- Producer20/07/2017"Is there anybody there? Knock twice for 'No'""How would one relate ESP with an HSP Tricia?" Praveen Raj Gullepalli Interesting question... here are my thoughts:A definition of Extra Sensory Perception (ESP) offered by an online psychology dictionary is:Extra Sensory Perception, otherwise known...
Comments21/07/2017 #5 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#4 Having lived with physiological hypersensitivity every day of my life and mental hypersensitivity in periods, like lots of stuff in life, there are gifts and burdens. They are inter-related, but also separate, in my experience.
Here is an example of how two personality states that often get confused, may overlap, but are felt entirely differently. Shyness versus introversion. Introverts want to leave the crowd, they don't want to be the life of the party. Shy people do want to be socially interactive, and they have a lot of mental anguish over why they cannot be bubbly and mingle without preempting themselves.
The quality of the mental chatter differs greatly around what appears on the outside to be the exact same behavior.
Speaking from experience in this very moment, if a person wants to be different, but is stuck running their same patterns that prevent them from schmoozing with strangers or stepping into meaningful, well-paying work, then that hypersensitivity has become a problem that consulting a healer/guide, of any kind, can help calm the hyperactive mind that is locked in a certain set of repeating thoughts.
My hypersensitivity to smell, on the other hand, as I experience it, while it does affect how I can be in the world, is, in my opinion telling me something important about the toxicity of human created and attenuated smells. My body is saying these sorts of smells have hurt you before and will do so again, so let's skedaddle, fast. I have no mental turmoil around the validity of these signals.
Same for me on the few extra-sensory perceptions that arise for me. No mental turmoil. Just utter curiosity and a willingness to heed what I know.21/07/2017 #3 David B. GrinbergThank you, Tricia, for this informative, insightful and educational blogging buzz. I really enjoyed reading this and learning more about ESP versus HSP. I've always found myself to have some semblance of ESP -- like thinking of a person right before they contact me, or thinking exactly what someone else just said before I could say it.
Also, on a lighter note, I would surely let my hair grow longer if that were possible. However, as midlife approaches I feel fortunate to at least have a receding hair line (lol). And here's another attempt at humor: for the sports lovers out there who may not be interested in ESP, there's always ESPN!
Keep up the brilliant blogging buzz, Tricia...20/07/2017 #1 Deb 🐝 HelfrichTremendous post, @Tricia Mitchell.So much richness.
But off the top of my head - how can I resist? - the hair information is utterly new to me. At the intellectual level. On the physical level, I have 3 feet of utterly natural red curly hair.
There are a couple things I've observed about these knowings that are outside of what we commonly talk about. First of all, there needs to be a level of being comfortable with silence and aloneness to notice some of these uncommon perceptions. Secondly, we need to tune down the prefrontal cortex executive functions in order to access this information at first. Although there are a lot of studies that show statistically relevant results, where things are right now reproducibility is a challenge. I posit that that is because mostly we've all been taught to learn with our memorization caps on. This measurement and analysis functioning is antithetical to the burgeoning of these extra-sensory capacities, therefore until we get the preconditions of the mind set to the right frequency, those of us who can't dial in, struggle to learn from those who can.
- Producer20/07/2017Healing The Healer"You know the time has come when the manifestations of emotional stress present in the physical body...just name your condition."Several years ago I left a very secure, albeit rather toxic job, after 15 years of service in favor of becoming a...
Comments22/07/2017 #16 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#15 You sure were one busy gal @Cyndi wilkins! I can't imagine taking A & P now.. yikes. But, you did it! I think that's when many of us start racing, when life roughs us up. I wish it didn't have to be that way, for some it's not but I'm sure other obstacles come their way. Ha, you nose became immune to 'shit.' That had to be it!21/07/2017 #15 Cyndi wilkins#8 Yeah...life was really slinging some shit there @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher...I must have been unconscious and they couldn't find any smelling salts...so shitty diapers had to do the trick;-) There were signs, many of them, but I had become complacent in my comfort zone...Life had to rough me up a bit to make me move...it was time.
It didn't happen overnight...5 years passed from this time of 'reckoning' to my move into a new career...I attended night school while still continuing to work full-time at this job until I had accumulated enough credits and proper training to make my move into entrepreneurship...I had to take anatomy and physiology all over again...Try to get a fourty year-old brain to do that!!...Ugh!21/07/2017 #14 Cyndi wilkins#10 Bitterness is a tough nut to crack...holding onto it only keeps us from flying. But to forgive is to be forgiven...and there is not one among us who has not cast that stone of bitterness Harvey...If we can forgive ourselves first, that would be an excellent start;-)21/07/2017 #12 Cyndi wilkins#7 I appreciate your input here @David B. Grinberg...I think this buzz resonates in all of our lives at one time or another...There were so many subtle moments leading up to this particular 'point of no return'...but I kept hitting the snooze alarm...you know? Perhaps I could have saved myself a lot of heartache had I been paying closer attention...But then again, the whole experience of having been reduced to rubble was the catalyst I needed to make that change...and it has made me a much more compassionate person...In hindsight, as content as I may have THOUGHT I was, apparently my life had other plans for me;-)21/07/2017 #11 Cyndi wilkins#6 It really was exactly as you describe @Shelley Brown...being turned completely upside down so that life as you know it ceases to exist...All that is left is the ashes...Well now, after an experience like that, there is only one direction you can take...and that is back up again. At moments like these you find out who your friends really are...as it turns out, they were not the people I had surrounded myself with...They were people from my past relationships that came out of the wood work to help me...That's why I always say "never burn your bridges"...All of our paths cross for very good reason;-)
I'm looking forward to reading whatever story this spurs in you Shelly...Please make sure to tag me on it so I don't miss it!21/07/2017 #10 Harvey LloydFinding resolution to our perceptions of past events is not only gratifying but better than vitamins for our health.
"Bitterness is drinking poison and hoping the other person gets sick."
When i heard the gentlemen make this qoute i got mad, he steamed up all the raw nerves of past experiences that i had justified my perceptions.
He didnt leave me at this steamed up point. He went on to discuss the act of forgiveness. He raised the temperature on the burner by several thousand degrees.
In the end he explained that forgiveness was not only for those waiting, but also for those who needed forgiveness.
The antidote to bitterness is forgiveness. Sounds counter intuitive, but i need to move on with my life without carting that rock forward. When i find a way to forgive then i can walk away without reruns playing over and over again in future settings.
