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Respect others as you wish to be respected. This hive is to bring awareness to the balance between social etiquette and personal expression. Let's share our ideas on commenting and meaningful conversation. To be a beBee is to be.
  1. ProducerPhil Friedman

    Phil Friedman

    Censorship: To Cut Or Not to Cut, That Is the Question
    Censorship: To Cut Or Not to Cut, That Is the QuestionWHEN THE LANGUAGE OR THE DISCUSSION GETS TOUGH, THE TOUGH KEEP GOING ... OR DO THEY?Preface:ย  This marks the 24th installment of the ongoing verbal contretemps between Jim Murray and me. Here we've tackled a serious and complicated topic that should...


    Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman
    19/02/2017 #7 Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman
    Thought-provoking subject, Phil, and Jim. I'm not in favor of censorship, except as a last resort. beBee shouldn't have to make a decision and/or take action on what is libel, slander, misrepresentation. I feel this would be a slippery slope for beBee. They can publish minimal guidelines in order to show they have taken a stance. Otherwise, they will have to have a huge legal department to handle the whining. The definition of censorship is too broad and the actions of the violators can be too easily misconstrued.

    IMO, the author of his or her post should have the ability to delete unwanted comments. Those that are into name calling should use the messaging system to hash it out.

    I see this discussion generating a lot conversation and I don't see a clear resolution in the future.
    Gerald Hecht
    19/02/2017 #6 Gerald Hecht
    #4 @Don ๐Ÿ Kerr My opinion is that this is a well considered comment --for which there can be no legitimate call for censorship.
    Don ๐Ÿ Kerr
    19/02/2017 #5 Don ๐Ÿ Kerr
    the beezer boyz are back
    Don ๐Ÿ Kerr
    19/02/2017 #4 Don ๐Ÿ Kerr
    Well boys, you're at it again and it looks like I get first licks! @Phil Friedman @Jim Murray You've both articulated your positions well. That comes as no surprise. Phil's sunburn prevention approach might be a little controversial but cranial/rectal inversion is one alternative for sure. I have little to add save to say: generally I loathe the notion of censorship entirely. It brings with it the abandonment of personal accountability - I can say or write whatever I want and someone else will let us know if it goes too far. Too much of that and you get Bannon, Spicer and President Cheeto in office. I do support though the notion of limits on what constitutes appropriate expression on certain platforms. When the line from satire to abuse is crossed, when the line from pushing boundaries to simply blowing right by them is passed, and when commentary goes from silly and kinda fun to disrespectful and offensive to an entire gender or people or religion or orientation - then the administrators of the platform have a right to bring their controls to bear - so long as those limits and controls are somewhat understood. Clearly, I could state a position in the United Church of Canada without fear of reprisal when that same statement in the Southern Baptist Convention would have me shunned, scorned, scolded, and some other 's' words I can't think of right now. Now, imma shut up, sit back and watch your worlds blow up as the thin-skinned and righteous take you to task. xxoo
    Gerald Hecht
    19/02/2017 #3 Gerald Hecht
    FWIW, I think that it is important to have "Lenny Bruce/Howard Stern/Dave Chappell types" on hand at all times --ultimately, it seems that since there will probably always be censorship in some form; the best way to minimize the quantity of information that ends up "Missing In Action" (and may potentially (even if not immediately recognized) have considerable value --is to have a small pool of expert "envelope elasticity testers"...
    Jim ๐Ÿ Cody
    19/02/2017 #2 Jim ๐Ÿ Cody
    Censorship is almost as old as mankind in some form. Every country, including American, has censored and continues to do so. Social media ownership and management will continue to have the right and prerogative to do so. The choice is not taken lightly and the care and caution will still piss off one side or the other. So it may just be a no-win situation.
    Just glad I'm not the one making the decision. @Javier ๐Ÿ beBee and @Juan Imaz are good decision makers and I trust them.
    Phil Friedman
    19/02/2017 #1 Phil Friedman
    Hey @Jim Murray, just to let you know you're mentioned in this post.
  2. ProducerJim ๐Ÿ Cody
    ๐Ÿ Bee a Good Ambassador
    ๐Ÿ Bee a Good Ambassador The following statements reflect my opinions and should not be construed as being beBees; they are my personal beliefs. I fully support beBee core values and it is not my intention to make any statement to degrade those values."An ambassador is the...


    Bill Stankiewicz, ๐Ÿ Brand Ambassador
    19/02/2017 #38 Bill Stankiewicz, ๐Ÿ Brand Ambassador
    TOP BUZZ with good details & good common sense. Be kind, help one another, we are a great team. If I can help anyone please email or call me at any time. Phone: 1-404-750-3200, email: bstankiewicz@portfreshlogistics.com
    Lance  ๐Ÿ Scoular
    17/02/2017 #36 Lance ๐Ÿ Scoular
    10 out of 10 Jim โœ” ๐Ÿ๐Ÿฏ๐ŸŒ๐ŸŒ๐ŸŒŽ๐ŸŒ
    Joyce Bowen
    15/02/2017 #35 Joyce Bowen
    A good post. Thank you for sharing this. Most is familiar like LI. Where do we go in here to understand the in's and out''s of the platform? I'd hate to play myself into ob(bee)livion....
    Jim ๐Ÿ Cody
    14/02/2017 #33 Jim ๐Ÿ Cody
    You're welcome @erry Fletcher
    Jerry Fletcher
    14/02/2017 #32 Jerry Fletcher
    Thanks Jim. Good advice from a straight shooter.

    Robin Barton
    14/02/2017 #31 Robin Barton
    About LinkedIn, it's like one of my blog posts on here said, I want to see professional business interaction on LinkedIn. I don't want to see bullying, harassing, or you stole my trademark etc etc (which I just saw and was appalled at the initial rude complaint from a CEO, who was wrong by the way) If you have a trademark issue with someone, keep it private. Being online does not give you permission to be a jerk! And if you act like that at your place of work, then you aren't a true leader o professional. I expect that kind of stuff on Twitter and Facebook, even though I don't like it or support that type of interaction. We all talk about branding yourself, and I think those rude people have branded themselves in a negative way. Hope they weren't looking for clients or jobs. Right now, that's my biggest complaint about LinkedIn. I get so much out of reading articles there and making connections that I will continue at this time to use LinkedIn. I'm still trying to get the right words to describe beBee and what it means to me. Someday soon.
    Mike Rana
    14/02/2017 #30 Mike Rana
    Yes, I have seen those very posts. Many of them have become hyperbolic in nature. But, as I mentioned in my comment, I see a lot of LinkedIn bashing on here that isn't wholly supported by facts. I like seeing the two networks compete against each other, but over-the-top vitriol is not needed.

    The new layout has issues - no doubt about it. I have expressed some frustrations of my own over both the UI and UX. I have also made it a point to draft an email to express my concerns, and make some recommendations. I've experienced the same throttling of posts/updates on Facebook (both on Pages and my personal account); distribution is an issue on most platforms (though I have nobody I can reach out to for that).

    I actually think LinkedIn has teams working on the issues its users are experiencing. I don't think they want angry users anymore than users want to be angry with the network. I've seen a plethora of postings about how LinkedIn experts are experiencing difficulty because their clients may not have the new version. Additionally, if functionality isn't working as it should, it makes it hard to give any consulting - neither of which is good if your business is in marketing or consulting.#29
    John White, MBA
    14/02/2017 #29 John White, MBA
    @Mike Rana: to your point, I actually see more LinkedIn bashing on LinkedIn than any where else. Have you been following some of the threads over there? They contain 1000's of negative comments (some factual some not) regarding the new layout. While I try to avoid bashing them, I can understand the user frustration. I spent several years building my following to 36k with a commitment from LinkedIn to distribute my posts to 100% of my network. Then, they changed the rules of the game. Now, I dont know if my posts reach even 15% of my network.
    Jim ๐Ÿ Cody
    14/02/2017 #28 Jim ๐Ÿ Cody
    #26 @Robin Barton.That's exactly why I stated at the beginning of this buzz that these are my opinions and should not be construed as beBees. Freedom of speech is a constitutional right; however we all have a choice. I fully respect anyone's opinion and agree that unfollowing and deleting should be anyone's personal prerogative.
    Buzz on!
    Jim ๐Ÿ Cody
    14/02/2017 #27 Jim ๐Ÿ Cody
    #25 Many thanks @Kevin Pashuk. I absolutely agree. No one should take their title lightly.
    Robin Barton
    14/02/2017 #26 Robin Barton
    I totally agree with what Jim said, if you are a beBee brand ambassador, more is expected of you because you are representing a brand. However, I am and always will be against any type of censorship in any way, shape or form. (unless it has to do with small children) That said, I suppose if something bothers you on your own string or post, by all means, delete and unfollow if necessary.
    Kevin Pashuk
    14/02/2017 #25 Kevin Pashuk
    Good points Jim. Accepting a beBee ambassadorship comes with the awareness that we will work to support the hive (organization) with the skills we have. It never means blind faith or partisanship, but that we are always constructive in our comments, posts, and promotion.
    Jim ๐Ÿ Cody
    14/02/2017 #24 Jim ๐Ÿ Cody
    #21 Many thanks, for your comments.
    Brian McKenzie
    14/02/2017 #22 Brian McKenzie
    Where is the link to the "Report" guidelines? I am not an Ambassador, specifically because I don't nor won't filter my content. And an F-bomb is more than appropriate in my writing on several occassions - but if need be, I can open a can of Russian swear words that will make F*ck blush. If you believe that censorship and hiding behind the report button is "engagement" then unfollow me indeed, early - often - and twice on Holidays. Both the Nazis and Communists loved and endorsed censorxhip - you paint yourself in their company by deleting my content. (You with passive aggressive finger on the Report button know who you are)
    debasish majumder
    14/02/2017 #21 debasish majumder
    absolutely relevant post @Jim Cody! series of do's and don't clearly reflects the essential flavor of beBee, which is purely aiming to make delicious honey. lovely insightful post. enjoyed read and absolutely subscribe with your views and rich values too. thank you very much for the share.
    Mike Rana
    14/02/2017 #20 Mike Rana
    There is a lot of bashing of LI on this network - and I've actually pointed out where some of it is not based in fact.#18
    Jim ๐Ÿ Cody
    14/02/2017 #19 Jim ๐Ÿ Cody
    #17 @David B. Grinberg You are welcome. Thanks for sharing.
    Jim ๐Ÿ Cody
    14/02/2017 #18 Jim ๐Ÿ Cody
    #16 Mike I specifically said bash, which means "criticize severely. Telling the truth and sticking the facts is acceptable.
  3. ProducerJim Murray

    Jim Murray

    Learning To Write For Yourself {Part 1}
    Learning To Write For Yourself {Part 1} This morning I woke up to the realization that the world level of bullshit is now over all our heads. So this is a new series where I will be imparting whatever dubious wisdom I possess in the most bullshit free possible. If this bothers you, well...


    Mike O'Connor
    18/02/2017 #26 Mike O'Connor
    Very entertaining read, @Jim Murray! I definitely didn't sense any BS and I know how you feel to some degree.
    Lisa Vanderburg
    14/02/2017 #25 Lisa Vanderburg
    I actually liked all the comments as well as your buzz @Jim Murray. I'm a recent addition; snow-birding from LI, which just got plain idiotic. I came here to write about what I mainly don't write about there....writing. So I'm a new-bee; I like it here because it's much more real. But I'm already attracting trouble (my middle name...so said my sire-r). Hell with it - they can all go procreate with themselves (good luck with that). You embolden me, dude! Thanks!
    Randy Keho
    13/02/2017 #24 Randy Keho
    "Thatโ€™s life in the world of social media. Up and down like a toilet seat." That's really all that needed to be said.
    Paul Walters
    13/02/2017 #23 Paul Walters
    thanks @Jim Murray
    Paul "Pablo" Croubalian
    12/02/2017 #22 Paul "Pablo" Croubalian
    #13 Thanks for that compliment, Franci. Like Jim says and paraphrased by me, "it ain't always pure gold that streams from our keyboards."

    Everyone writes the occasional turkey. No worries.Move one and write some more
    Jim Murray
    12/02/2017 #21 Jim Murray
    #16 Thanks @Michael O'Neil ...I'm making notes.
    Jim Murray
    12/02/2017 #20 Jim Murray
    #13 Thanks @Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman...I really appreciate your support and have for quite a while now.
    Jim Murray
    12/02/2017 #19 Jim Murray
    #9 Thanks @Wayne Yoshida. I'm looking forward to writing it, whever it turns out to be. Because to tell you the truth most of us are just winging it here. There's no master plan, just people following their noses.
    Jim Murray
    12/02/2017 #18 Jim Murray
    #8 Thanks @๐Ÿ Fatima Williams This is exactly why I write these kinds of posts. The beeter everybody become at expressing themselves, the more interesting place the Internet becomes.
    Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman
    12/02/2017 #17 Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman
    #15 Thank you, Phil. I like to feel I'm for real - I have no reason to be otherwise. So, I look for that same quality in others.
    Michael O'Neil
    12/02/2017 #16 Anonymous
    Thanks Jim, I have lost count of the number of presentations I have seen where the speaker quotes the growth rate of data out there. I've long been of the view that while the volume of data out there has grown, it has been at the expense of the signal to noise ratio. 1000 copies of the video of the same cat doing the same weird thing does not improve anything. Many, many, many years ago I went on a speed reading course. The biggest takeaway? Figure out if it is worth reading at all. Writing as you suggest will signal early to the reader that the content is worth reading. If it does not do that in the first sentence or two, click on something else. Sadly, once the bullshit is in your head, it is hard to remove it. Your headline grabbed my attention. The first few sentences hooked me in, and the full content did not disappoint.
    Phil Friedman
    12/02/2017 #15 Phil Friedman
    #13 Wow, Franci, that is about the best compliment a writer can receive. Thank you. I believe you are for-Real yourself. Cheers!
    Don ๐Ÿ Kerr
    12/02/2017 #14 Don ๐Ÿ Kerr
    I prefer the expression up and down like a bride's nightgown however that aside you banged it on the head @Jim Murray. You keep working away like this and you're gonna get pretty good.
    Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman
    12/02/2017 #13 Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman
    @Jim Murray @Phil Friedman @Milos Djukic @Donna-Luisa Eversley @Paul "Pablo" Croubalian are some of the most authentic writers I've known via social media. Yes, there are more but I'm not wanting to make my comment one of mentioning fellow bees. However, their posts/reads/buzzes are what grabbed my attention from the beginning and still have that same impact today. Just saying.

    I'm in beBee every day and I need to spend my time in my best interests. I may not always agree but I feel that what I am reading is genuine and not BS. Thank you, Jim, for an outstanding post.
    Jerry Fletcher
    12/02/2017 #12 Jerry Fletcher
    Thanks Jim. It shouldn't amaze me how good writers seem to be the guys and gals with the best bullshit meters.
    Devesh Bhatt
    12/02/2017 #11 Devesh Bhatt
    #8 bullshit has been generated about every word. It is a process of arriving at something sensible and cleaning up one's own mess that counts.

    Knowing bullshit without getting a taste of it comes from experience. Few are lucky to learn it from others.
    Phil Friedman
    12/02/2017 #10 Phil Friedman
    #8 Well, Fatima, you may believe that but let me tell you about the first thing Jim ever wrote to me... well, maybe I shouldn't, this being polite, mixed company. But I agree that one thing Jim has never been short on is authenticity. Cheers!
    Wayne Yoshida
    12/02/2017 #9 Wayne Yoshida
    I boinked the Relevant button, @Jim Murray and understand this exactly. I once belonged to a LI Group for writers, I forgot which one. One day, a post came about and the author posted something complaining about the small number of views and comments it received. He went on to say if you are not liking and commenting, you can leave this group. Yikes.

    Although this may have been the algorithm tweak, I took a look at his post. And it was horrible. No other way to describe it. Kind of obvious why no one commented, liked or shared it.

    So I left that group and never returned. . . I don't want to mix with people like that.

    Comparing this with beBee - very opposite experience, and I think all of us are seeing this difference.

    I'm looking forward to seeing this series.
    ๐Ÿ Fatima Williams
    11/02/2017 #8 ๐Ÿ Fatima Williams
    And that quality, despite all the bullshit thatโ€™s been generated about it, is called authenticity.

    When you write about writing I always read them for sure because much of what little I try is learning from wonderful honest down to earth people like you. BeCause I find that authenticity you talk about here in your work.
    When I first starting reading your work on Linkedin I never commented as I do now as I assumed that how would someone so talented with years of experience even want to listen to something a less experienced person is trying to say.
    But the more I read your work I more comfortable and confident I became with my own writing and expressing my thoughts and I have to Thank you and a few of my favorite people here on beBee for that.@Jim Murray So Thank you ๐Ÿค—
    Gert Scholtz
    11/02/2017 #7 Gert Scholtz
    @Jim Murray Always learning from your posts, what you write, and how you write. I guess the overriding point is to write what is important to you, what your opinion is and what you care about. How it is received is secondary. Thank you for the post Jim.
  4. Producer๐Ÿ Fatima Williams
    Why I love beBee - Part II
    Why I love beBee - Part IIMy World in beBee land is where I constantly learn through other's experiences. Feel motivated with buzzes pushing me to cross my boundaries and enlighten the world with what I can contribute.ย ย An indelible mark with every new buzz, a new memory...


