- 25/05/2017How about #Hemp Products? Can you get #high on them? Is there enough #THC?Soon you'll be able to consume hemp food products legallywww.abc.net.au It will soon be legal to consume hemp food products in Australia and New...
- 24/05/2017Neuro science meets Psychology
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Comments27/05/2017 #9 Gerald Hecht#7 @Louise Smith I know right? The all roads lead to "Neuroland" craze shows no signs of abating --it actually is spreading in a omnidirectional, exponentially accelerating fashion.
Its a good thing I can stare at my new $2.50 "fidget spinning thingie" for the next 48 hours...wait, first I'll have to put my phone in airplane mode...27/05/2017 #7 Louise Smith#6 Yes I think you have to be a Neurobiologist or Neurologist or ??? to understand it.
Neuromarketing ? (Spell checker doesn't like it either ! ) At the risk of being pilloried, I think it's the current trend. I did 2 Very $$$$ workshops about Dep and Anx from a Neuropsyc point of view by a well known & respected researcher. Although the presenter was extremely good, I came away still wondering how this translated into f2f practice.26/05/2017 #6 Gerald Hecht#5 @Louise Smith Its not entirely clear to me either...I'll give it another go...lately, everybody seems to be claiming that they are "using Neuroscience" for everything from dating apps to feline fitness routines...I do know that realtime imaging of bidirectional activation of both 1) the VTA-->NaCc-->limbocortical reinforcement circuit, and 2) limbic activation patterns themselves --while the "test subjects" are shown potential brand names for new products, and at least one instance (that I'm aware of) of the limbic (mostly amygdala) activation to different political campaign slogans ARE being used in the "Marketing Field" to replace Focus Groups (with clients who can afford it)...its already considered a legitimate field (in both academia and marketing firms)...its called Neuromarketing (I swear, I''m NOT making this up!)...lately I cringe whenever I overhear the word Neuroscience in any and all media, lol.
It mostly makes me go back and read about the storied history of "PHRENOLOGY" -- and hear the old saw: "History may not repeat itself, but it often rhymes."26/05/2017 #4 Gerald HechtI've become a pantheist (in my old age) regarding the "brain/mind" coin, it first started when the deeper meaning of Gustav Fechner's "Elements of Psychophysics" finally became clear (after a 20 year incubation period, and a little of Green and Sweats "Signal Detection Theory" closed the lid)...and more recently, going back to Spinoza...and then ...BOOM... Trump...I mostly just sit under a plastic boddi [sic] tree...and wonder when i will become round..."the grin of the universe part is already with us"AAAaahhOOOOOooooommmMMMM
- Producer18/05/2017The Power of VictimhoodPhoto by DualD Flip Flop on Flickr Today, everyone’s a victim.Everyone. Like, everyone. Even over-privileged white men are happy to whine about how much it sucks to be them. https://youtu.be/34u_3Z9_LUw Y’all don’t know what it’s like, bein’...
Comments21/05/2017 #40 Nicole Chardenet#33 I just read your story, and you're right, if you've never experienced that early and deep level of abuse it's not something you can really understand. And you're right about the effects of trauma on the developing brain. You probably already know a lot of this as a psychologist, but I'll recommend the book I've been re-reading and have almost finished: Train Your Mind, Change Your Brain: How a new science reveals our extraordinary potential to transform ourselves. It's a fascinating look at the neuroplasticity of the brain and some chapters touch upon the effects of trauma and bad parenting. There are undoubtedly some books more devoted to the subject of trauma on the developing brain. If anyone knows of one I'd love to read it.
Joyce, your story is a lot harder-core than the victims I wrote about. You're not the sort of person who can just learn from her mistakes and bounce back...you're really NOT responsible for the way your life developed. Although I note that you *did* take responsibility, realized you were beginning to repeat the mistakes of your mother and made a conscious decision to not treat others that way (I'm unclear as to whether you have kids of your own). So, despite being a victim of horrendous abuse, you still empowered yourself to *not* make others' lives as difficult as the one allotted to you.
I do hope you an find peace some day, and an end to your suffering.21/05/2017 #39 Nicole Chardenet#34 It could get interesting if they can actually prove this happens. We'll still need to debate, though, how much of our lives we can blame on victimization.
Alcoholics Anonymous is under fire these days by critics questioning its actual efficacy. My experience with it is when my ex went through it years ago when he was getting sober. One of the elements of the AA program that I really like, that I hope substance abusers and everyone else as well will keep, is the notion that at some point you have to take responsibility for your life and your actions, and make a conscious decision not to let it control you anymore. You explore all the things that drove you to drink but at some point you have to wo/man up and say, "No more." Victim or not, genetically changed or not, we still ultimately are masters and mistresses of our own fates.
