- Producer12/10/2016King/Queen for a day!I recently saw a post that talked about the Emperor’s New Clothes. Oh how I love this story. I used to refer to it a lot back in the day. Actually, I still do. Sir/Mam You look marvelous but I think you may want me to tell you that you don’t...
Comments13/10/2016 #14 Harvey Lloyd#13 I hated the events and the subsequent live through that happened. But at my age i am realizing folks like that showed me more about myself than i learned about them. If nothing else i learned how to piss them off from a safe distance. When i read about the characteristics of the various winning and losing positions, they came alive through people. I could see and watch the impact of Win-Lose within groups. Unfortunately i also was able to recognize how i had practiced this process in my own life.
Again i thoroughly enjoyed your read, @Joel Anderson. These tales demonstrate to me that life is a shovel of fertilizer and we need to learn how to plant and grow things in it.13/10/2016 #13 Joel Anderson#12 Thanks for the insights @Harvey Lloyd I will take a look at the books you mention. I remain committed to a life long approach of learning and finding both good and bad examples outside of the personal experience domain. It is always good to keep an open mind and gain and learn from each experience. Nitwit indeed. And yes, with a little understanding of the practice of Win-WIn/Win-Lose or Lose-Win, he remains a poster child of win-lose and all about me-isms. It is kind of like the cast in Monte Python's The Holy grail when confronting these killer rabbits in our lives, back then unfortunately I just didn't have the luxury to "run away." I guess in hindsight, tis and twas "but only a flesh wound." Keep clapping and clopping those coconuts I will and know that I wish only the best to you and all the rest who experience toxic leadership. Why, because as Annie would say, the sun'll come up tomorrow. On that final note and just as an aside, years later one of my folks was having an exceptionally bad day. He worked in an office of 37 other very smart people. As I walked by him, it was obvious that he was distressed. I simply stopped by his desk, asked him what was wrong and then busted out in my best rendition of the song. It was humorous to watch the heads pop up from behind the cubicles and probably more impressive as everyone in that room started singing along with me. Not sure if I did much to solve his angst, but the smile on his face was classic. :)13/10/2016 #12 Harvey Lloyd@Joel Anderson your post was not long but intriguing. Anything that is intriguing has to lay down the groundwork. I must say that during these career episodes it is not funny and to some degree depressing. But forgive me if i laughed at the circumstances with you. You and others who have experienced these events have helped me understand that i am not totally outside of reality when i say, What a nitwit leader!
Disrupted by Dan Lyons is a book i recently read that chronicles your story and many others in this crazy world. It's a entertaining read. Like your story, you keep waiting for the person to say. I woke up and it was all a bad dream. Unfortunately the authors were awake.
I would offer up the discussion Steven Covey or Roger Dawson had in their respective books. The idea of practicing, Win-WIn/Win-Lose or Lose-Win. I would state that the leader you encountered was practicing win-lose. I usually run from these folks. Their theory is that they have to see you lose in order for them to win. When you call them out, they will only make you lose larger.
I found these perspectives to help when engaging new relationships, personal or professional. (Lose-Win is always being the victim.)13/10/2016 #11 Joel Anderson#l Thanks @Pascal Derrien "All tyranny needs to gain a foothold is for people of good conscience to remain silent. Edmund Burke
It is kind of ironic that I focused so much on this nut cases commitment couch. About a month ago, I bumped into a colleague and his wife at one of the local stores. What were they doing? Looking at couches. It must have sparked something now that I think about it. Since the time of this story, I have annoyed the pea waddens out of my wife. When it has been time to go look at and get another couch I refuse to participate. Get me to go look at chairs recliners, end tables, lamps--I am a more than happy participant. Couches, I have just walked away. She knows why but she keeps trying to tell me it is irrational. Maybe I am superstitious? I think I may just be able to cross over that threshold now. :)
All the best and keep making a difference.13/10/2016 #10 Joel Anderson#7 #8 Aside from the therapeutic nature of this post for me, I think I just may have had one of those moments. Here I am sitting in the dark, drinking my coffee and waiting for the sunrise. Now on my second cup, there is the beginning of early morning nautical twilight on the horizon and I just had a thought. Here i am in the dark, but soon I will be in the fall sunlight. This dude, and others like him rarely see the light around them because the perceive an aura emanating from and around them. They generally don't grab a clue until they are out the door (usually on a bad note.).13/10/2016 #9 Joel Anderson#6 Thanks @Deb Helfrich It is unfortunate indeed. We live, we learn, we grow from each experience. Despite it all, all we can do is to endeavor to recognize those who behave this way for who and what they are, and deal with it accordingly. The human dimension of the work place to me is what is the important thing.13/10/2016 #7 Franci Eugenia Hoffman@Joel Anderson, I agree with @Gert Scholtz - no need to shorten this as it is perfect as is. Plus, I can relate to this because I had a manager like this. I was not alone in my feelings he was the manager from hell. Before his meetings we had paperwork and after his meetings, the same and while traveling, the same. I had two managers at one time and he informed me he didn't give a crap about my other manager, he wanted his reports completed. Our reports were never used for the benefit of the company, only for his ego. He thought he had an in with the upper management but found he only had an out, which was out the door. This is a very enjoyable article.13/10/2016 #6 Deb HelfrichI wish I didn't have similar experiences, but, alas, I did. But the humor of reading through your time as this guy's court jester was amusing from the remove of hindsight. It just bugs me the very real human toll of people trying to do a good job who are getting derailed by naked emperors.12/10/2016 #1 Kevin PashukIt goes to show you Joel, that everyone serves a useful purpose, even if it is being a great example of a bad example.
