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Comments13/08/2017 #42 Tricia Mitchell#35 there's some many quotable comments in your response @Deb 🐝 Helfrich all of which I appreciate.
"That whole construct came from humans at a fragile point in our development. We understood little of our natural world and we were dying early and often, so stories of vengeance may have offered comfort then, but should atrophy as our knowledge progresses."
I love how you state that [stories of vengeance] "should atrophy with time.
Enjoyed reading your comments. Thank you 💚13/08/2017 #41 Tricia Mitchell#33 (part 2) Children's dependency on others for survival & love goes beyond the early years. What we don't yet know is how decisions of adult (eg "trans dad gives birth" or surrogate mum & those chemical signals between parent & unborn) vs biological ("natural") design will play out in future generations.
The concluding part of your comment about choice, at the point of creation, without judgement sounds very similar to something called Access Consciousness.
Thanks for sharing some of the principles here @Numo Quest; they are interesting to read. ☺13/08/2017 #40 Tricia Mitchell#33 thanks for contributing your perspective, @Numo Quest While reading your comments a few things sprung to mind in response to your comment that: "The child isn't engaged with much else then just that. It changes on the moment adults start to bring in 'aspects'"
1) Bruce Lipton states that a child BEGINS learning the rules of the world in which it is to be born in-utero, specifically from 6 months onwards.
2) Parents may actively teach babies, but babies are LEARNING through observation & modelling, earlier than the period you state it commences. The first 6-7 years of life, they are operating in beta and delta brainwaves (& if mum believes the world is a dangerous place, the baby alters physically in preparation for entering that world, according to mum's map of it) https://www.healyourlife.com/are-you-programmed-at-birth
Another principle states following, don't put focus and energy in things one can't change.
While I agree, the "issue" I & many others have come across is that people do not realise or believe we can change things. I have permission to share that working with a client born with "old lady's" hands (as she described them), I was curious as to what may be possible, not taking a stance that we couldn't change it. Past live trauma resolved, her hands continued to look younger each day. My thinking? If cells renew every 30 days & David Hamilton says there's 99.99 recurring space between atoms, hell, let's give it a shot. There are other examples of what can change when we are open to being curious...12/08/2017 #37 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#36 First of all, I want to dispute the 2/3rd in the dark ages, I think those outside the industrial world live a more human life and I'd like for us to model them, not for them to catch up to us. Of course, potable water, sewage, and such are mandatory, we should be working full out to ensure sustainable access for every human. I do believe we have the data that there are too many of us for the earth to carry and we can figure out a way to have a realistic world population.
And this ever growing number of humans is part of my thoughts around not believing in reincarnation. If there was a finiteness/distinctiveness to souls the math doesn't work with explosive population growth.
I have no personal sense or experience of being anyone or anything but Deb. I have been an atheist since 15. I believe consciousness as we experience it is god, and that in all the various forms the stories of religion are metaphors for this very fact. Being comfortable without a supreme being, I am also quite comfortable with consciousness being an emergent property that only occurs when a biological entity, from an amoeba on up, including all plants and animals, sustains life.
But each different type of organism has a different level of consciousness equipment. Just like plants don't have legs like animals, the structure defines the expression of the consciousness of life.
I have never had a moment of worry about being dead, although I have human fears about the process of how I will die or around living in terror. As a cartoon in the New Yorker illustrated, I've imagined I've booked my departure for 4:33 am on a Monday morning, in my bed, asleep.
I understand other people's belief in reincarnation through the lens of the collective unconscious - ancestral memory - unified field. We are not the program, we are the TV set, while we function, we can be tuned to numerous programs.12/08/2017 #36 Lisa Vanderburg#35 I agree my friend @Deb 🐝 Helfrich...we need to chew the cud! Ruminate, resonate, take TIME to figure out!
But to the last paragraph I'm answering; the rest remains a mystery! Are you offering that you believe in reincarnated souls? I know my bent is towards one life - sufficient time for me, but I'm curious, enthralled perhaps that others could well believe in reincarnation; many do, and I respect their beliefs, but then I think of brutal eras, famine, senseless killing, illness, starvation....none of my imaginings include being in a position of privilege no matter the date. We may be in 'enlightened times', but that for only us. 2/3rds of the world are still in the dark 'ages' with all the want and brutality that invokes. Sorry...been writing poetry for my new baby granddaughter - it affects the way my mind speaks!! I also agree that it would take a higher power to 'decide' we need to go around again, but he (or she) is not vengeful, love will turn around! Hoping you'll come back on me with this; with respect!12/08/2017 #35 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#25 #28 One thing is for sure, whatever the higher power may actually be, there will be no vengeance for open-hearted inquiry.
That whole construct came from humans at a fragile point in our development. We understood little of our natural world and we were dying early and often, so stories of vengeance may have offered comfort then, but should atrophy as our knowledge progresses.
Believing punishment accomplishes anything but the cessation of love is one of our species current tragic flaws.
And it feels like, to me, this is occurring because the internet is helping us to see each human as part of the web of humanity. It was a bumpy start, but we can see the shift from angry to accepting to caring happening all around us.
As now, anyone, anywhere can read a different point of view about something like consciousness in the womb that is difficult to dive into over a hot beverage. Well, initiating the topic is strange, not hard. What I believe to be difficult is having the ability to cogitate for a bit, rather than having to answer within the quick turn-around of verbal communication before we can examine our own rote answers and spend a moment searching if we might have come across new information that allows us to examine the topic anew, rather than simply repeat an answer long ago drummed into us.12/08/2017 #33 Numo QuestIn case of a child, from our and universal principle perspective, a child is born with character, talents and soft skills, we start to 'support' it on the moment we know how and in which fields. Since the one child isn't the other, there is a difference. Every individual is unique. By this concept the child in the first year is focused on 'need'. Every child has the reflex of survival and does by nature everything in it's power, to survive by getting what it thinks it need. This reflex is the bases for existence until the moment, the parent starts to guide the child, in line with character and talent, the social part. The child needs to learn to develop its social skills.
The child isn't engaged with much else then just that. It changes on the moment adults start to bring in 'aspects', in all Love and caring, no doubt, like you are explaining and portraying. Until then a child plays, has fun, enjoys life, has ideas, start to develop.
Another principle states following, don't put focus and energy in things one can't change. If this life's principle is in the child as an ordinary part of life and existing, the child will deal with things in life accordingly. On the moment the adult deems it should be raised an issue, for what ever reason, then indeed it will become an issue for the child. Still not altering anything in the past.
From our experience, every moment in time has it's point of creation, choice, for every individual, without judgement or limitation, regardless your experiences of, and in the past, you are here now, as you are, unique. You have Choice and Creation. Either, dwell in a way you can't alter and put focus and energy, without changing past tense facts, or in one step say, I know that I am, hence from here I create and make my choices. Both are good, without judging, merely the question, what is it YOU want? :O)12/08/2017 #32 Tricia Mitchell#27 Thanks for sharing your experience, @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher & for sharing this buzz. I tried to tag you in comment #31, as your comments made me think of it, but it wasn't having any of it!
I think we come from Source, return to Source and the bit in between is our life, learning, growing, experiencing and a process of remembering who we truly are. I love how you experienced positive changes relating to your son once you stayed at home - something that not everybody is able to do. (Sounds like your daughter was in a hurry!)
Amazing story from when you were 18 months old. Lights obviously hold a special meaning for you. It's great when we have elders who can confirm our childhood memories & I find it fascinating when people or children can remember even being in the womb. I don't have any recollections before the age of 4 years old. Hey ho! Appreciate you contributing.12/08/2017 #31 Tricia Mitchell#27 A friend shared this (author unknown):
THE SOUL IN THE CAVERN
There was a soul whose time had come to take a human birth and so it went to the great cavern, where all such souls went. In the cavern were hundreds of thousands of souls, each manifesting a small blue flame. When its turn came, the soul stood up and said.
“My time has come to take human incarnation, for I have work to do and many lessons to learn. In my life as human I shall need family and loving friends to help me, to love me and to nurture me. Who will be my family on earth?
A ripple flickered across the thousands of flames and shortly a few stood forward and said.
“We do no know you, we have not met before and we are strangers, but being kind and giving love is a pleasant and easy task. We will be your friends and family on earth.”
The soul spoke out and again said.
“And on earth I shall need teachers, people to guide me, to correct me and to discipline me. Who will be my teachers?”
Again a ripple went out around the assembled flames, and a group came forward and said.
“We have known you in other lives and we have grown to respect you and like you. We will take on the task of being your teachers in life.”
And a third time the soul spoke out and said.
“On earth if I am to learn the retest lesson of all, the lesson of humility, tolerance under provocation and to love those who hate me, I shall need people to hate me and to do violence to me. Who will do this for me? Who will be my enemies?
