- Producer19/02/2017Lavender HouseYour mansion on the hill, we will build it somehow. Amidst fern and hawthorn, pine trees and a cedar. Under a red tiled roof, the ceilings will be low, Your life will be easy, away from any war. We will pad the floor blue like...
- Producer16/02/2017One Drop"One Drop", Illustration © 2017 Chas Wyatt, graphite, pencil, watercolor pencil and guoache on paper One drop... one moment... all of infinity... He felt a sharp sting, "damn!", he yelled. His suit had been shredded in the crash and he brushed...
Comments17/02/2017 #5 AnonymousAhhh, your choice of repititions. Beautiful writing and Art my friend!!! If Love can be all that matters, maybe we can mineralize it into matter, one day. Til then, like Aliens holding infinity in the palm of our hands, we'll keep creating a new definition of success.... Lovely story @Chas ✌️ Wyatt, thank you.16/02/2017 #3 Deb 🐝 HelfrichLove for a great story is another of the gifts of life that matter, @Chas ✌️ Wyatt - this is as polished as a gemstone. Especially the truism that metal and minerals are easy to make. It is the spark of life that will be forever the most precious element of the universe.
- Producer16/02/2017Soul Cages Titled: Unshackled A Digital Artwork By Savvy Raj http://www.savvyraj.comBorn free we truly are but we learn to evolve to move beyond the soulcages of our own being! ! When we learn to appreciate the freedom that is ours for the taking ,we realise...
Comments18/02/2017 #16 Donna-Luisa Eversley"Every thing alive has a right to be all that they manifest with the uniqueness of their thoughts ." Very beautifully stated @Savvy Raj! I guess as a child we have the innocence of the unknown as we get older experiences seen through our eyes and feelings create shadows forming a cage. Thanks for sharing .17/02/2017 #15 Savvy RajThank you @ Sara Jacobvici for your kind appreciation of this article and your equally thoughtful intepretation and valuable insights. Varied choice of meanings can play an important role in understanding new perspectives . I sincerely appreciate and receive yours in this context . In the post above I chose to highlight the idea of acceptance as a receiving of a situation in the depth of awareness and acceptance of the reality than to relegate it as destiny as a choice in our hand. And then in such a receiving in awareness one can then work to adapt to the situation exploring the potential possibilities. The freedom is in the power of the choices as we choose to see and it certainly rests with us .17/02/2017 #14 Savvy Raj#10 @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
Dear Lisa.Great to read about your family and thank you for sharing this. Have felt one with your words here as it related so much with my family here as well. Freedom is a huge responsibilty in both the giving and the receiving.... and is a blessing to have for all who sense as it is alligned in its path by an internal compass of consciousness awareness and conscience.
.Have often felt that as parents the power of freedom and love will keep the need to rebel in check than the power of control and coercion .17/02/2017 #13 Sara JacoboviciA profound and valuable piece, poetically written @Savvy Raj. You write, "A child very lovingly brought up has to experience and grow and live in a world of dualities." This is our fate as human beings; before we integrate, we experience the separation. What I experience is, shackled and freedom = choice. We can only choose to be free if we understand to what we are shackled. Being in the confines of boundaries, in and of itself, does not mean loss of freedom. You wisely write about acceptance and adaptability. I would humbly change that to meaning and adaptability. At the risk of oversimplifying: we are shackled to oxygen to survive. We don't consider ourselves caged. We form the meaning and adapt. So much so, that when we want to move out of the boundaries of the space in which we can breathe, we adapt. We can breath underwater, we can breathe in outer space. We adapt, we make choices. Too often, the meaning we form of something will shackle us to the point where we experience loss of freedom. That is when we mistakenly think we have no choice.17/02/2017 #12 Savvy Raj#11 Thank you @ City VP Manjit for these interesting links that propel a new direction of flow in the shifting perspectives of thought. Appreciate this focus on the word' Unshackle' and thank you also for your thoughtful mention to @Sara Jacobovici View more#11 Thank you @ City VP Manjit for these interesting links that propel a new direction of flow in the shifting perspectives of thought. Appreciate this focus on the word' Unshackle' and thank you also for your thoughtful mention to @Sara Jacobovici As I saw it here Unshackling is a focussed approach as well and has the potential to create new spaces for light and every now and then . A conscious unshackling of patterns of thought brings forth new and diverse ways of thinking and such a diversity acknowledges new movements and breeds further creativity. And in such
unshackling there is the underlying freedom to evolve further . Close16/02/2017 #11 CityVP 🐝 ManjitFreedom is often the illusion we feel most free in but unshackle is a tangible action and it might be multiple actions or a continuous state of becoming or renewal. We are most free when we don't know we are - and then someone asks how do you do that? Then we become conscious of a moment that actually was freedom.
