- 28/03/2017This looks AWESOME!!!!!Transform any surface into an interactive display with this incredible projectormashable.com The Xperia Touch from Sony is a portable projector that uses infrared light and camera capture to display visuals and read...
- 28/03/2017Becho's Violin
Becho plays the violin in an orchestra,
face of a little boy without a teacher,
and the orchestra is no good, it has
only one violin that hurts him.
Because Becho is hurt by violins
That are like his love; little boys
Becho wants a violin to be a man
who does not mention sorrow and love.
Becho has a violin that he doesn't love,
but feels that the violin calls to him;
at night he is repentant,
he loves that sad sound again.
Brown wooden butterfly,
the boy violin is in despair
when Becho plays it and calms down,
the violin is still sounding in his soul.
Because Becho is hurt by violins
that are like his love, little boys
Becho wants a violin to be a man,
who does not mention sorrow and love.
Life and death, violin, father and mother;
the violin sings and Becho is the air;
he can no longer play in the orchestra,
because to love and sing, is difficult.Soledad Bravo - Violin de becho
- Producer27/03/2017A Toast to Life in 1969“That’s one step for man, one giant leap for mankind” Neil ArmstrongMoving on in time nineteen sixty-nine Perhaps, too soon says the fingernail moon Your presence makes me shiver, I’m all a quiver Oh the horror of mankind treading on my...
Comments28/03/2017 #5 Ken BoddieMoon landing, Nixon start-up, John and Yoko inventing the sleep-in, the birth of Sesame Street. It's all a pink smokey haze now, just as it was back then, Franci. Man's rules were certainly silly back in 1969, but are they any less silly now? As they say, If you can remember the 60s and 70s, you weren't there. Well, where the hell was I?
- Producer09/09/2016How to Add Your Twitter Account to Your Profile on beBee Image Credit: FlickrDid you know that you can add your Twitter account as a featured link on your beBee profile?Doing so makes it easy for your followers on beBee to find and connect with you on Twitter as well. However, the biggest benefit is that...
Comments09/09/2016 #16 Jared Wiese, 🐝 adding VALUE & RESULTS#13 #5 I don't believe there is a way to reorder. I just added a 7th link (so it shows at the bottom of my 7 links) but it is the 3rd (bottom) link in the upper-left of my profile. Luckily, it's the one I want!
Seems the system is choosing the latest LI and Twitter links?09/09/2016 #7 Mamen 🐝 DelgadoLove this post John!!! I share many post on Twitter from beBee and it's very very useful what you say, and I have found there are many users on beBee with Twitter account but they don't have it added to beBee. Everytime I share something on Twitter I try to find the author's Twitter account to include it on the tweet.
So, I'm going to translate this post to Spanish, very useful for everybody!!!! Thanks @John White, MBA!!
Sorry I deleted comment #4, technical little problems... 😉
- Producer28/03/2017Education Myths #9 - #12 (of 12)Myth #9: Micro learning is the future of education“Pretty much every article I’ve read on “the next big thing” or “the future of learning” forgets the distinction between compliance, professional development, and capability acquisition.” (Bruck,...
Comments28/03/2017 #4 jeff carter...and ... #1 - #4: https://www.bebee.com/producer/@jeff-carter/education-myths-sharp-1-sharp-4-of-1228/03/2017 #3 jeff carterThx Ella! Here are #5-#8: https://www.bebee.com/producer/@jeff-carter/education-myths-sharp-5-sharp-8-of-12
- Producer27/03/2017Another Day in Loriland - Damn ItOver the last couple of weeks, I was working on a draft for this blog. I had been back to it several times, tweaked it, had it looked at and proof read, and then tweaked it some more. I began thinking I had sort of written it out of order, it wasn't...
- ProducerHigh Heel. Reported Missing.She suddenly felt how cold it was. Touching the floor of the plane. Searching for her second shoe. She could not find it. Ashamed she was. Oh my God, in trouble. She moved. Looked everywhere. Little bit nervous. A hand on her elegant shoulders....
Comments27/03/2017 #16 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.#15 cannot wait to read your comments on the next episode ;-) @🐝 Fatima G. Williams27/03/2017 #14 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.#13 oh yes lovely thought @Kevin Baker27/03/2017 #11 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.you are most welcome @abhishek shah, have a great day.27/03/2017 #10 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.#9 mmmm, @Devesh 🐝 Bhatt, who knows, read further as the story develops, I am sure you get all the answers - and more ... thank you!27/03/2017 #9 Devesh 🐝 Bhatt"Good, I am used to be left alone', she played the victim. In this story. "
Is their another story for the same?
Got me very curious as to the observations thereafter and before. It is hard to take a break, just keep reading. Is it a good thing or a bad thing. Dont know until i read something longer.
Enjoyed it thanks.
- 27/03/2017This bitter earth
Well, what a fruit it bears
What good is love
Mmh, that no one shares
And if my life is like the dust
Ooh, that hides the glow of a rose
What good am I?
Heaven only knows
Oh, this bitter earth
Yes, can it be so cold
Today you're young
Too soon you're old
But while…Dinah Washington & Max Richter-This bitter earth - On the nature of daylight This bitter earth Well, what fruit it bears What good is love mmmm that no one shares And if my life is like the dust oooh that hides the glow of a rose...
- Producer27/03/2017The True Tail of AlgernonDeath seems to be the topic du jour. debasish majumder wrote a beautiful poem, David Navarro López opened up with such insight in Game over: Are we ready to die? I'm sure there are a lot more that I'm not mentioning. I could talk about death 'til...
Comments27/03/2017 #10 🐝 Fatima G. Williams#6 Really @Lisa Vanderburg I'll be miles away from the flying ones. I'd die of a heart attack.We would abandon anything. My mum had a run with us 3 girls ( My sister's and me)
Once my sister was at the glass showcase looking for something. Guess who decided to show up. Mr Flying creep. I scream She screams We all scream and there's blood on the floor. The showcase glass broke almost thankfully leaving my sister with a scar. I was more concerned where the roach was instead of rushing her to the hospital ! I still can't believe some people eat them.
I'm sure Dean san had tried these buggers. 🤐🤐🤐🤐🤐🙊🙊🙊
@Dean Owen27/03/2017 #9 AnonymousIt did make me laugh, really. But don't be mistaken, After all I have been through, (which was ages ago) I never lost my good humor. In fact, I learned how to laugh more and better, as I learned to give value to the good things on earth, and you are one of them. GO, GO, GO27/03/2017 #7 Lisa Vanderburg#4 Oh JOY, my friend @Cyndi wilkins...I'm ecstatic to get you schlapplakking! When I mess up, it's always a magnificently prat-fall. I'll write about some of my other 'stupid things I have done and survived' - got TONS of those! Algernon trusted me, bonded with me...only because he was marginally more stupid than I, methinks?
