- Producer10/03/2017Still Life with a Million WordsBooks are a Girl's Best FriendsActually, this image conveys almost a billion words for me. The most important is that Martha Beck is one of my favorite human beings, who happens to write the most life-affirming books.She is wise, funny, truthful,...
- 08/03/2017An excellent primer. This explains our Krav Maga lesson 6 taught at Armstrong's Taekwondo-Krav Maga. That lesson was on psychological reactions to a violent encounter.
Notice also that Porges says much of our physical disease is that of the autonomic nervous system, which he touches on at the very end.
Tremoring corrects a lot of these maladies: it will restore the vagal tone, which in turn restores the "rest and digest" program, which down-regulates the activity above the diaphragm, and up-regulates the the activity below it. It has demonstrated clear effects on those related illnesses.
I love this stuff!Stephen Porges - Polyvagal Theory: how your body makes the decision Im Gespräch mit Dr. Gunther Schmidt erläutert Prof. Stephen Porges, Begründer der polyvagal Theorie, seinen wissenschaftlichen Ansatz. Gemeinsam diskutieren...
Comments08/03/2017 #2 Leckey Harrison#1 Very true. If the SYS is on all the time, really the damage done is amazing. The little capillaries at the smallest branches where they branch are damaged, they they scar, and then on the large scale, the blood comes back into your heart slamming into the heart wall that gets thicker, and those little damaged capillaries happen to be the ones that feed the heart muscle itself from the outside and soon enough, they fail, and then it fails. The whole time the person has high blood pressure. Add a crappy diet and.....08/03/2017 #1 Deb 🐝 HelfrichThis is such a great little talk!
This fits right in with current research that attributes heart attacks to ANS dysfunction. "a deficiency in the parasympathetic nervous system" If we think about it we are aware of the personality that is prone to having a heart attack - someone in the throes of intense sympathetic responses
- Producer07/03/2017A Stand Alone CommentI am sure you can relate to my experiences of being drawn into dynamic posts and discussions. It is great to be able to share these posts but often just "liking" a comment doesn't feel enough. Twice in the past I shared comments off the post: From...
- Producer21/02/2017Moments Of Impact"Once you realize the power of focused human effort coalesced by writing or conversation, you will learn that being a person in charge of your life is the best gift you can give to everyone and everything you care about." Deb HelfrichWriting has...
Comments04/03/2017 #30 Joel Anderson@Cyndi wilkins as I watched the video with you and Deb Lange and your talking of saying what needs to be said , doing what needs to be done and seizing the moment it made me think of the Dead Poets Society. For a musical version https://youtu.be/G2e_M06YDyY?t=5 and then a poignant clip that underscores the essence of Carpe Diem: https://youtu.be/vi0Lbjs5ECI?t=5 . Thanks for sharing the video and the impactful insights.03/03/2017 #28 Deb🐝 LangeDear @Cyndi wilkins - for me as a writer and recent new publisher to find out how my book landed in your hands and had such an impact has been amazing! I wanted people to find buddies, to do the exercises, etc etc and you and @debhelfrich have done me just st that and what has come out of that for you both is beautiful! Keep on embracing and loving every part of you - you are both beautiful people!03/03/2017 #27 Cyndi wilkins#25 What else can I say @Shawn Quinlivan, C.Ht....Other than you have also been an integral part of this journey as well...Perhaps more behind the scenes so to speak, but rest assured your influence reverberates all throughout this entire process...So glad to have you aboard;-)03/03/2017 #26 Cyndi wilkins#24 Thank you @Joel Anderson...If you haven't already, you might want to take a peek at the session I filmed with Deb Lange...The youtube link is below on my comment #13...I share a bit of insight into my last days with my dad...I know you and I have discovered that "kindred connection" just recently, but it strikes a deep chord on a universal level for everyone...We are all headed to the same place...Some paths we share, on others we separate...but we will always cross paths again;-)03/03/2017 #25 Shawn Quinlivan, C.Ht.You offer the impetus to actually integrate a plan of action for reconciling conflicts. Very inspiring! It takes more than contemplation to resolve fear-driven emotions, such as anger, which both separate us from others and within ourselves. And to remind us that being filled with child-like trust, wonder and non-conditional regard for one another is insight into your own enlightenment. Thank you @Cyndi wilkins and @Deb 🐝 Helfrich! I appreciate sincerity, authenticity, vulnerability and emotional presence. Nicely done!02/03/2017 #22 Cyndi wilkins#20 #21 Thank you so very kindly @debasish majumderand @Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman...This is most certainly one of the "Moments Of Impact"....when everything seems to be happening in sync ...It is one of those synergies that we hear of from @Milos Djukic in his many brilliant posts...acting on the current in the "Moment." The only way to do that is via participation in active conversation. Moving beyond the "Read."24/02/2017 #18 Cyndi wilkins#10 @CityVP 🐝 Manjit...Now that I have given your eloquent comment it's very own space in my heart...I will attempt to convey the message I am feeling so profoundly in this "Moment of Impact." Let me be a bringer light into the darkest corners of my being...Let me trust that this light is to be shared among the others who are willing and able to accept it. It is a very powerful position you hold when you love yourself and those around you as a means of bringing more light into a very dark world...When you connect with the heart of others, you connect with spirit and ALL THERE IS to guide us through especially turbulent times...Whatever that may mean for the individual, know that what connects us is the truth of existence...It is the tapestry that feeds our intuitive fire and you must learn to trust...It is more reliable than any information you receive in your "external" environment...That is not denial or ignorance...THAT is emotional honesty in it's purest expression...THAT is self-awareness...THAT is truth...THAT is LOVE.....23/02/2017 #17 Cyndi wilkins#14 I concur this comment from City VP has left me in a state of "breathlessness" ...I shall have to percolate on my response here as I must first process that "lump" in my throat again.....Thank you for your kind support @Sara Jacobovici View more#14 I concur this comment from City VP has left me in a state of "breathlessness" ...I shall have to percolate on my response here as I must first process that "lump" in my throat again.....Thank you for your kind support @Sara Jacobovici.... Close
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Comments19/02/2017 #1 Deb 🐝 HelfrichThis is a great share, @Leckey Harrison
A very succinct talk that brings up the oft forgotten Freeze option that is part of the Fight/Flight/Freeze paradigm.
Our society conditions us to freeze by wanting us to ignore our bodies right from childhood, when we now mediate kids for fidgeting.....
I love the way she phrased it: "Fitness for Nervous System" which is essentially come down from the mind and get into the body and move it and notice it.
Our bodies are correct in constantly asking for movement and our rules of 'order' -stay still - are the problem.
Comments13/02/2017 #2 Deb 🐝 HelfrichWhat a rich visual metaphor for how what we perceive for certain, may be an effect of where or how we observe.
Why do we spend so much time arguing for what is plainly factual rather than exploring the little blurs, the tiny annoying bits that don't seem to add up?
These inconsistencies might just open us up to wonder and awe - just right past what we know is plain as day.
Comments02/02/2017 #1 Deb 🐝 HelfrichNow, that was a good workout.
