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  1. ProducerVictoria Toumit

    Victoria Toumit

    24/06/2017
    LOVE SCAM
    LOVE SCAMHave you ever fallen in love with someone that you never saw in your life? Since internet connected all the continents together, love life got a bit cheaper. Before, people met with their lovers from school, work or parties and so on, now...
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    Victoria Toumit
    24/06/2017 #10 Victoria Toumit
    #7 @debasish majumder my dear friend, thank you very much for your beautiful and uplifting words.
    Victoria Toumit
    24/06/2017 #9 Victoria Toumit
    #6 @Eeva Maria Al-Khazaali You are so beautiful! These scammers on the contrary are after unreachable people. Because it is much more rewarding for them to crush beautiful and strong people. That way, they feel more important! Love scammers' all point is, to feel important. Do not ever question your own self!
    Victoria Toumit
    24/06/2017 #8 Victoria Toumit
    #5 @Laurent Boscherini I adored your wonderful comment! Thank you so much for your super contribution!! You have a beautiful mind.
    debasish majumder
    24/06/2017 #7 debasish majumder
    nice share @Victoria Toumit! relevant in the present virtual world. enjoyed read and shared. thank you for the post.
    Eeva Maria Al-Khazaali
    24/06/2017 #6 Eeva Maria Al-Khazaali
    Beautifully coherent piece of writing. I was scammed as well, "catfished", actually, so it hit the point.
    Thanks for posting.
    Laurent Boscherini
    24/06/2017 #5 Anonymous
    Thank you @Victoria Toumit for sharing your relevant post. The ancient Greek used 7 words to define the different states of love:
    - Storge: natural affection, the love you share with your family.
    - Philia: the love that you have for friends.
    - Eros: sexual and erotic desire kind of love (positive or negative)
    - Agape: this is the unconditional love, or divine love
    - Ludus: this is playful love, like childish love or flirting.
    - Pragma: long standing love. The love in a married couple.
    - Philautia: the love of the self (negative or positive)
    All of us are so strong as weak with Love ;)
    Victoria Toumit
    24/06/2017 #4 Victoria Toumit
    #2 @Vincent ๐Ÿ Manlapaz Thank you very much for your beautiful comment. Yes, these people scare innocent people from love.
    Victoria Toumit
    24/06/2017 #3 Victoria Toumit
    #1 @Carlos ๐Ÿ Tรญscar Thank you so much for your beautiful comment. Well, yes unfortunutally, the love scam is one of the most ugly scams in human life!
    Vincent  ๐Ÿ Manlapaz
    24/06/2017 #2 Vincent ๐Ÿ Manlapaz
    Love is the connected emotions without seeking for ambiguity. It is given freely. Sad but what you have said is a disheartening reality. Hope anyone who are currently in this situation would read your article. This gives a honest blunt to be awaken. Great article, Victoria. Will share this.
    Carlos ๐Ÿ Tรญscar
    24/06/2017 #1 Carlos ๐Ÿ Tรญscar
    Deep thoughts. It's a pity that even love can be scammed.
  2. ProducerMatt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood
    10 Rules to Determine Whether Any Relationship Will Steal Your Happiness
    10 Rules to Determine Whether Any Relationship Will Steal Your HappinessAn edited version published originally on the Thought Catalog 4/21/17I firmly believe that happiness in life is most affected by the quality of our relationships. We all have a variety of relationships like the ones with casual acquaintances,...
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    Louise Smith
    25/05/2017 #40 Louise Smith
    It's hard to disconnect from difficult people sometimes impossible so it's best to learn how to deal with them. I wish there was a subject at high school or uni -
    Difficult People 101. But most of us learn the hard way over time (unless your parents work as a Social Worker, Psychologist or very good at personal relationships) Almost every client who comes to see me wants or needs to work on this - Being Assertive not Angry, Aggressive, Sarcastic or Negative.

    But these days I don't keep these difficult people close. The older I get the easier it becomes to do this. How about you?
    Louise Smith
    25/05/2017 #39 Louise Smith
    BTW @Javier ๐Ÿ beBee "You Should End Any Relationship with a Person Who Causes you pain more than 3 times in a month"
    If you are a teacher, after 3 hours you would have no students in your class !
    Louise Smith
    25/05/2017 #38 Louise Smith
    As a person who by accident of birth order (not just birth), I am the oldest of 4 siblings and since I was 4yo I have been moulded , not deliberately but by circumstance, to be a giver and a carer. Then I was a high school teacher and now am a psychologist. What hope did I have of a different career path when most of my peers left school to work at 15yo and very few women went to Uni.

