- Producer26/09/2017Die 4 Status im GeistWir sind mehr und mehr beschäftigt und erreichen nichts.Wir gehen und bewegen uns durch das Leben, oft, ohne wirklich über die Entscheidungen, die wir treffen, die Implikationen, die sie haben, nachgedacht zu haben. Damit liegen wir ab und zu falsch...
- 25/09/2017".There is more 'chatter' going on in one's own mind than the whole world outside of the self...The more you practice allowing the 'space' for disturbances to rise up and pass through you, the more clear you will become...When we deal with obstacles that pop up as they rise, instead of compartmentalizing them the way we humans tend to do, we will always be ready to write the next chapter as it unfolds in our lives."
- Producer21/09/2017A Simple ConversationA read a wonderful article this morning on Transformative Thinking in business, and for that matter life in general, written by Edward Lewellen in Chief Executive Officier - CEO, Directors and Executives, Sales , seen...
Comments25/09/2017 #21 Cyndi wilkins"Many are feeling incongruent or what i call cognitive dissonance... Where it seems that all three components are always out of alignment."
Right on @Harvey Lloyd...When we are out of alignment with the 'self' and unclear about our intentions, what we see unfold before us is not necessarily in alignment with what we feel. Emotion is a very powerful motivator when utilized properly...and the only way to ensure that we act according to our current set of circumstances is to view the obstacles that occur in our lives as opportunities to recognize our true selves and what each challenge has to teach us...
When people say to me, "Oh the past is the past...I can't change what happened." Well that may be true...but what you can change is how you look at it...Because as sure as the sun rises and sets, so to do your emotions...So when they rise, give them your respectful attention and address whatever it is that presents itself...and if it is not in alignment with your current set of circumstances, I would suggest you give your 'self' the space to do a little digging...And I mean conscious participation...It does not matter how you do it..(unless that means medicating yourself)...it just matters that you do it. Because ignoring problems does not make them go away...They just sink back down to the bottom again and wait for the next storm surge to churn them back up from the bottom of the well. And they are not very happy about being buried alive;-)25/09/2017 #20 Harvey LloydThanks for the tag. I would agree and believe that happiness is something that we find in the immediacy while peace and joy is something that is only mildly wavered during our life. If we can find it.
For me i have found that three ingredients exist to peace and joy. A belief system that is never changing and that you can plant yourself in all situations firmly. An identity born of this belief system. Whereby you have sorted all of your own boxes and gained a renewed view of yourself. And finally, a view of others that recognizes they too are looking for peace and joy regardless of how they demonstrate their search.
I can bring happiness to others through one time events, comfort or money, to name a few. But Joy is something i know can only come from within, a belief that only faith can carry with a focus on our role with others.
In these times this view is very challenging as it seems stoic and hard edged. Society feels we need to be flexible throughout the three. But i would submit that many are feeling incongruent or what i call cognitive dissonance. Where it seems that all three components are always out of alignment.
You are spot on with your post and quotes.23/09/2017 #18 Cyndi wilkins#15 I understand exactly where you are coming from @Devesh 🐝 Bhatt...I had a very lucrative and secure job with the government for over fifteen years...but when the culture changed drastically in the last five years of my employment, I found myself in a very hostile environment that eventually began to 'bleed through' my emotional body and manifest itself as physical illness...I became quite sick and nearly allowed myself to be consumed by it.
I knew I had to remove myself from that environment or I would be lost to battling chronic illness for the rest of my life...It took five years from the time I made the decision to leave...I attended night school while continuing to work full time...Very long days they were...but my energy came from the desire to regain my health and personal power...I was miserable and sick for a reason...My spirit was being suffocated by my environment and forcing me to make a change.
I did it on my own terms...put my time in to develop my new skills...began to build my practice before actually leaving my job...Then I cut the cord...I gave my notice and finished out my time in what I refer to now as 'Federal prison'...and I moved on to a successful practice of my own...I work very hard...but I do it for me;-) You can too...You sound like a very bright and polite guy and deserve much better than what you are experiencing now...Make small changes first...like not downing yourself just to be accepted by those who would love nothing more than to see you go under.22/09/2017 #16 Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand AmbassadorLoving what you do makes a huge difference in your dedication. Life's too short not to enjoy your commitment every day you spend at your work, whether for yourself or someone else. This was meant to be for you and your friend, Cyndi. Thank you for tagging me. :)22/09/2017 #15 Devesh 🐝 Bhatt#13 well that is how Corporates are working. Said bye bye to them 4 years back.
The common thread in my limited experience.
There is a lack of genuineness in bosses and employees. Somehow an honest attempt to have a positive impact or an honest attempt to share the burden of negativity hardly comes of. Everything is a shallow protocol.
Maybe we havent reached the threshold where it becomes necessary to ship out the rot.
You will find highly positive, polite, smiling and inspiring people from Asia ( India,China, South East) around you. But they would agree to the fact about the honesty bit.
Truth be told you hit the nail, most of us lack self esteem here.22/09/2017 #13 Cyndi wilkins#12 "I have seen colleagues mock those trying real hard to leave a positive impact." You know @Devesh 🐝 Bhatt...People who mock others for their efforts to better themselves have very little self-esteem and feed on making others miserable...You know how misery loves company my friend...
In order to make a positive impact on others you first have to create that within yourself...and if you are working in an environment of denigration the simple answer is...You need to change that...and that in and of itself is not so simple. It takes a great deal of effort to switch gears and reinvent yourself...but in doing so you regain your personal power instead of bleeding it into the feeding frenzy of the 'shark tank.'
Don't pretend to be more messed up in an effort to gain the approval of the very people you don't give a hoot about you...Speak your truth and see where it takes you...What have you got to lose by leaving it all behind? I can tell you what you lose by staying....Yourself my friend;-)22/09/2017 #12 Devesh 🐝 BhattGood results make everyone happy.
In other cases.
I can be happy with the effort and unhappy with the results i.e. feelig both.
I have felt both for the most part of my life in a collaborative setting.
When i honestly say the same people who feel the pinch of failure do not believe me. They only believe it when i pretend to be more messed up than they are, the guilt of having failed their efforts is what they want to see.
Maybe i am in the wrong crowd but that is how it is. I have seen colleagues mock those trying real hard to leave a positive impact. Ive seen bosses who pressure employees for a feedback and lose all positivity when i tell them to stay professional or else ..try to be honest about how they feel.
I simply do not know how to have a positive impact. When it is needed i mock myself alongwith everyone else.
