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Psychology is the study of behavior and mind, embracing all aspects of conscious and unconscious experience as well as thought. It is an academic discipline and an applied science which seeks to understand individuals and groups by establishing general principles and researching specific cases.
  1. ProducerLyon Brave

    Lyon Brave

    SHIP 5: YOUR NAVY END'S HEREShip 5 is where the Navy's rejects go. the poor souls who end up in SHIP 5, the Navy doesn't want them for some reason or another.The recruits and Sailors that get sent here are in separation for a variety of medical reasons including mental health....
  2. Louise Smith

    Louise Smith

    It's quite interesting for some different personal insight.
    I was really surprised with my number 1 - Bravery !
    If you asked me, I would never have said it at all,
    let alone number 1 !
    Louise Smith
    Research Proven Ways to Manage Your Stress
    www.viacharacter.org You have more stress-management tools than you may think. As I discussed in a previous post (see here), we need to learn to “get good at stress” and there are a lot of ways that we can manage high anxiety situations and events. In this post I’ll...
  3. Louise Smith

    Louise Smith

    Mice in the same room but in different cages, not able to see each other - Experimental group & Control group both developed Pain. “It was totally unexpected when the controls also developed pain,” said Ryabinin. Humans may experience the social transfer but their sense of smell is underdeveloped compared to mice. So how does it work?
    Louise Smith
    Olfactory Cues Facilitate the Social Transfer of Pain in Mice
    painresearchforum.org Social influences can profoundly modulate pain in both humans and rodents. A handful of studies have shown that when two animals experience the same pain stimulus while housed together, exposure to one another causes each animal to have a greater...
  4. ProducerMiguel López de la Oliva
    What reality are you creating for yourself?
    What reality are you creating for yourself?What does reality really mean? Is my reality same than yours? Could it be different? The answer is YES. Maybe some of you would ask me, why do you think so? The reason was an incredible and inspirational TED Talks's video I recently watched, where...


    Sara Jacobovici
    17/02/2017 #10 Sara Jacobovici
    Great post @Miguel López de la Oliva. A topic close to my heart. From my perspective, we are sensory beings and as such we form meaning from our experiences. It is our meaning, therefore our reality. The poet Alfred North Whitehead said: "Nature gets credit which in truth should be reserved for ourselves, the rose for its scent, the nightingale for his song, and the sun for its radiance. The poets are entirely mistaken. They should address their lyrics to themselves and should turn them into odes of self-congratulations on the excellence of the human mind. Nature is a dull affair, soundless, scentless, colorless, merely the hurrying of material, endlessly, meaninglessly." This process of how we form our "reality" is what needs to be clearly understood. Fear, for example, doesn't form our reality, it's our response to fear that does that. Everything we sense is information. It is what we choose to do with that information that forms our reality. You're right, we are the creator of our reality. But because we are individuals who depend on community to survive, our challenge is to form that reality which is connected or attached to a common reality. Awareness is the key. If you're "smart" about it, you can "have your cake and eat it too". You can be the individual you want when you find the community in which to express that individuality.
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    16/02/2017 #9 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #8 It's true, you have to recognize it. Sometimes it's hard to admit because it makes a person feel weak or that others will view them as weak if they try to ignore it. Fears just don't go away on their own :)
    Miguel López de la Oliva
    15/02/2017 #8 Miguel López de la Oliva
    #7 thanks @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher! I really appreciate your comment about alternative treatments to connect our brain to our body. Now I must read more about it. First step to fight against fear: recognize it. ;)
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    15/02/2017 #7 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    Thanks for tagging me Donna Luisa! @Miguel López de la Oliva, this was an excellent topic. I watched this video before and he just makes so much sense. I think it's great to recognize what may be holding you back or your fears (especially if they are extreme) earlier in life hence, better chance at over-coming them in the short term. I'm at an age where I finally had to seek help for some extreme stuff that my brain programmed and stored wrong. I'm currently working hard with my therapist. My sessions began with CBT (Cognitive behavioral therapy) and progressed to EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing). I will have my 3 session this week. What is EMDR [ condensed]- "The EMDR therapy uses bilateral stimulation, right/left eye movement, or tactile stimulation, which repeatedly activates the opposite sides of the brain, releasing emotional experiences that are "trapped" in the nervous system. This assists the neurophysiological system, the basis of the mind/body connection, to free itself of blockages and reconnect itself." http://www.psychotherapist.net/emdr-faq.html This is one of the few newer therapies recognized and insurance will pay for. I don't want others to view me as a person with fears and anxiety who is unable to function, my hope is they see me as a person whose had a set back in life that caught up with her and she's taking the right steps to become more functional than she could have imagined. We all have our baggage but the brain is a versatile organ that is able to use other parts of the brain for processing information we once perceived as horrible.
    Max🐝 J. Carter
    15/02/2017 #6 Max🐝 J. Carter
    What I teach as a Shaman is similar yet different to this.

