- Producer14/01/2017Grumpy and Grouchy Reflect On Beeing beBee Brand Ambassadors…This is the 23rd edition of this column by Phil Friedman and myself, and it’s a bit of an auspicious occasion insofar as Phil has recently been named a beBee Ambassador.Anyone who follows Phil knows that he is not only an outstanding writer and...
Comments15/01/2017 #52 Franci🐝Eugenia HoffmanJim and Phil
They fit the bill
As ambassador bees
I'm sure they'll please
They're assets to this site
because of what they write
They call the shots
on what stuff is not
There'll be no BS. and
I look forward to the show
from this dynamic duo.
beBee bees buzz with the best of the. Buzzzz on!15/01/2017 #48 Jim Murray#46 @debasish majumder. First of all, I don't and never have considered myself a star of anything. Secondly I have met with a number of bees in my area. Thirdly, I run a consultancy that requires me to be in my area most of the time, On top of that I'm not too crazy about International travel, since I did enough of that when I was younger. Finally my Skype handle is at the bottom of every post I publish. If anyone wants to meet with me, they can always message me with their Skype handle and we can meet. I have done this a number of times and it's a great way to get to know people.15/01/2017 #46 debasish majumderi am eager to know @Jim Murray, that while you both are the star of beBee, why don't you aspire to meet with rest of the bees, who will be large benefited by interacting with you personally, at least one in a year to form this social networking site with a true bonding, making a distinct it across the globe? that could make this site a alluring one by all means.15/01/2017 #43 Don 🐝 Kerr#1@Pascal Derrien I thought that was you in the bed beside me - you know, not the same bed but the adjacent one. At least I think that is what I think 'cause since the procedure things are a little foggy. By way of this note I am reaching out to @Gerald Hecht to secure a recommendation on some pharmacological means to retrieve what I was thinking before...
Sorry, lost track there.
Here's the most unsurprising sentence in G&G's article: "Well, neither my friends, nor my detractors need worry. I ain’t changin’ nuttin." Nor should you @Phil Friedman15/01/2017 #39 Gerald Hecht#34 @Paul Walters a little grist for the mill (NOTE: This is (necessarily incomplete in some details; as I don't have access to thousands of "PM stuff" happening behind my back)... I have a feeling the "spirit is pretty much on target" ..hmm I can't seem to find it.15/01/2017 #35 Julio Angel Lopez LopezI'm still evolving.
From the laziness of @Paul Walters to the lobotomized @Pascal Derrien passing through the 49 leo parallel (in English is what I understand best and if not translator) very interesting reflections.
In the end, the conclusion is personal as in each bee ...
That cost me 0
What money do you ask me 0
What money do you give me 0
Maybe 1% but if it was 0 would be 0 (hopefully, many zeros but accompanied)
I get job offers Yes
My chances grow
Really as ambassador, does not change my actions, I am only aware that I have more responsibility, I evolve.
I thank you all for helping me to evolve.15/01/2017 #34 Paul Walters@Jim Murray @Phil Friedman @Gerald Hecht Hmm interesting thoughts here. Me? Well Bali is so laid back that sloth has become a national pastime. However as an ' ambassador' Im thinking with a population in this country of 300 million and its become Facebook's biggest market plus a billion tweets a day are sent out, there has to be a market here! So, I guess I will just try and send out the word anyway I can. Gosh I dont do much else15/01/2017 #33 Devesh BhattAs far as promotions are concerned, you people know it better.
LinkedIn is going down, Bebee can fill the void and expand the very parameters of social engagement, simply because it's basic, natural and unchained.
There is a collective effort towards quality content which shows, the list of proposed improvements are practical, the only thing holding it back is the fact that people are habituated to LinkedIn, so a person who makes a new profile starts with LinkedIn, say a self employed or a College grad in India starts with LinkedIn and finds it easier to save the same link at jobsites and business sites.
A lot of suppressed people out here, Bebee can be liberating to many professionals :) after a threshold Indian users will flood this site.
- Producer12/01/2017Ambassadorship~ Do I Qualify?I am humbled by my recent designation as a beBee Brand Ambassador, but, philosophical musings began to arise- maybe I think too much; maybe not. I do accept it and if for any reason it is revoked in the future, I will not be bitter about that...
Comments15/01/2017 #43 Praveen Raj GullepalliHey Chas! Congrats again! Outside beBee land Brand Ambassadors are engaged/contracted or bought to endorse something good (or even dubious), irrespective of their patronage or conviction in the efficacy of the product or service being endorsed. Here the only thing that matters is your belief in beBee. If you got the title from beBees, rest assured, you earned it in full. What's left to do is to do what AmBees are supposed to do, best you can ;) I felt like an AmBee long before it was announced. I even expressed that. Because I believed then as I do now that this is the place for incubating value-based relationships that go the distance. That go into personal space as deeply as they do into professional space. Keep buzzing away!15/01/2017 #42 Lisa 🐝 GallagherI just read through the comments and agree with everyone. If Javier feels you qualify, then by golly, you sure do! @Chas ✌️ Wyatt, you are an uplifting person with a very positive attitude. I'm glad you were appointed. Loved reading about your journey on Social Media. I used to be a myspace addict until it fell apart, then we all left at once and joined Facebook. I have a love/Hate relationship with facebook. We don't use it for business because it doesn't suit my husband's needs. I used to have fun being 'me' on facebook until family members I hardly know found me, friends from HS found me and on the list goes. Now, I feel I can't just let loose like I used to there. That was sort of my playground ;-) My first experience with chat on the internet was using Windows 3.11 IRC. Wow... talk about a dinosaur but I made connections and even went to Penn State and volunteered at a golf outing for some friends I met online. I attended their awards dinner and met the infamous Jerry Sandusky and Joe Paterno... ick, cant believe I actually shook hands with Sandusky now!15/01/2017 #38 Gerald Hecht#37 @Aleta Curry I hope that you are feeling better; I just wanted to say that both you and @Chas ✌️ Wyatt make me feel less isolated --I also have no FB, Twitter, Snap, Instagram, etc. accounts --I feel like I don't know what's going on half the time...but that's the "price" I guess... I don't want those things.
Again Chas, I think that you are a cool (and cool headed) ambassador!15/01/2017 #37 Aleta CurryThanks for tagging me, Chas ✌️ Wyatt Sorry, I had a medical emergency (sudden, severe drop in Iron levels) and I've been resting (yes, really!) for a couple of days.
I see everyone has already addressed your 'fitness for ambassadorship' questions, so there's nothing for me to add. I will speak a little to your chronicle of your social media journey, though, which I read with great interest. I think we've been at beBee a comparable length of time, though you were here first and I remember how happy I was when I got your 'follow'. Your social web journey is very similar to mine, and these are the reasons, I daresay, you brought this to my attention.
Since I have spent so much time marketing my business, I have tended to stick to the large venues, with one caveat: the system has to work for me, that is, it has to be pretty intuitive and easy to use. I also have to get the feeling that there is engagement of some sort; the writer in me just wants to know that *someone* is reading what I write. beBee answers that for me, so that's why I'm here and that's why I tell others about it. It's really a matter of customer satisfaction: you put out a good and useful product, your fame spreads by word of mouth. That's it, really.
Like you, I still don't get the charm of Twitter; Facebook I do use because, as I've said before, Facebook for business is invaluable to what we do. Since you mention Pinterest, I'll say that it might suit you, because you are an artist. I have an account there but just can't keep up so it's staledated. I might also suggest Ello; the reason I'm not active there is because it's such a visual platform that seems to really suit people with portfolio, which is why I mention it to you.
Okay, that's it. And yeah: you're a great Ambassador, blah blah blah. :D13/01/2017 #32 Bill Stankiewicz, 🐝 Brand AmbassadorChas, you are an honest to goodness representative, and a true ambassador. I agree with Chas, and do I truly love what Javier beBee, Juan Imaz and the entire beBee team have created. What a group duo here & all the Bee's that I met over the past year. beBee will continue to be very successful & has great spirit. Best regards, Bill Stankiewicz13/01/2017 #29 🐝 Fatima Williams@Chas ✌️ Wyatt Your straight-forward and down to earth attitude makes you a very special beBee and you contribute in your own unique way which make the experience even more special to us all.
I thank Javier and his team and the awesome ambassador team that we are super proud to be a part of. #beBeesforever
@Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman Love the poem 🤗❤🤗13/01/2017 #26 Emily🐝 BeeChas, if @Javier 🐝 beBee & @Juan Imaz think you're good, then you're good! Take this honor and bee proud. Clearly you are doing enough to get you the Ambassador name and that's awesome. Keep it up. Great article by the way detailing your Social Media travels between so many platforms. :-)
- Producer06/01/2017Why beBee worksI've studied every aspect of this community for months. Studying social behavior is a hobby or me. It always has been. Even as a child I was studying everyone and trying to figure out why they acted they way they did.We are social creatures by...
Comments09/01/2017 #27 Max🐝 J. Carter#26 I understand how you feel @Bernard Poulin it took me some time to find my place and how I best fit in beBee.
It's not focused it's a shot gun blast of content due to the diversity of the community.
I find professionalism varies based on ones profession. I had a battle I won with Linkedin over the use of the word Fuck and had to explain how using the word based on my profession is actually professional.
It's a subjective term that is too often only associated with the corporate side of life though there are many professionals who have never and will never work for a corporation and have a totally different mindset for what it means to be professional in their profession.
I often find with the "wanna be" that with a lot of them if you take some time with them and ask them what they are doing and why they become open to suggestion however you have to establish the relationship and invest the time with them first.
With your experience I am sure there is a lot you have to teach.09/01/2017 #26 Bernard PoulinI appreciate your comments though I am not yet convinced how I fit in with BeBee. (I'm trying!) Interesting place but the integration of social media and business communications I find distracting so far and not focused. I connect with the idea of branding but don't see it in action. Is that a matter of age and temperament, definition, perspective? I don't know. There is no exclusivity of hives and so everything is mixed thus diluting the essence of "hivery". Being a patient (yeah right!) man I will allow time to pass and input to acclimatize itself in this bear of little brain. . .
Another consideration is that in Facebook and LinkedIn I was seeing too much wanna-beism in various professions, such as the visual arts and writing, and too little actual professionalism. Maybe (probably) I'm a snob.07/01/2017 #22 🐝 Fatima WilliamsA diverse community that engages with passion to build something for ourselves and to continue building this community simultaneously.
I agree 100 % that beBee is a passionate affinity network. A network for the people by the people and of the people!
