matches up with the kind of millennial group he is talking about. Then again, I have not talked so far to white middle class parents who buy into all such entitlement and spoiling.
He is addressing a sub-group and if he was Clinton's running mate, he would probably get her another million votes in California and lose the Rust Belt of America by an even bigger margin than Clinton lost it - maybe even 5pts compared to Clinton's 3.5pt under-performance from the last election. Whatever the actual facts of his content, he is a compelling speaker and I am not surprised by the viral nature of this video, it speaks to 100% Sinekism or Cynicism about rich white people.05/01/2017 #3 Mohammed SultanMillennials look at companies as the paths of their thoughts and when these thoughts are blocked or not addressed and expressed,they reach a premature end.Millennials,so,quit their jobs either because they don't have the power or the patience to bend with the conformity trend or because their pockets,time and hearts are filled.Generally,considering millennials as loyal assets is a welfare or a fantasy that goes beyond the business logic and the well established economic theories.
- 08/01/2017We need more people to stand up like this. Stop making girls focus on the wrong things.Appalled Graphic Designer Shows Girls' Life Magazine What Their Cover Should Look Likewww.womenyoushouldknow.net Graphic designer Katherine Young shows Girls' Life what their magazine cover should look...
Comments09/01/2017 #8 Jennifer 🐝 Schultz#6 Yes, Mike - both Girls Life & Boys Life magazines are run by independent owners, however, both are Girl Scouts an Boy Scouts. And while they have a stated mission, as a mom of a now 20 year old daughter, I know all too well how media plays to girls in such a way that causes them to feel like they are not pretty enough, skinny enough and so on. From what I can understand, the goal of the graphic designer redoing the cover and topics was one to start a healthy discussion about what we should be telling girls. And I for one, am all for that! Yes - of course, someone else can come up with a new magazine - but the side by side comparison was provoking to say the least.08/01/2017 #6 Mike RanaPer the about page: "Founded in 1994, Girls' Life is the premier magazine for girls ages 10-16 focusing on fun stuff like fashion, beauty and celebs along with real information and advice on friends, family, school, tough stuff and more. "
The image on the left does comport to the mission of the magazine, whether it's right/wrong.
I don't see anything on the site reflecting that of a Girl Scout magazine.
Perhaps someones should consider a competing magazine to portray younger girls in a different and more academically gifted light?
- Producer06/01/2017Parents Live Forever Only in Our Heart ❤️ Losing my parents to old age makes me realize that I'm getting older and one day may face the consequences of living in a retirement or nursing home.I visited my Mom this past weekend. She will celebrate her 92nd birthday next week. My dad passed...
Comments07/01/2017 #17 Antoinette Capasso-Backdahl#14 Jim, I concur totally. My mom also wants to be in a place now. She changed her mind. There will always be a margin of error and there will always be a need for homes. Which means there will always be a need to be mindful of how we and our parents and children plan for the future. I hope you don't think I directed my comments at you sir. I was just giving people who may be looking into finding a home some perspective.
Lots of things have evolved in home health care since I was a striper. I worked for the first charting software company. My job was a beta tester and I installed the networks for home health agencies and county health departments for this software. I had to train the staff and travel in a five state area. Things have evolved in that arena as well. One thing is the way they train nurses and aides is much better. I hope we continue to evolve in the compassionate care approach. I love the fact that they require background checks now. They should also require psych evals. but not until the evals evolve. There are some ways you can test an environment before placing your loved ones there. Look for how the staff is treated and if it is a team environment. The less ego the better.
When I think back at how hospitals/institutions were in the 70's vs now... we've come a long way baby! Still much room for improvement. MN has been sited for some horrible things. Oregon too. We need to stop putting violent people who should be in a secure facility in with vulnerable adults. Another thing to consider. Some people don't have a choice. But for those who do, these are some of the things to consider.07/01/2017 #14 Jim 🐝 Cody#9 @Antoinette Capasso-Backdahl I agree, There's no place like home but unfortunately under some circumstances it's for the betterment of those involved. However my mom lives in a great place and she has excellent care and many grandchildren and great grandchildren who visit her often.
