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  1. ProducerScott Wheeler

    Scott Wheeler

    Projective Surfaces
    Projective SurfacesIntentionally projecting is fun: depending on the emotions. It doesn't have to be about guilt, or even anything bad.Actually, now that I understand projecting, I just had an epic epiphany that I would like to share:I might unintentionally project...
  2. Nicole Chardenet
    I would say it could be summed up in one word: Maturity, but maybe that's too simplistic. For sure, it includes impulse control and managing your own behaviour.
    Nicole Chardenet
    What Is Emotional Intelligence, Exactly? Here's the Entire Concept, Summed up in 1 Sentence
    www.inc.com Tired of all the complex, theoretical definitions for emotional intelligence? We can actually sum up it up in a single, simple...
  3. ProducerTrav Cooper

    Trav Cooper

    FaceopsyIf an autobiography is a story of oneself, the time-line or wall on Facebook is more like an autopsy. With an autobiography, you first write your own history about yourself, in the second case the autopsy (faceopsy) you go looking for clues as to...
  4. ProducerTrav Cooper

    Trav Cooper

    Visual sensation
    Visual sensation This page of writing could not be viewed and understood if it were not first sensed and then perceived by the brain . Initially your eyes are aroused by the lines and shapes which form this text , thus initiating the process of sensation . Visual...
  5. Preston ๐Ÿ Vander Ven
    ...you know the dream you have where you quit your job and flip all those chatterboxes at work the bird?
    Itโ€™s time to make it come true.
    Watch todayโ€™s episodeโ€ฆ itโ€™s about whatโ€™s keeping you back from getting whatโ€™s yours.
    Preston ๐Ÿ Vander Ven
    How To End Self Sabotage: William Wood Interview's Robert Smith (Part 3 of 4)
    www.empowernetwork.com How To End Self Sabotage: William Wood Interview's Robert Smith (Part 3 of...
  6. Renรฉe  ๐Ÿ Cormier
    Unpleasant thoughts create resistance to the good things life can give you. Choose your thoughts and choose to feel good in every moment. Have a wonderful day! Renรฉe  ๐Ÿ Cormier
  7. Walter Smith

    Walter Smith

    The Self Management Compass https://affectivelearningwiki.atlassian.net/wiki/display/ALS/Training+Resources Walter Smith


    Walter Smith
    21/02/2017 #12 Walter Smith
    #11 Thank you. I look forward to your comments.
    Sara Jacobovici
    21/02/2017 #11 Sara Jacobovici
    Thank you to @CityVP ๐Ÿ Manjit for bringing my attention to your post @Walter Smith. I look forward to reading your article. It starts off with concepts very near and dear to my heart. Will follow up as soon as possible. Welcome to beBee!
    Walter Smith
    20/02/2017 #10 Walter Smith
    Thanks Manjit, I will follow Ali and Sara#9
    CityVP ๐Ÿ Manjit
    20/02/2017 #9 CityVP ๐Ÿ Manjit
    #7 This is why you will find a great affinity with @Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee and @Sara Jacobovici and once they see your thinking and your approach to the scientific method, I know they will be fascinated by what it is you are developing and it will be interesting to see this evolve as a new triad. I envision it having a very powerful effect if it does so evolve and/or emerge in resulting fusion of relationships. I see in this three brilliant minds with a high potential of affinity.
    Walter Smith
    20/02/2017 #7 Walter Smith
    Manjit, Optologics is categorization metrics. We need to categorize or generalize to understand the bigger picture. My idea is to find standard categories for the production and use of knowledge that we can all agree on. Then we can see knowledge scientifically rather than phenomenologically. #5
    ๐Ÿ Fatima G. Williams
    20/02/2017 #6 ๐Ÿ Fatima G. Williams
    #5 Engaging thinking isn't that the greatest gift bestowed to a human being.. Each of one you is unique and I'm glad to just know some amazing people here to learn and grow :) Have a lovely day both of you.
    CityVP ๐Ÿ Manjit
    20/02/2017 #5 CityVP ๐Ÿ Manjit
    #2 Yes, Walter is an interesting mind with unique perspectives and he can abstract and conceptualize but at the most basic level he engages in thinking, naturally I appreciate a mind like that.

    None of this for me is about enjoyment, it is about appreciation. What Walter does is in some ways parallel with what I do but Walter has his own unique DNA - he deals much more deeply with the ontological and explores infinitely more with physics.

    I noticed Walter when he checked my profile today, and then of course Fatima you tagged me. What is important for me about Walter Smith is to recognize Walter Smith as Walter Smith and not on the basis of similarities.

    We learn most from people who are different from us - and even if I might use the word compass and Walter uses compass or I may use spectrum and Walter may use the term, appreciation does not come through categorization but observation. I certainly do appreciate Walter Smith for being Walter Smith. We are both an N of 1 and what matters is the N of 7 Billion and the appreciation in that.
    Walter Smith
    19/02/2017 #4 Walter Smith
    #2 Thank you for the link.
    Walter Smith
    19/02/2017 #3 Walter Smith
    Thank you for your comment. Much appreciated#1
    ๐Ÿ Fatima G. Williams
    19/02/2017 #2 ๐Ÿ Fatima G. Williams
    @CityVP ๐Ÿ Manjit Some familiar topics discussed here I'm sure you'll enjoy this more than I did Learning from it.
    ๐Ÿ Fatima G. Williams
    19/02/2017 #1 ๐Ÿ Fatima G. Williams
    First off @Walter Smith I am following you
    Welcoming you to beBeeland ๐Ÿ๐Ÿค—

    And love this post on Optologics.
    So simple and yet effective explanation that self-management is true intelligence. Yes we are responsible for the way we let others influence us. That's why I learnt not to blame situations or people but look at my mistakes as a learning journey.

