- Producer19/01/2017Lines in the Sand: Part IILast night in a hospital room with my father, while he slept, my grown and very smart daughter and I somehow embarked on a discussion about things coming up and looming in our future. The focus was on my father, but as we watched him sleep she...
- Producer19/01/2017Orange Cool-AidJonestown -- the largest mass sucicide in history. 909 men, women, and children. Orange Cool-Aid Primo Levy, the survivor, and chronicler of Auschwitz committed suicide in 1987. He was 67 years old. He took a header down a flight of stairs....
Comments20/01/2017 #16 FancyJ LondonI found a friend in a bathroom hanging from the top of a stall. It was something to this day was hard for me to forget. There were no warning signs, and I thought she was fine? I can understand when you say you are not happy. I often tell people the same. I am not... unhappy, but just sometimes down, fed up, tired of being misunderstood, and tired of answering to those who can understand, but refuse to. If that makes any sense to you? It is healing to share, thank you.20/01/2017 #15 Lisa 🐝 GallagherI think many of us think of death due to life's circumstances and well... as we grow older the reality sets in more. You witnessed some heavy duty stuff @jesse kaellis which makes some think of death even more so depending on where they are in life at the moment. I always question, well... where did we come from (you know that place we don't remember before our births?) and do we return to this place after our deaths. Life/death intertwines. Thanks for sharing Jesse!20/01/2017 #14 Pascal Derrienoh man that's a post and half @jesse kaellis, I too think about death but like you not in a obsessive fashion it is there as a fact that we (and others) will have to deal with, in the meantime we have to enjoy the bumpy ride the best we can :-) I am not sure about the grief counselor quote I am a crash survivor and had my face partially paralyzed and speech affected too, it sounds like new age BS on his part no ?20/01/2017 #10 jesse kaellisNo light at the end of this tunnel
Any recent news? You will be busy now, with your dad. It's a terrible time. When your parents begin dying, you lose your past and you step up to the turnstile.
I console myself that by outliving them, I have spared them the devastation of outliving their children.
Why is life so painful? But it is. I don't really believe in the silver lining thing or that it's a learning experience. Learn what? How to suffer? But I do believe in stoicism.
I would stop in to see my mom every day on my way to work. She died of cancer and she had it before and survived about 27 years. That’s a good run. In the end she was rotten with it. The cancer was all through her, even on her skin.
She lay there but she weighed about 65 pounds. Then I would get on the train and head for work. At the end she was in a light coma.
I worked a graveyard shift. She was close and I prayed; prayed for her to die. "Take her. Please." There was nothing left.
That body wouldn't support life. In the morning I stopped and looked on one last time and held her hand. I went home to bed and my father called me at about 2 pm and that was it.
I had cancer in 1985. It will come back and kill me in the end. I am certain. Or anyway, something will. I pray I don't outlive my sister. She is my best friend. After my dad dies it’s just her. I don't want to be alone. My life has been lonely.
It seems selfish, me talking about my loss and pain, when you are confronting your own pain. That's how it is though. My empathy for you comes from the places I've been.
I had to mourn my best friend. He passed at 31 years old. It's just weight.
I keep a place for you in a corner of my heart.20/01/2017 #9 jesse kaellis#8
My mom had a mastectomy in 1978. After that, she was cancer free until 2006. She adopted a macrobiotic diet and lived very carefully. Cancer returned with a vengeance, and it was all through her even on her skin. In the end, she lay at home, and she weighed about 65 lbs. My father was caring for her with the help of nurses that came into the home. This was in Canada. She tried chemo but it was too painful, and she decided she didn't want to do that for maybe an extra six months of life.
The doctor made home visits. My mother asked the doctor how long it would take to die if she stopped eating and drinking. "About six days." So that's what she did, and she did die in about six days. I might post a story above about that time in my life. My life and my families life.20/01/2017 #8 Rowan Leigh#4 I get affected by news stories occasionally, and the last one to really concern me was a guy who had 'locked-in syndrome(?)...he had a way to communicate but couldn't do anything for himself. He wanted to die, but would have to travel elsewhere to have assisted suicide. Because his wife would have to help him, he wanted clarification from the courts that she wouldn't be punished (a UK case). The courts said no to her helping him get to Switzerland (where it's legal). He had to refuse food and water in order to die, quite literally had to starve himself and I think it took 5 days. I was horrified at the inhumanity, we're quicker to be humane with dogs. :/
I'm very much 'an individual's right to decide' type of person...but sometimes it really is tragic for those left behind when someone makes that decision. Especially when it's an act of defiance against conditions which may well improve with time. Complicated stuff.20/01/2017 #7 jesse kaellis#2
Cyndi -- from what I understand they frown on suicide "over there." It's the wrong way to come. It's like throwing your gift in God's face. Just the same, everybody has a personal threshold. A grief counselor termed my friends death in a one-car accident a "passive suicide." It may have been that way. It seems like he threw his life away.20/01/2017 #5 jesse kaellisThis will fit.
I used to pull a muscle in the gym and think, "I'm going to be feeling this when I'm 65." I wish.
I started wearing out young. I worked hard, and I lived hard. Once I had a dream. I was living at the Peter Pan Motel off Fremont Street in downtown Las Vegas. I had been doing a lot of methamphetamines. I was smoking, drinking, and living hard. I worked as a dice dealer at the Las Vegas Club.
I had a dream, a brief dream towards the end of my sleep. I was in some ethereal place like I was in clouds with ancient people; men and women. They were old, ancient and indistinct. White robes. I saw two or three and sensed others. One of them told me, "You're going to live to be about 72. You don't have to live so hard. You've got time."
He told me that, but he had no voice. Why did I remember this dream? It was the complete lack of drama. Zero. And nobody said you're a bad boy drug addict. No censure, no judgment. They knew what I had to do.
If it is remotely possible that souls, Gods minions, could enter human consciousness then perhaps it would be just as corny as my dream. This is how I would be able to recognize them.
Did I slow down? I'm still here. That's all I can say. I tell people this, and they say stuff like, "72?! You'll live longer than that!" But if it’s 72, that’s fine. That's plenty.20/01/2017 #4 jesse kaellis#2 #3
I guess I'll address both your posts together, Beth and Rowan. I never understood suicide in response to chronic debilitating pain until just last November when I had two spinal surgeries in Mexico. Two surgeries back to back because I fell and a pin (screw) migrated. This was a spinal fusion, and he had to go in there again because the pin was close to a nerve.
I can say this; I will never judge somebody again who checks out early when they can't handle devastating, intractable pain. It was way more than I had anticipated and it ain't over yet.
My father is 87. He's in okay health but suffers from vascular dementia; I had a dream once. I'll post it above. My belief in an afterlife or multiple lives is not codified. But I am open to the possibility. My mom died in the spring of 2006. My best friend died in early summer of 1991. He was 31 years old. It will always haunt me.
Cyndi: thinking about death is not gloomy or depressing for me. I think it's normal to think about it. Every day I live could be my last day. Especially when I was riding my scooter. Death machines some people call them. I could imagine the impact. It was a fun, economical way to get around. I'll probably sell it now. I don't think I can ride it now. Thanks for taking the time you two.20/01/2017 #3 Rowan LeighI have no belief in an afterlife nor coming back another time...I see both as denials of death itself. I totally get why some people choose to end their life, but would always hope they wouldn't....things change, and given time, they might think differently. The terminally ill, the elderly and unhappy, there are sensible reasons behind the suicide of some.... Was talking to my partner today about ageing and how more kids will now survive til they're a 100. That got us onto the quality of life past the age of 75....
One of the most tragic cases I knew of personally was a girl of just 19. Hung herself after hearing her toddler son was to be put up for adoption. I still have a song stuck in my head every time I think of her. She was good friends with my eldest daughter and had spent time at my house as a mid-teenager.19/01/2017 #2 Cyndi wilkinsI don't believe one has to be suicidal to think about death Jess...In fact, I think it's the most natural thing in the world...To not think about it is simply denial...Because let's face it...We are ALL going there;-) We have had this discussion of suicide before and I know from your comments you are just as much a believer in multiple lives as I am...And suicide is not an option...For us I think it's more the completion of a contract..."Are we done here yet??? 'Cause I'd really like to move on to some more interesting shit!"
- Producer20/01/2017Touching With WordsIt's been a while since I've been active on beBee. Due to an attempt to keep my sanity, I cut my time on social media back and only wanted to post on one site. With LinkedIn's new changes, I can see that my decision to choose LI was a mistake.So, if...