Some great thoughts and discussion on the human condition.21/07/2017 #8 Lisa 🐝 GallagherWhat a genuine and thought provoking story @Cyndi wilkins. The smell of crappy diapers I could do without, hope you found a nice air freshener ;-) I agree, most of us if not all have at least one if not more than one deep seated fear(s). Why is it that sometimes it can be so hard to bring those fears to the surface? I know that's not healthy but I think some do let them linger not realizing they won't go away unless they face them head on... guilty! This is where your last sentence comes in very handy and it's compassionate, "People helping people...one moment at a time;-)" That's so true!21/07/2017 #7 David B. GrinbergThank you, Cyndi, for an excellent read. You make so many good points. I also love the quotes, some of which I'm familiar with per my own life situations. I would reiterate your point about how high stress levels can severely affect one's health. I also agree that maintaining a positive, optimistic mindset can work wonders during tough times -- and all the time. Your words of wisdom are most appreciated! Keep buzzing...21/07/2017 #6 Shelley BrownThis is a really powerful story @Cyndi wilkins and one I certainly relate to. It's like your life bucket gets turned upside down and you get terrified and try to grab all the life pieces and put them back together the way they were before knowing it's impossible. I absolutely believe a toxic situation caused my body to breakdown and I ended up having 3 major surgeries in year including a spinal fusion. It's really amazing how you express that "being given an opportunity to recognize and release that fear once and for all, so I could move forward and help my partner in doing the same" leading to "That shift in perception for me brought with it a sense of peace in being supportive in a committed relationship, rather than fearful for our physical survival and security". I am walking through some fears right now and look forward to being a able to tell a similar story. Thank you. Your healing energy came through this piece.20/07/2017 #5 Cyndi wilkins#3 Your friend sounds like a shaman @Sarah Elkins....To a well trained therapist, the conditions of the energetic systems, or chakras, is easily revealed via careful observation of one's body language...Your friend saw something the moment she took one look at you and knew exactly what you needed in the moment...I hope you have her on speed dial...never know what can happen;-) LOL...Thanks for sharing that...it validates the whole point of this article.20/07/2017 #4 Cyndi wilkins#2 Sometimes we don't even know why we are inhibited by certain fears...the memories are buried so deep. This type of deep manual manipulation of the tissues can unlock those hidden treasures we have tucked away for safe keeping...When something surfaces, it is calling our attention to what is happening in our present that is being influenced by a past 'unresolved' emotion...and by unresolved I mean it has gone unrecognized as the catalyst to our current mind set...once we make that 'conscious' connection and release it from our physical being via movement, meditation, storytelling etc...we are able to move past it and embrace our new found freedom from the cage we have built around ourselves...Right @Deb 🐝 Helfrich;-)20/07/2017 #3 Sarah ElkinsI love this, @Cyndi wilkins, because I can visualize and imagine the entire story, from the release into your memory to the memory itself, and back again to the present moment. When I was in a toxic job, a friend and Pilates guru called me using Skype. She took one look at me and gave me a breathing exercise to do, telling me to do it right then at that moment. I started the exercise, and about 30 seconds into it started to sob. I hadn't cried in many months, but something about that physical activity created an incredible emotional release. My entire being felt less restricted after that.
I'm glad you posted this story, because I know how wonderful it is to grow and improve in your gifts as a result of helping others.20/07/2017 #2 🐝 Fatima G. WilliamsThe title for this buzz is so apt Cyndi. Healing the healer. The cure and healing lies within us. The answers lie within us but we go out looking for them or wait someone to tell us but what we really need is for someone to show us. And when you showed your self by sharing the experience the healing began. We are most of the time scared and unable to let go of those wounds caused by people, places and things. Its time to open up to ourselves and show ourselves what we are truly capable of.
Like you said "The harmonious nature of this work...People helping people...one moment at a time!"
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Comments12/05/2017 #17 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBeeI agree with you in this elaboration @Tausif Mundrawala. Yes, we have the choice to select among the many choices that life opens for us only if we could see those opportunities as such. For me, every challenge and obstacle is a hidden opportunity.12/05/2017 #16 Tausif Mundrawala#7 There is a free choice but it's a human tendency to opt for such free choices if any loss is not incurred. By my comment I meant that as far as taking monumental steps which could change one's course of life then one needs to be careful enough while working or selecting those choices. Life itself presents so many opportunities in order to achieve one's purpose but very few realizes it and the rest spends their life cursing their fate.
Awaiting your reply, Sir @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee12/05/2017 #13 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#12 I a, extremely moved by your comment dear @Harvey Lloyd, "No imperfection or perfection just a purity of existence"- this is a stunning part of your comment.
I wish you read my mini-buzz on Defining our Definitions in view of your comment here. Did I answer your comment without realizing you were in the process of writing this comment as I was writing my buzz. SOmetimes I believe in souls speaking to each other.
https://www.bebee.com/producer/@ali-anani/defining-our-definitions12/05/2017 #12 Harvey LloydI read this engagement with fascination as the posts have attempted to paint a picture of the two very large ecosystems of man and nature. Nature is a great teacher as it does not have the encumbering aspect of self awareness. This is my love of nature, the purity of existence while responding to physical changes or elements within itself. No imperfection or perfection just a purity of existence.
Humans search for this purity but we live in a world where many search at the same time. Our self awareness/concept is the constant adjustment to everyone else's search. Plants do not see this adjustment in their existence as anything other than a part of life. They form no judgement.
Human joy is in how we judge the adjustment within our search for objectivity. When we look at extremes is it really an attempt to find balance or an intent of judgement as we search for objectivity. If we could use the playground see-saw as our visual. I am standing in the middle and found my balance. But we cross paths with others within the play ground and they climb onto our see saw. There is now a period of balancing or instead of balance i am looking to throw the other off to regain my already established balance.
Nature doesn't have a see-saw. When one path is blocked or challenged they go around without judgement, merely pursuing their coded objective. Yes @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee so much to learn from the natural order of nature. But difficult to execute with such perfection.12/05/2017 #8 Savvy Raj@ Ali Anani A beautiful buzz full of exemplary choices in the free will to steer the thoughts to intention. On the topic of balance and extremes mentioned here I recently came across the range of extreme and varied reflections of beauty and addressed it in my last buzz The Paradox of Beauty.. I was also addressing the need for respect and tolerance of the emerging perspectives in the choces. And there in is the balancing act.12/05/2017 #7 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#3 Thank you again @Tausif Mundrawala. Do we make choices and then move or the other way round? For example, bees find candidate places for new hives. Then they select through waggle dancing one place and they move to it. If making choices comes first, then n a way we are also restricting our movement. Is there such a thing called free choice?12/05/2017 #6 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#2 @Sara Jacobovici- your point of intent still occupies my mind. The link I mentioned in my previous comment is so rich and challenging that I recommend it for you strongly. May be then we get a new perspective. I am still pondering on same issue.11/05/2017 #4 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#2 @Sara Jacobovici- this is a quick response for now aas I have to leave for a meeting. In the quote of Michael Pollan in the buzz ""While talking with Mancuso, I kept thinking about words like “will,” “choice,” and “intention,” which he seemed to attribute to plants rather casually, almost as if they were acting consciously..." you may notice he used the word intention. I knew you would comment on intent and I shall be back. That is all for now.11/05/2017 #3 Tausif MundrawalaI think it's an ingrained element to work according to our choices. Many studies have proved that what we are today is just because of our choices. Every second is a second chance for us if we are left bereft with the first choice. If that first choice works it motivates us to move on to second but we need to be careful this time because success makes us over confident. Today I read an interview of an Indian actor where he says that success makes you lousy and failure is a great teacher, companion and a philosopher. Its an obvious fact that no one wishes to fail but each and every step asks us to strategize our step carefully.
Thanks for this great buzz, Sir @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee11/05/2017 #2 Sara JacoboviciGreat expansion to the discussion @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee. The more questions come up, the greater the discussion. I have to say though that I continue to differentiate between choices made by plants, trees, and insects, which provide unlimited insight into how we work, and those choices made by humans. There are many validated studies which prove that plants can "sense" danger and avoid perceived threats. Still, intention is a human quality; and the difference is in the why. When we act solely in the who, what, where, when. and how, we limit our choices. We react or respond but we do not put any thought, any self-reflective thought, into the why. This is where I bring our sense of time into the discussion and speak of being able to pause, be in stillness (something you brought up in your questions Dr. Ali). We are still moving, we are not stuck, and we are able to practise intent, reflect on the why, and look at all our options. When we think we "can't afford" the time to do this, we actually end up losing more time as a result of reacting, to fear perhaps, rather than engaging in a thoughtful process and having more control of the potential outcome.
- Producer18/06/2017Simply stated!In a dynamic and thought-provoking discussion about the interactions between the simple and complex inspired by Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee, I offered the following comments. In, Simple Values Interactions:Dr. Ali, you highlight...
