- Producer19/01/2017Lines in the Sand: Part IILast night in a hospital room with my father, while he slept, my grown and very smart daughter and I somehow embarked on a discussion about things coming up and looming in our future. The focus was on my father, but as we watched him sleep she...
- 20/01/2017I remember Agassi vs Becker matches with fondness. Little did we know Agassi held a secret so simple, it almost ensured he beat Becker every time. This is fascinating....Andre Agassi tennis hack against Boris Becker Amazing and funny story if Andre Agassi about Boris Becker...
- Producer17/12/2016Order OutageWhat would the sun do if it were you? Every dawn of occasion looks up to the beautiful creation and having been fascinated, it made its own equation with everything aware that it exists. Time and space have say in such a way that it makes 1.618...
- 15/12/2016@Gerald Hecht - I would really appreciate it if you could offer some of your professional insights on this development and the new drug MSDC-0160, and perhaps help me translate what the drug does into some nutritional interventions for @Gary Sharpe to consider.
http://www.msdrx.com/pipeline/msdc-0160New hope for Parkinson’s disease - VAIwww.vai.org For the estimated seven to 10 million people living with Parkinson’s disease, there’s new reason for...
- 13/12/2016"Working with Gary has given me the opportunity to become aware of how my emotions affect his physical state – and while it can be truly difficult to confront my culpability in the moment – overall this clarity is a gift. Because until I could see the damage of raging emotions physically, I was not doing the best job of maintaining my own awareness. Because there was very little cost to my physical stamina."
~ @Deb 🐝 HelfrichWhat Emotions Have To Do With Itwww.outthinkingparkinsons.com For those of us lucky enough to share our lives with someone with Parkinson's we can use this as an opportunity for both of us to learn something about self-awareness and the hope that can arise from noticing and implementing simple...
Comments14/12/2016 #2 Deb🐝 Lange#1 great sharing about learning from and with someone with parkinsons . I have learnt much from working with someone with chronic fatigue - how energy can shift in a moment, how not being authentic is draining to both people, how being authentic is life-giving and much more13/12/2016 #1 Deb 🐝 HelfrichThis is a post I wrote back in March that talks about looking at our emotions through the lens of how they affect the physical symptoms of Parkinson's.
The physical toll of 'Raging' emotions might not be so obvious to most of us, but our bodies are unquestionably taking a hit.
- 11/12/2016Revolutionary! Just a few notes to entice people...."In flow states, we are using a lot less of our brain - it becomes hypoactive - and it is the prefrontal cortex that is deactivating"
Time is calculated in the prefrontal cortex - and if parts wink out, we can no longer separate past, present, future - we are plunged into something called the deep now.
Sense of self is also resident in prefrontal cortex - if it is turned off your inner critic goes quiet.How to open up the next level of human performance | Steven Kotler | TEDxABQ What does it take to be your best when it matters most? Author of 7 bestselling books, Pulitzer Prize nominee, and Director of Research at the Flow Genome...
Comments11/12/2016 #2 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#1 Well Steven is a journalist just like Malcolm, so neither is proving/disproving just packaging.
K. Anders Ericsson is the psychologist behind the 10,000 hour hypothesis and he worked with Nobel laureate Herbert Simon, who I was lucky enough to take a class from at Carnegie Mellon. So I can 'vet' him to some extent and not just dismiss his work.
The difference as I understand it is 10k represents a developmental approach to sustained practice of skills versus the newer research on flow, which I find so fascinating precisely because the suggestion of turning off the prefrontal cortex which we revere so highly and using the full-body intelligence of our vastly superior unconscious mind.
I can tell we are going to have some interesting discussions, @Zacharias Voulgaris 🐝, because I do agree that the 10,000 hour claims got too much attention from the hyper-competitive crowd, because just like innate 'god-given' talent the life conditions to dedicate 10k hours to one endeavor is a pretty rare occurrence.
- Producer08/12/2016Socks, Open-mindedness, and Intolerance MaskedThis buzz is solely my personal opinion and represents a rebuttal to some members of this community. Please do exercise your right to click-away if you are uninterested in hearing about some masked discrimination that I recently experienced, as...
Comments12/12/2016 #79 Lada 🏡 PrkicI don’t know what the whole fuss is about. I read both articles and found the controversial buzz about snake oil by Don Kerr, with which I disagree although I admire the author. By the way, I think we should be able to speak bluntly and to indicate the article or the author to whom it refers. It's the fair thing to do.
I have a positive attitude towards holistic medicine because I was convinced in its effects at the example of my family. It is logical approach to the healing process that includes the whole person and not just the human body. But I can also understand the opposite opinions.
For example, my highly religious colleague is strongly against yoga. When she heard that I was intended to start doing yoga she tried to talk me out of it. She thinks about yoga as some kind of demonic activity. This is her attitude toward meditation, too.
Unlike her I grew up in an environment which has always been open to new ideas. That’s why I also believe that the ability to discuss any topic is how we grow and learn to be tolerant, the value greatly lacking in society.
@Deb 🐝 Helfrich, thanks for the post that broadens horizons.11/12/2016 #76 debasish majumdersnake have a fixed eye ball, which is a hindrance to them, in terms of catching their prey! on contrary, human have an eye ball, enabling them to keep a vision and even enable to widen their vistas! wonderful post @Deb 🐝 Helfrich View moresnake have a fixed eye ball, which is a hindrance to them, in terms of catching their prey! on contrary, human have an eye ball, enabling them to keep a vision and even enable to widen their vistas! wonderful post @Deb 🐝 Helfrich! ENJOYED READ MADAM. THANK YOU FOR THE SHARE. Close11/12/2016 #74 jesse kaellis#72
Time will tell, Robert. It will take intensive rehab and a recovery period of up to three months. The screws, the apparatus, needs to fuse with the bone. I had two surgeries. I fell shortly after the first one. A disaster. But there's this; I finally understand why people commit suicide over chronic pain. Physician-assisted suicide. At times the pain was extraordinary.10/12/2016 #67 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#61 You can call me any name you want, Pablo! I am certain I will either smile or laugh so hard my keyboard is in jeopardy of frizzing from the coffee spatter.
Bullies are not trolls. Bullies are taking a public place, marking their territory, and enforcing their arbitrary rules, often in the guise of doing what everyone else wants. Depending on the territory, as @David Navarro López so poignantly points out, we may simply not be able to have a meaningful effect on their activities. Religious, governmental bullies and anyone with weaponry needs to be avoided.
But a social media platform is the place for open, civil, and impactful discussions. I won't be shamed into silence.
I am drawing my own line in the sand for tolerance.10/12/2016 #66 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#59 #60 Absolutely anything can be said with respect, for instance - "I honestly have trouble regarding this as anything but snakeoil - am I missing something?" "Do you think this might be giving people false hope and be dangerous in the way we think of snakeoil?" Opinion stated in a way discussion can ensue.
I haven't the slightest problem with the basic challenging question. I object vehemently to the methodology used. Because as I titled this buzz - I believe it to be intolerance masked.10/12/2016 #64 Paul "Pablo" Croubalian#63 True, but sometimes I feel like being an ambassador is like having a target painted on your back. Some people think that we can't fight back. We shouldn't fight back. Or, we mustn't fight back.
Javier and Juan saw fit to make me an ambassador. It sure wasn't because of my pretty face. Unless. . . maybe they're Homer Simpson fans? Whatever the reason was, I didn't change what I do or how I do it on this or other platforms. I promoted beBee before, I continue to promote it now.
I'm not here to hold hands and sing Kumbaya either.
It's a social network, emphasis on the "social." It's easy for cowards to hide behind a keyboard. We need to accept the fact that it's impossible to please everyone.
I don't really give a rat's patootie what anyone else thinks an ambassador "should" do or "must" do. Javier and Juan selected us, they can unselect us.
Everybody else is entitled to their opinion, but it ain't worth much. No worries, as was said in another comment, "Haters gonna hate." I chalk it up to jealousy....
Let the flaming begin.10/12/2016 #61 Paul "Pablo" CroubalianI'll start my comment with some direct name calling. Deb, you Inspiration, you.
Frankly, it boggles my mind that anyone should take offense at what you wrote. While I'm not a fan of any holistic treatments, I respect the individual's right to choose.
I see little point in forcing my opinion down someone's throat.
On the larger issue of online bullying, there are several thoughts I would like to share. There is a common thought that one should not "feed the trolls." That's true for trolls. Not so much for bullies. You do not stop a bully by giving in or running away. Most are cowards at the core. Just don't show them they hit a nerve.
The worst type, and probably the one you allude to, disguises the bullying as a rebuttal or an expression of "difference of opinion." These posts are easy to recognize. They are full of semantically charged words. They draw "conclusions" from misinterpreted data. They claim their conjectures are "facts."
Some of these are simply taken badly. The written word lacks inflection, so misinterpretations are common. Some aren't. They are deliberate.