#beBeelove#keepbuzzing#beBeesforever07/01/2017 #17 Mohammed Sultan@Max J. Carter. You are now in the position to promote your balanced posture with an image that reinforces your idea.At this point in time,we have to think two things through to make beeBee brand stronger than the contents.First,If your brand is stronger than the marketing strategies and gives the readers a compelling reason to engage with what you are saying you may succeed in changing readers perception.Second,you may even go beyond this logic and commonsense and think of how to reduce the huge amounts of "dislikes" to many posts.Everyone should stick around the idea of strengthening beeBee brand while presenting the output of their skills or promoting their personal brands.06/01/2017 #11 Mamen 🐝 Delgado#8 In fact a couple of days ago another bee, @Jorge 🐝 Carballo Pérez, wrote a Producer about our first collaboration, but it is only in Spanish, sorry. Here you have the link:
I'll write soon about another very interesting collaboration with @Cristina Alvarez Pagán, CEO on Tips para Emprender.
- Producer27/12/2016Finding the right P.I.L. Partner In LifeI love monogamy. I have tried exploring this poly-sexual thing and it's not me. To me it's about a lot more than the sex, however if the sex is an issue...I read an article a few months ago about this thing called deep dating while I was in the...
Comments28/12/2016 #7 Brian McKenzie#6 not likely, i have gone from chasing women, to ignoring them to outright avoiding them. I finally like my life, I am not about to mess it up by inviting trouble. I have a long line of ex's - they all go. "Love" is temporary, transactional, disposable and inherently dangerous.28/12/2016 #5 Max🐝 J. Carter#3 @David B. Grinberg You present quite the riddle indeed. Neither one is the answer.
The right one consumes your thoughts as well as your heart and while yes at times you fight like demons, the make up sex is nearly as demonic and twice as good. ;)
It gets boring as you noted when there are no waves to ride and hope you can still shoot the curl without eating the ocean floor and being tossed around like a rag doll at the mercy of the crashing waves.
I often tell men find a woman whose wave you like riding and adjust accordingly as in the USA PMS is a legal reason to get away with murder while being considered legally temporarily insane. I wish I was making it up.
With each of my marriages I knew long before the end the end was coming as the eye and mind wandered. Their eyes and minds had wandered too. Somewhere we just stopped working at it and for some reason decided there was no way to get it back.
It retrospect I see the loves I have gone to have and have heard each of them has what I couldn't give them and there was something lacking from their end too, however it's not about blame or he said she said, it just became healthier for where we were growing a part to part ways.
There is never a cookie cutter answer to any of life's issues as you have to really take the time to think about all the people involved and know every one is going to get hurt if comes to the break up.
Take the time to make sure you know what you want and have found it in another human being. Even then people grow apart at times.28/12/2016 #3 David B. GrinbergNice buzz with some good advice, Max. Now riddle me this: what does a guy do when his heart is with one woman but his head is with another? To be more specific, the first is a true love but the two partners cannot live together because each agitates and aggravates the other too often (plus, the sex is bad). The second woman is a rock solid winner, a hard worker and great home maker simultaneously. You get along well (and the sex is good). But things get boring at times. What to do?
And, no, they won't both marry me in Utah. Thanks for your sage advice based on this limited information.28/12/2016 #2 Brian McKenzieBeing truly honest with myself led me to know that it is all game, lies heaped upon stereotypes, hearsay and branded iconography from the oracles of Hollywood and Wall Street. There is no "Love", it is simply a dopamine narcotic episode of transactional emotions where money, height, figure and tit-for-tat collide. Don't believe me? Take money off the table - see how long 'Love' lasts.
- Producer16/12/2016You took my spotYou took my spot This was again in ‘83. I was getting ready for my first fight. Like I said, and I have seen this in other fighters, they are constantly "on." It's tiresome and not pleasant. It's because they don't know or trust themselves...
Comments16/12/2016 #12 Todd JonesLove it, Jesse! Unfortunately, some people need to have good manners beat into them. I believe that most social ills today are the result of assholes acting without fear of repercussion. 150 years ago, perpetual assholes found themselves at the business end of a .45. Today they act with impunity and go on to spawn more assholes.16/12/2016 #11 jesse kaellisAddendum. My friend understood me, and he didn't judge me. He understood that I forced myself to get in the ring. He told me that of all the guys he knew who said they were going to do it ("And I knew a lot of them.") I was the only one who ever did do it. He meant guys who started out as adults.
I have coached boxers, and I never saw a guy much over 18/19/21 have any real success in the sport. It happens, but it's rare. The heavier weights have more of a shot when they start late.16/12/2016 #10 jesse kaellis#8
The guy was an asshole, but he probably didn't need to get beat up. When I told my friend the story, he said that maybe that would take some of the pressure I was putting myself under off of me. It was all about fear. My fear. My fear of other men. That's what drove me into the ring in the first place. Not that that is unusual in any way. But it is different when you start out as an adult rather than as a kid. The ramifications are acute. The back is an ordeal, but now that I'm into it I have to carry on as best I can.
Thanks, Pascal.16/12/2016 #9 jesse kaellis#7
The surgeon said that if ever a back required surgical intervention it would be my back. Total destruction of L 5 through 3 and a very narrow stenosis. Yes, Cyndi, I'm disappointed. I was hoping for more and less of a travail. I have a lot of work ahead of me regarding rehab.16/12/2016 #7 Cyndi wilkinsOf all my clients who have had back surgery, and there are very many, only one has said he was happy he did it as it rarely turns out for the better...However, your situation was very serious and demanded surgical intervention...Now you need to work with a good pain specialist to help you manage those symptoms without relying too much on opiates...We all know where that leads to. And find a good massage therapist too;-) Rootin' for you!16/12/2016 #6 jesse kaellis#3
I'll tell you the truth, Cyndi, I would give pause if I knew beforehand all this would entail. It is way more painful and debilitating than I had imagined. But what was the alternative? I had to do something, or I would have ended up paralyzed. Thanks for your good wishes, Cyndi.16/12/2016 #4 Phil FriedmanJesse, the honesty of this piece is typical of your writing. You and I both know that the guy didn't deserve what he got for stealing the parking space. No doubt he deserved it for a whole bunch of other things that he'd done, but not for that. As well, although I can't say for sure, but I'd bet he was over it immediately after the first jab, especially if he covered up and bent over. Most guys are. The rest was you working your anger out about entirely different matters on a "live" bag. And you know you could have stopped there. Good thing he was too macho to file charges. I knew a "hillbilly" bantam-weight club pro who lived on Chicago's near north side, name of Willy Wain, who would work his anger off provoking street fights with two or three toughs at a time. He had super fast hands and great footwork, would usually win, always wreak havoc, but sometimes lose and end pretty badly beaten up. But it was just life for him. If you're ever in my area, there are a couple of pizzas and some beers waiting. And I'll even forego the anchovies. Cheers!16/12/2016 #3 Cyndi wilkins" In New York, you might get shot for stealing someone’s parking space. Especially after they dug it out in the winter." Being from the Boston area myself, I know the frustration of a moment like this...some people just enjoy pissing other people off...Bet he won't do that again...Happy holidays Jesse...I hope your back is healing well;-)
- Producer16/12/2016Why is the road to hell paved with good intentions?Let's stop and think about it. I look back at the white lies I told out of the good intent to spare someone's feelings and what I found out later was that it actually hurt them a lot more in the long run. It's why I feel that anything less than...
Comments16/12/2016 #7 Mohammed A. JawadThanks @Max🐝 J. Carter for empowering truth and shattering lies. Indeed, lying makes a person timid, with colorful deception. Even in a tidbit of truth, there's immense strength and power that turns a person bold enough to battle against rogue evil in multitude. And, for a honest person, the greatest strength comes from truths.16/12/2016 #5 Mohammed Sultan@Max.Nowadays,people compromise their integrity for money ,not love.They have a rainbow colors of lies.They even try to make others comfortable considering all what had been said is a mere trifle and quite unworthy of being dwelt in .Take this poem from OLD RHYME about people of words ;
A man of words and not of deeds
Is like a garden full of weeds;
And when the weeds begin to grow,
It's like a garden full of snow;
And when the snow begins to fall,
It's like a bird upon the wall;
And when the bird away does fly,
It's like an eagle in the sky;
And when the sky begins to roar,
It's like a lion at the door;
And when the door begins to crack,
It's like a stick across your back;
And when your back begins to smart,
It's like a penknife in your heart ;
And when your heart begins to bleed,
You are dead ,and dead ,and to the hell indeed.
- Producer14/12/2016Why I Don't Routinely Thank People For Reading Or Commenting On What I WriteI've noticed that on social media, people tend to thank those who read their posts or comment on them. Some do that for almost every single comment made, which clutters up the thread for users hoping for substantive information and discussion.Yes,...
Comments19/12/2016 #41 Robert Bacal#39 Todd you hit on another reason I don't feel I have to respond to or thank people for every comment or read, and that is after spending several decades (since the c-64) sitting hour after hour, day after day, writing, coding websites, etc, I have come to LOATHE sitting here.
So, it's also why I don't comment that much on others' posts too. I miss out because of it, but I don't find it fun, and my eyesight is starting to be impaired by minor cataracts, which doesn't make it enjoyable.
PS. There is no dink or not dink. THere is only....19/12/2016 #39 Todd JonesI must admit, @Robert Bacal, when I first read this, I thought "This guy is a dink. I bet he doesn't say 'thank you' when people hold the door for him either." However, after reading the comments, rereading the post, and viewing your profile and blog pages, I have changed my mind.
Writing for me is merely a winter hobby. I once got lucky with a LinkedIn post that was picked up by Pulse. With over 6,700 views, I made it a point to reply to everyone that took the time to comment, because I truly appreciated that they took the time to respond. And because I had nothing better to do.
As someone who is busy earning a living rattling a keyboard, I can see how this is not a productive way to spend your time. So, if you chose not to respond to this, I forgive you. Plus, as a seasonal resident of the 1000 Islands region on the St Lawrence, I have never met a Canadian that I don't like. I figure that you cant be all that bad. Count me as a follower.19/12/2016 #38 Robert Bacal#37 One of the reasons I wanted to post the article was that there is NO right answer, and I wanted more to facilitate a conversation around something where personal preferences apply, but that two positions are equally valid and supportable.
So I particularly agree with your last paragraph.19/12/2016 #37 Devesh BhattWhat is relevant, the stream or the people?
Sometimes people need a nudge to give back a great input for thinking and expanding an idea, being polite certainly helps.
One simply cannot thank everyone, why take the burden and then try to justify it?
Thats what i think, it doesnt apply to everyone, im writing to express and replying to comments to connect with people.16/12/2016 #35 Mike RanaThere might also come a time when you won't have time to dedicate to responding. If you have keen attention to detail and you know who your regular contributors are, you can take time periodically to thank them as a group for their engagement, even if it's a short email.#3416/12/2016 #34 Renée 🐝 Cormier#33 Well said, Harvey. @Robert Bacal, if you inadvertently miss a comment, then so be it. If your habit is to make a point of being polite and gracious, then, the general opinion of you will be favourable. If your habit is to ignore comments and not participate in discussion, then you will discover that your readership will not be as strong. Generally speaking, we write and publish because we want our voices to be heard and our insights to be appreciated by others. It's a two way street. Eventually, you get what you give.16/12/2016 #33 Harvey LloydAcknowledging a comment or thank you by just hitting the plus icon is part of the help process. If your writing is impactful to someone and they took time to acknowledge that it did....then the process should be acknowledged.