I wouldn't be so quick to discard your 'piss and vinegar'... Channeling it for good can be incredibly constructive for an organization. There's a big difference between an effluent agitator (good) and shit disturber (bad).
- Producer28/08/2016So you want to produce a little Honey?There are those on beBee who are so adept at blogging and publishing that this little instructional post may seem a little elementary. But there are many Bees out there who have never written a long post or even a wordy Buzz and this post is...
Comments31/08/2016 #36 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD#29 @Pamela L. Williams: I mentioned it below but it didn't get noticed...we both wrote on this same topic on the same day! Perhaps, @debasish majumder, boxes of bees were dropped off at two different places on the same day! I wonder how often this happens - and our two articles really don't have overlap - that is statistically significant. So interesting...#22 #26 #25 #23 https://www.bebee.com/producer/@margaret-aranda/sharp-check-in-dr-margaret-aranda-s-newbeez-be-a-bebee-producer31/08/2016 #32 Pamela L. Williams#26 I read about the honey production in India. It does have a very beneficial side; bee populations are growing. If you have heard about Colony Collapse Disorder then you know that most of the world is seeing declines in bee populations. India could become the bee/honey capital of the world :-)30/08/2016 #26 debasish majumderyour lovely insight instigate to ponder an alarming issue being prominent in my country, India, where bees are being dispensed from one region to other region in boxes where they can introduce the business of honey and make sizable profit, keeping the peoples economy at stake who are traditionally engaged in honey exporting business. besides, shifting of honey business by transporting bees are directly affecting the overall agricultural economy of the concern place, as the cross pollination and pollination by bees will be inevitably affect the other agricultural produces. so, i guess, being intoducing by number of do's and don'ts will intimidate the new bees to produce buzzes.
- 08/10/2016After Bee Gees song, we can prepare another videoclip like this one!Do the Honey Bee! It is a fact of nature: Honey bees perform a series of moves known as the waggle dance to let their hive mates know the distance, quality and quantity of a...
- 08/10/2016ANOTHER SUCCESSFUL BEE DOING WELL IN SAVANNAH:Savannah Bee distributors aid growth - Atlanta Business Chroniclewww.bizjournals.com Savannah Bee Co. is the International Company of the Year in the Small size category in the 2016 Governor’s International Awards. This award honors a Georgia-based company engaged in international business with one to 99 employees that is showing...
- 05/10/2016If beBee gave you a t-shirt that said:
on the front and the beBee logo on the back would you wear it out, in more ways than one?www.beBee.com
- Producer04/10/2016From Here to AffinityBeBee is the network of affinity. Sharing interests of whatever kind, personal and professional, makes this platform a pleasure. Here are a few easy suggestions on how to affinitize and increase connection with other Bees. Write away Write a...
Comments07/10/2016 #38 Pamela L. WilliamsMost excellent post Gert. Affinitize! I like that word and it speaks to how we Buzz around the hives and interact with our fellow bees. This provides simple guidance on what is entailed in being part of the community; which is no more than engaging and becoming acquainted with like minded people with whom you share a common bond. It also changes how many view professional engagement, by being personal. I think of the old line "It's not personal, it's business". But, as Meg Ryan said in the movie You've Got Mail,
"Whatever else anything is, it ought to begin by being personal".
- Producer28/09/2016beBee storeHi bees,I am happy to announce that we have a beBee store ! Netta is a hero... is irreplaceable ... and she is IN ORANGE ! :-)She is working hard for getting everything ready ! . Thank you very much ! beBee store is going to be epic with lots...