There was a long pause in the cavern until at last a small group came forward and said.
“We are your soul group, we have known you over aeons of time and your growth and your learning are as dear to us as our own. This is the most delicate and difficult task and if you are to be hurt and abused it would be better done by loving friends. We will be your enemies on earth.12/08/2017 #29 Tricia Mitchell#28 thank you for your honest and open response @Lisa Vanderburg I appreciate you sharing your experience of Catholicism. love that we can hold different points of view and still remain receptive to explorations without any investment in the outcome. To be honest, I'm not one who remembers much; it's what I'm continuing to learn now about where I have been and what I know as a result. I've written about a couple of my surreal experiences. Flexibility and freedom will allow us to evolve. Have a blessed day, my dear. ☺12/08/2017 #28 Lisa Vanderburg#26 Thank you, @Tricia Mitchell for your gracious honesty. I tend to think of faith as being different from 'religion' as I was born into Catholicism but soon saw the dangers of rigid dogma. That quote you mention sends shudders down my spine!
I would love to discuss reincarnation with you sometime - respectfully and with the greatest care. We are free to evolve! Many thanks, lovey Lady!12/08/2017 #27 Lisa 🐝 GallagherInteresting topic @Tricia Mitchell. This made me think of death too (but not in a morbid manner). Does consciousness begin at birth and excelerate at death? A question many people have. I believe our souls are energy and energy transfers. One simple thought I keep close to my heart, positive ions attract positive and vice versa for negative ions.
I think the process of birth is underscored. My son had a difficult birth and he was colicky and cried a lot. He was also sick a lot his first 2 yrs of life until I decided to take time off from work and stay home with him. I noticed many positive changes once I was home full time. My daughter's birth was easy in contrast.. 2 pushes and out she came without incident.
Quick story, I was about 18 mos old when my parents took their first trip with me. I remember vividly seeing beautiful lights and I kept saying, 'ooooh, pretty lights." My mom couldn't believe I had that memory. I even knew we were on a bridge crossing over into Canada. Mom confirmed my memory was correct and she was shocked I had the memory. I have never lost my lust for lights at night!
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Comments10/07/2017 #31 Tricia Mitchell#30 I understand what you're saying about feeling bad but, you're right, there is nothing you can do. It was a similar thing with this person, as you describe. I kept giving options: hypnotherapy, reiki, coffee & cake or walking the dogs - I made it as easy as possible, offering to pick her up and drop her off. She would only engage if it was about staying stuck. The emotional distress caused to all was too much, then the family backlash because I'd "deserted her", but I couldn't be around that manipulative energy any longer.
If that friend wishes to come back, they will. If not, you were good enough to leave the door open but they have the choice whether to walk through or close it. Thanks for sharing @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher10/07/2017 #30 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#29 I had to do that with a certain person over a year ago. I felt bad but there was nothing I could do to help and I felt she was self-sabotaging our relationship after she did the same with her family and a few other good friends. I left the door open but I haven't heard from her since.08/07/2017 #29 Tricia Mitchell#28 thanks @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher yes, you summarised it well. I referred to her as an old friend because eventually I had to walk away when I discovered she had become emotionally manipulating. Recycling crises to get sympathy, which (I'd later learn from her daughter) had actually happened weeks earlier. She engaged when speaking about meds & MH professionals. She'd withdraw & fall silent if focusing on anything that may contribute to the solution, which meant facing her reality. The things she did were very damaging emotionally to those around her. For reasons of self-preservation, I eventually severed all ties.08/07/2017 #28 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#27 Thanks for explaining that. Numbness which can lead to situational depression from real life experiences. A great support system can help people when they are going through a hard time. It sounds like she has a good friend in you. Life can be so tough and it can leave people feeling numb, I agree- meds are not the answer in cases like that.07/07/2017 #27 Tricia Mitchell#26 hi @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher I recognise that each person has the right to choose the best course of action for them; I'm not anti meds. My old friend's issue was a social one with her neighbours. Her neighbourhood was a socially & economically deprived area. Meds, sadly, don't factor in any social elements, they just numb feelings, including joy. They take the edge off life, which, if someones been living on a knife's edge is helpful. But it also numbs joy, which is one of the contributors to lifting us out of feeling low. Thanks for replying.07/07/2017 #26 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#24 That's sad to hear about your neighbor. Sometimes meds are needed depending on the severity of the illness but many times doctors either over-medicate or put people on drugs without giving other modalities of treatment a chance. Many times, meds should just be temporary, helping a person to get over their hump period while they receive other therapy.06/07/2017 #24 Tricia Mitchell#23 how wonderfully refreshing @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher that you have an MD who is so aware & interested in healing in the widest sense of the word. He sounds great & totally supportive. When I read your quote of him stating that meds numb, it reminded me of an old friend. She had an ongoing dispute with noisy neighbours.
The ongoing dispute shifted her existing low mood into depression. She felt unable to move home. So, the doctor put her on anti-depressants. The nuisance neighbour situation got worse, the doctor kept increasing the dosage.
It was a social situation that medication could not resolve. Changing the environment, or trying to detach from the situation (with meditation) may have more beneficial than creating the conditions where a plan was needed to gradually reduce the dosage!06/07/2017 #23 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#22 Inspiring @Tricia Mitchell. You wrote: "Doctors practicing functional health understand the mind-body-environment (social) connection. If they could 'prescribe' self training & holistic therapies, in consultation with patients/clients," I am lucky enough to have a Doctor like this. He refrained from giving me meds knowing I'm working with my therapist using EMDR and meditation, along wtih CBT. My therapist even has essential oils to use during the meditative part of our therapy which is at the end. My Doctor looks forward to updates because he's been to a few conferences on EMDR and found it can relieve symptoms for a long time unlike Meds that numb you and give you no chance for a cure... his words. :)05/07/2017 #22 Tricia Mitchell#18 @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher thanks for reading this one and commenting. If I understand you correctly, you're suggesting looking at what others have already done, in terms of methods? I think it's a great idea. Personally, I tend to limit what I take on these days, because I spent a long time "gathering" certificates in order to "prove" I was "good enough" & didn't know when to stop. In my 20s, there would be rookie cowboys out in the field, doing harm & I would be cautious & conscientious, declining work because I wasn't qualified, then I wasn't experienced enough. It was only them making a "pig's ear" out of something that would spur me into action. So, I use the tools I already have& trust that I'll be shown what I need to know or directed to any new training I need.
I wholeheartedly agree with you when you state, "Many of us suffer from lack of inner peace and I going to bet it's great to add layers of self training along with therapy if necessary and a Doctor's help. Why not, it sure can't hurt." Doctors practicing functional health understand the mind-body-environment (social) connection. If they could 'prescribe' self training & holistic therapies, in consultation with patients/clients, it would be so empowering. I think it all boils down to educating the people who are looking for a different solution. Thank you for sharing this buzz in the Mental Health hive. I appreciate it.
+205/07/2017 #21 Tricia Mitchell#15 (Part 3) I am pleased that you've been able to release comingled events through physical releasing using the audios I recorded @Deb 🐝 Helfrich. You wrote, "But I didn't quite understand how intensely, even low level, sub-cognitive stressors and events can affect how we proceed through life." I don't think any of us do, until we stumble across them & then laugh at the absurdity of some of the beliefs. Here's an example I wrote about: https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/foul-play-business-tricia-mitchell where a repeated pattern of successful businesses & wealth SLIPPED AWAY from a man, and the root was found in when he was 15 years old - the chance of a professional football career SLIPPED AWAY from him.
It seems your travels are bringing you back to shore, Deb.
"Hopefully these two different personal narratives can indicate a direction of sorts for those who will have to hack their own way out of their own jungle of memories and the wild things that grew up in their bodymind complex." I hope, too, Deb that others will benefit from our willingness to be open about our journeys & perhaps, be inspired to embark on their own travels to unravel & understand the patterns in their lives. Thank you for your poetic expressions, I do appreciate them, as I do your contributions & engagement with my buzzes.
+105/07/2017 #20 Tricia Mitchell#15 (part 2) I admire that you're able to stay out of words & just allow the process to unfold, as you unfurl. You capture the western approach to dis-ease so eloquently, "Unlike the current, standard, western model that seeks to converge any issue into a set of symptoms that require a fixed remedy, our mind makes connections in a free flowing, relevance-centric way."
I don't know whether I've shared this video clip with you before or not, but this is my trainer talking about a woman who walked out of her job. Events eventually went back to childhood, being hit by a swing as a toddler & then the day that she was born. The belief? When things are going well, I screw it up for others (she was born on Christmas Eve & Xmas was put aside for her older siblings, because the new baby was here). Only when we become aware of the existence of a pattern, "Why does this seem to keep happening to me?" (although life does not happen TO us), can we take steps to change it.
