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  1. Walter Smith

    Walter Smith

    19/02/2017
    The Self Management Compass https://affectivelearningwiki.atlassian.net/wiki/display/ALS/Training+Resources Walter Smith
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  2. ProducerBlaine Little

    Blaine Little

    12/02/2017
    Positively Speaking (and Thinking)
    Positively Speaking (and Thinking)One of the things I love most about the people I surround myself with, is that an overwhelming majority of them are so positive-minded! Of course, that's by design. There are certainly enough negative people on the planet, I just choose to...
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    Blaine Little
    12/02/2017 #4 Blaine Little
    #3 Thanks, David! Reverend Peale was some of my first introduction to creating a positive life. However, I still consider myself to be a pragmatist. Be sure to check out my article on "Control Issues", https://www.bebee.com/producer/@blaine-little/you-re-out-of-control
    David B. Grinberg
    12/02/2017 #3 David B. Grinberg
    Well stated, Blaine. I don't know any successful person in business or life who has not had a positive outlook and mindset. Recommended reading on positive thinking, the late Rev. Norman Vincent Peale http://www.goodreads.com/author/show/8435.Norman_Vincent_Peale View more
    Well stated, Blaine. I don't know any successful person in business or life who has not had a positive outlook and mindset. Recommended reading on positive thinking, the late Rev. Norman Vincent Peale http://www.goodreads.com/author/show/8435.Norman_Vincent_Peale I've also shared this buzz in three hives. Again, nice read! Close
    Blaine Little
    12/02/2017 #2 Blaine Little
    #1 Thanks Fatima! I appreciate your positive words. :)
    🐝 Fatima Williams
    12/02/2017 #1 🐝 Fatima Williams
    Fantastic buzz@Blaine Little And I love your positive attitude in the positive buzz that reminds me. We need a few more people on the streets shouting this out. Cheers Stay awesome and positive always 🤗🤗🤗🐝🤗🤗
  3. ProducerEmilia M. Ludovino
    EMOTIONAL BANK ACCOUNT - Is your balance Positive or Negative?
    EMOTIONAL BANK ACCOUNT - Is your balance Positive or Negative?Imagine that you have dropped and broken your mobile phone, and find it’s going to cost you $200 to repair it.Your reaction to this incident is influenced by the amount of discretionary money you have in your bank balance.If you have a lot of money...
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    Emilia M. Ludovino
    24/01/2017 #13 Emilia M. Ludovino
    #12 Thankyou @Ignacio Gallo Campos www.ignaciogallocampos.com for the positive feedback and sharing. Have a great day!
    Ignacio Gallo Campos www.ignaciogallocampos.com
    24/01/2017 #12 Ignacio Gallo Campos www.ignaciogallocampos.com
    Insightful, clear, simple and extremely powerful advice if put them into actions. Sharing your message!
    Brian McKenzie
    23/01/2017 #11 Brian McKenzie
    I un-banked when I left the States, I haven't had a telephone in 3 years, if I were to say I have any Emotional Account - it would have been unplugged too. Emotions, and pandering to them, are quite avoidable. We live in a six second world where 'Reality' is faked, scripted, produced ~ where you are an easily replaceable line item on a corporate spread sheet ~ where 'love' is transactional, temporary and disposable ~ where war is not only inevitable but routinely scheduled. Society is merely a herd of widgets - managed through the life-cycle wickets of eat, sleep, work & reproduce well teased with money and goaded with fear before you are shuffled of to the meat packing slaughter house.
    I try to keep my Apathy in check with doses of Indifference and Detached Ambivalence - I am rewarded daily for those efforts.
    Emilia M. Ludovino
    22/01/2017 #10 Emilia M. Ludovino
    #9 Thank you, @David B. Grinberg for your kind words and best wishes. I'm a positive thinker by birth and an optimistic by nature - be optimistic and positive thinker runs in the family. Great reading recommendations. It's a pleasure to have you reading my articles. Have a blessed day and week ahead!
    David B. Grinberg
    21/01/2017 #9 David B. Grinberg
    As someone who prides himself on positive thinking -- despite naysayers -- I completely concur with your astute advice, Emilia. It's just as easy to think positively than negatively and view the proverbial cup as half full, rather than half empty. I wish you all the best and hope your cup overflows with positive life experiences.
    Lastly, for those who have a negative mindset as knee-jerk reaction, here's some recommended reading by the godfather of positive thinking, the late and great Rev. Norman Vincent Peale https://www.amazon.com/Norman-Vincent-Peale/e/B000APPE7E Keep buzzing in 2017!
    Sushmita Thakare Jain
    21/01/2017 #8 Sushmita Thakare Jain
    #6 Pleasure is all mine dear :) we are all here for each other
    Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.
    21/01/2017 #7 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.
    #4 thank you @Emilia M. Ludovino! You are most welcome.
    Emilia M. Ludovino
    21/01/2017 #6 Emilia M. Ludovino
    #3 Thank you dear @Sushmita Thakare Jain :). Your ongoing support here on beBee and in Twitter are like sweet honey. Have a blessed weekend!
    Emilia M. Ludovino
    21/01/2017 #5 Emilia M. Ludovino
    #2 You're most welcome @Jeet Sarkar. Thank you for reading it. I'm happy that you liked it. Have a blessed weekend.
    Emilia M. Ludovino
    21/01/2017 #4 Emilia M. Ludovino
    #1 Thank you @Lisbeth for reading it and share it. I appreciate your support. I'm happy that you liked the content :). Have a warm weekend. :)
    Sushmita Thakare Jain
    21/01/2017 #3 Sushmita Thakare Jain
    Such a good read!
    Thank you for sharing. Will be sharing it ahead :)
    Jeet Sarkar
    21/01/2017 #2 Jeet Sarkar
    Good share madam @Emilia M. Ludovino! Thank you for sharing it.
    Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.
    21/01/2017 #1 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.
    everyone should read this one, it is so good to know!
  4. Walter Smith

