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Positive Parenting: Fathers and Sons - beBee

Positive Parenting: Fathers and Sons

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  1. ProducerMatt Sweetwood

    Matt Sweetwood

    How Male Bonding Builds Better Business
    How Male Bonding Builds Better BusinessPublished on The Good Men Project 8/20/16One meeting I had last week had a surprisingly different flow.My company is called beBee.com. It is an 18-month old professional social network (think LinkedIn on steroids), and is looking for more investors...


    Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    23/08/2016 #19 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    #13 After reading through the comments, yours is exactly where I started, too, @Mark Tillman Davis. You bring up excellent points that apply to a huge population of men, deserving of validation of course! I'm not a man, but I've been the only woman in a Conference Room full of male doctors thousands of times....and some of my best friends have always been men. Back in the day, I totally 'get' that a "man was a man" concept. But...today, the child isn't there just to be seen and not heard...parenting is not "Just do what I said." "BeCauSe I SaiD sO!" kinda thing. I'm raising my third generation of kids (no grandkids, humph!) so I've had my finger on the pulse. I think men should be men, and be the head of the family ~ testosterone wins out! Without going too extreme on what is presented, I'm thinking it may be better to look at this interaction more as 'mentoring' or 'parenting.' Because @Matt Sweetwood is a single Dad. I baked my Dad Mother's Day cakes, to honor him as both a mother and father. So perhaps @Matt Sweetwood, you are using that skill set here, not the 'crying mascara' 'drama' or talk of 'minutia' or gossip or blabber. Useful stuff. I'm thinking that is the angle. Matt? Being a single Dad has to matter.
    Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    23/08/2016 #18 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    I was a bit hindered at a discussion of male bonding instinctually (after working with primarily surgeons for eons and ions)...but here is my take, which took a full-on turn: you nurture your children (honors for being a single parent~so was my Dad); the first man nurtured you; then everyone nurtured one another & that's what women do, by nature. So I'm thinking that women:emotion is really women:nurture. And are we parenting/mentoring/teaching leaders to be leaders during these business meetings? I'd say, "Yes." So I'm Sharing to 'Parenting Hives." And look what you've done! Taught men about meetings and also about parenting and having families! You did it. You do it. Congrats!
    Alexa Steele
    23/08/2016 #17 Alexa Steele
    So you all developed an affinity for one another? By taking an interest in your potential business partners as human beings first? This investment firm sounds like a really good match for beBee!
    David Grinberg
    23/08/2016 #16 David Grinberg
    Exemplary advice as usual, @Matt Sweetwood. Why am I not surprised. Good luck with everything in the Big Apple. I'll let you know when I visit NY.
    Lisa Gallagher
    22/08/2016 #15 Lisa Gallagher
    Excellent article @Matt Sweetwood. Thanks for tagging me. You wrote, "Everyone took turns sharing about themselves. The whole dynamic in the room changed. It was one of those moments you will remember long after the business part is forgotten." Helps to break the ice and really get to know others on another level.
    mohammed khalaf
    22/08/2016 #14 mohammed khalaf
    All savvy employers should know by now that providing equal opportunities to people simply makes good business sense in the 21st century economy. However, it appears that some CEOs and executive leaders haven't gotten the message.
    Mark Tillman Davis
    22/08/2016 #13 Mark Tillman Davis
    I have spent my entire adult life associated with men of "traditional" masculinity. These men would view the author's concept of "enlightened masculinity" as what we refer to as the feminization of men. We "Neanderthals" don't spend much time talking to each other about our feelings or sharing. We talk smack. We cuss. We use the "f" word like a comma. We don't give a thought to each others race or ethinicity or cultural background. It doesn't matter. What we have shared are difficult times in harsh environments. Life and death stuff. I would trust these men with my life, my wallet and my family.
    My father and grandfathers weren't big "sharers" either. They taught me my role as a man. Do the right thing in the right way for the reasons because that's what men do...and when you don't, be prepared for consequences. I idolize them and the men of their generations. Bonding between men happens as result of genuine experiences; not from an announcement that "at this point in the meeting, we're gonna' share."
    Javier beBee
    22/08/2016 #12 Javier beBee
    🐝🐝🐝🐝 bzzzzzzzz
    Paul "Pablo" Croubalian
    22/08/2016 #11 Paul "Pablo" Croubalian
    #10 LOL Any time, my friend, any time.
    Javier beBee
    22/08/2016 #10 Javier beBee
    #8 LOL my first flight to Canada is going to be to meet Pablo. After some drink let's talk about hives hahaha
    Zachary Ostin
    22/08/2016 #9 Zachary Ostin
    Love this post @Matt Sweetwood. We need each other more than we think.
    Paul "Pablo" Croubalian
    22/08/2016 #8 Paul "Pablo" Croubalian
    #7 Yes, it sounds like those brokers did their homework
    Javier beBee
    22/08/2016 #7 Javier beBee
    Sharing something personal or interesting or any passion really does build better business. That is beBee.
    Paul "Pablo" Croubalian
    22/08/2016 #6 Paul "Pablo" Croubalian
    I can see how that would break the tension, or, maybe add to it depending on the individual. Still, it sounds like a great idea that is well in keeping with the beBee philosophy of engaging the entire person not just their job.
    Jennifer Schultz
    22/08/2016 #5 Jennifer Schultz
    Great to see that this investment firm was so personal with you @Matt Sweetwoodt - that is a good indicator that they care about people. Men for years have bonded in the working world with golf and other activities - good to hear that a conversation ensued in a meeting about your personal lives. Great buzz!
    John White, MBA
    22/08/2016 #4 John White, MBA
    Be Professional Be Personal Be Successful. Love the post @Matt Sweetwood
    Laurent BOSCHERINI
    22/08/2016 #3 Anonymous
    Thank you @Matt Sweetwood for sharing your relevant post, so well expressed about the need of sense in all kind of business, always starting by human interactions at its first level of listening, out of ego. Brilliant !
    Lauren Juzl
    22/08/2016 #2 Lauren Juzl
    Loved the post. I can also see how this relates to beBee, when compared to a site like LinkedIn, the opportunity to express far more personal experiences and opinions seems to come much easier... a welcome change to employment and business - remembering we are all human.
  2. ProducerDon Kerr