    As you say "Common sense is not what we believe, but what we can all agree on"
    What the current education system doesn't allow an individual to use common sense or even to think. The set frame work is like a sheep of herd led in one direction. I enjoyed reading this alot and Happy to meet you here on BeBee ๐Ÿค—
  8. ProducerBlaine Little

    Blaine Little

    Positively Speaking (and Thinking)
    Positively Speaking (and Thinking)One of the things I love most about the people I surround myself with, is that an overwhelming majority of them are so positive-minded! Of course, that's by design. There are certainly enough negative people on the planet, I just choose to...


    Blaine Little
    12/02/2017 #4 Blaine Little
    #3 Thanks, David! Reverend Peale was some of my first introduction to creating a positive life. However, I still consider myself to be a pragmatist. Be sure to check out my article on "Control Issues", https://www.bebee.com/producer/@blaine-little/you-re-out-of-control
    David B. Grinberg
    12/02/2017 #3 David B. Grinberg
    Well stated, Blaine. I don't know any successful person in business or life who has not had a positive outlook and mindset. Recommended reading on positive thinking, the late Rev. Norman Vincent Peale http://www.goodreads.com/author/show/8435.Norman_Vincent_Peale View more
    Well stated, Blaine. I don't know any successful person in business or life who has not had a positive outlook and mindset. Recommended reading on positive thinking, the late Rev. Norman Vincent Peale http://www.goodreads.com/author/show/8435.Norman_Vincent_Peale I've also shared this buzz in three hives. Again, nice read! Close
    Blaine Little
    12/02/2017 #2 Blaine Little
    #1 Thanks Fatima! I appreciate your positive words. :)
    ๐Ÿ Fatima G. Williams
    12/02/2017 #1 ๐Ÿ Fatima G. Williams
    Fantastic buzz@Blaine Little And I love your positive attitude in the positive buzz that reminds me. We need a few more people on the streets shouting this out. Cheers Stay awesome and positive always ๐Ÿค—๐Ÿค—๐Ÿค—๐Ÿ๐Ÿค—๐Ÿค—
  9. ProducerLiesbeth Leysen, MSc. International Management, Certified Executive Coach. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.
    EMOTIONAL BANK ACCOUNT - Is your balance Positive or Negative?
    EMOTIONAL BANK ACCOUNT - Is your balance Positive or Negative?Imagine that you have dropped and broken your mobile phone, and find itโ€™s going to cost you $200 to repair it.Your reaction to this incident is influenced by the amount of discretionary money you have in your bank balance.If you have a lot of money...


    Claire L Cardwell
    08/03/2017 #16 Claire L Cardwell
    Great article @Emilia M. Ludovino! "Experience is not what happens to you โ€“ it's how you interpret what happens to you." Never a truer word has been said. Am sharing your article! Have a great day!
    Renata Jakielaszek
    01/03/2017 #14 Renata Jakielaszek
    "We cannot change the cards we are dealt, just how we play the hand." -Randy Pausch,Last Lecture. Best wishes Emilia M. Ludovino and thank you !
    Ignacio Gallo Campos www.ignaciogallocampos.com
    24/01/2017 #12 Ignacio Gallo Campos www.ignaciogallocampos.com
    Insightful, clear, simple and extremely powerful advice if put them into actions. Sharing your message!
    Brian McKenzie
    23/01/2017 #11 Brian McKenzie
    I un-banked when I left the States, I haven't had a telephone in 3 years, if I were to say I have any Emotional Account - it would have been unplugged too. Emotions, and pandering to them, are quite avoidable. We live in a six second world where 'Reality' is faked, scripted, produced ~ where you are an easily replaceable line item on a corporate spread sheet ~ where 'love' is transactional, temporary and disposable ~ where war is not only inevitable but routinely scheduled. Society is merely a herd of widgets - managed through the life-cycle wickets of eat, sleep, work & reproduce well teased with money and goaded with fear before you are shuffled of to the meat packing slaughter house.
    I try to keep my Apathy in check with doses of Indifference and Detached Ambivalence - I am rewarded daily for those efforts.
    David B. Grinberg
    21/01/2017 #9 David B. Grinberg
    As someone who prides himself on positive thinking -- despite naysayers -- I completely concur with your astute advice, Emilia. It's just as easy to think positively than negatively and view the proverbial cup as half full, rather than half empty. I wish you all the best and hope your cup overflows with positive life experiences.
    Lastly, for those who have a negative mindset as knee-jerk reaction, here's some recommended reading by the godfather of positive thinking, the late and great Rev. Norman Vincent Peale https://www.amazon.com/Norman-Vincent-Peale/e/B000APPE7E Keep buzzing in 2017!
    Sushmita Thakare Jain
    21/01/2017 #8 Sushmita Thakare Jain
    #6 Pleasure is all mine dear :) we are all here for each other
    Sushmita Thakare Jain
    21/01/2017 #3 Sushmita Thakare Jain
    Such a good read!
    Thank you for sharing. Will be sharing it ahead :)
    Jeet Sarkar
    21/01/2017 #2 Jeet Sarkar
    Good share madam @Emilia M. Ludovino! Thank you for sharing it.
  10. Walter Smith

