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The Commenting Philosopher

~ 100 buzzes
These are the buzzes that Deb Helfrich found to stimulate a very important thought or feeling - and she probably left a thoughtful comment that might be worth revisiting.
  1. ProducerDeb 🐝 Helfrich
    For Melissa
    For MelissaJust a bit of formatting fun! PencilMy Love,I'd draw youif only icould.(wait)you are not you2 me.Can I... ?I taste, so manyflavours inthe gum of a whiteeraser, against your leadon paper.3.14159Your point(counterpoint)tell me:am I a circumference,or...
  2. Tricia Mitchell

    Tricia Mitchell

    A long lecture, but worth watching (in my opinion!)
    The Extended Mind: Recent Experimental Evidence
    The Extended Mind: Recent Experimental Evidence Google Tech Talks September 2, 2008 ABSTRACT We have been brought up to believe that the mind is located inside the head. But there are good reasons for...


    Tricia Mitchell
    22/05/2017 #4 Tricia Mitchell
    #2 I read your post earlier @Ian Weinberg I'll go back and comment on it now. Thank you for sharing the link.
    Tricia Mitchell
    22/05/2017 #3 Tricia Mitchell
    #1 I do like him. @Deb 🐝 Helfrich I had the opportunity during a Q&A at one of his talks to ask him about my dogs (because of his telepathy study with dogs & cats). He'd not come across what I'd experienced, so couldn't offer a perspective (when Burt displayed the physical behaviour of a client after an online session). There's another video floating around my head, of an American lecturer or neuroscientist, predicting collective telepathy.... if I find it, I will share the link.
    Ian Weinberg
    22/05/2017 #2 Ian Weinberg
    #1 Absolutely. See https://www.bebee.com/producer/@ian-weinberg/the-inconvenient-truth-about-consciousness
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    22/05/2017 #1 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    @Ian Weinberg - Rupert Sheldrake on the hard problem - "I'm going to suggest our minds are field-like and are not confined to the inside of the head."
  3. ProducerDeb 🐝 Helfrich
    Life is One Leap of Faith after Another
    Life is One Leap of Faith after AnotherI am still not entirely comfortable with social media as a lifestyle. Although, I have come to regard it as funny that the extroverts seem to think I have joined their tribe, even though I'd be much more comfortable being a keynote speaker...


    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    07/05/2017 #46 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    Life can be amazing!!!! Just getting acclimated to my new environs and all the lovely people who have welcomed me with open arms.....
    Sarah Elkins
    27/04/2017 #45 Sarah Elkins
    Can't wait to catch up with you in person, @Deb 🐝 Helfrich, in just a few more days!
    Cyndi wilkins
    23/04/2017 #44 Cyndi wilkins
    #42 Lol @Martin Wright...Sounds like @Deb 🐝 Helfrich and I may have a new career path in the making here...Grace and Frankie impersonators;-) Now that could be great fun...and have a very healing effect by lightening things up a little! Lord knows we could all use some comic relief;-)
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    23/04/2017 #43 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    #42 So am I to infer by its absence that you can picture me sitting in an enormous chair, spotting the wisdom of age six? I will make sure to trot out some acerbic jabs in the near future, @Martin Wright View more
    #42 So am I to infer by its absence that you can picture me sitting in an enormous chair, spotting the wisdom of age six? I will make sure to trot out some acerbic jabs in the near future, @Martin Wright. I actually have quite a few, but I need the benefit of tone, facial expressions, and my wildly gesticulating hands to pull it off with aplomb Close
    Martin Wright
    22/04/2017 #42 Martin Wright
    I cant picture you being as acerbic as lily tomlin, or working at a phone exchange (laugh-in).
    Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    21/04/2017 #41 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    #34 That "beBee Day" shall be a great one @Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    21/04/2017 #40 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #31 I call shotgun first so I can have the hammock. That was very ironic that you called as I was typing comment!
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    21/04/2017 #39 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    #38 Now that is a good question - why don't we just use the monkey bars as support for hammocks on playgrounds? It just might tone down the squealing volume.... And nap time would no longer induce tears!

    I hereby dedicate my first entire day of sloth - marinating in the sound of the pounding surf - the hardest working writer in Bali!
    Paul Walters
    21/04/2017 #38 Paul Walters
    @Deb 🐝 Helfrich Ahhhh finally going out to play on those scary monkey bars!!! Travel safe an revel in the new adventures that await !!
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    21/04/2017 #37 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    #26 Always glad to have you drop by @@Julio Angel 🐝Lopez Lopez. I do intend to make this a global promenade in the future!
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    21/04/2017 #36 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    #25 This comment is so precious, I am actually glad it got the carbon paper treatment, digital style, @🐝 Fatima G. Williams. I responded earlier in the day on LI, so that reply probably has a more zippy response.

    It has been an emotional day of love and support and encouragement - and I just feel like the responses to this piece of writing that I often thought probably wasn't anything others wanted to read - have put the cherry on the top of the sundae I am building of learning to exist just a little bit differently in the world.

    I am going to stop shifting myself into neutral so much, in order to do a thorough analysis, and just put things out there, even when I haven't thought them entirely through. I know how to swim, so why not catch a few more rapids of life?
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    21/04/2017 #35 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    #24 Extroverts and grouchy people - they both seem to think their way is the only way.... You definitely have the writerly style that shows off the noticing skills of an introverted observer!
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    21/04/2017 #34 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    #22 It tickles me to think of all the possible meetings that will occur in the future as the beBee experience will surely result in many interesting meetings and long lasting friendships.

    And come that fateful day, @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee View more
    #22 It tickles me to think of all the possible meetings that will occur in the future as the beBee experience will surely result in many interesting meetings and long lasting friendships.

    And come that fateful day, @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee, when the first international ambassador conference is held - I will be making a beeline to make your in-person acquaintance. I suspect that whole affair will feel like a reunion of lifelong friends! Close
    Deb🐝 Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    21/04/2017 #33 Deb🐝 Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    #32 and now the body has a voice! a voice that has been longing for this move and is being listened to and is moving you in many ways.
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    21/04/2017 #32 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    #21 You know, @Deb🐝 Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee, it was the second time around when basically the same 'movie' played in my mind that gave me the courage to voice this crazy longing that had been showing up in a variety of ways for quite some time. But of course, in the past, my mind started up with 'everyone dreams of walking along the ocean each day' and issued a command that there was nothing more to see here, time to move along to 'reality.'

    We are a curious specious, given that our mind is often debating and even belittling our heart....
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    20/04/2017 #31 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    #20 Speaking of synchronicities - It was a fact that I called you as were typing out this comment. We have these little signals all the time that can guide us to seeing just below the surface of what we regard as reality!

    It will be such a great opportunity to have some time to talk and share face-to-face.

    Plus I think Bali would do you a world of good and someone has got to check out that hammock Paul is so fond of.....
    Cyndi wilkins
    20/04/2017 #30 Cyndi wilkins
    #17 I have this crazy feeling we will now be referred to as "Grace and Frankie." Taking such a leap of faith with a virtual relationship takes a great deal of courage and trusting that you know you will be in good hands when you reach your destination. It is an honor for me to take part in such a huge life transition with a sense gratitude to be on the receiving end of a friendship with one of the networks most talented and compassionate bees;-) You deserve the best that life has to offer @Deb 🐝 Helfrich...When you give of yourself as much as you do...the world is your oyster!
    Shawn Quinlivan, C.Ht.
    20/04/2017 #29 Shawn Quinlivan, C.Ht.
    A witty and relevant testament to the power of relationships! Deb Helfrich  paints a beautiful and poignant message.
    Shawn Quinlivan, C.Ht.
    20/04/2017 #28 Shawn Quinlivan, C.Ht.
    Infectious enthusiasm. Wit. Clarity. Gravity. This is a beautifully written article and testament to the power of relationships, especially those with people who are willing to delve beneath the surface of things. I experience you as a gift, Deb, one I am very grateful for. We have awesome synergy! I am very excited for you and wish you the best on your new adventure. The ancient prayer of the Lakota permeates the atmosphere of South Dakota -- it is an extremely unique place and beautiful in it's desolate landscape. You will feel it!
    @Julio Angel 🐝Lopez Lopez
    20/04/2017 #26 @Julio Angel 🐝Lopez Lopez
    Best wishes always, Enjoy your encounters with the bees, regards @Deb 🐝 Helfrich
  4. Ian Weinberg

    Ian Weinberg

    I invite all my followers and hives to view this 48 minute interview. Articulated in a way that I have never been able to, Stephan Schwartz is a genius and an inspiration. The topic discussed is my passion, consciousness. Filled with mind-blowing stuff right to the last minute. My previous buzzes of interest on the subject include:




    Stephan Schwartz - near death exp, remote viewing, quantum consciousness
    Stephan Schwartz - near death exp, remote viewing, quantum consciousness Are you interested in non local Consciousness? The Institute sits down with Stephan Schwartz to examine consciousness from the perspective of material...
  5. Leckey Harrison

    Leckey Harrison

    There is some excellent stuff here to ponder relative to TRE: embodiment, movement and emotion. It could be useful in the understanding of the tremoring process itself, more so in my mind the embodied experience of consciousness going forward.
    What do I mean? That as I tremor, my body achieves new levels of capacity, awakeness, awareness as it were. If I carry that forward into moment by moment awareness, I gain a cleared sense of my physical and emotional reality in the here and now. As my body releases trauma, I experience new levels of embodied integration of my emotions (freer, more precisely identified, emotional intelligence), body (more sensory literacy, somatic intelligence), cognitions (brain re-ordering, new neural pathways, more brain matter on-line, intelligence), and consciousness (spirituality, omniscience?), which is the sum total.
    I think this level of living is possible via TRE.