    Don Kerr

    Imagination is my brother
    Imagination is my brother"I'm not writing non-fiction. I don't feel anything about me as a kid was unique. Except that I had more interest in being alone and using my imagination."John IrvingDo you have a brother?There is a special bond with brothers. It is a spiritual...


    Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    25/07/2016 #33 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    #27 I'll keep a running log of your Quotes for ya...you shall read it one day🎀!
    Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    25/07/2016 #32 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    #6 Awesome Quote, one for the books. Oh! But wait! You need to 🖊write one (again lol)!
    Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    25/07/2016 #31 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    #2 That is exactly the same glaring message I also get from this beautiful vision of a writing. Awesome piece, @Don Kerr. You are already a writer. All it takes to be a writer is 'to write.' So I suppose that all it takes for a bee to write is to write a 🐝Buzz🐝 on the beautiful things in life!
    Don Kerr
    21/07/2016 #30 Don Kerr
    #29 thank you @Phil Friedman
    Phil Friedman
    21/07/2016 #29 Phil Friedman
    #28 Shared at the Man Up Project, @Don Kerr.
    Don Kerr
    20/07/2016 #28 Don Kerr
    @Matt Sweetwood Would love it if you'd share this on Man Up Project. I have maxed out on shares to hives! Thanks.
    Gert Scholtz
    20/07/2016 #27 Gert Scholtz
    @Don Kerr Wonderfully written Don. These lines are profound: "Our lives are non-fiction works with the occasional dip into fantastic fiction. When I write I try to explore the space between those two solitudes."
    Don Kerr
    20/07/2016 #26 Don Kerr
    #22 Thanks @Jim Murray @Phil Friedman has scared me off adding any more to this note and I can't quite get the hang (yet) of adulterated blarney!
    Don Kerr
    20/07/2016 #25 Don Kerr
    #23 I will endeavour to improve my skill with 'adulterated' blarney @Phil Friedman
    Don Kerr
    20/07/2016 #24 Don Kerr
    #21 I thought you were going somewhere entirely different with that @Kevin Pashuk!
    Phil Friedman
    20/07/2016 #23 Phil Friedman
    #18 There you go again, @Don Kerr, with the unadulterated blarney. This is simply a terrific post. Case closed. Cheers!
    Jim Murray
    20/07/2016 #22 Jim Murray
    Nice piece @Don Kerr...added it to the Beezers Hive
    Kevin Pashuk
    20/07/2016 #21 Kevin Pashuk
    @Don Kerr... you are certainly waxing the elephant these days (waxing eloquent for those who don't get my sense of humour).

