- Producer10/09/2016Promote goodwill and your good will promote you.Promote goodwill and your good will promote you.Ben PintoPerhaps this is a little slang sounding as the word good should be changed to goodliness, but the spellcheckers will change that word to Godliness, making it difficult to quote...
- 20/08/2016@Karthik Rajan always writes such great articles with lessons learned through personal stories.What My Dad Taught Me Without Even Trying. Something Beyond Twitter CEO’s Famous Advice To Entrepreneurs.www.linkedin.com Have you wondered what makes you who you are? I have. Here is my story. I had wanted to write this for long, never knew how it would fall out. That is the risk of writing about something close to...
Comments23/08/2016 #3 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD@Deb Helfrich: "My dad was comfortable being lost in the crowd and was equally at ease in charting his own narrative. He soothed my world with his work ethic. He made me believe miracles are possible with dint of a warm smile." I miss my Dad now. And love how your children are brought in at the end of the story, to let Grandpa live on. So so touching!20/08/2016 #2 Deb HelfrichMUST READ beBee! This is so thoroughly touching that it brought tears for many readers. If you haven't met my dear friend, @Karthik Rajan, this is a fabulous introduction to his trademark A-ha moments that explain human relationships with stories that transcend cultures.20/08/2016 #1 Lisa GallagherWhat a beautiful tribute to your dad @Karthik Rajan. I'm guessing after reading this and other articles you've written, you share many of your dad's attributes. Your daughter is lucky, she will grow up having high standards because she has such a great role model, her father! I can't imagine how much you do miss your dad, memories stir up so many emotions. Thank you for sharing!
- Producer22/08/2016How Male Bonding Builds Better BusinessPublished on The Good Men Project 8/20/16One meeting I had last week had a surprisingly different flow.My company is called beBee.com. It is an 18-month old professional social network (think LinkedIn on steroids), and is looking for more investors...
Comments24/08/2016 #26 Vincent Andrew"From now on, when I hold business meetings (even if there are only men in the room), I am going to insist we begin by sharing something personal or interesting about ourselves. It really does build better business – and I will admit it, it feels good." Interesting idea. Worth a try to see what the effects may be. Thanks for sharing this @Matt Sweetwood.23/08/2016 #23 Jim MurrayInteresting insight. @Matt Sweetwood. In my advertising agency career I was in a lot of meeting like the one you described (a while ago now) and things never went like that. You tended to find out of about what people were like by their interests, sports, boating, shooting, golf etc. People seldom got personal and in hindsight, I think a lot of those meeting might have gone better, or at least more comfortably, if they had been like the one you just described. It's funny though because whenever I met with a creative director in a job interview situation, the conversation was almost 100% personal. Guess creative people are just nosier.23/08/2016 #21 Mamen DelgadoLove that gentleman from the investment firm!! He is a beBee Bee, and probably by now he already knows it... ;) Great experience @Matt Sweetwood, thanks so much for sharing it, so you are not the only one who has learned how to hold your next business meeting. Wish you the best!!! And kudos to you about your family story. All my love!23/08/2016 #20 Alan Geller"We actually spoke about meaningful things in our lives. As a result, the meeting had a completely different feel than most and I do believe we actually had a better understanding of the business we could do together – all because we created a bond than men don’t usually do in business meetings." In situations like this I like what Oren Klaff has to say in his STRONG methodology: Set the frame. Tell the story. Reveal the intrigue. Offer the prize. Nail the hook point and Get the deal!23/08/2016 #19 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD#13 After reading through the comments, yours is exactly where I started, too, @Mark Tillman Davis. You bring up excellent points that apply to a huge population of men, deserving of validation of course! I'm not a man, but I've been the only woman in a Conference Room full of male doctors thousands of times....and some of my best friends have always been men. Back in the day, I totally 'get' that a "man was a man" concept. But...today, the child isn't there just to be seen and not heard...parenting is not "Just do what I said." "BeCauSe I SaiD sO!" kinda thing. I'm raising my third generation of kids (no grandkids, humph!) so I've had my finger on the pulse. I think men should be men, and be the head of the family ~ testosterone wins out! Without going too extreme on what is presented, I'm thinking it may be better to look at this interaction more as 'mentoring' or 'parenting.' Because @Matt Sweetwood is a single Dad. I baked my Dad Mother's Day cakes, to honor him as both a mother and father. So perhaps @Matt Sweetwood, you are using that skill set here, not the 'crying mascara' 'drama' or talk of 'minutia' or gossip or blabber. Useful stuff. I'm thinking that is the angle. Matt? Being a single Dad has to matter.23/08/2016 #18 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhDI was a bit hindered at a discussion of male bonding instinctually (after working with primarily surgeons for eons and ions)...but here is my take, which took a full-on turn: you nurture your children (honors for being a single parent~so was my Dad); the first man nurtured you; then everyone nurtured one another & that's what women do, by nature. So I'm thinking that women:emotion is really women:nurture. And are we parenting/mentoring/teaching leaders to be leaders during these business meetings? I'd say, "Yes." So I'm Sharing to 'Parenting Hives." And look what you've done! Taught men about meetings and also about parenting and having families! You did it. You do it. Congrats!22/08/2016 #15 Lisa GallagherExcellent article @Matt Sweetwood. Thanks for tagging me. You wrote, "Everyone took turns sharing about themselves. The whole dynamic in the room changed. It was one of those moments you will remember long after the business part is forgotten." Helps to break the ice and really get to know others on another level.22/08/2016 #13 Mark Tillman DavisI have spent my entire adult life associated with men of "traditional" masculinity. These men would view the author's concept of "enlightened masculinity" as what we refer to as the feminization of men. We "Neanderthals" don't spend much time talking to each other about our feelings or sharing. We talk smack. We cuss. We use the "f" word like a comma. We don't give a thought to each others race or ethinicity or cultural background. It doesn't matter. What we have shared are difficult times in harsh environments. Life and death stuff. I would trust these men with my life, my wallet and my family.
My father and grandfathers weren't big "sharers" either. They taught me my role as a man. Do the right thing in the right way for the reasons because that's what men do...and when you don't, be prepared for consequences. I idolize them and the men of their generations. Bonding between men happens as result of genuine experiences; not from an announcement that "at this point in the meeting, we're gonna' share."
- 13/08/2016I always tried to be the best mother ever
Sure I failed many times in all kinds of weather
But truth be told
I'll be quite bold
There's nothing better than smelling the toes of my baby.
~For my Daughter
Happy Birthday 2016
~"I love you all the Way to Heaven"