Wanna hear something horrifying? I used to dress in the dark for my shift (not to wake hubby). I pulled up my knickers (underwear) and felt something....YUCK; deflowered by a roach....27/03/2017 #6 Lisa Vanderburg#3 So happy you liked it @🐝 Fatima G. Williams! If you've ever been in a restaurant kitchen, they all smell vaguely of 'deep-fat fryer'. But the smell is really all cockroach. The London Savoy has their own breed of roach. I could give you miles of useless info, but the little blighters are everywhere! Thanks sweet lady Fatima!27/03/2017 #4 Cyndi wilkinsAwe...That is the best story I've heard in a looooong time! Algernon could sense you thought he was cute;-) He didn't want to leave you with the guilt of killin' his cute white ass! LOL
"We're all brave until the cockroach has wings!" I'm pissin' myself now;-) Thanks @Lisa Vanderburg! Off to the ladies room;-)
- Producer23/03/2017I, You, We and MeI went to physical therapy yesterday. I met Shira, a very competent professional. As we were working on my hands, I began to recount my experiences as a child, and she said, “I don’t want to hear it.” I told her five children die every day from...
Comments27/03/2017 #40 Lisa 🐝 GallagherThis is a strong statement, "but as long as we remain you and I, nothing will get done. We are a force." I couldn't agree more! You made a great point about groupthink and it's dangerous as well. I hope one day humanity become more of a "We" based society instead of, "I."25/03/2017 #37 Lisa Vanderburg#30 Part 2: CityVP 🐝 Manjit so rightly says, this is a Pandora's box which has grown so toxic, to open it becomes harder and harder (thank you CityVP is I was the Lisa you mentioned)! 'You were shut down by a 'professional.' That indicates fear....it's paralysing.' @Cyndi wilkins says; damn true!! So many great thoughts...
Everyone has made such thoughtful comments Joyce 🐝 Bowen - possibly the most successful way to start a process of change? Brave woman!
Where's @Deb🐝 Lange...?25/03/2017 #36 Lisa Vanderburg#30 Part 1: Wow...I'm humbled @Joyce 🐝 Bowen! I was checking in today to apologise for making your buzz about ME, yet you treat me to compassionate understanding - thank you! This can of worms you've had the courage to open so clearly needs airing before it can be destroyed; @Deb 🐝 Helfrich explores the idea of prevention-at-source byring or testing potential parents. I think the 'resistance' you feel Deb is maybe introducing would-be parents the concept of fearful anticipation (which threatens natural bonding), where in natural settings, it would be joy? Dunno, but it'ng I haven't thor; perhaps like driving classes at high school, a mandatory class on just hto ruin a perfectly good child, but without the fatality pics?24/03/2017 #34 Aaron SkogenWow! Bravo @Joyce 🐝 Bowen. Courageous, raw and unrelenting. My first thought was "find a new therapist", then I thought "no, don't conform, continue to chip away at the wall and bring it down". I, You, We and Me must continue to drive awareness, we need the black sheep of non-conformance. Looking back at history and the major social shifts in history, I ask was Rosa Parks a conformist, was Dr. King, or how about President Lincoln? None. Keep the faith. . . and maybe, find a new therapist :-).24/03/2017 #33 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#29 #30 Another question - why do we need licenses to marry, adopt a dog, to fish, but not raise children?
I don't quite think the punitive approach would effect lasting change, but why is it each parent for themselves - just do your best?
We have competency exams for all sorts of things, but not the single most crucial and complex and difficult task most humans are going to undertake - raising children.
I can feel the resistance to this sort of intervention, but why?
What is so crazy about enacting laws to ensure parents know about nutrition, psychology, along with the social & physical requirements to thrive - the basic curriculum of growing a human based on current science?
Achievement to a certain percentage in order to get a license to procreate.
Something to ponder about a strategy We could begin to consider.24/03/2017 #31 Donna-Luisa Eversley@Joyce 🐝 Bowen thank you for your bravery in bringing up this topic. It is one many will have difficulty understanding because they may not have experiences such as yours. Your contribution is overwhelmingly good in creating awareness. We live in a world where bad things happen to good people. Bad things happen to bad people. Good things happen to bad people. Awareness may not mean understanding or acceptance, but it sure takes courage to be bold enough to write. #3024/03/2017 #30 Joyce 🐝 Bowen#29 @Lisa Vanderburg I hear you back. Both my parents were psychopaths. People don't understand what psychopath means unless you say, "Jeffrey Dahmer," or "Ted Bundy." People don't understand that psychopaths have children and they are often their littlest victims. I feel for you, and understand that need for connection that is so lost when seeking it from such a parent. I followed through to my degree in psychology before I understood. I think psychopaths should be sterilized, but that's just me.24/03/2017 #29 Lisa VanderburgI hear you @Joyce 🐝 Bowen. I hear that awful loneliness that comes from this festering wound for so long. I know it well, and I have pretty much given up trying to 'explain' things so others may understand - they won't. That's the trouble with childhood abuse and its after-math, everyone's is different to them (at least), because they were CHILDREN when it happened and adults when they've had to learn to live with it - or not. I've realized two things:
1. My abuser was a charming, highly intelligent psychopath. That's why when I left home at age 16, I told a couple of childhood friends, they didn't believe me. All my siblings experienced the same thing. It was stunning and made me question myself.
2. The trouble with secrets is that the listener either feels they have to 'do' something about it, or they chose not to believe you.
For me, I know I'm broken. Some of the ladies here know me - good wimmin! But for the life of me (and because my eldest sister killed herself AFTER she seemed so much better (with her shrink), so I can't trust that anyone can 'fix' me. But I live with it....
You're one brave woman - more courage than I!24/03/2017 #28 Cyndi wilkins#23 I'm very sorry to hear that...especially for a therapist that is supposed to understand such a debilitating condition as MS...but I will leave it to you to decide who best suits your needs;-)
I'd love to meet for whatever is convenient for you...Give me a shout when it works for you and I will make it work for me;-) I will PM you with my email;-)24/03/2017 #27 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#25 I do want to be clear, I don't think there are any faults, Joyce. I feel everything you said intensely. What you wrote affected me powerfully, and sent me asking NOW WHAT?
Nobody is for child abuse. It continues. Our species does have a very long legacy of wanting to dominate and/or eradicate those not like us - for all sorts of random superficial reasons. Including that someone does something heinous. Anger hasn't been an effective long-term strategy so far.
So I found myself pondering what is the fundamental disconnect that we feel this must stop, but perhaps, in such an intense, confused, and overwhelming way that it seems to almost preclude acting. This state goes along with the stories of how hard it is to change human nature.
The ways we mis-anthropromorphize animal behavior is something I think about a lot. We have labelled an entire breed as demonically vicious because a few people trained their dogs to be nothing but fighters.
How do we define cruelty? And how do we, as a species, instill it in our young and our pets? It does not arise in a vacuum.