    Walter Smith

    Executive Thinking Skills
    Walter Smith
  11. ProducerDebbie Hindle

    Debbie Hindle

    Does The Future Feel Overwhelming?
    Does The Future Feel Overwhelming?Have you been feeling more apprehensive lately about the future of our world? Letโ€™s be honest with the increasing divisions and tensions between people and nations - from the recent US elections, to Brexit and bombings that target the innocent โ€“...
  12. Walter Smith

    Walter Smith

    Learn your way to wicked solutions. https://affectivelearningwiki.atlassian.net/wiki/x/V4AwWalter Smith
  13. ProducerAndrew ๐Ÿ Goldman
    Why might depression be a good sign? ะŸะพั‡ะตะผัƒ ะดะตะฟั€ะตััะธั ะผะพะถะตั‚ ะพะทะฝะฐั‡ะฐั‚ัŒ ั‡ั‚ะพ-ั‚ะพ ั…ะพั€ะพัˆะตะต?
    Why might depression be a good sign? ะŸะพั‡ะตะผัƒ ะดะตะฟั€ะตััะธั ะผะพะถะตั‚ ะพะทะฝะฐั‡ะฐั‚ัŒ ั‡ั‚ะพ-ั‚ะพ ั…ะพั€ะพัˆะตะต?Why might depression be a good sign?In our society almost 80 percent of people are depressed. Temporary or permanently. Depression may lead to stress and stress may lead to depression. According to doctors most of the diseases happen because of the...


    Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    25/12/2016 #57 Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    #56 So are you @Andrew ๐Ÿ Goldman, thank you and wishing you a Merry Christmas!
    Andrew ๐Ÿ Goldman
    23/12/2016 #56 Andrew ๐Ÿ Goldman
    You are very right. That's the strength. Life could be happy, should be happy and will be happy. You are awesome, @Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher #55
    Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    23/12/2016 #55 Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    #53 Thank you @Andrew ๐Ÿ Goldman, no one wants pity. Thank for believing... that's a positive reinforcement. Honestly, this isn't just about me, I've been an advocate for Mental Health issues for a long time and when people feel they are pitied I think they feel belittled and not taken seriously. Again, thank you my friend.
    Andrew ๐Ÿ Goldman
    23/12/2016 #54 Andrew ๐Ÿ Goldman
    @Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher Anything that will help is great. If you picked your way, ok. Healing is important, not the process. If you found something that works, great. I may not sound sorry or supportive cause it really doesn't help, it just rewards your current state. You get connection and will be there longer. Not my goal. I believe in you. I believe in everyone who did all the comments. When I believe in you, I want you to feel strength. That's what I'm sending your way. #51
    Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    23/12/2016 #52 Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    I meant to thank you for bringing up this topic @Andrew ๐Ÿ Goldman and allowing discussion of this very important topic.
    Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    23/12/2016 #51 Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    #50 @Andrew ๐Ÿ Goldman, I hope you understand I am not trying to come off as sounding mean. Your right, I try to be a positive person. I found I've tried for way too long and ignored myself. I ignored or tried to ignore what was really going on. Like a boil, slowly festering. No offense, but I don't care for Tony Robbins. I can't watch his videos. I will share by ignoring what is going on inside of us and hoping it will just pass can be dangerous. We can't fix an illness with positive affirmations. As for Medical Personel who treat this, I've been told that medication along with CBT and for some EMDR are the therapies of choice. Again, it's a process that takes quite a bit of time. It takes support of family and God willing, friends too who support you and don't expect you to just put on a smile and pretend you're OK because even smiling can be difficult when your not feeling well. Things we take for granted when healthy feel like they are out of reach. @Don ๐Ÿ Kerr, thank my friend- back at you and looking forward to watching that black dog retreat ;-)
    Andrew ๐Ÿ Goldman
    23/12/2016 #50 Andrew ๐Ÿ Goldman
    @Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher You are usually on the positive track. Stuff happens to us, because it is life. I know that you can find the way even if it's tough. I want to share this video with you. It might be helpful. https://youtu.be/YtMltwYTEUs #44
    Praveen Raj Gullepalli
    23/12/2016 #49 Praveen Raj Gullepalli
    #44 I understand dear Lisa. It depends on the nature or the degree I suppose. Don't Worry Be Happy mantra...or Get a Grip mantra...Self Control mantra might work for one stage or type but assuming it is the mantra for all degrees may be wrong. However, it is good to see through these interactions some new facts emerging on the nature, degrees, and escape velocities required to beat the black beast :)
    Don ๐Ÿ Kerr
    22/12/2016 #48 Don ๐Ÿ Kerr
    #44 Indeed. I venture to say it is even more serious than a broken collarbone. Sheesh. Hang in there @Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher. The black dog doesn't always control us. It just feels that way too damn often. Peace.
    Ian Weinberg
    22/12/2016 #47 Ian Weinberg
    Notwithstanding what I've said in my quoted buzz and with great respect to@Andrew ๐Ÿ Goldman and @Deb ๐Ÿ Helfrich , there is another component which needs to be included in this discussion. Prompted by the descriptions of subjective suffering and the difficulty in overcoming the affliction as contributed to by @Phil Friedman, @Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher, @Don ๐Ÿ Kerr, one has to appreciate the enormous influence that the formative years and the ensuing life narrative have in determining receptivity to effective intervention. I have coached many with a program combining behavioral-type therapy with a strong logotherapeutic flavor. And yes I've had successes, but also many failures. On review I've concluded that components deeply embedded in the life narrative determine the success versus the failure (and the whole range in between) of intervention. I outlined this component in a recent buzz - https://www.bebee.com/producer/@ian-weinberg/the-neuroscience-of-change
    Andrew ๐Ÿ Goldman
    22/12/2016 #46 Andrew ๐Ÿ Goldman
    Thank you, @Preston ๐Ÿ Vander Ven! Faith is very important. I experienced the path like yours. Life is amazing. Especially after you start valuing it. #45
    Preston ๐Ÿ Vander Ven
    22/12/2016 #45 Preston ๐Ÿ Vander Ven
    #43 First, Great article. I wanted to agree with what you said in your article. I took struggle with Depression in my twenties. That is for another story. What I learned from that was I could not control the circumstances in which I was blaming. Yet, it did open my eye to what I could control.
    This lead me to a feeling of conviction. Conviction brought awareness of my specific sins, habits, and attitudes in my life that needed to be changed. It was light a specific spotlight that needed help. I was no longer dependent on circumstances, because I was back in control.
    Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    22/12/2016 #44 Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    #23 Some of these comments (not yours @Praveen Raj Gullepalli) make me cry. I don't think some people realize just how sick someone is when they are in the depths of a clinical depression. Yes, seeking help is vital. Yes, meds can help to get over the hump, but they are not a cure (and I'm agreeing with those who mentioned medications), but until a person is not so ill, they aren't able to many of the positive things mentioned any more than a person who's ill from heart disease can do these things. People forget the brain is an organ, the most vital organ in the body and just like any organ it can become diseased or malfunction. We do not have control over these things. Recognizing the illness is the first step. Recovery can take months. I fully disagree that it's a person's fault. It's an illness. I wouldn't wish this on my worse enemy.
    Andrew ๐Ÿ Goldman
    22/12/2016 #43 Andrew ๐Ÿ Goldman
    #40 I like the quote of Henry Ford:
    If you think you can do a thing or think you can't do a thing, you're right. After 3 years of depression that was a thought that turned my thinking around. Sense of purpose totally destroyed it. I understood that I have no time for depression. Cause I have important goals to achieve. I just share my example and those that are worldwide known. If someone made it through. It is possible. Sense of personal failure that bothers people actually could be turned into a victory. If a person realizes and believes that it's his/her own fault, then he/she could turn it around. It's impossible to change stuff that is out of our control. Better get things under our control. So we get the chance.
    Andrew ๐Ÿ Goldman
    22/12/2016 #42 Andrew ๐Ÿ Goldman
    #39 Thank you, @Deb ๐Ÿ Helfrich! A very insightful comment. True it is. Everything starts from the sense of control. Then there could be a long way until full healing and a change in a quality of life. It is a turning point.
    Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    22/12/2016 #41 Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    Pt 2- Many people with depression lose their excitement for things they always enjoy or look forward to. It's hard to get out of bed (literally), and for many, it's a chore just to shower. Depression is complex and if it were that easy to just wish it away or think good thoughts people would not be going to Dr's, take medications that quite frankly suck and be openly admitting to it because sadly, there is still a stigma attached to depression and anxiety disorder, there is still a lack of education that this is an illness... which makes so many feel embarrassed to reach out to health professionals or their family members. People also suffer from a great amount of guilt because it's not an illness that disappears in a short amount of time, they know it affects their family members too which adds to the horrible guilt. We are far from this illness being accepted as what it is, an illness.
    Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    22/12/2016 #40 Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    Hi @Andrew ๐Ÿ Goldman, I am suffering from depression due to anxiety, that has been hard to treat which led to clinical depression. I wish it was that easy to just think happy thoughts and it would go away. As @Don ๐Ÿ Kerr noted below illnesses are not a result of personal failures and depression isn't either. I haven't been online a lot lately because I have not had the energy or focus to read let alone write much at all. Unless a person has truly suffered from depression (not a low feeling or sadness that comes and goes) they can't imagine how dark and hopeless life can feel. It's like being in abyss without a way out. A person's physical body suffers too. Fatigue that is hard to fight, weakness, deep body aches, and more. Pt. 1
    Deb ๐Ÿ Helfrich
    22/12/2016 #39 Deb ๐Ÿ Helfrich
    #35 #37 What about Parkinson's? There is a long trail of breadcrumbs suggesting that a simple change of thought - from 'the fact' that there was nothing @Gary Sharpe could do, as the doctors said he would experience inevitable decline & medication was his only hope; to his willingness to believe me when I said there were things he could do for himself that would improve his daily life. Even as he would continue to experience difficult symptoms every single day.

    Understanding that we each can utilize our mind, right now, as we are being made aware of its capabilities, does not suggest the person was at fault for causing these horrifically challenging diseases. There is no implied personal failure.

    The focus should be on 'hope' for right now, because even in the most challenging of diseases - depression being one of them - small daily concrete changes in action or THOUGHTS today, tomorrow, and each day forward based on a realistic assessment of the actual limitations of the condition, can change a person's life.

    That change in belief by a person that they can begin to trend TOWARD wellness is a revolutionary belief. They still will have the disease. Be in pain. Have a long, challenging road. Continue to need to utilize and rely on Western Medicines best practices.