    It is a shared reality created by all ones and all ones share the responsibility for the reality shared by all ones.

    We create this reality for each other as much as we create it for ourselves and when you begin to do as is suggested in this buzz by holding yourself accountable for every thought and word you realize that at times for us to have means others must be made to have not.

    Choose wisely in deciding your desires and know for everything you have and want their is a price that others in the shared reality may have to pay for you to have it your way.
    Miguel López de la Oliva
    15/02/2017 #5 Miguel López de la Oliva
    #2 Thanks Pat! I wanted to share with all of you, I think is really interesting. :)
    Miguel López de la Oliva
    15/02/2017 #4 Miguel López de la Oliva
    #1 thanks so much @Donna-Luisa Eversley! I celebrate you liked this post. Well, I just resumed Isaac Lidsky's TED talk about how our feelings can change the way we see what is all aorund us. I think is quite inspirational.
    Michael O'Neil
    15/02/2017 #3 Anonymous
    Fantastic talk. Genius.
    Pat 🐝 Bagano
    15/02/2017 #2 Pat 🐝 Bagano
    Incredible. Inspiring. Awesome. I love this post, I will read it again and maybe even memorize it. I am sharing this!
    Donna-Luisa Eversley
    15/02/2017 #1 Donna-Luisa Eversley
    @Miguel López de la Oliva what a truly powerful post! Thank you so much for this!
    We really do create our own reality, and believe in it as you said above. It is the power we have locked into all of us, this ability to control the outcomes of our engaged lives, if we dare to believe. I think what has me most intrigued by your post are your words on fear. Indeed it is the potential and the possibility of something terrible which is imminent that gives fear its power over us. Friends, please check this out!
    @Milos Djukic @Claire 🐝 Cardwell @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher @Ken Boddie @Pascal Derrien
  5. ProducerAdam Read

    Adam Read

    Beyond Biology: A Different Foundation for Evolutionary Psychology
    Beyond Biology: A Different Foundation for Evolutionary PsychologyAnother treatise, if you will, and an artistic analysis of Evolutionary Psychology. I have been urged by two academics in the mental health industry now to expand this and other theories I have into chapters of a book. As time allows, I will...


    Adam Read
    08/02/2017 #2 Adam Read
    Thanks, Eva :).
    Eva Pérez Duque
    08/02/2017 #1 Eva Pérez Duque
    Interesting article, thaks for sharing @Adam Read
  6. ProducerPaul Walters

    Paul Walters

    The Persuasive Power Of On- Line Pornography.
    The Persuasive Power Of On- Line Pornography.A recent article in The New Yorker by Katrina Forrester entitled, “ Lights, Camera. Action.” on the growth of on- line pornography quoted some simply jaw- dropping statistics when it comes to viewer ‘engagement’ on the Internet. ...


    Pamela 🐝 Williams
    04/02/2017 #10 Pamela 🐝 Williams
    #9 Well, a problem with that is...Bride!!! That would send me into instant anxiety if a guy popped that into the DVD...I'd make the first excuse I could come up with to leave. Sorry, me and the word bride have never meshed well. Been there, done that, no good at it.
    Dean Owen
    04/02/2017 #9 Dean Owen
    #8 For a first date movie, I have always found "The Princess Bride" at home in front of a fire works perfect.
    Pamela 🐝 Williams
    04/02/2017 #8 Pamela 🐝 Williams
    #1 I haven't seen the censored version but I have to say that unless it's a Disney movies (and some of those are questionable as to being G Rate) it's almost impossible to find a First Date movie. Call me old fashioned but I don't want constant sexual innuendo or explicit sex scenes with someone I'm just getting to know. There is no 'playing on the viewer's imagination' anymore. Have viewers become so 'mind' lazy that they can't use a little of their own imagination? Does the film industry have to constantly spell it out for us?
    I've watched one porn flick my entire life out of curiosity. Frankly is was a huge turn-OFF. Give me a good book! I still have my imagination and it's much better and more customized to my own fantasies than anything they can come up with. LMBO!
    Gerald Hecht
    02/02/2017 #7 Gerald Hecht
    Well, I don't think it's a mainly Psychological Issue; it's using technology to amplify and increase the frequency with which we "encounter" visual and auditory stimuli which we are predisposed to respond; I don't really think of this as a hypothesis so much as a "how did we all (for the most part, for most of human history) get here thingie".