It comes down to faulty training, faulty thinking, and poorly designed systems that are unable to stop the cycles right now.
Each aspect is entirely about the stories humans tell themselves and each other.23/03/2017 #24 Joyce 🐝 Bowen#18 Actually, I only let myself be mad for a split second. I put her in a small cage only to allow me to move Sarah, at which point she had only killed 2; but she was so smart, she got out and killed a third pup. I immediately chalked her actions up to Nature, and vowed not to hold her accountable. And I didn't.23/03/2017 #22 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#21 Well then, we have much in common, @Helena Jansen van Vuuren, It takes a lot of effort and time for me to get these 'knowings' swirling around my bodymind out into language. I try to catch my run-on sentences, but it all is smushed together in my head in even more complexity than how it comes out on the page. I get frustrated all the time at hitting the 2000 character limit.
Anyway, this is a topic I care about. So I try to re-orient the discussion, pivot it just slightly to change how we talk it through.
Based on how I was raised, I lead with being mired in the horror of it all, too. I get viscerally upset, nauseated. So I listen to these feelings and realize we cannot fix anything when we are sick. (And this might have been what Shiva very ineloquently reacted to. What she meant to convewy was not lets ignore the problem, but let's focus right this minute on healing you, so your hands can do the work they need to.)
If I can help in any little way to get the conversation set back to flowing, back to love-storming, back to how very many things like Berlin walls and apartheid simply ceased quite quickly and painlessly; with none of the obviously bound to happen worst case scenarios unfolding, then we can start to increase our energy toward fixing horrific situations because we have been primed to remember that tipping points exist all around us, and we can choose to create a narrative that ignores oft-repeated 'common sense' and starts to say 'let's do this instead"
Given that it is #NationalPuppyDay - really re-thinking how contemporary humans raise our families is a fruitful place to focus our attention, as we know each newborn is a relatively blank slate waiting to be taught.
- Producer26/03/2017Game over: Are we ready to die?We are all going to die someday. This is a fact and one of the few things we can be sure as humans. Nevertheless, death is never present in our lives; we carry on doing things as it would never happen to us. We use to be speechless when, for...
Comments27/03/2017 #28 Lisa VanderburgThank you so very much for your generosity of spirit in sharing this, @David Navarro López. Like @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher, I looked after my father, then my most precious friend and sister during their dying. My sister was my refuge, strength and joy; we'd been life-long intimate friends held together in our damage. It really resonated when you said 'death is not as scary as living' - she felt the same, even though we'd long threatened to kill the other is they 'dare die before me'!
Life is (in the main) a ball of pain. Death offers freedom, but you are right to remind us of the how, why, where and what we leave behind!26/03/2017 #26 Anonymous#24 Dear Lisa, you are spot on with your words "that person one may hold a grudge towards or be mean to may not be here tomorrow"
The worst regret in life is not due to the things we did, but about the things we didn't.
To re-establish a relationship is something should never be postponed26/03/2017 #24 Lisa 🐝 GallagherI'm glad you are here to share your story @David Navarro López. Not one of us can know what it's like to stare death in the face. I think some of us can imagine when we've seen others dying & die many times, but we can only imagine. My sister and her daughter both had cancer, they both stared death in the face and suffered greatly. They live one day at a time, I think I do too, knowing that we don't get out of this life alive. Thank you for being so honest, this is a great buzz on the truths of death/dying. Even small things like not holding a grudge is important to me because that person one may hold a grudge towards or be mean to may not be here tomorrow. As for what someone goes through emotionally, we can never know fully unless or until we face something ourselves.26/03/2017 #23 Marisa Fonseca Diniz#16 When I went through this experience I did as you did, I did not communicate to anyone, because I thought that the problem was only mine and only I would have to face it, I treated myself, I overcame the barriers of life and I healed myself after 20 years never Plus cancer has returned. We are never prepared to die, and your life experience is an example to other people who let themselves be overwhelmed by anything. Congratulations!26/03/2017 #18 Anonymous#3 Thank you for your words, dear Ali. I like "it is during the dark times that our best comes out."
I would add that only in dark times, some people are able to get the best out.
But this is an option not everyone takes.
And another option is not to wait to be in a dark time to make it happen26/03/2017 #16 Anonymous#9 I sincerely think that our will to live is a key issue. I will confess one more thing about my experience. Until the final diagnosis said I got rid of it, I told nobody, not even my closest family, what was going on. The next day of the surgery, I had a shower and was ready to check out of the hospital hours before the doctor came to see me. Against his will, I checked out and went home. I did not accept this was going to happen to me. I accepted that there was a possibility I could not recover, but I did not surrender, and never will. Sometimes it works, sometimes not. But I know other cases on which people surrendered, and the body somehow knows it, allowing it to happen. Will not be my case. I am here, alive and kicking.26/03/2017 #10 Joyce 🐝 BowenSo familiar. I know these things well. I, too, am a cancer survivor though did not go through turmoil as hefty as yours. I also have MS--a daily death sentence that was always there, yet not so present until I knew for sure. "If you knew how it’s like to see that even if you are still alive, you are already dead for the rest." Yes I do.
- Producer25/03/2017It had a soul and even though it died it still lived.She was searching. She didn't know where she left it. Her heart skipped a beat. It was right here. She felt it few minutes ago. She could not understand what went wrong. She stared out at the window. The weather was gloomy. It had rained heavily the...
Comments26/03/2017 #16 🐝 Fatima G. Williams#14 @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher It is amazing to relive a moment gone. The thoughts that go through our minds endlessly need to come out in words to make us feel lighter in our minds and I do that only sometimes ( sigh ).I love bodies of water too. Like yourself for example your made of 70% of water ( Giggles)26/03/2017 #14 Lisa 🐝 GallagherLovely @🐝 Fatima G. Williams, some of what you described, "The gloomy weather reflecting her mood," the tears, a peek into the past are so relatable! It's amazing when we think of or write about all the random thoughts that go through our minds endlessly, isn't it?! I can go from elation to meloncholy in a matter of seconds depending on those thoughts. Thanks for sharing! I love the photo, the rocks remind me of our breakwall on Lake Erie in Ohio. I LOVE bodies of water!!26/03/2017 #13 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.#10 yes! Have a beautiful day, @🐝 Fatima G. Williams!26/03/2017 #12 Ali AnaniI love the harmony in your writing dear @🐝 Fatima G. Williams. You harmonize the mood of your characters with the mood of the environment. Thr reader "lives" your descriptionss. Your introductory four lines are the proof.
Thank you @Devesh 🐝 Bhatt for your trust. I hope that Fatima would write about me. She is an accomplished writer.26/03/2017 #9 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.#5 well, it is beautiful that you see my style reflected, I take it as a compliment.26/03/2017 #5 Devesh 🐝 BhattMaybe i am wrong but since @Ali Anani made observations on @Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc. I see a reflection of her style here, maybe an affinity type of reflection which blends with your style of writing.