No possible way to stay seated listening to this seriously uptempo, dance-able version of 2 classic songs with powerful vocals.
16 years ago my best friend from Philly popped "Who is Jill Scott" into my CD player and, well - it is still there.
- 02/02/2017Insightful and important. A must read. Plus...@Sarah Elkins is mentioned in it.We are not alone in our aloneness.www.linkedin.com The poet Gabriel García Marquez suggested that we all have three lives: a public life, a private life and a secret life. Our public life consists...
- Producer30/01/2017The Reality of Virtual RelationshipsWhy are some online relationships so SPECIAL? Many of us feel that something is different about beBee. Some of us notice a shift in the world at large. I'd like to hypothesize that the internet has brought us to a new evolution of...
Comments09/02/2017 #29 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#27 Perfect quote, @Chas ✌️ Wyatt. It captures some of what I conveyed in comments on @Joel Anderson's series of posts about footprints and lines.
This is a both/and situation.
Fresh perspectives, clean slates, starting from scratch, not being attached to things are all occasionally preferred.
Other scenarios require an established path, a line that we will not cross, the tracks of a life well-lived.
It is all part of the duality of life. Just like in-person or virtual relationships.
We now have the technology for it to be a dynamic, joy-promoting Both/And depending on circumstances.09/02/2017 #28 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#26 I was so touched by your comment, @🐝 Fatima Williams, that I just kept rereading it. A worthy response was eluding me until now.
We may have lost the comfort of belonging to a village, but we cannot discount the soul enlivening effect of finding the perfect virtual village.09/02/2017 #27 Chas ✌️ Wyatt"It is a pleasant feeling to be the first to walk on sands which the tide has just left. It is like being the first to visit a new land. It produces a freshness of sensation something akin to that of early morning, or of spring. It is like entering upon a new stage of life, having a new world before us from which to receive, and upon which to make impressions." ~Henry James Slack (1818–1896), "The Ministry of the Beautiful", "Conversation II: Footsteps on the Sand," 1850.08/02/2017 #26 🐝 Fatima Williams@Deb 🐝 Helfrich Having had the opportunity to have a personal chat with you I know I'm blessed beyond words can describe for having met you.
The way I describe my relationship with you is as below
"The energy I collectively feel is unique. It feeds my soul in a new, exciting, and fulfilling ways. It satisfies my heart with a feeling of a content conversation"
Fulfilment and satisfaction of talking to someone. I haven't had that in a very long time. As real friends tend to drift away seemingly concerned about their social status. People like me who is no longer worried who got the lastest car or designer clothes tend to drift away in search of meaning and true relationships.
As I mentioned in my Why I love beBee buzz. I found beBee and it replaced the human connection I needed at that time. Is there any better way for me to explain how I feel about being here and knowing you all. Thank you.Stay blessed.31/01/2017 #23 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#13 I truly value your comment, Sara. There is definitely some discussion needed here to understand how it is that we have, in some cases, these really vibrant relationships happening in tiny 2-D comment boxes. We are still in the rather early stages of getting to know each other, but if life where to occur and we became neighbors, I suspect that our concepts of each other would just blossom with all the new sensory information and 'time' to learn about how we participate in daily life.
I just cannot get around the fact that the Sara I imagine talking/typing to is in my own head. It will be coming up on a year that we've been in an orbit of friendship and the amount of data points we have both directly and via numerous other people is a rather immense set of information. But I am still creating a version of you that exists in my own mind.
We've been doing this since kids with books. I can vibrantly describe most of the books I have read in terms of a full bodily existence, even though so many of these sensory details are likely my own construct. So I don't really see it as transcending bodies exactly, just setting aside some of the realities.
For instance, I find it jolting sometimes when one of the Australians mentions how hot it is, when it is winter in Seattle. Other times, most likely when they have mentioned place, the heat is a given.
What is similar between interacting with imagination when reading books and interacting with reality when conversing on social media is that many parts of the background and environment are filled by my own local senses. While what is different is that you can answer in your own unique and completely different words. It can be a new sense in a very practical way, while also being extraordinarily magical and spiritual.31/01/2017 #21 Sara Jacobovici#17 Your generous (and flattering) invitation is too good to pass up. It will be my pleasure to take part in the dynamic meeting organized by you two ladies @Cyndi wilkins. I sent Deb a PM that although I can not commit to the first meeting, I will keep my "eyes and ears open" to future opportunities.31/01/2017 #18 Renée 🐝 CormierI have to say, I have met some truly wonderful people on beBee. In my opinion, beBee is the only social media platform that really makes it easy to develop friendships with other members. A world where people seek out commonalities and community will always be more loving and peaceful than a world focused on separation and differences. This microcosm called beBee is a good place. It's god to communicate with kind-hearted people like you, @Deb 🐝 Helfrich.31/01/2017 #17 Cyndi wilkins#15 Perhaps the "Time" is right to take a small step beyond the boundaries of the "Read" and dip your toe in a little....Sounds like we have a couple of discussions emerging here that would present the perfect opportunities for us all to finally meet...face to face and ear to ear:-) @Deb 🐝 Helfrich and I would be honored if you would consider lending us an ear and better yet your input on some up and coming discussions we will be hosting. The first of the series will begin this Saturday, Feb. 4th via Skype. Check out the above link for details...We would love to "See" you all there!31/01/2017 #16 Mohammed Sultan@Deb 🐝 Helfrich.Your ideas are hitting our imagination as the sea waves are always hitting the shore of the pacific.I find such group discussions are quite natural ,since they convey the emotions,feelings and thoughts which shape people's personal brands on beBee.Thank you Deb.31/01/2017 #13 Sara JacoboviciDear @Deb 🐝 Helfrich, I am slowly allowing myself to land from your piece as I attempt to form the words I need to communicate with you. (Deep breath.) First, let me thank you for the mention and for being in any way connected to your writing. I feel privileged to have witnessed the process you described, intellectually and artistically, of your SM self-discovery here on beBee. My "sense" of you is that you are an exceptional human being, with your heart in the right place, and your mind "a right place". And speaking of places....you write: when we "look past their body and 24/7 personality and our own typical human senses and we communicate directly with someone else as pure consciousness that actually lives inside of our own mind." From my perspective, this reflects you are in a different place than me. I am still where you write in the "full, physical, proximal, flawed" sensory, complicated body. If I had to place myself, I would be, not in the new sense you describe but "pivoting" on my older senses. I have never been good at transcending the physical. I am still navigating the integration of the physical, psychological and spiritual. My experiences of SM is still connected to the meanings I have formed from my sensory experiences. I am very "conscious" of being open to expanding my experiences and awareness but that is an expansion of my existing boundaries. I have yet to navigate outside those boundaries. You, Deb, have truly broken through and have reached beyond. All the power to you!
- 29/01/2017I had so many delightful collaborations this week. Here is a co-post I wrote with Wendy Weiner Runge of #GenuineHero fame, where I arrived at the quote: "start embracing that it is the energy of human conversations that power all that is happening around us."SYNC HAPPENSwww.linkedin.com Wendy says: Nature called...again. I was at an event for Jewish college students, and when I walked towards the bathroom my life changed for...
