- Producer04/12/2016Hack Your Brain for the Ultimate LifeThere is increasing proof that the mind is more powerful than we realize. We can think our way to financial success, rewarding relationships, and even good health.Medical researchers now say that in many cases, a placebo - a pill with nothing in it,...
Comments04/12/2016 #1 AnonymousThere is so much being written about this subject matter today and I find it very uplifting. In this buzz, you've gotten to the 'pulse' of it all - and in very practical terms, with very practical examples on how to apply it. Very nice! I am sharing this in the Sanctuary hive as well as on twitter.
- 04/12/2016A little solace ... for trying times
Amazing grace, how sweet the sound
That saved a wretch like me
I once was lost, but now am found
Was blind, but now I see
'Twas grace that taught my heart to fear
And grace my fears relieved
How precious did that grace appear
The hour I first believed
When we've been there ten thousand years
Bright shining as the sun
We've no less days to sing God's praise
Than when we first begun
Amazing grace, how sweet the sound
That saved a wretch like me
I once was lost, but now am found
Was blind, but now I seeAmazing Grace - Peter Hollens feat. Home Free Grab Amazing Grace on the Christmas album w/ Home Free Here: Physical Signed CDs: https://peterhollens.com/albums/ http://www.cdbaby.com/Artist/PeterHollens...
Comments04/12/2016 #7 Anonymous#5 Well said @Kevin Pashuk. It is true, grace is often misunderstood within the church walls. And I agree, grace and love is something that is quite personal and may have nothing whatsoever to do with religious or church affiliation. (FYI: I was blessed to be able to visit Zanzibar and walk that slave route and visited the old dungeons where those slaves were held. It was chilling.)04/12/2016 #5 Kevin Pashuk#2 #3 Thanks for including me in on this John and Irene. You've picked two hymns that are special to me, and I regularly play contemporary versions of them.
The power in the words demonstrate a faith that transcends religion, In the case of John Newton, a complete turn around and repentance from his life as a slave trader, and in the case of Horatio Spafford, a deep trust in God despite an incomprehensible loss. Interestingly enough, Spafford's church relegated the tragedy to judgement... showing that even back then the concept of grace and love were misunderstood by organized religion of the day. (Don't get me wrong... I do attend church, but one that understands the concept that judgement is not our job)04/12/2016 #3 Anonymous#2 Welcome John, I love the old hymns. And I truly love the background story to Amazing Grace. Another great hymn I adore is 'It is well with my Soul' and it too, has a very touching background story: Listen to a current version of the song here: https://youtu.be/zY5o9mP22V0 and here is the background story: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/It_Is_Well_with_My_Soul. @Kevin Pashuk
- Producer02/12/2016A Little Food For ThoughtThanksgiving has come and gone once again here in the United States, and as I sit here contemplating yet another year gone by, this all too brief Holiday gives me food for thought. I’m sure you're familiar with the term "six degrees of...
Comments02/12/2016 #3 Sarah Elkins"It's sensible to me that we should all do our very best to treat one another with the respect and caring we would extend to a long lost family member and go out of our way to bring our best selves to the proverbial dinner table." And not just sensible. It's critical for our own happiness.
- Producer01/12/2016Just Thinking Out Loud: Life with Me is a Limited Time Edition!TimeIn clearing the drafts in my email something popped up, "life with me is a limited time edition." So, here I go wondering where that line came from and saw it was from me - smile! I just have to smile at that cocky line which would have come...
Comments03/12/2016 #23 Laura MikolaitisThose are some amazing thoughts @Donna-Luisa Eversley. I like the concept of living incomplete because it leaves the door open for new opportunities and challenges. There is so much waiting for us out there when we choose to seek it.
Being ever evolving enables us to continue to broaden the depths of who we are, and that's a gift really. I really enjoyed reading this and I am so glad to see you writing again my friend!02/12/2016 #22 Alan CullerThanks @Donna-Luisa Eversley for sharing your thoughts. I especially like the 'never stop growing point' - the absence of growth is death -life is about learning and loving. My father was asked at 95 the secret of a long life -he smiled and said "Just keep breathing." :-)
Alan02/12/2016 #21 Chas Wyatt"Nothing that is complete breathes." ~Antonio Porchia, Voces, 1943, translated from Spanish by W.S. Merwin. "May I never be complete. May I never be content. May I never be perfect. Deliver me, Tyler, from being perfect and complete." ~Chuck Palahniuk, Fight Club, Chapter 5.02/12/2016 #20 Aurorasa SimaThanks for sharing about how you feel and on which note you end this year.
We breathe. It´s all complete. And there can be never completeness for one hunger satisfied gets replaced with more hunger.
Yeah ... you´re a limited edition and a precious one. I like you attitude towards life and love a lot, my dear friend.01/12/2016 #19 Lisa GallagherGreat attitude @Donna-Luisa Eversley, we are all incomplete! When we stop learning, helping, giving- well we stop living. I think we all have days we feel stagnant or may even stagnate temporarily and for me, it's recognizing those times and stepping back up to the plate. Very inspiring Donna and maybe we all need to push each other once in a while if another is withdrawing. We never know another's circumstances, it always helps to know we have others that care because we can't always be 'all that' for everyone. Sometimes we need an extra hug, someone to listen etc... I'm glad I saw you on facebook or I would have reached out to you on here, I would have been very worried about you, my friend. Thank you for this, you have a way of working through things, whatever they may be and coming back with a fervor.01/12/2016 #18 Deb Helfrich"Life is a paradox of balance." Feeling at peace with our past and full of hope for our future is the way to stay blissfully present to the sorrows and joys of being alive right now. Every minute we can figure out how to balance in the present brings us more fully alive.
The right now is unlimited, @Donna-Luisa Eversley. And one very timely way to celebrate it is with writing straight from the heart.01/12/2016 #12 AnonymousWow, thanks for "thinking out loud" @Donna-Luisa Eversley! I am in full alignment with your thoughts - we are imperfect beings and yet we strive to improve. You captured this so wisely in our looking for those "perfect opportunities to meet my imperfection,". And this process is ongoing - never completed. Bravissimo ! Sharing in Sanctuary hive & on twitter!01/12/2016 #11 Fatima Williams#1 Love this buzz @Donna-Luisa Eversley Yes by being incomplete we keep on addling to ourselves. I stand with you on this by saying let me be incomplete I don't need people pushing me to be complete. I love my imperfect incomplete self.
