- Producer22/10/2016Two Lost Letters but no Love LostI have not been dreading this day. I actually had no idea this day would come. It started off much like yesterday. The “trouble and strife” was away for a couple of days on assignment in Wuxi so it fell to me to be up at the break of dawn and...
Comments22/10/2016 #5 AnonymousLOL - this is great @Dean Owen - wait until she turns 13!!! :-) I 'feel' what you are saying - I remember quite a few moments at various stages as a single parent of 13 years (absent father, no child support) where the feel of my 'babies' letting loose of the apron strings felt like a punch in the stomach! oohh, the heartache of parenting - but somehow we get through it and hopefully a bit more 3 dimensional because of it!
- Producer15/10/2016Have you ever read Robert Kiyosaki's "Rich Dad, Poor Dad"?I picked this book up the first time several years ago when I was in Topeka, Kansas for a job. I had a few days of downtime so I went to a book store and browsed and found the above mentioned book.I didn't get a chance to finish the book that day...
- Producer11/10/2016Develop a skill that allows you true personal freedomWe can develop many skills in our lifetime. We are taught to try and find a skill that matches our passion, or passions. Sometimes we can combine our job and our passion, but in many cases we use our extra income from our jobs to support our...
- 10/10/2016Why empathy and compassion? Listen to the Dalai Lama and Desmond Tutu talk about the strength it takes to forgive: https://www.facebook.com/DesmondTutuOfficial/videos/898466970297303/
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- Producer09/10/2016Had a good workout with my son todayI agree with Zig Ziglar that our kids spell love T-I-M-E. Like many people I have typically always worked quite a bit of overtime with occasional travel in my line of work.My son has become old enough now that we can go to the gym together, with...
- 05/10/2016October is Anti-bullying month. If you'd like your kids to experience a fun,creative and engaging way to combat bullies, invite Ms. Jenaia to visit. Your kids will learn important communication skills in a collaborative, entertaining program grounded in a story. For more information, visit:http://critterkin.com/programs-and-fees/anti-bullying/inzpired-bully/
- 24/09/2016Looking back on this piece more than a year later, it seems as though someone else wrote it... It is one of my favorites, though... https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/three-points-advice-my-teenage-phil-friedman
- Producer16/09/2016How we grow healthy, curious and confident kidsWhen people ask me what I do, I answer that I am first and foremost a father of three amazing boys, a husband to a wonderful wife and then all the rest. I think that job titles lead to entitlement and that they are overrated in our society. When...
Comments16/09/2016 #1 Lisa Gallagher@Marcel Kuhn Bamert, it sounds like you laid a great foundation for your family. You both have your hands full but as you mentioned, you keep your youth by staying active with your children. I love your daily rituals and I think it's very beneficial for children too. The best times in my life were the times we ventured outdoors to find a new and exciting place (visually). Kids are easy to please and we found that it was never about toys and gifts but the simple pleasures in life that our kids carry with them today and are now passing on to their own children. Kudos for giving your wife major props!!
- Producer13/09/2016He spent over $1 million in his divorce — Matt Sweetwood of the Man-Up ProjectThis is a transcription of my interview with Shawn Leamon, MBA and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst, host of the Divorce and Your Money Show, the #1 radio show discussing personal finance issues in divorce. You can...