Maybe when @Ali Anani writes about you, i would begin to see your reflections across many other writers.
Just saying that the observations have made me aware of the subtle and blended aspects.25/03/2017 #1 Deb 🐝 HelfrichBRAVO! I feel every tiny nuance of these words on the flow of emotion, @🐝 Fatima G. Williams
The human condition seems utterly summed up by this quote:
"She was caught up in that moment. The moment had gone."
We simply cannot capture moments.
But for some reason, we often lose ourselves in just such a pursuit.
- Producer25/03/2017Random Thoughts About Crab Meat & The Dimness Of LifeThe following may not make much sense except for me but maybe you guys can help tidy up some random thoughts put together about a vague theme. I was thinking, funny how vague theme sounds phonetically very like the word victim, vague theme/victim...
Comments27/03/2017 #53 Aaron Skogen#50 @Harvey Lloyd, I love that you have people close who call you a PITA. One of my dear friends (who worked for me as a finance manager for several years) will lead off a note with "Hows my favorite PITA". Your sentiments about working to maintain the name resonated for all the same reasons.27/03/2017 #52 Aaron SkogenWell @Pascal Derrien, you touched a nerve as I read this early today. I hate F^cking cancer.
I sat with my sister as she had the drain tube removed from her chest following a mastectomy. I watched as she stood in front of the mirror. Raw, red scars, horizontal where her breast was once. Our tears flowed. How do you say anything. . . "Our eyes spoke" and on that day, at that moment, that was enough.
I watch right now as she lives with this f^ucking disease circulating in her bones. I watch as my father-in-law battles stage 4 right now. A year ago he was over 220lbs, today he may be 140lbs soaking wet. How do you say anything. . . We can be there, we can hold a hand, and our eyes speak, and I hope those are enough, for now.
Your message is more than this though, and I get that. Life leads us down a path. Live it well, each day, live it well. Be remembered for who you are, as no one will give a damn about what you did, awards you received, cars you drove et. al. You and I have both came close enough to touch the reaper. That for me is reason enough, as I know we will meet again one day, yet until that day, I WILL try like hell to live it well.27/03/2017 #51 Neil SmithMy dad, an ex-fireman died of lung cancer a few years ago. He spent a long time in hospitals and the only positive thing about it was that all the family had time to make our peace with each other and with him. The rawness of the experience has never left me and although I fall short of ideal every day I have since tried to be the best husband, father, person that I can be. Life is so fragile and we still manage to miss the important bits.
I also would recommend the Springsteen autobiography. Honest, well written and a serious cut above the average rock bio.
Thanks for this Pascal.27/03/2017 #50 Harvey Lloyd#49 Certain member's of my family believe i will live forever as a pain in their ass. I have developed the nick name PITA. This encourages me to maintain the name so that their wishes may be fulfilled.
I enjoy your life gnawing pieces. They bring me to the edge of life, where most don't dare go. I learn many things while in that wilderness of self indulgent thinking.
I will hang on just to read your future posts. Thanks @Pascal Derrien for inspiring the meaningful thoughts you do.
A lifetime of existence is long enough, forever would bring about an existence i don't think we could handle.27/03/2017 #48 Harvey LloydSeeing the title you got me. Love crab meat (Food) and had no idea that the term was something else over the pond. I too have witnessed the terminality in others eyes on one to many occasions. Some were pure fear and others relief. I do believe that with inner peace comes a completion of our lives and that there is "permission" to leave this world.
I meet many folks though who have a paradigm of eternity in the flesh. I know this will be buffeted in their narrative journey. If not their own health then through others. Life has a way of preparing us for death. The question is do we listen to life?
Great post and i know we all must face the crab man regardless of his destructive choices of exit. Its a bit gruesome or macabre but i am ready. The few goals of legacy i set many years ago have been met. No i don't want to go today, but i also relegated the fear of death to a minor post-it note.
My own doesn't frighten me but seeing within the eyes of others, coulda, shoulda and woulda is painful. Know the end game and leave no coulda, shoulda, woulda's hanging. Today is the chance, as tomorrow is not promised.26/03/2017 #45 Joris Plaatstaal#43 Cheers to mother's day then. I had the best mother ever and i hope you all can say the same. My mother was Wilhelmina Kruithof and when she was dying I held her hand. So proud of each other. I am not Irish but I am so grateful to Wilhelmina Kruithof. She deserves to be named.26/03/2017 #41 Pamela 🐝 Williams2 memories come as I read this: My grandfather diagnosis of Alzheimers & telling me how he prayed to God; "Take anything else from me, but don't take my mind". He was a lifelong learner. There was nothing I could say & all he could do was pray that his God would heal him. He didn't. I hated seeing him slip away. I had no words of comfort but I didn't need to; we spoke with our eyes; he knew I felt his fear. He believed in my empath abilities; he witnessed it, and in those last few years; he felt it. It was all I could give him.
4 years later; I'm sitting in a hospital as his wife slips away; She missed him & this lover of life was ready to go; she told me as much, but still there was fear; even for these two people who believed in heaven. I slept in a chair beside her bed, holding her hand when something woke me. She was struggling for breath. This woman who in all real sense was my mother; was fighting to stay. I jumped up; got up close and whispered; "It's okay Mamaw; Papaw's waiting. I'll miss you but Pam's here, you're not alone". She took one last sighing breath.
I cry as I say this; she shouldn't have left when she did; there shouldn't have been pain, but those who were 'caring' for her; didn't and she fell. I was angry, I'm still angry, I wasn't ready to say goodbye; but I couldn't let her suffer, I wanted her to be with the man who loved and protected her for 65 years. So I stayed until they came to take her away. I made sure our Queen was treated with dignity, because that was important to her. Dignity. Everyone deserves that because no matter what your station in life; you were life. I'm so sorry for your losses Pascal; I'm so sorry for the suffering. For they are/were life; they brought energy to our planet. They were part of the universe; and they matter; crab meat or not. That life, that energy, that is ALL that matters.26/03/2017 #39 Ken BoddieHopefully, Pascal, our lives are more than a passive means of feeding others. You ask "what do you do when .....?" Well I have absolutely no idea, except to say that spending time, saying the things you should have said years ago, just being there, helping and listening, can't be bad. I missed the passing of both my mum and dad and still regret it to this day.26/03/2017 #37 CityVP 🐝 Manjit#35 With the Kubler-Ross film, unless we are fascinated by her private sexual counseling regarding grief, I would go straight to the end of this particular movie of professional opinion https://academic.oup.com/gerontologist/article/45/3/426/553201/Elisabeth-Kubler-Ross-Facing-Death View more#35 With the Kubler-Ross film, unless we are fascinated by her private sexual counseling regarding grief, I would go straight to the end of this particular movie of professional opinion https://academic.oup.com/gerontologist/article/45/3/426/553201/Elisabeth-Kubler-Ross-Facing-Death - It is a kind of spoiler alert for a woman whose story and beliefs are so beloved and constantly quoted and re-quoted. Close26/03/2017 #36 Deb🐝 LangeRaw truth - great to share how many of us feel. I remember when caring for my mother to die in her home feeling privileged to spend that time with her - a time when is all you want is empathy, company, to be seen, to be heard, to be felt, to be loved, - not a time for wanting or caring about material stuff. That time had a significant impact on me.