Comments02/10/2016 #33 Ken BoddieGreat news, @Javier beBee! I must have missed this buzz first time round, as it sped on its merry way down 'Wall Street'. 😊
So what about the 'Boys from the Gap', namely:
- South Africa's, @Gert Scholtz;
- Bali's, @Paul Walters;
- Shanghai's, @Dean Owen; and of course
- the shy and timorous wee beastie, Ken Boddie (moi), from the Penal Colony?
Which would be the best outlet for us to purchase our goodies?
- Producer27/09/2016TRUCO en BeBee: Como publicar artículos en menos de un minutoSi algo me apasiona de la informática es poner a prueba mi capacidad de encontrar trucos para facilitarme las cosas. En su día me especialicé en las redes sociales más globales como Face… y Twi… y acabaron aburriéndome y las abandoné. Hace un...
Comments29/09/2016 #14 Martín GraffEs un buen post para compartir lo que uno desea, pero por lo general soy de publicar mis propias ideas o lo que creo acerca de algo. No soy de copiar mas que imágenes o algún vídeo. De todas formas son consejos muy útiles, solo que prefiero la originalidad del propio autor. Si bien el defecto es que me limita a publicar mas seguido jejeje. Éxitos y abrazos enormes.28/09/2016 #12 María Paz Hueso LuqueMe parece un gran post, Aitor. Estoy de acuerdo con mis compañeros en que hay que tener claro que tenemos que citar y referenciar la página web o blog de donde hemos sacado la información si no es original: o bien con enlace o bien de forma normalizada con las Normas APA para así hacerlo correctamente.¡Un saludo!28/09/2016 #8 José Luís CasadoJa, ja... buen truco para hacerlo rapidito. Eso sí, imprescindible citar la fuente y deseable poner un link al post original. No solo por ética, sino porque además esa persona acabará detectando esas visitas desde beBee y tarde o temprano vendrá a ver qué es esto ;-) Buen post, @Aitor Díez Fernández
- Producer19/09/2016Step by Step Guide on How to Use the New Live Buzz (Video) Feature on beBee Since the launch of beBee's epic new feature Live Buzz, I've been getting a lot of questions about how to use it. In this post, I will share with you step by step instructions on to do a live buzz and even a few tips of what type of content to go...
Comments24/09/2016 #21 Michele WilliamsTwitter is rumored to sell Vine. Great time to show the world the power of bebee's video feature. Look for Twitter Poll about Vine sale with bebee as an option @MicheleWilliamz or https://twitter.com/MicheleWilliamz/status/779644113662738432 View moreTwitter is rumored to sell Vine. Great time to show the world the power of bebee's video feature. Look for Twitter Poll about Vine sale with bebee as an option @MicheleWilliamz or https://twitter.com/MicheleWilliamz/status/779644113662738432. Close
- Producer20/06/2016Dear LinkedIn: Is My Armpit Bad For Business?(This post has recently caused a stir on LinkedIn. I'd like to share it with my fellow beBee subscribers.) * * * I’ve been posting my essays on...
Comments18/09/2016 #63 Anonymous@Rebecca Brockway, LinkedIn is an advocate of false professional ethic.It is a single-mindedness. This new trend in a way represents a generalization and somehow discrediting the human need for creative self expression, including armpit. Different things represent pleasure for different people. I certainly think that any kind of generalization is not good, if not rather dangerous. I used to say: People are not products. People are much deeper than stereotypes.17/09/2016 #54 Claire Cardwell#46 I love your profile pic! I am also getting v. close to 50 and recently after yet another LinkedIn post on L.I.O.N.S. I changed my profile pic to one with me sitting with lion cubs! I can not believe that they are not doing something about the people that pose rather revealing selfies.....17/09/2016 #53 Donna-Luisa Eversley@Rebecca Brockway ... where do I start.. Love your arms - and armpits, if I showed mines someone may have a heart attack ( hahaha - kidding on the heart attack!) You sure rock and at any age you will. It is the essence of who you are which shines through your photo. You are enjoying the freedom age now provides and why shouldn't you. Your smile and glow tell the story reflected in your eyes. Sometimes folks are insecure in their own images and self and reflect this on what they see in others. There was a time many years ago, I felt the perfect standard photo was the one to be shared, but threw that thought out when I turned forty... hahaha, now everyone gets to see me. It is sad that some folks won't get to experience the freedom of enjoying a beautiful self - but that's something they need to figure out.
