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Verbal Abuse On and Offline

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For discussion of verbal abuse, verbal attacks and any other forms of verbal violence at home, online in social media, and at work.

Please try to be constructive in your comments and support others who may be either targets, or people who are trying to alter the way they communicate to be more positive.
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  1. ProducerDeb Helfrich

    Deb Helfrich

    08/12/2016
    Socks, Open-mindedness, and Intolerance Masked
    Socks, Open-mindedness, and Intolerance MaskedThis buzz is solely my personal opinion and represents a rebuttal to some members of this community. Please do exercise your right to click-away if you are uninterested in hearing about some masked discrimination that I recently experienced, as...
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    Robert Bacal
    08/12/2016 #2 Robert Bacal
    Shared to Verbal Abuse Hive
    Max J. Carter
    08/12/2016 #1 Max J. Carter
    I have been talking to a few of my Linkedin connections about joining beBee and it is this bullying you speak of that they spoke of experiencing first hand and why they are not here now.
  2. Max J. Carter

    Max J. Carter

    07/12/2016
    Max J. Carter
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    Max J. Carter
    07/12/2016 #2 Max J. Carter
    #1 Agreed.
    Deb Helfrich
    07/12/2016 #1 Deb Helfrich
    Of course, the problem is that the sort of person who often hurts is typically incapable of listening.... and not even being able to hear that you hurt someone is a far greater crime.
  3. Robert Bacal

    Robert Bacal

    21/11/2016
    Praise on one side, criticism on the other - two sides of the same judgment coin. Yet we crave one and decry the other. Robert Bacal
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  4. Robert Bacal

    Robert Bacal

    18/11/2016
    Power, and attempts to gain it OVER people, rather than power "with". Robert Bacal
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    Deb Lange
    18/11/2016 #1 Deb Lange
    I agree learning how to share and be with people as equals is imperative today - our challenge is we have been taught how to comply to people who have had authority over us since we were young, then unconsciously we mirror that behaviour. Stepping into noticing and sending we can be different and create better relationships is critical.
  5. Robert Bacal

    Robert Bacal

    17/11/2016
    Judging is the enemy of understanding. So what's the antidote? Robert Bacal
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    Aurorasa Sima
    17/11/2016 #1 Aurorasa Sima
    Empathic listening
  6. Robert Bacal

    Robert Bacal

    17/11/2016
    Advice is often the trojan horse of verbal abuse. More at http://conflict911.com The Conflict resource Center Robert Bacal
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  7. Robert Bacal

    Robert Bacal

    17/11/2016
    Why holding people accountable for nasty interactions online is so important. Silence breeds more verbal abuse. The Verbal abuse hive https://www.bebee.com/group/verbal-abuse-on-and-offlineRobert Bacal
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  8. Robert Bacal

    Robert Bacal

    17/11/2016
    Judging should be a role not a compulsion. From the verbal abuse hive https://www.bebee.com/group/verbal-abuse-on-and-offline #17 Robert Bacal
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    Deb Helfrich
    17/11/2016 #3 Deb Helfrich
    #2 Well, I just ignored the bit I didn't agree with and focused on the part I did. Simple way to use praise as a method to draw the focus without shouting at you that you cannot lump the two methods together, which is what the judger-type would do.

    We will disagree about praise - when given to draw attention to the cogent or unexpected or simply entertaining parts of a piece or comment, it works to help people hone in on what has been done well.

    Just about everyone invests time in social media to meet a goal of some sort. I take that as my guiding principle. Putting the focus on the best part of what was written is how to help those I chose to help continue, or improve, or move inch by inch toward their goal.
    Robert Bacal
    17/11/2016 #2 Robert Bacal
    #1 Critique AND praise seem to have become the coin of the realm for online interaction, particularly on BeBee.. It seems like judging and expressing judgment has taken over discussion using information.

    Kumbaya.
    Deb Helfrich
    17/11/2016 #1 Deb Helfrich
    Nor has there even been, to my knowledge, any sort of manifesto saying that every thing written or shared on social media has to be critiqued.

    Sometimes people simply want to be social. Friendly. Chatty. Share a smile. High five. If it is sooo important to a few to judge and offer criticism, when it has not been solicited, perhaps a new platform should be built for that sort of environment. Disruption in both senses....
  9. Sara Jacobovici