Comments20/01/2017 #5 Sara JacoboviciI echo the "Welcome back @Rod Loader" you are hearing and will continue to hear. Love your post and I will include a word that @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher mentions in her comment, "meaning", in my comment. You write: "The words may not be any different from those shared by others, but the emotion or images we have attached, have raised these words above the rest we heard or read on that day." Powerfully written! I would just add that we also attach meaning we have previously formed based on our experiences. That is why, from my perspective, your statement "rings true".
- Producer20/01/2017FEELS GOOD TO BE A BEE - by Devesh BhattFeels good to be a Bee,A bee that is free.Let passions connect,Buzz with affinity.Feels good to be a Bee,Hiving on this Global Tree.The same nectar may yield,Countless variety.Feels good to be a Bee,Which is no other kind.My own brand of...
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- Producer27/10/2016Life abroad: the good, the bad and the plain uglyRecently there has been numerous articles around the importance of going out of your comfort zone and the lack of highly skilled graduates in the UK, especially in areas such as soft skills. To me, no other experience than living abroad bridges that...
Comments28/10/2016 #14 Alexandra Galviz#11 Thanks for your comment @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher, I'm glad you enjoyed the read. I think it's such an important experience that often a lot of people stop themselves from experiencing. Often it's the fear of the unknown, but once you get past that it's a great experience.28/10/2016 #11 Lisa 🐝 GallagherThis was a great read @Alexandra Galviz. Thank you for sharing your experience. My son and his fiance at the time moved to London after College and worked over there for 3 years. They traveled to so many countries, met so many people and experienced more in life than I've yet to experience. It really shaped their worldview and I'm so happy they chose to leave and work overseas. Posting this to twitter, this is a great story with wonderful messages contained within.28/10/2016 #10 David B. GrinbergBrilliant buzz, Alexandra. I like your message, "It may be difficult but through the failures you reach opportunities previously unavailable, stretch yourself beyond what you thought possible and grow more than you ever imagined." These wise words are universally applicable. Cheers!27/10/2016 #2 Vincent AndrewStudying abroad is definitely a challenging experience. Away from comforts of home. But definitely a steep learning curve. I enjoyed living abroad for ten years studying and living in a different environment. The culture abroad can be different. The way people speak, the way people do things. Always something new to learn.
- Producer19/01/2017A Rally on RelevantThis post is about relevants. The small orange icon at the bottom of a beBee post. BeBee relevants are important to writers. New writers, established writers, regular writers, all writers. It shows other Bees took the time to read and take...
Comments20/01/2017 #26 Mohammed Sultan@Gert Scoltz.Your post is relevant in its simplicity and clarity .It entertains my thoughts and manipulates my perceptions as a reader.The word relevant has some degrees;very and somehow and your article is really very relevant, because you use little and simple words in a big way and you mean what you say as a reader,too. If the writer want to change something in the readers mind, he has to change his perception first.He needs several impressions in readers mind,too, in order to have a higher rate of recall for his content.We also need contents which stretch our thinking beyond the norm and stretch beBee platform beyond the reach of other platforms.I,then, will click relevant,not only because of your content,but also also because there's so much humor with it,which many people find it very relevant in you.20/01/2017 #24 Lisa 🐝 GallagherVery good reminder @Gert Scholtz. I know there have been times I read, comment and then I'm quick to repost and forget to hit relevant. I actually will feel bad if I can't recall and I'm not able to find the post w/out going to the person's profile. I think another thing that is important, when we see people posting and they have zero relevant's yet the subject matter may be very interesting to people in certain hives... maybe it's just been missed? So I will read, possibly not comment but relevant the buzz and post it to hives I think are appropriate. People who do take a chance and produce their first buzz or two w/out interaction may not feel the desire to come back.20/01/2017 #19 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#12 #15 Well if I long form relevant, then @CityVP 🐝 Manjit must be a practitioner of the epic relevant.... if not the relevanting maxi-series. I tend to make sure I've freshened my beverage before I click on the see more for his style of relevanting.
Odds are he will take me someplace fascinating I could not anticipate!20/01/2017 #18 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#11 @Aleta Curry - From what I notice, commenting will bring a buzz to the top of the feed for all who follow the commenter - regardless of whether there is any tagging - which will generate a notification solely to whoever is mentioned.
Same for relevanting - when you click it orange, it pops the buzz to the top of the feed for your followers.
Basically the algorithm is based on time, and shows you stuff from who you follow and those hives you've joined and so seeing something means it was either shared into one of your hives or was published or commented/relevanted by someone who you follow.
Since I never see one buzz twice during any given scroll session, that means that commenting and relevanting simultaneously is less efficient than commenting and relevanting separately. I keep meaning to test and/or ask about the time frame for a these to be considered separate, but I'd guess an hour apart or more would guarantee that you would pop the buzz to the top of the feed for your followers twice, or even more times if you keep on commenting repeatedly.....20/01/2017 #17 Franci🐝Eugenia HoffmanRelevant is a nice gesture but it doesn't let you know if your post was actually read. I feel engagement is the best way to communicate to the author that you read the piece, which can lead to discussions, and in turn, can lead to more discussions.
If I click on relevant, I read the post. The majority of the time, I leave a comment. If it's a buzz sharing a musical video, then I click on relevant but I don't always leave a comment.20/01/2017 #15 CityVP 🐝 ManjitThe key takeaway for me in what you said about "relevant" is having our own standard of what we think is relevant. If our standards are wise then what we consider relevant is that wisdom, if we are simply reacting in terms of social convention, then that is simply spreading some love, and what is the harm in that? Ultimately how I hit the relevant button is because I have found actual relevance - and here the great missing word is AFFINITY.
I have a strong affinity with much of what you write, if not all. For me affinity and relevant are a loop that feed of each other. Both of these are beBee terms, but they are terms that emanate within us. Each time I press the relevant button, I am pressing the affinity button also. I can't or at least won't separate the two. Over time that means less becomes more, and that is how we are in life - we are not just planet dwellers, or nation dwellers, or city dwellers, or neighbourhood dwellers - at each successive iteration of relevance we move closer to home - and then in that home is a heart and in that heart is both affinity and relevance.
If my relevance is what others think is relevant then I give power to people to effect my heart, but if my heart is relevant I find the power in people by appreciating the relevance of their heart, then I not only know myself but I know you even more because I see you - or at least relevance as in your heart and that is the appreciation I send most, when I click on the relevance button. That is not about acknowledging the quality of the writing, but far more about acknowledging the quality of the human being here.
- Producer19/01/2017In my lifeIn my life, was on the radio, and I thought what a wonderful song for a dreary rainy Thursday in January. Our guests have come and gone and I thought this is a good time to think of people who have come and gone in my life. When I was involved in...
Comments20/01/2017 #5 Chad Carroll#4 Yes, choices. Also, it's been my experience that when there's conflict between friends, the choice doesn't always have to be black and white. When I'm disagreeing with a friend, or I feel the relationship is negative for all involved, I'll simply bump the friendship to a 2nd string sort of relationship. Where as we can stay in touch, be there when absolutely needed, but not cut ties altogether, and not wear each other thin with the constant conflict. True friends, will know when you need space, and vice versa.19/01/2017 #1 Lisa 🐝 GallagherI think becoming friends can be both serendipity and choice. Maybe in the end if we continue the friendship and it blossoms that is by choice. I have met some wonderful people on Social Media eg. and never thought I would end up becoming friends with them. A few of my good friends I've known for 5 years or more via social media. Those who are in my life and live close to me are by choice. I think when we are younger we choose friends for different reasons, I guess that would still be a choice? Good food for thought @Royce Shook!
- Producer18/01/2017Are we really SAFE?Hello, my dear fellow bees.Let me begin this post with a simple question?What do you know India for?INDIA a beautiful country where people from all around the globe visit, a country where gods & goddesses are prayed for blessings and...
Comments20/01/2017 #37 CityVP 🐝 Manjit#35 Dear Fatima, read the Huffington Post interview with Vice President Joe Biden
Where there is any portal of light shining through, grab it, bring it into view and then that is one more hole of hope, that light can get through. The coming generations will see more of this light than we were limited to, so long as we are not consumed by the very darkness that gets exposed in documentaries and instead see all of this as tiny steps towards a healthier view of humanity.19/01/2017 #36 AnonymousThank you @Sushmita Thakare Jain for sharing your brilliant post. According to a study carried out by the British NGO ActionAid, 79 percent of Indian women have already experienced violence or sexual harassment while out and about in the streets. There is several group of people in India, as “Blank Noise”, who have organised several events, including the “I never ask for it” campaign, to fight this terrible trend and to raise awareness about it. Keep going !19/01/2017 #35 🐝 Fatima WilliamsI loved Malaika Arora Khan tweet on what you shared above with everyone. And some of them give women the push they need. To stand up and fight for the respect that rightfully ours.