When a post or a comment pisses me off, I do two things. One, I reply immediately but in Word not directly. That helps me get the anger out of they way. Two, I wait a day and read it again. If it still pisses me off, I'll wait a little more.I once waited 10 days.
To the commenters who draw such ire: It is not enough that you hide behind "I have a right to express my opinion." So do they. Why does your right supersede theirs? It doesn't.
It is up to YOU to take all reasonable steps to avoid the impression of bullying. No, saying, "My opinion" or "No offense, but," doesn't cut it.
To authors: Don't leave. Thank the commenter for their comment. Say something like, "You are certainly entitled to your opinion, even if I don't share it. Thanks for the comment and have a great day." Then get on with your life. Is their opinion that important to you?
Don't sweat it.10/12/2016 #56 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#53 It is not a common occurrence, at all, as the vast, vast majority of people find beBee to be a refreshingly positive, supportive place to be. I work hard at adding that exact sort of value every day.
My own personal standard is that no one should experience 'name calling abuse' that causes them to leave beBee. In this case, it was the very subtlety of an indirect attack that I thought lent itself to a discussion that might bring about more awareness.
Interacting with tolerance is actual hard work on a global site based on open participation. We all have biases. We all have buttons that will get pushed.
This community is one where we celebrate the pause between a stimulus and a response, so that we may state our views with respect toward the person who holds the opposing view.10/12/2016 #55 Max🐝 J. Carter#53 I am happy for you that you have avoided this experience. I experienced at first and it was why I left for a while.
It was actions taken by the management team that convinced me to give it another shot.
While I have still experienced it, it has gotten much much better and that has a lot to do with the rest of the community also working to put an end to it.
- Producer04/12/2016Talking with Max Carter: What does a Shaman Do?We all know the definition of insanity is to continue doing what we are doing, expecting different results. We nod our heads when we read listicles about the keys to change, and then scroll onward. But when was the last time you decided to have a...
Comments06/12/2016 #24 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#21 #22 Thanks for adding a couple crucial points, @Praveen Raj Gullepalli. Any honest human being who can be vulnerable to their own complete awareness knows that they have experienced at least one thing in their life for which they have no rational explanation. The absolute truth of being in love, for example.
It is puerile and divisive for a member of this community to invoke their ambassadorship while they ridicule something that makes them uncomfortable.06/12/2016 #20 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#14 Skepticism is a truly beneficial approach in our human toolkit, @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher. Having the ability to discern the rightness, truth, or slight possibility of a new idea or experience is crucial to our survival. But being skeptical does not mean waging a disinformation campaign against everything we don't understand.
And part of the true worth of the internet is that we can learn about ideas, ways of life, and experiences that were out of our reach when we couldn't meet people from around the globe.
The ironic thing is, healthcare is a good example of where we believe in things 100% but the actual underlying statistics show a much less clear reality. For example, "Medical errors rank behind heart disease and cancer as the third leading cause of death in the U.S., Johns Hopkins researchers say." http://www.bmj.com/content/353/bmj.i2139
If people were more likely to employ skepticism that number might not be quite so high.
But real skepticism entails listening fully to the opposing point of view, or the risks of the medical treatment, and then making an informed decision.05/12/2016 #19 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#13 You pretty much honed in on exactly why I wanted to talk to @Max🐝 J. Carter and then share a bit about what I learned and experienced"
"It's inconvenient and takes courage, but a necessary requirement" to sometimes "rock us out of our subjective, judgmental comfort zones"
You are much more aware than most. @Ian Weinberg, that we are primarily a bunch of 5-year-olds when it comes to beliefs. We downloaded what was said in our immediate environment a decade before our analytical mind started to develop. And because we got those beliefs from people we loved and trusted implicitly, it feels a little shameful and invokes a lot of fear when we are confronted with a word like shaman that simply never came up in our conventional, middle-class, pre-internet worlds.
But as an adult, a little more knowledge is never something to fear. We are now in full control of accepting or rejecting parts or the whole of something that, once we understand it, does or does not mesh with what we think, believe and experience.05/12/2016 #18 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#12 Thanks for adding that point, @Ken Boddie because many of us North Americans forget that we are rather late to the party on some things and that there are some long traditions in the East that must be respected as they were helping people centuries before the printing press, let alone the peer-reviewed double-blind trial.
One thing that has been validated extensively by pharma dollars is the placebo effect. When it comes to healing, and most certainly to simple life changes, deciding that the pill will work or that the conversation was beneficial can be a major factor in allowing us to let go of worry, because we have taken action. That shift from constant worry, to trusting the pill, the needle, or the healing professional does release us from being in a sympathetic state where our body is constantly alert and not dedicating resources to repair. Chronic anxiety and fear is one of the reasons that modern life is full of chronic disease. We don't give our body the calm, easeful state it needs to take care of growth and healing.05/12/2016 #17 Max🐝 J. Carter#16 There are a lot of physical talkers in the world and it helps in moving energy while speaking as much as it enhances communication and @Deb 🐝 Helfrich moves a lot of energy when she speaks that assists her in maintaining her focus and finding the abstract pieces for linear communication.
This is what allows her to be so insight filled.
Allowing the abstract field to give her what she needs to find the individual expression that often produces wise insights as we have all witnessed many times.05/12/2016 #16 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#10 Another light-bulb moment, @Deb🐝 Lange. Because I find it to be true that every sense we add as part of a conversation makes us feel we are understood at a deeper level. Typing back and forth in posts and comments can create real relationships. But then get on the phone, and the experience is richer. Have a video call and even more sensory information is conveyed back and forth. Sitting across a meal creates a very rich connection.
"Transformation is visceral." Analytical lists, rigid belief in what is measurable, keeps us in our language-based ego when what we need is to feel. As individuals we have to relearn how to trust what our body feels.
As @Max🐝 J. Carter can testify, I like to move quite a lot when I talk. I even do it when typing comments. I can often catch myself making a movement that either reinforces my point or adds a further level of meaning to what I am saying.
I am sincerely looking forward to your videos, as your book has been a source of great companionship. I feel quite young at heart in the way I enjoy sometimes just looking at the pictures, other times going back to a section that draws me to re-read it.05/12/2016 #15 Mohammed Sultan@ Deb Helfrich .Thanks for your insightful post.I wish any shaman or sheikh (in may religion) can use his special power to cure many of the business diseases that we can't discover by the scientific methods of market research or give us an accurate interpretation why 85% of our young start ups die at the second year of their birth.I hope they can tell why people resist our innovations although they are acceptable and desirable or they can use their good spirits to change the current outdated selection criteria of HR to give young people more hope of getting fair job opportunity.Some people may also resist what I am saying stressing that life is not at all about business only.I fully agree,everybody can be a shaman or sheikh for herself because she receives the same light from the same source.Everyone has her own light that can help see life pitfalls or bumpy roads. Everyone has her own light enough for her own journey .Don't look for the light in the side of darkness ,and when you feel that your light is dim recharge your batteries or keep plugged.As we suffer from myths that may kill our businesses,one of our myths in life is to resort to shamans or sheikhs who can use ,as they claim,magic to discover the the cause of illness and bad luck.The real comfort and good feeling are achieved when we resort to the main and the only source of light to provide us with enough light for our long paths.05/12/2016 #14 Lisa 🐝 GallagherInteresting read @Deb 🐝 Helfrich. I always wondered why @Max🐝 J. Carter had the title Shaman, this helps me to understand. I'm not opposed to a holistic approach but there will always be the skeptic in me because of my healthcare background. My comment about being a skeptic is not in relation to what Max does personally, it's a general comment. I'm glad you've had a great outcome with your sessions along with a few revelations! Thanks for enlightening us!05/12/2016 #13 Ian WeinbergWe need the Max Carters of the world to rock us out of our subjective, judgmental comfort zones and confront truth (a relative term) and a greater authenticity. It's inconvenient and takes courage, but a necessary requirement for positive evolution of the individual and the greater collective.05/12/2016 #12 Ken BoddieThank you, Deb, for an illuminating and insightful post. Personally I am still locked in between the western need for scientific proof and the eastern acceptance of beneficiary awareness. I'm glad you have been able to unlock your cultural bias and perhaps initial scepticism to your benefit.05/12/2016 #10 Deb🐝 Lange@Deb 🐝 Helfrich - how awesome that you trusted what you were sensing and had a session with @Max Carter - it is a very different way of working being with someone and being present to the energy in the container and within each person. Every talks ABOUT Transformation, few actually experience it or co-create it for themselves and for others. Transformation is visceral. Something that is felt, it changes our perception and way we experience our world, it changes something inside ourselves. I believe this is the shift we need. With all the information in the world, being passed around, it does not necessarily result in change. I have been musing about posting via the video app, in this way at least experience can energy across the internet and connect, or not just through words but through energy, tone, movement, gesture, imagery etc. I encourage people to experience the world "through" our body. It is a very different experience to thinking about the world. It includes an integration of thinking, sensing, feeling, noticing, moving, breathing as an organic being.05/12/2016 #9 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#8 'love and acceptance of living things the way they are, rather than the way we think they should be' So much said there, @Cyndi wilkins. We have these big brains, with complex reasoning skills, and we can really hurt ourselves and the people we try to love with our schemes and dreams and "clinging to our desires."