Comments19/07/2017 #14 Debasish Majumderfrom primates to modern men, the situation which we confront in adversity, triggers us to act on contrary o it,resulting us to act as a creative. at first, we tend do defend against the adverse situation we confront, unlike other creatures in the nature. the reflection nature produces on our cerebral, enable us to vent out with our reaction against the predators or other kind of adversities and surely our superior faculty enable us to create. but, the external world perhaps plays the major condition to make us creative and in passage of time this creativity achieved new dimension. yet, w cannot rule out contradictions only the mother of creation or invention, right from the inception of human civilization. however, thought provoking insight as always @Sara Jacobovici! enjoyed read and shared. thank you for the share madam.19/06/2017 #12 Ian WeinbergThanks for emphasizing this important concept @Sara Jacobovici As I have indicated in a previous post, much insight can be gained by observing the left-right brain dynamic. The big picture, insightful and creative right hemisphere develops a hunch - an undefined created entity. It then requests the left hemisphere to take it and provide clarity so as to express it in a 'sanitized' linear form. If a pure right hemisphere hunch is externally expressed, it would take the form of undefined complex and multi-potential information, devoid of context and application. It is then left to the left hemisphere of the perceiver to provide context and application.19/06/2017 #11 Sara Jacobovici#8 Love the process @Pamela 🐝 Williams, "Why and how do they fluctuate, what actions or processes led to the fluctuation." And love its conclusion, "Simple. The complexity comes about in the strategy." Thank you for expressing your point of view. Good to hear from you Pamela.19/06/2017 #9 Sara Jacobovici#6 Inspiring @CityVP 🐝 Manjit. Please see https://www.bebee.com/producer/@sara-jacobovici/ssw-bebee-93553 Thanks!19/06/2017 #8 Pamela 🐝 WilliamsThere is something I say often about myself: "I can grasp the complex, it's the simple that confounds me"
You hit the nail on the head Sarah with your statement; "We need to break things down to intellectually understand how things work".
This struggle to accept the 'simple' used to bother me to no end; but then I realized; it's what makes me good at what I do; analyze the meaning behind numbers and the story they tell about the state of the processes in place. It fascinates me that it is not about plus and minuses but the sequence in which they occur. Why and how do they flucuate, what actions or processes led to the flucuation.
The same can be said for the human spirit; It's the age old question; what makes people tick; what are their drivers? What fascinates me most about human nature is it's complexity, which when studied closely; is quite simple. We are not far removed from the animal kingdom; we strive to survive and in that survival we strive rise in the pecking order, and then strive to stay there. Simple. The complexity comes about in the strategy.19/06/2017 #7 Tausif MundrawalaWe are creative beings first. Later, we learn how to think. This statement resonated with me well. It's still ringing in my mind. The exchange of views and opinions in Sir Ali's buzzes are worth reflecting upon. Your buzzes allows us to reflect on those points very well. Am glad that you shared this buzz with us,@Sara Jacobovici19/06/2017 #6 CityVP 🐝 ManjitMeaning as carbon is squeezed so much that what creates a simple structure like a diamond, is worn simply and well by us. What it is that moved carbon to becoming a rough diamond and rough diamond to a polished diamond, that is the challenge that was already built into the simple we see.
We can all therefore wear all manner of things that simple very well, but the process behind getting to a valuable diamond is the unpacking, because the world's most expensive diamonds are packed with meaning. We underestimate what went into making something simple and the consequent relationship within that is a measure of the received or personally held value.18/06/2017 #4 Sara Jacobovici#2 Great point @Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee. Yes, I have read your posts and you do present some complex issues in a way that can be understood. Just like Feynman. I don't know if I would call what you describe as an "opposite". From my perspective, you are describing a form of "rationalization", a way for individuals not to have to take responsibility for what they say or do. Lots to think about Joyce. Thank you.18/06/2017 #2 Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee"I think it's because we need to break things down to intellectually understand how things work." I've found an opposite. People need to complicate things so they can excuse themselves from understanding how they work. You've read some of my posts. I attempt to simplify wherever I can. People don't seem to want to see the obvious. Sometimes the obvious can be too horrifying to contemplate.18/06/2017 #1 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBeeYou brought life back to our exchange of comments dear @Sara Jacobovici. I would even say that your created new life for them with your two wonderful explanations of why we lose our intellectualism. Seeing the pieces isn't like seeing the whole especially when the whole is greater than the sum of the parts. The other point that you emphasized again is that we are first creative and then thinkers. SO, when we create a whole that is bigger than the parts it shall be the appropriate time to study and think of how the parts generated the whole.
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- Producer16/07/2017Branches of WisdomMy exchange of comments lately with the thoughtful Tricia Mitchell led to the writing of this buzz. Tricia wrote "Dearest @Ali Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee you are too kind. I have greater breadth than depth, where my knowledge is concerned...
Comments22/07/2017 #48 Yogesh SukalThank you @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee for appreciating my comment. Continuing to the point of turning information to knowledge and knowledge into wisdom.what if information we have is not enough. does this lmiting our wisdom.
One of philosophy group, someone posted "when nothing is sure everything is possible".
I guess most wisest approach to keep mind curious and open.
hence the some of few examples in academics trying some laws from one field to another field and it works.
So in my opinion branching out with curiosity and with open to all possibilities while branching out towards wisdom.18/07/2017 #45 Tricia Mitchell#25 Dear @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee you mentioned if the trees could talk I know of people who purport to communicate with animals. I know what I am able to do in the non-physical realms, so I looked for a tree communicator. I don't know who authentic this man is or isn't, but I have heard of others who claim they are able to understand what trees are communicating. Here's a short clip of Jim Conroy talking about helping trees to be healthy, internally, then supporting them to be in synch - in groups, based on community and categorisation, then "balances the ecosystem" Never heard of him before until I searched online this evening https://youtu.be/UElnvKgOovY (under 4 minute video)18/07/2017 #43 Tricia Mitchell#36 love your comment, Jean Serio, so many people prefer to remain in their comfort zone, enduring the discomfort of the familiar, than taking risks. Growing up (depending on which era you belong to), we are told to go for the 'safe bet' not to risk everything that we have worked for. To be grateful for what we have accomplished (even if it has made us miserable in the process). I have met accountants, who joined the family business, because their parents were accountants. They didn't question whether if what they wanted to do was at variance with what was expected of them. Then, sometimes, they wake up one day in their 40s and question whose life they're living, as it's certainly not one of their choosing... Then begins the search to uncover who they truly are and their desires, when they're not looking to seek approval from their parents.18/07/2017 #42 Tricia Mitchell#38 Indeed dear @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee one of my buzzes in the making is of a woman who is preparing for exams. She is worried that she will not pass the assessment. Reaching out for assistance in a social media group, everyone suggested strategies. As I l tend to go against the grain, I asked her a veiled question: "Supposing you didn't have test anxiety?" What I meant was, "What is the benefit of this fear you've created?" Instantly, she got the awareness: fear of failure and money constriction. The tuition had cost a lot and she couldn't afford to fail. Yet, rather than choosing to change her belief pattern, she chose strategies (which work, but on a clean slate are far more effective). So, yes, fear does have a function - protection, including protecting us from failure, if we exhibit perfectionist traits. It's amazing how false assumptions can restrict our lives and choices.17/07/2017 #39 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#37 surely you are a born poet dear @Tausif Mundrawala. Yes we make false assumptions. It is onlt recently that science found the intricate relatioship between trees and fungi. Who knows if there is a hidden relationship between weeds and trees. Love the clarity with which you express yourself.17/07/2017 #37 Tausif MundrawalaSometimes we think that a weed like branch which had grown without our permission should be axed as soon as possible. But we may not know that the weed like branch would flourish one day and would become the rising star in the entire body of a tree. Getting rid of branches won't help because we may channelize our energy in trimming and manicuring it to look it's best. We don't know the fact that the most uncertain shapes and sizes of branches would make it an artist's delight when we see through through the lens of one. In the difficult time of grief which I am going through right now have allowed me to channelize my energy into more reading and reflecting on certain subjects and topics. Let these branches flourish to it's best level and allow it to bear fruits in future. Am glad that you shared this with us and am thankful for all your support, Sir @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee17/07/2017 #36 Jean L. Serio CPC, CeMAThank you Ali Anani for another thought-provoking post. This particular post reminds me that often people don't branch out because they feel comfortable in the position they're currently in. Perhaps this is not the best position for them, nor will it provide them the salary or benefits required to better support their family; nor stimulate passion or a sincere feeling of accomplishment. In short they generally fear 'branching out'.