Comments30/01/2017 #1 Cyndi wilkinsPaula M. Parker hit the bulls eye with her comment on that post..."I scout for God winks along the way, they arrive in ways my mind could never fathom." That's precisely what we were discussing the other day @Deb 🐝 Helfrich View morePaula M. Parker hit the bulls eye with her comment on that post..."I scout for God winks along the way, they arrive in ways my mind could never fathom." That's precisely what we were discussing the other day @Deb 🐝 Helfrich...Learning how to come down out of our heads and begin to practice trusting our senses more....I think @Deb🐝 Lange would agree;-) Close
- 25/01/2017Because I thought of him today: SloMo, a San Diegan legend:Slomo: The Man Who Skated Right Off the Grid | Op-Docs | The New York Times Dr. John Kitchin quit a medical career to pursue his passion: skating along the boardwalk of San Diego's Pacific Beach. He calls himself "Slomo." Read the...
- Producer25/01/2017Deja ecrit – How do you experience what you've already written?I believe I am not alone in realizing the fact that I spend too much time fretting about what I am writing. I would like to encourage myself – and maybe you – to get on with it a bit more. I am relatively at peace with the world of critics...
Comments31/01/2017 #54 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#52 I believe wholeheartedly that we take everyone into account and that all voices are heard. That is precisely what has to occur to envision a "world where what we hold precious, more than any other resource, is the value of a human hour of work"
I feel that right now what we show we value as most precious is the stock price of a piece of paper.
It is unbelievably complex to move from the latter to the former. I want no one to suffer along the way. The place to start is within the mega-large corporations. With the obscene agglomerations of resources and capital that can be utilized a few percentage points more equitably.
I am someone who focuses more on the why and the context, rather than the how, because we've gotten here by looking too narrowly.30/01/2017 #49 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#48 The interesting thing, I feel, is that being an ambassador gives me the impetus to be more verbose. I suspect that most would say I am the same Deb here as on LI. I simply choose to spend my time here because I want to be part of an actual community, even though what that means is very amorphous - as everyone is entitled to their own voice.
I categorize my time as professional because I work at what I want to say. I am still pondering what to say about the state minimum wage, as we see this from vastly different angles. No single person can put a roof over their head in Seattle on $15, let alone have water, electricity, internet, and food.
Full time work deserves a living wage. We have to put humans first. If a person dedicates themselves to your business for 8 hours a day, 5 days a week, or longer, they must be able to have a home to go home to.
The how is guaranteed to be complex, I don't want to minimize the size of this inequitable system, but I am going to stand for a world where what we hold precious, more than any other resource, is the value of a human hour of work.
We may need to trend your way to start righting a very lopsided ship, but we have to go there with a much better future in mind.
This is an example of wanting to feel that future Deb's will be proud of me for what I wrote - I don't give a toss whether anyone else agrees - but I want to feel that I put my own personal level of thought into what I wrote.29/01/2017 #46 Lisa VanderburgAnother wonderful journey of discovery, @Deb 🐝 Helfrich - thank you! As a [would-be, but dubious] writer with a particularly verbose style, I have attempted to quantify the names of my mental detractors: Limp Dick and Amy G. Dala . I try to keep them locked up on my Hippo Campus, but they keep escaping, as is most students' wont. I can do incoherent, just not twice in a row :)29/01/2017 #44 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#39 @Chad Carroll or should I speak to Bobical via comments? Thank you for making me feel like I am not the only one with a hyper-active delete mechanism. I have the same, real struggle.
Here's how I see it. I am actually here - on social media - for 'work' in an amorphous, ever-changing way. I really do consider each little nugget as part of my oeuvre, a grain of rice in my personal brand. So if I feel compelled to comment, I make sure it is authentically part of my strategy of being Deb.
Running my words through the inner sieve is then just a bit of professional 'Quality Assurance'.29/01/2017 #43 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#36 @Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman - yep, variety is the allspice of life, as they should have said. I feel like you do such a great job of expressing the person you are, of really representing yourself, in words. That is an important talent. And I am so glad I get to learn all about you via your words as you buzz around the hives. You are a super pollinator guide. Making sure we all know the stunning variety of fields we can visit when we show up on beBee.29/01/2017 #42 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#41 @Tony 🐝 Rossi you have buoyed my resolve. I am so grateful for your compliment.
Writing can be such an internal minefield and I feel their is a continuum from highly polished, investigative, complex articles like the New Yorker and more personal pieces of writing meant to help the author share their own voice.
The immense capacity of the internet is showing us that "If you need to write it, someone needs to read it."29/01/2017 #41 Tony 🐝 RossiI love your writing, @Deb 🐝 Helfrich! I'm nowhere near as practiced as yourself, but i completely relate with how your mind works and the words that come out. I hope others get a boost of confidence to get more of their thoughts out into written word as you've challenged yourself. Don't stop!26/01/2017 #36 Franci🐝Eugenia HoffmanDeb, your writing is eloquent and you have an outstanding command of the English language. My inner critic is overworked at times because I like variety and change. Thus the reason for my liking beBee so much - never boring. My own site is always changing and is an ongoing reflection of my ideas - I consider everything, including myself, a work in progress.26/01/2017 #35 Shawn Quinlivan, C.Ht.#34 You have a fantastic command of the language, @Deb 🐝 Helfrich! Objectivity, however, often requires some collaborative effort. I can see that happening with some folks on beBee and that is a great thing. Thanks for the endorsement and I am so glad the meditations are working for you.26/01/2017 #34 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#33 Wow, what an interesting experience, @Shawn Quinlivan, C.Ht. I can see the benefits of writing with a 'partner' and having that inner editor be based on a real, disciplined, yet compassionate person. I talk myself out of things so much via over-analyzing.
I spent way too long in my life going it alone. I think 2017 is definitely my year of collaboration.
I can honestly recommend your new series of 10-15 minute guided meditations as a phenomenal way to ease out of too much self-editing mode. They are refreshing mental breaks to disrupt the overwhelm that was holding me back for the last few weeks.
http://shawnquinlivan.com/discovery-a-guided-meditation/26/01/2017 #33 Shawn Quinlivan, C.Ht.I love this article, @Deb 🐝 Helfrich. It reminds me of a process I established when I wrote my first novel. I achieved that by participating in a Writer's Digest sponsored program that coupled me with a published author named Ardath Mayer. Through that relationship, which entailed me producing a few chapters at a time and sending them to her for review, I developed an inner editor, which I came to call 'the Ardath factor.' I wrote over 150,000 words with her and began to see through her eyes. It was one of the most beneficial educational experiences of my life. I learned to transcend seeing my own words on the page, and to be really critical and objective with my work in terms of compositional structure and literary value. I now use two elements to determine if I am satisfied: 1) the Ardath factor; and 2) my emotional reaction. I have to be thrilled and moved emotionally or it's not ready. And this process requires a lot of editing and re-reading. My inner critic is Ardath (who passed away a few years back but still lives inside me), and I write to invoke feeling. Thanks for the invitation to revisit and share . . . it was a fantasy novel and an extremely special time in my life. All the best . . .