So I find the word unshackle interesting and ask @Sara Jacobovici to include that word in her WORD-OF-THE-DAY
In this video I found called UNSHACKLE - it isn't about people who are unshackled but a recital of artists who feel shackled by neo-liberalism https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HmMxUAJ2duQ In less than five minutes they do produce an interesting video yet the word "Unshackle" is a hope here rather than a personal exploration. The boogie man here is neo-liberalism the video calls a deep dystopian faith a dominant worldwide ideology exhibiting all the signs of a religious cult" etc etc etc
The important thing here is that just from this one word Unshackle it sets off different trajectories and pathways, a bit like random atoms hitting each other in a collider and the scientists watches for new particles to form. In my case a new particle online is finding something that perks my interest that I would not otherwise would have found - and in this case this particle is Portugal originating art project :
Museu da Crise
Now that to me is more soul and less cage but when it comes to the ownership of our own mind, it remains all relative. Great piece here really supports the way I personally think.16/02/2017 #10 Lisa 🐝 GallagherThis was a good read @Savvy Raj. It made me think of my own kids. I always brought them up to seek out what they like, not push my own agenda on them. I wanted them to make decisions based on what they were comfortable with after watching so many kids their ages being pushed to do activities they weren't happy doing. I'm not saying I didn't give guidance or that we didn't talk things through but they were never forced to 'try out for football, soccer, join this club etc.." They did participate in things they loved and sometimes found out they didn't after the season was over. The only thing we asked and followed through with- if you decide to join a team you have to follow through with it until the season ends. We wanted them to realize the importance of following through with a decision along with realizing a team needs you once you become part of one. So to end my long paragraph... I hope I allowed them the freedom to choose because they aren't afraid to make choices outside of the box now. They both are good decision makers and enjoy life!16/02/2017 #9 Savvy Raj#5 Yes I can perhaps empathize with that .... yet In my little understanding of it all ....The moment now is free of all the shackles of opinion and judgement
In dispelling the thens casting off the whens through a sense of purpose that extends beyond our immediate self ...
in passion and perseverance.
Living can become a blessing in the now .16/02/2017 #8 Savvy Raj#6 @Ali Anani
Your astute sense of observation is the gift of seeing beyond the mere looking of the apparent aesthetics. Likewise to understandings in the patterns of flight of the birds in your precious example and social media interaction and the evolving patterns of affinities the shifts may have much to do with Energy ...in emission transmission and the ensuing transaction..
Must add this certainly is like taking a flight of creativity essentially as a possible future buzz in formation.
Thank you indeed as I deeply appreciate your ever valuable steering of thoughts as a sort of sifting through to rake in the creativity for us all16/02/2017 #6 Ali AnaniDear @Savvy Raj. When birds fly in V-Patterns they follow three simple rules. As a result the pattern emerges. Your writing promises there shall be a pattern emerging. Your four simple rules:
Dealing with what must be dealt
Bending in the flow where it is necessary
Standing up for something or someone you care in support
Steering through the crisis that show up without notice
As simple as they appear, they still feed back to each other. I feel strongly that deep observation shall reveal a hidden pattern. Just consider or watch a group of people following them and notice new patterns emerging. This buzz is worthy of sharing.
- Producer15/02/2017Locked InWhy would you undress your emotions when it is so easy to give in to inhibition? Why would you undertake such an expedition when it is so easy to go thru the motions?Are we not all facing that dilemma at some point or another? What does it take to...
Comments16/02/2017 #31 Deb 🐝 HelfrichSimply profound, Pascal. I think that while others are responsible for putting on the locks, and should be held accountable, each person is the only locksmith that can chose to find & use the perfect key. We can call the professionals and they will cut the keys, but the unshackling is an inside job.16/02/2017 #26 Ken BoddieAs one door closes another ..... slams shut in our face! But .....
Do locked doors keep our feelings and emotions securely shut up inside, or prevent them from being shared?
Do locks prevent invasion or avoid others helping?
Have we temporarily lost the key, or thrown it away?16/02/2017 #21 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher@Pascal Derrien, I'm glad you are writing about it. I think (well I'm learning) to face our demons, fears etc... are part of the healing process. You have a way of writing where you don't sound like the victim (even though that would not matter to me) because you WERE a victim and I feel your pain in your writing. My husband will kill me for saying this but he was abused severely growing up and no, you don't get past it. I think his way of dealing with it was to try and block it. He's a type A, a workaholic and over the past 3-4 years he has finally been able to show more emotion around me and share feelings.. he will never be able to share like some men do. My mothers illness and death changed him over time. He told me she was the only mom he ever had. He said she took him under her wing when he was just a teenager and always treated him like a son. His mom is still alive but they aren't close. I know he loves her but not in the same way many men would love their moms. Thanks for sharing this and I'm sorry I went on about my husband.16/02/2017 #18 Helena Jansen van VuurenSjoe - how do you do that - stop me dead in my tracks!! I have lived on autopilot deliberately and intentionally to avoid confronting things and the self. It is easy to do. Or is it easier to do? I did stick my head out once and the backlash made me lock that box and here you are 20 odd years later. Do I want to think or do i just keep the box locked or maybe for me my stuff belongs in the box. Lurve your way with words!