At 3.33 he starts to talk about the ONE BELIEF that we all have in our lives: https://youtu.be/iGCpEjobv-w?t=213 5.05 he uses a bamboo metaphor which illustrates your comment, "We often regard our random thoughts as just that, out of the blue, and yet there has to be some shared salience, for these thoughts to proceed in sequence. Uncovering where events 20 years apart hold the same emotional charge is a new method, to most, for uncovering how our brains have wired certain disparate events together." He introduces Diana's story at 7.43.05/07/2017 #19 Tricia Mitchell#15 Dear @Deb 🐝 Helfrich I enjoy reading your comments. I'm glad you found this post very insightful. Today, I learned that the pioneer of the system I referenced here died, aged 82. My next buzz will be about his journey. Although I never met him, I feel emotional talking about his selfless contribution to the planet, without which, I'm sure I wouldn't be able to affix my spiritual approach to a scientific framework
I love how your approach is away from words, because it was your way of escaping & your rich metaphor of moats and being an island suddenly brings to mind the saying "No man is an island".
It's interesting, looking at Human Design (HD), my chart shows that I have to speak aloud to understand - so the internal healing conversation actually happens externally (I think aloud; I'm one of those "annoying" people who asks for advice, and in talking it through arrives at a conclusion, thanks you for your input, without you uttering a word).
My "obsession" with seeing patterns in everything probably leads to a curious exploration of where this thought may 'fit', which also leads me away of just BE-ing and accepting "It just is". I am an investigator in HD terms, so I'm always going to try to understand what's going on.
I don't think many people are aware of just how compliant the subconscious mind is. Set the intention & it will provide the answers, if it's safe to do so. Tell it to show you the events & it will. It's then our childlike curiosity that can explore the connection, if we wish, between seemingly random events.05/07/2017 #18 Lisa 🐝 GallagherVery interesting stuff @Tricia Mitchell. My thoughts, why not explore methods others have tested. Many of us suffer from lack of inner peace and I going to bet it's great to add layers of self training along with therapy if necessary and a Doctor's help. Why not, it sure can't hurt. Thanks for sharing all of this.05/07/2017 #17 Tricia MitchellIt is late @Deb 🐝 Helfrich and your comments are too rich to respond to now. I will be back tomorrow. Thank you so much for enriching this buzz & adding to the narratives, so those with curious minds may choose to water the seeds that reading this may have planted in their minds.04/07/2017 #16 Deb 🐝 HelfrichPt2 - But the truth is that I wasn't fighting any specific villain or trauma, and I was unaware of how the very low attachment I received in my earliest days played out in my choices and preferences and ultimate withdrawing. Therefore, I didn't keep track of the steps of protection, I didn't even notice them at all. But the boundaries between me and the world went from a mote that a drawbridge could easily connect, to an ever vaster sea as my island of self drifted from shore.
Hopefully these two different personal narratives can indicate a direction of sorts for those who will have to hack their own way out of their own jungle of memories and the wild things that grew up in their bodymind complex.04/07/2017 #15 Deb 🐝 HelfrichI find this a very insightful post, @Tricia Mitchell, as a model of how a personal, internal healing conversation unfolds. Unlike the current, standard, western model that seeks to converge any issue into a set of symptoms that require a fixed remedy, our mind makes connections in a free flowing, relevance-centric way.
We often regard our random thoughts as just that, out of the blue, and yet there has to be some shared salience, for these thoughts to proceed in sequence. Uncovering where events 20 years apart hold the same emotional charge is a new method, to most, for uncovering how our brains have wired certain disparate events together.
As you know, I have been experiencing quite a lot of tremoring as my body releases decades of comingled events, as I listen to your recordings. From the very first, I intuitively felt the power of TRE. But I didn't quite understand how intensely, even low level, sub-cognitive stressors and events can affect how we proceed through life.
In my case, different than yours, I try to stay out of my mind and cognition, as much as possible, since my own way of self-soothing was my ability to retreat into the world of my thoughts. My mind palace was a comforting, fortified place that I spent years trying to escape, rather than just unsecuring the steps I took to secure myself in the first place.04/07/2017 #12 Tricia Mitchell#11 And you expressed it so succinctly. I agree with you entirely, and also, if we don't see the world as it is, but as we are (attributed to the Talmud & others), where there is a lack of inner peace, our outer world will merely reflect that turmoil. I'm resisting making reference to a "political" leader who lacks the finesse and oratory skills required to convey peace to the masses. It all starts with the inner work on ourselves and being at peace with who we are & accepting responsibility for the decisions and choices we make in our lives.
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Comments29/06/2017 #12 Tanya TodorovaI am a partner with FM Group - a company that offer more than 160 perfumes at affordable prices. If you love perfumes I will be glad to invite you to register either as a client, either as a partner and take the chance to purchase real perfumes at affordable prices. Follow the link http://www.fm4you.co.uk/lp/fmworldwide/27/06/2017 #11 Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand AmbassadorI love perfume, especially soft subtle scents. Perfume should be used sparingly and, in fact, some people are allergic to certain scents.
I have always loved the scent of lavender and citrusy scents, as well.
Perhaps, beBee should come out with a perfume - Golden Honey!27/06/2017 #10 Sarah ElkinsThat movie, Perfume: The Story of a Murderer, was so creepy, @Juan Imaz! But I couldn't walk away from watching, it was compelling visually, and the story was intense. I struggle with perfume on others, it seems many people use far too much and it's overwhelming to someone with a sensitive nose like mine. Perfume is best used subtly, with just the barest hint of scent. I discovered my favorite while traveling in Provence, France. When I spray it, from 18 inches or so, and walk into the mist, I'm transported back to that amazing trip to Nice, St. Paul du Vence, and Tuscany. Every time I wear it and hug people, they comment on the lovely scent. Perfume can be magical, when used sparingly!26/06/2017 #6 David B. GrinbergThanks, Juan, for such interesting information on such an pungent topic (lol). I always wear cologne when I go out and have used different brands over the decades starting in high school.
For the past years, my favorite brands have been "Hugo Boss" and "Express Honor for Men." My better half, Nicole, uses "Burberry Brit." In high school and college I recall using "Drakkar Noir" and "Paco Rabban for Men."
What about you, Juan, what's your cologne of choice? Has it changed over the years or decades?
Lastly, I would just note there's a fine line between wearing too much cologne/perfume versus too little. It's very important to use the right amount. No one should want to smell like they bathed in cologne/perfume.26/06/2017 #2 @Julio Angel 🐝Lopez Lopez@Juan Imaz Great article, you already have me fan, poster fan.
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Comments21/06/2017 #23 CityVP 🐝 Manjit#21 Whether these products are tested on animals or not, the premise of cosmetic existence has a cruelty to it. Body image issues, societal prejudice, escalating the cost of living for no other purpose but our own fear of not meeting new social expectations, unnecessary creation of chemicals that don't factor in disposal or harm to environment, so end up as a part of the water cycle. Never mind that injecting chemicals into the social ecosystem ultimately have led to afflictions that are considered unintended consequences of this "social behaviour", like cancer.
Then there is life turned into image and the kind of society Guy Debord called the Society of the Spectacle. A fixation on viewing something normal like balding and turning into a disorder. The rise of allergies because we have become so manic about cleaning that we over-clean and hurt our own immune system. If this was a Woody Allen comedy I would actually laugh.
The whole recipe that goes along with this that ultimately perpetuates group-think. Everyone has a right to use this stuff, but why should I lose a job because I refuse to apply chemicals on me or I pay for believing that growing and aging naturally is my way of life. It is great that we can create a business out of lifestyle but we now have a health system creating new lifestyle drug categories and people are having cosmetic surgery at great personal pain - because the pain of being rejected is much worse for them to take. Advertising works because fear works - this is 20th Century thinking writ large by dinosaur thinkers.
If there was systems thinking involved in this I could rest well assured, but to exist in a world where we don't question these things and not speak up is the world we are actually living in. That is the consequences not of using cosmetics but of the branded and conditioned life and not even recognize that our very lives have becoming product - that we are now the product.21/06/2017 #18 CityVP 🐝 Manjit#16 @Gerald Hecht I don't think that happens widely in most professions, that is the realm of either the digital elite (it is amazing what stock options can do to the neurons) or we are also taking about here what happens in Justin Bieber entourage territory.
Of course we at the mundane Terra Firma level of lived reality, one where HR may be the chief arbiter or perhaps only gatekeeper of our economic intent, at that level what is viewed by HR as a Justin Bieber level brand is often really a Pee-Wee Herman in disguise. Who knows, the success we achieve is more often going to find it's way into an employee newsletter.