- Producer25/03/2017The Difference Between Negativity and DisagreementWhen I was in primary school, there was some bullying between some of the girls. So, one day, the teacher made us sit down and write something nice about everyone in the class, which we then read aloud.This same exercise was repeated years later...
Comments27/03/2017 #35 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#24 I have to agree @Aleta Curry, if someone is called out in a group format, whether it's in front of others at work or on an email and the person who berated 'said person' was wrong, they do need to apologize to the entire group. This is where cliques form or people lose trust. An easy example, when my kids were growing up, I would occasionally call out one of my kids in front of the other. There were times I was wrong, *gasp* and I made sure to apologize to both of them because I knew it affected not only my child I chastised but my other child who was present. I hope that made sense.26/03/2017 #31 Ali AnaniThank you dear @Milos Djukic for tagging me to this buzz. I agree with @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher in that @Sandra 🐝 Smith has discussed very relevant pints In differences we learn; in disagreement we see the other side of the coin. In negativity we build barriers; in disagreement we create spaces in which we may learn and advance.26/03/2017 #30 🐝 Fatima G. Williams#26 Very true @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher What does one gain from such confrontations.
I don't see a point here. I only see the uniqueness of an individual though they may all have flaws. But hey we are all humans aren't we ?
If we where chinese we would have eaten the snake rather than be thrown out of the garden of eden ( LOL) I'd stay chinese in this regard. 😂😂😂😂😂😂26/03/2017 #26 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#20 Thank you @David B. Grinberg, I'd have to say the same for you! You are selfless with your sharing and you promote others graciously. @Sandra 🐝 Smith, you made excellent points above.
For me personally, I refuse to sqaubble with others on beBee or any platform for that matter. I stay away from heated topics because that's just my preference. Those who choose to join a heated topic they do need to remember things can get out of control fast, if even just one person begins to attack.. others may come to defend and many feelings can get hurt. I love your suggestions because those are great steps to follow in order to avoid confrontation with another.
I really try hard to choose my words wisely and I would never want to hurt anyone on here. Everyone has feelings and these are good rules to follow with life in general and on the job.26/03/2017 #24 Aleta CurryComment 1
Thanks for wishing me a Happy Saturday, Sandra, though it's already Sunday afternoon Down Under; I couldn't get to reading earlier.
I agree with everything except the part about cc/reply to all. If someone has insulted me in public (and it hasn't happened here, thank goodness) they owe me (or you, or Joe Bloggs) a public apology. That is not to make them lose face, it is so that the matter gets proper closure. That's directly taken from Management Training, every good boss should know that berating someone in public and then pulling them aside later and saying 'I'm sorry about that' is weaselly. That manager is simply afraid of losing face and may not be at all sorry.
Not that they have to flagellate themselves publicly shouting mea culpa mea maxima culpa over the loudspeaker, but they can simply say at the next meeting or around the water cooler, 'I just want to say that I was wrong in...or I apologise to Aleta for...I've said this to her privately, but I wanted to say it in front of all of you.' Then move on to the next next item in the Agenda or lunch or whatever, no song and dance, and Aleta doesn't get the right of rebuttal and there should be no commenting from the rest of the group unless the situation was so horrible that that has to occur, in which case you need a session with a counsellor.26/03/2017 #23 Aleta CurryCont'd from Comment 1
In the same vein, I think it's wrong to cc people *if they were not part of the original communication*. If they were, however, and you want to say one thing to all of them, they're quite within their rights to 'reply all', otherwise you're being unjust and horribly unfair to the party of the first part.
I do agree that a better way would be for whoever is in charge to step in and say that this is not the way things are done (making it clear that s/he means the original nasty comments) and instructing the jury to disregard the remarks) Which is of course much the same thing as telling a classroom of children to think of anything except rainbows and lollipops, but there you have it. So what am I talking about?
The jury will please disregard Mrs Curry's remarks.26/03/2017 #22 Praveen Raj GullepalliIt takes all kinds to make the world. Same with beBee I'd presume. But here one can get away with a lot as opposed to the real world:) The same care/etiquette/civility we exercise while differing in opinion or a POV ought to be exercised here too, in all conversations. Think the person you are responding (not reacting to) is right in front of you and then talk. Even if it is the President himself ;) It is easy being heroic sitting some thousands of miles away from the object of ridicule in a cosy chair behind a PC...but would one do the same face to face, like say in the Trump arena? ;) Everyone likes to be heard. Everyone likes to hear something different (a different POV need not be a disagreement or negativity); said with regard and respect, even camaraderie (depending on the kind of connect already established). beBee cannot become a battleground for old foes from the Atlantis. Ignore-Block-Report-Ban is a good progression. beBee is a fresh start...and a new beginning!26/03/2017 #21 Brian McKenzieNews is filtered, produced, sanitized and delivered based on Agenda. That you are not hearing of the attacks, violence, murder, rioting, looting, rapes and kidnappings - doesn't mean they are not happening - it just means that the game the handlers are playing want you dumb, culled and complacent to what is going on. Information is a weapon - the 'news' is at best a confetti gun & cheap bullhorn. Signed from a conflict you wont hear about on the 'news' for another year - with an ever growing body count.26/03/2017 #20 David B. Grinberg@Milos Djukic @🐝 Fatima G. Williams @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher @John White, MBA @Lance 🐝 Scoular are five of the most gracious and giving bees on this platform, or any other one. They are always sharing and kindly commenting on the content of others without being prompted. This is the "attitude of gratitude" that helps make this such an amazing platform. Of course, there are many others to name, but you can only tag five bees in one comment. Thanks to ALL!
- Producer25/03/2017If You're Happy and You Know It!North Dakota is a notorious "boot-strapper" state, where the individual is expected to pull their own weight, regardless of circumstance. The only two situations that generally grant you a pass is 1) being elderly. I think that goes without saying...
Comments27/03/2017 #4 Preston 🐝 Vander VenGreat Buzz. You said that being happy is a state of mind. I have always felt it as a decision. Is that the same thing? I have always like a quote by Gandhi, "Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony." Yet, we can choose to be happy we these are not in harmony.25/03/2017 #1 Pamela 🐝 WilliamsAbso-f'n-lutely Donna Wood. I was a single parent my daughters whole life; my only regrets in regards to her are all the special moments I missed with her because I was working more than I should. They grow up so fast; don't miss it people because in that instance; you DO NOT get a second chance. I'm so tired of hearing about money and having MORE I could scream.