I won't lie, it hurts to let go. And it certainly isn't a one time thing, I built some really strong neural pathways around a few dimensions of my life. But I am feeling some ease return to relatively mindless tasks and those faltering first steps into a new knowing.
And, in essence, while Stella wanted her groove, Deb wanted her knowing back.05/12/2016 #8 Cyndi wilkinsLearning to actually let go of everything is a lesson in the purest form of love and acceptance of living things the way they are, rather than the way we think they should be. It's going with the flow, rather than clinging to our desires...It is life's way of teaching us humility and grace...And trusting that mother nature always has our best interests at heart...even when we resist her, she loves us anyway...A heart that loves is always torn...and we all need love...especially for oneself. I am finally getting there, and sounds like you have arrived too Deb Helfrich...What a long, strange trip it's been;-)05/12/2016 #7 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#6 I appreciate the comment and shares, @Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman. I believe that if we don't learn something new from everyone we interact with, then we are not asking the right questions.
While Max can come across as abrasive in writing, he is quite a good listener, who truly intends to be helpful to the people he works with. He met me at where I was in regards to being outside of mainstream religion and only a moderate fan of rock and I am certain he would work with everyone at the place where they found themselves.
Being very militant when it comes to conveying information doesn't necessarily mean that someone communicates like that in a conversation, and because I could see the person behind some of his stronger positions, I listened to my curiosity and was glad I reached out to have a session with him.
- Producer30/11/2016Two illusions don't make a factJoris Plaatstaal made a great comment on one of my recent buzzes titled "Conscious and Subconscious Questions". This comment led me to respond by saying that ""Between freedom and illusion there is a borderline of knowledge." Joris responded by...
Comments07/12/2016 #91 CityVP 🐝 Manjit#90 Harvey, when freedom has to be within the confines of more than one person, then that freedom is connected by an ideology. I am not free of illusion and I am not free of ideology. For sure where there is illusion it is the barrier to truth, and so where illusion is, truth is not.
The reason I am not free of illusion or ideology is that I have not chosen to subject myself to that level of uncertainty. So for now I am settling for the blessings found in the illusions I hold.
Freedom from illusion is among the toughest if not THE toughest challenge for any human. I don't want to suggest that word blessings equates with freedom, if we had freedom, why would we be counting our blessings? Blessings are an ideology.07/12/2016 #90 Harvey Lloyd#89 Within an illusion can there really be truth? If so it would have to be dynamic.
This is where i guess i part company with the illusion metaphor of existence.
Freedom has to be within the confines of more than one person. My existence and beliefs establishes conflict within the freedom viewpoint. But no necessarily and illusion.
Clearly some boundaries and these boundaries need to be held in some form of dynamic ever-evolving search for truth.
This i deem to be thriving/living. Life is an illusion if we live in singularity on an island.07/12/2016 #89 CityVP 🐝 Manjit#87 and #88 : The Yin and Yang of the illusion of freedom is that there is this hidden dependencies but there are also blessings. Authority as a dependency can create a very hostile and toxic world and here authority really is competing constituencies and the toxic power struggles in academia is a good example of that.
Life lived n any bubble will eventually burst, and our own contribution in a bubble can be something we are unconscious about. The illusion of freedom does however also bring to the fore considerable blessings also. It is in our DNA to deconstruct and tamper/tinker with things that escalate challenges, often we call these challenges "opportunity" but more often than note these challenges come up against competing interests.
A poignant word for authority then is "special interest". We think of special interest in terms of large scale effects, so we condemn practices that represent special interest, but special interest exists in the micro world also. Without consideration of blessings, we warp or shift attention to the darker side of illusion. The welcomed side of illusion is a capacity we all can have, which is our imagination, it is imagination that can move us towards truth, unless our occupation (what occupies us)07/12/2016 #88 Harvey Lloyd#85 This was a great comment and thought process. The illusion of freedom brought on by hidden dependencies.
I believe 9/11 showed us a micro scale disruption that could be easily scaled up by a 5th grader.
With population growth we are asking technology to grow food, make things cheaper etc. (The article you linked shows that immediate term fixes have future consequences.) With growth we are useing technology to serve, while eliminating jobs with the technology, this seems counter-intuitive.
The illusion for myself is more that we talk about unrelated issues of the short term while the devil is stealing our future. This statement could apply across a few thousand different issues. From Social to Fiscal we are sacrificing our future for intermediate gains that history has already tried and we have the results from those endeavours.
If we are not already living inside an illusion we are building one.07/12/2016 #87 Max🐝 J. Carter#85 We create these dependencies.
. If you take the farmer metaphor what you have is an academic community living in the illusion of control called authority.
If you look at the rest of their world that is oppressed by the rules of academia you have the oppressed acting as nature showing the farmer their idea of control is nothing more than an illusion.
I had to dig to find the scientists who have found the flaws in the Theory of relativity and found a great documentary in which they discussed being shunned by the academic community to keep their stranglehold on progress based in what feeds their funding for their research.
Nature does no actually conspire against the farmer it is the farmer that conspires against nature under the delusional thinking that one has control over anything.
The only thing that puts an end to an illusion is popping the bubble and pulling back the veil.
I realize why the academic community feels threaten by this as it in a way destroys their authority and ability to dictate who is allowed to contribute based on their rules.
Nothing can stop an idea whose time has come just as the farmer can not stop the changing of the seasons as they come.07/12/2016 #86 Max🐝 J. Carter#85 We create these dependencies by insisting to live the way we do.
Take your metaphor and apply it to the evolution of thought and discovery and what you have is the rest of the world feeling the oppression of the academic community in attempting to be heard based on the illusion they have created that they have the authority of who should and should not be allowed to contribute.
Hence the scientists who have been shunned in recent years for finding flaws with the theory of relativity.
Their research gets almost no attention and in fact I had to dig to find them. There is a great documentary about it on netflix.
It;s a great example of an illusion being used and having others seeing pass the illusion into the actual.
As the farmer has nature conspiring against his illusion that he has control over the process.....07/12/2016 #85 CityVP 🐝 Manjit#81 We don't see illusion because milk comes from a jug in the fridge, water comes from a turn of a faucet in the sink, bread comes from a shelf in a supermarket, light comes from a switch on the wall, and it is when these things are disrupted that we come face to face with our dependency, and what we are dependent on is this illusion of freedom. This illusion is a form of learned helplessness even for the farmer we think has a deeper connection with nature or the land and even here he system can still conspire against the farmer as they begin to conspire against nature, for when short-term thinking is an act of survival it is what disconnects people. http://www.motherjones.com/tom-philpott/2015/09/no-gmos-didnt-create-indias-farmer-suicide-problem07/12/2016 #84 Max🐝 J. Carter#82If you are going to take the time to respond take the time t write out something that is actually a complete thought.
#81 No one can control the decisions of others. This free will.
The best any one of us can do is to promote the benefits to all to put an end to authority driven behavior which is driven by a narcissist view of ones self that say one is the authority or has authority of anything or anyone.
The unfortunately the reality we share is that yes if you had status and power and money more people would listen as those are the markers they are using to determine who is worth listening to.
If you haven't become some one noted for writing a book, people will not give two shits about it and move on as we have been programmed to see that only those who have written books have the authority to tell anything and it this structure that allows academia to keep a strangle hold on progress and discovery unless yo do it through the prepackaged and academic approved steps
The academic structure is what inhibits your freedom to express a view and a message we both share Joris that people need to stop living in the illusions and be less delusional in their thinking.
If you don't follow their steps you are just some dude running at the mouth.
This is the heart of what retards progress worldwide for humanity in growth and evolution of thought.
The Academic community restricts the freedom of others to be heard and be seen as understanding what they are taling about unless they do it the academics way.07/12/2016 #83 Joris Plaatstaal#72 Or is it? My limiting factor? Think about it.
I am free, yes I am. The question is, what am I going to do with this state of mind? Crawl back under a rock and amaze myself about the stupidity of mankind?
Saying to myself I am smart and mankind is stupid?
That would be a pitiful illusion of freedom.
Running away from it all seems to get confused with freedom. "I don't care, so I am free".....
I can only be free if you all can be free. That is what I want.
Work for what you want is freedom, not work for what ' they' want or run away from it all, that would be just 'conformism'. We have plenty of those.....06/12/2016 #81 Joris Plaatstaal#74 Great comment @CityVP 🐝 Manjit. Just the thing I want to talk about.You say it so much better than I can do.
"Our marketed paradise", bulls eye........
"The freedom of uncertainty is freedom from illusion."