Considering a feed and the many posts that were available for someone to read, they chose yours. To me this is a acknowledgement of your expertise in the subject matter or presentation, second, given time constraints they not only read but took the time to comment about how the article was appreciated.
From the posting process and receiving the many comments or other indications of activity it is a daunting task. But this is the network we produce. Produce according to your ability to mange the feedback.16/12/2016 #32 Aurorasa Sima#29 You have my attention and readership always.
Politeness and making people feel appreciated and good about themselves might be a matter of taste - a mistake it is not.
Yes, we cannot tell if a "thank you" was sincere and heartfelt. We can also not tell if being ignored is a lack of manners, personal style, or indifference.
What is for sure is that we don´t feel the need to question ourselves when someone thanks us. Insecure people might start to doubt themselves when they do not receive an acknowledgment of their participation, especially true for writers who "reward" only comments they feel are worthy.
When in doubt, go the positive route. Positive words create positive worlds (:16/12/2016 #29 Anonymous#28 @Robert Bacal, Since I am desperate for attention and readership, I will replay again: Thank you (your turn)
”Nothing is so strong as gentleness, nothing so gentle as real strength.” - Francis de Sales
"Wishing someone a happy holiday is itself a positive emotional act designed to make others feel good and to raise holiday cheer.” - Adam D. I. Kramer
"Thank you" - For some people it is an internal need and then there is no help. Therefore, we can never know whether it was sincere or superficial. I do not mind and I even like "Thank you" statement. Please don't ask me why. I have no answer.16/12/2016 #27 Robert BacalSo, let me ask you guys something.
Is the etiquette that you thank someone for the first of their comments to a post? Every first comment?
Are there any kinds of comments that don't "deserve" a thank you, or is it all comments (trolls excepted)?
What if you miss people in a comment stream? Doesn't that stand out as a statement if you thank for every first comment?
Just wondering. I WAS brought up in a barn.16/12/2016 #25 Renée 🐝 CormierBeing gracious is a smart business practice. Nobody needs to read, comment or share anything you write. I always thank people or at the very least acknowledge a comment with a like, unless it is a comment from a troll. Every comment and share someone makes, including you, boosts your post, which in my opinion, is also good for building your exposure and reach in social media.16/12/2016 #23 Robert Bacal#21 True, @Cory Galbraith There are social niceties that are embedded (and often different) in each culture. I don't know if there is such a thing for social media.
To be clear, I'm willing to thank people for contributions that I truly appreciate. What I'm saying is that I don't ROUTINELY thank people just for the act of commenting, or reading. If anything readers should thank writers for sharing their ideas free of charge.
It takes far longer to write a valuable full article than it does to write a one line comment that has no real value at all except to grease the social wheels.15/12/2016 #21 Cory GalbraithIn the spirit of your post Robert, I shall introduce a contrary view - that without the common courtesies of "thank you" and "you're welcome" what kind of society would we have? The social niceties, while seemingly empty, do help to provide a sense of community, civility and dare I say - mutual support, all of which are sorely lacking in today's selfie world. As another commentator here suggested - if my boss came to me and said, "you did a great job" but I simply ignored him or her, what signal is that sending? Years ago, I felt that "small talk" had no place in business. Until I discovered how vital it is to establishing rapport. Thanks for letting me comment. (oops).
- Producer12/12/2016Relationships between Rage and RancorWhat an irony where blood relationships get severed, with growing rage and rancor! What prompts people to embrace discord and shun love? Is it devilish temptations, lack of elegant etiquette, or hyperbolic hatred? Of all stages of human...
Comments13/12/2016 #8 Mohammed A. Jawad#6 @Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman Thanks for your thoughtful comments. Perhaps, in this fast-paced global village where communication is easy, accessible and spontaneous, we ought to harbor cordial, peaceful relationships and live cheery lives. That's the need of the passing times.13/12/2016 #7 Mohammed A. Jawad#5 @Donna-Luisa Eversley Thanks for your comments and appreciation. Indeed, as long as nothing is initiated and sorted out forgiveness does seem hard to perform. But, when someone comes with apologies, then we ought to readily forgive him/her. On the other hand, forgiving our near and dear ones with our mellowed hearts is worthwhile action. After all, 'to err is human and to forgive is divine'.13/12/2016 #6 Franci🐝Eugenia HoffmanIt's disturbing that people can't get along and some carry grudges and some turn to revenge. Your post is timely because, during this time of the year, some people tend to be more caring and giving - but what about the rest of the year? And forgiveness, I agree with Donna-Luisa. Forgiving seems to be easier said than done.12/12/2016 #5 Donna-Luisa Eversley@Mohammed A. Jawad it is quite an interesting post you have here...provocative is the word I should use, because it should stir emotions, and does ! Forgiveness is I think one of the easiest things to give verbally but very hard in action to perform. It is the actions which come after the words which will yield us to our true feelings! Excellent post, I hope everyone will read😊💐12/12/2016 #4 Mohammed A. Jawad#3 @Phil Friedman Yea...I have seen families, who clinging on to their ways, had diffusing differences. Either they happen to meet at marriage ceremonies or at funerals. Other than that they keep grudging with complaints and criticisms. But, now-a-days, so much has changed that members of the same families avoid each other on festive occasions and are rarely seen at funerals. :(12/12/2016 #3 Phil FriedmanMohammed, there is wisdom here. My family on my father's side had an unspoken tradition. At the death of a family member, all family feuds existing at that time were cancelled, and all grievances erased. It would then take several years for new ones to emerge, but they would last only until the next funeral. Not a perfect system, but better than most. Cheers!
- Producer10/12/2016A Practical, Ethical Social Media Dilemma: What Would You Do?This is inspired by a few posts regarding bullying, and calling people out based on an opinion about someone else being a snake-oil salesperson that resonated with me. NOTE: What follows is completely hypothetical. While parts of it may sound...
Comments12/12/2016 #75 Robert Bacal#74 @Paul Frank Gilbert Much of my seminar work and a good chunk of my books deal with managing verbal abuse, and one of the things I learned is that to try to coin or use a different term (which I have attempted a lot), interferes with the fundamental purpose -- to communicate about a set of behaviors that are "abusive".
So, I live with the term. I don't like it either. But since I want to communicate about those behaviors, and I don't have time to get people to accept my own personal preferences and make them the norm, I go with it.
I have not enough years left in my life to try to change common usage of a word.12/12/2016 #74 Paul Frank Gilbert#73 Don't have to like it ... and don't have to support it. People are free to use whatever terms they want. Your opening line "This is inspired by a few posts regarding bullying, and calling people out based on an opinion about someone else being a snake-oil salesperson that resonated with me" used the word bully so I spoke to that for that reason. Still stand my opinion that an open forum with millions of people means we are going to run into folks that challenge us. A lot of our concern with that is because we know others may be influenced/manipulated by a persons view ... without ever truly knowing us .. or even bothering to ask. We can keep our communities small and well managed ...but we miss out on opportunities we might have missed. I think for most of us .. the risk is worth it.12/12/2016 #73 Robert Bacal#71 @Paul Frank Gilbert Paul, I've written several pieces over the years on how I think bullying is not a good term to apply or use, in the same sense the word "troll" is not a good word because of the attached emotional connotations which stem back to childhood.
I don't believe I used the word "bullying" in the text of the article, and I chose the picture specifically because the charge of "bullying" is often used when someone might disagree, or point out flaws, particularly when it comes to ads or pseudo articles that are ads.
HOWEVER, like it or not, "bullying" is the coin of the realm. It's used to refer to adult situations, not only in common use, but also for the purposes of legislation.
for a few examples.12/12/2016 #72 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#71 "unbecoming conduct" That is a truly meaningful addition to the overall discussion, @Paul Frank Gilbert
It is about the conduct - behaviors - not the words used.
The image the concept bullying brings to mind is of a playground fight - which implies someone will be physically hurt and there is likely a cheering or jeering crowd.
A pattern of unbecoming conduct.
Thanks for evolving my thinking so that I can conduct myself more effectively using a less evocative phrase that may keep the discussion on a less incendiary trajectory.
An open community in frank discussion can learn and achieve a great, great deal.12/12/2016 #71 Paul Frank GilbertBullying is a word reserved for children ... IMO. As adults and especially in the business world, there is unprofessional conduct. Who as an adult wants to have to complain about being "bullied"? Much more powerful to say "conduct unbecoming of a professional". Legal implications. No weak versus strong, or any other connotations. Social media is a microcosm of (and becoming more and more the reality) our society and our audience is way bigger than we can possibly manage. We are exposed to it all. Every facet of life and the people molded by it. I think we need to be concerned ... but less so about the content that is online ... and moreso about the people that simply believe whatever they read and have become too lazy to take responsibility for understanding the reality of the world around them.12/12/2016 #70 Robert Bacal#69 I'm guessing you might have read the comments, and not the article, which is not about anything you mentioned in either of your comments. Just trying to keep the conversation focused on the original question: What would you do if you came across claims online (let's say on Bebee) when you believe they are false, misleading, or taking advantage of others? Pretty straightforward, @Ian Weinberg12/12/2016 #69 Ian Weinberg#68 @Robert Bacal I really don't wish to enter into a nitpicking exercise. I'm peripherally aware of issues which have occurred on beBee involving several individuals and have consequently caught a whiff of undercurrent nuance reflecting these conflicts in this post and in related comments. And so I choose to merely highlight my perception thereof in broad principle and leave the detailed reflection, if warranted or appropriate, to said individuals.12/12/2016 #67 Ian WeinbergAuthentic engagement is laying all that you are on the line, warts and all. Innuendo, subtle metaphor and the like is not conducive to collective evolution. Additionally, the sanitization of engagements by deleting comments further detracts from the prevailing authentic reality. If you find that you're beginning to play the player and not the ball, then it's time to re-evaluate yourself because often your negative and aggressive reaction to others is underpinned by quirks within yourself. I would welcome authentic engagement with gloves-off combat if need be, but with a degree of mutual respect devoid of judgmentalism. I would suggest that such constructive engagement is conducive to mutual growth as opposed to destructive tit-for-tat childish banter.12/12/2016 #64 Robert BacalWell, dang. That's cool. We were in a dark cool tunnel with multiple paths and forks, and somehow we ended up with a clear direction and the removal of the distractions.
No idea of how that happens, but thanks, and maybe it's the Vogons doing some demolition to put in an intergalactic communication throughway?12/12/2016 #61 Randy KehoWhoa, fellas, time out
I feel that I have inadvertently started this unfortunate diatribe by unintentionally hijacking this hypothetical post and its ensuing thread.