Christmas greetings everyone. I'm feeling all Christmassy since it turned December.🤗🤗🤗⛤🤗🤗🤗01/12/2016 #9 Jesse AngelesDonna,
I love this! The idea rings so true and for so many. In my line of work I see so many that believe that expanding their knowledge involves time which they do not have. The scarcity mentality that robs those of a richer life. Abundance of knowledge is a great life for me.01/12/2016 #7 Phil FriedmanDonna-Luisa, when I finally came to grips with a single fact, my life outlook became much more serene. Of course, serenity is relative. That fact is life is open-ended. There will always be items on my to-do list and places-to-see list, right to the end. As some items get checked off, others will pop up. Which is part of being alive, and not being one of the walking dead. So I understand, I think, your thoughts here. And thank you for providing the reminder to reflect on what it is to be truly alive. Cheers and best wishes.01/12/2016 #6 Sushmita Thakare Jain@Donna-Luisa Eversley I believe the incompleteness within ourselves is what pushes us to learn new things. It is this life journey where each day is a new lesson learned in some way or the other, it may be limited edition but that is its beauty! Thank you for sharing this lovely post, will be sharing it ahead :)
- Producer30/11/2016How Plato's Dialogue "Apology" Is Now More Relevant than EverThose who have studied the classics of ancient Greece, may remember one dialogue from Plato called Apology (which was not his most famous work). There he talked about his mentor's trial and how he defended himself against charges which were...
Comments30/11/2016 #2 Robert CormackGood post, @Zacharias Voulgaris. Living by conviction has certainly lost some of its lustre today. We write, we argue, we talk but actually living by this conviction seems foreign and, as most people would conclude "not really necessary." So we're now at "talk is cheap."
- Producer29/11/2016Coaching Exercise: Expose The Thorn. Our Reward? A Golden Kiss From The Rose!We are all magnificent roses in disguise. Awesome beauties. From the inside out. Yes, we are all that and so much more. We might have forgotten it. We might have been brainwashed. By ourselves and/or by others. As a result, we waste time by not...
Comments30/11/2016 #5 AnonymousI love your contributions on beBee @Liesbeth Leysen, MSc - always filled with gentleness, kindness. This one in particular is a wonderful reminder for all - to accept ourselves in all imperfection but to strive for awareness of those traits that are keeping us from living life fully. I am sharing this in the Sanctuary Hive & on twitter!30/11/2016 #4 CityVP ManjitI say enjoy the beautiful blossom of the rose by keeping the rose attached to life. The thorns are there to protect the rose, but we human beings have become accustomed to pluck beauty for ourselves, rather than appreciate nature for all of nature's wonder. The thorns hurt us because they were put there by nature and not by man-made mechanics and yes, it is true that as a species we have suffered from human being plucking human beings, and the rose is simply one more line item that human beings pluck.
The act of removing a rose so we can have it is a human act, but it removes a living rose and turns it into an artifact. I don't want to be an artifact but attached to life force just as a rose is attached to a life force, that the thorns protect - and in this way the metaphor of the rose embraces the whole and not the part - we can appreciate the fullness of the flower and the life-giving value of the plant, and when we do we accord plant intelligence with the same reverence we should have for human intelligence.
- Producer27/11/2016Live Life to the Fullest - Right NowMy accountant (of all people) keeps telling me to live life to the fullest because, "you never know what disasters tomorrow will bring." Tim practices what he preaches - travelling, going out to events, and meeting as many people as he can....
Comments28/11/2016 #8 Lisa GallagherHi @Cory Galbraith, the real life examples you wrote of above are good reasons to live in the moment and to the fullest. I think it's easy to get caught in the trap of 'what needs to be done daily,' and even easier to just forget that we need to experience life beyond our homes and work. I like your accountant, he has a great attitude! I'm glad you have learned that anger and fighting with others serves no purpose except to weigh us down. I try hard to forgive quick and forget. I'm still working on being more spontaneous and doing things I actually fear... things others may enjoy! Thanks for this reminder.27/11/2016 #4 David B. GrinbergThanks Cory for sharing such profound advice and words of wisdom. Just to reiterate some of your key points:
1) Life is in the living -- and life is fragile.
2) Worrying is a waste of time and bad for your health. Rather, adopt a positive mindset and be positively expectant about your goals, plans, dreams.
3) Remember, "No risk, no reward." Don't be afraid to take a "leap of faith" once and a while. Ask yourself a simple question: if others can do it, why not me?
4) Like the iconic Nike campaign stated: "Just do it!" -- as there's no time like the present.
Thanks again for the very helpful and insightful buzz, Cory. It's always a pleasure to read you here. I and many other bees appreciate your writing and appreciate YOU.27/11/2016 #2 AnonymousThis buzz describes what I have learned in this one life as well. And I too, am an Accountant who has learned: "Not everything that counts can be counted, and not everything that can be counted counts." [According to Quote investigator, this quote should be attributed to William Bruce Cameron instead of Albert Einstein. See Cameron’s 1963 text “Informal Sociology: A Casual Introduction to Sociological Thinking”
- Producer23/11/2016The WaitSo you sit and you tell yourself it's gonna be alright. You will get past this phase. It's a trying time in our life and we need to wait it out. You tell yourself that you are strong and this cloud of testing will soon fade away and there will be...
Comments27/11/2016 #40 CityVP Manjit#39 If we are what we eat, we are also what we think and in this regard there is plenty of suggestions on how to get unstuck. The 7 things to remember when stuck by Allison Fallon serves as an example of the mental shifts available :
7 Things to Remember When You're Feeling Stuck
http://allisonfallon.com/stuck/27/11/2016 #39 Fatima Williams#38 Thank you @CityVP Manjit It's an inevitable truth waiting is a part of our life.
But I feel sometimes we get stuck in our cocoons afraid to fly and spread our beautiful wings.
I remember a story of how an impatient person who saw a butterfly struggling to come out of the cocoon tried helping it and that eventually lead to the death of the butterfly.
This waiting phase in the cocoon is sometimes required to collect the strength as you said that required to break out and fly.
Transformation is the fruit of waiting but lets not wait too much. 🤗🤗🤗🤗27/11/2016 #38 CityVP Manjit#37 I welcome moments of life which are a cocoon. In modern culture we treat cocoon as a euphemism for prison, but it is not that, the caterpillar is not a prisoner of the cocoon, but a transformation in waiting and we are not butterflies, we are are more than a transformation that is no bigger than our thumb.
Let me take the song by Milky Chance called "Cocoon" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ernVvrYH9vg so while his main lyric is "so lets go back to our cocoon" the context is still escape and not transformation. http://www.azlyrics.com/lyrics/milkychance/cocoon.html If we identify with this song, we identify with escape and pain rather than transformation and privacy.
I do not offer this as a perspective to a single a person because my own cocoons are a source of personal liberation. I am not afraid of melancholy or sadness, for when grief comes I will participate in the process of grief, but when freedom comes, I can place that in a cocoon too - for that is a different kind of waiting. The best privacy is to close my eyes or enjoy time at home.