BTW good to see RES IPSA LOQUITUR! being quoted in what I call with absolute my usual charm, your Hechtic contributions. "Long live the Hechtics!" (think here the dynamic perspective of the heretic and not a linear representation of the hectic).21/06/2017 #17 CityVP 🐝 Manjit#15 Debasish according to this BBC Earth article it seems to refute what we may think creatures in nature exercise http://www.bbc.com/earth/story/20150206-are-there-any-homosexual-animals but seeing a primate shaving and pruning their own face, now evidence for that is harder to find.
It is difficult for me to see an animal engaged in a facial. Now it is true that consciousness gives us a huge edge in life, but how it is that consciousness led to us living a branded existence?
This firstly demonstrates just how much of the gift of our own consciousness we waste day after day and secondly should lead us to ask what drives us to this kind of behaviour. That behaviour is, for me, an example of our animal self - because tribal behaviour is our animal self - not our deepest human self. That small percentage of our being which is truly human, now that is worth spending considerable time with and actually represents the wisest possible utilization of our human consciousness.
I also empathize with Gerald that we can be given a brain that has capacity for God like powers but then as a researcher or a scientists with this gift, are then settling for experimenting with compounds, because some man wants his cheeks puffed. After all if the most reasonable paying job in town is spraying male perfume into rats eyes, then that is brand reality right there.21/06/2017 #16 Gerald Hecht#13 @CityVP 🐝 Manjit yeah...my new benchmark is to see if anyone is being given "Pink Cadillacs" based on performance --that doesn't happen in science, lol; and Keith Richards version of "manscaping" (it's funny how my autocorrect turns that into "man-aping") hasn't seemed to have backfired: http://www.vogue.com/article/patti-hansen-rock-steady
RES IPSA LOQUITUR!21/06/2017 #14 Gerald Hecht#13 @CityVP 🐝 Manjit I take important to remember that there is no actual scientific/biomedical basis (other than human scratch test/desensitization for allergic reactions, etc.) for cosmetics FOR ANY REASON.
Giving some of this stuff a name like "cosmetology" can (in the mind of folks whose eyes are already covered in dust) can lend the impression that THIS really IS A SCIENCE; Nope...instant red card!
For both women and men; health/fitness/hygiene is one thing...cosmetics are either 1)a broken crutch for sentients with broken self esteem or 2) a "Halloween Thingie" for people who (for whatever reason) wish to do some entertainment or imitate a mating ritual conducted by (usually males) individual members of non-human (usually wild animal species) and usually under neuroendocrine control because their survival requires specific estrous cycles, as opposed to human menstrual cycles and concomitant options.
Testing Cosmetics as if they were testing a promising Alzheimer's Therapy is analogous to testing potential doping agents as legitimate exercise physiology.
In front of many people who don't work in the field and don't know their ass from their mouth 👄 in these techniques.
I don't believe this is an IMHO situation either; we all know this.21/06/2017 #13 CityVP 🐝 Manjit#12 When it comes to physical cruelty what the cosmetics industry have done with testing cosmetic products on caged animals can be considered as a "cost of progress", one which we can turn a total blind eye to, but I cannot turn a blind eye to it, it is not a part of my constitution packaged within me which we like to describe as "humanity".
To me a caged animal does not necessarily have to be the only example of animal cruelty, but also a human resources mindset. If anything I put a call out to organizations who consider themselves truly 21s Century to call human resources what it should be called, which is "Animal Resources".
Once we put life on that equal footing - and here less is not more when we are settling for less, we begin to realize to what extent we are a caged animal of human resources. To me the 20th Century human resources industry is a broken home and it is need of intervention and if you want to get a taste of a cruel professional culture, spend some quality time with dog-eat-dog recruiters.
Just because the human resources industry are the chief purveyors of what should be counted as a redundant mindset, does not mean that we should be willing animals consuming their dog food. When we see things called "employee engagement", we should substitute those words with "lab-rat engagement". If my thinking is the difference between me not getting a job and having this caged mindset - keep your job, no wonder people call HR - "Human Remains" - and in this cage we remain product.21/06/2017 #12 Gerald Hecht#9 @Simone I agree that it's important for people to take care of ourselves; I'm increasingly concerned (I must admit) between the deliberate confusion (shareholder driven) between 1) health/hygiene and 2) cosmetics.
The first assignment I ever had in (what appeared to be a biomedical laboratory)...I currently work on getting at the key denominators underlying neurodegenerative disorders and Neurotoxicological/Neuropharmacological mechanisms underlying compulsive amphetamine and opioid self administration.
Anyway my first "job in the field looked like that type of environment...I was told to perform Druze Assessments of "Shampoo Candidates" on awake rabbits under mechanical restraint and unable to move.
Later, my first Neuroscience Animal subjects were "Liberated" by an Animal Rights group who made know distinction between 1) clubbing baby seals for their pelts or dropping 4.3 pH drops in the unprotected corneas of rabbits and 2) trying to discover the key to things like Parkinson's, Alzheimer's, ALS, CNS-specific-Prion-induced-genetic-errors in protein folding, etc.
They spray painted death threats to monsters such as myself for torturing animals.
The animals that they condemned to gruesome deaths (for months) hit by cars all over campus, exposure, starvation, dehydration, death by cat, etc.
One young woman in leather moccasins called me a Nazi and spit in my direction before heading off to the campus food court.
I don't blame her, and her hair smelled lovely, like a dream21/06/2017 #10 Simone Luise Hardthi Juan :) great article :) and yes, it´s (still) an expanding ;) market ;) and to me personally, every men should look after his looks ;) it´s not only the "intrinsic values" that count ;) outer appearance is important too ;) Have a great day/evening today :)
Regards Simone :)
campaign@work(c)21/06/2017 #8 Gerald Hecht#7 @CityVP 🐝 Manjit that actually...I'm keeping that one ...when you put that way (especially the "narcotics-narcissism " thingie)...it's not all that upsetting to me ; it's a actually a logical progression that accounts for a wide range of phenomena which are more interconnected...then I was considering...thank you...I was overly worried about something because I was tired and "tunnel visioning!"21/06/2017 #7 CityVP 🐝 Manjit#6 Look at it another way. Women wanted equality and did not want men treating them like objects. Instead men now become objects so ipso facto, women get equality. That is about the same narco-quality mindset behind personal branding. It is wonderful to know that the term narcotics and narcissism are related twins. Actually I do need to stop thinking for a mo now, because I need to practice my newly acquired cosmetically enhanced smile. Botox anyone?21/06/2017 #6 Gerald Hecht#5 @CityVP 🐝 Manjit that's a lot of information about cosmetics; I thought this was about the beautiful game: howxit in Portuguese ? o novo bonito (or something like that)...please don't tell me it was about makeup...my son is a futball fanatic, Messe was his first role model but that's because I still do a faster mile than him --but he's thirteen and that's gonna reverse soon enough... but the HgH was hard enough to explain...cosmetics?!
OMG NO...please No21/06/2017 #5 CityVP 🐝 ManjitBeing that cosmetic life is what is being sold it should not come as a surprise. If being cosmetic is what people choose, I say good for them. The Roman Empire got highly cosmetic before it finally cratered. Now if I happen to see through this cosmetic existence, it does not help me none. Each kids in our house wants that dream wedding and entire cosmetic wedding planning industry has convinced them that anything short of $60,000 for their big day is not good enough for them. Now by the time all our eight kids get married, my family will have spent 1/2 million dollars to satisfy this highly cosmetic need.
It is fine giving the kids what they want, but as other kids want to emulate and do the same, the cost over the long term in psychic terms is a steady escalation. Not only does cosmetic existence add to the cost of living, it silently increases the degree of prejudice we have - and in this arms race there are two industries that laugh all the way to the bank, the first is the cosmetic industry, but its cousin is happy as pigs too and that of course is cousin Big Pharma. Instead of moving towards the 21st Century, instead we are moving backwards to the 18th Century, when men were at their cosmetic high-point. So the lipstick and wigs come back - all that means is that it is the past reviving as it once was. The leaders of this particular revolution deserve to called cosmetic.
Trying to be David Beckham has just one little flaw to it, there is one David Beckham - the rest are just cronies and copycats - and so I say praise the Lord for all those who want to do for the next few years what Disco did for the 70's. This too shall pass.21/06/2017 #4 Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand AmbassadorNo surprise. Men like to look their best too. Job seeking, competition in the workplace, attracting women or other men have an impact on how men feel about themselves. I think it is great there are cosmetics especially geared toward men.
