- Producer05/11/2017Resolve To Develop the Art and Science of FriendshipGodly friendship is built on commitment to God and provides lifelong encouragement.I wanted to focus on one of the strongest friendship stories in the Bible. This is the bond between David and Jonathan. I will be getting this from 1 Samuel 18: 1-5,...
- Producer06/10/2017Understanding The Cycle of Friends“You’re lucky if you find one true friend in an entire lifetime.” Sure sounds familiar, but does this old adage still apply? For one thing, in recent years scientific researchers have advised us that more friends means a happier, longer life. We’ve...
- 09/09/2017"Don’t Confuse #ConciliationCourt with #Mediation"
#Mediator #Mediators #Custody #FamilyCourt #DivorceDon't Confuse Conciliation Court with Mediation | HuffPostwww.huffingtonpost.com Over the Labor Day weekend, I read the July 2015 edition of Family Court Review: An Interdisciplinary Journal. I’d been meaning to read that particular...
- Producer23/08/2017Online Dating Tips: The BasicsObviously, there are many Online Dating sites with more cropping up every day. So how do you decide which site is "the best" or which right for you? Here are a few dating tips we've collected to help you select a site: friends have luck...
- Producer16/08/20175 Ways to Keep the Romance Alive (when you've got kids) You and your spouse haven’t seen the inside of a movie theater since your kids were born. A date has been redefined as a pediatrician’s appointment on your calendar, and dinner usually consists of a thawed meal in the microwave or oven. You need...
- Producer15/08/2017Let there be integrity between what you teach and the life you live.This post is especially for people who are in the public speaking field whether as a motivational speaker, life coach, key note speaker, preacher, teacher etc. It was inspired by the following question I received from one of my readers....
- Producer01/08/20178 Secrets to Finding Happiness With OthersWishing to be friends is quick work but friendship is a slow ripening fruit. ~AristotleA number of years ago, I worked as a technician on a radar station in northern Canada. The morning equipment checks were more a process of looking at the...
Comments01/08/2017 #4 Aaron 🐝 SkogenGreat buzz @Paul Kearley! You hit the nail on the head. Relationships require maintenance and upkeep. Its interesting how some seemingly come and go, and others are for a lifetime. I just returned a week ago from a four day "reunion" with three of my business partners from days gone by. While three of us were the "owners" of the company, and one was an engineer I hired back in 1999, we all became close friends. We range in age from 38 to 71, yet we make a point of getting together for at least one long weekend each year to fish, tell stories and share time together. We pick right up where we left off and I know any of those guys have my back if ever I needed them, and they know I'd do the same.
- Producer31/05/2017Feminism Isn't Always Good For Men. Feminism Isn't Always Good For Men. I was born in the 60’s in South Africa when many women still stayed at home and looked after their children.My mother did the same until I was about 10 years old. Then, because she had a head for figures, she...
Comments05/06/2017 #16 Deidré Wallace#6 Christie Stevens: Exactly. Feminism has probably harmed more women than they realise. Why? Because polarisation, them versus us, never works. This imbalance now needs to be undone and women need to speak out. We need to invite men back into the arena. We need to begin to see what they are capable of offering especially with regards our children. So fingers crossed a dialogue has begun. Yay!05/06/2017 #15 Deidré Wallace#5 Nicole Chardenet: Well said. I agree with every point and yes, let's hope a turning point has been reach when enough is enough. Why? Because it seems it's not only men who are unhappy - women are too. However it is us - we put many men in the position they now find themselves. So it is up to us to invite them back. Let's hope we achieve this soon. Fingers crossed.,05/06/2017 #11 Deidré Wallace#1 Melissa Hefferman:
That made absolute sense and thank you for your complimentary comments. And yes, 'when too much is too much' or when the pendulum swings too far over and stays there - then sometimes we can get stuck in opposing positions which isn't always healthy for any of us.01/06/2017 #5 Nicole ChardenetMuch agreed, Deirdre. I think 'victim feminism' - where women identify with powerlessness and being chronic victims - is a mindset long past its expiry date. Time for a more mature 'power feminism' where women identify with power and recognize they have a helluva lot more power than they had fifty years ago. I think 'women's-only' groups are archaic...I wrote a post about it recently here on beBee. We've challenged men to get right with the other half of the human race, now it's time for women to do the same...enough already with the 'safe spaces' and 'microaggression' nonsense. Intelligent, rational men (not the whiny alt-reich Trumpanzees) need to be able to speak out against the very real abuses of men by feminism. It HAS gone too far in some cases. Women need to start listening too, and stop playing the victim card so much.01/06/2017 #4 Brian McKenzieFor 40 years, y'all have yelled, screamed and shouted - Women need Men, Like a Fish needs a Bicycle.