Therefore, I extend my deepest apologies to everyone involved.I have the utmost respect for each of you and I don't wish to witness the impending train wreck.
Please accept my apology, relax, and prepare for a new week. Besides, I'm up to my ass in snow, so the upcoming week has already presented me with enough challenges.:)
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Comments12/12/2016 #79 Lada 🏡 PrkicI don’t know what the whole fuss is about. I read both articles and found the controversial buzz about snake oil by Don Kerr, with which I disagree although I admire the author. By the way, I think we should be able to speak bluntly and to indicate the article or the author to whom it refers. It's the fair thing to do.
I have a positive attitude towards holistic medicine because I was convinced in its effects at the example of my family. It is logical approach to the healing process that includes the whole person and not just the human body. But I can also understand the opposite opinions.
For example, my highly religious colleague is strongly against yoga. When she heard that I was intended to start doing yoga she tried to talk me out of it. She thinks about yoga as some kind of demonic activity. This is her attitude toward meditation, too.
Unlike her I grew up in an environment which has always been open to new ideas. That’s why I also believe that the ability to discuss any topic is how we grow and learn to be tolerant, the value greatly lacking in society.
@Deb 🐝 Helfrich, thanks for the post that broadens horizons.11/12/2016 #76 debasish majumdersnake have a fixed eye ball, which is a hindrance to them, in terms of catching their prey! on contrary, human have an eye ball, enabling them to keep a vision and even enable to widen their vistas! wonderful post @Deb 🐝 Helfrich View moresnake have a fixed eye ball, which is a hindrance to them, in terms of catching their prey! on contrary, human have an eye ball, enabling them to keep a vision and even enable to widen their vistas! wonderful post @Deb 🐝 Helfrich! ENJOYED READ MADAM. THANK YOU FOR THE SHARE. Close11/12/2016 #74 jesse kaellis#72
Time will tell, Robert. It will take intensive rehab and a recovery period of up to three months. The screws, the apparatus, needs to fuse with the bone. I had two surgeries. I fell shortly after the first one. A disaster. But there's this; I finally understand why people commit suicide over chronic pain. Physician-assisted suicide. At times the pain was extraordinary.10/12/2016 #67 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#61 You can call me any name you want, Pablo! I am certain I will either smile or laugh so hard my keyboard is in jeopardy of frizzing from the coffee spatter.
Bullies are not trolls. Bullies are taking a public place, marking their territory, and enforcing their arbitrary rules, often in the guise of doing what everyone else wants. Depending on the territory, as @David Navarro López so poignantly points out, we may simply not be able to have a meaningful effect on their activities. Religious, governmental bullies and anyone with weaponry needs to be avoided.
But a social media platform is the place for open, civil, and impactful discussions. I won't be shamed into silence.
I am drawing my own line in the sand for tolerance.10/12/2016 #66 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#59 #60 Absolutely anything can be said with respect, for instance - "I honestly have trouble regarding this as anything but snakeoil - am I missing something?" "Do you think this might be giving people false hope and be dangerous in the way we think of snakeoil?" Opinion stated in a way discussion can ensue.
I haven't the slightest problem with the basic challenging question. I object vehemently to the methodology used. Because as I titled this buzz - I believe it to be intolerance masked.10/12/2016 #64 Paul "Pablo" Croubalian#63 True, but sometimes I feel like being an ambassador is like having a target painted on your back. Some people think that we can't fight back. We shouldn't fight back. Or, we mustn't fight back.
Javier and Juan saw fit to make me an ambassador. It sure wasn't because of my pretty face. Unless. . . maybe they're Homer Simpson fans? Whatever the reason was, I didn't change what I do or how I do it on this or other platforms. I promoted beBee before, I continue to promote it now.
I'm not here to hold hands and sing Kumbaya either.
It's a social network, emphasis on the "social." It's easy for cowards to hide behind a keyboard. We need to accept the fact that it's impossible to please everyone.
I don't really give a rat's patootie what anyone else thinks an ambassador "should" do or "must" do. Javier and Juan selected us, they can unselect us.
Everybody else is entitled to their opinion, but it ain't worth much. No worries, as was said in another comment, "Haters gonna hate." I chalk it up to jealousy....
Let the flaming begin.10/12/2016 #61 Paul "Pablo" CroubalianI'll start my comment with some direct name calling. Deb, you Inspiration, you.
Frankly, it boggles my mind that anyone should take offense at what you wrote. While I'm not a fan of any holistic treatments, I respect the individual's right to choose.
I see little point in forcing my opinion down someone's throat.
On the larger issue of online bullying, there are several thoughts I would like to share. There is a common thought that one should not "feed the trolls." That's true for trolls. Not so much for bullies. You do not stop a bully by giving in or running away. Most are cowards at the core. Just don't show them they hit a nerve.
The worst type, and probably the one you allude to, disguises the bullying as a rebuttal or an expression of "difference of opinion." These posts are easy to recognize. They are full of semantically charged words. They draw "conclusions" from misinterpreted data. They claim their conjectures are "facts."
Some of these are simply taken badly. The written word lacks inflection, so misinterpretations are common. Some aren't. They are deliberate.
When a post or a comment pisses me off, I do two things. One, I reply immediately but in Word not directly. That helps me get the anger out of they way. Two, I wait a day and read it again. If it still pisses me off, I'll wait a little more.I once waited 10 days.
To the commenters who draw such ire: It is not enough that you hide behind "I have a right to express my opinion." So do they. Why does your right supersede theirs? It doesn't.
It is up to YOU to take all reasonable steps to avoid the impression of bullying. No, saying, "My opinion" or "No offense, but," doesn't cut it.
To authors: Don't leave. Thank the commenter for their comment. Say something like, "You are certainly entitled to your opinion, even if I don't share it. Thanks for the comment and have a great day." Then get on with your life. Is their opinion that important to you?
Don't sweat it.10/12/2016 #56 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#53 It is not a common occurrence, at all, as the vast, vast majority of people find beBee to be a refreshingly positive, supportive place to be. I work hard at adding that exact sort of value every day.
My own personal standard is that no one should experience 'name calling abuse' that causes them to leave beBee. In this case, it was the very subtlety of an indirect attack that I thought lent itself to a discussion that might bring about more awareness.
Interacting with tolerance is actual hard work on a global site based on open participation. We all have biases. We all have buttons that will get pushed.
This community is one where we celebrate the pause between a stimulus and a response, so that we may state our views with respect toward the person who holds the opposing view.10/12/2016 #55 Max🐝 J. Carter#53 I am happy for you that you have avoided this experience. I experienced at first and it was why I left for a while.
It was actions taken by the management team that convinced me to give it another shot.
While I have still experienced it, it has gotten much much better and that has a lot to do with the rest of the community also working to put an end to it.
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Comments09/12/2016 #12 Jared 🐝 Wiese#10 So true, Renee. I heard it again recently that to feel better, even grateful, do something nice for someone else. To your point, even when we don't feel like it 8|.
Let's do a random act of kindness today, folks, and see how we feel?! Thanks for the idea, @Donald Grandy with your fine quote.09/12/2016 #10 Renée 🐝 Cormier#8 Sometimes we have to push a little harder to get out of a funk. This proves how important it is to take the time to say and do nice things for others. So many people are stingy about giving love and expressing their good feelings about others. Maybe they feel more powerful and in control that way, but I believe it is unhealthy to hold back your good feelings. I wonder how different our lives would be if everyone made an extra effort to sincerely say something nice to someone each day. I'm glad I was able to help. @Jared 🐝 Wiese.08/12/2016 #5 Jared 🐝 WieseFrom the YouTube Description:
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Comments11/12/2016 #19 Emilia M. Ludovino#10 Hi @Aleta Cury! First off, thank you for comment. Though I hear you and understand what you mean, it is my understanding that we should take into consideration the personality type of the offended. For instance, some Extroverts can cope and tackle very well with public critiques and public apologies but for an Introvert this could be a tremendous nightmare. I have a series of articles on how to manage Introverts and Extroverts at work, that maybe you find them interesting and useful.
https://www.bebee.com/producer/@emilia-ludovino/emotional-intelligence-resilience-to-stress11/12/2016 #17 Emilia M. Ludovino#13 Thank you, Preston Vander Ver for your comment. I agree with Ronald Reagan's quote, "Peace is not absence of conflict, it is the ability to handle conflict by peaceful means.". Though, I disagree with your quotes from the Bible on this subject. An effective and healing apology from the offender must come from a place of Respect, Responsibility, Compassion, Empathy and Remedy, not from a "Holy" Book or belief system. Please don't take my reply to your comment as offensive, because I don't mean to be offensive. Have a blessed day!09/12/2016 #13 Preston Vander Ven#10 Matthew 18: 15 - 17, shares with us clearly how to settle matters with those sin against us. We never want to approach a matter publicly at first. The first step is always privately. 15 "If your brother sins against you, go and confront him privately. If he listens to you, you have won your brother over." 16 "But if he will not listen, take one or two others along, so that ‘every matter may be established by the testimony of two or three witnesses." The last step Jesus said was to bring it before the crowd. 17 "If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church. And if he refuses to listen even to the church, regard him as you would a pagan or a tax collector."
Today I feel society has this pattern backwards which even leads to wars. I love a quote by Ronald Reagan, "Peace is not absence of conflict, it is the ability to handle conflict by peaceful means."09/12/2016 #10 Aleta CurryCan I just add another point that's particularly pertinent to business? The apology must take place in the same context as it was given, i.e. if the offence was perpetrated in public, the apology must be made in public. Too many business people try to apologise in a way that will save their face. For instance, they may speak to the wronged party at her desk, or catch her at the coffee machine, or some other private arena. If a manager berates a subordinate in front of other employees, s/he must apologise in front of the employees. If a mother unjustly scolds or accuses a child in front of a sibling, she must admit she was wrong in front of the same sibling,.09/12/2016 #5 Deb 🐝 HelfrichThis is very definitely a post worth bookmarking, @Emilia M. Ludovino. There is no prevaricating in actual remorse.
"Central to a true apology is that the blame belongs to the person apologizing. Apologizing by telling the wounded party, “ I’m sorry but you got me so angry” is not an apology. It is an excuse.
- Producer08/12/2016For the Communicationally - ChallengedWHICH IS ALL OF US; IT JUST DEPENDS ON THE DAY. All too often the art of communication, or lack of art, gets us into trouble. With a little grace and intentionality in the way we listen and speak, the majority of the problems we face would be...