Whether it is waiting such as Van Morrison "Days Like This" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3UUWkr4FUlo or I have to do what it is I must do for this thing called our work life and I can't open up my mind to you - there is something gestating in the waiting, there is something fermenting in the waiting, there is something good changing in the waiting. Waiting is a part of life.26/11/2016 #36 Deb LangeDear @ Fatima I resonate with the wait and the move. I wrote a buzz last week which was well received. I said there is a part 2. I know I have been putting off part 2 as I feel some pressure in myself to have it as well received as part 1, but maybe it won't be. --and maybe it will. I know incubation time is useful but I sense I wait a little too long and need to be bolder with my action in the world. Things are never perfect and are always perfect just the way they are. And can always be updated and improved.26/11/2016 #35 Ali AnaniPart 2
I have just responded to a comment by dear @Sara Jacobovici on my linked buzz and urged her to read this buzz. I also invite @Irene Hackett, @Deb Helfrich, @Deb Lange, @Max Carterr and the two Lisas @Lisa Gallagher and @Lisa Vanderburg to enjoy this great buzz and to contribute to the discussions.26/11/2016 #34 Ali AnaniDear @Fatima Williams- you are a greater writer, thinker and communicator. I read your buzz comprehensively, with great interest and enjoyed the flow of your ideas your buzz. You leave me with so much to think about. I just request you to read my last buzz and the two co (Parts 1 and 2) and you shall realize what I mean.
We are working on developing a formula for movement and we need your brain. I hope your time would allow you to visit.
Your explanation of the wait time, steps how to deal with it and highlighting the Waiting Step as the critical step leave me with much to think about.24/11/2016 #26 Fatima Williams#20 Ahhh @Deb Helfrich first of all I love you ! Can I say that I hope your love doesn't get angry with me LOL. I love your character, personality and the way you interact and share your thoughts. I am no longer looking at people like Steve Jobs for motivation. I just come here on beBee and connect with you amazing people and I'm more than Good ! Look at the lovely buzz @Franci Eugenia Hoffman wrote today. I am on TOP of the world Today !
" I Flourish on beBee " That's the word I would like to use.
Coming to the buzz I'm so happy you had something to take away from here that was my goal achieved. Stay Awesome and GET MOVING ( winks)24/11/2016 #23 Lisa GallagherSuch an honest piece @Fatima Williams. I think we can all get stuck in the 'wait phase,' from time to time. We do need to draw on something stronger than ourselves at times or from deep within. I thought of one more thing, guilt can also put people into 'the wait.' If we hold on to self-guilt too long, it will immobilize us. Life sure is a balancing act!
- 20/11/2016To ALL of my followers, introducing my new hive, "Echo of the Spheres", (Attn; @Franci Eugenia Hoffman, @Sara Jacobovici, @Sushmita Thakare Jain)~Rokia Traore - Sabali Rokia Traores song Sabali, along with a beautiful slideshow of africa and its...
Comments21/11/2016 #5 Sara JacoboviciThanks for the tag @Chas Wyatt. Very happy to join the hive. Love the Byron quote and already appreciate your first selection and the discussion that has evolved. This excerpt from a Kirkus Review describes why I think THE WORLD IN SIX SONGS by Daniel Levitin is a must read: “Music played a key role in making societies and civilizations possible. So argues research scientist Levitin (Laboratory for Musical Perception, Cognition, and Expertise/McGill University; This Is Your Brain on Music, 2006, etc.), who believes that music and the human brain co-evolved. What distinguishes us from all other species, he declares, is not language or use of tools, but the impulse toward artistic expression. The auditory art of music became part of our brain's wiring tens of thousands of years ago, and human nature has been shaped by six broad categories of songs, by which Levitin means music of all kinds. Devoting a chapter to each category-friendship, joy, comfort, knowledge, religion and love-the author speculates about its origins and how it influenced the human spirit over thousands of generations. Levitin sees songs as efficient systems for preserving tribal histories, transmitting essential how-to information from generation to generation and communicating spiritual feelings and deep emotions.”20/11/2016 #1 CityVP ManjitOne of the peculiarities about residing in an age with an abundance of media is that we do not usually listen to music that someone has not given some context or meaning to. We are more readily to listen to Salif Keita because it visually captured a scene in the movie about Mohammad Ali in "When We Were Kings" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n7Rulsk1tWk and still not know who Salif Kaita was or is. With or without context the appreciation I have for music is commensurate to the talent that produced it and in this case the context is enhanced with a nicely crafted slideshow of africa and it's people.
- 23/11/2016@Kevin Pashuk, this one's for you. Proof that its the relationship that counts.
I am always in awe of talent and artistry. The guitar he uses still allows us to hear his music and I can appreciate that he must have his own unique connection with this instrument. Another guitar would be like another voice.Tom Ward with his Old Broken Guitar Amazing Street Performer Tom Ward with his Old Broken Guitar viral video [official]. Amazing Street Performer Tom Ward plays his custom made broken Guitar, a compilation of three...
Comments24/11/2016 #4 Phil FriedmanYears ago, when I watched Segovia in the setting of a small NYC cafe, I thought nobody would ever match his accomplishment on guitar. But this video gives me pause about that judgment. Simply superb. I only wish that I could see and hear this in person. Thanks for such a worthwhile share.
- Producer26/11/2016JOAN OSBORNEONE OF US - (RELISH/1995) If God had a name, what would it beAnd would you call it to his faceIf you were faced with him in all his gloryWhat would you ask if you had just one questionAnd yeah yeah God is great yeah yeah God is goodyeah yeah yeah...
- Producer27/11/2016To be(e)My Dedication for all the Bees on beBee'. Fractal Art of 'Being ' Savvy Raj To be in every now has infinite potential.When every thought arises from abundance substantial.You can be an impactor or the collaborator.You can be a follower or followed...
Comments27/11/2016 #2 Savvy Raj@Sara JacoboviciHow lovely to read this . Trust you to highlight these two lines . Thank you indeed for the thoughts tapping along in tandem
Would love to add that this particular post originated a long while ago when I was newbee and reading through a few posts here on Bebee. But guess came to a frution only now ...So in the spirit of thanksgiving I dedicated this post to all of us ...new and old bees here on beBee.
- Producer24/11/2016What am I, compared to you?Hi, there.I roamed around a little on this site for a short time. I've given some comments, got some back.This beBee seems a little bit different, compared to other social media. A little less slashing each other...I am Joris. Pleased to meet you...
Comments26/11/2016 #24 Joris Plaatstaal#23 Hi @Lisa Gallagher. Thanks.
I try to practice what I preach, that's all.
Opening up is a very frightful step. I know. I think that is what society lacks.
I am very pragmatic in my nature. (is that good English?)
I met people who lived their lives, trying to conform to all the rules society have set for us. Do this, do that.
I met people who lived their lives opposing the same set of rules. We call them criminals or outcast.
I can understand both 'species' . We can argue about which one of them is more happy or more free.
And I don't really care. For me, both groups do not represent my own ideas of freedom.
There should be more in life.
I only have one life.
I am glad you call my bit of honesty 'awesome' . Not because I want to be 'awesome', but because that is a conformation of what I experience.
I think it is really true: 'You receive what you radiate'. Being open and honest and respectful is liberating. Once you crossed the line, you can go back, but you never will.
Thank you for your comment Lisa..26/11/2016 #23 Lisa GallagherHi @Joris Plaatstaal, I really like this buzz. You are very open and that is awesome. I choose 3 & 3 on both questions you posed. We've all made many mistakes and I guess we can only try to learn from them.
There are many rules to society and self imposed rules. So many rules can cause stress.
Sounds like you and your son had a great time going to the Concert and there after!