Thus, there should be No Men for You. No time, attention, help, consideration, finances, property, assets, concessions nor children for you - or the society that has stood by complacent. We have a direction - and it is out, away, gone & done.
48, never wed - never bred - never will. We are teaching the Generations behind us. Men Going Their Own Way #MGTOW
- Producer24/04/201710 Rules to Determine Whether Any Relationship Will Steal Your HappinessAn edited version published originally on the Thought Catalog 4/21/17I firmly believe that happiness in life is most affected by the quality of our relationships. We all have a variety of relationships like the ones with casual acquaintances,...
Comments25/05/2017 #40 Louise SmithIt's hard to disconnect from difficult people sometimes impossible so it's best to learn how to deal with them. I wish there was a subject at high school or uni -
Difficult People 101. But most of us learn the hard way over time (unless your parents work as a Social Worker, Psychologist or very good at personal relationships) Almost every client who comes to see me wants or needs to work on this - Being Assertive not Angry, Aggressive, Sarcastic or Negative.
But these days I don't keep these difficult people close. The older I get the easier it becomes to do this. How about you?25/05/2017 #38 Louise SmithAs a person who by accident of birth order (not just birth), I am the oldest of 4 siblings and since I was 4yo I have been moulded , not deliberately but by circumstance, to be a giver and a carer. Then I was a high school teacher and now am a psychologist. What hope did I have of a different career path when most of my peers left school to work at 15yo and very few women went to Uni.
Also genetically, I didn't have a chance as my Mother and Father and Maternal Grandmother are/were very gentle, obliging and considerate people.
So what to do about it?25/05/2017 #37 Louise Smith#31 Because they consciously or unconsciously know the giver is the better person. They feel self shame and guilt unless they are complete narcissists, sociopaths, psychopaths or politicians ( also could be your boss). They think that most people are ultimately takers and even though the giver would prob never do this, the takers expect to get the same treatment from the givers down the track.
As a derivative of fight or flight, attack is the best form of defence, that is what they do to the giver immediately in small doses or they wait and pick the big moment that is important to the giver and whamo they strike!25/04/2017 #31 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee@Matt 🐝 Sweetwood- obviously life taught you lessons the hard way. Your list of when to drop a relationship is comprehensive even though your line "They were robbing me of my time, energy, money, happiness and they were bringing me down" gives adequate guidance.
"...Causes you pain more than 3 times in a month". I smiled reading this because you reminded me that we need a minimum of three points to set a trend (to set a trend. Moreover, you reminded me of the simple rules of 3.
"But it also can happen with the coworker who you have helped repeatedly and when you need them, there is a deafening and hurtful silence". You
It means they don’t have the same values as you, they don’t care what you believe in and can ruin your reputation – or worse. I better forget about these experiences myself. Unfortunately, many people tend to "bite the hand" that helped them.25/04/2017 #29 Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand AmbassadorOh yes, this is good, @Matt 🐝 Sweetwood. Life is too short to be in a bad relationship. Unfortunately, we don't always realize we're in a bad relationship until it starts to take its toll on us. Even worse, some victims are in denial and can't face the fact they are in a bad relationship. I agree with @Renée 🐝 Cormier, the most important relationship we have is with ourselves.25/04/2017 #26 David B. GrinbergThank you, Matt, for this sage advice. I echo your sentiments and important insights about ridding people from one's life who are toxic and negative, because these types of people only succeed in bringing down others to artificially lift themselves up. Rather, surround yourself by positive role models who support and encourage your biggest dreams and life goals -- however far off or impractical they may appear. We need to recall that impractical does not mean impossible.