    Leckey Harrison
    19/04/2017 #6 Leckey Harrison
    #4 I could say that tremoring works at that level with some degree of confidence, based on what I know of Riccardo Cassiani Ingoni's work relative to new neural network creation and his understanding of the central pattern generators in the spine. Dr. Berceli's discussions with Dr. Porges on the vagal response to TRE to some degree speaks to that level of activity.

    What I know if the result of all that activity, none of which I experience in real time. Just what does a new neural network forming feel like?
    Leckey Harrison
    19/04/2017 #5 Leckey Harrison
    #3 Indeed it is far reaching. Quite revolutionary, and if not, just drop the "r."
    Deb🐝 Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    18/04/2017 #4 Deb🐝 Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    Very relevant to my work. I sense the tenor is like our cells resynthesiing - rebalancing - recentrimg. I look forward to reading your post from the link.
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    18/04/2017 #3 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    #2 Thanks for re-pasting, @Leckey Harrison - there is a lot of detail and a rather important conclusion:

    "Empirical findings thus show that embodiment has a far reaching influence on our emotional life."

    I am sure @Deb🐝 Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee will find this an interesting review of the literature.
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    13/04/2017 #1 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    Leckey, I tried a few times, but the link seems to go nowhere, can you double check it?
  6. ProducerDeb 🐝 Helfrich
    Still Life with a Million Words
    Still Life with a Million WordsBooks are a Girl's Best FriendsActually, this image conveys almost a billion words for me. The most important is that Martha Beck is one of my favorite human beings, who happens to write the most life-affirming books.She is wise, funny, truthful,...


    Ella de Jong
    03/04/2017 #46 Ella de Jong
    #45 Hi Deb 🐝 Helfrich, finally here with a tiny answer .. I am such a "bad" reader over the last years :-(
    This is one of the BIG authors: Herman Koch -- https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Herman_Koch View more
    #45 Hi Deb 🐝 Helfrich, finally here with a tiny answer .. I am such a "bad" reader over the last years :-(
    This is one of the BIG authors: Herman Koch -- https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Herman_Koch
    she is also a big name: Connie Palmen-- https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Connie_Palmen
    and I love the short animal story writer Toon Tellegen a lot -- https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Toon_Tellegen
    smile, Ella Close
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    22/03/2017 #45 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    #44 Thanks for giving me a glimpse of your teacher's world, @Ella de Jong. I am struck by the 'changing' frequency. I am certain that our impatience in the digital world is adding to our lack of focus in the physical world. And maybe young brains will adapt in ways I don't let comprehend, but it seems to me that we will hit a biological hard stop to this lack of attention in just a handful of years.

    I am really glad, though, that there is still a chance for the joy of turning pages to resonate, although I am resigned to their being a historical legacy at some point.... books are inefficient when it comes to weight and space and are very susceptible to water and insect damage, among other things.

    So, I'd love to be introduced to a contemporary Dutch writer of fiction, if you can point me in that direction.
    Ella de Jong
    17/03/2017 #44 Ella de Jong
    @Deb 🐝 Helfrich#43 I can only tell you what I see happening while I'm the temporary teacher in class. I've been in 7 schools since February 1rst and what I saw was this: large differences in classes regarding children reading books, physical books. In classes where there are a lot of books, on places where the children have easy access, where there is serious 'taking care of / respect for' the books, in those classes I've seen a lot of children reading and enjoying it.
    In other classes there was time for reading but a lot of children didn't liked it and kept on 'changing' their book. "I don't like this one, I want to find an other one" and then hanging around the books hoping to have a chat with someone ..

    I've seen quiet a bit of schoolwork on tablets, but no reading books on their tablet, so I cannot say anything about that. My guess is they really like to turn the pages, see an actual book, feeling it, touching it. Being busy a lot of hours per day looking at a screen, only touching their tablet or the school laptop with their fingertips ... it's a very positive sensation to read and hold a physical book is my guess!
    At home I've spoiled my kids: they want to HAVE the books... None of us read e-books (certainly not the one Ive written :-) )
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    14/03/2017 #43 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    #34 @Ella de Jong, I would love to hear your teacher's take on whether electronic books are lacking something when it comes to engaging youth, is there a richness in getting to turn a page. Or do they find screens and pixels as or maybe more captivating?

    I do certainly 'envy' the access that the digital formats provide. I only had access to the books physically present in my small town, I think I would be changed in some unknowable way if I'd had a broader access to online search functionality rather than definitively limited to the stroll through the stacks.
    Melissa Hefferman
    13/03/2017 #42 Anonymous
    #39 The feeling is mutual! One day I'll travel up the coast in my RV and we'll write a new page in our Life books. :)
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    13/03/2017 #41 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    #33 I agree, @🐝 Fatima G. Williams, books are a great way to celebrate life. I love that you remember the book that revealed true love to you. There are just so many for me, that it really is hard to even start to pull together a list.
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    13/03/2017 #40 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    #31 I sort of figured you would be a book person, @Lada 🏑 Prkic. I'd would to see a virtual book club blossom in the hives, it is especially fertile ground for authors themselves to create a lot of deep engagement and a way for readers to participate with others around a book that means a lot. I hope to participate in a lot of discussions around books in the future.
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    13/03/2017 #39 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    #30 It is a gift that you are a central member of my virtual book club, @Melissa Hefferman. My life is richer for knowing you!
    Cyndi wilkins
    13/03/2017 #38 Cyndi wilkins
    #13 "I never had you tagged as one of the 'billion' sheep, Deb. I see you rather as a border collie, nipping at their heels and cajoling them to go in your direction."
    Excellent metaphor @Ken Boddie View more
    #13 "I never had you tagged as one of the 'billion' sheep, Deb. I see you rather as a border collie, nipping at their heels and cajoling them to go in your direction."
    Excellent metaphor @Ken Boddie...Deb is the sower of seeds...And it is Sowing Season;-)

    "Nothing gets so bad,
    A whisper from your father couldn't fix it.
    Your whisper's like a bridge, he's a river span."

    "Take all that you have,
    And turn it into something you were missing.
    Somebody threw that brick, shattered all your plans." Close
    Aaron 🐝 Skogen
    12/03/2017 #37 Aaron 🐝 Skogen
    #15 I don't know how many times I have had to backtrack a chapter or two, to refresh my recollection of a story @Deb 🐝 Helfrich, that is the wonder of getting lost in a tale. Love it!
    Chris Spurvey
    11/03/2017 #36 Chris Spurvey
    #35 Thanks so much @Deb 🐝 Helfrich :) I very much appreciate you.
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    11/03/2017 #35 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    #29 I have to say that your book falls in the category of one that I will turn to again and again, @Chris Spurvey. You weave a fantastic story that changed my relationship to sales in a major way. In fact, I am starting to work on partnering on a Business Development project - and Your Personalized Sales Plan was the first thing that came to my mind as I start to plan out my work stream.... I'd really recommend "It's Time to Sell: Cultivating the Sales Mind-Set" for anyone pivoting into a role that requires a healthy mindset towards sales!

    Ella de Jong
    11/03/2017 #34 Ella de Jong
    Thank you @Deb 🐝 Helfrich for reminding me of the importance of books and how I ALWAYS take picture books with me when I'm going to school and teach (for one day as a temporary teacher, like my current situation). I'm used to it, I'm not sure how many other teachers do the same :-)
    Even for the 12 year olds there are interesting, fun and beautiful warm picture books about emotions!
    I adore the book: "Rose and the midnight cat. by John Brown; Illustrations Ron Brooks" for it's story about jealousy and the beautiful fine art illustrations!
    🐝 Fatima G. Williams
    11/03/2017 #33 🐝 Fatima G. Williams
    @Deb 🐝 Helfrich aren't book's man's best friend. I remember my first book. The one that made me fall in love with reading. Pride and Prejudice By Jane. I loved the book so much and reading became a thing after that. I have alot of books that are up the loft cause nobody reads at home apart from me.And I'm not home. πŸ™„

    This emotions has a purpose video was such a great experience to watch you transform the book to reality. I love the idea of a emotions journal. I've gone back to the habit of writing a daily journal and it's going good so far. Thank you Deb. I look forward to our conversations.