Comments14/09/2016 #35 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD@Donald Grandy, @Manish Nair | Research Postgrad, @Michele Williams, @Renée Cormier, @Aurorasa Sima, @Charlene Burke, @Lisa Gallagher, @Sara Jacobovici, @debasish majumder, @Ali Anani, PhD, @mohammed khalaf, @WILLIAM C. BALLARD II, @Vincent King, @Gordon Pye, @Franci Eugenia Hoffman.14/09/2016 #34 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD@Matt Sweetwood: I wrote a 500+ page book on Age Management Medicine for Women. But it includes everything that a single Dad needs complete with progressive and age-appropriate chapters/appendices to give your daughter to read (e.g, how to insert a tampon). It starts off with the history of what Aristotle thought of various body secretions. Perfectly normal stuff to talk about and I guarantee you that 99% of women will not have heard about the things I discuss freely. That First Talk is important (and did you know that there are menstrual cups?). I thoroughly cover events rom the First Period through a woman's lifetime of sex, marriage, pregnancy, childbirth, miscarriage, motherhood, invisible illnesses, Quality of Life, humor, the history of Aristotle and WIlliam C. Stead (Europeans should know him -as we all should; I'd like to see him in our History books). Pertinent 1/3 is for people over 35 ~chronic metabolic syndrome, Pre-Diabetes, heart disease, Caregiving, finding Long-Term Care for parents, Informed Consent and Ethics, Death and Dying. Timeless stuff ~age management is important for you. My book: http://www.drmargaretaranda.tateauthor.com/other-works/ Manopause/menopause huge discussions. Immunonutrition, i think you should be on an immunonutrition low-glycemic diet. :)14/09/2016 #33 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD#17 You're absolutely right that in the medical profession, we "count" a divorce as a death. Three life stressors in a year or so make a man more prone to a heart attack. So it's seriously true that you need to take care of your physical nutrition and mental health, @Matt Sweetwood. Particularly since you want to be well-slept for each and every morning. If you went to an Age Management Doctor, you'd probably be on an eating plan to avoid something we call chronic metabolic disorder. Briefly, increased belly weight leads to heart disease (#1 killer), diabetes, and more. I like Immunonutrition and I'll copy the blog here as a Producer. For all those that are hitting their 40's ~it's time to look at each bite you put in your mouth. You're probably already Pre-Diabetic if you can't stand up and see your toes. Food is either medicine or poison and there's no other way. I have a 500+ book on Age Management for Girls, Women and Single Dads with daughters (ya know, that First Talk...and did you know there are menstrual Cups?). 'No' on the Gardasil vaccination (it can cause dysautonomia or paralysis; the vaccine has been banned in India, Spain and Europe for years) and Essure Fallopian tube contraception. Title: Archives of the Vagina: A Journey through Time. Guess I'll have to explain that as a Producer, too! http://www.DrMargaretAranda.tateauthor/other-works/ I start with Aristotle.14/09/2016 #32 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD#29 (So @David B. Grinberg, I'd tell your friend not to file for Divorce until after an amiable agreement is reached and no one will argue for anything else.)#24 I left this thought to it's own Comment, because Yes! Single Dads ROCK! (And I don't care ~ this is one time I'll yell it out as a Cheerleader!) My Dad was my best father and I was too stupid to know that not all men are like him. With 7 kids, he always made me feel like I was his only, favorite daughter. The father:child bond is so powerful and what you have with your children will only add more outstanding quality to the natural resilience the youth have in overcoming familial adversity. A huge component for them is that they have one another. What group therapy, to know instinctively that they'll get through this! With you as a Dad, they'll all make you proud ~ I'd say to still talk to them about the kind of qualities to look for in a marriage partner. My Dad wasn't good at those things, figuring we would learn by osmosis. Rocket scientist that he was, the man was an incredible father. Reflecting on how he "did it" (never remarried, @Brian McKenzie ~hated women) only leaves one to ponder further since it turns out that he and his siblings were all sent away to different Boarding Schools. They never even had one CHristmas together. My Dad was just pure love. ;)14/09/2016 #31 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD#25 16 years is ...just unimaginable, @Paul "Pablo" Croubalian. I'm at the tail end of a 5+ year divorce (it's been Final but for the retirement $). Left on disability after 10 years, my ex left me and our child without essentials too horrible to be publicly mentioned. My lawyers all quit after flailing a bit just waiting for me to actually fire them. But the brain injury, you know and then a neurologist let me drop to the hard wood floor when he didn't catch my fall