She actually requested to be placed there and has a peace of mind knowing that she will be taken care of.07/01/2017 #11 Vincent AndrewI visit my mum once a week on a Sunday after church. She loves to meet her grandkids. She loves to cook for them and tells them stories. She is a wonderful woman. I am grateful for her and thank God for her. Tomorrow I'll be meeting her and as always I will kiss her on the head as a way to say my thanks and my love.06/01/2017 #9 Antoinette Capasso-BackdahlRecently I worked in a place where I can tell they missed their family so much. I would over hear them speak about how their children do not even visit them. This home had a mixture of independent living, assisted living and memory care. One gal that worked there had the nerve to call them vultures after the guy from the food shelf brought in some goodies for them. That women was also my shift lead in the dinner. She mocked and harassed here coworkers. I finally walked out because of her. Too much nepotism in that place.
The system is NO SURROGATE for family! But if you must choose one, choose one that does not have a huge attrition rate on staffing. That is a big red flag. No, it's not because it's the kind of work it's because it's a toxic corporate culture. People with a heart refuse to stay working for places that are not caring for people properly.
Another place, the smell of ammonia was so bad... Day care providers would never get away with not changing... ok... I've said enough.
It's cheaper to build them a tiny home and bring in people anyway.06/01/2017 #8 Antoinette Capasso-BackdahlI have worked in a couple and I would say in a nut shell THERE IS NO PLACE LIKE HOME. Thank God they are requiring back ground checks now. I remember my mother making me promise her that she would never be sent to one. When I was a candy striper, I lost my favorite gal one night when someone else was charged with feeding her. She choked to death. I was not mature enough to handle it then and I ended up leaving my job because of it. I was just a teenager. I also remember they charged me with one gal that was three times my size and I actually had a near miss of a catastrophe getting her on the potty. Then there was Ms. Presley, yes, that Presley. Elvis' Aunt. A fisty one with all the spunk. But she was not being well taken care of either. She was not on my rounds but I loved to talk to her. My favorite was the WWI vet. He would take me to battles and sometimes tell me to duck for incoming. I love them all so much. My favorite was when the ladies would do a strip show for the men and the men would get all excited and I would have to watch the staff try to tell them they cannot do that sort of thing. I would just giggle at how much fun they had driving the staff mad. lol06/01/2017 #6 Gert Scholtz@Jim 🐝 Cody Visiting my mother recently I realised anew how fragile life becomes at an old age. Her mind is as sharp as ever, she reads a book a week, walks and gardens every day and still has a good circle of friends - yet we know her remaining time with us is becoming less. Thanks Jim for this poignant reminder to "Visit your parents often and say I love you. It just may be your last one."06/01/2017 #4 Paul Walters@Jim 🐝 Cody Interesting Jim. My wife is a lecturer in cross cultural studies and teaches at various universities in Australia. On aging parents Indonesians are mortified at the thought of placing them in care when they are in their dotage. The culture here is for children to share the duties of caring for parents at home unlike we in the west who often 'dump' mum and dad into places with terrible names like "golden meadows or Tranquil Gardens " Life is a bit cruel is it not when we come full circle and become totally dependent .... it sucks really!
- Producer07/01/2017Children are giftsChildren choose us to be there parents. They entrust us with the largest test of moral fiber life can bestow upon us. The difference is of course that the results will last not only our life time, it will also last through theirs and through...
Comments07/01/2017 #5 Devesh Bhatt#3 you have a long list of "keep away from me unless.." , repeated time and again, don't you think so much self expression of safeguards make you predictable, hence vulnerable? Or these are diversions to the judging kind who may be in for a surprise of they show bad intent?
No offence, just curious
- 04/01/2017Welcome to beBee's first Hive for Moms! I've been supporting moms with my parenting site Mums 'n Chums for over 8 years and look very forward to continuing to do so here. Join me in the #MomHive and let's discuss all things motherhood!Mums 'n Chums Hive for MomsMums 'n Chums Hive for Moms Welcome to the Mums 'n Chums Hive for Moms! BeBee's first hive dedicated to all things mom related. mumsnchums.com has been online since 2009 and we're thrilled to be continually growing our community on beBee. Join us for candid conversations about
- Producer04/01/2017The Double Standard on Having Kids Later in LifeToday, I read that Janet Jackson gave birth to a bouncing baby boy at age 50 and I was excited to hear that she was so happy and grateful for a healthy baby. I wished her congratulations. I then I read the corresponding comments below the story and...