    Also genetically, I didn't have a chance as my Mother and Father and Maternal Grandmother are/were very gentle, obliging and considerate people.

    So what to do about it?
    Louise Smith
    25/05/2017 #37 Louise Smith
    #31 Because they consciously or unconsciously know the giver is the better person. They feel self shame and guilt unless they are complete narcissists, sociopaths, psychopaths or politicians ( also could be your boss). They think that most people are ultimately takers and even though the giver would prob never do this, the takers expect to get the same treatment from the givers down the track.

    As a derivative of fight or flight, attack is the best form of defence, that is what they do to the giver immediately in small doses or they wait and pick the big moment that is important to the giver and whamo they strike!
    Louise Smith
    25/05/2017 #36 Louise Smith
    #25 or an ECG
    Louise Smith
    25/05/2017 #35 Louise Smith
    #22 I like yours better.
    Louise Smith
    25/05/2017 #34 Louise Smith
    #16 Ask Dr Wh0
    Michele Williams
    27/04/2017 #33 Michele Williams
    Great advice,Matt. Important points for entrepreneurs to consider in their relationships with cofounders, mentors and angel investors. Do they cause you pain and undermine your confidence?
    Maria Merino Oslara
    25/04/2017 #32 Maria Merino Oslara
    ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘
    Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    25/04/2017 #31 Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    @Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood- obviously life taught you lessons the hard way. Your list of when to drop a relationship is comprehensive even though your line "They were robbing me of my time, energy, money, happiness and they were bringing me down" gives adequate guidance.
    "...Causes you pain more than 3 times in a month". I smiled reading this because you reminded me that we need a minimum of three points to set a trend (to set a trend. Moreover, you reminded me of the simple rules of 3.
    "But it also can happen with the coworker who you have helped repeatedly and when you need them, there is a deafening and hurtful silence". You
    It means they donโ€™t have the same values as you, they donโ€™t care what you believe in and can ruin your reputation โ€“ or worse. I better forget about these experiences myself. Unfortunately, many people tend to "bite the hand" that helped them.
    Devesh ๐Ÿ Bhatt
    25/04/2017 #30 Devesh ๐Ÿ Bhatt
    After such an insightful post i would agree more with your #23.