- Producer19/01/2017Lines in the Sand: Part IILast night in a hospital room with my father, while he slept, my grown and very smart daughter and I somehow embarked on a discussion about things coming up and looming in our future. The focus was on my father, but as we watched him sleep she...
Comments05/03/2017 #16 Sara JacoboviciOne line that is obvious here @Joel Anderson is the one straight from the heart! The lines of connection that you describe, from both time and place, verbal and nonverbal, are as you say; "straight and narrow, squiggly, or dotted focused in one direction or left to meander down paths well or less travelled." The connections don't just form lines, but patterns and imprints. What is significant is that, nothing can be formed if no connection exists; between individuals, community, nature, our environment. In your words, connections made through lines that "converge, rather than diverge".21/01/2017 #14 Gerald HechtSome lines aren't even relevant...in the end who among us would waste an iota of our precious time and energy (best not wasted...all of our lives, all of our loved ones lives...all over --in the blink of an eye) on the political views of "The Federalists" vs. "The Whigs"?
I don't mean to be obtuse or provincial...FWIW...it's a reference to the ghost of a line in the sand...in which existed in the ghost of a place called "America"; neither of which exist. They are Dead. No sand. No line. Remains.21/01/2017 #12 Joel Anderson#5 @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher Sorry, was trying to write, read and respond on my phone and in between meetings and other distractions that come with the work day. I am truly thankful for your comments and thoughts on this particular piece. Amazing how simple "Moments:Snap shots in time" can become become so profound.
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- Producer17/12/2016Order OutageWhat would the sun do if it were you? Every dawn of occasion looks up to the beautiful creation and having been fascinated, it made its own equation with everything aware that it exists. Time and space have say in such a way that it makes 1.618...
- 15/12/2016@Gerald Hecht - I would really appreciate it if you could offer some of your professional insights on this development and the new drug MSDC-0160, and perhaps help me translate what the drug does into some nutritional interventions for @Gary Sharpe to consider.
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- 13/12/2016"Working with Gary has given me the opportunity to become aware of how my emotions affect his physical state – and while it can be truly difficult to confront my culpability in the moment – overall this clarity is a gift. Because until I could see the damage of raging emotions physically, I was not doing the best job of maintaining my own awareness. Because there was very little cost to my physical stamina."
~ @Deb 🐝 HelfrichWhat Emotions Have To Do With Itwww.outthinkingparkinsons.com For those of us lucky enough to share our lives with someone with Parkinson's we can use this as an opportunity for both of us to learn something about self-awareness and the hope that can arise from noticing and implementing simple...
Comments14/12/2016 #2 Deb🐝 Lange#1 great sharing about learning from and with someone with parkinsons . I have learnt much from working with someone with chronic fatigue - how energy can shift in a moment, how not being authentic is draining to both people, how being authentic is life-giving and much more13/12/2016 #1 Deb 🐝 HelfrichThis is a post I wrote back in March that talks about looking at our emotions through the lens of how they affect the physical symptoms of Parkinson's.
The physical toll of 'Raging' emotions might not be so obvious to most of us, but our bodies are unquestionably taking a hit.
- 11/12/2016Revolutionary! Just a few notes to entice people...."In flow states, we are using a lot less of our brain - it becomes hypoactive - and it is the prefrontal cortex that is deactivating"
Time is calculated in the prefrontal cortex - and if parts wink out, we can no longer separate past, present, future - we are plunged into something called the deep now.
Sense of self is also resident in prefrontal cortex - if it is turned off your inner critic goes quiet.How to open up the next level of human performance | Steven Kotler | TEDxABQ What does it take to be your best when it matters most? Author of 7 bestselling books, Pulitzer Prize nominee, and Director of Research at the Flow Genome...
Comments11/12/2016 #2 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#1 Well Steven is a journalist just like Malcolm, so neither is proving/disproving just packaging.
K. Anders Ericsson is the psychologist behind the 10,000 hour hypothesis and he worked with Nobel laureate Herbert Simon, who I was lucky enough to take a class from at Carnegie Mellon. So I can 'vet' him to some extent and not just dismiss his work.
The difference as I understand it is 10k represents a developmental approach to sustained practice of skills versus the newer research on flow, which I find so fascinating precisely because the suggestion of turning off the prefrontal cortex which we revere so highly and using the full-body intelligence of our vastly superior unconscious mind.
I can tell we are going to have some interesting discussions, @Zacharias Voulgaris 🐝, because I do agree that the 10,000 hour claims got too much attention from the hyper-competitive crowd, because just like innate 'god-given' talent the life conditions to dedicate 10k hours to one endeavor is a pretty rare occurrence.
- Producer08/12/2016Socks, Open-mindedness, and Intolerance MaskedThis buzz is solely my personal opinion and represents a rebuttal to some members of this community. Please do exercise your right to click-away if you are uninterested in hearing about some masked discrimination that I recently experienced, as...
Comments12/12/2016 #79 Lada 🏡 PrkicI don’t know what the whole fuss is about. I read both articles and found the controversial buzz about snake oil by Don Kerr, with which I disagree although I admire the author. By the way, I think we should be able to speak bluntly and to indicate the article or the author to whom it refers. It's the fair thing to do.
I have a positive attitude towards holistic medicine because I was convinced in its effects at the example of my family. It is logical approach to the healing process that includes the whole person and not just the human body. But I can also understand the opposite opinions.
For example, my highly religious colleague is strongly against yoga. When she heard that I was intended to start doing yoga she tried to talk me out of it. She thinks about yoga as some kind of demonic activity. This is her attitude toward meditation, too.
Unlike her I grew up in an environment which has always been open to new ideas. That’s why I also believe that the ability to discuss any topic is how we grow and learn to be tolerant, the value greatly lacking in society.
@Deb 🐝 Helfrich, thanks for the post that broadens horizons.11/12/2016 #76 debasish majumdersnake have a fixed eye ball, which is a hindrance to them, in terms of catching their prey! on contrary, human have an eye ball, enabling them to keep a vision and even enable to widen their vistas! wonderful post @Deb 🐝 Helfrich View moresnake have a fixed eye ball, which is a hindrance to them, in terms of catching their prey! on contrary, human have an eye ball, enabling them to keep a vision and even enable to widen their vistas! wonderful post @Deb 🐝 Helfrich! ENJOYED READ MADAM. THANK YOU FOR THE SHARE. Close11/12/2016 #74 jesse kaellis#72
Time will tell, Robert. It will take intensive rehab and a recovery period of up to three months. The screws, the apparatus, needs to fuse with the bone. I had two surgeries. I fell shortly after the first one. A disaster. But there's this; I finally understand why people commit suicide over chronic pain. Physician-assisted suicide. At times the pain was extraordinary.10/12/2016 #67 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#61 You can call me any name you want, Pablo! I am certain I will either smile or laugh so hard my keyboard is in jeopardy of frizzing from the coffee spatter.