We seem to enjoy the frustration of work more than the joy of achievement.22/09/2017 #3 Kevin BakerThank you @Cyndi wilkins for tagging me. So glad to have read this. When you thought "" My first response was..."Sure it did!" , this came from the purest of intention derived from genuine feelings you have for your friend. You saw clearly she came to that point to find her own center. A gesture, suggestion to remember her inner heart desire when the opportunity arose you acted. This is the true foundation of " The law of attraction " what you intend for others will find you. Mark these words, watch for it. The same is now coming towards you. And just like the seemingly obscure circumstance of your being able to send that intention, from perhaps the most unlikely source, it will find you.22/09/2017 #2 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBeeA grear leader realizes that people excel where their hearts fall in love. Your story @Cyndi wilkins is a great story of a lady who witnessed her heart going down because she did not what she was doing. When finally she followed her heart and started what her heart wanted her new business thrived.
Thank you Cyndi for writing. A great buzz.
- Producer24/09/2017Just take the first step... 'The Power of Nothing...'If you want something ... 'ACT!' Many let themselves be pulled or hold back. It indeed is YOU let them. Out of personal fear, out of the idea you're not good enough, the thought 'IT' is not for you. What's your excuse? Government wont let you? You...
Comments25/09/2017 #3 Numo Quest#1 Thank you most kind for your input here. Where Lao Tse deem that 'non acting', so natural movement can take it's cause, the Universal Principles regard 'ACT' as very important since action triggers reaction and focused action will trigger focused reaction. Where these two meet is the way of 'steering' thought and act in the mind to focus. It is said that enlightened people of the east can move almost anything with mind power. Basically there the similarities of both 'worlds ' meet. Both, Wu Wei and universal principles, aren't ruling each other out. In many ways they 'Find' each other. The universal principles, we think, are somewhat clearer to understand and easier to implement. Very grateful for your adding here. :O) @Yolanda Ávila Márquez
- Producer24/09/2017Traits of Rare Leaders There are rare things in life. Rare events Rare minerals and elements Rare talents Rare leaders Rare DiSC profiles- (DiSC is an acronym Dominance, Influence, Steadiness and Compliance, or Cautiousness). Are there commonalities...
Comments26/09/2017 #166 Javier 🐝 beBee#164 @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee we are working hard on it. Unfortunately we don't have unlimited resources. We are launching some great improvements during the next days in order to be the highest quality content platform ! But.. we have still to wait to see our innovative ideas going on production ! thanks for your comments.
Let's keep on producing sweet honey!
https://www.bebee.com/producer/@javierbebee/bebee-an-engagement-based-community26/09/2017 #165 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#157 yes, I agree with you completely @Chris 🐝 Guest Cert.Prof.Acc.SA. Not a single DiSC profile shall be enough. It has to blend with others. I think one of the roles of a leader is knowing what profiles to mix and what not needed. More, what profiles don't mix like milk and oil.26/09/2017 #164 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee@Javier 🐝 beBee- you must be proud of the engagements here> beBee is truly an engagement platform. There are so many great ideas in the comments. I wish if we could compile them in an e-book. When do we hope to hear the great news? Thank you26/09/2017 #162 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#158 I fully agree @Harvey Lloyd. Your comment is hugely important. You wrote "I believe we sometimes equate the word dominance as over people. To me D's who practice win-win are selfless, fearless servants who are out front serving others". This is very true and dominance may sound as misnomer. It is in a way. Your explanation of what is meant by dominance is perfect and to the point. The integrity of your comment to this buzz is unquestionable.26/09/2017 #161 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#156 We are in the same pot @Harvey Lloyd. BTW- in one of my responses to you yesterday I wrote here "Can we predict the future behaviors of leaders from there DiSC profiles? For example, can we tell if the leader saying something today he/she shall act accordingly in the future"? I have been pondering on this and wondering if the DiSC profile would be of help. I am writing a buzz trying to answer this question.26/09/2017 #158 Harvey Lloyd#152 "I did have a few questions, sir. Is this score constant or does it keep changing over a person's lifetime? Is there any way to improve or is it ok to have a very high DI score?"
The word dominance is misleading in what it equates to in real life. Definitions can get us in trouble. Dominance would equate to fearless within the unknown, enjoys new risk, challenged by tough questions and wants the answers. I believe we some times equate the word dominance as over people. To me D's who practice win-win are selfless, fearless servants who are out front serving others. This is the mindset of s successful D.
I believe our letters if we answer the questions from a perspective of leadership in a specific role will pretty much stay the same. What changes is how we use the letters. A truly successful D realizes that they first destabilize S's and seem lofty to C's. D's mature by listening to these two letters and tempering their communications to include these attributes.
The I is a great companion letter as long as with influence we are good listeners. Feedback is needed for the DI to form their position and execute around the team. The situations change with new people and risks. So listening and finding a launch point becomes necessary during the change.
In all successful endeavors a leader has taken their own profile and married to all the letters and skills of the players on their team. There are no bad combinations just bad use of any combination as exclusive.26/09/2017 #157 Chris 🐝 Guest Cert.Prof.Acc.SA#153 True words @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee - I think it was Steve Jobs who said "I hire people to tell me what to do". Or someone else who stated "Hire the right people with the right skills and get out of their way"
Ideas menlike your good self are essential as are finisher/completers/ drive it over the line types like me. Any "A" team will have a blend of DISC profiles inshallah.26/09/2017 #156 Harvey Lloyd#153 Wow we share a lot in common in our view points. I would rather lead into the unknown than manage what i create. I am a terrible manager, i must fight my instincts the wrong way and causes massive drain on mental resources. I pack great managers around me to fill the gap.26/09/2017 #153 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#152 As we share the same DiSC profiles, we mostly have some shared attributes @Proma 🐝 Nautiyal. While D signals power I signals your tendency for using facts and information to convince others. I tend to hate controls or regulations. The proof is I run a company and I eliminated controls such as attendance time. I love change and thrive on its challenges. I am more into generating ideas and less interested in seeing them implemented. For this reason and knowing that it is hard to change drastically I tend to bridge the gap. I employ one person at least who is a doer and cares for finishing jobs on time. I need to know my weaknesses, accept them and then find a suitable solution. You see I like facts and being aware of my deficiencies and accepting them I look for employees who are able to meet my flaws. Nobody is perfect. We get closer to perfection by knowing what we need.26/09/2017 #152 Proma 🐝 Nautiyal#77 Thank you for your kind comment, @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee. I went ahead and took another DiSC profile test from another site, altogether. I waited 24 hours to ensure I don't have the same answers in my head as the last test's. The question pattern was way different, but this time too, I received a DI result with extremely high D aspect followed by an equally high I. S and C were pretty low. I feel like I know myself better now. It really helped me introspection. It feels even better to know that I share the same profile as you (very encouraging)!