An interesting article in Psychology Today, by Mary C. Lamia PhD - 'Why You Should Fear Failure' - Dr. Lamia states it succinctly - "Many of the professionally successful people I’ve studied—both procrastinators and non-procrastinators alike—tend to fear failure. Some of them worry that a fear of failure might jeopardize their careers, especially those who tend to procrastinate as well." Here's a link to the full article - http://bit.ly/2uv5ppI17/07/2017 #30 Harvey Lloyd#13 What a transformative comment. Thank you for your thoughts and your words. Not meaning to hijack @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBeePost but to extend the metaphor of the "slime", i would add:
If Proverbs 3 offers the end game then Proverbs 2 provides the path. The path being discernment.
Wisdom without understanding is merely an encyclopedia.
Discernment would imply that we need to see the Slime and discern wisdom and understanding in application of living within humanity.
I was struck by your thoughts concerning the dynamic vs binary. If I have discerned correctly the binary would state wisdom is within the parts where dynamic is the trust of the whole tree of life. I believe you have described faith here.
Through discernment we can look at the parts and develop a trust in either our own wisdom or grow the trust of understanding the whole, dynamic.
Please accept my apologies here if i have taken to much liberty with your comment, @CityVP Manjit
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Comments18/07/2017 #67 Tricia Mitchell#64 Harvey, and I mean this with the greatest respect (truthfully) can you assist me in decoding this:
"Humans require a higher authority of criteria that through each gate they apply from their unique perspective." The higher authority?
"Reviewing another's criteria and measuring outcomes is part of the process but i did not recieve their opportunities, nor make their choices." Understood & agreed.
"So this information may show the solar system i would need to visit, it doesnt show the planet." Some of my work (at the extreme end of the spectrum involves working in higher dimensions - visually - do I believe it? I let go of logic & the 'evidence' for me is the changes on the physical plane for clients who are comfortable with that aspect of my work). Despite that, I'm still trying to find the key that will unlock the meaning of your metaphor for me (I'm being honest). Do you mean it shows you where, but not what? If so, isn't that what life's about? The learning (as a spiritual being having a human experience)?
"Correlation may help us understand something but will not always be the answer to our actionable question." True
We need a criteria that is greater than ourselves to fully answer our unique questions of action. God? Although, not a criteria. Questioning action - reflection(?) + growth? My ego wants to reference Einstein's quote about explaining to a 6 year old, but that's my issue 😀.18/07/2017 #66 Tricia Mitchell#64 You challenge me, Harvey, which is good. The depth with which you discuss issues takes some time for me to fully comprehend. Then the interpreter in me wonders if the inference I've drawn is the same as the intent you wished to convey. It is these conversations that I both wish to understand with ease while also preferring to be pragmatic and focus my energy on real change than philosophical discourse (I am merely being honest & perhaps, revealing that while I am a thinker, some things are beyond me! 😀). Part of me wants to answer does slime have freewill? Who cares, when someone is struggling with continued existence on this planet? My strength lies not in debating, but doing. Healing. Then my head 'kicks in' - You're running away because this doesn't come with as much ease as you're used to."
You raise interesting points, including, "More importantly with this changed perspective we will endure challenges of unknown origin, focus and intent. This is one of the aspects of folks fears as they get washed through gates they didn't choose." If I was to respond from a spiritual perspective, there's a school of thought that says we chose these lessons before incarnating in this lifetime. We didn't get to choose how the lesson would be delivered. There are opportunities - near misses, to "check out" of this spiritual playground if/when we've had enough (I've experienced a few!). I think the gates of change change. I also think I beg to differ that humans recognise gates and patterns (most people are still on auto-pilot).18/07/2017 #65 Tricia Mitchell#63 my pleasure dear @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee I must say I caught your "tooth" buzz - what a rich voice you have. Pleasing to the ears. I loved the auditory experience (but thought it improper to mention!). I think you should delight us and go live more often. I also hope that your dental issues are now resolved. Blessings, Tricia16/07/2017 #64 Harvey Lloyd#61 Thanks for the link it was interesting. The keyword for me was logic. The slime of this discussion is predicated on a certain rule set that get acted upon religiously. My question or experiment was designed to invoke free will to such a logical organism. Is it possible?
Life is a series of gateways that we can choose to walk through. The choice itself is very subjective in its analysis. Further each choice is presented because our perspective is evolving. Unlike the slime. More importantly with this changed perspective we will endure challenges of unknown origin, focus and intent. This is one of the aspects of folks fears as they get washed through gates they didnt choose. Time is the torrent of current that takes us through gates when we become complacent.
If we can assume that the gates of change are constant and that we will go through each by choice or natural flow, then we must also consider that my series of gates are unique.
Humans can recognize gates and assemble them into patterns in an attempt to understand but they cant predict nor shed light from my unique perspective. I can mimic behavior but not necessarily experience and more importantly not perspective.
Humans require a higher authority of criteria that through each gate they apply from their unique perspective. Reviewing another's criteria and measuring outcomes is part of the process but i did not recieve their opportunities, nor make their choices. So this information may show the solar system i would need to visit, it doesnt show the planet.
Correlation may help us understand something but will not always be the answer to our actionable question. We need a criteria that is greater than ourselves to fully answer our unique questions of action.16/07/2017 #63 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#59 Fertile soil needs great comment for any buzz to capture any real value. Thank you dear @Tricia Mitchell for adding mind-fertilizers. I am reading the comments and so happy that I am too inspired and feel the joy of great feedback. We thrive on this.15/07/2017 #61 Tricia Mitchell#45 @HArvey Lloyd "The incarnation cross of Explanation carries a unique channel of self expression & individual knowing. This channel, the 43-23, carries the nickname of the “freak to genius” channel. This is due to the fact that the expression coming from this channel is very individual in nature & at times can be so strange or new that no one gets it. On the other hand the information contained in this expression can be such a fascinating way of looking at something that it can leave people in awe of the genius to come up with such an idea.
The other two gates; gate 4, contains the energy to evaluate a pattern & create a hypothesis about that pattern & the other gate 49 is the gate of revolution.
In general when you blend this all together you have the energy to logically evaluate what is going on & then lend an individual commentary or expression about it. In some cases it might agree with the status quo & in other cases it might drastically be different." (mine is 23/43 | 49/4). http://loveyourhumandesign.com/2011/05/12/incarnation-cross-of-explanation/
Combined with my 1/3 profile of 1-The Investigator/3-The Martyr (in search of truth & tearing down the foundations, even if there's no replacement), I'm born to challenge, I'm afraid 😊
What you reminded me of was the advice I was given some time ago when having my chart analysed. I was told I have the ability to go from A - Z. If I repeat my ideas enough times, I will bring people along with me and they will see the 'genius' in it, otherwise, they will think my ideas 'freakish'. Sage advice & applicable in any communication exchange. Time to practice patience & slow down to allow space for negotiations to flourish.
I thank you for your generous comments, Harvey & your honesty that you find the way in which I go about being in service others both challenging and enjoyable.15/07/2017 #60 Tricia Mitchell#45 @Harvey Lloyd Roger Dawson isn't a name that I'm familiar with (I've just looked him up & his face is one I've come across only once before). Thank you for referencing him. It's funny, the first time I read your paraphrase of Dawson's quote, what sprang to mind was Gabby Bernstein's "The Universe Has Your Back" and that control is an illusion. Listening to one of his videos, I understand the context and yes, everything is a negotiation. Yes, I've had some comments stop me in my tracks, bring tears to my eyes and reawaken my heart. The one that stays with me is after years of living behind armour to 'protect' my heart from further hurt, out at dinner with a friend, she said "It's OK to let people in, you know, Tricia". I spent the rest of the evening blinking in quick succession to keep the tears at bay. I loved and "hated" her in equal measures for seeing the light through the chink in my armour.