    Finally Books help our celebrate our life So it can be well-lived. Stay awesome always.
    Lada 🏑 Prkic
    11/03/2017 #31 Lada 🏑 Prkic
    I am a book lover and a definition of books as a girl's best friend is close enough to what books really mean to me. Although I don't read the life-affirming books, I enjoyed the video and find the whole concept of a virtual book club very interesting.
    What a great idea of a double buying some titles! Some of my books which I revisit often are pretty battered.
    Deb, I really enjoyed your excellent article that celebrates the art of reading.
    Melissa Hefferman
    11/03/2017 #30 Anonymous
    Virtual book club! Worlds within networks of articles and connections, love that descriptive thought. :)
    Chris Spurvey
    11/03/2017 #29 Chris Spurvey
    Love this Deb! Books decorate a well-lived life.
    Praveen Raj Gullepalli
    11/03/2017 #28 Praveen Raj Gullepalli
    #27 Now you're Talking Heads!
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    11/03/2017 #27 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    #25 Well, @Praveen Raj Gullepalli, nothing reminds me more of the bliss of reading & college than these 3 words in a row "Stop Making Sense" .....this ain't no party, this ain't no disco, this ain't no fooling around.
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    11/03/2017 #26 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    #13 There may be a touch o' the Irish, @Ken Boddie, but mostly I descend from the land of the printing press - at least that is my excuse for being a kindle refusnik. I read ebooks on my monitor and type up notes and quotes, but 'reading' is something I cannot divorce from sitting in a comfortable position, most likely with a blanket around my feet, beverage at hand, book propped just so for easy page turning.

    Now about my flock..... I typically just do what I do, but when someone stops to ask for directions, they tend to realize I think pretty exhaustively about any position I care enough to espouse. I save the heel nipping for when someone tries to get the sheep all confused over specious claims, then I can run around and bring some clarity to the fields.

    And Producer could indeed be christened with the nom de plume 'virtual emotions journal' just between us and our hundreds of worldwide followers and hive-mates.
  7. Leckey Harrison

    Leckey Harrison

    An excellent primer. This explains our Krav Maga lesson 6 taught at Armstrong's Taekwondo-Krav Maga. That lesson was on psychological reactions to a violent encounter.

    Notice also that Porges says much of our physical disease is that of the autonomic nervous system, which he touches on at the very end.

    Tremoring corrects a lot of these maladies: it will restore the vagal tone, which in turn restores the "rest and digest" program, which down-regulates the activity above the diaphragm, and up-regulates the the activity below it. It has demonstrated clear effects on those related illnesses.

    I love this stuff!
    Stephen Porges - Polyvagal Theory: how your body makes the decision
    Stephen Porges - Polyvagal Theory: how your body makes the decision Im GesprΓ€ch mit Dr. Gunther Schmidt erlΓ€utert Prof. Stephen Porges, BegrΓΌnder der polyvagal Theorie, seinen wissenschaftlichen Ansatz. Gemeinsam diskutieren...


    Leckey Harrison
    08/03/2017 #3 Leckey Harrison
    #1 SYS = SNS
    Leckey Harrison
    08/03/2017 #2 Leckey Harrison
    #1 Very true. If the SYS is on all the time, really the damage done is amazing. The little capillaries at the smallest branches where they branch are damaged, they they scar, and then on the large scale, the blood comes back into your heart slamming into the heart wall that gets thicker, and those little damaged capillaries happen to be the ones that feed the heart muscle itself from the outside and soon enough, they fail, and then it fails. The whole time the person has high blood pressure. Add a crappy diet and.....
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    08/03/2017 #1 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    This is such a great little talk!

    This fits right in with current research that attributes heart attacks to ANS dysfunction. "a deficiency in the parasympathetic nervous system" If we think about it we are aware of the personality that is prone to having a heart attack - someone in the throes of intense sympathetic responses
  8. ProducerSara Jacobovici

    Sara Jacobovici

    A Stand Alone Comment
    A Stand Alone CommentI am sure you can relate to my experiences of being drawn into dynamic posts and discussions. It is great to be able to share these posts but often just "liking" a comment doesn't feel enough. Twice in the past I shared comments off the post:Β From...


    Sara Jacobovici
    08/03/2017 #4 Sara Jacobovici
    #3 Looking forward to future exchanges @Deb 🐝 Helfrich. We help each other see "old" facts in a "new" way.
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    08/03/2017 #3 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    I am quite honored, @Sara Jacobovici. Your post was truly enlightening and I am still deep in thought about how sound & balance information enters the brain via a combined nerve. One of those 'facts' which I had seen many times before, but did not comprehend.
    Sara Jacobovici
    07/03/2017 #2 Sara Jacobovici
    #1 I appreciate reading how poetically your comment resonates with the discussion. Thank you @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee for your response.
    Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    07/03/2017 #1 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    This is a great buzz @Sara Jacobovici on a worthy and deep comment of @Deb 🐝 Helfrich. I am silenced to talk more as I feel the waves of silence penetrating my brain.
  9. ProducerCyndi wilkins

    Cyndi wilkins

    Moments Of Impact
    Moments Of Impact"Once you realize the power of focused human effort coalesced by writing or conversation, you will learn that being a person in charge of your life is the best gift you can give to everyone and everything you care about."Β Deb HelfrichWriting has...


    Cyndi wilkins
    04/06/2017 #35 Cyndi wilkins
    #34 Thank you Lynda...And yes, completely different personalities colliding with 'kindred spirits' does feel quite like a homecoming;-)
    Lynda Spiegel
    04/06/2017 #34 Lynda Spiegel
    I love this video with the two of you sharing an experience that I think all of us go through - burned out can't get outta bed-ness. I know for sure that spending a few days with the two of you felt like coming home - 3 women from different backgrounds and ages who found so much commonality. I'm in on anything Deb and Cyndi want to do.
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    03/06/2017 #33 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    #32 This post will put a smile on my face forever.
    Cyndi wilkins
    03/06/2017 #32 Cyndi wilkins
    If you watch the short video clip at the end of this article, you will see how simple conversation can lead to re-location...Just ask @Deb 🐝 Helfrich;-)
    Cyndi wilkins
    04/03/2017 #31 Cyndi wilkins
    #30 I loved Mrs. Doubtfire...What a daddy will do to be with his children. "We are human beings...and human beings are filled with passion." RIP "O Captain my Captain."...I miss you...
    Joel Anderson
    04/03/2017 #30 Joel Anderson
    @Cyndi wilkins as I watched the video with you and Deb Lange and your talking of saying what needs to be said , doing what needs to be done and seizing the moment it made me think of the Dead Poets Society. For a musical version https://youtu.be/G2e_M06YDyY?t=5 and then a poignant clip that underscores the essence of Carpe Diem: https://youtu.be/vi0Lbjs5ECI?t=5 . Thanks for sharing the video and the impactful insights.
    Joel Anderson
    03/03/2017 #29 Joel Anderson
    #26 Looking at it now.
    Deb🐝 Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    03/03/2017 #28 Deb🐝 Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    Dear @Cyndi wilkins - for me as a writer and recent new publisher to find out how my book landed in your hands and had such an impact has been amazing! I wanted people to find buddies, to do the exercises, etc etc and you and @debhelfrich have done me just st that and what has come out of that for you both is beautiful! Keep on embracing and loving every part of you - you are both beautiful people!
    Cyndi wilkins
    03/03/2017 #27 Cyndi wilkins
    #25 What else can I say @Shawn Quinlivan, C.Ht....Other than you have also been an integral part of this journey as well...Perhaps more behind the scenes so to speak, but rest assured your influence reverberates all throughout this entire process...So glad to have you aboard;-)
    Cyndi wilkins
    03/03/2017 #26 Cyndi wilkins
    #24 Thank you @Joel Anderson...If you haven't already, you might want to take a peek at the session I filmed with Deb Lange...The youtube link is below on my comment #13...I share a bit of insight into my last days with my dad...I know you and I have discovered that "kindred connection" just recently, but it strikes a deep chord on a universal level for everyone...We are all headed to the same place...Some paths we share, on others we separate...but we will always cross paths again;-)
    Shawn Quinlivan, C.Ht.
    03/03/2017 #25 Shawn Quinlivan, C.Ht.
    You offer the impetus to actually integrate a plan of action for reconciling conflicts. Very inspiring! It takes more than contemplation to resolve fear-driven emotions, such as anger, which both separate us from others and within ourselves. And to remind us that being filled with child-like trust, wonder and non-conditional regard for one another is insight into your own enlightenment. Thank you @Cyndi wilkins and @Deb 🐝 Helfrich! I appreciate sincerity, authenticity, vulnerability and emotional presence. Nicely done!
    Joel Anderson
    03/03/2017 #24 Joel Anderson
    Wow, some great wisdom from two wonderful people. Thank you both @Cyndi wilkins and @Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    Cyndi wilkins
    03/03/2017 #23 Cyndi wilkins
    Mending fences: Being in touch with grief...My moment of Impact...A beautiful share with @Deb🐝 Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee...