- Producer24/03/2017Using Informal Learning Instances to identify tacit knowledgeThrough a constructivist Grounded Theory approach, supervisors and front-line staff from two different resorts in the northern province of La Union (Philippines) were interviewed. The primary purpose was to help them look back over their hospitality...
- ProducerAnother Day In Paris.Her eyes were closed. 'Son of a bitch' was her only thought. Her bed was a chaos. He arrived yesterday with the last flight coming from Los Angeles. When they met at the airport, she felt akward. His eyes were not smiling as usual. She could read...
Comments25/03/2017 #36 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.#35 everything is possible, you never know @🐝 Fatima G. Williams23/03/2017 #32 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.#28 what an awesome compliment @Yogesh Sukal, truly grateful for your beautiful words, continued story? A big yes, please take a look at 'Windy City'.23/03/2017 #31 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.#30 glad you do @Paul Walters!23/03/2017 #30 Paul Walters@Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc. Love it !!!!22/03/2017 #26 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.#9 @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher, well that is very kind to say Lisa, what more to wish for than such a touching reaction!22/03/2017 #25 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.#10 @Dean Owen excellent question, maybe we all find out one day on beBee.22/03/2017 #24 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.#11 @Laurent Boscherini, I love what you have written, wise and true.22/03/2017 #23 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.#12 thank you @Juan Imaz, beBee is the best platform to create articles.22/03/2017 #22 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.#13 wise words @Ali Anani, thank you.22/03/2017 #21 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.#14 thank you @Jan 🐝 Barbosa, highly appreciated.22/03/2017 #20 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.#15 cool, yes and who knows, it might get even cooler in a next article, @Bill Stankiewicz, 🐝 Brand Ambassador22/03/2017 #19 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.#16 buzzing as only bees can and do @Matt 🐝 Sweetwood with a heart for beBee!22/03/2017 #18 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.#17 thank you @Kevin Baker
- Producer22/03/2017Meeting AngelAnnetta felt as if she had been walking for miles yet still hadn't found her way. It must have been at least an hour since she had left the house and her thoughts were jumbled. She hoped that the fresh air would help. A cleansing perhaps. A jolt of...
Comments25/03/2017 #16 Aleta Curry#14 Yeah, I feel the same way about the tag thing, not sure whether I'm annoying people or not. But then I thought of what a friend said to me about men ages ago: call, or don't call, but don't worry yourself sick dithering about it.
Or, as Yoda would say: do, or do not.24/03/2017 #15 Laura Mikolaitis#11 Thanks, @Todd Jones. As a canine mom of a Golden Retriever, I can relate. Our Henley is always happy to see us and can make you smile even on your worst day. He has quite the personality too. Animals are truly a blessing when we are lucky enough to have them by our side. I appreciate you taking the time to read my post and wish you a good weekend ahead!24/03/2017 #11 Todd JonesGreat post, Laura. I have been lucky to enjoy the company of dogs my entire life.
"If you pick up a starving dog and make him prosperous, he will not bite you. This is the principle difference between a dog and man" - Mark Twain.
My Golden Retriever Finnegan is only living creature that is reliably happy to see me :)24/03/2017 #6 Laura Mikolaitis#3 @Julia 🐝 Rutherford, thank you! I appreciate you taking the time to read my story and letting me know that you like it. I am a dog lover (and a mom to a Golden Retriever) so I drew some inspiration from real life and just let the words unfold. So nice to meet you!24/03/2017 #5 Laura Mikolaitis#2 @Pascal Derrien, thank you so much. What a nice comment! I'm glad that even though you are a Kat person you gave it a chance. I hope to write more short stories in the future. When the creative bug strikes, I try to roll with it as much as possible. It's a good outlet for me and something that I really love to do. Thanks for your support and for not passing by because of the picture :)24/03/2017 #4 Laura Mikolaitis#1Thank you @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher. I enjoyed the process that came with writing this one. It was explorative and creative and I worked on it for a couple of weeks. Writing some, then stepping away. Coming back, editing and getting stuck. And then when I came back to it the other day it just all came together. It felt right and so I ran with it. So glad that you liked it! Thanks so much reading, commenting and for sharing. I really appreciate your support.
- Producer22/03/2017Acts of KindnessOn Friday, March 17, 2017, Marcia Turesky Rooks died. She had lived a wonderful life, and she died just six weeks past her 100th birthday.She was my mother.And while her death was a blessing, as she'd gone rapidly downhill after her momentous...
Comments23/03/2017 #29 Ken BoddieHere is a poem I wrote last year for another occasion. I hope it brings you some comfort, Susan, as you ponder over your loss in the days and months to come.
Grief never leaves us,
She answers not our why's,
She hugs us like a shadow,
And refuses our goodbyes.
She's there lest we forget,
When our loved ones slip away,
That their spirit lives in what we do,
And everything we say.23/03/2017 #28 Nicole ChardenetSo sorry to hear about your loss, Susan. We have to let go of our parents sooner or later. Fortunately you got to keep yours for a good long time. As I watch my mother (my remaining parent) slowly decline I prepare myself for the eventual outcome. Many condolences to you and your family.23/03/2017 #25 Lisa 🐝 GallagherI'm so sorry for your loss @Susan Rooks. This is a great tribute to your mom and family. The irony of your parent's anniversary. I'm going to guess your mom was an awesome woman just like her daughter! It doesn't matter how old we are or how old are mom's are when they pass, we still feel like a child grieving the loss of our moms. Grieve when you must and don't beat yourself up over it when the tears may come flooding. They say tears are healing. I'm happy you had so much time with your mom!23/03/2017 #24 Jared Wiese, 🐝 adding VALUE & RESULTSSo sorry to hear of your loss, @Susan Rooks. Grateful that everyone came together and helped each other out.
Reminds me of the quote, "They May Forget What You Said, But They Will Never Forget How You Made Them Feel".
This is often attributed to Maya Angelou, but some say it was actually Carl W. Buehner.
Regardless of who said it, perhaps you may reflect on how your mother, Marcia Turesky Rooks, made you and many others feel.23/03/2017 #22 Sarah ElkinsIt is a special study of human nature to observe how people behave at special occasions like weddings, births, and funerals. I'm so glad you had such kindness in your life as you said goodbye to your mother, @Susan Rooks View moreIt is a special study of human nature to observe how people behave at special occasions like weddings, births, and funerals. I'm so glad you had such kindness in your life as you said goodbye to your mother, @Susan Rooks. Thanks for sharing. Close22/03/2017 #13 Cyndi wilkins#12 Yes...He has been reunited with my mom...She passed almost fourteen years ago and not a day went by that he did not mourn her...So I am happy for them both;-) Knowing and believing that makes my heart feel a little lighter.