As Julie says "Every son, brother, father, or loving husband made it a mission to eliminate violence against women. These same men could be the best advocates and greatest allies in the struggle to keep their mothers, sisters, daughters and wives safe on earth. It should begin in every family for the change to happen. Well said Julie Hickman
@CityVP 🐝 Manjit so back at that time I watched several broken clips but had never watched the whole documentary. Thank you for sharing this with us. My heart ached watching the video and the way the criminals spoke of rape. May her soul R.I.P. If ask me about the politicians it only makes me squirm. Can a country run without such people. Is it possible to throw all these baised men out and appoint new ones ! I don't know how to answer that question after Hilary lost the elections.
Thank you19/01/2017 #33 🐝 Fatima WilliamsThank you @Sushmita Thakare Jain for talking the hearts of many women in India. Your voice is my voice and together the sound can be thundering. When ever a women is disrespected in India there comes a feeling of powerless in me as a women. What could I have done if had to be there ? Even I had no self defense lessons at the time in 2012 when Jyothi lost her light to the darkness that enveloped her. It could have been me ! I was in Delhi a couple of months just before this incident happened.
My sisters and me we are 3 girls and my mother struggled to bring us up but she taught us to be bold .She always said I wish I had a son. Which of course has changed as I showed her it doesn't have to only be a man, to look after the family , a women like me can also do it. I helped her raise and educate my sisters and run the family as my dad fell sick ,had a stroke and couldn't work. At the age of 16 and took up my family responsibilities. I had not been bold until 2012 as well. Infact this incident is so close to my heart and it made me the bold women I never knew I had in me. My mentality before used to be like if a guy is approaching I should run in the opposite direction. Today, if a guy challenges me I'd challenge him back. When she ( Jyothi ) died she buried our fears and when we cried we drowned our f change the mindset of the children when they grow up. Teach them that there is no man or woman and everyone is a human and a being with life. To give respect and get respect. Sex should be commonly spoken off and not discreet and I can go on. But, at the end of the day it is the mindset. The ones who are spoilt rotten cant change. I am wishing that this generation is bolder, smarter and kinder children a and have a safe world around them.19/01/2017 #32 Ella de JongDear Sushmita do you know Anu Aggarwal? Today I saw a post on LinkedIn about her work in India. She wrote about: ... "Since the very start, my teens, this is what my dream was!– "Better people's lives". A trained social worker, MSW I saw "sexual repression" and bursting population of india, a huge hurdle in this. So glamorous star, in the early 90s, i openly talked about sex even if it hurt me public image then, and accepted to endorse and be the Brand Ambassador of a condom. ..." You two seem to fight a good fight!19/01/2017 #29 Julie HickmanI have no answers to the utter evil of rape and the general population being accepting of the status quo. Women are meant to be cherished and are an undeniable force for the good of mankind.
One could just imagine if every son, brother, father, or loving husband made it a mission to eliminate violence against women. These same men could be the best advocates and greatest allies in the struggle to keep their mothers, sisters, daughters and wives safe on earth. Don't be silent. Thank you @Sushmita Thakare Jain for your advocacy and thank you @Donna-Luisa Eversley for including me in the discussion.19/01/2017 #22 Sushmita Thakare Jain#7 @Donna-Luisa Eversley thank you for sharing the post, my dear! I am flattered by the response never knew random words unedited but from the heart can be effective. Thank you for motivating me in expressing myself and my feelings. I feel the same way each time a woman or a girl is victmized by these beasts. Our words cannot do justice to them but it can help in raising voices so that this inhuman act doesn't happen again not here but anywhere in the world.19/01/2017 #21 Sushmita Thakare Jain#6 @CityVP 🐝 Manjit will definitely check the video out. I so connect with you on banning, remember even the Nirbhaya case episode was banned by Indian Broadcasting commission and made to reshoot cutting most parts of it.
But, that doesn't change the truth. Does it?
- Producer09/01/2017It’s a Grill, an Oven, a Smoker – The Big Green EggI was looking for something different to make on my Big Green Egg this past weekend since we had a break in the rain. I randomly found this recipe by Judy Cowan for Simple Stromboli.Stromboli triggered a nice memory from many years ago, when I lived...
Comments19/01/2017 #9 Paul "Pablo" CroubalianNice first try, Wayne. I'm getting impressed with the BGE.
On the subject of washes: In order of what darkens most: Egg yolks, Simple syrup (50/50 by weight of water and sugar), 35% cream, Whole Egg, Milk, Egg white, plain water
Try this EZ pizza dough, enough for two good strombolis or one 14" pizza (you'll need a scale. Weights in grams) Instant yeast: 5g, All-Purpose flour: 255g, Lukewarm Water: 175g, Salt 4g, Oil: 15g
If you have a stand mixer: Dump everything in the bowl. Mix at lowest speed until combined. Mix another 5-8 minutes until less "shaggy" at next to lowest speed.
By hand: Dump everything in a bowl and mix thoroughly. Transfer to a large floured surface and get your hands dirty. Knead until smoother.
Let sit covered for 30 minutes. Punch it down. Let sit covered for another hour. Portion and use19/01/2017 #8 Paul "Pablo" CroubalianNice first try, Wayne. I'm getting impressed with the BGE.
On the subject of washes: In order of what darkens most: Egg yolks, Simple syrup (50/50 by weight of water and sugar), 35% cream, Milk, Egg white, plain water
Try this EZ pizza dough, enough for two good strombolis or one 14" pizza (you'll need a scale. Weights in grams) Instant yeast: 5g, All-Purpose flour: 255g, Lukewarm Water: 175g, Salt 4g, Oil: 15g
If you have a stand mixer: Dump everything in the bowl. Mix at lowest speed until combined. Mix another 5-8 minutes until less "shaggy" at next to lowest speed.
By hand: Dump everything in a bowl and mix thoroughly. Transfer to a large floured surface and get your hands dirty. Knead until smoother.
Let sit covered for 30 minutes. Punch it down. Let sit covered for another hour. Portion and use18/01/2017 #1 Donna-Luisa Eversley@Wayne Yoshida hahaha.. gosh I am feeling hungry just looking at your "wayneboli" ! It sure looks appetizing. Think you might be onto something here.
Hey folks check this out.. @Paul "Pablo" Croubalian @Pascal Derrien @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher @John White, MBA @Don 🐝 Kerr @🐝 Fatima Williams
- Producer16/01/2017Dealing with Mental Illness at WorkI read this piece via The Telegraph yesterday, and it struck a chord. A number of my family members suffer from bipolar disorder, and I lost my cousin Sarah to it last year. I was diagnosed with "Mood disorder - Not otherwise specified" some years...
Comments17/01/2017 #14 Lisa 🐝 GallagherHi @Sandra Smith, I agree, the stigma needs to end. I don't see it ending anytime soon because of the lack of awareness, education and quite frankly many people still do see Mental Illness as a weakness, not a real illness. I have written a lot about Anxiety Disorder and the stigmas attached, including the workplace too. Maybe if more of us keep writing, supporting each other's writing, one day the voices will grow louder and together, we can all affect change. Thanks for sharing this!17/01/2017 #12 Harvey Lloyd#10 I would say that you have cornered the issues in a single sentence. I believe lawyers get a bum wrap to some degree, as humans tend to think because they have been wronged according to their philosophy they can seek $ain. Then add in the topping of costs and insurance companies, the gain exists due to cost to litigate. A vicious cycle of precedents.16/01/2017 #8 Harvey Lloyd#7 I hope you did not read into the comment the lack of need but rather the stirring issues on each side of the equation. It is an issue that requires input, insight and action. More importantly i sense that society is moving forward and the need for all to engage exists. This introduces a deeper challenge of mankind.16/01/2017 #7 Sandra Smith#5 Thank you, @Harvey. Exactly right - you cannot show favouritism at work. But you can foster an environment where it is not seen as favouritism - because there is a genuine need for that person's accommodations. For example, at Symbian, a senior-staffer had a syndrome that made her very tired during the day. So she was allowed to have a couch in her office to rest on. No-one begrudged her because it was explained why she needed it. Of course, having a room with a day bed that anyone can use may be a more fair and diplomatic way to tackle the problem, if practical...16/01/2017 #5 Harvey Lloyd@Sandra Smith a compelling post. Having lead many people within the construction industry and now in the education industry, I am recognizing this as a growing concern. We work with folks at a very personal level to help them achieve job satisfaction.