Here's an interesting and provocative notion: We contribute to our own continuing trauma when we refuse to learn from our mistakes. Those who fail to learn from history, etc...21/05/2017 #38 Nicole Chardenet#33 It's a fairly new idea, Joyce, so the scientific jury is still out on it. I found it an interesting idea. Trauma for sure does change the brain in many ways, and there *does* seem to be some evidence that it changes at a genetic level too. But we'll see how it pans out. I'm not ready to toss out the theory yet.20/05/2017 #37 Tricia Mitchell#36 Hi @Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee I understand what you are saying. We support people in our own unique ways. One of the ways I'm able to work is I can quickly deal with the ancestral trauma and imprints, so that people's 'now' are liberated. That's possibly why it fascinates me. You're interested in getting them through the day, which is vital, and what we can offer is, hopefully, what's needed at the time.20/05/2017 #36 Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee#35 Thank you for the reference, @Tricia Mitchell. I think I am so entrenched in the needs of now, I have a difficult time even considering any type of Jungian stuff. I see people hurting now, and am interested in how to get them through the day rather than how to deal with ancestral memories.20/05/2017 #35 Tricia Mitchell#33 @Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee I love this programme http://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b077gd58 I'm probably one of those people who are full of... Here's a couple of references for anyone who's interested in reading more http://www.beginbeforebirth.org/the-science/epigenetics http://www.tabletmag.com/jewish-arts-and-culture/books/187555/trauma-genes-q-a-rachel-yehuda20/05/2017 #34 Donna Wood@Nicole Chardenet Thank you! Thank you for your bold statements of truth! In regards to genetic trauma inheritance, I recently read a paper on how scientists in Japan believe they may have found a gene that is connected to genetic memory. I'm not a scientist, but it was interesting how they believe that ancestral memories are passed down through DNA. Fascinating stuff.20/05/2017 #33 Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee#32 genetic inheritance of trauma is gobblygook. I suffered this https://www.bebee.com/producer/@joyce-bowen/my-story-of-abuse. In writing it I wanted to impart to the reader the level of fear experienced but discovered that if one has no reference point for that level of fear, it is incomprehensible. There are neurophysiological consequences for a child living in that level of fear which I discuss here https://www.bebee.com/producer/@joyce-bowen/staying-safe. Trauma is trauma. Anyone that tries to say trauma is inherited is full of crap. I suppose you could say I inherited my mother.20/05/2017 #31 Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee#27 Actually--it took a BA in psychology + a number of years for me. I look around and see there is virtually no understanding of the true impact of Trauma. Many people never realize what is happening and they die. It's time to get off the stick and truly help these people.19/05/2017 #30 Nicole Chardenet#29 Be careful what you wish for, the gods may grant your request ;) @Javier 🐝 beBee suggested earlier this week that we recycle some of our posts and articles from elsewhere so I spent an evening picking old blog posts out that I could post here...there may be one on Erotic Tax Audits coming soon (er...arriving...well, you know what I mean :) I have to read it through and make sure it's not TOO inappropriate :) But there really are people in the world...only a handful, but they do exist...who hope to "get off" with the IRS waaaaaay differently than most Americans do, LOL!
The posts I picked out are mostly science geekery, actually. Like the Alien Proctologists and Muslim Martians ones I posted earlier this week.19/05/2017 #29 Tausif Mundrawala#28 You made a very interesting statement. I hope to interact with you in future with more buzzes of yours. That's what I love about beBee that it opens so many channels where we can interact with as many people as possible. Yes definitely with the like minded bees.
Thank you once again for this comment, @Nicole Chardenet19/05/2017 #28 Nicole Chardenet#26 Thanks Tausif! If you ever start to really get into the human brain and how it's wired, how much has changed since our caveman days and also how little, how much it changes every single day ('neuroplasticity" - fascinating subject!), you begin to realize how much you're mostly a victim of yourself...at least if you don't live in a truly oppressive society that holds you down.
One of the non-profits I like to donate to is Kiva, (kiva.org) which gives 'micro-loans' to folks in Third World countries to start up or expand very small businesses (often something as simple as chicken farming or selling wares in a market). I like it because the people are supposed to pay back the loan when they can and then it gets put back into your account so that you can loan out to someone else. It helps others but isn't in my mind really 'charity' because the recipients have some skin in the game too (they're not penalized if they don't repay a loan but they want to succeed like anyone else). On my end, it feels less condescending, not so much, "Here, poor person, accept my overprivileged donation. Oh, keep it. I have more." I always give to female micro-entrepreneurs because they really do have it a lot tougher than I - they're in countries where they really are held down because of their gender and sometimes their race. While the men there need help too, the women, IMO, need it more. Here's to less victimization everywhere!!!19/05/2017 #27 Nicole Chardenet#24 Very true. The thing is, at what point in their adult lives shouldn't they look around and notice that not every woman lives the life they do? At what point do they hop on the Internet (which most people have at this point, literally half the planet is on it now) and learn about relationships? About others? Do they ever Google on their problems like most of us do? all you have to do is type the question into Google.
Victimhood is *not* either/or. It's neither 1% nor 100%. It's always somewhere in between. I suspect a lot of people understand deep down that they're more responsible for themselves than they realize. On social media you see all kinds of memes and "inspirational sayings" about believing in yourself, not being your own worst enemy, not letting anyone else define you. People share these things because it resonates with them and they want to spread the message to others. At some point you need to learn from your mistakes, because if you don't, the problem is more you than anyone else. I have a friend here in Toronto who is the god of bad planning...he often creates financial drama for himself by not dealing with financial issues before they become much bigger issues and cost him even more money. He never learns. So, I don't want to hear about it anymore. He's definitely old enough and educated enough to know better.