Looking out for your stories, because I'm approaching fifty in a few years and once I'm around the world will need to get ready for me!27/06/2016 #49 Rebecca Brockway#48 In the past, I've had to grab me by the scruff of the neck and give myself a talkin' to: "Rebecca, if you choose to waste your life fretting about your age, believing that you no longer measure up, then it's nobody's loss but your own!" That snapped me out of the doldrums. Nowadays, I prefer to grab the world by its tail! I expect your gorgeous self to do no less, Mamen Delgado!22/06/2016 #48 Mamen DelgadoThere is something about getting older that I love (I am 48 years). I admire people, whatever the gender they are, who are truly happy within themselves and that´s a state that not everyone can reach. And you certainly are there dear @Rebecca Brockway View moreThere is something about getting older that I love (I am 48 years). I admire people, whatever the gender they are, who are truly happy within themselves and that´s a state that not everyone can reach. And you certainly are there dear @Rebecca Brockway, the rest is anecdotal. 😘 Close
- Producer15/09/2016Live Buzz, beBee’s new video streaming toolbeBee has no limits with even more new services at your fingertips! Now you can make live videos with our new streaming tool Live Buzz. Give it a try! Log in to beBee from our new mobile app and share whatever you fancy with your hives: whether...
Comments09/10/2016 #22 Lisa GallagherAnd if someone doesn't care to have the video on themselves, they can turn the rear facing camera on immediately to video anything they find interesting. Its fun, and I'm enjoying seeing others, hearing voices along with a variety of places etc...people are sharing from many places. Live cooking has been done too, @Hugo Chinchilla just made a tasty looking dish Friday!15/09/2016 #4 David Grinberg@Teresa Gezze, kudos to you and the entire beBee team for launching this super buzz-worthy feature. I've shared here on LI and Twitter. This is great news!
cc: @John White, MBA @Matt Sweetwood @Paul "Pablo" Croubalian @Mamen Delgado @Lisa Gallagher @Dean Owen @Jim Murray @Pamela L. Williams @Donna-Luisa Eversley @Franci Eugenia Hoffman @Gert Scholtz @Ali Anani @Jim Cody
- Producer13/09/2016Welcome to "Bee Social" HiveTo"beBee" or To beBee ...that is the question?Well friends, I'm sure by now you may have heard about a new social media platform called beBee. This social media site originates from Spain and has buzzed its way to the Top of my social media listing....
Comments13/09/2016 #6 Donna-Luisa EversleyHi Friends, here is my second post for this very 'Bee Social' Hive, the links to join are all within. This will be a few days of 'Bee Social' awareness and fun, hope you enjoy at your comfort :-)! @Phil Friedman View moreHi Friends, here is my second post for this very 'Bee Social' Hive, the links to join are all within. This will be a few days of 'Bee Social' awareness and fun, hope you enjoy at your comfort :-)! @Phil Friedman @Phillip Hubbell @Jim Murray @Jim Cody @John White, MBA @Fatima Williams @Chas Wyatt Ben @Ben Pinto @Renée Cormier @Javier beBee @Juan Imaz @Franci Eugenia Hoffman @David Grinberg @Michele Williams @Ivan Campos @Don Kerr @Daniel Donachie @Mamen Delgado @Milos Djukic @Teresa Gezze @Laura Mikolaitis @Shelley Brown @Flávio Rodrigues Vieira @jesse kaellis @Ken Boddie Close
- Producer11/04/2016Why I’m on beBee? Who am I?Social media is really thriving. It has literally changed the meanings of social interaction and connectivity. A large number of social media platforms have emerged within the last 10 to 12 years and people, businesses, and organizations started...
Comments11/09/2016 #162 Indra GrahamThanks for posting this and the photography. The first few photos look so very similar to Alberta, in Western Canada. It is a very beautiful country, and I appreciated the time you took to tell people about it, and the positive ways that Bebee has influenced you, and it's benefits. As an individual who is new to this platform, it's great to see how it can be used to its full potential.11/09/2016 #160 Lisa Gallagher#158 @Qamar Ali Khan, you've been missed on here. I have been meaning to message you and ask how you've been and if you are ok. I need to keep notes on my well intentioned 'meaning to's.' You a great friend (even if virtual) and you have so much to offer this community. I'm sure you've been missed by many. I was glad to see you back on here commenting!09/09/2016 #157 Deb Helfrich#156 I see some really jaded folks spouting off about how social media friendships are fake. To prove their point they say no one will notice if you just disappeared. Well they certainly haven't stumbled into our community. I see shining examples nearly every day of folks reaching out to help someone who is just a 'virtual friend'.06/09/2016 #150 Deb Helfrich#149 And people willing to get the great people the attention they deserve, @John White, MBA - the real Juan Blanco. But the fact remains that aside from everything, this is a fabulous post that @Qamar Ali Khan wrote which teaches, connects, and shows the global potential of building a network full of supportive people.