We have recognized that this is the best way to address the minor/major issues that are brought on by an individuals perceptions of themselves. I will have to say though, leadership has to have a very strong personal conviction to address this in the workplace. Although some of the returns on investment are great the fall out within the larger group can be costly.
Giving an individual special consideration due to mental illness can be seen as favoritism to others who are experiencing temporary bad judgement. Leaders must balance the support of one by the perceptions of others within the workforce. This is not a cop out statement but rather an understanding that the issues of mental illness are growing and the leadership will require a different perspective. But so will co-workers.16/01/2017 #4 Sara Jacobovici@Sandra Smith writes: "Open, honest environment needed.
This is why I am writing my piece too. Employers need to start working to create an open environment. Where mental illness is identified, discussed and supported. Not pushed under the carpet and stigmatised. Otherwise they will end up losing talent, and that talent may end up losing themselves."16/01/2017 #2 Don 🐝 Kerr@Sandra Smith "Employers need to start working to create an open environment. Where mental illness is identified, discussed and supported. Not pushed under the carpet and stigmatised. Otherwise they will end up losing talent, and that talent may end up losing themselves." Wouldn't that be brilliant? One can only hope. Will share and thanks for this.
- Producer17/01/2017Freewheeling !!!Before I launch into this piece I should perhaps fill readers in with a few details on how management works in our household.Management here rises each day 5.30am and I watch through slitted eyes, feigning sleep as she ponders whether to a) don her...
Comments19/01/2017 #14 Deb 🐝 HelfrichWe now know why management makes the big bucks. A keen ability to match workers with their current skillset. This was one tremendously breezy read, @Paul Walters. I felt the wind thru my hair the entire read down the page....
I am now wondering just how I can full-fat-milk people for much money while taking all the effort out of their weekend adventures....this is one genius genus of vacation business concepts.19/01/2017 #13 Sarah Elkins#11 Oh yes, @Paul Walters, when you get to Montana we'll get outside for some fun outdoorsy stuff. If you're here in summer, we'll take a leisurely float on the Missouri River in our kayaks, accompanied by a cooler with beer and gin/tonic, and yummy snacks. Just let me know when you choose to hit the mountains as a break from your tropical paradise!18/01/2017 #11 Paul Walters#10 @Sarah Elkins Thanks for that. I seriously have to get to Montana it looks simply gorgeous and if I do happen to get there you could take me skiing , gentle slopes please and all downhill if you wouldnt mind. Thanks for stopping by and please remember the article was full of hyperbole ... I do exercise...I mean I did get up this morning !18/01/2017 #10 Sarah ElkinsThat's my kind of ride, @Paul Walters! And I could have used something like that on Sunday, instead of the downhill skiing I did. Not at all the same thing, not at all relaxing. My leg workout a few days before set me up for disaster on Sunday. I had to step after every couple of turns to lean forward and stop my thighs from burning. So. Much. Pain. It took two of those runs before my legs loosened up and I was able to enjoy myself. Of course, at least I wasn't trying to ski uphill!17/01/2017 #8 Kevin PashukThoroughly enjoyable read Paul.. I must commend you on your negotiation skills that let you stay home whilst the senior management goes out to exercise.
As for the bike ride? My wife and I did a similar thing in Hawaii... 30 km of coasting. Almost as good as the other type of 'bike' riding I do... which involves a motor and leather jacket.17/01/2017 #1 Lisa 🐝 GallagherAh, how I enjoyed this story @Paul Walters! Kudo's to management, she sounds extremely fit... I could take lessons from her but 5am is too early for me? The coffee beans, uhm, no thanks on this end either! Wait a sec, if you peddled downhill to get to your destination, didn't you have to peddle uphill to get back? Glad you had a good time and never rule out the Tour De France! :))
- Producer17/01/2017Two Years Traveling Down A Dark RoadLearning to Live Differently, Balancing Personal and Professional Selves After TragedySince I lost my son, Drew at 22 years old, to an undiagnosed medical condition, I've learned a lot about myself as I've navigated a treacherous and dark road. It...
Comments18/01/2017 #8 Preston Vander Ven@Tom Mitchell, thank you for your story. It was very powerful. I to had a similar experience. It was not with a child, yet with my oldest brother. For some reason, my eyes were not open to the direction of my life until I lost him in 2001. I learned at that moment time is precious. Now looking back at my older brother, whom I am now older than, feels inspiring. I feel I need to pass the wisdom in my family because he is gone.17/01/2017 #7 Laura Mikolaitis@Tom Mitchell, first let me say that I am sorry for your loss. Second, this is a beautifully written, honest and poignant post. Thank you for sharing this chapter of your life and for demonstrating to us that you can come out on the other side. I can't begin to imagine what your loss must have been like and I'm not going to pretend to understand. I don't. I have never experienced the loss of a child. But I have suffered the loss of a parent and I do know that grief can often lead us to new roads (often via the dark ones), and instill hope where there wasn't hope before. It seems that your dark road now has ambient light shining upon it and that you have found new purpose. I wish you and your family well.17/01/2017 #3 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher@Tom Mitchell, Thank you for sharing such a personal story and that's an understatement. I admire your strength and courage. I'm am very sorry for your loss, I can't imagine what a parent goes through after the loss of a child. I think it's wonderful that you are channeling your energy in a positive manner. Helping others also helps us too. I'm not going to lie, my heart sunk when I read of your loss! I bet your son is smiling down on you and your are also teaching your other son invaluable lessons, to help others is the greatest gift we can offer.17/01/2017 #2 Aaron SkogenI cannot fathom the loss of a child @Tom Mitchell, my heart aches for you and your family. I sense a strong and courageous spirit in your words. I sense a message of living with a purpose, and that is something I am certain your son would be proud of. Thank you for sharing. All my best to you!
- Producer17/01/2017The Coffee Habit: What can you learn from your coffee obsession?Preface: Even if you don't enjoy coffee, please read. I think you'll still be able to get something valuable from doing so.I drink a cup (or four) of coffee every week day without even thinking about it. It's like my brain subconsciously urges my...
Comments17/01/2017 #1 Lisa 🐝 GallagherNice way to approach changing a habit you want to break @Kyle Kumpf. I do enjoy coffee but I'm lucky, I only drink 1 maybe 2 cups per day. I did give up smoking over 4 years ago. When I did it, I told no one. I found in the past I would tell others I was going to give it up and I added more pressure to myself. After 4 weeks of not smoking I felt safe to share it with others. I am proud that I've been smoke free for over 4 years now. On another note: Exercise- I find if you have a partner to go with and hold each other to it well, it makes exercising more bearable for one and both people are accountable. Nice buzz!
- Producer17/01/2017Broken: When the struggle feels a little too real.I work very hard at being positive. I surround myself with positive quotes, I have a spiritual life, I have a vested interest in myself and in making the world a better place. I try to do all the right things, read the right things, do the right...
Comments17/01/2017 #13 Todd JonesJulie, I cope with the occasional bout of the blues by trying to recognize and remember that nine times out of ten, it's not so much what is going on out in the world, but what's going on in my brain. My perceptions. I tell myself repeatedly, "This too shall pass."
Thankfully, I have discovered that my brain is somewhat like an etch-a-sketch, and that a good nights sleep works wonders. Very often, it seems that the act of sitting up in the morning shakes the screen of my mind if not clean, at least considerably less vivid. I suppose this is one of the rewards of having been blessed with a limited intellect :)
Most of all, I try really hard not to take myself nor my perceived problems too seriously.17/01/2017 #12 Lisa 🐝 GallagherWow @Julie Sullivan, I feel like I was meant to read this tonight. I had a similar experience last night on Facebook. I went through my timeline and saw just a few things, then I broke down crying hysterically too. I called my daughter and told her I was going to deactivate my FB page because I could not take the toxicity on there anymore and wanted to warn her so she wouldn't wonder why she couldn't find me on there. I rarely allow myself to break down and cry in front of my kids but I did last night. She agreed it was the best thing to do and said she may do the same soon. After I deactivated my page I felt a sense of relief. I don't miss it. My daughter was so cute, she even sent me a positive quote and posted it on pinterest for me. After the rain, we can see rainbows and the sunshine. Thanks for sharing this!17/01/2017 #11 Julie SullivanSo I guess maybe a bit of backstory: I spent most of my younger years pretty much the opposite of positive. I've dealt with depression, anxiety and anger for a lot of my life: conscious re-framing is what I've trained myself to do. It's pretty
much changed my world for the better. So much of your story and of the world is
How you choose to tell it, and the way you choose to interpret that of others. But it's also totally a process. I really appreciate all the feedback!17/01/2017 #10 Max🐝 J. CarterThank you @David B. Grinberg I do have a few thoughts on it.