Comments08/12/2016 #6 Mohammed A. JawadIndeed, the art of communication matters most. If we make a truthful, clear utterance with right facial expressions, then that's really going to influence others. Like dulcet oratory plays a magic on listeners, even wrong words and harsh tone can simply mar our relationships.08/12/2016 #1 Sarah ElkinsI can really use #6, Laine, what a great way to respond! I know I can apply that to our two teenagers, too. These are good guidelines, and are complementary to the conversation I had with @Alan Culler View moreI can really use #6, Laine, what a great way to respond! I know I can apply that to our two teenagers, too. These are good guidelines, and are complementary to the conversation I had with @Alan Culler today. Terrific post! Close
- Producer01/12/2016The number one reason why I use beBee, no anonymous profile viewsIn the years I have spent on Linkedin this has been an ongoing complaint from the members and has been discussed in many of their groups and posted on updates and people have written articles begging Linkedin to knock it off. Now we have beBee and...
Comments13/01/2017 #30 🐝 Fatima WilliamsNo anonymous profile views. I know right @Max🐝 J. Carter It's a great point to factor when calling new bees over. It's creeps me out not to know who viewed my profile. Why not show yourself even if your a recruiter I don't mind my candidates knowing that their profile was looked at. This gives them a boost to make their profile more compelling to their current job role or targeted future jobs ! Great points on WhybeBee sharing it right away ! #beBeesforever09/12/2016 #28 Max🐝 J. Carter#26 @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher as a veteran it's this use of the military that is most likely false that upsets me on a personal level as I have had similar experience and as a veteran my integrity means a tremendous amount to me and it was something that the military really reinforced for me.09/12/2016 #26 Lisa 🐝 GallagherI receive anonymous views on Linkedin a LOT. I don't care for that aspect either. I understand they allow this for potential employers to view profiles but it's still creepy. Like @Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman View moreI receive anonymous views on Linkedin a LOT. I don't care for that aspect either. I understand they allow this for potential employers to view profiles but it's still creepy. Like @Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, I can't tell you how many connection requests I received from Military personnel and their resumes were basically the same, as if copied and pasted with no 2nd degree connections. Close04/12/2016 #18 Brian McKenzieThere are a few fakes, posers and sharlatans here, and more than a couple claiming to be military that are not who they claim to be. They should know that false impersonation of a military officer or Medal of Valor recepient is a punishable offense with both jail and monetary penalties....and yes - I have passed their info and IP along to appropriate tasking offices. I wish the boys in CID & NCIS happy hunting.02/12/2016 #14 Max🐝 J. Carter#11 Thee is nothing healthy about the mechanism of anonymous profile viewing. It creates a view that says I can hide myself and do whatever I want because they can;t see me and they have no idea who I am.
The mechanism of allowing anonymous profile views is bad for the human and there is nothing healthy about it. It promotes mental instability.02/12/2016 #12 Zacharias Voulgaris 🐝For me it's not just the action of viewing a profile anonymously that's sad, but also what this action represents. Basically by allowing this sly attitude towards connecting, you condone the mentality from which it stems. Without realizing it, by being OK with anonymous viewing, you are advocating surveillance, subtly and passively. Then years later you find yourself in a Big Brother society and you wonder why.
- Producer04/12/2016AN HONEST CONFESSION OF A POET!I resorted to poetry To explore my own venture with fancy Obviously to escape from confronting hard reality Not having substantial strength explicit honestly Poetry is my only resort To avoid the social exhort Where...
Comments06/12/2016 #3 Franci🐝Eugenia HoffmanDebasish, you are a superb poet and IMO, you write from your heart. Poetry is a great way to express feelings and in multiple ways. I love to write short simple poems that send a message, which I share with my followers twice a week on my WordPress blog. I enjoy the interaction they generate. BTW, I love the quote from Winston Churchill.04/12/2016 #2 Hervé SabattierI believe I am a poet. At least I try. But when I write poetry, it is not to escape anything. It is the opposite. It is to express my own, deep, genuine feelings and confront them to reality, to effectively make them materialized and real. Not to remain as a trick of the heart or of the mind. They may be original, different, distant, unique, whatever, but they are displayed in the air, not necessarily to be understood or shared, but to be placed in face of reality and truth. To be alive, real and existing.04/12/2016 #1 Ali AnaniPoetry is my only resort
To avoid the social extort
Where accountability counts heavily
I arrogantly ignore its vitality
In poetry, I can comfortably express with duality
At least you have an escape gate in poetry @debasish majumder View morePoetry is my only resort
To avoid the social extort
Where accountability counts heavily
I arrogantly ignore its vitality
In poetry, I can comfortably express with duality
At least you have an escape gate in poetry @debasish majumder But the question is escape to what? We end up facing realities. Escape may be the breathing period or pause period that we need to think. At least you are endowed with this being a poet and a great one too my friend. Close
- Producer30/11/2016Social Media – 5 Things that Don’t Work in 2016 and Definitely Won't Work in 2017Every business owner, entrepreneur and marketing manager know that things change quickly in social media. What works today may not work tomorrow and it’s almost certain that strategies will change next year. Here are 5 things that our team of...
Comments04/12/2016 #17 Pamela 🐝 WilliamsWelcome Bobbie, you're off to a fantastic start with this post! Very helpful and constructive advice that we should all pay heed to whether we are here for business or just engaging. Truth; that I would rather have small number of engaging connections than a large number of followers that in truth adds more complexity to our social media presence.01/12/2016 #15 Mohammed A. JawadGreat precepts to embrace and move on!
To be in business, you got to learn by the statistics and attempt to offer by knowing the taste of your audience. To the point, next is how you create virtual reality to convey you message in a right way to the right audience.
- Producer23/11/2016The WaitSo you sit and you tell yourself it's gonna be alright. You will get past this phase. It's a trying time in our life and we need to wait it out. You tell yourself that you are strong and this cloud of testing will soon fade away and there will be...
Comments04/01/2017 #44 Dean OwenI keep missing your articles! (Hurry beBee team, we need the sting function!) Definite difference between a wait and a pause. I do like to take my pauses once in a while (like taking a year off when I was 30, and then again when I was 40), but I hate waiting for life to happen. I don't have to wait long for your next article fortunately as I spotted it in my feed just now. See you there!14/12/2016 #43 🐝 Fatima Williams#42 This great experience that you share with us Preston about being in the Wait phase and not taking any action is a lesson you learnt and then you adapt yourself to intiate the action needed. We need to move before its too late. We need to act.
I love this phrase, "You need to Build your Plane while your Learning to Fly it.” Building our Dream or achieving our Vision can have better results if we are in consistent action.
I believe we need to be the drivers of our own car(Life) we don't want to be in the backseat and Wait cause we don't know to drive or end up in the wrong destination as the driver does not know what we want. Rather we learn and act and achieve.
Thanks for the lovely contribution Preston. Enjoyed your comment thoroughly 😊14/12/2016 #42 Preston Vander VenI like your article. You have some great points. I totally agree with finding ourselves to move forward, yet from experience I prefer the NOW. I once heard the phrase, "You need to Build your Plane while your Learning to Fly it.” Building our Dream or achieving our Vision can have better results if we are in consistent action.
Even if at the beginning, they do not create any results and seem futile, our actions are still habit forming. “It feels like you’re jumping off a cliff and building an airplane on the on the way down.” I am a very analytical person, so I use to wait and try to plan every detail, and keep studying whatever I was doing. During this time, I never took action. It always delayed my goals. It was like me wanting to lose 15 pounds, but first studying every book, audio, and workout video. After all that knowledge was absorbed, I then realized that I never changed my diet, or began exercising.27/11/2016 #40 CityVP 🐝 Manjit#39 If we are what we eat, we are also what we think and in this regard there is plenty of suggestions on how to get unstuck. The 7 things to remember when stuck by Allison Fallon serves as an example of the mental shifts available :
7 Things to Remember When You're Feeling Stuck
http://allisonfallon.com/stuck/27/11/2016 #39 🐝 Fatima Williams#38 Thank you @CityVP 🐝 Manjit It's an inevitable truth waiting is a part of our life.
But I feel sometimes we get stuck in our cocoons afraid to fly and spread our beautiful wings.
I remember a story of how an impatient person who saw a butterfly struggling to come out of the cocoon tried helping it and that eventually lead to the death of the butterfly.
This waiting phase in the cocoon is sometimes required to collect the strength as you said that required to break out and fly.
Transformation is the fruit of waiting but lets not wait too much. 🤗🤗🤗🤗27/11/2016 #38 CityVP 🐝 Manjit#37 I welcome moments of life which are a cocoon. In modern culture we treat cocoon as a euphemism for prison, but it is not that, the caterpillar is not a prisoner of the cocoon, but a transformation in waiting and we are not butterflies, we are are more than a transformation that is no bigger than our thumb.
Let me take the song by Milky Chance called "Cocoon" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ernVvrYH9vg so while his main lyric is "so lets go back to our cocoon" the context is still escape and not transformation. http://www.azlyrics.com/lyrics/milkychance/cocoon.html If we identify with this song, we identify with escape and pain rather than transformation and privacy.
I do not offer this as a perspective to a single a person because my own cocoons are a source of personal liberation. I am not afraid of melancholy or sadness, for when grief comes I will participate in the process of grief, but when freedom comes, I can place that in a cocoon too - for that is a different kind of waiting. The best privacy is to close my eyes or enjoy time at home.
Whether it is waiting such as Van Morrison "Days Like This" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3UUWkr4FUlo or I have to do what it is I must do for this thing called our work life and I can't open up my mind to you - there is something gestating in the waiting, there is something fermenting in the waiting, there is something good changing in the waiting. Waiting is a part of life.26/11/2016 #36 Deb🐝 LangeDear @ Fatima I resonate with the wait and the move. I wrote a buzz last week which was well received. I said there is a part 2. I know I have been putting off part 2 as I feel some pressure in myself to have it as well received as part 1, but maybe it won't be. --and maybe it will. I know incubation time is useful but I sense I wait a little too long and need to be bolder with my action in the world. Things are never perfect and are always perfect just the way they are. And can always be updated and improved.26/11/2016 #35 Ali AnaniPart 2
I have just responded to a comment by dear @Sara Jacobovici on my linked buzz and urged her to read this buzz. I also invite @Irene Hackett, @Deb 🐝 Helfrich, @Deb🐝 Lange, @Max🐝 J. Carterr and the two Lisas @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher and @Lisa Vanderburg to enjoy this great buzz and to contribute to the discussions.26/11/2016 #34 Ali AnaniDear @🐝 Fatima Williams- you are a greater writer, thinker and communicator. I read your buzz comprehensively, with great interest and enjoyed the flow of your ideas your buzz. You leave me with so much to think about. I just request you to read my last buzz and the two co (Parts 1 and 2) and you shall realize what I mean.
We are working on developing a formula for movement and we need your brain. I hope your time would allow you to visit.
Your explanation of the wait time, steps how to deal with it and highlighting the Waiting Step as the critical step leave me with much to think about.