    Walter Smith

    18/01/2017
    Executive Thinking Skills
    https://affectivelearningwiki.atlassian.net/wiki/x/V4Aw
    Walter Smith
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  5. ProducerDebbie Hindle

    Debbie Hindle

    02/01/2017
    Does The Future Feel Overwhelming?
    Does The Future Feel Overwhelming?Have you been feeling more apprehensive lately about the future of our world? Let’s be honest with the increasing divisions and tensions between people and nations - from the recent US elections, to Brexit and bombings that target the innocent –...
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  6. Walter Smith

    Walter Smith

    29/12/2016
    Learn your way to wicked solutions. https://affectivelearningwiki.atlassian.net/wiki/x/V4AwWalter Smith
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  7. ProducerAndrew 🐝 Goldman
    Why might depression be a good sign? Почему депрессия может означать что-то хорошее?
    Why might depression be a good sign? Почему депрессия может означать что-то хорошее?Why might depression be a good sign?In our society almost 80 percent of people are depressed. Temporary or permanently. Depression may lead to stress and stress may lead to depression. According to doctors most of the diseases happen because of the...
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    Andrew 🐝 Goldman
    25/12/2016 #58 Andrew 🐝 Goldman
    Merry Christmas! @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#57
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    25/12/2016 #57 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #56 So are you @Andrew 🐝 Goldman, thank you and wishing you a Merry Christmas!
    Andrew 🐝 Goldman
    23/12/2016 #56 Andrew 🐝 Goldman
    You are very right. That's the strength. Life could be happy, should be happy and will be happy. You are awesome, @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher #55
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    23/12/2016 #55 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #53 Thank you @Andrew 🐝 Goldman, no one wants pity. Thank for believing... that's a positive reinforcement. Honestly, this isn't just about me, I've been an advocate for Mental Health issues for a long time and when people feel they are pitied I think they feel belittled and not taken seriously. Again, thank you my friend.
    Andrew 🐝 Goldman
    23/12/2016 #54 Andrew 🐝 Goldman
    @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher Anything that will help is great. If you picked your way, ok. Healing is important, not the process. If you found something that works, great. I may not sound sorry or supportive cause it really doesn't help, it just rewards your current state. You get connection and will be there longer. Not my goal. I believe in you. I believe in everyone who did all the comments. When I believe in you, I want you to feel strength. That's what I'm sending your way. #51
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    23/12/2016 #52 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    I meant to thank you for bringing up this topic @Andrew 🐝 Goldman and allowing discussion of this very important topic.
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    23/12/2016 #51 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #50 @Andrew 🐝 Goldman, I hope you understand I am not trying to come off as sounding mean. Your right, I try to be a positive person. I found I've tried for way too long and ignored myself. I ignored or tried to ignore what was really going on. Like a boil, slowly festering. No offense, but I don't care for Tony Robbins. I can't watch his videos. I will share by ignoring what is going on inside of us and hoping it will just pass can be dangerous. We can't fix an illness with positive affirmations. As for Medical Personel who treat this, I've been told that medication along with CBT and for some EMDR are the therapies of choice. Again, it's a process that takes quite a bit of time. It takes support of family and God willing, friends too who support you and don't expect you to just put on a smile and pretend you're OK because even smiling can be difficult when your not feeling well. Things we take for granted when healthy feel like they are out of reach. @Don 🐝 Kerr, thank my friend- back at you and looking forward to watching that black dog retreat ;-)
    Andrew 🐝 Goldman
    23/12/2016 #50 Andrew 🐝 Goldman
    @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher You are usually on the positive track. Stuff happens to us, because it is life. I know that you can find the way even if it's tough. I want to share this video with you. It might be helpful. https://youtu.be/YtMltwYTEUs #44
    Praveen Raj Gullepalli
    23/12/2016 #49 Praveen Raj Gullepalli
    #44 I understand dear Lisa. It depends on the nature or the degree I suppose. Don't Worry Be Happy mantra...or Get a Grip mantra...Self Control mantra might work for one stage or type but assuming it is the mantra for all degrees may be wrong. However, it is good to see through these interactions some new facts emerging on the nature, degrees, and escape velocities required to beat the black beast :)
    Don 🐝 Kerr
    22/12/2016 #48 Don 🐝 Kerr
    #44 Indeed. I venture to say it is even more serious than a broken collarbone. Sheesh. Hang in there @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher. The black dog doesn't always control us. It just feels that way too damn often. Peace.
    Ian Weinberg
    22/12/2016 #47 Ian Weinberg
    Notwithstanding what I've said in my quoted buzz and with great respect to@Andrew 🐝 Goldman and @Deb 🐝 Helfrich , there is another component which needs to be included in this discussion. Prompted by the descriptions of subjective suffering and the difficulty in overcoming the affliction as contributed to by @Phil Friedman, @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher, @Don 🐝 Kerr, one has to appreciate the enormous influence that the formative years and the ensuing life narrative have in determining receptivity to effective intervention. I have coached many with a program combining behavioral-type therapy with a strong logotherapeutic flavor. And yes I've had successes, but also many failures. On review I've concluded that components deeply embedded in the life narrative determine the success versus the failure (and the whole range in between) of intervention. I outlined this component in a recent buzz - https://www.bebee.com/producer/@ian-weinberg/the-neuroscience-of-change
    Andrew 🐝 Goldman
    22/12/2016 #46 Andrew 🐝 Goldman
    Thank you, @Preston 🐝 Vander Ven! Faith is very important. I experienced the path like yours. Life is amazing. Especially after you start valuing it. #45
    Preston 🐝 Vander Ven
    22/12/2016 #45 Preston 🐝 Vander Ven
    #43 First, Great article. I wanted to agree with what you said in your article. I took struggle with Depression in my twenties. That is for another story. What I learned from that was I could not control the circumstances in which I was blaming. Yet, it did open my eye to what I could control.
    This lead me to a feeling of conviction. Conviction brought awareness of my specific sins, habits, and attitudes in my life that needed to be changed. It was light a specific spotlight that needed help. I was no longer dependent on circumstances, because I was back in control.
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    22/12/2016 #44 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #23 Some of these comments (not yours @Praveen Raj Gullepalli) make me cry. I don't think some people realize just how sick someone is when they are in the depths of a clinical depression. Yes, seeking help is vital. Yes, meds can help to get over the hump, but they are not a cure (and I'm agreeing with those who mentioned medications), but until a person is not so ill, they aren't able to many of the positive things mentioned any more than a person who's ill from heart disease can do these things. People forget the brain is an organ, the most vital organ in the body and just like any organ it can become diseased or malfunction. We do not have control over these things. Recognizing the illness is the first step. Recovery can take months. I fully disagree that it's a person's fault. It's an illness. I wouldn't wish this on my worse enemy.
    Andrew 🐝 Goldman
    22/12/2016 #43 Andrew 🐝 Goldman
    #40 I like the quote of Henry Ford:
    If you think you can do a thing or think you can't do a thing, you're right. After 3 years of depression that was a thought that turned my thinking around. Sense of purpose totally destroyed it. I understood that I have no time for depression. Cause I have important goals to achieve. I just share my example and those that are worldwide known. If someone made it through. It is possible. Sense of personal failure that bothers people actually could be turned into a victory. If a person realizes and believes that it's his/her own fault, then he/she could turn it around. It's impossible to change stuff that is out of our control. Better get things under our control. So we get the chance.
    Andrew 🐝 Goldman
    22/12/2016 #42 Andrew 🐝 Goldman
    #39 Thank you, @Deb 🐝 Helfrich! A very insightful comment. True it is. Everything starts from the sense of control. Then there could be a long way until full healing and a change in a quality of life. It is a turning point.
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    22/12/2016 #41 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    Pt 2- Many people with depression lose their excitement for things they always enjoy or look forward to. It's hard to get out of bed (literally), and for many, it's a chore just to shower. Depression is complex and if it were that easy to just wish it away or think good thoughts people would not be going to Dr's, take medications that quite frankly suck and be openly admitting to it because sadly, there is still a stigma attached to depression and anxiety disorder, there is still a lack of education that this is an illness... which makes so many feel embarrassed to reach out to health professionals or their family members. People also suffer from a great amount of guilt because it's not an illness that disappears in a short amount of time, they know it affects their family members too which adds to the horrible guilt. We are far from this illness being accepted as what it is, an illness.
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    22/12/2016 #40 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    Hi @Andrew 🐝 Goldman, I am suffering from depression due to anxiety, that has been hard to treat which led to clinical depression. I wish it was that easy to just think happy thoughts and it would go away. As @Don 🐝 Kerr noted below illnesses are not a result of personal failures and depression isn't either. I haven't been online a lot lately because I have not had the energy or focus to read let alone write much at all. Unless a person has truly suffered from depression (not a low feeling or sadness that comes and goes) they can't imagine how dark and hopeless life can feel. It's like being in abyss without a way out. A person's physical body suffers too. Fatigue that is hard to fight, weakness, deep body aches, and more. Pt. 1
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    22/12/2016 #39 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    #35 #37 What about Parkinson's? There is a long trail of breadcrumbs suggesting that a simple change of thought - from 'the fact' that there was nothing @Gary Sharpe could do, as the doctors said he would experience inevitable decline & medication was his only hope; to his willingness to believe me when I said there were things he could do for himself that would improve his daily life. Even as he would continue to experience difficult symptoms every single day.