We can not make humanity embrace the rules of freedom. Uncertainty is relatively easy for me, living in Holland. Uncertainty may be hell on earth for 'Jacob' living in Aleppo.
Even in the western world I can understand why people live in a illusion. In other parts of the world, people need to do what they do to survive. To take care of their children. Maybe even have dreams.
I do not care about my own freedom. I do not think I am a better person, because I embraced the principles of chaos.
I am confused about who I should support. And, when I make up my mind, the question arises. How. How can I support? Who do I support?
Who deserves it and who doesn't?
Questions that limit my freedom. I do not know what to do. How can I make people see the benefits of altruistic chaos? The peace in it?
I can't. Even my soulmate for life, seems to think that everything comes easy and natural to me.
How can I make us love life, in stead of money, property, status and power? When all I hear people say it is easy for me, since I gave those things up. At the same time not noticing they have so much more than people living in hell?
Is my voice stronger if I would have money, property, status and power? Is that what it takes? Do I even want to consider that?
But, hey. That is my problem.
Thank you for your comment.05/12/2016 #78 Praveen Raj Gullepalli#77 Indeed Sir, so much to learn and discover! There are many before us in every country and place, who have travelled those paths and left behind words of wisdom to help us along the way. We all have our respective literary legacies and scriptures. And any man of letters worth his salt, would first access those before he or she would write his/her own version of Life's interpretation, validated by experiences. Thank you for inspiring thought as always!05/12/2016 #77 Ali Anani#76 Never ever you fall short of my high expectations of you dear @Praveen Raj Gullepalli. I loved your comments and quotes. I need to absorb more thoroughly to digest them. I loved this "The depraved, the foolish, do not surrender unto me; their discrimination is degraded by the illusory energy they betake to the nature of the demoniac". SO much to learn and ponder on.05/12/2016 #76 Praveen Raj GullepalliDear Ali, Illusion is one of the earliest words I picked up, both in English and my native tongues (Telugu and Hindi). This is solely due to the many tales told us and read, that keep saying that our very life is an illusion caught between the sleeping and waking states :) Knowledge, Freedom, and such things that take up our time and effort can be misleading, especially more so in the present day and age, unless looked at through the microscope of discrimination. And I am still a child toying with my illusions! :) As I write this, I can hear the strains of the Bhagavad Geetha (The Song of the Divine/Lord...a most definitive, holy treatise on life and living for Hindus, a sermon delivered by one of our many God avatars, Lord Krishna, (as the charioteer of Arjuna, his loving devoted warrior disciple, who wants to stop battling right in the middle of a battlefield). It is being played in a mobile van (one of many that are deployed in the city) with the legend Anthim Yatra (Final Journey), used to transport the decorated dead to the burial or cremation grounds. There! It has moved out of range now! I will share a few translated verses from this book just to add to the thread and the thought (no other intention pls)...I quote from it: Those deprived of discrimination by various desires impelled by their particular natures worship the lesser demigods adapting to the applicable rites and rituals. The depraved, the foolish, do not surrender unto me; their discrimination is degraded by the illusory energy they betake to the nature of the demoniac. O Arjuna, at the commencement of universal creation all forms of life are in delusion by the illusions of duality born of desire and aversion, O conqueror of enemies. http://www.bhagavad-gita.org/Gita/verse-07-15.html05/12/2016 #75 Max🐝 J. CarterI tend to follow the teachings of Bruce Lee who taught that we are the only ones that can put limits on ourselves and I often find it is due to fear of having that freedom and what we might do with it..
Freedom with self discipline provides higher probability of healthy exploration of that freedom. .04/12/2016 #74 CityVP 🐝 Manjit#66 Joris Plaatstaal you said "Freedom scares many of them, it involves losing certainties" and in a marketed paradise certainty becomes a euphemism for freedom, and the chief reason freedom scares people is that certainty also creates fear about its potential loss. Where fear is not pervasive certainty can create an oasis of freedom - and these freedoms involve growth in choice.
Yet the freedom that certainty gives is far different from the freedom that uncertainty gives - unless again fear invades uncertainty. Our learned disposition is that uncertainty is bad because the chief cement of social order is certainty.
Our marketed paradise uses uncertainty to get us to buy things - so in a typical advertisement we may be temporarily reminded of a pain and it is the product message that brings us back to certainty i.e. in the pathos approach [See Pathos, Logos, Ethos in link] http://www.readwritethink.org/files/resources/lesson_images/lesson1166/PersuasiveTechniques.pdf
It is our emotional centers that attune freedom with certainty, but it is our prefrontal cortex that can free us from our emotional conditioning to recognize the true freedom in uncertainty. The freedom of uncertainty is freedom from illusion.
- 01/12/2016Thanks for the great conversation @Max🐝 J. Carter. It was time truly well spent. Every time I have had a call with someone I've connected with online, I feel enriched by adding voice and sometimes sight to the interaction, and our talk about life and how best to make a change was no exception. I appreciate your time!
- 28/11/2016Good ideas are like the waves of the ocean, they just keep arriving on shore. I might just have a series of these. I bet we all do......
Comments17/12/2016 #6 Deb 🐝 Helfrich@Mike Rana - The brand graphic you saw on LI is a brand persona. Optimized for mass appeal. But it is rather easy to run with the idea like I did.
Would like to see you take a shot at it. Now that I think about it, I should put this at the bottom of my buzzes...
@Jared 🐝 Wiese - forgot a couple... :)
- ProducerAfter EightDark. Clouded. His hotel room felt lonely. Outside footsteps in the corridor. French music. The sheets covered his skinny body. Soft touch. His hand reached for his partner. She was downstairs, having breakfast. She wrote him a little love note. He...
- 25/11/2016"The group that created "Weightless", Marconi Union, did so in collaboration with sound therapists. Its carefully arranged harmonies, rhythms, and bass lines help slow a listener's heart rate, reduce blood pressure and lower levels of the stress hormone cortisol."
"In fact, listening to that one song -- "Weightless" -- resulted in a striking 65 percent reduction in participants' overall anxiety, and a 35 percent reduction in their usual physiological resting rates."
Quotes from article on Inc: http://www.inc.com/melanie-curtin/neuroscience-says-listening-to-this-one-song-reduces-anxiety-by-up-to-65-percent.htmlMarconi Union - Weightless (Official Video) + Subscribe to the Most Relaxing Playlist on Spotify: http://bit.ly/MostRelaxingPlaylist + Follow Just Music on Spotify http://bit.ly/JustMusicSpotify...
Comments25/11/2016 #2 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#1 This is the first I have heard of them, it took me less than 60 seconds to realize I wanted to make sure I had this for repeat listening. I still haven't gotten to the end....maybe I got too excited to have another way to relax....and as I have pointed out in other contexts, when we share videos to beBee, we can listen ad free. So I have been bookmarking the beBee buzz, rather than saving to my playlist on youtube.....
- 25/11/2016A great story teller telling a great story. A must hear, especially for the beBee community.Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie: The danger of a single story | TED Talk | TED.comwww.ted.com Our lives, our cultures, are composed of many overlapping stories. Novelist Chimamanda Adichie tells the story of how she found her authentic cultural voice -- and warns that if we hear only a single story about another person or country, we risk a...
Comments25/11/2016 #6 Deb 🐝 HelfrichI have read her novel "Americanah" and it is a fascinating look into the disconnect that Africans feel as they confront African-American culture.
I would also love to urge anyone who has found themselves equating internet scammers with Nigerian princes to watch this talk - it is a damaging stereotype.
And to tell a personal story, I have to credit books with the fact that my freshmen year African roommate, who was from Ghana, did not have to bunk with someone who had no African stories of real people.
I want to challenge us all, let's ask people about their stories, rather than make generalized assumptions.25/11/2016 #4 Sara Jacobovici@Harvey Lloyd wrote:
"This video really does share the forest of human existence so well.
The forest is full of many trees and each tells us a story. In today's narrative, it would appear, we overlook many trees of the human existence. We seek out those trees that offer us a dramatic, emotional view rather than the typical.
The 80/20 rule is alive and well. The 20 describes the 80. A biased story or narrative that ensnares our imagination."25/11/2016 #2 Ali AnaniGreat and thank you my friend @Harvey Lloyd for tagging me. I am going to watch now.
I have just published a buzz dedicated to you. I hope it is worthy. I strongly invite dear @Sara Jacobovici to read as I belive it shall help her with further developing the movement equation.
https://www.bebee.com/producer/@ali-anani/conscious-and-subconscious-questions25/11/2016 #1 Harvey Lloyd@Ali Anani this video shared by @Sara Jacobovici really does share the forest of human existence so well i wanted to tag you.
The forest is full of many trees and each tells us a story. In today's narrative, it would appear, we overlook many trees of the human existence. We seek out those trees that offer us a dramatic, emotional view rather than the typical.