    ๐Ÿ Fatima Williams
    28/01/2017 #53 ๐Ÿ Fatima Williams
    #52 @Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc. The honey you spread is very sweet Liesbeth. Thank you for all the buzzing around. It's a joy to watch you buzz.
    BTW you have a nick/pet name just curious ๐Ÿค”๐Ÿ˜‰๐Ÿ˜‰
    Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.
    28/01/2017 #52 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.
    wonderful when bees express their love for other bees and beBee, our home!
    Qamar Ali Khan
    28/01/2017 #51 Qamar Ali Khan
    #50 Thank you very much @Javier ๐Ÿ beBee! Your words are like sweet honey to me. You're an excellent friend and a great professional.
    Javier ๐Ÿ beBee
    28/01/2017 #50 Javier ๐Ÿ beBee
    I agree with all our honey bees. We all feel happy to see @Qamar Ali Khan with us !
    Qamar Ali Khan
    28/01/2017 #49 Qamar Ali Khan
    #42 @Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher! You're simply matchless. You always put me in trouble to reciprocate. I know what you're saying is exactly what you're feeling. I have developed a sort of feminish or childish habit. My eyes get filled whenever I hear something like that. Are you exactly feeling my feelings? I'm sure of your prayers, and prayers of all my so beautiful friends. Wish you all the blessings!
    Qamar Ali Khan
    28/01/2017 #48 Qamar Ali Khan
    #41 @Dean Owen! You're such a wonderful man and a wise and true friend. I always highly value what you say and write. You have such a rich exposure, and you're so kind to recognize, appreciate, and remember positiveness and sincerity. I'm glad I know you as my friend! Thank you :-))
    Qamar Ali Khan
    28/01/2017 #47 Qamar Ali Khan
    #40 @Deb ๐Ÿ Helfrich! This is so exciting! Why I put these questions on your table? Because I knew you're the right person who knows what I mean, who understands some unspoken words, who has all the inner insight to get to the bottom. I'll be waiting to appreciate your marvelous effort.
    Qamar Ali Khan
    28/01/2017 #46 Qamar Ali Khan
    #39 @Milos Djukic! I agree my dear friend! @๐Ÿ Fatima Williams did a brilliant work through her brilliant post. This post forced me to have a reunion with all such lovely people over there. Thank you! Cheers :-)
    ๐Ÿ Fatima Williams
    28/01/2017 #45 ๐Ÿ Fatima Williams
    #44 Rightly said @Mohammed Sultan The idea is to spread this to all the corners of the world.
    But the most important thing is that the people who join know the purpose of giving and receiving in order to build their brand personally and professionally.
    Thank you ๐Ÿค—
    Mohammed Sultan
    28/01/2017 #44 Mohammed Sultan
    That's great @ Fatima Williams,in addition to the real feeling in-house and among beBee family members we need to extend love and beBee family spirit outdoor.In principle when beBee platform is grown,the more competitors are also grown and the span of your differentiation becomes shorter.So,we need outdoor endorsements.The beauty of beBee platform begins when your competitors start to endorse you.

    In the imagination zone of beBee many trees are grown and we have to use them in the the right way and for the right purpose.We have to use the imagination of all bees to stretch the platform to the non-users .The imagination which will come up with outdoor ideas and market insight about beBee that can disrupt their habits and break their daily routine.We want them to recognize how to build personal brands with more feelings and more satisfying depth of understanding on beBee.
    ๐Ÿ Fatima Williams
    28/01/2017 #43 ๐Ÿ Fatima Williams
    #39 Thank you dear @Milos Djukic #FFF

    I am very happy as well. It will be prefect if Irene had joined the discussion as well.

    #42 Thank you Lisa ๐Ÿค—๐Ÿค— Hugs
    Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    28/01/2017 #42 Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    #32 Such a nice compliment to all listed @๐Ÿ Fatima Williams! I want to go out on a limb and remind @Qamar Ali Khan how much so many of us have missed him. I also would like to say, I hope whatever you are going through passes sooner than not. I will keep you in my prayers and I hope we continue to see you as you are able. You have always been a beautiful light that shines brightly on all of us. We are also here for you!!
    Dean Owen
    28/01/2017 #41 Dean Owen
    It's so good to see you here @Qamar Ali Khan. I know we shouldn't value people over others, but I do value you and your insights as you represent a culture that has less of an audible voice here and you have a truly generous spirit.
    Deb ๐Ÿ Helfrich
    28/01/2017 #40 Deb ๐Ÿ Helfrich
    #36 It actually isn't so strange at all, just uncommon. If you will allow me, Qamar, I will take the action item to write a buzz to answer your very important questions. It will take me some time to coalesce these feelings into words, but it makes sense to me.

    I've got the insights, but this is a challenge for words! Thank you tremendously for formulating these questions so poignantly!
    Milos Djukic
    28/01/2017 #39 Anonymous
    So nice to see some great people like @Qamar Ali Khan, @Deb ๐Ÿ Helfrich, @Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman, Dean Owen-san, @Sara Jacobovici and Irene Hackett. Dear @๐Ÿ Fatima Williams, aka FFF, You are magnificent friend! Thank you so much.
    Qamar Ali Khan
    27/01/2017 #37 Qamar Ali Khan
    #35 @Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman! You're such a genuine humane being! I'm proud you know me and I have your so much valuable friendship. I'm honored to be missed by a super friend like you. Thank you so very much Franci. You live in my heart!
    Qamar Ali Khan
    27/01/2017 #36 Qamar Ali Khan
    #34 @Deb ๐Ÿ Helfrich! It's so strange! The people who really love each other the most have never met personally. I take it as something a Divine miracle. I don't know you personally. In fact, I don't know anybody of my so beloved friends personally. I don't know about your personalities, your life, your practical behaviors, and anything; and so is true about myself. But what is that which has built and deepened this relationship, and which is not allowing us not to think about each other? How this love is built and developed in a virtual way? What's the main cause? Why I keep remembering you and all? If we could analyze, we have so less in common. We have everything different. But we miss each other. I see nothing like this. Deb! You have something in you that force me and others to feel you. You're something different. Help me to find the hidden secret behind this love-bond between all of us.
    Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman
    27/01/2017 #35 Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman
    I feel truly blessed to know you, Fatima. It's obvious why you are an ambassador because your genuineness is second to none. I feel honored that I am included in your mentions. You know, what I love most about this post is seeing comments from @Qamar Ali Khan View more
    I feel truly blessed to know you, Fatima. It's obvious why you are an ambassador because your genuineness is second to none. I feel honored that I am included in your mentions. You know, what I love most about this post is seeing comments from @Qamar Ali Khan. We miss you Qamar and your worthy contributions.

    Also your mentioning of Irene Hackett, which we can stay in contact with Irene on LI as you know. FYI I am the administrator of Irene's hive - Sanctuary", with Federico's assist because I felt it should stay alive.

    Thank you, Fatima - you are a very special bee. Close
    Deb ๐Ÿ Helfrich
    27/01/2017 #34 Deb ๐Ÿ Helfrich
    #21 @Qamar Ali Khan - your words display your soul. It is as simple as that. We are your community because of that. Nothing further is ever necessary. Life requires different things of all of us at various stages. I send you love and care so that you can peacefully walk through the life in front of you.

    I see a lot of cynical people always saying no one is ever missed if they disappear from social media. These cynics are not in my network.

    I have a community where words are taken to heart and reside in the hearts of many.

    I am so grateful to know you, Qamar.
  5. ProducerDean Owen

    Dean Owen

    Enhance your beBee Experience
    Enhance your beBee ExperienceI am not a social media guru. I am however an old hand at beBee having made beBee my primary platform about a year ago. What I noticed, and this is true of many websites, is that keeping beBee an engaging venue for me does require constant...


    Wayne Yoshida
    01/02/2017 #61 Wayne Yoshida
    Great practical advice Dean! I like your suggestion of "rationing" the shares instead of doing all three at once.
    Claire ๐Ÿ Cardwell
    27/01/2017 #59 Claire ๐Ÿ Cardwell
    Great pointers @Dean Owen San! Am sharing this one.... Have an awesome day!
    Cyndi wilkins
    23/01/2017 #58 Cyndi wilkins
    #47 Agreed...I do not tag very often either...Only if something I am writing was inspired by a particular someone will I "tag" them...and I will promote the piece of their work that served as my inspiration...writers courtesy;-) This is a very helpful piece @Dean Owen...Thank you...(tag! you're it;-)
    Federico ๐Ÿ รlvarez San Martรญn
    23/01/2017 #57 Federico ๐Ÿ รlvarez San Martรญn
    Perfect @Dean Owen.
    Soon we will have the user tools to segment the content, more accessible. It is key to having relevant content in your feed. Thank you for the help you offer us all and the new heads. Wanting to have the new beBee! Best Regards.
    ๐Ÿ Fatima Williams
    23/01/2017 #56 ๐Ÿ Fatima Williams
    #52 #53 Dean-chan it is ๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜ŠThanks for giving me the story behind it. It's pretty interesting I would say to me it's more like a nick name we all have.
    Max๐Ÿ J. Carter
    23/01/2017 #55 Max๐Ÿ J. Carter
    Well done Dean, definitely one to add to the beBee Guide Index for new Bees.
    Dean Owen
    22/01/2017 #54 Dean Owen
    #52 it really is quite complex @CityVP ๐Ÿ Manjit, and it's usage can often be misinterpreted. Dean-kun can be derogatory and condescending, but can also be used as a sign of affection. Likewise Dean-sama can be used with sarcasm. Anyway, off topic here. Thanks,
    Dean Owen
    22/01/2017 #53 Dean Owen
    #51 That,really depends. If with affection, Dean-chan would be nice ! ๐Ÿ˜‰
    CityVP ๐Ÿ Manjit
    22/01/2017 #52 CityVP ๐Ÿ Manjit
    #27 & #42 An Interesting culture of personal respect and group dynamics. I looked this today to learn more about this here :

    Japanese Name Suffix
    http://senseis.xmp.net/?JapaneseNameSuffix View more
    #27 & #42 An Interesting culture of personal respect and group dynamics. I looked this today to learn more about this here :

    Japanese Name Suffix

    I can see the depth to these protocols provide a quite complex web of relationships and this shows me I can learn quite a lot from Japanese sensibility - for it is very different to my modus operandi or at least this is not the way I was manufactured when I was processed through an education system which speaks of diversity but is far more a commercial uniformity. Close
    ๐Ÿ Fatima Williams
    22/01/2017 #51 ๐Ÿ Fatima Williams
    #42 Whoa That is complex and pretty interesting too.I can't wait to visit there and have an experience of a lifetime. I shall wait to read the buzz on it soon.
    So what should I call you now :)
    Praveen Raj Gullepalli
    22/01/2017 #49 Praveen Raj Gullepalli
    #44 I agree..I am in awe too. Actions prove louder than words;)
    Milos Djukic
    22/01/2017 #48 Anonymous
    #47 Understood, no more tagging or any kind of burdensome, ever.
    Dean Owen
    22/01/2017 #47 Dean Owen
    #39 I don't often use tagging, usually only when I am promoting something or someone other my personal blog, but it needed to be in the article as it is a vital tool. I guess it is important to understand if the person you tag would be genuinely interested in your piece or if they think it is burdensome. I would hate to make someone feel somewhat obligated to read something I posted, and tagging does that.
    Dean Owen
    22/01/2017 #46 Dean Owen
    #37 I use beFunky.com for the collage and import either into Canva or Designfeed for creation of the graphic. Thanks Lisa
    Dean Owen
    22/01/2017 #45 Dean Owen
    Much appreciate the comments and shares from all of you.
    Dean Owen
    22/01/2017 #44 Dean Owen
    #30 much appreciated @David B. Grinberg. I am in constant awe of your dedication to promoting beBee across numerous networks.
    Dean Owen
    22/01/2017 #43 Dean Owen
    #29 The great thing about beBee is that you can tailor your feed and rely on your community, the beBee community to bring to light new users who will appear in your feed through their sharing. So I would go ahead and narrow the funnel if I were you. Ultimately you need to be enjoying a feed free what what you deem irrelevant. Thanks @Deb ๐Ÿ Helfrich
    Dean Owen
    22/01/2017 #42 Dean Owen
    #27 It's my part Japanese heritage @๐Ÿ Fatima Williams. I may write an article soon on the numerous suffixes that the Japanese add to the end of a name dependant upon age, profession, or standing in the community. Fatima-san would be used amongst people of equal standing, whereas Fatima-chan would be talking to a child, Fatima-sama an elder, Fatima-kun, Fatima-sensei etc. It is quite complex.
    Dean Owen
    22/01/2017 #41 Dean Owen
    #26 Yep, the natural rhythm of beBee normally takes care of things with added help from a community of users who try to ensure new users get noticed. Thanks Chas.
    Dean Owen
    22/01/2017 #40 Dean Owen
    #25 Thanks my friend. Bookmarking might be a useful tool indeed.
  6. ProducerGert Scholtz

    Gert Scholtz

    A Rally on Relevant
    A Rally on RelevantThis post is about relevants. The small orange icon at the bottom of a beBee post. BeBee relevants are important to writers. New writers, established writers, regular writers, all writers. It shows other Bees took the time to read and take...


    Ali Anani
    27/01/2017 #61 Ali Anani
    @Gert Scholtz- I clicked the orange button for I find the buzz both interesting and entertaining. You expanded my appreciation for this button. Thank you
    Claire ๐Ÿ Cardwell
    27/01/2017 #60 Claire ๐Ÿ Cardwell
    #34 You are right @Ken Boddie - collecting relevants is all very well, but it's the interesting commentary and feedback that has got me hooked! I will check out the Producer platform more often and check out new writers - thanks @Gert Scholtz!
    Gert Scholtz
    27/01/2017 #59 Gert Scholtz
    #58 @Phil Friedman Thank you Phil - very pleasant to get an orange thumbs-up from you!
    Phil Friedman
    27/01/2017 #58 Phil Friedman
    I think I may have commented before, Gert, but just in case, here's my "relevant" for this exceedingly useful post. Cheers!
    Gert Scholtz
    27/01/2017 #57 Gert Scholtz
    #56 @Javier ๐Ÿ beBee It is a pleasure Javier !
    Gert Scholtz
    21/01/2017 #55 Gert Scholtz
    @Emilia M. Ludovino Thank you for the kind comments Emilia - it is always good to see your friendly presence on beBee.
    Gert Scholtz
    21/01/2017 #53 Gert Scholtz
    #52 @Julio Angel ๐ŸLopez Lopez Thank you for the invitation to the hive - I have joined and look forward to the posts.
    Julio Angel ๐ŸLopez Lopez
    21/01/2017 #52 Julio Angel ๐ŸLopez Lopez
    With the next change we can see how to act.

    By the way, @Gert Scholtz I invite you to the hive.
    With Olduvai the best site of prehistory.
    Emilia M. Ludovino
    21/01/2017 #51 Emilia M. Ludovino
    Thanks for the Relevant article @Gert Scholtz and for your Relevant in my posts. Keep the good work. Have a wonderful weekend!
    Gert Scholtz
    21/01/2017 #50 Gert Scholtz
    #44 @Lada ๐Ÿก Prkic I remember too the excitement on first publishing on beBee and how thankful I was for a few relevants (and comments).This is exactly why I think it is important to look out on the Producer tab for posts from new publishers on beBee. Thank you for reading and commenting Lada - I appreciate it.
    Gert Scholtz
    21/01/2017 #49 Gert Scholtz
    #42 @debasish majumder Only a poet such as yourself can extend a relevant in delectable fashion - the same as it is received by me. I appreciate it - thank you Debasish.
    Gert Scholtz
    21/01/2017 #48 Gert Scholtz
    #41 @๐Ÿ Fatima Williams I am happy that the post ticked all the boxes for you as you are one Bee with high standards! I like you last sentence: "Relevant to me is more like an acknowledgment of affinity that the buzz resonates with me or has added some value to me." Thank you Fatima.
    Gert Scholtz
    21/01/2017 #47 Gert Scholtz
    #40 @Praveen Raj Gullepalli I go along with your sentiments and views fully - thank you for reading and commenting Praveen.
    Devesh Bhatt
    21/01/2017 #46 Devesh Bhatt
    #45 Thank You
    Gert Scholtz
    21/01/2017 #45 Gert Scholtz
    #39 @Devesh Bhatt Yours are very complimentary words and I appreciate it - thank you Devesh.
    Lada ๐Ÿก Prkic
    21/01/2017 #44 Lada ๐Ÿก Prkic
    Gert, this is a very important topic to discuss, especially due to the large disproportion between the number of views and the number of Relevants, not to mention the number of comments.
    For me, the first praise to a post I read and enjoyed is to hit the relevant button. But sometimes the Relevant is also award for efforts, especially when it is about someone's first post because I always remember the excitement I felt when I published my first ever post, just on beBee.
    debasish majumder
    21/01/2017 #42 debasish majumder
    Great post @Gert Scholtz! extended the 'relevant' button in a delectable fashion, making the post exclusively relevant. enjoyed read. thank you for the share.
    ๐Ÿ Fatima Williams
    21/01/2017 #41 ๐Ÿ Fatima Williams
    #15 This buzz is definitely relevant as it ticks all the boxes for me @Gert Scholtz Thank you :)

    As @CityVP ๐Ÿ Manjit says " Relevance is not about acknowledging the quality of the writing, but far more about acknowledging the quality of the human being here and the message that they are trying to convey "
    More like a pat on the back to say your doing good and if we add a comment of value then the writer receives inputs to make the buzz more successful. Thus the message of the buzz is received and acknowledged. Relevant to me is more like an acknowledgment of affinity that the buzz resonates with me or has added some value to me.
    Praveen Raj Gullepalli
    21/01/2017 #40 Praveen Raj Gullepalli
    Good thoughts Gert! Clicking a relevant for me is like saying - I like it...it connects...i can relate...i appreciate the effort..and the like. It is an acknowledgement in the absence of an interaction / conversation. Sometimes words are not needed! It is the first step...finding something relevant...then thinking about it and sharing your views in the conversation (if you have some thoughts that is)...and if the inspiration is too much, creating producing honey is inevitable.
  7. ProducerJim Murray

    Jim Murray

    Grumpy and Grouchy Reflect On Beeing beBee Brand Ambassadorsโ€ฆ
    Grumpy and Grouchy Reflect On Beeing beBee Brand Ambassadorsโ€ฆThis is the 23rd edition of this column by Phil Friedman and myself, and itโ€™s a bit of an auspicious occasion insofar as Phil has recently been named a beBee Ambassador.Anyone who follows Phil knows that he is not only an outstanding writer and...