    ANSWER: A guy and a gal had sex. That's how.

    The Psychology is simply using increasingly realistic "sexually arousing stimuli thingies" as marketing tools.
    It's the first thing I learned in an "Intro to Advertising" in high school; "Sex Sells".

    The main Psychological utility for me is in my Graduate Seminar: "Advanced, Applied Pimpology".

    I try to help future entrepreneurs by making it clear that in their interactions with their employees --it is vital to keep morale as high as possible --the easiest technique for achieving this (and, BTW, the subject of an upcoming TED Talk that I'm working on) is to constantly remind them that: Although "sex sells"...you ladies aren't really selling sex; RATHER: "YOU ARE SELLING YOURSELVES!"

    Ultimately, it's the Interpersonal Psychology of effective salespersonship.
    Paul Walters
    02/02/2017 #6 Paul Walters
    #5 Thanks @Deb 🐝 Helfrich I watched the Ted talk...guy was a great presenter ! perhaps @Gerald Hecht could enlighten us on some of the psychological issues !!! Also I have put Glasgow on my 'to visit' list next time I'm in Scotland!
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    02/02/2017 #5 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    The eye of the beholder is a very cultural thing. I have to say that I am able to find some extremely interesting buzzes around sexuality already here. I enjoy them, but refrain from commenting as I suspect my culture is a lot more buttoned up than I am. Which must be because Seattle is the Amsterdam of the US.

    There is quite an interesting TEDtalk about how the ease of access of quickly scrolling past so many varieties of entertainment really deadens the ability for us to feel, because of the Coolidge effect and how dopamine surges for guys based on novel mates. It is the same mechanism as all addictions. So, of course, the numbers of views make sense. Who'd have thunk TEDxGlasgow would be such a hot ticket. The Great Porn Experiment: https://youtu.be/wSF82AwSDiU
    Robert Bacal
    02/02/2017 #4 Robert Bacal
    #2 @Dean Owen @Paul Walters Whether it's pornography, spam or whatever, the same principles apply, and platforms have to plan for the effects of growth. Small platforms that stay under the radar, such as BeBee don't attract the nether people.

    WIth growth, it becomes "worthwhile" for the nether people to move in.

    There's no easy answer. I do not believe the community will be able to self manage this, since the nether people don't care. Censorship from the platform also comes with a variety of problems and isn't a great solution either, but may be required.

    One thing that is sure. The bad drives out the good on social media, and the more crap, the less good stuff as people move away.
    Paul Walters
    02/02/2017 #3 Paul Walters
    #2 @Dean Owen Thanks for the feedback and the "love Actually' example. This was a post I thought long and hard about before posting . The New Yorker piece was a fascinating article and extremely well written . I posted it because I was simply blown away by the stats and thought that readers would find it interesting. Perhaps not! ( this has been the worst performing post to date on beBEE ) Methinks the word 'pornography ' in the title might make bees shy away and I think I am right. I hope that before beBEE has to step in and censor the community will do it for us...a seriously good thing even though this piece has more to do with ant porn than anything else. I agree with living in countries where pornography is censored but here it probably goes to extremes. Open a post from say the Guardian or NY Times where the words sex, pornography or the likes is displayed in the title and you will find that the page requested will be blocked !!!
    Dean Owen
    02/02/2017 #2 Dean Owen
    What will be interesting to see is whether beBee will censor explicit content or whether they will rely on the community to self-censor.
    Dean Owen
    02/02/2017 #1 Dean Owen
    Mind bending stats. I rather like having lived in countries where pornography is censored. I remember going to the movies in Singapore to see "Love Actually" for the first time. I thought it was a perfect movie, and went again the next day (with a different girl). Then a month later I got the DVD and was shocked to have discovered it had an extra theme running through the movie that was completely deleted in the cinema release (You know the one). I have to say the censored version was way better! (Much as I like Martin Freeman).
  7. ProducerMonica Chetal

    Monica Chetal

    To win a battle, you must conquer yourself first
    To win a battle, you must conquer yourself firstNothing of importance is ever achieved without discipline I remember the time when we were kids and my Dad used to wake us up early in the morning. This routine was even followed in holidays. As children, we never understood why the privilege...
  8. Sara Jacobovici