The 80/20 rule is alive and well. The 20 describes the 80. A biased story or narrative that ensnares our imagination.
I enjoyed this talk and sense it is relevant even within America.
- 24/11/2016The day I finally got all the kids to agree to watch the kind of movie I like to watch was the day they ALL fell asleep inside the first 15 minutes. I don't blame them because the film MINDWALK directed by Bernt Amadeus Capra (Brother of Fritjof Capra) really begins after 17 minutes when the three principal characters meet for the first time. The movie stars Liv Ullman who speaks on the perspective of whole systems thinking and the resulting dialogue introduces emergence as way of seeing. Next time I watch MINDWALK - for sure I will watch it alone, but I for one, really love the depth of it even if my own kids have learned to avoid it like the plague.//// MINDWALK /// 1990 movie Mindwalk ~!~ the movie is a 1990 feature film directed by Bernt Amadeus Capra, based on his own short story, based in turn on the book The Turning Point by...
Comments24/11/2016 #10 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#6 I really think this was a brilliant idea - a movie-viewing club, if you will.
The setup of having a politician who is taken stage by stage through this journey of seeing the interconnectedness of everything, even up to the last bit where the poet challenges the physicist as to whether all this knowledge is worth as much as having love in your life. We discuss these themes daily in a multitude of ways, but most of my country is shrouded in self-interest and fear.
How do we get them to a version of Mont St-Michel with enough time to be taken on a journey to open their eyes?
I'm just a philosopher waiting to meet my politician, but none seem to come to my hermitage - hence my commenting dedication.24/11/2016 #9 Aurorasa Sima#5 Hahaha, well that´s reality tv. I mean ... life. From their point of view, it makes sense. They invite you to watch exciting movies, and they don´t expect analysis as a reaction.
I hardly know any current US movies. I watched one this year, "something-something fantastic beasts" ... by the Lady who made Harry Potter. Left me feeling disappointed.
I bet you gladly pay the high price and proudly watch your kids while they force you into the mind-numbing experience (:24/11/2016 #8 CityVP 🐝 Manjit#7 Dear Sara, there is media which we can watch over a life and there is media which we consume as knowledge. This is what I would love to convey to my own kids, about this ability to sit with something, rather than move from one media experience to another. It is hard to teach that when this is something that we cultivate ourselves. In the way that you come to life and that sensibility is something we share, when you do watch this, I hope that you find it as enriching as I have, and still continue to do. Moreover Bernt directed this movie based on his brothers book, which is the share you have already seen in Fritjof Capra.24/11/2016 #5 CityVP 🐝 Manjit#1 It may be just the opposite Aurorasa, they have no idea what they are paying in being bored by it because they want an escape, whereas I am watching a movie because it is involving me to think. Every weekend they invite me to watch movies that "normal" people watch and when I do sit down on the rare occasion that one of their flicks grabs my attention, then they are telling me not to talk over their movie - which means I must accept the mind-numbing part of the popular movie experience - and that for me is the real price. First they want me to share the experience with them, but when I do share the experience with them, they are telling me to shut up :-)24/11/2016 #4 CityVP 🐝 Manjit#2 That is the beauty isn't it :-) That we have learned to see things in a way that is strange for others, yet if they did see what we see, the strange reality is that they would never go back to the way that used to see things. This is more than just viewing life as a stereogram http://www.hidden-3d.com/how_to_view_stereogram.php but that serves as a good example about seeing differently - when people see the hidden image in a stereogram, that is a practical way of showing someone that there is in life different ways of seeing.24/11/2016 #3 Deb 🐝 Helfrich"The essence lies in the relationship (1:01) ....a series of interconnections like chords sequenced into melody.
At (1:21) is a great definition of systems theory
1:32 - what has to stop is the obsessive pursuit of growth
This was sooo worth watching! Apart from the fact that we are essentially stuck in the very same place when it comes to change.
- 23/11/2016Just in time for the holiday - Mark M-G points out that we can judge people's actions, but not their whole being. Tell him you stopped by from beBee, as I am working to bring him over to the hives.What about judgment?www.linkedin.com (I first posted this about a year ago and make no apology for offering it to people again. Doing so - and reading people's comments - is an important reminder for me of many things. I hope that...
- Producer21/11/2016Dabrowski's SweaterA post from @Ali Anani brought Dąbrowski to the front of my mind today. If you're not familiar with Kazimierz Dąbrowski, he was a psychologist that was particularly interested in the development and functioning of gifted children. He brought us...
Comments27/11/2016 #22 CityVP 🐝 ManjitThis buzz was difficult for me to position because it spans different spectrum's of my own learning journey. I originally connected it to my yellow hive because it talked about Dabrowski (who I have not yet acquainted myself with) and curiosity about his work with "gifted children" as an intellectual treatise. If I however focused my attention on self or physical development I would have connected it to my green hive. In the end as I worked my way though it, I actually connected to my blue hive, because what I was actually picking up from this buzz was actually covering thoughts around managerial capability development and managing transitions - and so I plugged in to the business or entrepreneurial lens, and when I engage my follow up study of Dabrowski (probably after the New Year) that is how I am going to incorporate this into my learning journey. So in a strange way the connection I ended up making in my mind was linking the context of Dabrowski to the transitions Ram Charan talks about in his adaptation he calls "Leadership Pipeline" http://www.ram-charan.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/12/Leadership-Pipeline-sample.pdf - that adaptation by itself is based on the work of Elliott Jaques. Jaques was also a psychologist, but his work was originally pioneered through the Tavistock Institute. Jaques BTW beyond is work on work level transitions is famous for creating/studying the term he coined as "Mid Life Crisis".27/11/2016 #21 Sara Jacobovici#19 Thank you @Nikki Petersen, I appreciate you taking the time to respond and for sharing your thoughts and experiences. Children with children, parents with parents, anytime you bring people together, they can become territorial and offensive by making assumptions and judgments. Sad but true. The word narrative comes to mind. We each have an internal story with characters, voices, messages that have been carried over from childhood to adulthood. This narrative is fluid, ebbs and flows. It can be a great way to look at identity as it involves who we are without labels. An ongoing process but definitely worth the effort.27/11/2016 #20 Nikki Petersen#18 Oh, yes, I didn't have my meta hat on yet (not enough coffee onboard just yet). Sorry I missed that bit. Absolutely, the cycle is passed from parent to child and onward. Hopefully the good and the bad. My kids are learning about their own challenges and strengths, and as I teach them, I also teach them about their parents and grandparents in the same context. They're pretty meta, as well, so they get the breadth and depth of it all. They understand that I want them to learn my values but to develop their own sense of self, because I tell them that daily. I hope that it will have the impact I'm aiming for, in that I want them to be more evolved than my generation (as I am more evolved than the one before mine). No easy feat for a single parent!27/11/2016 #19 Nikki Petersen#9 @Sara Jacobovici, yes, this is such a deeply personal journey of self-discovery, and only one piece of it. The "G-word" as it's often referred to, has such variable impact on different audiences. Some people do react quite aggressively to it. Parents on the playground can turn downright mean when I say that one, tiny four-letter word. Friends have completely dismissed me, believing that I must be an attention seeker and that I'm not all that (and a bag of chips), and if I'm so smart why aren't I saving the world or at least some small corner of it.
But giftedness is more than intelligence. There are so many challenges related to giftedness that it's a wonder anyone can even see the IQ side of it. For quite some time, I fought for it to be more widely accepted. I am currently in a phase of not particularly identifying with it myself. You're right, though -- it is a label and if not given great care in handling, labels can turn into pathologies.27/11/2016 #18 Harvey Lloyd#17 I guess i was referring to the handing down of experience to our children as creating the loop. Parenting is the challenge. We want our children to gain from our experience, yet they themselves are unique and must experience things for themselves.
Unfortunately or fortunately depending on context, i agree, once we transcend one level we can't put the genie back in the bottle. Thanks for your response and i am reading further on this concept, it is fasinating.27/11/2016 #17 Nikki Petersen#14 @Harvey Lloyd, I never thought of it as circular, but can see what you mean. I've always considered there to be two transitions, between levels I and II, and another between IV and V, the former being that you realize you can change and the latter a realization that you are the driver of your own change. I don't feel like you can go backward once you've overcome that transition, but in reality there are a number of dips "down" into the lower levels as we ebb and flow as humans.
Thanks for your comments.27/11/2016 #16 Nikki Petersen#15 @Harvey Lloyd, parenting creates additional challenges to the ideas that Dabrowski brought forth. Understanding your kids and helping them understand themselves, while trying not to unduly influence them too far in one direction or another, but teaching them your values . . . is no simple task. And it doesn't even address their own individual challenges.
Luckily, my own children are so open, loving, and patient with me.25/11/2016 #15 Harvey Lloyd"Advances in society, through politics, philosophy and religion, are therefore commonly associated with strong individual creativity or accomplishments." (Wikipedia) I found this statement compelling, especially in today's climate.