I did have a few questions, sir. Is this score constant or does it keep changing over a person's lifetime? Is there any way to improve or is it ok to have a very high DI score?26/09/2017 #151 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#148 @Cyndi wilkins - your witty comment reminds me of my own experience. I was on the board of directors to survive a company that was ailing. The Bord decided to appoint a new director. When.personal interviews with candidates started I was on trip abroad. Upon my return the Board had already decided on the selected candidate. What was left was my signature. I decided to pause and review his application and documents. Everything looked so rosyv. It was the perfection that initiated my doubts. I made phone enquiries about him. One person said that he was perfect. But nobody is perfect and there must be one pitfall I asked. The reply was he had one in having a 50% trust. Thank you i said. One can be trusrful or not. Upon further investigation it turned out that he always had bright starts whenever he worked, but later things were different. Still he was appointed in spite of my renection only to b÷ fired in less than 3 months. Staff 'ouldn't trust him any more.
Without trust of ability and behavior leasers fail.26/09/2017 #149 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#148 @Cyndi wilkins - your witty comment reminds me of my own experience. I was on the board of directors to survive a company that was ailing. The Bord decided to appoint a new director. When.personal interviews with candidates started I was on trip abroad. Upon my return the Board had already decided on the selected candidate. What was left was my signature. I decided to pause and review his application and documents. Everything looked so rosyv. It was the perfection that initiated my doubts. I made phone enquiries about him. One person said that he was perfect. But nobody is perfect and there must be one pitfall I asked. The reply was he had one in having a 50% trust. Thank you i said. One can be trusrful or not. Upon further investigation it turned out that he always had bright starts whenever he worked, but later things were different. Still he was appointed in spite of my renection only to b÷ fired in less than 3 months. Staff 'ouldn't trust him any more.
Without trust of ability and behavior leasers fail.26/09/2017 #148 Cyndi wilkins“If you create that culture of trust and connectivity with leaders, where everyone is expected to look after each other – not just leaders – when people need help, they are more inclined to reach out. "
I think Tash Tobias, Virgin Australia’s General Manager of Inflight Experience, nails it home here...If we cannot trust our leadership, we are not very likely to feel safe to reach out if we are in need of assistance...The lack of trust...that spells disaster for any relationship, be it personal or professional.
This very brief but insightful article into the culture Tash has created for her inflight crews has helped to keep Virgin Airlines commercially viable...A great lesson for all modern day leaders...whatever your business;-)
- Producer24/09/2017Creator, YOU are ..... 'The Power of nothing...'Every one, any where, is creator. Every creation starts with an 'insight', regardless if it's a thought, an idea when seeing something or a step to an improvement of something already existing. This universal principle is in mans DNA. In yours to,...
- Producer19/09/2017Behaviors on the Edge of ExtremeI am extremely happy These are extreme customers and are therefore just noises Living in an extremely arid zone or severely-cold place Who cares about extremely minute sizes? These are examples of going to the extreme. Living on...
Comments23/09/2017 #45 Proma 🐝 Nautiyal#44 This was the idea that was hidden somewhere in mind (perhaps subconscious) which I couldn't express. Thank you so much for explaining it so beautifully, @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee.
A healthy debate vs. a quarell, to reach a consensus is what differentiates the two approaches to extreme behaviours striking balance. I think I took balance as a given factor so I forgot the basic principle of "striking balance". Thank you for pointing that out. I have learned something new today.23/09/2017 #44 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#43 I grestly apprrciate your comment @Proma 🐝 Nautiyal. I don't differ with you at all. Let me re-phrase part of your splendid comment. You wrote that we strike for balance. If we were all in balance then we lose the force to strike it. That some people are at the extreme we may generate ideas to restore the balance. Here comes the role of creative ideas. I tried to show by example how to achieve this goal. I greatly appreciate your comment.23/09/2017 #43 Proma 🐝 NautiyalThank you for the enriching buzz, @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee. This is a phenomenan that exists all around us but since we are so used to it, we hardly notice it anymore. But it is something that needs a lot of thought and consideration.
In my opinion, nothing in extreme can bring any good. There is a reason why people strive for balance, as it is peaceful and feels right. Even our body tries to balance out extreme emotions of stress or happiness with tears of sadness or joy. This is something involuntary.
So when we do come across people, who are behaving in an extreme manner (mostly negatives cause stress) we should ensure that we do pitch (in) but not to the extent of harming our harmony. If the data they provide can help us create a better product (as you mentioned in the buzz) then that's great, too (in fact, excellent) as we are getting something out of the emotional churn the person is putting us through.22/09/2017 #42 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#41 thank you @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher and I fully comprehend your concerns. I must say that many ideas resulted when working close enough to balance. Also, that many ideas resulted from disruption while on the edge of imbalance or chaos. There are behaviors on the extremes. They are a source of disruption. I call for creative ways to make the disuruption a source of generating new ideas. I know this is challenging. Howdever; I gave few examples of doing this. Either we try to re-balance these behaviors or to understand their motives to extract new ideas to deal with them. I focussed on the latter.22/09/2017 #41 Lisa 🐝 GallagherHi @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee, although I'm not in the field of Marketing I've worked with enough people to conclude that extremist behavior can push others away. It can even be the cause of letting a person go from their job. Take Healthcare for example, those who utilize extremist behavior cause extreme anxiety in patients who are already anxious. They also can sour those they work with, which can cause a ripple effect depending on the day or hour. Not a good combination. Luckily, there are many people who work from the middle and I believe they are the people who help to balance extremism and lack there of. You gave great examples and I'm sure extremism has it's benefits but only under the right circumstances- the adrenaline boosting type possibly?21/09/2017 #39 Harvey Lloyd#32 You reference a technique we often used in sales. Depending on the department the sale was being made we attempted to put a goal statement together before we made the call. We were usually within 60-70% accurate.
We would enter their domain and state. "Before we get started we would like to make sure we understand your goals, We would read the goal statement. Like your question this reframed any preconceived notions about the meeting and reframed it around the customers goals.
Sometimes sighs of relief as they had just finished other meetings with vendors and the story of how great they were, or the mental cavalry that had started the charge lost its horses.