    Sara Jacobovici

    06/11/2016
    A well written perspective on what I consider issues of identity.
    Sara Jacobovici
    There is No 'Authentic Self'
    upliftconnect.com Is the misguided search for the 'true self' preventing you from embracing yourself as you...
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    Sara Jacobovici
    07/11/2016 #8 Sara Jacobovici
    #6 Nothing to apologize for @Katja Bader. Your English perfectly described your important contribution to this discussion. Thank you for your comment. Honesty is definitely a very important factor of authenticity and I like when you write: "Everybody has got his rootes, perception of life and his own expriences that influences his authentic self."
    Sara Jacobovici
    07/11/2016 #7 Sara Jacobovici
    #5 Powerful perspective @Max Carter. Thank you.
    Katja Bader
    06/11/2016 #6 Katja Bader
    Sorry, my English isn`t so good and maybe I don´t understand everything of this post. But I think everybody can find and live his authentic self if he is realy honest with himself, his failings and forces. And if he is honest to others. Everybody has got his rootes, perception of life and his own expriences that influences his authentic self.
    Max J. Carter
    06/11/2016 #5 Max J. Carter
    It;s not often I read apiece that feels angry. There is so much left out that negates the argument being made that I am not even sure where to begin.

    First we are more than a set of chemical responses, there is no acknowledgement of the energetic beings we are.

    In simplest terms to bring forth one's true self it is simply first acknowledging the emotional response to any given thing and then understanding why one felt the way one did. This reveals who you truly are to you.

    There are no technical steps outside of what I just said to get there.
    Sara Jacobovici
    06/11/2016 #4 Sara Jacobovici
    Thanks for the share @Robert Bacal.
    Maria Teresa Redondo Infantes
    06/11/2016 #3 Maria Teresa Redondo Infantes
    Hello lovely Mrs Sara

    yes someone are he Self

    powerful I send to you from spanie

    Mariat
    Sara Jacobovici
    06/11/2016 #2 Sara Jacobovici
    cc@Lisa Gallagher. I think you might find what he writes of interest Lisa. Please let me know.
    Sara Jacobovici
    06/11/2016 #1 Sara Jacobovici
    I posted the following comment on the article: Derek Beres, all the power to you for taking on a complex topic and presenting a clear and insightful perspective. My only disagreement would come in the form of having a different “conceptual definition” of the term “authentic self”. I find that your article discusses issues of identity versus the idea of the authentic self. I define the authentic self as the “core” self, the one who decides “who” will be present at the meeting at work, the parents/teachers meeting, meeting with a friend for lunch, sitting down at the piano, easel, keyboard or any creative medium, and so on. The core self is consciously choosing what to sound like or look like given any situation or circumstance, basing the decision on what others expect of us or what we expect of ourselves.
  10. ProducerRobert Bacal

    Robert Bacal

    05/11/2016
    How Many Of These Communication Fire Starters Do YOU Use Regularly?
    How Many Of These Communication Fire Starters Do YOU Use Regularly?Communication that CREATES ConflictLearn to communicate effectively to reduce conflict Remove barriers to communication and reduce conflict. Check out the book, Conflict Prevention In The Workplace - Using Cooperative Communication A lot of the...
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    Paul "Pablo" Croubalian
    05/11/2016 #8 Paul "Pablo" Croubalian
    #6 St-Eustache, north of Laval. PM me on where you'll be and when so I can check the schedule. I'll try to find the book and get your signature!
    Robert Bacal
    05/11/2016 #6 Robert Bacal
    #4 Oh, get outta town @Paul "Pablo" Croubalian It's almost never that I come across someone who bought one of my books. Thanks for letting me know.

    On another note, what GENERAL part of the city are you located in. I'm going down there next week.
    Paul "Pablo" Croubalian
    05/11/2016 #5 Paul "Pablo" Croubalian
    On the subject of infographics, I use Photoshop and Illustrator for everything I do. Overkill, I know, but I have them hanging around
    Paul "Pablo" Croubalian
    05/11/2016 #4 Paul "Pablo" Croubalian
    Hey, Robert!! This is cool, I thought your name was familiar. I bought "if it wasn't for the customers... " ages ago. I just now realized it's yours. I enjoyed it.
    Michele Williams
    05/11/2016 #3 Michele Williams
    @Robert Bacal I would recommend canva.com but others have much more experience. @John White, MBA , @Paul "Pablo" Croubalian , @David B. Grinberg any suggestions for creating infographics?
    Robert Bacal
    05/11/2016 #2 Robert Bacal
    #1 Good suggestions, @Michele Williams I generally don't tag people, so I can't promise on that one. Wonder if I can find a nice infographic generator somewhere?
    Michele Williams
    05/11/2016 #1 Michele Williams
    I quote "Poor communication causes hurt feelings, anger, frustration, and tends to erode "Poor communication causes hurt feelings, anger, frustration, and tends to erode relationships, sometimes to the point where the relationship is not fixable." Important information. I think every one would benefit from a top 10 list on this topic and an infographic or maybe a series of posts. Thanks for sharing @Robert Bacal please tag me on related posts.
  11. ProducerRobert Bacal