Again, kudos Matt on sharing more exemplary and beneficial advice.24/04/2017 #21 Renée 🐝 CormierI truly believe the most important relationship of all, is the one you have with yourself. If you have a strong sense of who you are and love the finished product, no one can really take that away from you. Also, if you truly love and respect yourself, you will find it easy to eliminate disempowering or one way relationships from your life. It is much easier to turn away from negative relationships than to try to make them fit. It is a mistake to believe you can control or change others, and honestly, you shouldn't even want to. It is also a mistake to try to become what someone else wants you to be. All you can really control is the way you view the world around you and what you give permission for in your life. Over recent years, I have systematically rid myself of people who add no value to my life. I find the older I get, the less willing I am to put up with bull shit. When I was young, I had all the energy in the world for it, but it brought me a tremendous amount of pain. I know better now. :)
- Producer03/04/2017Why I really didn't leave beBee?My memory takes me back to the early seventies of the last century. That time I was a fresh PhD graduate. My first job was a lecturer at the chemistry department of the University of Petroleum and Minerals in Saudi Arabia. I had great times and...
Comments04/04/2017 #57 Lada 🏡 Prkic#56 Always a genlemen! :-) Besides beBee I am active only on LI, but far less than I was before. Social networking takes too much time and it is important to spend that precious time engaging with people who enrich us personally and professionally, like you do. :-)
As you said, the choice is up to us.04/04/2017 #56 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBeeClosing doors leaves no choices. This is not a very wise thing to do. Pausing to clear the mind cache is welcome. So, not only I admire your sense @Lada 🏡 Prkic, but also I apply it. I am not nearly as active as I used to be on both LI and Twitter; yet I left the choice to visit them and participate occasionally. We have always to remember that we have a choice with whom to connect and what posts to read. So, why delete an account?
I appreciate your good words about my writing style; but I am equally an admirer of yours.04/04/2017 #55 Lada 🏡 PrkicI enjoyed reading your post, @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee. I admire the ease with which you approach writing on all topics. It’s a pleasure for the eyes and mind. 😊
On social media, there is a difference between deleting the account and not being active for some time, but still be a member. I will always choose the latter, or stop using social media. But, that's me. From time to time I take a short break from almost all social media activities when they start to be a nuisance. This is the time to reset my mind and focus on other things.
But sometimes I just need to shift away from accumulated negativity on the platform. When I come back, I look at the same stuff (and people) with fresh eyes.
As in real life, sometimes it's really necessary to step back and look at the problems from a different angle. Perhaps, then they would not seem so dreadful and worthy to burn all bridges behind us.
**As far as I can see, Anes is still a member of beBee, just like many others who are not active but not cancelled their membership.04/04/2017 #54 Luizia🐝 PatrícioHi Ali Anani! You colored my day first. Yes, in beBee Portuguese, this hive is referring to South America, especially to Brazil. Portugal land of my late father. I also want to visit "two now". Thank you Ali Anani. Have a very colorful exelente day.Você Vai Ficar Parado !? https://www.bebee.com/producer/@luizia-patricio/voce-vai-ficar-parado04/04/2017 #53 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#52 Thank you dear @Luizia🐝 Patrício for beautifying my day with your rose-like words. I am greatly indebted to you. I noticed that you shared this buzz in the Portuguese Hive. That is a new exposure for me. I have to admit that I have been to every single West European country except for Portugal (even my family did). Now, I want to visit Portugal.04/04/2017 #52 Luizia🐝 PatrícioThank you for sharing your experience @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee, reading your honey, a conclusion to the bees, interact with the buzz Polonize the beehive "this is network"! This is beBee! You have sweetened many with this honey. While I was reading, I believe you are here. That's really good. Thank you have a great day. #ilovebeBee04/04/2017 #47 Ravi RanjanI enjoyed reading this post. I'm lucky to get myself registered in beBee & connect with great enthusiast people.