Great points in questioning, stating and keeping the main thing the main thing.21/09/2017 #38 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#36 your mind works wonder my dear @Edward Lewellen. Yes, your comment is creative. When we puzzle people with questions that they didn't expect we take the leading role. Your comment provides a great lesson for marketers. I recall suggesting a book idea for you in a previous comment. I suggest the same here because you touched upon a great idea and people would love to see its application in the business domain. I would to read what @Jean L. Serio CPC, CeMA would say.20/09/2017 #37 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#35 what seems for others extreme, but you see normal is because you are creative @Jerry Fletcher. I firmly believe that what you see as extreme will be a source for creative ideas for you. When you are on the extreme your tension will bring you creative solutions becaue you are outside your comfort xone. Creative people need sweet tension to be creative. From my own experience this worked wonders for me.20/09/2017 #36 Edward Lewellen#34 Dear @AliAnani, @Jean L. Serio's use of questions is brilliant, as you said. The customers and employees she was interacting with were mentally prepared for confrontation. When she asked an unexpected question instead, she created a Pattern Interrupt, meaning, the customers and employees had already mentally imagined the response they would receive and they got something else. This broke the neural pathway and forced them recover by finding meaning in what just happened. This like when I go to shake someone's hand and, just as we are about to touch our hands together, I grab their wrist, bring their hand up to their face, tell them to look at their hand, and say "sleep!", they will follow my direction because I've interrupted what their mind thought should have happened, their mind is searching for meaning to give to what's happening, so they follow my direction to avoid further confusion.20/09/2017 #35 Jerry FletcherAli, Once again you move us from scientific fact to observed behavior. The journey, for me, is fraught with peril as I have been exposed to very limited data that has the strength of the measurements commonly applied to scientific data. I agree with your premise that by not hiding from the "extreme behavior" we can gain insights that will help market products and services.The difficulty I see is that large budgets or the investment of a great deal of ingenuity are required to come to any conclusions. In addition, having been in the Creative services area, for way too many years, what others perceive as extreme behavior for me seems normal.20/09/2017 #33 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#32 this ia a brilliant approah @Jean L. Serio CPC, CeMA. I love it because you diluted the angry employees/customers with your creative question. The beauty of your question is its avoidance of attemting to directly cool the anger. The addition of cold water to hot fatty oil makes the oil splash with anger. You are very wise my friend.20/09/2017 #32 Jean L. Serio CPC, CeMAOver my 30ish years in retail, I have come into contact with thousands. And during that time I have met those (customers and employees alike) whose angry behavior is a coverup for insecurity. I believe this insecurity requires them to lash out for expected behavior on the part of another. For example - they believe they will be belittled or humiliated, insulted, for example. And thus must protect themself. I can only speak from the standpoint of angry customers and employees. I discovered - with customers if you asked 'How would you like us to handle this for you Mr/Mrs. Smith? they were too dumbfounded to angrily carry on and dropped the negative behavior; whatever suggestion you made they agreed to. Regarding employees - I would ask 'How do you think this should be handled? What do you suggest? In cases like this, I discovered when you entrust the decision-making to them they usually calm down and solid decisions can be made. I've also found these unique situations can often bring about new ideas and considerations of scenarios previously not considered.20/09/2017 #27 Yolanda Ávila Márquez#26 Of course Ali. And I add that this is the most accurate approach.
Every situation has a lesson from which to learn in the same way that every question contains its own answer.
However, there are cases in which a client might seem extremist a priori and only be firmly convinced (I speak from my own experience).
- Producer27/08/2017Reverse Strategic ThinkingFamiliarity breeds familiarity. Staying in the comfort zone creates idleness. Doing things using familiar thinking and procedures are recipes for continuing doing the same and the results shall then stay the same. One way of beating familiarity...
Comments31/08/2017 #92 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#91 Great comment @Deb🐝 Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee and you share a great idea for exploring the many possible directions that are open to us to widen our perspective and see things with new eyes. The task-allocations that you used in assigning the duties of teams is fabulous and allowa for a 360 degrees view of the world. I find this an excellent ideas for team games that may applied in training.31/08/2017 #91 Deb🐝 Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBeeGreat buzz @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee and can I add - there is reverse there is forward as mentioned in your article. And we have many other directions. I remember inviting a large group to form groups of 8. each person became the main direction on a compass. North, south, east west, north east north west south east south west . Each direction was given a different perspective and question. One person at a time invited the circle to answer a question they had and to answer it from the perspective of that direction.
What was even more interesting was the questioner asked the first direction North to answer by re-interpreting the question and answering by sharing another question that was related. The questioner then asked this new question to each direction and then synthesised all of the views to answer there first question. This created very creative ideas to the original question.
Everyone was also asked to speak from their gut, rather than formulating some prepared answer before being asked the question,
We have so many different ways to view the world. We just have to choose to look differently to find a new idea. If we keep doing the same thing we will continue to get exactly what we have got. Fine if you want the same thing, but if you want to create something new experiment.30/08/2017 #88 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#87 I say that a major part of the value a buzz has is hudged by the value of comments it attracts. Yes, and like you dear @🐝 Fatima G. Williams I am greatly enjoying the quality of comments on this buzz.
I hope that dear @Edward Lewellen would consider writing a book on dealing with emotional memories that distract us from going on with life.30/08/2017 #87 🐝 Fatima G. WilliamsThis buzz is full of insights and an eye opener as well. The comments add so much value to the buzz. It would take alot of training and being in the present to reverse our thinking and remove all past beliefs that may cloud our judgement and decisions. Thank you dear @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
@Edward Lewellen It's great to know that we can remove the emotion from a past event and that would help us feel better. You've got me thinking how I can train my mind to not allow any past experience make me feel low again.29/08/2017 #85 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#84 this is a great example on how to discharge memories from emotions as a way to discover the roott causes of what you experience.
If so, how then we ask people to focus on the present with the realization that their emotional past control their present?
Thank you dear @Edward Lewellen for your great illumintion29/08/2017 #84 Edward Lewellen#83 Yes, @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee. Like any learning, when emotion is attached, the learning becomes more entrenched. Therefore, we remember the things that had the most emotional impact. I'll use an example of one of my clients. He had been emotionally and physically abused by his stepfather. He had held onto the feelings of abuse for decades, being in his forties now. As I worked with him, I helped him have memories without emotion. He was now able to "see" the memories for what were actually happening, instead of how he was feeling. When I asked him what he was seeing, he said he saw the fear in his stepfather's eyes. That his stepfather didn't know how to be a father. He said he felt sorry for him. Since working with this man, he has told me how different he has become as a husband and father (more loving, caring, and "present") because the emotional scars of those memories are gone and he now knows why his stepfather did what he had done. I think I can safely say this is Reverse Strategic Thinking at it's finest, though, I just thought of that.29/08/2017 #82 Edward Lewellen#80 Yes, @David Navarro Lopez, Neuroscience discovered within the last year that the only true memories we have are the ones we don't remember. Why? Because our memories become diluted with information added from other memories and information since the original event. The best way I have found to help people have memories that are more true to the event is by removing the emotion from the event. Our emotions are what cause the event to be clouded so that we overlook facts in favor of how the event made us feel.29/08/2017 #81 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#80 You are so observant my friend @David Navarro López. I daresay that you have been a leading mark in Reverse Thinking.