    Robert Bacal

    05/11/2016
    Eleven Things That Create Resistance And Anger In Others (Free Excerpts)
    Eleven Things That Create Resistance And Anger In Others (Free Excerpts)Stop starting conflict by eliminating these eleven conflict habitsConflict In Your LifeEleven Things That Create Resistance And Anger In Others (Free Excerpts)Summary: By eliminating these eleven anger provoking behaviors from your repertoire you...
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    Franci Eugenia Hoffman
    07/11/2016 #11 Franci Eugenia Hoffman
    We will always be faced with negativity, it's how we react that matters.
    Irene Hackett
    06/11/2016 #10 Anonymous
    I've seen and experienced a lot of negative - it is part of being alive. I've also seen and experienced a lot of positive - it's just as real! But in my experience, positive is better and that is where I choose to 'live'. You are so right @Dean Owen View more
    I've seen and experienced a lot of negative - it is part of being alive. I've also seen and experienced a lot of positive - it's just as real! But in my experience, positive is better and that is where I choose to 'live'. You are so right @Dean Owen - life is too short! Close
    Javier beBee
    06/11/2016 #9 Javier beBee
    #8 @Dean Owen @Lisa Gallagher Plenty of great people to interact with. My time is only mine and I don't need to interact with negative ones :)
    Dean Owen
    06/11/2016 #8 Dean Owen
    #4 I'm with you Lisa. I just made a decision to not interact. Life is too short. Even when provoked, it is just not worth it. Plenty of great people to interact with.
    Harvey Lloyd
    06/11/2016 #7 Harvey Lloyd
    @Robert Bacal the challenges of communications in such a noisy environment requires many approaches to get heard. A positive agenda for an outcome can be met with a negative writing style. Media today, in all forms, realizes that negative/positive or emotional engagement through taking a stand or showing a sad puppy will introduce a polarized audience on either side. But it is engagement.

    Offering engagement within a seeking or wisdom style is too flat and lacks the roller coaster ride typical engagement. I enjoy watching the circus of writers and delineating what their agenda may be within the writing. This is my agenda, as we all have one.

    You list seems accurate but is also listing the exactly what engages folks. This is a sad truth but we can see it in politics, social settings and clearly online. It would appear that just experiencing the human dynamic is not enough we must have a agenda/side, engage it emotionally and polarize. This will be our ultimate understanding 100 years from now.

    Call it social growing pains. What happens when everyone has a microphone?
    Aurorasa Sima
    06/11/2016 #6 Aurorasa Sima
    Good list, Robert. Thanks for sharing!

    I believe 6 and 7 often come in combination with the inability to let go of things. It´s amazing how even someone speaking the truth can become annoying from the unfortunate combination of 6, 7 and what I´d like to call 6a).

    Lucky are those who have access to this list.
    Mohammed A. Jawad
    06/11/2016 #5 Mohammed A. Jawad
    Oh, sometimes confused communication makes others crazy and it spews sheer conflicts. Imagine the harm done when a person feels feverish with thoughts and ideas and publishes it on the media, in haste. Nothing in proper sense, but all like random expressions stitched with silly words. A vile gossip, a pungent back-biting or wandering notions can blotch one's feelings. So, let's think, censor and re-think before we publish anything. Instead silence is better than hasty viewpoints.
    Lisa Gallagher
    06/11/2016 #4 Lisa Gallagher
    I've learned to stay silent for quite some time now. I also learned it's OK to speak out against injustices if we are being attacked or see another being attacked. I will not attack the attacker or become like that of the attacker. I just wrote on @Franci Eugenia Hoffman View more
    I've learned to stay silent for quite some time now. I also learned it's OK to speak out against injustices if we are being attacked or see another being attacked. I will not attack the attacker or become like that of the attacker. I just wrote on @Franci Eugenia Hoffman buzz that I'm learning a lot from those who've done this much longer than myself, beBee and it's team being such a great example. If I feel I may say something I could regret, I won't comment. I'm not here for controversy or to make enemies. There will always be a few who thrive on controversy, not sure why... maybe they are trying to draw more people in. Sort of reminds me of the negative stuff the media spews, people become addicted, it's like a soap opera and they keep coming back for more. Close
    Randy Keho
    05/11/2016 #3 Randy Keho
    #2 agreed.
    Robert Bacal
    05/11/2016 #2 Robert Bacal
    #1 Indeed @Randy Keho but isn't there a difference between good silence and bad silence? Via the way you keep silent?
    Randy Keho
    05/11/2016 #1 Randy Keho
    We all have the right to remain silent. We just don't always have the ability.
  12. ProducerRobert Bacal