A lot of people don't realize they have a *choice*. Once you realize you do, it's wonderfully empowering and hellaciously de-victimizing :)19/05/2017 #26 Tausif MundrawalaVery few have that courage to break the ice of victimhood, discrimination and prejudices. We need to fight all odds which stand in front of us. The title itself was interesting enough that couldn't resist myself reading and commenting on it. Every moment is a fight towards the attainment of life which every human imagines to lead till death. There are some moments where we feel helpless as that situation is not in our control. But we should not give up easily.
A commendable buzz to begin my day with, @Nicole Chardenet19/05/2017 #24 Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee#17 On women who engage in abusive relationships. Children neeeeeeeeeeed love. When a child experiences only abuse, very often they redefine love. When love is not available, abuse becomes love--hence people seek love throughout their lives but inappropriately seek abuse because it's the only "Love" they have known. "Figuring this out" requires professional help, and does not occur at the drop of a hat.19/05/2017 #23 Nicole Chardenet#22 My point, Joyce, is that we've been *not* blaming *some* of the victims enough. Kids, retarded or not, can't defend themselves. Some women, like those in Third World extremely patriarchal cultures, also can't defend themselves. In fact it frustrates me that so many overprivileged white lefty "feminists" are so willing to throw their brown sisters under the bus and not acknowledge the very real abuse and victimization those ladies suffer because, you know, we don't want to offend people from other cultures and religions...even if those cultures and religions make it explicitly clear that abuse of women's rights is perfectly "okay". But there are plenty of people in North America today, of all colours and genders, who have more power and more ability to save themselves than retarded kids or Third World women. That's my issue.
Ever wonder what the world would look like if abusive asshole men couldn't get laid because women had a "One Strike & You're Out" policy? Hit me once, goodbye forever!19/05/2017 #22 Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee#17 Agreed. I just see many jumping on the "victim blaming" bandwagon in your comments section. Perhaps people are misconstruing your intent. These are the types of personalities that just think victims should take care of themselves. But the guy I went after had a particular preference for retarded kids. https://www.bebee.com/producer/@joyce-bowen/predation-stories-of-stolen-childhoods. Victimology is just not simple. Anyone who blames a victim without stepping up to help is...19/05/2017 #21 Nicole Chardenet#15 Interesting...'coz I just watched a TED talk a few weeks ago by a Gambian man talking about the oppressive culture of African masculinity and how he didn't seek help for his mental problems until it was almost too late. I've been thinking a lot about mental illness lately, particularly in regards to men.
- Producer14/05/2017The history of storytelling. The very first story ever told…Tens of thousands years ago, somewhere in Africa (most probably) a primate almost human proceeded to tell the very first story ever told. May be around a fire in a cave. The recipient(s) of this “story” was/were other almost human primates. I can...
Comments15/05/2017 #4 Sara JacoboviciYour post is a lovely mother's day tribute @Philippe Collard. As you say, there are storytellers and those who listen to the stories. I would add; there are those who are the storytellers and then those who are the storyhearers. The people I work with are the storytellers and I am the storyhearer. I hear their story and I listen to how they tell it. As you describe, the act of storytelling is a central part of who we are. Stories help make sense of our world and our place in it and we define ourselves by a story within time. We create stories; verbally, oral and written, and non-verbally, through movement/dance, visual symbols and signs/visual arts, and sound making/music. Where there is life, in any form, there is communication. But only humans tell stories. And then, there is a mother's lullaby.....15/05/2017 #3 Praveen Raj GullepalliHappy Mothers' Day! Yes I would second that Moms started off first! ;) pointing at the moon and humming a tune...giving things names and playing teeny toddler games! In fact I wouldn't be surprised to know that they were the artists too most of the time. As the huntermen narrated their adventures and acted them out in the caves around the fires...the women using charcoal and then other more painstaking stuff to chisel in the writing on the wall. The off hunting seasons probably gave enough time to the menfolk to get creative as well with the arts and other heavier stuff...like - hey let's scoop out another cave! ;) The Borra caves in South India have fascinating formations and art inside. They go back to around 50000 years ago into humanoid presence.
And here's another ...'far far away'...
- Producer12/05/2017The history of story telling. Prologue[Note: this is a multiple parts essay. I will publish the next parts when I actually feel like it or have come up with something that I believe is worth publishing…I therefore use BeBee as my own personal notebook, one that I dare share with you...
- 17/04/2017Be a potential victim no more. Join the...: Buzz - beBeewww.bebee.com Be a potential victim no more. Join the Scam-Eaze hive and prevent internet scammers and con men from stealing your personal information. Don't stop...
- 14/04/2017This is one of the many great images created by my BIL, Bob Twidle who passed away recently. The simplicity of his work always moved me. I could stare at his stuff for long stretches of time and think what a great creative mind he had. I really miss Bob.
Comments15/04/2017 #3 Anonymous#2 Yes Jim, there is. For me the story is that it took me a while to learn that I could not replay my childhood by proxy. I have moved through the cycle of sports life - watching (too young to play), playing, coaching, refereeing, and now I'm back to watching (too old to play).