I am not sure if i am right or wrong to confess that LI seems boring for me after getting myself here. No doubt, People are addicted to Facebook, Twitter , Instagram but addicted to beBee is worth.03/04/2017 #44 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBeeMy dear Friend, supporter and integrator
You are most welcome on beBee. I feel a breeze in my heart to find you on this platform. You deserve a special welcome from all bees here. I am sure @Javier 🐝 beBee View moreMy dear Friend, supporter and integrator
You are most welcome on beBee. I feel a breeze in my heart to find you on this platform. You deserve a special welcome from all bees here. I am sure @Javier 🐝 beBee shall be equally pleased. You are the example of give, give and give without taking or even bothering to take, You are an expert in linking different posts together. Your presence is hugely welcome. All those bees who interacted with you know I am speaking the truth and truth only. I am overly joyful to welcome you here. A standing ovation for you. Close03/04/2017 #43 Ned McDonnellMy dear Dr Ali,
God works in mysterious ways, truly. Had you fled Linked-in at the first impulse, I would never have known of you. As a rationalist, you stayed to accumulate evidence to confirm that your exit was right for you, as indeed it was. That confirmation lag, thank God Himself, permitted our cyber-paths to cross. Honestly, this time in my nadir, as I answered to the Quora-query of 'Have you ever lost everything?':
"I am there now. There is a positive to it. I am learning what my core substance is - or ‘¿who am I? - when every external attribute I could lean on is either obsolete or discredited. On balance, I like what I see; I am a profounder, wiser man. But, honestly, I really want to quit learning and start earning...."
You, Sir, have been a very significant part of that deepening. One needs others when turning inward and deepening, lest that person drown. And, so, I thank you for your wisdom -- that rare quality of pursuing reason with an openness to mystery.
- Producer03/04/2017LOVE PROBLEM: HE WON’T STOP PLAYING VIDEO GAMESLOVE PROBLEM ONE: HE WON’T STOP PLAYING VIDEO GAMES Ladies, we all have experienced being utterly ignored by our man. The only thing worse than being ignored for some chick, is being ignored for some joystick (video-game). Video-games are not...
Comments03/04/2017 #3 CityVP 🐝 Manjit#2 Of course the issue is bigger than that and the world will live with him until he gets impeached. Somewhere between whitelash and 100,000 people not coming out to vote in three states becomes the bookmarks for this truth. More the reason to be a gamer and temporarily find peace where there is not much.03/04/2017 #1 CityVP 🐝 ManjitThe answer to this is NASA. Today we possess in our hands in the way of electronic gadgets, the same level of computing power as NASA once needed to send a rocket t the moon. Today life can be more than giving someone their personal space, and with our NASA-like power we can do so much more.
The old symbols of power are eroding and vanishing. There was a time when I had my man cave and my man cave came with a great receptacle of personal power, called the remote control. Today we have Chromcast - the remote control is dead and along with it the culture that came with the remote control.
The ladies in our home have their own chromcast and when they turn it on, bang the guys chromcast goes - and so we have a choice to live or not to live in this new technofangled reality. With these changes come the whole testing our beliefs.
Once upon a time there was a saying "that behind every great man lies a great woman" - this was an age when even a man-child could be elected President of the United States. The fact that people in the United States have elected a 70+ year old is simply meh! They must have been too busy playing games to escape the mundane horror of working class life to notice that they elected a man who is already playing games with them.
Technology is Star-trek, it goes where no man has gone before, space the final frontier - but in this case your man's personal space, he just about got from his front door to his couch. The reality is when they are zoned out, you are free. Free to think bigger with men who think bigger. Then my dear, you have the best of both worlds - and no one is the wiser, we are all gamers.