with my eyes closed ~ so during the proceedings, I sustained a 2nd traumatic brain injury (@David B. Grinberg, an 'open' brain injury is truly hard to survive). My Ex and his lawyer convinced the "Judge" that I'm pretending to be sick. So I'm in Pro Per mangling along as "leftover" assets are "split." (We won't even talk about the 'missing 6 figures') Oh yeah, he took the child. And stopped paying the mortgage, forcing the house into foreclosure. I just keep saying that God sees everything and you know what? No one poisoned me or put me away in a mental institution, taking all my potential income with them as Conservators. So, hey ~ I'm getting away with my life.14/09/2016 #30 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD#24 #17 #15 #10 I read all the Comments first for completeness (usually I don't, to maintain my own opinion). Much praise to God and let us try to look at the Positives. That's hard to do, but let's look at this startling scenario: when a mother leaves small children and commits suicide, that's when a good doctor (or divorce attorney) should think that she had undiagnosed Postpartum Depression. It makes a woman want to throw her babies out of a 3-story window. Undiagnosed, it's another Invisible Illness afflicting millions of women worldwide. My friend and his wife are currently caring for 7 children as 5 are now motherless after, yes, the mom committed suicide. So @Matt Sweetwood, it may seem like little consolation now, but thank God she didn't leave the children motherless at that age. No one will ever know why things happened ~but I became a mother at age 13 when my mother left 7 kids. My father was a single parent in 1972 and the Judge mocked him, saying he 'never heard of a man who raised 7 kids on his own.' While the devastation of being without her rang true, I was relieved that I didn't have her to interrupt my Mother's Day strawberry cakes I baked for my Dad. That's just how children think. So the first thing I want to say after giving you a hug is that Your Children are So Blessed. Thank God they weren't all drowned in a tub. Because that is the reality of Postpartum Depression. It's a grave mental illness. Kiss those children and God continue to Bless them ...and You! You Are A Very Rich Man!14/09/2016 #29 David B. GrinbergThanks for sharing your story, Matt. You deserve many accolades for how you got yourself into better physical condition, took care of those cute kids, and launched the Man-Up Project. Those are all major lifetime accomplishments.
Perhaps you can share some advice and wisdom about this situation: I have a good friend who is about to get divorced. There are no kids. The separation lasted longer than the marriage (5-years). One reason the separation lasted so long was so could keep his separated wife on his health plan, as she has a "closed head" brain injury. In addition, he helped her out financially during the separation by paying her car monthly car lease and insurance, as well as emergency money requests.
Well, here's the kicker. Her elderly mother just died and she inherited about $2 million, albeit via an irrevocable trust. So here are my questions;
1) Now, being a millionaire, can she still make financial claims on my friend's employer-provided retirement plan for instance?
2) Does my friend have any legal avenue to pursue part of the inherited money, as they are still technically married.
3) How would you suggest proceeding in this type of situation? Like mediation or just filing for divorce?
Keep in mind my friend has been living with his girlfriend for the entire 6-years of the separation. Also, my friend doesn't have a lot of savings to spend on high-priced divorce lawyers. Thus, thanks for any advice you or others might have which I can pass along pro bono.14/09/2016 #27 Lisa GallagherGreat interview @Matt Sweetwood! Let me first say, I admire you as a father and a man. Your children are lucky to have such a wonderful dad like yourself and I'm sure they feel the same.
I'm going to admit, I am not a feminist. I believe in equal rights for all. I have seen men get screwed over very bad in the court system and after hearing your story it literally angered me that you had to go through this as do other men and it brought tears to my eyes. Yes, I've seen women go through it too, but not to the same degree I've witnessed men, not close.
I have an ex-brother in law who was probably was close to losing his mind or worse by the time his divorce was final. His ex-wife (now) was having an affair, she even got permission to go to Texas with the guy she had the affair with, her ex was hoping she'd come back and realize she stilled loved him. To add insult to injury, she had numerous affairs before this. She filed for divorce and got alimony for 10 years in Ohio along with 50% of his retirement and what ever was left from the sale of their home they had to split 50/50. She was abusive, not him. Many women don't realize how abusive some women can be and the man will keep taking it because of either the children, or hoping it will just stop? Not sure.. for similar reasons women stay in abusive relationships.