I enjoyed your quote because it adds great support to the need for inverse thinking. Our brains can be sometimes our prisoners.29/08/2017 #80 AnonymousI have been reading lately Dean Burnett's book "The idiot Brain". On the chapter dedicated to memory, a sentence kept me thinking "our memories are regularly tweaked and modified to suit whatever the brain interprets as our needs (however wrong that may be)"
We use to give birth to our "thinking" based on the memories we store. But if our memories are biased by our previous knowledge, feelings and beliefs, thus, our ego, the decisions taken can be far away from what "reality" needs.
So a reverse thinking strategy could give us a second chance to look better the circumstances surrounding, and probably take a different decision which was blurred by what we knew at first place when we took the first thinking path.
This has been, in my case, the key of my lately successful vital events, and as you know, you have been the one who helped me to reverse thinking to make it happen.29/08/2017 #77 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#71 Believe me my dear friend your comment is worthy of a dedicated book. I love it. You wrote "On occasion, though, the human mind can, and needs to, be pushed beyond its normal limits to find new possibilities". In complexity science we call this state being on the edge or far-from-equilibrium. It is a disruptive state (or could be so). When we work near equilibrium we may get new ideas, but far from it we get the disruptive ideas. The beauty of your comment is its showing us in simple terms on how to push the mind to the edge of creativity. As little has been written on this topic before, I believe you have a great idea for a new book. If you would consider the idea I shall be very happy to write a forward or testimonial. Please do.
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- Producer17/09/2017The Risks of MisinterpretationThe discussions on my last buzz were quite enriching, challenging and provocative to our minds. The need to see below the surface of human DiSC profiles was highlighted very strongly by Harvey Lloyd In one of his comments he mentioned that a D...
Comments25/09/2017 #84 Jean L. Serio CPC, CeMAObviously our own ideas are skewed by previous experience. Failing to listen to and/or consider another's thoughts and suggestions as relates to an idea of our own, can keep you stuck and spinning your wheels. While not every suggestion another makes will work for the scenario you may want to put into play, it may lead you to other far better considerations - perhaps even breakthrus - which can turn a so-so idea into a great one.20/09/2017 #80 Cyndi wilkinsWhen the dog bears it's fangs, it is best to throw them a bone;-) A little trick I picked up during my days as a letter carrier up on 'Rottweiler Ridge!' LOL!
All kidding aside...I find that when someone else's behavior is really niggling at me I have to stop and ask MYSELF... why??...Perhaps they are reflecting something to me that I need to re-examine within myself;-)19/09/2017 #78 Harvey Lloyd#74 I was a late bloomer in my communications skills. I either was on top of the situation or below the situation. Depending on strength of people involved. I had a long journey of self actualization and understanding the flow of conversation and its dynamics are based on what the intent was in the beginning.
Not much different in structure than a game of chance. With each role of the dice or segment of conversation we move the intent across the board. Initially it was about getting intent to full birth as i wanted. This didn't work out well, because it established a win-lose concept. People smarter than me were able to use that to their advantage within a very subliminal game.
Adding to the inventory of communications the Meyers-Briggs profile and the concept of Win-Win or No Deal really set my journey on a whole new path. From individual opportunities it became a sea of opportunities that we selected, worked through and moved on to the next.
There is no winning and loosing only movement between opportunities.
I am glad you hired yourself, i am not so sure i would hire me sometimes:) But i am a tough interviewer. I told myself i was going to tell mom you weren't playing fair in the interview. So i usually do wind up hiring myself.19/09/2017 #77 Harvey Lloyd#71 I am afraid you got my late night response, which usually tends to be more sarcastic than meant to be. Given today's education climate of competition, to some degree, we must discuss the impacts of competition.
Competition may obtain a result but there are consequences when this competitiveness is unrelenting. Competition establishes guidelines of success, pecking order and ultimately offers us a filter of perception when we walk out of the university. My definition of competition is really not between students but more the competition we create in our heads of comparison of success, between peers, professors and expectations of parents.
When experience meets these newly minted minds it gets rebuffed because they have the physical/mental trophy's of success. My youthful bliss was no different. I was just lucky as i had few people/mentors who helped me see the bliss in a way that i didn't just shutdown and run into the woods.
Today our youth are struggling with merging their intellect into a very experiential world. With any thought to what we are asking of them we can gain a sense of their dilemma.
I believe, as the experienced people, our job is to pass on what we have learned overlooking the, maybe, misguided charisma of knowledge.19/09/2017 #76 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#73 on the contrary @Louise Smith. I love your honest comments for many reasons. A very important one is your authenticity. You don't color your words and is always referring to your own experiences. Your comments have authenticity which I enjoy immensely. Please keep on commenting.19/09/2017 #74 Louise Smith#56
This is based on your Influence and knowing that within influence we want to be understood- " make sure we can accurately reflect back to you, your POV." What is the reason for this? Can't believe I asked this question !
"Thanks for playing along. I do want to express though, success comes through many channels of emphasis. No letter is better or worst than another. Its only when we get in that proving ground of a letter that we get sidetracked from our purpose."
Yes it's a case of part to whole vs whole to part.
YES "This is not an accuracy thing as much as a preparedness thing. I read about the job interview process and how to be prepared, i don't see this as being much different. WIth the exception that if you missed the mark in assumptions the process allows for discussion while you regain your POV."
You can laugh about this - I have only done 5 job interviews in my whole life ! (excluding part time jobs when at uni)
The first was for my original teaching deaf children job but there was a shortage and I had the top practical marks so it was fait accompli !
The second was for my next teaching Japanese to High school students. The 2nd person on the panel was a HPE teacher and knew nothing about Language Teaching!
The last 3 were for a job after I graduated from Psyc with various NGOs.
I got one as an interviewer for prospective foster parents for children with high trauma & disability.
It was not really relevant & I didn't renew my contract after 3 months.
That's the good thing about going into my own private practice. I interviewed myself & of course I got the job !
Hopefully that's it !19/09/2017 #73 Louise Smith#68 @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee You never have to worry about my comments I will always try to frame them positively or neutrally.
Please let me know if any distress you !
Also please do not concern yourself with response time, you don't need that kind of extra stress. Also I am very patient!