I like to try and just follow my gut, do what feels right, be there for others and when I screw up, learn from it. Life is a 'life long' lesson! Nice to meet you.26/11/2016 #22 Joris Plaatstaal#13 You are right @David Navarro López. Maybe I am a bit spoiled, being born in Holland. I think I am.
Maybe that is why I don't think that 'being allowed' is freedom.
Holland is fast becoming the next state of the USA. We are losing the freedom, you never had. The freedom of 'political acceptance' and other bullshit.
Almost every society is all about money and power. Even the few that have that can cot be called free.
Freedom should be not having to fear. My freedom is not real, I should fear, but I chose not to. For now it is the best I can get.
Nice, meeting you.25/11/2016 #13 Anonymous#10 Wow. The more I read from you, the more I like the way you think. Therefore, I am allowing myself to follow you.
You completely hit the point with your question "what is freedom?"
I have no bloody idea what it is. But I can have some idea what is not. Our freedom is been cut so many times and so deeply, that being able to think what we want can be a kind of success, considering the enormous task the "factic powers" do to brain-wash us, telling us what we should think, trying (and in many cases succeeding) to manipulate our minds.
I come from a country, Spain, on which along 40 years we had "police of the thinking". You could have been killed just by trying to think differently, having a religion which was not catholicism, or being hit and put in prison if you claimed that women had the same rights than men, or if you were homosexual, or if you criticised the government.
Some of the fiercest ministers of Franco are the ones who founded the political party which is ruling my country today.
In the mean time, you have lived in a country to which along years Spaniards went to see with own eyes and were astonished about the level of freedom you have been enjoying.
I really look forward to having a deeper talk with you, on which I am sure you have a lot to say in terms of what is freedom, and I am sure I can bring many ideas about what is not.25/11/2016 #10 Joris Plaatstaal#7 @David Navarro Lopez. I hear you. I did not read your link yet, I will.
One remark. "I believe we are free to think the way we want." I wonder, is that freedom? Think what we want? Is that freedom?
I can have thoughts about anything. And still they would be private. No one can read my mind, so far. That is safe? Having all the thoughts in the sanctuary of my own private mind? Freedom is not getting exposed? Freedom is private? I see some kind of friction there.
Again, I will read your post.
In the mean time I can not help wondering. What is freedom? Why does freedom seem to have a price? It just does not add up. It is a mystery to me.
I need to learn.25/11/2016 #8 Joris Plaatstaal#5 We will see @Deb Helfrich. It would be 'nice' , I must confess, to fit in something. It could happen some day.
We will see. Freedom seems to incorporate limits, in our way of thinking. Maybe the joy of fitting in is a limit?
I don't know, we make everything so complicated... I will get back to you, thanks.24/11/2016 #7 AnonymousFirst thing first, welcome to BeBee, the land of free thinkers like you and me. We are here to share our opinions expecting and showing respect to other's opinions, no matter if we agree or disagree with them, and that is precisely what it makes it great to be here. I confess I am a little tired too of these post starting with, "5 ways to". I believe we are free to think the way we want. This freedom allows us to submit our will to others, and to be brain-washed too if we want. But in no case is my option. Concerning to this, I have just written a post I imagine could be interesting for you. Please have a look. Your opinion and comments are more than welcome https://www.bebee.com/producer/@david-navarro-lopez/the-navarro-loop24/11/2016 #5 Deb HelfrichHonestly, you are going to fit right in, @Joris Plaatstaal. There is nothing more important than seeing life as an adventure. Going to see the concert just because it is an experience, screw the obstacles.
We are all so busy meeting people and finding out what brings them happiness that there is never any time to slash - at least that is how I cultivate my experience on beBee. Welcome and I will look forward to buzzing around the hives with you!
- Producer22/11/2016The Spectrum of HumanityWhat do Jews think about Jesus?He asked me as innocently as a college freshman at a small, Jesuit school could ask. It caught me a little off guard.What do ALL Jews think of Jesus?It was puzzling to me that he would think ALL people of any...
Comments28/11/2016 #30 Sarah Elkins#17 You hit the nail on the head, @Sara Jacobovici, I'd be willing to say that the vast majority of hate is based in fear. And thank you for that wonderful share and comment. I love our spectrum of humanity. Even the people who are horrible to me teach me something!28/11/2016 #29 Sarah Elkins#19 Unfortunately, @Ali Anani, that doesn't surprise me at all. I have similar stories from early in my time here in Montana, and from my travel experiences. What you say here is exactly right, we must connect one-to-one to change the dynamic. And it helps to be a good ambassador for our people, speaking and educating rather than being insulted and defensive.28/11/2016 #27 Sarah Elkins#25 Oh dear, @Nicole Chardenet, I know exactly what you're talking about in terms of it being hard to forgive the chronically and willfully stupid. I call it willful ignorance and have a really hard time with it myself. The reason I've been able to look past that issue with some people is that I realize that without talking about it, without having that dialog, the people who voted without the intention of exacerbating hate, fear, and bigotry, we are truly lost. Those who were more intentional with their votes are a lost cause.
I agree that asking what Jews think about Jesus is a totally fair question, it's the way he asked, as if all Jews would believe the same thing about Jesus. Many Jews fall into the category your mother described, and many do not. Just like some Jews keep kosher, others do not. The best question that is consistently asked by the students I encounter each year is this: "What makes the Jewish belief so different from the Christian belief." And my answer is that practicing Jews are still waiting for the Messiah, while Christians believe he has already been here. (Notice I said "practicing" Jews, as opposed to all Jews.)
Thanks for that great comment, it made me clarify why I responded that way to the student's question.28/11/2016 #25 Nicole ChardenetAsking what Jews think about Jesus is a fair enough assessment. It could be interpreted as perhaps the 'party line', with or without a Pope or other centralized figure. When I was a kid, growing up in a Christian family, my mother said that Jews believed Jesus existed but wasn't a Saviour, but that he was a great teacher. I actually cleave toward that view more myself now, rather than the Christian one...but then again, I haven't been Christian in many years.
As for not judging people en masse, easier said than done sometimes. I find myself struggling with the anger at people who elected a total asshat for world leader and put the rest of us in danger as well. That's not judging someone on biology; that's judging them on their unwillingness to take a real look at what they were voting for. It was eye-opening going to the States for Thanksgiving; it because quite clear that it wasn't just uneducated, chronically unemployed rednecks who hadn't been paying attention during the election campaign.
Harder to forgive, sometimes, the chronically and wilfully stupid.28/11/2016 #24 Julio Angel Lopez LopezGreat article, we can only contribute a little more, we are still evolving. https://www.bebee.com/producer/@julio-angel-lopez-lopez/una-teoria-sobre-la-evolucion-humana-a-theory-about-human-evolution27/11/2016 #21 Lisa GallagherThat's the second time I watched that video @Sarah Elkins and it still brings tears to my eyes. If only... most people would realize we are all connected in one way or another, we'd have a more humane world. We are humans, we are not our religion or our designated ethnicity. One day I hope that prejudice and biases end... that's my hope! It sure will be a better world when that time comes. I wish it would happen in my lifetime.27/11/2016 #19 Ali Anani@Sarah Elkins- I experienced what you experienced when I first went to the UK to do my PhD. As an Arab I was mocked. It took me three months before people accepted me as a non-conforming Arab to what impressions they had about Arabs. People tend to generalize and extend their conclusions linearly. I agree with your post. I find your writing "When we paint an entire community with the same, broad brush, we miss incredible opportunities to learn, to grow, and to make connections with each other. The only way to heal our fractured communities is to care about each individual we interact with, and avoid making assumptions". I believe this is the only way.