- Producer24/03/2017How Erectile Dysfunction Affects Your RelationshipsErectile dysfunction (ED) is a problem that causes distress both in the sufferer and their sexual partner. However, relationship problems are not an unavoidable consequence of having ED. As Mark L. Held, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist explains it:...
- Producer05/03/2017Dating Advice: Being An Atheist Is Good. (Just Don’t Spell It Wrong).As much as I’m drawn to the words of advice columnists, no advice is going to fend off what I’m sure we know already: If we’re single, we’re single for a reason, mostly because someone decided being single was better than being with us....
Comments07/03/2017 #19 Robert CormackI'm certainly willing to distill information into funny conclusions. After years of advertising, research, focus groups, etc., I've come to realize how funny it really is. If you want real humour, put eight psychiatrists in a qualitative focus group. You'll be on the floor.#1707/03/2017 #18 Brian McKenzieGym, Motorcycles, Gun Range - save the cats and plus up on those 3. #MGTOW - We will leave a light on for you. PS - all of your problems are America centric. Get a passport, get out, It's a whole other world away from the Mavens, Princesses and Queens - celebrating year 5 abroad - without Yankee Broads. 8?D06/03/2017 #7 Paul "Pablo" CroubalianI second Jim's suggestion, maybe you can call your guidebook, "I REALLY am an Atheist! Swear to God!"
Personally, I get along better with women than men (in general). That is not to say that I profess any particular understanding of the gender.
Who can figure out a creature who willingly pours molten wax on their genitals prior to forcibly yanking out hairs, yet is afraid of a spider?
Not me, that's for sure.
Some guys want to be a Man-Among-Men. I prefer being a man among women.05/03/2017 #5 Jim MurrayVery funny @Robert Cormack. You should expand this into a dating for atheits guidebook. I too am an atheist and I have to tell you most of the people I know are too. Mainly because they would rather sleep in on Sunday that get all dressed up to go and sit on a wooden bench for an hour. I was a hot chick I would consider dating you just for your sense of humour.
- ProducerAccountability + Forgiveness + Gratitude + Love = Ho'oponopono.Ever heard of this beautiful word 'Ho'oponopono'? Ho'o means cause and pono reflects fairness, balance, humbleness, peace and respect. It is about setting a good intention and being whole. The word pono is repeated to give it more impact. While...
Comments05/03/2017 #51 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.#32 thank you @Devesh 🐝 Bhatt, good to read your view.05/03/2017 #50 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.#33 @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher, well expressed. Thank you so much.05/03/2017 #49 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.#34 @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee, you applied it well. Thank you.05/03/2017 #48 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.#36 @Donald 🐝 Grandy, yes forgive and let the healing begin, well said!05/03/2017 #47 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.#37 @Chas ✌️ Wyatt thank you for adding your comment, interesting to know!05/03/2017 #46 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.#38 that is interesting thank you @Gerald Hecht05/03/2017 #45 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.#39 thanks so much @Ivette K. Caballero05/03/2017 #44 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.#40 my pleasure @Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador05/03/2017 #43 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.#42 beautiful comments @Pamela 🐝 Williams. Thank you for your courage to share these experiences.05/03/2017 #42 Pamela 🐝 WilliamsSorry, on my phone and my comment posted before I finished😊 This is a philosophy I have thought a lot about in the last year. Those who know me know that I have always forgiven quickly and often to my own detriment. There comes a time when forgiving others, accepting them, becomes just too difficult. So the final result is you must forgive yourself for being unable to forgive and forget harm by others. I dream is a world where all are treated with love and kindness but we have not reached that point in history.05/03/2017 #41 Pamela 🐝 WilliamsAn interesting post @Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.03/03/2017 #36 Donald 🐝 GrandyThank you for this post @Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.. Agree with your comment. "When we see others as the cause of our troubles, we become victims". When we focus on forgiveness we receive plenty of health benefits, including improved relationships, decreased anxiety and stress, just to name a few. Letting go of negative emotions can often have a remarkable impact on the body. Let the healing begin - Forgive.03/03/2017 #34 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBeeDear @Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.