They have done studies that show that people who have a form of spirituality in their life deal with better than those who do not.
They tend to outperform at work around those who do not have a form of spirituality in their life.
In my study and experience as a Shaman we are not physical beings in need of a spiritual life, we are spiritual beings in learning how to be human. Science has been catching up and some even say that when you start in physics you become an atheist and after while you realize God does exist.
Nikola Tesla said some of his ideas came from entities he was in contact with.
Einstein even noted the importance of spirituality.
Personally I find the song THE LIGHT by Disturbed does it for me these days..
I am the Rock 'N' Roll Shaman and music is my main form of spiritual comfort as I connect soul to soul with the artists realizing that if every word is heard as an open prayer than every word we sing is as worship.
That said I also respect any form of spiritually some one chooses for themselves as long as they are not asked to harm animals or humans in their spiritual practices.
To sum up if you don't have a form of spirituality in life you do not deal with life as well as those who do and that is the result of several studies not my opinion.17/01/2017 #9 Robin BartonThank you for the openness. I've been there many times so I totally understand, especially when we still have to be an adult! I find that being in nature helps me breathe, helps me think, and helps me heal. I also love to collect quotes and write them down in a small notebook. I use different colored pens and markers to make it creative. I doodle. I'll use stickers. Whatever catches my imagination. Creativity is calming, even snippets of it. When I need a pick me up, I pull the latest version of my notebook and read quotes. Just a few things I do. :)17/01/2017 #8 Aleta Curry#4 I think I know what you're saying here Phil, and I would say something somewhat similar. I don't think it's so much an excess of positivism as it is looking at the world in completely the wrong way. Somehow our belief systems: our national myths, our religions, the ethics we were taught etc. all conspire to have us believe that if we do right, Life will be fine. Rather, I think we should say that Life does what it does, you have to be ready to deal with it.17/01/2017 #6 Aleta CurryAmong many fun things at beBee is the fact that we're always 'meeting' new people and, via them, discovering new ways to stretch our brains: reinforce what we knew to be right, learn something we didn't know, and occasionally change our minds about something.
Julie, your post reminds me of how lucky I am. I can say this without feeling that I'm bragging because I had nothing to do with it; it's the result of the genetic lottery, and the luck of having my upbringing, by which I mean that a) I'm inherently an optimist, and b) as much as I might sometimes have castigated my parents for their mistakes in childrearing, I should bless them for having given me the basic tools to deal with what Life throws at me, and the ability to acquire tools I need and don't yet have.
Interestingly, being a pollyanna doesn't mean that I never get down; when I crash I can crash hard. I don't tend to stay down for very long, however. I'm not a mental health professional so I can't definitively tell you why I'm the way I am (beyond what I've already suggested) but here are some of the things I do when overwhelmed:
a) a small task - not the time to paint the house, but something little like sweeping the floor or washing the dishes b) go outside (or gaze out the window if the weather is inclement) it's amazing how good this is for me c) sing aloud - change songs if I find myself singing something depressing d) stop what I'm doing and distract myself completely if it's really bad, like put on a comedy DVD or something.17/01/2017 #4 Phil FriedmanJulie, I am personally wont to point out that cynicism is often the last refuge of an idealist. Sometimes an excess of positivism reduces one's ability to bend with the bad and the ugly in the world, and instead increases the chances that one will break. In other words, do not expect that love and a positive attitude will conquer all, and you might not be shattered when they do not. Nice post. A lot of common sense here. And I think a genuinely uplifting message. Cheers!17/01/2017 #3 David B. GrinbergThanks for your profound and poignant post, Julie. I think many people turn to faith, religion and/or spirituality during very troubling times. Personally, I've always found the Psalms to be deeply comforting. Please note I'm a secular, albeit spiritual, person.
cc: @Max🐝 J. Carter any thoughts, Max?
- Producer16/01/2017COLOR AND SCENT! ARE THEY MALEVOLENT?Rose, jasmine, lily What an amazing family Having scent, could be easily recognized What a unique quality to be mesmerized Surprisingly sprouted from the same soil They separately toil To make an identity of their own In...
Comments17/01/2017 #2 Lisa 🐝 GallagherI wish our world was as beautiful as nature that surrounds us. I wish the smells that can calm our senses have an effect on eternity. I wish everyone cared for others. I wish everyone felt. I see so much good around me but when I turn on the news, that's when I see reality and it hurts. It hurts to see others treat their fellow humans in a mean fashion, it hurts me to know there are some who enjoy watching others hurt emotionally and physically. Beautiful poem and analogy as always @debasish majumder17/01/2017 #1 Jeet Sarkar"When frantic take the charge to rule and quell
The planet where we harmoniously dwell
Though meager their numbers, yet they dominate and ridicule
Make them vociferous with their perilous tune
Causing detriment to mankind without any qualms
What a melodrama they beat with humdrum!"
excellent post Sir @debasish majumder. the comparison between the present world and the beauty of nature is just outstanding. thank you for sharing it !
- 16/01/2017A message of love related to MLK day by @Ben PintoMartin Luther King, Junior - Civic Reviverwww.linkedin.com People ask me what a civic reviver is. I would like to think that it is someone who is trying to bring civil awareness to communities one at...
- Producer16/01/2017Literature and Life: How One Leads to the OtherAs a youngster, books satisfied my interest in history -- military and ancestoral.As a youth, they quenched my thirst for information related to a new and exciting interest -- contemporary music.The British Invasion was in full swing and the Beatles...
- Producer15/01/2017Shadow BoyNot always easy to make new acquaintances when you blow in a hood where you don’t know anybody. Sometimes you get picked on because you have a different accent or because people don’t warm easily to novelty. Now I had become a master at integrating...
Comments17/01/2017 #40 Pascal Derrien#39 thank you @Bernard Poulin I am pretty humbled by your comments, I am just a regular guy who likes to play with words and it seems this small vignette for some reasons is resonating with people, it says more about the people who made some comments than the post it self I suppose17/01/2017 #39 Bernard PoulinThere is a serious difference between all the artwork created in the world and "art". Artwork is a thing which says nothing more than that "we made something" - a physical thing, a product. At other times our artwork begins to speak on its own. It reaches out to others and touches and moves them. This is what has happened here: : universal impact. It is a rare 0ccurrence in artwork but is always present in art. Art - that which is transferred from our "insides" to the canvas or paper or stone - and once freed to speak - emerges from the artwork, reaching beyond the creator to speak and share itself with and "give" to others because that is what art does.. Bravo. This is "art". (and I'm not easily brought into the common ordinary fold that considers everything we do art.)16/01/2017 #37 Pamela 🐝 WilliamsThis story touched me Pascal. Being a child growing up in a military family we moved constantly. I had siblings, 6 in fact and all extroverts, which at times was overwhelming to this introvert. I too was described as a 'loner'. But then I was shuffled around, a lot. I lived with grandparents from ages 2-5, and they moved almost every year, whenever my grandfather moved on to minister a new church. Then I was sent to my Mother when it was time to start school. I turned to books and became a bookworm, always reading, because to be quite honest; I always felt like the outsider around my mother and siblings. As I look back now I realize my friends were Nancy Drew, The Hardy Boys, Laura Ingells Wilder and so many other characters...
These memories stay with out, become part of us, and as I always started my stories; we are all our histories.16/01/2017 #32 Kevin PashukLove the picture, and the story @Pascal Derrien. I can identify with the multiple moves as a kid. My father was transferred to new communities on a fairly regular basis.
Your story awoke a memory of a poem that was in a school book from when I was in early grades at school. I only remember the first line, but thanks to Google, it turns out it was written by Robert Louis Stevenson and is quite germane to your post.
BY ROBERT LOUIS STEVENSON
I have a little shadow that goes in and out with me,
And what can be the use of him is more than I can see.
He is very, very like me from the heels up to the head;
And I see him jump before me, when I jump into my bed.
The funniest thing about him is the way he likes to grow—
Not at all like proper children, which is always very slow;
For he sometimes shoots up taller like an india-rubber ball,
And he sometimes gets so little that there's none of him at all.