    Nobody can steal your happiness. You can give it away just for the sheer pleasure of giving or surrender it to sadness.
    Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador
    25/04/2017 #29 Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador
    Oh yes, this is good, @Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood. Life is too short to be in a bad relationship. Unfortunately, we don't always realize we're in a bad relationship until it starts to take its toll on us. Even worse, some victims are in denial and can't face the fact they are in a bad relationship. I agree with @Renรฉe ๐Ÿ Cormier, the most important relationship we have is with ourselves.
    stephan metral ๐Ÿ Innovative Brand Ambassador
    25/04/2017 #27 stephan metral ๐Ÿ Innovative Brand Ambassador
    #25 haaaaa paul.....its not an app...i thinks its is called a...device? what is a device? As its name itself explain it, it retrieve the vice, de-vice....lol....same purpose apps devices, just get rid of hyena people!!!
    David B. Grinberg
    25/04/2017 #26 David B. Grinberg
    Thank you, Matt, for this sage advice. I echo your sentiments and important insights about ridding people from one's life who are toxic and negative, because these types of people only succeed in bringing down others to artificially lift themselves up. Rather, surround yourself by positive role models who support and encourage your biggest dreams and life goals -- however far off or impractical they may appear. We need to recall that impractical does not mean impossible.
    Again, kudos Matt on sharing more exemplary and beneficial advice.
    Paul "Pablo" Croubalian
    25/04/2017 #25 Paul "Pablo" Croubalian
    #16 I think it exists, Steph... it's called a taser
    Renรฉe  ๐Ÿ Cormier
    24/04/2017 #24 Renรฉe ๐Ÿ Cormier
    #23 Yes, I was wondering if I should make that my next post. It might be interesting to see the different perspectives we have on that!
    Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood
    24/04/2017 #23 Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood
    #21 "I truly believe the most important relationship of all, is the one you have with yourself." Agree and that's whole other article...
    Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood
    24/04/2017 #22 Matt ๐Ÿ Sweetwood
    #18 "10 Commandments" I wish I had thought of that.. it would have made the title sizzle!
    Renรฉe  ๐Ÿ Cormier
    24/04/2017 #21 Renรฉe ๐Ÿ Cormier
    I truly believe the most important relationship of all, is the one you have with yourself. If you have a strong sense of who you are and love the finished product, no one can really take that away from you. Also, if you truly love and respect yourself, you will find it easy to eliminate disempowering or one way relationships from your life. It is much easier to turn away from negative relationships than to try to make them fit. It is a mistake to believe you can control or change others, and honestly, you shouldn't even want to. It is also a mistake to try to become what someone else wants you to be. All you can really control is the way you view the world around you and what you give permission for in your life. Over recent years, I have systematically rid myself of people who add no value to my life. I find the older I get, the less willing I am to put up with bull shit. When I was young, I had all the energy in the world for it, but it brought me a tremendous amount of pain. I know better now. :)
  3. ProducerJavier ๐Ÿ beBee
    Give without expecting anything in return
    Give without expecting anything in returnI have read this great article from Preston ๐Ÿ Vander Ven. I think it is simply brilliant !ย  Top Ways to Market Yourself on beBee GiveThis is important to do on any social networking site, not just beBee, but itโ€™s particularly important to do...
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    Cyndi Docy
    19/06/2017 #47 Cyndi Docy
    I love this and I think I read it before. It actually takes direction right from the bible which says"it is more blessed to give than to receive". But in reality if we really think if we are really able to help someone with something, big or small, it feels good. It especially feels good when there are no strings attached. Thank you for your inspiring words.