I am Sorry for commenting a little bit late and Please Forgive Me. I thank You for tagging me and I am Showing My Love by sharing this beautiful buzz.03/03/2017 #33 Lisa 🐝 GallagherNice @Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.. Forgiveness is much easier than harboring resentment. Resentment takes a toll on the person holding anger, forgiving releases the person from that bondage. I'd much rather forgive.03/03/2017 #32 Devesh 🐝 BhattThis will be very very helpful to many people.
Just two things , please dont blame the subconscious for blaming others. I believe it is a conscious habit. The subconscious has everything, we consciously select the blaming option in authopilot.
If someone assumes the subconscious to be the source , it may be misinterpreted and lead to severe self loathing.
Another thing, in desperation we maybe conditioned to see these things as steps but in reality if we forgive ourselves we automatically love ourselves and if we love ourselves we make a conscious and fruitful effort to firgive ourselves.
Great buzz.Thank you02/03/2017 #31 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.#30 @Deb 🐝 Helfrich your comments are highly appreciated, 'judging is punishment' agree fully on that. Thank you!
- 21/02/2017Here is a teaching that speaks directly to what beBee is build upon.
When you first start building a business online, you’re told to focus on so many things…
Conversions … List building… Traffic… Content … “Value”... whatever THAT is… But if you REALLY look at what each one is all about?
Each one comes down to this single 12 letter word. RELATIONSHIP
That's what today’s video is all about:The 12 Letter Word That Unites us All - Relationshipwww.empowernetwork.com The 12 Letter Word That Unites us All -...
- Producer12/02/2017Family Dynamics in ActionThis buzz is about real life story of what started as a very promising family till… I am telling the story as it happened, but changed names so as not to hurt anybody. Lisa and David were classmates right from elementary school to attending...
Comments17/02/2017 #71 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#70 History has shown us that life oscillates between extremes sometimes. If it is on the positive side today it could swing to the other side tomorrow. Yes, and may be this topic would be your next buzz. It is worthy dear @Donna-Luisa Eversley17/02/2017 #68 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#66 This is a beautiful idea dear @Donna-Luisa Eversley. "While it is always preferential to seek the better, one must prepare for 'worse', because it will come"- this is an eloquent way to look into risk management. Even in business- when a business is thriving it should also consider the possibility of cold water poured on them.13/02/2017 #64 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#63 I am waiting for the response of @Javier 🐝 beBee. Estimations range between 60%-80% of our bodies is water. What we throw in rivers we tend to throw in our bodies. This is a new idea emerging. For somebody to throw a pepsi can in water it is he who drank the bubbles and contaminated the water of his body. Careless to the environment is also careless for his own body.13/02/2017 #63 CityVP 🐝 Manjit#61 Better than that - we are made of water. We are not dry of humanity and in that sea we can drown. That is why home is no different to a single polyp of coral. Given the opportunity to grow tiny polyps can become great barrier reefs. As we become smarter about our ecology we will get smarter about our home. The daily practice of living is what is dynamic - that is the value of the link to This is Water - this is where David Foster Wallace was most brilliant, but David Foster Wallace also commit suicide, how does @Javier 🐝 beBee reconcile his particular theory of happiness with someone like David Foster Wallace?13/02/2017 #61 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#60 🤦🤷 WOW! So, in big families with so many kids the possibilities become staggering. This is one reason when we have too many interactions on a buzz the possibilities become mind-bewildering. However; my dear friend @CityVP 🐝 Manjit View more#60 🤦🤷 WOW! So, in big families with so many kids the possibilities become staggering. This is one reason when we have too many interactions on a buzz the possibilities become mind-bewildering. However; my dear friend @CityVP 🐝 Manjit few great possibilities shall emerge out of large possibilities. One example is water solutions and because of you I am working on it. Close13/02/2017 #58 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#56 There is a big difference in adding sugar to water than adding fat to same water. Sugar dissolves in water and we have a homogeneous solution. Fats don't dissolve and always float on the surface of water. It is up t us what to add to the waters of marriage. This thinking is due to your superb comment @Harvey Lloyd. You wrote "We can't describe the points of each in terms of equal but rather how one fills the others weaknesses and compliments their strengths". This is our choice: sweetening strengths and reducing weaknesses or add immiscible 'thoughts and actions" and sour the relationship.