    Gerald Hecht
    17/01/2017 #75 Gerald Hecht
    Life is a work in process; as its meaning.
    Gerald Hecht
    17/01/2017 #74 Gerald Hecht
    #73 @Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman โ™ ๏ธโ™ฃ๏ธโ™ฅ๏ธโ™ฆ๏ธ..........๐Ÿƒ
    Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman
    17/01/2017 #73 Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman
    #72 ๐ŸŽค๐Ÿ’ป๐Ÿ–จ๐Ÿ“ž๐Ÿ“ธ๐Ÿ“ชโœ’๏ธโ™ป๏ธ๐Ÿต ๐Ÿ™Š ๐Ÿ™‰
    Gerald Hecht
    17/01/2017 #72 Gerald Hecht
    #71 @Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman ๐Ÿ“Š๐Ÿ“‘๐Ÿ—‚๐Ÿ—ƒ๐Ÿ“‹๐Ÿ“Ž๐Ÿ–‡๐Ÿ“š๐Ÿ“’๐Ÿ“™๐Ÿ“˜๐Ÿ“—๐Ÿ“•๐Ÿ“๐Ÿ–‹๐Ÿ“โœ‚๏ธ๐Ÿ”
    Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman
    16/01/2017 #71 Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman
    #63 ๐Ÿฆ‰
    Kevin Pashuk
    16/01/2017 #70 Kevin Pashuk
    Interesting discussion. While some beBee Ambassadors seem to excel at generating buzz by reposting, both of you are prolific producers of highly readable posts. While beBee finds its feet in the English speaking world (the growth is small compared to the Spanish language side), just keep doing what you do.

    Occasionally, I may even agree with you.
    Gerald Hecht
    16/01/2017 #69 Gerald Hecht
    #68 @Phil Friedman oh man!
    Phil Friedman
    16/01/2017 #68 Phil Friedman
    #64 Ah, the prospect of a new Soviet Union ... with US as the satellite. It must bring a smile to the face of Puta ... er, Putin. :-)
    Gerald Hecht
    16/01/2017 #67 Gerald Hecht
    #62 @Phil Friedman yeah, we got tons of 'em here too...they crawl out of the bayous with a backbeat that's narrow and hard to master...
    Gerald Hecht
    16/01/2017 #66 Gerald Hecht
    #60 @Phil Friedman God was a kid? I never thought of it that way!! He was a very talkative youngster!
    Gerald Hecht
    16/01/2017 #65 Gerald Hecht
    #59 @Phil Friedman ^ concomitant (not commitment)
    Gerald Hecht
    16/01/2017 #64 Gerald Hecht
    #59 @Phil Friedman I did not; another bubble burst...is there no solace to be found anywhere? It's a good think I grew up on the Jersey Shore...on the boardwalks...mostly every business/entertainment enterprise along the way ...is not quite what it seems ; the "fortune tellers", "snake oil hawkers", "carnival barkers"...eventually the total immersion in an environment of (mostly) harmless fraud...covered with a veneer of weathered paint and sand ..imparts both an immunity to and commitment expectation of the fake reality beneath the cotton candy surface.

    Still...people everywhere seem to be soothed at the prospect of significant savings on auto insurance...the glimmer of hope...the hope born of a promised lightening of their financial burden through switching to Geico.

    WAIT A MINUTE! Whose government? The Russians?
    Gerald Hecht
    16/01/2017 #63 Gerald Hecht
    #58 Naturally, you are most welcome; enjoying the lyrical departure from the sometimes overly cerebral prose of an engagement dynamic ๐Ÿ‘“๐ŸŽ“๐Ÿ–ฅ๐Ÿ–จ๐Ÿ“ท๐Ÿ—œ๐ŸŽš๐Ÿ“ฝ๐Ÿ’ฟ๐Ÿ“ก๐ŸŽ›โš—๏ธ๐Ÿ”ญ๐Ÿ”ฌ
    Phil Friedman
    16/01/2017 #62 Phil Friedman
    #61 Chas, at my house, we consider geckos our friends and guests. They eat bugs. To wit: "Florida has several lizard species that are easy to find and interesting to watch. Geckos are so common in buildings in South Florida that they are called โ€˜house lizards.โ€™ " ( http://www.wildflorida.com/florida_lizards.php ). As to salmonella, most wild lizards carry the bacteria, which is one reason why we give our dogs shots known as "Lepto" vaccinations. Not only do we have an abundance of geckos around our place, but we also have iguanas, some of which measure more than 4 feet from nose to tip of tail. Cheers!
    Chas โœŒ๏ธ Wyatt
    16/01/2017 #61 Chas โœŒ๏ธ Wyatt
    #59 Phil, when was the last time you ate a Gecko? How do you know it carries salmonella; is it a delicacy somewhere, or something?
    Phil Friedman
    16/01/2017 #60 Phil Friedman
    #49 There you go again , Jimbo, that's THREE things, not two.
    Phil Friedman
    16/01/2017 #59 Phil Friedman
    #57 Yes, Gerald, but did you know that the little lizard withe the Aussie accent carries salmonella, and the "Geico" stands for "government employees insurance company"?
    Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman
    16/01/2017 #58 Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman
    #56 Thanks, @Gerald Hecht ๐Ÿป
    Gerald Hecht
    16/01/2017 #57 Gerald Hecht
    @Phil Friedman @Jim Murray "Did you know that umm...yeah..." (ahem) "Did you know that switching to Geico could save you 15% or more on car insurance?"
  8. ProducerChas โœŒ๏ธ Wyatt
    Ambassadorship~ Do I Qualify?
    Ambassadorship~ Do I Qualify?I am humbled by my recent designation as a beBee Brand Ambassador, but, philosophical musings began to arise- maybe I think too much; maybe not. I do accept it and if for any reason it is revoked in the future, I will not be bitter about that...


    Praveen Raj Gullepalli
    15/01/2017 #43 Praveen Raj Gullepalli
    Hey Chas! Congrats again! Outside beBee land Brand Ambassadors are engaged/contracted or bought to endorse something good (or even dubious), irrespective of their patronage or conviction in the efficacy of the product or service being endorsed. Here the only thing that matters is your belief in beBee. If you got the title from beBees, rest assured, you earned it in full. What's left to do is to do what AmBees are supposed to do, best you can ;) I felt like an AmBee long before it was announced. I even expressed that. Because I believed then as I do now that this is the place for incubating value-based relationships that go the distance. That go into personal space as deeply as they do into professional space. Keep buzzing away!
    Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    15/01/2017 #42 Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    I just read through the comments and agree with everyone. If Javier feels you qualify, then by golly, you sure do! @Chas โœŒ๏ธ Wyatt, you are an uplifting person with a very positive attitude. I'm glad you were appointed. Loved reading about your journey on Social Media. I used to be a myspace addict until it fell apart, then we all left at once and joined Facebook. I have a love/Hate relationship with facebook. We don't use it for business because it doesn't suit my husband's needs. I used to have fun being 'me' on facebook until family members I hardly know found me, friends from HS found me and on the list goes. Now, I feel I can't just let loose like I used to there. That was sort of my playground ;-) My first experience with chat on the internet was using Windows 3.11 IRC. Wow... talk about a dinosaur but I made connections and even went to Penn State and volunteered at a golf outing for some friends I met online. I attended their awards dinner and met the infamous Jerry Sandusky and Joe Paterno... ick, cant believe I actually shook hands with Sandusky now!
    Phil Friedman
    15/01/2017 #41 Phil Friedman
    #40 Not so, Aurorasa. I have a can tab collection. Cheers!
    Aurorasa Sima
    15/01/2017 #40 Aurorasa Sima
    #39 Yeah. My theory is that itยดs just a perfidious trick to collect stamps. I fell for it.
    Phil Friedman
    15/01/2017 #39 Phil Friedman
    #36 Aleta, ask @Aurorasa Sima or @Andrew Books about that. Cheers!
    Gerald Hecht
    15/01/2017 #38 Gerald Hecht
    #37 @Aleta Curry I hope that you are feeling better; I just wanted to say that both you and @Chas โœŒ๏ธ Wyatt make me feel less isolated --I also have no FB, Twitter, Snap, Instagram, etc. accounts --I feel like I don't know what's going on half the time...but that's the "price" I guess... I don't want those things.
    Again Chas, I think that you are a cool (and cool headed) ambassador!
    Aleta Curry
    15/01/2017 #37 Aleta Curry
    Thanks for tagging me, Chas โœŒ๏ธ Wyatt Sorry, I had a medical emergency (sudden, severe drop in Iron levels) and I've been resting (yes, really!) for a couple of days.

    I see everyone has already addressed your 'fitness for ambassadorship' questions, so there's nothing for me to add. I will speak a little to your chronicle of your social media journey, though, which I read with great interest. I think we've been at beBee a comparable length of time, though you were here first and I remember how happy I was when I got your 'follow'. Your social web journey is very similar to mine, and these are the reasons, I daresay, you brought this to my attention.

    Since I have spent so much time marketing my business, I have tended to stick to the large venues, with one caveat: the system has to work for me, that is, it has to be pretty intuitive and easy to use. I also have to get the feeling that there is engagement of some sort; the writer in me just wants to know that *someone* is reading what I write. beBee answers that for me, so that's why I'm here and that's why I tell others about it. It's really a matter of customer satisfaction: you put out a good and useful product, your fame spreads by word of mouth. That's it, really.

    Like you, I still don't get the charm of Twitter; Facebook I do use because, as I've said before, Facebook for business is invaluable to what we do. Since you mention Pinterest, I'll say that it might suit you, because you are an artist. I have an account there but just can't keep up so it's staledated. I might also suggest Ello; the reason I'm not active there is because it's such a visual platform that seems to really suit people with portfolio, which is why I mention it to you.

    Okay, that's it. And yeah: you're a great Ambassador, blah blah blah. :D
    Aleta Curry
    15/01/2017 #36 Aleta Curry
    #12 Chas, I think it'll be funny if you send him the pull tab from the top of the tin!
    Gert Scholtz
    14/01/2017 #35 Gert Scholtz
    @Chas โœŒ๏ธ Wyatt Ken Boddie gave us the phrase: "She'll be right mate". You are indeed and have always been. . @Ken Boddie
    Jim Murray
    14/01/2017 #34 Jim Murray
    You'll bee fine, dude.
    Adela Garcia
    13/01/2017 #33 Adela Garcia
    Bill Stankiewicz, ๐Ÿ Brand Ambassador
    13/01/2017 #32 Bill Stankiewicz, ๐Ÿ Brand Ambassador
    Chas, you are an honest to goodness representative, and a true ambassador. I agree with Chas, and do I truly love what Javier beBee, Juan Imazย and the entire beBee team have created. What a group duo here & all the Bee's that I met over the past year. beBee will continue to be very successful & has great spirit. Best regards, Bill Stankiewicz
    debasish majumder
    13/01/2017 #31 debasish majumder
    yes, i do believe you are an honest an a true ambassador, who candidly express his bent of mind and a lovely approach, bringing a positive vibe to beBee! love insight @Chas โœŒ๏ธ Wyatt! enjoyed read. thank you for the share my dear bee.
    Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.
    13/01/2017 #30 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.
    oh @Chas โœŒ๏ธ Wyatt, the question is not 'do i qualify' but 'why do i qualify', we can give you 1000 reasons and more why you do. So enjoy being you. Enjoy beBee's journey.
    ๐Ÿ Fatima Williams
    13/01/2017 #29 ๐Ÿ Fatima Williams
    @Chas โœŒ๏ธ Wyatt Your straight-forward and down to earth attitude makes you a very special beBee and you contribute in your own unique way which make the experience even more special to us all.
    I thank Javier and his team and the awesome ambassador team that we are super proud to be a part of. #beBeesforever
    @Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman Love the poem ๐Ÿค—โค๐Ÿค—
    Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman
    13/01/2017 #28 Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman
    You are most deserving @Chas โœŒ๏ธ Wyatt! Welcome to the team.
    A positive and happy bee
    means a lot to you and me
    We know you care
    by what you share
    Stay just as you are
    and you'll go far
    Kevin Pashuk
    13/01/2017 #27 Kevin Pashuk
    Glad you made the move @Chas โœŒ๏ธ Wyatt... Hawaiian shirts and all.
    Emily๐Ÿ Bee
    13/01/2017 #26 Emily๐Ÿ Bee
    Chas, if @Javier ๐Ÿ beBee & @Juan Imaz think you're good, then you're good! Take this honor and bee proud. Clearly you are doing enough to get you the Ambassador name and that's awesome. Keep it up. Great article by the way detailing your Social Media travels between so many platforms. :-)
    Bill Stankiewicz, ๐Ÿ Brand Ambassador
    13/01/2017 #24 Bill Stankiewicz, ๐Ÿ Brand Ambassador
    Congratulations Chas Wyatt, you create solutions! Keep up the great efforts, if I can help you in any way please let me know???? regards, Bill Stankiewicz, Savannah, Georgia Bee
  9. ProducerMax๐Ÿ J. Carter
    Why beBee works
    Why beBee worksI've studied every aspect of this community for months. Studying social behavior is a hobby or me. It always has been. Even as a child I was studying everyone and trying to figure out why they acted they way they did.We are social creatures by...


    Bernard Poulin
    10/01/2017 #28 Bernard Poulin
    I will definitely take all of this into account. Thank you. B
    Max๐Ÿ J. Carter
    09/01/2017 #27 Max๐Ÿ J. Carter
    #26 I understand how you feel @Bernard Poulin it took me some time to find my place and how I best fit in beBee.

    It's not focused it's a shot gun blast of content due to the diversity of the community.

    I find professionalism varies based on ones profession. I had a battle I won with Linkedin over the use of the word Fuck and had to explain how using the word based on my profession is actually professional.

    It's a subjective term that is too often only associated with the corporate side of life though there are many professionals who have never and will never work for a corporation and have a totally different mindset for what it means to be professional in their profession.

    I often find with the "wanna be" that with a lot of them if you take some time with them and ask them what they are doing and why they become open to suggestion however you have to establish the relationship and invest the time with them first.

    With your experience I am sure there is a lot you have to teach.
    Bernard Poulin
    09/01/2017 #26 Bernard Poulin
    I appreciate your comments though I am not yet convinced how I fit in with BeBee. (I'm trying!) Interesting place but the integration of social media and business communications I find distracting so far and not focused. I connect with the idea of branding but don't see it in action. Is that a matter of age and temperament, definition, perspective? I don't know. There is no exclusivity of hives and so everything is mixed thus diluting the essence of "hivery". Being a patient (yeah right!) man I will allow time to pass and input to acclimatize itself in this bear of little brain. . .