Comments15/02/2017 #20 Tausif Mundrawala#18 I was waiting with unabated breath to listen to those golden words uttered by you. And finally my wish came true. I read a novel which was very dark in essence and amidst the story I dropped that book aside because I can't read more. Then this very idiom caught my attention and the idea of this poem germinated in my mind. I am thankful to have a mentor like you. Thank you so much in all aspects, Sir @Ali Anani15/02/2017 #18 Ali AnaniDear @Tausif Mundrawala- you are a talented and gifted poet. You really are. I like lyrics that are enjoyable to read; yet with their powerful simplicity they leave wondering how I couldn't write them. This is an example of I mean:
" Opportunity will definitely knock your door,
hold this crystal by not letting it land on the floor"15/02/2017 #13 Lisa 🐝 GallagherThanks for tagging me @Tausif Mundrawala. "Self-doubt would make you a prisoner,
coward with your name would become a misnomer." --- We've all experienced self-doubt, thank goodness for others who shake that self-doubt when it arrives and for a strong will to persevere.15/02/2017 #10 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.#9 my pleasure, that is what fellow bees are for!15/02/2017 #9 Tausif Mundrawala#8 Thank you so much @Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc. for sharing this poem and your kind words.15/02/2017 #8 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.this is truly inspirational, thanks for sharing this precious reminder, @Tausif Mundrawala
- 15/02/2017Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, the mind can achieve.
Do no underestimate your thought process. #mind #think #believe
Comments14/02/2017 #5 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#4 @Ella de Jong, when my daughter was in HS they began an after school project called the Ophelia Project. It was to help girls recognize bullying and also those who do the bullying. A woman wrote a book called Reviving Ophelia and it was based on her daughter's and other gals real life experiences along with her own experience as a mother of a teen daughter. I mentioned this because it may give you some ideas to progress your project. Here is a link to the Ophelia Project: http://www.opheliaproject.org/mentor.html14/02/2017 #4 Ella de JongAnd for me happiness is: having a meaningful life.
Research showed that 'meaningfulness' is even more 'lasting' than happiness. So it fits my intuition :-)
I have this huge, huge idea of helping (troubled) youngsters to be able to have a meaningful life. Now find the time and money to work it out ... that would make me happy :-)
Thanks @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher and @Javier 🐝 beBee reading things like this makes me feel more determined!14/02/2017 #3 Javier 🐝 beBeeSir Richard Branson shows that "work and fun come together" https://www.bebee.com/producer/@javierbebee/sir-richard-branson-shows-that-work-and-fun-come-together-bebee View moreSir Richard Branson shows that "work and fun come together" https://www.bebee.com/producer/@javierbebee/sir-richard-branson-shows-that-work-and-fun-come-together-bebee
Why entrepreneurs benefit from having an integrated online presence
https://www.bebee.com/producer/@javierbebee/why-entrepreneurs-benefit-from-having-an-integrated-online-presence Close14/02/2017 #2 Lisa 🐝 GallagherGreat quote by Sir Richard. Thanks for sharing @Javier 🐝 beBee. I couldn't agree more- I have never measured my success by means of monetary value or those I associate with. My greatest joy is my family. When I was a teen I didn't have patience for little ones (I was never mean to them) and I never thought I could be a parent because of that. The love I felt and still do along with the deep bonds we've built together, well you just can't put a dollar value on that. One more thing- sometimes my daughter (with good intentions) would say, "Mom, you should buy this or that for the house," I would tell her, I don't want to spend money on the interior of our home anymore unless it's necessary, I'd rather travel and live life to the fullest!
- Producer14/02/2017Today, Tomorrow and The Day AfterWhen I first saw you, my heart never skipped a beatnow I am not even sure if it beats for meyou own every beat. When we talked, there wasn’t a cluethat you are gonna be a rainfall of wrecking ballswhich I gladly get drenched in. Wounds of past made...
- Producer12/02/2017Sands through the Hour GlassIt was hot ..... bloody hot! ..... yet here we were in the middle of the 'high dune' country, in the south of the United Arab Emirates (UAE), on the edge of Saudi Arabia's 'Empty Quarter'. We were drilling site investigation holes down to 20m or...