    Ana-Marรญa Llรกcer Sรกnchez
    03/06/2017 #46 Anonymous
    Strongly agree with you: Giving is receiving.
    Mamen ๐Ÿ Delgado
    02/06/2017 #45 Mamen ๐Ÿ Delgado
    Wow, wonderful, simply wonderful!! Congrats @Preston ๐Ÿ Vander Ven ๐Ÿ‘
    Helena Jansen van Vuuren
    22/05/2017 #44 Anonymous
    Great read for a newbie!
    Kevin Baker
    21/05/2017 #43 Kevin Baker
    Much fun when you know it benefits others
    Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    21/05/2017 #42 Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    This is brilliantly crafted @Javier ๐Ÿ beBee! If I would have seen this, I could have just added my 2 cents here and reposted instead of the buzz I wrote this evening . You wrote:
    "f you want someone to comment, share, or like your posts, you need to do this for others first without the expectation of the return. โ€œ
    I fully agree with your statement!
    Excellent buzz and thank you for sharing a link to this on my buzz! :))
    Javier ๐Ÿ beBee
    14/05/2017 #41 Javier ๐Ÿ beBee
    Google is loving beBee

    https://www.google.es/search?q=give+without+expecting+anything+in+return&oq=give+without+expecting+anything+in+return&aqs=chrome..69i57j69i60.17735j0j4&client=ms-android-samsung&sourceid=chrome-mobile&ie=UTF-8
    Nandita De
    06/05/2017 #40 Nandita De
    I was rather surprised and heartened to read this interesting and very refreshing piece. Give till it pinches, Mother Teresa said. Most don't. Most give what doesn't pinch. But Mother was pragmatic too. If you cannot feed a hundred people, feed one. Not only is that doable, it's a very addictive start. For as one sets out on the path of distributing material and/or abstract joy or help, one gets in return a fulfillment that only such acts can bring. The returns are immediate and gratifying. Few people can deny the joy giving advice, help, comfort, companionship, or even a token gesture or emoji nowadays, he brings to his own self. Giving is far more gratifying than getting. But even besides that, even when it is enforced, like corporate social responsibility, it creates a culture and a ripple effect that ultimately transforms the individual mindset and society. And as with anything that's socially accepted as the norm, it becomes a habit and endures. This is actually in all aspects of life, not just a business platform.
    I truly commend you in leading from the top.
    Donna-Luisa Eversley
    01/05/2017 #39 Donna-Luisa Eversley
    One of the best posts read on bebee..thank you @Javier ๐Ÿ beBee
    Charlie Accetta
    24/04/2017 #38 Charlie Accetta
    #32 and yet, my own experience with LinkedIn in terms of reciprocal generosity was pretty much zilch. I found that even my real-life friends and relatives among my connections didn't get it. Personally, I know you're right, but I can't get over the fact that we have hammer this into people.
    Joe Rowbotham
    11/04/2017 #36 Joe Rowbotham
    Give without expecting anything in return
    Joe Rowbotham
    11/04/2017 #35 Joe Rowbotham
    This is such a great read - thank you for sharing! So true
    Erroll -EL- Warner
    10/04/2017 #34 Erroll -EL- Warner
    Thanks. Very interesting article. Positive ideas to live by.
    David Navarro Lรณpez
    10/04/2017 #33 Anonymous
    To give without expecting anything in return use to be called generosity. It has nothing to do with the fact that you have a lot to give or not. It has nothing to do with a good feeling felt by the one who gives for this fact. It has to do with the feeling that makes to happen in the person who receives. This implies that when giving, the one who gives has to make sure that what is given will be of some use for the receiver. To give a bicycle to a handicapped would be cruel, not generous.
    Social media is just an extension of us, a different way to communicate. If we are not generous in "real life", very unlikely we will be it in social media.
    Milos Djukic
    08/04/2017 #32 Anonymous
    #30 Why I am here @Javier ๐Ÿ beBee? :) Why we are here?
    Helping others help themselves, it is less a paradox and is increasingly becoming the golden rule of social media.