    Another consideration is that in Facebook and LinkedIn I was seeing too much wanna-beism in various professions, such as the visual arts and writing, and too little actual professionalism. Maybe (probably) I'm a snob.
    Max๐Ÿ J. Carter
    08/01/2017 #25 Max๐Ÿ J. Carter
    #24 Thank you Franci.
    Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman
    08/01/2017 #24 Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman
    Thank you for this post, Max. Your positivity shines.
    ๐Ÿ Fatima Williams
    07/01/2017 #22 ๐Ÿ Fatima Williams
    A diverse community that engages with passion to build something for ourselves and to continue building this community simultaneously.
    I agree 100 % that beBee is a passionate affinity network. A network for the people by the people and of the people!
    Max๐Ÿ J. Carter
    07/01/2017 #20 Max๐Ÿ J. Carter
    #17 Everything is always in a constant state of change and I always keep myself in a state of refinement.
    Max๐Ÿ J. Carter
    07/01/2017 #19 Max๐Ÿ J. Carter
    #16 No regrets at all. and thank you Lisa.
    Max๐Ÿ J. Carter
    07/01/2017 #18 Max๐Ÿ J. Carter
    #15 Thank you David just trying to do my part.
    Mohammed Sultan
    07/01/2017 #17 Mohammed Sultan
    @Max J. Carter. You are now in the position to promote your balanced posture with an image that reinforces your idea.At this point in time,we have to think two things through to make beeBee brand stronger than the contents.First,If your brand is stronger than the marketing strategies and gives the readers a compelling reason to engage with what you are saying you may succeed in changing readers perception.Second,you may even go beyond this logic and commonsense and think of how to reduce the huge amounts of "dislikes" to many posts.Everyone should stick around the idea of strengthening beeBee brand while presenting the output of their skills or promoting their personal brands.
    Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    07/01/2017 #16 Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    Congrats @Max๐Ÿ J. Carter, and nice buzz!! I'm glad I took the plunge over to beBee last April. No regrets at all.
    David B. Grinberg
    07/01/2017 #15 David B. Grinberg
    Kudos, Max, on a wonderful read. I agree with all of your points, which you articulate well. If I weren't on beBee before reading this, I certainly would BEE afterwards. Keep buzzing!
    Javier ๐Ÿ beBee
    06/01/2017 #14 Javier ๐Ÿ beBee
    Thanks @Max๐Ÿ J. Carter. beBee will become huge if everyone talks about beBee. Buzz on !
    Max๐Ÿ J. Carter
    06/01/2017 #13 Max๐Ÿ J. Carter
    #11 Thank you for sharing the link with us. I look forward to reading it.
    Mamen ๐Ÿ Delgado
    06/01/2017 #11 Mamen ๐Ÿ Delgado
    #8 In fact a couple of days ago another bee, @Jorge ๐Ÿ Carballo Pรฉrez, wrote a Producer about our first collaboration, but it is only in Spanish, sorry. Here you have the link:
    I'll write soon about another very interesting collaboration with @Cristina Alvarez Pagรกn, CEO on Tips para Emprender.
    Mamen ๐Ÿ Delgado
    06/01/2017 #10 Mamen ๐Ÿ Delgado
    #9 Ok, I'll retweet it so I can tag you.
    Max๐Ÿ J. Carter
    06/01/2017 #9 Max๐Ÿ J. Carter
    #7 I do and thank you for sharing,

    @PoppaSmokeTCRNR is my twitter name,
    Max๐Ÿ J. Carter
    06/01/2017 #8 Max๐Ÿ J. Carter
    #6 Good to hear other success stories @Mamen ๐Ÿ Delgado and I hope to see a "Here's how beBee made this happen" buzz in the future. ;) haha

    It can be a process to go from inspiration to "OK now I can publish." as we often let our passions inspire our topics.
    Mamen ๐Ÿ Delgado
    06/01/2017 #7 Mamen ๐Ÿ Delgado
    Shared on Twitter, buy the way. Have you got Twitter account?
  10. ProducerMax๐Ÿ J. Carter
    Finding the right P.I.L. Partner In Life
    Finding the right P.I.L. Partner In LifeI love monogamy. I have tried exploring this poly-sexual thing and it's not me. To me it's about a lot more than the sex, however if the sex is an issue...I read an article a few months ago about this thing called deep dating while I was in the...


    Brian McKenzie
    28/12/2016 #7 Brian McKenzie
    #6 not likely, i have gone from chasing women, to ignoring them to outright avoiding them. I finally like my life, I am not about to mess it up by inviting trouble. I have a long line of ex's - they all go. "Love" is temporary, transactional, disposable and inherently dangerous.
    Max๐Ÿ J. Carter
    28/12/2016 #6 Max๐Ÿ J. Carter
    #2 Been that guy, got over it, you will too once the right woman....
    Max๐Ÿ J. Carter
    28/12/2016 #5 Max๐Ÿ J. Carter
    #3 @David B. Grinberg You present quite the riddle indeed. Neither one is the answer.

    The right one consumes your thoughts as well as your heart and while yes at times you fight like demons, the make up sex is nearly as demonic and twice as good. ;)

    It gets boring as you noted when there are no waves to ride and hope you can still shoot the curl without eating the ocean floor and being tossed around like a rag doll at the mercy of the crashing waves.

    I often tell men find a woman whose wave you like riding and adjust accordingly as in the USA PMS is a legal reason to get away with murder while being considered legally temporarily insane. I wish I was making it up.

    With each of my marriages I knew long before the end the end was coming as the eye and mind wandered. Their eyes and minds had wandered too. Somewhere we just stopped working at it and for some reason decided there was no way to get it back.

    It retrospect I see the loves I have gone to have and have heard each of them has what I couldn't give them and there was something lacking from their end too, however it's not about blame or he said she said, it just became healthier for where we were growing a part to part ways.

    There is never a cookie cutter answer to any of life's issues as you have to really take the time to think about all the people involved and know every one is going to get hurt if comes to the break up.

    Take the time to make sure you know what you want and have found it in another human being. Even then people grow apart at times.
    Kevin Baker
    28/12/2016 #4 Kevin Baker
    The relationships that last come to us when we are not looking.
    David B. Grinberg
    28/12/2016 #3 David B. Grinberg
    Nice buzz with some good advice, Max. Now riddle me this: what does a guy do when his heart is with one woman but his head is with another? To be more specific, the first is a true love but the two partners cannot live together because each agitates and aggravates the other too often (plus, the sex is bad). The second woman is a rock solid winner, a hard worker and great home maker simultaneously. You get along well (and the sex is good). But things get boring at times. What to do?
    And, no, they won't both marry me in Utah. Thanks for your sage advice based on this limited information.
    Brian McKenzie
    28/12/2016 #2 Brian McKenzie
    Being truly honest with myself led me to know that it is all game, lies heaped upon stereotypes, hearsay and branded iconography from the oracles of Hollywood and Wall Street. There is no "Love", it is simply a dopamine narcotic episode of transactional emotions where money, height, figure and tit-for-tat collide. Don't believe me? Take money off the table - see how long 'Love' lasts.
    Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman
    27/12/2016 #1 Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman
    HONESTY is a huge word in a relationship - whether it is friendship, partnership, romantic interest, sexual, etc. I agree with your last statement "You can only be honest with someone else once you have stopped lying to yourself."
  11. Producerjesse kaellis

    jesse kaellis

    You took my spot
    You took my spotYou took my spot This was again in โ€˜83. I was getting ready for my first fight. Like I said, and I have seen this in other fighters, they are constantly "on." It's tiresome and not pleasant. It's because they don't know or trust themselves...


    Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman
    20/12/2016 #18 Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman
    #16 I can't imagine how difficult that must be. At least now you the reason and have medication that will help you.
    Don ๐Ÿ Kerr
    20/12/2016 #17 Don ๐Ÿ Kerr
    jesse kaellis
    20/12/2016 #16 jesse kaellis
    I was always a hot head, Franci. It wasn't until I was diagnosed as bipolar and started on medication that I stopped being angry all the time. Much to my relief since that is a terrible way to live.
    Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman
    20/12/2016 #15 Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman
    I have to give you credit for taking your stance, Jesse. Stay cool.
    jesse kaellis
    17/12/2016 #14 jesse kaellis
    Thanks, Donna-Luisa Eversley, for sharing my post. Thanking the people who chose my story as relevant.
    jesse kaellis
    17/12/2016 #13 jesse kaellis
    I didn't feel sorry for the guy at the time. He was a prick. But it's always in retrospect that one wishes to be a better person. Thanks, Todd.
    Todd Jones
    16/12/2016 #12 Todd Jones
    Love it, Jesse! Unfortunately, some people need to have good manners beat into them. I believe that most social ills today are the result of assholes acting without fear of repercussion. 150 years ago, perpetual assholes found themselves at the business end of a .45. Today they act with impunity and go on to spawn more assholes.
    jesse kaellis
    16/12/2016 #11 jesse kaellis
    Addendum. My friend understood me, and he didn't judge me. He understood that I forced myself to get in the ring. He told me that of all the guys he knew who said they were going to do it ("And I knew a lot of them.") I was the only one who ever did do it. He meant guys who started out as adults.
    I have coached boxers, and I never saw a guy much over 18/19/21 have any real success in the sport. It happens, but it's rare. The heavier weights have more of a shot when they start late.
    jesse kaellis
    16/12/2016 #10 jesse kaellis
    The guy was an asshole, but he probably didn't need to get beat up. When I told my friend the story, he said that maybe that would take some of the pressure I was putting myself under off of me. It was all about fear. My fear. My fear of other men. That's what drove me into the ring in the first place. Not that that is unusual in any way. But it is different when you start out as an adult rather than as a kid. The ramifications are acute. The back is an ordeal, but now that I'm into it I have to carry on as best I can.
    Thanks, Pascal.
    jesse kaellis
    16/12/2016 #9 jesse kaellis
    The surgeon said that if ever a back required surgical intervention it would be my back. Total destruction of L 5 through 3 and a very narrow stenosis. Yes, Cyndi, I'm disappointed. I was hoping for more and less of a travail. I have a lot of work ahead of me regarding rehab.
    Pascal Derrien
    16/12/2016 #8 Pascal Derrien
    I dare not think what if he had stolen your car.......your foot note comments should have been included in the story I think they would make it powerful :-) Hope the back is holding on :-)
    Cyndi wilkins
    16/12/2016 #7 Cyndi wilkins
    Of all my clients who have had back surgery, and there are very many, only one has said he was happy he did it as it rarely turns out for the better...However, your situation was very serious and demanded surgical intervention...Now you need to work with a good pain specialist to help you manage those symptoms without relying too much on opiates...We all know where that leads to. And find a good massage therapist too;-) Rootin' for you!
    jesse kaellis
    16/12/2016 #6 jesse kaellis
    I'll tell you the truth, Cyndi, I would give pause if I knew beforehand all this would entail. It is way more painful and debilitating than I had imagined. But what was the alternative? I had to do something, or I would have ended up paralyzed. Thanks for your good wishes, Cyndi.
    jesse kaellis
    16/12/2016 #5 jesse kaellis
    When I look back on moments like that, moments like that in my life, I reflect upon the fact that I didn't like myself very much at the time. A painful way to live, Phil. I was an angry little man. Thanks for your intelligent and considered comment.
    Phil Friedman
    16/12/2016 #4 Phil Friedman
    Jesse, the honesty of this piece is typical of your writing. You and I both know that the guy didn't deserve what he got for stealing the parking space. No doubt he deserved it for a whole bunch of other things that he'd done, but not for that. As well, although I can't say for sure, but I'd bet he was over it immediately after the first jab, especially if he covered up and bent over. Most guys are. The rest was you working your anger out about entirely different matters on a "live" bag. And you know you could have stopped there. Good thing he was too macho to file charges. I knew a "hillbilly" bantam-weight club pro who lived on Chicago's near north side, name of Willy Wain, who would work his anger off provoking street fights with two or three toughs at a time. He had super fast hands and great footwork, would usually win, always wreak havoc, but sometimes lose and end pretty badly beaten up. But it was just life for him. If you're ever in my area, there are a couple of pizzas and some beers waiting. And I'll even forego the anchovies. Cheers!
    Cyndi wilkins
    16/12/2016 #3 Cyndi wilkins
    " In New York, you might get shot for stealing someoneโ€™s parking space. Especially after they dug it out in the winter." Being from the Boston area myself, I know the frustration of a moment like this...some people just enjoy pissing other people off...Bet he won't do that again...Happy holidays Jesse...I hope your back is healing well;-)
    jesse kaellis
    16/12/2016 #2 jesse kaellis
    I was just a hard on at the time, Deb, and I have no excuse. Thanks, Javier,
    Deb ๐Ÿ Helfrich
    16/12/2016 #1 Deb ๐Ÿ Helfrich
    @jesse kaellis!!!!!! Glad to see you hitting the publish button again. Probably the case that being in cars and being behind keyboards makes us all forget our manners expecting that we are insulated to some extent.
  12. ProducerMax๐Ÿ J. Carter
    Why is the road to hell paved with good intentions?
    Why is the road to hell paved with good intentions?Let's stop and think about it.ย I look back at the white lies I told out of the good intent to spare someone's feelings and what I found out later was that it actually hurt them a lot more in the long run.ย It's why I feel that anything less than...


    Mohammed A. Jawad
    16/12/2016 #7 Mohammed A. Jawad
    Thanks @Max๐Ÿ J. Carter for empowering truth and shattering lies. Indeed, lying makes a person timid, with colorful deception. Even in a tidbit of truth, there's immense strength and power that turns a person bold enough to battle against rogue evil in multitude. And, for a honest person, the greatest strength comes from truths.
    Max๐Ÿ J. Carter
    16/12/2016 #6 Max๐Ÿ J. Carter
    #5 Great poem @Mohammed thank you for sharing it.
    Mohammed Sultan
    16/12/2016 #5 Mohammed Sultan
    @Max.Nowadays,people compromise their integrity for money ,not love.They have a rainbow colors of lies.They even try to make others comfortable considering all what had been said is a mere trifle and quite unworthy of being dwelt in .Take this poem from OLD RHYME about people of words ;
    A man of words and not of deeds
    Is like a garden full of weeds;
    And when the weeds begin to grow,
    It's like a garden full of snow;
    And when the snow begins to fall,
    It's like a bird upon the wall;
    And when the bird away does fly,
    It's like an eagle in the sky;
    And when the sky begins to roar,
    It's like a lion at the door;
    And when the door begins to crack,
    It's like a stick across your back;
    And when your back begins to smart,
    It's like a penknife in your heart ;
    And when your heart begins to bleed,
    You are dead ,and dead ,and to the hell indeed.
    Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman
    16/12/2016 #4 Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman
    Good topic to bring forward. Lies hurt those you lie to, and yourself. One lie leads to another and another.
    Robert Booker
    16/12/2016 #3 Robert Booker
    It is true. We tell those little white lies hoping they do good. The problem is they don't. A lie is a lie no matter how we tell it.
    debasish majumder
    16/12/2016 #2 debasish majumder
    yes, a single lie will breed innumerable lies. nice insight @Max๐Ÿ J. Carter! enjoyed read. thank you for the share.
    Pascal Derrien
    16/12/2016 #1 Pascal Derrien
    Honesty is an underrated currency nowadays in which nobody wants to invest that's a pity because many will suddenly become very poor when they will reach the check out !
  13. ProducerRobert Bacal

    Robert Bacal

    Why I Don't Routinely Thank People For Reading Or Commenting On What I Write
    Why I Don't Routinely Thank People For Reading Or Commenting On What I WriteI've noticed that on social media, people tend to thank those who read their posts or comment on them. Some do that for almost every single comment made, which clutters up the thread for users hoping for substantive information and discussion.Yes,...


    Robert Bacal
    19/12/2016 #41 Robert Bacal
    #39 Todd you hit on another reason I don't feel I have to respond to or thank people for every comment or read, and that is after spending several decades (since the c-64) sitting hour after hour, day after day, writing, coding websites, etc, I have come to LOATHE sitting here.

    So, it's also why I don't comment that much on others' posts too. I miss out because of it, but I don't find it fun, and my eyesight is starting to be impaired by minor cataracts, which doesn't make it enjoyable.

    PS. There is no dink or not dink. THere is only....
    Todd Jones
    19/12/2016 #39 Todd Jones
    I must admit, @Robert Bacal, when I first read this, I thought "This guy is a dink. I bet he doesn't say 'thank you' when people hold the door for him either." However, after reading the comments, rereading the post, and viewing your profile and blog pages, I have changed my mind.

    Writing for me is merely a winter hobby. I once got lucky with a LinkedIn post that was picked up by Pulse. With over 6,700 views, I made it a point to reply to everyone that took the time to comment, because I truly appreciated that they took the time to respond. And because I had nothing better to do.

    As someone who is busy earning a living rattling a keyboard, I can see how this is not a productive way to spend your time. So, if you chose not to respond to this, I forgive you. Plus, as a seasonal resident of the 1000 Islands region on the St Lawrence, I have never met a Canadian that I don't like. I figure that you cant be all that bad. Count me as a follower.
    Robert Bacal
    19/12/2016 #38 Robert Bacal
    #37 One of the reasons I wanted to post the article was that there is NO right answer, and I wanted more to facilitate a conversation around something where personal preferences apply, but that two positions are equally valid and supportable.

    So I particularly agree with your last paragraph.
    Devesh Bhatt
    19/12/2016 #37 Devesh Bhatt
    What is relevant, the stream or the people?

    Sometimes people need a nudge to give back a great input for thinking and expanding an idea, being polite certainly helps.

    One simply cannot thank everyone, why take the burden and then try to justify it?