Mind you when my elder brother went to study his undergraduate studies in the USA he was asked to show "his tail". Some students believed that Arabs have tails. It is true. However; it is our actions that may change those impressions as my brother and I did.27/11/2016 #17 Sara JacoboviciAnother work of art produced by an artist story teller @Sarah Elkins. Beautifully written, beautifully told. Thank you Sarah. You write, "The spectrum of humanity is always my first priority." Agreed. I find beauty in the spectrum. Although I am always moved when I hear John Lennon's Imagine, it's the idea of hope that moves me. I don't want a world where we are all the same. Our challenge is to allow the differences to enable us to grow as humans, not to negate us. You write, "When we paint an entire community with the same, broad brush, we miss incredible opportunities to learn, to grow, and to make connections with each other." 100%! I regret to say that that brush is dipped in fear; for some reason we are made to feel that differences are a threat. It's individual behaviors, both verbal and non-verbal, which hold the potential of threat, not our differences.
@Ali Anani and I spent some time last evening (our time) in a synchronicity loop. I open up your buzz this morning and feel like I have fallen right back into that loop. You write, "The students laughed uncomfortably. I explained why that story was important in our discussion". I have recently shared the following video which I think greatly supports your invaluable message. Thanks again Sarah.https://www.ted.com/talks/chimamanda_adichie_the_danger_of_a_single_story?utm_source=facebook.com&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=tedspr26/11/2016 #16 Sarah Elkins#8 @Dean Owen, thank you for the comment. When I notice an immediate response to a person, I dig in to figure out whether it's truly intuition or bias. You're so right, it's human to make a snap judgment - and being introspective about those snap judgments helps us grow as humans.25/11/2016 #14 Mohammed SultanVery impressive @Sarah Elkins.God gave us the gift of life and honored us as humans and let us decide how to live well.Only wise people regardless of their religious devotion know well that a life is worth living when we live it for him.There's only one fact ,but can be interpreted in different ways and different manners because we each receive different "Light" from the same source.Because we receive the same message differently ,we have different and enduring cultures,not related to our DNA but to the paths we chose.Everyone has his own light and his own path and can see and think best within this context.25/11/2016 #13 Jared Wiese 🐝Tweeted:
The Spectrum of Humanity @sarahelkins "Are you able to truly judge ALL Americans based on.. handful of experiences?" https://www.bebee.com/producer/@sarah-elkins/the-spectrum-of-humanity25/11/2016 #11 Susan RooksBeautifully written and wise, @Sarah Elkins! I am also a Jew, but much more secular than many others I know -- of any religion! I identify as a Jew, but it's cultural. Yet one of my daughters is a Kohennet, sort of a rabbi. We are all different in the ways we understand and practice our religion / faith, and you made the point so very well. No group is 100% homogenous.
- Producer23/11/2016Strangers: Would you help them out?I often get asked why I spend a considerable amount of my spare time giving back to strangers in some shape or form. More often than not I really and I mean really struggle to answer the question. It’s complicated to put into words because it’s just...
Comments24/11/2016 #6 Jared Wiese 🐝Alexandra, this is one of the best articles I have read in a long time. Short, factual, provoking, inspiring... And oh so sweet!
THANKS for paying it forward by writing this. Especially, this time of year!
I especially loved your quotes! I will refer to this post often!
- Producer20/11/2016Relationships and EmpathyThere have been a lot of articles, buzzes and/or blogs written about Empaths and empathy. I read many articles, then shake my head while thinking, "you might be making some valid points but do you honestly live the life of an empath or are you able...
Comments23/11/2016 #75 Lisa Gallagher#73 @Paul "Pablo" Croubalian, you do work hard! I bet (judt knowing whast I do about you that you're always putting others first and forgetting to put yourself first sometimes. I'm happy that you're relaxing now. I actually got a tear in my eye when I read your comment. Have a great holiday with your wife and family if for some reason I don't talk to you before then!23/11/2016 #73 Paul "Pablo" CroubalianThanks, Lisa, I needed that. I've been so hung up lately trying to get stuff done before the Holidays that I seem to have forgotten why those Holidays exist in the first place.
So, again, thank you. . . I'm shutting my computer now and going to sit with my wife. Time enough for work tomorrow.22/11/2016 #70 Lisa Gallagher#69 I thought that was important to point out because people who are highly sensitive are viewed as weak, that is not true (at least in many cases). Some of the strongest people I know are extremely sensitive but they don't wear it on their sleeve ;-) Thanks @Melinda Brain, appreciate your comment!!22/11/2016 #65 Ebenezar John PaulI can relate to the Unspoken understanding of each other" with a best my friend of mine. Very true and it gives a sense of content and happiness knowing that we share more than what can be put into words!!
Great article @Lisa Gallagher View moreI can relate to the Unspoken understanding of each other" with a best my friend of mine. Very true and it gives a sense of content and happiness knowing that we share more than what can be put into words!!
Great article @Lisa Gallagher :) Close22/11/2016 #62 Sou AbbasI like how you think Lisa. It is important to allow yourself to feel what you feel and express it as it is for you. People are drawn together based on common ground and not on emotional obligation to do so. With an open heart and mind to explore further what that common ground is whether spoken or unspoken. Thank you.
Comments21/11/2016 #4 Joris PlaatstaalAh, your first article is 10 pages.
Without thinking to much about the words, but more feeling the implication of those words. ( I seem to operate that way). We seem to agree to this idea that life, as in mankind f.i, can not be any different from whatever force that created our universe. Despite the seemingly endless possibilities. Consciousness being the converging force of nature? Stronger than the diverging force of entropy?
Making gravity, black matter and black energy an illusion?
Or do I want to see that in your first article?
Could be, but I love your post.
P.S. I evenly like the thoughts of Erik Verlinde. He also sees the universe as a vessel of information. He sees gravity as a force resisting to any change of information. Come to think of it, it seems similar to the converging force of consciousness.......
Did not expect ideas like this emerge on social media.......19/11/2016 #1 Joris PlaatstaalIt will take some time to read this. At least we share the same interest.
I read your first and last page (193).....I have to read the rest. But 193 pages, Why not in quantum's of say 10 pages? You must have your reasons. Your first and last page made me curious.
I ask myself, are you similar to me? In mind at least, but I could never write 193 pages.
We will talk, I am sure.
- Producer23/06/2016I Love You- What Does it Mean?It amazes me how we use words very frequently without knowing exactly what they mean. Just ask for the definition of leadership and strategy and you shall be puzzled by the variations in definitions. I experienced this. I asked for the opposite...