"You do make me think and I have a lot to do having just read your super comments. " SNAP !19/09/2017 #71 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#70 this is a challenging reply @Harvey Lloyd. The best theory is an applied theory with experience. Also, where is the wisdom in refusing experience without listening to the reasoning first? On what basis the young generation based their perceived wisdom? .this is another topic worthy of debating.19/09/2017 #70 Harvey Lloyd#66 Not sure if they are not listening as much as ideas or thoughts from dinosaurs just can't be relevant.
I believe this has to do with perceived wisdom vs experience wisdom
A book can teach a lot except, experience delivers application of theory in the real world under pressure.
- Producer17/09/2017Success out of Born Talents... 'The Power of Nothing...'If there is one thing successful people have one thing in common then it is that they do the things in their lives, based on the talents they are born with. It is always a huge misception that Talents are an accumulation of education, chance and...
- Producer16/09/2017Respect, Simplicity and HumilityI read a fabulous buzz this afternoon by our very own Phil Johnson. I have to admit to you Phil, what drew me in to your buzz was the wonderful title..."Energy Vampire University"...I am a long time believer in the energy vampire and have gone to...
Comments22/09/2017 #21 Cyndi wilkins#20 Thank you Mac;-) What I've learned through my years as a bodywork specialist is the people we refer to as the 'energy vampires' tend to dump their own emotional short comings (or shit) onto others so as to lighten their load and make themselves feel better.
I always remind them, and myself for that matter, when you dump your trash in someone else's yard it will surely blow back into yours;-)18/09/2017 #18 CityVP 🐝 Manjit#16 Renaître which brings us back to the etymology of Renaissance. Cool stuff Cyndi !
http://www.etymonline.com/index.php?term=renaissance16/09/2017 #14 Lisa Vanderburg#7 Well, I'm buggered @Harvey Lloyd :)
You have identified the dilemma: Solomon is permitted to build the temple; his father David is not, yet he gathers all the material. That said, I agree with you; I am most certainly working in 'desperation mode'...to be on constant alert; to 'anticipate' is bleedin' knackering! :)16/09/2017 #10 Cyndi wilkins#7 Thank you for your wonderful thoughts @Harvey Lloyd...
"A little macabre but time and tombstones represents the great equalizer in the grand scheme of things."
This reminds me of the beautiful poem "The Dash" by Linda Ellis...The dash representing the time spent on Earth between the year of our death and that of our birth...I read it at my dad's funeral...He was a living example of the words...
"Be less quick to anger, and so appreciation more...and love the people in our lives like we've never loved before...Treat each other with respect and more often wear a smile...remembering that this special dash might only last a little while..."
Godspeed dad...You inspire me to be a better person...16/09/2017 #9 Cyndi wilkins#1 No apologies necessary Sir...Your mistake is to my benefit as it perhaps brings another set of eyes and voices to the discussions...Yours, mine and ours;-)
Also thank you @Lisa Vanderburg...for always being an inspiring voice to all the discussions you participate in...Steady as she goes you are;-)16/09/2017 #7 Harvey LloydYour energy in this area shines through as i read. The frustration of the world that we live within these day can be overwhelming and in some cases elevate us past our brothers and sisters. I sense that this frustration can place in desperation mode where we need to get what we need then we can be empathetic to others. This is a challenging position when many in our social professional lives are in this mode.
A little macabre but time and tombstones represents the great equalizer in the grand scheme of things. When i view life from here it shows only one option. Legacy. If we were to write our legacy would include our checkbook, assets or things that got named after us? Ecclesiastes expresses this from one of the wisest men we know in history. (And the richest.)
For me the legacy has become a process of joining my brothers and sisters in growing their beliefs, and most importantly their action oriented position on growing others. We have no right answers only a shared journey of understanding.
Thanks for your thoughts this morning, they have reinvigorated me in my own focus. Every person is worthy of our efforts in sharing a journey of understanding.
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- Producer14/09/2017Visualized LeadershipThe last few days have seen me engaged with a wave of email exchanges with Harvey Lloyd on many topics related to using the DiSC Profile in leadership, negotiations; reverse thinking, risk handling and team-building. All commentors on my last...
Comments22/09/2017 #141 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#140 your comment is one of the driving reasons that triggered my mind to come up with a modified DiSC graph @Joanne Gardocki. In a weeks tjime I shall publisg this work. Yes it is not the same to be high or low on D for example. The two have different behaviors. I hope the modified graph will show this fact.17/09/2017 #140 Joanne Gardocki#134 "D" Decisive from DiSC inventory would equate to (PtC)Competitor and using anger/threats as a means to control. @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee when you mention a "D" that is motivated by survival may "bite" if touched, I believe we have crossed over to a DiSC "I" type, (PtC) Predator, that is motivated by Fear and operates from survival mode.17/09/2017 #137 Joanne Gardocki#134 @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee, the discussion with Stephen Willis was part of an e-mail conversation discussing some questions I had about PtC types and concepts. I will paraphrase the original.
The model I find most helpful is viewing relationships or interactions as energy exchanges. Any four quadrant model has participants using lower energy emotions in win/lose power struggles with others. I draw parallels between Power through Collaboration, DISC inventory and concepts on control dramas from a book series, The Celestine Prophecy, by James Redfield. Collaboration and liquid leadership are being modeled in video games and children’s movies (Inside Out (2015), Dinosaur (2000)), lending support, in my option, to the conclusion we are at an evolutionary crossroads.17/09/2017 #136 Joanne Gardocki#135 Thank you, @Harvey Lloyd , Servant Leadership does sound like a good fit for a fifth element. I just read this post to LinkedIn http://www.pdx-consulting.com/leaders---top-tips-from-dolphins-blog.htm which has a quardrant model and talks about dolphin characteristics in leadership. Dolphin strengths include empathy, open, creative, visionary. The model is missing a forth "lower" form as I would place dolphin on the ascendended Servant Leadership. The article references a graphic that "shows a snap shot of advancing growth mindset worldviews (or evolving styles of consciousness). They come from research by Frederic Laloux and Ken Wilber (also referred to by others simply as spiral dynamics)."17/09/2017 #135 Harvey Lloyd#132 I am unfamiliar with the PtC concepts and discussions. Given your question though i would propose that yes, a fifth element has emerged. Servant Leadership. This concept embodies the whole of leadership through serving with guided influence based on the broader principals of corporate responsibility (Internally and Externally).
Humans are the caretakers of organizations. Some leaders "take control" but control is elusive as you view the dynamics of an organization. I believe the popularity of personality profiling has gained review because our servant selves don't like what we see when the controlling leader herds creativity down a stifling path.
Servant leaders harness the best of humanity in each of their team members. I agree when we discuss the collaborative leader as the best. I see this as a view from the outside looking in. The word collaborative does explain what we observe.
From an personal discipline though, i would call it servant leadership as a personal paradigm. This results to collaborative opportunity.