- Producer12/09/2016Welcome to "Bee Social" HiveAn Online Social Life.As a social bee, I hope you will be social with meEngage and share your postsComment and make the most -Of Experiences, and KnowledgeThings you learnt from Life & CollegeShare the things of which you careShare your words,...
- Producer09/09/2016How to Add Your Twitter Account to Your Profile on beBee Image Credit: FlickrDid you know that you can add your Twitter account as a featured link on your beBee profile?Doing so makes it easy for your followers on beBee to find and connect with you on Twitter as well. However, the biggest benefit is that...
Comments09/09/2016 #16 Jared Wiese#13 #5 I don't believe there is a way to reorder. I just added a 7th link (so it shows at the bottom of my 7 links) but it is the 3rd (bottom) link in the upper-left of my profile. Luckily, it's the one I want!
Seems the system is choosing the latest LI and Twitter links?09/09/2016 #7 Mamen DelgadoLove this post John!!! I share many post on Twitter from beBee and it's very very useful what you say, and I have found there are many users on beBee with Twitter account but they don't have it added to beBee. Everytime I share something on Twitter I try to find the author's Twitter account to include it on the tweet.
So, I'm going to translate this post to Spanish, very useful for everybody!!!! Thanks @John White, MBA!!
Sorry I deleted comment #4, technical little problems... 😉
- Producer29/08/2016The Unofficial Guide to beBee Jargon for Beginners or Busy Bees Hey all you buzz heads out there; this is Bo Buzzbee with your, unofficial and totally unsanctioned, Guide to beBee Jargon for beginners. It’s about time someone came up with a list like this and who better than a total smart-spiracle like me eh?...
Comments06/09/2016 #40 Mohammad Azam Khan#35 Short of that, and when required, beBee has the honey and the buzz and boBee and whatnot is not available, it's just that @Dean Owen is possibly looking for a catchy phrase for the comments. Bees communication, there's the waggle bee dance or waggle dance or waggle in short.06/09/2016 #34 Mohammad Azam Khan#14 When a honey bee stings a person, it cannot pull the barbed stinger back out. It leaves behind not only the stinger, but also part of its abdomen and digestive tract, plus muscles and nerves. This massive abdominal rupture kills the honey bee. Honey bees are the only species of bees to die after stinging.06/09/2016 #30 Michael D. DavisHey! @Juan Imaz ! ,or Señor Juan Bee, as Bo Buzzbee so respectfully refers to you. Bo wants you to know that although it flies in the face of what he originally had been using his stinger for, he now concedes that it's a lot more fun dispensing joy from that pointy little digit on the end of his hind end than meting out pain. So he's updated his Unofficial Guide to beBee Jargon to reflect this fact, as well as the definition of a Venom Sack. He said he figured you'd bee delighted when you heard about the update!06/09/2016 #27 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD#21 I didn't know about these Hives, so thank you for Sharing the names! Great venue to advertise all the different Hives in the Comment Stream...we should all do this when possible, as @David Grinberg View more#21 I didn't know about these Hives, so thank you for Sharing the names! Great venue to advertise all the different Hives in the Comment Stream...we should all do this when possible, as @David Grinberg, @Franci Eugenia Hoffman, @Charles David Upchurch and others do! More affinitizing! Close05/09/2016 #24 AnonymousFunnily, there's a Buzz Bee Berkeley named honey maker! lol
https://www.instacart.com/products/257151-marshall-s-farm-buzz-bee-berkeley-natural-honey-8-oz05/09/2016 #19 Javier beBee#14 @Dean Owen I am the " product guy " and hopefully I will go on being it for a long time. Stings will be great. We are sure but we will have to wait until the end of the year dor enjoying them ! A lot of plates on the table right now. Next week we are traveling to NYC and Silicon Valley. And during the next days hopefully we will enjoy live buzzes...
- 29/08/2016beBee welcomes @Matt Sweetwood to our Madrid office!
- 25/08/2016beBee buzz is now live and going viral in the 'Customer Engagement' channel on TheDigitalTransformationPeople.comWhat is beBee? Will it become a viable LinkedIn competitor?www.thedigitaltransformationpeople.com beBee is an affinity networking platform focused on merging business and social networking. Popular sentiment indicates that it is "LinkedIn with Facebook" or "LinkedIn and Google+...