    Understanding that we each can utilize our mind, right now, as we are being made aware of its capabilities, does not suggest the person was at fault for causing these horrifically challenging diseases. There is no implied personal failure.

    The focus should be on 'hope' for right now, because even in the most challenging of diseases - depression being one of them - small daily concrete changes in action or THOUGHTS today, tomorrow, and each day forward based on a realistic assessment of the actual limitations of the condition, can change a person's life.

    That change in belief by a person that they can begin to trend TOWARD wellness is a revolutionary belief. They still will have the disease. Be in pain. Have a long, challenging road. Continue to need to utilize and rely on Western Medicines best practices.

    But as @Andrew 🐝 Goldman said: "The main thing here is a sense of control."
    Andrew 🐝 Goldman
    22/12/2016 #38 Andrew 🐝 Goldman
    @Don 🐝 Kerr I'm happy with it and I'm happy that it touched people. It means it is important and hopefully it will be useful. Я рад что это так. И рад что это оказалось важно. Надеюсь, кто-то извлечет из этого пользу для себя. #36
  8. ProducerPaul 🐝 Kearley
    Paul's Blog: Sometimes But Not Always
    Paul's Blog: Sometimes But Not AlwaysSomeone: … does something unexpected. … gives you a compliment. … lets you skip a few places in line. … tells you how you matter. … visits you when you are sick. … offers to help with a work project. … smiles at your really bad jokes. …...
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    Venita Crow
    30/11/2016 #5 Venita Crow
    appreciate this
    Susan Rooks
    30/11/2016 #4 Susan Rooks
    #3 Oh, I absolutely do kind things because I want to, @Paul 🐝 Kearley, and it's interesting to me that my brain rewards those acts! I guess that's how we homo sapiens grew to work so well together (when we do).
    Paul 🐝 Kearley
    30/11/2016 #3 Paul 🐝 Kearley
    #1 Thanks @Susan Rooks isn't it interesting that as humans, we have to try to prove a kind act is actually done because of science. I like to think that I did it because I wanted to do it! I appreciate your thoughts as always!
    Susan Rooks
    30/11/2016 #2 Susan Rooks
    Kindness is contagious -- let's spread it everywhere! Thanks, @Paul 🐝 Kearley, for your uplifting post!
    Susan Rooks
    30/11/2016 #1 Susan Rooks
    Recent scientific discoveries show us that our brains really, really, REALLY like it when we're nice and helpful, @Paul 🐝 Kearley, and maybe that's why we do it. We have wiring in us that makes us happy when we're nice. No matter the reasons, though, I hope we continue to see more and more of that type of behavior; actions do speak louder than words.