I may be stretching the concept but with minor generalization this statement of Level 5 "Secondary Integration" would offer a path of parenting. The implications would be less authoritative and more influential in offering a philosophy/religion to our youth that establishes fundamental spiritual guidance and then allow them to experience life on their own. "Autopsychotherapy" as he described. The American Indian described this as a "Vision Quest"
Our youth seeing life through neutral truths of philosophy and religion could then establish their journey through the levels/planes without the bias of the parent's journey. This is great in theory but difficult to practice. The actions of the parents are greater than the words. We are human and sometimes our actions are less than our words.
Interesting perspective.25/11/2016 #14 Harvey LloydThanks for introducing Kazimierz Dąbrowski and his theories @Nikki Petersen. I enjoy reading about the various studies of human nature. I do find that most theories focus on self and the comparison to the social plane of existence. Typically this social plane of existence is seen as negative or as a hindrance to self. I am not well read on the Professors works but would appear at first glance, you are above, at or below the social plane when compared to the human experience. These concepts tend to focus our attention on the "fit" from a perspective of our own existence, in an effort to achieve the higher plane, presumably for our own peace and joy.
To some degree, this is a circular arguement. Certainly, the goal is to find our place in society where we experience some level of peace and joy or contentment if you will. In my belief we can't separate the human from society, no more than we can separate a tree from water. But this form of psychology tends to want us to find a higher plane than those that we exist within.
In reading the basis for Level Five "Secondary Integration" he offers up "Advances in society, through politics, philosophy and religion, are therefore commonly associated with strong individual creativity or accomplishments." (Wikipedia) Do we not create a loop or circular argument that at this level we challenge our children or social groups to hear, read and understand our higher plane. Ultimately becoming the cause and effect on those within the Level one diagnosis?
From a business perspective, specifically leadership i would tend to agree with the concepts offered up here. But would further contend that cognitive dissonance would be a factor in our personal vs professional life.24/11/2016 #11 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#7 That is a very nuanced and astute reply, @Nikki Petersen. Comfort is a big theme in my life. And I believe a large part of what I have to offer in my brand - but until you put it like that, I saw comfort as only a personal pursuit.
Not to mention having a huge, life-changing disintegration phase is distinctly uncomfortable...24/11/2016 #9 Sara Jacobovici#6 Dear @Nikki Petersen, if I gave you the impression that I am deeply offended or in any way offended about giftedness or my being or not being gifted, then that was not my intent. In our struggles with identity, the exploration process of who we are is a dynamic and very personal one. It is imperative to discover things about ourselves that allow us to make sense of who we are. At the same time we have our individual identity while we live within a community; where do we belong? As social animals we need both; our own unique fingerprint and being a member of a society of others. I embrace similarities and am in awe of differences. For me its all part of the same whole. I suppose what I could of been reacting to was being told who I am based on certain characteristics. It reminded me of how I felt when I was labelled a feminist when I was engaged in issues related to empowering women. I am not a feminist and am not offended by feminism.24/11/2016 #7 Nikki Petersen#1 Hi @Deb Helfrich, thank you for your comments. I wonder if your connection between your dog's soft fur is actually part of your need for comfort? You seek for your memoir to be comforting in some way, I assume? If the sales aren't breaking records, maybe you feel like your creation isn't reaching its intended audience, and thus not providing comfort? This can definitely make you feel like you're doing something wrong in your business, and like maybe you're just not hitting the mark with your entrepreneurial efforts. That's when you look around and wonder if there's something missing, if you're working with the best materials, and if you should even being doing what you're doing. That's the disintegration piece. I've been there. It is a disturbing place to be.24/11/2016 #6 Nikki Petersen#3 @Sara Jacobovici, many adults are not aware of their giftedness, and I didn't mean to put anyone into that box. I don't consider it labeling. Frequently, the discovery process takes a long time and involves a lot of denial. For some, giftedness is irrelevant. For others, it is an explanation for why they've felt so out-of-place their entire lives. I wonder why you have such a strong objection to being classified as gifted, if you identify with so many of the characteristics? What is it about giftedness that offends you so deeply?24/11/2016 #5 Nikki Petersen#4 @Ali Anani, thank you for your kind words. I think one of the deepest misconceptions about giftedness is that it is defined purely by IQ or intellect. For me, the hallmarks are deep curiosity, intensity in pretty much everything, and a drive to learn. You certainly have all of those. :)22/11/2016 #4 Ali AnaniI am honored by my mention in your post @Nikki Petersen. I am also pleased that our first "encounter" led to this interesting buzz.As two of my favorite people @Deb 🐝 Helfrich and @Sara Jacobovici I say WOW! Than you Deb for tagging me to this enjoyable and challenging nbuzz.
The post Nikki refers to is for documentation is:
I voiced a similar resoonse tio ine of Nikki's comments on the linked buzz by saying "But, I would love to know about those people who are less gifted- do they leave what they gained out of what? This is a question that you got my mind percolating about". So, the comment of Sara here throws relevant points.
As you wrote NIkki in your buzz "The way to change it is by receiving new input, new opinions, new feedback, and new socialization that reflects new ideas. With all that newness, it’s not shocking that people resist change, is it??
WEll, I assure you I say wow because you gave me new ideas, new perspectives and ways to knit my sweater the way I wish. I don't know if I am gifted or not, but I shall try to knit my own. Thank you
- Producer14/11/2016Lines in the Sand“Never be afraid to raise your voice for honesty and truth and compassion against injustice and lying and greed. If people all over the world...would do this, it would change the earth.” ― William Faulkner I saw this photo and for...
Comments16/11/2016 #16 Joel Anderson#15 Thank you @Deb 🐝 Helfrich Not that I am fixated on the topic of lines but your comment reminded me of a moment in time when my daughter and I were having a conversation about early childhood development. The discussion reminded me of a poignant experience in my life. Every once in awhile, my schedule would allow me to engage with my kids in their classrooms. On one occasion, I found myself sitting down with one of my daughters and a group of youngsters in a small classroom filled with a lot of these little future contributors. It was coloring time. One of the kids was getting frustrated and would color, stop, color, stop, look exasperated. I came over to see what the issue was and why the tears were welling up during an activity that was just supposed to be fun. I looked at this youngster, and then at the very clearly defined lines of a picture that were supposed to be colored within. In this particular case, the lines and marks of the crayons were all over the place. I just looked at the picture and this young child and said, "this is one of the most beautiful pictures I have ever seen." In an instant, the tears subsided, a smile arrived and the coloring went on with a renewed passion and sense of purpose. And it didn't hurt that I was handed a crayon to help color my own lines. My initial inclination was to color within the lines but was told with emphasis--"Its Ok to color outside of the lines." It is all about perspective. :)16/11/2016 #15 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#14 This is perhaps one of the best responses I have ever gotten, @Joel Anderson. And I have pondered a little more about leaving footprints and lines in the sand. Because it is important to take the difficult stands and draw the crucial lines.
I think that it is not the marks themselves that matter, it is the ability to make them again and again and again when life gives us the moments that matter. And to be willing to make the marks so often - DANCE! - that we become known as people who will make the footprints and lines.16/11/2016 #14 Joel Anderson@Deb 🐝 Helfrich I have thought a lot about your comment and have gone back to the picture multiple times since I posted this piece. As I thought about the messiness of it all, I was reminded of a quote attributed to Alan Watts "The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance." Which then led me to think about a few lines from Lee Ann Womack's "I hope you Dance" "And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance, I hope you dance. I hope you never fear those mountains in the distance, Never settle for the path of least resistance, Livin' might mean takin' chances but they're worth takin'." You and the others like you are the ones who inspire me to just want to dance despite the fuzzy lines and messiness of it all.15/11/2016 #8 Deb 🐝 HelfrichI have been mesmerized for hours over that photo, @Joel Anderson. I can't remember if you have been around when the playa paintings of Andres Amador have been shared - I simply never tire of his work: http://www.andresamadorarts.com/
I have always celebrated that my own lines are swirling and complicated and situational - I refuse to trace from anyone else's lines. And to offer a slightly different perspective, if I am not attached to my lines, if I can be at peace with the thought that they can disappear with the wind or the tide, then I am available to shift into what is occurring rather than relying on the belief of lines that may have evaporated with a changing world.
We are aligned in the necessity of making lines as part of fixing what is broken and moving the world forward into a more sustainable future for the planet and all its ecosystems.14/11/2016 #7 CityVP 🐝 ManjitWhat a beautiful picture. Privacy is one of the lines I like and another is mental and emotional bandwidth. As Clint Eastwood said in a far different contest "a man's gotta know his limitations". Once I have established a firm foundation which is akin to what is said in Matthew 7:24 - "to build your house on rock and not sand" - then the world opens up to me as a change agent.