    "Social media is primarily used in order to find like-minded people ("instant" engagement and mutual fruitful impact). That is the most important and represents the backbone for an eventual successful cooperation of any kind or only for the purpose of a pure joy and happiness. This can hardly be measured by any mathematical or statistical parameters.
    A targeted interaction is a crucial one and also a willingness to understand that we are different. Only then we can help and improve each other." - from "Helping Others Help Themselves, Social Media Paradox", LinkedIn long- form post published on October 8, 2014
    Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador
    08/04/2017 #31 Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador
    Truer words were never spoken, @Javier ๐Ÿ beBee.
    โ€œThe giving hand is considered powerful; the receiving hand is considered weak. Itโ€™s better to give than to receive.โ€
    โ€• Bangambiki Habyarimana, Pearls Of Eternity
    Javier ๐Ÿ beBee
    06/04/2017 #30 Javier ๐Ÿ beBee
    thanks @๐Ÿ Fatima G. Williams @Vivian Chapman, Yes !

    "The best way to build deeper business relationships is helping others. The more we give we allow the experience to shape the way we interact with people for the rest of our lives :) " your words are exactly how it works.

    beBee is helping you. That is the reason why I personally try to engage with all of our active and positive bees.

    Simply help people, be human, engage one another. We want to communicate with one another need proof just take a look around watch a couple use sign language, laugh, have fun. Business is about relationships .If you want someone to comment, share, or like your posts, you need to do this for others first without the expectation of the return.
    ๐Ÿ Fatima G. Williams
    06/04/2017 #29 ๐Ÿ Fatima G. Williams
    #26 @Preston ๐Ÿ Vander Ven I did ( winks )
    The best way to build deeper business relationships is helping others. The more we give we allow the experience to shape the way we interact with people for the rest of our lives :) Thank you @Javier ๐Ÿ beBee for this brilliant buzz.
    Vivian Chapman
    04/04/2017 #28 Vivian Chapman
    Business is so often regarded as something hard and evil, but only fools operate that way. Business can be such a GOOD thing when you operate righteously!
    This reminds me of one of my heroes, the late Sir John Laing, who earned millions, but when he died he only left about ยฃ350 GBP. He had given it all away. Years before, he had asked God to be the Senior Partner of his firm, and to that end, he wrote down an agreement. Part of that written agreement with God was that he "would help people to enjoy life". And he prospered and his firm became the top construction firm, certainly in Britain, and possibly beyond.
  4. ProducerLiesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.
    Accountability + Forgiveness + Gratitude + Love = Ho'oponopono.
    Accountability + Forgiveness + Gratitude + Love = Ho'oponopono.Ever heard of this beautiful word 'Ho'oponopono'? Ho'o means cause and pono reflects fairness, balance, humbleness, peace and respect. It is about setting a good intention and being whole. The word pono is repeated to give it more impact. While...
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    Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.
    05/03/2017 #51 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.
    #32 thank you @Devesh ๐Ÿ Bhatt, good to read your view.
    Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.
    05/03/2017 #50 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.
    #33 @Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher, well expressed. Thank you so much.
    Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.
    05/03/2017 #48 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.
    #36 @Donald ๐Ÿ Grandy, yes forgive and let the healing begin, well said!
    Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.
    05/03/2017 #47 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.
    #37 @Chas โœŒ๏ธ Wyatt thank you for adding your comment, interesting to know!
    Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.
    05/03/2017 #46 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.
    #38 that is interesting thank you @Gerald Hecht
    Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.
    05/03/2017 #43 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.
    #42 beautiful comments @Pamela ๐Ÿ Williams. Thank you for your courage to share these experiences.
    Pamela ๐Ÿ Williams
    05/03/2017 #42 Pamela ๐Ÿ Williams
    Sorry, on my phone and my comment posted before I finished๐Ÿ˜Š This is a philosophy I have thought a lot about in the last year. Those who know me know that I have always forgiven quickly and often to my own detriment. There comes a time when forgiving others, accepting them, becomes just too difficult. So the final result is you must forgive yourself for being unable to forgive and forget harm by others. I dream is a world where all are treated with love and kindness but we have not reached that point in history.
    Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador
    04/03/2017 #40 Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador
    This is a beautiful way to learn, Liesbeth, meaning your lovely and well written buzz. This is the first I heard of this philosophy. Thank you for sharing.
    Ivette K. Caballero
    03/03/2017 #39 Ivette K. Caballero
    Very inspiring!
    Gerald Hecht
    03/03/2017 #38 Gerald Hecht
    Additionally, provides valuable insight into Neil Young's Pono Music Player Project
    Chas โœŒ๏ธ Wyatt
    03/03/2017 #37 Chas โœŒ๏ธ Wyatt
    @Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc., yes, I am quite familiar with the philosophy. "Essentially, it means to make it right with the ancestors, or to make right with the people with whom you have relationships. We believe that the original purpose of Ho'oponopono was to correct the wrongs that had occurred in someone's life including Hala (to miss the thing aimed for, or to err, to disobey) and Hewa (to go overboard or to do something to excess) which were illusions, and even 'Ino (to do harm, implying to do harm to someone with hate in mind), even if accidental."~ Source: www.ancienthuna.com
    Donald ๐Ÿ Grandy
    03/03/2017 #36 Donald ๐Ÿ Grandy
    Thank you for this post @Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.. Agree with your comment. "When we see others as the cause of our troubles, we become victims". When we focus on forgiveness we receive plenty of health benefits, including improved relationships, decreased anxiety and stress, just to name a few. Letting go of negative emotions can often have a remarkable impact on the body. Let the healing begin - Forgive.
    Federico ๐Ÿ รlvarez San Martรญn
    03/03/2017 #35 Federico ๐Ÿ รlvarez San Martรญn
    #14 Thank you @๐Ÿ Fatima G. Williams. We analyze it. Best Regards.
    Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    03/03/2017 #34 Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    Dear @Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.
    I am Sorry for commenting a little bit late and Please Forgive Me. I thank You for tagging me and I am Showing My Love by sharing this beautiful buzz.
    Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    03/03/2017 #33 Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    Nice @Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.. Forgiveness is much easier than harboring resentment. Resentment takes a toll on the person holding anger, forgiving releases the person from that bondage. I'd much rather forgive.
    Devesh ๐Ÿ Bhatt
    03/03/2017 #32 Devesh ๐Ÿ Bhatt
    This will be very very helpful to many people.

    Just two things , please dont blame the subconscious for blaming others. I believe it is a conscious habit. The subconscious has everything, we consciously select the blaming option in authopilot.

    If someone assumes the subconscious to be the source , it may be misinterpreted and lead to severe self loathing.

    Another thing, in desperation we maybe conditioned to see these things as steps but in reality if we forgive ourselves we automatically love ourselves and if we love ourselves we make a conscious and fruitful effort to firgive ourselves.