    Like you, I grew up with and older sister, and no brother. You describe the dynamic well. Like you, my imagination was a friend. It has certainly been a great muse for you.
    Don Kerr
    20/07/2016 #20 Don Kerr
    #13 A truly lovely commentary @Sarah Elkins thanks for sharing it with me.
    Don Kerr
    20/07/2016 #19 Don Kerr
    #17 I really appreciate this @Franci Eugenia Hoffman and am so pleased you found a family of friends.
    Don Kerr
    20/07/2016 #18 Don Kerr
    #16 Thank you very much my friend @Phil Friedman This means a great deal coming from someone I admire.
    Franci Eugenia Hoffman
    20/07/2016 #17 Franci Eugenia Hoffman
    This is a beautiful piece, @Don Kerr. I was an only child and I had a few imaginary friends, however, I always wanted a brother or sister. I surrounded myself with friends, which when we younger, we adopted each other as brothers and sisters. Not the same as the real thing but we never felt alone.
    Phil Friedman
    20/07/2016 #16 Phil Friedman
    This is a piece brimming with
    THIS PIECE by @Don Kerr brims with distilled insight. And in unusual fashion looks at both sides of one of Life's coins. You shoul take.a moment to read it Cheers!
    Phil Friedman
    20/07/2016 #15 Phil Friedman
    This is a piece brimming with distilled insight. And in unusual fashion looks at both sides of one of Life's coins. Thanks, @Don Kerr. Cheers!
    Sarah Elkins
    20/07/2016 #14 Sarah Elkins
    Imagination is a great companion! But I'm really grateful for my sibs.
  3. ProducerIra Friedman

    Ira Friedman

    Is That the Job You Want?
    Is That the Job You Want? It is amazing the diversity of jobs we have had and will perform. Some of us strive for that position always. Others wind up there by happenstance. For some, it is because they don’t have alternatives.Even as a high school kid, I took some jobs...


    Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    24/07/2016 #11 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    Jam packed with employee stories from many angles, and what really strikes me is the honor you still have for your beloved father. He had core values, I suspect he was a man of God, and he followed the Code of Honor. I never waitressed, but my first formal job (aside from picking garlic in Gilroy, California with the migrant farm workers) was at McDonalds. Much like a university education, I learned principles that I later applied to the Los Angeles County Jail Ward for the 'fresh' arrested and 'scraped off the streets." You have all the key points here. The only other point I would like to gently add is that one needs to pick up the 'culture' of the environment. If the patients in the Jail Ward could hold me hostage and cause a full-blown 'lockdown' of that 15 cm steel door, hey, I need to shoe them who is boss. At first, I thought the LAPD were rather brutal at clobbering a convict to the floor, but I quickly learned that the same person I was feeling empathy for knew he was HIV Positive and was on PCP (elephant tranquilizer) and wanted to bite off our hands. So your story on the hand-that-almost-got-amputated, it resonates. Gave me flashbacks for a moment there. Fantastic writing - You Should Write a Book!
    Selim Yeniçeri
    06/07/2016 #10 Selim Yeniçeri
    I loved this article!

    Read this, people! You will "love" it!
    Selim Yeniçeri
    06/07/2016 #9 Selim Yeniçeri
    I loved this article!
    Jason Attar
    05/07/2016 #8 Jason Attar
    Well said on lessons learned!
    And Management, please remember that your staff is a reflection of your abilities. Like a sport(s) team, the players maybe in perfect shape and the best of the best however if the coach provides a poor playbook and expects his players to compensate for his/ her incompetence... ...well we all know the outcome.
    Ira Friedman
    05/07/2016 #7 Ira Friedman
    Vincent, Thank you. Ira
    Vincent Andrew
    01/07/2016 #6 Vincent Andrew
    "Don't look down on manual labourers." This is definitely true. In my experience they are your good plumbers, electricians, car mechanics and the like. Great article @Ira Friedman!
    mohammed khalaf
    01/07/2016 #5 mohammed khalaf
    sent you following#4
    Ira Friedman
    30/06/2016 #4 Ira Friedman
    #1 - Mohamed - You are welcome.
    Ira Friedman
    30/06/2016 #3 Ira Friedman
    #2 - Mohammed - Good advice.
    mohammed khalaf
    22/06/2016 #2 mohammed khalaf
    If you show that you like the way the company works, your boss and your boss's bosses will be happier to make you an important part of it. Also, get to know your co workers. If you seek to understand your co workers, you may avoid potential disagreements.
    Mohamed Amroussi
    22/06/2016 #1 Mohamed Amroussi
    Nice motivational article , thank you Ira Friedman