    Here's a link to a short post on this topic . . . I love the "Kindness is Contagious" point!
    http://drdavidhamilton.com/the-5-side-effects-of-kindness/
  9. ProducerAli Anani

    Ali Anani

    17/11/2016
    The Positive Side of Negative Emotions
    The Positive Side of Negative EmotionsI wrote a presentation on separation thinking in which I discussed our tendency to ask this or that such as is it the egg or the chicken? I wondered why not this AND that. More relevant questions are available that reinforce this separation...
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    Ali Anani
    22/11/2016 #111 Ali Anani
    #110 Yes, and I have witesses some of my acquaintances go through the downward spiral. I agree with you @Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman
    Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman
    22/11/2016 #110 Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman
    Negative emotions are natural reactions that we need to cope with. Recognizing the cause of negative emotions can lead the way to deal with them appropriately. Ignoring them can eventually cause a downward spiral and even result in harm to others and ourselves.
    Ali Anani
    21/11/2016 #109 Ali Anani
    @Sara Jacobovici responded in a buzz to this buzz. What a great read Sara's buzz is. You may read it here:
    https://www.bebee.com/producer/@sara-jacobovici/developing-a-tolerance-to-negativity
    Ali Anani
    20/11/2016 #108 Ali Anani
    #107 I agree with you dear @Mohammed Sultan. Your comment is consistent with the quantum theory "When we consistently make certain assumptions about the bad things that may happen to us we trigger our negative emotions". When we focus only on negatives we develop the Observer Effect. Negative emotions help to stabilize positive emotions, but excessively reflecting on negative ones throw us out of balance.
    Mohammed Sultan
    20/11/2016 #107 Mohammed Sultan
    Dear @ Ali Anani PhD.Thanks for sharing the output of your balanced emotion.When we consistently make certain assumptions about the bad things that may happen to us we trigger our negative emotions.Everything depends on how we view our external world.People with unbalanced emotion explain the bad things that happen to them in terms that are internal and stable.Thinking all the time of what went wrong is the moving sands of our emotions.It leads to giving up and prevent us from seizing opportunities because we think of punishment of failure(negative emotion) rather than the rewards for success(positive emotion).Fit and balance of our internal emotions should be done first before we align them with reason or with the external world.It also make sense to delay our decisions or meetings when we temporarily are flooded with negative emotion and become unable to balance them with reason.
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    20/11/2016 #106 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #105 Thanks @Ali Anani, Sometimes I re-read what I write and I will second guess myself, wondering if I conveyed my message well. Im glad you are able to get a visual when reading! So kind of you to put up a link to my buzz here:))
    Ali Anani
    20/11/2016 #105 Ali Anani
    #104 You writing is packed with images dear @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher. Having just read your beautiful buzz of today on "Relationships and Empathy", you proved to me that your words are poetic, rich in vividness, and draw images in my mind. You words are images and I wonder why you think it is hard for you to describe in words. For readers, I strongly recommend for you reading the buzz of Lisa. It shall be time well-invested and for you to know that my comment reflects reality:
    https://www.bebee.com/producer/@lisa-gallagher/relationships-and-empathy#c11
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    20/11/2016 #104 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #103 Thanks Ali, that's probably because I'm a fairly simple person LOL. Sometimes my mind has very deep thoughts but I have a hard time expressing them. It's as though I can see a picture in my mind but it's hard to describe in words.
    Ali Anani
    20/11/2016 #103 Ali Anani
    #102 @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher- emotions and thoughts lead to actions. For every action there is an equal reaction in the opposite direction. That is why I find your comment so deep and informative, and especially this part of the comment "The more we put out to the universe, negative or positive, well it comes back to us". You do amaze me with how simply and clearly you express complex ideas.
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    20/11/2016 #102 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    It's amazing how negative emotions can over take the postive emotions @Ali Anani. I think you described some of the mystery behind them well. We can co-exist as long as our common core is one that comes from a good place. I think we aren't able to co-exist if one person is positive (for the most part) and the other is inherently evil. I've always believed that positive attracts positive and vice versa. The more we put out to the universe, negative or positive, well it comes back to us. Everyone has negative emotions and that's not a bad thing. It's when we allow those emotions to dictate our lives and treat others unjustly because we feel so bitter inside.
    Ali Anani
    20/11/2016 #101 Ali Anani
    #91 Yes, and passionately I understand your feelings.
    Ali Anani
    20/11/2016 #100 Ali Anani
    #96 @David Navarro López wrote a beautiful buzz on the forging metaphor. Thanks @Max🐝 J. Carter for reminding us of this metaphor. To better understand this metaphor, I urge you to read David's buzz at the following link:
    https://www.bebee.com/producer/@david-navarro-lopez/can-the-character-be-forged
    Ali Anani
    20/11/2016 #99 Ali Anani
    #97 I am deeply moved by your comment @Ian Weinberg. Thank you
    David Navarro López
    20/11/2016 #98 Anonymous
    #96 Agreed, Max. It needs a big amount of self-honesty to be aware of what is wrong and change it. To forgive ourselves is as well an important point, as guilt might blur the way we should go forward.
    Ian Weinberg
    20/11/2016 #97 Ian Weinberg
    An intelligent, innovative and thought provoking article. Thanks for this Ali.
    Max🐝 J. Carter
    20/11/2016 #96 Max🐝 J. Carter
    #95 @David Navarro López I really dug the piece and thank you for sharing it. Bruce Lee said something to the effect to take what resonates and make it uniquely your own. That's what triggered in my mind as I read the part about Copy.

    It's all been done before however there is always a way to express it that is unique to one's perspective and how one applies it to ones life

    I like the metal forging metaphor as well as I use a simple philosophy of the sword has no master to illustrate that each is a living sword and the hilt is the mind and letting others have control over what and how you think allows them to weld you against whoever the choose.

    Something ingrained in me by my Hungarian family and many family debates that looked like war was about to break out. I was taught if I couldn't put it in my own words I was not allowed to participate because until you can put it in your own words you have yet to live concept to find if it is wise for your life. .