Comments07/01/2017 #7 Donna-Luisa EversleyI'm in agreement with you @Jennifer 🐝 Schultz. I can also say it's the same when you have kids at a very young age. I was 18 when I had my first child and was told I'm messing up my life, and I will lose my youth. Most had nothing good to say. Whatever happens there are double standards for women and child bearing.
I have a friend who finally had her 2nd child at 45, unfortunately she had a few miscarriages before. Be strong. Thank you for sharing this personal story. Very happy for Janet Jackson😊04/01/2017 #4 CityVP 🐝 Manjit#3 The hypocrisies and double standards are damning but there is a truth about society that I understand, that sometimes change happens when the old generation pass on, and so change then is noticing whether we are any less savage than we were the prior generation. It is a different way of looking at things, because trying to change an opinion only goes so far - living one's life and exploring the progress, that produces a different way of seeing and consequently a different way of life.04/01/2017 #3 Jennifer 🐝 Schultz@CityVP 🐝 Manjit Just using these celebrities' private life examples to shine the light on the double standard of what society sees as an acceptable age for a woman to have a child. I myself, as I noted, have experienced the same double standard when I found out I was pregnant at 43. Women over the age of 40 who get pregnant face ridicule every day from others, while men are congratulated well into their 70's. In fact, the same double standard exists when a man marries a younger woman, but take an older woman marrying a younger man - and you'll see the same outcome. People judge men and women differently in both instances. What also is apparent with the rise of social media, are people whose comments and thoughts are no longer hidden, as snide comments and judge and jury are everywhere. #204/01/2017 #2 CityVP 🐝 ManjitOn the one side I think we use celebrities far too much as proxies for our own lives, but on the other side, it does reveal deep seated ignorance that do not match a 21st Century mind. In this century we are exploring life extension technologies and lifespan is increasing. I accept that ignorant views of value judgements will be a feature of societies but within those societies are everyday people who are great examples of people adapting to the 21st Century both its promise and perils.
We should not hate hate because then it is still hate but we can value difference. We can also focus on those who are adapting. In terms of Janet Jackson being a mother, like all mothers, becoming a mother is a part of her private life and like all mothers it is great news. There is no need for role models from the rich and famous when we live in a world which is no longer a broadcast medium, but that should be a place where access to technology liberates us as learners - we are the change we want to see in this world and can become people who no longer need a Gandhi or a celeb to speak on our behalf, as a quote that we are that change.
- Producer31/12/2016How to Help Kids Handle GriefIt's been a little while since we heard the saddening news about Jose Fernandez, 24 year old pitcher for the Florida Marlins who died in a boat accident. I remember reading the news aloud from my Facebook feed that Saturday morning, and catching...
Comments31/12/2016 #2 Deb🐝 LangeWhen we lose a part of ourselves we may then experience other emotions she ch as emptiness, or hardness or perhaps feeling vacant.
Grief and loss are the means to express our humanity our love as of loved ones, our loss of connection to the life of another. We can experience grief and loss of another even if we have not known the person who has passed on.
I believe in a world where technology and rationality pull us away from our humanity we need to consciously choose to express our humanity. Experiencing and expressing loss for another not only shows love, compassion and care for others , it also shows care for ourselves. Being compassionate with ourselves is just as important as being compassionate with others. Our grief expresses our connection to life.31/12/2016 #1 Deb🐝 LangeThat is a great post about death and grief. There are many cultures who openly talk about and have rituals to be with their grief and death. There are many cultures where death and feeling and sharing emotions and thoughts about grief and death became taboo. Keep a stiff upper lip type of thing. Be strong . But we know that to deny ourselves our feelings and our thoughts about loss is to deny our humanity.
Loss is a reality. Loss brings many emotions to many different people. Some feel empty, some feel pain and ache for who is no longer physically present. Some have waves of grief and need to release their loss with tears. Others need to talk and others need solitude.
But we all need to learn what we need to do to to allow the loss to be experienced through our bodies and released.