He hasn't got a notion of how children ought to play,
And can only make a fool of me in every sort of way.
He stays so close beside me, he's a coward you can see;
I'd think shame to stick to nursie as that shadow sticks to me!
One morning, very early, before the sun was up,
I rose and found the shining dew on every buttercup;
But my lazy little shadow, like an arrant sleepy-head,
Had stayed at home behind me and was fast asleep in bed.
- Producer14/01/2017I am a Beekeeper (Apiarist)I was fascinated by honeybees since I spent a summer, at the Ravanica monastery; the mother superior, was my father's friend and she and the orthodox sisters took me in when my mom was hospitalized with an illness. The Serbian Orthodox monastery...
Comments14/01/2017 #9 Pamela 🐝 Williams#7 David, I'm now following quite a few Bee organizations on Twitter and will try to get some followers from those groups through Paul's Growth Hacker portion of his App. Though I'm not sure I want to use the term "leverage" :-) I saw it the other way around: How can we use our 'bee' identity to help the pollinator crisis occurring around the globe.14/01/2017 #7 David B. GrinbergWow, Milic, you're like an bee encyclopedia. This is likely the most comprehensive buzz about real bees ever on this platform. Here's my question to all: how can bebee leverage the unfortunate fact -- now being broadly reported in mainstream media worldwide -- that bumble bees have placed on the USA's Endangered Species List for the first time??? http://www.nbcnews.com/science/environment/bumble-bee-species-declared-endangered-u-s-first-time-n706321
cc: @Javier 🐝 beBee @Matt 🐝 Sweetwood @John White, MBA @Milos Djukic @Jim Murray
- Producer12/01/2017Ambassadorship~ Do I Qualify?I am humbled by my recent designation as a beBee Brand Ambassador, but, philosophical musings began to arise- maybe I think too much; maybe not. I do accept it and if for any reason it is revoked in the future, I will not be bitter about that...
Comments15/01/2017 #43 Praveen Raj GullepalliHey Chas! Congrats again! Outside beBee land Brand Ambassadors are engaged/contracted or bought to endorse something good (or even dubious), irrespective of their patronage or conviction in the efficacy of the product or service being endorsed. Here the only thing that matters is your belief in beBee. If you got the title from beBees, rest assured, you earned it in full. What's left to do is to do what AmBees are supposed to do, best you can ;) I felt like an AmBee long before it was announced. I even expressed that. Because I believed then as I do now that this is the place for incubating value-based relationships that go the distance. That go into personal space as deeply as they do into professional space. Keep buzzing away!15/01/2017 #42 Lisa 🐝 GallagherI just read through the comments and agree with everyone. If Javier feels you qualify, then by golly, you sure do! @Chas ✌️ Wyatt, you are an uplifting person with a very positive attitude. I'm glad you were appointed. Loved reading about your journey on Social Media. I used to be a myspace addict until it fell apart, then we all left at once and joined Facebook. I have a love/Hate relationship with facebook. We don't use it for business because it doesn't suit my husband's needs. I used to have fun being 'me' on facebook until family members I hardly know found me, friends from HS found me and on the list goes. Now, I feel I can't just let loose like I used to there. That was sort of my playground ;-) My first experience with chat on the internet was using Windows 3.11 IRC. Wow... talk about a dinosaur but I made connections and even went to Penn State and volunteered at a golf outing for some friends I met online. I attended their awards dinner and met the infamous Jerry Sandusky and Joe Paterno... ick, cant believe I actually shook hands with Sandusky now!15/01/2017 #38 Gerald Hecht#37 @Aleta Curry I hope that you are feeling better; I just wanted to say that both you and @Chas ✌️ Wyatt make me feel less isolated --I also have no FB, Twitter, Snap, Instagram, etc. accounts --I feel like I don't know what's going on half the time...but that's the "price" I guess... I don't want those things.
Again Chas, I think that you are a cool (and cool headed) ambassador!15/01/2017 #37 Aleta CurryThanks for tagging me, Chas ✌️ Wyatt Sorry, I had a medical emergency (sudden, severe drop in Iron levels) and I've been resting (yes, really!) for a couple of days.
I see everyone has already addressed your 'fitness for ambassadorship' questions, so there's nothing for me to add. I will speak a little to your chronicle of your social media journey, though, which I read with great interest. I think we've been at beBee a comparable length of time, though you were here first and I remember how happy I was when I got your 'follow'. Your social web journey is very similar to mine, and these are the reasons, I daresay, you brought this to my attention.
Since I have spent so much time marketing my business, I have tended to stick to the large venues, with one caveat: the system has to work for me, that is, it has to be pretty intuitive and easy to use. I also have to get the feeling that there is engagement of some sort; the writer in me just wants to know that *someone* is reading what I write. beBee answers that for me, so that's why I'm here and that's why I tell others about it. It's really a matter of customer satisfaction: you put out a good and useful product, your fame spreads by word of mouth. That's it, really.
Like you, I still don't get the charm of Twitter; Facebook I do use because, as I've said before, Facebook for business is invaluable to what we do. Since you mention Pinterest, I'll say that it might suit you, because you are an artist. I have an account there but just can't keep up so it's staledated. I might also suggest Ello; the reason I'm not active there is because it's such a visual platform that seems to really suit people with portfolio, which is why I mention it to you.
Okay, that's it. And yeah: you're a great Ambassador, blah blah blah. :D13/01/2017 #32 Bill Stankiewicz, 🐝 Brand AmbassadorChas, you are an honest to goodness representative, and a true ambassador. I agree with Chas, and do I truly love what Javier beBee, Juan Imaz and the entire beBee team have created. What a group duo here & all the Bee's that I met over the past year. beBee will continue to be very successful & has great spirit. Best regards, Bill Stankiewicz13/01/2017 #29 🐝 Fatima Williams@Chas ✌️ Wyatt Your straight-forward and down to earth attitude makes you a very special beBee and you contribute in your own unique way which make the experience even more special to us all.
I thank Javier and his team and the awesome ambassador team that we are super proud to be a part of. #beBeesforever
@Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman Love the poem 🤗❤🤗13/01/2017 #26 Emily🐝 BeeChas, if @Javier 🐝 beBee & @Juan Imaz think you're good, then you're good! Take this honor and bee proud. Clearly you are doing enough to get you the Ambassador name and that's awesome. Keep it up. Great article by the way detailing your Social Media travels between so many platforms. :-)
- Producer13/01/2017You CAN see through others eyesTime is not my own. That said, I'm sure if I was to manage it properly, I would have some time! It is laziness or a lost art - bit of both? Actually, it the manifestation of chaos..... :)Generally I write about medical stuff - badly; in cranky...
Comments15/01/2017 #29 Lisa Vanderburg#28 aw...thanks @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher, it was very tough, but it was also a time of the most intimate of love shared. You are so right - sisters ARE special! I pray yours with remain free of her cancer!
Hubby's just 'graduated' (he's the optimist, thank God!) to a walking stick, but a wheelchair for temporary work will follow soon. Parkinson's tend to act like growth-spurts in kids...just the other way :)15/01/2017 #28 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#27 I'm really sorry you lost your sister @Lisa Vanderburg. I can't imagine how tough that had to be. My sister had stage 3B breast cancer 10 years ago and I still pray her check up's are OK. Loss is never easy when we love someone, sisters are special... they understand us in ways no one else could. How cool that you are trying to find your creativity in writing. It sounds like your husband is maintaining right now?! Sending hugs your way!!15/01/2017 #27 Lisa Vanderburg#25 Oh I so feel for you, @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher! My sister died 2 years and 4 days ago from cancer - I looked after her until the end - at home, the way it should be! We were BFF and soul-mates; heart-wrenching, but it was both beautiful and rewarding - no regrets - (just wish she was here!).