    Robert Bacal

    26/10/2016
    What Are Kids Learning From The 2016 USA Election Campaign, and What Parents and Teachers Can Do About It
    What Are Kids Learning From The 2016 USA Election Campaign, and What Parents and Teachers Can Do About ItWhat Are Kids Learning From The 2016 USA Election Campaign, and What Parents and Teachers Can Do About It By Robert BacalThe following appeared on the Building Bridges Between School and Parents Website. While it's about what our children may be...
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    Brian McKenzie
    27/10/2016 #5 Brian McKenzie
    They should be learning that politicians are paid liars and globalist view them as fodder, vermin, or livestock depending upon the inning of the game they are playing. This should service them for nearly their entire lifespan.
    Praveen Raj Gullepalli
    27/10/2016 #4 Praveen Raj Gullepalli
    #3 Yes Sirree! Avidly! You shd see the Trump memes floating around! There is always a lot of talk around the US elections...and foreign policy implications with neighbouring nations and the US Visa angle. You know how it is. Every Indian professional is considered incomplete unless he or she is US-returned (sadly that is happening less nowadays as folks go and never come back..brain drain). On an aside, Bill Clinton visited our facility (the place that i work at) many years ago when he was in power, along with the Chief Minister of our state. The sapling that he planted is now a tree. However, one cannot get high on its leaves! ;)
    Robert Bacal
    27/10/2016 #3 Robert Bacal
    #1 Praveen, when in doubt talk about the curry, or enjoy it, or cook it. Interesting to hear that people in far off countries are interested in the election. Do you think it's common in your country to follow it?
    Martina Baxter
    27/10/2016 #2 Martina Baxter
    Thank you for the reminder that we are all role models for our children, parents, teachers, even politicians.
    Praveen Raj Gullepalli
    26/10/2016 #1 Praveen Raj Gullepalli
    Dear Bob...being on this side of the planet I was taken aback a few evenings ago when my kids - son 14 and daughter 19 - brought up the election over dinner. I was shocked to find the elder a demo and the younger a repo. Taking sides. I was totally at a loss for words as much as America seems to be at a loss for choice. I let them argue for a while...and steered the conversation to the chicken curry in a hurry! ;) Wifey was pleased to have the table discuss her cooking. Cooking is her trump card and any way the conversation was far from being hillarious ;)
  13. ProducerFiona Pagett