Comments30/08/2016 #13 John Valledor@Mark Hewitt let me propose what I call the "Black Hole" approach. Let me explain.
Black holes are astronomical phenomena that can't be seen by the naked eye, even current technology. In the pure absence of light they're invisible--duh! Still, how do astronomers know they exist? The prevailing theory is that they exist because the effects that their strong gravitational pull has on surrounding heavenly bodies. So, astronomers peer into the heavens and keep finding clusters of stars being gobbled up in vortex fashion by unseen forces in the center--black holes!
Carrying this analogy forward...beBee can become the social media version of a black hole. Perhaps not seen directly, but its presence is absolutely felt, it is here to stay, due to the effects it has on competitive social channels that share the social media commons, similar orbits...they draw members away from rivals into the vortex of beBee's core organizing principle of affinity networking--its gravity for attracting new members.
For me, reasoning, understanding is amplified by clever use of analogies and metaphors. Thus, this analogy helps me better understand how beBee can model nature to become a force to reckon with.30/08/2016 #11 Belen Robleswe are always comparing (me too) beBee with LinkedIn, but I think the key to success of beBee is not to become an improved release of any other existing RRSS but develope its potencial to create its own brand.
In my opinion, the goal shouldn't be moving users from Twitter or LinkedIn to join beBee, by doing the same and in the same way promoted by others RRSS. beBee has to work in creating the feeling that beBee is unique, the most innovative network platform which is breaking the mould in social networking.
- 30/08/2016This might help to answer the previous post question ....Scientists document wild birds ‘talking’ with humans for the first timegrendz.com Zoologists have documented an incredible relationship between wild birds in Mozambique and the local Yao people, who team up together to hunt for honey. Using a series of special hails and chirps the humans and birds are able to communicate –...
- Producer27/08/2016WILL YOU BELIEVE IT BEE'S DO STING!Have you heard that saying; "O come on grow a pair!" Another is; "Get over it!" But mom I just got stung by a bee! Well son guess what, bee's do sting!How many times a day are you offended? I probably get offended around twenty to thirty times a...
Comments29/08/2016 #31 Robert Bacal#30 OK, @Paul "Pablo" Croubalian If your point is that being offended is a CHOICE, then that's a hugely important point for personal health. Where I have a problem with what you wrote is "what we should be offended by". There is no should in this land. Should is part of imposing one's will and judgment on another, and while we all do it, and I do it, it's a dicey thing to determine what a person SHOULD be offended by, and not. Often that is used as THE excuse when translated into "you are being too sensitive" which is clearly judgmental, even if it is true in one person's opinion.29/08/2016 #30 Paul "Pablo" Croubalian#29 True, many abusers hide behind the "But, that's not what I meant," excuse. What I mean is that there is a difference between what we CHOOSE to be offended by and what we SHOULD be offended by. The difference is difficult to explain, but easy enough to see. Writers have a responsibility to write what they mean. Readers have a responsibility to grow a little thicker skin. There is too much, "I don't agree so I'm offended," going on in social media.
You didn't agree, Robert, but no one can say you were offensive about it.29/08/2016 #29 Robert Bacal#27 @Paul "Pablo" Croubalian I think I disagree. Something can be offensive, and be predictably so, EVEN IF THE SPEAKER/WRITER attends no attack or offense. See https://www.bebee.com/producer/@robert-bacal/the-subtleties-of-verbal-abuse-and-we-all-do-some-of-them for more. You are probably aware that abuse, physical or otherwise is often excused as unintentional, and it's often the excuse of batterers in domestic violence.29/08/2016 #27 Paul "Pablo" Croubalian#22 Just to be clear, I am of the opinion that MOST offense is simply interpreted as such. SOME offense is obviously deliberate. There is a difference but it is difficult to define. Like pornography vs. nude art, you recognize it when you see it.