- Producer13/06/2017Why Dental Care Should Be a Priority for ProfessionalsDental care plays an important role in society. First impressions are important and lasting which ultimately can make or break your opportunities. Maintain a healthy smile can open a world of opportunities. Professionals need to strive on...
Comments25/06/2017 #16 CityVP 🐝 ManjitThe physical aspect here is something I am totally with, but the image side, of course not. This idea that people should have "white teeth" is an abomination when at best healthy teeth are off-white not fake white. I care deeply about health but not social judgements - because I am not going to placate or uphold human resource values that belong in the dustbin of the 20th Century.
Creating a prejudiced view of the human body perpetuates image disorder and creates markets based on bad science. Health should come before image and as the decades progress, an industry dedicated to make us believe how we should look according to a false representation of the human self, is a form of professionalism (as special interest) that should face deeper inspection as an attitude that represents thinking from the past - not a freedom for the future. Health however is freedom.
This is a subject that is worthy of me writing a separate buzz but also worthy of including in physical intelligence - because the physical (rather than social or psychological) component of having healthy teeth is a worthy message and worth developing further. We should focus on science rather than religious belief that advocates people to be more concerned about image and cosmetic economics than in the basics of evidence based health. Personal branding is a religious movement not a science, where the chief deity is image and persona.
To add to the cost of living in an age where there is increasing complexity is not something I am going to support but a renaissance society that gets past these dark ages of body image (whiter teeth) and moves us towards holistic health - that is a movement towards enlightenment and the kind of 21st Century life I do support. BTW would anyone advocate whiter skin???25/06/2017 #12 Javier 🐝 beBee@Juan Imaz @Rafael García Romano @Matt 🐝 Sweetwood @Virag🐝 G. @John White, MBA @Roberto Ferri @Marta Carretero Garcia @Emilio Naveso Gonzalez
Have a look at this
https://www.google.es/search?q=Dental+Care+Should+Be+a+Priority&oq=Dental+Care+Should+Be+a+Priority&aqs=chrome..69i57j69i60.263j0j1&sourceid=chrome&ie=UTF-814/06/2017 #6 David B. GrinbergThanks for the helpful and healthful advice, Juan. You are certainly well versed in this subject area. I use a Sonicare electric toothbrush. Are those sold in Spain? http://www.usa.philips.com/c-m-pe/electric-toothbrushes
Lastly, I never understood why it's accepted for people in the UK to have bad teeth? Do you know why the British don't heed the astute advice you have articulated here? Just wondering. Lastly, let's not forget that old saying that a nice smile (with good teeth) can brighten another person's day. This fits one of my life theories: in giving we receive.
Looking forward to your next brilliant buzz, Juan.14/06/2017 #4 Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand AmbassadorSmiles are the first impression when we meet one another. Oral hygiene is a priority in our personal and business lives. In the US, dentistry is expensive, even with dental insurance. My dentist advised I get an electric toothbrush, which I've had for 5 or 6 years. I would suggest a well known brand, such as Oral B and be sure to change the heads when they show signs of wear.
- Producer01/06/2017The Importance of Flexibility and Empathy in BusinessAs we make way for the robot revolution, we increasingly discover that the most important business skills come from decision-making using empathy, flexibility and patience. In today’s society where many hold university degrees and have years of...
Comments05/06/2017 #25 Harvey LloydI believe that you have discussed the finer points of true leadership qualities. I do believe that empathy and flexibility are a part of the success dynamic. I would want to add to the matrix "motivation". Empathy and flexibility will eventually reveal the motivation for the application of these skills. Nothing is more devastating to learn that what was perceived as empathy or flexibility turns out to be a power play by the individual executing the skill.
The genuine care of another individual and their success has to be the bases for empathy. Even to the point of self sacrifice. Empathy is something we can use to determine if our journeys align, fully understanding each other's motives can establish a trust to go forward or a trust that it can't work out.
Having watched many of my younger contemporaries exercise the skill of empathy and flexibility with no/poor/understanding, motives of why, ends in disaster. Discussing in an empathetic way how the team can help a member grow while they help others is the true essence of empathy.02/06/2017 #17 🐝 Fatima G. Williams@Juan Imaz And this is why beBee is at the centre of my heart."We listen to what our users have to say about beBee, how we can improve and what changes they want to see in the future.
Without our users, there would be no product. Our users are our key and priority."
You give People, passion and performance the value they need. People feel like home here ! Money and status have no value here. #beBee rocks #keepbuzzing02/06/2017 #15 Lada 🏡 Prkic"Without our users, there would be no product. Our users are our key and priority. The evolution of beBee grows and adapts with its users." Such approach is what keeps us, users, firmly here. Thank you, @Juan Imaz View more"Without our users, there would be no product. Our users are our key and priority. The evolution of beBee grows and adapts with its users." Such approach is what keeps us, users, firmly here. Thank you, @Juan Imaz. Close02/06/2017 #11 David B. GrinbergThanks so much, Juan, for sharing such valuable information for leadership development. You and @Javier 🐝 beBee exemplify the critically important qualities pointed out if one aspires to success in business -- and especially within the startup/tech community. This is brilliant advice from someone who speaks from first-hand experience. It's too bad there are not more executive leaders in the social media space like you guys. The dynamic duo! Again, thank you for sharing your words of wisdom, from which we can also learn and prosper.02/06/2017 #9 Lance 🐝 Scoular# 8
I am a beta tester for the duplicate message Snapchat app, and I guess all beBee users are beta testers, yet the level of engagement from @Javier 🐝 beBee @Juan Imazju and their team has been amazing.
This is not hype.
It is fact.
I have had a lot of issues with Live Buzz. However, any feedback submitted received almost immediate response.
Particularly @Federico 🐝 Álvarez San Martín
I therefore felt encouraged to do more Lice Buzz testing to assist with improving the product and look forward a better product in the iminent beBee sostware update.
Flexbility, pivoting and empathy displayed by all concerned.
🐝🐝🍯📈📊🥇02/06/2017 #8 Lance 🐝 ScoularPart 1/2
Having invested time and expertise, more so than money, in a number of start-ups as well as a few mature small to medium enterprises (SMEs) over the last few years, I have experienced the values and concepts discussed here.
It is almost a year since @David B. Grinberg , recommended I give beBee a try.
Having spent a few months reseaching and then jumping in and giving Snapchat a full on test drive, I was a tad dubious, but out of respect for David I thought I would dip my toe in the water.
I was pleasantly surprised.
cont 2/202/06/2017 #6 David 🐝 Martín Alonso"In this fast paced society and competitive marketplace, leadership skills such as flexibility and empathy are the skills required to make the best decisions and to take advantage of opportunity. Great leaders have the ability to use the traits in communicating in an advantageous way to their employees, team, partners and users"
Many thanks for this master class, just needed to read something like this @Juan Imaz
- Producer29/05/2017A Mindful MemeoI keep my mouth shut a lot. To be honest sometimes I want to punch people for the things they say and do and I don't because I control myself, I don't get into my feelings and sometimes expressing your feelings and opinions is pretty much the same...
- Producer26/05/20176 Benefits of Flexible Working Hours for Start-UpsEntrepreneurs are faced with the difficult decision of having a fixed or flexible work schedule for their employees. The digital age has brought with it the option to work from anywhere. Remote working and flexible hours are tomorrow’s norm....
Comments27/05/2017 #13 Robert CormackCompanies that reject flex-hours are a bit of an anachronism, much like publishers still demanding manuscripts be sent by hard copy (with self-addressed envelopes). As a freelancer for 25 years, I only dealt with one client (agency) requiring me be on site every day (the president didn't trust anyone). Trust is really the issue here. If you're insisting that everyone be on-site, working traditional hours, etc., you actually lose something in the process. Good thinkers are working around the clock. They construct ideas, notions, strategies even in the shower. Imagine going from this environment to being forced into an office (and a cubicle) each day. The noise is deafening and so much time is wasted with chatter and silly "requirements." If Gates is serious (Microsoft still requires staff to be on site), he should show by example how effective letting people work in their own environments (on their own hours) can be. My best working time is 4:00 am. Between then and 9 o'clock, I accomplish more than a week in an agency. Thanks for the post @Juan Imaz. Very interesting.26/05/2017 #12 David B. GrinbergJuan, I also want to add per point #6 that studies and anecdotal evidence show that more Millennials view work autonomy as a non-negotiable job criteria. Moreover, Millennial workers are in high demand and will soon comprise the majority of the global workforce compared to other age groups, especially as Baby Boomers and GenXers increasingly retire. I also assume that Gen Z -- the younger cohort of Millennials -- will also demand flexible work options as a prerequisite for considering any job offer. Although most members of Gen Z are still in high school, the oldest members of this demographic are starting to graduate college and embark on their first professional jobs. Therefore, flex work is a major incentive to them as well.