    Fiona Pagett

    04/07/2016
    Is this becoming a world of ANGRY people?
    Is this becoming a world of ANGRY people?Please don't shout at me, it's just a personal observation, but I do believe we are suffering from a surge of anger.  It's a strange conundrum because I also sense a strong peace movement, a rise in the practice of meditation and a yearning for...
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    Nick Mlatchkov
    17/10/2016 #83 Anonymous
    Jerry, 54 wasn't for u, see the #
    Gerald Hecht
    17/10/2016 #82 Gerald Hecht
    #80 @Don Kerr "Thank you sir; may I have another!"
    Joel Anderson
    17/10/2016 #81 Joel Anderson
    Where is Nurse Ratched aka "Big Nurse" when you need her?
    Don Kerr
    17/10/2016 #80 Don Kerr
    #79 Hah! For that I just slapped another positive right upside your head!
    Gerald Hecht
    17/10/2016 #79 Gerald Hecht
    #78 @Don Kerr you're right...thank you --I was getting giddy...I needed a good slap...and now about 5 cups of coffee; and I should be back!
    Don Kerr
    17/10/2016 #78 Don Kerr
    #68 Now yer just gittin' greedy
    Gerald Hecht
    17/10/2016 #77 Gerald Hecht
    #74 @Donna-Luisa Eversley oh that's still a relief...it was the NOT knowing that was causing problems ✨🌈
    Gerald Hecht
    17/10/2016 #76 Gerald Hecht
    #75 @Joel Anderson yeah; I think that my real problem might be related to umm...to the fact that I'm not really angry...I must be trying too hard or something
    Joel Anderson
    17/10/2016 #75 Joel Anderson
    #69 @Gerald Hecht As Captain Jack Sparrow might say: “The seas may be rough, but I am the Captain! No Matter how difficult, I will always prevail.” “The problem is not the problem. The problem is your attitude about the problem. Do you understand?” On that theme, might I just add a Walt Whitman-ism , “Oh Captain! my Captain!--Arrgh…
    https://www.bebee.com/producer/@joel-anderson/the-power-of-1-let-go-of-your-anger-legoya
    Donna-Luisa Eversley
    17/10/2016 #74 Donna-Luisa Eversley
    #72 Have a cup of coffee and write us a post on over thinking ..hahaha..
    By the way, I don't agree with you many times 😊 Have not had the time for a firey exchange of verbs and nouns artfully woven 🤗😇
    Gerald Hecht
    17/10/2016 #73 Gerald Hecht
    #71 👍🏻
    Gerald Hecht
    17/10/2016 #72 Gerald Hecht
    #70 @Donna-Luisa Eversley well I think that it's bad if too many people agree with me or... something; I think I read to many dystopian novels as a kid that started out that way; I may be overthinking
    Donna-Luisa Eversley
    17/10/2016 #71 Donna-Luisa Eversley
    #69 @Gerald Hecht..I don't think you can be angry enough hahaha...love and happiness needs your staunch support... Have a swipe at Bee Social hive 😉😁😘
    Donna-Luisa Eversley
    17/10/2016 #70 Donna-Luisa Eversley
    #68 @Gerald Hecht at some point , it may be realized you have enough negatives to be off balance...hence helping out with some good, to keep your negative flow in check..haha😀.. your bravery abounds, and your persistent courage is admirable. To stand up for your beliefs right or wrong indicates an individualistic mind and a sense of purpose. As we saw recently , you had a huge natural disaster challenge and you kept fighting...now you want me to help you with negatives...hmmm..lost on that 😀😀
    Gerald Hecht
    17/10/2016 #69 Gerald Hecht
    I give up...I can't convince people that I'm angry; I even said: "arrgh". Nothing.
    Gerald Hecht
    17/10/2016 #68 Gerald Hecht
    #43 @Donna-Luisa Eversley can I please have another negative now? I'm starting to think.people think I'm not really a horrible person....okay here's a demonstration: "arrgh". C'mon you have to admit that is proof of my horrific nature --don't you?
    Gerald Hecht
    17/10/2016 #67 Gerald Hecht
    #44 @Nick Mlatchkov why have people stopped giving me negatives; I don't understand? I refuse to believe that people don't really believe that I am an evil and...and..., umm... really umm bad person.
    Gerald Hecht
    17/10/2016 #66 Gerald Hecht
    #45 @Dale Masters Exactly! Can I please have another negative now?
    Gerald Hecht
    17/10/2016 #65 Gerald Hecht
    #46 @Mohammed A. Jawad yeah!
    Gerald Hecht
    17/10/2016 #64 Gerald Hecht
    #47 @Deb Criveau can someone get people to give me more negatives please;doesn't anyone realize how horrible of a person I am ...what more do I have to do? Tell politically incorrect stories... would I have to pushed to go that far? OMG!
  14. ProducerFranci Eugenia Hoffman
    Hive Talk Special - Featuring "Sanctuary" owned by Irene Hackett
    Hive Talk Special - Featuring "Sanctuary" owned by Irene HackettA Sanctuary, where people go for peaceful tranquility, Well Being and WellnessThere is no excuse for Verbal Abuse On and  OfflineWhat we need is Nature and Sustainability - ideas for a better worldhttps://www.bebee.com/group/sanctuary Sanctuary...
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    Franci Eugenia Hoffman
    13/10/2016 #19 Franci Eugenia Hoffman
    Thank you for sharing @Milos Djukic. :)
    Franci Eugenia Hoffman
    13/10/2016 #18 Franci Eugenia Hoffman
    #15 #17 #16 Thank you Mamen, Sara and Milos. I am glad you find it beneficial.
    Sara Jacobovici
    12/10/2016 #17 Sara Jacobovici
    Another great Buzz @Franci Eugenia Hoffman, effort and initiative. Much appreciated.
    Milos Djukic
    12/10/2016 #16 Anonymous
    Mamen Delgado
    12/10/2016 #15 Mamen Delgado
    Great compilation @Franci Eugenia Hoffman!! Thanks, I didn't know about some of them. 😘
    Franci Eugenia Hoffman
    11/10/2016 #14 Franci Eugenia Hoffman
    #8 #8 #5 Thank you, everyone for reading and responding to Hive Talk.
    Irene Hackett
    11/10/2016 #13 Anonymous
    @Kate Hickery - my tag did not come thru on previous comment! #11
    Irene Hackett
    11/10/2016 #12 Anonymous
    #11 I am happy to hear that @Kate - 😄
    Kate Hickery
    11/10/2016 #11 Kate Hickery
    Shared. Love the idea of Sanctuary!
    Ali Anani
    11/10/2016 #10 Ali Anani
    #9 Yes, proudly and thankful I am to my sister @Irene Hackett
    Irene Hackett
    11/10/2016 #9 Anonymous
    ❤️ @Ali Anani - you will notice that your buzzes are big art of this hive, my brother! Thank you for your kind recognition - as always.
    Ali Anani
    11/10/2016 #8 Ali Anani
    Well-deserved feature on your lovely hive dear @Irene Hackett. Million thanks to @Franci Eugenia Hoffman for is beautiful buzz and explanation of what Sanctuary means
    Irene Hackett
    11/10/2016 #7 Anonymous
    It is my honor to be highlighted dear @Franci Eugenia Hoffman and I thank you! I must check out these other hives as well!! And thank you too @Pamela L. Williams - hope you enjoy the Sanctuary hive! ❤️
    Pamela L. Williams
    11/10/2016 #5 Pamela L. Williams
    Some wonderful wonderful hives you're reporting on tonight Franci! You are my last read before I say goodnight to beBee and just reading about those hives relaxed me! thanks @Irene Hackett & Franci!
    Franci Eugenia Hoffman
    11/10/2016 #4 Franci Eugenia Hoffman
    #1 #3 #2 Thank you for your support. :)
    Vincent Andrew
    11/10/2016 #3 Vincent Andrew
    Thanks for introducing this hive @Franci Eugenia Hoffman. Will check it out :)
    Robert Bacal
    11/10/2016 #2 Robert Bacal
    Shared to Verbal Abuse On and Offline
    Deb Helfrich
    11/10/2016 #1 Deb Helfrich
    Way to tie some of my favorite hive-hoods together thematically, @Franci Eugenia Hoffman
  15. Aurorasa Sima