If we deny our loss and the emotion, thoughts and images that arise with loss we lose a part of ourselves.
- Producer21/12/2016Wheeling Sideways - Life Seated - Is Really Upside DownMistakenly, I named a Facebook page, "Wheeling Sideways," a name that few understand. In the beginning, I mourned and could not put words to what I did not want to understand. Grief is like that, I believe. It's...
Comments22/12/2016 #5 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#4 @Dorothy Cooper - the main overall hive "beBee in English" is the best place to start to build a broad audience as you get started blogging on beBee where you can reach 11.3k bees.
Healthcare is a very appropriate hive with 47.5k followers. And I picked the parenting hive, although small at around 100 bees, this post is very applicable for any parent.
Hopefully, this helps you get this buzz in front of a more targeted audience. Also, if you look around and find some other hives that might be appropriate, you can leave a comment on your own buzz, asking for a few shares to other hives.... bees like to be helpful, many will share, and it is useful to them to share in appropriate places.22/12/2016 #2 Deb 🐝 Helfrich@Dorothy Cooper - I am honored to have the chance to read your writing. I never thought about the likelihood of tipped wheelchair accidents....now I will, just in case, I might help someone prevent an unbalanced condition.
I also think you bring up an extremely valid point about having reasonable expectations about everyone's tolerance for holiday festivities. Pain should not be a major part of the days of celebration for anyone.
I wish you a Happy Holiday in exactly the form that brings you joy and as little anguish as possible!
- 21/12/2016These are the moments I need to freeze in time. Here's my son with the #UglySweater we created last night for school today. He's a budding comedian,. as you can tell by the face he is making. #FunnyKid
- 16/12/2016Okay, busy mothers and other busy women... let's push the PAUSE button this holiday season and nurture ourselves. Self-care is not selfish and is of utmost importance. Our bodies are the temples of the Spirit, and it is our responsibility to care for our entire being: Physical, spiritual, and emotional. How are YOU practicing self-care this Christmas season?Simple Self-Care for Mothers and Other Busy Women During the Holidays - Amy Walton Coachingwww.amywaltoncoaching.com “So, tell me: How to you make time each day to nurture yourself, and what does that look like?” It’s a question I ask of every woman with whom I work, every woman with whom I have a consultation call, and with pretty much every woman I know! When I...
Comments16/12/2016 #2 Amy WaltonOkay, busy moms... what's YOUR self-care plan this holiday season? As the widowed mother of two young sons (now amazing adults!), I had to practice self-care, and I continue to do so. It's important! In my latest blog post, I offer you five simple ways to incorporate self-care into your busy life this season.
- 07/12/2016Kids bored? Here are some ideas to keep them busy! http://www.mymomconnection.com/places-to-visit2.html
- 04/12/2016The #HolidaysAreComing ! Looking for a new #recipe to try? Here are some ideas! http://www.mymomconnection.com/recipes.html
- 03/12/2016Looking for #holiday fun? Here are some ideas!Christmas Tree/ Minora Lightings, Christmas Parades & Holiday Stuffwww.mymomconnection.com
- Producer02/12/2016Parents...Patience & Love!A mama's truthParenting is hard. There are no manuals that tell you what to do to be the best parent for the child you birth. The only thing you know is this human being is dependent on you for a long time. No two children are the same. Actually the...
Comments28/01/2017 #23 Donna-Luisa Eversley#22 @Mohammed A. Jawad..i have read your comment many times, finding comfort and not being able to respond. Today I want to say thank you for your wisdom and kind truth in how you share on my posts and the posts of others. You are a worthy influenced on this my online journey. Thank you 🌻🌻🌻🌼🌼🌼04/12/2016 #22 Mohammed A. Jawad@Donna-Luisa Eversley I must say that you have taken a bold step to express yourself. Good wishes to you.