I don't make it a raison detre to change the world, nor want to change a single thing about Joel Anderson or any other person. The transformations that incur in me, occur because of sound values, learning from my mistakes, appreciating my strengths, valuing the love that is around me, count the blessings of a wonderful life and have the humility to learn and develop.
As each one of us become a light, we add one more unit of brightness into the world. Then I can deal with the lines that imprison us, the lines that do not make sense yet continue to persist and as I engage all these kind of lines, get back to the picture of the lines in the sand and acknowledge the wonder of it all. What a precious thing life is and even more precious when it is priceless.14/11/2016 #4 Sara Jacobovici@Joel Anderson, this buzz proves that you're walking the talk; you're leaving footprints. The beautiful image you offer is non-linear reflecting, from my perspective, that our movement in time is non-linear. Seems that everything related to time occurs more in patterns like those in the sand. The word "before" has a double meaning; either of something that came from the past or is placed ahead of us. More like moving around in circles ;-)14/11/2016 #2 Harvey LloydThe symmetrical lines are captivating. Seeing the chart and the timeline certainly does give one pause to consider are current status and how it may impact our future. The quote is appropriate and would add that the definitions of honesty and truth have been blurred. I believe that your growth chart demonstrates why.
Technology has globalized our reach and we can share experiences and find confidence on our personal truth/honesty that comes with no performance requirements. Before technology your truth was tested and formed within a community's survival, everyday.
- Producer15/11/2016Adaptations to Emotional FloodingI am not discussing the flooding of markets with products. I am not discussing the flooding of information. I am interested in this buzz to talk about emotional flooding and its consequences. I am tempted to write this buzz having read the buzz...
Comments16/11/2016 #74 Ali Anani#72 @Deb 🐝 Helfrich- your dog example is more than apt. @Max🐝 J. Carter wrote a buzz as inspired by this buzz and his buzz too has drawn some great comments. I plan to write my next buzz to elaborate more on some of the points you highlight in your comment. Negative shouldn't mean bad. Without negative pressures water shall not move more than 30 meters from the roots of a tree to its top. A battery shall not function without the positive and negative anodes together. But we can't deny that there stressing emotions that if we allow to escalate and flood us they shall cause severe health problems. I again emphasize that it is our attitude that counts.
I strongly agree with you on this issue " So we are quite likely to have emotional responses parallel to the adults that raised us, but the underlying situations may be vastly different".16/11/2016 #73 Max🐝 J. Carter#72 There is no model is the problem and people are searching for a model or technical guide to tell them what's right and what's wrong and too many over history and currently are far too willing to sell them one keeping them crutched and never searching within.
One knows why one feels the way one does, it's when we tell people not to feel this way about this or that and then we pass project self-judgment onto others insisting they reflect our projected self image as their own and condemn them the fate we chose for ourselves.16/11/2016 #72 Deb 🐝 HelfrichThere are some really important points of @Max🐝 J. Carter's that I want to highlight. To start. I have another, less emotional, and more observable parallel to the damage we do in assigning the concept of positive and negative - judgement - to emotions. My dog smells everything for information; she doesn't label one smell bad and one smell good, she drinks in all the scent particles. Sometimes lingering, sometimes rolling in them, but mostly just letting them waft by. The human need for judgement causes problems in all kinds of ways, but with the inevitability of emotions, we have an especially damaging problem.
Furthermore, he mentioned that we learned how to feel emotions by mimicking the adults around us. Big, big, big observation. It is how we learned language, too. Rules (grammar) and judgements come much later on, as our brains only develop that analytical aspect much later. So we are quite likely to have emotional responses parallel to the adults that raised us, but the underlying situations may be vastly different.
Both points bring us back to learning to adapt to our actual current conditions, perhaps using biomimicry as a great model, so that we stay in the flow of life, and its seasons and chaotic events, rather than letting emotions hijack our higher analytical intelligence. Hard stuff, but it comes back to awareness again and again and again.
@Ali Anani's metaphor of flooding is apt. We can grow into the ability to manage our emotions as a river that never threatens the banks of our peace of mind.16/11/2016 #66 Ali AnaniPart 2
A negative is a loss and the only loss that we truly experience is the loss of growth and learning when we ignore our emotions or other people because we use words such as Negative to describe the emotion and therefore the person.
During a recent visit to my dentist, he said that the new "artificial teeth" shall stick in my mouth by negative pressure. Here negative is doing a great job and very positively. I think the distortion comes from our attitudes to view negative as bad. Joy is great and positive; however excessive joy is harmful and becomes harmful. It is our attitudes that we may think we may have joy without having pain or that joy is always a good thing regardless of its quality and quantity. Sometimes we need to say the positive pole and negative pole of a battery. The positive pole alone or the negative pole alone shall not make the battery work. It is the presence of both that we may have a working battery. You ignited the battery of my mind, Max.16/11/2016 #65 Ali AnaniPart 1
I urge readers of this buzz to read the buzz of @Max🐝 J. Carter (the link is given in my previous comment). I commented on this great buzz by writing:
This is an amazing buzz @Max🐝 J. Carter- You make me think and rethink. I am honored that my buzz and the discussions inspired you with writing such a profound buzz. In fact, you too inspire me to write a buzz on same, but using a different approach. I shall do soon.
I read this buzz twice before responding and the following segments from your buzz caught my attention:
Psychologically speaking by saying some emotions are negative we will do anything we can to avoid them or someone experiencing them16/11/2016 #60 Ali Anani#56 @Deb🐝 Lange- as I mentioned in one of my responses to @Max🐝 J. Carter trees know fear, but accept it. They store certain nutrients for winter times. They change the direction of their leaves so as not to get exposed to intense sunlight. Trees may use alternative roots to find oxygen instead of the deleted oxygen in the water-depleted oxygen. That accept fear and adapt to it. Adaptation isn't controlling; it is mobility to move to finding solutions. Honestly, I fail to see big differences in our thinking.16/11/2016 #59 Ali Anani#54 Negative is made more negative by our attitudes. Negative emotions and positive ones co-exist, but in what proportions depends on us. I feel too I am in the rabbit hole, but I am not afraid to learn and find my way out. Thank you @Max🐝 J. Carter View more#54 Negative is made more negative by our attitudes. Negative emotions and positive ones co-exist, but in what proportions depends on us. I feel too I am in the rabbit hole, but I am not afraid to learn and find my way out. Thank you @Max🐝 J. Carter for this discussion has added lots of questions for me to ponder upon. Close16/11/2016 #58 Ali Anani#53 I am not less than you enjoying those convos @Max🐝 J. Carter. In fact not only enjoying, but also learning. Attitudes have a role and intentions too do. Therefore I enjoyed greatly this segment of your comment "They allowed the possible reward cloud their judgment by allowing fear to guide them. Afraid if they don;t make it big they will have no love in their life". Yes, they allowed fear to guide them and this is the point how not to let such fear to take its grip on us. Trees store carbohydrates for fear of not having enough supplies of it during winter. Trees accept fear and know how to deal with it. We too need to do the same.16/11/2016 #56 Deb🐝 Lange#49 The person you mention, may not have realised that there was something fishy. That person may feel shame. I would advise for them to give themselves much self-love to heal the shame. Shame needs acceptance that we were not wrong in this situation. If I hide, which is what shame wants to do, I will be perpetuating the energy of shame, as if I was wrong. As @Max carter says, we get tangled up when we cast negative and positive judgements on our lives, rather than saying that just is. I don't think trees judge that is bad, that is good. they weather the storms, the sunny days, and they may "know" the sunny days, allow their growth, the windy days sow seeds, or help them drop their leaves. Nothing to judge, a windy day just is a windy day. being sad because my Mother passed on, is not bad or good, it is a human expression of loss of a loved one. I think Ali, we may have a slight misinterpretation of what we both mean by control. Best wishes to you.
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Comments24/10/2016 #9 LQ McDonald III#2 This is just a beautiful bit of writing and a powerful illustration of the the mind body connection and how we can internalize so much emotion that we can actually manifest physical maladies because of it. I think Naming your fears, pulling them from the dark spaces where they are free to grow and an distort without our knowledge, is such an amazing and cathartic practice. It takes such an amazing amount of courage, not only to face your fears, but expose them to the light of public discourse and by doing so, I think Gary has presented a powerful exercise that can help a lot of people approach their fears with just enough light to expose them as the false impediments that they are. Thank you for this, Gary!22/10/2016 #5 Franci🐝Eugenia HoffmanFear in itself is enough to fuel undesirable feelings but to have lingering memories of frightening events becomes too much to bear. I was an only child and left alone a lot. I used to hide under the covers at night too. Things that we experience as children have an everlasting impact on our adult lives. It's unfortunate how misunderstood the suffering is.21/10/2016 #4 Jared 🐝 WieseThere's a tie between this and your other post on Love/gratitude....
The more complete quote is “Gratitude is the antidote to the two things that stop us: fear and anger. Fear is why we don’t take action and anger is why we get stuck. You can’t be grateful and angry simultaneously. You can’t be fearful and be grateful simultaneously. So it’s really the reset button.”