Comments19/11/2016 #160 Ali Anani@Pamela L. Williams- you always amaze me with your depth. You really expressed what love is in a great way. You said when you remember Cat Stevens the memory brings you a smile. Well, you brought me many smiles.
Yes, love is energy- it doesn't die. It may transform to other energies, but it stays. So this comment of yours- it shall stay..19/11/2016 #159 Pamela L. WilliamsI sometimes contemplate this question. In my very humble opinion, love encompasses so much; loyalty, an energy connection that goes beyond the superficial, a bond that does not recognize sacrifice as such. To say "I Love" is a commitment to truth, honor, and respect. Love encompasses so much more than the simple human mind can fathom. I recently wrote "Love Him" on a buzz about Cat Stevens, the artist, and even as I wrote it I did question whether I use that word too loosely but then I thought of what the music of this artist meant to me; times of youth, a time more simple, a time of contentment. Yes, I Love the artist Cat Stevens, because just remembering him brought a smile. Yes, love encompasses so much more than the superficial we see in the soap operas of movies and TV shows.
As for it's opposite; I view love as an energy and as @Andrew Goldman spoke of in one of his live buzzes; energy does not dissipate, it can change, transform, but it does not decrease. The energy of love that transforms become bitter, angry, vengeful. Like those elements that degrade to toxins, love can become a poison to the heart of humanity. We have witnessed this in this toxic US election year, and now it permeates the psyches of the entire country.22/10/2016 #154 Harvey Lloyd#153 To know someones heart and respond with action (love) implies the symbiotic relationship has to exist. This is the portion i can see. The experience of that love is unique and individual to the person receiving or giving. I cant see that in its true meaning. I see this by observing body language, tone of voice and responses.
You challenge me @Ali Anani we are humans within a state of nature. Nature shares its wisdom, and you make me listen. Its hard to pick out the voice of nature within the screaming of life around us. You quiet those voices and make the world a better place.22/10/2016 #153 Ali Anani@Harvey Lloyd- you never fail to surprise me and provoke me at the same time. Love has no opposite- either it exists or does not. I wrote once on the fractal love a mini forest (family love) and scale this up. But, the idea that love shows in different, but integrated processes like those we see in a forest. Is it self-love that make a tree share its root with fungi. This can't be genuine love , but symbiotic relationships are the true indicators of what love is or the way it exists.22/10/2016 #152 Harvey Lloyd@Ali Anani after reading your post again i would answer your question, what is the opposite of love, with the same complexity you found in the answers you received. What is the opposite of a rock? There is no opposite. Love like the rock merely exists or does not. Trees like love show us a symbiotic relationship between the seed, the earth and the atmosphere. If we walk to a place where no trees are, we cant see this "love" as show by complex relationships between natural, but different processes. Love, the noun, as we have forced it into, is undefinable in a public setting. Only you can answer the questions of love for yourself. Having navigated the forest of my wife's existence, love means something very unique for me. When she comforts a grandchild or sees my heart and comforts me in her special way i feel we are in a personal forest that only we share. How do you explain the opposite with out demonstrating that the personal shared forest just doesn't exist?22/10/2016 #151 Ali AnaniI walk in your forest knowing well I shall get great experiences @Harvey Lloyd. LOve looking from outside to inside might look different than love viewed from inside to outside. This is a brilliant observation and coupled with your writing "A critical juncture comes with our love journey when the practical attributes start to wane and love wants us to find a deeper meaning. This phase of love has attributes of wisdom, shared journeys and a collection of experiences that rekindle our youthful drive towards loftier relationships". Love is a verb and within this frame I say love has rekindled my desire to go deeper and apprehend more this super comment22/10/2016 #150 Harvey Lloyd@Ali Anani Love is complex when we look from the outside in. The complexity expands within conscious and subconscious when viewed from the inside out. My current understanding of love is that it is a verb. Meaning that love is an adverb that describes something we have done, participated in or acted on someone else. This is the complicated part....If i have "Acted" from love did the person the act was bestowed upon receive it that way? If not then was it truly love or just an act of blind kindness?
Like leadership Love has attributes, not absolutes. I enjoyed your graphic it shows the complexity of love. In our youth loves attributes seem to surround hormones and motivations to pro create. Once we find a mate love seems to take on its practical attributes of building homes, families and the future. A critical juncture comes with our love journey when the practical attributes start to wane and love wants us to find a deeper meaning. This phase of love has attributes of wisdom, shared journeys and a collection of experiences that rekindle our youthful drive towards loftier relationships.
Love is a individual experience and a word with similar attributes shared in the definition of forest. We use the word love to explain and cover the deepest thoughts of our mental forest. When we seek to uncover this forest within the individual human we find they don't want or cant explain the attributes of this forest. Love grows through silent observance and reflection. The forest is revealed through acts of love and the observance of how the act swept through the forest. Over time we find the various paths of another through this observance. We don't speak of the forest, we just walk with the other in a shared experience.20/10/2016 #148 Vincent AndrewA father looks at his son who appears to be in mental anguish. The father sits and listens to his son. He offers no advice but a listening ear. The story comes out. The pain is lifted. It's ok son. I am here with you. I am sorry that I was not there with you when you suffered. I am sorry that I did not notice your pain before. Here I am. I promise I'll do better. This is one example of love from a father to a son.24/07/2016 #141 Deb LangeIt is wonderful to see a post on love in bebee. I wonder how little and how differently we engage with life when we are not in love with life itself, ourselves, others and nature. When in love our actions are more in the range of kindness, empathy, fun and joy. When in love and fear, compliance, tension arises, I can notice the difference and make adjustments that return a state of love and contentment to myself and a situation. However, if I have experienced a limited range of what is love in life, I may live in a state that is more akin to fear and control. Fear and control may manifest as control over self and others leading to more conflict and control. There is certainly much confusion about what is love and what is not in this world. I love my sons, I love my parents, I love my ex- husband, I love my friend, I love my work, I love Your work and your kindness @Ali Anani
- 17/11/2016A Prayer from Pir Zia Inayat Khan~
"The election is over, and life goes on.
We will keep bearing witness to the One Being.
We will keep honoring the legacies of the prophets and prophetesses of all lands.
We will keep revering the sacredness of the Earth.
We will keep following the way of remembrance which all religions share.
We will keep pursuing justice for all people.
We will keep recognizing people of all races and persuasions as our sisters and brothers.
We will keep extending our hearts’ goodwill toward everyone, excluding no one.
We will keep witnessing the beauty that is all around us and within us.
We will keep learning the truth of our being.
We will keep working to draw back the curtains of egoism from our eyes.
Life goes on, and we will keep going."~ Pir Zia Inayat Khan.
- Producer15/11/2016WHY DO WE NEED ART?Why The World Needs Art There is an easy way of thinking about art and its importance on the world. Like the ghosts of Charles Dickens' novel, "A Christmas Carol", they can be bundled up neatly for this article by placing them into three...