    Thats what i think, it doesnt apply to everyone, im writing to express and replying to comments to connect with people.
    Harvey Lloyd
    16/12/2016 #36 Harvey Lloyd
    #35 It is well to practice the deposit/withdrawal concepts of Steven Covey. His premise is that if we seek to make as many deposits as possible, withdrawals, when they occur, don't leave negative bank accounts. Or in this scenario negative emotional accounts.
    Mike Rana
    16/12/2016 #35 Mike Rana
    There might also come a time when you won't have time to dedicate to responding. If you have keen attention to detail and you know who your regular contributors are, you can take time periodically to thank them as a group for their engagement, even if it's a short email.#34
    Renรฉe  ๐Ÿ Cormier
    16/12/2016 #34 Renรฉe ๐Ÿ Cormier
    #33 Well said, Harvey. @Robert Bacal, if you inadvertently miss a comment, then so be it. If your habit is to make a point of being polite and gracious, then, the general opinion of you will be favourable. If your habit is to ignore comments and not participate in discussion, then you will discover that your readership will not be as strong. Generally speaking, we write and publish because we want our voices to be heard and our insights to be appreciated by others. It's a two way street. Eventually, you get what you give.
    Harvey Lloyd
    16/12/2016 #33 Harvey Lloyd
    Acknowledging a comment or thank you by just hitting the plus icon is part of the help process. If your writing is impactful to someone and they took time to acknowledge that it did....then the process should be acknowledged.

    Considering a feed and the many posts that were available for someone to read, they chose yours. To me this is a acknowledgement of your expertise in the subject matter or presentation, second, given time constraints they not only read but took the time to comment about how the article was appreciated.

    From the posting process and receiving the many comments or other indications of activity it is a daunting task. But this is the network we produce. Produce according to your ability to mange the feedback.
    Aurorasa Sima
    16/12/2016 #32 Aurorasa Sima
    #29 You have my attention and readership always.

    Politeness and making people feel appreciated and good about themselves might be a matter of taste - a mistake it is not.

    Yes, we cannot tell if a "thank you" was sincere and heartfelt. We can also not tell if being ignored is a lack of manners, personal style, or indifference.

    What is for sure is that we donยดt feel the need to question ourselves when someone thanks us. Insecure people might start to doubt themselves when they do not receive an acknowledgment of their participation, especially true for writers who "reward" only comments they feel are worthy.

    When in doubt, go the positive route. Positive words create positive worlds (:
    Mark Anthony
    16/12/2016 #31 Mark Anthony
    And it is different but when you drill down, self similiar. Thank you, cheers, nice one, etc etc. Fractals Forever, chaos, is order and we are all connected. Spread the love. #30
    Deb ๐Ÿ Helfrich
    16/12/2016 #30 Deb ๐Ÿ Helfrich
    #29 Thank you is a fractal phrase. It keeps repeating.
    Milos Djukic
    16/12/2016 #29 Anonymous
    #28 @Robert Bacal, Since I am desperate for attention and readership, I will replay again: Thank you (your turn)
    โ€Nothing is so strong as gentleness, nothing so gentle as real strength.โ€ - Francis de Sales
    "Wishing someone a happy holiday is itself a positive emotional act designed to make others feel good and to raise holiday cheer.โ€ - Adam D. I. Kramer
    "Thank you" - For some people it is an internal need and then there is no help. Therefore, we can never know whether it was sincere or superficial. I do not mind and I even like "Thank you" statement. Please don't ask me why. I have no answer.
    Robert Bacal
    16/12/2016 #28 Robert Bacal
    #26 Thank YOU @Milos Djukic (your turn)
    Robert Bacal
    16/12/2016 #27 Robert Bacal
    So, let me ask you guys something.

    Is the etiquette that you thank someone for the first of their comments to a post? Every first comment?

    Are there any kinds of comments that don't "deserve" a thank you, or is it all comments (trolls excepted)?

    What if you miss people in a comment stream? Doesn't that stand out as a statement if you thank for every first comment?

    Just wondering. I WAS brought up in a barn.
    Milos Djukic
    16/12/2016 #26 Anonymous
    Thank you @Robert Bacal :)
    Renรฉe  ๐Ÿ Cormier
    16/12/2016 #25 Renรฉe ๐Ÿ Cormier
    Being gracious is a smart business practice. Nobody needs to read, comment or share anything you write. I always thank people or at the very least acknowledge a comment with a like, unless it is a comment from a troll. Every comment and share someone makes, including you, boosts your post, which in my opinion, is also good for building your exposure and reach in social media.
    Cory Galbraith
    16/12/2016 #24 Cory Galbraith
    Fair enough Robert.
    Robert Bacal
    16/12/2016 #23 Robert Bacal
    #21 True, @Cory Galbraith There are social niceties that are embedded (and often different) in each culture. I don't know if there is such a thing for social media.

    To be clear, I'm willing to thank people for contributions that I truly appreciate. What I'm saying is that I don't ROUTINELY thank people just for the act of commenting, or reading. If anything readers should thank writers for sharing their ideas free of charge.

    It takes far longer to write a valuable full article than it does to write a one line comment that has no real value at all except to grease the social wheels.
    Robert Bacal
    16/12/2016 #22 Robert Bacal
    #16 @Tony Krznarich Your example kind of makes my point. When Someone says hi to me, I say hi back.

    What I don't do, and I've never heard anyone say "Thank you for saying hello to me"
    Cory Galbraith
    15/12/2016 #21 Cory Galbraith
    In the spirit of your post Robert, I shall introduce a contrary view - that without the common courtesies of "thank you" and "you're welcome" what kind of society would we have? The social niceties, while seemingly empty, do help to provide a sense of community, civility and dare I say - mutual support, all of which are sorely lacking in today's selfie world. As another commentator here suggested - if my boss came to me and said, "you did a great job" but I simply ignored him or her, what signal is that sending? Years ago, I felt that "small talk" had no place in business. Until I discovered how vital it is to establishing rapport. Thanks for letting me comment. (oops).
  14. ProducerMohammed A. Jawad
    Relationships between Rage and Rancor
    Relationships between Rage and RancorWhat an irony where blood relationships get severed, with growing rage and rancor! What prompts people to embrace discord and shun love? Is it devilish temptations, lack of elegant etiquette, or hyperbolic hatred? Of all stages of human...


    Mohammed A. Jawad
    13/12/2016 #8 Mohammed A. Jawad
    #6 @Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman Thanks for your thoughtful comments. Perhaps, in this fast-paced global village where communication is easy, accessible and spontaneous, we ought to harbor cordial, peaceful relationships and live cheery lives. That's the need of the passing times.
    Mohammed A. Jawad
    13/12/2016 #7 Mohammed A. Jawad
    #5 @Donna-Luisa Eversley Thanks for your comments and appreciation. Indeed, as long as nothing is initiated and sorted out forgiveness does seem hard to perform. But, when someone comes with apologies, then we ought to readily forgive him/her. On the other hand, forgiving our near and dear ones with our mellowed hearts is worthwhile action. After all, 'to err is human and to forgive is divine'.
    Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman
    13/12/2016 #6 Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman
    It's disturbing that people can't get along and some carry grudges and some turn to revenge. Your post is timely because, during this time of the year, some people tend to be more caring and giving - but what about the rest of the year? And forgiveness, I agree with Donna-Luisa. Forgiving seems to be easier said than done.
    Donna-Luisa Eversley
    12/12/2016 #5 Donna-Luisa Eversley
    @Mohammed A. Jawad it is quite an interesting post you have here...provocative is the word I should use, because it should stir emotions, and does ! Forgiveness is I think one of the easiest things to give verbally but very hard in action to perform. It is the actions which come after the words which will yield us to our true feelings! Excellent post, I hope everyone will read๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ’
    Mohammed A. Jawad
    12/12/2016 #4 Mohammed A. Jawad
    #3 @Phil Friedman Yea...I have seen families, who clinging on to their ways, had diffusing differences. Either they happen to meet at marriage ceremonies or at funerals. Other than that they keep grudging with complaints and criticisms. But, now-a-days, so much has changed that members of the same families avoid each other on festive occasions and are rarely seen at funerals. :(
    Phil Friedman
    12/12/2016 #3 Phil Friedman
    Mohammed, there is wisdom here. My family on my father's side had an unspoken tradition. At the death of a family member, all family feuds existing at that time were cancelled, and all grievances erased. It would then take several years for new ones to emerge, but they would last only until the next funeral. Not a perfect system, but better than most. Cheers!
    Mohammed A. Jawad
    12/12/2016 #2 Mohammed A. Jawad
    #1 @Ken Boddie Thanks for your comments. Well said. Yea...in fact, anger is after all temporal madness!
    Ken Boddie
    12/12/2016 #1 Ken Boddie
    'Hyperbolic hatred' says it all, Mohd!
    Isn't is weird how anger can turn some people psychotic? ๐Ÿ˜ก
    You might say ..... as mad as a barefoot centipede on a hot rock! ๐Ÿ˜Š
  15. ProducerRobert Bacal

    Robert Bacal

    A Practical, Ethical Social Media Dilemma: What Would You Do?
    A Practical, Ethical Social Media Dilemma: What Would You Do?This is inspired by a few posts regarding bullying, and calling people out based on an opinion about someone else being a snake-oil salesperson that resonated with me.ย NOTE: What follows is completely hypothetical. While parts of it may sound...


    Robert Bacal
    12/12/2016 #75 Robert Bacal
    #74 @Paul Frank Gilbert Much of my seminar work and a good chunk of my books deal with managing verbal abuse, and one of the things I learned is that to try to coin or use a different term (which I have attempted a lot), interferes with the fundamental purpose -- to communicate about a set of behaviors that are "abusive".

    So, I live with the term. I don't like it either. But since I want to communicate about those behaviors, and I don't have time to get people to accept my own personal preferences and make them the norm, I go with it.

    I have not enough years left in my life to try to change common usage of a word.
    Paul Frank Gilbert
    12/12/2016 #74 Paul Frank Gilbert
    #73 Don't have to like it ... and don't have to support it. People are free to use whatever terms they want. Your opening line "This is inspired by a few posts regarding bullying, and calling people out based on an opinion about someone else being a snake-oil salesperson that resonated with me" used the word bully so I spoke to that for that reason. Still stand my opinion that an open forum with millions of people means we are going to run into folks that challenge us. A lot of our concern with that is because we know others may be influenced/manipulated by a persons view ... without ever truly knowing us .. or even bothering to ask. We can keep our communities small and well managed ...but we miss out on opportunities we might have missed. I think for most of us .. the risk is worth it.
    Robert Bacal
    12/12/2016 #73 Robert Bacal
    #71 @Paul Frank Gilbert Paul, I've written several pieces over the years on how I think bullying is not a good term to apply or use, in the same sense the word "troll" is not a good word because of the attached emotional connotations which stem back to childhood.

    I don't believe I used the word "bullying" in the text of the article, and I chose the picture specifically because the charge of "bullying" is often used when someone might disagree, or point out flaws, particularly when it comes to ads or pseudo articles that are ads.

    HOWEVER, like it or not, "bullying" is the coin of the realm. It's used to refer to adult situations, not only in common use, but also for the purposes of legislation.

    see http://www.lawnow.org/an-overview-of-anti-bullying-legislation-and-alternatives-in-canada/

    for a few examples.
    Deb ๐Ÿ Helfrich
    12/12/2016 #72 Deb ๐Ÿ Helfrich
    #71 "unbecoming conduct" That is a truly meaningful addition to the overall discussion, @Paul Frank Gilbert

    It is about the conduct - behaviors - not the words used.

    The image the concept bullying brings to mind is of a playground fight - which implies someone will be physically hurt and there is likely a cheering or jeering crowd.

    A pattern of unbecoming conduct.

    Thanks for evolving my thinking so that I can conduct myself more effectively using a less evocative phrase that may keep the discussion on a less incendiary trajectory.

    An open community in frank discussion can learn and achieve a great, great deal.
    Paul Frank Gilbert
    12/12/2016 #71 Paul Frank Gilbert
    Bullying is a word reserved for children ... IMO. As adults and especially in the business world, there is unprofessional conduct. Who as an adult wants to have to complain about being "bullied"? Much more powerful to say "conduct unbecoming of a professional". Legal implications. No weak versus strong, or any other connotations. Social media is a microcosm of (and becoming more and more the reality) our society and our audience is way bigger than we can possibly manage. We are exposed to it all. Every facet of life and the people molded by it. I think we need to be concerned ... but less so about the content that is online ... and moreso about the people that simply believe whatever they read and have become too lazy to take responsibility for understanding the reality of the world around them.
    Robert Bacal
    12/12/2016 #70 Robert Bacal
    #69 I'm guessing you might have read the comments, and not the article, which is not about anything you mentioned in either of your comments. Just trying to keep the conversation focused on the original question: What would you do if you came across claims online (let's say on Bebee) when you believe they are false, misleading, or taking advantage of others? Pretty straightforward, @Ian Weinberg
    Ian Weinberg
    12/12/2016 #69 Ian Weinberg
    #68 @Robert Bacal I really don't wish to enter into a nitpicking exercise. I'm peripherally aware of issues which have occurred on beBee involving several individuals and have consequently caught a whiff of undercurrent nuance reflecting these conflicts in this post and in related comments. And so I choose to merely highlight my perception thereof in broad principle and leave the detailed reflection, if warranted or appropriate, to said individuals.
    Robert Bacal
    12/12/2016 #68 Robert Bacal
    #67 @Ian Weinberg Would you care to address the question in the example? I'm sure you have an interesting perspective.
    Ian Weinberg
    12/12/2016 #67 Ian Weinberg
    Authentic engagement is laying all that you are on the line, warts and all. Innuendo, subtle metaphor and the like is not conducive to collective evolution. Additionally, the sanitization of engagements by deleting comments further detracts from the prevailing authentic reality. If you find that you're beginning to play the player and not the ball, then it's time to re-evaluate yourself because often your negative and aggressive reaction to others is underpinned by quirks within yourself. I would welcome authentic engagement with gloves-off combat if need be, but with a degree of mutual respect devoid of judgmentalism. I would suggest that such constructive engagement is conducive to mutual growth as opposed to destructive tit-for-tat childish banter.
    Ben Pinto
    12/12/2016 #66 Ben Pinto
    I am trying to follow this and I feel like a typo is in order here. I am trying to fool low this...
    Robert Bacal
    12/12/2016 #65 Robert Bacal
    In case you missed this, BeBee at its best, and then BeBee at its worst, and then....whoa, it's cleanup and Bebee at its best again. Coolio.
    Robert Bacal
    12/12/2016 #64 Robert Bacal
    Well, dang. That's cool. We were in a dark cool tunnel with multiple paths and forks, and somehow we ended up with a clear direction and the removal of the distractions.

    No idea of how that happens, but thanks, and maybe it's the Vogons doing some demolition to put in an intergalactic communication throughway?
    Gerald Hecht
    12/12/2016 #63 Gerald Hecht
    Well; I guess we all learned something here; it would be cool to know what that something is --but that's okay.
    Gerald Hecht
    12/12/2016 #62 Gerald Hecht
    #61 @Randy Keho yes --let us all put put things into perspective...and collectively wish Kirk Douglas a happy 100th birthday ๐ŸŽ‰...I loved when all of his skeptical companions stood up to the Centurions; one by one...and said: "I am Spartacus."
    Randy Keho
    12/12/2016 #61 Randy Keho
    Whoa, fellas, time out
    I feel that I have inadvertently started this unfortunate diatribe by unintentionally hijacking this hypothetical post and its ensuing thread.
    Therefore, I extend my deepest apologies to everyone involved.I have the utmost respect for each of you and I don't wish to witness the impending train wreck.
    Please accept my apology, relax, and prepare for a new week. Besides, I'm up to my ass in snow, so the upcoming week has already presented me with enough challenges.:)
    Gerald Hecht
    12/12/2016 #60 Gerald Hecht
    @Deb ๐Ÿ Helfrich I am Spartacus.
    Gerald Hecht
    12/12/2016 #59 Gerald Hecht
    @Phil Friedman I am Spartacus.
    Gerald Hecht
    12/12/2016 #58 Gerald Hecht
    @Robert Bacal I am Spartacus.
    Gerald Hecht
    12/12/2016 #57 Gerald Hecht
    @Randy Keho I am Spartacus.
    Gerald Hecht
    12/12/2016 #56 Gerald Hecht
    #52 @Don ๐Ÿ Kerr I am Spartacus.
  16. ProducerDeb ๐Ÿ Helfrich
    Socks, Open-mindedness, and Intolerance Masked
    Socks, Open-mindedness, and Intolerance MaskedThis buzz is solely my personal opinion and represents a rebuttal to some members of this community. Please do exercise your right to click-away if you are uninterested in hearing about some masked discrimination that I recently experienced, as...