    Thank you again Fatima Williams 🐝...You are an angel in my virtual world;-)
    Cyndi wilkins
    02/03/2017 #22 Cyndi wilkins
    #20 #21 Thank you so very kindly @debasish majumderand @Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, Brand Ambassador @ beBee...This is most certainly one of the "Moments Of Impact"....when everything seems to be happening in sync ...It is one of those synergies that we hear of from @Milos Djukic in his many brilliant posts...acting on the current in the "Moment." The only way to do that is via participation in active conversation. Moving beyond the "Read."
    Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, Brand Ambassador @ beBee
    02/03/2017 #21 Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, Brand Ambassador @ beBee
    A lovely and enlightening post @Cyndi wilkins and @Deb 🐝 Helfrich. I love the idea of the two of you working together and find it refreshing. Great minds think alike.
    debasish majumder
    01/03/2017 #20 debasish majumder
    absolutely stunning post @Cyndi wilkins! equally @Deb 🐝 Helfrich is a true imperative for having a fruitful engagement which soothes our lives. Great share! enjoyed read. thank you very much for the share.
    CityVP 🐝 Manjit
    24/02/2017 #19 CityVP 🐝 Manjit
    #18 Namaste Cyndi in it's truest sense "I bow to you".
    Cyndi wilkins
    24/02/2017 #18 Cyndi wilkins
    #10 @CityVP 🐝 Manjit...Now that I have given your eloquent comment it's very own space in my heart...I will attempt to convey the message I am feeling so profoundly in this "Moment of Impact." Let me be a bringer light into the darkest corners of my being...Let me trust that this light is to be shared among the others who are willing and able to accept it. It is a very powerful position you hold when you love yourself and those around you as a means of bringing more light into a very dark world...When you connect with the heart of others, you connect with spirit and ALL THERE IS to guide us through especially turbulent times...Whatever that may mean for the individual, know that what connects us is the truth of existence...It is the tapestry that feeds our intuitive fire and you must learn to trust...It is more reliable than any information you receive in your "external" environment...That is not denial or ignorance...THAT is emotional honesty in it's purest expression...THAT is self-awareness...THAT is truth...THAT is LOVE.....
    Cyndi wilkins
    23/02/2017 #17 Cyndi wilkins
    #14 I concur this comment from City VP has left me in a state of "breathlessness" ...I shall have to percolate on my response here as I must first process that "lump" in my throat again.....Thank you for your kind support @Sara Jacobovici View more
    #14 I concur this comment from City VP has left me in a state of "breathlessness" ...I shall have to percolate on my response here as I must first process that "lump" in my throat again.....Thank you for your kind support @Sara Jacobovici.... Close
    Cyndi wilkins
    23/02/2017 #16 Cyndi wilkins
    #15 I quite look forward to those morning showers now @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee...It is when all the insights delivered by the "Idea Fairy" seem to come raining down on me!
    Perhaps @Deb 🐝 Helfrich won't mind if I change her name;-)
  10. Sara Jacobovici

    Sara Jacobovici

    World's Most Amazing Architectural Designs
    World's Most Amazing Architectural Designs Please Like, Subscribe & Share. Amazing Art. Worldwide Amazing Architectural...


    Claire L Cardwell
    20/02/2017 #2 Claire L Cardwell
    #1 Thanks for tagging me @Deb 🐝 Helfrich! I also wish the video had been longer, there are some amazing buildings here. I thought the lotus flower one was awesome!
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    19/02/2017 #1 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    SO GROOVY! This might be the first video I ever wanted to be longer.

    @Claire L Cardwell - maybe this will spark a marketing idea or two for you....
  11. Leckey Harrison

    Leckey Harrison

    I proudly call this woman my trainer. In this video shot in LA, she discusses some tools to help down regulate the fight/flight/freeze energy. If you're interested in learning TRE, contact me.
    HOW TO DEAL WITH FEAR IN THE ERA OF DT, With Certified TRE Practitioner Nkem Ndefo
    HOW TO DEAL WITH FEAR IN THE ERA OF DT, With Certified TRE Practitioner Nkem Ndefo Beyond being a socio-political issue, the massive deportation and violence against immigrants are a very serious health issue with profound negative...


    Tricia Mitchell
    16/05/2017 #5 Tricia Mitchell
    #3 https://youtu.be/Vr7lsIXazp8?t=14m28s @Deb 🐝 Helfrich you've probably see this clip, it's just before the polar bear is being hunted and 'shot'
    Tricia Mitchell
    16/05/2017 #4 Tricia Mitchell
    #3 Hi @Deb 🐝 Helfrich thanks for tagging me on this one. Yes, I learned about TRE after our Emotional Freedom Technique with Matrix Reimprinting trainer Karl Dawson showed Dr Rob Scaer's video of the polar bear discharging the freeze response from its autonomic nervous system after being tranquilized (for tagging purposes). Then on another course, one of the fellow kinesiology practitioners demonstrated Tension & Trauma Release Exercises.

    There's so many wonderful techniques out there. Paul McKenna, stage hypnotist turned serious hypnotherapist, was demo'ing a technique called Havening, where it seems the person's arms are repeatedly stroked, as though washing away the trauma, while doing EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization & Reprocessing) and looking at the stressful event. I look forward to watching this talk - thanks! :-)
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    16/05/2017 #3 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    @Tricia Mitchell - TRE is a masterful embodied intelligence utilizing therapy & practice that allows us to move beyond stored trauma's of all sorts. You will probably enjoy this practical talk about the prevalence of the freeze response.
    Leckey Harrison
    19/02/2017 #2 Leckey Harrison
    #1 Thanks, Deb. We discuss this in our workshops a lot because a lot of people live in a freeze state. Coming out of it can be dicey.
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    19/02/2017 #1 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    This is a great share, @Leckey Harrison

    A very succinct talk that brings up the oft forgotten Freeze option that is part of the Fight/Flight/Freeze paradigm.

    Our society conditions us to freeze by wanting us to ignore our bodies right from childhood, when we now mediate kids for fidgeting.....

    I love the way she phrased it: "Fitness for Nervous System" which is essentially come down from the mind and get into the body and move it and notice it.

    Our bodies are correct in constantly asking for movement and our rules of 'order' -stay still - are the problem.
  12. Sara Jacobovici

    Sara Jacobovici

    I found this "natural effect" breathtaking! Sara Jacobovici


    Preston 🐝 Vander Ven
    14/02/2017 #6 Preston 🐝 Vander Ven
    Wonderful photo. I love this visual effects.
    Sara Jacobovici
    13/02/2017 #5 Sara Jacobovici
    #1 Thank you @debasish majumder.
    Sara Jacobovici
    13/02/2017 #4 Sara Jacobovici
    #2 Beautifully captured @Deb 🐝 Helfrich. Thank you.
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    13/02/2017 #2 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    What a rich visual metaphor for how what we perceive for certain, may be an effect of where or how we observe.

    Why do we spend so much time arguing for what is plainly factual rather than exploring the little blurs, the tiny annoying bits that don't seem to add up?

    These inconsistencies might just open us up to wonder and awe - just right past what we know is plain as day.
    debasish majumder
    13/02/2017 #1 debasish majumder
    exquisite post @Sara Jacobovici! enjoed it out if its appealing feature. thank you madam for the share.
  13. Pascal Derrien

    Pascal Derrien

    Jill Scott - A Long Walk/It's Love (live 2015)
    Jill Scott - A Long Walk/It's Love (live 2015) Jill Scott live...enough...


    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    02/02/2017 #1 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    Now, that was a good workout.

    No possible way to stay seated listening to this seriously uptempo, dance-able version of 2 classic songs with powerful vocals.

    16 years ago my best friend from Philly popped "Who is Jill Scott" into my CD player and, well - it is still there.
  14. Sara Jacobovici

    Sara Jacobovici

    Insightful and important. A must read. Plus...@Sarah Elkins is mentioned in it.
    Sara Jacobovici
    We are not alone in our aloneness.
    www.linkedin.com The poet Gabriel GarcΓ­a Marquez suggested that we all have three lives:Β a public life, a private life and a secret life. Our public life consists...


    Sara Jacobovici
    02/02/2017 #2 Sara Jacobovici
    Thanks for sharing @Milos Djukic.
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    02/02/2017 #1 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    The author, Kashmir Birk, is an incredibly talented thinker and writer. I have only read two posts, but both are Gland Slams.

    Great share, Sara!
  15. ProducerDeb 🐝 Helfrich
    The Reality of Virtual Relationships
    The Reality of Virtual RelationshipsWhy are some online relationships so SPECIAL? Many of us feel that something is different about beBee. Some of us notice a shift in the world at large. I'd like to hypothesize that the internet has brought us to a new evolution of...


    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    09/02/2017 #29 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    #27 Perfect quote, @Chas ✌️ Wyatt. It captures some of what I conveyed in comments on @Joel Anderson's series of posts about footprints and lines.

    This is a both/and situation.

    Fresh perspectives, clean slates, starting from scratch, not being attached to things are all occasionally preferred.

    Other scenarios require an established path, a line that we will not cross, the tracks of a life well-lived.

    It is all part of the duality of life. Just like in-person or virtual relationships.

    We now have the technology for it to be a dynamic, joy-promoting Both/And depending on circumstances.
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    09/02/2017 #28 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    #26 I was so touched by your comment, @🐝 Fatima G. Williams, that I just kept rereading it. A worthy response was eluding me until now.