    Great buzz.Thank you
  5. ProducerDean Owen

    Dean Owen

    02/11/2016
    Beware the Dot
    Beware the DotShe sounded disturbed. I expected no less. I had always served as an agony uncle to my exes. Many of them have become good friends since breaking up. We usually keep touch via social media - an arms length relationship. But...
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    Donna-Luisa Eversley
    08/12/2016 #30 Donna-Luisa Eversley
    @Dean Owen..thank you fr highlighting this cybercrime. Yes it is not something I wish to happen to anyone.It may also have been someone cleaning his computer or mobile.Technology needs a different type of awareness for safety. Thanks for sharing๐Ÿ˜‰๐Ÿ๐Ÿ๐ŸŒป
    Praveen Raj Gullepalli
    03/11/2016 #29 Praveen Raj Gullepalli
    #28 This is the Telugu one...our native version. You could see this Dean. It came out very well too! Coolah!
    Dean Owen
    03/11/2016 #27 Dean Owen
    #22 Well I made the plunge on a tattoo when I decided to make a plunge and come to China. I had to choose a Chinese name for myself, and an expert recommended Happy Dragon, so to show my commitment, I had a dragon sleeping under a cherry blossom tree needled into a shoulder blade. Fortunately I never see it myself so completely forget about it! I think it'll be the same with her. She will forget. It'll still be there, but will gradually "reducted" as an issue to be concerned about. Whether or not these things can impact ones employment or marriage prospects, I assume they can, but unlikely in her case as no name is attached to the picture.
    Praveen Raj Gullepalli
    03/11/2016 #26 Praveen Raj Gullepalli
    #24 You got it Dean, but this is the Hindi version. The original was a Tamil version, which was remade into Telugu (what I saw first...cos I saw the Hindi one too). As you are gonna be watching one with Subtitles, go for the Tamil one. Or see whatever you can get your hands on. If you can't get hold of it, just PM me your address and I will courier a DVD to you.
    Dean Owen
    03/11/2016 #25 Dean Owen
    #21 I am petrified of connecting any devices to cloud and no matter how careful you are it seems that Apple devices always find a way to connect to iCloud for certain apps. One of these days AWS, Microsoft Cloud, iCloud or Google cloud will be compromised. It's a Pandora's box waiting to happen.
    Dean Owen
    03/11/2016 #24 Dean Owen
    #20 Sounds like a great plot. If this is the movie you are talking about, I'll hit "Buy" and hope for the best that it gets through Chinese customs.
    https://www.amazon.com/Drishyam-Hindi-Devgan-Super-Bollywood/dp/B015FLPI82/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1478184801&sr=8-2&keywords=Drishyam View more
    #20 Sounds like a great plot. If this is the movie you are talking about, I'll hit "Buy" and hope for the best that it gets through Chinese customs.
    https://www.amazon.com/Drishyam-Hindi-Devgan-Super-Bollywood/dp/B015FLPI82/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1478184801&sr=8-2&keywords=Drishyam
    I do have a tale about blackmail that you reminded me of... Perhaps a buzz for next week.... Close
    Ken Boddie
    03/11/2016 #22 Ken Boddie
    Some on-line photos, Dean, can be like an embarrassing tattoo in an unsavoury part of the anatomy ..... most of the time out of sight and mind, except when the garb slips. I hope your friend K gets over her initial shock at being unknowingly exploited, no matter how indirectly. Good on ya for posting and reminding of the ease with which seemingly harmless poses can be manipulated by others through hidden lenses or surreptitious actions. Flip the coin of intent and I am constantly amazed at how many younger people brazenly post potentially embarrassing or even degrading pictures of themselves on SM, without any apparent thought to the future.
    Harvey Lloyd
    03/11/2016 #21 Harvey Lloyd
    I find these situations disturbing. The fact that someone would intentionally post a compromising photo or discussion online that was intend to be private. This being said i would submit that more than a few times various apps, software and cloud providers, request during set up, some alignment of your device and online storage or backup.

    A simple standard install click at installation could find you posting materials online that you have no idea where its going. I appreciated the comment concerning don't take the picture or write the words very much @Dean Owen