You wrote, "I wanted to state, your personality type and humanness was the most challenging and rewarding i would meet in construction contracting negotiations."
I want to thank you Harvey for your comments, because you reminded me of something that I take for granted. I contemplated your words while walking the dogs.
Effective communication is your strength in negotiation.
I was fortunate enough to be introduced to a system that illustrates my birth chart. I wondered if you'd studied it, as you referenced youthful folly in #51. I have the right angle cross of explanation aka the Genius to Freak channel. (part 2 cont.)15/07/2017 #59 Tricia Mitchell#50 Thank you dearest @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee to be honest, the ideas came from an old poem I wrote when I was determined to get off the Hamster Wheel of Life called Hamster's Hedonistic Holiday :-) (I've pasted here on beBee, if you're interested https://www.bebee.com/producer/@tricia-mitchell/hamster-s-hedonistic-holiday) Your comment about opening new channels of thoughts conjures up an image of the EuroStar speeding through the Eurotunnel crossing borders, connecting countries (for some reason!). Your buzz is fertile soil for seeding new ideas, ready to come into being dear Ali.15/07/2017 #57 Tricia Mitchell#48 You wrote, "The flow of water in trees and the flow of information. What water as a transport medium and what info carries as a transport medium. Water carries sugars, hormones and others. Info then may carry different nutrients (interests) and what happens next."
Is there any difference between a tree trunk and the Autonomic Nervous System (branching out, carrying info to and from the Central Nervous System, to the perhiperal NS to organs and tissues), dearest @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee in terms of their functions?15/07/2017 #56 Tricia Mitchell#41 "#40 An MD starts ALWAYS a s a general practitioner before specializing, So you are dearest @Tricia Mitchell You diverge into many fields and in due course you may converge to focus on one subject and may not."
A valid point you make dear @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee it is one that I had not considered. I'm grateful to you for offering a new perspective on the varied fields that maintain my interest. At school I was a "good all rounder" and I'll probably continue my pick n mix approach to life to avoid boredom!
I love the simile of us growing and branching out like trees. I'm looking forward to reading that metaphor once it's firmly taken root in the pathways of your mind, dear Ali. Thank you again for your encouragement, which my heart warmly receives.15/07/2017 #55 Tricia Mitchell#43 "When man was dependent on nature and the hunt/harvest concepts the physiological existance was simple. You worked to produce food. Naturally this came with the two other great needs, clothing and shelter.
Once man determined how to produce above their ratio of one to one in these three main areas, bartering began. Supply and demand was born."
@Harvey Lloyd I agree with your comment & it brought to mind 3 distinct eras - at least in my mind: the onset of the industrial revolution and man's move from working & living on the land as a community, based on one's ability to contribute, to the towns and introducing a concept of dis-ability/handicap, the deserving and undeserving poor. Then feudalism flashed up: "structuring society around relationships derived from the holding of land in exchange for service or labour" between 9 - 15th centuries (Wikipedia), preceded by the Viking invasion 8 - 11 centuries & the Roman Conquest in 43AD. (I know Britain's history is older than Americas and Australia's.)
I truly wonder how far back we must go to find that point where we were satisfied with just living off the land? Part of me wonders if in cavemen days, they would "steal" other cavemen's women and take their caves as property? I was thinking of collaborative communities that have been unaffected & thought of Papua New Guinea (then saw cannibalism on the search results!) http://www.ibtimes.com/ancient-amazonian-tribal-community-discovered-deep-brazilian-rainforest-293425 I agree we need to look to the future while remembering not to repeat the lessons of the past.15/07/2017 #53 Harvey Lloyd#51 AHHHH the dreaded wheel. Our limbic system tells us we are unable to avoid the wheel. If we can embrace the wheel as a part of our growth we can free up our mind to explore what the wheel is teaching. The limbic system develops our core view of the present, if we are new to the landscape, this warning should trigger our higher thinking.
Judgement was a wheel i stayed on for a long time. My insatiable need to know right and wrong was the wheel. My learning showed me that right/wrong are really not answers but conditions, purpose is what we should seek. I was off that wheel.
Science and me generally do not get along. I enjoy science fact, where i do not understand, when facts get used to describe the physiological existence of man. Science wanted this wall of fact and proven theory, well please stay behind it.
The search for the fountain of youth is folly. The search itself demands we give up the present. Until we evolve away from growth of the limbic system then death will be a welcomed condition.
Over time our narrative develops a environment that supports the narrative. This condition without a catalyst will self heal towards its own ends. We start broad and then limit our thinking to our own survival. What happens when we extrapolate this out over two hundred years?
No, i am content to pass on the wisdom of years to my children so that i might save them from a few of the wheels and let them carry on.
Great thoughts and discussions @Tricia Mitchell15/07/2017 #51 Tricia Mitchell#43 (part 2) The last paragraph of the bbc article (http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-34454844) had me shaking my head. In my opinion, Prof Rokhsar had missed the point. Humans would benefit in modelling sea anemones; people wanting to retain thoughts & memories are what contribute to dis-ease.
The simplicity in which sea anemones regenerate tentacles & mouths remind me of something I was going to post a few days ago. Dr Happy Mouth http://www.yourhappymouth.com Tom Kolso is a dentist who practices Generative Energetic Dentistry using Access Consciousness processes. He states that because we have been told that we only have baby teeth and adult teeth, we only replace them once. I don't know much about his work, but he claims we are capable of regenerating 3 - 5 sets of replacement teeth (I seem to recall from listening to one of his interviews; I've found one here: interesting, he speaks of thriving, surviving, which Harvey's comment discusses; a commitment to dying, starting at 5mins 10 secs in https://www.voiceamerica.com/episode/71908/energetic-dentistry-with-dr-tom-kolso). I think @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee this Voice America interview will be of interest to you in terms of the questions it may generate.
It is thinking & our beliefs that get in the way of the simplicity of complex organisms that know how to survive & thrive, given the right conditions.15/07/2017 #50 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBeeThis is mindblowing comment and my dearest @Tricia Mitchell has opened new channels of thoughts. I love the dogs and the hamsters examples and I see great possibilities emerging out. I can't wait to read the response of @Harvey Lloyd because it shall even yield more ideas.15/07/2017 #49 Tricia Mitchell#43 Harvey & dear @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee I am working my way through your comments. I'm excited that my comment has inspired a buzz in the making and Harvey's an extension of that branch of thought Dr Ali. Harvey, I read your #43 & immediately an article I read some time ago sprang to mind. I was fortunate to bring it up in a search entitled, 'The creature with the key to immortality?' http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-34454844 I nodded at your comments, yet the one thing that stimulated my search for the article was your questions, Harvey:
"What would happen if we gave one slime community all it needed to survive indefinitely, then after a period of time introduce a starving lot of slime? Defending, mutiny or two slime communities joining to one large one?"