I'm really here to try and stretch my creativity in writing - see if I have a 'style' at all! I expect me and hubby have as much as 10 years - maybe more, so I'm not gonna mess that up :) Thank you for your kind words!15/01/2017 #25 Lisa 🐝 GallagherHi @Lisa Vanderburg, what a moving and vulnerable buzz. I can only imagine how much stress you must be under. As you stated, your not on here looking for a job. I think people forget that not everyone is on Social Media looking for a job, some are looking for socialization and conversation because they are homebound for various reasons. Some people are stay at home moms, others are retired and the many caregivers out there like yourself who benefit from sharing your stories because it may be cathartic as well? I admire people who aren't afraid to bare their souls. I admire people who take care of their loved ones, thank goodness for people like you. We kept our mom at home during her cancer, and what a bag of mixed emotions (no regrets) just very hard on the family watching the decline of someone you love and all the care, up's/down's that go with it. Thank you for sharing!15/01/2017 #24 Deb🐝 Lange#11 If you truly long for a connection with your Mother you will find a way. I write what I did in my draft book, yet to be published about caring for my Mum. I will find it and post it. And even though you say you had to give up your walks to care for your husband, you still need to take care of yourself so you can be well enough to care for him. I was told that by someone when I had my first child many years ago. Take care of yourself too, as if you are not well enough to care for a child, or a loved one, who will. So it is just important to find ways to care for yourself. By the way, my Mum refused to go into "institutional care" - As much as it was very challenging I am so so glad I gave her the gift of dying at home. I hope one day you will look back and be glad you did this for your husband.14/01/2017 #23 Lisa Vanderburg#21 So very true @Preston Vander Ven! In presentations we have done, I always start by describing my hubby as 'alpha male, incorrigible optimist and a guy who's completely in control of the world he lives in'. They I hit them with, 'how to you topple such a secure and self-assured man?....Give him Parkinson's!'
It is a brutal disease in its stretched-out degeneration; I'd happily murder it given half the chance :)
But, your right; even in crushing blows, we can reevaluate for the better!14/01/2017 #21 Preston Vander VenThanks You for that testimony. I also have someone close to me with Parkinson's. One benefit of this condition, it helped this person understand the importance of time and they now take every day of their life as an investment. Before, time was seen as something they could do whatever they wanted with, so it was usually wasted. They had their eyes open to understand it is our most important assets.14/01/2017 #13 Lisa Vanderburg#7 I am and will always be grateful for what you say and do @Ali Anani! I am blessed to consider you friend. Don't know how y'all do it - find the time to write such creative and profound pieces that in themselves, stretch my imagination and stir my soul. I am so stirred, I think I'll go walkabout!14/01/2017 #11 Lisa Vanderburg#4 Thank you so much for the tips on posting!!
You hit the nail on the head @Deb🐝 Lange...this 'confession' of mine is the stirring of doing something about it!
I have read about your Mom with such sweet longing; like @Max🐝 J. Carter, you both have experienced such an intimate, steadfast love between parent and child and it makes my heart soar! Even though I have not had that 'connection', I can imagine and certainly feel for your loss. Empathy is a muscle that can never be exercised enough! May your heart be always wrapped in your Mother's love and your soul refreshed with her courage.
- Producer14/01/2017Afrikaans: A Short History...Of SortsAfrikaans is my home language. Spoken by twenty million people, here is the “alternatiewe storie van Afrikaans”…. During the middle 1600’s, the Dutch East India Company was the major trading company in the world. It competed at the time...
Comments16/01/2017 #15 VDS BrinkAnd that "Baie" in "baie dankie" is all the way from Indonesia! Gert, it is simply brilliant and my toes curl ... oeps, "my tone krul!"
A language from the heart and second in the world of published poetry per capita. My ancestors from Denmark adding to the diversity.
Do again!!15/01/2017 #10 Gert Scholtz@Ian Weinberg @Paul Walters Paul: I had the pleasure of having coffee with Ian this week and had the treat of being regaled for two hours by Ian's interesting stories. Somehow I think the two of you will enjoy each other's company. But please, if ever this were to happen, don't leave me out!14/01/2017 #3 Emilia M. LudovinoWonderlik! Hou daarvan! Dank u mijn vriend voor dit groot artikel. Laughing out loud reading your post dear @Gert Scholtz - being Portuguese and living in Nederlands I found it very funny. I'm already joking with my husband (Dutch) - he's a great sailor but I'm always me reading the charts when we're sailing. Now everything makes so much sense. Just love it.... Dankie!
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- Producer04/12/2016Prejudice and other violationsSo prevalent has it become that one can almost conclude that standing in judgement of each other has become our default mode. Closely allied to this latter mode, or in fact as a consequence of it, is prejudice. The prevailing levels of judgement...
Comments14/01/2017 #24 Ian Weinberg#23 @Brian McKenzie I respect your perspective as I respect much of the philosophy of Ayn Rand. I also respect your straight, no bullshit approach. But I know (have experienced) that you are a genuine value contributor in the inter-human space. Would you accept that if we modulate our aggression (in all its forms) in engagements with others along our life paths, we enhance our own performance and gratification as well as move the other individual into a more resourceful space? This was in fact my main point of departure in regard to the philosophy of Ayn Rand: I value strength, individualism, self-reliance etc but there is a collective out there and although we're powerless to change it, we can make our micro-environments (the spaces that we inhabit) a better place.14/01/2017 #23 Brian McKenzie#21 They say that each generation rebels against its last, the Rentals (The only endearment I have for my parents) were hippy counter culture wanna-bes. I went hard on conservatism, individualism, self reliance and military where they went soft with blathering peace collectives, kymbaya, free love and drugs. My kids will never repeat the cycle. Namely because I am fixed and I would never marry. This family line ends with me. No more fodder for the Marxist Globalist Elitist Machine.14/01/2017 #22 Robert BacalInteresting, particularly in the comment section where there's a discussion of judgement, which complements my article on praise that is toxic at http://work911.com/communication/toxicpraise.htm View moreInteresting, particularly in the comment section where there's a discussion of judgement, which complements my article on praise that is toxic at http://work911.com/communication/toxicpraise.htm , particularly as it relates to judging PEOPLE and their beliefs and actions. Close14/01/2017 #21 Harvey Lloyd@Brian McKenzie brings up an interesting concept. In the 50's and before there existed a harsh and enforced set of social rules. The 60's saw a break away from these rules. Today we have social rules that seem to be untethered to any standard. With this in mind can we label a persons behavioral patterns without considering the social environment they live. This excludes the extreme cases.
Our child narrative brings us into our professional lives with some hardwired understandings. In today's world we speak to tolerance but in reality we sell conformity. But the conformity is based on the social groups child narrative not necessarily in line with our own. Does this not create a cognitive dissonance that must be worked through? But this aligns us differently with close family groups versus social/professional groups.
The labels we use describe our reactions, but if we take away one of the competitive groups, would the labeled behaviors become something different? In my leadership of others i have seen this as performance anxiety. The life narrative of an individual meets the goals and performance objectives of their social/professional lives. Bosses, teams, friends and goals need to return a satisfaction to the individual. I see through the life of an objective that it is difficult for members to get satisfaction when they cant apply their personal life narrative. I believe this is what many leaders are discussing as the soft skills deficit. How people react to performance anxiety is what we are labeling, maybe.14/01/2017 #20 Lisa 🐝 GallagherHi @Ian Weinberg, I usually share my own life experiences and I hope I am not appearing to pass judgment or give concrete advice to others. If I do give advice, it's based on my own experiences and I can only hope I convey that well and that my advice is from a personal perspective, not Professional. As for reason, I hope it does prevail. I've been a bit weary of reason lately considering the climate in the US as one example of many. If I do present facts, I back them up with sources. I hope I understood your buzz correctly. I think sometimes written words can be misunderstood or misconstrued- I'm speaking on behalf of myself.14/01/2017 #19 Ian Weinberg@Brian McKenzie I would contend that the rules of engagement are at least as important as the content of engagement. If disregarded, the 'new' and the 'different' would be rendered irrelevant and so we throw out the baby with the bath water!. Ultimately if the collective is to evolve we will need to promote and maintain mutually respectable connections. Otherwise we will perpetuate a mediocrity of monkeys!14/01/2017 #18 Brian McKenzieI really get tired of being labelled a psychopath or sociopath because I don't agree with the meme of the moment. The brush that paints that draws a larger picture of them than of who I am. I don't like society - nor it's labels - nor it's prattling & bleeting about getting along while ever working to limit freedom, garnish wages and impose their propaganda. Keep it over there - away from me. NO. We Can't all Just Get Along.06/12/2016 #17 Mohammed Sultan@Ian Weinberg .When I read any post ,with the instinct of a researcher I always jump to give conclusions and recommendation,so please don't "prejudge" me as giving advice.One of the most dangerous facts is to become captive to our held beliefs and consider it as the right way to go and the best decision to take.When we become regularly tuned with our prejudgment we may lose our personal balance and start criticizing or blaming others,and even become unable to provide anything new.The more often we look at things in this way ,the more it become difficult to think about them in a different way.The danger is that our past experience may also become a trap and rigid way when we assume that the new problems can be solved in the same way we tended to use with the old ones.The question is always ;Are we able to see our past blinders and the new blinders resulting from our expectations about others? As @Phil once said in one of his comments on another post;Distorted thinking is contagious ...I will also add and when it becomes a habit it will spread.05/12/2016 #15 Harvey Lloyd@Ian Weinberg this discussion is an important one. Reading the thoughts of both yourself and @Phil Friedman have been challenging. I do believe the discussion embodies the current election craziness we sense at the center.