    Our private lives and our social lives are two different things. The psychological powers of cognitive dissonance once our private lives are exposed to public lives is quite damaging. You were a good friend to assist her in moving beyond this tumultuous point in her life.
    Praveen Raj Gullepalli
    03/11/2016 #20 Praveen Raj Gullepalli
    I have a feeling these instances will be increasingly common in the future Dean! The dots are everywhere seen ;) But there may also be new tracking algorithms to trace the uploads etc and find out whodunnit and gauge why and also laws to punish such cybercrime stringently. There was a regional movie in recent times (Drishyam meaning The Picture)...about a young teenage girl vdod in a shower and how her parents intervene before she is blackmailed...and the whole things ends up a powerful drama with a deep social undertone.
    Dean Owen
    03/11/2016 #19 Dean Owen
    Hmmm, what have I missed. Out for the day and I see a bunch of deleted comments....
    Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    03/11/2016 #11 Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    That would be extremely upsetting to find out a nudie was posted on the internet of yourself. You have a calm demeanor and common sense. I'm glad she was able to turn to you for advice. Hopefully that's all there is, it will die down fast!
    Dean Owen
    03/11/2016 #10 Dean Owen
    #7 It's an uphill battle. Laws can be introduced, but they will never cover all jurisdictions.
    Dean Owen
    03/11/2016 #9 Dean Owen
    #5 Interesting questions for sure. I personally see no reason why exes of any variety can't be friends so long as there is trust in your current relationship. I mean, why waste a relationship you had with someone you loved once. My closest friends are exes, and that includes my previous wife. Thanks for stopping by.
    Kevin Pashuk
    02/11/2016 #6 Kevin Pashuk
    A well articulated tale about the dark side of pervasive cameras Dean. Social media is a platform for all kinds of behaviour, and we all must be aware of its sharp edges.
    David B. Grinberg
    02/11/2016 #5 David B. Grinberg
    Interesting post, @Dean Owen. You're an excellent storyteller and always have good advice. Two questions about exes:
    1) Does this also apply to x-wives or just x-girlfriends?
    2) What if you're current "significant other" doesn't like you keeping in touch with the exes? How do you recommend responding to both?
    Thank again for the good buzz!
    Dean Owen
    02/11/2016 #4 Dean Owen
    #3 Yes, I feel being a teenager in the 80's was the absolute best era to be born, but I guess every generation feels the same way about their teen years. I had a Minox miniature camera back then. Loved it because of the size, but never used it as it was hard to find a shop who could develop the film. These days we are always on camera. In 2014, there were 245 million surveillance cameras in operation.
    Phillip Hubbell
    02/11/2016 #3 Phillip Hubbell
    I am just thankful to have grown up in a time when everyone didn't have a camera or an internet.
    Paul Walters
    02/11/2016 #2 Paul Walters
    @Dean Owen Now I've been wondering who that chap in the flannel suit was for ages now. Hang on , let me press share!! Good piece as always Dean
    debasish majumder
    02/11/2016 #1 debasish majumder
    nice post with a sense of true empathy reflected on the post. enjoyed read. thank you@Dean Owen for the share.
  6. ProducerCandice ๐Ÿ Galek
    Should You Be Friends With Your Boss?
    Should You Be Friends With Your Boss?Most of us spend at least 40 hours per week at work. It makes sense that we'd want to have friends there.Our friends are not only our break buddies and lunch dates, they're our allies, our colleagues, and collaborators. Work would be a miserable...
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    Chema M. del Hoyo
    28/07/2016 #7 Chema M. del Hoyo
    #2 Good vibes are always welcome! โœŒ๏ธ
    Catalina Serrano
    28/07/2016 #6 Catalina Serrano
    I would say it's always better to get along with your co-workersโ€‹!
    Candice ๐Ÿ Galek
    27/07/2016 #5 Candice ๐Ÿ Galek
    #2 I could not agree more @Javier ๐Ÿ beBee I don't even keep track of how many hours I work a week, but then again it rarely feels like work because I do what I am passionate about!
    Candice ๐Ÿ Galek
    27/07/2016 #4 Candice ๐Ÿ Galek
    #1 Thanks for your comment Paul!
    Javier ๐Ÿ beBee
    27/07/2016 #3 Javier ๐Ÿ beBee
    @Candice ๐Ÿ Galek...by the way...beBee believes in business relationships rather than just contacts ;)
    Javier ๐Ÿ beBee
    27/07/2016 #2 Javier ๐Ÿ beBee
    Very interesting buzz @Candice ๐Ÿ Galek. In my humble opinion, we need to keep great relationships with everyone ! I try to do it. Most of us spend more than 40 hours per week at work. It makes sense that we'd want to have friends there - and some of them , very good friends. Our friends are not only our break buddies and lunch dates, they're our allies, our colleagues !!! Business communications do not work if business relationships don't happen. @Teresa Gezze @Chema M. del Hoyo @Catalina Serrano
    Paul Rosenberg
    27/07/2016 #1 Paul Rosenberg
    Thanks @Candice ๐Ÿ Galek.....thought provoking!
  7. Nicole Chardenet
    Just a reminder: Even back in 1961 vile, misogynist wannabe Twitter trolls existed. In nice, polite Canada's University of Manitoba. Gods help the woman who criticizes a football team.
    Nicole Chardenet
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    Offensensitivity
    OffensensitivityI'm offended, you're offended, he's offended, she's offended, wouldn't you like to be offended too!Last week I wrote about someone who offended some of the LinkedInerati with her sexy selfie. A few commenters weighed in on...
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    Todd Jones
    20/12/2016 #12 Todd Jones
    Of course not... that would be highly unprofessional :) #11
    Nicole Chardenet
    20/12/2016 #11 Nicole Chardenet
    #10 Okay, Todd, but you're not allowed to watch....or record it in any way :)
    Todd Jones
    20/12/2016 #10 Todd Jones
    This post made me think of the Seinfeld episode about "Festivus- Christmas for the rest of us," with the "airing of grievances" and "feats of strength."