    Aurorasa Sima

    05/10/2016
    DISCLAIMER: The sole purpose of this video is comedic entertainment
    My Anti-Bullying Video
    My Anti-Bullying Video Here is my Anti-Bullying video. I take a stand against all of those who insult and bully me within and around the world. To learn about the making of this...
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    Aurorasa Sima
    21/10/2016 #11 Aurorasa Sima
    #10 You´re welcome (:
    Milos Djukic
    21/10/2016 #10 Anonymous
    Great video. Thanks @Aurorasa Sima.
    Aurorasa Sima
    06/10/2016 #9 Aurorasa Sima
    #7 I´m glad I did.
    Robert Bacal
    06/10/2016 #7 Robert Bacal
    #6 Thanks for the reply, @Aurorasa Sima I was hesitant to ask actually in case it would seem to be prying. I have no idea how anyone could be offended by it, or anything close, I say as a former pro wrestling fan.
    Aurorasa Sima
    06/10/2016 #6 Aurorasa Sima
    #5 I was overly sensitive, I guess. Everything quite and peaceful under this post.

    And you are right. Even though it is a Wresling Promo - it does make a point.
    Robert Bacal
    05/10/2016 #5 Robert Bacal
    #3 Why were you thinking of deleting it, @Aurorasa Sima, if I might ask? It's funny, but it does make a point, if one is open to it.
    Aurorasa Sima
    05/10/2016 #3 Aurorasa Sima
    #1 He is. Thanks for sharing - I was in the process of deleting it.
    Phil Friedman
    05/10/2016 #2 Phil Friedman
    It is a sad commentary, Aurorasa, that you felt the need for the disclaimer.
    Robert Bacal
    05/10/2016 #1 Robert Bacal
    Fun. Hardy is really good in this! Shared to
  16. Robert Bacal

    Robert Bacal

    18/09/2016
    Different kinds of Internet trolls explained by...get this, a "Troll Scholar" and there's even research.
    Robert Bacal
    A Step-by-step Guide to Dealing With Trolls
    fusion.net Sorry trolls, but the gloves are coming...
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    Franci Eugenia Hoffman
    19/09/2016 #1 Franci Eugenia Hoffman
    This is a very interesting and useful guide.
  17. ProducerCory Galbraith