    Sara Jacobovici

    A well written article by Andy Macia. A worthy read.
    Sara Jacobovici
    5 ways art therapy helped me heal from addiction | A Lust For Life
    www.alustforlife.com It came to a point when addiction was all I ever knew, but it wasn’t always like...
  9. Sara Jacobovici

    Sara Jacobovici

    Who says that child prodigies only manifest in the arts or academics? They also manifest, such as this boy, in human interaction and "getting it". Just watching how he listens reflects this capacity.
    This amazing kid has turned the subway platform into a therapy office
    This amazing kid has turned the subway platform into a therapy office Ciro Ortiz is not your typical middle schooler. At 11 years old, the Brooklyn-raised boy is not only already fending for himself but is giving back....


    Ella de Jong
    19/02/2017 #2 Ella de Jong
    Wonderful, wonderful! Ciro AND his parents!! I specially love his words: "Just seeing the stand might give them hope for something. Make them feel better aout themselves and maybe like the world in general. Change is going to happen …"" So touching .. Thanks @Sara Jacobovici for sharing!
    Mohammed Sultan
    18/01/2017 #1 Mohammed Sultan
    @Sara Jacobovici. It's not a calamity to die with dreams unfulfilled,but it's a calamity not to dream.Some kids have a dream to run a business and others dream of running a lemonade stand,but this fantastic kid dream takes him higher than others ,to the highest virtue of helping others.
  10. ProducerLyon Brave

    Lyon Brave

    CRAB BUCKET SYNDROME, CONFORMITY & JONESTOWNThere is a famous saying about crabs that also represents what often happens in social situations when one person is trying to better themselves in a family or a community. If we put a single crab in a lidless bucket, it can escape easily. When...


    Lyon Brave
    05/01/2017 #13 Lyon Brave
    #12 Are you saying you are one of those people who think we don't have room for refugees in America. I completely disagree with you. Yes, we all die, but that doesn't mean everything needs to be shit until we perish. Messes are meant to be cleaned up. This is a minor example, but if an old lady trips and drops her bags right in front of you, you aren't just going to help her up. Maybe i'm misreading what you are saying, but unfortunately, i believe it is ideologies like yours that is what is wrong with the world, people who likely have the resources and and intelligence to help, but choose to do nothing, but look out for their own interests. Everything is on a wheel. Nothing is guaranteed. A violent type could come kick in your door right now, a hacker could steal everything in your bank account. A hurricane could come wipe out your whole city, you could have a stroke and land in a wheel chair. When you are in need should we dust out hands and say too bad you got screwed.I don't think anyone can save the world, but lots of individuals have certainly made dramatic differences, Bono, Thomas Edison, Harriet Tubman, Abraham Lincoln, Bill Gates, Steve Jobs, the list goes on and those are just Americans. I've seen kids starve to death, while they are surrounded by food because they don't have money and people are literally more concerned about that one dollar than given them bread. It's ridiculous. Privilege is a word for a reason. Anyone on this site clearly has a certain amount of privilege, wifi, a computer, an education. Great men don't think like you. As rich as Donald Trump is nobody will ever think of him as a great man.
    Brian McKenzie
    05/01/2017 #12 Brian McKenzie
    I give society the exact same 6 seconds of consideration and attention it passes my way. I want nothing to do with it. I don't care about saving the world - because I can't; and I have no delusions of grandeur to think that anything I do matters 100 years from now; fuck - most of it wont last the attention span of a Goldfish.
    so my solution is simply - keep your mess over there, away from me. Bring it my direction - and be prepared to meet armed, trained and tenacious opposition
    I like self reliance, self determination and independence. I like nothing from the white halls of think tanks, government bureaucracies or churches.
    I am not interested in getting along nor going along with flocks, herds, tribes, villages, or the like. I care nothing for the collective; other than to disrupt and destroy it every chance I get.
    Devesh Bhatt
    05/01/2017 #11 Devesh Bhatt
    The collective output is such...that's what I have observed and experienced in my limited scope.
    I do understand that evidence based rationality and faith based stimulus co exist within me, I do not have to conflict one for the other, rather faith triggers understanding and understanding triggers faith, action yields better inputs in times of doubt, fear and confusion...I do not talk about truth because I think its a personal realisation.
    Devesh Bhatt
    05/01/2017 #9 Devesh Bhatt
    #8 I need to understand your expressions better.

    All that I could comprehend was , theory needs to be tested before its fact.