All i say is parents are glowing lanterns in our lives. Under their tutelage, we receive guidance, way, counsel, suggestions, light, answers, solutions, grace, warmth, encouragement, motivation, love, care, shelter...Aha...in whatever manner we've grown up, become too qualified with many degrees and years of experience, but in front of our old, ageing parents, we are still their children, and we still require their best advice that comes with their blessings. Hope one day, your daughter will realize this. :)
04/12/2016 #18 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#5 Wow, so sorry for your loss @FancyJ . How long has it been? Thank the heavens above your son found strength in family and didn't follow through because of the extreme pain he felt. Looks like Donna touched on a great subject, so many obstacles when raising children and each path differs.04/12/2016 #16 Donna-Luisa Eversley#14 @Pascal Derrin ...i agree I have kept my babes in a cocoon and now I don't think she is ready for the world. My son says I will never think she is ready, but she will swim and I have to trust that..
I just don't want her to have the tough life I have had... Then my son advises, I turned out OK, so though is not that bad..
Thanks for sharing your thoughts and experience.. I appreciate your support.. 😊🐝🐝.04/12/2016 #15 Donna-Luisa Eversley#12 @Julie Hickman...thanks so much.. I receive that hug 😊..i appreciate your support and shared experience. It feels really good reading from you and so many others... As a parent it is nice to hear from those who have been through similar situations and come out OK. I am glad for all this interaction.🐝🐝🌹03/12/2016 #14 Pascal DerrienI think boy or girl they all drift away from the mother ship at some point it is part of the path to growing up with a lot things that I think us parents don't like very much.... we do what we can as parents not always what we want there are days we cope better and some not so much. Personally mine don't realise it yet but they live in a cocoon to a certain extent and if I can spare them the sh*t I went thru at their age I think I would have done a good job... they will realize it later and gratitude may land at that point or maybe not.... :-)03/12/2016 #13 Max🐝 J. CarterMy son is the biggest part of my world. I use behavioral psychology with hin in the nick name I gave him as an infant.
At age 4 when he would act up and out I started talking to him and telling him what it means to be The Dude.
Be a friend
Say please and thank you.
Be honest even if it gets in trouble.
And other behaviors we can all agree are helpful in getting along with other people and being respectful and courteous.
I never have to punish him, we have a 2 minute convo that has him readjusted and understanding shit happens and we all have moments where we act up or out because we are all human. It gives him and identity to grow within and still be an individual.
A few months ago wild geese let The Dude pet them and pick up and hold their young.
It takes patience to not react to him acting out or up and remembering myself that all it takes is a simple conversation to remind us both of the behaviors we both should use to be a better example of decent human beings.
I probably fail more than he does, however he is a constant reminder as to why I work at it to not be a hypocrite in his eyes and it is the hypocrisy our children see that does more harm than anything else we do.03/12/2016 #12 Julie HickmanDear Donna-Luisa, I just wanted to send you my thoughts and hugs! My daughter is my heart and, as you say, they are bound to resemble the good and bad traits we had growing up. My daughter is an only child and it took all I had to get through those teenage years into the tender years you currently describe.
What I learned is that you and only you are the best person in your daughter's life to show her what a strong, loving and independent thinking woman looks like and what she can achieve. With your unwavering love and devotion, your daughter has the absolute best advantage she needs to grow in character and prosper in life.03/12/2016 #10 Donna-Luisa Eversley#9 @Irene Hackett...I am so overwhelmed by your words and support..got my 'weepies of gratitude on flow'.. yes as single moms it sure seems like a mountain to climb sometimes...I guess I was fortunate to have my sons first..😊 they were born understanding girls it seems at times. Thanks very much for your kindness and supportive sharing..03/12/2016 #8 Donna-Luisa Eversley#4 @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher thanks so much for sharing your experience ..I agree, my sons were a lot easier than my daughter . They seemed to understand rules were there to help in their lives. She is almost 20 now. I am looking forward to that day when were can have a better relationship...thanks for sharing hope... I appreciate your support..thanks 🐝🐝03/12/2016 #5 FancyJ LondonWhat an insightful heartfelt post. I have two teenagers and can sympathise I am always looking for advice from other Mother's. After my children lost there father the hardest thing in the world to face was when my son came to me and said: "Mom, I was going to take the easy way out. I decided to stay, because I knew if I killed myself you probably wouldn't be strong enough to take care of my sister." Those words choked me in a way I could never express deeply enough.03/12/2016 #4 Lisa 🐝 GallagherWhat a great buzz from the heart and so honest @Donna-Luisa Eversley! You wrote, "I'm not sure if I can ever be the mother she wishes for, but I am the mom she has." I used to feel the same, is your daughter a teen now? I thought my daughter would alway find fault with me because I had tight rules and I wasn't a conformist. Many of her friends were allowed to do whatever they wanted and lacked rules. So, I think many of us that do enforce our rules are seen as the witches or the enemy by our girls in particular. My son never challenged me and his personality differed. I can attest that my daughter and I are best friends today. She actually talks about some of her own past behavior and tells me she fully understands why I made the rules I did and should have been stricter with her haha. Can we say, things I never knew about?? I don't want to know now either! I think things will work out in the end, it just takes time and reassurance that you're doing the best you know how out of love! When it comes from a place of love, that's all that matters.