    Lada ๐Ÿก Prkic
    12/12/2016 #79 Lada ๐Ÿก Prkic
    I donโ€™t know what the whole fuss is about. I read both articles and found the controversial buzz about snake oil by Don Kerr, with which I disagree although I admire the author. By the way, I think we should be able to speak bluntly and to indicate the article or the author to whom it refers. It's the fair thing to do.
    I have a positive attitude towards holistic medicine because I was convinced in its effects at the example of my family. It is logical approach to the healing process that includes the whole person and not just the human body. But I can also understand the opposite opinions.
    For example, my highly religious colleague is strongly against yoga. When she heard that I was intended to start doing yoga she tried to talk me out of it. She thinks about yoga as some kind of demonic activity. This is her attitude toward meditation, too.
    Unlike her I grew up in an environment which has always been open to new ideas. Thatโ€™s why I also believe that the ability to discuss any topic is how we grow and learn to be tolerant, the value greatly lacking in society.
    @Deb ๐Ÿ Helfrich, thanks for the post that broadens horizons.
    jesse kaellis
    12/12/2016 #78 jesse kaellis
    It was more than I expected, Robert but it will have been worthwhile if I get the results I expect. I HAD to take action. The consequences of continuing to deteriorate would have put me in a wheelchair.
    Robert Bacal
    11/12/2016 #77 Robert Bacal
    #74 Sorry to hear that, @jesse kaellis. Obviously the surgeries weren't your "garden variety" simple stuff, if there's actually such a thing with something so complex as the back.
    debasish majumder
    11/12/2016 #76 debasish majumder
    snake have a fixed eye ball, which is a hindrance to them, in terms of catching their prey! on contrary, human have an eye ball, enabling them to keep a vision and even enable to widen their vistas! wonderful post @Deb ๐Ÿ Helfrich View more
    snake have a fixed eye ball, which is a hindrance to them, in terms of catching their prey! on contrary, human have an eye ball, enabling them to keep a vision and even enable to widen their vistas! wonderful post @Deb ๐Ÿ Helfrich! ENJOYED READ MADAM. THANK YOU FOR THE SHARE. Close
    jesse kaellis
    11/12/2016 #75 jesse kaellis
    Thanks, Deb. Very much. I couldn't even get near a cyber cafe, so I came back to a backlog of correspondence. Which I knew.
    jesse kaellis
    11/12/2016 #74 jesse kaellis
    Time will tell, Robert. It will take intensive rehab and a recovery period of up to three months. The screws, the apparatus, needs to fuse with the bone. I had two surgeries. I fell shortly after the first one. A disaster. But there's this; I finally understand why people commit suicide over chronic pain. Physician-assisted suicide. At times the pain was extraordinary.
    Deb ๐Ÿ Helfrich
    11/12/2016 #73 Deb ๐Ÿ Helfrich
    #71 I am tremendously glad you are on the mend - alive and with a back all the better to kick with. I am certain it was a lot to go through.
    Robert Bacal
    11/12/2016 #72 Robert Bacal
    #71 @jesse kaellis Pending your full story writeup did it go well? The surgery that is, and has it helped? I know a number of people who have had back surgery, and some it helped immensely and some not so much.
    jesse kaellis
    11/12/2016 #71 jesse kaellis
    I can only really tell the truth about myself, Cyndi. I just got back from surgery in Mexico, and I'm exhausted. I mean to write it up as a story. It was a lot more than I had anticipated. Thank you.
    Cyndi wilkins
    10/12/2016 #70 Cyndi wilkins
    #69 I love them and loathe them at the same time! And things that go bump in the night;-)
    Deb ๐Ÿ Helfrich
    10/12/2016 #69 Deb ๐Ÿ Helfrich
    #68 You know, @Cyndi wilkins, snakes add a lot to the natural eco-system in harmony with a natural balance. I kind of am fascinated by them, offer my respect for their habitat, and constantly exercise my ability to steer clear.
    Cyndi wilkins
    10/12/2016 #68 Cyndi wilkins
    Speaking of snakes...They really don't like it when you make them squirm, do they? Good for you for speaking your truth Deb...Jesse and Max are two of my favorite "cage rattler's" on this platform...Dare to be different;-)
    Deb ๐Ÿ Helfrich
    10/12/2016 #67 Deb ๐Ÿ Helfrich
    #61 You can call me any name you want, Pablo! I am certain I will either smile or laugh so hard my keyboard is in jeopardy of frizzing from the coffee spatter.

    Bullies are not trolls. Bullies are taking a public place, marking their territory, and enforcing their arbitrary rules, often in the guise of doing what everyone else wants. Depending on the territory, as @David Navarro Lรณpez so poignantly points out, we may simply not be able to have a meaningful effect on their activities. Religious, governmental bullies and anyone with weaponry needs to be avoided.

    But a social media platform is the place for open, civil, and impactful discussions. I won't be shamed into silence.

    I am drawing my own line in the sand for tolerance.
    Deb ๐Ÿ Helfrich
    10/12/2016 #66 Deb ๐Ÿ Helfrich
    #59 #60 Absolutely anything can be said with respect, for instance - "I honestly have trouble regarding this as anything but snakeoil - am I missing something?" "Do you think this might be giving people false hope and be dangerous in the way we think of snakeoil?" Opinion stated in a way discussion can ensue.

    I haven't the slightest problem with the basic challenging question. I object vehemently to the methodology used. Because as I titled this buzz - I believe it to be intolerance masked.
    Paul "Pablo" Croubalian
    10/12/2016 #64 Paul "Pablo" Croubalian
    #63 True, but sometimes I feel like being an ambassador is like having a target painted on your back. Some people think that we can't fight back. We shouldn't fight back. Or, we mustn't fight back.

    They're wrong.

    Javier and Juan saw fit to make me an ambassador. It sure wasn't because of my pretty face. Unless. . . maybe they're Homer Simpson fans? Whatever the reason was, I didn't change what I do or how I do it on this or other platforms. I promoted beBee before, I continue to promote it now.

    I'm not here to hold hands and sing Kumbaya either.

    It's a social network, emphasis on the "social." It's easy for cowards to hide behind a keyboard. We need to accept the fact that it's impossible to please everyone.

    I don't really give a rat's patootie what anyone else thinks an ambassador "should" do or "must" do. Javier and Juan selected us, they can unselect us.

    Everybody else is entitled to their opinion, but it ain't worth much. No worries, as was said in another comment, "Haters gonna hate." I chalk it up to jealousy....

    Let the flaming begin.
    Paul "Pablo" Croubalian
    10/12/2016 #61 Paul "Pablo" Croubalian
    I'll start my comment with some direct name calling. Deb, you Inspiration, you.

    Frankly, it boggles my mind that anyone should take offense at what you wrote. While I'm not a fan of any holistic treatments, I respect the individual's right to choose.

    I see little point in forcing my opinion down someone's throat.

    On the larger issue of online bullying, there are several thoughts I would like to share. There is a common thought that one should not "feed the trolls." That's true for trolls. Not so much for bullies. You do not stop a bully by giving in or running away. Most are cowards at the core. Just don't show them they hit a nerve.

    The worst type, and probably the one you allude to, disguises the bullying as a rebuttal or an expression of "difference of opinion." These posts are easy to recognize. They are full of semantically charged words. They draw "conclusions" from misinterpreted data. They claim their conjectures are "facts."

    Some of these are simply taken badly. The written word lacks inflection, so misinterpretations are common. Some aren't. They are deliberate.

    When a post or a comment pisses me off, I do two things. One, I reply immediately but in Word not directly. That helps me get the anger out of they way. Two, I wait a day and read it again. If it still pisses me off, I'll wait a little more.I once waited 10 days.

    To the commenters who draw such ire: It is not enough that you hide behind "I have a right to express my opinion." So do they. Why does your right supersede theirs? It doesn't.

    It is up to YOU to take all reasonable steps to avoid the impression of bullying. No, saying, "My opinion" or "No offense, but," doesn't cut it.

    To authors: Don't leave. Thank the commenter for their comment. Say something like, "You are certainly entitled to your opinion, even if I don't share it. Thanks for the comment and have a great day." Then get on with your life. Is their opinion that important to you?

    Don't sweat it.
    Deb ๐Ÿ Helfrich
    10/12/2016 #58 Deb ๐Ÿ Helfrich
    #57 I take absolutely no credit. The original quote came from Viktor Frankl and its prominence on beBee is attributed to a few folks I admire and call friends.
    Aleta Curry
    10/12/2016 #57 Aleta Curry
    #56 Love that last line; I'll have to use it!
    Deb ๐Ÿ Helfrich
    10/12/2016 #56 Deb ๐Ÿ Helfrich
    #53 It is not a common occurrence, at all, as the vast, vast majority of people find beBee to be a refreshingly positive, supportive place to be. I work hard at adding that exact sort of value every day.

    My own personal standard is that no one should experience 'name calling abuse' that causes them to leave beBee. In this case, it was the very subtlety of an indirect attack that I thought lent itself to a discussion that might bring about more awareness.

    Interacting with tolerance is actual hard work on a global site based on open participation. We all have biases. We all have buttons that will get pushed.

    This community is one where we celebrate the pause between a stimulus and a response, so that we may state our views with respect toward the person who holds the opposing view.
    Max๐Ÿ J. Carter
    10/12/2016 #55 Max๐Ÿ J. Carter
    #53 I am happy for you that you have avoided this experience. I experienced at first and it was why I left for a while.

    It was actions taken by the management team that convinced me to give it another shot.

    While I have still experienced it, it has gotten much much better and that has a lot to do with the rest of the community also working to put an end to it.
  17. Jared Wiese, ๐Ÿ adding VALUE & RESULTS
    The Best Motivation Video 2016 - LOVE YOURSELF - YouTube
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    Jared Wiese, ๐Ÿ adding VALUE & RESULTS
    10/12/2016 #20 Jared Wiese, ๐Ÿ adding VALUE & RESULTS
    #19 Thank you so much for the shares, Irene! Glad you liked it.
    Jared Wiese, ๐Ÿ adding VALUE & RESULTS
    10/12/2016 #17 Jared Wiese, ๐Ÿ adding VALUE & RESULTS
    #6 Glad you liked it... And thanks for the share!
    Jared Wiese, ๐Ÿ adding VALUE & RESULTS
    10/12/2016 #15 Jared Wiese, ๐Ÿ adding VALUE & RESULTS
    #14 You bet, Franci. And thanks for the share :)
    Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman
    10/12/2016 #14 Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman
    Thank you for this, Jared. Being nice takes very little effort and is so meaningful.
    Jared Wiese, ๐Ÿ adding VALUE & RESULTS
    09/12/2016 #13 Jared Wiese, ๐Ÿ adding VALUE & RESULTS
    #6 Thanks for sharing, Preston!
    Jared Wiese, ๐Ÿ adding VALUE & RESULTS
    09/12/2016 #12 Jared Wiese, ๐Ÿ adding VALUE & RESULTS
    #10 So true, Renee. I heard it again recently that to feel better, even grateful, do something nice for someone else. To your point, even when we don't feel like it 8|.

    Let's do a random act of kindness today, folks, and see how we feel?! Thanks for the idea, @Donald Grandy with your fine quote.
    Renรฉe  ๐Ÿ Cormier
    09/12/2016 #10 Renรฉe ๐Ÿ Cormier
    #8 Sometimes we have to push a little harder to get out of a funk. This proves how important it is to take the time to say and do nice things for others. So many people are stingy about giving love and expressing their good feelings about others. Maybe they feel more powerful and in control that way, but I believe it is unhealthy to hold back your good feelings. I wonder how different our lives would be if everyone made an extra effort to sincerely say something nice to someone each day. I'm glad I was able to help. @Jared Wiese, ๐Ÿ adding VALUE & RESULTS.
    Jared Wiese, ๐Ÿ adding VALUE & RESULTS
    09/12/2016 #8 Jared Wiese, ๐Ÿ adding VALUE & RESULTS
    #7 Ah, Renรฉe. You have no idea how much you just resonated with me and made me truly smile and feel better. Thank you. I needed that. I've been in an M. Scott Peck, "Life is difficult" sort of mindset for a while.
    Renรฉe  ๐Ÿ Cormier
    08/12/2016 #7 Renรฉe ๐Ÿ Cormier
    Thank you, Jared. This is nice. I have made much effort over the years to remove people form my life who brought me misery and to create a positive environment for me to thrive in. You are lovely and it is nice to be connected with you here on beBee.
    Preston ๐Ÿ Vander Ven
    08/12/2016 #6 Preston ๐Ÿ Vander Ven
    Great Video
    Jared Wiese, ๐Ÿ adding VALUE & RESULTS
    08/12/2016 #5 Jared Wiese, ๐Ÿ adding VALUE & RESULTS
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    Jared Wiese, ๐Ÿ adding VALUE & RESULTS
    08/12/2016 #4 Jared Wiese, ๐Ÿ adding VALUE & RESULTS
    #2 #3 Glad you guys liked it! This stuff is usually pretty awesome - we get to hear snippets from some great motivational leaders - and put even more emotion to it with video.
    Joel Anderson
    08/12/2016 #3 Joel Anderson
    John Kirish
    08/12/2016 #2 John Kirish
    Thank you for posting. Great Cli
    Jared Wiese, ๐Ÿ adding VALUE & RESULTS
    07/12/2016 #1 Jared Wiese, ๐Ÿ adding VALUE & RESULTS
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  18. ProducerEmilia M. Ludovino
    WHAT MAKES AN APOLOGY EFFECTIVE & HEALINGThe context of apologies are relationships, be they between friends, lovers, families or nations. The goal of an apology is reconciliation and restoration of bonds of love, trust, respect, and humanity.There are some people who are able to apologize...


    Brian McKenzie
    12/12/2016 #25 Brian McKenzie
    I neither give them, nor accept them. They change nothing and add no value to the way I live and lead my life.
    Emilia M. Ludovino
    11/12/2016 #24 Emilia M. Ludovino
    #4 Dear @Mohammed A. Jawad you're so absolutely right with your wise comment. So simple and yet so powerful message. In one sentence you sum it up so well. Thank you.
    Emilia M. Ludovino
    11/12/2016 #23 Emilia M. Ludovino
    #5 Thank you dear @Deb ๐Ÿ Helfrich. Your feedback means a lot to me. :). Have a wonderful day!
    Emilia M. Ludovino
    11/12/2016 #22 Emilia M. Ludovino
    #6 Dear @debasish majumder it's an honor to have such a wonderful poet like you among my readers. Your positive feedback is highly appreciated. Thank You. Have a wonderful and blessed day!
    Emilia M. Ludovino
    11/12/2016 #21 Emilia M. Ludovino
    #7 #8 Dear @Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman and @Pamela ๐Ÿ Williams - Thank you for your comments and sharings. I'm most grateful to both of you for the wonderful social engagement and kind support. Appreciate it. Have a blessed day! Love the Bees on your names :).
    Emilia M. Ludovino
    11/12/2016 #20 Emilia M. Ludovino
    #9 Thank you dear @Irene Hackett for your support in sharing the article on your social media. Glad you liked. Have a blessed day!
    Emilia M. Ludovino
    11/12/2016 #19 Emilia M. Ludovino
    #10 Hi @Aleta Cury! First off, thank you for comment. Though I hear you and understand what you mean, it is my understanding that we should take into consideration the personality type of the offended. For instance, some Extroverts can cope and tackle very well with public critiques and public apologies but for an Introvert this could be a tremendous nightmare. I have a series of articles on how to manage Introverts and Extroverts at work, that maybe you find them interesting and useful.
    Emilia M. Ludovino
    11/12/2016 #18 Emilia M. Ludovino
    #11 Thank you, @Dorothy Cooper, for taking your time to read it and leave your positive feedback. I'm glad you found it useful. Have a wonderful day!
    Emilia M. Ludovino
    11/12/2016 #17 Emilia M. Ludovino
    #13 Thank you, Preston Vander Ver for your comment. I agree with Ronald Reagan's quote, "Peace is not absence of conflict, it is the ability to handle conflict by peaceful means.". Though, I disagree with your quotes from the Bible on this subject. An effective and healing apology from the offender must come from a place of Respect, Responsibility, Compassion, Empathy and Remedy, not from a "Holy" Book or belief system. Please don't take my reply to your comment as offensive, because I don't mean to be offensive. Have a blessed day!
    Emilia M. Ludovino
    11/12/2016 #16 Emilia M. Ludovino
    #15 Arigatล!
    TC West
    10/12/2016 #15 TC West
    In Japan we simply and humbly say: "Gomen nasai" and life goes on.
    Aleta Curry
    10/12/2016 #14 Aleta Curry
    #13 Hi Preston, you're talking about actions to be taken by the offended. I was responding to the original thesis, actions to be taken by the offender, in this case, an apology.
    Preston ๐Ÿ Vander Ven
    09/12/2016 #13 Preston ๐Ÿ Vander Ven
    #10 Matthew 18: 15 - 17, shares with us clearly how to settle matters with those sin against us. We never want to approach a matter publicly at first. The first step is always privately. 15 "If your brother sins against you, go and confront him privately. If he listens to you, you have won your brother over." 16 "But if he will not listen, take one or two others along, so that โ€˜every matter may be established by the testimony of two or three witnesses." The last step Jesus said was to bring it before the crowd. 17 "If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church. And if he refuses to listen even to the church, regard him as you would a pagan or a tax collector."
    Today I feel society has this pattern backwards which even leads to wars. I love a quote by Ronald Reagan, "Peace is not absence of conflict, it is the ability to handle conflict by peaceful means."
    Dorothy Cooper
    09/12/2016 #12 Dorothy Cooper
    @sittingpretty When #Reflecting over the year 2016, the aspect of forgiveness and making amends comes up in conversations. #ReadThisBlog you will be better for it.
    Dorothy Cooper
    09/12/2016 #11 Dorothy Cooper
    I thought this piece offers clear and stunning content which is well suited to this time of year. I thank you and will you this as a model when making amends.
    Aleta Curry
    09/12/2016 #10 Aleta Curry
    Can I just add another point that's particularly pertinent to business? The apology must take place in the same context as it was given, i.e. if the offence was perpetrated in public, the apology must be made in public. Too many business people try to apologise in a way that will save their face. For instance, they may speak to the wronged party at her desk, or catch her at the coffee machine, or some other private arena. If a manager berates a subordinate in front of other employees, s/he must apologise in front of the employees. If a mother unjustly scolds or accuses a child in front of a sibling, she must admit she was wrong in front of the same sibling,.
    Pamela ๐Ÿ Williams
    09/12/2016 #8 Pamela ๐Ÿ Williams
    What I at times find amusing is when the sincerity is so contrived and the apologizer doesn't understand why everything isn't all better. #7
    Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman
    09/12/2016 #7 Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman
    This is an excellent post. For someone to say "I'm sorry" doesn't necessarily help the cause. The person apologizing must be sincere otherwise what's the use.
    debasish majumder
    09/12/2016 #6 debasish majumder
    This is not just a Great post, but a lesson to all. enjoyed read. thank you @Emilia M. Ludovino for such wonderful share madam.
    Deb ๐Ÿ Helfrich
    09/12/2016 #5 Deb ๐Ÿ Helfrich
    This is very definitely a post worth bookmarking, @Emilia M. Ludovino. There is no prevaricating in actual remorse.