Thus, it's important for employers to recognize why flex work makes good business sense from the standpoint of recruiting, hiring and retaining the best available talent, particularly among a new generation of young people. Employers who ignore flex work options do so at their peril, as talented applicants will be hired by the competition. On the employee side, it's critically important to remember that with increased work autonomy comes increased accountability and trust by management.
Thanks again, Juan, for a terrific and timely read. FYI - here's another buzz I wrote about an emerging flex work management model: Results-Only Work Environments (ROWE) https://www.bebee.com/producer/@dbgrinberg/new-work-paradigm-for-millennials-gen-z-is-results-only26/05/2017 #11 David B. GrinbergKudos, Juan, on another brilliant buzz full of important insights and astute advice. I've been a long-time proponent of work flexibility because, put simply, it just makes good business sense in today's fast-evolving mobile, digital and virtual high-tech workplace.
Thus, I hope employers take note of the business benefits you point out of allowing flexible work options for employees -- which, as you note above, increases engagement, productivity, morale, job satisfaction, and company loyalty (among other things).
FYI, here's my buzz from June 2016 on the Top 10 reasons why telework makes good business sense https://www.bebee.com/producer/@dbgrinberg/top-10-reasons-why-telework-makes-good-business-sense-in-the-digital-age26/05/2017 #9 Matt 🐝 SweetwoodQuite frankly this is at the heart of why most people, including myself, would chose to work for a start-up. After having run a company that operated for 12 hours a day, 7 days a week, I wanted a job that afforded me the time-space to be creative in way that was better for me. A traditional CEO role at a traditional company would simply have me in the same grind I left when I sold my business. beBee offices are in a Wework in New York which is filed with start ups. The flexibility of work hours can be seen on the faces of people walking around there. They are happy, they socialize more and just seem way more creative. This is a great post, sharing... @John White, MBA @Virag🐝 G.26/05/2017 #7 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.thank you, start-ups will be grateful for this post!26/05/2017 #6 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.king bee post!26/05/2017 #4 CityVP 🐝 ManjitI am glad that this buzz leads with the word "Workers' and not "Employees". Workers should denote those people who do the work. That is not necessarily true with the word "employees" when it means being employed under someone else's dime. Employees are pampered in large organizations but workers still do the work.
The next key word is agile. Agile works when the workers an organization hires are really good, they know how to do the job and the organization has headhunted the best of the best - so why then would an organization stand in their way and create rules that impeded and get in the way of their job. If you hire the best, let them work and here flexible hours are intelligent hours. It is a win-win - a worker that wants to work and wants to flourish using abilities and gaining new abilities.
The reason organizations with bloated HR need to create policies is because not all organizations can command the best minds, so an organization hires B-Players or what Steve Jobs called BOZO LEADERSHIP and the whole organization is then either dumbed down or policy driven because the policy is to protect the organization from bad workers. This is when comedies like Office Place find their material for "TPS Reports" and having these "Lumbergs" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Fy3rjQGc6lA In this case flexible work is a crazy idea - to give people who are experts at playing the game, the opportunity to game flexible time - not good.
Bottom dollar, hire really good people, get out of the way unless they ask for development and then work on a win-win basis, but hire a good person and throw them into an "employee culture" and expect the good person to be the one who is burned. So if your organization needs to downsize, do not call me - I have become very tired watching over decades, this kind of BS. Flexible work is not BS but it needs to stay clear of BS in order to create a win-win scenario.26/05/2017 #3 AnonymousThank you @Juan Imaz for sharing your excellent approach to enlight the flexibilty's prism. I like very much the idea like compensating differentials to steer the work efficiency needs, targeted. That can be an entire package of well-being in corporate life, to reduce the paradox of the risk intermingling between work and family life, if strict boundaries can be set and shared both sides.
- Producer12/05/2017A SenseSational SightThis drawing questions the premise that possessing eyes are required to see.Although Ape Man here is eyeless he is never-the-less is looking left and reacting to what he sees.Conversely those of us with eyes frequently fail to see frequently fail to...
- Producer10/05/2017Love and HateThis is a painting about symbolic conflict.It uses two symbols: the Swastika, an ancient religious symbol co-opted by the Nazi Party, and the Heart, a religious ideograph that dates back to the 13th Century.Adding faces to these ancient symbols...
- 26/04/2017Well I wanted to upload a video where kids say hi to. Bebee and that's not an option unless you upload it to another social media site first . Lyon Brave's advice to Bebee come in get independent of instagram and Facebook
- 25/04/2017This is a post worth visiting if you've ever tried to quickly fact check a cognitive bias. I like this guy's style - a lot - and I think his post typifies the gold mines we can stumble across on the internet every day. And, yes, I invited him to beBee!Cognitive bias cheat sheet, simplifiedwww.linkedin.com Four months ago I attempted to synthesize Wikipedia’s crazy list of cognitive biases, and after banging my head against the wall for weeks, came...
- Producer23/04/2017A Stand Alone CommentI am sure you can relate to my experiences of being drawn into dynamic posts and discussions. It is great to be able to share these posts but often just "liking" a comment doesn't feel enough. A few times in the past I shared comments off the...
Comments23/04/2017 #6 Ian WeinbergWow, I didn't even see this earlier on @Sara Jacobovici Really humbled by this. There is some real magic developing here. There is an uplifting of mind and soul with the likes of you, @Deb 🐝 Helfrich @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee @Harvey Lloyd and others. I feel truly privileged to be able to share this sacred space with you all.23/04/2017 #5 Deb 🐝 HelfrichAbsolutely a comment by @Ian Weinberg that deserves a stand-alone treatment! Very well-selected, Sara.
As to the content of the comment, this line provides a template for how we should be evaluating most of what we do. Our time invested is our single most preciously commodity. Why do we chose to do things (not mandated by participating in a society) that do not bring this sort of flow into our lives?
" It is purely a personal, creative space from which personal gratification sustains our vitality and ongoing engagement."
Even things like preparing a meal or cleaning can be imbibed with this sort of personal gratification if we monitor our perspective. It is really our perspective on any given task which determines whether it sustains or increases our vitality. And if we don't chose to habituate this beneficial perspective, the default will become that we allow most situations to drain us.
I am still working my way through the discussions on this very impactful buzz by @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee - I find this occupation to be the definition of work that sustains my vitality.
I am grateful for all the human energy that has made beBee an emergent zone of freedom and authenticity that enhances community!23/04/2017 #4 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBeeThank you so much @Ian Weinberg for your uplifting of my soul. It is great contributions from great minds that give any buzz I write a value. I truly mean it. As I reviewed all the comments this morning on my buzz I paused a lot on quite lovely comments and surely one of them the Quote in this buzz by @Sara Jacobovici. I wonder if we weren't exchanging deep comments if we would write such valuable comments. In my case, I dare say loudly that most of my buzzes resulted from these discussions. I learn from them. I enjoy their depth and challenge. I am not fearful to lose a friend because of disagreement of opinion. We created a healthy environment for all of us to thrive. I am honored to be connected with all of you, Ian.23/04/2017 #3 Ian Weinberg#1 @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee Equal to the the nature of the content of dialogue is the milieu that supports and promotes that dialogue and the collective evolution that follows. In this regard you have contributed to both. You are a great value contributor to us all and to the extended environment. I wish to acknowledge this and salute you.23/04/2017 #1 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBeeYou are very daring @Sara Jacobovici. You selected a great comment by @Ian Weinberg. You now that there are also other valuable comments on my mentioned buzz. I am elevated because reading the comments on the buzz reflect how commenters enriched each other and brought the best of their minds. I am truly honored to be mentioned in your buzz and more honored to have so many great minds participating in the discussions. These discussions prove the point the active engagements shall bring the best of us. Authenticity without being excessively authentic is the way ahead in my humble view.
- Producer15/03/2017The problem with GusThis is the story of Gus. Gus like all of us was once a dependent infant. He required feeds, security and love. Unfortunately there were times when Gus’s needs weren’t promptly met. With the dropping of his blood sugar levels and the delay in...
Comments23/04/2017 #38 Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBeeDr. Spock was said to have expressed that he created a generation of monsters. I read him religiously before and after the birth of my first. Did he coin the term partial reinforcement? I deliberately waited to fulfill the needs of my first. My second was born with hyaline membrane disease with a subsequent collapsed lung and I sprung into action each time he cried. What a difference between my two guys that exists even today.30/03/2017 #37 Gerald Hecht#33 yea...you know @Brian McKenzie even society's "machinations"... like "the legal system" ...just a way for society to slap it self on the back and tell itself: "we done good"...and the individuals who fall for it until its too late...fortunately, I was able to bear witness to the machine --as it was given the assignment of providing a remedy for its own affirmative action based rationale for violating the due process rights of myself (in the role of the individual)... I got to see its uselessness from the "best front row seats in the house".