As I heard your story I felt my heart rate going up, so I can't IMAGINE the stress you endured. Thank you for sharing this, it's such an important story for people to hear.
- Producer12/09/2016Have you got undies on?Have you got undies on, and other questions you never thought you'dbe asking as an...
- Producer11/09/2016Rubber Ducks I imagine that there is a vast wasteland of discarded rubber ducks, all slowly rotating on an ocean of filth. Their ominous blue eyes glaring back through eternity.Lets think about it:Read more...
Comments12/09/2016 #1 Dean OwenNot quite sure on the experiment but I do worry about all the waste created by billions of rubber ducks. I've seen that giant rubber duck when it visited Tokyo, Hong Kong, and Shanghai. Pretty cool, but simple idea for "art". I have pictures somewhere. Where was your picture taken?
- ProducerEmpower your kids, write their origin story. All superheroes need great origin stories; Batman's parents were killed by Joe Chill in a dirty back ally, Superman's world ripped to pieces by their averse, Luke Skywalker's aunt and uncle were burnt alive by underpaid psychopaths in stormtrooper...
Comments14/09/2016 #3 Raymond Rowell#2 thanks Cynthia, its very true, but as parents we have the power to help establish an amazing origin story for our kids.
That's our job after all.
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- ProducerAn Open Fridge Door Will Reveal the Secrets of the Universe https://dadrule.com/2016/09/05/an-open-fridge-door-will-reveal-the-secrets-of-the-universe/...
- ProducerLet Them Experience Everything and Level Up In Dungeons and Dragons when your character kills a Kobold, cast Fireball, or overcomes a deviously designed trap, he gains exeperience points (XP). These experience points cumulate every time you play, at certain volumes your character levels up....
- 05/09/2016Hope you had a great weekend. Let's start the week with some Man-Up Project talk: this time a dad called in, and we discuss: How to be a Good Father when Your Kids Challenge You?The Man-Up Project Episode 8: How to be a Good Father when Your Kids Challenge You?msweetwood.com In this podcast, I am talking with a dad who is going through some rough time. We talk about how to stay – can we stay? – A good father when our kids challenge us greatly. And what’s the take home...
- 08/09/2016Norway's King Harald has passionately called for all Norwegians to take care of each other, in a speech in support of diversity and tolerance. What a beautiful reminder that we are all part of the same tribe. Please share
- Look what we an accomplish if we work together: https://youtu.be/9Nq3TEDI7HU
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- Producer07/09/2016Another child is leaving home, heading for university.Already I can feel that I am going to miss him. When my mum saw us leaving home for school overseas, she was always in tears. She said the home was empty, too quiet and she could not bear the empty silence. Now it's my turn to experience what she...
Comments07/09/2016 #2 Dean OwenLoved the storytelling. I remember Singapore in the early 80's. It was hot and there was not much to do except hang around Orchard Road and eat hawker food at Newton Circus. I got food poisoning quite often from the delicious stingray. Is your son going to Singapore or KL? Both cities are heaps of fun these days. Rest assured he will enjoy his studies abroad but will always be thinking of his wonderful family back home,07/09/2016 #1 Lisa GallagherCongrats to you son, and I hope his experience is wonderful. I can remember that sad feeling when my children left to go off to College. It will pass :)) Best wishes to him and your family @Vincent Andrew View moreCongrats to you son, and I hope his experience is wonderful. I can remember that sad feeling when my children left to go off to College. It will pass :)) Best wishes to him and your family @Vincent Andrew! I think the first 2-4 weeks is the toughest. Once you begin to hear all his stories, you'll be happier and less sad! Close
- A question for the bees. If we each have a piece of our collective puzzle that no one else can provide. why waste time comparing, judging, testing and competing? See: https://www.bebee.com/producer/@jena-ball/able-to-leap-ta
Comments22/09/2016 #4 Jena BallForget Perfection. Strive for Excellence. Find, develop & share your unique piece of our collective puzzle. The sooner we all get that and stop trying to mass manufacture students like cars on an assembly line that need to be quality tested at the end, the sooner we'll find kind, humane and viable solutions to the world's problems. Are you in?