    "Central to a true apology is that the blame belongs to the person apologizing. Apologizing by telling the wounded party, โ€œ Iโ€™m sorry but you got me so angryโ€ is not an apology. It is an excuse.
  19. ProducerLaine Schmidt

    Laine Schmidt

    For the Communicationally - Challenged
    For the Communicationally - ChallengedWHICH IS ALL OF US; IT JUST DEPENDS ON THE DAY. All too often the art of communication, or lack of art, gets us into trouble.ย ย With a little grace and intentionalityย in the way we listen and speak, the majority of the problems we face would be...


    Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman
    09/12/2016 #8 Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman
    Welcome to beBee, @Laine Schmidt. "One of the most sincere forms of respect is actually listening to what another has to say." Bryant H. McGill
    Tausif Mundrawala
    08/12/2016 #7 Tausif Mundrawala
    I agree with you that in order to be a good communicator we have to be a good listener. Many people will refute this idea as they are more inclined towards speaking and get forth what they wanted to convey. Thanks for sharing this post.
    Mohammed A. Jawad
    08/12/2016 #6 Mohammed A. Jawad
    Indeed, the art of communication matters most. If we make a truthful, clear utterance with right facial expressions, then that's really going to influence others. Like dulcet oratory plays a magic on listeners, even wrong words and harsh tone can simply mar our relationships.
    Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    08/12/2016 #5 Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    Welcome to beBee @Laine Schmidt, great tips and "don't jump to a response right away," so true... can avoid saying something you might regret as one example of many. Thanks for sharing a nice buzz!
    Michele Williams
    08/12/2016 #3 Michele Williams
    A concise and useful set of practices HR Professionals can use to help members of their organizations communicate better. Communication failures cause conflicts and delays in all types of organizations.
    Sarah Elkins
    08/12/2016 #2 Sarah Elkins
    I think I'm generally pretty good at communicating with intention, but there are definitely days I lack grace and patience. These are good reminders fro Laine Schmidt.
    Sarah Elkins
    08/12/2016 #1 Sarah Elkins
    I can really use #6, Laine, what a great way to respond! I know I can apply that to our two teenagers, too. These are good guidelines, and are complementary to the conversation I had with @Alan Culler View more
    I can really use #6, Laine, what a great way to respond! I know I can apply that to our two teenagers, too. These are good guidelines, and are complementary to the conversation I had with @Alan Culler today. Terrific post! Close
  20. ProducerMax๐Ÿ J. Carter
    The number one reason why I use beBee, no anonymous profile views
    The number one reason why I use beBee, no anonymous profile viewsIn the years I have spent on Linkedin this has been an ongoing complaint from the members and has been discussed in many of their groups and posted on updates and people have written articles begging Linkedin to knock it off.ย Now we have beBee and...


    ๐Ÿ Fatima Williams
    13/01/2017 #30 ๐Ÿ Fatima Williams
    No anonymous profile views. I know right @Max๐Ÿ J. Carter It's a great point to factor when calling new bees over. It's creeps me out not to know who viewed my profile. Why not show yourself even if your a recruiter I don't mind my candidates knowing that their profile was looked at. This gives them a boost to make their profile more compelling to their current job role or targeted future jobs ! Great points on WhybeBee sharing it right away ! #beBeesforever
    Max๐Ÿ J. Carter
    09/12/2016 #28 Max๐Ÿ J. Carter
    #26 @Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher as a veteran it's this use of the military that is most likely false that upsets me on a personal level as I have had similar experience and as a veteran my integrity means a tremendous amount to me and it was something that the military really reinforced for me.
    Neil Smith
    09/12/2016 #27 Neil Smith
    Couldn't agree more about anonymous profile views Max. It is annoying and creepy. Potential employers don't send burglars to grab a resume from your desk and this, to me is no different. It is just a licence for stalkers to stay hidden in the shadows.
    Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    09/12/2016 #26 Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    I receive anonymous views on Linkedin a LOT. I don't care for that aspect either. I understand they allow this for potential employers to view profiles but it's still creepy. Like @Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman View more
    I receive anonymous views on Linkedin a LOT. I don't care for that aspect either. I understand they allow this for potential employers to view profiles but it's still creepy. Like @Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman, I can't tell you how many connection requests I received from Military personnel and their resumes were basically the same, as if copied and pasted with no 2nd degree connections. Close
    Preston ๐Ÿ Vander Ven
    08/12/2016 #25 Preston ๐Ÿ Vander Ven
    I don't think I every noticed it from a security point of view. But, now that I've read this, probably 2-5 of my weekly visits are anonymous profile views or the same person on Linkedin.
    Donna-Luisa Eversley
    08/12/2016 #23 Donna-Luisa Eversley
    Great post @Max๐Ÿ J. Carter..you are spot on about stalkers ...๐Ÿ˜Š ๐Ÿ๐Ÿ
    Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman
    06/12/2016 #22 Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman
    I've had a few stalkers on LI. I blocked them. A few claimed to be in the military - so disrespectful and classless. Then there are those that look at your profile and wish to remain anonymous. I don't care for that either. I feel much safer with beBee.
    Max๐Ÿ J. Carter
    04/12/2016 #21 Max๐Ÿ J. Carter
    #18 Not to mention it's just totally classless and disrespectful to the men and women who have served and do serve.
    Max๐Ÿ J. Carter
    04/12/2016 #19 Max๐Ÿ J. Carter
    #16 It does actually happen and that is a sad statement to have be true.
    Brian McKenzie
    04/12/2016 #18 Brian McKenzie
    There are a few fakes, posers and sharlatans here, and more than a couple claiming to be military that are not who they claim to be. They should know that false impersonation of a military officer or Medal of Valor recepient is a punishable offense with both jail and monetary penalties....and yes - I have passed their info and IP along to appropriate tasking offices. I wish the boys in CID & NCIS happy hunting.
    debasish majumder
    04/12/2016 #17 debasish majumder
    nice insight @Max๐Ÿ J. Carter! enjoyed read. thank you for the share.
    Erroll -EL- Warner
    04/12/2016 #16 Erroll -EL- Warner
    Sometimes it could be one's boss. If so could that boss use that information to terminate people because they feel intellectually challenged?
    Max๐Ÿ J. Carter
    02/12/2016 #14 Max๐Ÿ J. Carter
    #11 Thee is nothing healthy about the mechanism of anonymous profile viewing. It creates a view that says I can hide myself and do whatever I want because they can;t see me and they have no idea who I am.

    The mechanism of allowing anonymous profile views is bad for the human and there is nothing healthy about it. It promotes mental instability.
    Max๐Ÿ J. Carter
    02/12/2016 #13 Max๐Ÿ J. Carter
    #10 Thank you @Robert Cormack, For me it is a matter of what is more important an employer having to deal with disappointing someone or someone's safety.
    Zacharias Voulgaris ๐Ÿ
    02/12/2016 #12 Zacharias Voulgaris ๐Ÿ
    For me it's not just the action of viewing a profile anonymously that's sad, but also what this action represents. Basically by allowing this sly attitude towards connecting, you condone the mentality from which it stems. Without realizing it, by being OK with anonymous viewing, you are advocating surveillance, subtly and passively. Then years later you find yourself in a Big Brother society and you wonder why.
  21. Producerdebasish majumder
    AN HONEST CONFESSION OF A POET!I resorted to poetry To explore my own venture with fancy Obviously to escape from confronting hard reality Not having substantial strength explicit honestly Poetry is my only resort To avoid the social exhort Where...


    Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman
    06/12/2016 #3 Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman
    Debasish, you are a superb poet and IMO, you write from your heart. Poetry is a great way to express feelings and in multiple ways. I love to write short simple poems that send a message, which I share with my followers twice a week on my WordPress blog. I enjoy the interaction they generate. BTW, I love the quote from Winston Churchill.
    Hervรฉ Sabattier
    04/12/2016 #2 Hervรฉ Sabattier
    I believe I am a poet. At least I try. But when I write poetry, it is not to escape anything. It is the opposite. It is to express my own, deep, genuine feelings and confront them to reality, to effectively make them materialized and real. Not to remain as a trick of the heart or of the mind. They may be original, different, distant, unique, whatever, but they are displayed in the air, not necessarily to be understood or shared, but to be placed in face of reality and truth. To be alive, real and existing.
    Ali Anani
    04/12/2016 #1 Ali Anani
    Poetry is my only resort

    To avoid the social extort

    Where accountability counts heavily

    I arrogantly ignore its vitality

    In poetry, I can comfortably express with duality

    At least you have an escape gate in poetry @debasish majumder View more
    Poetry is my only resort

    To avoid the social extort

    Where accountability counts heavily

    I arrogantly ignore its vitality

    In poetry, I can comfortably express with duality

    At least you have an escape gate in poetry @debasish majumder But the question is escape to what? We end up facing realities. Escape may be the breathing period or pause period that we need to think. At least you are endowed with this being a poet and a great one too my friend. Close
  22. ProducerBobbi Baehne

    Bobbi Baehne

    Social Media โ€“ 5 Things that Donโ€™t Work in 2016 and Definitely Won't Work in 2017
    Social Media โ€“ 5 Things that Donโ€™t Work in 2016 and Definitely Won't Work in 2017Every business owner, entrepreneur and marketing manager know that things change quickly in social media. What works today may not work tomorrow and itโ€™s almost certain that strategies will change next year. Here are 5 things that our team of...


    Loribeth Pierson
    06/12/2016 #21 Loribeth Pierson
    Very solid advice @Bobbi Baehne, thank you and welcome to beBee!
    Missy Varner
    06/12/2016 #20 Missy Varner
    Excellent information. Thank you for sharing
    John White, MBA
    06/12/2016 #19 John White, MBA
    @Bobbi Baehne: Fantastic post! We have shared it to all of our social media pages on Twitter, LinkedIn, Facebook, and Google+. Buzz on!
    Sarah Elkins
    06/12/2016 #18 Sarah Elkins
    Really solid reminders here from Bobbi Baehne:
    Pamela ๐Ÿ Williams
    04/12/2016 #17 Pamela ๐Ÿ Williams
    Welcome Bobbie, you're off to a fantastic start with this post! Very helpful and constructive advice that we should all pay heed to whether we are here for business or just engaging. Truth; that I would rather have small number of engaging connections than a large number of followers that in truth adds more complexity to our social media presence.
    Andrรฉ Guillen
    02/12/2016 #16 Andrรฉ Guillen
    Great article. Smart. Finally a bit of sense in all this :)
    I specially agree with #1 quantity over quality. Social Networks are an environment for brains, for humans, not just for algorithms
    Mohammed A. Jawad
    01/12/2016 #15 Mohammed A. Jawad
    Great precepts to embrace and move on!

    To be in business, you got to learn by the statistics and attempt to offer by knowing the taste of your audience. To the point, next is how you create virtual reality to convey you message in a right way to the right audience.
    Claire ๐Ÿ Cardwell
    01/12/2016 #14 Claire ๐Ÿ Cardwell
    Great advice in this article @Bobbi Baehne - have shared across my networks. Welcome to beBee!
    Michele Williams
    01/12/2016 #13 Michele Williams
    Welcome Bobbi. Every startup can benefit from this post. I also enjoyed your morning routine post. @Jared Wiese, ๐Ÿ adding VALUE & RESULTS, thanks for the tag.
    Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    01/12/2016 #12 Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    Great tips @Bobbi Baehne! I find it much more fun to share other's material, as for mine... I figure someone will share if they like what they've read. Welcome to beBee too!!
    David B. Grinberg
    01/12/2016 #11 David B. Grinberg
    Thanks for the helpful and practical advice, Bobbi. A big proponent of the 80/20 rule is beBee Brand Ambassador @Jim Murray.
    Also, I'm now following you and sharing this buzz on three hives. Keep buzzing!
    Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman
    01/12/2016 #10 Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman
    Great advice, Bobbi and welcome to beBee. I look forward to seeing more posts from you. Perfect and timely subject.
    Jared Wiese, ๐Ÿ adding VALUE & RESULTS
    01/12/2016 #7 Jared Wiese, ๐Ÿ adding VALUE & RESULTS
    Bobbi, I don't know who our how you got to beBee (would love to know), but WOW!... am I glad you did.
    As you said "The goal today is to focus on building the RIGHT audience."

    Right now, beBee is listening ;)...

    Give a warm welcome to Bobbi, ๐Ÿ s....
    Bobbi Baehne
    01/12/2016 #6 Bobbi Baehne
    #3 Thanks for sharing Pablo ;)
    Bobbi Baehne
    01/12/2016 #5 Bobbi Baehne
    #2 - Thanks Max!
    Jan ๐Ÿ Barbosa
    30/11/2016 #4 Jan ๐Ÿ Barbosa
    Loved it !!!
    Paul "Pablo" Croubalian
    30/11/2016 #3 Paul "Pablo" Croubalian
    I couldn't agree more. Sure, big followings are nice. Big targeted followings are nicer!

    Welcome to the Swarm, Bobbi. Sharing to Twitter
    Max๐Ÿ J. Carter
    30/11/2016 #2 Max๐Ÿ J. Carter
    The goal today is to focus on building the RIGHT audience.

    I love this line.
  23. Producer๐Ÿ Fatima Williams
    The  Wait
    The WaitSo you sit and you tell yourself it's gonna be alright. You will get past this phase. It's a trying time in our life and we need to wait it out. You tell yourself that you are strong and this cloud of testingย will soon fade away and there will be...


    Roy Daggs
    07/01/2017 #46 Roy Daggs
    You is delicious girl
    ๐Ÿ Fatima Williams
    04/01/2017 #45 ๐Ÿ Fatima Williams
    #44 Thank you @Dean Owen Now that's a fantastic way of looking at this positively. Take pauses but don't wait. Euphoric Thinking ๐Ÿค—๐Ÿค—๐Ÿค—
    Dean Owen
    04/01/2017 #44 Dean Owen
    I keep missing your articles! (Hurry beBee team, we need the sting function!) Definite difference between a wait and a pause. I do like to take my pauses once in a while (like taking a year off when I was 30, and then again when I was 40), but I hate waiting for life to happen. I don't have to wait long for your next article fortunately as I spotted it in my feed just now. See you there!
    ๐Ÿ Fatima Williams
    14/12/2016 #43 ๐Ÿ Fatima Williams
    #42 This great experience that you share with us Preston about being in the Wait phase and not taking any action is a lesson you learnt and then you adapt yourself to intiate the action needed. We need to move before its too late. We need to act.
    I love this phrase, "You need to Build your Plane while your Learning to Fly it.โ€ Building our Dream or achieving our Vision can have better results if we are in consistent action.
    I believe we need to be the drivers of our own car(Life) we don't want to be in the backseat and Wait cause we don't know to drive or end up in the wrong destination as the driver does not know what we want. Rather we learn and act and achieve.