- Producer17/11/2016The Positive Side of Negative EmotionsI wrote a presentation on separation thinking in which I discussed our tendency to ask this or that such as is it the egg or the chicken? I wondered why not this AND that. More relevant questions are available that reinforce this separation...
Comments22/11/2016 #110 Franci🐝Eugenia HoffmanNegative emotions are natural reactions that we need to cope with. Recognizing the cause of negative emotions can lead the way to deal with them appropriately. Ignoring them can eventually cause a downward spiral and even result in harm to others and ourselves.21/11/2016 #109 Ali Anani@Sara Jacobovici responded in a buzz to this buzz. What a great read Sara's buzz is. You may read it here:
https://www.bebee.com/producer/@sara-jacobovici/developing-a-tolerance-to-negativity20/11/2016 #108 Ali Anani#107 I agree with you dear @Mohammed Sultan. Your comment is consistent with the quantum theory "When we consistently make certain assumptions about the bad things that may happen to us we trigger our negative emotions". When we focus only on negatives we develop the Observer Effect. Negative emotions help to stabilize positive emotions, but excessively reflecting on negative ones throw us out of balance.20/11/2016 #107 Mohammed SultanDear @ Ali Anani PhD.Thanks for sharing the output of your balanced emotion.When we consistently make certain assumptions about the bad things that may happen to us we trigger our negative emotions.Everything depends on how we view our external world.People with unbalanced emotion explain the bad things that happen to them in terms that are internal and stable.Thinking all the time of what went wrong is the moving sands of our emotions.It leads to giving up and prevent us from seizing opportunities because we think of punishment of failure(negative emotion) rather than the rewards for success(positive emotion).Fit and balance of our internal emotions should be done first before we align them with reason or with the external world.It also make sense to delay our decisions or meetings when we temporarily are flooded with negative emotion and become unable to balance them with reason.20/11/2016 #105 Ali Anani#104 You writing is packed with images dear @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher. Having just read your beautiful buzz of today on "Relationships and Empathy", you proved to me that your words are poetic, rich in vividness, and draw images in my mind. You words are images and I wonder why you think it is hard for you to describe in words. For readers, I strongly recommend for you reading the buzz of Lisa. It shall be time well-invested and for you to know that my comment reflects reality:
https://www.bebee.com/producer/@lisa-gallagher/relationships-and-empathy#c1120/11/2016 #103 Ali Anani#102 @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher- emotions and thoughts lead to actions. For every action there is an equal reaction in the opposite direction. That is why I find your comment so deep and informative, and especially this part of the comment "The more we put out to the universe, negative or positive, well it comes back to us". You do amaze me with how simply and clearly you express complex ideas.20/11/2016 #102 Lisa 🐝 GallagherIt's amazing how negative emotions can over take the postive emotions @Ali Anani. I think you described some of the mystery behind them well. We can co-exist as long as our common core is one that comes from a good place. I think we aren't able to co-exist if one person is positive (for the most part) and the other is inherently evil. I've always believed that positive attracts positive and vice versa. The more we put out to the universe, negative or positive, well it comes back to us. Everyone has negative emotions and that's not a bad thing. It's when we allow those emotions to dictate our lives and treat others unjustly because we feel so bitter inside.20/11/2016 #100 Ali Anani#96 @David Navarro López wrote a beautiful buzz on the forging metaphor. Thanks @Max🐝 J. Carter for reminding us of this metaphor. To better understand this metaphor, I urge you to read David's buzz at the following link:
https://www.bebee.com/producer/@david-navarro-lopez/can-the-character-be-forged20/11/2016 #96 Max🐝 J. Carter#95 @David Navarro López I really dug the piece and thank you for sharing it. Bruce Lee said something to the effect to take what resonates and make it uniquely your own. That's what triggered in my mind as I read the part about Copy.
It's all been done before however there is always a way to express it that is unique to one's perspective and how one applies it to ones life
I like the metal forging metaphor as well as I use a simple philosophy of the sword has no master to illustrate that each is a living sword and the hilt is the mind and letting others have control over what and how you think allows them to weld you against whoever the choose.
Something ingrained in me by my Hungarian family and many family debates that looked like war was about to break out. I was taught if I couldn't put it in my own words I was not allowed to participate because until you can put it in your own words you have yet to live concept to find if it is wise for your life. .
It's never easy to look at oneself and ones past and see where one inflicted harm and own it and forgive oneself by changing ones behavior so they don't repeat the inflicting of suffering as a matter of habit as they keep on keepin on.20/11/2016 #95 Anonymous#92 No idea who gave you a -1, Max. Maybe an inexperienced user who does not know how it works, because your comment is full of wisdom.
I agree with your words "People fear changing themselves because then maybe they might have to take responsibility..."
Self awareness can be a very disgusting experience if you don't like what you see, and you don't have the guts to change it. But is possible, in every case.
Some time ago I wrote a post you might like, concerned to this: https://www.bebee.com/producer/@david-navarro-lopez/can-the-character-be-forged20/11/2016 #94 Sara Jacobovici#89 Thanks for clarifying your comment @Harvey Lloyd. I understand that the sarcasm can come from parenting experiences ;-) but..... objectively speaking.....that potential wisdom does exist and experiences with time does enable the realization of that potential.19/11/2016 #92 Max🐝 J. CarterWhy do we fear getting rid of the terms positive and negative when describing human emotion?
Let me see I can answer this.
We fear letting go of these abusive descriptors so we can avoid actually having to deal with the cause of the emotional response and own responsibility for actions that led to the emotion displayed.
We cling to these terms to avoid dealing with each other and taking responsibility for our actions and words by saying "They are being negative and I did nothing or said nothing to illicit that response, it's their choice. and they are being negative."
This is self delusional avoidance and why these terms are abusive to self and all ones.
This is behavioral psychology applied with out allowing personal identity in the form of the ego expression to distort the view.
To let go these ideas means a redefinition of self and the ego expression. People fear changing themselves because then maybe they might have to take responsibility for things they have done in the past and acknowledge the suffering they have inflicts and generally people like to avoid that as they see it as a negative experience and this increases their resistance to change.
- Producer18/11/2016How NOT to write a professional apology letterUnited States Army veteran Ernest Walker just went to Chili’s restaurant for the promise of a free burger.The restaurant showed its “appreciation” for his service by confiscating his leftovers, questioning his service credentials and ejecting him...
Comments19/11/2016 #5 Pamela 🐝 WilliamsBrandon, Absolutely. The whole thing wreaked of insincere business-as-usual with the help of marketing and a lawyer. I hope Mr. Walker felt okay with the apology but this letter 'sucks rotten eggs'. Having sat in as minutes taker in corporate meetings I can probably hear the conversation;
It was just a meal, for christ's sake, what's the big deal, okay, how are we going to handle this? So-and-so, write a letter by so-and-so time and we'll meet again to review. Damn that manager for not handling this better; didn't we teach them how to confront bad customers? Do we need to hold another round of training sessions on how to properly handle disgruntled guests. Now, on to other subjects; what were the losses for the veteran give-away? How can we decrease the free meals, while still capitalizing on the 'community good-will' campaign?
No where are they referred to as human-beings, they are 'guests', in other words, walking stiffs with wallets.19/11/2016 #4 Harvey LloydHas it really gotten so complicated that when we make a mistake we can't just apologize? The letter looked like one written for the state of the union address. The irony truly is that even though the letter stated the values, clearly these values were not present in this situation. Restating them didn't make it better but rather reinforced the leadership's inability to perform at the customer level.
Maybe the leadership needs to apply to undercover boss?19/11/2016 #3 Brian McKenzie"Veteran" Status may not mean what you think it means. I did 15 years in the Reserves, all of my 9 deployments were 179 days, because at 180 days they have to issue benefits and a DD-214, anything below that was considered "ActiveDuty for Training" - neither the military nor an extremely large Retail conglomerate out of Arkansas consider me a 'Vet'. The one DD-214 that I could have "eaned" was from time in a country that we were never officially deployed to and never declared as one of our Forward Operations in the ever global expanding Shit Show of Whack-a-mole 'Anti-Terrorism' ventures.18/11/2016 #1 Susan RooksI agree with what you wrote here, @Brandon Marshall! What a damn shame on all fronts! Thanks for bringing this to our attention, and I hope that all other restaurants and service venues check their values and actions to be sure they're living up to what they say they believe.
- 19/11/2016The Difference Between Influencer Marketing and Advocate Marketer - Are the thoughts by "influential" on LinkedIn :helpful for working class....?
Link: LI article titled: "Time to ask an important question.." by Mark M-GTime to ask an important question...www.linkedin.com There are many 'LinkedIn' influencers. I (and you I'm sure as well) have seen their work,writing good and not-so-good posts. For me, too many of them publish posts that are not backed up by real...
Comments23/11/2016 #63 Don 🐝 KerrI am very late to this party @Milos Djukic and I thank you for tagging me. Social responsibility as practiced by any corporation - social media or coal mining - is a tricky spot where one must, of necessity, try to find a balance between the realities of being commercially effective while contributed to the commonwealth of the communities we inhabit. Concerning LI in particular and Mark M-G's article, all I can think of is the observation that one shouldn't judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree. Li performs a certain function for a certain market. FB does similarly. beBee too. Perhaps collectively, if we utilize social media for social good we can all improve our lots. In my previous life on the corporate side we regularly acknowledged that we were operating a for-profit business. We were not, clearly, a social agency. That did not however excuse us from sharing our good fortune even if our CSR programs were targetted to activities of some relevance and relationship to our markets.23/11/2016 #62 Aurorasa SimaThanks for the tag, Milos. I don´t know .... Not a huge fan of the article that also does not back up the claim that LI influencers only cater to certain groups. The author is a life coach. I wonder how much of his time he spends on free service for the poverty stricken.
Looking at the number of likes the article received, I might be pretty alone with my opinion. If you´re doing business I see no wrong in catering to your ideal clients. That does not mean you can´t do good in your free time.
LI "Influencers" as I understand the concept receive preferred distribution and more attention. Some of them are able to influence change, through their work more than the title - other are not.
Does the title "influencer" that is merely a VIP tag come with social responsibility? Personally, I don´t think so.20/11/2016 #59 John Vaughan#58 As long as we're belaboring the topic, @Irene Hackett, the phrase "Let's do our best to..." is pretty much a textbook example of condescension. (i.e. Are we talking to three-year-old?)
I guess we could ask if Milos feels that "Pass the KoolAid" is language that violates his sense of intrinsic value. I've been communicating with him for a few years now and didn't get that sense. Maybe I just missed it.
In any case, distraction works as an antidote to insight. There will be no discussion of the fact that discussions on beBee can go VERY wrong a la the comment thread in https://www.bebee.com/producer/@john-vaughan/re-posts-pointers-and-hooks.