- Producer04/04/2017Bad News For The White BigotsFirst of all, let me preface this piece by telling you that I am a white guy. But I am also a Canadian white guy and have honestly never really believed that there was any sort of difference between white guys and any other guys or girls anywhere.I...
Comments10/04/2017 #23 Nicole ChardenetJim, please don't fall into the trap of thinking racism is a 'white thing'. Racism is *universal*. We hear about white bigotry the most because we live in the West where there's a predominance of white people, and also we tend to ignore non-white racism. We're not even allowed to talk about or acknowledge non-white racism. But you see it all around you, if you open your eyes...there are plenty of non-white people demonstrating their gross ignorance of others.
Frankly, I've been tired of talking about racism for quite some time. I'm of the camp that believes ALL racism is wrong, not just racism by whites. If we can't have a conversation about everyone else's racism - yes, even of underclasses and people who only think they're the underclass - then we shouldn't bother talking about it at all.06/04/2017 #22 Harvey LloydBigotry and racism has evolved. The question is no longer "white" but rather class. Class warfare is the new bigotry you refer. Its easy to park the conditions of society at a color and it was placed at the black many years ago, now it is being placed at the white. The color may change over years but i am afraid the last 8 years have solidified that class warfare is here to stay.
The haves and have nots are still being defined into their respective groups and the use of color on either side of the debate is a political power play by many governments.
The white bigot/racism/homophobe/male/female debate is merely emotional topics that avoids the real debate of class warfare. Until we decide to enter into the real debate the discussion will remain within the realm of popular topics with no substance. Being human of no color designation will require us to debate tough and consequential issues. But to have these we will have to endure the classes lashing out with rhetoric of no substance or offering of solution.06/04/2017 #21 Jim Murray#20 Thanks @Judy Mackenzie. Every country has its warts. Some warts are a lot bigger than others. The Trump wort is the biggest wart in the free world, He has made it Ok to be subhuman. And he should not be in any sort of position of power. he is the most toxic person on the planet right now. He has a lot of competition though.05/04/2017 #20 Judy MackenzieI am also a Canadian and I think we have our own sad story to tell about Native Canadians. I was raised in a blue-collar family that valued hard work and integrity. I see the hatred on the television and I am horrified that these people walk around every day with this much toxic emotion flowing through their bodies. I am thankful for the open minded way I was raised and the understanding that we are not in a position to judge anyone.05/04/2017 #18 Susan 🐝 RooksWell, @Jim Murray, hopefully you've helped a lot of people think about this.
I am lucky to have grown up with parents who made nothing of color; of course, given we lived in a totaly white town north of Boston, Mass., that was sort of easy. But my formative years did not include any version of racism or other intolerances that I can remember. My dad especially talked a lot of about treating others with respect, no matter their situation; although I don't remember him mentioning color as a specific, it was implied. Everyone is worthy of respect.
Of course, as I grew older I saw how others felt about this issue and so many others. But I just never understood the hatred. Still don't. Someone's skin color is so superficial! And it's not a choice anyone makes. We are born as we are, and we can only control so much.
I have no idea why anyone white would think he or she is any better than anyone else just because of their skin color. I just don't get it.
I think one positive aspect of social media has to be the connections we have worldwide, something that wasn't very easy in the 1950s when I was growing up. It encourages us to see others as valuable, as our equal, as persons who have much to teach us -- no matter what their skin color, their gender, or their age is!
Thanks for a very important article. Much appreciated.05/04/2017 #16 Jim Murray#14 @Lisa Vanderburg...All you can do is what you can do. I write this stuff because it's what I believe I am saddened by a great deal of what the world has become for no reason other than to protect the white, the wealthy and the entitled. It feels like true democracy is becoming a fantasy.05/04/2017 #15 Paul Walters@Jim Murray for my sins I spent many of my formative years living in South Africa under the terrible apartheid regime which was quite frankly appalling. I left , permanently way befor Mandela was released and the transition to Black government and black empowerment, What that country is undergoing right now is in fact reverse racism . Even after twenty five years of black rule the sins of the fathers are still being expunged. Tis a strage world we live in05/04/2017 #14 Lisa VanderburgJust shows what stupid honkys we are @Jim Murray (although I'm unsure of the pluralisation of honky?). As restaurateurs, we've employed and trained every color of people, yet it wasn't until we opened up in Florida that racism became so apparent. We'd been in London, Spain, other places, but this was a primitive can o' worms; that someone would so casually and openly slur another human because of his color - the assumption being I would agree or concur because I was the same color as the speaker. Sickened me, and I said so....over, and over and over.................
My kitchen was full of mainly black preps - (the whites that had to take that sort of work were less intelligent or lazy). This was the time of the 3-strike rule and so many of them had fallen foul because of this blanket-racism that had sealed the envelope that had got them to 2-strike. After that , it was the 'system' that just hung such a heavy weight around their necks,....few made it. And that's only from my vantage point. It broke my heart and I did everything I could to encourage them in the outrage they faced. Some very determined souls did make it, for a time!