    Cory Galbraith

    18/09/2016
    LinkedIn: Land of Trolls, Haters and Fakes - Is beBee Far Behind?
    LinkedIn: Land of Trolls, Haters and Fakes - Is beBee Far Behind?Lately, I decided to post onto my LinkedIn account and it didn't take long for the haters to come out. I define a "hater" as someone who is critical of a post but chooses not to explain why. Instead, they use phrases such as "This is garbage"...
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    Vincent Andrew
    20/09/2016 #98 Vincent Andrew
    Yes I've had the "big busted women" following me too @Cory Galbraith but I am not following them back. No chance. Bebee is a place to feel refreshed, to read other people's experiences and views and certainly not to be attacked. So far the people I have followed have produced good quality honey and that is a pretty good reason for me to stay.
    William VanDorin
    20/09/2016 #97 William VanDorin
    #92 I am possessed of outrageous opinions and the tenacity of a badger, I have had my share of trolls. I openly mock them in a none hostile way, often arguing their side of the excrement they are flinging to much better effect! They loose interest rather quickly when they realize you are having fun with it. In the end they are wishing I would just stop, but again, the whole tenacity thing! LOL!
    Donald Grandy
    19/09/2016 #95 Donald Grandy
    Good post @Cory Galbraith. I share your frustration with "big busted women" . Probably undercover spy's. Regular readers of your posts see the quality of your content so probably ignore the ignoramus. Keep up the great posts.
    Erroll -EL- Warner
    19/09/2016 #94 Erroll -EL- Warner
    The issue of LinkedIn, profile and job seem to be true. People always keeping hoping someone will come calling based on their profile. In many cases it never happened. If one is not a paying member they are limited to anything posted.
    Cory Galbraith
    19/09/2016 #93 Cory Galbraith
    #86 Thanks for the share @Jim Murray, and the feedback.
    Phil Friedman
    19/09/2016 #92 Phil Friedman
    #89 No, William, it does make a difference. I have a pet troll, or rather a groupie troll who stalks my profile daily so he can find my posts and comments, then shows up there with, commonly, arrogant, thinly disguised by personal attacks on my writing, ethics, intentions, or style. Since this has been going on for over two years, I am both bored with, and indifferent to the obviously I'll-motivated slurs. But it does often dampen the enthusiasm that many have for the conversation at hand, which is a pity. For many times that conversation is lively and interesting, until this troll shows up with his non-sequiturs and smelly red herrings,
    John White, MBA
    19/09/2016 #91 John White, MBA
    #90 @Phil Friedman: it clears it out of your notifications. But I think you can also click on the "x" to accomplish the same thing.
    Phil Friedman
    19/09/2016 #90 Phil Friedman
    #88Bu John, is the result any different than when you simply ignore the question?
    William VanDorin
    19/09/2016 #89 William VanDorin
    We need the trolls. they are a poignant reminder of ignorance and where humanity needs work. With the proper attitude haters can be such fun, as they seem to be very easy to anger to the point of nonsensical ranting. Is it sinister to provoke such venomous people for sport and amusement? Who am I kidding? I don't care! Go ahead, hate on me... I could use the diversion.
    John White, MBA
    19/09/2016 #88 John White, MBA
    #85 @Phil Friedman: it's a polite way of saying, "I don't want to follow that person back." If you're not following that person they can't tag you, send you messages, etc.
    Ben Pinto
    19/09/2016 #87 Ben Pinto
    Yes, we can try to protect beBee from acquiring this trend untill we become the pigs on Animal Farm.
    Jim Murray
    19/09/2016 #86 Jim Murray
    Interesting Post @Cory Galbraith. I won't explain why (LOL). But I think you nailed it with your thought on the level of civility in society declining. There are a lot of things you can point to as causes for this. But mostly I think it's simply that people don't respect each other to the degree that they used to. The internet and all that comes with it gives people the freedom to be rude and insensitive without any fear of recrimination. So they do. And if you think LinkedIn is bad, you should try commenting honestly on a sports site like TSN.com. They're all animal over there. I think it was Thoreau that said "Most men lead lives of quiet desperation". But that was before the internet. Now they lead lives of willful ignorance and disrespect, which stems, to some degree, from a false sense of entitlement. Me. Me. Me. It's all about me. Thanks for the post. I'll share it in the Beezers Hive.
    Phil Friedman
    19/09/2016 #85 Phil Friedman
    #84 Pablo, I've never understood what the "no thanks" button does. Do you know?
    Paul "Pablo" Croubalian
    19/09/2016 #84 Paul "Pablo" Croubalian
    Re Big Booby Ladies: everyone has been getting followed from the same obvious scammers. MY METHOD: I do not use the no thanks link. I open in a new tab, check the profile. If I follow, fine. If not I just close the tab and ignore it. Otherwise, you are liable to get repeated follows.
    Phil Friedman
    19/09/2016 #82 Phil Friedman
    #81 Well said, Aurorasa, and you are correct. We should now stop this inadvertent hijack of Cory's comments thread. (Aplogies Cory, not intended. Just found the conversation, and the issues you've raised, interesting.) Cheers!
    Aurorasa Sima
    19/09/2016 #81 Aurorasa Sima
    #77 Hahaha, I guess that´s the thing with rules - there is always an exception that´s not covered.