    We may have lost the comfort of belonging to a village, but we cannot discount the soul enlivening effect of finding the perfect virtual village.
    Chas ✌️ Wyatt
    09/02/2017 #27 Chas ✌️ Wyatt
    "It is a pleasant feeling to be the first to walk on sands which the tide has just left. It is like being the first to visit a new land. It produces a freshness of sensation something akin to that of early morning, or of spring. It is like entering upon a new stage of life, having a new world before us from which to receive, and upon which to make impressions." ~Henry James Slack (1818–1896), "The Ministry of the Beautiful", "Conversation II: Footsteps on the Sand," 1850.
    🐝 Fatima G. Williams
    08/02/2017 #26 🐝 Fatima G. Williams
    @Deb 🐝 Helfrich Having had the opportunity to have a personal chat with you I know I'm blessed beyond words can describe for having met you.
    The way I describe my relationship with you is as below
    "The energy I collectively feel is unique. It feeds my soul in a new, exciting, and fulfilling ways. It satisfies my heart with a feeling of a content conversation"
    Fulfilment and satisfaction of talking to someone. I haven't had that in a very long time. As real friends tend to drift away seemingly concerned about their social status. People like me who is no longer worried who got the lastest car or designer clothes tend to drift away in search of meaning and true relationships.

    As I mentioned in my Why I love beBee buzz. I found beBee and it replaced the human connection I needed at that time. Is there any better way for me to explain how I feel about being here and knowing you all. Thank you.Stay blessed.
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    31/01/2017 #25 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    #18 What a great way to put it, @Renée 🐝 Cormier. Being a place to make virtual friendships is an online evolution, in terms that everyone can participate in.
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    31/01/2017 #24 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    #16 A few of my favorite words, @Mohammed Sultan - sea waves of the Pacific. There is undoubtedly a relationship between each of us and the planet we inhabit, we only have to focus our perspective accurately.
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    31/01/2017 #23 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    #13 I truly value your comment, Sara. There is definitely some discussion needed here to understand how it is that we have, in some cases, these really vibrant relationships happening in tiny 2-D comment boxes. We are still in the rather early stages of getting to know each other, but if life where to occur and we became neighbors, I suspect that our concepts of each other would just blossom with all the new sensory information and 'time' to learn about how we participate in daily life.

    I just cannot get around the fact that the Sara I imagine talking/typing to is in my own head. It will be coming up on a year that we've been in an orbit of friendship and the amount of data points we have both directly and via numerous other people is a rather immense set of information. But I am still creating a version of you that exists in my own mind.

    We've been doing this since kids with books. I can vibrantly describe most of the books I have read in terms of a full bodily existence, even though so many of these sensory details are likely my own construct. So I don't really see it as transcending bodies exactly, just setting aside some of the realities.

    For instance, I find it jolting sometimes when one of the Australians mentions how hot it is, when it is winter in Seattle. Other times, most likely when they have mentioned place, the heat is a given.

    What is similar between interacting with imagination when reading books and interacting with reality when conversing on social media is that many parts of the background and environment are filled by my own local senses. While what is different is that you can answer in your own unique and completely different words. It can be a new sense in a very practical way, while also being extraordinarily magical and spiritual.
    Cyndi wilkins
    31/01/2017 #22 Cyndi wilkins
    #21 Now that would be an amazing honor Sara!...I have my "Jetpack" fueled and ready for take-off;-)
    Sara Jacobovici
    31/01/2017 #21 Sara Jacobovici
    #17 Your generous (and flattering) invitation is too good to pass up. It will be my pleasure to take part in the dynamic meeting organized by you two ladies @Cyndi wilkins. I sent Deb a PM that although I can not commit to the first meeting, I will keep my "eyes and ears open" to future opportunities.
    Cyndi wilkins
    31/01/2017 #20 Cyndi wilkins
    #19 I don't think that was a typo at all @Renée 🐝 Cormier...It was a "God" wink;-)
    Renée  🐝 Cormier
    31/01/2017 #19 Renée 🐝 Cormier
    Grrr. Typo alert! Good, not god.
    Renée  🐝 Cormier
    31/01/2017 #18 Renée 🐝 Cormier
    I have to say, I have met some truly wonderful people on beBee. In my opinion, beBee is the only social media platform that really makes it easy to develop friendships with other members. A world where people seek out commonalities and community will always be more loving and peaceful than a world focused on separation and differences. This microcosm called beBee is a good place. It's god to communicate with kind-hearted people like you, @Deb 🐝 Helfrich.
    Cyndi wilkins
    31/01/2017 #17 Cyndi wilkins
    #15 Perhaps the "Time" is right to take a small step beyond the boundaries of the "Read" and dip your toe in a little....Sounds like we have a couple of discussions emerging here that would present the perfect opportunities for us all to finally meet...face to face and ear to ear:-) @Deb 🐝 Helfrich and I would be honored if you would consider lending us an ear and better yet your input on some up and coming discussions we will be hosting. The first of the series will begin this Saturday, Feb. 4th via Skype. Check out the above link for details...We would love to "See" you all there!
    Mohammed Sultan
    31/01/2017 #16 Mohammed Sultan
    @Deb 🐝 Helfrich.Your ideas are hitting our imagination as the sea waves are always hitting the shore of the pacific.I find such group discussions are quite natural ,since they convey the emotions,feelings and thoughts which shape people's personal brands on beBee.Thank you Deb.
    Sara Jacobovici
    31/01/2017 #15 Sara Jacobovici
    Hearing @Deb 🐝 Helfrich's voice. A must read!
    Javier 🐝 beBee
    31/01/2017 #14 Javier 🐝 beBee
    Great buzz @Deb 🐝 Helfrich. Sharing !
    Sara Jacobovici
    31/01/2017 #13 Sara Jacobovici
    Dear @Deb 🐝 Helfrich, I am slowly allowing myself to land from your piece as I attempt to form the words I need to communicate with you. (Deep breath.) First, let me thank you for the mention and for being in any way connected to your writing. I feel privileged to have witnessed the process you described, intellectually and artistically, of your SM self-discovery here on beBee. My "sense" of you is that you are an exceptional human being, with your heart in the right place, and your mind "a right place". And speaking of places....you write: when we "look past their body and 24/7 personality and our own typical human senses and we communicate directly with someone else as pure consciousness that actually lives inside of our own mind." From my perspective, this reflects you are in a different place than me. I am still where you write in the "full, physical, proximal, flawed" sensory, complicated body. If I had to place myself, I would be, not in the new sense you describe but "pivoting" on my older senses. I have never been good at transcending the physical. I am still navigating the integration of the physical, psychological and spiritual. My experiences of SM is still connected to the meanings I have formed from my sensory experiences. I am very "conscious" of being open to expanding my experiences and awareness but that is an expansion of my existing boundaries. I have yet to navigate outside those boundaries. You, Deb, have truly broken through and have reached beyond. All the power to you!
    Mohammed A. Jawad
    31/01/2017 #12 Mohammed A. Jawad
    Aha...What a world of vicinity with the buzzing beBee community! :)
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    31/01/2017 #11 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    #10 Milos, has anyone called you the backup generator of beBee, lately? You power this contraption mightily!
  16. Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    I had so many delightful collaborations this week. Here is a co-post I wrote with Wendy Weiner Runge of #GenuineHero fame, where I arrived at the quote: "start embracing that it is the energy of human conversations that power all that is happening around us."
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    www.linkedin.com Wendy says: Nature called...again.Β I was at an event for Jewish college students, and when I walked towards the bathroom my life changed for...


    Cyndi wilkins
    30/01/2017 #1 Cyndi wilkins
    Paula M. Parker hit the bulls eye with her comment on that post..."I scout for God winks along the way, they arrive in ways my mind could never fathom." That's precisely what we were discussing the other day @Deb 🐝 Helfrich View more
    Paula M. Parker hit the bulls eye with her comment on that post..."I scout for God winks along the way, they arrive in ways my mind could never fathom." That's precisely what we were discussing the other day @Deb 🐝 Helfrich...Learning how to come down out of our heads and begin to practice trusting our senses more....I think @Deb🐝 Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee would agree;-) Close
  17. Melissa Hefferman
    Because I thought of him today: SloMo, a San Diegan legend:
    Slomo: The Man Who Skated Right Off the Grid | Op-Docs | The New York Times
    Slomo: The Man Who Skated Right Off the Grid | Op-Docs | The New York Times Dr. John Kitchin quit a medical career to pursue his passion: skating along the boardwalk of San Diego's Pacific Beach. He calls himself "Slomo." Read the...


    Melissa Hefferman
    25/01/2017 #2 Anonymous
    #1 Must be a reflection of you Love!!!!!! Isn't he wonderful? The crowds really do cheer SloMo everytime he floats by on the boardwalk. Happy that it spoke to you, I find his story unique and inspiring. :)
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    25/01/2017 #1 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    Oh, I love you Melissa Dawn!!!!!

    You are a beacon of loving consciousness and I needed this sooo much.
  18. ProducerDeb 🐝 Helfrich
    Deja ecrit – How do you experience what you've already written?
    Deja ecrit – How do you experience what you've already written?I believe I am not alone in realizing the fact that I spend too much time fretting about what I am writing. I would like to encourage myself – and maybe you – to get on with it a bit more. I am relatively at peace with the world of critics...


    Bernard Poulin
    01/02/2017 #56 Bernard Poulin
    #55 Absolutely! :)
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    31/01/2017 #55 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    #53 Indeed, that is a very healthy way to approach writing, @Bernard Poulin. I suspect this was a rather long-winded way of encouraging myself to move on already! Now...about painting....does dΓ©jΓ  peint exist? :)
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    31/01/2017 #54 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    #52 I believe wholeheartedly that we take everyone into account and that all voices are heard. That is precisely what has to occur to envision a "world where what we hold precious, more than any other resource, is the value of a human hour of work"

    I feel that right now what we show we value as most precious is the stock price of a piece of paper.