I'm sure I'm not the only one to notice that a baby born of two different colored parents are stunningly beautiful - God's trying to tell us something, eh?05/04/2017 #13 Pascal DerrienAbsolutely right on the button , even Ireland who was an homogeneous society up to 25 years ago will see its pool gene shaken down with the population now including 12 % of residents born in a different country , thats good news but bad news for the inuslar minded folks :-) As an aside I smiled at your comment on great great grand children as I am writing a post which is a letter to my great great great grand child I will probably not getting to finish it this week but working on it ... Thanks for the post @Jim Murray05/04/2017 #12 Brian McKenzieBeing a white male in America is nearly waking up as a daily pariah - we are the last class of humanity that is openly encouraged to villify and hate - just on circumstance. #HappierAbroad PS - I am betting EVEN when whites are the minority - there will be no 'Affirmative Action' or EEOC for them (of course I will be long dead by then)05/04/2017 #11 Jim Murray#7 Thanks @CityVP 🐝 Manjit. I didn't know you knew Charlene. She's a marvel. I'm totally in love with her. I'm pretty sure we'll be working together going forward on different things we both run across. She told me about her situation. I talked with her for 2 hours yesterday at a Tim's. It was great. She's pretty much back to normal. She just needs to work on her confidence a bit more. I think I have convinced her that she is, in fact a writer, which she was doubtful about. Sitting in front of me with a published book, it was not that hard to do. She inspired this post in fact. What a small world indeed, I will send her your regards, sir.05/04/2017 #9 David B. Grinberg#6 Jim, also a very fitting post for the same day in history when civil rights icon, Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. was assassinated in 1968.
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Outside Rm 306 of the Lorraine Motel #OnThisDay in 1968, Dr. King was fatally shot at 6:01pm. He was pronounced dead at 7:05pm. #RememberMLK05/04/2017 #8 Jerry FletcherAs scary as the idiocy you describe is there is one which I believe excedes it. That is man's inhumanity to women. It crosses all races and socioeconomic differences. It is abhorrent. And because of a charity I'm involved with each day I learn more. There are days I'm ashamed to say I'm a man.05/04/2017 #7 CityVP 🐝 ManjitHi Jim, pass my deepest regards to Charlene Norman. Who would thought that you would move to St. Catherines and she would move to St.Catherines and of all the new people that are in St. Catherines, the world it turns out yet again, at least from my own experiences, it is indeed a small world and that you are friends with Charlene. If it is not a small world then it definitely is an example of synchronicity.
Charlene is a great mind and I am glad that she has refound new verve of life and spirit. I am also glad that things are on the up for her and that she has battled through what would have sunk a lot people in similar circumstance, especially her health scare and the adversity with absolute tremendous courage. Speaks volumes for her and who she is.
Most of all that she is back to her best and again enjoying the fullness of life. That she is your friend, well that is an added bonus - and so I'm really happy for her. I have seen her silently pop by beBee but I had no idea that both of you know each other.
As for the future, it never turns out the way we expect. Scientists will do to human beings what they have done to corn, and by 2100 skin colour will simply a genetic modification - at that time we can have whatever colour baby we want. Think about what synthetic biology is going to reek into being by 2025 and 2100 is really unimaginable in comparison. Imagine how the Jetsons thought life would be like today - it's fun seeing how our ancestors envisaged us a future race.05/04/2017 #4 David B. GrinbergNice buzz, Jim. Here are two points for consideration.
1) Yes, it's true that whites in the USA are declining as a demographic percentage of the population, according to the US Census Bureau. Hispanics/Latinos and Asians are the two fastest growing minority groups. Moreover, in many big American cities today there is what's been called a "minority-majority" population. This means that the combination of all "traditional" minority groups now outnumbers that of whites. This likely accounts for at some of the fear and paranoia of white bigots -- albeit, unjustifiably.
2) Per the above point, even with the increasingly diverse USA population, white men still control an overwhelming majority of power structures in the nation, from Wall Streets to Main Street USA. The number of non-white CEOs and C-Suite executives of the Fortune 500 companies remain exceedingly low compared to whites. Let's also remember we now have a white President (just saying) and the US Congress (especially the Senate) is still mainly represented by white men, especially at the leadership level. Thus, in essence white men still overwhelming control government and corporate America industry-wide.
FYI - Here's a prior post of mine about why workforce diversity simply makes good business sense. https://www.bebee.com/producer/@dbgrinberg/why-workforce-diversity-is-simply-good-business
- 03/04/2017For some reason, I find this particularly relevant today....unfortunately and with respect to the USABanana republic - Wikipediaen.wikipedia.org
- 25/03/2017https://www.bebee.com/producer/@jim-murray/fucked-up-is-alive-well-and-thriving-on-social-mediaFucked Up Is Alive & Well And Thriving On Social Mediawww.bebee.com Like most everyone, I have a love-hate relationship with social media. And have had this going on for about 10 years or so now. During that time...
- 19/03/2017The Digital Sunday PaperBL&FN.; (Bullshit, Lies & Fake News). The American Tragedywww.bebee.com One of the things I have noticed these days is that the media and by the media I mean just about everywhere you get your information is...
- 17/03/2017https://www.bebee.com/producer/@jim-murray/the-cynics-guide-to-a-holesThe Cynics Guide To A-Holeswww.bebee.com Maybe I’m just watching too much news days, but the way things are going in the world are really bringing out the cynic in me. Hopefully, I have...