    It's never easy to look at oneself and ones past and see where one inflicted harm and own it and forgive oneself by changing ones behavior so they don't repeat the inflicting of suffering as a matter of habit as they keep on keepin on.
    David Navarro López
    20/11/2016 #95 Anonymous
    #92 No idea who gave you a -1, Max. Maybe an inexperienced user who does not know how it works, because your comment is full of wisdom.
    I agree with your words "People fear changing themselves because then maybe they might have to take responsibility..."
    Self awareness can be a very disgusting experience if you don't like what you see, and you don't have the guts to change it. But is possible, in every case.
    Some time ago I wrote a post you might like, concerned to this: https://www.bebee.com/producer/@david-navarro-lopez/can-the-character-be-forged
    Sara Jacobovici
    20/11/2016 #94 Sara Jacobovici
    #89 Thanks for clarifying your comment @Harvey Lloyd. I understand that the sarcasm can come from parenting experiences ;-) but..... objectively speaking.....that potential wisdom does exist and experiences with time does enable the realization of that potential.
    Max🐝 J. Carter
    20/11/2016 #93 Max🐝 J. Carter
    Whoever gave my last comment a -1, why?
    Max🐝 J. Carter
    19/11/2016 #92 Max🐝 J. Carter
    Why do we fear getting rid of the terms positive and negative when describing human emotion?

    Let me see I can answer this.

    We fear letting go of these abusive descriptors so we can avoid actually having to deal with the cause of the emotional response and own responsibility for actions that led to the emotion displayed.

    We cling to these terms to avoid dealing with each other and taking responsibility for our actions and words by saying "They are being negative and I did nothing or said nothing to illicit that response, it's their choice. and they are being negative."

    This is self delusional avoidance and why these terms are abusive to self and all ones.

    This is behavioral psychology applied with out allowing personal identity in the form of the ego expression to distort the view.

    To let go these ideas means a redefinition of self and the ego expression. People fear changing themselves because then maybe they might have to take responsibility for things they have done in the past and acknowledge the suffering they have inflicts and generally people like to avoid that as they see it as a negative experience and this increases their resistance to change.
  10. ProducerDebbie Hindle

    Debbie Hindle

    03/10/2016
    Can You Develop a Strengths-Fueled Future?
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    A Unicorn of All Trades
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  12. ProducerJosh LeBlanc-Shulman
    10 Second Summary of the 1st Presidential Debate (2016)
    10 Second Summary of the 1st Presidential Debate (2016)Trump: The American people are angry. Our futures are very uncertain. We are scared. We are angry and afraid, but we are not crazy. Hillary, please acknowledge our fears. Please acknowledge the mistakes we've made as much as you...
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    Josh LeBlanc-Shulman
    30/09/2016 #2 Josh LeBlanc-Shulman
    #1 Great read, thanks for the tip!
    Jared Wiese, 🐝 adding VALUE & RESULTS
    30/09/2016 #1 Jared Wiese, 🐝 adding VALUE & RESULTS
    Check this out: https://www.bebee.com/producer/@peter-morscheck/why-trump-won-the-first-debate
  13. ProducerJim Murray