Bullies are not trolls. Bullies are taking a public place, marking their territory, and enforcing their arbitrary rules, often in the guise of doing what everyone else wants. Depending on the territory, as @David Navarro López so poignantly points out, we may simply not be able to have a meaningful effect on their activities. Religious, governmental bullies and anyone with weaponry needs to be avoided.
But a social media platform is the place for open, civil, and impactful discussions. I won't be shamed into silence.
I am drawing my own line in the sand for tolerance.10/12/2016 #66 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#59 #60 Absolutely anything can be said with respect, for instance - "I honestly have trouble regarding this as anything but snakeoil - am I missing something?" "Do you think this might be giving people false hope and be dangerous in the way we think of snakeoil?" Opinion stated in a way discussion can ensue.
I haven't the slightest problem with the basic challenging question. I object vehemently to the methodology used. Because as I titled this buzz - I believe it to be intolerance masked.10/12/2016 #64 Paul "Pablo" Croubalian#63 True, but sometimes I feel like being an ambassador is like having a target painted on your back. Some people think that we can't fight back. We shouldn't fight back. Or, we mustn't fight back.
Javier and Juan saw fit to make me an ambassador. It sure wasn't because of my pretty face. Unless. . . maybe they're Homer Simpson fans? Whatever the reason was, I didn't change what I do or how I do it on this or other platforms. I promoted beBee before, I continue to promote it now.
I'm not here to hold hands and sing Kumbaya either.
It's a social network, emphasis on the "social." It's easy for cowards to hide behind a keyboard. We need to accept the fact that it's impossible to please everyone.
I don't really give a rat's patootie what anyone else thinks an ambassador "should" do or "must" do. Javier and Juan selected us, they can unselect us.
Everybody else is entitled to their opinion, but it ain't worth much. No worries, as was said in another comment, "Haters gonna hate." I chalk it up to jealousy....
Let the flaming begin.10/12/2016 #61 Paul "Pablo" CroubalianI'll start my comment with some direct name calling. Deb, you Inspiration, you.
Frankly, it boggles my mind that anyone should take offense at what you wrote. While I'm not a fan of any holistic treatments, I respect the individual's right to choose.
I see little point in forcing my opinion down someone's throat.
On the larger issue of online bullying, there are several thoughts I would like to share. There is a common thought that one should not "feed the trolls." That's true for trolls. Not so much for bullies. You do not stop a bully by giving in or running away. Most are cowards at the core. Just don't show them they hit a nerve.
The worst type, and probably the one you allude to, disguises the bullying as a rebuttal or an expression of "difference of opinion." These posts are easy to recognize. They are full of semantically charged words. They draw "conclusions" from misinterpreted data. They claim their conjectures are "facts."
Some of these are simply taken badly. The written word lacks inflection, so misinterpretations are common. Some aren't. They are deliberate.
When a post or a comment pisses me off, I do two things. One, I reply immediately but in Word not directly. That helps me get the anger out of they way. Two, I wait a day and read it again. If it still pisses me off, I'll wait a little more.I once waited 10 days.
To the commenters who draw such ire: It is not enough that you hide behind "I have a right to express my opinion." So do they. Why does your right supersede theirs? It doesn't.
It is up to YOU to take all reasonable steps to avoid the impression of bullying. No, saying, "My opinion" or "No offense, but," doesn't cut it.
To authors: Don't leave. Thank the commenter for their comment. Say something like, "You are certainly entitled to your opinion, even if I don't share it. Thanks for the comment and have a great day." Then get on with your life. Is their opinion that important to you?
Don't sweat it.10/12/2016 #56 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#53 It is not a common occurrence, at all, as the vast, vast majority of people find beBee to be a refreshingly positive, supportive place to be. I work hard at adding that exact sort of value every day.
My own personal standard is that no one should experience 'name calling abuse' that causes them to leave beBee. In this case, it was the very subtlety of an indirect attack that I thought lent itself to a discussion that might bring about more awareness.
Interacting with tolerance is actual hard work on a global site based on open participation. We all have biases. We all have buttons that will get pushed.
This community is one where we celebrate the pause between a stimulus and a response, so that we may state our views with respect toward the person who holds the opposing view.10/12/2016 #55 Max🐝 J. Carter#53 I am happy for you that you have avoided this experience. I experienced at first and it was why I left for a while.
It was actions taken by the management team that convinced me to give it another shot.
While I have still experienced it, it has gotten much much better and that has a lot to do with the rest of the community also working to put an end to it.
- Producer04/12/2016Talking with Max Carter: What does a Shaman Do?We all know the definition of insanity is to continue doing what we are doing, expecting different results. We nod our heads when we read listicles about the keys to change, and then scroll onward. But when was the last time you decided to have a...
Comments06/12/2016 #24 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#21 #22 Thanks for adding a couple crucial points, @Praveen Raj Gullepalli. Any honest human being who can be vulnerable to their own complete awareness knows that they have experienced at least one thing in their life for which they have no rational explanation. The absolute truth of being in love, for example.
It is puerile and divisive for a member of this community to invoke their ambassadorship while they ridicule something that makes them uncomfortable.06/12/2016 #20 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#14 Skepticism is a truly beneficial approach in our human toolkit, @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher. Having the ability to discern the rightness, truth, or slight possibility of a new idea or experience is crucial to our survival. But being skeptical does not mean waging a disinformation campaign against everything we don't understand.
And part of the true worth of the internet is that we can learn about ideas, ways of life, and experiences that were out of our reach when we couldn't meet people from around the globe.
The ironic thing is, healthcare is a good example of where we believe in things 100% but the actual underlying statistics show a much less clear reality. For example, "Medical errors rank behind heart disease and cancer as the third leading cause of death in the U.S., Johns Hopkins researchers say." http://www.bmj.com/content/353/bmj.i2139
If people were more likely to employ skepticism that number might not be quite so high.
But real skepticism entails listening fully to the opposing point of view, or the risks of the medical treatment, and then making an informed decision.05/12/2016 #19 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#13 You pretty much honed in on exactly why I wanted to talk to @Max🐝 J. Carter and then share a bit about what I learned and experienced"
"It's inconvenient and takes courage, but a necessary requirement" to sometimes "rock us out of our subjective, judgmental comfort zones"
You are much more aware than most. @Ian Weinberg, that we are primarily a bunch of 5-year-olds when it comes to beliefs. We downloaded what was said in our immediate environment a decade before our analytical mind started to develop. And because we got those beliefs from people we loved and trusted implicitly, it feels a little shameful and invokes a lot of fear when we are confronted with a word like shaman that simply never came up in our conventional, middle-class, pre-internet worlds.
But as an adult, a little more knowledge is never something to fear. We are now in full control of accepting or rejecting parts or the whole of something that, once we understand it, does or does not mesh with what we think, believe and experience.05/12/2016 #18 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#12 Thanks for adding that point, @Ken Boddie because many of us North Americans forget that we are rather late to the party on some things and that there are some long traditions in the East that must be respected as they were helping people centuries before the printing press, let alone the peer-reviewed double-blind trial.