    I think to a certain level we have to keep "outsiders" in mind and "private" and "public" are two pairs of shoes, even for authentic people.
    Robert Bacal
    19/09/2016 #79 Robert Bacal
    #75 Actually, Phil, I just wish you'd stop the tap dancing before you end up in the tub, but that's another issue. If you are referring to my response to you, rather than using this kind of vagueness, I'll explain, although sadly you did not ask. A friend tells another friend when they have toilet paper stuck to their shoes. An enemy lets you walk out with that toilet paper on your shoe because it will make you feel stupid. I'm neither friend, nor your enemy. I wrote what I wrote since you mentioned being criticized, but you left out part of the equation SOMEONE should care enough about you to tell you.
    Aurorasa Sima
    19/09/2016 #78 Aurorasa Sima
    #75 Let´s go back to Cory´s post I feel we are losing focus of his points. @Phil Friedman your comments below my posts have been constructive and respectful, they always contained appreciation for what I shared. Thank you for that.
    Phil Friedman
    19/09/2016 #77 Phil Friedman
    #73 Aurorasa, I like you 2-reply rule, except I not sure that it works for all contexts. Some of the best conversations I've been involved in on social media have gone on for much longer, and for many more back and forths than that. Depends on the participants and their objectives and expectations, I think. And I also think that we should not modify what we do in such discussions based upon how they might "look" to outsiders -- unless we believe that all our activity online is for display purposes only. Cheers!
    Phil Friedman
    19/09/2016 #75 Phil Friedman
    #69 Aurorasa and Cory, I think you now have before you a perfect example of the difference between discussing ideas and opinions, and expressing derogatory remarks directed at one personally. What blows me away is the obvious insensitivity to the difference, and the ability to claim the moral high ground, whilst doing exactly the opposite. A casebook paradigm out of Orwellian double-speak.
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    17/09/2016
    Hawksbury school kids send a message after bullying related suicide. Remember that every time a child views abusive verbal behavior, it becomes that much more normalized and considered part of "normal" behavior. Whether on or offline, verbal abuse, and putting others down legitimizes verbal violence. Be careful what you say when you disagree of make public judgments of others online. Robert Bacal
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    17/09/2016
    Today, in our small town was the funeral. If you want to know why I'm so concerned with verbal abuse on and off line, here's one of the answers. Verbal abuse hive is at https://www.bebee.com/group/verbal-abuse-on-and-offline
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    16/09/2016
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    16/09/2016
    More on this topic in the hive - https://www.bebee.com/group/verbal-abuse-on-and-offline Robert Bacal
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    16/09/2016 #3 Brian McKenzie
    #2 @Robert Bacal Hillary is painting everyone that doesn't suport her as a Basket of Deployorables. I will enjoy my basket while I wait for her to kick a bucket.
    Robert Bacal
    16/09/2016 #2 Robert Bacal
    #1 Brian, I've heard of "basket case", I've heard of deplorable, but damned if I've heard "basket challenge". Is it something to do with carrying fruits on your head or something?
    Brian McKenzie
    16/09/2016 #1 Brian McKenzie
    I am working on being more Deplorable, I hear there is a basket challenge 😆
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    15/09/2016
    Sadly Suzette Haden Elgin, Psycholinguist, SF author and the developer of verbal self defense passed away in 2015. She had a profound effect on my own work and books.

    Many of her verbal self defense books are still in print, and I recommend them highly. I had the honor of being contacted by her a number of years ago via email, and I know she was active in social media and blogging until shortly before here death. We lost a good one, but one with an incredibly productive life helping others deal with verbal abuse.
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    15/09/2016 #1 Aurorasa Sima
    Sorry for your loss.
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    14/09/2016
    Have you been the target of PRIVATE abuse, attacks or threats sent to you privately as a result of your contributions to either BeBee or LinkedIn? If so, I'd like to hear from you for a potential article I'm contemplating writing. Confidentiality assured. Examples, and some of the text would be great.

    If you want to contact me via email, rather than on the platform, my email is ceo@work911.com
    Verbal Abuse On and Offline
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    Robert Bacal
    16/09/2016 #5 Robert Bacal
    #3 Deb @Deb Helfrich I have lots of examples collected over more than a decade, plus current stuff. I'm trying to figure out a way to make use of that material is some sort of constructive way that will help people. The examples tend towards trying to intimidate others, boasting, diminishing, and to third parties, trying to persuade them that a third party is...a troll, or otherwise evil.

    One interesting thing about them, is that some, perhaps many of the examples I have are so bad, so extreme that people would hardly believe they are real. That' part of the syndrome when one is targeted because it's hard to believe what one is seeing - that people actually do this stuff. The privacy involved is very much like managerial bullying, or sexutal harrassment - there's a tendency to disbelieve it goes own because we don't SEE it ourselves.
    Robert Bacal
    14/09/2016 #4 Robert Bacal
    #3 I am hoping people will step up and offer examples, even if they are anonymous, and I'm going to go through my email archive to see what I can find on my own and that I can share. Clearly the problem with private abuse is very much like sexual harrassment, and other private bullying in that it's one person and the other person out of the spotlight.
    Deb Helfrich
    14/09/2016 #3 Deb Helfrich
    #2 It would be useful to see some examples. I doubt the offenders would actually bother to read, but it would help the people being subtly bullied to understand it is not about them personally, but rather a manipulation of someone trying to feel better about themselves by making others feel small or wanting to protect some sort of invincible attitude in the public spheres of social media.
    Robert Bacal
    14/09/2016 #2 Robert Bacal
    #1 It IS a very serious thing, for reasons that don't even need explanation. I'm hearing that it goes on on Bebee. I know it's happened elsewhere in the past in various groups and online venues, but done privately, @Deb Helfrich
    Deb Helfrich
    14/09/2016 #1 Deb Helfrich
    Incredibly important topic, @Robert Bacal. It is hard to imagine, but I am sure some people use the private message functionality to try to silence or hurt other people.
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