Sounds like your mom had a wonderful and very full life...Now reunited with her beloved too...May we all be so lucky;-)
Next time you come this way, I'd love to meet for lunch or something...perhaps a walk around Fort Sewall with a stop at the Barnacle for the obligatory lobster roll;-) The summer is so beautiful out here on the edge of nowhere!22/03/2017 #12 Susan Rooks#11 Oh my, @Cyndi wilkins! Who knew? I grew up in Marblehead and left it at 18, returning sporadically when I had to. Gorgeous town, out on the edge of nowhere!
Interesting that you believe your dad chose his date; I will always think my mom tried to do just that, falling just a couple of hours short. But if there's anything to the idea of an afterlife, I know she's with my dad, and your dad is with . . . your mom?
- Producer22/03/2017Oh, Kolkata! One Of India's Most Vibrant Cities.“From where I sit, I can see the old lighthouse in the High Court Campus. It’s a rather “telling structure, ”pleasant to look at, as if it almost belongs to the country. The GPO on the other hand strikes rather a false note, as it is too European...
Comments23/03/2017 #21 Paul Walters#20 @Asesh Datta Thanks for your feedback. The article was for a magazine and they only gave me 1200 words so hard to cover everything . You are right there are so many things that I didn't cover ...the bookseller street and the famous tea houses along it for one. I shall return there is no doubt. Once again, thanks for stopping by !23/03/2017 #20 Asesh Datta@Paul Walters It is always nice to read about our own city from a traveller and, that too, from another country. Like political capital, commercial capital, Kolkata is being labelled as cultural capital of India. Apart from historical significance and imperial construction, there are other facets which British have left as legacy. Some of them you may list in your next trip are Fort William, Eden Garden, Belur Math, Botanical Garden, Gun and Shell Factory (even before British Period), Clive House and New Town. Then the attraction of food, art and culture apart from language (Bengali). Thanks and regards.22/03/2017 #18 Bill Stankiewicz, 🐝 Brand AmbassadorThe British left India in 1947, but they left behind quite a bit of baggage — starchy clubs with antiquated jacket-and-tie dress codes completely unsuitable for Indian weather, a passion for cricket and English and Anglicized names.
Every city had streets and squares named after English viceroys and governor-generals: Clive, Hastings, Dalhousie. Soon the new government was busy renaming those roads and landmarks after Indian freedom fighters. Lala Lajpat Rai. Tilak, Gandhi. Nehru. A lot of Gandhis and Nehrus.22/03/2017 #17 🐝 Fatima G. WilliamsI love the way you describe calcutta or kolkata as it's called now. I had visited calcutta in 2009 and also instantly fell in love with the city. You have almost everything there. I didn't visit alot of places as it was just a stop over for the evening but I loved the Hoowrah bridge a true master piece and the trip to the Ganges was spectacular during the sunset. @Paul Walters Enjoyed the revisit through your buzz 🤗🤗🤗🤗 And Oh the cycle rickshaws are a must try there. Pretty amazing 🤗22/03/2017 #8 Randy KehoI, too, admire mature architecture. But, how can Kolkata be the most vibrant city if there's no mention of the nightlife? Surely, you must of mistakenly stumbled upon a pub from days gone by somewhere along the line.
By the way, I've traded the tall blonde for two shorter versions. May the best one win. The decision may be made final Saturday night -- if they don't find out about one another beforehand. They're old friends.
You don't have to ride in a blind taxi in India to live dangerously.
Thanks for the shoutout. I truly enjoy reading about your adventures.22/03/2017 #7 Ken BoddieStill finding it difficult to imagine Basil Fawlty with an Indian accent, Paul. And the half naked gentleman standing next to the STD sign had me worried, until I figured out the abbreviations are associated with telecommunications rather than a warning about the dangers of overfamiliarity. India is a country I have avoided colliding with on my travels, but perhaps one day, some day .....22/03/2017 #6 Netta VirtanenThis is so beautifully written, it took me straight back to Calcutta! =) I agree with you about Calcutta being ¨one of the more vibrant cities in India.¨ Calcutta is much more traditional and modest in comparison to Delhi and Mumbai. Calcutta has so much to offer, it is amazing. Hopefully next time you get your luggage on arrival. =)22/03/2017 #3 Lisa 🐝 GallagherA busy City indeed @Paul Walters! Kolkata is full of history. I enjoyed reading about this city. Your jaunt in the Taxi.......... OMG LOL! I would have been crapping myself (excuse me for saying that) LOL. I love train stations, tracks and trains too. That was a really cool station and busy as heck by the appearance of all the taxi's there?!! You did get your belongings, right? My husband flew to the Canary Islands out of Scotland about 10 years ago and on his way back 2 of his bags went missing. They said they would have the bags at Heathrow by the time he left to go back to the States, that never happened. After many calls when he returned, I finally got a hold of a man at the airport in Scotland and I could barely understand him (his brogue), you'd think I would have been able to since my grandparents had a very strong brogue. Anyhow, he said let me check, came back all excited saying he found my husband's stuff and gave me a telephone number with email address so we could get his stuff sent here. Uh, somehow it was never to be found again. He even told me what was in the bags. Sorry to remiss about that incident but your story made me think of it. Ok, enough about that, you are a wanderlust and I love it!
- Producer22/03/2017What is our worth based upon?This is the third of my series of posts on worthiness. The first two are: Being Worthy and What am I worth? I hope you enjoy and can gain from this post. Our personal worthiness is directly linked to how much we feel valued. But on what is our...
- Producer21/03/2017Spring, Oh Most Wonderful Season Of Joy And Laughter.This morning I woke up with joy.Excitement lifts my mood because it is there...My most favorite season of the year: Spring has arrived.The birds in the trees wait for the final instructions given by the sun.Their wings are moving in divine rhythm,...
Comments21/03/2017 #20 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.#17 yes let us celebrate the season each day more @Kevin Baker21/03/2017 #19 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.#16 Yes let us all buzz on @Matt 🐝 Sweetwood21/03/2017 #18 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.#15 thank you @Darko Lugonja21/03/2017 #14 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.#10 thank you @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher happy you like it!21/03/2017 #13 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.#9 my pleasure @Ali Anani, beautiful comments, thank you.21/03/2017 #12 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.yes @Devesh 🐝 Bhatt what a coincidence, thank you so much!21/03/2017 #11 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.#7 thank you @Joyce 🐝 Bowen much appreciated.21/03/2017 #10 Lisa 🐝 GallagherVery moving @Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.!21/03/2017 #4 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.
- Producer21/03/2017Spring RenewalAs we move into Spring, out of the depths of winter I am enjoying the west coast sunshine (read rain) and I am looking forward with joy to Spring with its stunning colours, wildly serrated edges, oceans of emotion, mountains of possibilities, worlds...