    Jim Murray

    23/09/2016
    The Upsides Of Being Excellent To Each Other On BeBee. And Everywhere Else.
    The Upsides Of Being Excellent To Each Other On BeBee. And Everywhere Else.I recently disconnected from several of the political and news sites that feed into my Facebook page.I was scrolling through this stuff when it finally hit me.These posts, which mostly have to so with all the crap going on in the United States right...
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    Milos Djukic
    10/02/2017 #29 Anonymous
    Once again thank you @Jim Murray for this article.
    Jim Murray
    24/09/2016 #28 Jim Murray
    #5 Thanks Julie Hickman...
    Jim Murray
    24/09/2016 #27 Jim Murray
    #12 Thnaks again @David B. Grinberg
    Jim Murray
    24/09/2016 #26 Jim Murray
    #13 @John White, MBA. Two years ago I shut down my FB account for the reasons I describe here and started a new one with only about 100 friends. I subscribed to these news outlets because I was attracted to the Trump Traveling Circus. But like everything it just got to be too much.
    Jim Murray
    24/09/2016 #25 Jim Murray
    #22 Thanks @Vincent Andrew
    Jim Murray
    24/09/2016 #24 Jim Murray
    #23 @Steven Kalavity I'm sure there will be no censorship imposed here. The main purpose of this piece is to promote civility. There will always be trolls and morons and smartest guys in the room. It comes with the territory as the site grows. But if we can at least promote the idea of civility then we might just all be better off. It's more intellectually challenging to make a hard point without resorting to some sort of below the belt tactic. But you can find that sort of thing anywhere. It would be nice if we can set some sort of example for healthy civilized debate.
    Steven Kalavity
    24/09/2016 #23 Steven Kalavity
    The main issue that I had with LinkedIn was its distribution algorithm among followers and beyond and then LI censorship d/t anonymous complainers. I think that writers and companies for that matter need to be equipped to defend their prose, if any. Art and writing can be offensive and maybe should be in a democratic forum. As a producer's followers and users of BeBee increases managing content will be an issue as more writing ideas to be seen by more minds will generate more opinions. People who go public cannot be shielded from public impression. I would say that sharing or commenting on every post one takes the time to read would be a good thing. We hope readers are respectful, but variety is the spice of life after all. We should take comments in all forms as some sort of compliment that ideas resonated in some way.
    Vincent Andrew
    24/09/2016 #22 Vincent Andrew
    Shared this on Google+, LinkedIn and Motivation hive. Love your post @Jim Murray. Thank you!
    Brian McKenzie
    24/09/2016 #21 Brian McKenzie
    The only viable difference between 'News' and 'Propaganda' is budget.
    Jim Murray
    24/09/2016 #20 Jim Murray
    #15 That was a very @Milos Djukic was of saying Constructive Criticism is better that the opposite. Thanks @Milos Djukic
    Jim Murray
    24/09/2016 #19 Jim Murray
    #9 @Phil Friedman. You kn ow as well as I do that it's hard to control how people interpret anything. The strong implication here is civilized discourse as opposed to in your face rudeness is a much better way to carry on, more or less as we have for the past year or more. Also on the issues of the FU, just remember who pranked whom in the first place. :)
    Phil Friedman
    24/09/2016 #18 Phil Friedman
    #12 Thank you, David, for the kind words. Which I genuinely appreciate. You and I do, however, have to have a talk about not pumping Jimbo up too much; he's hard enough to deal with as it is.:=)
    Phil Friedman
    24/09/2016 #17 Phil Friedman
    #15 Milos, in the main, I agree with your position -- as you well know, since we've discussed this quite a bit. And as in the past, I am moved to point out that sugary sweet words and phrases of affection are not always meaningful or genuine expressions of care (or love). Somewhere in the mix there has to be authenticity. As Chung King wrote in the Second Scroll of his aphorisms (circa 650 AD), "Mistake not external form for genuine underlying substance." Cheers!
    Aurorasa Sima
    24/09/2016 #16 Aurorasa Sima
    #14 Uhhh, @CityVP 🐝 Manjit. You know that I have "intelligent" blogs as well, right? Oh well, now that some of the most critical high-quality writers will look at my most casual blog anyway: Here´s my favorite articles: http://www.successful-online-business.com/2016/05/getting-serious-about-social-media.html
    Milos Djukic
    24/09/2016 #15 Anonymous
    #9 #10 Hm @Jim Murray, being positive is a very popular concept in social media and elsewhere, but I think that it need some further clarification. I wrote this on Li, but the same applies here:
    " How to find your proper voice, having in mind that the essence is in the conversations? There is only one extreme and that is to give only positive comments on other people's writing. This is a fairly common practice, here on LI. This is certainly not what we want. Critical or negative comments, made by some members, may cause some degree of discomfort on both sides. In order to avoid indifference, which is undesirable, we need to provide highly emotional engagement of an audience. In this case, both emotions: “love” (admiration - respect) and “anger” (disappointment - discourage) may occur at the same time. Fortunately, “anger” can easily be turned into “love” if handled appropriately. My experience suggests that the effects of tactful critiques are often highly undervalued. I think that criticism is useful for everyone, but social media criticism modeling, that will have fruitful effects (stretch and grow), is a special kind of art. What is important is the way in which we manifest our disagreement. People tend to feel threatened when they are attacked. A heated discussion can be very fruitful, but also unproductive. A good foundation is certainly unquestionable respect of diversity and a very careful interpretation of other people's attitudes. Communication is always a two way process."Nice words and iron door opens!" A nice word does not need to be only agreement or approval. "
    CityVP 🐝 Manjit
    24/09/2016 #14 CityVP 🐝 Manjit
    Taking the high road does not mean taking the blind road and taking the fun road does not mean taking the silly road - for the high road should be about reputation and the fun road about viability. The wrongs of the world will not be righted because beBee was created, there will be plenty wrong with the world even after beBee IPO's or is acquired by a digital behemoth.

    What it does portend is marrying European sensibility with global startup mentality - which still has its hallmark in Silicon Valley. Last year HBR published an article called "How Europe Can Create Its Own Silicon Valley" https://hbr.org/2015/06/how-europe-can-create-its-own-silicon-valley It isn't opinion that matters in this context, opinion is ubiquitous as networked utility, what matters is vision transforming itself into being. In that context beBee becomes a verb.

    The consumption element is designed limitation or as our good friend @Aurorasa Sima says in her article about beBee "The lover of cat pictures will not have to see the posts of the scientists, the business professional will not be bothered with political posts, the grumpy person can stay away from "happy quotes." from http://www.successful-online-business.com/2016/08/linkedin-alternative-bebee-review.html

    At a time when diversity is being rejected whether that be Brexit, or insular European countries that were formerly under the control of the USSR or those that favour Trump in the US, diversity in technology design is not a political question, it is a digital phenomena for creators rather than consumers and if I knew how to make that personally exponential - I would be doing that now - I don't, but beBee is in a prime position in a landscape where digital surprise and speed is the norm. High road & fun is good.
    John White, MBA
    24/09/2016 #13 John White, MBA
    @Jim Murray: Your first paragraph had me cracking up. You described my exact experience on Facebook. I've contemplated shutting down my account on Facebook more times than I can remember. Thanks for a great post.
    David B. Grinberg
    23/09/2016 #12 David B. Grinberg
    FYI, Jim: I shared this in the following hives: beBee English, Inspiration, and Positive Psychology. Moreover, @Phil Friedman also makes some excellent points as well about striking the right balance between being positive and offering constructive criticism to advance an open dialogue on the issues. Being positive doesn't mean being a conformist. Great points, too Phil!
    Jim Murray
    23/09/2016 #11 Jim Murray
    #10 Thanks David. I will continue on my quest to help save America from itself. It's my pro bono mission for this year. I have started a new series of memes on Facebook. Just remember, America was a perfectly good country till the multinational corporations took it over and sucked all the jobs out if it.
    David B. Grinberg
    23/09/2016 #10 David B. Grinberg
    Kudos to you @Jim Murray for another excellent buzz, especially about being positive. It's amazing how beBee appears to have transformed at least some of your healthy cynicism and skepticism into positive thinking (albeit not about about the USA -- which I suppose is understandable). What an amazing development. Let's call it, "The beBee Effect"!
    As a purveyor of the power of positivity, I'm just thrilled to read this buzz, Jim. You might want to check out the godfather of positive thinking, the late American Minister, Norman Vincent Peale https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Norman_Vincent_Peale
    Wishing you a positively wonderful weekend, Jim.
  14. ProducerDebbie Hindle