Sometimes, you just need to take another look after you cool off. If it still pisses you off...29/08/2016 #25 Nicholas FesterHi Phil. Thanks for your contribution. It also makes me think of the old saying; "Let's agree to disagree" Agreement is not easily to get when you have more than one person around. I guess that's where the idea of voting came from. I guess a law professional would have a lot to say about the power of agreement. But true character is shown in moments of disagreement. How many friendships have been broken over silly disagreements. This is where emotional intelligence helps a lot, also being self aware. There are times when we do have the power just to bite our tongues and carry on. #2229/08/2016 #22 Phil Friedman@Nicholas Fester - It's interesting that you say you feel offended maybe twenty times a day, but choose not to say anything. I have to say I think that is good choice, for as @Paul "Pablo" Croubalian View more@Nicholas Fester - It's interesting that you say you feel offended maybe twenty times a day, but choose not to say anything. I have to say I think that is good choice, for as @Paul "Pablo" Croubalian points out, taking offense to something is an act that is within one's internal control. Personally, rarely, if ever am I "offended" by something someone says. But I do sometimes strongly disagree with statements that are made. And in such cases will express such disagreement. For I believe that people who write and read, yet pass only pat's and strokes back and forth, are talking AT one another, not engaging in conversation. Without question, that is each person's personal prerogative. But if you and others reach beyond that personal choice, and seek to quell any and all politely-expressed dissenting comment by creating a culture of repression (albeit cloaked as gentle concern for the sensitivities of others), then I do I, indeed, object to that, whether you like it or not. Perhaps, there should be a "sticker" to use at the top of a post that says, "Warning: the Author of this post neither invites, nor accepts disagreement in any form. If you're not prepared to post a positive comment, don't bother reading this." This is not to say that I in any way endorse personal attacks or abusive language. But to fail to distinguish between that and civil disagreement seems to me an increasingly common, and ultimately pernicious failure. Cheers! Close29/08/2016 #20 Praveen Raj GullepalliLOL! That must have taken some soul searching Nick! Yes indeed, we don't really need another irritant in our lives; haven't we enough already? ;) But you nailed the sting thing alright! Thankfully I (still) find it very congenial in here...as cosy and welcoming, as inspiring and informative, as intellectually stimulating and challenging as it was on day one. So it is with happy anticipation always that I log in a few hundred times a day ;) beBee is more about thinking and communicating than showing off skills and attitudes. And the daily new influx of mind-boggling talent and professionalism is inspiring, to say the least! Being personal here means being more open, transparent and honest about oneself; and being professional means being more sharing, more interactive and more engaging with peers and peer groups and those who you befriend along the way. those are the two sides and together, the differentiator. Let me read your buzz again and cackle a wee bit more :)29/08/2016 #19 Mark AnthonyGreat way of putting it @Nicholas Fester! All to often I see people getting into extremely heated exchanges unnecessarily, in my opinion. However, there are some comments and/or posts that suggest some abhorent things. I have to say, I haven't seen any on beBee to date. And, even if I did I would either ignore, or report. I really like @Pamela L. Williams take on saying things nice.Another that always sticks with me is, "If you can't do it/say it with love then, don't do/say it at all. Thank you for the post.28/08/2016 #18 Pamela L. Williams@Nicholas Fester, a MOST EXCELLENT post! I try to live by the adage; if you can't say something nice, then shut up! That doesn't mean we all have to agree. I like a good debate, but it can be done with civility. I admire people that can word there comments in a way that leaves no doubt they disagree but they do it in a way that you can't help but appreciate their words. I recently came across such a comment and was compelled to email the person and tell them how much I appreciated and enjoyed the comment. I do not call myself a Christian but I was raised in large part by a Christian minister (my grandfather). It was he that taught me tolerance for other's beliefs. He had strong convictions in his own beliefs and also said this: We live the best life we can, stand by our convictions, and when the day comes and I stand before my Lord, I'll know what or who was right. We must live in our truth, but everyone has their own truth.
Personally, I can't name two people of faith that believe everything exactly alike.
When it's all said and done; one day we'll either know the full truth or we won't. Until then, I let other's have their truth and all I can do is try to relate.28/08/2016 #17 Margaret Aranda, MD, PhDI am a Christian Doctor bee but don't sting me for either one (does that make me a 'double-bee?'): Sharing to Hives: "Emergency Room" and "Dr Margaret Aranda: For NewBeeZ" (great for those new here & "Welcome!") and "Invisible Illnesses" as many of my recruits will be disabled or will have suffered aplenty. Just food for medical though: when someone gets an allergic reaction to a bee sting, the need for an EpiPen®️ is due to rapid swelling of the lips, tongue, and vocal cords, which are likely to cause suffocation. If the patient can't swallow due to vocal cord swelling, this is a harbinger of badness to follow. So act quick, and call 911 (USA) or 011 (UK) before you think it is necessary. This same reaction occurs when children, for example, have an anaphylactic reaction to eating peanuts. Get the children to the ER faster, as their airways and little bodies are extremely fragile when it comes to airway rescue. Thank you. Tommy McElroy, MD, Charles David Upchurch for additions prn (prn = "as needed").
- Producer24/08/2016Is Rudeness Costing Your Company Revenue?We have all had our encounters with rude people – they butt in line in front of you or cut you off on the highway, they pop you the special finger saying you are number one, and they interrupt conversations – should I go on? The big question is –...