    Thanks for the lovely contribution Preston. Enjoyed your comment thoroughly ๐Ÿ˜Š
    Preston ๐Ÿ Vander Ven
    14/12/2016 #42 Preston ๐Ÿ Vander Ven
    I like your article. You have some great points. I totally agree with finding ourselves to move forward, yet from experience I prefer the NOW. I once heard the phrase, "You need to Build your Plane while your Learning to Fly it.โ€ Building our Dream or achieving our Vision can have better results if we are in consistent action.
    Even if at the beginning, they do not create any results and seem futile, our actions are still habit forming. โ€œIt feels like youโ€™re jumping off a cliff and building an airplane on the on the way down.โ€ I am a very analytical person, so I use to wait and try to plan every detail, and keep studying whatever I was doing. During this time, I never took action. It always delayed my goals. It was like me wanting to lose 15 pounds, but first studying every book, audio, and workout video. After all that knowledge was absorbed, I then realized that I never changed my diet, or began exercising.
    CityVP ๐Ÿ Manjit
    27/11/2016 #40 CityVP ๐Ÿ Manjit
    #39 If we are what we eat, we are also what we think and in this regard there is plenty of suggestions on how to get unstuck. The 7 things to remember when stuck by Allison Fallon serves as an example of the mental shifts available :

    7 Things to Remember When You're Feeling Stuck
    ๐Ÿ Fatima Williams
    27/11/2016 #39 ๐Ÿ Fatima Williams
    #38 Thank you @CityVP ๐Ÿ Manjit It's an inevitable truth waiting is a part of our life.

    But I feel sometimes we get stuck in our cocoons afraid to fly and spread our beautiful wings.
    I remember a story of how an impatient person who saw a butterfly struggling to come out of the cocoon tried helping it and that eventually lead to the death of the butterfly.

    This waiting phase in the cocoon is sometimes required to collect the strength as you said that required to break out and fly.
    Transformation is the fruit of waiting but lets not wait too much. ๐Ÿค—๐Ÿค—๐Ÿค—๐Ÿค—
    CityVP ๐Ÿ Manjit
    27/11/2016 #38 CityVP ๐Ÿ Manjit
    #37 I welcome moments of life which are a cocoon. In modern culture we treat cocoon as a euphemism for prison, but it is not that, the caterpillar is not a prisoner of the cocoon, but a transformation in waiting and we are not butterflies, we are are more than a transformation that is no bigger than our thumb.

    Let me take the song by Milky Chance called "Cocoon" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ernVvrYH9vg so while his main lyric is "so lets go back to our cocoon" the context is still escape and not transformation. http://www.azlyrics.com/lyrics/milkychance/cocoon.html If we identify with this song, we identify with escape and pain rather than transformation and privacy.

    I do not offer this as a perspective to a single a person because my own cocoons are a source of personal liberation. I am not afraid of melancholy or sadness, for when grief comes I will participate in the process of grief, but when freedom comes, I can place that in a cocoon too - for that is a different kind of waiting. The best privacy is to close my eyes or enjoy time at home.

    Whether it is waiting such as Van Morrison "Days Like This" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3UUWkr4FUlo or I have to do what it is I must do for this thing called our work life and I can't open up my mind to you - there is something gestating in the waiting, there is something fermenting in the waiting, there is something good changing in the waiting. Waiting is a part of life.
    ๐Ÿ Fatima Williams
    27/11/2016 #37 ๐Ÿ Fatima Williams
    #36 Thanks @Deb๐Ÿ Lange. Yes the incubation time gives us time to feel the joy and happiness and outcome that is gained on the Move. Incubation is just a short phase and the egg needs to hatch ๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š
    Deb๐Ÿ Lange
    26/11/2016 #36 Deb๐Ÿ Lange
    Dear @ Fatima I resonate with the wait and the move. I wrote a buzz last week which was well received. I said there is a part 2. I know I have been putting off part 2 as I feel some pressure in myself to have it as well received as part 1, but maybe it won't be. --and maybe it will. I know incubation time is useful but I sense I wait a little too long and need to be bolder with my action in the world. Things are never perfect and are always perfect just the way they are. And can always be updated and improved.
    Ali Anani
    26/11/2016 #35 Ali Anani
    Part 2
    I have just responded to a comment by dear @Sara Jacobovici on my linked buzz and urged her to read this buzz. I also invite @Irene Hackett, @Deb ๐Ÿ Helfrich, @Deb๐Ÿ Lange, @Max๐Ÿ J. Carterr and the two Lisas @Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher and @Lisa Vanderburg to enjoy this great buzz and to contribute to the discussions.
    Ali Anani
    26/11/2016 #34 Ali Anani
    Dear @๐Ÿ Fatima Williams- you are a greater writer, thinker and communicator. I read your buzz comprehensively, with great interest and enjoyed the flow of your ideas your buzz. You leave me with so much to think about. I just request you to read my last buzz and the two co (Parts 1 and 2) and you shall realize what I mean.
    We are working on developing a formula for movement and we need your brain. I hope your time would allow you to visit.
    Your explanation of the wait time, steps how to deal with it and highlighting the Waiting Step as the critical step leave me with much to think about.
    Sara Jacobovici
    26/11/2016 #33 Sara Jacobovici
    #31 Thanks for the tag @๐Ÿ Fatima Williams. I found your buzz intense. You cover much ground related to a challenging "place" to be. I appreciate your energy and insights. Thanks again.
    Gert Scholtz
    26/11/2016 #32 Gert Scholtz
    @๐Ÿ Fatima Williams A most inspiring and uplifting post - thanks for sharing Fatima.
    ๐Ÿ Fatima Williams
    26/11/2016 #31 ๐Ÿ Fatima Williams
    Cc@Ali Anani @Sara Jacobovici and @Renรฉe ๐Ÿ Cormier ๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š Tagging you all if thats ok ๐Ÿค”
    ๐Ÿ Fatima Williams
    24/11/2016 #30 ๐Ÿ Fatima Williams
    #29 It's my pleasure @Graham๐Ÿ Edwards Thank you for taking the time to read and comment.
    Graham๐Ÿ Edwards
    24/11/2016 #29 Graham๐Ÿ Edwards
    Thanks for the inspiration @๐Ÿ Fatima Williams
    ๐Ÿ Fatima Williams
    24/11/2016 #28 ๐Ÿ Fatima Williams
    #23 @Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher It's true and that's why we need self-realization to be at it's peak always. Life is a balancing act indeed. Thank you Lisa for reading and commenting :)
    ๐Ÿ Fatima Williams
    24/11/2016 #27 ๐Ÿ Fatima Williams
    #22 Lovely quote @William VanDorin :)
  24. ProducerAli Anani

    Ali Anani

    The Positive Side of Negative Emotions
    The Positive Side of Negative EmotionsI wrote a presentation on separation thinking in which I discussed our tendency to ask this or that such as is it the egg or the chicken? I wondered why not this AND that. More relevant questions are available that reinforce this separation...


    Ali Anani
    22/11/2016 #111 Ali Anani
    #110 Yes, and I have witesses some of my acquaintances go through the downward spiral. I agree with you @Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman
    Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman
    22/11/2016 #110 Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman
    Negative emotions are natural reactions that we need to cope with. Recognizing the cause of negative emotions can lead the way to deal with them appropriately. Ignoring them can eventually cause a downward spiral and even result in harm to others and ourselves.
    Ali Anani
    21/11/2016 #109 Ali Anani
    @Sara Jacobovici responded in a buzz to this buzz. What a great read Sara's buzz is. You may read it here:
    Ali Anani
    20/11/2016 #108 Ali Anani
    #107 I agree with you dear @Mohammed Sultan. Your comment is consistent with the quantum theory "When we consistently make certain assumptions about the bad things that may happen to us we trigger our negative emotions". When we focus only on negatives we develop the Observer Effect. Negative emotions help to stabilize positive emotions, but excessively reflecting on negative ones throw us out of balance.
    Mohammed Sultan
    20/11/2016 #107 Mohammed Sultan
    Dear @ Ali Anani PhD.Thanks for sharing the output of your balanced emotion.When we consistently make certain assumptions about the bad things that may happen to us we trigger our negative emotions.Everything depends on how we view our external world.People with unbalanced emotion explain the bad things that happen to them in terms that are internal and stable.Thinking all the time of what went wrong is the moving sands of our emotions.It leads to giving up and prevent us from seizing opportunities because we think of punishment of failure(negative emotion) rather than the rewards for success(positive emotion).Fit and balance of our internal emotions should be done first before we align them with reason or with the external world.It also make sense to delay our decisions or meetings when we temporarily are flooded with negative emotion and become unable to balance them with reason.
    Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    20/11/2016 #106 Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    #105 Thanks @Ali Anani, Sometimes I re-read what I write and I will second guess myself, wondering if I conveyed my message well. Im glad you are able to get a visual when reading! So kind of you to put up a link to my buzz here:))
    Ali Anani
    20/11/2016 #105 Ali Anani
    #104 You writing is packed with images dear @Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher. Having just read your beautiful buzz of today on "Relationships and Empathy", you proved to me that your words are poetic, rich in vividness, and draw images in my mind. You words are images and I wonder why you think it is hard for you to describe in words. For readers, I strongly recommend for you reading the buzz of Lisa. It shall be time well-invested and for you to know that my comment reflects reality:
    Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    20/11/2016 #104 Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    #103 Thanks Ali, that's probably because I'm a fairly simple person LOL. Sometimes my mind has very deep thoughts but I have a hard time expressing them. It's as though I can see a picture in my mind but it's hard to describe in words.
    Ali Anani
    20/11/2016 #103 Ali Anani
    #102 @Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher- emotions and thoughts lead to actions. For every action there is an equal reaction in the opposite direction. That is why I find your comment so deep and informative, and especially this part of the comment "The more we put out to the universe, negative or positive, well it comes back to us". You do amaze me with how simply and clearly you express complex ideas.
    Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    20/11/2016 #102 Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    It's amazing how negative emotions can over take the postive emotions @Ali Anani. I think you described some of the mystery behind them well. We can co-exist as long as our common core is one that comes from a good place. I think we aren't able to co-exist if one person is positive (for the most part) and the other is inherently evil. I've always believed that positive attracts positive and vice versa. The more we put out to the universe, negative or positive, well it comes back to us. Everyone has negative emotions and that's not a bad thing. It's when we allow those emotions to dictate our lives and treat others unjustly because we feel so bitter inside.
    Ali Anani
    20/11/2016 #101 Ali Anani
    #91 Yes, and passionately I understand your feelings.
    Ali Anani
    20/11/2016 #100 Ali Anani
    #96 @David Navarro Lรณpez wrote a beautiful buzz on the forging metaphor. Thanks @Max๐Ÿ J. Carter for reminding us of this metaphor. To better understand this metaphor, I urge you to read David's buzz at the following link:
    Ali Anani
    20/11/2016 #99 Ali Anani
    #97 I am deeply moved by your comment @Ian Weinberg. Thank you
    David Navarro Lรณpez
    20/11/2016 #98 Anonymous
    #96 Agreed, Max. It needs a big amount of self-honesty to be aware of what is wrong and change it. To forgive ourselves is as well an important point, as guilt might blur the way we should go forward.
    Ian Weinberg
    20/11/2016 #97 Ian Weinberg
    An intelligent, innovative and thought provoking article. Thanks for this Ali.
    Max๐Ÿ J. Carter
    20/11/2016 #96 Max๐Ÿ J. Carter
    #95 @David Navarro Lรณpez I really dug the piece and thank you for sharing it. Bruce Lee said something to the effect to take what resonates and make it uniquely your own. That's what triggered in my mind as I read the part about Copy.

    It's all been done before however there is always a way to express it that is unique to one's perspective and how one applies it to ones life

    I like the metal forging metaphor as well as I use a simple philosophy of the sword has no master to illustrate that each is a living sword and the hilt is the mind and letting others have control over what and how you think allows them to weld you against whoever the choose.

    Something ingrained in me by my Hungarian family and many family debates that looked like war was about to break out. I was taught if I couldn't put it in my own words I was not allowed to participate because until you can put it in your own words you have yet to live concept to find if it is wise for your life. .

    It's never easy to look at oneself and ones past and see where one inflicted harm and own it and forgive oneself by changing ones behavior so they don't repeat the inflicting of suffering as a matter of habit as they keep on keepin on.
    David Navarro Lรณpez
    20/11/2016 #95 Anonymous
    #92 No idea who gave you a -1, Max. Maybe an inexperienced user who does not know how it works, because your comment is full of wisdom.
    I agree with your words "People fear changing themselves because then maybe they might have to take responsibility..."
    Self awareness can be a very disgusting experience if you don't like what you see, and you don't have the guts to change it. But is possible, in every case.
    Some time ago I wrote a post you might like, concerned to this: https://www.bebee.com/producer/@david-navarro-lopez/can-the-character-be-forged
    Sara Jacobovici
    20/11/2016 #94 Sara Jacobovici
    #89 Thanks for clarifying your comment @Harvey Lloyd. I understand that the sarcasm can come from parenting experiences ;-) but..... objectively speaking.....that potential wisdom does exist and experiences with time does enable the realization of that potential.
    Max๐Ÿ J. Carter
    20/11/2016 #93 Max๐Ÿ J. Carter
    Whoever gave my last comment a -1, why?
    Max๐Ÿ J. Carter
    19/11/2016 #92 Max๐Ÿ J. Carter
    Why do we fear getting rid of the terms positive and negative when describing human emotion?

    Let me see I can answer this.

    We fear letting go of these abusive descriptors so we can avoid actually having to deal with the cause of the emotional response and own responsibility for actions that led to the emotion displayed.

    We cling to these terms to avoid dealing with each other and taking responsibility for our actions and words by saying "They are being negative and I did nothing or said nothing to illicit that response, it's their choice. and they are being negative."

    This is self delusional avoidance and why these terms are abusive to self and all ones.

    This is behavioral psychology applied with out allowing personal identity in the form of the ego expression to distort the view.

    To let go these ideas means a redefinition of self and the ego expression. People fear changing themselves because then maybe they might have to take responsibility for things they have done in the past and acknowledge the suffering they have inflicts and generally people like to avoid that as they see it as a negative experience and this increases their resistance to change.
  25. ProducerBrandon Marshall
    How NOT to write a professional apology letter
    How NOT to write a professional apology letterUnited States Army veteran Ernest Walker just went to Chiliโ€™s restaurant for the promise of a free burger.The restaurant showed its โ€œappreciationโ€ for his service by confiscating his leftovers, questioning his service credentials and ejecting him...


    Brandon Marshall
    20/11/2016 #11 Brandon Marshall
    #4 Harvey, I think the senior leadership seem as insensitive as the restaurant manager who started this.
    Brandon Marshall
    20/11/2016 #10 Brandon Marshall
    #9 It doesn't take a lot of effort to be genuine and respectful--I think they'll surely lose customers because of the way they handled this.
    Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman
    19/11/2016 #9 Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman
    This letter is a poor excuse for an apology. It wreaks of insincerity and seems to be written by someone that needed to clean out their "in box". I agree with you @Brandon Marshall
    oilda cardozo
    19/11/2016 #8 oilda cardozo
    #7 hi!!
    Brandon Marshall
    19/11/2016 #7 Brandon Marshall
    #5 Great points, Pamela! I don't think senior leadership really understood how this angered their customers. They probably won't take it seriously until they see their sales drop. By then, it will be too late to do anything about it.
    Brandon Marshall
    19/11/2016 #6 Brandon Marshall
    #3 I'm not sure the bad publicity they generated was worth the price of the burger they repossessed from Mr. Walker.
    Pamela ๐Ÿ Williams
    19/11/2016 #5 Pamela ๐Ÿ Williams
    Brandon, Absolutely. The whole thing wreaked of insincere business-as-usual with the help of marketing and a lawyer. I hope Mr. Walker felt okay with the apology but this letter 'sucks rotten eggs'. Having sat in as minutes taker in corporate meetings I can probably hear the conversation;
    It was just a meal, for christ's sake, what's the big deal, okay, how are we going to handle this? So-and-so, write a letter by so-and-so time and we'll meet again to review. Damn that manager for not handling this better; didn't we teach them how to confront bad customers? Do we need to hold another round of training sessions on how to properly handle disgruntled guests. Now, on to other subjects; what were the losses for the veteran give-away? How can we decrease the free meals, while still capitalizing on the 'community good-will' campaign?
    No where are they referred to as human-beings, they are 'guests', in other words, walking stiffs with wallets.
    Harvey Lloyd
    19/11/2016 #4 Harvey Lloyd
    Has it really gotten so complicated that when we make a mistake we can't just apologize? The letter looked like one written for the state of the union address. The irony truly is that even though the letter stated the values, clearly these values were not present in this situation. Restating them didn't make it better but rather reinforced the leadership's inability to perform at the customer level.

    Maybe the leadership needs to apply to undercover boss?
    Brian McKenzie
    19/11/2016 #3 Brian McKenzie
    "Veteran" Status may not mean what you think it means. I did 15 years in the Reserves, all of my 9 deployments were 179 days, because at 180 days they have to issue benefits and a DD-214, anything below that was considered "ActiveDuty for Training" - neither the military nor an extremely large Retail conglomerate out of Arkansas consider me a 'Vet'. The one DD-214 that I could have "eaned" was from time in a country that we were never officially deployed to and never declared as one of our Forward Operations in the ever global expanding Shit Show of Whack-a-mole 'Anti-Terrorism' ventures.
    Brandon Marshall
    18/11/2016 #2 Brandon Marshall
    #1 Thank you, Susan!
    Susan Rooks
    18/11/2016 #1 Susan Rooks
    I agree with what you wrote here, @Brandon Marshall! What a damn shame on all fronts! Thanks for bringing this to our attention, and I hope that all other restaurants and service venues check their values and actions to be sure they're living up to what they say they believe.
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