- Producer15/03/2017Is it Time for a Friendectomy?[NOTE TO READER: Every so often I feel compelled to rant. Today is one of those times. And since I was sitting down to write today's blog post, I felt it might be a very good time to let loose. So while this is lightly connected to my normal...
Comments17/03/2017 #45 Louise SmithAccording to the Attentional Economic Theory,
people cannot enlarge their friendship networks forever because
- people must pay attention to maintain friends
- people’s attention is limited.
There appear to be two kinds of friendships in a personal friendship network:
1. active friendships
If people inactivate some of their old friends,
they would save time for their new friends
and would have time to make new friends.
Thorngate, W. (1988). On Paying Attention. In n W. Baker, L. Mos, H. Van Rappard, & H. Stam (Eds.), Recent trends in theoretical psychology (pp. 247-264). New York: Springer-Verlag.
You also might like to consider that we may need to detach from frenemies who use emotional manipulation to cause us distress.17/03/2017 #44 Sara JacoboviciThanks for once again writing a great post and provoking a great discussion @Kevin Pashuk. I don't think I smile as much reading and learning from a post and the comments as I do on yours. As far as whether I get the cut or not, I won't even ask. I'll just share an anecdote about my dad (of blessed memory - tonight is the anniversary of his passing). My dad never liked the "social games" of his circle of "friends". He was a very social fellow, an extrovert and storyteller, but he put up with the society stuff because my mom enjoyed the involvement. So, when there would be a holiday or event dinner at our home and we needed to schedule two concurrent nights to accommodate all the friends, my dad used to welcome the group and say, "We are very lucky to have the number of friends we do and to be able to share with everyone, we had to divide you into two groups; the "sympatic" (Romanian version of "sympatico") and those who are not." Then he would stop and carry on about something else, never telling the group present, which one they were....and no one asked!17/03/2017 #43 Nicole Chardenet#24 "Harem guy" is something i made up because I couldn't find an already established phrase for referring to them. It started when a friend of a Facebook friend wanted to friend me. I almost always accept if we have at least one friend in common - I've met some great new people that way - but I always look at the profile first and this guy had nothing but dozens and dozens of women as his friend. So I hit Ignore. Then I began to see more of it elsewhere and it seems to be particularly common on Google+, which I almost never use anyway, where people can add you to their "circles" and you can't give or deny permission. I guess it's the only way some guys will ever be seen as studs! LOL.16/03/2017 #42 Aaron 🐝 Skogen#35 I read your comment and the scene from Spaceballs popped into memory. . . The button on the wall reading "Self Destruct Button - Do not press unless you really, REALLY (underlined), mean it!"
And a while later the Self-Destruct Voice comes on: "This ship will self-destruct in twenty seconds. This is your last chance to push the cancellation button" to which President Skroob says "Cancellation button? HURRY!"16/03/2017 #41 Donna WoodI have 397 friends on FaceBook. Some are categorized as acquaintances. However, the majority are people that I know - family (most of them), old hometown friends from years gone by, and new friends that I have made over the years in Fargo. I discovered this, because I was going to perform a friendectomy myself, and realized, I really do know these people. I did disconnect from quite a few on LinkedIn. Connections made at a time I was new to LinkedIn and didn't know any better. I maintain a separate author account on FaceBook, but that might just get some sort of "ectomy" all of its own in the near future. Appreciate your thoughts!16/03/2017 #37 Kevin Pashuk#34 Thanks Harvey... I know that being a Raging Introvert affects my perspective of such things as relationships... Didn't Susan Cain say that introverts have fewer relationships, but those they have are deeper?
I'm not sure that 'friendectomy' will hit the DSM 5, but @Aaron 🐝 Skogen's 'connectectomy' might, since it sounds more scientific and is hard to pronounce.16/03/2017 #36 Christine StevensI recently did two massive purges on my Facebook account, which brought me down to roughly 150 people, most of whom are old high school friends (close or not so close) and family. Anyone who is overwhelmingly negative and nasty got the axe. LinkedIn is a bit harder to purge because many are followers and not connections, and many are people with whom I've had useful, if infrequent, contact. Unless they are overwhelmingly annoying or idiotic, I generally leave them be on LinkedIn and beBee.16/03/2017 #35 Kevin Pashuk#33 I wonder Wayne, if a button was labelled 'ZAP!', whether anyone would ever push it.
In the old days when I used to program... we always built in a "Are You Sure?" message for the terminator function. In one case I even followed the "Are You Sure?" with a "Are You REALLY Sure??" message.
... but I suppose that it is better to have LI'd and lost, than to never have LI'd at all.16/03/2017 #34 Harvey LloydEnjoying many of your posts and commentary you have let the cat out of the bag. You have posted and commented on your introvert status and i share that same title. This generally means the word "relationship" has a much deeper meaning than our extroverted cousins. A thicker criteria we could say. We tend to sense a obligation in a connection most other don't.