    The tests are continuous until the weakness is discovered and its corrupted, its either exploited by few or many, if its few, there is an attempt to replace it with a system to share the spoils, but the few due to better resources eventually rattle the system to recover some of the small percentages they lose to the rest.
    At a snails pace, the majority are clawing through the insignificantly small because it is necessary, then they pull each other down as an assumed necessity.
    With technology as the interface we just progress from tactics of oppression to manipulation and have an inhuman alibi without a face, but a collective input... Just like society.
    It is convenient to have a faceless intangible construct as the enemy, while its ultimately all about people.
    Devesh Bhatt
    05/01/2017 #7 Devesh Bhatt
    Society corrupts and waits for an individual to rise up and solve stuff. That's progress. Then society corrupts and exploits again.

    One can suffer with the rest or get ahead. Its a choice. Eventually, whatever you do will be corrupted...that too starts at the level of an individual and is copied around.
    Its easier to copy loopholes of corruption, its like scavenging, no harm there.

    Problem, if you keep on repeating the rant of bad people, bad society, bad crabs, bad men, bad culture...it slowly gets ingrained in the brain,, an eye for contempt and controversy and you may never enjoy success, this is happening to you subconsciously. The skill to corrupt , which could have been applied to the outer world is not being used because you want to be righteous, but the very skill is turning inwards, it is slyly corrupting your world view,
    Corruption is denial of the good as well as the bad.
    This is my opinion, you may disagree, I assume, if you can see a problem with better insights than no one else, you could perhaps develop a solution or a way of life that's progressive , better than everyone else.
    Brian McKenzie
    05/01/2017 #5 Brian McKenzie
    Jamestown was a funded and sanctioned Beta test, as all 'Utopias' are a covert mask selling Hope & Change, Happiness & Prosperity, Safety & Security, Liberty & Democracy are. It is taught in the halls that I once roamed as a model of success. And if you are awake, you can see the footprints and game practices that have carried forward. Any promising the shiny city on the hill, the luminous path Forward or the glory of Peace for 1000 years are shills with maniacal motives and have pits waiting for carcasses ~ without fail.
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    04/01/2017 #4 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    Wow, @Lyon Brave. You know how to arrive on a scene prolifically. And I am truly glad you have arrived. As this is something worth discussing...

    "representation of what happens in social institutions that are built on the desire to control, rather than empower, and therefore represents society in a larger picture." I really feel like we need to start valuing nature and sustainable ways of cooperation & collaboration to get us out of this mess of overlaid hierarchical structures that only ever serve to build that crab bucket dynamic.

    Luckily, I had an outlet to minimize my brainwashing - books. And being an introvert makes it much easier to avoid getting caught up in constant social demands. But it is all about learning to listen to our heart more than our minds - then we avoid the whole control format and realize there is enough love energy to go around.
    Lyon Brave
    04/01/2017 #2 Lyon Brave
    #1 Thank you for the depth of your comments.
    Harvey Lloyd
    04/01/2017 #1 Harvey Lloyd
    The childhood narrative is built, its not chromosomal. Some parents don't realize that children are testing the narrative against them and each child is unique in need. You highlight here the simple concept that our children can leave home and build on their narrative or they will spend a lifetime overcoming.

    You also introduce another concept that seems to be taboo in discussion. Our freedom of speech and alternative dialogues are part of the issue. Concepts that are presented in ways that touch us through deep emotional/macabre examples leave a lasting impression that forms our narratives. Are these examples of good causes that seek to bend our guilt, or self esteem towards a cause healthy?

    Parents are complaining about the heightened need to screen TV, internet and various other inroads to our psyche. But its is permeating through social settings of school and other mandated social centers. I agree with freedom of speech but also understand that not all speech is good.

    Good thoughts here.
  11. ProducerLyon Brave

    Lyon Brave

    RULE ONE: THOU SHALL NOT WORRY: Is Anxiety Making You Poor?
    RULE ONE: THOU SHALL NOT WORRY: Is Anxiety Making You Poor?RULE ONE: THOU SHALL NOT WORRY “I can take it. The tougher it gets, the cooler I get.” Richard M. Nixon A cool person is not always worried, always freaking out, always running around saying, “the sky is falling“. The sky is not...


    Devesh Bhatt
    02/01/2017 #3 Devesh Bhatt
    Practice patience...not procastrination but patience.
    Lovely article
    Aleta Curry
    02/01/2017 #1 Aleta Curry
    Really liked this article, @Lynn. I must confess, though, that I cannot hear or read the words 'don't worry' without that song coming to mind, and I have long thought it a ding dang shame that as talented as Bobby McFerrin Jr is, he's going to be remembered first and foremost for it!