Your question has extended the thought process and made me think. Thanks.16/09/2017 #132 Joanne Gardocki@Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee, thank you for the innocent graph that pulls together complex issues. A few month ago I wrote Stephen Willis in the Power through Collaboration(PtC) group on LinkedIn with similar connections of DiSC profiles with the five PtC Types: Competitor, Preditor, Enslaver, Cooperator and Collaborator. There are an incredible number of parallels with four quadrant models. I am wondering if you are seeing an "ascended" fifth take shape in your discussions and musings? May your musings take you to places of wonder and back again to share with our world.16/09/2017 #131 Cyndi wilkins#128 Thank you for your kind assessment of my profile @Harvey Lloyd...I will work very hard to live up to that;-) In this I also agree...
"But more often than we expect its not really a power grab as much a scream of self preservation. To feel safe in a work or social environment, each of us require different signals. Also an environment i find safe can become very unsafe when i include my family."
You can bet your boots on that...How many people are easily manipulated when the well-being of their families is threatened. Most of us I'd imagine.
And I love your comment on Phil;s buzz...
"The skill of empathy can be deployed, but until we believe that we all share a journey and believe in each other it will be difficult to exact success from the
And to you @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee...thank you for allowing me to share a link to my buzz here...I would not do that without invitation;-)
https://www.bebee.com/producer/@cyndi-wilkins/respect-simplicity-and-humility#c616/09/2017 #129 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#125 very true your comment is @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher. @Harvey Lloyd and I are trying to understand more how best to relate the WPD factor to the DISC profile. Some profiles are very logical for example and to find a way to awaken their passion is one of the issues that we are looking into.16/09/2017 #128 Harvey Lloyd#113 @Cyndi wilkins Your comments would state that you are probably a high S within the DiSC profile. I share that letter with you. With D being my dominate letter.
So this is something we share as being vigilante in identifying folks who destabilize and environment, no matter how they do it. I would want to note it is the motivation of the power grab/destabilizing, as i see it, that requires investigation before determination. I agree with your comments surrounding the sociopath power grabber.
But more often than we expect its not really a power grab as much a scream of self preservation. To feel safe in a work or social environment, each of us require different signals. Also an environment i find safe can become very unsafe when i include my family.
My larger point in the DiSC discussion is that we have the tools to discern whether we are dealing with pathological power grabs or if we are dealing with self preservation. A secondary point would be that we can help folks in the area of self preservation and reduce their stress levels and increase their creativity. Again, though, it would be difficult for me to assist the person who i have measured as a power grabber, so i must investigate.
We are talking a very few interactions before we discern the motives. Now once we identify the motives have at it in what ever course of action seems appropriate. I am afraid these days in the hype of media we tend to label and act. Frankl advised us, there is a gap between stimulus response and, we should use it to form our own opinion. Media is working hard with their polarization and labeling to close the gap, so we might agree and by the soap powder from their advertisers.16/09/2017 #127 Harvey Lloyd#122 I have given your question some thought and it is a good question. I believe we may start with WPD within a cycle of proactive processes. This is often met with some push back as others give immediate thought to ideas. This has the effect of diminishing our WPD and causing us to stop. So this brought the question forward how do some continue to hold on to WPD within adversity? Real or perceived.
Following this line of thought i believe i would answer your question by stating that WPD is a result. WPD is the result of many cycles of empathetic execution of goals and roles within life whereby you pushed through on small items. With each item growing in complexity that you have applied WPD.
The shield of faith grows around WPD as the scale of goals grows. One of the major bastions of great leaders is they believe in their people, goals and abilities. WPD is met with resistance but the cycles of success have created a defense system around the excitement.
All this to say that DiSC is one of the defense weapons we can utilize personally to protect our WPD when executing around our goals. Through understanding communications we may be able to reduce the impact of comments by others to simple misunderstanding and proceed with WPD.
The better we communicate in a goal oriented environment, the more cycles our WPD will survive. The more cycles, the more faith/confidence our WPD will mature in to.16/09/2017 #126 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#59 Thanks so much for sharing my last buzz @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee, sometimes I get notifications that state "So and so and 3 others shared your buzz," but I may not know who the others were. I was in a nostalgic mood last night. It's a good place to be!16/09/2017 #125 Lisa 🐝 GallagherYou made many valid points @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee. You buzzes always amaze me because you mind is very deep. Without curiosity, I don't think I would enjoy life. It can lead us down paths we may have never dreamed of. Never lose the child within :)16/09/2017 #122 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#120 thank you @Savvy Raj for commenting with such positive spirit. I equally happy that your observation is consistent with mine in that we practiced here the true effect of feedbsck comments.
Yes and it is amazing when we make others feel our curiousity to learn and to accept differences how discussions progress. The discussions here exemplify the value of leading with WPD factor prevailing.
You bring a new question to my mind. Even though it may sound trivial, but delving into it shows it is not. I hope you, @Harvey Lloyd and all great commenters here would consider it. To what level high level WPD leaders would need to know about the DiSC profile of his/her team members?16/09/2017 #121 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#119 you truly remind us of the basics that we tend to forget @Deb🐝 Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee. Curiosity and fear. I have just commented on the latest buzz by @Cyndi wilkins and she too brings these two factors in her buzz. Please Cyndi provide the link to your buzz as it is not easy to do now as I am using mobile phone.
Fear deprives us of curiousity. Even a fearful child shall be less creative and imaginative child that is allowed to experiment playfully his curiousity as your grandson is allowed to do Deb.
Your comment also reminds me of a previous comment here by @Harvey Lloyd in which he attended to the fact that D people may act sometimes because of thei fear.
We need to "Trust our emotions". To what extent can we do this if we act out of fear?
You bring many new thoughts and I am happy that you joined the discussions Deb.
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- Producer21/08/2017The Time Before DyingBuzz Submitted by : Paul WaltersBuzz : I Never Sang for My Father"Death alone merely ends our time on earth, however it fails to end relationships, which remain like an indelible stamp in the consciousness of those closest to the...
Comments27/08/2017 #19 Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee"We are constantly fearing death rather than constantly loving life and so at the root of that which should be HOME"
I went through a constant barrage of death-fearing in my thirties. It came to a point that I realized that as long as I feared death, I would never live.25/08/2017 #18 CityVP 🐝 Manjit#17 Breathing together @Joel Anderson is what is most important, your wife, your two daughters, your wife's sister, her husband, their mother - a time to breath together and that is the only wall of humanity we can erect that builds the fortress required at times like this. Fear is hardest in not knowing, but once what we fear has occurred, the certainty is something we can hold - it is the unknown that troubles us most. Prayer does remove some of this vacuum, but breath, that is a collective act to share with the living as all of you pay respects to the loved one that has passed.