    Just like Festivus, both micro and macro-aggressions where I work are settled in one of two ways: They are either ignored, or hashed out with a good old fashioned wrestling match.

    Depending on the severity of the indignation, wrestling is the preferred option. Not only does it allow participants to release pent up aggression, it is tremendously entertaining for the spectators. There is nothing funnier than watching two 50 year old men roll around in the snow. The matches usually last about 15 seconds, and leave both the transgressor and the perceiver huffing and puffing and wondering if any of it was worth the effort. The world needs more spontaneous wrestling matches and less Twitter.

    Although I work in an all male environment fueled by testosterone, I would suggest that women adopt this method of grievance resolution too, strictly in the spirit of equality, of course...
    Nicole Chardenet
    27/04/2016 #9 Nicole Chardenet
    #5 Phil, if Trump wins I may move to another planet...this planet just won't be safe with a demagogic post turtle like him running (still) the most powerful nation on earth!
    Paul "Pablo" Croubalian
    27/04/2016 #8 Paul "Pablo" Croubalian
    #7 You are absolutely right, @Phil Friedman. I try to avoid rural Manitoba.
    Phil Friedman
    27/04/2016 #7 Phil Friedman
    #6 Well then, @Paul "Pablo" Croubalian, you've never listened carefully to people from rural Manitoba. Which is understandable because Quebecois tend to miss those nuances. LOL
    Paul "Pablo" Croubalian
    27/04/2016 #6 Paul "Pablo" Croubalian
    LOL, I wasn't born in Canada. We came here when I was 2. We were actually just passing through on our way to Australia and stayed. I never considered us Canucks to be particularly prickly. Not in the sense of, say, a New Yorker. Oh, and @Phil Friedman View more
    LOL, I wasn't born in Canada. We came here when I was 2. We were actually just passing through on our way to Australia and stayed. I never considered us Canucks to be particularly prickly. Not in the sense of, say, a New Yorker. Oh, and @Phil Friedman nobody says "aboot" outside of Nova Scotia. ;-0 Close
    Phil Friedman
    27/04/2016 #5 Phil Friedman
    #2 @Nicole Chardenet, for the record, and to clarify for my Canadian online cohorts like @Jim Murray, @Paul "Pablo" Croubalian, and @Cory Galbraith -- I spent a good portion of my adult working life in Canada, have a Canadian family, and still consider Canada my spiritual homeland. Which depending on the aftermath of the upcoming U.S. presidential election, may become my actual homeland again. Cheers and best wishes to you and Canucks everywhere..
    Nicole Chardenet
    26/04/2016 #4 Nicole Chardenet
    #3 Thanks, Sarah. We need to remember that sometimes we unintentionally push others' buttons that we don't know about; but we also need to remember that others sometimes do the same to us. If they couldn't know that (How was I supposed to know she had a morbid fear of broccoli?) was it really a microagression?
    Sarah Elkins
    26/04/2016 #3 Sarah Elkins
    Here's the key: "One can always politely explain, with a smile, why the comment or gesture was, perhaps, uncalled-for. Educate rather than alienate, n'est-ce pas?" This concept would make things SO much easier, I think. Rather than immediately jump to offense, consider the source, the motivation, the intention behind whatever got your hackles raised! Nice rant, my friend.
    Nicole Chardenet
    26/04/2016 #2 Nicole Chardenet
    #1 Well Phil, I must confess...I'm American-born! Been living in the Land of Labatts for eleven years now. And as I'm fond of saying, you can take the American out of America, but you can never take America out of the American. ;)
    Phil Friedman
    26/04/2016 #1 Phil Friedman
    Wow, Nicole Chardenet, for someone who hails from the land of politely queuing up, you can really piss people off, eh? What's that all aboot? Missing the charismatic political days of PM Joe Clark, are you, honey? :-)