- Producer25/11/2016The Best GiftWhat do you wish for when you give a gift to your child? Do you want them to explode with delight when they open the paper? Do you want to see them at their happiest moment? Do you want to be able to fulfill your child's intense longing for...
Comments25/11/2016 #1 Mohammed A. JawadYea...the more you're closer to your child, you not only give attention but you feel you can understand what your child is trying to communicate. ..either through broken words or looks. Isn't that good? You just give your child few moments and you'll feel the difference. After all, with love, care and timely attention, children grow well.
- Producer21/11/20163 Tips to Find Happiness During the Holiday SeasonPublished on The Good Men Project 11/20/16A dad who has “been there” gives some important tips on surviving the holidays.—During the days of Thanksgiving, Christmas, Hanukkah and New Year’s Eve, our thoughts naturally turn to what this season will...
Comments22/12/2016 #4 Graham🐝 EdwardsNice buzz @Matt Sweetwood. Have a great holiday season!!! I got my daughter a portable record player this year because, believe it or not, she has never hear a record. Christmas day will be filled with a new experience between a father and daughter, as well as the the sound of the golden oldies. My experience is that fathers (single or not) who work hard to stay in their children's lives create the greatest gift of all.
- Producer16/11/2016A Different Type of LeadershipMany women chose to stay at home and raise their children. Many of these same women give up good paying careers because they want to be home with their children. Some women feel undervalued and isolated, especially if they happen to be with a group...
Comments05/01/2017 #27 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#24 Hi @Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, thanks for sharing your story. You are so right, many mom's do not have the choice to stay at home. My mom didn't and I was a latchkey child too. I agree, I actually wrote this hoping younger people would get involved because I was really interested in hearing their perspectives about what they feel their husbands should be contributing to the home and more. I have seen shifts in what men do today and I can honestly say, they take on a lot more household chores and seem to be more hands on. Not all households but I'm hearing about it and seeing it firsthand. I wonder how men feel about this? I know one man who is "expected" to take the kids as soon as his work day ends, cook dinner, clean the kitchen, do laundry, baths, and more- that's the 50/50 part I was speaking of above. I wonder if this is the new norm and guys are ok with it, or if it's not a norm and some men are burned beyond words. I see nothing wrong with men helping but when a woman doesn't work, I think it would be easier if the man had some time to breathe just like women need. To me, it's a balancing act. Not sure if I made my point or if it sounded confusing?05/01/2017 #26 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#23 Much respect for you @Kevin Baker. I used to have friends say to me when I finally decided to stay at home, "It must be nice." My answer: "The grass is never greener on the other side." It was hard to be a working mom and hard to be a stay at home parent and they both came with many positives too.05/01/2017 #25 Devesh BhattIn India, usually we get the approach, the sanity, the plan from the fathers, they know the world and the nuances
The insane levels of commitment to do things, the ambition from the mothers.
There is a term in Hindi called Trishanku which means stuck midway in indecision.
My generation, the married with children, they are indecisive .. They rejected tradition but haven't really gathered the conviction to implement their decisions and feel that their kids are bossy over them, both men and women.
Whatever the situation , isn't it ultimately about doing what's needed, oh wait, I sound like my mother :)05/01/2017 #24 Franci🐝Eugenia HoffmanLisa, I feel there is no right or wrong, however, I believe it is better for the children that they have a full-time mom. Of course, in some cases, there is not the option for the mom to stay at home and raise the children.