One thing that has been validated extensively by pharma dollars is the placebo effect. When it comes to healing, and most certainly to simple life changes, deciding that the pill will work or that the conversation was beneficial can be a major factor in allowing us to let go of worry, because we have taken action. That shift from constant worry, to trusting the pill, the needle, or the healing professional does release us from being in a sympathetic state where our body is constantly alert and not dedicating resources to repair. Chronic anxiety and fear is one of the reasons that modern life is full of chronic disease. We don't give our body the calm, easeful state it needs to take care of growth and healing.05/12/2016 #17 Max🐝 J. Carter#16 There are a lot of physical talkers in the world and it helps in moving energy while speaking as much as it enhances communication and @Deb 🐝 Helfrich moves a lot of energy when she speaks that assists her in maintaining her focus and finding the abstract pieces for linear communication.
This is what allows her to be so insight filled.
Allowing the abstract field to give her what she needs to find the individual expression that often produces wise insights as we have all witnessed many times.05/12/2016 #16 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#10 Another light-bulb moment, @Deb🐝 Lange. Because I find it to be true that every sense we add as part of a conversation makes us feel we are understood at a deeper level. Typing back and forth in posts and comments can create real relationships. But then get on the phone, and the experience is richer. Have a video call and even more sensory information is conveyed back and forth. Sitting across a meal creates a very rich connection.
"Transformation is visceral." Analytical lists, rigid belief in what is measurable, keeps us in our language-based ego when what we need is to feel. As individuals we have to relearn how to trust what our body feels.
As @Max🐝 J. Carter can testify, I like to move quite a lot when I talk. I even do it when typing comments. I can often catch myself making a movement that either reinforces my point or adds a further level of meaning to what I am saying.
I am sincerely looking forward to your videos, as your book has been a source of great companionship. I feel quite young at heart in the way I enjoy sometimes just looking at the pictures, other times going back to a section that draws me to re-read it.05/12/2016 #15 Mohammed Sultan@ Deb Helfrich .Thanks for your insightful post.I wish any shaman or sheikh (in may religion) can use his special power to cure many of the business diseases that we can't discover by the scientific methods of market research or give us an accurate interpretation why 85% of our young start ups die at the second year of their birth.I hope they can tell why people resist our innovations although they are acceptable and desirable or they can use their good spirits to change the current outdated selection criteria of HR to give young people more hope of getting fair job opportunity.Some people may also resist what I am saying stressing that life is not at all about business only.I fully agree,everybody can be a shaman or sheikh for herself because she receives the same light from the same source.Everyone has her own light that can help see life pitfalls or bumpy roads. Everyone has her own light enough for her own journey .Don't look for the light in the side of darkness ,and when you feel that your light is dim recharge your batteries or keep plugged.As we suffer from myths that may kill our businesses,one of our myths in life is to resort to shamans or sheikhs who can use ,as they claim,magic to discover the the cause of illness and bad luck.The real comfort and good feeling are achieved when we resort to the main and the only source of light to provide us with enough light for our long paths.05/12/2016 #14 Lisa 🐝 GallagherInteresting read @Deb 🐝 Helfrich. I always wondered why @Max🐝 J. Carter had the title Shaman, this helps me to understand. I'm not opposed to a holistic approach but there will always be the skeptic in me because of my healthcare background. My comment about being a skeptic is not in relation to what Max does personally, it's a general comment. I'm glad you've had a great outcome with your sessions along with a few revelations! Thanks for enlightening us!05/12/2016 #13 Ian WeinbergWe need the Max Carters of the world to rock us out of our subjective, judgmental comfort zones and confront truth (a relative term) and a greater authenticity. It's inconvenient and takes courage, but a necessary requirement for positive evolution of the individual and the greater collective.05/12/2016 #12 Ken BoddieThank you, Deb, for an illuminating and insightful post. Personally I am still locked in between the western need for scientific proof and the eastern acceptance of beneficiary awareness. I'm glad you have been able to unlock your cultural bias and perhaps initial scepticism to your benefit.05/12/2016 #10 Deb🐝 Lange@Deb 🐝 Helfrich - how awesome that you trusted what you were sensing and had a session with @Max Carter - it is a very different way of working being with someone and being present to the energy in the container and within each person. Every talks ABOUT Transformation, few actually experience it or co-create it for themselves and for others. Transformation is visceral. Something that is felt, it changes our perception and way we experience our world, it changes something inside ourselves. I believe this is the shift we need. With all the information in the world, being passed around, it does not necessarily result in change. I have been musing about posting via the video app, in this way at least experience can energy across the internet and connect, or not just through words but through energy, tone, movement, gesture, imagery etc. I encourage people to experience the world "through" our body. It is a very different experience to thinking about the world. It includes an integration of thinking, sensing, feeling, noticing, moving, breathing as an organic being.05/12/2016 #9 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#8 'love and acceptance of living things the way they are, rather than the way we think they should be' So much said there, @Cyndi wilkins. We have these big brains, with complex reasoning skills, and we can really hurt ourselves and the people we try to love with our schemes and dreams and "clinging to our desires."
I won't lie, it hurts to let go. And it certainly isn't a one time thing, I built some really strong neural pathways around a few dimensions of my life. But I am feeling some ease return to relatively mindless tasks and those faltering first steps into a new knowing.
And, in essence, while Stella wanted her groove, Deb wanted her knowing back.05/12/2016 #8 Cyndi wilkinsLearning to actually let go of everything is a lesson in the purest form of love and acceptance of living things the way they are, rather than the way we think they should be. It's going with the flow, rather than clinging to our desires...It is life's way of teaching us humility and grace...And trusting that mother nature always has our best interests at heart...even when we resist her, she loves us anyway...A heart that loves is always torn...and we all need love...especially for oneself. I am finally getting there, and sounds like you have arrived too Deb Helfrich...What a long, strange trip it's been;-)05/12/2016 #7 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#6 I appreciate the comment and shares, @Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman. I believe that if we don't learn something new from everyone we interact with, then we are not asking the right questions.
While Max can come across as abrasive in writing, he is quite a good listener, who truly intends to be helpful to the people he works with. He met me at where I was in regards to being outside of mainstream religion and only a moderate fan of rock and I am certain he would work with everyone at the place where they found themselves.
Being very militant when it comes to conveying information doesn't necessarily mean that someone communicates like that in a conversation, and because I could see the person behind some of his stronger positions, I listened to my curiosity and was glad I reached out to have a session with him.
- Producer30/11/2016Two illusions don't make a factJoris Plaatstaal made a great comment on one of my recent buzzes titled "Conscious and Subconscious Questions". This comment led me to respond by saying that ""Between freedom and illusion there is a borderline of knowledge." Joris responded by...
Comments07/12/2016 #91 CityVP 🐝 Manjit#90 Harvey, when freedom has to be within the confines of more than one person, then that freedom is connected by an ideology. I am not free of illusion and I am not free of ideology. For sure where there is illusion it is the barrier to truth, and so where illusion is, truth is not.
