- Producer17/08/2016How's *Your* Privilege?I heard a Pakistani immigrant girl on the CBC a few weeks ago complaining about racism in Canada. She told of how she was going to university and her new roommate said that 'Rule 1' of the household would be no cooking curry, because she couldn't...
Comments09/09/2016 #62 Nicole Chardenet#60 BTW I think you're looking for Ben @Ben Pinto's link https://www.bebee.com/producer/@ben/cause-that-is-how-we-are08/09/2016 #60 Paul "Pablo" Croubalian#57 To quote the Beatles: "I'll get by with a little help from my friends." This rant of yours, plus one that you inspired that I want to link to but can't find (It was titled "because that's the way we are" or something like that) led me to write my https://www.bebee.com/producer/@paul-croubalian/emulsification-racism-and-getting-along .
I was also thinking about this post this morning. It's a quiet work day and I needed to think about stuff for my web-app-with-no-name.
So I got to cooking.
It's my father-in-law's 88th tomorrow, so I made his favs. I started with Jack Daniels infused orange marmalade. It will be served with homemade vanilla/Grand Marnier ice cream on puff pastry boats (now in the oven.)
I have a big-assed batch of basil tomato sauce simmering away to use in the lasagna/cannelloni/manicotti (I haven't decided which yet, but the pasta dough is ready)
I also made some tomato sherbert to use as ice cubes to keep the gazpacho cold. Did I mention the gazpacho?
My condo has waves of various aromas. The marmalade mixed with tomato was getting to me. I opened the windows.
That's when I saw Melissa, my neighbour. She was heading out.
She told me she couldn't stand the smells anymore. Not that they were bad, but that they were making her hungry. She was off to a Weight Watchers' meeting.
LOL08/09/2016 #59 Nicole Chardenet#55 WOW. I think I would have killed my kids (if I'd had any) if they referred to me as a 'white bitch'. What an awesome act, to move them to a whiter neighbourhood where they can learn to appreciate the other half of their DNA. You bring up a great point, which is that racism is ALWAYS wrong. Even when you're not white. 'Victimhood' isn't an excuse.08/09/2016 #57 Nicole Chardenet#52 Yes, and I very much appreciate everyone's support! It still amazes me how it drew little attention a few weeks ago when it was published (and I almost didn't for fear I would get flamed far and wide by the left) but then Paul and you and a few others found it and now it's got over 2,000 views! Thanks so much to all of you!08/09/2016 #56 Nicole Chardenet#50 You can come over to my apartment building and rant about all the curry smells you can find...along with fried fish and Goddess knows what else. I live in an immigrant 'hood in Toronto (and I'm an immigrant myself) and the halls are always filled with food smells. But my reaction is usually, "Oh please, invite me in for dinner!"08/09/2016 #55 Renée 🐝 CormierI used to live in a neighbourhood which was filled with immigrants from China, Pakistan, India and a handful of Middle Eastern countries (i.e., people who might consider themselves brown). My children are mixed race so they are not as fair skinned as me. One day I discovered some things they had written where they referred to me as "that white bitch". Not long after, we moved to a whiter neighbourhood because I was not going to have my children grow up to be racists and believing they were separate and different from me. Comedian Russell Peters in his routine called, Red White and Brown, commented that brown people were more racist that white people. I have to think there must be some truth to that. Having said that, a spoiled brat is a spoiled brat and all university students go through an adjustment period having to learn to live with strangers. C'est 'tough shit' et c'est la vie!07/09/2016 #53 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD#40 "People stink universally" and "melatonin-challenged" and You gotta love that people really have raised a spark! I quote these as I quote (?hundreds) of other writings to capture phrases that bees originate.[ In Fractals Forever with @Milos Djukic, we quote one another all the time. } This is simply noted to accentuate your originality of thinking, something we love to notate in Fractals. ;)07/09/2016 #50 Lisa 🐝 GallagherI just found a link to this @Nicole Chardenet, I noticed last night someone mentioned you wrote about this but I was way over tired and didn't look until now. Great piece! I think the next time I stay at an all suites hotel I will scream about my privilege when I smell curry in the halls ;-) Or maybe I should call the news the next time my neighbor has their fire pit smoking and the smoke is entering my bedroom window because darnit, I'm privileged! LOL. So many big issues going on, many of which we never hear about from the media- I find a lot of real news online from independent journalists. I can't believe that TV channel actually aired her complaint. Oh and by the way, that toy I never received from Santa years ago, well I'm still angry about that, I deserved it ;-)
- Producer29/08/2016We've All Got One, So What's Yours?Nothing's more interesting than hearing a good story, unless, of course, it's a great or even fantastic story! #thedailychalkboard encourages you to think about yours today. Have a great week....
- 20/08/2016@Karthik Rajan always writes such great articles with lessons learned through personal stories.What My Dad Taught Me Without Even Trying. Something Beyond Twitter CEO’s Famous Advice To Entrepreneurs.www.linkedin.com Have you wondered what makes you who you are? I have. Here is my story. I had wanted to write this for long, never knew how it would fall out. That is the risk of writing about something close to...
Comments23/08/2016 #3 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD@Deb 🐝 Helfrich: "My dad was comfortable being lost in the crowd and was equally at ease in charting his own narrative. He soothed my world with his work ethic. He made me believe miracles are possible with dint of a warm smile." I miss my Dad now. And love how your children are brought in at the end of the story, to let Grandpa live on. So so touching!20/08/2016 #2 Deb 🐝 HelfrichMUST READ beBee! This is so thoroughly touching that it brought tears for many readers. If you haven't met my dear friend, @Karthik Rajan, this is a fabulous introduction to his trademark A-ha moments that explain human relationships with stories that transcend cultures.20/08/2016 #1 Lisa 🐝 GallagherWhat a beautiful tribute to your dad @Karthik Rajan. I'm guessing after reading this and other articles you've written, you share many of your dad's attributes. Your daughter is lucky, she will grow up having high standards because she has such a great role model, her father! I can't imagine how much you do miss your dad, memories stir up so many emotions. Thank you for sharing!