I enjoyed this post as always, friendectomy is new condition/procedure we can count on hitting the DSM 5 in a few years.16/03/2017 #32 siraj shaik#1 Going thro' few lines on main page feed, in my thoughts the first person whom I thought of you @Jim Murrayray (you had posted similar post on Li), landing on this post with hope to see comment in top five. Scrolling down saw and read your opinion, also happens to be the first in here.16/03/2017 #29 Aaron 🐝 SkogenFB - Check, very small network.
beBee - I'm here and ejoying the engagement!
LI - I'm way over the limit you suggest. However, many are former colleagues from positions past. Many of the balance have connected based on engagement and sharing posts. Yet, I did perform my version of a "connectectomy" a few months back (sounded more sterile).
Enjoyed it @Kevin Pashuk, keep the damn scissors away from me though would ya. Ouch!16/03/2017 #28 Kevin Pashuk#26 Hey Brian! Thanks for commenting. I've heard it said that Social Media is like putting your hand in a bucket of water. Things are moving when your hand is in the bucket, but pull it out and see what kind of impression you left...
It's amazing how much the interaction drops when you are away from social media for any time. It's a very much 'in the moment' world.
Sad is the person who's only friends are online.
I guess that's another one of the points I was trying to make.16/03/2017 #27 Kevin Pashuk#25 Even with your broad criteria for following, you are right Sir Ken that there is still lots of activity. Like you, I am more ruthless, mainly because it's too easy to cross over to the point where you should be doing other important things... like work, or family, or out taking pictures....
And thanks for the ear worm (he said somewhat sarcastically, given that I work in education, but I am a PF fan)...
We don't need no education
We don't need no thought control
No dark sarcasm in the classroom
Teachers leave them kids alone!
Hey! Teachers! Leave them kids alone!
All in all it's just another brick in the wall.
All in all you're just another brick in the wall.
(Pink Floyd - Another brick in the wall)16/03/2017 #26 Brian McKenzieI have been gone from Linked in for a year - none have questioned it. I would clear the ranks - but that just seems too much damn effort.
MS/LI has not added the DELETE ALL button yet - though I expect a glitch anytime soon and you will have to pay to upgrade to retrieve said 'lost' links.
- Producer09/03/2017The End of The InnocenceI have lived through several seismic shifts in our culture, and each one of those shifts has changed me, and I assume everyone else as well.When I was younger I never thought much about the implication of cultural shifting, I just rode with it and...
Comments14/03/2017 #13 David WEBBERJim, and you are surprised why? Reagan, Bush and now Trump. There's a pattern here. I'm not buying the doom and gloom picture. The Clintons were stealing the country blind too along with the whole Swamp and its cronies. Nothing new here. Hard working Americans are the same as their cousins in Canada. And we are all tired of being sold down the river because we are too busy making ends meet and taking care of our families. Stay Healthy My Friends. Out.11/03/2017 #10 Bradley ZacharyI wonder more all the time if he will do the entire term. If it weren't for term limits we would still have Obama. T isn't a politician and that is why he got in... but it's the same crap... extraordinary promises that people should easily see for what they are... Rhetoric. It is all so incredibly complex and politicians know it and stay inside the lines. Sometimes that isn't so good either, finding the balance that we all want is not going to happen. When a presidential election gets brought down to the level where dick size is entertained... Well that is just sad and scary and well much like the scenario idiocracy.11/03/2017 #9 Brian McKenzieWe disagree on who is steering it, and why - but indeed the train is being driven off the rails. I saw Classified plans, agendas and operations of the framework in 2005 - and it was decades old when I found it. Welcome to the Show - this long game has been planned and played since at least the 'Soviet' Revolution was engineered and exploited - Look closely - it is the same recipe.11/03/2017 #8 Jim Murray#7 @Jerry Fletcher I don't think any of this is going to end well. I'm completely mystified by how many people allowed themselves to be hoodwinked by this clown and even more mystified at how he has managed to make it this far. Your only hope right now is the moderate Republicans joining forces with the democrats to start obstructing. The status quo as it was before the election is
a hell of a lot better than where this will take the country. His budget is going to ad 10 trillion to your debt and he doesn't give a shit because he's fucking insane.11/03/2017 #7 Jerry FletcherJim, I wish I had a front row seat on the other side of the border. I don't. I'm stuck out here in the upper left corner in a town and a state that has already said we are a sanctuary. I'm not sure that has been done because a large part of this country won't eat without the "migrant workers" that are picking the produce or because somebody actually gives a damn. I keep looking for little glimmers of hope and the attempts to eviscerate what they call Obamacare aren't going too well. That is a small consolation when you consider the man in charge of the EPA doesn't think Global warming is real. My real concern is how long the rule of law will hold. Got a spare room?09/03/2017 #6 Jim Murray#5 That's a fair minded comment. But we have already seen the chaos that this man is creating. And wait until you see you benefits from the Obama care replacement and you will see just where the priorities of this adminstration lie. Sometime, people have to get hit on the head with a brick to realize a brick hurts. BTW...bricks hurt.09/03/2017 #5 Donna Smiththere have been issues for a long time the way my eyes see it - but there is so much we do not know about that happens behind close doors so to speak. I think that past leaders rarely made things better, but worse. what will this one do? I don't know. will have to wait and see. but it's time that all laws get followed not just some. I hate to see people get sent back - but laws are there for a reason and what about the ones that are following that law? i don't know what will happen with all this mess. I see your point.