The reason I am not free of illusion or ideology is that I have not chosen to subject myself to that level of uncertainty. So for now I am settling for the blessings found in the illusions I hold.
Freedom from illusion is among the toughest if not THE toughest challenge for any human. I don't want to suggest that word blessings equates with freedom, if we had freedom, why would we be counting our blessings? Blessings are an ideology.07/12/2016 #90 Harvey Lloyd#89 Within an illusion can there really be truth? If so it would have to be dynamic.
This is where i guess i part company with the illusion metaphor of existence.
Freedom has to be within the confines of more than one person. My existence and beliefs establishes conflict within the freedom viewpoint. But no necessarily and illusion.
Clearly some boundaries and these boundaries need to be held in some form of dynamic ever-evolving search for truth.
This i deem to be thriving/living. Life is an illusion if we live in singularity on an island.07/12/2016 #89 CityVP 🐝 Manjit#87 and #88 : The Yin and Yang of the illusion of freedom is that there is this hidden dependencies but there are also blessings. Authority as a dependency can create a very hostile and toxic world and here authority really is competing constituencies and the toxic power struggles in academia is a good example of that.
Life lived n any bubble will eventually burst, and our own contribution in a bubble can be something we are unconscious about. The illusion of freedom does however also bring to the fore considerable blessings also. It is in our DNA to deconstruct and tamper/tinker with things that escalate challenges, often we call these challenges "opportunity" but more often than note these challenges come up against competing interests.
A poignant word for authority then is "special interest". We think of special interest in terms of large scale effects, so we condemn practices that represent special interest, but special interest exists in the micro world also. Without consideration of blessings, we warp or shift attention to the darker side of illusion. The welcomed side of illusion is a capacity we all can have, which is our imagination, it is imagination that can move us towards truth, unless our occupation (what occupies us)07/12/2016 #88 Harvey Lloyd#85 This was a great comment and thought process. The illusion of freedom brought on by hidden dependencies.
I believe 9/11 showed us a micro scale disruption that could be easily scaled up by a 5th grader.
With population growth we are asking technology to grow food, make things cheaper etc. (The article you linked shows that immediate term fixes have future consequences.) With growth we are useing technology to serve, while eliminating jobs with the technology, this seems counter-intuitive.
The illusion for myself is more that we talk about unrelated issues of the short term while the devil is stealing our future. This statement could apply across a few thousand different issues. From Social to Fiscal we are sacrificing our future for intermediate gains that history has already tried and we have the results from those endeavours.
If we are not already living inside an illusion we are building one.07/12/2016 #87 Max🐝 J. Carter#85 We create these dependencies.
. If you take the farmer metaphor what you have is an academic community living in the illusion of control called authority.
If you look at the rest of their world that is oppressed by the rules of academia you have the oppressed acting as nature showing the farmer their idea of control is nothing more than an illusion.
I had to dig to find the scientists who have found the flaws in the Theory of relativity and found a great documentary in which they discussed being shunned by the academic community to keep their stranglehold on progress based in what feeds their funding for their research.
Nature does no actually conspire against the farmer it is the farmer that conspires against nature under the delusional thinking that one has control over anything.
The only thing that puts an end to an illusion is popping the bubble and pulling back the veil.
I realize why the academic community feels threaten by this as it in a way destroys their authority and ability to dictate who is allowed to contribute based on their rules.
Nothing can stop an idea whose time has come just as the farmer can not stop the changing of the seasons as they come.07/12/2016 #86 Max🐝 J. Carter#85 We create these dependencies by insisting to live the way we do.
Take your metaphor and apply it to the evolution of thought and discovery and what you have is the rest of the world feeling the oppression of the academic community in attempting to be heard based on the illusion they have created that they have the authority of who should and should not be allowed to contribute.
Hence the scientists who have been shunned in recent years for finding flaws with the theory of relativity.
Their research gets almost no attention and in fact I had to dig to find them. There is a great documentary about it on netflix.
It;s a great example of an illusion being used and having others seeing pass the illusion into the actual.
As the farmer has nature conspiring against his illusion that he has control over the process.....07/12/2016 #85 CityVP 🐝 Manjit#81 We don't see illusion because milk comes from a jug in the fridge, water comes from a turn of a faucet in the sink, bread comes from a shelf in a supermarket, light comes from a switch on the wall, and it is when these things are disrupted that we come face to face with our dependency, and what we are dependent on is this illusion of freedom. This illusion is a form of learned helplessness even for the farmer we think has a deeper connection with nature or the land and even here he system can still conspire against the farmer as they begin to conspire against nature, for when short-term thinking is an act of survival it is what disconnects people. http://www.motherjones.com/tom-philpott/2015/09/no-gmos-didnt-create-indias-farmer-suicide-problem07/12/2016 #84 Max🐝 J. Carter#82If you are going to take the time to respond take the time t write out something that is actually a complete thought.
#81 No one can control the decisions of others. This free will.
The best any one of us can do is to promote the benefits to all to put an end to authority driven behavior which is driven by a narcissist view of ones self that say one is the authority or has authority of anything or anyone.
The unfortunately the reality we share is that yes if you had status and power and money more people would listen as those are the markers they are using to determine who is worth listening to.
If you haven't become some one noted for writing a book, people will not give two shits about it and move on as we have been programmed to see that only those who have written books have the authority to tell anything and it this structure that allows academia to keep a strangle hold on progress and discovery unless yo do it through the prepackaged and academic approved steps
The academic structure is what inhibits your freedom to express a view and a message we both share Joris that people need to stop living in the illusions and be less delusional in their thinking.
If you don't follow their steps you are just some dude running at the mouth.
This is the heart of what retards progress worldwide for humanity in growth and evolution of thought.
The Academic community restricts the freedom of others to be heard and be seen as understanding what they are taling about unless they do it the academics way.07/12/2016 #83 Joris Plaatstaal#72 Or is it? My limiting factor? Think about it.
I am free, yes I am. The question is, what am I going to do with this state of mind? Crawl back under a rock and amaze myself about the stupidity of mankind?
Saying to myself I am smart and mankind is stupid?
That would be a pitiful illusion of freedom.
Running away from it all seems to get confused with freedom. "I don't care, so I am free".....
I can only be free if you all can be free. That is what I want.
Work for what you want is freedom, not work for what ' they' want or run away from it all, that would be just 'conformism'. We have plenty of those.....06/12/2016 #81 Joris Plaatstaal#74 Great comment @CityVP 🐝 Manjit. Just the thing I want to talk about.You say it so much better than I can do.
"Our marketed paradise", bulls eye........
"The freedom of uncertainty is freedom from illusion."
We can not make humanity embrace the rules of freedom. Uncertainty is relatively easy for me, living in Holland. Uncertainty may be hell on earth for 'Jacob' living in Aleppo.
Even in the western world I can understand why people live in a illusion. In other parts of the world, people need to do what they do to survive. To take care of their children. Maybe even have dreams.