Now, finally, I can truly say..."I know some stuff"!16/03/2017 #35 Ken BoddieLove the psycho-physiological theme, Ian, and the sound advice. A seriously entertaining read with a meaningful moral. So ..... just to tick all the boxes, we should stop spitting the dummy, avoid the one finger rule, think outside the square, and stop acting like a bunch of trolls?. Easy peasy! Got it!
Now pardon me for asking, but what's in it for me?
Sorry, mate, just applying some tensile force to your lower extremity. 🤣16/03/2017 #33 Brian McKenzie#27 @Gerald Hecht I have no inclination nor motivation to save 'society' - I am quite content to throw gas on the embers to help its destruction any way I can. $ociety is the enemy of the individual - it nearly always has been. How many iterations of "If you dont follow our (often arbitrary & capricious) imposed rules you will be fined, tortured, cast out, imprisoned, excommunicated or executed" do you need to show this as true?15/03/2017 #31 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.Love the way you brought it @Ian Weinberg, a good reminder!15/03/2017 #30 Sara JacoboviciThanks for the tag @Ian Weinberg. You have Gus down pact and I am encouraged to see that there is a Charlie and all the other variables because that's what keeps things so interesting. When we work backwards, we can see the route a Gus has taken. But it's the variables, those who had the same outset but took different turns, who help us marvel at what it means to be human. I would be worried if I heard you say that you have nailed it after x number of years. No matter how predictable we are, there is always someone who can still surprise us.15/03/2017 #28 Ian Weinberg#23 Why not @Gerald. BTW, in my actual program the Gus's are referred to as Bravo's and those that never experienced any meaningful response to their needs emerged as 'Charlies' - low self-esteem, hopeless-helpless with raging levels of pro-inflammatory cytokines. All the variables that you mention are indeed relevant - but where to start? I've been profiling now for 25 years and still haven't nailed it. I'm aiming for some posthumous recognition ...15/03/2017 #27 Gerald HechtWait...what if @Brian McKenzie cottoned on to the critical variable straight away...imagination! That would be cool! Some people better than others at keeping themselves amused under conditions of deprivation...from the "outside", it would look like "a high tolerance for deprivation" and a desire to put society's needs ahead of one's own: "Self-sacrifice"!
Society benefiting from the behavior of an individual who is clueless to the fact that they are putting the needs of society ahead of their own.
That would be something...15/03/2017 #26 Harvey Lloyd#15 I agree with the devoid of feeling area but even intellectually you walk away wondering what happened. I went for the therapy but decided against it as I had decorated and installed a tv. So i was fairly comfortable. once you become inverted the following applies. If you are not the lead dog the view never changes.15/03/2017 #23 Gerald HechtBrilliant Ian! Of course, (like all of your stuff) it is spawing questions at an alarming rate --some, just silly, and some serious and possibly testable;
a silly one would be that usually that expression about a male counterpoint to "Debbie Downer" is often called a "Gloomy Gus"...but this Gus can't afford that action (until his premature death).
A testable one might be something like: Given that we start out in with the same limited repertoire as Gus...why are some of us more "Guslike" than others?
We can only guess and test...one possible answer is an "uncomfortable" one; namely that having relatively "inattentive" or "emotionally absent" caregivers could , in the long run be "good for society" (Gus' Amygdala is conditioned from the get go to "wait it out".
Alternatively, there could be individual differences in how we develop "deal with it" tactics.
Also Alternatively, there may be innate (as in genetic) differences in reward sensitivity...like a disease model of addiction.
It could be a number of other things as well.
We should start work right away, I'll send you my a'lol
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Comments30/05/2017 #30 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#29 Personally, they've never worked for me. Some people say Kava works. Studies have been done which state Kava doesn't. I never benefited from it. Maybe others would know? They do sell teas specifically for stress, a company named Yogi sells one. You can get it in the grocery store. It wouldn't hurt to try, maybe it would work for you. B vitamins are supposed to be really good for anxiety. You have to take B Complex with B12. I buy both and get sublingual drops. They sell sublingual B12 too. It takes time for a vitamin regime to begin to work if it's going to but that is well worth trying.26/04/2017 #27 🐝 Fatima G. WilliamsI kept sharing this cause I know the heart and mind that wrote it and to show you I am there to support you in any way. I learnt alot about anxiety and how it can affect us through your stories. I would like to say "You Got this Lisa and your going to have a fantastic trip" :)20/04/2017 #19 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#15 Hi @Renée 🐝 Cormier, sadly with GAD (Generalized Anxiety Disorder) thoughts do control you in a strange way. That's one of the reasons I'm in therapy working on reprogramming my brain per se. Intrusive thoughts are unwanted thoughts that play over and over like a broken record in your mind no matter what thoughts you try to replace them with, they return instantly. I never realized how much my thoughts controlled me until I sought help. That is *one* of my issues and I actually thought for a very long time that I was weak and should be able to control my thoughts- I worked hard daily w/out success and just became more worn down physically, When people are inflicted with intrusive thoughts they beat themselves up more than anyone. Logically, a person will keep saying, "This is BS, I need to stop thinking these thoughts, re-direct... think about all the positive things going on, think of wonderful memories," eg, it's only a temporary (very temporary) reprieve. Don't get me wrong, I'm not a negative Nancy no matter how it may appear when I write. I agree, we can choose our thoughts but we aren't always in control. I appreciate you taking the time to read this. :)20/04/2017 #14 Robert CormackYou'll excuse my language, @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher, but one of the most therapeutic things you can do is tell your brain to "f**k off." I know it sounds crazy but our rambling minds can sometimes create panic that goes way beyond reality. Every time you feel anxious, just use those two little words. Say them to yourself or say them out loud. And just keep saying it until your brain calms down.20/04/2017 #10 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBeeI just wonder if your attention is spread over many issues if this would lead to increased anxiety @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher! You seem to enjoy trying variety of things and this may ead to some anxiety. I wonder if I am right. Great buzz because you share your own experiences and therefore the reader trusts you. Sharing20/04/2017 #9 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#8 My son is doing a race at Pikes Peak this summer! Every year my son, my brother, and brother in law do Mt. Evans bike race, it's become a yearly tradition for them. Pikes Peak I've yet to see. I think my son wanted to drive me up there the last time but I said no... Isn't that where you can see the Continental Divide from?
Comments16/04/2017 #1 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.so true @Lyon Brave
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Comments23/04/2017 #14 Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador#13 Ben, the Gulf Coast is beautiful. I lived in Tampa for a couple of years, which isn't one of my favorite cities. However, where you live, in Bradenton, is primo and Sarasota is one of my favorite cities in Florida. Florida is full of opportunities, IMO.22/04/2017 #11 Lyon Brave#8 @Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador
I will try to check out Miami to see what it has to offer, but I wouldn't say it was my dream lol. I ended up in FL because my plans didn't workout. Basically, this is where i ended up after pulling the emergency hatch in the airplane.15/04/2017 #9 Ben PintoThere is no better way to learn Spanish than to learn it from Michel Thomas. He passed away a few years ago. He was the number one linguest for the underground resistance. Go to www.michelthomas.com View moreThere is no better way to learn Spanish than to learn it from Michel Thomas. He passed away a few years ago. He was the number one linguest for the underground resistance. Go to www.michelthomas.com and check out the page of recommendations by statesmen, clelebrities, leaders, etc. and you will be a believer. Nothing to rehearse or memorize. No sentences like 'where is the post office.' By the end of the first CD you are conversing. By the end of the 8th you will be thinking in that language!!!! Close15/04/2017 #8 Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador@Lyon Brave, don't give up your dreams. There are many opportunities in Florida. I lived in South Florida for 10 years and loved it. You are close to Miami and the whole South Florida area. I see from your profile you do voice over work and love music. Miami has a lot to offer in these areas.
I would definitely contact Candice because it's a good idea to know someone in the area plus she may know of existing opportunities.
I would advise you to learn Spanish, which it is pretty easy to learn if you are there.15/04/2017 #6 Ben Pinto#4 OMG so totally didn't know about the Australia connection. I only said it because if you think Bushnell is deadsville, I would think that the outback would be too; no beaches. I hope the part you love about my comment has to do with my feelings for your penmanship or my original quote or that you ARE Brave.
My wife and I live in Bradenton, near Sarasota. Sarasota would be perfect for someone like you. Tons of culture and near what have been called some of the best beaches in the USA.15/04/2017 #5 Deb 🐝 HelfrichWell, @Lyon Brave - your Miami life-style is still yours for the designing. Candice isn't going to come get you, but you can create your way to what is next. Put aside the harsh reality and figure out what you have to offer that you can pitch to anyone in Miami - and put that effort into the holes in your schedule where the beach and dancing was meant to go.