Comments24/08/2016 #14 Jennifer Schultz@Erroll -EL- Warner - that's so true - I know though, that some people are just crabby and rude - all the time and no one can ever break their shell. In my experience, when I had rude co-workers - they had a reputation of being rude and people could not change them. People do not like confrontation - so they would say and do nothing. In these cases, upper management didn't understand or care that there was a problem. So good employee after employee would quit to get away from these rude people, especially because rudeness was accompanied by other negative traits as well.24/08/2016 #13 Erroll -EL- WarnerWhen people including associates are rude just "shower" them with kindness. Going to the donut shop next door on a break ask them if they need you to purchase something for them. Oh!, how quick they are to say "NO"!. It takes two to build an argument. When associates smile with other customers and fellow associates those with the "attitude" get angry because they keep wondering how come that person constant being so nice. The lady refused your invitation or conversation because there is a serious employee problem. It could relate to micro managing and other awful treatment. She would never like other people and customers to heard about it.24/08/2016 #12 Harvey Lloyd#11 The Secrets of Power Negotiating is Roger Dawson's series. When it comes to employees and being rude to customers......I find that rudeness knows no boundaries. Rude folks do believe in equal rights, they are generally rude to everyone. Employees who are rude within the office I know are rude to customers. Rudeness in the office is met with a separate and swift action outside of whatever is being discussed.
We often ask customers for feedback on our communications with them and have had to let some folks go based on feedback. But like you I have my limits of rudeness. Situational rudeness is where I will practice, my button is when you make it personal. Personal attacks by lumping me in with the call centers that call all hours of the night can become a battlefield. That's usually when the not so nice active listening skills come out.24/08/2016 #11 Jennifer SchultzWell said @Harvey Lloyd - listening is key - for example, when someone is rushed, I use tactics like asking if there is a better time to call them back so I am respectful of their time. And yes, I too try to see if I can win them over or calm them down - but, as you have probably experienced, there are always the challenging characters that push my limits on my ability to engage in pleasant conversation. At the same time, rudeness to me is unacceptable - and I would be personally embarrassed if one my staff was rude to anyone. Companies need to be aware of how someone, in a position like answering phones, which is most times a first interaction with an organization, can truly make or break their business. And thanks for mentioning Rodger Dawson, I'll have to check him out. :-) #1024/08/2016 #10 Harvey Lloyd@Jennifer Schultz The Golden Rule always applies. Sounds like you applied it well. I would offer up that rude people offer us an opportunity to hone our active listening skill sets. These skills in sales or other styles of negotiations are so important to success. Most of the time we are learning on the job, where risk is high. When given the opportunity in a low to no risk situation, using active listening skills gives us immediate feedback of technique.
Reflective language is a part of the process and I try to use it in low risk settings to see if I can win the person over or calm them down. Also rudeness sets us back on our heels in negotiations. Practicing active listening in low risk settings stops the rudeness from knocking us back. Especially when the negotiations have a large meaning to your success.
Rodger Dawson, a negotiations expert, stated that rudeness in the opening gambit should be treated as an interesting first position. Merely a perspective that allows us to turn our skills on and not push us back on our heels.
I would like to say I do this every time, but not. I usually do what you accomplished and not meet rude with rude. Unfortunately though I am human and try and out preform the rudeness on occasions.24/08/2016 #8 Aurorasa Sima#7 I feel a bit guilty. In 1996 I was one of the salespeople selling Call Centers and Campaign Managment Software and such. Voice over IP etc. all of that just began. Customer service changed. Now that agents get controlled, spied on - they don´t get measured on customer happiness. They only get in trouble if they didn´t say Mam 7 times and "did you know we offer ..... " . Companies who have "free" agents are so much more effective. The working conditions in most call centers are horrible.24/08/2016 #7 Jennifer SchultzI know @Aurorasa Sima - I think companies get very disengaged with their business - and it doesn't seem to matter whether they are big or small. It's funny I was always taught the customer is always right even when they are wrong. That might be old school - but, it is something that I still follow. It's about serving people no matter what size or type of business. So many business owners look at their P&L and blame losses on other reasons. #6
Comments24/08/2016 #7 Ben PintoTHANK YOU ALL. Get the art from your profile and cover the 3 edit buttons with the art from the banner, your photo and a white block for the third one. Add to the ad if you wish to, like the blurb here. Do something cool with your name. White gets white letters. deaN OWen becomes 'now,' Aurora Borealis for @Aurorasa Sima's banner. #1 #4 #6 and finally Luiz gets Santa, "ho, ho, ho." #5