    But as @Andrew ๐Ÿ Goldman said: "The main thing here is a sense of control."
    Andrew ๐Ÿ Goldman
    22/12/2016 #38 Andrew ๐Ÿ Goldman
    @Don ๐Ÿ Kerr I'm happy with it and I'm happy that it touched people. It means it is important and hopefully it will be useful. ะฏ ั€ะฐะด ั‡ั‚ะพ ัั‚ะพ ั‚ะฐะบ. ะ˜ ั€ะฐะด ั‡ั‚ะพ ัั‚ะพ ะพะบะฐะทะฐะปะพััŒ ะฒะฐะถะฝะพ. ะะฐะดะตัŽััŒ, ะบั‚ะพ-ั‚ะพ ะธะทะฒะปะตั‡ะตั‚ ะธะท ัั‚ะพะณะพ ะฟะพะปัŒะทัƒ ะดะปั ัะตะฑั. #36
  14. ProducerPaul Kearley๐Ÿ
    Paul's Blog: Sometimes But Not Always
    Paul's Blog: Sometimes But Not AlwaysSomeone: โ€ฆ does something unexpected. โ€ฆ gives you a compliment. โ€ฆ lets you skip a few places in line. โ€ฆ tells you how you matter. โ€ฆ visits you when you are sick. โ€ฆ offers to help with a work project. โ€ฆ smiles at your really bad jokes. โ€ฆ...


    Venita Crow
    30/11/2016 #5 Venita Crow
    appreciate this
    Susan ๐Ÿ Rooks, the Grammar Goddess
    30/11/2016 #4 Susan ๐Ÿ Rooks, the Grammar Goddess
    #3 Oh, I absolutely do kind things because I want to, @Paul Kearley๐Ÿ, and it's interesting to me that my brain rewards those acts! I guess that's how we homo sapiens grew to work so well together (when we do).
    Paul Kearley๐Ÿ
    30/11/2016 #3 Paul Kearley๐Ÿ
    #1 Thanks @Susan ๐Ÿ Rooks, the Grammar Goddess isn't it interesting that as humans, we have to try to prove a kind act is actually done because of science. I like to think that I did it because I wanted to do it! I appreciate your thoughts as always!
    Susan ๐Ÿ Rooks, the Grammar Goddess
    30/11/2016 #2 Susan ๐Ÿ Rooks, the Grammar Goddess
    Kindness is contagious -- let's spread it everywhere! Thanks, @Paul Kearley๐Ÿ, for your uplifting post!
    Susan ๐Ÿ Rooks, the Grammar Goddess
    30/11/2016 #1 Susan ๐Ÿ Rooks, the Grammar Goddess
    Recent scientific discoveries show us that our brains really, really, REALLY like it when we're nice and helpful, @Paul Kearley๐Ÿ, and maybe that's why we do it. We have wiring in us that makes us happy when we're nice. No matter the reasons, though, I hope we continue to see more and more of that type of behavior; actions do speak louder than words.

    Here's a link to a short post on this topic . . . I love the "Kindness is Contagious" point!
  15. ProducerAli ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    The Positive Side of Negative Emotions
    The Positive Side of Negative EmotionsI wrote a presentation on separation thinking in which I discussed our tendency to ask this or that such as is it the egg or the chicken? I wondered why not this AND that. More relevant questions are available that reinforce this separation...


    Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    22/11/2016 #111 Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    #110 Yes, and I have witesses some of my acquaintances go through the downward spiral. I agree with you @Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador
    Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador
    22/11/2016 #110 Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador
    Negative emotions are natural reactions that we need to cope with. Recognizing the cause of negative emotions can lead the way to deal with them appropriately. Ignoring them can eventually cause a downward spiral and even result in harm to others and ourselves.
    Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    21/11/2016 #109 Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    @Sara Jacobovici responded in a buzz to this buzz. What a great read Sara's buzz is. You may read it here:
    Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    20/11/2016 #108 Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    #107 I agree with you dear @Mohammed Sultan. Your comment is consistent with the quantum theory "When we consistently make certain assumptions about the bad things that may happen to us we trigger our negative emotions". When we focus only on negatives we develop the Observer Effect. Negative emotions help to stabilize positive emotions, but excessively reflecting on negative ones throw us out of balance.
    Mohammed Sultan
    20/11/2016 #107 Mohammed Sultan
    Dear @ Ali Anani PhD.Thanks for sharing the output of your balanced emotion.When we consistently make certain assumptions about the bad things that may happen to us we trigger our negative emotions.Everything depends on how we view our external world.People with unbalanced emotion explain the bad things that happen to them in terms that are internal and stable.Thinking all the time of what went wrong is the moving sands of our emotions.It leads to giving up and prevent us from seizing opportunities because we think of punishment of failure(negative emotion) rather than the rewards for success(positive emotion).Fit and balance of our internal emotions should be done first before we align them with reason or with the external world.It also make sense to delay our decisions or meetings when we temporarily are flooded with negative emotion and become unable to balance them with reason.
    Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    20/11/2016 #106 Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    #105 Thanks @Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee, Sometimes I re-read what I write and I will second guess myself, wondering if I conveyed my message well. Im glad you are able to get a visual when reading! So kind of you to put up a link to my buzz here:))
    Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    20/11/2016 #105 Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    #104 You writing is packed with images dear @Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher. Having just read your beautiful buzz of today on "Relationships and Empathy", you proved to me that your words are poetic, rich in vividness, and draw images in my mind. You words are images and I wonder why you think it is hard for you to describe in words. For readers, I strongly recommend for you reading the buzz of Lisa. It shall be time well-invested and for you to know that my comment reflects reality:
    Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    20/11/2016 #104 Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    #103 Thanks Ali, that's probably because I'm a fairly simple person LOL. Sometimes my mind has very deep thoughts but I have a hard time expressing them. It's as though I can see a picture in my mind but it's hard to describe in words.
    Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    20/11/2016 #103 Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    #102 @Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher- emotions and thoughts lead to actions. For every action there is an equal reaction in the opposite direction. That is why I find your comment so deep and informative, and especially this part of the comment "The more we put out to the universe, negative or positive, well it comes back to us". You do amaze me with how simply and clearly you express complex ideas.
    Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    20/11/2016 #102 Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    It's amazing how negative emotions can over take the postive emotions @Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee. I think you described some of the mystery behind them well. We can co-exist as long as our common core is one that comes from a good place. I think we aren't able to co-exist if one person is positive (for the most part) and the other is inherently evil. I've always believed that positive attracts positive and vice versa. The more we put out to the universe, negative or positive, well it comes back to us. Everyone has negative emotions and that's not a bad thing. It's when we allow those emotions to dictate our lives and treat others unjustly because we feel so bitter inside.
    Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    20/11/2016 #101 Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    #91 Yes, and passionately I understand your feelings.
    Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    20/11/2016 #100 Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    #96 @David Navarro Lรณpez wrote a beautiful buzz on the forging metaphor. Thanks @Max Carter for reminding us of this metaphor. To better understand this metaphor, I urge you to read David's buzz at the following link:
    Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    20/11/2016 #99 Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    #97 I am deeply moved by your comment @Ian Weinberg. Thank you
    David Navarro Lรณpez
    20/11/2016 #98 Anonymous
    #96 Agreed, Max. It needs a big amount of self-honesty to be aware of what is wrong and change it. To forgive ourselves is as well an important point, as guilt might blur the way we should go forward.
    Ian Weinberg
    20/11/2016 #97 Ian Weinberg
    An intelligent, innovative and thought provoking article. Thanks for this Ali.
    David Navarro Lรณpez
    20/11/2016 #95 Anonymous
    #92 No idea who gave you a -1, Max. Maybe an inexperienced user who does not know how it works, because your comment is full of wisdom.
    I agree with your words "People fear changing themselves because then maybe they might have to take responsibility..."
    Self awareness can be a very disgusting experience if you don't like what you see, and you don't have the guts to change it. But is possible, in every case.
    Some time ago I wrote a post you might like, concerned to this: https://www.bebee.com/producer/@david-navarro-lopez/can-the-character-be-forged
    Sara Jacobovici
    20/11/2016 #94 Sara Jacobovici
    #89 Thanks for clarifying your comment @Harvey Lloyd. I understand that the sarcasm can come from parenting experiences ;-) but..... objectively speaking.....that potential wisdom does exist and experiences with time does enable the realization of that potential.
    Harvey Lloyd
    19/11/2016 #91 Harvey Lloyd
    #90 I have two wonderful children and 6 grandchildren so don't believe for a minute I am complaining. The teenage years are quite an epoch in parenting. Watching them look for independence while hanging on to parents was priceless

    I have the gray hair to prove it

    My youngest has just grasped and moving towards the interdependence phase. As a parent your wish is they can survive without you. I am now there. Life is good
    Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    19/11/2016 #90 Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    @Harvey Lloyd-may be it was the imaginative power that was in operation and not the wisdom. Going back to your three phases of life wherein dependence is the first one, but with imagination decreasing with age till a reversal happens and wisdom may become the overriding power.
    Harvey Lloyd
    19/11/2016 #89 Harvey Lloyd
    #83 The age of infinite wisdom was somewhat sarcastic. I followed two teenage daughters who I new could develop a warp drive for the space shuttle๐Ÿ˜ณ
  16. ProducerDebbie Hindle

    Debbie Hindle

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    Josh LeBlanc-Shulman
    30/09/2016 #2 Josh LeBlanc-Shulman
    #1 Great read, thanks for the tip!
    Jared ๐Ÿ Wiese
    30/09/2016 #1 Jared ๐Ÿ Wiese
    Check this out: https://www.bebee.com/producer/@peter-morscheck/why-trump-won-the-first-debate
  19. ProducerJim Murray

    Jim Murray

    The Upsides Of Being Excellent To Each Other On BeBee. And Everywhere Else.
    The Upsides Of Being Excellent To Each Other On BeBee. And Everywhere Else.I recently disconnected from several of the political and news sites that feed into my Facebook page.I was scrolling through this stuff when it finally hit me.These posts, which mostly have to so with all the crap going on in the United States right...