    I certainly agree with you about the power of the mind; we do and become what our brains tell us to.
  12. ProducerNir Eyal

    Nir Eyal

    How to Stay Informed Without Losing Your Mind
    How to Stay Informed Without Losing Your MindAround the election, in a desperate search for answers about our nation’s future, I found myself scrolling, reading, and watching everything I could. I was trapped in an endless pull-to-refresh cycle of consuming more news, tweets, posts, and videos...
  13. Michelle Amerman
    Don’t let Seasonal Affective Disorder make you SAD this winter. Pathways can help.
    Michelle Amerman
    Coping With Seasonal Affective Disorder During the Holidays - Pathways Real Life Recovery
    pathwaysreallife.com It’s normal to feel moody every once in a while. However, not all moodiness should be considered normal. In countries that experience different seasons...
  14. ProducerMax🐝 J. Carter
    Why relationships must be fluid or they are destined to fail
    Why relationships must be fluid or they are destined to failI found myself in a discussion about being concrete or cementing relationships. Here' why that is setting yourself up for failure. The human is a emotional creature and emotion flows and never sets still. In relationships whether they are business...


    Mark Douglas
    19/12/2016 #17 Mark Douglas
    We are in continual flow, and continual change every minute, because we don't know what the next minute holds, and each minute will always be different than any minute previously experienced. That's what I got from this my friend Max! I'd really never had that thought before. Ding ding ding!!!Im awakening!
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    14/12/2016 #16 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    I know flow when I experience it.

    I posted a relevant video recently from the co-founder of the Flow Genome Project and it is fascinating. I recommend watching it.
    Max🐝 J. Carter
    14/12/2016 #15 Max🐝 J. Carter
    #14 @Mohammed A. Jawad I dig the way you put that and I would add to never allow yourself to not be the light you need to find your way.

    I do agree at times we need the light of others to help us see more clearly.
    Mohammed A. Jawad
    14/12/2016 #14 Mohammed A. Jawad
    With the flow comes changes. And change is the rule of life. While being fluid or flexible in approach, we all need luminous lampposts for traversing in a truer manner. If not, we get drifted without any directions or reaching any destination.
    Ali Anani
    14/12/2016 #13 Ali Anani
    #11 Thank you dear @CityVP Manjit for the link and I am proceeding now to read the book review.
    Max🐝 J. Carter
    14/12/2016 #12 Max🐝 J. Carter
    #11 @CityVP Manjit psychologically speaking when you get into the flow of being it is about understanding why you feel the way you do in order to identify the health of the emotion or if an unhealthy view is causing the emotional response.

    Your ego is the developed by the things you attach emotion to that defines your identity.

    I this or that.

    I am this or that.

    I love this or that.

    Statements of being and identity. These statements form the view we take of ourselves. That view is what determines the flow of our emotions.

    I tend to get upset when I feel the need to repeat myself because I feel as though I often do a job of explaining myself simply the first time. Because I am rooted in the me and my identity in this when I feel the need to repeat myself I feel as the my I am not being listened too and if I feel as though the reason what I said was ignored or not heard is due to a lack of respect for who I am the emotion flows and I can sometimes over react in an emotional way adding the tone of my displeasure to my voice.

    I use me as an example because otter people tend to get upset when they are singled out for behavior that they might not want to admit to.

    I get deep into the process of the ego in the following buzz.


    I am the guy that refuses to write a book and you can find the bulk of my work in the following hive.


    pretty much my life's work that I still use as jumping off points for other buzzes.
    CityVP 🐝 Manjit
    14/12/2016 #11 CityVP 🐝 Manjit
    Dear @Max🐝 J. Carter and @Ali Anani the psychology of flow is what I am particularly interested and yes that psychology does contain the flow of emotion. That is why I was hooked the moment I began to read Flow - The Psychology of Optimal Experience by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi who is a brilliant academician.

    Book Review of Flow
    Max🐝 J. Carter
    14/12/2016 #10 Max🐝 J. Carter
    #9 Thank you @Nic Fester that was a was very well received and appreciated as well as reciprocated. Or to say it takes one to know one and I am honored that we have connected.
    Nic Fester
    14/12/2016 #9 Nic Fester
    #6 Fantastic Max, you are doing great things! So glad we met. Real heart connection. Thanks for your kind words.
    Max🐝 J. Carter
    14/12/2016 #8 Max🐝 J. Carter
    #5 #5 I often refer to something Buddha said about questioning everything even that which he was teaching and making your own mind up and not allowing yourself to ever blindly follow any one simply because of a title @Ali Anani
    Max🐝 J. Carter
    14/12/2016 #6 Max🐝 J. Carter
    #4 @Nic Fester you have a way with words sir. One I appreciate and thank you for your joining this.