Comments07/09/2016 #4 Jena Ball#1 I have put several of my sayings on shirts and a few on stickers. It is one of the ways I reach out to my CrtterKin and Not Perfect Hat Club communities. Would love to see what you have planned @Javier beBee View more#1 I have put several of my sayings on shirts and a few on stickers. It is one of the ways I reach out to my CrtterKin and Not Perfect Hat Club communities. Would love to see what you have planned @Javier beBee perhaps we can collaborate down the road. Empathy and Kindness are the foundation of what I do :-) Close
- ProducerAble to Leap Tall Buildings - Part IIBack to my alter ego Ms. Jenaia. Each and every time I step into Ms. Jenaia’s personna for a visit with kids; every time I shout, “helllloooo,” teach them to draw a dog, or ask them to share what makes them wonderfully imperfect , I am committing an...
- Producer05/09/2016Able to Leap Tall Buildings - Part IBecoming a character in a book you’ve written is a bit like discovering an alter ego. It starts with how you dress and speak, but quickly becomes another way of seeing and being in the world. At this point, I don’t just change into Ms. Jenaia’s...
Comments06/09/2016 #1 Lisa GallagherWell crafted @Jena Ball. This line is so valuable, "Here’s the thing. It’s not that I think I’m special, it’s that I know I am unique." I love your perspective on life and teaching children. Ah, and the smelly breath addition to this, I laughed! Thanks for sharing.
- Producer02/09/2016Books are the Stuff of DreamsWe all know that books and reading are vital to a child's intellectual and emotional development. And by books, I mean any form that stories take, any way that we can immerse ourselves in the lives of others, learn empathy and compassion and ignite...
- Producer02/09/2016Catapulted - Education Goes GlobalUntil about two years ago, I told anyone who asked me that I was a writer. Since I’ve spent the better part of my life penning everything from marketing material and textbooks to speeches for SONY’s founder Akio Morita, this made perfect sense,...
Comments02/09/2016 #2 Jena Ball#1 Hi Lance. You are right about it being a huge challenge, but honestly what choice do we have? We've seen what the current education system has produced. Empathy, respect for differences and a willingness to work collaboratively to solve our global issues are sorely lacking. It's one reason I started offering talks and workshops about perfection (http://jenaBall.com/speaking). Adults a have as much or more issues with the myth than kids, and corporations are crying for help to ignite creativity and innovation in the workplace. Schools are turning out competitive test takers who are afraid of risk. That's no help to anyone :-)
Have you heard of Tacy Towbridge at Adobe Systems? She did a nice piece on the role of creativity in business: https://does-creativity-matter.attendease.com
Let's agree to keep plugging away, okay? I'd love to hear more about your work and ideas for tackling our challenges. So nice to have met you here!02/09/2016 #1 Lance ScoularGreat points Jena.
While your article address issues with educating children, it applies to higher forms of education as well.
As I was reading your article and in particular the question:
What does this mean in practical terms?
It brought to mind a business breakfast meeting, called by the Botany Bay Business Enterprise Centre (Sydney, Australia), where, Patrick Boneham,
Division Head Small Business Policy Division of the Australian Treasury (Government) had asked for a group of small business owners to attend and share their issues and concerns in running a business in the Australian Economy.
The most common issue was the lack of "actual skills" the graduates from TAFEs (Technical and Further Education) and Universities had with their so called "qualifications.”
Three employers in particular were in the construction and fabrication sector, and had to look for skilled labor from overseas – a complicated and expensive options with much red tape.
In other words the educators have designed “competency based courses” but those competencies are not delivering the required outcomes by the employers. So the graduates and the employers both loose out.
To come full circle back to our children’s education, the point you put for consideration, may assist in rectifying this problem for higher education down the track. However, it will take time and much wisdom from many educators.
There seems to be a huge focus on knowledge and quite rightly.
Unfortunately there seems be small focus on wisdom.
“Knowledge is knowing a tomato is a fruit; wisdom is not putting it in a fruit salad.” Miles Kington