    Milos Djukic
    10/02/2017 #29 Anonymous
    Once again thank you @Jim Murray for this article.
    Jim Murray
    24/09/2016 #28 Jim Murray
    #5 Thanks Julie Hickman...
    Jim Murray
    24/09/2016 #27 Jim Murray
    #12 Thnaks again @David B. Grinberg
    Jim Murray
    24/09/2016 #26 Jim Murray
    #13 @John White, MBA. Two years ago I shut down my FB account for the reasons I describe here and started a new one with only about 100 friends. I subscribed to these news outlets because I was attracted to the Trump Traveling Circus. But like everything it just got to be too much.
    Jim Murray
    24/09/2016 #25 Jim Murray
    #22 Thanks @Vincent Andrew
    Jim Murray
    24/09/2016 #24 Jim Murray
    #23 @Steven Kalavity I'm sure there will be no censorship imposed here. The main purpose of this piece is to promote civility. There will always be trolls and morons and smartest guys in the room. It comes with the territory as the site grows. But if we can at least promote the idea of civility then we might just all be better off. It's more intellectually challenging to make a hard point without resorting to some sort of below the belt tactic. But you can find that sort of thing anywhere. It would be nice if we can set some sort of example for healthy civilized debate.
    Steven Kalavity
    24/09/2016 #23 Steven Kalavity
    The main issue that I had with LinkedIn was its distribution algorithm among followers and beyond and then LI censorship d/t anonymous complainers. I think that writers and companies for that matter need to be equipped to defend their prose, if any. Art and writing can be offensive and maybe should be in a democratic forum. As a producer's followers and users of BeBee increases managing content will be an issue as more writing ideas to be seen by more minds will generate more opinions. People who go public cannot be shielded from public impression. I would say that sharing or commenting on every post one takes the time to read would be a good thing. We hope readers are respectful, but variety is the spice of life after all. We should take comments in all forms as some sort of compliment that ideas resonated in some way.
    Vincent Andrew
    24/09/2016 #22 Vincent Andrew
    Shared this on Google+, LinkedIn and Motivation hive. Love your post @Jim Murray. Thank you!
    Brian McKenzie
    24/09/2016 #21 Brian McKenzie
    The only viable difference between 'News' and 'Propaganda' is budget.
    Jim Murray
    24/09/2016 #20 Jim Murray
    #15 That was a very @Milos Djukic was of saying Constructive Criticism is better that the opposite. Thanks @Milos Djukic
    Jim Murray
    24/09/2016 #19 Jim Murray
    #9 @Phil Friedman. You kn ow as well as I do that it's hard to control how people interpret anything. The strong implication here is civilized discourse as opposed to in your face rudeness is a much better way to carry on, more or less as we have for the past year or more. Also on the issues of the FU, just remember who pranked whom in the first place. :)
    Phil Friedman
    24/09/2016 #18 Phil Friedman
    #12 Thank you, David, for the kind words. Which I genuinely appreciate. You and I do, however, have to have a talk about not pumping Jimbo up too much; he's hard enough to deal with as it is.:=)
    Phil Friedman
    24/09/2016 #17 Phil Friedman
    #15 Milos, in the main, I agree with your position -- as you well know, since we've discussed this quite a bit. And as in the past, I am moved to point out that sugary sweet words and phrases of affection are not always meaningful or genuine expressions of care (or love). Somewhere in the mix there has to be authenticity. As Chung King wrote in the Second Scroll of his aphorisms (circa 650 AD), "Mistake not external form for genuine underlying substance." Cheers!
    Milos Djukic
    24/09/2016 #15 Anonymous
    #9 #10 Hm @Jim Murray, being positive is a very popular concept in social media and elsewhere, but I think that it need some further clarification. I wrote this on Li, but the same applies here:
    " How to find your proper voice, having in mind that the essence is in the conversations? There is only one extreme and that is to give only positive comments on other people's writing. This is a fairly common practice, here on LI. This is certainly not what we want. Critical or negative comments, made by some members, may cause some degree of discomfort on both sides. In order to avoid indifference, which is undesirable, we need to provide highly emotional engagement of an audience. In this case, both emotions: โ€œloveโ€ (admiration - respect) and โ€œangerโ€ (disappointment - discourage) may occur at the same time. Fortunately, โ€œangerโ€ can easily be turned into โ€œloveโ€ if handled appropriately. My experience suggests that the effects of tactful critiques are often highly undervalued. I think that criticism is useful for everyone, but social media criticism modeling, that will have fruitful effects (stretch and grow), is a special kind of art. What is important is the way in which we manifest our disagreement. People tend to feel threatened when they are attacked. A heated discussion can be very fruitful, but also unproductive. A good foundation is certainly unquestionable respect of diversity and a very careful interpretation of other people's attitudes. Communication is always a two way process."Nice words and iron door opens!" A nice word does not need to be only agreement or approval. "
    CityVP ๐Ÿ Manjit
    24/09/2016 #14 CityVP ๐Ÿ Manjit
    Taking the high road does not mean taking the blind road and taking the fun road does not mean taking the silly road - for the high road should be about reputation and the fun road about viability. The wrongs of the world will not be righted because beBee was created, there will be plenty wrong with the world even after beBee IPO's or is acquired by a digital behemoth.

    What it does portend is marrying European sensibility with global startup mentality - which still has its hallmark in Silicon Valley. Last year HBR published an article called "How Europe Can Create Its Own Silicon Valley" https://hbr.org/2015/06/how-europe-can-create-its-own-silicon-valley It isn't opinion that matters in this context, opinion is ubiquitous as networked utility, what matters is vision transforming itself into being. In that context beBee becomes a verb.

    The consumption element is designed limitation or as our good friend @Aurorasa Sima says in her article about beBee "The lover of cat pictures will not have to see the posts of the scientists, the business professional will not be bothered with political posts, the grumpy person can stay away from "happy quotes." from http://www.successful-online-business.com/2016/08/linkedin-alternative-bebee-review.html