Nothing to look at here, folks. Just move along.20/11/2016 #57 John Vaughan#55
sarcasm: the use of irony to mock
condescension: an attitude of patronizing superiority; disdain
There's a difference, @Irene Hackett
The value is in the insight, which is sharpened and emphasized by sarcasm.
https://www.bebee.com/producer/@john-vaughan/drinking-the-koolaid20/11/2016 #56 John Vaughan#53 Then again, @Milos Djukic, beBee also still manages to have "THESE kind of discussions".... (https://www.bebee.com/producer/@john-vaughan/re-posts-pointers-and-hooks) Please review the comment thread for content, styling, "civilized" demeanor, etc. Compare the content of the article to the shrillness of the reactions... And perhaps notice how many of the commentators are 'ambassadors'
* Interesting side-note. I published the exact same article on LinkedIn. Even tho LinkedIn actually gets the brunt of my criticism in the article, the response from the LinkedIn community was measured and responsible. There were some decent insights about the topic of the article itself - not merely reactions to perceived criticism. Check it out: https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/re-posts-pointers-hooks-john-vaughan
"It's still a work in progress" is about as politely as I can put it.20/11/2016 #52 AnonymousThank you very much @Irene Hackett, @Phil Friedman and @John Vaughan. Critical discussions and the confrontation of attitudes that are highly civilized are the only way to ensure further progress and sustainable development of this great social network. A people-centered leadership is what makes the difference here. Profit is then not only a reason, but also a byproduct. Advocate marketing is the only model that is applicable in the case of the social network.19/11/2016 #50 John Vaughan#43 Interesting dynamic between altruism & profit in this thread (#45, #46, etc) is the relationship between Best Practices (voluntary-ish) and Standards (mandatory-esque). At some point, when the opportune-Cooperation and the opportunistic-Competition sides find some common ground ... useful shit actually gets done. A nice-to-have becomes actual policy.
Thanks, @Phil Friedman and @Irene Hackett for kicking this one around19/11/2016 #49 Phil Friedman#47 Irene, I accept, respect, and indeed agree with everything you've just said. And I believe that putting it all out front during exchanges is, as you point out, exceedingly valuable. I also believe that the opportunity exists for beBee to differentiate itself from the other social media platforms and that there is great potential for beBee going forward, Which is why I have been arguing for a while now, that it the best approach is not to position directly opposite LI or any other major platform, but position as a completely new and different synthesis. I also do not for a moment question the Ambassador program, which I think is an entrepreneurial masterstroke, notwithstanding that I reservations about it being clearly understood for the for-pay marketing tool that it is by even most of the Ambassadors themselves. I mention this only because you refer to what you are doing for beBee, and not because I want to get into a discussion about Advocate Marketing and variants thereof. Thank you for speaking honestly and so clearly. I hope your weekend is a good one. Cheers!19/11/2016 #46 Phil Friedman#43 --- Pt. II ---
Irene, this is not to express a judgment, only to bring to attention a fact. And you can say, "well, of course" all you want. But I have entered into discussion with many, many people who think the appellation "unicorn start-up" refers to corporations that are primarily pursuing goals in the area of social improvement. Cheers!19/11/2016 #45 Phil Friedman#43 I agree, Irene -- to an extent. If one reads carefully what I said, one sees that I neither said nor implied that social concern is always excluded from for-profit entrepreneurial activity, only that de facto it usually is. Buffet, Gates, Soros, Zuckerberg and some others have given truly huge amounts to social causes. From their huge personal profits. However, without taking anything away from them for doing so, I think we need to recognize that none of them live like monks or even Mother Theresa. I am simply in favor of being realistic.
You are correct about there being options. One of which is to create instead of a private, for-profit corporate entity, a non-profit entity with defined caps on the level of compensation which can be drawn by controlling interests who are also executives and management of that entity. And I suggest to you that adopting such an option would indeed be indicative of a primary interest in pursuit of the public good. In the absence of that, I am somewhat cynical about claims by entrepreneurs to be, first and foremost, interested in improving the lot of mankind.
I personally have no objection to anyone making a profit from honest business activity. Nor do I expect anyone to divert part or all of their efforts to social causes. If they do, or if they find a way to combine the two, so much the better. But let us not be fooled, for example, by companies who pledge a percentage of their revenues or profits to support of a charitable or social cause. The primary objective in doing so is not the betterment of society, but the generation of greater sales revenues. For I know of no private, for-profit that pledges anything other that a minuscule portion of its net profit to public causes, and even then such pledges are in pre-tax dollars, so cost only a portion of the nominal amount.
This is not to express a judgment, only to bring to attention a fact. And you can say, "well, of course" all you want. But I have entered into19/11/2016 #40 Phil Friedman#24 #32 #26 #31 #23 -- PART III --
6) beBee currently does no better than Li as concerns the provision of a platform for blue-collar people, and only pays lip-service to being a venue that welcomes blue-collar workers. This is because beBee does not provide the tools or official support for creating and managing hives that are user-directed to work-related topics that affect blue-collar workers.
That, however, is itself the topic for a very long and complicated discussion for another time.
I apologize for the long-winded comment. But there is so much to say about all of this, and some of an article I'm working on is bleeding into what I'm saying here. So I'll just stop here. Cheers to all!19/11/2016 #39 Phil Friedman#24 #32 #26 #31 #23 --PART II ---
4) The bone that most writer-users have to pick with LinkedIn is not about how LI ownership and management have chosen to evolve the platform, but with the fact that LI breached an implied, but fully legal contract with them by promising to support their efforts to build their own individual readership networks in exchange for their contributing work used in building the LI user-base (which LI monetizes), then taking and using that work, and finally reneging on the promises made by LI when it invited them to (direct quote) "publish on LinkedIn."
As I've said many times before, the Influencer vs non-influencer conflict has to be seen, I believe, in the framework of elites vs counter-elites, as defined in the seminal works of social philosopher Eric Hoffer. It has little to do with the basic nature and structure of LinkedIn as a social media platform.
5) The plaintiff cry that LI ignores the "working class" is a red herring. Nintey-nine percent of us are "working class", so the tag has no practical value. What we can distinguish between are "blue collar" workers versus "white collar" workers.
The most one can say is that LI does not provide an infrastructure conducive to networking and exchange between "blue collar" people. In fact, LI did provide such an environment with the early structuring of its groups, but completely abandoned that environment when it destroyed the ability to run and maintain topic- and membership-filtered groups and discussions.
When I first joined LI in 2009, I participated in several industry-specific groups that were populated by many people who straddled the white-collar/blue-collar division --- which is common in the marine industry. And the activity in those groups was interesting and fruitful, even exciting. But obviously completely disrespected by the white-collar apparatchiks in LI management.
6) beBee currently does no better than Li as concerns the provision of a platform for19/11/2016 #38 Phil Friedman#24 #32 #26 #31 #23 --- Milos, thank you for inviting me to comment here. I think the main points are:
1) Social media platforms such as LinkedIn, Facebook, Twitter, and beBee are private, for-profit organizations, not public institutions. As such they are not subject to precriptions as to what the "should or should not" be; they are only subject to the dictates of the search for market share.
2) it is ridiculous to expect that social media platforms will act in accord with some vision of social conscience and the Worldwide Common Good. If you doubt this, consider that beBee is currently implementing a program to become the latest "Unicorn Start-up", and look up the meaning of "unicorn start-up", which embodies nothing mystical or magical or ethically desirable, only the criterion of achieving in excess of one billion dollars in investor capitalization.
Duh, it's about money, guys, money. And market share. And profit. And ROI. Not about making the world a better place to live. That may or may not turn out to be a byproduct of market-driven choices, but it will not be a leading objective... ever.
Anyone who thinks that the primary objective of social media platforms is to make the world a "better" place is hugely naive --- and needs to remember that the internet and the worldwide web were not created by private enterprise, however much private enterprise benefited and profited (and continue to do so) from their development.
3) The almost continual comparison of beBee to LinkedIn is the direct result of beBee's actions in positioning itself in the market directly opposite LinkedIn, witness the latest chart/infographic put out by beBee marketing --- a piece of marketing collateral better described as a mis-info-graphic. I've suggested to beBee ownership and management several times, both publicly and privately, that the comparison to LI is counter-productive, so I have no hesitancy in repeating that suggestion here.
4) The bone that most19/11/2016 #37 CityVP 🐝 Manjit#35 Dear John, what drew me into this post was the title "Time to ask an Important Question". We do seem to be more inclined to focus on other people's important questions, rather than viewing the question as a rhetorical one. I gain more learning that way and I expend far less energy in the habit of responding to opinion. On the way of engaging that learning I encounter or pickup tidbits on the way, such as http://www.shakespearetheatre.org/events/martin-luther-on-trial/ and that too adds to my learning - for sure I can make a comment about the synchronicity of that - but I need to get back to my learning. IMHO Learning is my BIG PLUS and Indoctrination is my BIG NEGATIVE - and the person I should be saying that to most is myself. As for hitting the plus sign, other than that this is social engineering far more than it is personal learning - feedback is great, but on the social dimension do you and I have the time to be mentors to everyone - or do we become our own student and learn from our own words and view our relationships as barometers of learning. Love is a private thing that I want to see flow into my own home :-)19/11/2016 #36 John Vaughan#27 Great analysis, @CityVP 🐝 Manjit (also #28 and #20)
FWIW: Will be attending the play "Martin Luther on Trial" in a few weeks. Interesting times...
"The judge is Saint Peter. And the prosecutor…is the Devil. In the new original play Martin Luther on Trial, Luther's beloved wife Katarina defends him as witnesses including Adolf Hitler, Sigmund Freud, Rabbi Josel, St. Paul, Martin Luther King, Jr. and Pope Francis take the stand."
Also FWIW: I continue to earn negative [ - ] votes for my participation.
beBee breathlessly heralds when someone likes my comment, even identifying them by name. But is silent on the negative ratings.
Discuss, anyone? Particularly in the context of "a professional environment"?
Disagreement doesn't really bother me. But is "anonymous negative rating" a good thing?19/11/2016 #34 John Vaughan#33 We are agreed that beBee's "speculative equity" ambassadorship program is effective in recruiting and motivating beBee Pump Primers, @Irene Hackett.
I hope you'll check out https://www.bebee.com/producer/@john-vaughan/priming-the-pump:
"'Priming the pump' is a smart and well-established technique. We could spend several articles de-constructing how and why. In the meantime, let's just accept that people do it because it works."
It's not described as 'a problem', though it is analyzed in terms of its impact on content and 'professionalism' within beBee. Analysis is fundamental to Solution.
- Producer05/11/2016Eleven Things That Create Resistance And Anger In Others (Free Excerpts)Stop starting conflict by eliminating these eleven conflict habitsConflict In Your LifeEleven Things That Create Resistance And Anger In Others (Free Excerpts)Summary: By eliminating these eleven anger provoking behaviors from your repertoire you...