As you wrote "The need for solidarity of family commitment has never been greater". Unfortunately, the waters are becoming salty and we make water saltier. The salting out effect takes place and wife and husband separate like oil and water do.
I greatly appreciate your comment, Harvey. It is worthy of pondering on for long times.13/02/2017 #56 Harvey LloydA very divisive subject matter. It is difficult to discuss this topic without discussing the values that sustain a marriage. A vowed relationship is different than just being friends. IMHO marriage is not a vow of equals but rather of complimentary. We cant describe the points of each in terms of equal but rather how one fills the others weaknesses and compliments their strengths.
In your story i wonder what the answer would have been, if early in the relationship, the wife had been asked, Would you trade your husband for a million dollars?
Families today struggle to meet relationship requirements as they serve to many masters. Work, finance and social all pull at the family. The need for solidarity of family commitment has never been greater. Husbands cant be husbands without a wife, nor can a wife be a wife without a husband. Sounds simple but when we make so many promises outside the marriage then what is left for the family?
Long before the outcomes you described, each party made a decision they couldn't go with the other, emotionally. They became competitive. Each responded differently to this choice, mentally. Each chose their corner and began the journey of competitive separation. The real outcome is neither chose the family.
When i fear my boss/career more than my wife/family, then separation has started.13/02/2017 #55 CityVP 🐝 Manjit#54 That indeed is the problem of underwhelm in organizations that have the potential to be even greater, pure water CEO's get frozen out, sugar water CEO's do not. Then again "This is Water" : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PhhC_N6Bm_s View more#54 That indeed is the problem of underwhelm in organizations that have the potential to be even greater, pure water CEO's get frozen out, sugar water CEO's do not. Then again "This is Water" : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PhhC_N6Bm_s
There is a big difference between a tree of knowledge and a tree of life. The monkeys on the tree of knowledge can eat what they want, the rare humans who find the Tree of Life is the Tree worth finding and that tree feeds our heart not our mental stomach. Close13/02/2017 #54 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#53 My next buzz following today's buzz on New Insights on HUman Behavior (actually an eBook) will be on "Adapting to Increase our Tolerance Levels". Dear friend @CityVP 🐝 Manjit- one way trees adapt to cold weather and to stop water freezing and killing trees is to produce sugar water. Sugar water doesn't freeze as readily as pure water. So, I thank you for increasing my tolerance level. I see more synchronicity peeping between us.13/02/2017 #53 CityVP 🐝 Manjit#48 My dear Ali Anani, I am not in this world to oppose or dispose, I want to set my sights much higher visions than that. I only have two words for the limitations that stem from opposing in this regard before I get back to how the best minds make honey.
Sugar Water.13/02/2017 #50 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#49 Enjoyed your Arabic quote dear @Mohammed Sultan. Quran says it better- Wa men ayatehi an khalaka lakum azwajan litaskonoo elayha wa ja'al beinakuma mawadatan wa rahma.
It takes the husband and wife to feel the other is an indispensable part of him/ her so that they may live happily.13/02/2017 #48 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#47 Now you wish to go into debate dear @Mohammed Sultan with the mind of @CityVP 🐝 Manjit.
You wrote "The head of the family is supposed to call the shot and adjust the tone and wavelength for the entire family". SOmetimes somebody has to be in charge for things not to fall apart. Again, I expect some opposing views here.
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