    It is unbelievably complex to move from the latter to the former. I want no one to suffer along the way. The place to start is within the mega-large corporations. With the obscene agglomerations of resources and capital that can be utilized a few percentage points more equitably.

    I am someone who focuses more on the why and the context, rather than the how, because we've gotten here by looking too narrowly.
    Bernard Poulin
    31/01/2017 #53 Bernard Poulin
    I experience what I have written when someone chooses to read, takes in and either accepts or rejects my offerings. Other than that, I don't think about it because I have already moved on; and am already engrossed in writing something else. .
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    30/01/2017 #49 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    #48 The interesting thing, I feel, is that being an ambassador gives me the impetus to be more verbose. I suspect that most would say I am the same Deb here as on LI. I simply choose to spend my time here because I want to be part of an actual community, even though what that means is very amorphous - as everyone is entitled to their own voice.

    I categorize my time as professional because I work at what I want to say. I am still pondering what to say about the state minimum wage, as we see this from vastly different angles. No single person can put a roof over their head in Seattle on $15, let alone have water, electricity, internet, and food.

    Full time work deserves a living wage. We have to put humans first. If a person dedicates themselves to your business for 8 hours a day, 5 days a week, or longer, they must be able to have a home to go home to.

    The how is guaranteed to be complex, I don't want to minimize the size of this inequitable system, but I am going to stand for a world where what we hold precious, more than any other resource, is the value of a human hour of work.

    We may need to trend your way to start righting a very lopsided ship, but we have to go there with a much better future in mind.

    This is an example of wanting to feel that future Deb's will be proud of me for what I wrote - I don't give a toss whether anyone else agrees - but I want to feel that I put my own personal level of thought into what I wrote.
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    30/01/2017 #47 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    #46 I have dinged the prize-winning bell. You win the little stuffed lizard, @Lisa Vanderburg for Ms. Amy. I will never be able to get that little nugget of shear & sheer creativity out of my noggin.
    Lisa Vanderburg
    29/01/2017 #46 Lisa Vanderburg
    Another wonderful journey of discovery, @Deb 🐝 Helfrich - thank you! As a [would-be, but dubious] writer with a particularly verbose style, I have attempted to quantify the names of my mental detractors: Limp Dick and Amy G. Dala . I try to keep them locked up on my Hippo Campus, but they keep escaping, as is most students' wont. I can do incoherent, just not twice in a row :)
    Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, Brand Ambassador @ beBee
    29/01/2017 #45 Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, Brand Ambassador @ beBee
    #43 πŸ’ 🌷 🌹
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    29/01/2017 #44 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    #39 @Chad Carroll or should I speak to Bobical via comments? Thank you for making me feel like I am not the only one with a hyper-active delete mechanism. I have the same, real struggle.

    Here's how I see it. I am actually here - on social media - for 'work' in an amorphous, ever-changing way. I really do consider each little nugget as part of my oeuvre, a grain of rice in my personal brand. So if I feel compelled to comment, I make sure it is authentically part of my strategy of being Deb.

    Running my words through the inner sieve is then just a bit of professional 'Quality Assurance'.
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    29/01/2017 #43 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    #36 @Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, Brand Ambassador @ beBee - yep, variety is the allspice of life, as they should have said. I feel like you do such a great job of expressing the person you are, of really representing yourself, in words. That is an important talent. And I am so glad I get to learn all about you via your words as you buzz around the hives. You are a super pollinator guide. Making sure we all know the stunning variety of fields we can visit when we show up on beBee.
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    29/01/2017 #42 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    #41 @Tony 🐝 Rossi you have buoyed my resolve. I am so grateful for your compliment.

    Writing can be such an internal minefield and I feel their is a continuum from highly polished, investigative, complex articles like the New Yorker and more personal pieces of writing meant to help the author share their own voice.

    The immense capacity of the internet is showing us that "If you need to write it, someone needs to read it."
    Tony 🐝 Rossi
    29/01/2017 #41 Tony 🐝 Rossi
    I love your writing, @Deb 🐝 Helfrich! I'm nowhere near as practiced as yourself, but i completely relate with how your mind works and the words that come out. I hope others get a boost of confidence to get more of their thoughts out into written word as you've challenged yourself. Don't stop!
    Cyndi wilkins
    26/01/2017 #40 Cyndi wilkins
    #38 My marinade of choice would be a whiskey sour;-)
    Sara Jacobovici
    26/01/2017 #38 Sara Jacobovici
    "A Well-Lived Life is Seasoned with a Nice Long Marinade." - @Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    Sara Jacobovici
    26/01/2017 #37 Sara Jacobovici
    #2 Thanks for the mention @Deb 🐝 Helfrich. I am honoured. In your honour I wrote: https://www.bebee.com/producer/@sara-jacobovici/a-chronology-of-admiration.
    Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, Brand Ambassador @ beBee
    26/01/2017 #36 Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, Brand Ambassador @ beBee
    Deb, your writing is eloquent and you have an outstanding command of the English language. My inner critic is overworked at times because I like variety and change. Thus the reason for my liking beBee so much - never boring. My own site is always changing and is an ongoing reflection of my ideas - I consider everything, including myself, a work in progress.
    Shawn Quinlivan, C.Ht.
    26/01/2017 #35 Shawn Quinlivan, C.Ht.
    #34 You have a fantastic command of the language, @Deb 🐝 Helfrich! Objectivity, however, often requires some collaborative effort. I can see that happening with some folks on beBee and that is a great thing. Thanks for the endorsement and I am so glad the meditations are working for you.
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    26/01/2017 #34 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    #33 Wow, what an interesting experience, @Shawn Quinlivan, C.Ht. I can see the benefits of writing with a 'partner' and having that inner editor be based on a real, disciplined, yet compassionate person. I talk myself out of things so much via over-analyzing.

    I spent way too long in my life going it alone. I think 2017 is definitely my year of collaboration.

    I can honestly recommend your new series of 10-15 minute guided meditations as a phenomenal way to ease out of too much self-editing mode. They are refreshing mental breaks to disrupt the overwhelm that was holding me back for the last few weeks.

    Shawn Quinlivan, C.Ht.
    26/01/2017 #33 Shawn Quinlivan, C.Ht.
    I love this article, @Deb 🐝 Helfrich. It reminds me of a process I established when I wrote my first novel. I achieved that by participating in a Writer's Digest sponsored program that coupled me with a published author named Ardath Mayer. Through that relationship, which entailed me producing a few chapters at a time and sending them to her for review, I developed an inner editor, which I came to call 'the Ardath factor.' I wrote over 150,000 words with her and began to see through her eyes. It was one of the most beneficial educational experiences of my life. I learned to transcend seeing my own words on the page, and to be really critical and objective with my work in terms of compositional structure and literary value. I now use two elements to determine if I am satisfied: 1) the Ardath factor; and 2) my emotional reaction. I have to be thrilled and moved emotionally or it's not ready. And this process requires a lot of editing and re-reading. My inner critic is Ardath (who passed away a few years back but still lives inside me), and I write to invoke feeling. Thanks for the invitation to revisit and share . . . it was a fantasy novel and an extremely special time in my life. All the best . . .
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    26/01/2017 #32 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    #30 Bob has a good head on your shoulders.
  19. ProducerJoel Anderson

    Joel Anderson

    Lines in the Sand: Part II
    Lines in the Sand: Part IILast night in a hospital room with my father, while he slept, my grown and very smart daughter and I somehow embarked on a discussion about things coming up and looming in our future. The focus was on my father, but as we watched him sleep she...


    Joel Anderson
    31/05/2017 #19 Joel Anderson
    #18 Thanks Mark. And a fine job you do indeed.

    β€œThe greatest use of a life is to spend it on something that will outlast it.”
    --William James

    β€œEvery job is a self-portrait of the person who did it. Autograph your work with excellence.”
    --Betty M. Nelson

    When I graduated from High School, he gifted me a book, "I Dare You" By WILLIAM H. DANFORTH (1870-1956). I think that he epitomized the daring soul that Danforth challenged to be different in the series of dares from within that book. He did uplifting things in taking each and every one of his steps. He laid the foundation for me to want to follow him and, yes, make a difference.

    "It might have appeared to go unnoticed,
    but I've got it all here in my heart.
    I want you to know I know the truth, of course I know it.
    I would be nothing without you.