Comments18/11/2016 #11 AnonymousSo glad you wrote this buzz. I am a fan of your buzzes @Tony Brandstetter & admire your artistic talent - thus, I am thrilled you now write about Art and share your insight with us. Yes, we humans need Art! I agree whole heartedly that Art cannot be explained or named. But it is something inside all of us, something that may separate us from other life forms. The insight I find especially true and why I believe Art must be included in all educational curriculum, is in your words: When information is not available, the logical mind reaches an impasse. A mind aided by art and imagination will think beyond what is visible and thus creates the ability for the logical mind to progress". Our past, present and future are understood in different ways, through Art. A very well written and meaningful buzz 💕18/11/2016 #9 Chas Wyatt"Creativity is a way of life and is not the exclusive domain of artists, writers, and scientists. It is the birthright of every human being.
If we aspire to understand our most distinctively human capacity, the ability to create, we must first acknowledge that there are no universal formulas, certainly no quantifiable methods, and very few reliable road maps to assist us in our quest for authentic expression. The creative process draws on many different energies of the individual. It calls forth our deepest impulses, the full range of our life experiences, our most profound hopes and aspirations, and our most penetrating and insightful observations on society and ourselves, and awakens our search for something more in life than what is offered by the culture in which we live."~ David Ulrich, "The Widening Stream, the Seven Stages of Creativity".17/11/2016 #8 Henri GalvãoI love how you balance the apparent paradox of having a curious mind and, at the same time, having a deep respect for life's mysteries. This certainly helps us to understand the importance of art as a way to expand our consciousness. As you said: "A mind aided by art and imagination will think beyond what is visible and thus creates the ability for the logical mind to progress"17/11/2016 #7 Aurorasa SimaI love your written words and reading your thoughts about art and it´s purpose. Art and the artist´s reasons to produce it are individual.
I heard this cynical definition a while back.
"What is it about art that we give it so much importance anyway. Artists are respected by the poor because what they do is an honest way to get out of the slum using one's sheer self as the medium. The money earned is proof pure and simple of the value of that individual... The Artist.
The picture a mother's son does in jail hangs on her wall as proof that beauty is possible even in the most wretched. And this is a much different idea than the fancier notion that art is a scam and a ripoff. But you could never explain to someone who uses God's gift to enslave that you have used God's gift to be free."
(BASQUIAT - 1994)17/11/2016 #5 Deb Helfrich"Of course we should know from the past and present that the impossible has always been and will always be possible."
Nothing more needs be said, @Tony Brandstetter, as imagination, the thinking process behind Art is what erases that pesky prefix -im- as possibilities are created.
- 18/11/2016An inspiring tech start-up helping to eliminate food wasteNationSwell 2016 AllStars - Raj Karmani, Zero Percent Raj Karmani is the Founder of Zero Percent, a Chicago-based public benefit corporation that works to reduce food waste. Its platform partners with...
- Producer14/11/2016Lines in the Sand“Never be afraid to raise your voice for honesty and truth and compassion against injustice and lying and greed. If people all over the world...would do this, it would change the earth.” ― William Faulkner I saw this photo and for...
Comments16/11/2016 #16 Joel Anderson#15 Thank you @Deb Helfrich Not that I am fixated on the topic of lines but your comment reminded me of a moment in time when my daughter and I were having a conversation about early childhood development. The discussion reminded me of a poignant experience in my life. Every once in awhile, my schedule would allow me to engage with my kids in their classrooms. On one occasion, I found myself sitting down with one of my daughters and a group of youngsters in a small classroom filled with a lot of these little future contributors. It was coloring time. One of the kids was getting frustrated and would color, stop, color, stop, look exasperated. I came over to see what the issue was and why the tears were welling up during an activity that was just supposed to be fun. I looked at this youngster, and then at the very clearly defined lines of a picture that were supposed to be colored within. In this particular case, the lines and marks of the crayons were all over the place. I just looked at the picture and this young child and said, "this is one of the most beautiful pictures I have ever seen." In an instant, the tears subsided, a smile arrived and the coloring went on with a renewed passion and sense of purpose. And it didn't hurt that I was handed a crayon to help color my own lines. My initial inclination was to color within the lines but was told with emphasis--"Its Ok to color outside of the lines." It is all about perspective. :)16/11/2016 #15 Deb Helfrich#14 This is perhaps one of the best responses I have ever gotten, @Joel Anderson. And I have pondered a little more about leaving footprints and lines in the sand. Because it is important to take the difficult stands and draw the crucial lines.
I think that it is not the marks themselves that matter, it is the ability to make them again and again and again when life gives us the moments that matter. And to be willing to make the marks so often - DANCE! - that we become known as people who will make the footprints and lines.16/11/2016 #14 Joel Anderson@Deb Helfrich I have thought a lot about your comment and have gone back to the picture multiple times since I posted this piece. As I thought about the messiness of it all, I was reminded of a quote attributed to Alan Watts "The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance." Which then led me to think about a few lines from Lee Ann Womack's "I hope you Dance" "And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance, I hope you dance. I hope you never fear those mountains in the distance, Never settle for the path of least resistance, Livin' might mean takin' chances but they're worth takin'." You and the others like you are the ones who inspire me to just want to dance despite the fuzzy lines and messiness of it all.15/11/2016 #8 Deb HelfrichI have been mesmerized for hours over that photo, @Joel Anderson. I can't remember if you have been around when the playa paintings of Andres Amador have been shared - I simply never tire of his work: http://www.andresamadorarts.com/
I have always celebrated that my own lines are swirling and complicated and situational - I refuse to trace from anyone else's lines. And to offer a slightly different perspective, if I am not attached to my lines, if I can be at peace with the thought that they can disappear with the wind or the tide, then I am available to shift into what is occurring rather than relying on the belief of lines that may have evaporated with a changing world.
We are aligned in the necessity of making lines as part of fixing what is broken and moving the world forward into a more sustainable future for the planet and all its ecosystems.14/11/2016 #7 CityVP ManjitWhat a beautiful picture. Privacy is one of the lines I like and another is mental and emotional bandwidth. As Clint Eastwood said in a far different contest "a man's gotta know his limitations". Once I have established a firm foundation which is akin to what is said in Matthew 7:24 - "to build your house on rock and not sand" - then the world opens up to me as a change agent.
I don't make it a raison detre to change the world, nor want to change a single thing about Joel Anderson or any other person. The transformations that incur in me, occur because of sound values, learning from my mistakes, appreciating my strengths, valuing the love that is around me, count the blessings of a wonderful life and have the humility to learn and develop.
As each one of us become a light, we add one more unit of brightness into the world. Then I can deal with the lines that imprison us, the lines that do not make sense yet continue to persist and as I engage all these kind of lines, get back to the picture of the lines in the sand and acknowledge the wonder of it all. What a precious thing life is and even more precious when it is priceless.14/11/2016 #4 Sara Jacobovici@Joel Anderson, this buzz proves that you're walking the talk; you're leaving footprints. The beautiful image you offer is non-linear reflecting, from my perspective, that our movement in time is non-linear. Seems that everything related to time occurs more in patterns like those in the sand. The word "before" has a double meaning; either of something that came from the past or is placed ahead of us. More like moving around in circles ;-)14/11/2016 #2 Harvey LloydThe symmetrical lines are captivating. Seeing the chart and the timeline certainly does give one pause to consider are current status and how it may impact our future. The quote is appropriate and would add that the definitions of honesty and truth have been blurred. I believe that your growth chart demonstrates why.