Comments13/02/2017 #36 Ken Boddie#29 Certainly is a "ways back", @Paul Walters. Had quite forgotten about some of the details until the "F2D thingy" allowed me to look at some of the details again. Of course the pics you see have had to be 'adjusted' in Photoshop to get rid of some of the age damage, scratches, ingrained dust and stains. Thanks for the thumbs up, mate.13/02/2017 #33 Dean Owen#29 No black Amex and all? I don't think the trouble and strife would approve! I'd have to bring along one of those Breitling Emergency watches with the distress beacon. Let me get a divorce first! :) Then you spin the globe and make sure you don't prick Aleppo or Pyongyang or East St. Louis, Illinois.13/02/2017 #29 Paul Walters@Ken Boddie I just love pieces like this...desert stories from a ways back. Now without a platform like this they might never be told and added to that there is the D2D Thingie that converts slides to digital....a'int life grand, Thanks you old driller....great piece and is that you in the bottom pic? you handsome devil you !!!13/02/2017 #27 Ken Boddie#24 All sand dunes are mobile to some degree, Lisa. Just like a gastronomy specialist, they rely on 'wind' to exist. 🤢
As for the camels at night, the road between Abu Dhabi and Dubai, back in the day, used to be littered with dead camels, and the occasional motor vehicle wreck along side.13/02/2017 #23 Ken Boddie#21 #22 Funnily enough, Lisa, the trails were rarely 'bumpy', probably due to the surgical covering of loose sand. The worst thing with which we had to contend was getting stuck halfway up a dune face and having to slide back down, prior to giving it a go again on full throttle. But driving on the bitumen was often more of a challenge on the stomach, due to ruts and potholes in the seal. We also had to be wary of mobile dunes, which, every once in a while, would advance across part or all of the track or road. These natural obstructions could make night driving particularly tricky, along with the occasional camel travelling without tail lights. 🐪
- Producer12/02/2017Ding.Ding. The familiar sound of another email arriving. He clicks. Mouth already poised to turn downwards, preempting yet another email from her. He's told her to stop but she won't. 'Hey, it's me... again. I know, I know. I said I'd stop. I really...
Comments14/02/2017 #5 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#4 I watch too many real crime stories and I used to read them from my young teen years on. Ack, that makes me sound creepy lol. I've always had a deep curiosity as to why someone would commit such acts or I try to figure out if they are innocent or guilty if it's a true suspense. I remember the first book I read while in Junior HS was Helter Skelter... hey you can still write a murder suspense, they never end as someone would predict ;-) I like your writing style Sandra!13/02/2017 #3 Lisa 🐝 GallagherThis story reminded me of a true story but it was based in the UK I believe. The couple was living together, engaged but he didn't love her anymore. I think They were either, still living together of she lured him there one last night. When he was sleeping she killed him. Such a sad story and the man was so young. Enjoyed your story, see... it brought back a memory of relationship issues I read of or watch on TV.13/02/2017 #2 Kevin BakerCircles are made to be broken. Sometimes wanting to believe creates the illusion of more relevance. It is not a crime to be human, to punish ones self for that is a vortex. Our errors are ammunition to prevent making larger errors only when we are self forgiving. Great read. Next time listen to your skin when it tells you the weather has changed.
- Producer12/02/2017Have I Left My Schizophrenic Teddy Behind?It’s raining umbrellas today and the corridor is suddenly very greyNever been there before so I thought maybe it should be that wayI was expecting it to be creepy but it turns out to be kind of funnyYet I don’t understand how the air has become so...
Comments12/02/2017 #16 Phil FriedmanIf you read enough, from time to time, you'll come across a piece that's really striking and which reaches into your being to grab your spirit by the throat. This is one of those times, and this piece by Pascal Derrien does just that. I highly recommend you read it, but not try to decipher it. Instead, accept it at face value. For it will then be what you need it to be, -- which is something that a great piece always is.
- Producer12/02/2017Aura of LoveI just published my poem (below) on my Wordpress site BrewNSpew and while cruising beBee, I came upon this lovely poem by debasish majumder - AN ODE TO LOVE - https://www.bebee.com/producer/@debasish-majumder/an-ode-to-loveAura of LoveFragrances of...
- 12/02/2017If today was perfect, there would be no need for tomorrow. Keep striving to do better everyday! #progress #strive
- Producer11/02/2017AN ODE TO LOVE!Darkness of night Dispelling its might Emerge in the sky full moon With a soothing bloom A balm to souls Eternal love thus engulf us with its mystic role Love, love, and for love alone Kings can afford to abdicate their...
Comments12/02/2017 #18 CityVP 🐝 ManjitBTW COSE (Chamber of Self-Expression) does form a part of the DNA of what I engage here "The Learning Journey") so I invite Sara Jacobovici and Ali Anani to look at the opening statement page at https://groups.yahoo.com/neo/groups/Self-expressed/info?yguid=74425450
Likewise Debasish, I invite you also to take a look at it. Ultimately your journey might be a learning journey, it might be a self-expression journey, it might be a brand journey - that I don't know. One of the most helpful things I came across that helped me differentiate between a learning journey and a self-expression journey is Carol Dweck's distinction between a Growth Mindset and a Fixed Mindset
Here is the most important thing of all in the present context. I am not selling my vision of the world to you. I am exploring my own and this is why I am and will continue to write a flood of expressions that are currently informed by the words "successful personal branding" - because that not only is a rather mediocre conception but it BRANDS us. What that is saying is that we are all selling something - it defines human beings as constantly selling our ideas to others. It is also why I will file this poem into my GOLD LEARNING and not BLACK LEARNING - which are MY learning journeys.