See http://philosiblog.com/2013/03/08/gratitude-is-the-antidote-to-the-two-things-that-stop-us-fear-and-anger/21/10/2016 #3 Jared 🐝 Wiese@Gary Sharpe, I can totally see the mind/fear connections and resulting health effects. As you know I have RLS, but also believe there's a lot more to it than family history.
The power of various stimuli: thoughts, words, music... The resulting emotions and states... The impacted body.
THANK YOU for sharing. I hope indeed it is cathartic.21/10/2016 #1 Deb🐝 LangeI agree with you @GarySharpe. It is profound when we reconnect how our thoughts affect our physical body and our wellness. This is so important. I believe it is yet again another consequence since Descartes declared the body had nothing to do with thoughts 200 years ago. The years of reductionist science and thinking by separating things has had all kinds of unintended consequences. Thank heavens we have been focussing on the connections and integrations for some time now. We are still in transition. as reductionism impregnated our thinking like a virus and most of us are not aware that we are separating our thoughts from our body. Many people do not know how they feel if you ask them, and will respond with 'I think" . Language is so important. Dropping into our bodies and reconnecting with our physicality results in great openings to release tension and fear as you say, that we did not even recognise that we had. You might like my post and my new book that will be published shortly. https://www.bebee.com/producer/@deb-lange/trust-your-senses-embodied-wisdom-for-the-modern-age
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Comments15/11/2016 #2 Deb 🐝 HelfrichEach time I read this, @Gary Sharpe, I find something new to see. Which is what it is all about for me. Each star has a distinct perspective, that accounts for its twin, even though they are in orbit and seemingly in synch. Perspective is not a universal force, just a stage of the ever forward rotation, so it will always be subject to changes in the gravitational forces of love.
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Comments16/11/2016 #9 Max🐝 J. CarterHere's the thing, sex and intimacy have nothing to do with each other. You are intimate with the people who you make yourself the most vulnerable to with what you share about yourself and how much their opinion actually means to you. That is building intimacy through trust. You can have that without sex and you can have sex without intimacy. When intimacy is built prior to the sex, that is when you have the greatest of tantric experiences as my experience has been after study and application of the art form.13/11/2016 #6 Deb🐝 LangeIntimacy, yes we are all "connected' via technology, but how often do we experience real intimacy? yet, with intimacy ,we open up to sensing and connecting with ourselves and others that enrich our experience beyond measure. When we connect intimately we are open to the source of our creativity. Thank-you for sharing of yourself so we can be intimate together.
- 12/11/2016"Life has many ways of testing a person's will, either by having nothing happen at all or by having everything happen all at once." ~Paulo Coelho
- 06/11/2016I Just came across David Abram's central thesis of his book "The Spell of the sensuous" Perception and Language in a More-Than-Human World (1996)
David talks about
"What is characteristic of his account of perception is the centrality that the body plays. We perceive the world through our bodies; we are embodied subjects, involved in existence. Further the ability to reflect comes from a pre-reflective ground that serves as the foundation for reflecting on actions. In other words we perceive phenomena first, then reflect on them via this mediation which is instantaneous and synonymous with our being and perception in,as,and with body, i.e. embodiment !
@Ali Anani , @Sara Jacobovici I think you might find this particularly interesting or already know much about it.
I'm intrigued on what he says in this video about how Reading the alphabet affects human unfolding with the animate earth. I really need to read more on this, to say anything about what he points out here. But I would love to hear what my beBees know on this and I hope it throws some interesting discussions. Thank you :)Dr. David Abram: How Reading Affects US David Abram, author of "The Spell of the Sensuous" discusses the shadow side of alphabetic literacy: our estrangement from the surrounding world of nature....
Comments08/11/2016 #11 🐝 Fatima Williams#6 Enthralling thoughts dear @Sara Jacobovici Now I hope why everyone knows your thoughts are golden and I thank you for sharing them with us.
This is my take away among many you just addressed.
"Any tool or innovation has the potential for further development and growth through engagement with ourselves, others and our environment or to detach and cut us off from this potential. What it comes down to is choice; how we choose, or not, to engage with the world around us."
We have the clay in our hands it's up to us to make a beautiful thing out of it or jjust trash it out. We need to take care as the clay is soft in the beginning and behinds to hard out quickly so we must take our time and treasure each moment with it. Thank you once about to both my golden beBees Ali Anani and Sara.08/11/2016 #10 Deb🐝 LangeDavid Abram is one of my heroes! Dear Fatima - stay connected , I think you will like my book. trust your senses - embodied wisdom for the modern age - it will be on Amazon in about 2 weeks. I sharecmy experience reconnecting the mind body connection with self, other and nature. I love that you are passionate about this too!08/11/2016 #8 Ali Anani#7 You are a treasure to beBee with your spot on comments and buzzes @Sara Jacobovici. I love this quote from the poem:
feeling the blessings of the Supreme Spirit.
I lived in the brotherhood of all beings.
Feeling the blessing- what a great way to make our perceptions blessed.08/11/2016 #7 Sara JacoboviciPart 2/2
An example of someone who grew up in the oral tradition using the alphabetized language to connect.
For thousands of years
I have spoken the language of the land
and listened to its many voices.
I took what I needed
and found there was plenty for everyone.
The rivers were clear and thick with life,
the air was pure and gave way
to the thrashing of countless wings.
On land, a profusion of creatures abounded.
I walked tall and proud
knowing the resourcefulness of my people,
feeling the blessings of the Supreme Spirit.
I lived in the brotherhood of all beings.
I measured the day
by the sun's journey across the sky.
The passing of the year was told
by the return of the salmon
or the birds pairing off to nest.
Between the first campfire and the last
of each day I searched for food,
made shelter, clothing and weapons,
and always found time for prayer.
- Chief Dan George08/11/2016 #6 Sara JacoboviciPart 1/2
1. "What is characteristic of his account of perception is the centrality that the body plays. We perceive the world through our bodies; we are embodied subjects, involved in existence. Further the ability to reflect comes from a pre-reflective ground that serves as the foundation for reflecting on actions. In other words we perceive phenomena first, then reflect on them via this mediation which is instantaneous and synonymous with our being and perception in,as,and with body, i.e. embodiment !”
Agreed. Ali Anani's comment #2 says it eloquently.
2. “I'm intrigued on what he says in this video about how Reading the alphabet affects human unfolding with the animate earth.”
Limited to what I am hearing him say in this brief video, I cannot agree. The alphabet became a tool just like fire or the wheel to enable human interaction with others and our environment. There is a difference between the oral and written traditions; the difference, however, is based on the meaning each culture gives to communication and transmission of thoughts, feelings and history. The best example of why I feel language, or as he refers to it as the alphabetized language, is not a means through which humans detach, is simply by reading any of the myriad of poets and authors, and playwrights, cross-generationally, cross-culturally, who use the alphabetized language to engage and connect with people and nature.
Any tool or innovation has the potential for further development and growth through engagement with ourselves, others and our environment or to detach and cut us off from this potential. What it comes down to is choice; how we choose, or not, to engage with the world around us.06/11/2016 #2 Ali AnaniI am stunned twice- by the quality of this buzz and of the synchronicity between us dear @🐝 Fatima Williams. Just before glancing this buzz I was wondering about our fractal bodies and if our behaviors are fractals too (they are as reflected by the fractal stock markets, to give one example). I wa reading this:
The Universe is built on a plan the profound symmetry of which is somehow present in the inner structure of our intellect.
-- Paul Valery
If you like fractals, it is because you are made of them. If you can’t stand fractals, it’s because you can’t stand yourself. It happens.
-- Homer Smith, Computer Engineer, Art Matrix
Our fractal bodies operate my having a large surface area compared to the volume. For example, or langs have a large surface area have their capacity to work well because of their large surface are. So are our brains. We perceive the world through our bodies, but our bodies are fractal. How do we increase the surface are of or perception so that it may operate well? Do we need to have fractal perception? I have yet to watch the video and think deeper. I am amazed by sharing this buzz to fractals forever because this is the right hive for it. You wrote " In other words we perceive phenomena first, then reflect on them via this mediation which is instantaneous and synonymous with our being and perception in,as,and with body, i.e. embodiment"! I need to find the fractal perception and I have a lot to think about. Great buzz that is worthy of sharing.06/11/2016 #1 Deb 🐝 Helfrich"The letters usurp that participation - they short-circuit that reciprocity" ... with all the other environmental 'languages' that our senses can make available to us.
I have alluded to this a couple times over the last few days. I know things in my head in a not strictly verbal way, and images aren't always prominent and when I know something this way - I feel jarred back into language if asked a question. Like scratching a turntable stylus....
I don't actually enjoy writing as an activity in the way I see a lot of folks here do, because in part, I feel disconnected from my own knowledge when I attend to the task of writing it out.