My thought was That's the problem - man and his thinking, complicating matters. Slime, like sea anemones, like dogs are conscious beings. I'd go so far as to suggest that perhaps the former two benefit from the environment, whereas dogs become socially conditioned because we train them to our way of being, instead of learning from them how to be present, briefly chasing our tail as a fun activity, and not because we are going round in circles out of frustration. Hamsters exercise on a hamster wheel - it has a purpose, whereas it takes burnout for many humans to finally step off the hamster wheel in search of an alternative, which in most cases is conscious living. (part 2 to follow)15/07/2017 #48 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#47 I am baffled by your comment and right now absorbing it. What stands out for me now is "opportunity exists to pick up new and different knowledge and fold it into our new narrative. This doesnt mean that we will pick it up". Your comment @Harvey Lloyd View more#47 I am baffled by your comment and right now absorbing it. What stands out for me now is "opportunity exists to pick up new and different knowledge and fold it into our new narrative. This doesnt mean that we will pick it up". Your comment @Harvey Lloyd synchronizes with an idea that I am incorporating in my next buzz. The flow of water in trees and the flow of information. What water as a transport medium and what info carries as a transport medium. Water carries sugars, hormones and others. Info then may carry different nutrients (interests) and what happens next. The analogy goes on and as I mentioned to @Tricia Mitchell, you too opened "the spores of my mind". Close
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Comments20/07/2017 #23 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#22 What a very rich comment, @Sue Bryan. Of course, synchronistically, this is the quote that arrived in my heart, yesterday, by Martha Beck:
"I’ve seen that what we’re most afraid to lose is never a thing, person, or situation, but our story about how that thing will make us happy, conform to our ego’s desires, and remain forever unchanging. This is true even when the thing is our own body.
I’ve seen that when we relinquish our stories—when the truth of our soul kills the narrative we’re spinning out to impress ourselves and others—we reach acceptance and suffering ends."
I somehow got the story that my body knows how to heal in those precious first years and sure enough, I live outside western medicine. Even though the media is hellbent on changing this belief, they can't touch it, because I have 48 years of solid evidence.
My post 'No More Sweet Little Lies' was about facing up to these internal stories. I had no idea, until I started challenging myself to radical accuracy, just how thoroughly I'd let a story stand, rather than be bluntly curious about all the presuppositions and assumptions wrapped up in a pat answer.
So while my health story is utterly beneficial, my work story has/is harming me. It is proving to be a difficult root to uncover, it is buried deep down.20/07/2017 #22 Sue Bryan#21 @Deb 🐝 Helfrich :) I am pondering the stories we tell ourselves and how they limit us. There are personal stories like ones related to self-esteem, and cultural stories that run deep in our subconscious minds. One particular story that almost everyone tells some version of is the story that we weaken as we age. One might argue that this story comes from observing evidence in the world around us, but I am more and more convinced that we manufacture evidence to "prove" our stories and not the other way around. So, why have we so completely embraced this particular story? Even people who are determined to stay healthy joke about "senior moments" and failing vision or creaky joints.
I wonder what others think about this...
My theory is that stories like this arise from a misconception or over-reaching of the focus that creates physical life. We have to really believe that we are separate in order to experience a normal human life where we are separate and different from each other. When we are convinced of our separateness, story lines arise from that belief and the fear and longing that it instills in us. 'Decline with age' is one of these stories. Another is the story that our bodies have mysterious functions that we don't understand, and that they are vulnerable to sudden attacks from germs or insects or predators or mutations... And that we have to protect ourselves from all those terrifying things.17/07/2017 #19 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#18 You've pretty much nailed the introvert-centric feeling of wanting, craving, needing 'deep-talk', @Sue Bryan.
I recently read a post on LI by Max Noble who has pegged this as social mindfulness, which is quite a spot-on way to describe what goes missing when we live our lives at the speed of our technology.
And the fact of the matter is, we need input from strangers in order to gain a new and different perspective.
Cultivating this presence, to sense when just a little more needs said, to be able to invest a few more moments to share a couple of true sentences, would revolutionize our world.
I think of these people who have hit a point in their life of being able to commit a heinous act. I know that a genuine kindness may have rerouted them during that last day. I am certain that kindnesses have done this work and we have been spared in ways we won't ever be able to celebrate.
I may challenge myself to start asking "What are you pondering about these days?" A novel question is very like to disrupt our habitual patterns.17/07/2017 #18 Sue BryanThanks for this post @Deb 🐝 Helfrich. I have struggled with finding the appropriate response too. It seems to me that in the context of a larger conversation the question, "Are you OK?" is an invitation to check inwardly and share with the questioner any part of the journey that presents itself.
The harder question for me is the greeting, "How are you?" As @Harvey Lloyd said below, the answer is always, "fine." I know that i am fine even if my world is a bit rocky for now. I would love us to replace this automatic way of greeting, which at its heart is often inauthentic (does the person really care how you are?) with something more real: I see you. Here we are together. What's happening in your life right now? Can I share what's happening in my life with you?
Or some other formula that promotes connection.17/07/2017 #16 Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand AmbassadorWow. @Deb 🐝 Helfrich, this put a smile on my face, a song in my heart and a tear in my eye. You are truly a lovely person with sincerity that shines through every word you write. I glad you're "peachy keen" and proud of you for taking on and meeting your goals for your publishing challenge. I'm looking forward to knowing the end of your sentence: "Great, because....". I feel certain it will be good news.16/07/2017 #14 Harvey Lloyd#12 Everyone goes through the transition of youthful bliss to wisdom. Or as you have identified, the mid-life crisis. Mine was no different than most.
My youthful energy to carry the issues of the day waning and moving from i can do anything to i want to do nothing. I had lost my purpose once i lost my youthful energy. Small business has been my battle ground of swinging the sword for thirty years, at twenty years i entered the perspective of cognitive dissonance. Everything i believed to be true up to that point was found to be false or non motivational.
Like yourself a journey began. I usually seek the question before i even attempt to provide an answer to the issues of the day/life. During this journey i reduced it to purpose. What purpose do i serve? I discovered that my purpose was one that required youth to keep it in play. This was fading and i needed a common purpose that allowed wisdom to meet challenges and not youthful bliss.
I "was" all things in all settings as my youth allowed me the energy and focus to push through most anything. My purpose was to be out in front leading through crisis.
My new purpose is to serve where i stand and share journeys with others if only for a time. This removed the outcome from the equation and focused on the service only. It removed control questions and introduced influence.
May your journey be wise and short.15/07/2017 #12 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#6 Thanks for such a detailed answer, @Harvey Lloyd, we have this tendency in common.
I feel like if something is worthy of my attention, it is worthy of my full focus.
Your metaphor of providing a ladder completely explains what I knew was a potential if I could accurately respond. A bit of perspective, some encouragement, perhaps a concrete suggestion or two.
And yet, because I am in turmoil, really do identify with being in a stage of mid-life crisis, I just spun out in formulating a response that was accurate, but not over-the-top.
I will even confess to further struggling as I approached beginning to respond to comments. It took me a day, after all.
But I know this is part of a life-transition. Being unsure. And I am fortunate enough to have built a community, where I can openly share. Both to reorient myself and to shine a light for others.15/07/2017 #11 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#5 Small talk, definitely has its place. As I said, the addition of a smile or a wink can add a great deal of value to anyone's day. I don't want to diminish the impact that the social niceties certainly offer.
And I believe, @Aleta Curry View more#5 Small talk, definitely has its place. As I said, the addition of a smile or a wink can add a great deal of value to anyone's day. I don't want to diminish the impact that the social niceties certainly offer.
And I believe, @Aleta Curry, that a good life has a steady stream of OKs!
But there are crucial moments in life, where we could all get so much farther along, by stopping and answering accurately. In the context of a rather open exchange, with someone whose opinions we respect. That urge to not go deeper, further can really be a detriment to both people. We never know what will arise if we keep a conversation flowing. Close15/07/2017 #10 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#4 Brilliant point, @Tausif Mundrawala. The questioning habit can be off-putting to people who fall towards the 'small-talk' end of the spectrum. Those of us on the deep-talk side like to question and contextualize and generally come away from a conversation having learned and felt and connected with the person in a unique way.
It is the case that we have a community of people on beBee who, even in tiny, virtual comment boxes, like to connect. Most of us type to communicate and learn. A rarity in the online world.15/07/2017 #9 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#3 There are certainly moments of quick exchange, were just the smile that accompanies a quick OK does the trick.