    Did you ever know that you're my hero?
    You're everything I wish I could be.
    I could fly higher than an eagle,
    'cause you are the wind beneath my wings."
    --Bette Midler: Wind Beneath My Wings
    Mark Anderson
    31/05/2017 #18 Mark Anderson
    One of the things I've been trying to do is make sure that some of the lines you've described don't become erased, covered over, or forgotten. Your Dad was so good at connecting those lines, making sure they tied us together rather than divided the people so lucky to have been touched by his steps.
    Joel Anderson
    05/03/2017 #17 Joel Anderson
    #16 Thank you @Sara Jacobovici That one evening made me so aware of the lines in our lives why connections are so important, and as you say, in taking the time to make and sustain them.
    Sara Jacobovici
    05/03/2017 #16 Sara Jacobovici
    One line that is obvious here @Joel Anderson is the one straight from the heart! The lines of connection that you describe, from both time and place, verbal and nonverbal, are as you say; "straight and narrow, squiggly, or dotted focused in one direction or left to meander down paths well or less travelled." The connections don't just form lines, but patterns and imprints. What is significant is that, nothing can be formed if no connection exists; between individuals, community, nature, our environment. In your words, connections made through lines that "converge, rather than diverge".
    Devesh 🐝 Bhatt
    21/01/2017 #15 Devesh 🐝 Bhatt
    Lines are everywhere :)
    Gerald Hecht
    21/01/2017 #14 Gerald Hecht
    Some lines aren't even relevant...in the end who among us would waste an iota of our precious time and energy (best not wasted...all of our lives, all of our loved ones lives...all over --in the blink of an eye) on the political views of "The Federalists" vs. "The Whigs"?
    I don't mean to be obtuse or provincial...FWIW...it's a reference to the ghost of a line in the sand...in which existed in the ghost of a place called "America"; neither of which exist. They are Dead. No sand. No line. Remains.
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    21/01/2017 #13 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    #12 Hi @Joel Anderson, no apologies necessary :)) I understand typing on the phone. I can't type messages well at all from my phone. I agree, snapshots in time... one moment- so well said!
    Joel Anderson
    21/01/2017 #12 Joel Anderson
    #5 @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher Sorry, was trying to write, read and respond on my phone and in between meetings and other distractions that come with the work day. I am truly thankful for your comments and thoughts on this particular piece. Amazing how simple "Moments:Snap shots in time" can become become so profound.
    FancyJ London
    21/01/2017 #11 FancyJ London
    Thank you I am so glad you loved it! I am humbled. #7
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    20/01/2017 #10 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    #9 These lines of text leave the footprints of family, along the path of its glorious complexity.
    Joel Anderson
    20/01/2017 #9 Joel Anderson
    #4 Deb your kindness and compassion are truly appreciated.
    Joel Anderson
    20/01/2017 #8 Joel Anderson
    #5 Thank you Lisa Gallagher.
    Joel Anderson
    20/01/2017 #7 Joel Anderson
    #6 Thank you so much. "Our threads cross and tangle with twists" indeed. I didn't like it, I loved Crimson Thread. Keep making a difference.
    FancyJ London
    20/01/2017 #6 FancyJ London
    This reminds me of the Red Thread Ancient chinese Proverb. If you have a moment take a look at a poem I wrote on my blog, Crimson Thread. I think you will like it. Thank you for sharing your deep amazing thoughts, I enjoyed this post immensely. Cheers
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    20/01/2017 #5 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    @Joel Anderson, this was 'mind' altering. Thank you for giving the reader another perspective through your eyes. This just made SO much sense. I'm glad you and your daughter are able to talk as you do!
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    20/01/2017 #4 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    Joel Anderson
    19/01/2017 #3 Joel Anderson
    #1 In time dear cousin we will make it so. Thanks and all the best to you and yours
    Joel Anderson
    19/01/2017 #2 Joel Anderson
    #1 In time dear cousin we will make it so. Thanks and all the best to yiu and yours
    Dave Anderson
    19/01/2017 #1 Dave Anderson
    So when are you and Marybeth's lines going to intertwine and head out to Monterey for a visit?
  20. Dean Owen

    Dean Owen

    I remember Agassi vs Becker matches with fondness. Little did we know Agassi held a secret so simple, it almost ensured he beat Becker every time. This is fascinating....
    Andre Agassi tennis hack against Boris Becker
    Andre Agassi tennis hack against Boris Becker Amazing and funny story if Andre Agassi about Boris Becker...


    Praveen Raj Gullepalli
    20/01/2017 #3 Praveen Raj Gullepalli
    Man that sure got Boom Boom Becker tongue tied, din it? ;) Awesome share!
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    20/01/2017 #2 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    This is amazing on so many levels.

    I'll stick with the meta level that what most people noticed about the flamboyance of Agassi's 'style' successfully kept them from assessing him correctly.
    José Ramón 🐝 López
    20/01/2017 #1 José Ramón 🐝 López
    Great Agassi!!!
  21. ProducerDayne Yarbrough

    Dayne Yarbrough

    Order Outage
    Order OutageWhat would the sun do if it were you? Every dawn of occasion looks up to the beautiful creation and having been fascinated, it made its own equation with everything aware that it exists. Time and space have say in such a way that it makes 1.618...


    Dayne Yarbrough
    20/12/2016 #2 Dayne Yarbrough
    #1 not sure if you mean the orthography of soljesystin or the orthography of this order
    Pascal Derrien
    17/12/2016 #1 Pascal Derrien
    For some reasons i ended up thinking about Soljesystin (not sure about the orthograph) when reading this ☺
  22. Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    @Gerald Hecht - I would really appreciate it if you could offer some of your professional insights on this development and the new drug MSDC-0160, and perhaps help me translate what the drug does into some nutritional interventions for @Gary Sharpe to consider.

    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    New hope for Parkinson’s disease - VAI
    www.vai.org For the estimated seven to 10 million people living with Parkinson’s disease, there’s new reason for...
  23. Gary Sharpe

    Gary Sharpe

    "Working with Gary has given me the opportunity to become aware of how my emotions affect his physical state – and while it can be truly difficult to confront my culpability in the moment – overall this clarity is a gift. Because until I could see the damage of raging emotions physically, I was not doing the best job of maintaining my own awareness. Because there was very little cost to my physical stamina."

    ~ @Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    Gary Sharpe
    What Emotions Have To Do With It
    www.outthinkingparkinsons.com For those of us lucky enough to share our lives with someone with Parkinson's we can use this as an opportunity for both of us to learn something about self-awareness and the hope that can arise from noticing and implementing simple...


    Deb🐝 Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    14/12/2016 #2 Deb🐝 Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    #1 great sharing about learning from and with someone with parkinsons . I have learnt much from working with someone with chronic fatigue - how energy can shift in a moment, how not being authentic is draining to both people, how being authentic is life-giving and much more
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    13/12/2016 #1 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    This is a post I wrote back in March that talks about looking at our emotions through the lens of how they affect the physical symptoms of Parkinson's.

    The physical toll of 'Raging' emotions might not be so obvious to most of us, but our bodies are unquestionably taking a hit.
  24. Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    Revolutionary! Just a few notes to entice people...."In flow states, we are using a lot less of our brain - it becomes hypoactive - and it is the prefrontal cortex that is deactivating"

    Time is calculated in the prefrontal cortex - and if parts wink out, we can no longer separate past, present, future - we are plunged into something called the deep now.

    Sense of self is also resident in prefrontal cortex - if it is turned off your inner critic goes quiet.
    How to open up the next level of human performance | Steven Kotler | TEDxABQ
    How to open up the next level of human performance | Steven Kotler | TEDxABQ What does it take to be your best when it matters most? Author of 7 bestselling books, Pulitzer Prize nominee, and Director of Research at the Flow Genome...


    Tricia Mitchell
    22/05/2017 #4 Tricia Mitchell
    #3 @Deb 🐝 Helfrich thank you once again for tagging me so I can digest these rich resources. His work is new to me. I've just watched the other video, which was very interesting indeed. I'm going to let it sit for a while #foodforthought
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    22/05/2017 #3 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    @Tricia Mitchell - I love Steven's work around flow. Plus he wrote a book called "A Small Furry Prayer" as he co-owns a chihuahua sanctuary in New Mexico in addition to writing best-sellers with our Richard Branson, Peter Diamandis

    Prelude aside, you might find something useful here in reference to your work and how your prefrontal cortex is becoming hypoactive as you get enmeshed in your work.
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    11/12/2016 #2 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    #1 Well Steven is a journalist just like Malcolm, so neither is proving/disproving just packaging.

    K. Anders Ericsson is the psychologist behind the 10,000 hour hypothesis and he worked with Nobel laureate Herbert Simon, who I was lucky enough to take a class from at Carnegie Mellon. So I can 'vet' him to some extent and not just dismiss his work.

    The difference as I understand it is 10k represents a developmental approach to sustained practice of skills versus the newer research on flow, which I find so fascinating precisely because the suggestion of turning off the prefrontal cortex which we revere so highly and using the full-body intelligence of our vastly superior unconscious mind.

    I can tell we are going to have some interesting discussions, @Zacharias 🐝 Voulgaris, because I do agree that the 10,000 hour claims got too much attention from the hyper-competitive crowd, because just like innate 'god-given' talent the life conditions to dedicate 10k hours to one endeavor is a pretty rare occurrence.
    Zacharias 🐝 Voulgaris
    11/12/2016 #1 Zacharias 🐝 Voulgaris
    Always refreshing to see someone with the guts to disprove M. Gladwell's pseudoscience with some real science to back his claims. Thanks for sharing
  25. ProducerDeb 🐝 Helfrich
    Socks, Open-mindedness, and Intolerance Masked
    Socks, Open-mindedness, and Intolerance MaskedThis buzz is solely my personal opinion and represents a rebuttal to some members of this community. Please do exercise your right to click-away if you are uninterested in hearing about some masked discrimination that I recently experienced, as...