Due to technology and other outlets, stay at moms have more options to pursue their interests. I shared in a post written by Pascal that I was a latchkey kid coming home to an empty house. That's where my love for music was helpful to me. I even did my homework while listening to music. Perhaps, this experience helped me in the long run since there were times in my life when I lived alone.
I commend you for your outlook on being a stay at home mom and a loving wife. It is a full-time job for either parent. This is a very important post especially for our younger generations.05/01/2017 #23 Kevin BakerStaying home with your children is a full-time job, absolutely true, a very much complex job that has a great degree of stress related responsibilities. I was a single parent from diapers to University. @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher View moreStaying home with your children is a full-time job, absolutely true, a very much complex job that has a great degree of stress related responsibilities. I was a single parent from diapers to University. @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher has a home run here about the human strive of parents. Close02/12/2016 #18 Savvy RajA very relevant write up from the heart of @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher. Must add I reread your post with great interest. Have quoted you and shared your work in my recent post on a similar perspective ..Dignity of Being. https://www.bebee.com/producer/@savvy-raj/dignity-of-being .18/11/2016 #17 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#14 I think what you did and continue to do is admirable @Deb🐝 Lange. Working part time, scheduling everything around your kids had to be stressful. That's why I always said, the grass is never greener on the other side. I worked full time until my kids (well my son) was almost 10. So, I can attest that no matter what a mom chooses to do or has to do in many cases (doesn't have a choice, that is) the bottom line: It's a very tough job but one none of us would trade no matter the circumstances. I can't imagine how hard it was taking care of your parents until they passed. Some people thrive on work, most people would love to be able to stay at home- everyone differs. It sure is a balancing act and life is not easy. Congrats on becoming a grandmother! Raising children is the most rewarding job but also a very stressful one given the circumstances or even the day ;-)18/11/2016 #14 Deb🐝 LangeSuch an important post! When I had my kids I started my own part time consulting business. That way I could have 3.00 meetings to pick up my kids from school. I could block out sports days, school holidays etc. looking back it was hard work doing everything. My kids are now young adults. I became a grandmother this year. The time needing to be with your kids even if we say 15-20 years, goes very quickly. When my kids were adults I then cared for my parents to age and die at home. I funded this myself and took time away from my business. I will work part time for the rest of my life in my own business. Doing intellectual work I can do this. I also need to as I have chosen to spend time doing work that is not paid. I don't know how young mums -and dads do it, working full time and bringing up kids.18/11/2016 #13 Aurorasa SimaI´ve seen that with friends too. They felt strange when all of the other girls were working or even pursuing a career.
In my opinion, there is no right or wrong. As you suggested: whatever works for both. I´m happy for every family who can afford the luxury to have someone staying at home.17/11/2016 #12 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#9 Interesting yet sad story about the woman who chose to stay home @Vivian Chapman, yet her father made her feel as though she was a failure. I didn't mention in my buzz above how hard it is on many who go out to work and would much rather be at home who feel a lot of guilt too. That is another important topic, which is why I said the grass is never greener on the other side. Yes, there are women who love to work outside the home but many don't have the luxury of choosing. We did take a loss in our income and basically lived from pay to pay... but we managed. We were far from rich during those years and we are still playing 'catch up,' and my kids have been out of the home for almost 8 years.. my daughter lived at home while going to College. It's sad that women take on so much guilt whether they are home or out working but I guess it's human nature as a mom to do so. Thanks for your comment!!17/11/2016 #11 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#8 Thanks for your comment @Sushmita Thakare Jain. You made a great point about parenting, it sure is a balancing and juggling act. Nothing is carved in stone when it comes to raising children whether one works outside the home or stays home with their children. There isn't a rule book when it comes to parenting! We will all make mistakes but I always told myself as long as I learn from them and remember it's the positive outcomes which outweigh the negatives that our children remember.17/11/2016 #10 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#7 I'm glad your wife never regretted staying home with your children @Ali Anani. It's nice to hear she did things for herself too, because that is really important. Sounds as though she has some great talents. I'm sure both of you were and continue to be great role models for your children! Thanks for sharing Ali. I forgot to mention that its also important to keep individualism because our kids grow up so fast and many women feel lost when they leave the home.
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