Comments06/11/2016 #7 Harvey Lloyd@Robert Bacal the challenges of communications in such a noisy environment requires many approaches to get heard. A positive agenda for an outcome can be met with a negative writing style. Media today, in all forms, realizes that negative/positive or emotional engagement through taking a stand or showing a sad puppy will introduce a polarized audience on either side. But it is engagement.
Offering engagement within a seeking or wisdom style is too flat and lacks the roller coaster ride typical engagement. I enjoy watching the circus of writers and delineating what their agenda may be within the writing. This is my agenda, as we all have one.
You list seems accurate but is also listing the exactly what engages folks. This is a sad truth but we can see it in politics, social settings and clearly online. It would appear that just experiencing the human dynamic is not enough we must have a agenda/side, engage it emotionally and polarize. This will be our ultimate understanding 100 years from now.
Call it social growing pains. What happens when everyone has a microphone?06/11/2016 #6 Aurorasa SimaGood list, Robert. Thanks for sharing!
I believe 6 and 7 often come in combination with the inability to let go of things. It´s amazing how even someone speaking the truth can become annoying from the unfortunate combination of 6, 7 and what I´d like to call 6a).
Lucky are those who have access to this list.06/11/2016 #5 Mohammed A. JawadOh, sometimes confused communication makes others crazy and it spews sheer conflicts. Imagine the harm done when a person feels feverish with thoughts and ideas and publishes it on the media, in haste. Nothing in proper sense, but all like random expressions stitched with silly words. A vile gossip, a pungent back-biting or wandering notions can blotch one's feelings. So, let's think, censor and re-think before we publish anything. Instead silence is better than hasty viewpoints.06/11/2016 #4 Lisa 🐝 GallagherI've learned to stay silent for quite some time now. I also learned it's OK to speak out against injustices if we are being attacked or see another being attacked. I will not attack the attacker or become like that of the attacker. I just wrote on @Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman View moreI've learned to stay silent for quite some time now. I also learned it's OK to speak out against injustices if we are being attacked or see another being attacked. I will not attack the attacker or become like that of the attacker. I just wrote on @Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman buzz that I'm learning a lot from those who've done this much longer than myself, beBee and it's team being such a great example. If I feel I may say something I could regret, I won't comment. I'm not here for controversy or to make enemies. There will always be a few who thrive on controversy, not sure why... maybe they are trying to draw more people in. Sort of reminds me of the negative stuff the media spews, people become addicted, it's like a soap opera and they keep coming back for more. Close
- Producer27/10/2016How to Tell if Your Customer is an IdiotAs business people, we always try to meet or exceed our customers' expectations. Whether we call them clients, customers, patrons, or guests is irrelevant here. They are the ones we depend on to keep our doors open. They are the ones we opened our...
Comments11/11/2016 #32 Wayne YoshidaThanks for the chuckle this morning, Paul. I thought the title had something to do with the VW diesel-gate thing. Anyway . . . on the other side of this "customer is an idiot thing," I had a friend who owned a camera shop. He went out of his way to accommodate strange requests from customers. For example, since his shop was near an international airport, people would come into the shop and try to buy things with foreign currency. Most shops would not take their money. Kurt would always take out his calculator, look up the exchange rate and let them buy whatever they wanted. He figured money is money, right?
He also had this twisted sense of humor. He would do this trick to young kids working a cash register when he bought something. He would pay in cash, and extend his hand for the change. He would accept the change, but kept his hand extended. Way too often, the cashier would look uncomfortable and hand him some more money. Yikes.08/11/2016 #31 Ben Pinto@Paul "Pablo" Croubalian Why any vegan would want to even eat at this establishment is beyond my understanding. A true vegan would be mortified at the mere thought of shared cooking utensils. Pulling out the cash from their Louis Vuiton canvas handbag, with real leather straps would be further proof of a Troll. A sign in the window stating "If you are Trolling just keep Strolling," would give a similar clue of not being wanted there as my social media quote of the same verbiage ending with the word Scrolling instead of Strolling gives.29/10/2016 #27 Paul "Pablo" Croubalian#26 CUSStomer... I LOVE it! The reality is that excellent customer service is a partnership between the provider and the customer.
I was once in a crepe house (the Creoes breton type... huge very thin dough filled with all sorts of good stuff). A woman asked the owner to make her crepes without egg. Note, crepe batter without egg is glue. When the owner explained that it was impossible, the customer flew into a rage. People do not control the laws of physics and chemistry29/10/2016 #26 Praveen Raj GullepalliLOL PC! Again! Delighted to hear of some lingering rabbity habitties... ;) Coming back to the crux of it all...am wondering if CUSTOMER (a sacred word that simply cannot be used in conjunction with any negative) is the right nomenclature to use here at all in the first place when the person doesn't fit the profile one bit! A cuss-tomer more like it, for lack of a better word!29/10/2016 #24 Paul "Pablo" Croubalian#22 It takes all kinds to make a world. Most vegans I know are not militant. They recognize that it's a choice they made. They may not understand how we can eat meat or wear leather. They let us be.
Come to think of it, if they were militant they wouldn't be friends, would they?
That said, I don't eat my extra-rare steak in front of vegan friends. It's a two-way street.29/10/2016 #22 AnonymousApart from the fact that some people take advantage of being your potential customer, and try to play the rol of God with every illogical requirement, just for the fun of making you twist under "their power", the thing goes to apocalyptic proportions if one mixes "customer" with "vegan" .
I had some disgusting experiences with vegan people, and what i really don't understand is that they claim they are vegan due to the highest human values, while forgetting that to be vegan is THEIR choice, pointing out that everyone who is not in agreement with them should not belong to the human race. For the same reason, in my opinion, this is a clear aggression to one of the most valuable rights of humans, that is, the freedom to choose. They choose a way of life and expect that the rest of humankind should do the same, just because they see it this way.
Under my point of view, there is no much difference between this behaviour and fascism.
I am not even trying to convince a vegan to eat meat. For the same reason, I don't want to be insulted by them because of their own choice.
As it uses to happen, some individuals belonging to a minority are so desperately willing to reaffirm their choice, that they feel compelled to convince the rest of us to follow their own choice by all means. It´s simply pathetic.28/10/2016 #20 Jerry FletcherPaul,
I once thought it was age that brought out the curmudgeon in people than I went to work in advertising. I quickly realized that age had nothing to do with it. It is a reaction to stupidity. It seems more and more that the world abounds in it. Excuse me I've got to get my oil changed...28/10/2016 #13 Paul "Pablo" Croubalian#6 LMAO, Randy. Yup, it is only in English. I guess I could have written it in French too. But, I have never met two French-speakers who could agree on phrasing. Come to think of it, I never met two English-speakers who could either.
Satire is difficult to write, particularly on an international stage. Don't sweat the shit lists.28/10/2016 #12 Alexa SteeleThanks for sharing a great story, @Paul "Pablo" Croubalian. I clicked over and read the original article, but I'm not sure I read it right. Did that whole fiasco really start because the customer couldn't be bothered to google "idiosyncratic" and assumed she'd been called an idiot? I think maybe we have a bigger problem than people feeling entitled...
- Producer27/10/2016Tips for Mastering the Art of Public Apology, or Any Apology for that MatterAs a follow up to my recent post, How to Speak Your Mind and Not Piss People Off, I thought I would move into the subject of what we public relations pros call “issues management” and the fine art of issuing public apologies. If you just want to...
Comments29/10/2016 #33 Ken BoddieMany handy tips here, Renée, for which I thank you. I have never been happy with repeated legal advice advocating never to admit wrongdoing. I suspect that many a situation can be defused by an appropriate apology rather than buttressed into a stagnant stand-off. I also like your suggestion to keep the client advised on proposed system remediation. Worth filing away as you say.28/10/2016 #28 Graham🐝 Edwards#21 I think one of the challenges to this, more than ever because of social media, is as it plays out in the world of public opinion to separate object from subjective... vile and narcissistic are subjective words and in my word only "objective" gets things done.
One persons apology is another persons "pandering"...
I sense the contrarian in me coming out... as we'll as a buzz. Again thanks for making me think.28/10/2016 #24 Aaron SkogenI just ran across this @Renée 🐝 Cormier. Great advice! It's interesting that I see this now considering I don't believe in coincidences. About an hour ago I posted this: https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/im-sorry-open-apology-aaron-skogen A very public apology. I don't normally post links to another post, but given the content, I thought it may interest you. Again, this is a wonderful reminder Renee, thanks!28/10/2016 #23 David B. GrinbergSuper awesome advice @Renée 🐝 Cormier! You provide valuable lessons is crisis communications. To reiterate some points:
1) Remember that saying from Watergate: "The cover up is always worse than the crime."
2) Thus, don't wait to apologize for a major gaffe. Do so publicly, quickly and all at once. Shine a spotlight on it.
3) Swallow your pride and eat your "humble pie" ASAP. Avoid the drip-drip-drip effect of negative media coverage over multiple news cycles.
4) By apologizing, you will usually gain empathy and forgiveness. Meanwhile, covering up the problem will only cause it to grow larger -- like a snowball rolling down a mountain and getting bigger and it picks up speed.28/10/2016 #21 Renée 🐝 Cormier#18 Thank you, Graham, for the thoughtful response. I think intention plays a major role in determining the gravity of any action. The other component, of course, is the consequences of the action. It is the difference between a serious transgression and an honest mistake. Honest mistakes are much easier to forgive. A person who has no regard for the consequences of his actions could be considered a rather vile and even narcissistic individual, and would therefore be much harder to forgive.28/10/2016 #18 Graham🐝 EdwardsAsk always @Renée 🐝 Cormier great insight and perspective. For me, if you tear way everything, an apology is the recognition of a mistake (or problem), which then more importantly begs the questions, "Is it really a mistake? Do you take ownership for the mistake? What are you going to fix the problem? and can I trust you not to make the same mistake?".
Apologies are a dime a dozen, just look at any Canadian or Politician... lol
There is some fascinating discussion in this post and I hope we can broaden the conversation...
How is a mistake defined and who defines it? (Actuaries make a living helping companies it). Who decides if it is an honest mistake or in fact a well calculated decision that unfortunately forums the light of day? Are mistakes defined by external consensus or driven by internal core
Then you have rectifying the mistake or problem...... recognition of the mistake and an apologize just isn't enough... I believe it is what is done then validates the honest recognition of the mistake and the apologize.
All your great points take us far but in the end the real question that has to be asked and part of the recognition and "apology spin needs to be, "What is the plan and the actions that show you are 'walking the talk' ?".
Thanks for making me think,
g28/10/2016 #16 Paul Kearley 🐝Very well written @Renée 🐝 Cormier. I liked the plug for Dale Carnegie in there as well, but the one thing that is most important is this one: Give absolutely no excuses for your behaviour. You are bang on for that one. Nothing is more frustrating than someone apologizing and finishing with a "But...... " Thanks for this great piece which acts as a great reminder to us all.
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