    Debbie Hindle

    07/09/2016
    Beat Your Busyness Stress
    Beat Your Busyness Stress Do your days and weeks fly by in a blur of busyness? From the time you wake up are you rushing to fit everything in – starting with a healthy power shake, then just the right amount of exercise, getting the family out the door with what they...
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  15. ProducerBelles Beauts

    Belles Beauts

    05/09/2016
    24 Hours
    24 HoursLots of kids returning to school today or starting a new school 😀, good luck to them all, hope they have fun and enjoy 🎓It can be scary and exciting all at the same time 😳😁...Are you also ready for a new challenge? What did you wish for when you...
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  16. ProducerBelles Beauts

    Belles Beauts

    03/09/2016
    Happy Saturday
    Happy SaturdayLooks like it's going to be a nice hot ☀️ one! Enjoy and do what makes you happy today xx😘#coffee #littlelady #sunshine #saturday #relax #play #enjoy...
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  17. ProducerYogesh Sukal

    Yogesh Sukal

    28/08/2016
    "You are my destiny" says ‘The Subconscious Positivity’ to ‘The Dream’
    "You are my destiny" says ‘The Subconscious Positivity’ to ‘The Dream’Yes it is absolutely true, they are destined to find each other & become true in reality. As we know only love is real, ‘The Subconscious Positivity’ was, is & will be in truly love with ‘The Dream’ forever. But one has to understand, it is...
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  18. ProducerDaniel Donachie

    Daniel Donachie

    15/08/2016
    Con-fide-nce
    Con-fide-nceThe root of the word confidence is “con” and any sense of self-confidence we enjoy is a lie. I am curious about the human need to connect with this self-deceipt and how confidence dances with authenticity. Working with a number of clients this week,...
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    Daniel Donachie
    29/08/2016 #8 Daniel Donachie
    #5 Thank you @Susan Clark!
    Daniel Donachie
    29/08/2016 #7 Daniel Donachie
    #4 Thank you @Cepee Tabibian.
    Daniel Donachie
    29/08/2016 #6 Daniel Donachie
    #3 Thank you so much for your comments @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher. Reading your words takes me back into feeling and I appreciate it.
    Susan Clark
    22/08/2016 #5 Susan Clark
    Interesting perspective!
    Cepee Tabibian
    22/08/2016 #4 Cepee Tabibian
    Wow, I never really thought about authenticity or confidence in this way. This sentence just tickled my brain "Authenticity is opposed to confidence because there is no persuasion away from whatever is present here and now." Thanks for sharing!
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    22/08/2016 #3 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    Profound statement @Daniel Donachie, "The Universal language of our nervous system is feeling and any feeling that we repeatedly become aware of will manifest in our experience." I need to connect with depths of the ocean, as you put it. And, I need to keep in mind that deviating from the present leads us back to the surface of the waves. This truly makes sense and I'm really glad I read this!! Thank you for sharing. Excellent video too.
    Daniel Donachie
    15/08/2016 #2 Daniel Donachie
    #1 Thank you so much for your feedback @David Navarro Lopez! I completely agree with your conclusions and see the value in choosing lies that will lead to action. Hence, removing a thorn with a thorn. However, to find what we all seek, the ultimate transformation arrives without any thorns or lies. For sure, use the mind as a servant when needed in life and at the same time remember present moment awareness. The more grounding in presence, the firmer foundation in the wonders of the inner life and therefore the possibility of joy and bliss spontaneously arising.
    David Navarro López
    15/08/2016 #1 Anonymous
    Thank you @Daniel Donachie for your inspiring post and video.
    You are giving me a perspective of inner life which is completely unexpected and at the same time, I can not agree with it entirely.
    For sure, beliefs are a lie, as they are subjective conclusions of the reality.
    But who said that lying is something so terrible?
    Sometimes reality can be so overwhelming and so out of our bounds, that to achieve your objectives you need to "lie" to yourself not to fall apart.
    Neuro-linguistic programming, although is not a "fully recognized science", is as well, somehow, lying to yourself to provoke a positive reaction.
    In this matter, and about your disrupting ideas, I need to think more about, in 3rd or 4th reading of it.
  19. Michael Dowling