I am not saying to you unfollow people and certainly not to follow me. Dweck's idea of growth mindset is what transforms my own self-expression journey into a learning one. I am glad that through this new map, I can continue my own learning journey and explore both utopia and dystopia as just one of the YELLOW LEARNING items on my learning journey.12/02/2017 #17 CityVP 🐝 Manjit#16 Dear Liesbeth, I am taking the liberty of using your comment "Love is a precious gift" to address my answer to Debasish's question as to my Darth Vader reference. So this is to Debasish.
What Liesbeth wrote in her comment is a single poetic line "love is a precious gift" - and if she wrote a poem about an Ode to Love, that would most probably be the starting point for her poet. This is not about right or wrong, but what is. The what is or present state of a Liesbeth poem would most likely be utopian. The present state of what is of a Debasish poem would be more likely from the dystopian view. So here the Debasish poem about an Ode to Love begins with "Darkness of Night", whereas I would not expect a poem written by Liesbeth to begin from that point - and thus I treat her comment as the first line of her poetry.
Now, when I engage online I am not particularly interested in my own present state. Each of us if we choose to engage future state development can choose to change. My future state won't be known to me until I get to look backwards to this time in the year 2020. A journey of self-expression is very different from a learning journey. In my early years I wasn't on a learning journey but a self-expression journey.
When I felt that my journey of self-expression was being threatened by a new concept at the time called Brand You that Tom Peters had introduced at the back-end of the 20th Century - I eventually decided that my self-expression journey would be branded "Mark Zorro". That is a great example of a dystopian choice, because the utopian choice would be to just accept "Brand You" ideology. So it is my first major dedicated Mark Zorro page was at Yahoo called Zorroist and I insisted on creating a group where the aim of the group is to unfollow. In the end I had managed to keep it down to 2 followers. "Mark Zorro" and me :-)
https://groups.yahoo.com/neo/groups/Self-expressed/info?yguid=7442545012/02/2017 #16 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.love is thé precious gift12/02/2017 #15 CityVP 🐝 Manjit#14 Debasish you do not engage in flowery, pretty, delusional poetry about utopia's and happiness abound, instead your poetry draws much more on dystopia and you don't shy away from the problems of the world. Your poetry is naturally drawn to the dark side. You may be Anakin Skywalker but the poetry like your comment itself, focus on the dark side where you say "which is almost waging war against nature". Immediately you are questioning what is wrong, instead of what is right.
Your poetry is not John Lennon "Imagine" (though John Lennon actual life was informed by the dark side and like all genius his songs and his life were a constant contradiction). The Beatles were seen as very utopian (and Brian Epstein crafted that image, even though Epstein himself did not live a utopian existence), but the Beatles had their dystopian too and that has to be dug out from the utopian image Epstein shaped for them see https://offtherecordglobe.areavoices.com/2015/08/03/5-beatles-songs-that-showed-they-could-be-dark/ This is present even in your reflection of love where you are not talking about agape love, but a more primal kind of love. https://www.gotquestions.org/agape-love.html12/02/2017 #14 debasish majumder#5 am i seem to be a villain or rogue in poetry, as you mention me as Darth Vader @CityVP 🐝 Manjit? i just wanted to draw a sharp contrast which we observe in nature apropos to love, where in nature males adorn, but, perhaps in human world, women adorn to attract males, which is almost waging war against nature! i just shared the reflection of love i observe.11/02/2017 #5 CityVP 🐝 ManjitWhen I saw the subject "love" that is not a subject I connect with Majumder poem and I was about to bequeath the honour upon you of being the Darth Vader of Poetry. That honour is still intact because as the poem advanced, it contained more themes to erotic love, the surprise would have been if the poem was about agape love - then I would reconsider your emerging status for the dark side :-)11/02/2017 #1 Ali AnaniNice poem dear @debasish majumder. I don't want to repeat my words in that you are a grand poet. You have just sent me into a thinking time by your writing "I never feel fatigued with love'. My daughter Sara said to me while she was very young "Dad, because I loved you so much I stopped loving you". When I asked her to explain her response was amazing. Because I loved you so much and you travel a lot you keep me worried for fear something wrong might happen to you. You keep me worried and I am fatigued". LOve in her eyes made her feel fatigued. Only yesterday, Sara left for one semester in Turkey. She won a scholarship because of her achievements. Sara left me fatigued. I miss her. Her love is the cause.