The challenge presents itself with someone you've established 'conversational closeness' with. And you have something to say. But you aren't quite in a place of blurting it all out. And, yet, you know the person wants to sincerely help. But you don't know where that synergy is.
We've experienced how this can happen in text and via webcam, but with the tone of voice and facial expressions added to the mix, we get there so much quicker and easier.15/07/2017 #7 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#1 I have to start by saying, I always wondered how you kept up your publishing pace, @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee. I am now starting to see how the practice itself frees one to show up each day. What seems in abstract hard to do, is easy once the momentum is in our favor. This is a factor in so many aspects of our lives. And I intend to apply it to the parts of creating a business that aren't exactly my strong skills.
While habits can enslave us, a consciously built process can free us, in equal measure.
How I am, at this precise moment, is thoroughly grateful for the overwhelmingly supportive appreciation that I am receiving.15/07/2017 #6 Harvey LloydPurpose, Passion, Execution and Outcome. If someone asks if i am "okay" i would have to answer from one of these conditions.
I have lost one, gained one or am frustrated with one. The question always appears in the context of "feelings" or core issues?
More importantly when someone asks the question we sense we need to answer within the affirmative because if we dont....we may be judged. I submit that there is a different way to answer that invites a shared experience. I am always fine, but sometimes my journey is difficult in finding the right choices.
I had to learn a hard lesson. Everyone has peaks and valleys. No one can reach down from their peak and help me out of my hole. Maybe a bit to pragmatic but true. What they can do is provide me with the ladder to climb out. I must give them the opportunity to share their ladder experience from one of their previous climbs.
When i am not ok according to social standards of the day i single out the one of four areas and meditate on execution/guidance. If asked if i am OK i can now offer yes i am fine but my journey in a specific area has challenged my skill, knowledge or execution.
Your journey of understanding is worthy @Deb 🐝 Helfrich14/07/2017 #4 Tausif MundrawalaMy questioning habit have lead many people to judge my authenticity but they don't know that by asking questions to them I am enriching their experiences. My dad sometimes have put off the topic which he initiated because of my questioning habit. I like to be involved in the conversation after being a good listener. It would enrich my knowledge and would accordingly translate my wisdom. I am privileged to be a part of such a wonderful and intellectual community here on beBee. I am elated to participate in this great buzz of yours, my friend @Deb 🐝 Helfrich
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Comments10/07/2017 #31 Nicole ChardenetWe have an awful lot of "stories" we tell ourselves, and yes, Renee, it's directly related to how we think about ourselves. So many people willing to take offence at perceived slights, while others brush them off or realize someone else's behaviour likely has nothing to do with them.
Years ago a co-worker with whom I had a prickly relationship were arguing and he started saying what a lot of us would say in an argument, "You think this," and "You think that", most of it being my alleged disrespect for him. And I responded, "Oh really? You know what I think? You're a mindreader now? Because that is NOT what I think and if you were paying attention you'd have noticed this...and this...and this..."
He never did that to me again. We actually started to get along better. It was a lesson for me too, realizing that he was operating under a bunch of false stories he'd told himself to make sense of his world, and I knew that I did the same with others. Our own personal narrative shapes how we see the world. Your list of signs you've got a skewed narrative are spot-on.10/07/2017 #29 Simone Luise Hardt"Once you find yourself in the environment that necessitates your using it again, your brain reawakens and reactivates the parts required to process that language. " true ;) Renée :) and even other things we´ve learned & practiced (for a long(er ;) time, will reappear ;) Have a lovely day & evening today :*
and again one great article :)10/07/2017 #27 Renée 🐝 Cormier#25 I agree completely, @🐝 Fatima G. Williams. You cannot give something you do not have. Many people believe they have a lot of love to give, but I think the truth is that they believe they have a lot of love, and they want to have a lot of love available to give, but thre is a problem. Because they lack a sufficient amount of self love and self respect, or perhaps more accurately, because their supply has been tainted, they can only love conditionally. They expect others to somehow fill them up and give them value, not realizing their world is like a mirror reflecting only what is in front of it.10/07/2017 #25 🐝 Fatima G. WilliamsYour soul is who you really are and it is perfect just like a new born baby is pure and perfect. This is a good reminder @Renée 🐝 Cormier enjoyed reading this tremendously. Don't let your mind interfere with your happiness. It's unavoidable sometimes don't you agree? And this is the key to sustaining peace in our hearts as well. When we stop blaming and start living with the purpose of enjoying the given moment we find that satisfaction words can't explain. I always say that "Only when we love ourself can we love others. A truth everyone needs to reinforce and embrace.
In my buzz Don't micro Manage Yourself I say the same thing "Only when we love ourself can we love others. Only when we learn, we can teach and only when we give we can receive. These I've learnt are the basic principles of the universe."
To be your authentic self no matter how many people think low of you or misjudge you or think your not good enough. IMO It's about what you want in life, how does it contribute value in your life and those around you.10/07/2017 #24 Lisa 🐝 GallagherWhat an uplifting buzz @Renée 🐝 Cormier! I think many of us define ourselves (even unconsciously) due to definitions others gave us through out our lives. The key is understanding, as you explained, their definitions are not who we are. You wrote, "Forgive your parents, friends, relatives and whoever else lied to you and hurt you. Forgive all those who tried to define you. They didn’t really know." Couldn't agree more, they really couldn't know. I have learned to forgive and understand those who I felt may have defined me- in reality, my mind didn't know the difference. We are all products of our environments but it doesn't mean we have to continue the pattern or belief systems. Forgiving, letting go and finding the true essence of our soul is vital to our growth as humans.09/07/2017 #22 Renée 🐝 Cormier#19 Loving souls don't conflict. It is the gap between your inner being and your physical self that causes conflict of all types. When you are perfectly aligned your inner being, you will not feel anger or frustration. You let go of Ego. You will have nothing to prove. You will not be in competition with anyone. You will be perfectly able to accept all people for who they are regardless of their relationship with their own inner being.09/07/2017 #20 Devesh 🐝 BhattLove, hate and all emotional responses within oneself are natural. What is unnatural is the persistence with self love or self loathing, for which all sorts of external aides and re inforcements come into play.
Do i think and define the inner being or do i feel it?09/07/2017 #19 Harvey LloydCan i love my own soul? What a brilliant question. I would have to say that the answer would be yes. Within a vaccum of no others i am perfect, it is only when i am around others that my brain wants to share this perfection and comparison begins.
Our brain may want a reflection from others that the perfection of our soul is true. Constantly our brain is viewing the environment and rendering a internal reflection of this perfection, or not.
I would think that within our internal perfection or love our own soul, we would need to give our brain criteria of reflection.
In leadership forcing yourself to consider five points of "why" that person didnt speak, the neighbor or the coworkers outburst allows us to consider alternative actions. Our auto mouth mechanisms always present the i love my own soul option only. This point is one of the most difficult to explain to budding leaders. The auto response is merely one response. Take a few seconds and consider at least three others. If they dont fit then go with auto.
Maybe a larger question would be what happens when two souls meet and each one loving itself causes conflict?
Great post as always.08/07/2017 #16 Renée 🐝 CormierYes, people get really hung up on things they have done and carry huge amounts of guilt and shame. In my view, there are no mistakes, only experiences. Sometimes reflection allows us to learn from the experience. Sometimes we need to repeat our experiences in order to learn and sometimes we repeat them believing that is our destiny or how we are programmed. That is false thinking. Life is about choices and we choose constantly. You can go left as easily as right, if you have the courage and the inner knowledge that you will always be okay. Thanks for the comment @Jerry Fletcher.
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Comments12/07/2017 #22 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#20 #21 This has been an enormous process of facing the ways I swallowed my joy and felt I had to do it all for myself.