At the moment of greatest despair comes the recognition of greatest love, those immediately around you, the blessing of having their breath and the strength that you are finding to come through this shared difficulty. You are not on your own because you have told me in your response the blessing of your own family.
The father who has passed has joined the ranks of ancestors but in you honouring him and paying your respects, you strengthen in your collective breath. It is impossible for human beings to breath alone on this Earth when we breath the same air. We are not astronauts trapped in space - we are human beings on Earth, with the blessings of knowing the very people who we now say goodbye to and yet still unite in our breath together. There will be calmer and sunnier times but we are not governed by our self at these times, these are the moments that bind us human beings and in that is the greatest blessing.25/08/2017 #17 Joel AndersonAnd the call came from my wife at 3:50 Wednesday morning with my wife and two daughters by his side. As much as I thought I would dread the call, it actually gave me relief, a strange calming comfort, and peace to know he was at rest. I checked back onto the net and was met with this and several other posts, that helped me immensely in navigating my ruts, put things into perspective. To just dance--just breath. We came home last night to regroup and prepare for the funeral on Saturday. We had only been home a few minutes and my wife's sister sent my wife a text that her husband had been called by his mother to come home as his father was not expected to make it through the night. When it rains it pours but rather than let all of this consume me, I will try to make the most out of the rain. Thank you all for helping me navigate my way through this.22/08/2017 #14 Tausif MundrawalaAfter the death of my progenitor I was depressed to an extent to forget myself in order to forget her. But my daddy and family members made me realize that you are doing injustice to her legacy. She won't like you shedding tears and slip into depression. As a kind of therapy I picked up a book in fact I ordered online a wonderful gift name 'Life after Life' by Kate Atkinson. Believe me it changed the perception of mine living life. To those in grief I would like to say that our loved ones are watching us from every sunshine we face, from every drop of rain which we can enjoy and from the moonlight which makes way for a light in a gloomy night. Sir you are an university from within and your children are very lucky to have you as a perfect guide for them. I love this buzz in its entirety,@CityVP 🐝 Manjit22/08/2017 #13 Harvey Lloyd#10 Your thoughts on the death hit the end processes quite well. I would like to add though, death reminds us of our vulnerability in life. That which is important becomes unimportant when we consider death.
I can remember loosing friends over the years and the discussions my wife and i had concerning all the drama of existence when we consider not being here tomorrow..
Our thoughts of end times should help us understand what is real while we are living. Not draw fear of our worthiness or loss of self.
Great thoughts @Cyndi wilkins22/08/2017 #11 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#10 So eloquently put @Cyndi wilkins. You mentioned the many fears that go through people's minds about death. I never thought of the dignity of dying the way you stated it and I love it. I agree fully, 'live with loving intention.' As I watched my mother die, it bothered me so much that she appeared to have lost her dignity (per se) and I remember thinking afterwards, how can people say, "He/She died peacefully?" Maybe that goes hand in hand with dignity. My mom lived a good life, her purpose in life was to live life to the fullest and love unconditionally, she succeed. This leaves me with a much better perspective, thank you because I've been struggling over the past year and half with watching the last days of her life here on earth. I even remember telling my siblings I could not be present when mom was on her way out... I was there, I held her, we all talked privately with her even though she was in a deep coma and then we all joined around her bed and spoke to her while we caressed her. I'd say within 5 minutes of us joining around the bed as a family, well she took her last breath. She died with dignity. :))21/08/2017 #10 Cyndi wilkins#5 Right on point @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher...I find it rather futile to fear the inevitable...But we ALL go there...I think the fear is in the process itself...Will it be painful?...Will it be a long suffering?...Will I KNOW I'm dying when it happens?...etc...Everyone has the right to a dignified departure...but not everyone passes in a dignified way...So how do we die with dignity?? We live with loving intention...We live with reverence for all of life...How we live so too shall we die.21/08/2017 #9 Harvey LloydI am "me" first, (family) "we" 2nd, and finally i am "us", third. What happens when us becomes the reflection of me? or; the order of this is rearranged. Can i truly describe "us" without defining "me"?
Your thoughts here delineate the separation of me and us. I can be part of us, but only after i have defined me. Otherwise i am defining myself through the relationship us demonstrates. A very uneasy thought. Your TAO video was on point.21/08/2017 #8 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBeeIn an extension of my previous comment I find this buzz of considerable value in writing great stories. It is the tension point (dilemma) on my graph in my new buzz "A Simple APproach to storytelling"
https://www.bebee.com/producer/@ali-anani/a-simple-approach-to-storytelling#c12 View moreIn an extension of my previous comment I find this buzz of considerable value in writing great stories. It is the tension point (dilemma) on my graph in my new buzz "A Simple APproach to storytelling"
This is reflected in your line again dear @CityVP 🐝 Manjit
"We are constantly fearing death rather than constantly loving life and so at the root of that which should be HOME. This is a great dilemma for story writers to consider. I simply love it. Close21/08/2017 #6 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee"We are constantly fearing death rather than constantly loving life and so at the root of that which should be HOME". This is the dilemma we face- we want to stay in our comfort zone and yet we live in fear of death? Is fear a comfort zone? We tend to kick ourselves out of the comfort zone while at the same time holding to it. Sometimes, the paradox of our behaviors amazes me.
Deep thoughts my dear @CityVP 🐝 Manjit21/08/2017 #5 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher"If I know others, I'm presemptive, if I know myself I am wise." " I do not put myself above others" By not claiming greatness, I achieve greatness," from the Tao of Leadership video. That video was full of words of wisdom.
"We are constantly fearing death rather than constantly loving life" I think many of us fear death, some more than others and there will always be some who don't. I know I have experienced that fear far more over the past year and a half and I'm working through it slowly. My sister had cancer as did her daughter (my niece) and they live life to the fullest. To live in a perpetual state of fearing death isn't living. I truly believe I was led to read this tonight. Thank you @CityVP 🐝 Manjit. Great points you made.21/08/2017 #3 Ian WeinbergIndeed @CityVP 🐝 Manjit let us live our lives in the present with one eye always beholding the last feeling that we will have before the lights go out forever at death. And let us live now to ensure that the last feeling is one of gratification. But that being said, let us be reminded that our our awareness in the present is a consequence of the interaction of the subjectivity of our individual narratives with life's endless challenges. And so gives rise to resultant awareness which ranges from unaware (unconscious) to full awareness of self and the extended environment. I would propose that the potential for change of awareness through coaching is therefore ultimately determined by the receptivity which exists within the personal narrative.
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