    Michael Dowling

    20/08/2016
    A friend of mine posted this...a fantastic story about his grandfather. Lessons from the past...relevant for all time. #makeithappen #beeresolute
    Michael Dowling
    A story of perseverance, innovation and problem-solving
    www.linkedin.com In the early summer of 1924, Harold Osborn left his small hometown of Butler, Illinois for New York City. There he boarded a ship that would take him to the shores of Europe with a final...
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  20. Max🐝 J. Carter
    Max🐝 J. Carter
    How to Start a Cult
    www.wikihow.com Cults are communities that fervently worship an object, person, or concept over all other things. While they have the ability to transform into manipulative enterprises in the wrong hands, they're essentially ways of organizing...
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    Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    22/08/2016 #3 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    #2 #2 Agree! Most of the general public, I believe, are striving to achieve that inner self-awareness of mind, body and soul....and sometimes it takes another person (like a partner) to 'see' what is actually happening to their loved one. "Rescuing" someone from a brainwashed and positive-feedback-loop is a challenge. "Counter-measures" include the word of a loving person. That is yet another reminder that we all need to love those around us. Thank you, my sweet 🌺 🌻.
    Dale Masters
    16/08/2016 #2 Dale Masters
    #1 @Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD Having been on the periphery of a cult, I began to study them. I have found that cults need certain specific things in order to grow: 1) Individuals who have a sense of emptiness and emotional unfulfillment; 2) a preceding idea of what might fill that void, and 3) a charismatic individual who seems to fulfill all unmet needs in (usually his) diverse group of followers. It IS possible to inoculate people against cults, but a counter-culture of empathetic, loving people is needed in order to facilitate that inoculation.. People who feel loved, valued, and important rarely buy the package that the cult leader s selling...and, if they do for a time, they can see the inconsistencies in the cult leader's personality...and just leae the cult.
    Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    15/08/2016 #1 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
    Nice flowsheet, from A-Z. Interesting to note the synthesis of a cult, especially given all the deaths and group suicides that it can cause. Psychologists and psychiatrists should have a lot to say about this. I wonder how a 'cult' parallels with a 'niche.' Churches, for example commonly form 'niches' or 'cliques' of followers with the rich, 'old money' being 'on top.' Hard for anyone else 'outside' of it to 'break in.' I wonder what @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher, @Sara Jacobovici, @Dale Masters, Dr @Ali Anani would say.
  21. Susana Altagracia Bello
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    Tahir Kashif
    12/08/2016 #1 Tahir Kashif
    Best advise Thanks @Susana Altagracia Bello
  22. Max🐝 J. Carter
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  23. CityVP 🐝 Manjit
    Having catalyzed in mind-blowing agreement what a great thinker David Kessler is in another Buzz, @Gerald Hecht made a comment about neurons that work together fire together linking to a PDF about Hebbs Rule for Synaptic Plasticity. I am not fond of white papers especially with mathematical proofs, but he said something interesting, and it is how we actually learn from a neuroscience view. What I went on to discover is resonance with LTP or Long Term Potentiality - and for me to know that required me to watch two videos. The first is more challenging to follow but it is a work of art and the second builds on from what I learned from the first to get a complete handle of how our brains get stronger from learning - and what happens in our synapses when information is not converted into longer-term memory. Visually both videos are fascinating the second one being linked in the comment section.
    Hebb's Three Postulates: from Brain to Soma
    Hebb's Three Postulates: from Brain to Soma An improved version of this video is available at: hebb.metaplasticity.com Copyright: Soma Barsen and Dr. Steven J. Barnes "Animating Hebb’s Three...
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    Gerald Hecht
    05/08/2016 #13 Gerald Hecht
    @Deb 🐝 Helfrich Thank you for for making it more concise... I need to become more efficient in my use of words #12
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    05/08/2016 #12 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    #8 @Robert Bacal - Just saw a meme that helps put it all in perspective re translating Gerry: He thinks he is starting the day with a green smoothie, but the rest of us call the beverage a mojito..... happy friday @Gerald Hecht!
    Leckey Harrison
    03/08/2016 #11 Leckey Harrison
    I love this stuff, because the technique I teach people creates new neural networks. Heller and Scaer touch on this lightly, as more the point is with the plasticity of the brain in regards to creating new networks and dismantling others.
    Robert Bacal
    03/08/2016 #10 Robert Bacal
    #9 No, @Gerald Hecht If anything I'm the obtuse one, which by the way begs the question as to why someone not so sharp is obtuse, but someone with insight is acute....ahhhh....wait, I got it, sharp angle, sharp.
    Gerald Hecht
    03/08/2016 #9 Gerald Hecht
    @Robert Bacal whew, for a second, I thought you were gonna say they wre were obtuse or something #8
    Robert Bacal
    03/08/2016 #8 Robert Bacal
    #7 Oh dear, @Gerald Hecht. Reading your comments is like trying to translate Dylan's Highway 61 into Ojibway.
    Gerald Hecht
    02/08/2016 #7 Gerald Hecht
    @Robert Bacal yea, that former head of the FDA (under whose watch "Big Tobacco finally was hoisted by their own petard") really has some nerve, using multiple levels of analysis to demonstrate (with state of the art imaging), the Hebbian Rule, was indeed the mechanism underlying the conditioned reinforcement marketing techniques (also known as "Capture") employed by the Tobacco Industry. Who does he think he is? It's almost as bad as this http://psiwebsubr.org/SUBR/studyguides/4035studyguides/4035studyguideindex.html #6
    Robert Bacal
    02/08/2016 #6 Robert Bacal
    #4 I am critical of the misinterpretation of neuroscience, and the claims when the researcher, or the media "goes way beyond the data", and obstructs science, and the public's understanding of how the brain works. It's a general lowering of scientific standards, which is shared by a lot of disciplines including journals.
    Tahir Kashif
    01/08/2016 #5 Tahir Kashif
    Thanks for sharing. Sir
    CityVP 🐝 Manjit
    01/08/2016 #4 CityVP 🐝 Manjit
    #3 Dear @Gerald Hecht the criticism leveled at the field of neuroscience in particular is that it is "finding its way" - and I think that is a knee jerk reaction from other research disciplines that feel that they are not in the limelight. This is what I like about the work of @Vincenzo De Florio because he focuses on matters that relate to the 21st Century as emergence. When I am exposed to white papers I am exposed to new avenues of thought and then I don't have to travel on the mediated highway but create my own learning journey which Gordon Lightfoot calls "Carefree Highway" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ewhM7I9gD4U
    Gerald Hecht
    01/08/2016 #3 Gerald Hecht
    @CityVP 🐝 Manjit It does seem that this form makes the point more "enjoyable" than the white paper; a post in of itself!! Thank you for sharing this! Suddenly, I'm becoming proud of my field again; I think it's finding its way!
    Ali Anani
    01/08/2016 #2 Ali Anani
    #1 In need f quality time to absorb this buzz. Thank you for this beautiful buzz @CityVP 🐝 Manjit
    CityVP 🐝 Manjit
    01/08/2016 #1 CityVP 🐝 Manjit
    Second video describes LTP or Long-Term Potentiation (not Potentiality as described in the buzz details above. Again the presentation of LTP as a learning mechanism is very elegantly done and well explained https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vso9jgfpI_c
  24. ProducerDebbie Hindle

    Debbie Hindle

    01/08/2016
    Do You Struggle To Ask For Help?
    Do You Struggle To Ask For Help?When it comes to getting what you need to be truly successful in your work, do you struggle to ask for help? Perhaps as you think about asking people to test a new approach you’re developing you fear they’ll say no and you’ll feel rejected. Or...
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  25. ProducerMax🐝 J. Carter
    Why you should be picky about the music you are subjected to
    Why you should be picky about the music you are subjected toImage 1: What are you teaching yourself these days?Emotion is the language of the Universe and music is it's most perfect expression. A song on the other hand adds a different component that allows the artist to plant a seed in you to grow. The...
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