I do not care about my own freedom. I do not think I am a better person, because I embraced the principles of chaos.
I am confused about who I should support. And, when I make up my mind, the question arises. How. How can I support? Who do I support?
Who deserves it and who doesn't?
Questions that limit my freedom. I do not know what to do. How can I make people see the benefits of altruistic chaos? The peace in it?
I can't. Even my soulmate for life, seems to think that everything comes easy and natural to me.
How can I make us love life, in stead of money, property, status and power? When all I hear people say it is easy for me, since I gave those things up. At the same time not noticing they have so much more than people living in hell?
Is my voice stronger if I would have money, property, status and power? Is that what it takes? Do I even want to consider that?
But, hey. That is my problem.
Thank you for your comment.05/12/2016 #78 Praveen Raj Gullepalli#77 Indeed Sir, so much to learn and discover! There are many before us in every country and place, who have travelled those paths and left behind words of wisdom to help us along the way. We all have our respective literary legacies and scriptures. And any man of letters worth his salt, would first access those before he or she would write his/her own version of Life's interpretation, validated by experiences. Thank you for inspiring thought as always!05/12/2016 #77 Ali Anani#76 Never ever you fall short of my high expectations of you dear @Praveen Raj Gullepalli. I loved your comments and quotes. I need to absorb more thoroughly to digest them. I loved this "The depraved, the foolish, do not surrender unto me; their discrimination is degraded by the illusory energy they betake to the nature of the demoniac". SO much to learn and ponder on.05/12/2016 #76 Praveen Raj GullepalliDear Ali, Illusion is one of the earliest words I picked up, both in English and my native tongues (Telugu and Hindi). This is solely due to the many tales told us and read, that keep saying that our very life is an illusion caught between the sleeping and waking states :) Knowledge, Freedom, and such things that take up our time and effort can be misleading, especially more so in the present day and age, unless looked at through the microscope of discrimination. And I am still a child toying with my illusions! :) As I write this, I can hear the strains of the Bhagavad Geetha (The Song of the Divine/Lord...a most definitive, holy treatise on life and living for Hindus, a sermon delivered by one of our many God avatars, Lord Krishna, (as the charioteer of Arjuna, his loving devoted warrior disciple, who wants to stop battling right in the middle of a battlefield). It is being played in a mobile van (one of many that are deployed in the city) with the legend Anthim Yatra (Final Journey), used to transport the decorated dead to the burial or cremation grounds. There! It has moved out of range now! I will share a few translated verses from this book just to add to the thread and the thought (no other intention pls)...I quote from it: Those deprived of discrimination by various desires impelled by their particular natures worship the lesser demigods adapting to the applicable rites and rituals. The depraved, the foolish, do not surrender unto me; their discrimination is degraded by the illusory energy they betake to the nature of the demoniac. O Arjuna, at the commencement of universal creation all forms of life are in delusion by the illusions of duality born of desire and aversion, O conqueror of enemies. http://www.bhagavad-gita.org/Gita/verse-07-15.html05/12/2016 #75 Max🐝 J. CarterI tend to follow the teachings of Bruce Lee who taught that we are the only ones that can put limits on ourselves and I often find it is due to fear of having that freedom and what we might do with it..
Freedom with self discipline provides higher probability of healthy exploration of that freedom. .04/12/2016 #74 CityVP 🐝 Manjit#66 Joris Plaatstaal you said "Freedom scares many of them, it involves losing certainties" and in a marketed paradise certainty becomes a euphemism for freedom, and the chief reason freedom scares people is that certainty also creates fear about its potential loss. Where fear is not pervasive certainty can create an oasis of freedom - and these freedoms involve growth in choice.
Yet the freedom that certainty gives is far different from the freedom that uncertainty gives - unless again fear invades uncertainty. Our learned disposition is that uncertainty is bad because the chief cement of social order is certainty.
Our marketed paradise uses uncertainty to get us to buy things - so in a typical advertisement we may be temporarily reminded of a pain and it is the product message that brings us back to certainty i.e. in the pathos approach [See Pathos, Logos, Ethos in link] http://www.readwritethink.org/files/resources/lesson_images/lesson1166/PersuasiveTechniques.pdf
It is our emotional centers that attune freedom with certainty, but it is our prefrontal cortex that can free us from our emotional conditioning to recognize the true freedom in uncertainty. The freedom of uncertainty is freedom from illusion.
- 01/12/2016Thanks for the great conversation @Max🐝 J. Carter. It was time truly well spent. Every time I have had a call with someone I've connected with online, I feel enriched by adding voice and sometimes sight to the interaction, and our talk about life and how best to make a change was no exception. I appreciate your time!
- 28/11/2016Good ideas are like the waves of the ocean, they just keep arriving on shore. I might just have a series of these. I bet we all do......
Comments17/12/2016 #6 Deb 🐝 Helfrich@Mike Rana - The brand graphic you saw on LI is a brand persona. Optimized for mass appeal. But it is rather easy to run with the idea like I did.
Would like to see you take a shot at it. Now that I think about it, I should put this at the bottom of my buzzes...
@Jared Wiese, 🐝 adding VALUE & RESULTS - forgot a couple... :)
- ProducerAfter EightDark. Clouded. His hotel room felt lonely. Outside footsteps in the corridor. French music. The sheets covered his skinny body. Soft touch. His hand reached for his partner. She was downstairs, having breakfast. She wrote him a little love note. He...
Comments01/12/2016 #16 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.#12 oooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooh @Deb Helfrich, your comments are always a blessing. Thank you.01/12/2016 #15 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.#11 I have an idea, give me some time ;-) @Donna-Luisa Eversley. To be continued ...01/12/2016 #14 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.#10 thanks so much @Franci Eugenia Hoffman. Super sweet to say.01/12/2016 #13 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.#9 what a beautiful name for this monument! Thanks @Pascal Derrien!30/11/2016 #12 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#11 @Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc. is incredibly good at this particular genre, but I honestly would like you to write your own, @Donna-Luisa Eversley, as what you write about, you bring about29/11/2016 #11 Donna-Luisa Eversley#8 @Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc. think you might need to put me in one of your romance stories, but a fantastic guy ...so I can dream a wee bit29/11/2016 #8 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.#7 your wish to be made real, Christmas is coming soon, the magic of Christmas makes your deepest desire reality, @Donna-Luisa Eversley29/11/2016 #7 Donna-Luisa Eversley@Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc., if you keep this up I will be sure to ask you to be a matchmaker for me 🐝🐝🌼🌼 indeed it is mesmerising and romantic and beautiful...memories.28/11/2016 #6 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.#3 @Deb Helfrich, you are the best, always a pleasure to read your comments!28/11/2016 #5 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.#4 oooooh wow, thank you, @Gert Scholtz26/11/2016 #4 Gert Scholtz@Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc. The most moving short love story I have read in a long time. Magnificent Liesbeth!26/11/2016 #3 Deb 🐝 HelfrichSoul inspiring, @Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.. This piece is spectacular.26/11/2016 #2 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.#1 agree, thank you @Rene Winteraeken