    I tend to think of let it go into the flow.

    For me the flow is the flow of God's love.

    I have met people who think they are God and to be honest during my own awakening I went through the God complex and had to recover from it.

    During that time I was able to create a better flow with God in my life and understand that God resides in each of us hence Jesus saying I abide in the Father as the Father abides in me.

    To me that means that any of us can be a living conduit for God's wisdom when the spirit moves though us to speak through us and why i feel the verse saying where two or more are gathered in my name I am there is because to gather in the name of God allows each to have the Spirit move through for the growth of the sum.

    This can also be seen as building the higher self connection which is our connection to what we call God in my experience.

    Assisting people in building this connection regardless of their chosen spiritual path is what I do for a lot of my one on one clients who do not care for religion and I am able to respect that and connect on their level without offending them or feeling offended by their chosen path.

    Hence the Rock 'N' Roll Shaman as music is something we can all relate to and connect with.
    Ali Anani
    14/12/2016 #5 Ali Anani
    #2 Just one hope that people here have enough brains to question issues and that they don't follow blindly @Max🐝 J. Carter.
    Nic Fester
    14/12/2016 #4 Nic Fester
    Enter Nic Fester... Interesting thoughts here. Being involved with people and their problems I have noticed this one thing. People have a tendency to hold on to things. Holding on stops the 'flow' In my context that would be the flow of God's enableing. There is that old saying, "Let go and let God" This does however become tricky when you believe that you are god. The flow happens when you look outside of yourself. Self actualisation and mindfulness is helpful, but will reap a limited reward. Thanks Max for making us think.
    Max🐝 J. Carter
    14/12/2016 #3 Max🐝 J. Carter
    And since @Ali Anani was kind enough to provide a link to this buzz here is his.

    Max🐝 J. Carter
    14/12/2016 #2 Max🐝 J. Carter
    #1 @Ali Anani I decided to write my own buzz as this is a topic that people hire me to guide them through as they work to improve their life or business.

    Consensus does not create truth.

    What's the old line "Just because a million people believe the same lie does not make it true."

    I also grew tired of having my motives brought into question.

    To answer your one question everything is in a state of flow. Even this platform is a flow of algorithm based on a flow of information coming in to produce a result that appears static with structure even though it is in a constant state of flux.

    We use terms like concrete to give a false sense of security and certainty that does not exist but we try to make it so out of fear of having no control.

    Opposing flows or a resistance to flow is what contaminates the process often because we become rigid in our thought process for a result we desire to achieve. We contaminate the flow through or decided view of any one topic that creates waves of turmoil in the flow.

    It is the flow of nuclear material contaminating the pacific ocean still from the result of the Fukishima meltdown.