I hold the belief that as humans we must decern our environment and make decisions. Whether it be fatherly, family or professional. From the outside this could appear judgmental, not haveing all of the discerning pieces that went into the choice.
I read your post more from a perspective of general attitudes/perceptions. Your post stated many of the things we observe in social behaviours, in our post-election environment. Many of the folks who silently sat in awe of the past 8 years have been awakened and found a voice. Is this good or bad, is for another debate. However, it does exacerbate your thoughts here.
Thanks to you and Phil for haveing this enlightening discussion. I would make one further point though, consensus on the debate will have to happen at some point in the future. What we hold to be as close to the truth must be decided. The lines are being drawn and without a clear set of guidelines of "judgement" within our social understanding, it will not end well.05/12/2016 #14 Phil Friedman#13 Sorry, Ian but that is NOT what I am saying, nor is it what I said. What I am saying is:
First, I think that some of the inferences being made from your discussion are not validly drawn from what you say, but themselves appear to me to be based on prejudgments. For example, I do not take what you are saying to actually assert or support the view that there is no objective truth. You can correct me if I am wrong about that.
Second, what I am asserting is that we must have an intellectual commitment to the existence of objective truth of some kind whether or not we can ultimately know that truth perfectly. If not, then all science and other intellectual pursuits are meaningless.
Third, that what is subjective and often relative are our perceptions of truth (or fact), which perceptions may be more or less in alignment with underlying reality. Science and other intellectual pursuits represent for me an ongoing dialogue that seeks to move closer to that reality by exploring and exchanging, examining and discussing ideas and concepts. We don't "make" truth; we seek to discover it, albeit only more or less successfully, and always tentatively.
Fourth, the dialogue involved, of needs, requires making judgments all the time. And there is nothing wrong with being "judgmental" in that sense. But being "judgmental" in that sense is often confused with what I term "pre-judgment" -- or in other words prejudice based on irrelevant factors, not in any way related to whether a set of assertions or postulates may be more or less reflective of the underlying reality, the "truth".
Fifth, if you insist on conflating being judgmental (which is inevitable) with being prejudiced or pre-judgmental, you are doing a disservice to the cause of intellectual engagement and exploration, as well as opening up the door to the proponents of Universal and Absolute Relativism -- which is nihilistic claptrap. Cheers and thanks for being open to discussion.05/12/2016 #13 Ian Weinberg#12 Phil, please walk me through this: If I assert something to be true and it is true, then it represents the truth. Epistemologically it is the closest to fact. One assumes that my truth is developed from an honest and comprehensive reasoning of all available, relevant substrate. I understand from your response that other asserted truths relating to the same concept provide no further epistemological value if derived in the same manner. And further, if the truth of individual assertions be limited by subjectivity and it is acknowledged to be incomplete truth due to subjectivity, then it is an untruth because even if pooled with other subjectivity-limiting truths, there can be no further evolution towards truth. Concluding then, authentic fact is derived from an honest and comprehensive reasoning of all available relevant substrate which renders redundant the dialoguing of similar concepts derived in the same way.05/12/2016 #12 Phil Friedman#11 and while you're at it, consider if you will, The Liar's Paradox. Which amounts to how one evaluates the assertion by someone that all statements are lies. If the statement is true, then it must be a lie and therefore false. Or if true, then it belies the claim that all statements are lies. And so again it must be false. I believe that the problem with absolute relativism is akin to The Liar's Paradoex. cheers!05/12/2016 #9 Phil Friedman#8 No , Ian, I am asserting exactly the opposite of what you take me to be saying. Your interpretation is symptomatic of dogmatic relativism, which pretends to celebrate rational discussion, but which actually makes an a priori assumption that precludes consideration of any position other than your own. I did NOT say your assertion are grunts. I only said if your assertion that there are no absolute truths, than all assertions, including yours, are grunts. And so your position is its own reductio ad absurdum. That is a far cry from saying your assertions are grunts.05/12/2016 #8 Ian Weinberg#7 Phil, we are unlikely to arrive at absolute truth, which in itself is probably a relative concept . Our best effort at making sense of our environment is to use objective reasoning in the context of a given subjectivity, in an attempt to transcend the limits of our subjectivity. Additional to this is the engagement with other subjective folk in a constructive way so that more substrate becomes available for reasoning and evaluation and the subjective bias is diluted. The mode of engagement is fundamental because if we retain mutual sensitivity and remain in rapport we achieve, collectively, a more valuable outcome. By referring to my (and presumably other) assertions as just another collection of ‘grunts’ you expose your own modus of engagement in communication. You appear to be at a place where you are judging other points of view as ‘grunts’ and default to accepting your own judgement. It begs the question of what reasoning substrate your bias would allow you to place value upon for personal integration? There is a possibility that at the end of the day your epistemological compass would have shrunk you down to your own turf/comfort zone/world-view after disrespecting a whole host of external ‘grunts’ irrespective of their intrinsic value!05/12/2016 #7 Phil Friedman#4 Sorry Ian, without validi judgement -- whether or not we can ultimately determine which judgments are valid -- there is no truth. Without truth -- whether or not we can ultimately determine what is true and what is not -- there is only subjective grunting. And that includes your assertions here. So if I accept your assertions, then ipso facto they become meaningless, with no basis for accepting them over any contrary assertions. And, therefore, you will pardon me for choosing to ignore your grunts and choosing instead to stick with mine.
No, your position, like all attempts to assert absolute relativism, is self-nullifying as worthy of consideration. For such arguments are always their own reductios as absurdum. Cheers.
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Comments16/01/2017 #37 Paul BurgePerfectly articulated buzz about what beBee's ethos is @Juan Imaz! How we view ourselves and how others view us is the personal branding space which we occupy and the unique space that will continue to fill to help everyone build and develop their own personal brands...Success beckons!!14/01/2017 #28 Mohammed SultanIt's a great idea to use beBee as a positioning platform for job seekers and for the employers who are seeking a synergy with employees passion and core interests.This idea can encourage everyone to stick around the idea of branding themselves.Branding doesn't mean presenting your core skills or core interests but instead positioning the output of both and sticking it in the hiring manager's mind.Unlike presenting your past ,positioning means telling your story from the employers point of view .Here, I understand that HR are going to treat employees as brands and therefore will be headed by Chief Employee Experience Officers! That's a great concept with good payoffs on both sides.Thank you @Juan Imaz.14/01/2017 #26 CityVP 🐝 ManjitI held my stomach when I first saw Brand You 20 years ago but I can certainly live with it today. There is room in the 21st Century for 20th Century marketing because people readily identify with it and it is a perpetuation of a belief system which one can argue voraciously for. I am a heretic when it comes to personal branding but I am also a student of what brings us to embrace image and where we can find safe harbour and refuge from a society that is very image bound and where identification is important.
Tom Peters - Brand You 
The Church of Personal Branding has grown substantially in the last 20 years so as a positioning device it works and will continue to work over the next few years. I recognize the rise of branded properties and acknowledge the 'great brands" and also superstars who deploy branding strategies to manage their public image, but Brand You is "personal brand" for the masses.
I neither wish to view myself as product, nor do I see value in my subscription to what can amount to a personal idolatry, At the individual level "brand you" can turn into a virulent form of group-think because it is an idea virus, and in that form it is well worth studying as a social and group phenomenon.
At a personal level personal brand has never been a personal requirement but it is worth playing with because social ideas are playthings that are seeds for personal innovation. Personal brand is required as a form of control since we are still evolving as a human society, and as long as we remain living in a broadcast culture - this evolution will be the slow path towards renaissance.13/01/2017 #20 AnonymousKudos @Juan Imaz. It's ME who aspires to become WE, effortlessly and seamlessly. In doing so, ME remains authentic and effortlessly united with WE. It is a social transformation that will change the reality and lives of all of us for the better. This is the process, but not like Kafka's process. What is important is the time. This is more like the creation of a new value by WE and not just a personal brand by itself. Future leadership is about social complexity with a growing trend of social encounters and exchanges. You are the one and we'll be back.
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