Technology has globalized our reach and we can share experiences and find confidence on our personal truth/honesty that comes with no performance requirements. Before technology your truth was tested and formed within a community's survival, everyday.
- Producer15/11/2016Adaptations to Emotional FloodingI am not discussing the flooding of markets with products. I am not discussing the flooding of information. I am interested in this buzz to talk about emotional flooding and its consequences. I am tempted to write this buzz having read the buzz...
Comments16/11/2016 #74 Ali Anani#72 @Deb Helfrich- your dog example is more than apt. @Max Carter wrote a buzz as inspired by this buzz and his buzz too has drawn some great comments. I plan to write my next buzz to elaborate more on some of the points you highlight in your comment. Negative shouldn't mean bad. Without negative pressures water shall not move more than 30 meters from the roots of a tree to its top. A battery shall not function without the positive and negative anodes together. But we can't deny that there stressing emotions that if we allow to escalate and flood us they shall cause severe health problems. I again emphasize that it is our attitude that counts.
I strongly agree with you on this issue " So we are quite likely to have emotional responses parallel to the adults that raised us, but the underlying situations may be vastly different".16/11/2016 #73 Max Carter#72 There is no model is the problem and people are searching for a model or technical guide to tell them what's right and what's wrong and too many over history and currently are far too willing to sell them one keeping them crutched and never searching within.
One knows why one feels the way one does, it's when we tell people not to feel this way about this or that and then we pass project self-judgment onto others insisting they reflect our projected self image as their own and condemn them the fate we chose for ourselves.16/11/2016 #72 Deb HelfrichThere are some really important points of @Max Carter's that I want to highlight. To start. I have another, less emotional, and more observable parallel to the damage we do in assigning the concept of positive and negative - judgement - to emotions. My dog smells everything for information; she doesn't label one smell bad and one smell good, she drinks in all the scent particles. Sometimes lingering, sometimes rolling in them, but mostly just letting them waft by. The human need for judgement causes problems in all kinds of ways, but with the inevitability of emotions, we have an especially damaging problem.
Furthermore, he mentioned that we learned how to feel emotions by mimicking the adults around us. Big, big, big observation. It is how we learned language, too. Rules (grammar) and judgements come much later on, as our brains only develop that analytical aspect much later. So we are quite likely to have emotional responses parallel to the adults that raised us, but the underlying situations may be vastly different.
Both points bring us back to learning to adapt to our actual current conditions, perhaps using biomimicry as a great model, so that we stay in the flow of life, and its seasons and chaotic events, rather than letting emotions hijack our higher analytical intelligence. Hard stuff, but it comes back to awareness again and again and again.
@Ali Anani's metaphor of flooding is apt. We can grow into the ability to manage our emotions as a river that never threatens the banks of our peace of mind.16/11/2016 #66 Ali AnaniPart 2
A negative is a loss and the only loss that we truly experience is the loss of growth and learning when we ignore our emotions or other people because we use words such as Negative to describe the emotion and therefore the person.
During a recent visit to my dentist, he said that the new "artificial teeth" shall stick in my mouth by negative pressure. Here negative is doing a great job and very positively. I think the distortion comes from our attitudes to view negative as bad. Joy is great and positive; however excessive joy is harmful and becomes harmful. It is our attitudes that we may think we may have joy without having pain or that joy is always a good thing regardless of its quality and quantity. Sometimes we need to say the positive pole and negative pole of a battery. The positive pole alone or the negative pole alone shall not make the battery work. It is the presence of both that we may have a working battery. You ignited the battery of my mind, Max.16/11/2016 #65 Ali AnaniPart 1
I urge readers of this buzz to read the buzz of @Max Carter (the link is given in my previous comment). I commented on this great buzz by writing:
This is an amazing buzz @Max Carter- You make me think and rethink. I am honored that my buzz and the discussions inspired you with writing such a profound buzz. In fact, you too inspire me to write a buzz on same, but using a different approach. I shall do soon.
I read this buzz twice before responding and the following segments from your buzz caught my attention:
Psychologically speaking by saying some emotions are negative we will do anything we can to avoid them or someone experiencing them16/11/2016 #60 Ali Anani#56 @Deb Lange- as I mentioned in one of my responses to @Max Carter trees know fear, but accept it. They store certain nutrients for winter times. They change the direction of their leaves so as not to get exposed to intense sunlight. Trees may use alternative roots to find oxygen instead of the deleted oxygen in the water-depleted oxygen. That accept fear and adapt to it. Adaptation isn't controlling; it is mobility to move to finding solutions. Honestly, I fail to see big differences in our thinking.16/11/2016 #59 Ali Anani#54 Negative is made more negative by our attitudes. Negative emotions and positive ones co-exist, but in what proportions depends on us. I feel too I am in the rabbit hole, but I am not afraid to learn and find my way out. Thank you @Max Carter View more#54 Negative is made more negative by our attitudes. Negative emotions and positive ones co-exist, but in what proportions depends on us. I feel too I am in the rabbit hole, but I am not afraid to learn and find my way out. Thank you @Max Carter for this discussion has added lots of questions for me to ponder upon. Close16/11/2016 #58 Ali Anani#53 I am not less than you enjoying those convos @Max Carter. In fact not only enjoying, but also learning. Attitudes have a role and intentions too do. Therefore I enjoyed greatly this segment of your comment "They allowed the possible reward cloud their judgment by allowing fear to guide them. Afraid if they don;t make it big they will have no love in their life". Yes, they allowed fear to guide them and this is the point how not to let such fear to take its grip on us. Trees store carbohydrates for fear of not having enough supplies of it during winter. Trees accept fear and know how to deal with it. We too need to do the same.16/11/2016 #56 Deb Lange#49 The person you mention, may not have realised that there was something fishy. That person may feel shame. I would advise for them to give themselves much self-love to heal the shame. Shame needs acceptance that we were not wrong in this situation. If I hide, which is what shame wants to do, I will be perpetuating the energy of shame, as if I was wrong. As @Max carter says, we get tangled up when we cast negative and positive judgements on our lives, rather than saying that just is. I don't think trees judge that is bad, that is good. they weather the storms, the sunny days, and they may "know" the sunny days, allow their growth, the windy days sow seeds, or help them drop their leaves. Nothing to judge, a windy day just is a windy day. being sad because my Mother passed on, is not bad or good, it is a human expression of loss of a loved one. I think Ali, we may have a slight misinterpretation of what we both mean by control. Best wishes to you.
Sanctuary~ 100 buzzes
According to vocabulary.com, "sanctuary" is any place where people go for peaceful tranquility or introspection. This is that place for me on this platform, where I save buzzes that fit this intention - and I can come here and refer to them. All are invited to relax, read, comment and share in peace and in safety. Be blessed!