    Somethings do not flow well together while others do.
    Ali Anani
    14/12/2016 #1 Ali Anani
    @Max🐝 J. CarterI would first provide a link to the on-going discussions so that readers may capture the full discussions. This is unfair to project your own views and discard about 100 comments, most of which didn't agree with you.
    Just one question- doesn flow happen without a carrier. Water flows in pipes. Emotions flow in what? Emotions flow like water I agree. Emotions on beBee flows because beBee has a platform to carry the flow. What if the carrying medium is contaminated? Why do we use terms like building concrete relations?
    I don't dispute the flow of emotions, but what contaminates emotions? If they flow naturally and without being exposed to any contaminant then we see-eye-to eye? Is this the case?
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    intriguing post indeed @Max🐝 J. Carter! enjoyed read. thank you for the share.
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    Human behaviour, aren't we just a curious bunch. :) Enjoyed this as well @Nir Eyal.
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    Gerald Hecht
    10/11/2016 #82 Gerald Hecht
    #79 @Milos Djukic well --in the interest/spirit of full disclosure --I don't bother to cling to the ropes all that much...I usually do "connect them" so that any young people watching observe an example of "behaving safely"
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    10/11/2016 #81 Gerald Hecht
    #79 @Milos Djukic Nonetheless (or additionally), having read Newton's "Principles" --I also connect the safety ropes
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    10/11/2016 #80 Gerald Hecht
    #79 @Milos Djukic I cling to the same hopes.
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    10/11/2016 #79 Anonymous
    #78 You are most welcome @Gerald Hecht, my friend. I would like to once again point out that If we try to help others, sometimes we will be on the wrong track, sometimes we will make an omission and finally, sometimes we will succeed. We should always count on all three options. That's the beauty and the agony of generosity. However, when one day we think about it, we will see that ultimately good always returns good (good prevails).
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    10/11/2016 #78 Gerald Hecht
    #77 @Milos Djukic Thank you for for the kind words.
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    10/11/2016 #77 Anonymous
    #76 @Gerald Hecht, Your activities, comments and participation in discussion are always highly valued and respected by majority of members, including me. As always, I wish you all the best.
    Gerald Hecht
    10/11/2016 #76 Gerald Hecht
    #75 @Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman yeah--see my "thing" is that people usually understand what I'm talking about after about two days...just about the time they realize @Milos Djukic has once again acted like a "playground tattle-tale" --regarding an issue that is beyond his comprehension in the first place; this happened so many times now; one would think users would have formed some sort of "self-correcting" (he'd like that I hope --he means well and is a nice person) mechanism by now
    Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman
    07/11/2016 #75 Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman
    Correction to my comment Karen Anne Kramer's account was removed from beBee due to her abusive behavior which we should be grateful that beBee quickly took appropriate action. This is why I feel dedicatied to beBee. It's a two way street.
    Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman
    05/11/2016 #74 Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman
    #48 Karen Anne Kramer deleted her account. She messaged me with her reasons. There are times when things are just not a good fit.
    Milos Djukic
    05/11/2016 #73 Anonymous
    #64 Thank you @Irene Hackett.
    Ali Anani
    04/11/2016 #72 Ali Anani
    Very interesting behavior patterns of psychopaths. I am quite certain there are characteristic patterns of each group on social media.
    Maria Teresa Redondo Infantes
    04/11/2016 #71 Maria Teresa Redondo Infantes
    The spsichopat have one mind super intelligent, sometimes you can not know we're are normally mind or psychopath mind.
    Max🐝 J. Carter
    04/11/2016 #70 Max🐝 J. Carter
    #67 so we shouldn't see any more articles celebrating the art of tearing people down?
    John White, MBA
    04/11/2016 #68 John White, MBA
    #64 PS: Thanks for taking your role seriously, @Irene Hackett. You're doing an exemplary job! Thanks so much!!
    John White, MBA
    04/11/2016 #67 John White, MBA
    #64 @Irene Hackett: action was taken by @Javier 🐝 beBee today regarding this matter. You can see his post for details. On a separate incident, yesterday, there were two people whose accounts were removed from beBee for bullying. It simply won't be tolerated here on beBee. Please, if you observe it in the future use the report abuse tab to flag the comment. All of those reports are reviewed and action is taken if it is indeed abusive behavior.
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    04/11/2016 #66 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    #64 Most appreciate your contribution, @Irene Hackett. Most of the time adults can be trusted to be adults. Occasionally, even those of us who don't like to impinge on anybody's discussions have to speak up as silence - in the very extreme instances - is taken as agreement.

    I am speaking out because I do not want any valued member to feel hurt and alone. I want to encourage people to trust their gut if they see something crossing the line. No one will be labeled difficult for wanting to intervene when a critique of ideas crosses into a critique of a person.

    I also don't appreciate the few folks minimizing it to a case of 'people come and go' when they apparently did not notice the issues. We are here to grow this site exponentially; high profile leavings based on things happening on the site should engender community discussion.

    It is how things change.
    Lada 🏡 Prkic
    04/11/2016 #63 Lada 🏡 Prkic
    It’s true that some successful leaders have these listed specific communication patterns. But I don’t think these patterns are related only to people labelled as psychopaths. I also doubt the results of some study that lead to such generalization. Many people used hand gestures while speaking, they sound charming, and are great storytellers.
    Related to the discussion about questionable comments, last time we saw some embarrassing comments (for lack of a better word) they were explained in a way that there was a technical glitch or bug on a beBee site. It seems to me that there is only a “glitch” in someone’s head.
    John White, MBA
    04/11/2016 #62 John White, MBA
    #61 Thanks, Max. Have a great night!
    Max🐝 J. Carter
    04/11/2016 #61 Max🐝 J. Carter
    #60 Gladly
    John White, MBA
    04/11/2016 #60 John White, MBA
    #59 No worries, Max. I don't want to focus on negative people either, I avoid them in life. If you see anyone being abusive just report them using the report abuse button.
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