    Lada 🏑 Prkic
    12/12/2016 #79 Lada 🏑 Prkic
    I don’t know what the whole fuss is about. I read both articles and found the controversial buzz about snake oil by Don Kerr, with which I disagree although I admire the author. By the way, I think we should be able to speak bluntly and to indicate the article or the author to whom it refers. It's the fair thing to do.
    I have a positive attitude towards holistic medicine because I was convinced in its effects at the example of my family. It is logical approach to the healing process that includes the whole person and not just the human body. But I can also understand the opposite opinions.
    For example, my highly religious colleague is strongly against yoga. When she heard that I was intended to start doing yoga she tried to talk me out of it. She thinks about yoga as some kind of demonic activity. This is her attitude toward meditation, too.
    Unlike her I grew up in an environment which has always been open to new ideas. That’s why I also believe that the ability to discuss any topic is how we grow and learn to be tolerant, the value greatly lacking in society.
    @Deb 🐝 Helfrich, thanks for the post that broadens horizons.
    jesse kaellis
    12/12/2016 #78 jesse kaellis
    It was more than I expected, Robert but it will have been worthwhile if I get the results I expect. I HAD to take action. The consequences of continuing to deteriorate would have put me in a wheelchair.
    debasish majumder
    11/12/2016 #76 debasish majumder
    snake have a fixed eye ball, which is a hindrance to them, in terms of catching their prey! on contrary, human have an eye ball, enabling them to keep a vision and even enable to widen their vistas! wonderful post @Deb 🐝 Helfrich View more
    snake have a fixed eye ball, which is a hindrance to them, in terms of catching their prey! on contrary, human have an eye ball, enabling them to keep a vision and even enable to widen their vistas! wonderful post @Deb 🐝 Helfrich! ENJOYED READ MADAM. THANK YOU FOR THE SHARE. Close
    jesse kaellis
    11/12/2016 #75 jesse kaellis
    Thanks, Deb. Very much. I couldn't even get near a cyber cafe, so I came back to a backlog of correspondence. Which I knew.
    jesse kaellis
    11/12/2016 #74 jesse kaellis
    Time will tell, Robert. It will take intensive rehab and a recovery period of up to three months. The screws, the apparatus, needs to fuse with the bone. I had two surgeries. I fell shortly after the first one. A disaster. But there's this; I finally understand why people commit suicide over chronic pain. Physician-assisted suicide. At times the pain was extraordinary.
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    11/12/2016 #73 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    #71 I am tremendously glad you are on the mend - alive and with a back all the better to kick with. I am certain it was a lot to go through.
    jesse kaellis
    11/12/2016 #71 jesse kaellis
    I can only really tell the truth about myself, Cyndi. I just got back from surgery in Mexico, and I'm exhausted. I mean to write it up as a story. It was a lot more than I had anticipated. Thank you.
    Cyndi wilkins
    10/12/2016 #70 Cyndi wilkins
    #69 I love them and loathe them at the same time! And things that go bump in the night;-)
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    10/12/2016 #69 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    #68 You know, @Cyndi wilkins, snakes add a lot to the natural eco-system in harmony with a natural balance. I kind of am fascinated by them, offer my respect for their habitat, and constantly exercise my ability to steer clear.
    Cyndi wilkins
    10/12/2016 #68 Cyndi wilkins
    Speaking of snakes...They really don't like it when you make them squirm, do they? Good for you for speaking your truth Deb...Jesse and Max are two of my favorite "cage rattler's" on this platform...Dare to be different;-)
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    10/12/2016 #67 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    #61 You can call me any name you want, Pablo! I am certain I will either smile or laugh so hard my keyboard is in jeopardy of frizzing from the coffee spatter.

    Bullies are not trolls. Bullies are taking a public place, marking their territory, and enforcing their arbitrary rules, often in the guise of doing what everyone else wants. Depending on the territory, as @David Navarro LΓ³pez so poignantly points out, we may simply not be able to have a meaningful effect on their activities. Religious, governmental bullies and anyone with weaponry needs to be avoided.

    But a social media platform is the place for open, civil, and impactful discussions. I won't be shamed into silence.

    I am drawing my own line in the sand for tolerance.
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    10/12/2016 #66 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    #59 #60 Absolutely anything can be said with respect, for instance - "I honestly have trouble regarding this as anything but snakeoil - am I missing something?" "Do you think this might be giving people false hope and be dangerous in the way we think of snakeoil?" Opinion stated in a way discussion can ensue.

    I haven't the slightest problem with the basic challenging question. I object vehemently to the methodology used. Because as I titled this buzz - I believe it to be intolerance masked.
    Paul "Pablo" Croubalian
    10/12/2016 #64 Paul "Pablo" Croubalian
    #63 True, but sometimes I feel like being an ambassador is like having a target painted on your back. Some people think that we can't fight back. We shouldn't fight back. Or, we mustn't fight back.

    They're wrong.

    Javier and Juan saw fit to make me an ambassador. It sure wasn't because of my pretty face. Unless. . . maybe they're Homer Simpson fans? Whatever the reason was, I didn't change what I do or how I do it on this or other platforms. I promoted beBee before, I continue to promote it now.

    I'm not here to hold hands and sing Kumbaya either.

    It's a social network, emphasis on the "social." It's easy for cowards to hide behind a keyboard. We need to accept the fact that it's impossible to please everyone.

    I don't really give a rat's patootie what anyone else thinks an ambassador "should" do or "must" do. Javier and Juan selected us, they can unselect us.

    Everybody else is entitled to their opinion, but it ain't worth much. No worries, as was said in another comment, "Haters gonna hate." I chalk it up to jealousy....

    Let the flaming begin.
    Paul "Pablo" Croubalian
    10/12/2016 #61 Paul "Pablo" Croubalian
    I'll start my comment with some direct name calling. Deb, you Inspiration, you.

    Frankly, it boggles my mind that anyone should take offense at what you wrote. While I'm not a fan of any holistic treatments, I respect the individual's right to choose.

    I see little point in forcing my opinion down someone's throat.

    On the larger issue of online bullying, there are several thoughts I would like to share. There is a common thought that one should not "feed the trolls." That's true for trolls. Not so much for bullies. You do not stop a bully by giving in or running away. Most are cowards at the core. Just don't show them they hit a nerve.

    The worst type, and probably the one you allude to, disguises the bullying as a rebuttal or an expression of "difference of opinion." These posts are easy to recognize. They are full of semantically charged words. They draw "conclusions" from misinterpreted data. They claim their conjectures are "facts."

    Some of these are simply taken badly. The written word lacks inflection, so misinterpretations are common. Some aren't. They are deliberate.

    When a post or a comment pisses me off, I do two things. One, I reply immediately but in Word not directly. That helps me get the anger out of they way. Two, I wait a day and read it again. If it still pisses me off, I'll wait a little more.I once waited 10 days.

    To the commenters who draw such ire: It is not enough that you hide behind "I have a right to express my opinion." So do they. Why does your right supersede theirs? It doesn't.

    It is up to YOU to take all reasonable steps to avoid the impression of bullying. No, saying, "My opinion" or "No offense, but," doesn't cut it.

    To authors: Don't leave. Thank the commenter for their comment. Say something like, "You are certainly entitled to your opinion, even if I don't share it. Thanks for the comment and have a great day." Then get on with your life. Is their opinion that important to you?

    Don't sweat it.
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    10/12/2016 #58 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    #57 I take absolutely no credit. The original quote came from Viktor Frankl and its prominence on beBee is attributed to a few folks I admire and call friends.
    Aleta Curry
    10/12/2016 #57 Aleta Curry
    #56 Love that last line; I'll have to use it!
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    10/12/2016 #56 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    #53 It is not a common occurrence, at all, as the vast, vast majority of people find beBee to be a refreshingly positive, supportive place to be. I work hard at adding that exact sort of value every day.

    My own personal standard is that no one should experience 'name calling abuse' that causes them to leave beBee. In this case, it was the very subtlety of an indirect attack that I thought lent itself to a discussion that might bring about more awareness.

    Interacting with tolerance is actual hard work on a global site based on open participation. We all have biases. We all have buttons that will get pushed.

    This community is one where we celebrate the pause between a stimulus and a response, so that we may state our views with respect toward the person who holds the opposing view.
    Aleta Curry
    10/12/2016 #53 Aleta Curry
    #1 Oh, that's so sad! That wasn't my initial experience at all - far from it, which is why I got hooked on beBee.
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    10/12/2016 #52 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    #51 We must be like-minded then, as I only speak when I have satisfied myself that I have all the relevant context, am not spreading rumors, and have an important principle or two to take a stand for. The 'inflammatory' comments happened off-piste, as the judgement really wasn't about what it was purported to be about. The intolerance was masked.

    My tolerance is wide out in the open.
    Aleta Curry
    10/12/2016 #51 Aleta Curry
    #50 Well, @Deb 🐝 Helfrich perhaps yes, perhaps no. If it got so bad that this happened (quoting you)

    My last post was recently accused of being so detrimental to the beBee community that a new policy had to be put in place to add a disclaimer that Ambassador's views are their own opinion.

    then that's relevant to all of us. However, this ain't High School and I decided years ago that I didn't need to know *everything*; all the gossip, I mean.

    I can't find the inflammatory comments anyway.
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