- Producer11/02/2017Valentine's Day: Beware of Cupid's Arrow at WorkIs love in the air at your office around Valentine’s Day? If so, remember this: it simply makes good career sense to proceed with caution when considering workplace romance. That’s because while work romance can potentially send you to the...
Comments17/02/2017 #47 David B. GrinbergFYI - Recommended Reading: New Pew Research Center study/poll, "Five facts on love and marriage in America."
Did YOU Know (DYK):
1) The top reason why Americans get married?
2) The percentage of Americans who are currently married?
3) The percentage of non-married adults who live together?
4) Whether the rate of marriage vs re-marriage is rising or falling?
5) The percentage of Americans seeking out love online?
Some of the answers may surprise YOU...
http://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2017/02/13/5-facts-about-love-and-marriage/?utm_source=Pew+Research+Center&utm_campaign=8c74db95b0-EMAIL_CAMPAIGN_2017_02_16&utm_medium=email&utm_term=0_3e953b9b70-8c74db95b0-39935091714/02/2017 #43 Lada 🏡 PrkicGood post, @David B. Grinberg. I'll repeat what I said in my comment on this thread:on LI.
There are no rules when it comes to love. I’ve seen some couples who have managed to keep their contact in the workplace at the professional level. It is unprofessional behaviour that causes problems. One of these couples got married and continued to work together. As you said, “People can’t always control where and when they meet or become romantically involved. Sometimes it’s just a matter of fate.“
As for Valentine's Day, my husband and I just don't see it as a special day, but as something imposed.13/02/2017 #40 Larry Boyer, 🐝 Brand Ambassador#39 @David B. Grinberg the successful work relationships also remind me of the dangers to existing relationship that can come - Brad Pitt - Angelina Jolie, Newt Gingrich - Callista Bisek come to mind. Hard to say if these are "successful" given they also destroyed existing relationships.13/02/2017 #39 David B. GrinbergThank you so much @Larry Boyer, 🐝 Brand Ambassador @Sarah Elkins @Aleta Curry & @Sandra 🐝 Smith for sharing your important insights. You all make excellent points and share valuable feedback. I also agree with Sarah that you should treat the "love of your life" like every day is Valentine's Day, at least in terms of affection and appreciation (although roses, chocolates, and wine/dining can put a dent in a guy's wallet - lol).
I also concur that sometimes the workplace is the most logical place (for better or worse) to meet someone, especially if you spend long hours in the office or on trips with co-workers with whom you have mutual attractions and interests. However, it could still get dicey when work romance takes a turn for the worse.
Nonetheless, as noted above, "I would be remiss without pointing out that some successful long-term marriages have been known to originate from budding office romance," and "may sometimes be unavoidable if cupid’s arrow strikes and sticks...People can’t always control where and when they meet or become romantically involved. Sometimes it’s just a matter of fate."13/02/2017 #37 Sarah ElkinsFirst, I cannot stand Valentine's Day. When we started dating, I told my (future) husband that I don't like the holiday. I said: "If you're waiting for a Hallmark holiday to tell me and show me that you love me, we're already done. I want to know, every day, why we're together." And here we are nearly 22 years later and he continues to show me, every day, why we're still together. I know, I'm fortunate, but it's not just luck. We use our words, share our needs with each other, and work through frustrations.
I think the same can happen with a workplace romance, IF you're both grown-ups about what you want. Use your words, keep things clear between you. No games, no drama, and you might just work things out! Like @Larry Boyer, 🐝 Brand Ambassador mentioned, with our current working conditions, you may only meet people at work. If you meet at work, you're likely to have at least one thing in common, right? And you know how I feel about trying to keep your personal and professional lives separate. I just don't think it's possible.13/02/2017 #34 Aleta CurryI have to chortle, @David B. Grinberg. Around here, an office romance is a cause for celebration, if not downright amazement. That's because Martin and I are usually the only two in the office, and the routine conversation, such as 'Did you take care of that yet?' is more likely to inspire feelings of wanting to chuck things around than billing and cooing! ;)12/02/2017 #28 🐝 Fatima WilliamsSuch fun to read all the valentines day comments. And @Javier 🐝 beBee if you remember I'm the one who replaced beBee as my love so yes I am in Love with beBee too. ❤❤❤❤❤
And @David B. Grinberg I wish I had met you and read this buzz in 2009 Noone told me this ever not even in school. Anyways better to know now than never 🤗🤗🤗
No to Romance at work is my motto😊
But if time, water and air were to stand still when I see THE guy I won't miss the opportunity 😍😍
- Producer11/02/2017Stay With MeKeith Higgins here from WK News Network at the ‘’How To Stumble Leader Summit’’ in Geneva reporting on the latest discussions between leaders around the world. One of the hot topic touched on at this global convention is how to treat people who have...