- Producer22/08/2016How Male Bonding Builds Better BusinessPublished on The Good Men Project 8/20/16One meeting I had last week had a surprisingly different flow.My company is called beBee.com. It is an 18-month old professional social network (think LinkedIn on steroids), and is looking for more investors...
Comments28/10/2016 #30 Robert CormackI've seen this work in a similar environment, Matt. It's called a bar, and we don't care a smidge about race, creed, color or political affiliations. We share our lives, our concerns, our hopes and fears, all of which has a freeing effect, consummated by each arguing over who should pick up the bill. Just kidding. It's been so long since I've been in a bar, but I'd like to think we built the path for bonding in the boardroom. Men do get it, even if women think we're trogs.24/08/2016 #26 Vincent Andrew"From now on, when I hold business meetings (even if there are only men in the room), I am going to insist we begin by sharing something personal or interesting about ourselves. It really does build better business – and I will admit it, it feels good." Interesting idea. Worth a try to see what the effects may be. Thanks for sharing this @Matt 🐝 Sweetwood.23/08/2016 #23 Jim MurrayInteresting insight. @Matt 🐝 Sweetwood. In my advertising agency career I was in a lot of meeting like the one you described (a while ago now) and things never went like that. You tended to find out of about what people were like by their interests, sports, boating, shooting, golf etc. People seldom got personal and in hindsight, I think a lot of those meeting might have gone better, or at least more comfortably, if they had been like the one you just described. It's funny though because whenever I met with a creative director in a job interview situation, the conversation was almost 100% personal. Guess creative people are just nosier.23/08/2016 #21 Mamen 🐝 DelgadoLove that gentleman from the investment firm!! He is a beBee Bee, and probably by now he already knows it... ;) Great experience @Matt 🐝 Sweetwood, thanks so much for sharing it, so you are not the only one who has learned how to hold your next business meeting. Wish you the best!!! And kudos to you about your family story. All my love!23/08/2016 #19 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD#13 After reading through the comments, yours is exactly where I started, too, @Mark Tillman Davis. You bring up excellent points that apply to a huge population of men, deserving of validation of course! I'm not a man, but I've been the only woman in a Conference Room full of male doctors thousands of times....and some of my best friends have always been men. Back in the day, I totally 'get' that a "man was a man" concept. But...today, the child isn't there just to be seen and not heard...parenting is not "Just do what I said." "BeCauSe I SaiD sO!" kinda thing. I'm raising my third generation of kids (no grandkids, humph!) so I've had my finger on the pulse. I think men should be men, and be the head of the family ~ testosterone wins out! Without going too extreme on what is presented, I'm thinking it may be better to look at this interaction more as 'mentoring' or 'parenting.' Because @Matt 🐝 Sweetwood is a single Dad. I baked my Dad Mother's Day cakes, to honor him as both a mother and father. So perhaps @Matt 🐝 Sweetwood, you are using that skill set here, not the 'crying mascara' 'drama' or talk of 'minutia' or gossip or blabber. Useful stuff. I'm thinking that is the angle. Matt? Being a single Dad has to matter.23/08/2016 #18 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhDI was a bit hindered at a discussion of male bonding instinctually (after working with primarily surgeons for eons and ions)...but here is my take, which took a full-on turn: you nurture your children (honors for being a single parent~so was my Dad); the first man nurtured you; then everyone nurtured one another & that's what women do, by nature. So I'm thinking that women:emotion is really women:nurture. And are we parenting/mentoring/teaching leaders to be leaders during these business meetings? I'd say, "Yes." So I'm Sharing to 'Parenting Hives." And look what you've done! Taught men about meetings and also about parenting and having families! You did it. You do it. Congrats!22/08/2016 #15 Lisa 🐝 GallagherExcellent article @Matt 🐝 Sweetwood. Thanks for tagging me. You wrote, "Everyone took turns sharing about themselves. The whole dynamic in the room changed. It was one of those moments you will remember long after the business part is forgotten." Helps to break the ice and really get to know others on another level.22/08/2016 #13 Mark Tillman DavisI have spent my entire adult life associated with men of "traditional" masculinity. These men would view the author's concept of "enlightened masculinity" as what we refer to as the feminization of men. We "Neanderthals" don't spend much time talking to each other about our feelings or sharing. We talk smack. We cuss. We use the "f" word like a comma. We don't give a thought to each others race or ethinicity or cultural background. It doesn't matter. What we have shared are difficult times in harsh environments. Life and death stuff. I would trust these men with my life, my wallet and my family.
My father and grandfathers weren't big "sharers" either. They taught me my role as a man. Do the right thing in the right way for the reasons because that's what men do...and when you don't, be prepared for consequences. I idolize them and the men of their generations. Bonding between men happens as result of genuine experiences; not from an announcement that "at this point in the meeting, we're gonna' share."
- 16/08/2016If you think running a startup makes work-life balance impossible., just be glad you don't have to balance homework and puberty! Check out this great young entrepreneur!The young entrepreneur with big plans but 'still has to do homework' - BBC Newswww.bbc.com Twelve-year-old entrepreneur Henry Patterson tells the BBC how running a successful business has changed his...
Comments16/08/2016 #1 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD@Michele Williams - great find! How much can we learn from him? What a genius - I hope he still plays with Legos....just hate to see kids grow up too fast. I'm glad he's still worried about school. And he speaks so freely - tells me that he must have a stay-at-home Mom who saw his brilliance and supported his genius. There's a genius inside of each and every child