Facing the words on the screen and reviewing them for what they convey has really made me notice when I say something generic, just to avoid expressing the complexity of my feelings and thoughts.11/07/2017 #21 Deb🐝 Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBeeGreat to hear you live ng, player ng, breathing life into parts that have been shut down. It is not only childhood - there is lots of research now about what is in our DNA! Yes to playfully learn, discover, experiment with rebirthing recreating ourselves every day. As really we are not static - every cell in our body is moving with life . Keep on playing! Lots of love10/07/2017 #19 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#15 That is absolutely true, @Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador, I don't feel like there was any intent, I just processed the world differently and felt, whether it was true or not, that staying silent and isolating was the way to stay safe.
In looking back, I never felt comfortable as a part of my family, and when I arrived at college, I made damn sure to focus on my comfort and utilize my strengths in my own best interest. And then that place came where discomfort seemed to come at me from all directions and I isolated to deal with it. Which made what I was going through all the more difficult.
This is a process of re-engaging from the bedrock of truth as I feel it.10/07/2017 #18 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#14 I am working, @Renée 🐝 Cormier, to be mighty careful to not make this a grudge-fest at all. I really am focusing on watching my own thoughts and fixing them in the here and now. I do occasionally have memories that provide context and detriggering their emotional charge is what I am interested in because all of this decluttering is starting to produce different behaviors.
And that is a powerful feeling to have.10/07/2017 #17 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#13 It all hinges on opening our heart to what we say internally that isn't quite entirely true. The times we stay silent to not rock the boat. The moments we pretend because we feel that is in someone else's best interest.
None of this means the world will conform to us because we speak our truth.
But that internal congruency is necessary to function with an open mind and heart, asking sincerely for what we need, and moving forward even when it is not on offer.
It's a subtle difference in the world, but a huge difference in our heart.
Follow your wisdom, @🐝 Fatima G. Williams, you will change the world!10/07/2017 #16 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#12 There is nothing to spot, really. Unless one has access to many different families. And what qualifies as emotional neglect for any given child varies widely.
But for a highly sensitive, deeply thinking and feeling observer of the world, I was not accommodated, uniquely, at all.
And the journey is to find the hidden programming that came from conforming or isolating - so that I can move forward freely deciding. Living for joy and being full of love.10/07/2017 #15 Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador@Deb 🐝 HelfrichThe fact that you are doing something about it is the first step to healing. And don't be so hard on yourself because when we are children, we don't perceive things the same as we do as adults. Young and undeveloped minds are vulnerable and like a sponge absorbing anything and everything not yet knowing what the impact will be later in life.09/07/2017 #14 Renée 🐝 CormierWe are all raised with lies. Lies we tell ourselves and lies that are told to us. Hold no grudges as you heal, @Deb 🐝 Helfrich. I published something the other day that I think you may find relevant about how our thinking can either cause us to become separated from our inner being or become aligned with it. Here's the link.
https://www.bebee.com/producer/@renee-cormier/thinking-and-the-mind-that-interferes09/07/2017 #13 🐝 Fatima G. Williams"I chose to dwell in delight and the ever present possibility of being WONDERSTRUCK!" You will my dear Deb I have no doubt that you ARE and Will continue shining brightly reflecting this bright light that heals many you meet on this beautiful journey.
The power of the choices we make have infinite consequences. The choices that empower ourself are the ones we delay in taking. Thank you Deb this video is tremendously helpful in unimaginable ways because I have been trying to restrain myself from saying these sweet little lies to myself. I think feel too! The day shift and night shift is such a beautiful truth about the heart and the mind. How we tire them sometimes ! The communication between the heart and the brain is intriguing and the questions are endless. I've long made the decision not to pass on sufferings but only the wisdom I gained. I'm happy I'm already working at this and it's going pretty well.
And Carol says the minute we stop complaining and start acting it makes a world of difference. I love what she says about our vocabulary and it's ability to be toxic it's so true isn't it? Blame, deserve and entitled are the 3 words I choose to remove from my vocabulary.
Thank you Deb. This buzz is fantastic. I bless your days and all our days to come :)
I think the other @Deb🐝 Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee will love this buzz too08/07/2017 #12 Lisa 🐝 GallagherAs you are combing through the lies, you are in the process of healing @Deb 🐝 Helfrich.
Very powerful and moving. I'm usually full of words but I just want to say, I'm happy your mind is allowing you to express and figure out what has caused dis-ease. Like journaling, writing can be cathartic and I'm not sure about you but sometimes I find myself typing things I had no idea were sort of stuck up there, they needed to come out! I wonder how many kids suffer from emotional neglect even if their family appears picture perfect? I bet it's really hard to spot these children unless one has been through it. Hugs.07/07/2017 #11 Tricia Mitchell#10 ah yes the testimonials are new. It's great that they unlocked some of your emotions.
Yes, emotional neglect is difficult to recognise if no significant event occurred.
I love how these posts are serving a purpose and helping you create a new way of Being, of interacting with others, bringing you out of isolation.
How lovely of you to say the joy audio is wonderful. Keep going. Keep tapping & keep evolving!07/07/2017 #10 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#9 Actually, you dropped a link to Karl Dawson, two days ago, and while I had seen that particular one before, this time it was linked to a whole series of testimonials of people who went through matrix reimprinting and the powerful way they all beamed with fulfillment was a key to some of my locked up emotion.
For a long time, because nothing explicitly bad happened, I couldn't see the dramatic effects of very little supportive happening. Sweet little lies of withholding became my reality.
I feel now just how pervasively I conformed to a static way of being that physically hurt me, and guaranteed that my coping mechanisms for overwhelm, of any sort, even positive emotions, was to self-isolate and turn within.
What is happening with these posts, virtually, globally, is a redevelopment of my nervous system to social interactions.
So, yes, a shall listen to your wonderful audio about letting joy be my birthright and the default of my life as I tap and let go of whatever transpired the kept me from being a person who just simply thrives.07/07/2017 #9 Tricia MitchellAh, Caroline Myss I was introduced to her name a few years ago on a course, when I was struggling (intellectually) with feeling other people's pains & one of the trainers suggested I may be a medical intuitive like Caroline Myss. This is an amazing video clip, @Deb 🐝 Helfrich, especially where she talks about the effects of language on our neurobiology. #truth That's why I screw my nose up at 'spiritual warriors' - warrior implies war - love, peace & forgiveness are the vibrations we need to carry within us & those we desire at the end stage of life.
You wrote, "But there is a huge, crushing boulder of emotion I don't know how to process around how I continue to chose to self-isolate, based on how my brain was wired at such a young age." One of the techniques I trained in was thanks to a client whose issue went back to being in the womb. You can re-write your birth, if you wish. It's EFT with Matrix Birth Reimprinting. I think I may have referenced the book before, Deb, by Sharon King Heal Your Birth, Heal Your Life. There's a full moon this weekend & it's intense. Be compassion'ing with yourself especially during this time and use it to continue releasing what you no longer serves you.
Thank you for showing your vulnerability to us, and inspiring others through your words to, perhaps, face their own lies.07/07/2017 #7 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#5 In many ways, this post is a before and after line. For some truthfully unconscious reason, as I grew, it was not safe to express myself, at all, let alone in all my contrariness and confounding uniqueness.
I actually consciously decided in first grade not to talk, because what I wanted to say was so very different than the talk all around me. Knowing this was crucial to my survival, I executed it quite flawlessly, as I communicated enough that no one ever asked me if I had locked myself away in order to be free to be me.
I consciously lifted the ban when I got myself to college. But I didn't have the perspective to see that I was still running those patterns very prominently.
And then, well the workforce, sent me right back to my comforting island of self-isolation.
Only when the vicissitudes of life took away ALL my supplies did I have to abandon my island and come to terms with life on the mainland.
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