Comments12/02/2017 #19 Paul Walters@Pascal Derrien Ihave been fortunate to have ( up until now ) been able to wander this planet freely and pretty much without restictions, Perhaps it is because I am of the right skin tone and carry passports from "friendly " countries. All I know is that I am truly blessed12/02/2017 #15 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#14 I can't imagine what your grandfather went through while being contained in a camp! Sounds like he was a tough man to escape and do what he loved. Are you in Ireland as an immigrant or are you a permanent citizen now? I get confused with laws in other countries vs. our immigration laws. My son and his wife lived in Surrey and worked in London for 3 years on a Visa. Most people have good intentions. If we didn't have so many borders and rules I would think of having a summer home in another country if I could afford it, seriously. It's sad that our governments separate us all by 'man's laws.' I understand keeping people safe but it also keeps many good people from seeking refuge or living life where they would like to!!12/02/2017 #14 Pascal Derrien#13 thanks @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher my grandfather was a political migrant who got arrested twice and sent to camps, he escaped and became a horse trainer in his new country, I am now living too in a country different from my country of origin this is the case for about 215 millions of people roughly12/02/2017 #13 Lisa 🐝 GallagherI have 2 words- globalization and inclusion. We are one world. I realize there are bad people in this world, including the USA but most people are just trying to live like the rest of us. This is a great topic for Gen Xer's and Millennials who tend to feel the same. Their worldview is much broader. I live in a small town in the middle of 'nowhere,' and they bring in migrant workers every summer to work in the corn, and strawberry fields among other jobs that most people wouldn't do because they pay pennies. They house these people (say 10) in a small one room home. That's one example of many.
- 11/02/2017If you can wake up every morning loving what you do, help & inspire others around you to be better than they were yesterday, Then you know you are doing something right - in Business and in Life!
- Ashley Bodi #leadership #elevate #inspire #craftsmanship
- Producer19/12/2016TO GIVE A THOUGHT- by Devesh BhattWhy give a thought to taking?To take one has to give. To take without giving ,Seemed quite primitive. I gave a thought to giving, So I gave this world a thought. It said it wanted action, And this how I fell short. I tried and I complied,With...
- Producer11/02/2017Six WeeksWould you believe the happiest people in the world if they revealed their prescription for happiness? Most of us would not because we are tuned in, we already know that more money and working longer lead nowhere and more importantly we think we know...
Comments11/02/2017 #2 Chas ✌️ WyattThis mind-set is more common in Europe than the United States. Most people in the United States take at the most, two weeks paid vacation after their alotted time has built-up to that point, depending on the company they work for, but, one week is far more common. When I was travelling to Arizona on a Greyhound bus I sat next to a woman from Switzerland who was a secretary there and had a six week paid vacation, so she was touring the United States. It is a great concept if you have the funds, but, one most companies in the U.S. won't embrace. If you are self-employed, well, now, that's a different story.11/02/2017 #1 Lisa 🐝 GallagherThese are great ideas and I would love to do this if my husband was able to take more time off. I wonder what the answer is for those who can't get away as often as they'd like or even need to? When I was working out of my home (for an employer), I was only allotted 2-3 weeks vacation per year. How do you manage this @Royce Shook? We probably avg 12-14 days every 2 years.
- Producer11/02/2017Far from the Madding Crowd; Finding The Perfect Sanctuary in India.Incredible India; a place of fabulous wealth and desperate poverty, famine and pestilence, a country of a thousand religions and a million gods, the birthplace of human speech, mother of history, a place of tigers and elephants of deserts and...
Comments13/02/2017 #31 Dean OwenIt was the Indian govt that came up with the slogan "Incredible India" back in 2002 and those bright folks at Ogilvy & Mather who were tasked with propagating the slogan. I'd say all involved have done a tremendous job as it has become second nature to refer to the nation as Incredible India.11/02/2017 #25 Don 🐝 Kerr@Paul Walters When I was a kid our family used to attend Travelogues at the University of Guelph. Someone would share a slide show about their travels and back in the '50s we witnessed some pretty incredible stuff that many of us would never dream of seeing. Now you're recreating this wonderful experience for me on beBee. Thanks.11/02/2017 #21 Devesh Bhatt#19 Arunachal and Nagaland are amazing. But talking about God's, you would find 1 less than 10 million Gods (as in sculptures) at a place called Unakoti in Assam.
Huge variety of food.
Nagaland has some weird food too. @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher View more#19 Arunachal and Nagaland are amazing. But talking about God's, you would find 1 less than 10 million Gods (as in sculptures) at a place called Unakoti in Assam.
Huge variety of food.
Nagaland has some weird food too. @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher :) Close
- Producer10/02/2017Where Do We Go From Here? The last time Yuri Ashkev a Russian Army captain checked his watch he was stationed near the Ukrainian border. Prior reporting to their base Commanding Officer on a US German located compound, American Navy SEALs Jo Owens and Rebecca Wilson were...