- Producer03/03/2017The Good, The Bad & The Ugly Of TelevisionAlthough I live in Canada, I have always lived close to the border and was suckled on American TV and still am to this day. So most of what is written here pertains primarily to American television, and secondarily to TV in general.I’m an expert on...
Comments05/03/2017 #2 Claire L Cardwell@Jim Murray - I fully agree that the majority of people think that if it's on TV it must be real....Television is a highly persuasive medium and don't even get me going on the fact that there is a lot of subliminal messaging going on which brainwashes people into buying other people's bull@%?*@! I was not allowed to watch much TV growing up and was encouraged to play outside or if it was raining to read a book. I think that all the TV and video games have contributed greatly to many overstimulated children being misdiagnosed with ADHD and being drugged up to the eyeballs....03/03/2017 #1 Mohammed A. JawadAha...Television that's often regarded as idiot box is all misinterpreted. People who are choosy know how to charge themselves with the flow of inspiration, chronicles and mentoring from television. With all goodness and good tidings, television keeps on brainstorming its audience and those who are timid get sliced by its sorcery and get brainwashed with its ugliness.
- 01/03/2017Another killer piece by one of my favourite femmes.The F*cking Visitwww.bebee.com My plane landed and I received the voicemail, “We are here in the cellular parking area. Call when you land”. I called her mobile. No answer....
- 26/02/2017The Power Of Intentwww.bebee.com I have almost finished reading Bruce Springsteen’s amazingly honest and literate biography ‘Born To Run’. It’s one thing to enjoy reading a book....
Comments02/04/2017 #1 Devesh 🐝 BhattIt is a good idea. It organises and streamlines disagreement into a hive. Good food for thought for correction and improvement without getting the masses pissed about it.
If this survives beyond a high user threshold, there could be merit here. The key word being survives, because after that threshold, competition may get nasty but it would not matter.
Before that, this maybe seen as risky, depending on how it is managed.
At the end of the day, even the resistance has to be sweet when speaking up to sweetness.
- 24/02/2017BLAST FROM THE PAST: I was doing some research for the piece I wrote this morning when I came across the very first article that @Phil Friedman and I wrote together back in December of 2015. Since then we have done 24 of these pieces (mainly on beBee) and built a substantial audience for them in the process. So if you came late to this series, I thought you might enjoy our kickoff post. I would also encourage anyone who has a friend and fellow writer they respect to try this for themselves. It's a very rewarding experience and a hell of a lot of fun.Conversations Across the 49th Parallel - Vol 1www.linkedin.com Preface: This is the first of a series of conversations between Phil Friedman and me, covering a broad range of topics, some important, some...
- Producer19/02/2017Division & Conquest. AKA Business As Usual In AmericaI expect a lot of Americans (especially those with some vestage of faith left in the political system), will be offended by this post. But as you can see from the quotes I have gathered, I'm not the only one who shares this opinion.The United...
Comments20/02/2017 #3 Jim 🐝 CodyThe only reason that America is divided is because of the liberal leftist refuse to accept our election results that our forefathers installed. Conservatives have never taken the streets to protest causing chaos and destruction avert a democratic won the presidential election. It is disheartening that you just fan the flames.
I believe that Obama and Hillary are to blame for what's happening in our country.
- Producer17/02/2017In Memory Of My Brother BobMy heart is heavy this morning.At 4:15 am today my brother, Bob Twidle passed away after a long illness.In actuality he was my brother-in-law. He married my sister who is 20 years his junior about 30 years ago and our families merged.Bob was a...
Comments18/02/2017 #37 Lisa 🐝 GallagherI'm sorry you lost a brother and good friend. I'm sorry for your sister and family too. It sounds as though you have many wonderful memories to carry with you for a lifetime. I love the painting. Bob sounds like he was a good man. Sending good thoughts @Jim Murray
- 12/02/2017Here is a great article that explains very well why the US has the most expensive and the least effective health care system in the world.'Death Panels' Are One Of Four Fears Preventing Systemic Healthcare Reformwww.linkedin.com The fear of healthcare rationing is real and came roaring back to life this weekend, but the fear is only one of four big one's that stand...
- 04/02/2017By the way I also take pictures...been doing that for over 40 years...Philippe Collard500px.com Been taking photos for over 40 years. Nothing staged, nothing photoshopped. Just trying to capture moments of our lives as they flash by. A photo is the capture of a moment in time that cannot be described in words. It is THE moment...and you need...
- 04/02/2017We live in a very scary time. For as long as it has been, the US, my country, has believed it was immune to totalitarism, propaganda, oligarcism...and it took an election to reveal that it simply is not true. We are witnessing the transformation of the "city on the hill" into the "if you are not white and christians, get the hell out of here"...last time something like that happened what in Germany (Der Spiegel is a German publication)...and the trump of the time was called hitler..I know, you think the parallel is ridiculous...they laughed at him at the time (1933)...12 years later, 60 millions dead later, the world was in ruin!This Der Spiegel Trump cover is stunningwww.washingtonpost.com “It's a beheading of democracy, a beheading of a sacred symbol,” artist Edel Rodriguez...
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