- Producer20/03/2017What To Do When Someone Tells You You're Not Good EnoughThroughout my career, I've been plagued by people telling me I'm not good enough. I've been rejected for more jobs than I care to remember. I've heard every excuse in the book for not being hired. Some of them were quite absurd and hard to...
Comments22/03/2017 #25 Jerry FletcherJohn,
I've come to the conclusion that there are three kinds of people in the world:
1. Those who don't know what they don't know and hence are not capable of giving advice
2. Those who know what they know and what they don't and can give advice on matters in their knowledge base
3. Those those that ask for advice from the knowledgeable, listen and then find out for themselves.
Of these the last is what I believe we should aim for while avoiding the unsolicited little voice in your head that says, "what makes you think you can..."21/03/2017 #24 Brian McKenzieMost people do not have the spine to have the conversation, "You are not good enough" ~ so they will passively aggressive ghost you in standard non-reply mode and hope you will get the hint......of course they made this grand decision of you in about 6 seconds between their Angry Birds game and live Instagram feed update 8?/ This is both Dating and HR - draw your conclusions and Venn Diagram as you will. PS - the military was always ready and eager to tell you what a worthless piece of shit you were - it built character.21/03/2017 #23 Marisa Fonseca DinizExcellent reflection! All professionals without exception have skills to perform certain functions, but there are few who are able to recognize their failures. It's no use having a huge bag of knowledge and experience if you do not have your self-esteem elevated, for whatever you do will be considered by others a disaster, that's how the world turns. The superego is also not the best solution, but it is what masks the shortcomings of many of the bosses currently employed in the labor market. Throughout my career I have also been rejected several times in companies that I considered excellence, but I realized that many were afraid that I would take on a smaller position and be able to take their position as manager over time, comfortable position of boss, and look that some even came to tell me this, but I never let myself be beaten by the negative words, quite the contrary, then later I realized the good that they themselves had done to me. I would never have the knowledge to grow in my career with people who had nothing to add. Beginning to write a blog, a book or articles is really a very arduous task, especially when we have the ardent desire to show all those who rejected us one day, that we have enough knowledge and experiences to share with anyone who knows nothing, but it is the determination and self-esteem that keep us going. And over time we realize how much being a blogger or writer or an author does us well, and make us leverage not only our career but also highlights us in the environment we live in, that is making a difference, not just behind of an office desk thinking that it is changing the lives of subordinates, the organization, or even their own career. Everyone should experience this experience because they would know where their strengths or weaknesses in their professional career lie.21/03/2017 #22 Aleta CurryAnd not everyone will tell you you're not good enough straight to your face. If it's implied rather than expressed, well, that may be even more destructive. One can respond to a direct put down with a sound 'FU', but when the put down is implicit, it plants insidious seeds of doubt in the mind.
Then there are those who tell you what you can't do out of sincere desire to keep you from failing.
Thanks, John for another thought-provoking article.21/03/2017 #21 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.this is really a beautiful message @John White, MBA, you will touch many hearts with it!21/03/2017 #20 Robert CormackVery interesting post, @John White, MBA. I've had my share of firings and toxic bosses as well. Interestingly enough, every time I've been fired, my boss has said "You do good work, Robert, but we're letting you go." I may write about this one day. It seems the day you stop nodding your head, you're a target. Head nodders always last longer than head shakers. Nobody has a problem with a "kiss ass" but if you fight, you have legions of people wishing you'd just go away. Thanks for the post.21/03/2017 #19 Steve JonesJohn thanks for writing this. I occasionally ask myself what motivates me and one thing I always come back to was back in the late 1970's when I totally messed up my GCSE's, (too much partying). My English teacher told me I would never amount to anything so I left school with very few qualifications and have WORKED ever since. I have never been out of work, even after redundancy. I'm lucky to have met and worked with some fantastic people over the years who have helped and supported me, but I'd also like to thank my English teacher who told me I'd never be good enough.21/03/2017 #18 Anonymous@John White, MBA Great to hear a story of recognition of what holds us back and what supports us in moving forward in our lives. If I surround myself with people who have higher expectations of me that I have of myself, then I will exceed my own expectations. My grandparents, my parents, my wife, my first manager, my friend who taught me squash, my friends, I can recite a long list of those who had higher expectations of me than I had of myself. There is a long list of detractors and belittlers but their names and roles have been crossed out so heavily I can't recall the names. Kia Kaha John, you do good service here.21/03/2017 #15 Lisa 🐝 GallagherThis article still inspires me @John White, MBA. For some reason, some people's titles have intimidated me. I think it depends on how they treat others with regards to being intimidated. I just wrote a small story about midlife and some feelings/fears I'm facing. My husband said, "Why do you write negative things when you do so many positive things in life?" I told him, I write what comes to mind and my writing does depend on my mood. Even articles that some may view as negative well, others can relate and I've found it can start conversations that lead to putting our heads together. At other times I admit, it's just cathartic. By the way, @David B. Grinberg tagged you, your company & I added your publications to the tag on my last post which is on Thriveglobal. You are an inspiration to so many and one day I would love to chat with you on the phone when you have time. I have a few ideas and I could use sound advice from someone like yourself! Kudos to you for ignoring the haters and letting them ignite your flame!21/03/2017 #13 Laura Donnelly@John White, MBA - enjoyed this post --- what helped me was accepting that I was good enough (coming from a family of perfectionists, this was a big step for me!) This quote: "Always remember, the people who say you can't do something can't do it either!" So true - and when you do it, they really don't like you, so better to leave them in the dust!21/03/2017 #12 CityVP 🐝 Manjit#5 This is very topical because I saw an interview with Matt Damon where the interviewer asked how his mentor in what was a regular school in Boston end up producing three Oscar winners in Damon, the two Afleck brothers. It is the way he fondly remembered his mentors that showed me just how many people in life are unsung heroes.
I believe that when we have that level of gratitude, that emotive energy can be sufficient to override the negative batteries that drain us of energy and life.
We know when we come across a negative battery, for their only purpose is to drain us, and so it is important to recognize these effects but also supplement positive effects that Matt Damon expressed in his great affection and tribute to his high school drama teacher, a man who selflessly taught his art so others could achieve the impossible dreams. We cannot let our lives be defined by tormentors when there are these mentors that you have expressed in our life.21/03/2017 #9 Devesh 🐝 BhattWriting is a good way to get clarity. I think it work marvelouslly if a person reads you and writes thoughts about it somewhere for reflection. At a place where it can stand alone.
Not only as a comment that disappears between many comments but something for oneself to go back to after reading you.
Just a thought.
- Producer20/03/2017VANAMThis was my second attempt in poem writing :-) You might have a spare minute to read it :-) Thanks and have a great Monday, wherever you are and whatever you`re doing... :-) Lisa 🐝 Gallagher,Devesh Bhatt, Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman Paul Walters 🐝...
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