Comments10/02/2017 #6 CityVP 🐝 ManjitThe first two things I did was check out was a bivouac was - CHECK
https://en.whttps://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bivouac_shelter View moreThe first two things I did was check out was a bivouac was - CHECK
Then that there really is a band called "If those Trees Could Talk" - CHECK
Now I know where to go from here - enjoy the writings of Pascal Derrien.
F-in-A-Man of the very cool third kind. Now we just need Steven Spielberg to film this. Close
- Producer09/02/2017Like Reading a BookThere is a quick way I find out more about a person. I go to their bookshelf or in some cases, their library and look at what they read. A five minute glance around their shelves tells me what they are interested in, curious about, and gives a...
Comments12/02/2017 #65 Sara JacoboviciJust came across this link and thought you might find it of interest @Gert Scholtz. http://www.bbc.co.uk/culture/story/20160819-the-secret-libraries-of-history?ocid=fbcul11/02/2017 #60 Dean OwenI didn't like Tom Wolfe's "Bonfire". I just find not many people can write about Wall St unless they have been through it (like Michael Lewis has). But for books in that sphere I highly recommend Liar's Poker, The Predators Ball, Den of Thieves, Flash Boys, Vendetta: American Express and the Smearing of Edmond Safra. For fiction, I am addicted to Anne Rice.10/02/2017 #59 Gert Scholtz#57 @Mohammed Sultan Quite true - one cannot judge a book by its cover, as the saying goes. Better to scan some parts, look at the content pages and read the cover flaps to get and idea of it. And never confuse public relations with family relations :) Thanks Mohammed.10/02/2017 #57 Mohammed SultanOn buying books,the desire to pick up a book with an attractive dust-jacket is irresistible,although this method of selection ought not to be followed ,as you might end up with a dull book and wake up on a call from the bookshop salesperson greeting 'Can I help you sir?we should not take books for granted.it's very easy to enter a shop looking for a book on,say,public relations and to the sudden come out carrying the latest best-selling novel on family relations!10/02/2017 #56 Lada 🏡 PrkicGreat topic, Gert, and nicely written post! Love to read books but also read about books. I have many books but unfortunately not enough space for shelves. We live in a small apartment and many of my books are stored in the boxes. Therefore I decided several years ago to buy only the necessary technical literature. Other books that interest me I borrow from the library, usually 1-3 books per month. Bought or borrowed, books can open our minds and hearts.10/02/2017 #51 Kevin PashukThanks for the tour of your library Gert.
I fully subscribe to the idea that in order to better know a person, check out their library. All of the truly interesting people I have met in life were readers, who would bring in such wonderful perspectives gleaned from their reading. I can't say I've had the same stimulating conversations with those who only use media (esp. television) to form their worldview.
I shared some of my library in previous posts, I would hope that more Bees would follow.10/02/2017 #50 Mohammed SultanBertrand Russell on his definition of good and bad,better and worse said"A thing is good ,if it's valued for its own sake,and not only for its effects.We take nasty medicines because we hope they will have desirable effects ,but a gouty connoisseur drinks old wine for its own sake ,in spite of possible disagreeable effects.You must do right because it's right ,and not because it's the way to get to heaven .You must save because all sensible people do,and not because you will ultimately secure an income that will enable you to enjoy life."
Pleasure in not defined by whether to read or not ,but by our ability to differentiate between the means and ends.Thank you @Gert Scholtz for sharing a great article.10/02/2017 #49 Emilia M. Ludovino"Books transform, mind and heart. Not each and every read. Reading sometimes changes our views, sometimes changes us. Many times we lose ourselves in what we read, only to find a different self. Books fill crevices in the heart and answers questions of the mind. We begin a read and take bits of it in and little by little build ourselves into someone else. A better self sometimes. A more informed self often." - My dear friend @Gert Scholtz this little excerpt is poetry. So beautiful that touch our hearts, without my books I surely wasn't the same person. - Thank you so much for this wonderful reading. Have a wonderful weekend!10/02/2017 #48 Ken BoddieRead me read my books! I love it, Gert. Like you I have a large collection of books on a variety of subjects but, unlike you, my 'culling' capabilities are poor, except for the odd "How to ...." hurriedly snatched from a charity book sale which I eventually twigged that I would never read. By the way, I would be wary of sniffing books for too long, as the spine glue may 'beam you up', unbeknownst, to a whole new psychedelic world of literature. 😍10/02/2017 #47 CityVP 🐝 Manjit#39 That is a great way of approaching cultivation of reading. To sit with an author over a longer frame and allow their world to work on me is definitely a different kind of speed. A neither spend hours with a book nor do I spend hours in a gym. It is inspiring to hear the perspective of life-long readers and I look forward to an appreciation of cultivating a different relationship with time and the gifts that arise through engendering a love for reading books.
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