    At a time when diversity is being rejected whether that be Brexit, or insular European countries that were formerly under the control of the USSR or those that favour Trump in the US, diversity in technology design is not a political question, it is a digital phenomena for creators rather than consumers and if I knew how to make that personally exponential - I would be doing that now - I don't, but beBee is in a prime position in a landscape where digital surprise and speed is the norm. High road & fun is good.
    John White, MBA
    24/09/2016 #13 John White, MBA
    @Jim Murray: Your first paragraph had me cracking up. You described my exact experience on Facebook. I've contemplated shutting down my account on Facebook more times than I can remember. Thanks for a great post.
    David B. Grinberg
    23/09/2016 #12 David B. Grinberg
    FYI, Jim: I shared this in the following hives: beBee English, Inspiration, and Positive Psychology. Moreover, @Phil Friedman also makes some excellent points as well about striking the right balance between being positive and offering constructive criticism to advance an open dialogue on the issues. Being positive doesn't mean being a conformist. Great points, too Phil!
    Jim Murray
    23/09/2016 #11 Jim Murray
    #10 Thanks David. I will continue on my quest to help save America from itself. It's my pro bono mission for this year. I have started a new series of memes on Facebook. Just remember, America was a perfectly good country till the multinational corporations took it over and sucked all the jobs out if it.
    David B. Grinberg
    23/09/2016 #10 David B. Grinberg
    Kudos to you @Jim Murray for another excellent buzz, especially about being positive. It's amazing how beBee appears to have transformed at least some of your healthy cynicism and skepticism into positive thinking (albeit not about about the USA -- which I suppose is understandable). What an amazing development. Let's call it, "The beBee Effect"!
    As a purveyor of the power of positivity, I'm just thrilled to read this buzz, Jim. You might want to check out the godfather of positive thinking, the late American Minister, Norman Vincent Peale https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Norman_Vincent_Peale
    Wishing you a positively wonderful weekend, Jim.
    Phil Friedman
    23/09/2016 #9 Phil Friedman
    @ @Jim Murray - Good post, Jim. As anyone who has followed the twenty installments of "HE SAID HE SAID" knows, you and I are friends, as well as literary compradres. And we have come to trust and support one another. But what is authentic about our relationship on beBee, LinkedIn, and elsewhere -- a relationship that began by you telling me in print to go F$#K myself -- is that neither of us has felt the need to stroke the other or agree when we do not.

    I fear that your words here will be misinterpreted by many to imply that one should never openly disagree or be critical of someone else's expression of ideas or opinion. Which I know for a fact is neither your meaning, nor intent. For if I understand you correctly (which I sometimes do not), you see positivity as being open to the ideas and opinions of others, and when disagreeing, being civil and polite. Positivity equals civility, not mindless conformity.

    As you well know, my own feeling is that constantly knee-jerk patting and stroking is not a sign of caring, and that truly engaged conversation is more than simply waiting politely for your turn to speak -- too often about oneself. No, just as friends don't let friends drive drunk, friends don't let friends express half-assed ideas and opinions, without at least discussing the matter. And if anyone is interested in see how that works, I recommend watching for the next installment of HE SAID HE SAID, in which we and two other bees turn it into (HE SAID HE SAID) ^2, and demonstrate how people can be good friends, yet disagree in lively discussion. Cheers!
  20. ProducerDebbie Hindle

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    Belles Beauts

    Happy Saturday
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  23. ProducerYogesh Sukal

    Yogesh Sukal

    "You are my destiny" says โ€˜The Subconscious Positivityโ€™ to โ€˜The Dreamโ€™
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  24. ProducerDaniel Donachie

    Daniel Donachie

    Con-fide-nceThe root of the word confidence is โ€œconโ€ and any sense of self-confidence we enjoy is a lie. I am curious about the human need to connect with this self-deceipt and how confidence dances with authenticity. Working with a number of clients this week,...


    Daniel Donachie
    29/08/2016 #8 Daniel Donachie
    #5 Thank you @Susan Clark!
    Daniel Donachie
    29/08/2016 #7 Daniel Donachie
    #4 Thank you @Cepee Tabibian.
    Daniel Donachie
    29/08/2016 #6 Daniel Donachie
    #3 Thank you so much for your comments @Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher. Reading your words takes me back into feeling and I appreciate it.
    Susan Clark
    22/08/2016 #5 Susan Clark
    Interesting perspective!
    Cepee Tabibian
    22/08/2016 #4 Cepee Tabibian
    Wow, I never really thought about authenticity or confidence in this way. This sentence just tickled my brain "Authenticity is opposed to confidence because there is no persuasion away from whatever is present here and now." Thanks for sharing!
    Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    22/08/2016 #3 Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    Profound statement @Daniel Donachie, "The Universal language of our nervous system is feeling and any feeling that we repeatedly become aware of will manifest in our experience." I need to connect with depths of the ocean, as you put it. And, I need to keep in mind that deviating from the present leads us back to the surface of the waves. This truly makes sense and I'm really glad I read this!! Thank you for sharing. Excellent video too.
    Daniel Donachie
    15/08/2016 #2 Daniel Donachie
    #1 Thank you so much for your feedback @David Navarro Lopez! I completely agree with your conclusions and see the value in choosing lies that will lead to action. Hence, removing a thorn with a thorn. However, to find what we all seek, the ultimate transformation arrives without any thorns or lies. For sure, use the mind as a servant when needed in life and at the same time remember present moment awareness. The more grounding in presence, the firmer foundation in the wonders of the inner life and therefore the possibility of joy and bliss spontaneously arising.
    David Navarro Lรณpez
    15/08/2016 #1 Anonymous
    Thank you @Daniel Donachie for your inspiring post and video.
    You are giving me a perspective of inner life which is completely unexpected and at the same time, I can not agree with it entirely.
    For sure, beliefs are a lie, as they are subjective conclusions of the reality.
    But who said that lying is something so terrible?
    Sometimes reality can be so overwhelming and so out of our bounds, that to achieve your objectives you need to "lie" to yourself not to fall apart.
    Neuro-linguistic programming, although is not a "fully recognized science", is as well, somehow, lying to yourself to provoke a positive reaction.
    In this matter, and about your disrupting ideas, I need to think more about, in 3rd or 4th reading of it.
  25. Michael Dowling

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