Dream big, write up what you have to offer, and use this platform to see what sorts of circles you can infiltrate.
Don't give up on Miami until you've actually given Miami a true go.15/04/2017 #3 Lyon Brave#2 @Ben Pinto I think you are right. Florida could be very cool place. You guys inspired me to look at my greater surroundings. @David B. Grinberg Thanks for the advice. I think I will look around and explore before deciding what to do. Yeah, I don't need to change states. Just cities. DUH. Just like the safety net of knowing people and the area in Phoenix.15/04/2017 #2 Ben PintoDon't give up on Florida. If you ever find yourself in Australia don't live in any place with "bush" in the name. Remember Lyon... "There is a LION in every milLIONaire." Ben Pinto 'so you are not too far off... stay brave!!! PS. I love your writing style and you dry wit and your funny stuff. What personality profile are you? I am an ENFP which is easy for me to remember: bEN F. Pinto - that's the last two letters of my first name, F 'For middle initial, and P from my last name.15/04/2017 #1 David B. GrinbergI'm sorry to hear things didn't work out as planned, Lyon, but don't give up hope just yet. Perhaps you've heard that saying: it's always darkest before the dawn. My suggestion is, since you're in South Florida anyway, why not check out jobs in Miami Beach and try to move there for a while. There's a huge tourism, hospitality and retail industry surrounding the South Beach area in particular. There's also a vibrant art and night life scene. Oh, and did I mention the beach and ocean. Why not take one more shot to make your dream become reality before leaving the Sunshine State? I'm sure there are obstacles, but if you persist, stay positive and keep the faith you never know how it could turn out. You might even look back later and be aghast that you almost left. The worst that could happen is it doesn't work out in Miami Beach. But at least you know you tried and leave without any regrets of what might have been. I also like that saying, "You're closer than you think." Success can be just around the corner. Remember, we all go through adversity on the road to success, happiness and fulfillment. Don't give up just yet. I know you can do it!
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Comments20/04/2017 #47 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#45 Good point about Prince Harry @Nicole Chardenet. I was thrilled that he went public. Many times this is what happens, we think we have our past covered. Only to find out years later it was lingered deep within but it was never buried. I pray that with more and more people making this topic 'normalized,' the stigma attached will begin to disappear one day. As my Dr. told me today, it's a medical illness because it does affect the physical body if it goes on too long. And our brains are organs... why should it not be considered medical, right? Thanks Nicole. PS: I have been offline for the most for the past week, I was not feeling well. I will be back in full force soon!19/04/2017 #46 Deb🐝 Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee@Lisa 🐝 Gallagher I am glad you are finally working out how to release that trauma stuck in your body for years. We are uncovering more ways today in working with our body, our sensory-motor capacities and our senses. There are so many people who do have stress and anxiety carried for years.18/04/2017 #45 Nicole Chardenet#44 There's nothing weird at all about it, Lisa...it's the only way to get relief. If only more people realized that. I much appreciated Prince Harry this week going public about the mental health help he sought to deal with his mother's death. It's too bad he waited twenty years, but better late than never. It takes a lot of courage to face your demons. It's not for the faint-hearted.16/04/2017 #43 Nicole ChardenetKudos to you for having the spine to face your demons, Lisa. There is no reason why we need to live with mental illness. It takes a lot of courage to admit you have a problem and need help. You took the power and decided not to live like this anymore. You are *awesome*.12/04/2017 #41 Shelley Brown#40 @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher Thanks so much Lisa. Yes, I know about the cortisol levels too. My mind isn't active, my body just doesn't seem to shut down. When I use to run long distance, I think I simply ran out of fuel and slept. I do exercise daily, keep the room temp cool at night and also try to go to bed at the same time every night. I also take magnesium and melatonin. When I travel, I have to resort to other more potent things. At home, I typically rest well. I truly appreciate you writing and sharing about this subject! Wishing rest as well!12/04/2017 #40 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#38 Hi @Shelley Brown, thanks for sharing. I too, suffer from insomnia. I was told the cortisol level drops at night and that's why many people who suffer have insomnia... our mind finally feels a sense of relief so to speak and we become more active. Another reason: Intrusive thoughts that won't allow a person to sleep. That happened to me last night, and no matter how much I tried to meditate, etc... I could not stop the merry go round in my head. It does interfere with work because it makes it so hard to wake up early. I can't imagine traveling for work that has to be difficult. What do you do at home to stay on track that helps? I'm sorry they didn't recognize your medical note, you are correct- if it was due to diabetes, a sprained ankle, migraines etc... it would be recognized. Sheez, we still have a long way to go with ending the stigma. People don't realize it is physical and daily, not just in our heads!! And I think some people get occasional anxiety confused with Generalized Anxiety Disorder which is with a person constantly. Wishing you some good rest at minimal!12/04/2017 #39 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#37 Thanks @Jerry Fletcher, that's my hope, through sharing it will help others and even more people will begin to seek help. I'm finding through my writing there are still so many who are afraid because people still don't recognize it as an illness (I'm not speaking of the psychiatric community) - Society! Sad.12/04/2017 #38 Shelley BrownLisa, thank you so much for writing this. I too struggle with anxiety which causes me to have chronic insomnia. I do seek help however; from a work standpoint, I wish there wasn't such a stigma around it in terms of getting reasonable accommodations. I have to travel quite a bit which really exacerbates my anxiety thus increasing my insomnia when I arrive really late or have to travel very early in the morning disrupting my sleep hygiene. Even my doctor said if he wrote me a note to get these reasonable accommodations it wouldn't look good to my employer but if I had diabetes no one would bat an eye. At home, I keep to a pretty strict routine and do a tremendous amount of "Self Care" to regulate it. People often refer to my "Self Care" as my being "Rigid" or "High Maintenance" when in fact, I am very high functioning because of I do the things I need to do to help calm the anxiety.12/04/2017 #37 Jerry FletcherLisa,
Thank you. Bless you for your courage in sharing this and for writing about it so eloquently. You have a better insight for those that are troubled about what it takes to find the way out of the abyss and for that reason can be of great help as this story of your personal journey so aptly demonstrates.12/04/2017 #36 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#35 Thank you @Donna Wood, I don't view myself as strong but then again, I've learned to swim when I feel like drowning. As I told Deb below, I hope to report/write about the positive outcomes of my new therapy in the weeks and months to come :) Thank you for taking the time to read this buzz!12/04/2017 #34 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#30 Thank you so much @Savvy Raj, it's been hard to share. It's easy to write about but once I hit the share button I fear... "Oh no, what are others going to think of me?" "Will they think I'm nuts?" I know I'm not nuts (and I hate that term) but it's used by some. I've even shared a few articles with my family this year. I think it's been beneficial.12/04/2017 #33 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#28 Hi @Deb 🐝 Helfrich, thanks for your comment! You wrote: "We cannot rationalize ourselves out of panic, and the subconscious works via sensory input much quicker than our cognitive mind can keep up. Think of the rattle of a rattlesnake, we jump and run, and then have the thought 'where did that killer snake come from?' So it can be really hard to find root causes, but it often isn't truly necessary, if you can learn via the EMDR or another therapy how to reset the nervous system." No, we can't rationalize ourselves out of panic... if it were that easy, we wouldn't seek help. I like your example of the rattlesnake. I look forward to sharing my journey with EMDR too and hope to report a very positive outcome in the months to come. It's not a quick fix but it's worth it.12/04/2017 #32 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#31 Hi @Virag🐝 G., actually they are finding it's usually both. My therapist and Psychiatrist just told me about the genetic component in the past year. I was trying to find a few links because I'm not good at repeating scientific data as they presented it to me. One of the reasons my Dr. told me about this is because I don't tolerate meds well at all and they are now able to pinpoint (something??) sorry, to be able to determine which meds will work best for each individual patient. I have a few links if you want to read them. http://www.iflscience.com/health-and-medicine/seven-new-genes-linked-anxiety-disorders/
https://biolmoodanxietydisord.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/2045-5380-3-912/04/2017 #30 Savvy Raj#7 @Praveen Raj Gullepalli I highlight your words .that I find striking in the strength of resilience ..'.life continues to throw them benders but i am more centred now. I had to grow all by myself without help... but things changed. I would never hesitate to seek available support in the here and now! ;) You took me wayyy back' .....
And yet again my dear @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher I must the power of your sharing is that you have taken all your readers along with you on an emotional journey of hope and strength some way or the other .God bless! Keep empowering and keep sharing with all of your heart.👍
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